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black_jack_davy/r/askMRP07/11/17 05:59 PM
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Tanner Guzy's factored breakdown from his The Appearance of Power: Body Archetype (his Rugged/Rakish/Refined) Tribe Taste Location Effort Honestly each of these deserves a pretty in-depth post, OR you can read his book or glean a lot of it from his + others' sites on men's style. What I like about Tanner's approach is that it avoids the suit-up reflex that a lot of online men's style revolves around. It tries to give you a way to express who you are in any context, e.g. if you are a Rugged farme…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/22 03:48 PM
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Check out Liberty Counsel's guides for some direction on framing a religious objection. And never give up! Apes together strong
/r/RPChristians23/12/21 08:26 PM
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no lifts etc. and the number of times you talked about her instead of you
/r/RPChristians16/12/21 02:27 AM
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F
/r/RPChristians24/01/20 01:42 AM
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"The Short Happy Life of Francis Macomber," Hemingway. Look it up if you haven't. http://www.standardsinstitutes.org/sites/default/files/material/winter16_ela_9-12_day_2_session_1-macomber.pdf
/r/askMRP07/01/20 02:19 PM
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Whoa, we got Saruman of Many Colours over here.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:19 PM
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OYS Lifts are in 1,000-lb club. Body fat is 14%. Married 12 years, four kids. A couple of times in the past month (once this past week), she's called me an Ubermensch. It doesn't seem friendly—it's some sort of shit test—but I suppose it could be worse. Last time I AMed it: "No way, I'd have to do a lot more pushups to be an Ubermensch." So she sees the thousand-foot rope running out, I presume. I won't go on in this particular OYS, but I'm grinding. What I see as the biggest single challenge is…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 03:48 PM
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OYS Lifts are in 1,000-lb club. Body fat is 14%. Married 12 years, four kids. Three recent incidents. My kid was being bratty about something his fault and I snapped and threw a cereal box at the wall and it exploded. No excuse for losing control and frame. Sometimes I just want one fucking person besides me in my house to take responsibility for literally anything, particularly if it's their shit. I got catcalled while walking down the street. I was well-dressed, and it was the first time this …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:25 PM
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An African or a European steam train?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 02:00 PM
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Married long before RP was a known concept. PUA existed but no one knew about it yet. At 21, we did have a brief conversation about it after being engaged. Both naïve virgins, so we needed to figure out what we needed to figure out. After a discussion of logistics and realizing we didn't know enough to prepare anything, we checked out LaHaye and read The Act of Marriage so we knew what to expect. We made some mistakes, as a consequence. Hormonal birth control, for instance. If your tradition per…
/r/askMRP09/07/19 12:26 PM
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It's like someone trained a bot on /r/askMRP.
/r/askMRP07/06/19 09:51 PM
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You may both get something out of this Ribbonfarm-inspired analysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 01:17 AM
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I have been where you're at (except for the divorce threat, but w.r.t. Mormonism). First off, bracket truth claims, period. The way the notion of truth is used in LDS circles is incoherent, and deciding things like whether or not the church is true, or what happened historically, actually need to be set aside. Instead, use the heuristic of utility: is what a church teaches pragmatically useful for your ends, in the context of your mission? Sooner or later, every man arrives at a state of arreste…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 06:40 PM
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OYS #9 of the series: 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP · BW 190#, BF ~14% Married 13 years, me 35 her 34, 4 kids Spent time with male friends this weekend. This was salutary and strengthening, and I should do it more often. She's PMSing this week, which leaves her pussy "itchy". I'll get some better lube and try that or it's handjobs for a week...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:44 PM
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OYS #7 of DoD: 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP · BW 190#, BF ~14% Married 13 years, me 35 her 34, 4 kids Social life. My objective is to build a male social circle. In some respects, I have this, but it's honestly a little thin on the ground. Most men are pretty blue-pilled or risk-averse. We did have a boxing movie night (Hard Times) with some success. T test came back. It's low but not clinically low. I'm going to focus on natural methods to increase it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:33 AM
