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3

The fuck are you talking about? I didnt say you should never approach anyone, I said that you will never know if a girl is going to feel uncomfortable when you do. I was just pointing out that op's post is false, not suggesting that you arent allowed to approach women to protect them from ever feeling uncomfortable. Take your anger elsewhere because you're severely misconstruing the point of my post.
/r/seduction07/11/16 04:25 PM
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I think that is fair -- there are some women who are going to be bothered and that might not have anything to do with you. Even the smoothest guy in the world could make certain women very uncomfortable. I think it is much more important to acknowledge that setting is a huge factor in how women respond. Blanket statements like "women arent bothered by you hitting on them so go for it!" Isnt all that productive when women all respond so differently depending on various factors. And that should be…
/r/seduction06/11/16 03:49 PM
17

Hate to break it to you, but you don't actually know how women feel being hit on regardless of what all of your "experience" has taught you. There are plenty of women who find it very, very uncomfortable to talk to a stranger at all, so you cannot disregard the fact that no - you very well may be bothering some people by hitting on them. Sure, it's good to have enough confidence to approach a stranger, and knowing not to press people is incredibly important, but you can't ever guarantee your act…
/r/seduction05/11/16 05:50 PM
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Nearly 20% of women have been raped or been in situations where rape was attempted. If you look at women raped by strangers the number is A LOT lower, so I agree that generally women don't have to worry about that. But the situation this commenter explains is actually a much more likely scenario for rape. Not to say women should be afraid of every man all the time, but it is common enough to be wary.
/r/seduction03/09/16 05:06 PM
1

I'm a woman and don't use dating apps so I have no interest in discussing this topic, I just find it ridiculous to say looks aren't the most important thing for (especially) that app in particular.
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:47 PM
2

How can you say that looks aren't important when they are absolutely the number 1 most important thing on tinder (by miles). I get wanting to give people hope, but cmon.
/r/seduction18/08/16 12:10 PM
5

She'd have to be drunk AND be really attracted to you or else no fucking way.
/r/seduction07/07/16 03:40 PM
8

Don't use the line about holding your cock. That'd likely evoke an extremely negative reaction from a woman.
/r/seduction06/07/16 11:45 PM
2

If you have no feelings at all, cut it off. Feelings get very messy, very quick, and it's best to spare you both some pain.
/r/seduction25/02/16 02:17 AM
4

That's not a very accurate way to judge age. There are plenty of immature and uncool people of all ages.
/r/seduction31/01/16 02:14 AM
7

Jesus Christ dude If a girl says she has a boyfriend, leave it the fuck alone. It's not a shit test, she doesn't want to play this cat and mouse nonsense. she doesn't want you to waste her time, and you should have enough goddamn respect to respect her wishes.
/r/seduction11/01/16 02:17 PM
17

Well when I drink my standards get lower. If I'm at a party, I might be drunk, which means I might be bored and kind of horny and you might just be right in the moment. The next day you might not meet my sober standards, or you might just have been attractive enough for me to mess around with, but not interesting enough for me to talk to ever again. There's no way to know, but I'll tell you this, this is very, very common.
/r/seduction09/01/16 05:38 AM
3

If she doesn't want you touching her waist she sure as shit won't want to hold your hand
/r/seduction18/12/15 06:54 AM
9

Not all women adhere to traditional gender roles. Plenty of women do, but that does not mean this is a lost cause,
/r/seduction03/08/15 12:57 AM
2

Maybe. I personally don't want to have sex with anyone my friends have had sex with though.
/r/seduction31/07/15 01:00 AM
1

didn't even notice. This subreddit can be kinda hiveminded so I've been down voted before because I've commented a dissenting opinion. It happens, but thanks. :P
/r/seduction27/07/15 10:30 PM
14

Really depends. I've looked at guys multiple times that I wasn't attracted to. Especially if we made eye contact, i will often make more just because it's a habit i have. I don't think there is any good way to know what is going through every girl's mind when she looks at you.
/r/seduction27/07/15 01:05 AM
1

That is not even close to flirty. Calling a girl jealous is a great way to piss her off.
/r/seduction27/07/15 12:19 AM
0

