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bigOlBeta/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 04:59 PM
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bigOlBeta/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 05:50 PM
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bigOlBeta/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 03:46 AM
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bigOlBeta/r/askMRP02/11/17 08:57 PM
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bigOlBeta/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 02:37 AM
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Trying to hang on to a woman who has no respect for you, and you don’t even have kids? Fuck off faggot
/r/askMRP28/12/17 04:48 PM
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Cool. Challenge yourself. Put your penis in something you never thought you could
/r/askMRP26/12/17 11:34 PM
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You need to be taking this to a comical level. Lots of AA and turning things sexual. Just be more light-hearted and indirectly communicating that you DGAF about her mood or opinion
/r/askMRP26/12/17 11:25 PM
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This is probably the case. Just play with it. It gets fun when you have several of these on the line
/r/askMRP21/12/17 07:23 AM
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It sounds like somewhere along your journey you stood up for yourself and your ideals. I’m sure some of those battles were surrounding a healthier way of raising your children. If he asks for specific examples of the marital breakdown I would discuss those. Everyone else is right though, these people really only care about your relationship with your kids.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 01:34 PM
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All women are different. Mine went through waves of horny and completely disgusted with me. Just own your shit and focus on other things. They tend to feel fat and ugly when pregnant (they are) so stop initiating for a bit and then work in some comments about how pregnant women are sexy. When she feels more comfortable with her situation she’ll probably return to insatiable. This is the good news. The bad news is that once the baby is born the terrain on this journey gets a lot steeper
/r/askMRP05/12/17 12:16 PM
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12 years of talking/thinking of other women doesn’t = redpill
/r/askMRP05/12/17 10:41 AM
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Agreed. You will need to teach all women how to act at some point. This was a perfect moment that he let slip. Sounds like he wasn’t that into her though so who cares
/r/TheRedPill02/12/17 09:57 PM
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People are calling you a troll because it sounds like you’re in the wrong sub. The advice still applies to you though so relax and start processing it (there’s no tolerance for sensitivity here). Don’t stop fucking your wife unless you don’t like fucking her. If she’s doing or saying something you don’t like then just stop listening or leave
/r/askMRP24/11/17 06:17 PM
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Lift like your life depends on it, and take up a martial art. Jiu Jitsu does wonders for your health and confidence
/r/askMRP21/11/17 02:49 AM
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I’m going through a divorce right now and the stress is high, thus I am eating less and shitting more. It’s rare that I see my wife eating anymore so she’ll be getting her post divorce body by default
/r/askMRP13/11/17 12:13 PM
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I’m a shit head, a douchebag, a dumbass, and an asshole with the same problems that everyone else has
/r/askMRP03/11/17 09:03 PM
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Not a troll, just slow at implementing
/r/askMRP03/11/17 05:02 PM
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I won’t be abandoning my kids. It’s not the 99 circumstantial things that point to the cheating, it’s the complete and utter emotional disconnect. It’s unmistakable. There was an incident 6 months ago where her cousin made a drunken slip about her dating other people
/r/askMRP02/11/17 09:31 PM
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I’m just giving her the night to cry it out alone. I plan on staying in the home with my children.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 09:22 PM
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Dude, I fumble with RP too but c’mon. If you reverse the roles this story makes much more sense
/r/askMRP01/11/17 07:34 PM
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I posted a follow up on this and Weak shut it down, saying it belonged in my diary not on MRP. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 03:17 PM
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She’s a genius at gaslighting and it’s fucked me up for a long time. Thought about the PI angle but they range upwards of $100 per hour and I’m not sure that she’d do anything on the days I arrange for the PI, this I’m paying out the nose. Not sure I’d get this back in the division of assets
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 06:21 PM
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Holy shit, I wish I was still in your shoes. Do not have children and get out. Things do not get better after children
/r/askMRP28/10/17 01:51 PM
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I don’t think you need to be at a higher SMV to successfully use dread. She just has to value the relationship on some levels
/r/askMRP24/10/17 11:36 PM
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The person who values the relationship the least will always consider straying. You need to find someone where there’s a naturally good balance, or you tip the scales by using MRP
/r/askMRP24/10/17 11:33 PM
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Get back in your box!
/r/askMRP23/10/17 11:54 AM
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I think if he’s gotten this far it’s safe to assume he can operate under whatever rules he wants
/r/askMRP22/10/17 01:25 PM
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If you can read, you can learn to invest. Don’t give control of your money to anyone
/r/TheRedPill21/10/17 11:50 PM
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Cool, move the side piece in and fuck her for 10 months.