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OYS #6 of DoD: 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP · BW 190#, BF ~14% Married 13 years, me 35 her 34, 4 kids What are we on this week, career? Okay, this one I have dialed in right now: I've got a decent job, transitioning this summer to a multi-year contract. I can automate an insane proportion of what I am responsible for which gives me room to work on improving my future value. I take on a task that no one else in the org wants, which means that I am locked into it, but I actually (really) enjoy i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:18 PM
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OYS #6 of DoD: 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP · BW 195#, BF ~15% Married 13 years, me 35 her 34, 4 kids My goal with finances was to resolve some longstanding procrastinations and start to build a better process. One thing to do (which I completed last week), was to switch from our global finance behemoth to a local credit union. (As an aside, we were in WaMu when it went down in '08; we ended up back in a big bank but always intended to bail out on them. And now we at last have.) I also want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 05:09 PM
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OYS #5 of DoD: Lifts 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP BW 192#, BF ~15% (maintenance for a couple more weeks) DoD is Game. My objective is to figure out how to flirt with girls who give me IOIs, with the aim of running dread at DL7--DL9. Since, you know, I don't really know how to flirt except in a limited channel (bookish). So I've run some mayor game but I've a ways to go. On the plus side, though, when I'm well-dressed and killing it outdoors, I do receive a few IOIs. Just need to figure out the…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:14 PM
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I buy clothes in a couple of different "channels": professional wear and my casual stuff. I like variety (I enjoy dressing well), but I've been careful to buy blazers/pants/shirts/ties so that basically everything is intercompatible and I don't have to overthink dressing. (Some guys go as far as to only buy one kind of socks so they don't waste time folding them, but that's about my only TV time these days so I don't sweat it.) This means a limited color pallette and set of patterns, and then it…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/19 06:41 PM
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OYS #4 of DoD: Lifts 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP BW 192#, BF ~15% Style. My objective is to be comfortable, fun, and fit in with my tribes. I've been using Tanner Guzy's The Appearance of Power as a framework. I'm due for a style refresh, not because my tastes have changed so much but because my shoulders have broadened and rendered more than half of my dress shirts obsolete. So now I'm waiting for the Memorial Day sales to fill back in the closet a bit. I did try a couple of new things style…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 08:30 PM
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OYS #3 (of DoD series) Week 3 is hygiene. My objective is to make myself look high-value. I've begun to maintain my personal and professional space in a higher degree of order. (It's clutter, not filth, but it's still been messy.) I've started using foot powder. I've started shaving daily on weekdays. I've hit this almost every day so far. I'm trying three different cologne samples this DoD. I've got at least three I want to try. I don't wear cologne much (nor do I see this changing), so I'll ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:05 PM
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This guy dad jokes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:56 PM
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OYS #2 (of DoD) Lifts 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP BW 192#, BF ~15% This week's DoD focus is "Eating for Health and Fitness". My ongoing objective is to build and maintain the functionality I want. In dietary terms, I currently am being mostly strict about sugar and I'm eating heavy in protein (8+ eggs per day). Longer-term, I am going to get my body fat percentage under 12% this summer. The thousand-foot rope has tightened; my wife has been going to the gym regularly for a couple of years now…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 04:20 PM
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OYS #1 (of the DoD series) BW 192#, BF ~15% 405 DL, 205 BP, 365 BS, 145 OP This week's DoD focus is lifting, so that's what I'll cover in OYS. I've been lifting regularly for four years or so now and put on about 40 lbs of muscle from my bodyweight low. My current objective is to refine my functional performance, which means adding in running and some ninja-warrior-style training. I also keep up with boxing weekly. That's all old stuff. So the new stuff: I've begun physical therapy for a very lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 01:03 PM
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Let's roll, gentlemen. Edit to add considered outcomes: Week 1, Lifting for Life: Refine my functional performance. stay the course: GSLP for current six-week cycle then Body of a Spartan for summer body PT exercises daily box weekly Week 2, Eating for Health and Fitness: Build and maintain the functionality I want. no sugar through the end of lent eat heavy in protein through end of May Week 3, Hygiene: Make myself emanate high value. get personal space in order (now cluttered) fix foot smell s…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 12:15 AM
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His Reddit history is a weird oscillating mix of insecure shitposting and "here's how you do it bro."