I think dating should be a mutual thing, but a first date is different. You don't think that and that's fine, but I like to be treated on the first date. Again, it's a nice thing to do. And I want to date someone who is generous enough to be okay with paying for one goddamn meal. I have issues with people who flake because they're cheap, so I am very appreciative of people who aren't.
/r/seduction26/07/15 04:32 PM
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If you're going on that many first dates you shouldn't be doing dinner. Coffee is cheaper and easier and I'd still want the guy to pay. And sure dating should be a mutual thing. But much of a first date is not mutual. if she refuses to pay for date 2 or 3 there's a problem.
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:11 AM
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I'll chime in and say that as a woman I'm put off by a guy who won't even treat me to one meal. It can come off as cheap, or even worse, selfish. That isn't to say that's true, but when a guy pays for the first date it sets a precedence of generosity. If a girl wanted you to pay for every meal, that'd be a red flag. But if you won't even pay for a first date you might run into some issues. A lot of girls don't like it.
/r/seduction25/07/15 11:20 PM
2

I'd think it was odd and tacky. But I have a collection of spoons so who am I to judge.
/r/seduction25/07/15 08:56 PM
2

Yep. I occasionally deal with acute anxiety, but I've never had any social anxiety whatsoever. This post is some buuuuullllllllshit.
/r/seduction03/07/15 10:26 PM
1

You are so wrong it's sad.
/r/seduction20/06/15 08:37 PM
2

Really depends. Im a woman and clothing plays a pretty big part of attraction for me. For other girls, not so much. I think having good style is worth the effort, and really will only make you more attractive.
/r/seduction08/05/15 06:16 PM
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While this could be the case, I don't think it usually is. If you have women friends, you're a more attractive mate because you seem to have been vetted. Women will often trust each other's judgments, so when a girl sees you have female friends, she trusts that they have selected you as a friend because you posses attractive qualities. They assume the best about you.
/r/seduction05/05/15 06:07 PM
106

Somebody put cocaine in their Cheerios this morning...
/r/seduction28/02/15 10:24 PM
1

Depends. If you're very emotionally intuitive, you may be correct most of the time. If you have no emotional intelligence you probably aren't right. Might as well try either way.
/r/seduction28/02/15 10:11 PM
9

It's either a shit test or a fact sorry man, that's not true. most girls either have a boyfriend, or need a way to cleanly reject someone without hurting their feelings. it's not a shit test.
/r/seduction06/02/15 09:15 PM
5

Just tell her your damn age. You should never be ashamed of it. If she has a problem with it, move on.
/r/seduction06/02/15 08:17 PM
3

Absolutely. "You're not really my type" is so much better than saying someone is too fat.
/r/seduction02/02/15 04:21 PM
4

I agree, but I actually have been asked the reason I wasn't interested.
/r/seduction02/02/15 03:45 PM
11

Unless she actually asked you the reason you weren't interested, saying you didn't like her size is unbelievably rude.
/r/seduction02/02/15 03:20 PM
9

"I hate being touched" is not a shit test, it's a cue for you to stop making the poor woman so uncomfortable she has to tell you this.
/r/seduction11/01/15 03:04 AM
4

I don't think there is a smooth way to insult someone like that. So no. Don't do that.
/r/seduction08/01/15 06:29 AM
25

Don't. Don't grab a girl's ass unless you're dating, or already making out. Doing it inappropriately (which is 97% of the cases) is a good way to either make a LOT of girls hate you, or get punched in the face, or both. DONT FUCKING DO IT.
/r/seduction26/07/14 09:22 AM
5

Usually i don't care to read FR's, but this one... this one is great.
/r/seduction24/07/14 07:04 PM
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As soon as he gives her the ticket, ask for the money. "Do you mind paying for your ticket?" But honestly, i don't feel like OP lost anything in this situation either way, so at least he got her to pay.
/r/seduction04/06/14 06:21 PM
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Fair enough. That's an excellent reason to hold off. regardless of timing, though, you didn't let her use you. good on you, because that isn't always easy.
/r/seduction04/06/14 06:02 PM
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You asked for a female opinion, so here it is. It's one thing not to pay. That's fine, don't buy her ticket or her snacks or whatever. But asking her AFTER THE DATE IS OVER to cough up cash for tickets you bought hours earlier because you didn't have enough fun to warrant the expenditure is the wrong way to go about this. Just accept it as a loss, or ask her to pay at the beginning. If you didn't want to go to the movies then you should've said no. Or let her buy her own ticket. It's not always …
/r/seduction04/06/14 05:26 PM
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You met ONE week ago. Maybe she's busy because she has a busy week planned. Or maybe she doesn't want to hang out with you. It hasn't been long enough to really tell, but i'd tell her to let you know when SHE is free, that way you don't have to waste time trying to work around her schedule. If she wants to see you, she'll make time. Otherwise, she's not worth it.
/r/seduction01/06/14 06:17 PM
7

