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#KickHimOut2020bethestorm/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:16 AM
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bethestorm/r/askMRP25/07/18 04:50 PM
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It's hard, and it was very hard because after hitting me I still never imagined him hitting our kid. I felt sick with shame for trying to facilitate a father son relationship for my sons sake only to discover that in doing so, he was hurt next. I was so afraid of being labeled the 'drama ex who withholds child out of spite' because to me, hitting a woman is one thing, a shitty thing, the mother of your firstborn, your wife, But hitting a baby? I admit, I never saw that coming. Not at all. Becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:22 PM
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He admitted not to his counselor which he didn't realize was a mandated reporter. I had already kicked him out but I found out when CPS knocked on my door. He told them he was mad at me and the baby was on the changing table. His only statement to me via text was "it's not like it left a mark or anything after ten minutes" ?!?!!?!! MARK? because he was "mad at me" and the baby was "being annoying like me" He is, according to the DV hotline and the police, the type that is the most dangerous, Bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:58 AM
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Thank you. And to all the ladies who may be reading this, you can make the last time the last time. You do not have to be stuck because you were building your inner goddess up to have your power back and walk away. Whatever it takes, as soon as you can, walk away. He doesn't deserve you staying friends, or claiming he's changed. Maybe he has. But you have too. Never let such an emotionally weak, cowardly man trap you in a false belief that you do not deserve better. The world deserves better. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:54 AM
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Yes I cannot agree more, this sounds like buried memories possibly from so young that it's a trigger in ways he doesn't realize, because if someone had molested him, boys often aren't believed as often as females and he may have been gaslighted so hard that his way of coping was to continue to escalate his thoughts, especially if he really stopped masturbating because it felt wrong. That behavior was "learned" at some point at pre / beginning of puberty, associated with shame, and for a man to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:47 AM
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My ex husband was at his most attentive, supportive and sweet during pregnancy and for the first four or five months after. Then he hit me. Then more things happened.. I cannot agree more with this post but would add to it, to always have a backup plan and to want a child yourself. My ex wanted kids I really didn't but slowly came around to the idea of one and then it happened so fast. I almost terminated actually. Sometimes I feel immense guilt wondering if that would have been better. Just mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:54 AM
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But where do they find the time or energy. I'd much prefer to be single than be pretending. And doesn't society kind of view single men in a more flattering light for some reason anyway? What the heck is it they gain from faking an entire relationship. I'm sitting here and my stomach literally twists at the thought of faking an entire relationship. For like, only a week. I wouldn't make it. I actually want to throw up a little bit. It feels sooo debasing. And gross. I'd feel sooo gross. And that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 06:52 PM
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Thank you I will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:34 PM
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Unfortunately I have experienced and seen a lot of instances in which a man has almost a full personality turn around once a woman is pregnant, as if he no longer has to "act" right, and it seems to (in my observation only idk) be linked with controlling and or violent behavior later. All of these observations were with men who on paper and in person were charming, kind, employed in a competitive field and tended towards upper tier positions, strong family background and no criminal history. Is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:19 PM
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Curious about counselors / social workers / teachers? This thread is blowing my mind rn I can't believe how much I have never considered these things like y'all are amazing and I love how many women can be saved from potential danger just by this thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:46 AM
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Idk if I've ever met one but I'm now curious. I thought that was a thing for like, 14 year olds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:43 AM
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If raping your own daughters in front of their siblings and having it covered up by the air Force is abuse then yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:41 AM
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Why is it these two types tend to be a Combo. Like, works for parents / family business with their HUGE SKILL SET AND EXPERTISE in anything, because a couple YouTube tutorials and they obviously can handle it since their STEM degree and totally non existent social life = they are so superior to the "trendy pop obsessed morons"(?) And they have their day job, that the family money paid the tuition and housing etc to get them and they "work on" things at literally any family business even if it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:39 AM
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This this this this this this this If shy / inexperienced with relationships / sheltered by mommy, money or all of the above, Expect. Tantrums. Violence. Socially UNACCEPTABLE cruelty to "win" fights Omg. Just reading this has opened my eyes to the red red flags I totally missed and now make sooo much sense. Oh God
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:26 AM
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He said 'it didnt leave a mark lasting more than 10 minutes' which immediately showed me it did leave a temporary one and that's when I was like dont fucking come back to this apartment, I will consider you a threat and I will fuck you up. He has never been spanked. Never been in a schoolyard fight. So when he hit me I was stunned. And he ran off. He told the cops he was afraid id hit him back. His counselor agreed he didnt seem to be a threat to the baby, that he had rage toward me or some bull…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:32 PM
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That's how I feel. Dont know if it was a spank. Choking?! Not knowing makes me want to kill him. All of it does. Who does that to a 10month old? I just didnt expect him to hurt our child. Not after willingly telling the cops what he did to me and telling his employer so he could make the class etc etc and seeming dedicated to change. I still cannot fucking believe this shit.....
