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It’s a spectrum - not your best can mean a lot of things. My brother is not his best currently but not his worst. Neither points would I think he would make a good partner but as I said he’s making progress so think he will get to a point where he could manage a partner and be a good one without it being worse for his mh. I haven’t said you need to date people at their best: like of course that’s ideal but also unrealistic. But there’s a wide scale from your worst to your best and there’s many p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 02:20 AM
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Oh for sure when my little guy needs a talking to he will be full Name vs nickname. I think it depends on the person I think everyone needs a formal and less formal version of themselves if they have a regal, traditional or classic name. We don’t want to have to be “Elizabeth” all the time in a world of light hearted Kelly’s - liz or Beth are good for those situations just like Gus or auggy would be for Augustine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:23 AM
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If my brother found another person in his situation I think it would be toxic tbh. Two individuals with mental health issues can drag each other further into a depression, cause regression when one is doing well, enable the mindset of nothing is going to change / get better so might as well continue on with the status quo. My brother isn’t just broke, I would have hoped my initial comment made that clear. If he was just broke the situation would be different. Broke people can and do date within …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:20 AM
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My son has a name akin to one of your examples and using Augustine as the example and we think it’s cute calling baby him Gus / gussy / Gus Gus auggy vs Augustine for a baby. I’m sure as he ages he will be able to Grow into the more mature version of the name such as Gus and then possibly when he’s a professional Augustine. But I live in Australia and all names are shortened. If he’s not gazza it’s a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:15 AM
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Do it! Maybe he was nervous or maybe he’s leveled up. Maybe it will be like pulling teeth again and if that’s the case wish him well and don’t open the door again!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:11 AM
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I think financial stability is vital in both partners. Neither partner should be carrying the weight of another solely on their own. But more than financial stability it’s not just caring within their capacity. Some people don’t HAVE the capacity to do half the things on the list I gave (and I’m not talking about the things that cost money) and my brother is currently likely unable to have the capacity to do things like actively listen and lighten the load in some way such as cleaning, offering …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:04 AM
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Thanks for the question by the way I think it’s a lovely one!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:51 PM
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Someone who is emotionally available - listens and remembers what you say, puts their phone down to talk to you. Someone who try’s to make your day a bit easier and/or better- could be bringing a coffee without being asked, picking up chocolate on the way home, remembering you said you like a particular movie and picking up tickets to see that movie in concert etc. someone who financially supports themselves and adds to household income - able to plan financial goals together or at least reach t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:50 PM
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Because of the person is so focused on attraction they aren’t going to realistically care if what they are doing or not doing is healthy or unhealthy if it gets them attraction (steroids for example on men or ozempic without diabetes for women or any other number of examples) but highlighting that attraction is actually hindered by that mindset might make them consider more than saying something is unhealthy (because they can just disregard it if they think the unhealthy thing leads to attractio…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:08 PM
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I think leaving gender out of it the statement is still true. Women who do everything for the view of men would also be deeply unattractive. People in general could be said to “perform” if they do anything that’s socially expected. Have a job? Performing. Go for walks and exercise? Performing. In this context the only way one might not be viewed as “performing” is by being a slug in bed rotting all day. But realistically who wants a slug? What do you talk about and do beyond bed rotting? So I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 10:28 PM
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I think it’s less about insecurities and they are (in general/ stereotyped) less likely to be bitchy to parents, less slamming doors, less I hate yous etc. Like I was a hard teenager and I can fully admit it and am already like praying my daughter isn’t as bad as I was (but then I was dealing with shit I’m also hoping my daughter doesn’t have to deal with). My brother conversely was far more regulated as a teen and actually responsible up until about year 11 when he got in with the wrong crowd w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:32 PM
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Same for me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:44 PM
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Thank you her comment really pissed me off not because I felt it was true but it’s extremely harmful to vulnerable mothers. Ppd and ppa already too common. I had an emergency c the first time, tried really hard for a vbac round two but at 41+3 had to choose induction on ercs and chose the latter for baby safety. Sad that I didn’t get my desired outcome but happy I have my healthy baby and that we are both ok and living life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:33 PM
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I think they actually mean they won’t have the teenage angst and hormonal mayhem girls go through from about 13-19 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:27 PM
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And that’s deeply unattractive mindset. Do things for you, to make yourself feel good,fulfilled and enjoy life. If everything is done for the sake of a relationship or women you aren’t even really a whole person in some ways more like a caricature /butler. I genuinely don’t believe this about men though, most the men in my life actually do things for them, they follow their own interest and wants and are confident and successful for themselves which in turn is attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:23 PM
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Romantic relationships aren’t the only type of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:08 PM
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Rendering what useless?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:07 PM
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Because he would be a bad partner currently. Unstable with so unable to do dates or contribute to a relationship, Soends what money he does have on vices, has zero self esteem so would be needing constant endless assurance, can’t drive currently and has no car so always would need a ride or would rely on public transport limiting time and access, and currently is up and down in mood. I’m not saying he can’t date but why does any of that sound like a good partner? Why should women (or men if gend…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:59 PM
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I honestly don’t think 99% of the population loves other people for their genitalia…. People are more than their genitalia dude it’s not just dude an and dude b are interchangeable because they both have a penis. Men who like woman a is interchangeable with woman b because they both have a vagina also don’t tend to do well in relationships (if they can even get one). Idk this comment makes me worried for you and honestly the women around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:06 AM
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Honestly not sure how any of this conversation relates to the quote
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:43 AM
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It’s their own problem and fault for letting their internal self esteem be determined by a relationship then and ironically contributes to making it harder to find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:28 AM
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You (they) are allowed to want that. Wanting it doesn’t make you entitled to it though, not having it doesn’t diminish your value as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:17 AM
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I think it’s great. You can have value though and be loved for just being you from your family and friends and not from all potential romantic partners though. So I think it’s great but not very relevant for ppd dating discussions. Like using my brother for an example he’s had a hard adult life gone off rails learned some mental health diagnoses etc. would he be an attractive romantic option? Probably not right now however he still has value as a person, and we still life him even as he currentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:58 AM
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You clearly don’t know the meaning of that word
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:40 PM
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That’s the plan! 3:30 rise tomorrow to do it so I’m probably going to bed in the next 30 mins max. Lol younger me laughing at me in bed asleep around 839
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:12 AM
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I loved night life prior kids, now it was a late night getting home at 11. And the 3 drinks i had all night I was thinking more of the set back to my gym goals where as before would have been a pre game but ah such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:05 AM
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If you feel that strongly then definitely don’t go lol I had fun I’ve never done it before but I did enjoy those magic mike movies a few years ago and this was kinda like that At first I thought those movies would be stioid but when I went with colleagues o was like oh ok I get it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:57 AM
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I’m not with you on that one I hate the dentist do take really good care of teeth to avoid problems when I go every 6 months. The shoe was fun they were good dancers and entertainers before strippers and honestly I bet most of them were gay
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:53 AM
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How many men here would view going to a male strip show as an acceptable activity for girls night on a special occasion such as bridal party, milestone birthday, divorce party etc ? I’m sure none. I went to one last night and had a blast. Husband knew didn’t care (nor did any of the husbands / partners of the girls). I even got to go on stage and get a dance. The girls took a video and I asked husband if he wanted to see he said he didn’t care and didn’t need to see. Guys here are prudes. Also n…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:22 AM
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I don’t think it’s a problem. Until the world manages its resources better in a way that moves away from capitalism and being profit driven then our population is already too high for resources. If we became far more humanitarian and worried about preserving our environment then we can revisit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:15 AM
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Ok ignoring all the flags with this comment and I’ll just pretend that women do decide to spontaneously choose men at random to be their boyfriends despite how they act, this could also mean women are choosing poorly since you don’t actually know the person. Quiet and reserved can also be creepy and cruel you just don’t know. I’m not saying all quiet and reserved men are creepy and cruel but thwy could be literally anything and you would have no idea. That’s why you get to know people before dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:01 PM
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What is your example I’ve re read your previous comment and only see the one for men? Also though how do women work to make men more attractive to them? Women already more likely to fall for a guy if he has a good personality than men are (excluding looks) but in saying that you generally have to be brutal - average looking personality doesn’t really change someone whose “bad” looking but guys severely overestimate what is bad looking
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:55 PM
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Your jobless gamer incel example is off - because the person is remaining in an unattractive state be growing and changing actions, it would be more apt if the gamer incel grew up decided to get a job but then got a low job like stocking shelves and was angry that now that he’s making better choices that he’s not viewed differently: the truth is for both the prior party girl and the prior incel a single good choice now doesn’t show a genuine change you need other actions you have to genuinely ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:02 PM
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Boring person - unmatched i hope
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:49 PM
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It’s not dehumanising to realise that we do essentially need to add value to another persons life if we want to t a relationship. This however guest mean that if you can’t bring value to a relationship that your life and experience has no value to you, your family friends etc just not currently to a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 06:45 PM
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You want more specificities sure, 1 in 4 is women have experienced violence from a partner in Australia it’s 1 in 3. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK499891/ https://aifs.gov.au/media/one-three-men-report-using-intimate-partner-violence The fact you think women should just get over it when women either have directly experienced this or closely know someone a friend a family Member etc who has just shows the minimising attitude many men seem to have against this. Attitudes won’t change overn…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:33 PM
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Many aren’t working to be better, many wish things were how they were before, many don’t help enough in the home, many women still suffer dv, many men still think sex is the most important thing a woman can offer. When women say they hyperbolic “men aren’t lonely enough” they mean if they (enough) genuinely cared in the way you are implying they do, the above shit would be far less common. Also I’ll add most women don’t hate men they just don’t think it’s worth having relationships with them. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:18 AM
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I usually qualify the request with a time frame. Can you please take the bin down when you go; or do you mind taking this bin down which generally means I would prefer it done now but as long as your getting to it in the next 10 mins or so. Usually if I take the bag out tie it up and put it near the door so I can put a new bag in he will take it down anyway though since he knows I’m doing other things (cleaning or attending to baby)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:34 PM
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If this is a real scenario truly about head then it’s either you don’t smell or taste good even when clean, you whine or nag about it making the activity inherently unappealing or unsexy, you finish too quickly and then give a poor reciprocation, or she doesn’t like some aspect about this act with you, or she is lying about truly liking it. Those are the only options. If this is the case and you really wanted someone who does this with you you should 1. Stop nagging it that’s the cause, or 2 bre…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:30 PM
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Kind of human instinct isn’t it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:29 AM
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Hmmm maybe men in the past shouldn't have treated women like shit and the cycle of distrust might not have started
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 AM
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No . There’s enough hot guys with good personalities and I knew I was attractive enough and interesting enough to find one of them. I would for friends though if I needed more friends
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 06:11 PM
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Proud of you for taken that step, keep it up!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:26 PM
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If your an early bird already that’s half the battle. I find drinking lots of coffee helps 😂 2 when I wake up 1 to get my brain going the other to get my body going and then one when I’m back home after class to keep it all running smoothly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:13 PM
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It’s a great idea board games because you all have a task to work on and set rules of engagement which invites game talk which can lead to actual talking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:05 PM
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Don’t feel lazy. I’ve always preferred ungodly morning hours to get shit done rather than being a night owl. Even in uni I could never do an all nighter much preferred sleeping at 8pm getting up at 1am to study or finish assignments lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:02 PM
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Yeah it’s becoming mine too. I feel bad for my partner since he doesn’t sleep great and if I’m gone and baby stirs it’s even less sleep for him but I can’t workout in afternoons so I don’t have any other options
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:01 PM
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Getting up at 330 am 3x a week to do a 5am workout has been brutal but with 2 kiddos one still breastfeeding there’s no other time for me to do it (330 so I can feed baby and then have 2 coffees before going) Ngl proud of myself though feel like I’m bouncing back quicker this time around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 06:13 PM
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This is ridiculous. Would you be upset if your husband is liking smiling pics of other women? Probably. Are you unable to post smiling pics to not be hypocritical?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:44 PM
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The fact that redpill men love to go on about accountability but then take none themselves. Lol, gold
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:44 AM
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Let’s not pretend your parents have a similar situation. Let’s also not Pretend that marriage counselling for two years is a long time trying to get things on track
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:41 AM
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Most Men haven’t filled the gap despite the complaints though. And years vs initial month/s is a great deal for men…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:08 AM
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Honestly women put more effort in the actual relationship (in general and on average) so I don’t think it’s that bad a deal for men, like yes you spend more initially and may spend more as you date various women but when you do settle down the roles are reversed and if people choose to settle down these days it’s for years if not life (life is the goal but shit happens) Besides even if men aren’t getting flowers bought for them don’t date people who don’t make you feel special - there are so man…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:09 PM
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I’ve given my husband flowers twice (once just for him the second shared with our daughter) He doesn’t really care about getting them he told me after the first time which is why the second time years later was shared. What I do for him instead is chocolates, coke zeros or pastries randomly when I come home from doing errands or other things out of the house since I know he will appreciate those
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:06 PM
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When my husband and I were dating one of the sweetest things he did was bring me a coffee and pastry before work to my house as we lived close by - he knew I was having a hard time So went out of his way to bring me a treat. I feel like while that specific gesture isn’t the expectation the listening to a potential partners concern and trying to show you are there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:04 PM
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I tried it once but when I said I I added I’ll take away the tv or toys and you can cry about that (Made sure it wasn’t a spanking threat) Felt weird saying so I don’t anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:53 PM
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This still doesn’t equal because this person in the guys example wasn’t a significant other. By your own retelling it was someone he was getting lukewarm reciprocation from. 2-3 months is not a significant other. And still being used for your body is worse because you physically let that person INTO your body. Like I do agree that we all have it hard in some way but let’s not pretend that being used for your body is comparable to being used to these bad examples. Even being used for money is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:51 PM
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This is bullshit sorry because planning a wedding does not compare. There is intimacy in a wedding. Even if the guy felt he was putting his heart into the actions the amount of “heart” you can put into a stranger is actually limited. Active listening should be a fucking baseline for all relationships and is not something to be applauded. And to compare it with allowing a person access to your body is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:58 PM
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Ok well at most gyms supersetting is acceptable behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:20 AM
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Peak time it’s unacceptable and rude sure. You could have used it as a in though to socialise. Work around each other most people Are pretty chill with a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:41 PM
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She could have been supersetting. But I agree that if you go during a busy time it’s a bit rude, and if the equipment is not side by side maybe just do single sets.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:31 PM
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What are you trying to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:12 PM
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Yeah that’s crazy to me too. Me and my husband have a joint account where income goes and bills come from. Individual accounts we can send the same amount to For daily spending on discretionary items and big purchases are talked about between us. I’ll teach my son and daughter to only ever date women and men earning the same or close enough too that it doesn’t make a big difference and how to have healthy financial practices within a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:44 AM
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In a marriage though all the money is their money not his money or her money. So if something is bought during marriage it’s bought with their money. At least that’s how healthy relationships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:14 AM
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I don’t think women consider alimony tbh, barring the rare cases where your husband is some generational wealth or huge successful upstart - most high earning men though not really since alimony is so rare these days since most women work. Women consider men’s finances important because of the life together not a post divorce life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:54 AM
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Shared finances mean if he’s responsible for child support with another kid then his Wife is surfacing from Loss of total financial position as a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:37 AM
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It doesn’t matter because you said if a woman ends up pregnant and even though f there’s a chance the baby could have been not husbands because she cheated then it’s on her to disclose. Fraud has to involve willingly and purposeful deceit. The way you are wording it is that if a woman get pregnant and she had multiple Partners automatically she needs to disclose. That’s a double standard. Cheating in general is wrong but adding additional Punishments for women only is also wrong. So if you wanna…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:45 PM
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Are men going to be charged with fraud if they have an affair ? The fact that they could have gotten someone pregnant is enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:13 PM
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I think a financially successful man also benefits the relationship in general while you are in it whine 50/50 doesn’t impact anything but after divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:59 PM
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This. Millennial men are actually pretty great imo active dads, had our fun in the past, more confident and don’t mind helping around the house. Exceptions exist in all generations though on both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:40 PM
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Probably because not everyone reaches their potential. The f you go all in on potential (marriage) there’s a good chance you screw your self. You gotta love and select people for where they are not where they could be
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:32 PM
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Actually there are male only scholarships. And that’s great. They typically tend to be in areas males are underrepresented like a lot of the female ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:28 PM
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Nah millennial women knew what men were like but we also still love me and many of our partners are very active husbands and fathers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:39 PM
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A lot of those women only scholarships if you look are actually funded by women. Why don’t men put together some for men? Also women are currently working really hard to get ahead it’s not men falling behind it’s men not trying as much now that they are also competing with women. There are some systemic issues though holding some men back such as female bias in early schooling due to education. This also I’ll note was not changed for women - school was designed for boys/ what changed was corpora…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:26 PM
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I think women do know expecting confident men is a pressure for men but it doesn’t really concern us because if a man can’t do it he’s not really what we are looking for (if you are one of the women who want that - and I recognise most probably do) the men who can’t meet it we don’t hate or anything just probably less attracted to. Men also have expectations for women and despite women’s push back on the fringe (hair arm outs, no shave, plus size positivity etc) in general men still prefer thin,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:01 PM
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Ok so there are no binary’s clearly it’s always a scale. I honestly don’t Get what you are trying to say or what your Point in all this is. You think Women are sexually more valuable ok I can agree with that because if reproduction. You have a problem with women wanting confident men? How does agreeing that women are the more sexually valuable improvement dating for men as per your title? I’m really struggling to grasp your point
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:09 PM
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Wrong all types of sexual desires are NOT reasonable, we literally have laws protecting ting certain populations against others with explicitly and morally wrong sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:30 PM
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It actually largely is societies fault for a lot of the obesity issues. Governments and companies are part of society and is what I’m meaning by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:13 PM
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This is a lie men here claim that men hate being chosen for who they have become as well they accuse women of “waiting at the finish line”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:08 AM
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Only if they accept the invitation. If they always say no then they wouldn’t be dating
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:16 AM
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I mean if you are mid thirties and only just starting to think about being sexual with women but then decide you don’t really want to approach and date then are you really “dating”?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:59 PM
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Feminist believe women can choose not that they need to walk away from gender roles- they should only do so if that’s their choice. Of course you should seek someone e who feels the same that’s how you have matching values. The key is that your partner is making that choice out of their free will and not lack of education/opportunities or “force” through familial expectations in certain communities
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:39 AM
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For someone who values open communication it would definitely prompt an open discussion. For someone hiding or who is generally more private would be very easy to have said no nothing to talk about or no concerns. I’ve been on the receiving end of the latter so can imagine it going that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:07 PM
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I agree but just so you know those examples were closed yes or no questions - the teacher in me can’t help it. Change the “is there/are there” to “what concerns / what should we talk about”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:02 PM
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For most women it’s not going to feel that different 4-6 inches. People tell men with this insecurity use hand or mouth not because it’s to compensate as you implied in your post - it’s because the guy is obviously insecure, being great at sex and having the woman actually orgasm and think he’s a great lover is going to boost his esteem naturally. For women that happens when a guy gives orgasms generally with mouth or fingers since it’s easier for us to orgasm that way. We still enjoy penetratio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:40 AM
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The courts generally “ investigate “ who the actual primary carer is. You don’t just get to say it was yourself if it wasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:22 AM
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I agree therapy can absolutely help someone get out of it. It’s unfortunate how against therapy many men seem to be though. I also agree most people desire to be wanted but not sure how That relates to getting out of the ideology? I don’t think all incels deemed to stay mired in the ideology but for many I think they set up a negative loop of reinforcement which would keep them in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:22 AM
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For many yes unfortunately. If you e ever looked at r/incelexit it you can see even the ones who step away from all the ideology it creeps back in in the form of lasting distrust. Once you let some of these beliefs rule you you would never be able To Fully trust which of course means you won’t ever experience a healthy relationship which means when in inevitably ends it will just reinforce the negative ideas. The lucky ones have protective factors like sisters, female friends, brothers who are “…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:16 AM
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Or even an incel (make or female) which is just the more bitter and at times extreme end of a nice guy/ pick me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:11 AM
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I think the problem is when caring becomes your whole personality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:08 AM
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Assertive is not aggressive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:30 PM
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Because refusing to let people use your body is some awful thing. You would rather people set themselves on fire to keep the village warm. Of course men wouldn’t want help in reasonable ways which most women would actually agree to
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 09:41 AM
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If this hypothetical were true then a lot of men would be meeting their maker a lot sooner than necessary. Women aren’t going to have ses with random men even if it potentially stopped them from this, healthy men who didn’t do this or men who women were attracted to would still get gfs and wives and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:15 AM
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This exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:11 AM
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It’s not like that at all. It’s like saying we prefer to hire candidates with phd or masters degrees but still hire candidates with bachelor degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:17 AM
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Most Aussie’s are tall. It’s harder to find a short man here than a tall one especially in my area which is predominantly Anglo Saxon Aussie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:15 AM
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Most Australian guys are tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:14 AM
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I know 2 women (in wider friend group) whose husbands are only just as tall as them and thus are shorter than the other guys. Both have attractive wives. Women don’t hate short guys even the ones who prefer taller guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:35 AM
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Women aren’t a monolith just like not all men are. Stop the self hate find some self respect and others will too. Self respect is evident in people. Not all women will be attracted to short men and not all Women are going to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:18 AM
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Rather than wealth and status I would reccomend trying to make her laugh instead and try to build a good rapport during an assignment. Create a study group or something and invite more than just her obviously and then try to hang out a few times
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:40 AM
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You need more than proximity
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:55 AM
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It can be really annoying to have a person always bring their partner as the conversations have to change to not be as personal. It’s ok to bring partners sometimes but most men and women also enjoy just having times with their friends. It’s ok to not bring your partner to places like bars where people Go To drink and usually talk deeply because of alcahol. Girls night and boys night should Both be allowed. If you aren’t trusting your partner you probably shouldn’t be with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:54 PM
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Lab grown is perfect. Can get a good size, colour cut and clarity without breaking bank. They are real diamonds. Also don’t get a dainty hand with big tock they don’t hold up get a thick enough band, and round diamond are classic never go out, get 6 claws for security.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:46 AM
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I just don’t think that’s a defining trait between mentally healthy and toxic. I agree you should feel desired by your partners
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:56 AM
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I disagree however if you guys truly believe this than how can you blame women for not Liking men cold approaching them anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:20 PM
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What unbelievable is some Men including you are defending the idea that women could hit themselves in the head with a report repeatedly dying how stupid they are and that men would just accept this and not lose attraction after this type of meltdown. You do you I guess. Wanting emotionally mature Partners who can express emotions in healthy normal ways such as Conversation, working in a hobby, doing a project, intentional meditation or relaxation etc. is ok
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:18 PM
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I mean mentally healthy women do this too though those signs of affections should not mean / be read as love if it’s very early just desire attraction and comfort as you correctly identified desire
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:12 PM
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It’s could be boldness. The word charm unfortunately means lots of things and can be different for everyone which isn’t that helpful for you. Generally it’s socially aware and able to make people feel special and seen - which varies for people. What did your abusive ex do to attract you that a mentally healthy woman wouldn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:11 AM
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The answer is outlined above though it’s not a mystery that abusers seek a very specific type of woman. Those women would also be available to you if you can learn to be charming and attractive enough as well just like the abusers are. The reality is these relationships are still a minority. Most people - men too - have experienced some kind of abusive relationship and most people recognise this and can leave and learn to Look for healthier partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:30 AM
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Yes my newborn had “baby of xxx” on anklets on both legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:47 AM
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Honestly sounds like your wife doesn’t know how genetics work. I’m sorry she suffered violence what was it an episiotomy without consent? Also why weren’t you allowed there? Was it COVID? Even then doesn’t seem right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:54 AM
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That’s not common. You are highly attuned to your baby and its whereabouts after birth even after excruciating a prolonged labour. Exception being emergency c sections requiring GA. Or other emergency requiring surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:41 AM
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They don’t remove mum from baby unless baby going to Nicu or mom Icu
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:29 AM
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Maybe because not everyone is dating abusive guys and it’s not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:18 AM
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Men intentionally misunderstand women. I’m assuming the “denying” that looks matter comes from the typical response of “I think personality is way more important than looks” or so e variation of this, if you understand how English works however you would Ngl that personality is obviously the most important thing but no where is she saying looks are not important just not the number 1 thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:17 PM
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You’re saying this to the wrong woman. My husband deals with chronic depression and I give him so much support to the detriment of my own needs at times and still find him sexy: you completely misunderstood my comment if that’s what you took away from it. You can face anything and show emotion as long as you are facing it and not acting in the way I described in my original comment hitting self in head, other examples would be punching walls, constant self hate talk or a lack of willingness to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:45 PM
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Resilience yes stoicism no. You can be emotional and resilient
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:56 AM
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I should have clarified… healthy emotionally mature men wouldn’t accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 11:10 PM
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I Agree but cautious doesn’t mean avoid and cross off ever doing it again. That’s why majority of women aren’t swearing off men after a bad experience with men despite 1/3 having direct experience with some kind of sexual harassment. Men should absolutely be cautious being vulnerable but I mean most of us are cautious with that anyway so that’s applicable to everyone, we usually open up to people we trust rather than every acquaintance we meet. Again it’s largely a skill issue or a lack of under…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:55 PM
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Yeah this is true. That’s what makes a mature person. We all have to face things that make us deal with u pleasant emotions, fear, anger, sadness, loss, embarrassment etc but how you face it says a lot About you and if you always run from Problems or handle them in the worst way how can you be trusted to be there when your partner needs you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:44 PM
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Define break down pretty bad. If it was just crying then it was pretty shit if her to not comfort you and ask questions to better understand and connect with you. Not everyone is going to Be emotionally mature. That’s true for both men and women. Saying no woman accepts emotional vulnerability because of a bad actor you have experience with is exactly like when women say crap like “all men”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:36 PM
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I gave a single example of an appropriate way there are many. If a woman acted the way I outlived in the inappropriate way men would also fund that deeply unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:34 PM
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Honestly it depends on how you express your vulnerability. For example if you suddenly break down crying while hitting yourself in the head repeatedly with a remote saying “stupid, stupid, stupid, I’m a worthless crybaby” or something else akin to a deeply unattractive meltdown they yeah probably going to lose attraction. If you shed some tears and confide how stressed or sad or hurt you are over a specific situation but continue to try your best then that’s going to be received well with hugs a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:07 PM
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We dont. We are against it when the bro can’t go peacefully without complaining about “western women” and when they go over there and treat the women poorly because they are buying their fantasy chad life. If you wanna go overseas do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:59 AM
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Because visibly healthy women are above average since most of USA is overweight. If you aren’t in USA it may fair better. The amount of women happy with mediocre lives is diminishing though when we can provide a better than mediocre existence for ourselves anyway through education. Realistically people who mostly have their stuff together want better than average otherwise their stuff wouldn’t be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:26 AM