/r/askMRP18/01/19 10:46 PM
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Ha, I was mentally running a tally on how long it would take for CES Letter to surface.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:12 PM
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It's the Scandinavian blood. The Mormon parts of the West are as Scandinavian as Minnesota.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 04:09 PM
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Often I take her suggestion like it's serious for a few seconds, then suddenly revert to, "Oh babe, no, I mean, you're an 11 for me, right, honey!?" in my faux-sincere voice. Gets an eye roll and, eh, probably a handjob at a minimum.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/18 01:38 PM
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Physically remove the child from her presence and deal with it without her.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 05:29 PM
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Don't say please. One further: excise "it seems to me" or "from my perspective" or "I think" and present the thing you're saying as a bare fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 02:36 PM
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My viewpoint is that this is ALL power dynamics. This is the most insightful sentence in this whole page, OP. Speaking mormon a mormon, your entire status relationship with your wife is derived from the church (by default). This means that the church is a big stick she can hit you with if she doesn't like what you're doing at any point—there are enough blue-pilled talks and pedestalizing quotes around to justify almost any amount of obsequiousness to her. To reiterate, you need to establish 1) s…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 01:37 PM
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Corinthians has some good material, of course, that I've used with my wife.
/r/RPChristians15/04/18 11:46 PM
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Question for /u/weakandsensitive: Assuming that I lift and practice a combat sport, how important is practicing a team sport as well? And from the standpoint of optimizing my own RP, how much should I be "just doing" v. training?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 08:40 PM
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Jesus, man, it's like you know my kinks. Got it, will read Gorilla Mindset and just put up a post-it up now with a better affirmation.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 03:49 PM
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OYS #20 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~185 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6. Primal diet + 5/3/1 lifting. Bodyweight going back up as I've started a slow clean bulk cycle. Physique is actually starting to look decent—I need to go to the beach and test it out. (I've dropped mentioning my former other categories because I am convinced by the recent debate on the role of MRP that sexual strategy is all we are concerned about here.) Shark week. I've come to realize rather sharply that I am afraid of her…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:30 PM
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OYS #19 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~180 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6. Physical: Primal diet + 5/3/1 lifting. Took a couple of days off from the diet this week (intentional cheating), didn't notice much difference in energy level or anything. We had family in town, so the dynamics of in-laws held and strangled non-triage activities. (It's not that everything is triage, it's that her standards for household operations suddenly skyrocket to impossible heights.) She's been cat-like, more of the "…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:50 PM
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OYS #18 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~180 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6, need to step it up if I ever think about it during the day. Physical: Primal diet + 5/3/1 lifting. Mental: Writing a lot, feels good and makes me make my thoughts concrete. Sexual: As I mentioned a couple of months ago, she offered to try a DIY waxing. This was pretty much a disaster, including her freaking out and stepping in wax. Her refrain is, "I wish you wouldn't try and change me." Frankly, I'm not sure if this is a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:53 PM
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OYS #17 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~180 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6 and holding. Physical: Primal diet + 5/3/1 lifting. A little sloppy on the edges, but for the most part we've discovered some excellent new meals with paleo. Clarified long-term goals, currently focusing on sharpening up my form near and at 1RM. Once things settle down in the summer I will switch to a hypertrophy program. Mental: Still in a high-energy phase. I've been starting, chasing, and knocking out projects across vari…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 03:04 PM
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Consider doing dumbbells for your warmups, about halfway up, then switching to barbell.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 08:46 PM
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OYS #16 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~180 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6 and holding. Physical: Primal diet + 5/3/1 lifting. Had a boxing night last Friday. In lieu of counting calories, I'm just aiming for low-carb. Seems easier to monitor what to eat than how much to eat. Mental: I've been high-energy this week so started knocking off projects. I'm coming back into a manic phase; I suspect it's both the increasing sunlight and the fact that we've finally started taking care of purchasing a home…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 10:24 PM
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Vasectomies scar. It'd be hard to hide this from an LTR or wife of many years.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 09:06 PM
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Sounds a lot like a Vox Day gamma also. Not sure if more introspection is the right answer, since that's probably what got you into this situation in the first place. Need that "miracle conversion or intervention".