/r/askMRP21/10/17 12:02 AM
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Just wait dude. You sound young so waiting 10 months to do this should have no discernible affect on your life. Use her like a sex doll in the meantime and tell her you like it real rough now. If she plays ball, cool. If not then tell her it’s a deal- breaker
/r/askMRP20/10/17 11:51 PM
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A turning point for me was getting so mad at my wife that I stopped caring about her. I stopped caring about her feelz and now she...chases
/r/askMRP20/10/17 11:44 PM
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I’d stay up late every night and get your reading done. Fuck your skank wife
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 10:24 PM
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A day in MRP is easily a year or more in real life
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 10:21 PM
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Lift heavy weights. If you flounder at everything else, at least be consistent with increasing the weights. Get a routine and stick with it because this will change your life. I’m at the gym 6 days a week, which seems like a lot for someone just starting out but I’m only there for 45 minutes. 2 muscle groups per day and abs every other day
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 01:39 AM
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Solid advice
/r/askMRP14/10/17 12:24 AM
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Good on ya brother. Being open and admitting everything is very therapeutic
/r/askMRP12/10/17 10:05 PM
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Dude I feel for ya. Sounds like you and your wife have some serious emotional hang ups that throw a wrench into everyday, normal interactions, that most people don’t even register. This doesn’t feel like a shit test to me though. It sounds to me like your wife basically was telling you that she was going to complete a chore. She probably said it just so you knew that you weren’t going to have to do it yourself, or maybe she was just trying to make seem like you guys are a team. I wouldn’t make i…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 08:09 PM
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To help condition the kids to respect their mother try punishing them when you’re home and you see signs of disrespect. Don’t tell her you’re going to start doing this though.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 09:27 AM
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I could see that working in some contexts. It's kind of like IDGAF level 10
/r/askMRP09/10/17 10:52 PM
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I think you're already on the right track. The fact that it naturally makes you want to care less is a good thing. Once you realize women's true nature you won't be able to help but care less about them. Don't get mad at her or give off the impression that you're disappointed. Instead just find something that makes you happy and do that. Carry that happiness with you in the home.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 11:24 AM
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Holy fucking novel
/r/askMRP07/10/17 11:28 PM
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Used to live in SD. I miss the food. Cafe Coyote for the margaritas?
/r/askMRP07/10/17 12:15 AM
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You have no kids...Your guilt for leaving would be gone by the end of the month. The suicide thing is only a tactic to maintain the status quo. A step I took to get me closer to outcome independence was to go see a lawyer and find out just how fucked or not fucked I'd be in the divorce. Turned out to be not so fucked
/r/askMRP06/10/17 11:45 PM
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Ha! I like this
/r/askMRP06/10/17 01:24 AM
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Too much, I skimmed. I doubt you're muscular, which would have made this situation fun and humorous rather than scary and mate-guardy. If that was my wife I would have winked at the dude and blew him a kiss, then maybe bought them some shots (nasty shit like car bombs)
/r/askMRP06/10/17 01:23 AM
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This is real. I have been hate fucking my wife as of late and the response has been RESPECT. You apologize because you're still worried about what mommy thinks and what kind of mood she's in. Simply tell her that you don't care and that you're sleeping. It may take a couple of nights but she will get the picture and stop that bullshit
/r/askMRP06/10/17 01:16 AM
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I must have blacked out during first part of your post because I missed the fact that you're "separated but living together". Dude, c'mon. She's moving on. Do the same
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 12:49 AM
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I know where you're coming from. It sucks to suspect something but not know for sure. You definitely failed to draw some boundaries there, which is now fucking you. Anyway, I would keep lifting and working on yourself while aggressively working to build a life separately from her (she really can't call you out on it because she's actively dating another man). I would start dating and be happy about it. If she's still fucking you then you can stay put while you work on building a more satisfying …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 12:06 AM
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I'd ignore it completely. I get the feeling she knows how you feel about it
/r/askMRP26/09/17 04:57 PM
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Just go out and don't make a big deal of it. She'll bitch but it's just an opportunity for you to show that you're unfazed by it (hide passports first though because you're essentially testing the crazy)
/r/askMRP26/09/17 09:51 AM
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Go out with your buddies and have fun. Go talk to other women. Stop worrying about her. If she asks what you're doing just tell her you're giving her space to heal. With no kids and no marriage I would not be stressing over this. I would start moving on because it sounds like she's initiating a break up. If she ends up pulling you back in that's fine. You can then use the opportunity to practice giving emotional support from an alpha perspective.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 12:35 PM
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This is what I was thinking
/r/askMRP15/09/17 01:05 PM
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One thing I regret in life was not taking these types of opportunities when I was younger and not married.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 01:02 PM
