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blahdude1/r/seduction11/02/12 12:08 PM
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blahdude1/r/seduction06/02/12 09:50 PM
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You say you are introverted and not assertive. Its OK to be introverted. It just means that you tend to focus your thoughts and energies internally first. It's not OK to not be assertive. You should be assertive about what is important to you, and get what you want out of life. This has nothing to do with being introverted/extroverted. It is all about whether you respect yourself. If you do, you live life on your own terms, and will be alpha in some form. Even if introverted, you will be alpha i…
/r/seduction09/04/12 07:08 PM
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This is the right thing to do. Don't turn confrontational. I bet she has her guard up because she is sick of stupid boys and their game. Instead of doing things that make her keep her guard up, you should make it easy for her to let her guard down. A side note: from what I've seen, some girls with this attitude in bars/clubs are really cool girls. They just don't like wasting time with boys hitting on them, and are looking for something real. If you can be real, you'll be better off.
/r/seduction04/04/12 10:12 PM
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Who cares if they make fun of you? Your friends will respect you more if they know that they can't affect you by just making fun of you. Also, flip the script on them. Ask if they want to meet women. If they do, then why are they sitting on their asses? At least you are trying. Give them the same amount of shit that you receive, and don't let their shit-flinging affect you. That said, it's always easier to hit on women when you have friends that are into it also. You might want to make another g…
/r/seduction15/03/12 04:18 AM
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The best advice I can think of is to think of this as a long term process. You are working on your AA, inner game, and social/dating life in general. There is no quick fix. But with a lot of effort, things will definitely improve over time. So look for long term benefit, and try not to be too shortsighted. Along any journey, you will take many steps forward, and occasionally take steps backward. Don't let good news bring too much false confidence, and don't let bad news bring you down too much. …
/r/seduction07/03/12 11:30 PM
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I think this is a good idea in general. You build up groups of friends that you can bounce between. This helps social proof and also helps you get into state by being social. But if you are just bouncing between people, then you should also be OK with the groups leaving (for example, if they are bar hopping). If there is a girl or a group you'd really like to hang out with more, think about number closing before you leave. Let them know you think they are cool and you definitely want to hang out…
/r/seduction07/03/12 02:06 AM
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From what I've seen, girls that are taller than average (but not super tall) perceive themselves as higher value and can be pretty picky about height. They can get away with this because their dating pool is still quite large when being picky. But past a certain point (maybe beyond 5'10''?), it becomes a disadvantage for them. Most guys imagine being with a girl shorter than them, and will tend to hit on them first. The girls that are too tall often aren't even considered by most of the guy popu…
/r/seduction06/03/12 10:55 PM
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Of course it can be recanted. Just stay honest and consistent in your intentions. If she keeps up with contacting you, and meeting up, you are probably doing just fine.
/r/seduction06/03/12 09:48 PM
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Body language is a pretty difficult thing to fake. Psychologists say you can pick out when people are lying based upon discrepancies in their words and their body language or facial expressions. I'd advocate the inner game approach. I'd suggest focusing more on actually being in an open state of mind. You cross your arms because to some degree, you are closing yourself off. You should exude energy and want to meet others. When you do, you body language will naturally open up in a genuine way.
/r/seduction05/03/12 11:15 PM
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My 2 cents: I think you are differentiating between 1) the ability to get someone attracted to you, and 2) the ability to meet/find people you actually want to spend time with. These are different games with some overlap. From what I've seen, a lot of the "game" here on seddit is about finding a way to attract beautiful women. But even if you learn to do that, there is a good chance you actually don't want to spend time with those women. Fact is, finding someone who is on the same wavelength as …
/r/seduction01/03/12 11:07 PM
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but so far I haven't closed her because I've been going after other girls at the parties It was going good until another girl I knew in high school arrived, who I haven't seen in years, so I left HB7 to go say hi Yo, this is crazy. So you can string her along and keep talking to other girls and she can't? It's obvious she was interested in you but does not want to put up with your shit anymore. There are plenty of other guys that might be worth her time also. If you were actually into her at all…
/r/seduction29/02/12 06:59 AM
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Its all good. We all get down at times. BUT, before you make your next move and see her again, you have to get out of that pessimistic mood and be as awesome as you can be. People (including girls) can smell pessimism a mile away and no one is attracted to it. It also sounds like you have a lot riding on this one girl. As people here say, the more outcome independent you can be, the better. Realize she is just one person, who you barely know. Relax and know that at the very least, what you do wi…
/r/seduction29/02/12 03:41 AM
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Then he does something. Wit can count for a LOT. Especially a sarcastic wit that pushes the girl's buttons a little. As rednailz said, observe and learn what you want to.