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 09:53 PM
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Masturbation technique can affect the ability to get hard also. Try nofap for a couple of weeks, see if it makes a difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:41 PM
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Radical honesty/radical transparency make me cagey in marriages. They run counter to STFU. Radical honesty with male friends, STFU with women is a better approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:40 PM
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OYS #15 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~180 lbs, BF ~14%, DL6 and holding. I skipped a week of OYS. It was a good week. I got my shit together. Physical: had some travel, but things have settled down and I'm back on a heavy routine of 5/3/1. I've gone primal and lost ten pounds already. I'm starting to see abs, but they're going to be weird ugly abs. Martial arts has completely dropped off my radar due to the hustle in finding a house under narrow criteria. Mental: I spent some rare an…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:38 PM
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Not just "never figure it out on his own"—but being embedded in a society that tells him to do the exact opposite of what he observes, to ignore the evidence of his own senses, to destroy his ability to reason about relationships effectively and his ability to network with other men to "compare notes" in male-only spaces. Very few people would be capable of overcoming that kind of conditioning for any topic—left as an exercise to the reader. Now, if you grew up in the Hyborian Age, your experien…
/r/askMRP18/02/18 02:50 PM
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OYS #14 Frankly, I had the flu and she had the flu develop into pneumonia, and all the kids were sick overlapping (except, mercifully, the toddler). Little got done except moaning and napping. Only once to the gym, fortunately the only day of work I missed was a mess for everyone else so I guess my value is apparent, from time to time. Tune in next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 01:34 PM
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Huh. I've been using it wrong. The Grace Kelly is when you do all 30×135 reps. It's one of their achievements, kind of like a badge. So really, I'm just doing clean and jerk. https://crossfitkitchener.files.wordpress.com/2013/01/benchmark-wods-the-girls.pdf
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 12:08 AM
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It's a power clean with a push press. You're supposed to work up to 30 reps of 135 at a time. I believe it's originally a CrossFit thing but they're a lot of fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 09:51 PM
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OYS #13 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 185 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6. Physical: Began a new variation of 5/3/1 with a focus on excellent form (paused box squats) and power (power cleans). Feeling good on that new-routine rush. Mental: There are two things I need to fix: breaking my deeply-engrained scarcity mentality, and being less agreeable. Among the big five personality traits, low agreeableness is the strongest correlate of the dark triad, while neuroticism and a lack of conscientiousness…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:12 PM
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OYS #12 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6, need to move to 7 but don't think about it much. So last week was a mess, and I was pretty angry. I'm actually a little bugged that I haven't stayed red-hot angry because being aloof got me some decent results (including iron frame), but not perfect, and I lost frame a couple of times since then and backslid. Physical: a bit of a case of fuckarounditis, mainly waiting for Lent when I'm going to cut hard. Started doing power…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 11:16 PM
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H&M Henleys, about $15. One of the easiest ways to set yourself off from the masses is to wear henleys instead of tees. Edit: Saw you're also looking for handgun concealment. Won't work for that unless you're wearing a coat over it.
/r/askMRP20/01/18 01:36 PM
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Still angry about last night, angry again at the whole sorry thing, whatever. You're right that I've been at this longer than my OYSs, but the anger flares up. I don't move on from the earlier stages in that comment, I cycle between them. I'm in rage at the entire no-win construction around me: wife, society, church, all of it. I'll process it, as you said. I'm seeing it more clearly now than before. It's one thing to read it, it's one thing to sprinkle some alpha on it, it's another to grok the…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:58 PM
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OYS #11 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6→7. Wipeout. I don't think she realizes the damage* done. The marriage is built on covert contracts. Fine, you say—it's just that she knows about the covert contracts and is totally content to use them to her advantage. That lingerie drawer is a box of dreams that will never come true. The things she verbally agrees to and then never does are the same. She's not going to put out like I want, and she has no intention of ever d…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:05 PM
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OYS #10 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" ~190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6→7. Physical: hotel gyms suck. I mean, topping out at 50 lb dumbbells? Well, I'm back home now and hit the squat rack this morning. Mental: I've thought a lot about frame, and what shakes it in me. I know what I want, but there's a deeper problem I'm coming to understand: I'm fundamentally nihilistic about accomplishment, my own and that of others, and I have been for a long time. It's one of those spots you don't look direct…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 08:13 PM
