big_beat__manifesto Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Two Months	Rant	big_beat__manifesto	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/24 09:24 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	Men who went to therapy during or after the divorce. What did you learn? I learned so much. I learned that I've been carrying trauma since childhood.. How to identify it and process it. How it manifests in negative ways and how I can take agency, to prevent it from causing issues in the future. That I was trapped in fight or flight mode for a decade, probably. Unable to enjoy life. Incapable of being present for others. I learned that I had no concept of boundaries. And that I basically had no self-esteem. And importantly, these things do not take away from the good …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/25 02:32 PM
2	Here we go again. Divorce number 3 Amen.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/25 10:53 PM
7	What ruined your marriage? I had issues with myself that required therapy and self-work to resolve. Caused issues which caused indifference and resentment. I was emotionally hurtful at times in ways that are not acceptable. I became a problem when I drank. Intimacy issues, on both sides. She told me "I've always been so-and-so's girlfriend and not just me". Told me later she resented me basically for "robbing" her of a fun, exciting single early 20's experience. She also said "we both need to work on ourselves, we're both…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/25 08:36 PM
3	Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of dating You are not alone. Sometimes you need more time and that's perfectly okay.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/24 01:07 AM
1	Ex wife message 100%	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/24 04:29 AM