/r/seduction29/02/12 02:20 AM
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Whoa there nefrina, you aren't a passive standbyer in your life. You have complete control over your life. You are the creator of what your life will become. If you do nothing, it will be a boring life. So go do something new, fun, or exciting.. anything! You only have one life and it's your job to make it fucking awesome.
/r/seduction28/02/12 10:21 PM
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You obviously are not good at reading and listening to others. From above: You know how sometimes you talk with someone who is so stuck in their narrow views that it's not worth trying to convince them of anything else? This is one of those times. But hey, go live your life, and I'll happily live mine. Agree to disagree, right? Point is, I'm doing alright. I hope are you also. We disagree, so leave it at that. Easy right? could_go_for_a_beer also figured it out below.. your just looking to be co…
/r/seduction24/02/12 12:13 AM
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Yes, this. Talk to everyone.. social skills means being social out in the real world, not just with girls. And NickTDS is right about people easily sensing when you are disingenuous. The best thing I can add to it is to be social for the right reasons. If you talk to everyone because you genuinely want to connect with people, then you can't go wrong. If its a short interaction, connect because you want to improve your day and improve their day. If you have longer, try to learn something about th…
/r/seduction23/02/12 08:44 PM
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From Neil Strauss's recent AMA on direct vs indirect: Trends in pickup are kind of idiotic. One does what works. I totally agree. Pickup has to do with basic human nature, and how humans react in social environments. There aren't trends. There is only what works for the particular person you are picking up, in the particular environment you happen to be in.
/r/seduction17/02/12 01:23 AM
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I've only been involved in seddit for a short amount of time but I'm totally with Neil on this thought also. There seem to be two main camps of people in seddit. (1) The ones that are all about the women and lays, and (2) the ones that are more about gaining confidence and building themselves as people. My inclination is that Neil is right: many people start in that first camp, and then make the realization that its actually about themselves, and switch to the second camp. My hope is that people…
/r/seduction15/02/12 12:28 AM
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I'm OK with stating my opinion online. I don't need to convince you of anything. I will say this though. What you wrote about might be good if you are optimizing for the number of quick lays you can get with minimal effort. And if that was my goal, your post may be brilliant (who knows?). But, I have different goals, and I think that is why your post sounds so stupid to me. But hey, go live your life, and I'll happily live mine. Agree to disagree, right?
/r/seduction14/02/12 10:02 PM
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My best suggestion is to not have expectations for your first time. Just go with it and have fun! You have to get the first time out of the way. You can read stuff, think, or listen to people as much as you want, but fact is, you have no real experience. So, chances are, it won't be the best thing ever. That's OK. You have your whole life to get better, and you will. Here's an analogy. Some people are afraid to start lifting because they are afraid of looking like a pussy doing tiny weights. Fac…
/r/seduction13/02/12 08:15 PM
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Dude, if they come into your personal space and grind a bit against you, game is usually on. They are definitely telegraphing interest, so you need to reciprocate. Square up, look her straight in the eyes, put a hand on her hip, and move into her while pulling her in. Is she's interested, she will be totally open to it, and probably will put her arms up around your neck and shoulders. At that point, game is definitely on. Usually you are grinding into her front or back. If it's the front, I usua…
/r/seduction12/02/12 04:50 AM
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Yup, dance floor game is hard. I can sometimes work with a group of 2-4 people.. when the group gets big, it gets a lot harder. I think you are right about leaving a scouting out others. Hanging around in her visual is usually a bad idea, unless I'm building up value with others in line of sight.
/r/seduction11/02/12 08:42 PM
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Yup, I should have said that before they went to the dance floor. Oh well, next time. On the dance floor, the hot one was surrounded by all her friends, protecting her from all the guys in the dance floor. I couldn't figure out how to manage all those people and get to her. I tried to chat up a few friends around her to hopefully make friends, and then get to her. But her friends weren't very receptive. I tried grabbing her when she was less surrounded by friends, but she was in the zone dancing…
/r/seduction11/02/12 07:08 PM
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That's awesome for your friend. But still, there a plenty of hot guys that screw up with women. So he's doing something right. Maybe its how he holds himself. Or encourages along the escalation. Who knows. I've had one friend like this, and I studied the hell out of him. You should do it too -- there's probably something to learn from how he acts or what he says.
/r/seduction11/02/12 12:18 PM
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I'm curious, what do you mean by "without doing a freaking thing". Your friend has to be doing something right to be making out and closing girls. Is there anything to interesting to study there?
/r/seduction11/02/12 02:26 AM
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Sorry, I can't think of anything off the top of my head. Usually something random comes to my head and I do it.. the point is to let the dude know that he can't alpha-dog you. If you look at the AMOG-related stuff on here, it fits the idea in spirit.
/r/seduction11/02/12 02:15 AM
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It's a personal thing, but I can tell you how I feel about it. I don't think it matters. After I lost my virginity, I didn't feel any different. Life goes on, except that you've now had sex.