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I think the man is going to have a hard time finding that because most women don’t want to be mediocre and want more. Not saying they don’t exist but they aren’t going to be out there promoting themselves they aren’t the thirst traps that men gravitate towards. They are the overweight introverted, potentially disabled or neurodivergent, single mothers, poorly educated, minimum wage career woman. Men can find these women but reality is most men want an above average women (thin, cute face, contri…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 12:00 AM
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Men do need to be competent. But so do women. Men here think women have such easy lives because they are looking at their peers young Gen Z - millennial women. They don’t realise that those women need to be competent too in different ways otherwise we end up single mothers and homeless in our senior years. Women relying on men with no backup plan such as a career or education overwhelmingly leads to that. Women know this it’s why we work so damn hard in education or jobs and vet for men who are …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:39 PM
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Correct about women choosing. That’s the point we all have choices. Men can choose to be the competent man or they can choose and average life with an average woman (havea look at what a real average woman is: she’s very overweight, 30 and working minimum wage with likely no savings) or they can choose themselves and their friends or they can enjoy being a Neet. We all have choices. Those women who chose still had to work to make their choices a reality: I’m one of those college educated married…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:32 PM
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I agree with this. The problem is when you talk about your problems pointing to other groups and saying “but they have it better” without actually having a nuanced take is going to make people not want to help you because you look like a petulant kid with their hand out because they saw some other kid get a piece of bubble gum without ever asking or thinking why did that kid get the bubblegum or do I even need the bubblegum or have I got a way to also earn a piece of bubblegum. Im all for making…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:25 PM
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Men don’t exist in a vacuum. Men are made from children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:20 PM
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Incorrect. Most of those homeless women are leading far poorer lives than you as an average man. Your wife is 1/1000000
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:19 PM
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So agreeing with one tenet makes someone redpill? No. I don’t believe women’s value is inherent. I don’t believe you have to be hot to be successful or competent as a man. And I don’t believe in any of the hate red pill has for other people due to their sexlessness particularly women. Really pills are stupid, all view points have some merit hence the purple flair I have to participate here. Reality is life requires nuance it’s not black and white or red or blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:18 PM
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Irrelevant. The point is you being an average man is better than being a below average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:14 PM
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Want to elaborate why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:13 PM
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You are very narrow sighted if you think men don’t also benefit from safety nets. All those children being raised by mothers using social safety nets do you think none of those children are boys? Those boys become men. Hell here in Australia our prime minister was raised by a single Mum in social housing. Without that net he wouldn’t have gotten to where he is. Safety nets help all of society which includes men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:13 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:09 PM
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Grass is always greener. Pretty sad for all the people who wish they could be something they aren’t. Water your grass and improve your lot. You did so buy essentially buying a wife, how many more extremely overhead homeless women will get that same “opportunity”? Very few. So you being an average man boded far better than what most of the below average women will experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:09 PM
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Things won’t be ‘fair’ regardless. Women deal with biological disadvantages that cause a lot of the social safety nets op is complaining about - women get pregnant and are usually the parent who bears the brunt for f child rearing so when single they have a harder time to put food on table for the kids- ergo the social safety nets seeing as society doesn’t want starving children. Barring the above, average men can also do a lot better than average women if they actually are putting effort in. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:06 PM
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Would you rather be an average woman or a competent man? People act like we don’t get to massively Influence our lives with our choices we make each day. Barring disability (mental and physical) and extreme poverty, we have a lot of choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:01 PM
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You are right I mean women for one of them edited
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:58 PM
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Yes thanks I’ll edit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:58 PM
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Competent and capable men usually do far better than capable and competent women. How about you strive to be that kind of man rather than an average woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:51 PM
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The first hair of your comment also applies to women saying - we don’t date or have sex as punishments and rewards yet that’s how men think of it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:51 PM
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That’s was make fantasy and pretty ridiculous tbh any emotion men can feel so can women even if we express them differently
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:31 PM
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I see a lot of this crap in schools unfortunately it’s definitely growing among young men here. Even year 7 boys here can be pretty bad. But it’s pretty bad in years 8-10 currently. I think America culture wars are coming here and honestly the cost of housing, poor educational aspirations by youth, lack of ambition social media and the overall sentiment towards immigration aren’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:13 AM
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Honestly I wouldn’t know how to specifically do that. I believe in feminist causes but just generally go through life trying to be kind to those around me and trying to be smart about savings, investments, future goals etc. If raising my kids feminist is just teaching them to respect all people, to instil a good work ethic both domestically and at work then that’s what I’ll be doing for both. Have you got any specific examples of how kids should be raised feminist (because I will raise both kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:20 AM
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That’s not 50/50 then and also why their relationships fail. I’m So lucky my partner genuinely helps. He also makes more than me by about 45% Really we both give 100% it’s all one big pot, and we both do what we can when we can it’s a shame most men aren’t like that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:35 AM
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Girl if he was 50/50 you Wouldn’t be cleaning after him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:24 AM
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Thank you for your reply. I’m in Australia so my reply is based on that context. We actually have home ec and workshop classes here in our high schools. I’m a teacher who actually teaches home ec. We have a lot of the same issues here as in usa so while I don’t think it’s a solution I think it is an important thing to have regardless as kids need skill based learning, and life skills regardless of their dating life. The government subsidised dating events I don’t see how it would actually work o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:56 AM
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No I’m actually very open to hearing solutions. The only one making it zero sum game is you if you can’t actually provide solutions that don’t hurt others. Edit: I have a son and a daughter I won’t both to grow up safe and happy. So I am genuinely open to hear solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:19 AM
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I mean have you got some suggestions that don’t hurt other people autonomy or rights or that don’t hurt other people (such as removing welfare for women and children) There always seems to be a lack of suggestions for this. I’m all for men’s spaces and there are a few of these such as men’s sheds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:10 AM
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This whole sub is based on emotional and insecure men who think they are logical
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:52 PM
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That men are far more emotional and illogical than they think
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:51 PM
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Probably because younger than that are less likely to be married. I’m sure all the 20 year olds will cook for their husbands one day too except it won’t be framed like that. Really we (women) just cook for the family and cook things we like. I cook every night for my family it’s not because I’m concerned about putting a home cooked meal out for my husband it’s because it’s healthier and tastier and cheaper than always buying out so I cook for us since I finish earlier and enjoy cooking more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:43 PM
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This I agree with. What I don’t agree with though is that most women would accept an emotionally intelligent man who picks up the slack at home who doesn’t earn ‘enough’ that enough would vary though depending on the woman’s socioeconomic situation. Love and partnership are amazing but it also doesn’t pay the bills and for people of low-average SES those bills also need to be a priority . Financial issues the number one cause for break down in relationships. No one wants to be on struggle street…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:36 PM
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Depending on how much you and your coworkers earn though would mean you are all outliers. I agree that if you earn enough then a man’s income likely less important but for most women who likely have average wages they would be more interested in men with higher than their incomes- this would of course vary depending on class, industry and individual preference. For example, a HVAC worker making 80k would look far more impressive to a beauty industry worker making 40k than a nurse making 75k (num…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:15 PM
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Yep him accidentally and disproportionally hurting her is the play stupid games and win stupid prizes. It’s not going to be “reasonable” defence to any judge if you accidentally kill a woman or break her jaw because she was shouting at you or even if she slaps you. Why didn’t you walk away, why didn’t you block her hits or worst case try to restrain her, why didn’t you choose to punch her that’s not self defence at that point. Unless she has some kind of weapon and is attacking you and you can n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 07:30 PM
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It looks way better than balding on nearly every man
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:28 AM
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I love the glow ups on r/bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 07:29 AM
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Because if you are fully cognisant and think you will be protected you are playing stupid games - and are pretty crazy. It only takes one time to actually be hit and for something to go wrong such as falling and hitting head on curb. In your example if you are a man fighting another man you’re also in the wrong: again it takes one thing to go wrong. It also takes two to escalate into a fight. We are meant to learn in school you don’t fight bully’s as a first action - you walk away it’s just not …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:54 AM
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Probably because they are toxic and manipulating the situation. If the man doesn’t hit her she ‘wins’ by having been violent to him either verbally or physically, and if she does goad him to attacking her back physically the she ‘wins’ because he can be charged for that. Edit to add: I doubt these women have enough self awareness to realise this though. Crazy just be doing crazy. It’s a big game of “play stupid games win stupid prizes” men shouldn’t be goaded into this game because there are no …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:44 AM
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A man being raped would leave a very different trauma unless he was penetrated - then it would be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:16 PM
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Hey good job you ended it with a g this time. The funny part is not that they’re gay. I don’t think I have time to explain humour to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:41 AM
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lol your response is typical. Why is the truth making you so angry? Hypocrisy is funny when the people most angry about gay people seem to Be the very thing they claim ti hate. It’s sad really all that outward hatred is really self hatred. This anecdote has actually been proven with data points but it’s ok if you Don’t want to accept that As I clarified in my comment - not all conservatives are republicans but go off I guess, apparently highlighting a high amount of gay sexual activity amongst r…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:34 AM
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Actually makes a lot of sense. In the democratic population you have an average amount of gay people and thus using the app so in a convention you have typically average use but slightly up since there’s a little bit more people in the area as people Generally travel for conventions. In the republican population you would have to have a highly above average amount of gay people in the population so when brought together use spikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:25 AM
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Nope but it doesn’t matter what it does when dnc is in town because democrats largely support gay people so them being gay even if closeted wouldn’t be hypocritical whereas on average most republicans think gay people are sinful and shouldn’t have rights since most republicans are supposed evangelical. Not all conservatives are republicans btw but republicans are the supposed devout “Christian values” ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:07 AM
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What is RNC? Sorry I don’t know the acronym. If it’s republican national conference or something I believe it haha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:57 PM
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Your choosing to view women’s offer of friendship as them making you a pet It suggests you don’t really want friends and it seems to be you who doesn’t want to be social
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:08 PM
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Grinder shuts down from too much concentrated activity whenever a maga rally happens
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:05 PM
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I think my real gripe with the original op is the premise that men are fking more “work” during courtship. I don’t think asking someone out is “work” or having been the one to do so makes it unequal. The woman also needs to work to be found attractive and pass the man’s bar. And if he’s paying she needs to work to be engaging enough that he feels it’s worth it. And those initial dates where men feel it’s unbalanced also don’t last a long time about 3 dates or so and can be as cheap as the man wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:57 AM
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Fingers crossed you: learn to count Have a nice life with the normalised sex doll
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:54 PM
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Early stages of dating are riskier for women so I don’t think it’s going to change and women have zero reason to. Why should we make it easier for men when the risk we face is generally greater? So it does matter to women that men are hornier because that translates into more risk for us which to us does justify men having to ask, and perhaps suggest a date and for many women pay for the first date if he wants to be taken seriously (exceptions exists for paying of course such as young people bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:42 PM
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If we do assume it’s true and I do even in working couples because women generally work and do most the household duties and kid duties but regardless let’s go with the assumption, if it’s true why would women be ok with an equal courtship phase (which is truly pretty short in most cases) if they are going to be putting in more later? Women want to know they can rely on their man and it’s not much expecting a man to show he can take initiative early on. And really courtship phase lasts a few dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:40 PM
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In the actual relationship women work far harder on average especially with kids so it’s fair fir the man to put a bit of effort in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:27 AM
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Wrong without it you just gonna have to compensate in a lot of other ways. Just like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 10:01 AM
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It is less important when looking for relationships it’s just not unimportant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:46 AM
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The goal for most people though is long term partnerships. Good natured men are also preferred for casual sex if they are also attractive: given the choice most women going to choose the attractive good guy over an attractive asshole for a hookup. The gripe must really be that they aren’t attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:12 AM
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Actually if your 4’11 you can legally get a disability placard
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:04 AM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:02 AM
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Reduce faminancial inequality and raise everyone’s standard of living would be one way. All this is really just a symptom of classism more than gender war.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:43 AM
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We don’t desire “men” in a “ raw visceral” way. We only feel like that for our specific man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:17 AM
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I disagree women get called out for lots of things. The term home wrecker isn’t a new one. Look at the semi recent cheating ceo /marketing or hr lady scandal pretty sure it’s just the woman who can’t find a job now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:07 AM
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Women aren’t boasting that bi men aren’t dateable in calling bs. Women were hated on in daily culture for promiscuity as an already gave examples. Bi men aren’t hated on like that any claim they are is disingenuous - the only time women actually clarify they wouldn’t be into dating men is when asked on sites like this and even then it’s done largely with respect without the name calling women experienced. Men can absolutely fight against gender norms and really they already have no one bats an e…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:22 AM
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I don’t think there is as much a double standard as you are implying. It’s not impacting men in any area outside dating and dating is inherently discriminatory. Bi and gay men aren’t looked over for promotions or for being hired. Society generally accepts gay people (I say generally because there are always pockets of religious bigots). Women not wanting to date bi men is valid. Some women will Some won’t. Just like some men will date single mothers and some won’t. Some will date fat women some …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:59 PM
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The promiscuity double standard impacted women though in a large way. The social judgement, the victim blaming when assaulted or raped, the casual objectification and depersonification women experienced in all realms of life depending on things like what you wear, how big your breasts are or your natural shape even if modestly covered, all promotions double guessed when in highly paid roles - she must have fucked the boss comments. This does not impact men. In fact I would go further to say that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:44 PM
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I wouldn’t date a properly bi man but if I guy had explored his own sexuality by making out with a guy in his youth I wouldn’t care. Hell even a bj given or received under the influence wouldn’t really bother me as long as the conclusion was that he was straight and wouldn’t want to do it again. If that’s seriously his gripe though there are better things to be upset about when it comes to double standards. Things like education standards impacting boys, boys and men being unable to fully expres…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:29 PM
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I’m inferring that being told like your dad was a bad thing in this instance like an insult. Sounds like your parents did you a disservice I’m sorry. Hopefully you’ve found positive role models and have learned to be self sufficient since.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:51 PM
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I don’t think it’s a bad thing. I think it’s reality and the whole post is disingenuous- I don’t think you or any other married/ partnered people are disingenuous. I’m married too and wouldn’t divorce my husband just because I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:25 AM
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Social judgement and safety is absolutely still a thing in 2026. Responses like this is exactly why women know men aren’t safe. Would you like links to stories of women being murdered from tinder dates? How about date rape drugs when out? If women need to use a vibrator anyway many will choose to just do it ourselves without risking std, physical safety, pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:01 AM
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Lots of reasons lack of orgasms being one, safety being another, social judgement, lack of finding suitable attractive partners for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:00 AM
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It’s not a loss. You are happy you grew and moved on. Meeting the right person and that specific time might not have worked - right person wrong time. If me and my husband met when we were about 8 years younger we wouldn’t have worked. We both would have been too into partying and our school for anything serious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:03 AM
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Yes absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:58 AM
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This except he is still an option - leaving is an option even if not a good one or one you would take and that’s good because it means your are there because you are committed and in love not because you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:39 AM
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Every person in a relationship is an option. You are not forced to stay with someone or to be with someone to begin with therefore they will always be an option. Do you expect women and men to pair up and never be allowed to grow apart, mature or want different things? Usually the person someone is at 18 is completely different to the person they are at 25 and 55 and so if you look at the different partners they had at those respective ages it can sometimes be completely different people for man…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:23 AM
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I didn’t get horny from kissing girls. Reading comprehension is lacking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 12:20 AM
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I’m in high COL area too it suck’s going to store and seeing everything skyrocket. I got the long life warm home brand juice because when I went to look at cost of orange juice even the concentrate stuff was $7 cold. The good stuff was $9.50 no thank you I’ll just eat a damn orange.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:54 PM
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I didn’t say I always chose to kiss women in those conditions. I kissed men too. But in some situations I looked at the options and chose my friend. I rationalise everything in my life man it’s literally how I survive and see the world. I’m very practical, and will rationalise before making big important decisions, and after every big, scary, sad or whatever strong emotional moment in my life. And like I said to that user - of course men will never choose men even their friends. Straight guys se…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:32 PM
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Are you buying organic? That would be even more blatant robbery. Shits me every time I go in for a couple things it’s never $10 like it should be it’s always 30-50. This made dinner and all that is left is the bananas, most the potatoes and the juice. So dinner was about $20 so $6.50 a serve (if you don’t add cost of spices and Oliver oil which I didn’t but probably adds at least another dollar), it’s all just very expensive even cooking at home
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:26 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:22 PM
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I disagree. I used to like doing drugs and partying and some of those drugs make you horny. What I said about Ken being unsafe compared to a girl friend men will just never understand because they aren’t nearly as in danger of being physically assaulted or raped especially when a woman is horny or consenting to a point. Being young and having kissed someone of the same gender does not put you on a bisexual scale and I agree it is a spectrum. Being older now, I feel safer to defend myself so even…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:21 PM
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I was just wondering though if there was specific abuse more likely to be experienced by sons
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 10:52 AM
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Do you think mothers who do this would only do it to their sons? Wouldn’t these abuses be done in general to their kids vs gender specific abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:40 AM
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Man grocery store prices insane rn 2 chicken breast bottle of home brand breakfast juice (warm long shelf life one) 2 zucchini packet 3 sweet corn bag potatoes single serve 600ml Coke Zero 3 bananas $31
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:26 AM
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Yes that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:21 AM
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Probably cause guys know how gross other guys are - hygiene wise here. Your also wired to see men (even your “homies”) as competition and threats whereas women generally see other women as non threatening and safe
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:12 AM
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That’s true but personally I would t have wanted it to go further. I tried a threesome with an ex and learned pretty quickly I didn’t like another woman’s genitals lol. But for kissing your eyes are closed, our lips are soft, and it can feel safer for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:04 AM
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Because you have a safe option - women. Women don’t have that option to the same degree especially young women. Adult women less likely to kiss friends because we already have experience with staying safe and aren’t going g to be as easily influenced by substances - plus we likely also already have bfs or husbands. Young women find women safer than random men u til you guys can fix that probs won’t change.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:03 AM
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I guess you never partied as a young adult. Being drunk or on other substances can make you feel really horny or at the very least uninhibited and close to those around you. Making out feels good and your eyes are closed anyway. So add that to being drunk and or on something else and occasionally making out with a safe friend seems natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:53 AM
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I could have but as explained I was far less trusting of men. There’s good reason not to trust men especially in those early years. They don’t like stopping or being told no. They respect boundaries far less than your girlfriends. I had many male friends show this to me. I had many random men also show this to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:41 AM
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I’m one of those women you’re complaining about. I kissed a few of my girl friends as a teen when drunk (never sober). It felt safer than making out with random men because you know it’s gonna stop at kissing but with men they will want more and might not accept just kissing. As a teen I didn’t want more so I stopped there. I identify as 100% straight I wouldn’t choose to date a woman, wouldn’t have sex with one. If I’m ever single one day because my husband dies then I would not date women. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:22 AM
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Did he actually go to court? A lot of men assume courts are biased so they don’t even fight for custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 01:14 AM
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That’s horrid I’m sorry you were a victim of a continued cycle of abuse. Hopefully you are the one to break the cycle. I wish your dad could have taken you with him no kid should be left with an abuser regardless if they are currently abusing the child or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:47 AM
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Damn did your parents even try? Do you know if they were abused first? Or if they wanted to be parents? are you close with them now? Did the abuse start at a certain age or was it always present? If it’s too personal don’t worry about answering. I have two kids I just can’t imagine abusing them like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:46 PM
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Bad parents suck. What in your opinion is the most common way parents abuse their sons? Not looking for physical abuse as an answer because that’s an obvious one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:34 PM
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That’s actually hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:35 AM
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For real!! Who wants to be on struggle street? 2 good incomes needed these days
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:29 AM
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That’s just being smart man. Men are the idiots for accepting broke partners. This isn’t gendered. If I were a lesbian I would expect her to have a good income too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 09:28 AM
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Maybe if you are on the outside looking in. Ask anyone who’s dated someone attractive previously if they still find them attractive. Usually the answer is no because they were turned off my personality. Barring breakups for reasons like needing to move away or incomparable views.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:33 AM
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In the first instance You are describing halo effect and that doesn’t last very long. Especially if it becomes a relationship. For casual sex / hookups it matters less though. In the second instance liking personality does lead to physical attraction in many cases - not all and there are also contingencies such as you couldn’t be hideous to her more neutral and she genuinely enjoys being around you and isn’t with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:16 AM
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No no no silly blue pill don’t you know men are powerless and can only take what they get and have no choice in the matter since any living breathing human female is better than being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:33 PM
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This is just so blatantly wrong and honestly there isn’t much a difference between those two statements. The more a woman likes a man’s personality the more she is going to Love every part of him. The less she likes his personality the more she will be disgusted by him - that’s why “hot” guys can become extremely ugly to women if they dislike their personality. If I disliked a guys personality his dick would become disgusting to even think about especially if he was physically unattractive to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 10:38 PM
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What you wrote went beyond sexual attraction. Women want to be sexually attracted to our partners. You want someone to only value you for a body part. You don’t see how fucked up that is? You even said the ultimate expression would be someone who hates your guts but loves your dick so much it doesn’t matter. You think the more someone likes your personality the less they like your dick. That honestly warrants therapy. Honestly at that point most women would choose a dildo. What would happen if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 10:17 PM
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This gave me the absolute ick
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 10:04 PM
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Yep same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:30 PM
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I usually think that if the guy feels like that he’s probably not going to be a good partner and that he is has likely been chasing high maintenance women (if he hasn’t been then the first point rings even more true) Beyond that though ok doesn’t impact me and he’s entitled to his opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:11 PM
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If this is about you I’m sorry, life is hard enough without any type of disability to possibly ‘other’ you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:48 AM
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Do lots of activities that are likely to attract introverted or home body women - not to sexually attract them but to have them in the vicinity to build platonic and possibly romantic relationships. Game nights, book clubs, etc. Realistically it’s going to be hard for this guy talking is crucial for building relationships and women do tend to be attracted to things like timbre in voice so if it’s really high squeaky and quiet it could put off a lot of women. They may need someone unconventional …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:42 AM
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Most men don’t notice tbh which is pretty sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:28 AM
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Acting like what - nagging or stop nagging. Also ok good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:25 AM
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A good rule of thumb of if it’s being brought up repeatedly it’s probably important to the person. It wouldn’t be nagging if it was only said once. There also would be no nagging if the thing that’s being brought up was just fixed or taken seriously the first time. Regardless if it’s minuscule or not to the other person it can be the straw that breaks the camels back when looking at the relationship as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:24 AM
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Women will say what’s wrong and then if it’s ignored is where it becomes a problem. People who communicate only in passive aggressive ways are immature and hopefully just young otherwise they aren’t mature enough for a relationship. Men underestimate though the impact of their refusal to work on the relationship issues that bother women since it’s likely small potatoes in their minds. Also boosting esteem comes first, validation after and never hurts. Men would agree as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:43 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:41 PM
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Yes the gym but not to land an upgrade. Usually if you are in that place where you start looking for patterns to confirm if the relationship needs to end you self esteem is pretty low. Gym is a great way to boost self esteem the better you look the better you feel. Cheaters sucks, most don’t. Most also don’t have a back up plan but they do start to notice options while in the detaching phase. That’s not a back up plan though. Honestly guys then whinge they didn’t see it coming but it’s all prett…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:09 PM
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Women tend to prepare for breakups. We can be considering it for months. Watching for patterns to confirm our decision or to give us hope. Usually the patterns are confirmed. Some might think why don’t we communicate our unhappiness - we do. We are told we are nagging, or over reacting. When we stop nagging or putting up a fuss the man might think we’ve finally come around to acting more like he would want but really we’ve started disassociating and decided arguing or asking isn’t worth it. So d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:52 PM
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Women tend to prepare for breakups. We can be considering it for months. Watching for patterns to confirm our decision or to give us hope. Usually the patterns are confirmed. Some might think why don’t we communicate our unhappiness - we do. We are told we are nagging, or over reacting. When we stop nagging or putting up a fuss the man might think we’ve finally come around to acting more like he would want but really we’ve started disassociating and decided arguing or asking isn’t worth it. So d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:50 PM
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But that line is going be different for everyone. Is it reasonable that a 24 year old guy whose gone to uni, has a decent entry level career with good trajectory, who works out and has good savings habits doesn’t want to date a 30 year old single mom - yes so reasonable. Is it less reasonable for a 35 year old divorced guy with a kid every other weekend who works part time or in a low paying career like mechanic to also not want to date the 30 year old single mom - sure that’s his right but some…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 10:43 PM
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Be as picky as you want but don’t complain you aren’t getting any options, and if you do complain certainly don’t bad mouth or name call the people who aren’t meeting your standards - be respectful to people, you don’t need to date them but you shouldn’t degrade them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 10:38 PM
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Bro most people have at least 1 thing that they stand out in. You would really have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to not stand out in anything. Per your example you could spray a great cologne and stand out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 08:41 AM
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That’s bullshit my friend. Men and women are both equally hireable. An associates degree is probably one of your problems Ngl. It’s not really specialising in anything it’s general. Women are outpacing men in education so it’s likely that if women are applying for the same roles as you that they could have more than just an associates such as having a bachelors and then they would automatically be the more preferable candidate. Corporate is also such a broad category- if you are applying for rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:01 AM
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Education is important - either get a degree that will lead to lucrative career or go into a trade early. Save and invest your money. Treat yourself to nice clothes, haircuts and develop fun social hobbies. Say yes to as many social opportunities as you can. Cultivate a large friend group if possible. Play a sport socially. Don’t rely on dating apps. Go to the gym. Go to parties. Ask women out, if they say no accept it graciously. Therapy is good if you need it. If you struggle with relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:44 AM
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It’s almost like make and female sexualities are different The funny thing is it makes sense for straight women to like gay porn since there are two men to look at. If all straight porn had a more balanced gaze then maybe straight women would enjoy it more
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 08:27 AM
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Have a look at any of the extreme categories and most people who watch it would much rather it remain a porn fantasy vs a real thing. Lesbian porn being attractive to women is because female pleasure is the star which means women can generally imagine it is happening to them easier whereas with straight porn it’s the mans pleasure and is filmed for a male audience. Women also consume higher rates of gay porn too than straight porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:53 AM
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Don’t pretend men aren’t wanking it to shut they wouldn’t actually want to Do/ see/ fuck Porn is different
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:47 AM
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I think if women are being very judgmental about people looks, clothes nails etc that could be toxic femininity but I imagine would be more targeted towards other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:35 AM
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It’s great she asked him what he would do after child birth and toileting - it’s a real thing that women may need help initially. After both my c sections I needed my husband to help me walk to the toilet for the first time, help lower me on the toilet help me stay upright and help me up when I was done. He also had to help me shower and wash my legs for me. You lose a lot of dignity after a c section and having someone who would make you feel bad about any of that after you just birthed their c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:33 AM
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Have you ever had a relationship? I seriously doubt it with this take - or if you have you were dumped and it has made you form this really fucked yo view of relationships. Incompatibility is real, happiness is worth chasing and there are people you will genuinely enjoy a relationship with without needing to suffer for the sake of not breaking up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:04 PM
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It’s really not. Your looks you are generally born with as men love to point out immutable characteristics and all. Your ability to generate income is partly luck (geography, family connections etc) but also partly your intellect, your choices, and your work ethic, the latter 3 far more tied to your personality than your looks