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These are the type of problems you see when your wife stops giving a shit about you. You're having these issues even without the LTR. Sounds like she's pushing you into the beta realm. I'd start adding in more plates. Fuck her feelings
/r/askMRP14/09/17 02:41 AM
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You just have to ignore the useless comments. Just like how you should ignore your wife when she's being shitty
/r/askMRP14/09/17 02:34 AM
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Stop thinking about her so much. Start detaching yourself and living more of a life outside of the house. Start doing things separately inside the house as well. I stopped hanging all over my wife and just started living on my own sxhedule, and this has worked for me. I was in a similar situation and the simple act of my not following her up to bed did wonders for her attitude and respect. I stay up later now and watch TV downstairs or handle shit
/r/askMRP04/09/17 02:29 PM
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Nice! Stop at the booby store while you're out!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:24 PM
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They don't want to hear the mechanics of anything. Just act accordingly
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:23 PM
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I had much more frame in my teens and early twenties. It comes out now and again and I love it
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:21 PM
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The new you must destroy the old you is gold
/r/askMRP01/09/17 04:31 PM
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Your input on this site is appreciated, albeit infrequent
/r/askMRP31/08/17 10:42 PM
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This works. You'll end up getting shit tested in various ways after a couple of days of this, but you can just handle those as well.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 09:28 AM
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I love getting crucified because 80% of what's said is true or somewhat accurate, and the other 20% is just funny
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:26 PM
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Talked to her over dinner and started to work out a compromise where we would drop her off at the festival everyday and the kids and I would stay at a water park hotel not too far away. She said "no that's okay I'll just take my mom's car and sleep in the back or get a hotel room". I said that's fine because I actually have a different water park already booked for the weekend of her birthday (she loves the water park as much as the kids). She got real excited and then started talking about us c…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 10:52 PM
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She blames me for all of life's woes. We just texted about how my son is starting kindergarten and how exciting it is. Then she says, "I'm so stressed". I say "stress is a killer, but if it makes you feel better I got great sleep last night". She says she was up all night with our daughter...I say you should take a benedryl and go to bed early tonight. She says "I need less stress". I say "daddy will make it all go away when I come home". She says "I think you're a part of the stress". I say "Oh…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:55 PM
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Almost a year into my MAP. Knew about RP for 2+ years but never really did anything about it, except lurk and deal with the anger stage that never went away (it's still there but only when my wife does something real shitty). Thought my wife cheated on me a little while back on vacation in Hawaii but had no proof and I went insane thinking about it. Finally let go of that and started really focusing on me. Had a bit of a beta blow up a couple weeks ago that I've been digging myself out from ever…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 07:53 PM
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Been dealing with the premature thing as well. It's a real hang up. Focusing on you tends to help, huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 01:26 AM
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I read that whole thing waiting for something to happen
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:20 AM
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That's funny, I've been working on this very same idea. Can't get it to stick though. Gotten to the point where I no longer retaliate but the fight or flight in my mind pretty much eliminates my ability to be clever = autistic deer in headlights
/r/askMRP18/06/17 09:48 AM
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Update: I didn't really want a divorce, and I went down this path because my ego was bruised. Snooped through the wife's phone the other day (had to know for sure) and saw all of the text messages from Hawaii, as well as all of the text messages between her and her mom after I accused her of infidelity, post Hawaii. Pretty much confirmed that I was using my imagination to connect dots that shouldn't have been connected. Told the wife that if she wants to stay married then she will need to put mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 04:02 PM
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Ha! This is the truth!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 09:42 PM
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done
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 05:08 PM
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Yes, I've progressed slowly
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 05:02 PM
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reformatted
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 04:50 PM
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Needed to get it out
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 06:35 AM
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Sounds like all that complaining you did to get her to respect the household made her realize what a huge pussy you are, and subsequently drove her into a deep depression. I would stop all complaining and start working on yourself. Lift, find things to do outside of the house, clean up only after yourself, get busy, maintain a positive attitude (nothing bothers you)
/r/askMRP21/04/17 04:44 AM
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I second this. Don't worry about anything except lifting for a few weeks
/r/TheRedPill24/03/17 11:55 AM
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^ This is the approach I would take. If you acknowledge that the dude is jacked and you're not seeming jealous or concerned while you're doing it, it will dampen some of the appeal for her and raise your stock at the same time
/r/askMRP20/11/16 03:52 PM
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