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OYS #9 Mental/Spiritual: During 2017 I incrementally improved my mindset and got involved with a good online community that challenges me intellectually. (I'm not referring to MRP, since I'm more of a lurker here rather than an active contributor, although obviously I'm challenged here as well.) Next year's goal is to cultivate my discomfort—to face into the wind and embrace the suck. An end goal of mine is radical honesty, and I'm trying to lay psychological groundwork for it. Actually, that's …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 12:33 AM
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Could be. I'll try more things and see.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 04:25 AM
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OYS #8 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 188 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Physical. Holidays mean I'm eating a lot more carbs, but since Lent will be the big fast in a few weeks I'm not worried about it. She's already talking about cutting all sugar; I intend to just take us paleo for that season. Sexual. She comes when I call, most of the time and often enough. I think we're past any covert contracts here. Need to up variety and dominance, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 02:10 PM
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OYS #7 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 183 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Physical. Had a deload week last week, so I'm sore now on the rebound... She comes and lifts. I don't know that I've seen it make much physical difference on her yet, but she has been following my lead there well. Diet is probably the next thing to fix, still being too carb-heavy. Sexual. As I commented last week, I need to go to DL7; after the holidays since I see strange…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:58 PM
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We'll give it a shot next month post-period...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 01:47 PM
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OYS #6 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 186 183 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6 this month. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Physical. Between a very busy week and a car in the shop, I'm not getting in to the gym until Saturday. I haven't taken a deload week in months though, so I'm good with that once. Sexual. DL6 may be the stable point, but I should kick it up to DL7 to check. I'm starting to see the results I want from her. This week she asked me to look into giving her a braz…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 02:28 PM
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OYS #5 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 186 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6 this month. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Physical: okay, screwed up my neck boxing but will heal. Decided I need to cut harder, but will plan it for Lent instead of the Christmas season. Mental: been busy and stressed which means I haven't had the bandwidth for improvement, but haven't lost control either. Just steering the ship. Socially, I've decided I need to be the guy I am one beer in. Sexual: Tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:40 PM
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OYS #4 Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6 this month. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Things are just working, and that's great. Obv. not an excuse to slack off, but I seem to be in a good spot, despite external stressors on the family and on myself. Social interactions are fairly draining... I haven't identified a clear cycle for why I get hyper-introspective yet, but I definitely get melancholic on occasion for extended days. It was an off week…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:18 PM
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it won't make you any less horny, but it will allow you to control how you respond to those urges. OP is using meditative techniques (such as mentally feeding distractions into a candle flame) to discipline thought. Having lots of sexual thoughts or a high sex drive are both conducive to temptation, and it's great to have an approach in place to deal with temptation however it arises. Henry Makow has written on this as well. William Blake: Till I turn from Female love And root up the Infernal Gr…
/r/RPChristians23/11/17 03:30 PM
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Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6 this month. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. While I haven't been feeling particularly Oakish due to life turmoil (mostly handling stressful problems created by other people but paid for by us), I must be doing okay since the ship is sailing steady despite some storms on her part—she went from catty for a few days to unsolicited BJTC. I think she often interprets mental indecision on my part as tortured artist ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:51 PM
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I am vengeance! I am the night!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 09:23 PM
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Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL6 this month. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 325, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Decided to cut to 12% BF over the next few months (from 15% now). Ovulation week, marred by (genuine) illness but not ruined. Focusing on bringing more day game into the relationship, particularly (friendly) mental dominance. Make it relaxing for her, something she wants to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:47 AM
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Yes, I've received them for a while. Renn is very thoughtful and woke on the things we care about.
/r/RPChristians15/11/17 08:15 PM
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It's more of a long-term to-do list than a way of tracking metrics (except for MRP stuff like DEVI which is explicitly built to measure), so aside from glancing it at and updating anything, I spend maybe five minutes a day working it, plus one afternoon a month. (I see it much more frequently than I touch it, so it's like having my day's goals down.) It's not time-intensive, which seems to have been the assumption in much of the other commentary. There is a little bit of "metric tracking", but m…
/r/askMRP10/11/17 12:26 AM
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"Don't feed the spreadsheet guy."