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:44 AM
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They are wrong. It’s ok to approach women at bars and clubs. Especially if you literally just walked over and said hello and when she said not interested walked away. Anyone saying that getting kicked out is acceptable for that doesn’t know social etiquette. The only way I would agree is if you are misrepresenting what happened and did something very crass like touch on approach or say something so outrageously perverse. Which I doubt. Did your wing woman ever try to warm approach you though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:56 PM
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That’s fucked if you are telling it exactly as it was. Sorry that happened that is NOT normal nor ok. Also fail To wing woman she’s supposed to talk to the girl first and then warm introduce you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:19 PM
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Women really were not happy en masse then. They were all on opioids to get through their day. We’ve (women) spoken to our grandmas and some Of us our great grandmas and we know what they thought of their life and marriages and the lack of opportunities they had in life. Marriage was their only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:42 PM
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How what happened
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:23 PM
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This is true for both men and women and it’s not a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:13 AM
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Good cry or bad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:19 AM
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If we duck so bad then why are men literally lamenting about it being life or death if they don’t get pussy. Just jerk off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:30 PM
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🎻 No we act like guys don’t care and therefore suck at sex which most do because most don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:16 PM
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Oh come off it. It’s not that hard that you are doing advanced positions and handstands enough with the hyperbole it’s a clit it is an obvious spot. Concentrate on it until She’s done. Women don’t act like it’s the hardest thing to please us in fact it’s so simple that it’s frustrating that so many men don’t. They either eat out a woman for 2 minutes max and expect her to have finished. Or they think a quick run and she will be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:10 PM
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Correct. And most men knowing this still don’t take the time or effort to make a woman orgasm through stimulating clit. The ones that do are good dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 10:58 PM
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It’s not bad faith. I don’t think we should have a draft. I think we would have enough volunteers and more importantly enough paid military. If we don’t then tough shit. Make militarily pay and/or benefits better. I’m Assuming this is the USA you are talking about. Any country actually advanced enough to “overthrow” us would be like China and they wouldn’t strip Women of their rights anyway. Your whole fantasy is just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 10:10 PM
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The benefit is that you get to keep your society safe. If you don’t care about that then why does it matter if we abolish the draft. If our paid (and anyone who wants to volunteer in the) military can’t defend our country then maybe whoever conquers us can just have the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 08:57 PM
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In most cases the actual shape and size of the dick is irrelevant. It means he makes you orgasm. A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:48 AM
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The point is op doesn’t have healthy relationships and thinks going to someone for advice is choosing that person over another regardless of context as some people have more relevance for asking advice than others but even if that’s the case it would probably hurt ops ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:49 AM
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It depends on what I need advice on. My dad and husband are in completely different fields, have differing expertise, and would be appropriate sources of advice for different contexts. Anything to do with our kids, home, my personal health, my personal relationships etc - go to husband because duh he’s in it with me. Same for anything related to his field, or experience. Anything relating to things financial - my dad, my husband hates investing/wealth planning so I do it all and my dad is also g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:57 AM
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This is not the space for this. If you can’t figure out to search a YouTube video and practice on your own you are obviously too young to be having sex and probably too young to be on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 11:28 PM
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No. Why should she beg him for a relationship and why would he want her to? Both sound like crappy prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:02 AM
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Ok and these repeated failures… again if it’s making a low effort tinder profile, sending a few “heys” to the few matches you might scrape up and maybe even once telling a crush you liked her then you haven’t really tried. If it’s also just trying to dress better and go to places like a club without actually working on talking to people or hoping for a woman to hit on them then again you haven’t reallly tried. Unfortunately some People will feel like they have tried and failed but their “tried” …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:18 AM
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If you are discouraged from even trying then how do you actually know it’s that hard? Sounds like you’ve (or are asserting that many men have) given up before even trying. You don’t get to do nothing (or even 1 thing such as take a few crappy photos, make a low effort tinder profile and then call it a day and start complaining when you don’t get matches) and claim something is too hard. If it was too hard we wouldn’t have people still matching up and forming relationships but we do. So maybe it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:08 AM
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Why should it be easy? Here’s why it shouldn’t: dating is an investment of time, money, and comes at expense of using that time and money for other things or people such as friends or saving towards things you want. If it was so easy to just date every person there would be too much time and money lost during the vetting process as you would likely be going in constant first or second dates. Much better for it to take awhile up front and go on dates with people you genuinely think you would go o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:01 AM
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I agree but not sure how your comment fits in as a response to mine
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:48 AM
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This. Lunching with the other moms, day drinking and Pilates and then picking up the kids from school to then take them to their equestrian practice? Sure sign me and I’m sure most other moms up. Reheating frozen meatballs and chicken nuggets you got on sale from a coupon to be served with frozen veggies (because fresh ones ton expensive) and then spend your day cleaning up in circles after your 3 under 3 in your two bedroom apartment? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:08 AM
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Is your wife still worried? Are you worried about the content exposed to kids at school or online? What kinds of steps are you taking to protect him? From one parent to another lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 12:59 AM
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If that’s your observation then yes you should not date those women. I disagree women do it more in general. It’s about equal imo with some communities it obviously will be higher than others
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:13 AM
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Thank you 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:57 PM
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I’ve had my baby - very sore from c section it was more calm having a planned than emergency but feels more painful now than the first they said that’s normal the extra scar tissue. Thankful he’s here though he’s a beautiful boy and thankful we both safe. Sad I’m in a shared recovery room though (fireworks problem) the lady next to me won’t go to sleep and she’s keeping me up and I don’t wanna be that person asking her to turn off her light she’s a first time mom and just doing her best with wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:51 PM
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I dint think either is way worse tbh just different. I think both have a responsibility to protect their relationship and self regulate and prevent cheating or breakup if they can’t control themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:42 PM
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Gay (male) couples actually have the highest rates of cheating. Some Of that would be agreements to do so but a lot of it is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:52 PM
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The fact that if a man has tried, or has let porn take over in an unhealthy way or for some have paid for it (or tried), or even if he slowly builds up a relationship through work or something - is enough to leave over. Even if nothing comes from his attempts it’s even trying that ends relationships. Not all men would but a lot do
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:31 PM
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That’s a pretty sad way of looking at it imo. It’s better to attract one who’s going to be down for you and not have eyes for anyone else than to just keep hopping around like bunnies. Right now it’s generally women who have to be worried about men and their spontaneous desire as it causes so many issues in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:42 PM
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If men are scared of women cheating now imagine if we did have spontaneous desire
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:21 PM
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I don’t think they actually realise the practical difference between a healthy relationship and just sex/ someone to talk with for ‘companionship’. It also is usually obvious when someone wouldn’t be a healthy relationship partner and they tend to become unattractive because of it when you spend more than 5-10 mins talking to them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:59 PM
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The sad thing is if you feel like you need a relationship for purpose and validation you are already starting on the back foot because that’s not the kind of person in a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:48 PM
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How was that your take away?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:47 PM
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Still no labor for me - booked in for a repeat c section tomorrow as drs (and I agree) don’t want to go too far past my due date as risk of still birth increases and I don’t want an induction of labor since that can increase risk of uterine rupture in someone whose had a previous c section (and are more likely to fail past 40 weeks anyway especially since I’ve never had a vaginal birth) This is my last baby, sad I’ll never experience vaginal birth and that I’ll have the recovery of a c section a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:28 AM
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This is impossible to know, too many variables. Women haven’t been socialised as men, our hormones are different, history and gender roles etc. might as well rewrite worlds history for this fantasy to get an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:16 AM
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But not necessarily. I prefer white men (in general) as I prefer the features they tend to have - I do not find ALL white men attractive however and I have found men of various races (example- filipino, se asian and black) sexy and attractive though they typically had features that were similar to Caucasian features despite their skin tones being obviously different (so like more angled jaw, sharper nose, strong defined eyebrows, height). You can prefer various features for the features themselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:14 PM
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I disagree a lot with your comment. Even your observations aren’t contradictions. - - You can hate capitalism but not want to be poor or struggle within the system so choose to have a good job and date a man with a good job. Not a contradiction. - You can be for migration because on a human level why should something you have zero control over such as country of birth dictate if you have access to fresh water or be safe from war - basic humanitarian position to think migration positive due to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:45 PM
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If no one can suggest a suitable reason that has to do with their sexuality then yes they are saying that it is biphobic. A different commenter phrased it as it’s just the way the brain works and I kind of like that but it’s the same thing in that people can’t explain every reason well or fully, especially when it comes to attraction, we all have hormones, gut reactions, and fantasies and expressing them verbally isn’t always going to translate perfectly often people can’t explain every just say…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:35 PM
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Like my very first comment. Which started the entire thread. The last sentence. I
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:11 PM
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I’ve addressed this elsewhere. Straight men say themselves they take what they can get. Men also in general have a reputation for having sex with anything that moves and even inanimate things like pies, socks, and the famous reddit old coconut and butter story. Women don’t tend take what they can get, they tend to vet harder for comparability and for a lot of straight people Sexuality is going To be something they want to be aligned on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:07 PM
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I agree with your second paragraph in that it’s exactly what I’ve been trying to say. Most people will just preference dating someone of their own sexuality because it’s how the brain works and is wired. Never have I said it’s ok to say or insinuate it’s because bi men are less masculine, or can’t understand straight culture. I’ve also made it pretty clear that using insults would be considered homophobia/biphobia both of which I would agree is wrong. Respectfully not being interested though bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:57 PM
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And maybe not dismissing peoples opinions as an inability to be introspective and curious would help some people discover they don’t need to be pointlessly bitchy. You can like and dislike things for reasons that don’t feel good or align with other people Opinions and that’s ok as long as you are respectful to people especially when rejecting someone romantically/sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:49 PM
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Right so you have no response. I think we are done.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:41 PM
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People don’t choose their sexuality and can’t just change it on a whim even if a person outside of their sexuality is an absolute (platonic) soul mate. Bi people unfortunately have a hard time because despite being attracted to both genders, straight people generally are going to be attracted to someone of their own sexual orientation and probably not going to want a partner who would also enjoy gay sexuality (this is not gendered I mean gay as in just not straight). Just like a gay person isn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:40 PM
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Sounds like you want me to talk in absolutes but I don’t because there’s always exceptions. Sexuality impacts lifestyle all the time and you are being disingenuous all over this thread to multiple people who clearly don’t agree with you. Best example was the person you admitted sexuality isn’t a choice too and then when they followed up with then it’s not a choice is a straight person is viscerally attracted to a bi person or Not you pretended to not understand. Typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:29 PM
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Claiming someone is homophobic or biphobia for not dating them just muddies the water of what actually counts as biphobia and homophobia and just hurts those communities as people tend to tune out hyperbole which can then translate to tuning out actual problematic behaviours. See what happened with “woke” culture. Genuine issues were being raised and given attention and then before long very minor things were being called out and given so much attention that people just lumped it all as “woke” a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:10 PM
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Then you don’t really know what disrespect looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:00 PM
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Maybe it doesn’t matter to you. That’s great if it doesn’t, not everyone is going to hold that same belief. Sexuality also impacts lifestyle for most people by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:58 AM
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Really because I don’t think needing to tell people things like “I’m not physically attracted to you” makes society better. It doesn’t reduce the amount of hurt the person being rejected is going to feel. It just makes them feel worse. It’s also not up to the person doing the rejection to soothe the other persons ego or insecurities, as long as they reject respectfully and with kindness or grace than that’s fine is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:57 AM
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And people over history also were also rightly pulled up when they acted disrespectful to say the least. If you treat people with respect and equal opportunity in life then that’s fine. Dating has never been an area required to be into all people it’s already a purposefully “discriminatory” field other wise all female gender and male gender would be equally into all of the opposite gended. We know that’s a ridiculous expectation and we don’t need people To justify why they don’t like someone pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:54 AM
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Dating based on sexuality is what most people do. Gay people date other gay people because those people align with their sexuality. Straight people do the same. I get bi people, pansexual or demisexual or maybe even asexual /aromantic people people might not care about the other persons sexuality but they are a minority. For some (and I would think most but can’t really know for certain) straight people they will only be romantically interested in other straight people. I clarify romantically in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:51 AM
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And why do you need to justify it? If you aren’t being rude or disrespectful to a person then again “ I am not interested” is a complete sentence that needs no other follow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:46 AM
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See me below comment on why comparing how straight men view bi women isn’t the same as how straight women view bi men (and all men in general)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:28 AM
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I’ve gone down this road with a user a few months ago and there was zero reason they could suggest that wouldn’t (in their eyes) be considered biphobia if the woman just wants to date a straight man being a straight woman herself. Maybe we should stop pushing people to give detailed reasons on why they don’t want to date someone especially if it’s coming from a place of trying to reason or change their view based on someone’s subjective opinion or logical thought process. I’m not interested is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:26 AM
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Some straight men might sure. Some straight woman might as well - my comment said MOST straight people will want to date other straight people. I also don’t think comparing male to Female dating standards is also applicable in your comparison because many men themselves will Say they will take what they can get, or the amount of men that will have sex with anything that moves or even things like pies, lotion bottles, socks, or old coconuts filled with butter (epic reddit story btw if you haven’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:16 AM
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Male homophobia is only looked down on when they treating them with disrespect but no one is asking a straight guy to date a man and accusing that person of homophobia when he says no he’s into women. Women who are into straight men aren’t homophobia for not wanting to date bi men, they would be homophobia if they are treating the man with disrespect for being bi or with men not for not dating them. Spin it however you like but most straight people are romantically interested in other straight p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:56 AM
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It’s usually a you love it or hate it kind of thing and less dependent on male partner (assuming female receiver and assuming male partner isn’t a complete idiot who just try’s to stick it in with zero warm up and too little lube) Dies her being at least willing give you validation? Good on you for maybe not wanting it though shows you are more into sex for mutual pleasure than your own gratification - this tends to be a trend amongst better sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:34 AM
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Australia Sydney in a region that’s mostly Aussie’s think beachy / fit upper middle class to upper class which is my preference and type
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:36 AM
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High chance of attractive person
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:27 AM
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Lucky me the people in my vicinity are generally pretty attractive. However if it was an unattractive body then no ch ace but that would be ok we could still cuddle and be close intellectually. If my husband’s body became unattractive due to an accident which led to weight gain plus aging it would be different since it would still be him the shared history of knowing him in his body would outshine a random unattractive body even if inside he was the same. If he didn’t have the same face it would…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:22 AM
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I’d say those men are part of the middle class too though tbh (at least here because tradies make bank here in Australia) If trades aren’t making great money in the states though then that would be different. It also would depend on the context like if it was a genuine passion choice vs desperation. Honestly I was kind of thinking of the low status and low paying jobs like retail, hospitality, cleaning, general labour, farm work when I wrote my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:10 PM
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Not only this but to add most people these days who engage in family planning (so not poor / low ses) the parents and women especially tend to be very involved in raising their children with good education, kindness and providing extra activities and opportunities for their kids all of which are great but add to the mental fatigue and complexity of raising healthy children
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:52 AM
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This is low key a good a point. Privilege allows you education which allows you in many cases jobs you tolerate to love if you are lucky and which likely pay well enough without also breaking your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:32 AM
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But it’s not his home in either scenario - it’s both their homes in both scenarios. Who cheated on who doesn’t change that or negate all the work either partner put into and sacrificed for the relationship - this is what op was about the motherhood and raising home aspect the woman did is negated by you judging either situation as worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:47 AM
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I haven’t justified cheating it’s pretty strange you have inferred that might be a reading comprehension issue. You can call a cheater a cheater without calling them a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:41 AM
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You know I addressed your questions in good faith; calling hypothetical people names like that is pretty rude. There could be other reasons beyond cheating such as rape or temporary dissolve of relationship where she had other relations before getting back together with ex, or perhaps she did cheat. Either way calling people a whore isn’t really helpful especially in a conversation to women where men are getting support from women for their ‘side’
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:18 AM
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Then that parental alienation and dad can actually fight that in court. Depending on the age of the kid it’s also not as easy to do as some people assume. Kids know who shows up for them regardless of what’s being whispered in their ear especially if it’s 50/50. Also pretty bad look for mom, most kids would have questions and judge mom for this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:12 AM
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No he shouldn’t have full parental rights (as I assume you mean full custody) but it should be 50/50 if he wants it since they were legally married, he’s presumably on the birth certificate as the legal father so he should have the legal rights. The bio father at that point is irrelevant even if the mother moves in with him ( though I think this hypothetical must be extremely rare, but I’ll play along) since he would just be a bf at this point and the mother already recognised ex as legal father…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:07 AM
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Yes that would be fair. There probably would be a few people who slip through the cracks such as if he knew for sure (conversation was had) about the child’s parentage not being him and he accepted it at one point and then later changed mind however that would mean that couples in that situation could proactively be a law to accept responsibility with some kind of documentation (probably more relevant for married couples) but this would be a minority of cases so I think for the majority of men i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:51 AM
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I’ve never seen that before but I agree it’s cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:38 AM
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Yes it does because they were deceived. Their worldview was a lie. I believe all things will be known in death too, not necessarily heaven but definitely some connecting factor of the universe. That poor person would get to the afterlife and be so disappointed. But again I don’t think lies stay hidden. They will Find out or if they don’t the kids will, people aren’t good long term liars (excluding sociopaths and psychopaths) heavy is the soul who carries deceit and they either make a stupid mist…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:04 AM
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The average woman would suck too man it wasn’t gendered if you look at the first part of my comment. And again I think average men are actually doing better than what you think. But I agree people ARE transactional which if not the main value you Look for is not a bad thing. Example - valuing only what a person can provide you means you will likely have a loveless relationship. Valuing only “love” could see you broke or being walked all over. Valuing both what a person provides AND love means yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:00 AM
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I think it devalues their experience vs their entire existence. Also statistically, lies come out and are revealed eventually more often than not
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:28 AM
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The cheating partner is forcing their partner to be exposed to financial, sexual and emotional harm regardless if they are immediately aware or not. I wouldn’t call that bliss friend. The only one having bliss is the cheater not having to deal with the drama and pain they are causing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:24 PM
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Nearly every woman experiences inappropriate behaviour by the time she is 14 years old - this was especially true for my generation (millennials). What you say is a minority of men may be true however majority of women still experienced it and that was the point of me too. That people (men) weren’t very aware of how much of a problem that minority of men were causing for the majority of women. As a personal example, I was groped on the street as a 18/19 year old by a teenager who would have been…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 10:21 PM
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Me too happened because men got handsy without consent, didn’t take no for an answer and were also highly inappropriate and disrespectful at times NOT because they would hit on or approach women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 10:08 PM
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It’s this - though for me if he is conventionally attractive I can appreciate that but still wouldn’t be enough for me to be “into him”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:32 PM
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The terminology is the only thing that changed. It used to be called normal things (though push and pull has always been that) You obviously never grew up reading 90s and 2000’s magazines.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:28 PM
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It’s absolutely generic advice wrapped up in ro terminology. If you put it in every day terms all this is old advice and common
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:40 PM
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Then average sucks dude and is anyone surprised average isn’t wanted? Im perhaps a bit more Optimistic though in that I actually think average men could afford that for emergencies especially in more blue states which tend to Be higher educated and more highly populated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 05:03 AM
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People have the most opportunities relative to their ancestors these days. People who struggle and fail often have made a string of choices that have led to unproductive and unfortunate situations. Yes not everyone as poverty is generally a cycle that’s hard to break and luck is involved there but for example education is the number one tool to improve circumstances and women en mass have gravitated towards that whereas men haven’t. A large portion of that does come does get impacted by individu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:36 AM
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It would have been equivalent to about $230 usd you can use your imagination on what you need to buy to hit that on a night out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:46 AM
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You realise red pill advice is still just generic try x advice that I am talking about Try gym try hold frame etc it’s all generic and not gonna work for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:21 AM
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I would be upper middle now at most now but back then I was definitely poor university student. I think I had about $600 a week with a part time job and and our government student stipend. Rent was just under half that. I saved nothing lived week to week and had terrible financial habits but I sure did have fun Also I’m in Australia we have the same issues here Nd I live in one of the highest cost of living cities in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:19 AM
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I think most people do recognise this. But for now the generic advice of try x is still better than nothing when most people can’t actually greatly influence anything you’ve touched on beyond building themselves a good social network but that means struggling people need to do that too which falls into general advice of try x
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:39 PM
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Second (and last) baby! This one’s a boy and apparently they can take a bit longer haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:02 PM
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Thank you so much! Yes ready to go doing all the things to bring on labour haha. Getting a stretch and sweep today hopefully that helps! My birthday is this week too and I really don’t want to share a bday with baby / be in hospital for my bday but it’s looking possible atp
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:58 PM
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I’m past my due date now, I just want to have this baby. It’s the most pregnant I’ve ever been at 40 weeks 4 days :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:48 PM
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Damn that sucks. Have you got Asian or Indigenous heritage? When I was young and used to smoke weed my hair would get extra curly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:42 PM
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Get drunk too then it will at least be funny
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:28 PM
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I’m a millennial too yes things are expensive - see my ramen for the following week comment haha often times a while weeks budget was accidentally spent on a night out. This was when I was still lucky to be living in cheap share houses though
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 11:30 PM
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Hide a flask if your bra and buy cokes to enhance
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:49 PM
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Some wholesome ❤️❤️ I met good friends at raves but less so the club haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:42 PM
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Strange I’ve had it and it’s more of a downer. Not exactly a social lubricant type.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:32 PM
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Pop a squat down the alley with your new best friend who you have plans with for next week before you exchange numbers and wait for the cab only to never text or call each other 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:31 PM
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That is not a good party substance
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:28 PM
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Re the maturity comment - some guys don’t grow out of only valuing women for their physical beauty and these types of relationships tend to be highly transactional and fail with time. Guys with maturity are looking for a lasting partnership which requires more than looks and those types of relationships tend to last and also tend to have each partner valuing each others physical appearance even if it’s not the typical conventional beauty they might have once valued/ looked for. This goes both wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:26 PM
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This is why your generation doesn’t have sex you guys don’t know how to party and have fun. The cost? Please if you haven’t spent $300 on a night out was it even an epic night?? We used to save up for that shit it eat ramen the next week to compensate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:49 PM
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Nothing is a given since everyone different. You would hope those are universal things but they are not as sine people don’t recognise them in the same way it have different executions as to what constitutes as “nice” for example. It’s also harder for women I think to articulate all the traits that could make someone physically attractive since personality can really influence this (it can for guys too if they are mature) like buck teeth might not be conventional but if you really like Someone’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:44 PM
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I don’t think op is saying men are lying about it I read it as she is saying men y not actually aware at all the factors that even go into their own attraction towards women because they stop considering after the typical beauty and basic respect aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:37 PM
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That analogy is exactly why women shouldn’t have to explicitly say we want our bfs and husbands to be attractive it’s a given
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:30 PM
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It’s relatively to where you live. Presumably she would be moving back to the states and would see she is now in poverty compared to other people with her husbands 60k salary and she likely not working for much
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:17 PM
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That’s maybe true for you. I’ve never had any man be seriously turned off by n count it’s only an online thing I’ve encountered. But to be fair any man I’ve slept with and/or dated all had similar lifestyles and experiences as me so they weren’t jaded or retroactively jealous. But back to the main point focusing on past for a relationship which is literally meant to last into the future is stupid. People change and grow. This doesn’t just apply to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:10 AM
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The choice was a dead bedroom or sexually satisfying relationship for future
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:58 AM
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Absolutely. Financial issues cause the most divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:50 AM
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I don’t think it’s true most men care more about the past than the future. You would be hard pressed to find a man who would choose for example a wife who didn’t have much sexual experience but would end up in a dead bedroom vs someone with normal - high experience who would give you a fulfilling sex married life. Expectations for both within the relationship should be the same - treated well, loyal etc. Focusing on the past more than the future makes no sense when building a life with a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:29 PM
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It doesn’t change anything. If you are happy with how you are treated why does it matter how an ex was treated? Again things change, financial situations change, goals change, experiences shape opinions and tastes/dislikes. If you are happy then that’s what matters, being told about how some ex was treated shouldn’t change that otherwise you weren’t actually happy. No relationship is ever going to be exactly the same they aren’t meant to be you need to hold your own standard for what you expect …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:14 PM
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If he chose just to not work and to spend his time doing hobbies - no we have kids shits expensive. If he got injured or disabled in an accident then yes - though we have insurances so that should this happen we will have financial support and not be a financial burden to our family anyway. If he just needed a mental health break - yes but he will need to return to work after maybe 6 months otherwise we would drain our savings and I don’t want to be in that position. Edit to add: in none of thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:16 PM
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The nuance that gets lost among people that haven’t been exposed to education is this: Racism and prejudice form the same kind of dislike/attitudes from one person/ group of people to another - so white people exerting “racism” over black people would be the same actions /thought or words as if they were exerting prejudice against black people however - the main difference in the words is that to be considered racism there has to also be systemic oppression. So things like exclusion from social …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 08:07 PM
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It’s not a silly explanation. Who would use an “insult” that would actually make the receiver feel good? Women know men like sleeping with lots of women, like large penises and being seen as very masculine. “Insulting” these things wouldn’t be an actual insult. It would be like if a guy tried to put down a pretty girl by saying something like “your just a pretty face” or “looks like you only got beauty and no brains” like these wouldn’t be good insults because the person receiving it would just …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:46 PM
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Not everyone gets married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 06:48 AM
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While I can’t make a judgment character on someone I don’t know especially with the extremely limited information here, hopefully by the time she is done she will be of a stronger character in one way or another. As for yourself, yes definitely filtering for stability and ethics is a great idea, having similar goals and ideas on what makes a healthy relationship is so important and I really hope you find the right someone to build your future with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:29 PM
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I wish it were always like that too, I would tell everyone to get hard and have high standards for certain things (like education and income on both sides since imo the more educated you both are the more likely you will stay together and be able to work things out due to better compatibility vetting early and perhaps a more shared goal/lifestyle type thing)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:20 PM
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As a millennial woman my husband out earns me by a good margin, though we are both educated, have masters degrees and we both put effort in the home and into child rearing. I actually think I’m So lucky with how involved with everything he is (except financial planning as that’s more of my domain for us). A large reason for our income disparity though is field of choice he’s corporate im education. I plan on going corporate education one day though so maybe we will equal our down the line
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:10 PM
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And women have to pay for that difference with an abortion which while generally safe can still have serious and permanent negative outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:16 PM
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Yes I offered to pay every time - if I was sure there would be no second date I would insist on it. If I wanted a second date and he let me pay for myself I would be disappointed but depending on how well the date went might over look it - this honestly never happened though. If the date went well and I offered and he denied and paid for me it helped spark the flames. My husband insisted for the first 3 dates to pay for the meal. I would take us for desert after though or get rounds of drinks de…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:07 PM