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:27 PM
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Pics removed for safety reasons now. And intend to delete post before lawyer meet, just due to the specific details I have put down. Okay done with the pics thing now, cant tell if serious or not about them as a requirement but I said shorts pics and that's that.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:24 PM
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I havent filed divorce yet but am filing for a restraining order and full custody and asking the judge order him not to miss counseling and following whatever the professionals and courts say is best for my son. What I may or may not want is irrelevant right now. What my sons needs is.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:21 PM
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I haven't permitted him in the house since he admitted it. And the meeting with the attorney this afternoon is to make it legally enforced. I am taking no chances for my child.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:18 PM
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Every single thing you said sounds spot on. He was the youngest of 4. He did hide his porn habit for a while. I have a very high sex drive but he has low confidence and experience. I was pissed when I found out my friends set me up with him knowing he was a virgin and didnt tell me til much later because they were correct in knowing I have 0 interest in being a trainer/object of over emotional attachment. He is fucking obsessed with his mothers approval and cried over being ashamed of it. I neve…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:17 PM
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Sorry I am answering them as quick as I can type them when they pop up but it has been replied to.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:12 PM
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He said 'it didnt leave a mark lasting more than 10 minutes' which immediately showed me it did leave a temporary one and that's when I was like dont fucking come back to this apartment, I will consider you a threat and I will fuck you up. He has never been spanked. Never been in a schoolyard fight. So when he hit me I was stunned. And he ran off. He told the cops he was afraid id hit him back. His counselor agreed he didnt seem to be a threat to the baby, that he had rage toward me or some bull…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:09 PM
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Two parts down, 1 to go. this is very helpful. I have been fucking sick to death of him playing me into playing mommy. And I have almost never followed through with the threats because I really kept thinking, maybe I just need to communicate this for the 300th time in a different way and it'll click. I am embarrassed.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:54 PM
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I mean I just didnt want to accept this was really him and there was no 'getting back' the 'better' him because it was a facade. It doesnt help that my friends and family are still "hoping" he "does a 180" and "surprises everyone" for our sons sake. like... he already did the 180. What comfort am I supposed to fucking take if he proves he can just do 180s at any second? But they are making me emotional.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:48 PM
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That's how I feel, it just shocks me because he was so good with the baby but it's like he became a different person. It's true I doubt I can ever trust or respect him again. I feel bad for my son though, he deserved a better father than this. As I mentioned I had never wanted kids really, and most of it was due to not meeting many men I felt would make truly impressive fathers. After being pregnant though I realized the depths of which my soon to be ex decieved me and I am starting to come to t…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:45 PM
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I really thought maybe stats or pics were a rule until his last comment. However I did take pics of the dang shorts. Am proud of my fitness but have a long way to go. At first took it with the kind of flowy shirt that would basically be a visual trick so said fuck it and took in black tank top. My son photobombed one and I love the pic. Hairs all fucked cause I do morning swimming with my son. Please lmk if I should specifically not post, or just ignore those guys and post anyway or what. Again …
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:38 PM
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These are about two weeks ago https://imgur.com/a/ZlN4n1T Let me go get a full body and get into the shorts haha I fit into them as in can wear them but they arent as flattering yet as they will be again. Have had them since I was 22, and am now 28. Getting that now. Sorry for the wait.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:06 PM
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Okay 5'5 Current weight after csection: 170 Dropped 10lbs in last 14 days alone on Keto. Fit back into my size 6 pre pregnancy shorts 3 days ago. Not well I admit but working on it. Keep myself clean. Hair done, house cleaned, never in ugly clothes. Undies, dressed or swim suit. Have a vanity problem and the weight thing taking a long time is pissing me off but I prefer to be strong and am a scuba diver so fitness vs thinness is very important. How can i post pics, I am actually really proud of …
/r/askMRP25/07/18 04:57 PM
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