/r/askMRP08/11/17 03:28 PM
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I understand the push-back and teasing about applying process at home. No one except me (and now you all) ever reads this process or knows about it. It's a fancy to-do list to keep me on top of things, not a spreadsheet to wave at the wife. If you were running a business, you'd keep similar processes and records, in one form or another. So there's nothing "wrong" with tracking and goalposts and systems for your love life etc., it'll just take a different form for different men. You write goals a…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 01:53 PM
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That's fine. Do what works for you. But autistic is not a four-letter word.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:43 PM
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Summary: 10 years married, mid-30s, 6'0" 190 lbs, BF ~15%, DL5. Texas Method 3×/week: SQ 315, DL 425, BP 195, OP 135. Undecided on whether to cut down again to ~12% BF or just live what I am now. Need to make that choice, but in any case I eat fairly healthily. Work is in hand, with a recent raise and three (!) side gigs getting started right now. Home work (maintenance and projects) slowing down for the winter now. All four kids are fairly young so daylight savings has wrought a number upon our…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 05:11 PM
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1) Probably some of this. Until men started comparing notes online, I suspect that there was a lot of official dogma that was counteracted in private by real behavior. I.e., the talk and the walk diverged but even the men themselves didn't really notice. 2) You can tell yourself any story, particularly if you're told via the Feminine Imperative that it's true. Sometimes you believe it.
/r/RPChristians18/10/17 03:28 PM
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You can't create agency. It only comes from within. A high-agency individual is capable of acting on the situation. A low-agency person won't, and any attempt to force it becomes leading from behind. You fix you, that's all you can do. Read First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors. And the Dao De Jing (quite seriously).
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 10:27 PM
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This. It's akin to embarassment, the emotion from which there is nowhere to hide. You're acting out against yourself, your past self, your potential faggyness still lying latent within until it's burnt out of you.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 02:28 PM
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I'm going to a local pro wrestling match tomorrow... won't be anything like that show! "As God is my witness, he's killed him!"
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:23 PM
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One advantage of grappling sports like BJJ and wrestling over striking sports is that you can spar at or near 100% with less risk of major injury. (I.e., your injuries are far more likely to be in limbs not the brain or internal organs.) Although I box, sometimes I'm a little jealous of the grappling sports for that reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:21 PM
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I'm thinking through this as I write it out. I am not sure that pointing them out will be beneficial... perhaps more just you yourself being aware of them in her. Not to beta-cater or be passive-aggressive, but to understand why she's being bitchy. Like tracking Shark Week. (Also to nip passive-aggression in the bud.)
/r/askMRP29/06/17 03:37 PM
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Most people aren't high-agency enough to even notice when they are using covert contracts. Are there benefits to being aware of when you are using a covert contract? Does it improve your behavior when you identify them? Would these benefits, if any, apply to a woman as well?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 02:52 PM
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5LL is almost entirely premised on the concept of fortifying covert contracts. I think you've answered your question. I haven't seen 5LL implemented in a way that makes me envy the marriage in question in any way. This doesn't preclude weaponizing it against her, but that's a defect strategy and caps your potential gains from the situation. (I.e., use it to unearth her covert contracts.)
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:31 PM
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Tell us what you changed about yourself. What was most difficult? What surprised you most? What are you most pleased with? This is your chance to brag as well as own your failures. For myself, I find that having a plan is 90% of the battle. Once I have the "rut" to settle into, things go more smoothly. Case in point: at the gym, if it is written down ahead of time, it happens; if not, it normally doesn't. Time after time. I've done well with personal efforts throughout DoD, but multi-person coor…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 08:40 PM
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Social and hobbies. Up my game in hobbies. Not looking for a new hobby, but will focus on improving in all three activities (boxing, woodworking, culinary). I have specific goals in each. Be the friend I wish I had. Reach out and mentor where I can (not in an RP sense necessarily). Because of what I look for in friends and my social situation, I've realized this past week that I'm pretty isolated, beyond the basic social matrix of church+work.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 05:35 PM
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No kidding. (That's not sarcastic.) I'm actually in a non-tenured position (but a reliable unicorn), but you're still absolutely right, and I'll make sure to promote that to the top of my list for the next year of work.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 10:21 PM
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I moved to a "bossless" position as teaching faculty, although I'm still embedded in a large university. The position is secure, and I've laid a lot of groundwork that will pay off in future semesters. I seriously expect to only need to work 30--40 hours per week moving forward, which gives me time to pursue outside projects (NOT goof off on Reddit :). Things to work on: Fix my productivity and workflow. Have made strides in this direction, and it's helping. Start thinking about the medium term.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 08:53 PM