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That’s a loss for all the women if 6 women competing for 4 /6 men. 2 women and 2 men going to be left out who Probably want partners. If those last 2 men could become viable options then there could be less competition for everyone and everyone could potentially end up with a partner. Highly simplified example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:35 PM
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Because now if there are men she doesn’t want she has to complete with more women for the men she does want. Whereas if the other guys were guys she could potentially want there would be less competition for the other guys
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:13 PM
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I’m down under too so maybe my answer will Be relevant for you especially as I’ve had 2 serious relationships here (including now husband) and quite a few hookups First long term ex would do it but I would have to ask. He was never great at it, would complain of sore jaw, and it never really got me off so it was meh. Out of my hookups yeah about 50% would do it but it would be for like maybe a min or so max. My husband is great at it, I generally don’t have to ask, but it’s not expected just lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:14 AM
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If short guys want to talk about their struggles in a respectful way I’m all here for it and can express empathy for it. Unfortunately it often seems to be pretty disrespectful when guys complain about it. Short guys are already outliers man, most men are taller than most women, whenever you talk about short guys it’s going to probably be an outlier conversation. I agree it would take longer for some short guys to find their partner depending on age, location and type of woman he likes but I kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:05 AM
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Luckily not every woman dates tall white guys exclusively. Certainly women don’t Only Marry tall White men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:58 PM
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Examples of how a government could step in without removing choice? Not everyone will improve though, people are lazy so choosing to be one of the ones who does already puts you ahead. Honestly if all men improved and the baseline was much higher than maybe women would have to be the ones to improve and we could just keep becoming better and more productive attractive versions of ourselves because there are fucktons of average to below average women right now and if men stopped accepting them an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:38 PM
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And all the married short guys you love to dismiss aren’t real men right. The shirt guys with gfs don’t exists either right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:34 PM
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Government can’t step in on relationships like it could to make things more equal for its citizens - it’s don’t the same for individuals with disabilities in regards to work however though in attempting to remove some barriers to workforce - though many still exist including discrimination just like women are still discriminated against especially during pregnancy despite it being illegal. Relationships can’t have government intervention in the same way unless we are down with removing individua…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:29 PM
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Literally haven’t said that. I gave two examples on how someone can be more unviable and I think men are in particular struggling but it doesn’t mean women can’t have those struggles too and be unviable in the same ways. I think men as a whole are struggling though currently more than women due to: the world has changed with women being more independent, AI and labour offshoring, and with late stage capitalism doing everything it can to siphon opportunities away from middle class. The reason I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:20 PM
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All my comments are in reference to first world individuals, I won’t claim that first world individuals are stronger than third world I know the challenges we face here are far different and probably insulting to those. However most the discourse on this sub is in reference to first world including all my previous comments which are aimed at first world men/women. So if you are also first world you can take your opinion and shove where the sun don’t shine, and if you aren’t, you should try readi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:16 PM
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Relationship domain is just social skills. There are lots of ways to improve this. It’s on the individual to improve though - just like at work it doesn’t matter how many laws programs etc there are you still need to advocate for yourself, research and put effort in to access things. I did sales for like 8 years, a lot of people have really bad people skills and they don’t even realise it. I’m now in education and it’s even more apparent than it was to me in sales. People don’t know how to commu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:14 PM
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If you are only doing things to win or not be last you already lost. That mindset is the problem, it’s ok to lose and not have results in something it builds character and the only one you should be comparing yourself to is the version of you yesterday. This is the mindset that separates mentally resilient individuals to weak people imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:08 PM
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These are lots of reasons men become downtrodden and unviable that have nothing to do with finding a gf or love for years. Many men are struggling to find acceptance with how the world works (assuming in go to school, you need to do ok in school, get some kind of qualification trade/professional whatever, and then grind for a while to even have a shot at a decent (by most western standards) middle class lifestyle these days, so men are rebelling against that not realising that in doing so they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:06 PM
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That mindset is extremely problematic though. People should be striving to improve because that’s just what you have to do in life to get ahead. Not because it’s your fault or because you’re not good enough. Both have the same short term result (effort), one is sustainable and able to find contentment from and on the journey as well as the destination, and one leads to negative outcomes and obsessions like the one you’ve mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:58 PM
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If it’s worse for men it’s also worse for women (assuming we talking heterosexual pairing here) as downtrodden, ‘unviable’, or even just disinterested men also impacts women’s ability to find a suitable partner. I think while most women acknowledge we don’t need men I think most still want a man and partner to experience life with he just has to be what each woman perceives /values as a benefit to her life in that she (and him) can build and flourish within and for that relationship rather than …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:53 PM
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I doubt we could just look at raw numbers like that though and make sweeping assumptions that it ends up generally 1:1 (which means that yes 1/10 would remain unpaired). Maybe in the past but not these days where there are lots of factors that impact pair rates yes including women dating older, lgbtq, migration, career oriented individuals, ND, and people uninterested in long term relationships. Regardless though at the end of the day there absolutely is some Luck involved with gender dynamics a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:47 PM
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No it’s the truth though. And so is your third sentence. But shit don’t change if you aren’t willing to accept some responsibility and put in the effort - works that way for most things in life. Key point though in that is change doesn’t necessarily = dream come true fantasy, like I can put all the effort into my work, get promoted quickly etc and climb the ladder and still not end up as a top dog CEO making millions, but I can greatly improve my income.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:42 PM
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A lot of the men we are married too put a lot of effort into themselves though including their jobs, personality and looks and that means that there is some locust of control into your outcomes (just like we all can influence our outcomes to a degree)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:33 PM
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Except that if a man lies to sleep with a woman he’s now added to her body count which according to you would be even worse for a woman to not be transparent about. It’s not apples to oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:51 AM
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I disagree with this - if you have to be taught how to specifically talk nice to a partner you aren’t a very good partner you are performing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:51 PM
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I think you would be hard pressed to find people who genuinely agree with her. I refuse to believe these people are truly holding these opinions and the lack of self reflection to put these types of clips out for any reason other than engagement and trying to make a buck because they don’t have any real value skills to make money in normal ways. Social media and engagement clicks and paying people for that absolutely has driven all this bs. What a shit timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:42 PM
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It does though just being in a waiting space kind of sucks. Partner has suggested I go to the pool and do some walking laps there as it won’t hurt my pelvis like regular walking, I’ll probably end up doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 11:26 PM
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I’ve seen it be justified by men too (she doesn’t have sex with me type answers) My personal opinion however is that is never justified.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:48 PM
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Neither of your first two examples are “female led” men do just as much of the same issues. However I will say regardless of gender cheating is unjustified in all cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:34 PM
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38 weeks pregnant feels like being in pergatory lol. Just waiting for labour, everything’s cleaned prepped, I’m just bored atm and I guess I could go be active but damn I’m uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:32 PM
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You aren’t listening that’s why. There is nothing except being attractive that is going to actually get you the date. Women who use online dating will swipe right if you are attractive and that’s basically it. I used online dating basically every single guy I swiped yes on was a match so you learn very quickly to only swipe yes on the guys you find very attractive, from there you have a stack of highly attractive guys and THEN you start chatting or making plans to meet up and THEN you figure out…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:25 PM
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This seems really odd. Women like people who are fun and social as I said in my first comment and you don’t advertise that. You be attractive to get swiped on for online dating and then the hanging out is the advertisement. Women do like men as a baseline but you still need to be attractive and fun. We aren’t going to like every man. There isn’t some random cheat code you can do in a picture or some magic phrase to start getting matches. Look good and be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:49 PM
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Sticking to your analogy if the properly cooked food you have is all vegetarian food and the potential diner likes eating meat then they aren’t going to go to your restaurant even if all your vegetarian meals are cooked properly. You have to first appeal to what someone wants before any of the qualities or traits will be considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:20 PM
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That’s not how attraction works though. You still need to be attracted to a person even if on paper you know someone has all the relationship qualities you would value if you aren’t attracted to them you won’t want a relationship with then. So you still need to appeal to their attraction first.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:52 PM
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Be attractive and social (funny, charismatic) which will get you in the door and if you truly have none of the problems then once your in you will be in for as long as you want barring major incompatibilities. If you aren’t attractive, be social and fun and try to become more attractive but your personality will have to do the attracting so that again you can get in the door
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:01 AM
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For some sure. For some it’s just how they have adapted and is now normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:34 PM
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No one ignored it because everyone acknowledges that if you are hot dating is going to be easy. Hot guys with shit personalities might not be relationship material but yes they will get hookups because personalities don’t count for hookups beyond surface level interactions and even then with enough alcahol it’s debatable. Unattractive guys are going to have a hard time with hookups but for relationships they aren’t doomed if they are realistic. Shocker though many aren’t realistic, and double sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:46 AM
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People aren’t simple like factoids. People don’t fit into nice objective boxes unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:28 AM
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Respect and dignity do not need to come with dating. They are actually separate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:42 AM
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Of course. Dating success does not determine someone being a human deserving of basic decency respect and dignity
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:17 AM
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I mean most men don’t have all those problems, it’s usually 2 - 3 but yeah the more someone has the worse it will be
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:58 AM
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I won’t disagree with you there. I know a few autistic men in relationships (including my husband) but all are like level 1 and good at masking and successful professionals but that’s not really the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:58 AM
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In the contrary I think most people Online recognise that you shouldn’t be getting advice that is the end all be all online since we don’t actually know you it’s all generalisations. There are probably things you (in general not you specifically) are or aren’t doing and we can talk about those things but unless we actually know someone it’s all generalisations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:36 AM
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You can follow all the above advice but if there’s something like neurodivergence it’s still an issue and that box can never truly be untucked. Same thing with economic prospects men here are always telling us how unrealistic it is that everyone can have a good job so that’s another box likely unticked. The truth people who struggle don’t like to hear is there probably is more that they can do. And some people do start off so disadvantaged that making real strides can absolutely take years and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:23 AM
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It’s absolutely subjective one persons truth is not another persons truth. You must not have grown up learning the story of two kids fighting about what colour the inside of a sphere was (one said white the other said black) and when the teacher makes them switch sides and perspective they saw the other person was right from their view. What you feel is the truth is just your perspective and opinion it will not be so for everyone. Dating isn’t a math formula there isn’t one answer only. Even wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:20 AM
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Truth is subjective. What’s not subjective is hate speech and misogyny and black Pill Ideas tend to lead to that regardless if that’s where it starts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:12 AM
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No one is ignoring it. It’s just not as big of a deal as most blackpill want to make it (unless you are talking about extreme outliers) there are far more impactful things harming men’s dating prospects - lack of education/motivation -lack of economic Prospect - lack of socialisation - neurodivergence compounding socialisation issues - lack of friends and community - lack of self esteem - terminally online - self wallowing which compounds above issues - lack of positive male role models - lack o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:10 AM
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It’s not just topics on looks. It’s the overall negativity it promotes and breeds which has led to other subs being banned for hate speech. Ppd has escaped a lot of the incel hate certain other subs got shut down over due to the stricter rules. I don’t think that’s a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:04 AM
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I’m pretty sure it is banned because of how many subs were banned due to black pill defeatist and harmful takes that fester when you tend to allow black pill ideologies such as focusing on looks. So it was protective of the sub in general. No one is denying looks matter, but some People tend to think it’s the only thing that matters or that it matters to an extent that they should just not try.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:33 AM
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Unfortunately 3 different psychiatrists have said it’s not schizophrenia and while it’s not good to hope for that at least it Would be an answer. I’m glad you are still on medication and putting in effort I hope you continue with that and hope the bad thoughts stay at bay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 02:56 AM
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I’m sorry. It’s such a shit go. It hits especially hard that I myself used to party and have fun as did pretty much everyone I know, and while I knew a few people who didn’t make it out they weren’t ever a family member. My brother stopped the hard things thankfully but the luck of the draw is that even thc,nicotine, alcohol, and whatever shit they put in vapes it can impact some peoples brain chemistry - especially when it’s been previously altered by harder things in the past, and that’s where…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:05 PM
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I wish he would Commit to treatment to get a proper diagnosis. He’s smart though which has worked against him because he’s said all the “right” things to avoid detection during mental health holds. He definitely has triggered latent mental health disorders but since he’s an adult and we can’t force him to get help if he doesn’t want it. Even when he’s been held he just masks until he’s out. But he’s admitted to hearing voices of like his family who shame him and things and he’s had some really m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:17 AM
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When the compromising and disappointments outweigh the good times over a prolonged period of time. Every relationship has ups and downs yes but if there’s too many downs (especially early) than move on. If it’s a long term relationships 5 years plus and you banked up years of good then the relationship can weather months and maybe even years of strife depending on the situation (such as job loss and low financial security) however if that continues and doesn’t change and starts to outweigh the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:29 PM
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I disagree I think women can be content being single even if they aren’t happy about it. Being content is finding comfort where you are and finding enjoyment despite not having everything you want. Women are happier in good relationships l and single but more unhappy in relationships they don’t view as good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:07 PM
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But how could anyone know if love is on the cards for someone? Are there certain people it’s going to be wayyyyy harder for and maybe even nearly impossible? Sure but there’s also outliers who would be in the same boat but who did it (such as squirmy and grubs YouTube couple) so what if that guy was told that? You can be honest without being defeatist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:05 PM
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Are you getting help for the depression and adhd? My partners autism is able to be masked really well because he’s so barley on the spectrum like he’s very intelligent and able to act confident and stuff but it does cause depression feeling just out of place in general. He’s had to be on antidepressants and really only got the adhd diagnosis as an adult but the adhd medication has helped a lot. When my husband was young alcahol really helped him be a socialite and while I know suggesting partyin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:37 PM
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Well if you were my brother and that was your situation I would say get a better job, being a cook isn’t going To pay the bills, if you are truly passionate about being in the kitchen then become a chef onto school get the qualification and grind but realise that most chefs aren’t going to make tons of money and are going to have shut hospitality hours and the kitchen admin sure you know is a toxic environment the stories my brother used to tell me can be really awful. So get a better job go to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:45 PM
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It’s not even the drugs that would be the worse thing about him currently especially since it’s “only” weed/ vapes. it’s the mental health issues and the resulting personality impacts. No one wants to be around an angry depressed person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:17 PM
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No you aren’t my brother if those are the initials. I’m sorry for your situation, I hope you can get/accept help and that you can find happiness again. These are all the things I hope for my brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:16 PM
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If he could get a diagnosis and commit to treatment it would help a lot with my opinion of him. You can’t force an adult into treatment though and it’s a lot less painful to just mourn him and hope for the best (while expecting this to just be him from now on) than to continuously be dissapointed and have hope ruined like my parent keeps allowing themselves to be. Every time he reaches out for help he changes his mind after 1-2 days and goes back to his recluse state. Even with mental health iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:06 AM
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Glad you are continuing to try and not blame things going on around you, recognising your role in your own situation is the most powerful thing you can do to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:29 AM
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My brother had attention from women and hookups in high-school and early 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:26 AM
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I think he was at one point. I don’t think he is anymore but tbh we don’t really talk even when we do see each other and I couldn’t say I actually know who he is these days so I guess I don’t really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:07 AM
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Wrong he chose to use drugs because it was fun and he didn’t want to believe that it was causing him visible harm from the moment he started. He had lots of opportunities with women even from about 16, had gfs and hookups. He chose to not listen to people seeing changes in him decided he knew best and slowly fucked himself over by making all his issues worse and more noticeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:28 AM
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We thought he could be, he’s been assessed though he’s not schizophrenic though he does have a mood disorder and depression and has had drug induced psychosis a couple times (marijuana). I know not everyone can be successful. My brother could have been though. He wasn’t lacking in intelligence, looks, family opportunities or anything except good decision making skills, the ability to learn from his mistakes, and the ability to ask and accept help without it being an affront to his ego and mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:51 PM
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Yeah. He’s 6’1. He is 27 now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:47 PM
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No it’s really not. You need to have good social skills too and be pleasant enough to be around. He used to be those things and used to have hookups. Not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:53 PM
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There are flaws and then there are FLAWS. People like my brother have FLAWS and if men would really accept that in a partner then they deserve all the shit that would come with being in a relationship with them just for access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:16 PM
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I agree, anyone who acts like my brother would be a terrible partner and a bad family member.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:50 PM
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He also would have been fine if he was accountable and took advice from people. He was a very stubborn he worked himself into the hole Is in now and crawling out would be very impressive but would require a lot of help which he isn’t willing to get or Take. If he were a woman he would have been open to getting help and advice earlier so yeah he likely would have been fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:45 PM
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My brother is doing fucking shit. And it’s such a damn shame. He had fucking everything, great looking guy, height, he can be funny, he had a genuine heart of gold but his real flaws back then were being just slightly off socially like would say things that were just a little bit off in a very minor way but it would rub people the wrong way over time and he was being too arrogant in an obvious fake it till you make it kind of way and it could also rub people the wrong way. Those issues compounde…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:51 PM
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I’ve been attracted to lots of different races but my husband is white. My first bf was Filipino mixed, second was Irish, and then my husband who is white Mediterranean as well actually but I just think of him as white like I think of myself as white.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:15 AM
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I hadn’t worked there long I probably would have if I had gotten to Know him better, covid happened in my second month there, we all transition to wfh and then I was let go a few months later and I met my husband anyway while in lockdown /wfh since he lived close to me and the work guy lived like an hour away
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:10 AM
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Most people are mixed these days like I could pass for lots of ethnicities but also could just be brunette and white
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:07 AM
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Mixed, white and Mediterranean why
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:04 AM
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I didn’t end up dating this guy I’ll reference but we did work together, he was like a nerdy Chinese guy (but fit) but had like an almost sickly look to his skin and eyes and I saw his tinder when he showed me his pics after telling me about the puppy pics he was using and I wouldn’t have swiped yes on him but I had a crush on him at work because of how funny, chill and interesting to talk to he was. He had endearing quirks lol one he always ate a cucumber in the morning. We had good banter, if …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:32 AM
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It makes a big difference. Another one I forgot was I had to get along and like his family and feel like they liked me too. I have had an ex where the family didn’t like me and after that I know it’s not something I’ll ever accept again since I am really family oriented and love hanging out with mine and my partners family
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:23 AM
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I stuck to reasonably high standards - high education, politically similar, generous, good income, loyal and relationship oriented, fun and charismatic, good social life, happy to introduce me to friends and family, hard conversations (kids life goals) reasonably early 2-3 months in, weekend trips frequently to see how we were travelling together
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:47 AM
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The answer is no. To all the women you’ve asked. Nonsllrovef esy of complaining, we don’t like complainers. Mention it fine, be upset about it ok, don’t complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 05:29 PM
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If they are married there should be trust built up. It’s why women get mad when a paternity test request comes from a husband. you trust your husband/wife and if not the relationship is obviously over.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:14 AM
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If a husband trusted a wife he wouldn’t accuse her. If he doesn’t trust his wife she shouldn’t be his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:05 AM
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Exactly right. Only a request for paternity test of a wife is an accusation of trust. Being weary of a stranger is not accusing a partner anything it’s a literal stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:44 AM
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Yeah if you meant Asian slim I wouldn’t have ever fit in that haha even at my peak fitness and slimness despite me being pretty thin at a size 3 in my early twenties so it really is contextual. Are you an Asian dude in Asia or in the west? I imagine if you are in the west and if you aren’t into other Asian women it could be harder finding what exactly what you want if your income game isn’t where the women who would meet your preferences would like them to be (except maybe in Hawaii where Asian …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:40 AM
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1 I think you underestimate it especially in a respectful interaction. For example I think it’s perfectly normal these days to say you have a standard of income/fit/attraction - what wouldn’t be acceptable is saying stuff like no brokies/poor people or fatties. I think in the west (especially USA) where slim isn’t exactly average these days a woman can expect to get basically what she wants within reason (goes back to those individual factors within the broad categories - so financially secure d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:18 AM
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People are people and generally enjoy similar categories of things even if the specifics of those categories differ. For example - financial security hence good income/potential which I Will vary depending on location and class, height which will also depend on location and yes some biological attraction (just like most men liking breasts), college educated for college educated women (which I am - and yes as more women get educated we will overwhelmingly prefer this on a population scale), and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:51 AM
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I am no longer a slim 20 5’5 something girl (I’m now a 30’s heavily pregnant and when not pregnant curvy/fit 5’5 woman) However when I was this is what I wanted (and ended up getting) As tall as me or taller but yes preference to taller though it wasn’t a rule, good income/income Potential (more strict as I was mid-late twenty something) , preferred college educated but trade was fine too, handsome to me, enjoyed being active so we could hike, social and loved drinking and having fun, politicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:35 AM
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Men would have the same thing and option to find a woman who likes you but you don’t like back. It’s not a real option. If you go to a poor community and find a rock bottom homeless woman and offered her a relationship or courted her I’m sure you could find someone. Denying it is pointless but it’s the same example you are using. That’s not how relationships work ships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:22 AM
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Even thinking like that is just sad. There are lots of women who can’t find partners just like men. Your also not the ugliest person whose ever existed I don’t even need to see a photo to know this is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:57 AM
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Those are not even remotely related. A paternity test request from a husband involves doubting someone you’ve already built trust up. Doubting stranger men to get into relationships with due to fear of potential violence there is no bank of trust and history.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:46 AM
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Being really unattractive and not wanting to compromise on your own standards works both ways (so ugly women can have that same reason) and yeah would ge really hard of that’s why you are single. Most people aren’t really ugly despite claiming to be lots of body dysmorphia out there but if you really are very ugly then that sucks and I know it would be quite the challenge and disadvantage since really it’s uncommon to be very ugly. The only thing I could say is keep trying to meet people platoni…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:37 PM
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You reallly aren’t making sense today, perfect victim again what are you on about. We’ve spoken before and I would not count you as a decent guy based on how bitter you claim you’ve become, maybe once you were and then maybe it would have just been one of the three options of any a decent guy didn’t have a partner (none of which makes someone a perfect victim though) but now I would be convinced in addition to your original problem there is the bitterness and negativity compounding the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 09:06 AM
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If that was your point you did not express it even remotely clearly. I also call bs because when I see men lamenting about lack of options on threads not dedicated to manosphere, pill or incel discussions people are a lot more empathetic and curious. On the contrary, posts on pill, incel or manosphere sites do get less empathy largely because of the overall message those places tend to put out which does often contradict the “decent guy” claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:38 AM
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What are you even on about? Lots of women are shallow just like men. That does not negate anything I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:29 AM
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I think decent men generally end up With someone though is what most people believe. And while there are decent men who likely don’t find a partner there likely is a reason - either he’s not as decent as he thinks, he’s very unattractive and doesn’t want to compromise on his own standards (fair enough) or if he’s average looking he’s also not wanting to Compromise on his standards. So when people are questioning why this decent man is single they are trying to figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:38 AM
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I did stop that’s exactly what I said. That’s what those breaks are and I did rather have no matches until I could deal with it all again. And in those breaks I filled my cup with friends and work. I didn’t say men have it better just that it’s not easy for women despite what men here claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:49 AM
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It only that but “used within the last year” do you know how many breaks women take from OLD from the fatigue it gives. We might be on there for a month or so and not delete a profile but delete the app for 3 months and then do it again. (At least that’s what I did frequently over the period of 2 years I used apps)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:00 PM
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It wasn’t easy. There were 7 bad first dates, countless heys, lots of unrealised plans and ghostings, countless energy sucks and disappointments and breaks in between. I get that if you have no matches it might seem better but it was exhausting. Everyone I swiped right on was basically a match so I would then need to filter down more otherwise was too much time. So I used job/career as a next filter if it was something I was interested in and we could connect over then great.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 05:52 PM
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I met my husband on a dating app (hinge) about 6 years ago. Yes I was filtering for personality but was also filtering for looks and income. Took 2 years of frustration and probably 8 dates to meet my partner. Of all those guys they were of various attraction but yes were attractive enough as I swiped on them initially, not all met the career field/income filter i had set internally (be college graduated or in college and at least be working towards a field that has good earning potential) and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:48 PM
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Mmm I think it’s part hyperbole - as humans we all kind of need each other, but I think the sentiment is more that we don’t need a man to be happy or have a full life since we can provide for ourselves, have a social life with friends and have hobbies and stuff. What I don’t think it means is that we don’t want a man to compliment and share our lives with, it’s just that (for the smart ones) we can now take our time to be discerning and pickier about who we share our lives with. So it’s a statem…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:18 AM
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I also think it’s important to point out you don’t need to be emotionally intelligent to be emotionally abusive. That’s another nuanced point we have missed which would render the entire premise moot. I think it could be more sinister when done by emotionally intelligent people but certainly not a requirement. Emotional abuse isn’t punished consistently or regularly regardless of it being illegal. No they shouldn’t because again emotional intelligence isn’t a precursor for emotional abuse. Look …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:06 PM
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I don’t think we have any concrete proof women are more emotionally intellect than men, I think we can talk about averages but it’s all a pretty subjective field. I personally believe on average women would be more emotionally intelligent however that’s not a rule as there are lots of emotionally unintelligent women and lots of emotionally intelligent men. I think since it’s less provable than a man’s physical strength against a woman I wouldn’t feel comfortable assigning people boxes like that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:46 PM
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That 70 % was out of 12% though since 24% of relationship experience violence, 12% being reciprocal, meaning 12% non reciprocal so the 70% sounds larger but it’s already a minority and as you e covered people sweep female violence under rug as it’s not really feared since on average females aren’t really strong enough to hurt a man without some kind of weapon. Those next stats you cite about severe abuse don’t imply from a woman. Men abuse men commonly. Jumping down to humanising people based on…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:31 PM
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I agree that mental trauma will Last longer than physical pain however I think the mental trauma is going to be greater in cases where there was also physical pain. I think yes the definitions can be the same because if a woman is mentally abusing a man she should be called an abuser regardless if she is physically abusing her partner or not. I think punishments rather than be viewed as discriminatory should be looked at as an outcome based process as I think they do as you said severity is exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:04 PM
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I think it’s important to acknowledge female violence but I disagree that in terms of outcomes it’s just as bad if no one is afraid of female violence because the outcome is so low it’s swept under the rug whereas male violence the outcomes are devastating due to male strength. So I don’t think you could apply the definition or even a punishment equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:41 PM
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First two words. A lot. Not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:00 PM
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A lot of housewife’s don’t have personalities especially SAHM. Their whole personality becomes being a mom or a house wife. Ironically many men don’t filter for personality like women do so don’t seem to care. Women do care and don’t really want a stay at home partner (on average as there are unicorns out there but as you said in a different comment, this conversation isn’t about them). Your chance to shine is there. You likely need to go to school or gain employment to get it though. A broke ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:23 AM
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How would it be pleasant? By not being a dickhead/ being ‘nice’? That’s not a personality. Personality comes from experiences, goals, passions mixed in with your base line ability on how you connect with people. If you are a meet you are more than likely lacking experiences, goals and passions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:08 AM
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I don’t buy this either there enough women even here who say we wouldn’t accept a man earning a low income- I’m one. I also wouldn’t like regular or heavy video game use but occasional is fine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:15 AM
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True so maybe it’s just the make dr who was really not as caring and gentle as he could be. That was way worse than the pap anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:00 PM
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I’m in australia. Personally I’ve been “hurt” twice by medical professionals one was a woman dr and the other was a male dr. The male dr hurt me more than the female dr (female performed a very thorough pap sneak and I felt the scraping of my cervix to be uncomfortable, the male dr “treated” spontaneous expulsion of an IUD after 6 weeks I felt it coming out which is akin to early labor pain, the male dr didn’t believe me, rolled his eyes told me to lay down and he would take a look, proceeded to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:46 PM
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Honestly more guys should go to the bathroom sitting down as it would make less of a mess but yeah I know that’s not helpful when it’s different to the mainstream experience. I’m sure you have heard it before but since your 21 I imagine it would be hard to image it’s true but there are lots of women out there who will not care to the extent you might fear if you are enthusiastic and willing to be an active sex partner in other ways to penetration. Absolutely not discrediting how much more diffic…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:34 AM