/r/seduction11/02/12 01:40 AM
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That's why it's called an example (and I said it may be a bad one). I tried to generalize it afterwards. Anyways, its just my two cents. Take it as you will. You know how sometimes you talk with someone who is so stuck in their narrow views that it's not worth trying to convince them of anything else? This is one of those times.
/r/seduction10/02/12 07:28 PM
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It doesn't matter.. you can have fun messing with him and tell others in the group to molest him too, or just move onto something else. The point is, you make it clear that you don't mind messing with the guy and it helps strip away some of the alpha-dog stuff.
/r/seduction10/02/12 07:43 AM
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I am not defending pure indirect game. I am saying it should be part of your toolbox. As should direct game. Use what suits the situation. In all cases you need to make your intention clear. Is that hard for you to understand?
/r/seduction10/02/12 12:24 AM
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What's worked well for me is to joke and mess around with them. Here's something I've done a few times. A good percentage of people who are alpha will be fairly well built. I'll say something like "hey, check you out.. you must work out all the time", and then grab and squeeze their pecs. A lot of guys are a little homophobic, or just don't like being touched by a stranger, and back off from you. If they back off, you've asserted some form of dominance, and can keep grabbing them for fun when yo…
/r/seduction09/02/12 11:48 PM
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The problem is that you are simplifying pickup to a direct approach that greatly relies on initial attraction based on looks and confidence in the approach. This is not all that defines someone and it is not all that girls are attracted to. Here is one example. Let's say you are a billionaire CEO guy who isn't famous, and is average looking (or even below average looking). If you start off by being completely direct, there is a chance you'll get blown off in the first few seconds. A better appro…
/r/seduction09/02/12 11:39 PM
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This is a stupid article looking to be controversial and get views. I think the whole direct vs indirect thing is a false dichotomy. Different situations may call for different approaches. Be smart and adapt. You can be direct, indirect, combine them within the same approach, or just say whatever ridiculous stuff comes to mind. I just started reading PUA-related stuff and am already tired of this argument.
/r/seduction09/02/12 09:17 PM
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Good job just getting out there! Given that you are just out of a 24 year marriage, it sounds like a great start. I started going out relatively late (at 23) and remember being very very awkward the first many times. It's going to happen and you just got ot keep going out.. after a while, things get comfortable and fun. Regarding feeling fake/insincere when talking to girls: I have always felt better about it, and been the most successful, when I think of it as just having fun. It's all your fra…
/r/seduction06/02/12 09:22 PM
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That's a good point on finding where to look. It's a challenge because I'm looking for a well rounded, adventurous girl. I play a bunch of sports, do outdoors stuff, and like almost all nightlife (dinner/dessert, pubs, lounges, concerts, hiphop joints, house dancing, etc). I'd like to find a smart and attractive girl with many overlaps in interests. Many girls don't have a legitimate interest outside of girly stuff. I can usually find some girls who like a few things. But finding a good girl wit…
/r/seduction03/02/12 11:58 PM
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Yup. At this point my main strategy is to 1) increase my exposure to women, 2) be picky, 3) and work on attracting the very few that I want to attract. Seddit seems great for both 1) and 3). In the process, I end up friend-zoning a lot of girls, but it's all good because I'm making friends, and meeting all of their friends. Is there anything else you think about, or work on?
/r/seduction03/02/12 11:40 PM
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Some context: I recently discovered seddit and am fascinated by it. I'm trying to determine how to best incorporate this stuff into accomplishing my goals. There is a comment in that post that I somewhat agree with: the author forgets outlier females. The females that are attractive, smart, confident, etc. They exist, but are pretty damn rare.. I've only met a few in life and they are married. So, what I'd really like to know (I'm not sure if this should actually be it's own post), is how people…
/r/seduction03/02/12 09:46 PM
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It's hard to know what to do w/o more information. It's possible she does want to meet up more often but is just busy. If you have more free time, that will just be the nature of things unless you become busier. It's also possible that she's taking things for granted, and has somewhat made you the bitch in the relationship. If that's the case, I'm not sure I'd talk explicitly about it with her. The reason is that you'd basically be complaining and victimizing yourself in front of her. That isn't…
/r/seduction03/02/12 01:33 AM
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I agree. Be fit for your own sake. It's worth it. A side effect is that it helps your confidence which helps in all areas of life. How you dress makes a huge difference. If you wear stuff that fits well and sets you apart from the crowd, it goes a long way.
/r/seduction27/01/12 11:04 PM
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Conversational threading just sounds like good conversation to me.. for a guy a girl. 1) Listen 2) Say something interesting related to what they said that provokes a response 3) Repeat You can use step 2 to steer the conversation when you want.
/r/seduction27/01/12 10:54 PM
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/r/seduction27/01/12 10:44 PM
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