The books make girls wet because of the imagery. Unless you want to learn specifics on how to have phone sex/sext, i don't think it'd help you much. Not really worth reading the books unless you actually want to read them.
/r/seduction26/05/14 04:32 PM
1

1) Eye contact. 2) Listen. Try to actually learn something about your date. 3) Have fun. Dating should be fun and nothing to get nervous about/take too seriously.
/r/seduction14/05/14 05:36 PM
1

Or, even better, just go to a regular cafe that already has alcohol instead of a Starbucks. Originality can get you pretty far in the dating game.
/r/seduction21/03/14 12:20 PM
39

Sorry, but this is absolute bullshit. Might as well read their horoscope while you're at it.
/r/seduction10/02/14 05:21 PM
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Woman checking in -- men should note this isn't NOT TRUE FOR EVERY WOMAN. One of the biggest problems i see with the content of this subreddit is it assumes woman are mass-produced in a factory and thus all want the same things and work the same way. I actually desire men, not just "desire to be desired." In fact, compliments do nothing for me. They have even turned me off from guys. That's not to say they aren't effective in many situations, but this notion that all you have to do is tell a wom…
/r/seduction18/01/14 03:41 AM
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Maybe you shouldn't tell her she's young, and she won't tell you you're old as a response. Common fucking sense. That was not a shit test, just an appropriate response to your comment. Also, i'd recommend straying from negging techniques. Will earn you no respect, and often just make you look like a tool.
/r/seduction08/01/14 11:44 PM
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I'm going to answer your question by proposing a completely different approach. I think it's very important to know what you want, and go after it, but you should never have to chase a woman. I don't differentiate between being persistent and a chase. I think that many women who want to be chased are attention-seekers, and aren't worth the effort. You should be looking for girls who also know what they want. If a girl keeps rescheduling a date because she's just always "busy", she clearly doesn'…
/r/seduction01/01/14 03:54 PM
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So do you want to answer OP's question, or keep talking about yourself? You really do have delusional confidence.
/r/seduction01/01/14 03:47 PM
1

I think a big part of being confident is not giving a fuck. Everyone has flaws and issues just like you, so nobody is ever above you. Best way to gain confidence outside of having the right mentality is being the man you want to be. Make yourself valuable and the confidence will come with it. Be adventurous, make great stories, read often, and be someone that women want to talk to and be around. But most importantly, start talking to women. You need to learn to deal with rejection, and at the sa…
/r/seduction25/12/13 02:59 AM
3

i've never seen a woman glove in my life, so i wouldn't say that at all.
/r/seduction23/12/13 05:05 AM
2

Honestly, if girls are going to laugh at you for something like gloving, you don't need to be trying to impress them anyway. Bitches will be bitches. But, as a "rave girl" i LOVE watching people glove/spin poi/hoop/etc. It's all exciting so i think it's a skill worth learning if you want to be impressive at raves.
/r/seduction23/12/13 03:16 AM
6

Stop trying to pursue someone with a boyfriend. It's in everyone's best interest for you to walk away.
/r/seduction07/12/13 09:20 PM
33

I've always liked this outlook. People tend to overthink a lot of decisions, when things could be made so much easier by asking yourself "why not?"
/r/seduction07/12/13 09:18 PM
1

I wouldn't go for a lengthy conversation. If i'm at the gym to work-out, i'm going to want to get back to it relatively soon so i'll probably only want to chat for a few minutes. If you're stretching you can do some small talk, but otherwise get to the point and lay the groundwork for a future interaction. (whenever you want that to be.) Also, even if you only have modest confidence, express that you have a great deal of confidence. But that's pretty basic. Also, don't approach anyone wearing he…
/r/seduction07/12/13 04:25 AM
1

unfortunately i don't enjoy responding to long posts as much as you enjoy writing them, so i will just say that most of this is at least somewhat decent advice. but "it only matters what i want" is the most ridiculous way think about approaches. Maybe you f-close, maybe she even falls for you because you're an asshole and some women really do like that, but anyone worth pursuing is going to recognize your hubris and downgrade you. Even if i sleep with you, i won't have as much respect for you. s…
/r/seduction07/12/13 04:12 AM
1