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I worked at a health clinic that dealt with mainly men experiencing ED, PE and low testosterone - while not exactly the same thing I would have in depth conversations with the guys on how it’s impacted them and their relationships (or lack of) so I have a reasonably good idea. I hope you know your penis doesn’t define your worth as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:23 AM
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I’m sorry that would be really hard to deal with I’m sure
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:57 AM
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Yeah it’s easier said than done but if you aren’t confident it is painfully obvious and usually hard to be around if it translates into insecurity which is tends to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:55 AM
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Absolutely. I love seeing the male glow up subreddits where the guys do exactly that, or even r/bald where they go from losing hair and balding to hottie. But the glow ups are good shows guys losing weight, changing hair etc and becoming hot. Height matters a lot more on dating apps as an initial filter to pass vs in person. If you only are trying to meet people Online it will be harder. If you have a social life it won’t be as hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:19 PM
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Because not everyone is mentally capable of saying no 100x especially to someone who is capable of physically overpowering you anyway, like if they are shitty enough to be asking enough and not accepting a no that you would consider it verbal coercion then that person is likely capable of intentionally “punishing” the person saying no in some way and due many women if they are feeling afraid their fight or flight or freeze may make them freeze and just accept it while dying inside
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:12 PM
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If you can get relationships you are in a better place than many of the guys here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:44 PM
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I wonder why
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:45 PM
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usually when in a hookup phase it’s because you are young and the guys are generally young too neither too fussed about a relationship. When looking for a relationship again you are generally prioritising other traits so while you need to be attracted it’s also not as important as when hooking up
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:41 PM
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Because there is no shortage of people Wanting to Adopt babies. Also women can not just adopt out babies without getting fathers consent. Adoption agencies actually put effort into finding the father. And if the woman lies about it she can be held accountable and the adoption can be reversed if the father wants rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 07:24 PM
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I think it actually has to be past a certain point - just like a woman trying to attain an abortion after a certain point would be illegal in most places
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 07:19 PM
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The op wasn’t about male children being raped it is about if consent to sex is consent to parenthood and most women including myself fave our opinion on this and you are trying to say I am off topic? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 11:42 AM
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Great are you fighting for it or just asking other people if they are? I would think It’s a weird question if you aren’t directly fighting beyond voting like most people. Most people aren’t protestors or advocates or writing their representative etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 11:40 AM
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I asked multiple questions. Laws regarding charging rape. It’s extremely hard to prove barring minors and adults. It could be something even as simple as mandating rape kits be tested immediately rather than sitting untested for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 11:34 AM
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Are you helping to fight the law for women to have their rape cases more easily proved? Or is it only in the case of male children and presumably teachers being rapists that you care about? I’m not one to do any fighting beyond voting at elections. What have you done? One thing I will do though is if discussing a case where a male rape victim (proven so yes a child would count since you are right a child Can never consent in those cases) is the father of a pregnancy and if For some reason child …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 11:22 AM
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Financially women need to be able to afford that process, and yes there should be income barriers for that but making it illegal would be hard since income can change.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 11:00 AM
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Exactly. Just recently an article about a republican woman being denied health care because she was pregnant with an unviable fetus was complaining she nearly died for lack of access to care “this isn’t what I voted for” yes it is lady. But of course “the only abortion that’s needed is my abortion” right everyone else can fuck themselves and deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:35 AM
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How does paying slightly more make up for the health risks?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:25 AM
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In proven cases yes. Just like in proven cases in pro life states there are some exceptions for abortion. The hard thing is proving it as we all know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:24 AM
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That’s currently the established difference between pro life and pro choice people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:23 AM
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The child has rights too beyond the mother’s autonomy. You say you don’t want to take away a woman’s right to self autonomy but what you actually mean is you are happy to take away the child’s right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 05:22 AM
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Likely a response to the more extreme states in the opposite direction. Really everyone should be mire balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 04:04 AM
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I would be ok with bans there on that limit (as a dual us citizen) provided exceptions for mothers life, permanent serious disability in child or if the child is suffering rare medical condition (all exceptions available here too)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:14 AM
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I’ll never agree they should be able too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:46 AM
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I didn’t make the op nor do I think most men are incapable of being worse at something (except maybe most ppd men). I was just commenting on your comment as it wasn’t consistent with the thread
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:30 AM
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The question was do things better than the man vs just doing things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:26 AM
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Men do abandon their children everyday already.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:25 AM
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No. They are good because it prevents easily preventable deaths, especially when those newborns can easily be adopted out to parents who will love and care for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:25 AM
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Most do. As do most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:19 AM
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Who do you think is using safe haven laws? It’s people in crisis. Drug addicts, dv victims, college students, impoverished people. These laws exsist to stop them from murdering the infant. Normal people aren’t dropping off children in boxes and the amount of children places in these boxes is minuscule: in the USA from 2000-2025 426 babies left. So really even trying to use this as a gotcha is already such an outlier and nonsense. Do you think only 426 babies in 25 years would be abandoned by men…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:19 AM
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Prior to safe haven laws babies were being thrown in dumpsters and gutters with their placentas still attached. Pregnant Women are already most at risk of being murdered by their partners - and laws exsist to try and reduce this so yes there are laws to prevent men from murdering their children. Men also already can access safe haven boxes if they have primary care of the newborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:12 AM
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That point where someone can confidently write a post like ooo there is no comment that would change their mind. Let’s be real.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:28 PM
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I agree. In Australia here is 12 weeks. I was surprised to learn that a few states don’t have such limits on abortion however thankfully the reality is that most people are not sick in the head and if an abortion is going to be undertaken the sooner the better, and late abortions are really only performed in extreme circumstances such as threat to life of mother or the child will die regardless and it’s more humane that way. While the potential to be abused remains again stats show that late abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:08 PM
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It’s biology, until Men bear the burden of giving birth women will Always have more access to the newborn. Women can not use safe haven laws at anytime - typically there is an age limit of 60-90 days and beyond that it’s child abandonment which is punishable. Let’s also be real here that most babies surrendered to safe haven do not have wanting and loving fathers being hidden from them. It’s typically women in crisis, dv situations, drug addicts, college students or extremely impoverished people…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:03 PM
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This is actually a well written comment that I agree with, there are gendered differences in how the issue is viewed and what values are held. Generally women seem to value children more than individual choice and of course bodily autonomy ;which we also support for men as if anyone tried to force men to donate or use their organs such as kidneys for someone else without their consent women would be against that as well. Men value their individual choice which means they would be happy with bear…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:53 PM
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Using “so x can c” or “so you think x” shows awful debate skills and logical fallacy as you can’t make a point without inferring completely different points to what the previous comment was talking about. Good job bilbo keep it up if it make you feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:42 PM
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Absolutely all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:32 PM
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Kids not babies. The foster system also aims for reunification as a first priority too just so you know so it’s not like an orphanage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:42 PM
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Men have the same opportunity as women do if they have a new born infant they can also drop it at a safe haven box. It’s not an opt out of parenthood though it’s literally designed to stop infants being thrown away in dumpsters like used to happen a lot. Regardless of what you think women would or wouldn’t do if men could walk away what you are suggesting puts all the responsibility on women. Responsibility of choosing adequate sex partner (risk it with those guys as you say), responsibility and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:41 PM
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Usually babies are adopted out quite quickly since they are the only children really in demand. Once adopted all financial burden goes to the new parents. And yes until said infant is adopted she should have to contribute to its costs similar to child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:33 PM
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No way would I oppose it the law exists to prevent infant murder. I do think once a child is surrendered a huge amount of effort should be used to find mother (to find and identify father) so he can have a choice at that point too and if he wants the child then the woman is forced to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 09:16 PM
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They do - you can’t just abandon your child however you want, if you put it in a trashcan for example you will be charged. It’s right to be left in very specific circumstances supersedes your right to walk away with no repricussions. Again society made these laws to protect the most vulnerable. It’s also only allowed for babies you can’t take a 5 year old to a safe haven drop box, and even giving it up for adoption only really works as a baby, we don’t really have orphanages for older kids these…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:57 PM
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The reality is once a child is born its rights supersede sins of its parents rights - this is necessary as a society to protect our most vulnerable and as a society we decided that despite the social welfare we have in various countries the cost would be too great for a large amount of children to be financially raised by society which would undoubtedly happen if all parents had the choice to give up financial responsibility. Men would be the parents who give up their burden for a born child mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:16 PM
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According to men here all average women have been pumped and dumped by chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:38 PM
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There is no improving against the ghost of Chad who lives so vivaciously in many men’s figments of imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:45 AM
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Comparison is the thief of joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:42 AM
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It really doesn’t. You can be enthusiastic in everything you want to engage in and still say no to other things you are no longer willing such as anal because you didn’t like it and have no desire to find out if you would like it again. Again you sounding pretty rapey here. Men do not offer everything, I don’t see men lining up to let their girl friends peg their ass get real. Someone needs to learn about enthusiastic consent and coercion. Someone can reluctantly agree due to being coerced one w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:57 AM
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I don’t think trying it once means you need to be trying it again at all. If a man let one woman out a finger in his ass and he learned he didn’t like it him saying no to any other partner who suggests it is a complete and reasonable sentence. Men are ridiculous thinking things need to be offered exactly the same for every partner. It’s abusive thinking. Reluctantly is not enthusiastic. I would never want to do something sexually with someone who has reluctantly agreed to something with me. How …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:35 AM
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A lot of women will try things like anal reluctantly regardless if it’s “Chad”. Especially when you get some feelnmore pressure to perform a certain way to be liked. Once she knows something is painful or not enjoyable or gross to her she feels more confident in saying no. It usually has nothing to do with enthusiasm or which partner is asking just that she now knows what she likes and does not like. Also just because you CAN like something with some partners doesn’t mean you should be pressured…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 11:26 PM
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If you feel your intimacy within a relationship isn’t satisfactory you can leave. Wondering if she would be more into something if you were hotter is just insecurity. Even if it was true you are an individual and comparing yourself to others is harmful, the only standard should be if you are satisfied - if yes great if no leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 08:23 PM
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A commenter discussed how libido is not at the same level throughout the whole relationship and that’s also true. In the beginning honeymoon phase both people usually want more sex than normal. In long term relationships things slow down just naturally; but if it is too slow to a dead bedroom and nothing wrong if you can’t live with it you can leave. Lots of men are the lower libido partner too in relationships this isn’t a gendered problem. You need to decide if the relationship is worth it at …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 05:15 AM
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Because it’s very common for men to be horny and not really looks at what’s happening in or around the relationships that could have changed sex frequency. In so Many of those stories you see comments from guys having the discussions and they will say something like “yeah we just had a baby 2 months ago” or something else that would show he’s an idiot. There is no advice beyond look at what happening, is she sick tired etc if so fuck off and help her get better, help around the place or go mastu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:38 AM
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She should absolutely be enthusiastic when she has sex with her partner. The only issue I could see arising here in discussions is if a woman’s enthusiasm isn’t enough for her partner if it’s not what he wants or if she says she tried something in the past and she didn’t like to (hello anal) and now he’s salty she won’t do it with him despite her explicitly saying she doesn’t like something. In general if you aren’t having good sex with a partner there is something wrong barring illness, pregnan…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:38 AM
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A. B people are gross the ratio on side fries is disgustingly high and all the ones under those top ones get no sauce
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:49 PM
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Depends for me. Why does he earn less is he working part time while he studies? Has he left a good job to pursue a business idea? Is he a in an entry level position abut has good growth projection? Sure all of these are a fine. Is he just satisfied in a low paying field and no desire to move into higher paid work? No probably not if I was 26 again and looking for a partner to build a family with. Has he made good investments and is not pulling back on work to enjoy his time more or move into a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:51 AM
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Agree how you are treated should be the standard that you judge someone as a partner. You can’t fake respect, love and attraction and admiration within a relationship long term. Look at Melanias face every time she is near trump lol. She’s not better but the ick is clearly readable despite their billionaire status’s. Just like when men try to do the gotcha to women here about how would you feel if he took an ex to expensive dates but not you and women respond that doesn’t matter because if I wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:04 AM
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Regardless if you hold The insecurity or not, these men clearly do and it’s just ridiculous. They would be incapable of having a healthy relationship if they ever got one because even if they really were the hottest guy a woman has been with those internal insecurities are only muted for that temporary moment, something else is going to come up that drags him right back to that place. Maybe it’s a guy friend she has, a job promotion, maybe she looks too happy when talking about how great a frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:48 PM
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Amazing you can confidently say what I believe. Your mansplaining is going to keep you lonely. Believe what you want doesn’t make a difference for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:33 PM
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And what’s the point there? That men are insecure that he’s not the hottest she’s been with? If she’s attracted to you physically then she’s attracted. You don’t need to be the hottest to be her best of favourite. I’ve been more heartbroken over guys who would not be considered as hot as some of the other guys I’ve had sex with as hookups who I literally couldn’t stand and never spared a second thought (beyond context of these ppd conversations). The difference was the whole Package the comparab…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:32 PM
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lol. My husband is literally the hottest guy I’ve ever been with physically, and intellectually.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:58 PM
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Where is “here”? That is unrealistic advice. More realistic if she said get a closer friend to put out feelers to more distant friend or invite a more distant friend for a hangout to see how you guys get on one on one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:38 PM
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Yuck. Good job on finding the outlier but most women are not like that I could not stomach living or having sex with someone I couldn’t stand physically. I don’t know anyone who could. * At least for non arranged marriages in west *
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:06 PM
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Wring. I’ve had hookups with hot meat heads who literally had nothing in their head beyond gym and protein powder. Bad sex, worse conversation, goodbye boy please never hit me up again. I’ve had hookups with guys who are hot with good sex but they just aren’t compatible with values hobbies experiences etc so would never want to spend an actually day with them if we weren’t having sex. Women get in relationships with men we want to hang around with in and out of the bedroom. Waiting because you l…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:49 PM
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Everyone will face rejection, you can not be given a “yes” by everyone you ever pursue (unless you are freakishly successful, beautiful, blessed and a great personality). It’s not a challenge to your masculinity to be rejected. It means that one particular person does not like you romantically. Move on. Yes if you are rejected repeatedly it’s going to hurt, at that point you need to recognise something needs recalibrating either the vibes you put out, your personality, your presentation or maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:37 AM
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Because for a lot of women if we actually like your personality we won’t want to have sex immediately because we want to get to know you better, establish a genuine connection so that when we do have sex it’s more meaningful vs casual sex where it’s not going to be meaningful and no emotions/feelings are going to be involved beyond your hot let’s bang. If a guy isn’t able to have casual sex in his past he feels bitter that women can so won’t like that he isn’t being “chosen” for casual sex based…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 12:04 AM
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If you only want sex you only looking for physical attraction why would a personality matter if you are only having sex and not seeing them again. If you are having a relationship you want to enjoy having the person around even when you aren’t having sex. So it’s actually a higher standard it’s just that the level of hotness doesn’t need to be exactly the same as long as you are still actually attracted to the guy. Best of both worlds though is very hot guy with great personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 11:45 PM
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Idk if I fully agree with this. I think men feel a lot more validated when their sexual partner is very into it (think starfish sex vs enthusiastic blowjobs without having had to ask, women suggesting different fun positions and taking an active lead because she is genuinely having fun) the latter would be a lot more validating for a man than the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 10:21 PM
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I would amend this to A. Good sex is validating for everyone B. Sex is just more validating for men. It’s not validating for a woman when we have bad sex, even if the guy was really enthusiastic if it’s was extremely short or if he doesn’t know what to do or doesn’t like touching you and giving you an orgasm it actually feels invalidating and dehumanising because it can feel more like you were used, you are unimportant or on the extreme side of things you were a means to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:38 PM
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Seems your whole post was a thinly veiled way of trying to prevent that user from poster. My comment remains her threads are general responses to the make posts and comments which far outnumber women’s post in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:45 AM
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I think it is naive because places like this thrive on rage for engagement. If I were single and young it would likely enrage me seeing the takes men here have on women. I have protective factors of having had lots of relationships so knowing men aren’t like what is represented here, age (31) and marriage (again knowing men aren’t all like what’s here and seeing the absolute best in a partner). It would make me bitter thinking men aren’t like this. I know it’s the same for some young single too …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:55 AM
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I don’t see that much bitching and morning from women to be honest mostly women defending other women or answering questions but see lots of bitching from men: why does she care if I have a good income, why does height matter, can’t train face,dick height etc. , women imitating divorce, paternity fraud etc. I feel most the women are commenting in opposition of these takes and even the posts by women tend to be rebuttals to these. It is exhausting a lot of the time but for every man whose posted …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:50 AM
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Why don’t you ask her. I don’t know. Even if she hasn’t not having sex in a frame of a few months doesn’t mean you aren’t sexually active or that you are so far removed from the ‘game’ that your opinion is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:38 AM
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I’m sure everyone on some level wants that (beyond asexual people). Being ok with waiting for someone who is worthy/ ticks the boxes to open yourself up to that your own opinion doesn’t mean you don’t want sex, intimacy or relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:37 AM
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I think she’s talked about previous relationships though which makes her sexually active for the categories op has proposed. Blackpill stuff is also supposed to be banned and gets removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:08 AM
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Then even more reason to keep woe is me content off here as they don’t need more reasons or content to become discouraged by.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:07 AM
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And how do you know they fall into the “not trying to be” category? I’m assuming 1 would be Lillith since she is the most active female poster currently and pretty sure she’s talked about previous relationships she’s had which would put her in the sexually active category.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:06 AM
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I think not having woe is me attitude is good people are sensitive enough at younger ages which a lot of men here are. Other than that I agree people should be able to contribute. I just think that the amount of people who would actually be excluded according to op is so small it’s not worth noting or discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:53 AM
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If someone is an incel they are trying to be sexual active otherwise they would be a volcel or mgtow. Same for the girls. Again the amount who Would be truly not trying would be so low. Typically those people who have given up and are not trying would have Blackpill and woe is me attitudes which isn’t allowed here anyways and the other people who might fall in this category could be asexuals but I don’t see many comments from asexuals anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:46 AM
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The amount of people here who would fall under not trying to be sexually sctive would be minuscule. This subreddit is mostly men - the married ones are sexually active, the single ones are trying to be. Most the women skew older and married (30+) we would be sexually active, and the remaining are either in relationships (sexually active) or trying to be. The amount of single and not trying to be sexually active people I would be surprised if there are more than 5
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:32 AM
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Below poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:06 AM
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Of course it is. Women know men like beautiful women. That’s no secret and people also know that when a guy isn’t with a hottie that even if she was the kindest most compatible partner he would still wish she was a hottie.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:43 PM
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Doesn’t that work both ways in this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 10:13 PM
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lol I was talking about first dates immediatelys. I also wouldn’t go on a 4th date with someone if there was no kissing (even pg-13 kissing would be acceptable if it felt like there was more behind it, but would also nix a fourth date if it only included awkward pecking) by the third date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 06:03 AM
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That’s true. I imagine certain religious areas/countries would be more likely to be more conservative with sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:26 AM
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I think a large portion here haven’t gone on any first dates do their fears are based on rage bait and worse case scenario stories they seek out. Like bad people looking to take advantage of you exists in both men and women, but these guys think it’s every woman, when reality if most people aren’t looking to fuck other people over of use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:00 AM
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I mean that would count as physical intimacy for you guys lol I would probably be a bit hesitant for hand feeding so early lol would rather kiss but yeah there would be something!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 04:02 AM
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That does mean you are saying someone can’t change if they want to be with you. Personally it doesn’t bother me because I don’t know or want you. You are severely limiting your options for well adjusted people though, people mature through experience. People who Are virgins or who only sleep within context of relationships (ever) are a minority. If you were well adjusted and good at reading people you shouldn’t need those types of restrictions on yourself. You should be able to tell who genuinel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 03:41 AM
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People change, circumstances change, values change. The gift humans gave is free will and to learn from our past choices. There is no requirement to treat everyone the same especially relationships which you are meant to learn from each successive one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 03:15 AM
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No, he wouldn’t but a lot of guys wouldz, until your a woman and have been judged for having sex early you don’t get to judge women for protecting themselves. But what u meant was early sex can ruin things early even if you aren’t judged by the guy as it can cause it to fizzle earlier for various reasons, poor performance, artificial closeness from sex, loss of interest etc. Having an emotional and intellectual bind before sex increases chance of relationship. People rushing to physical bonds ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:42 AM
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Because I was so interested in him physically and intellectually that I didn’t want to ruin our chances of a relationship with early sex. I wanted to know him better and for him to know me better. I also had a yeast infection which helped me stick to my resolve. When we did have sex a couple or few weeks later it was electrifying on so many levels. There was a lot of heavy touching and contact in between though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:24 AM
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You can’t immediately tell anything. I didn’t immediately sleep with my husband despite having one night stands previously. I did want to have sex with him immediately but I refrained. There was other physical intimacy we did though including hot and heavy making out. My point is there will be some physical indication that she wants to be near you, even with refraining from certain lines you will be able to tell since it’s natural to want to touch and be close to someone you are dating and attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:02 AM
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People give chances to people without escalating any physical touch / kissing all the time. They are hoping for it to grow. Those immediate signs of attraction would include the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:54 AM
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If you are dating the expectation is some physical intimacy that progresses which would be the kissing. If she isn’t interested in kissing you after a few dates it’s not progressing. This doesn’t need to mean hot and heavy make out but there should be something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:53 AM
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You should trust your gut feeling for a healthy secure individual (I clarify that because if you are just insecure about relationships in general which as wondering why/how people could like you and always doubting yourself or feeling not enough then you likely don’t have a well calibrated gut to trust).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:01 AM
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You can desire sex within a few dates without actually having sex within that time frame. You can also not desire sex because you don’t like having sex early. Everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:58 PM
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No it’s hard to fake that shit there will be obvious signs of disgust pulling away finding reasons to change subject/activity to cut kissing/intimacy short as soon as it begins.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:42 PM
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There should be signs of attraction even without sex. Lots of smiling and laughing, getting closer physically, not shying away at casual touch or finding excuses to casually touch, enthusiastic on dates / setting dates, being into kissing etc. Sex is far from the first signs of attraction and is way better when you’ve built up tension with the other signals listed above
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 10:06 PM
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That’s wrong. Infidelity is a betrayal of your marriage bonds. You can divorce if you aren’t happy with the level of sex. Sex isn’t owed to anyone it is shared and if one person is unable to share that part of themselves with their partner for whatever reason they need support because in healthy relationships there is intimacy there needs to be a focus on why the person is unable to share at that time. Sickness being the example we were given is a big one. If you are unable to wait for your spou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:05 AM
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That doesn’t make cheating ok. She said she was sick. She might not have been capable of having sex for whatever reason. Even if she was healthy and was just off sex for a bit it’s not a reason to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:04 AM
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What a shit thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:00 AM
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Well kind of we value education but we also don’t. Same story everywhere right. The massive teacher shortages have helped get the salary up. But the reality is with the early top out (7 years or so) we still aren’t attracting many people who would be great teachers and also teachers have high burn out (most new teachers quit in first 5 years) due to student behaviour and lack of genuine consequences for the students
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:17 AM
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No that’s top of the range. So 7 years in. Starting is about 86k. Jumps about 5k each year with some jumps being more in the later years.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:14 AM
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The ones “not into it” are either shy of oral from previous bad experiences or because some guys go in too fast/hard/dry and it’s not pleasant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:31 AM
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This. People aren’t binary good or bad attractive or not. You can be all or none and any random combination of so many traits
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:28 AM
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Yes I know - one of the many reasons I would never teach in the states. My comment specified Australia though, there are quite a few of us aussies here and especially for young men unsure of what they are going to get into I wanted to clarify that at least here teaching can be a good career especially if they plan on going into leadership. Interestingly teachers have one of the highest starting salaries of all professional degrees though we top out without going into management earlier than othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 10:32 PM
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To be fair sounds like a great hang out spot. They can still time those conversations better so you aren’t privy to them. It’s not a shopping list to have certain wants and boxes to be ticked (I count things like education/job/ living situation/debt etc as boxes to be ticked - not things like eye colour or height, as those things can be preferences but should be negotiable based on personality and chemistry) Most people would only attack people for standards if they are stating them in a rude wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 10:05 PM
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It’s not weird. The only weird thing is complaining about it especially around people who are not going to agree - like fair enough she’s having girl talk but shouldn’t be around you. Those non negotiable qualities are the boxes it’s the same thing just different terminology.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:56 PM
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Because she won’t remain sexually attracted to someone she has to clean up after like a child. Chores are one thing, doing every thing for a slob is another. Having a 1% income isn’t going to make you sexually attractive. It might be attractive as a partner for the relationship overall but sexually it won’t be. It will also breed resentment especially if she hasn’t got open access to spend indiscriminately.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:25 PM
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No one likes a whiner. Tell them stop whining around you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:22 PM
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Teaching in Australia pays well so male teachers here can do well. Top of the range in nsw is 130k for classroom teachers (public school) and then if they do leadership positions like head teacher they get to 150k or principal they end up on 200+ But yes you need to consider your career carefully if you want to have a family it’s not a strange line of thinking at all it’s highly Pragmatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:09 PM
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My comment refers to people living in HCOL areas as these standards are extremely common as yes to have any reasonable purchasing power you need these high incomes that you wouldn’t need in a low cost of living area. There are still men in these HCOL areas however who do not have high incomes and I’ve spoken to a few on ppd who are from where I am (Sydney) and they don’t like acknowledging that it’s just basic planning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:49 AM
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You guys must not live in a HCOL area like I do because these guys (and gals) are a dime a dozen. They would actually be considered average earners here (97k) - though median earners skew lower (73k) since we have a lot of extremely high earners here but I’m not referring those as per the op is just 6 figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:38 AM
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Idk about that. It pretty accurately accounts for most the women I know and all of us are either married or in defacto relationships with mortgages and/or kids. 15% of men is still a lot of men and they tend to live in certain areas such as big HCOL cities, if you live there too as a woman it’s really not that hard to meet men in good careers or with good career trajectories (if you are young and meeting guys in university). It’s not even hard to find multiple of these guys so you can filter dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 04:37 AM
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Perhaps and yet it doesn’t negate what the op said. Women are increasingly choosing to remain single and wait for someone who ticks all the boxes otherwise find fulfilment elsewhere including their own work (which when in a good field also increases likelihood of meeting partner in an adjacent income bracket). Not all women will do this however those who are above average looking and/or have a good field of work are more likely to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:04 AM
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I mean we matched on hinge and his opener was something like “which would you prefer we can small talk for a couple of weeks or schedule a date.” I chose date, I set the place and day for that Friday at a taco place down the street from me. We didn’t have any other contact for the few days before the date except on the Friday to confirm we were both still In.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 12:20 AM
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If this was something I was dealing with I would be in therapy. For as long as it takes to not have those thoughts. Definitely while I was in the first few relationships until I’ve confirmed I have rewired negative and destructive thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:19 AM
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It works when people are attractive but still takes time to narrow options down to find someone you are compatible with (took 2 years to meet my husband with dating apps which included lots of breaks from the fatigue of using the apps) but yeah makes it really hard for people who aren’t very attractive (men and women) as they either have a hard time getting a match (men) or have a hard time matching with someone who genuinely is interested and compatible with (women - they might get matched with…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:46 AM