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Maintain the course. Started at beginning of year, but a bit sloppy. Will fix. Pursue a chance to make extra money at work (done). Will work on a couple of side gigs seriously through the summer.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 07:42 PM
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I'll tell you what worked, completely inadvertently, to get the dirty talk ball rolling in my marriage. There is a series of films, Before Midnight, Before Sunset, etc., set ten years apart in a couple's life. In one of them, he asks her, "How do you feel about the word 'pussy'?" So afterwards one of us turns to the other and says the same thing. Boom. You could play this off pretty subtly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 10:46 PM
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Game. Lay more game on my wife. DL 4 and rising. Finally got the baby out of our room at night, so things are already looking up. Don't be in front of a damn screen while she's around. From my notes last month: I'm getting pushback about changes; specifically, she's charged several times that either 1) everything I do is transactional; or 2) I never woo her anymore. Trying not to DEER or go BP in response, but dammit this is frustrating. I do tell her I'm waiting for her to write me a sonnet, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 12:50 PM
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I use a colored polish or cream; they both seem to work fine and I'm not trying to get a mirror finish, just make them look decent and get scuffs out. Any ex-PFCs want to weigh in? Of course, they would only have done black...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 03:49 PM
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If you know what generally goes with what in your wardrobe (or you only buy in a narrow palette), swapping out the default laces for some colour is a one-time easy upgrade.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:39 PM
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I schedule leather care for when I'm watching a movie. Conditioner + mink oil + polish, takes about fifteen minutes per pair of shoes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:37 PM
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Style. Fill basic gaps. I know what I'm missing: v-neck tees, a couple of good casual henleys. Know what I'm going for in casual wear. Finish needed tailoring. Shoes to cobbler, jacket to tailor. I wear a nonironic moustache.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:30 PM
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That's a tad spergy, for sure. :D
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 04:05 PM
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Hygiene. Explore colognes. Settle on a characteristic scent. I'm in my mid-30s, and it's time to settle down. I have tried enough to know what notes I prefer, but now I need to commit to one. (Not that I wear cologne a ton, but I think it's time for a comfortable regularity. I do have pomade and aftershave figured out.)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 01:08 PM
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I've been making yogurt (actually skyr) and mixing in honey. Takes a lot more time but I can get the sugar as low as I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 10:35 PM
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I'll get that on the shopping list this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 03:46 PM
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I try to throw it in ahead of heavy PRs based on a medical article I read awhile back: Researchers at the Intermountain Medical Center Heart Institute found that men who had fasted for 24 hours had a 2000% increase in circulating HGH. Women who were tested had a 1300% increase in HGH. source (That's a secondary source but I don't want to hunt for the original right now.) So I hit my daily 3,000 cals except for one day a week, which a 24-h fast drops to about 1,500. My average daily intake in a w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 03:43 PM
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instead of making a plan, it's just a system, so theres nothing to fall off, it's just routine. Yep, this is the key to life. Your goals should be to build systems, generally.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 08:27 PM
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Diet. Track diet. Daily throughout these sixty days. My weekly reward for compliance is an 1893 if I ace it (cheat day—you didn't think this was a dirty bulk?). So far, so good. Eat 3,000+ calories per day. Eat BW in grams of protein. Oh man has this been hard to hit. I'm pooping three times a day. Fast 1x/wk (hard while bulking but means I have to step it up). Did it Sunday, hit PR on DL this morning. Fitness followup. All good, keeping up with my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 08:25 PM
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Tell me about it... I broke long-standing plateaus on press and bench press this week, and I largely credit that effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 02:50 AM
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Progress report: I have obtained most of the materials I need to make the chin-up bar the way I want it. I intend to update as I complete. The holes are drilled, the rope is tied, and we're ready to go. On my garage floor between the sawhorses and the table saw.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 08:50 PM
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I've pulled the link and I'll take a look. Thanks for the tip. Edit: Nice progression. Reminds me that Arnold says a good exercise is to try to reduce the number of sets it takes you to hit 50 pullups. Integrated (as soon as I have the bar at home).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 07:29 PM
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Fitness. I'm mostly happy with this, but one specific change I will make is to incorporate more pull-ups into my routine. Lifting 5/3/1 4x/wk; this stays the same as it has always been. I'm bulking for the foreseeable future; I have only about 100 lbs to go until I hit the thousand-pound club on lifting, but I figure I'll need to add about 20 lbs of bodyweight to hit it. Set up chin-up bar (with climbing bombs and dowels). This is auxiliary for my deadlift grip. Maintain daily pushups and/or chi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 04:39 PM
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