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Well there you go, so you are swiping yes on nearly every girl then so imagine every guy does this and you know that there is a gender imbalance for dating apps as bad as 70% of users are men in USA/ western places. So each of those guys swiping yes for every woman it just means of course that for every single guy a woman swipes yes on she is going to get a match since he’s already said yes to her like he has for every woman. This is why women end up with hundreds of matches so quickly. Because …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:57 AM
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You still would statistically be swiping a lot more yes than women since you would have lower overall standards for your relationship partner (making wild assumptions here but this is generally true of men even if not 100% true for you) Women looking for a relationship will swipe yes far less because if she’s looking for a relationship she probably is looking for at least 2/3 important boxes to be ticked. Baseline Attraction (don’t need to be HOT but can’t be ugly and she needs to think at least…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:39 AM
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Because guys swipe on everyone and girls don’t. Guys use apps hoping for anything - relationships, fwb, hookup etc so their bar is a lot lower and most women are looking for relationships so higher bar and the ones looking for hookup also want higher bar for attraction but not necessarily personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:33 AM
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Speak for yourself. It would be unserious to waste time with someone who isn’t ticking the boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:08 AM
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I live in a big city too. Gotta filter how you are meeting women or else filter out for value earlier. They could just be childfree for life who knows. Most women want serious relationships and marriage though if the guy is the right one and ticks all the boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:02 AM
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Every friend I have got serious about who they were dating late twenties and I’m 31 now and I don’t know anyone not married or in a serious relationship with a mortgage or kids Must be the girls you date
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:40 AM
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At 23? Yeah for sure. Most boys want to have fun too at that age though. Most people want the building of family, future and investments in finances and in someone later down the track around late 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 02:49 AM
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Right. And he’s investing 30% at 23. Love the financial acumen but that’s obviously his priority which is so fine but most 23 year olds are spending every dollar with friends and dating and in a few years when he’s a doctor watch him be all paranoid about his money and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 12:30 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:29 PM
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It depends on the situation. I finished my masters part time while working 3x a week and bring primary carer for our first born for 2 years. I contributed only around 4k a month (pretax) for those years so we were pretty reliant on partners income. Now I earn around 8k (pretax) having finished the masters and have gone back full time (though about to go on mat leave again for 6 months). Our lifestyle is considerably better with me having been able to finish the masters and I couldn’t have doge i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:05 PM
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Regardless of monogamous partners would step out or not, everyone has fantasies and most men including my husband watch porn which is fine but I certainly wouldn’t want that porn featuring men and regardless of in that fantasy if he was the top or bottom it would be as bad as actually doing it. 100% of the attractive population not literally everyone. Men are a lot less selective though with who they could find attractive I don’t need a partners attractive pool to double because they find both m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:59 AM
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Because. I’ve replied to another user explaining it if that’s not enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:23 AM
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Nope the shared part of being straight is that we both love and are attracted to our opposite and love ‘performing’ within that paradigm. I want to take my husband I don’t want him to take another man, it’s my role to be the receiver. I also don’t feel attraction towards potentially 100% of attractive people (men and women) and don’t want my husband feeling attraction towards 100% of the population. You say it’s fine to have references but you clearly don’t agree with that if you keep trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:43 AM
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Because we often look for partners who are similar to us in many ways. Sexuality is an important part of a relationship i want to have as many similarities within that component of my life with my partner. So if you are agreeing that some are scared and some just hate then my original statement stands and you didn’t need to comment acting as if some homophobic people aren’t genuinely scared and that my clarification was redundant because it clearly wasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:32 AM
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Is there a reason you didn’t even reply to my reasoning. I want someone straight like me. I don’t even care if there was a prior experiment or gay experience it’s not the act that would freak me out it’s the overall sexuality I want to match my own. Also it’s disingenuous to pretend homophobic people aren’t literally scared of gay people they are scared of them eroding what they view as a normal way of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:20 AM
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Thank you!! It’s a bit extra scary this time around since I’m trying for a vaginal birth after c section last time which comes with additional risks but then again so does major surgery so either way I’m hoping for a smooth birth too! Time will tell!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:54 AM
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I know it’s simultaneously gone so slow and so quick! Trying to enjoy it as I know it’s the last time! Convinced my husband to get a vasectomy in the 6 weeks after the birth
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:23 AM
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29 weeks pregnant today, looking forward to meeting our son and being on Maternity leave
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:08 AM
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I’m straight and would only want to be with another straight person. I’m not scared of bi people, I don’t think they are less than or deserve less rights protections or relationships than straight people. I think we all get to have our preferences. I wouldn’t care if a guy had experimented a time or two in his past but if he did and concluded he genuinely is sexually attracted to both genders it just isn’t the same as being with a name attracted to only women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:08 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that, I hope the nausea passes soon and that your treatment goes quickly and optimally. Best wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 11:36 PM
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I agree. Neither gender has been stopped from dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:47 PM
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Or maybe just HCOL area and I prioritised having a mortgage rather than renting. I’m a realist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:05 PM
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I’m in a place that also requires 2 incomes. I wouldn’t date a guy with disabilities if it impacted his ability to work and earn tbh. If my husband became disabled it would be different though especially because we have insurances that would pay out in that case and we wouldn’t be worried about bills due to losing an income.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:01 PM
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Or it means the wooing aspects are critical for this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:47 AM
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Sometimes it’s the actual aspects of yourself the wooing which makes you attractive or at least greatly hinders or enhances it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:39 AM
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The basis of all relationships involve some wooing. Wooing can be respect, humour, intelligence, good conversation etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:12 AM
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So do men. Men aren’t being stopped from dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:37 AM
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Can you say why she would be attracted to him though? It’s ok to have wishes we all have them but realistically there needs to be something she’s attracted to that sets him apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:48 AM
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Men can break away just as much as women. You choose who or if you date that’s the breakaway just like for women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:40 AM
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In the past (when men would consider times to be the golden age 1950’S) women were given tranquillisers to help them get through their day: doesn’t sounds like they were actually happy back then like men seem to think they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 08:31 PM
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“When leaving marriage creates financial and legal risks for one partner”… this is exactly why there are no fault divorces , women used to be in this position with the addition of being unable to work, or even leave abusibve situations. Divorce in any capacity is likely to be expensive for both parties, there is no getting around that especially with kids. It’s still better for both parties to take a temporary hit and be able to recover when their peace and mental health have recovered. Statisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:10 PM
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Yep. Praying our kids don’t end up with it but realistically I have some family with it and he has it but I guess the only saving grace would be that his is so well treated and he’s got experience recognising, communicating and advocating for treatment with himself that I wouldn’t feel quite as out of my depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 05:30 AM
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It’s still a red flag because red flags are about spotting potential issues in a partner. Someone who has experienced depression in the past is more prone to experiencing it again, just takes that one bad situation or stressful event that triggers it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 05:08 AM
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As someone with a husband who deals with chronic depression (but well treated) if god forbid I ever ended up dating again I would steer clear from someone with depression regardless of it’s not their fault. Mental health issues suck and they suck for the people around the individual dealing with them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 05:00 AM
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Financial stability is not an illusion. If you don’t live above your means, have education or trade and save then you will be financially stable. It also isn’t like people expect 18-23 year olds to be financially stable but by late twenties you should be for sure. Non social butterflies can find other non social butterflies. None of this negates the traits that make a good partner in a man, seems like you were a bit sour grapes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:49 AM
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If women think the traits listed are what make good men it’s not up to men to decide what makes good men unless a man is interested in other men then he can decide what makes a good man (romantically) for himself. Financially stable, kind and generous don’t make a man mr perfect by the way it’s like you guys see financially stable and automatically insert rich money bags into your heads. Kindness and generosity should be a given within a relationship (but unfortunately it’s not which is why ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:43 AM
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lol they are not the predominant statistic of relationships get out of here. This whole post anyway is about good men and good relationships, those combination of traits are what make a good partner and the post is about men overestimating how many good men there are seems you must agree that there aren’t many with the right combo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:04 AM
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Weird I wouldn’t consider domestically violent relationships or drug abusing, or starving their children as people who fall under the qualifier of “good partner and then under the further qualifiers of “kind”, “generous” and “fun to be with” and “financially stable”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:38 AM
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To be a good partner you need those qualities along with generous (with time and affection) and kind ess
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 03:41 AM
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Can it not be all 3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:52 AM
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That’s cheap in a woman’s eyes tbh so most women wouldn’t be open to this kind of approach unless you yourself are very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:11 PM
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No one gets a guarantee which is why you should always be able to support yourself regardless of what life throws you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:13 AM
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Men as a whole (because of course there are outliers and women who lucked out with a great man) have proven to be unreliable when women’s safety and security relies on them. It’s not a trade off women are willing to make. Men can adapt. Women still do offer men what they want albeit not everything just like men have never offered women everything we want -which is so fair because we are all human and for the majority of us compromise will be made somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:48 PM
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No gaurubtees for the woman. She could have a shit dad, shit husband or shit community (poverty). Her husband could leave her or die. Many more paths lead to unhappiness and destitution for that woman than picket fence life. Smart women know to not rely on men because men are human and shit happens. Rely on yourself, build with a partner and no matter what comes your way end of the day you are going to be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:11 PM
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Women still have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:10 PM
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Except our grandmas and mothers have told us the dangers of not working and having our own money because they either saw it or loved it. They may have been able to have a bank account but a bank account with nothing in it isn’t that great
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:56 PM
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Ironic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 04:31 AM
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I work in education as well and find that the male teachers actually are respected far more than the women, and the boys who you say are punished more harshly- I disagree. I could see someone thinking that if they looked into a classroom and saw kids doing the same things and one child given more leeway than another in the form of more reminders or more gentle tone etc however if someone were to watch that same classroom I would say far more likely the kid getting the more firm tone/less reminde…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:15 PM
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I disagree. I’ve been here awhile and most of the women here are older and married or in serious relationships. Your list of complaints is more akin to what men complain about women liking, the women here more complain about the language and generalising attitudes the men here hold of an entire gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:11 PM
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It’s like in sales if someone comes in saying I’m not buying today they are definitely buying today they just say that to try convince themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:07 PM
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He tried and couldn’t his examples did not show that at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:10 PM
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Why to ignore the point of the comment especially about your inability to read and comprehend. Continue making false claims it doesn’t help Your point when you use “evidence” that doesn’t actually show what you claim it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:06 AM
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26% is pretty good far better than the 54% you see in other cohorts including first loves, and uneducated. I know which group i would rather be in (and which group I thankfully am in). Marriage is hard since it goes on for so long, I certainly wouldn’t want to do it with the first person I thought I loved lol that would have been an absolute disaster. “Playing the field” is just getting to know yourself and what is going to be compatible with you. Only insecure or inexperienced people don’t unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:01 AM
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And the user you posted that reply to expressed disbelief that women are saying that they find their HUSBANDS less attractive than men they date and you use someone whose talking about their current BOYFRIEND compared to previous boyfriends….boyfriends are no where as near serious as a husband. So again reading comprehension problem. Even with the actual boyfriend that thatbuser was talking about being less physically attractive than previous relationships does not mean it’s a worse relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:58 AM
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That is not what that user is saying, you’ve got a reading comprehension issue and this whole thread is going to be disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:44 AM
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Divorce state in developed countries are what I said lower amongst educated people. Higher among uneducated yes also in high school sweethearts and people who married young (before 25). Most men are also not rich you sound like you have no idea what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:42 AM
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Very few people actually marry someone they resent these days. The lowest divorce rate is among people with higher education and who tend to marry later - I would say that a good majority of those people had relationships and experiences perhaps even “played the field” before marriage. Those experiences teach you things about yourself, about what kind of partner you want and expect, and by the time you are mature enough to commit yourself to lifelong commitment you are ready to make an informed …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:20 AM
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You can still socially accuse people Of things even if it can’t be prosecuted in the point though and in cases of sexual assault since there is so rarely any proof all there is left is women being able to get support socially since it’s unlikely the law will be able to prosecute and punish the assaulter. This is true of all cases not just SA. People can publicly accuse people of whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:40 PM
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No it’s the same, people should only go to jail if there is proven, but in this case it’s hard to prove so the least we can do is believe women even if we can’t prosecute the man under the legal system.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:26 PM
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This is why believe all women started because it’s so hard to prove SA because it normally is happening in places with no witnesses so it becomes he said she said. If at least we believe all women then even if it can’t be charged we can offer emotional support to the woman and can think the guy is trash. Of course some women lie about it but the amount of women lying about it is far smaller than the actual amount of women being assaulted. If a woman is proven to be lying the punishment should be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:04 PM
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Proving it without a doubt is hard when it’s he said she said. Should Aguioty people just be let off all hoops if can’t be proven without a doubt?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:56 PM
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You’ve missed my point entirely if you think I’m saying that for women sex is something we either love or not care about. Women do care about sex, our hormones can make it difficult to maintain the same kind of sexual drive that men want from us, it’s easy as a man to maintain because you don’t have the same fluctuations in hormones that women do, testosterone literally keeps men horny until old old age. And comparing a hormonal cycle and influence to choosing not to do things like hugging again…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:32 PM
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Not to diminish how crappy it must have felt to be undesirable to your wife based on your health and resulting changed appearance but the last sentence where you said women get grace and men don’t - I think the fact that men just have naturally higher testosterone which is what gives women ‘grace’. Since men will by and large put their dicks in almost anything/anyone if it’s warm, wet and willing (and hell there are men who don’t even need those requirements unfortunately but they are obviously …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:12 PM
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Yes but he wasn’t hot in the traditional sense beyond being tall. He was intelligent and had a great career though two things I value. Ignored the red flags, got hurt. So thankful he hurt me because he is/was not a good partner to me (or anyone) and I deserved so much better. It’s sad I ignored the flags but I was also a lot younger and honestly was not in a good place. After him did the work on myself and met my now husband who is an absolute angel and god send of a man and I’m so thankful that…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:01 AM
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I don’t think it’s good or fair to keep some people on back burner ready to use when you are ready. However, I do agree experiment and try things while young since statistically young relationships are going to fail and the more you learn about yourself the more you know about what you actually want when you are ready to be serious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:09 AM
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Medical autonomy. You can’t force a person to have a medical procedure. Both abortion and birth are medical procedures. If you argue against medical autonomy we would be harvesting organs and blood from anyone we deemed it necessary from.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:53 PM
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That’s a bit quick
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:27 PM
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It’s not a lot of people because it’s not the right connection. My partner is the only one I stopped talking and looking at other guys for because I just kind of knew really early.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:50 AM
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Nah it’s really not. I was talking to a few guys same time as my husband. After a date I knew he was my main interest and I was talking less to others. After 2 dates (and I somehow just didn’t schedule a date with anyone else) I stopped talking to others completely
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:49 AM
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Women just want the same thing you described in first paragraph. Women don’t love corporations they love financial freedom and same as you going to school getting good job is how most have to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:11 PM
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I’m sorry but it’s more than income. It’s your thought processes and habits. You are the people you surround yourself with. You say you are in a bad situation now but how do you realistically see yourself getting out of it? Without going to school and having some kind of family help it’s statistically very rare for people to get out of poverty like that. Especially in red states (I’m assuming because of the trailer park), which tend to lack social benefits as well which could help. And the curre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:00 PM
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I have used the same words you have previously used when describing your situation. If they are true then you gotta be realistic about women and judging women as bottom of the barrel when your current position is as described doesn’t seem like a logical strategy. I would say the same to a woman in the same position expecting an educated handsome man who is going to reduce her from poverty and pay for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:09 PM
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Women are generally taught to be respectful to everyone though ( talking middle class and up) and it’s the way we socialised. Boys not really taught that as kids since boys will be boys when they do rough or rude things. So I can see how it looks from your point of view but I think to be charitable the expectation is that both partners should be respectful but women are often in more danger of they don’t prioritise a respectful partner
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:07 PM
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I’m not attacking I’m asking. If it’s the truth based on what you have previously said that’s not an attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:02 PM
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From your previous comments though you’ve said you are essentially a bottom of the barrel guy too though right? Bad/no job can’t remember, trailer park, unattractive and autism. Are you really in a position to judge women as bottom of the barrel?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 06:56 PM
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Absolutely do not recommend disclosing salary to someone so early - not even really needing to disclose until things like kids or combined finances. It would be so tacky to ask. I knew my husband for example was in product management in pharmaceuticals when we met I had no idea of his salary for like at least 1 year but I was already pregnant and he was looking for a new job. Knowing you are in a good field and are responsible with your finances should be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:07 PM
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I met my husband on hinge, I only swiped right if the guys had an interesting or lucrative field listed as job OR if he had some other cues that he worked a decent job. You don’t need to view men as a wallet to care about finances. I never expected him to treat me buy me gifts etc but I wanted someone to grow a financially stable life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:58 PM
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Ngl the woman’s ideal you described is pretty much my husband. You forgot to add stuff about career though. Successful and competent in career also should be in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:47 PM
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Also thankful here in Australia we have pretty good protections. I’ll also get 22 weeks from the government at minimum wage and partner will get 2 from government and 2 from work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:32 PM
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If men for the same parental rights as women then it would eliminate bias, and would benefit the kids. I’m a government employee and have been so it was important for me to secure the permanent position so I have paid maternity leave (14 weeks full salary) it is too much money to give away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:08 PM
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I’m now 18 weeks pregnant - I’ve accepted a permanent job (yay) but they still don’t know. I’m going to visit the school in about 8 weeks so I’ll be obviously pregnant by that time. I know they are going to be dissapointed since I will be taking 2 terms off in 2026 (term 2 and 3) and only go back part time for term 4. Oh well. Such is the nature of having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:01 PM
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If the relationship was great and she was happy? Yes they would tell her she’s an idiot and if she can’t see clearly then to be honest with him because he deserves better. They would also tell her to go to therapy. Some people are just never happy and can’t see and appreciate what they have. Comparison is the thief of joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:58 PM
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I don’t know what those are but they aren’t normal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:55 PM
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Nah lots of guys know some women are crazy and they still sleep with them because testosterone then they are shocked when drama happens
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 06:44 PM
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Give me examples because I don’t ever see it among adults. How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:57 AM
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It’s really not. Online isn’t real life and it’s such a small particularly toxic part of online that is loud and does body shaming. In real life once you leave high school adults aren’t laughing at each other about things like height, body fat etc. Seeing a listed preference on online dating isn’t shaming either, and any woman who puts something deragatory about a man’s height on her dating profile is worth avoiding (just like men who put things like no fattys are worth avoiding as well)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:52 AM
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The solution is learning to be ok with it (height) and reducing negative self talk about it. The problem is some people won’t accept that they will only see becoming taller as a solution. You can use therpay to build your belief in yourself to think you are capable of going to university or trade school in order to get yourself in a better position financially. It all takes work. You can’t just talk and expect it to be fixed you need to do a lot of work, but some people don’t even feel capable o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:47 AM
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I agree. Unfortunately preventing these issues is expensive and will be slow changing society. We should absolutely work towards that. We should also not scoff at therapy in the mean time. Especially if therapy when younger could be part of that preventative process and would likely be far more effective and beneficial the earlier it is started.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:27 AM
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You ain’t bringing much break home on 50k as sole provider
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:50 PM
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I wouldn’t even agree we fetishize those traits - we aren’t out there consuming porn, writing fan fac, collecting images of for a spank bank, or any of those things. Even women who consume erotic fiction are usually not doing it to a level of fetishisation
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:25 PM
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The reason there isn’t as much fetishisation from women compared to men is men just typically fetishise women’s bodies more than women do. It’s more of a male thing of expressing appreciation of bodies women don’t really fetishise as much in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:42 AM
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Plenty of 6’0 guys are miserable sops too. It’s not height that determines happiness or success.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:57 AM
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We have something similar in Australia for disabled people, they can use national disability insurance scheme money as they want on needs to help better their lives, and seeing a prostitute or escort is a legal and acceptable use of the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 07:52 PM
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Not really going somewhere because you are desperate or have been told a million times does not mean you are open minded to it. Who said incels are worse humans? They are flawed like all humans, and their flaws may be keeping them from achieving what they desperately want. I have no idea if court ordered therapy would work for people it’s not a population I’ve got experience with, but I imagine the results are mixed, some would be open to it some wouldn’t just like the general population who goe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:17 AM
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I meant no confidence - I’ll edit it thanks for highlighting. Does that change your reply at all? It certainly changes the context. Most confident men I know who’ve done therapy aren’t there for a lack of confidence. My husband for example has adhd so he goes every so often for task avoidance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:14 AM
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Right and therapists don’t sit there and tell people to be more confident that’s not how it works. I have seen therapy make people more confident and more importantly more comfortable and from that comfort can confidence grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 04:54 AM
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I don’t think they sat there saying the don’t want to change. I think they went in with a closed mindset and/or did not practice the tools given to them. Closed mindset is going to stop anything from working or succeeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 04:53 AM
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Yep with #2! It’s a boy which is pretty scary since we’ve had it really easy with our first whose a girl but I’ve come around to the idea of a son haha Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:44 AM
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My fetus (baby) is 16 weeks now I’m finally feeling better less nauseous which is good for my husband because he was getting burnt out doing most the cleaning and cooking on top of working.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:22 AM
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So true. Therapy comes with homework. If you don’t do it you won’t be improving
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:20 AM
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Anyone remember when the daily thread would get like 1.5-1.8k comments a day?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:13 AM
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I think it’s about that much where I am to (Australia) but after rebate it’s about $150 Hopefully you have learned tools to deal with and hopefully change your situation which is the point of therapy. If not that sucks but for most people it is actually useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 01:42 AM
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I think the amount of people who have a situation so unchangeable that their life is doomed to be miserable is incredibly small but that the amount of people with some kind of dysmorphia and low confidence is huge. And unfortunately dysmorphia and no confidence all but guarantee a poor outcomes especially in dating which the context of this thread is in.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 01:26 AM
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It’s not about that at all. It’s about gaining actual tools such as pattern recognition and rewiring negative associations into neutral or positive ones, learning positive self talk and also learning how to deal with challenging situations. There’s lots of techniques and not all will work for everyone. Your comment just goes to show the distrust men here have of therapy. I’ve been 3x in my life, never for more than 6 sessions but my issues (parent separation, breakup, anxiety) were relatively mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 12:17 AM
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If someone was in a car crash and was afraid to drive the advice would be: therapy. They likely have ptsd. Understandable, also treatable with therapy and time. Same advice is given to men with no confidence. But they don’t like the answer or they try it once and get mad it doesn’t immediately improve their situation. The truth is therapy isn’t easy and it’s not fast and not every therapist is going to be right for you. It’s a process that is often costly and time intensive. Does that suck? Hell…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:29 PM
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Lots of people can fit with you and have a good relationship with you. But the reality is that life is hard when you struggle so at least for time the standard of having a good paying job was about finding someone who fits and who also had a good paying job so that I was not needlessly struggling with a broke partner. That being said dating shouldn’t feel like a job interview dates should be fun and conversation should flow, if it’s feeling transactional then you aren’t vibing and doesn’t sound …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:11 PM
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Hopefully your day isn’t done that’s way too low
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 06:23 PM
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Oh ok your comment originally said can choose to be happy hence my reply. I agree you can’t just choose to be happy. The second half of your comment makes more sense now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 02:09 AM
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You don’t get to say what effort people put in to save their marriages, how arrogant are you to think you personally know people aren’t trying before jumping to divorce? You honestly sound so naive. Divorce ESPECIALLY with kids is a process, and it’s a long and complicated one. People aren’t just doing it on a whim. I think you need to reevaluate your assumptions on people’s personal lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 02:08 AM
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You clearly don’t know anyone with depression and I envy that. I’ve seen depression eat away people I love who want to be happy who have every reason to be but just can’t. Our brains are complex. Masking a deep down unhappiness will always fail in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 02:06 AM
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You don’t get to choose what’s irreparable or what compromises people should make. Those lines are for the individual to decide. People aren’t marrying as quickly as they used to hence divorce rates going down. People who get married a bit older and people who are educated tend to have the lowest rates of divorce likely because they are consider these important compatibility factors, and that’s great we should encourage more people To hold off on young marriages and increase education, and then …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:59 AM
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If my husband stuck around but drank himself into depression because of child with disability or even just emotionally checked out I would rather he leave. Happiness is important. You can be happy in bad situations but only if you choose to be, you can force people to choose to be happy, that doesn’t work, so it’s better for those who don’t choose to be happy (or for people married to someone who won’t choose to be happy) to be able to get out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:54 AM
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Ok so your sample size and experience is one. I did grow up in a toxic household and I’m glad my parents divorced. They coparented well enough and now are civil. I didn’t grow up without either parent and got the best out of both. They were ultimately too different. Most people aren’t divorcing over regular fights. It comes down to irreparable differences. Things like how you deal with money, faith, values lifestyle etc are all important for comparability and while things don’t need to be (and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:49 AM
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ReRead last sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:09 AM
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If those reasons are frivolous they likely aren’t having kids or will do better apart anyway. Kids don’t thrive in toxic homes just because there are two adults
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:59 AM
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This assumes the boyfriend guy doesn’t get more from her though. Boyfriends get way more than hookup guys do
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:39 PM
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I hate when people blame feminism for “shitting” on things. Feminism gave women a choice. What made women not want to stay at home was the abuse the faced when they had a bad partner, no skills unable to leave or support yourself, or not respected as an equal say in how the household money being spent is a reality many women faced. And this doesn’t even take into consideration things like physical abuse and the rampant drug abuse women used to use to stay sane. I will absolutely never let my dau…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 09:45 AM
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Yeah that does sound like what my parter complains about but yes it’s worth it financially. I don’t think you should feel bad about your partner not being able to stop working, working builds character, very few people would stay engaged enough without work and few would be motivated enough to volunteer and actually contribute to their communities. Humans need connections and community work provides that. Still I say that from a privileged position of having been able to go into a rewarding fiel…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 09:29 AM
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Underpaid sure but not low paying here in Australia thankfully. My partner has a white collar job and while it’s not always sunshine and rainbows he can work from home as much as he likes and gets to be creative. His main complaints are busy work, poor company direction and too many emails but for the amount he’s paid it’s well worth it. I would not want to be home with kids while he only works. I would not cope well. We have a toddler and one on the way and I am so thankful for daycare and that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 09:12 AM
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I used to be in sales now I’m a high school teacher
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:56 AM
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I wouldn’t provide for a man to keep the house clean and I wouldn’t keep a house clean to be provided for. Work is stimulating. It’s nice getting out having responsibilities and work achievements and then coming home to relax with your loved one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 01:28 AM
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I saw most people expressing irony or just apathy which imo is fine. He wasn’t a good person with nice views and you can feel empathy for the situation for his family without expressing sorrow for the loss of his life or feeling a disappointment that he’s gone. Especially when there are so many school shootings and nothing gets done when you see a shooting happen to someone who actively supported the second amendment and thought in the big picture some gun deaths are inevitable and acceptable to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:12 AM
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Not quite, it helps but it’s less important for women than men if we talking like chubby /fat not obese. If average income isn’t buying you a middle class life for whatever reason (poor spending habits, high COL, inflation) then you aren’t average anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:18 PM
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A lot of the us lives in rural poor communities. I don’t, so it’s poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:16 PM
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Tbh marriage is no longer seen as the institution it once was. Now it’s a party for most people. For smart people they use it as the financial agreement it truly is, though this also catches up a lot of stupid people who marry someone they shouldn’t have. Idk I just think it’s not as important these days and not a real indicator of much. Relationships in general aren’t on tenuous ground. Most people are partnered up. I’m 31 and I know only three persons in my age range (including cousins, friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:12 PM
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Nah if you don’t have an average lifestyle you just aren’t average. For me and I think a lot of people it’s tied to lifestyle. The higher portion of super wealthy would drive up the average too if you are going on mathematical. I’ll say it’s becoming more difficult to be average unless you have a plan from early twenties. Gone are the days you can work any random entry job and be average. You could be average idk build sounds ok but I don’t know who that is haha. But it’s more than just your bui…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:38 AM
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Exactly middle class in shambles, average people in short supply. Most are becoming below average and that’s not necessarily their fault it’s just the fucked up economy. She’s not average because most people are overweight, men from 18-50 would be interested in a healthy weight 25 year old so the competition for her is high which means she becomes above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:16 AM
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To be fair the average 25 year old woman if she isn’t fat is not actually average due to how overweight everyone else it. 50k isn’t average lifestyle anymore though so it’s not average these days it’s the sad reality if you on 50k you probably struggling. Idk I think average implies middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 08:49 AM
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50k a year is not average sorry. Not in a HCOL place. Maybe in a LCOL place. Men complain they aren’t getting the women they want. Average guys can get women but no one said they can get above average women which is what men “complaining about their Prospects” are wanting. Everyone has problems man doesn’t mean that people don’t usually end up Partners despite those problems. We adapt and overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:35 AM
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The rates aren’t as important because marriage was tied to the church previously. We are far less religious and people partnering up in long term cohabitation is common which shows people do still value commitment and relationships just not marriage in the same way that we used to. People have education now and can actively choose what kind of life they want. Poor people tend to have the most babies because they have the least education. People who are educated do not want to be on the struggle …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:54 AM
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Marriage rates don’t mean anything, people partner up and live together for long periods of time in de facto types of relationships. That would have been taboo before. It’s not now. Birth rates are falling because kids are expensive and we are educated to know that raising kids in poverty sucks and also even if you aren’t in poverty it’s a huge sacrifice that many people aren’t willing to do and that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:56 AM
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I think men here significantly overestimate how common the problems here are - we’ve had many threads on how the average man isn’t actually struggling but that below average men are and that a lot of men here are admittedly below average. Do a few average men struggle? Sure but if they are truly average then chances are things will work out eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:06 AM
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I would turn it back on her and say something like “that’s not a very polite question, why do you think it’s appropriate to ask someone you just met that?” I would probably end the date tbh it’s a huge red flag. I like talking about work on the first date but I want to know things like industry, how you got into it, why /if you like it, what you would rather do/ working towards etc. questions that tell me about you vs what is your exact income. Don’t put up with that again from women end the dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:07 PM
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Hard agree with all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:02 PM
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Yeah those are weird questions I would feel uncomfortable by that too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:55 PM
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Unless you can get mutual interest in person at same rate as online i don’t see how you would compare
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:48 PM
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It’s no secret ghosting happens more online. The stakes are low often you haven’t even met the person and if it was one date you still are strangers. Does it suck? Yeah. But you met online not through friends or a social group where if you have ‘rude’ behaviour like ghosting then there may be social consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:24 PM
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Rose wasn’t married to Cal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:38 AM
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Don’t forget mensrights
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:44 PM
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When dating: equal - but no petty send half each time take turns treating at equivalent places When married with children: not equal but all money pooled because I’m cutting back on work to do kid pickups or manage home so husband makes more or I’ve chosen a lower paid field for the balance for having kids (this is what I did, I’m a teacher so school hours are perfect but I’ll never make what my husband makes) Also did filter for income potential in dating stage since I knew I wanted kids. So a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:17 PM
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Most men aren’t better leaders or providers so why would most women want to give him final say when she works just as hard and often smarter? Because women are capable of compromise and conversations and we know men are as well so we think if we are contributing just as much (if not more) then our days should be equal so we need to find solutions that work for both partners and not let either have a “final say” because that’s how resentment builds.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:32 PM
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Sounds nice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:27 AM
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I seriously doubt you have enough experience if this is your belief- if you didn’t end up married to that person in a long happy relationship it’s kind of proof you can’t just compromise you way into keeping your relationship. Literally no one has agreed with you, I get it’s nice wishful thinking king but you gotta wake up and smell the roses here. Australia is more liberal yes we also have a lot more successful people where I live compared to where I’m from and that’s also something I wanted fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:26 PM
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Incorrect; where you grow up does not mean you can’t have same values and goals as someone across world. Personally I moved countries and am way more aligned with the men here than where I grew up. I went somewhere that had my values (Australia) and left USA You keep putting out platitudes / no wings doesn’t mean you can’t fly - it’s all bs, no humans can’t fly, planes can and we can ride in planes doesn’t mean we the human are flying. Get some relationship experience before judging people for w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:50 AM
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No it’s because people don’t vet properly and have kids in doomed relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:29 AM
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Having no negotiate too many things leads to resentment or a situation neither is very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:27 AM
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Nah that’s a little minor yhing. Lifestyle is bigger than the daily incidentals. Lifestyle is things like : do we want to live in city or country, do we both want to be working full time, how do we spend our weekends and holidays, what shared hobbies do we have or do we have our own hobbies, do we need a house or are we ok in an apartment, how active are we etc Too many of those not being aligned and you get resentment on one end and when life gets tough such as with raising kids, work etc you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:41 PM
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Perfect for you means alignment in the big things. Religion, values, finances, communication, lifestyle. Compromise is still necessary with someone in alignment with these things. For example: my husband and I work great together, have happy kids, go on dates, lots of affection warmth and intimacy between us yet I do not like sleeping with sound on and he does . We tried lots of things, fave masks with head phones for him, ear phones, for me to just get used to it playing on low, none of these t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:12 PM
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It’s unhygienic because it does in the wash with other people’s clothes. Also if you weren’t doing your own laundry even grosser. I would get my parter maybe to tell him off on it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 09:12 AM
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Tbh I would call out my son lol like we all human but be hygienic about it. Teaching the hard lessons. My dad once made me come home as a 14 year old because I left blood in the toilet (after flushing) as I was on my period, he made me flush again. He waited to use it to teach me that lesson that you need to check how you leave things and your hygiene as it impacts people. Embarrassment can be a good lesson if not done in malice just gentle correction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 09:02 AM
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Thanks! I’m hopeful since my partner is great and I’ve got his parents and brothers to help
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:57 AM
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She knew
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:56 AM
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I don’t think so, I’m sorry you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:36 AM
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Down syndrome is usually the extra copy of chromosome and it causes life long learning delays and is a spectrum it can leave a person highly dependent on their parent (or carer) for their life. It’s completely different to gender. If I had a child with Down syndrome (or other life long congenital disability) I likely would not have completed the pregnancy, that is why we do NIPT testing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:27 AM
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I have a girl I’ll need to get rid of her old clothes I saved, currently have a 2 br apartment (hcol) they can share for now but will need to upsize eventually ( wanted to anyway but 2 girls we might have had them share and have a home office, boys high energy often more prone to injury and silly decisions as adolescent, dealing with teen crusty boy socks and wet dreams, ensuring no pee dribbles on or around toilet, more frequent cleaning toilet when potty training to stand up, have to subtly tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:26 AM
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I wouldn’t abort for gender that’s wild
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:18 AM
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So just found out gender for my second is a boy, Ngl wish it was another girl feel like everything going to be so much harder with a boy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:28 AM
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Education gives people choices and that isn’t bad thing, the way you have written this post imo is a bit gross almost as if you are trying to get the young men who are impressionable and sometimes questionable opinion holders fuel to think “yep great point we need to revoke more of women’s rights to choose” Might not be your intention but I can assure you some would be thinking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:20 PM
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…because women do all the work and we know this, why would a rational person who has to work a job and keep a home want to do that with 4 plus kids making everything harder and more expensive?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:42 PM
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White people are already a minority and that’s ok, we are all going to be mixed nationality soon anyway and that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:41 PM
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Except that secret children still cost money and have still meant the guys is a cheater and he broke the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 11:03 PM
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You think people can’t hide money? My boss used to have a portion of his check paid to an account his wife didn’t know about, specifically to hide money. You think people can’t withdraw small amounts like a couple hundred here and there each week to save?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:14 AM
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There is no his or her resources in a marriage. Money is pooled. It is their resources. That scenario is not that rare, but men are more likely to leave and not pay anything. 31% of kids in USA are being raised without a father, 1 in 4 kids if you count all types of dads (such as step dads and adoptive). Maybe you are meaning it’s more difficult to have a second family based on the cost, but men are out there impregnating and leaving their kids (and their baby mama) to fend for themselves, which…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:32 AM
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Right so no woman has ever been in a comparable situation where her husband has fathered a secret child from an affair and is subsequently paying family resources for the upkeep of that child. But no of course to men it wouldn’t be as bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:07 AM
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I ageee acknowledging one does not dismiss the other. Saying one has it worse however does dismiss the other. Your lack of comprehension on the conversation is showing. You have asserted something that i did not say, and it is a bad attempt at a strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:06 AM
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Right so there is nuance. It’s the same in cheating, if you look at divorce statistics financially women are far worse off after end of relationship and that doesn’t really equal out, men recover from divorce and relationship breakdown. Your view point of what constitutes as harm can’t be applied for every person or situation, it’s arrogant and minimising of the reality so many people find themselves in after relationship breakdown due to cheating. Even bringing up paternity fraud is ridiculous …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:16 AM
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Also untrue, you are generalising nuanced scenarios to fit your world view. Women can cause just as much harm as men when abusing because women have access to weapons and are capable of psychological harm. Men on average are stronger though it doesn’t mean they are more capable of creating greater harm because of that strength because we live in a world with tools, and specific individual circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:03 AM
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There is that but again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:58 AM
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Stating a “fact” and then adding a “but” means you are crossing out the entire first part of the sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:53 AM
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I Iayed out a few of the reasons and you dismissed them as nbd
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:16 PM
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Gay people - I’m assuming you are talking only about men here- are also highly into lube and also have 2 male libidos. Gay men also orgasm each time so it would always be “worth it” for them. Many women don’t orgasm every time they have sex. Women and men are different, our sexuality is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 09:20 PM
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Probably because we are the ones being penetrated and if we aren’t in the mood then it can hurt. Not all guys like forplay and even if you have a guy who does if you aren’t in the mood having a d in your mouth as forplay is of course reciprocal might not sound like what you are in the mood for
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 08:05 PM
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Report him for harrasment
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 07:21 PM
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Thanks. This tune is so different to my first, I vomit less but dry heave constantly, the vomiting is usually only 3 times a day but dry heave like 10x that. With my first was only vomit constantly but I would get relief after each one lol. Dry heaving has no relief and the feeling just lingers. My poor partner is having to do most things for our first and most chores as I am basically a potato rn 😢😢😢
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:36 AM
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Maybe the traits we like are less likely to lead to a life of struggle - finances, attraction and fun social life
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:28 AM
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Almost 9 weeks pregnant and I’m basically sick all day and night. Forgot about this, glad this is my last baby (#2).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:22 AM
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So forced birth then, also a medical procedure and a dangerous one for anyone. Because it’s a medical procedure either way women in most western parts of the world get the choice since it’s women who take the risks of the procedure either way. If men give up their rights and their responsibility it would coerce many women one way or another let’s not play dumb. Men even say if a woman can’t afford it on her own she should abort.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:30 PM
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Won’t happen because the child if born has a right to support from both parents. If unborn point is moot. Humans also have the right to not be forced or coerced into medical procedures which an abortion is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:14 PM
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Thank you ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:15 AM
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Thanks! Definitely the last haha. It’s too expensive here already with 2 we are going to have to make some concessions down the line
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:15 AM
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I live in Australia. We don’t do that here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:13 AM
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Nope! I’m only 5 weeks and debating keeping it a surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:02 AM
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Pregnant with #2 and my last baby!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 05:35 AM
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Brilliant why didn’t I think of that 🤣 Most my friends do not. But more than that often people live away from their friends. Some people are lucky which is great but seeing friends doesn’t take away from my point that many women like working and the stimulation it provides. Social catch ups here and there don’t provide the same thing on the same level.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:39 AM
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Maybe women also enjoy having friends, being productive and not reading the same book 10 times a day. Do you have children? I do. I’m a better mum for being able to have time away and get stimulation so I can be fully present when I am home on weekends and after daycare. I hate screen time so we do very little but if I was home all day for sure I would have it on far more than we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 11:58 PM
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Nah you don’t have to be an introvert to realise than an hour of play group and your husband are not enough adult stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:40 PM
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Not in the slightest. I’m the same I wouldn’t quit not because of trust because I don’t really want to stay home having conversations with only children and not getting to use my brain and talk to a mother adults. Motherhood is great but the second you get to go talk with adults again you realise how stir crazy you go after awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:08 PM
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Maybe if the person is inexperienced. Most communicate before during and after sex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:23 AM
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Which is incompatibility…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 10:12 AM
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Yes and after that the person can still say no
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 09:46 AM
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But that is what incompatibility can come down to - not necessarily selfishness but an u willingness to engage ins sexual acts that their partner likes. The person unwilling isn’t wrong to not engage in said activity but if the other partner really enjoys it and wants it and it’s a deal breaker than it is an incompatibility that no communication and practice will get through.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 03:25 AM
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You wouldn’t know that though. The loud people screaming about men bad and all men are players are a loud minority. Lots of women are approached by attractive good men every day and those men don’t even always get a yes for a date for lots of reasons (she’s not single, he’s not her type, she’s not in right headspace) but lots do also say yes. Men here tend to only equate handsome confident men with bad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 05:02 AM
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Attractive good men approach too was their point (I think) and a lot of guys here underestimate how many attractive confident good men there actually are
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:03 AM
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Sounds like every bf I ever had…minus the pegging a bisexual stuff. So we all good here as long as he knows what he wants now and that’s me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:14 AM
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Thread closed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:15 AM
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Well they weren’t ugly true but not everyone would find them handsome, I had plenty of gfs who didn’t think they were
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:39 AM
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I mean I’ve had 3 serious relationship ) including my husband ) and all met the criteria despite not looking anything like each other - 3 vastly different ethnicities and features , and the last two I no longer find even a tiny bit handsome in fact I cringe at the Ross coloured glasses I had on back then
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:29 AM
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Handsome (to me) Kind (to me, himself and others) Confident Able to financially provide (above average wage but not required to be a millionaire) Preferable taller than me but as tall as me is also ok sense of humour compatible (sexually, emotionally, politically, morally, world view, and as friends for good conversations) loyal trustworthy makes me feel calm and safe loves to give and receive (to and from me but I’m not talking material items) no bad debt stable (emotionally, and in their caree…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 11:14 PM
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Must be Aussie
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:51 PM
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Make this a post
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:03 AM
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I mean yeah it seems a bit transactional to outright post it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:25 PM
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Surely most adults need cars. We went from a 2 car to 1 car house and it sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 01:04 PM
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Thank you! I know it’s a lame post but I don’t really have anyone irl who wants to hear it since we too old for that kind of sharing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:21 AM
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I had a whole day of love with my partner which has been so nice. His mum babysat for us all day and we got to reconnect in a way we haven’t in a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 09:07 AM
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Nope you just aren’t understanding. The men I said were good but out of that it still doesn’t compare to the reported lesbian experience. Of those 3 that I said were good only one of those gets close to multi orgasm sessions and is happy to continue even if he finishes and is more focused on my pleasure than his own which is what my stat was on. I married that guy. The other two good ones were casual hookups and they were good but still not at the level we are talking about. When women do give g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:34 PM
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Yes most men but we can’t talk in absolutes here. I’d call it 90-95% of men. I’ve been with about 16 guys and about 3 were actually good (including my husband thank god)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:52 AM
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Lots of straight women haven’t actually had an orgasm with a partner. Lesbian women orgasm far more than most straight women. Most also have multiple orgasms per session. Even if you are good for a guy the implication was that you likely still aren’t as good as a lesbian. Most men more focused on their own pleasure, and will also stop once they finish. Not all men of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:47 AM
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I have none and my partner is covered in many.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:58 AM
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All of them. My brother is the only guy I know (he’s 27) not in a relationship and that’s largely due to mental health issues. Even all the male teachers I know are married or in serious relationships. When I worked corporate when I was 24 all the guys were in relationships except 1. When I was at a corporate job a couple years ago same thing except that ALL the guys were in serious relationships or married and I was 1/2 women who worked in the small office (15 of us total).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:43 AM
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I’m in Sydney too. I’m a teacher, most my colleagues are around my age (early 30’s) all but one are in a relationship, most are married. And we can’t help but hear the teenage gossip, nearly all of the kids are in and out of ‘relationships’ too / having boy or girl Drama. You aren’t seeing people outside your bias On weekends I go to parks and my kids activities obviously chock full Of young married couples and families.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:24 AM
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I think one thing that would help is if People stopped associating emotions and weakness and girly. And associating girls as weak because then of course any male person would not want to be associated with female traits and be seen as weak. Any time women try to encourage and highlight our strength it just gets mocked by men though and I don’t think men are ready to think of women as strong because to them it might feel like one more area that women have overtaken them in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:10 PM
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I think if men were socialised more to recognise emotions within themselves they would learn how to deal with those emotions in a healthier way and would lead to better outcomes in many aspects of Inter gender relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:51 PM
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And men think women are the less logical gender lol. Men are always more emotional (angry, insecure, jealous are emotions too)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:47 PM
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But it is relevant. Women know it’s something men care about. Men are obsessed with their penis from middle school and girls know it. Generally if you are insulting someone you go for what you know hurts not what you think is the most true. For example, if a man was going to insult a woman he would likely call her fat or ugly vs saying something like your fake tan is streaky. Men know what hurts women just like women know what hurts men. I think it’s less common for adults to sling insults at ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:44 PM
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You’re the one who implied it does from what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:23 AM
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Sure because that’s what dual income means.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:42 AM
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I think there’s various levels of ideal. If you want your dream ideL probably not going to happen (hello falling in love with a wealthy prince or other movie plot line character) But having ideals on what a realistic life can look like with a bit of work and luck is healthy and very possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:40 PM
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I disagree that it’s most of it tbh. Life is long, most people want kids (I know you said excluding kids but reasonably most people do eventually want kids) and expenses will randomly come along and kick your ass. You can be extremely compatible with someone but if you guys are surviving week to week and then something happens all that comparability and love isn’t going to stop the stress, worry, and eventually financial hardship that eventually changes and kills a relationship (it’s the biggest…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:24 PM
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If it’s not ideal why would you accept it at all? My minimum was having a job, not being in ‘bad debt’, having a good income projection (entry level is fine if you can grow or are studying), a desire to want to explore and experience new places and things together and all the standard good personality characteristics
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:07 PM
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Idk why you wouldn’t want that tbh. Who wants to live in a shit hole house in a rural town with no money to do things? Not many people. Dual income means you can build to wealth or at the very least engage in some financial planning or enjoy things like travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:57 PM
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And how do you reasonably get ahead if one parter has to provide the dwelling and the other only has to provide their upkeep ? You don’t get ahead, you stay where you are. A huge advantage of being a dual income household is the social mobility…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:38 PM
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This is bs. The self help stuff is present in all men’s self help material it doesn’t need to be redpill which also promotes men to be disrespectful to women at the very least in the language it uses to describe women. Men like red pill because that language does make a man feel justified and vindictive. Healthy men already do the ‘self help’ aspects of redpill or they get that help from other sources. Women can not just exist and get the type of man they want otherwise the whole female self hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:26 PM
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I agree with this actually. For both genders, masculine and feminine traits and qualities are present in both so strictly labelling l certain traits as one or the other will only hurt everyone in some way since we all have both and it clearly is psychologically damaging to some people if they are labeled or perceived to have the ‘wrong’ balance of traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:06 PM
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So true. Most of us are also older than 30. I do know a few teens /early twenty single girls are here but majority of women are older than
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:00 PM
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I don’t know why you think being hurt during sex is preferable No average dick 5-6 inch is better and more versatile
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:55 PM
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Gonna hit too many spots (ouch)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:41 PM
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It’s an answer he opened himself up to per his last question
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:20 AM
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I feel like you never gonna hit the spots
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:27 AM
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He’s likely getting dumped for a collection of reasons. Most people aren’t superficial enough to dump over a single physical attribute
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 12:32 AM
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How are you planning on buying a house in West Virginia ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:23 PM
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No. No amount, rather work and be married to my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:01 PM
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I’m not, but often men here claim that even when people are remaining neutral (not always as I’ve seen real pieces of work who are both male and female here)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:28 AM
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Are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:59 AM
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To be fair as it’s a spectrum there are lots of level 1 autistic people who function perfectly / you wouldn’t know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:31 AM
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It wouldn’t get to that point because we actually watch and Play with our kid at the park. The first instance of a fight we would have been over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:00 PM
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The lesser charge in this case is child support not having to raise them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:48 PM
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You would have no idea what people do in thospare time though and people who are socially functioning end up here for a variety of reasons especially as manosphere rhetoric becomes more mainstream people are researching and wanting to understand how/why
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:54 PM
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Most women here are older and married and aren’t jaded since they have had largely successful dating lives
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:00 PM
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Yeah man the world is fucked it’s an absolute shame that we have a system that makes it so damn hard to buy a decent place in a decent location. Glad to hear you guys have a plan! Honestly investing in etfs is a great plan and if you guys are disciplined it will likely be way better than buying a home. Here rentals are shit, renters have little protection, and tax is favoured for people who own their own homes. It’s also really expensive to buy a place unless you want to travel a far way to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:46 AM
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It’s still worth it I think. Are you in Aus? Property is very unfortunately what our economy is built on, those without live harder lives in their elder years. We are going to be spending about 40% of our monthly income on the mortgage now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:30 AM
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Thank you! So proud of this, and we pretty private do won’t be doing a social media pic in front of the sold sign so reddit is is my tiny shout to the world that we did it!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:19 AM
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My salary will basically cover the mortgage, partners will be for offset and living expenses. Everything here is expensive though and my salary is average but thankfully partners is a fair bit better than mine and we had a guarantor
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:16 AM
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A lot, about 1260 a week
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:08 AM
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We did it we bought a house (apartment) glad that’s one thing done. Wouldn’t wish the stress of entry level (900k) Sydney house hunting on anyone. Taking a stress day tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:56 AM
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Exactly what women been saying forever
/r/ExRedPill25/03/25 09:36 AM
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With what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:01 AM
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If anyone is wondering: didn’t get pregnant this month :( would have been cool For it to happen first time/month trying but ah well. Enjoyed a bottle of wine when I saw Aunt Flo. Still haven’t closed on an apartment yet either, we offered for One place they rejected (but came back 2 weeks later saying they will accept) but already have moved on from that place an fingers crossed our offer on a different place we put in yesterday will close since we went above price guide (smaller place than firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:53 AM
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I’ve not seen women ask what men bring to the table. I have seen variations of what do you bring to the table but very few people are so distrusting of the opposite gender that they genuinely believe that they bring nothing of value except money/sex/ some other singular trait in all heterosexual relationships. The difference in the questions I’ve seen is women asking the individual men here what they bring, not what their gender brings. If a woman was questioning what value men are I would say s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:11 AM
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lol normal people don’t question what the opposite gender can offer, only damaged people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:16 AM
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If all you smell is shit look under your own shoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:54 AM
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The fact that you have to ask is sad. Women offer what men offer in varying degrees just like men. Companionship, love, mental and physical stimulation, and an income to contribute to the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:32 AM
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Your absolutely not an outlier. Many men are like this and women know this lol. No strategy is going to get every man. And that’s ok because we are all different and not all compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:29 AM
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It does . The reason a lot of men feel so isolated from women is the lack of reciprocal attention or wanting and a large part of that is due to our damaged gender relationships. You see men complaining all the time that women choose bear or to be alone rather than be with men. It’s women who’ve got good examples and relationships with men who go on to create loving and good romantic relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 05:01 AM
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It’s not at the cost of men. It creates loving relationship and respect of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:31 PM
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Because for every story where the man thought there was problem and the wife just changed or left out of no where you see women breaking exactly down what the issue was. Walk away wife syndrome is the term for it, and it’s usually years of women stating their needs- often taken for nagging and ignored until she’s had enough and leaves and then men are like “it came out of no where”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 12:25 AM
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Do what you like my point is filtering for virgins with no relationship experience does not filter out women with baggage or with baggage from distrust of men. It’s also why moms aunts and grandmas make it really explicit how careful women young girls need to be
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:27 PM
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You realise most women have been preyed upon as teens when they were young virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:16 PM
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The op was that “both guys are relatively nice” That means the hot guy is assumed to have a good personality. So the less hot guy has to have an even better one. How does that not make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 07:21 PM
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Also: to add to above, the more unattractive can’t really have any serious things that are a turn off to me physically or otherwise. Like if he’s unattractive because we are just comparing him to an attractive guy (so really he’s just average) then that’s ok. But if he’s genuinely unattractive because of some extreme physical deformity / very unlucky and was beat with the ugly stick then the hurdles are going to be higher. The good thing is there are really not that many people I see around who …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:40 PM
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Having more in common with the unattractive guy, like genuine interests that lead to more engaging, fun conversations and banter. I’m assuming the other guy also has a good personality and I get along with him too so the conversations have to be extra good in this case. Making me Laugh more also falls into this category Better job or lifestyle, this can be an important boost. Get along more with his family / or the other persons having a family I do not like/ get along with. I dated seriously a …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:28 PM
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Hmmm wonder why op didn’t reply to this comment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 08:21 PM
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If a woman had checked out why doesn’t she just leave why prolong? it’s safer and also more practical to plan how to leave. If you are living with the person you need to figure out where you are staying and like that up- if you don’t and you have no where to go you could find yourself in a dangerous situation one way or another. If you are living apart the prolonging would not go on as long but still Possible because you still care for them and the relationship you used to have and are hoping by…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:16 PM
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I think there are more female doctors these days as well. More teachers, so kids can’t go to school/daycare so parents can’t go to work. Those two industries alone would cripple most people if services weren’t available
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 07:33 PM
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Basement dwelling losers I think is a mean term
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:23 AM
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No but I also shouldn’t meed to explicitly state that because it’s mean and because I’m assuming most people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:19 PM
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Look for sales in the future you can usually get it 50% off
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:58 PM
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Garlic and mint broccoli hmmm interesting, is it good? I’ve got all necessary ingredients for that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:56 PM
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Rich husband
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:53 PM
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Laser
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:53 PM
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Because it’s not a question that I’d ask, I’ve never dated guys who’ve had issues with getting women for relationships, or hookups so they wouldn’t need to pay for it so it would be a pretty pointless question that would say more about me than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:16 PM
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People who going to judge already judge. High is also subjective, some guys think anything above 3 is high some use extremes and say 100+ is high.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:14 PM
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Probably since most regular people aren’t going to escorts since they wouldn’t need to. I would also assume that if someone needed one that they would have a deficiency somewhere in their personality for whatever reason and even if they don’t figure out they used an escort the deficiency could lead to demise of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 11:46 PM
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You don’t need to hide things you Also don’t need to volunteer every bit of Information there is 0 point in it. The only relevant thing would be partners experiences, and in that context you don’t need to know if the activity in question - breast sex- was with an escort or not or it might even be relevant to talk about having had hookups Or one night stands which I would consider the escort. You don’t need to hide you Just also don’t need to be overly explicit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 11:45 PM
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I have never asked a past partner if he’s seen an escort and I don’t know anyone who has.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 11:42 PM
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Just don’t tell them. There is no way they would find out. And it’s not a question people ask “have you gone to escorts” like that is a weird question unless contextually you say something that implies you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:40 PM
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I stayed home for about 6 months after first kid. It was great loved that bonding time. We are trying for number 2 now and probably will only get to stay home for 4 months since we getting a home loan and then maybe go back part time for a bit and that’s fine too since I like my job. Before kids we would just take turns paying for things, groceries, etc or would send 1 person our half. After kids he paid a lot more bills and I helped where I could. Now we’ve got our individual accounts but all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:52 PM
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Easier to filter for looks + income / job/ industry
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:51 AM
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Looks are immaterial to this. My husband is conventionally very attractive. He treats me with respect, love empathy and kindness. I don’t think attractiveness directly impacts how someone treats you. It can indirectly impact personality such as having a chip Ok shoulder for unattractive people or cause cockiness in attractive people but it’s not for sure in either of those situations and both are tired stereotypes. Attractiveness has 0 impact of sex skills which is what I think you mean by impac…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:51 AM
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Nah that’s just booty call material no relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:19 PM
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We don’t live in wild nature we live in a capitalist concrete jungle and many preferences we have stem from that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:23 PM
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Week 1 of trying to get pregnant done, I know I wasn’t ovulating this week but we sure did enjoy this past week
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:08 AM
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Sexual attraction based on looks is not intrinsic it’s just as extrinsic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:38 AM
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While it can be hard to escape poverty there are choices people can make to improve their situation. Working full time for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:10 PM
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You the first one I’ve heard with that experience but fingers crossed now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:34 AM
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Great! We worry that because she’s so easy our next will be a handful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:24 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:24 AM
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Yeah exactly and now it’s like oh shit lol We were so careful these past three years since our first so now it’s just weird haha but glad we get to plan at least one Ill be done after 2
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:23 AM
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Many do. They get told to Stop using buzzwords.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:53 AM
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We are going to start trying for baby #2. First was an accident so having sex with the intention of pregnancy feels different lol but scary but exciting as well. Hits different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:42 AM
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The focus on your career thing women do is not to attract a man, it’s to be able to support ourself in spite of a man- we all know shit can hit the fan and if it comes to it the 33 year old accountant going to be in a way better position than the 23 year old secretary if a relationship breaks down and they suddenly needing to pay for a rent or mortgage themselves, or if they took time off work to support kids the accountant will also be in a better position
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:42 PM
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I would be weirded out if my husband asked me to share location just to have it. Just like I wouldn’t ask him. No one wants to feel like they are under surveillance what a great way to make the relationship toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:04 PM
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It’s not. Have an ok attitude about it though, be happy to learn and for sure don’t sulk after sex if you weren’t some sex god or if she does most the work to get herself there such as instruct you; use a vibrator, or ask for her needs .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:47 PM
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Agree. Will say I was with someone who felt inadequate and sulked after sex because I needed to help him help get me off and that turned me right off him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:11 PM
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For Xmas I found my new fave way to have broccoli- https://www.wellplated.com/grilled-broccoli/ Your welcome. Seriously. It’s amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 10:25 PM
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Sometimes it’s not about the guy but about if you want sex or not. It’s like if you went to a restaurant that happened to serve waffles and you love waffles but you normally don’t eat them because you usually want savoury instead. One day you are at a restaurant and even though you normally have savoury, you decide that today you will Have waffles. The next time you go out to a restaurant you have savoury again and that’s fine it doesn’t mean you loved waffles more than the savoury food and it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:24 PM
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This falls apart because the child is having harm if didn’t choose when its parents don’t want it/ support it. One parent isn’t enough for our mental well being. The whole idea of child support is for the benefit of the child and to reduce risk and harm there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 02:00 AM
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2008 was a long time ago surely you could have put it together by now
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:05 PM
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No other answer is acceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:08 PM
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Nah mate male teachers especially secondary teachers are cool as hell- we need more and it’s attractive on a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:11 PM
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You saying it is common sense doesn’t make it so. It’s anecdotal and an opinion - bad faith if you can’t recognise that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:30 PM
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Your original statement that I replied to (that dating people who’ve grown from unhealthy relationships is risky) was a blanket statement with no evidence so idk why you calling that out. This whole thread is anecdotal experiences and opinions. I’ve been in that where guy just wants sex situation and wouldn’t call it a relationship. If it’s lasting less than 3 months it’s not really a relationship more of a situationship or a fling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 06:38 PM
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Most relationships start healthy. Most will end when they are no longer healthy and no longer treated well. It’s not any more risky being with someone who was treated poorly. What’s risky is being with someone who doesn’t self reflect and learn how and why they ended up in shit situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 06:26 PM
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Yes income matters. It Depends (don’t mind spending little on dates but if you a cheapskate such as splitting everything never able to just take turns / treat each other or never willing to do a nice date occasionally then yeah it’s a problem) Yes being financially secure is important - no you don’t need to own a house in the beginning but you should be able to feasibly grow financially together and have a stable comfortable life at the level one desires. Yes future prospects matter. See above.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:31 AM
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Average is 5. 4 is smaller but it’s not a micro penis and again it’s men who care more than women. Micro penises are unfortunate but also rare. Also when people think of micropenis they aren’t imagining nearly 4 inches they imagining 2-3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:40 PM
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Just finish wheel of time about 2 months ago, and I’m re- reading. So much I missed in the first time around. It’s so long that it doesn’t feel repetitive. So many unanswered questions about the world and what happens after that will sadly never be answered - but I’m not ready to let go of it yet haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:17 PM
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Men with 4-5 inches do fine. It’s men who create problems in their heads about it. Women aren’t ending relationships with perfect guys over a 4-5 inch dick.this is porn brain talking. I get why men are insecure about it, especially with small dick jokes but 1. Most small dick jokes don’t specify a size any guy of any size could think It applies to him and 2. When you insult someone you Are generally kicking them where it hurts even if it’s not true this is true of Both men and women. I wish the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:50 AM
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Casual sex wouldn’t be these guys strong Points. Getting into long term relationships build on friendship, compatibility, respect and trust and women will be ok With a lot more than guys here seem to think. Building up a relationship foundation before becoming sexual would help these guys. Takes longer for sure, but most of Us want long term relationships anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:43 AM
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4 inches is the small Side of average. 6 is top end of average. You thinking women en mass (size queens obviously don’t count but they are usually self proclaimed anyway) Would t be satisfied with 4 is porn brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:40 AM
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Those guys should honestly embrace vibrators they can be fun for both + make the guys natural size feel amazing for the woman anyway (otherwise women wouldn’t like fingers and vibrators) without something like a cock sleeve which image could be emasculating if it was asked for regularly. I feel for guys with micro penises, I never met a guy who had one though. Had a few small side of average guys though and it was fine, if there was a problem was in their heads not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:31 AM
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So if it’s role reversal the same is a cock sleeve. You haven’t clarified if you are drawing similarities to that or if you are saying vibrators are offensive. Unfortunately for guys with small penises (and I mean actually small I don’t mean average 4-5 inches) they will likely not have penetration be the part they excel at but the good news is that women generally do Prefer clitoral stimulation so Even penetration with a small penis and vibrator can still Feel great. Plus if they become the bes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:16 AM
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There’s a big difference between using toys (usually a vibrator) and being asked to wear a cock sleeve which is the equivalent of this role reversal exercise. If you being asked to wear a cock sleeve in every relationship then yeah I can imagine it sucks being told your penis is small. Best thing to do though is just own it. If someone asking for vibrators it’s usually to be used with penetration and makes the penetration feel much better. If you insecure about this then that sucks for both you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:55 AM
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Hey I was someone who only swiped on a select few profiles. It could have been any number of things that made me reject a profile, only bad photos, photos that showed hobbies I found unappealing, no friend photos, dirty clothes/room, unaligned politics, smoking, kids, no bio etc. looks did matter as well but I swiped yes on plenty of average looking guys as well who didn’t have any of the above turn offs. I did find though that 9/10 guys I swiped yes on I would match with so I did end up filteri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 10:18 PM
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Assuming men won’t find a partner is silly. Statistics show that men do partner. Every generation has had their own struggles and hardships men today have it good compared to men in the past in many metrics. What men are really unhappy about is that women get a choice to find someone who makes them happy. Countries like Japan and SK have completely different values around work ethic and gender so comparing to them isn’t good. I think the world has too many people to sustain the way we run our ec…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 09:00 PM
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The statistics actually show most men end up partnered. Of course there have been a shift in standards, this is a good thing. It’s made it harder to find compatible partners but that’s not a bad thing unless you aren’t social. In the past relationships were not happy. Staying together is not the most important measure of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:54 PM
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You under estimate the amount of women available to average men. They just aren’t the women most guys think of when they imagine a gf or wife. Hint: they are usually completely average themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:34 PM
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They could fight for custody and not have to pay if it’s 50:50
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:37 PM
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It is a skill issue- level up to get the type of woman you want or be happy with a similar woman to your current station
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:31 PM
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Half the town would be like 50+ So normal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:00 PM
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I don’t have skin in the game anymore (married and don’t want to ever date or have a new relationship again) But before I met my husband yes I wanted a different outcome. I did things different. Dated more intentionally. Prioritised different things (good communication skills, good income, kindness, presence). Still needed attraction of course. Men here get upset when women change strategy though and focus on things like job, they call that beta bux. They don’t think women (or people) can grow i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:54 PM
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Exactly this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:47 PM
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Yep. So glad moved away from USA to Australia where we get free healthcare in situations like that. I wonder if op had a conversation where he offered to Pay his parents back if they did do the surgery. A lot of people can’t afford elective surgery there and if he could walk without the surgery and wasn’t life threatening it would Likely have been classified as elective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:48 AM
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I didn’t reply to a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:10 AM
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Bear really triggered you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 06:50 PM
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Reported for this pos comment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:55 PM
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Vasectomies are not typically irreversible. So your comment was irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:26 AM
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It’s not carefree with women when we have the burden of birth control and how it will impact our body, the burden of abortions pregnancy or birth. No matter what we choose/what happens, our body is the one at risk with every decision or choice we make.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:58 PM
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Abortions can kill you though or leave you infertile. Even the medical abortion. Men always downplay the risks women face with both birth control and abortions and then with pregnancy and birth too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:57 PM
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I don’t want anything personally, I’m lucky my husband doesn’t have the same attitude towards women and children as you, though if he did he wouldn’t be my husband. You’ve not laid one good argument why men shouldn’t pay for their children. Children are expensive. They require far more financial contribution than a child support payment (which is why most primary caregivers work and provide as well). Continue being bitter, see how it works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:04 PM
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Why you sound so bitter? Both parents are responsible for paying for their kid end of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:47 AM
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What makes you think it doesn’t lol Most single parents are paying far more than the child support parent barring extreme cases like celebrities
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:56 PM
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What makes you think it doesn’t lol Most single parents are paying far more than the child support parent barring extreme cases like celebrities
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:56 PM
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What makes you think it doesn’t lol Most single parents are paying far more than the child support parent barring extreme cases like celebrities
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:56 PM
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Usually has to be past viability for that to happen. Abortion is also not generally allowed past viability barring extreme circumstances that endanger the mother or if the child is going to die at birth
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:06 AM
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If you think children should not have access to funding for extracurriculars we end up with more with socially stunted individuals. Parents who are together try they damn hardest to give their children opportunities and so do single parents. I still reject your premise here. Also it’s generally the kids who choose their extracurriculars.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 12:31 AM
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I would disagree on the point that support goes down as kid gets older as a parent as teenagers are far more expensive than babies and toddlers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:27 PM
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No woman would have that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:03 PM
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Because if it’s just on the way home it’s just uncomfortable being approached by a stranger like that. Most attractive women have had so many guys do it (cold approach at times where we aren’t open to it) and it just gets your back up even if the guy is attractive. Asking for your number with 0 interaction can just feel aggressive in that situation. If you on the way home you likely don’t feel like stopping to talk, and without some kind of proper conversation it’s just uncomfortable as I said. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:02 PM
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If we were at an event together like say a concert or party would be more likely to say yes but would just hang out there for a bit see if we vibed. If it was random on the way home I would likely say no because it’s just uncomfortable being hit on like that and no additional pestering would change my mind. The only way to turn that situation into a yes is if we ran into each other again some other time and actually had an organic meeting that led to talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:43 PM
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lol u/forward-limit6809 blocking me to get the last word. Is blocking allowed these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:20 AM
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Too bad the factory doesn’t make us the way you want huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:35 AM
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Lmao someone sounds bitter. Who hurt you sweetheart, do you need a hug?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:14 AM
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Lmao you the one tried to make it deep, I made it into a joke since his fruit was “rotting”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:08 AM
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You could ferment into wine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:59 PM
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Likely true but I’m Also sure there are opportunist serial killers. Either way though that wasn’t the point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:49 AM
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No. Most will eventually leave though if it’s untreated and he becomes shitty because of it. Happens a lot. I used to work with men who had ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:18 PM
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This. Me and my partner talked about it and what we would do if one of us died. We think we would mourn and would wait till our child is an adult to date seriously again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:13 PM
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Honestly sounds like your masculinity is pretty fragile then if it needs that type of validation. The irony.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:05 PM
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I had to chuckle at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:04 PM
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Sink or swim. Do better for the next generation. To swim you need to get uncomfortable and learn and practice new skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:33 PM
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Socially off. Quite often abusers and even extreme cases of serial killers are highly sociable and great at masking. Socially off people who can’t mask unsurprisingly don’t do well socially, and dating is a highly social activity especially in the early phases.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:31 PM
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I’m in Australia and thankfully we’ve banned mobile phones in school. It’s a country wide Policy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:50 AM
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Not op, but Regardless, there are massive behaviour issues in schools today and teachers are largely powerless to prevent or actually deal with it in a way that doesn’t waste the misbehaving student and all the other kids in class time. The whole school system needs a genuine overhaul but the problem is society doesn’t want that since school is also a way parents get a break, or can work and jobs won’t like hiring parents who need shorter working days (Finland based model of shorter hours) or wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:36 PM
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I think for situational depression yes but for chronic depression no it’s pretty debilitating and has stigma as well especially when there is “no reason” for it beyond the way the brain is wired
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:51 PM
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As someone with both a partner with chronic treatment resistant depression and a sister with somewhat treatment managed depression i can assure you it’s not an easy fix and certainly not highly treatable to a significant degree for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:31 PM
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No I know exactly what kind of man I married and if I’m having those kinds of doubts there are issues that warrant a conversation and rethink of the relationship. If you make someone ‘prove’ something to you (including going through phones) it’s already toxic and a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah but I don’t think guys need to stop shooting their shot they just need to be respectful during rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:07 AM
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I mean I think it’s fine provided they take a no gracefully and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:53 AM
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Uh the hospital would not hold the baby for a lack of paternity signature lmao. It goes with the mum.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:22 AM
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Do you realise how many babies are born each day at each hospital? There are more serious male issues that impact more than 3-10% of men Also men have the choice for tests already. Women who are raped don’t have a say in if they are raped or not. And rape kits are untested for years and convictions are low. So not the gotcha you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:06 AM
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It’s hugely taxing you don’t remember when everyone needed pcr tests to do anything during covid? 2-3 day waits for results, lack of laboratory staff and equipment to process the tests quicker. I would rather not paternity tests take up resources or time for people with medical issues. Tests are already available for the few people who feel they need one. This ensures they are available but not taking up resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:53 PM
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The clogging of hospital resources for this is more serious than the financial burden. Also why would people wanna pay for it when paternity fraud happens so rarely. Or in countries like Australia where we pay nothing to have babies in public hospitals why should tax payers pick up that bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:55 PM
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Except the cost; the waste of hospital resources and time; and the amount spent of false results that would happen from wide scale testing costing more money and time for confirming or disputing results
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:57 AM
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I don’t think so I think that’s wishful thinking tbh. Looks also aren’t mentioned because looks can vary which makes it hard to pinpoint exactly who you might become attracted to. Ad I’ve s set of before you don’t need to be the hottest just not a hard no and then personality can make someone more physically attractive so guys who were average or plain looking can become good looking. The caveat there is the not being a hard no and letting responsive desire have a bit of time to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 07:35 PM
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Because a lot of people have shit personalities and a lot of those people think their looks are enough, and men after portray that for women anyway looks are enough, so maybe women subconsciously are like countering that but stating that to them Personality is important but still assume that men already know physical attraction is needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 11:28 AM
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Because it just seems common sense that attraction is needed. No one talks about potential partners with an assumption that being seen as ugly is ok as long as you have everything else (unless it’s money and gold diggers of course)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 10:23 AM
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I agree if you attractive you generally expect a similarly attractive partner. Average people do go for average people the problem then becomes the average men get upset they aren’t getting attractive women or that they don’t get the “exact same treatment” they think their partner gave more attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 08:21 AM
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Some women are sure, it’s guys who Don’t seem to care many guys only care about those parts. It’s not women’s fault men aren’t more selective about wanting a whole Package. Also expecting a good personality and an attractive person really isn’t asking For that much. There are lots of other nice to haves that aren’t included in that such as good job, high income, height.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 07:52 AM
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Andrew Tate went to a second world country that has questionable laws and a lot of poverty. Is it any surprise he can find poor women to sleep with? Is it a shock that even in first world countries there are gold diggers? Andrew Tate isn’t getting women for his looks or his personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:44 AM
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What if the cake was smashed up or a really bright unconventional colour with terrible decorations. Think cake fails. Might taste great but not acceptable to be given that from a baker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:29 AM
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Not true and too simplistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:21 AM
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We haven’t been alive in a time where physical attraction hasn’t mattered
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:20 AM
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Men are more visual to me has just always meant that to them you can literally just be pretty. And for a large portion of them it’s true. No care about anything but looks in a woman. Not all men of course. But a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:32 AM
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Because to many women it is the entire package we don’t really see men as a collection of parts like some men see women (tits and ass / butterface) so women genuinely mean it when they say personality is what’s attractive for them they just also want the attractive personality on an attractive guy meaning a nice looking face
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:29 AM
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It’s a given that you want to be attracted to your partner. Attraction can grow but it obviously takes longer and you can’t have been a hard no in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 02:15 AM
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Again as I said before there is no actual set “high” unless you go extreme. Most regular people don’t actually care if it’s not extreme. What’s more important are values and how/when you slept with people. Were you cheating on people? Or were you single and having fun? Huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:29 PM
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Lots of men do. You don’t speak for all men and there also isn’t a set agreement of what a high n count is unless you go to the extreme but the amount of people who would get even close to extreme numbers are a tiny minority as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:35 PM
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Most mums aren’t of models it’s a very small percentage who are. For the majority of mums kids will outgrow and not use the same sm sites anyway. How many kids these days would have seen their parents old MySpace pages? Not many. Fb is next.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 08:09 PM
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Why tf you talking about your wife’s sexual history with your kids anyway? Weird dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 07:40 PM
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Incredibly so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:08 AM
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Hooked up with hot guys, married the hottest guy I’ve ever been with though. He is the best in every objective and subjective measurement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:27 AM
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Thanks babe, this is exactly why I go for brains these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:10 PM
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That’s not a gold digger- it’s materialistic but not gold digging
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:14 AM
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🤮🤕🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:26 PM
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Have you ever thought about why it’s a turn off to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:34 AM
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They weren’t high value let’s not exaggerate. They were average dudes and she was an average woman. Nothing wrong with that but you can’t seriously call a single dad high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:35 PM
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Even if this guy will still date younger the point of saying it especially to the young woman when she’s complaining about his shit is so she can realise it’s not her it’s him and she can hopefully get enough self confidence/ respect to leave if his issues are serious enough to do so over
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:27 PM
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Women absolutely think this. If men have ED women think he’s not attracted not in love or he’s cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 06:26 PM
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Well then again why do you need child support, do you not share finances, or does he not send you money when/if needed and vice versa?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:30 PM
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Is he your husband? If so why do you need child support
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:12 PM
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Mandatory is a lot of tax payer money for close to no reward. 2% is nothing in the scheme of things
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:06 PM
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Depends on what you mean by “treats me like I’m hot” You should feel attractive to the person but I don’t know what kind of treatment you are wanting?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 09:40 PM
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That’s not what the question was. Do you wish you were a girl? Not do you wish you were born a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 10:37 AM
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Yeah I think it’s normal for a person who is happy with themselves and their life to enjoy the aspects of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:39 AM
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No I love being a woman. I love dressing up and looking pretty. I think very few men would want to be a woman as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:28 PM
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Ah yeah fair enough. Unfortunately she was correct you should absolutely feel like the person you dating is enthusiastic about you and puts an effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:03 PM
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Therapists are just as important as psychiatrist. The former can focus on coping techniques, identifying triggers etc and the latter is specialised in diagnosing and thus medications - they push meds more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:41 PM
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Incorrect. My husband deals with depression, if he didn’t go to therapy, or actively try to get better I wouldn’t have married him. I don’t mind that he has depression and that there are days he can’t be as present or “on” as I would like, but if he sat there, wallowed, had no job (and wasn’t trying to find one), didn’t care about taking care of his fitness and nutrition, I likely wouldn’t have stayed through the dating stage. It’s ok to not be ok. It’s not ok to accept it or let it get worse an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:29 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:24 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:21 PM
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A 20 week abortion is vastly different to a 6 week
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:34 PM
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Even if it was legal and available everywhere it can still be dangerous and some women Don’t morally agree with it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:31 PM
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Some women do and go on to have the abortion. Some don’t believe in abortion. Some couldn’t morally go through with it themselves even if they support other women having them. You should probably know what the person you have sex with would want
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:28 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:09 PM
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Not trying to hang out with him certainly not just me and him or messaging him for plans. More acquaintances than friends since we used to know each other well but no longer do. We might be at the same place since again he’s my best friends brother but I live in a different country so those times are literally every couple of years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:23 AM
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If an old flame is burning there is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:08 PM
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Sure, would be strange to do that for a situation that pops up a couple of days once every couple of years though right? Thankfully my husband hasn’t expressed discomfort with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:08 PM
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Depends. For example I live overseas but visit home and will obviously bring husband. My childhood best friend who I’m still close with is a big reason I visit. Her brother (who is now married too) lives next door to her. We slept together a few times despite only having platonic relationship. Lost virginity to him too. Can’t exactly not be around him at times when I am there though it’s not like I’m making plans with him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:49 PM
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Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean women’s sexuality is wrong it is just different. For most women (even those who have had a hook-up or tried casual sex) it’s usually unsatisfying when it’s just sex. Men aren’t caring about female pleasure and female orgasms. I used to hook-up and I only came across one guy who I have great sex with. The other great sex I’ve had in my life has come from relationships. Women don’t just crave “sex” we might crave “orgasms” or pleasure but sex and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:59 PM
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What men don’t seem to get is women can think men are hot without wanting to have sex with them instantly or even ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:43 PM
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You can appreciate and find them hot but still doesn’t mean you would want to have sex with them. Fantasise about them maybe since in your fantasy you can make them all good guys but you don’t want to actually have sex with them just because they are hot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:39 PM
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Because of the different sexual experiences, women being penetrated is way more vulnerable than man’s penetration; thus many women don’t feel sexual unless they feel comfortable to be vulnerable and personality plays a big role in that. Not all women of course but many
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:38 PM
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It’s ppd it’s one outrageous hypothetical after another. Your response is unhinged regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:45 PM
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Why are you always vaguely threatening rape
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:41 PM
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I posted a couple days ago about an average looking guy I find hot and no guys here seemed to appreciate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:26 PM
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