You certainly can approach a girl directly, yes. If you're going to do this though, Approach when she's walking around, instead of using a machine. If you're going for the "accidental" run-in, you do need a purpose so it doesn't look planned (even though it is.)
/r/seduction06/12/13 04:51 PM
1

Good advice, thanks! And of course the general attractiveness rule comes into play, but i don't mind talking to people while i'm at rest. The easiest time to talk to me is when i'm stretching, so if you can nonchalantly make your way to the stretching area, that's a good go-to. I don't want to be interrupted, and i don't want to be kept from anything, so stretching next to me is a good time. But make sure it's know you aren't next to her JUST to talk to her. have a purpose.
/r/seduction06/12/13 04:39 PM
2

Make it known that you aren't there JUST to talk to her. Be productive, and then talk to her. Don't be the guy that follows her around because he wants to talk to her. You can move to be next to a girl, but you need to have a purpose for being wherever you are. I hope that clears it up a little.
/r/seduction06/12/13 03:55 AM
1

Eh, i understand what you mean. Some people are really into their work-out while at the gym. And yeah... i'd hope you would search for "bigger qualities." Just because it's one of the qualities i DO look for, doesn't mean it's the only, or the most important. It's just really easy to tell that someone goes to the gym if you meet them in the gym. Just like meeting someone in a book store would tell you they like to read. (another quality i look for.)
/r/seduction05/12/13 10:46 PM
3

You're doing the right thing in cutting them off. If these girls actually wanted to see you, they would. So they're either playing games, or have no interest. Either way, you are FAR better off ending things. I, personally, wouldn't "cut off" as you do, but would just stop texting altogether. To me, saying "fine... i just won't talk to you anymore" comes off as whiny. Still, either way, you're doing the right thing.
/r/seduction05/12/13 10:30 PM
1

very clever. might have to do this.
/r/seduction05/12/13 10:11 PM
3

sadly, you're correct. hence the question. but if i meet someone at the gym i know that we have at least one thing in common. plus, as terrible as it sounds, i don't really want to date someone who doesn't work out; meeting a guy at the gym verifies he does.
/r/seduction05/12/13 06:36 PM
1

it isn't a direct way of hitting on someone, but it could be a transition.
/r/seduction05/12/13 06:29 PM
1

ahhh. i see. i don't usually carry a pen and paper/card with me when i'm at the gym. but otherwise, not a bad strategy.
/r/seduction05/12/13 06:25 PM
3

I never see anyone lingering in these areas, though. It seems most people, myself included, walk straight through these areas. :/
/r/seduction05/12/13 06:24 PM
1

Would be awkward, still might work.
/r/seduction05/12/13 04:51 PM
1

Fair enough. Thanks!
/r/seduction05/12/13 04:50 PM
3

What about this post is self centered? Its a legitimate question. Its not like i call myself attractive over and over again, i bring it up as background info once.
/r/seduction05/12/13 04:47 PM
0

Then why did you respond?
/r/seduction05/12/13 04:43 PM
8

Well if you are going to approach, make sure she's at rest. I hate when people talk to me while i'm doing cardio or actively using a machine. Try and catch us while we're switching machines, getting water, etc. If you're next to me while i'm stretching, that's a perfect time to chat me up. avoid following her around or doing something just to be next to her. we know what you're doing, and it's weird.
/r/seduction05/12/13 05:17 AM
8

i buy drinks for people i pity, not kiss them.
/r/seduction05/12/13 12:32 AM
9

i'd feel bad for telling a guy he's unattractive... even if he asked for the truth. that just seems like a very awkward moment to me. :c
/r/seduction05/12/13 12:15 AM
12

I shudder at the thought of somebody coming up to me and doing this. But... good for you for having the balls.
/r/seduction04/12/13 07:57 PM
2

You definitely do not know that she's still interested. Just stop worrying about it. I personally dont like to test guys. (i'm female.) So i can tell you she might actually just not want to talk to you. I'm in the opposite side of the situation you're in right now, where a guy keeps texting me and i'm ignoring him because i'm legitimately not interested. You just have to stop giving a fuck. If she wants to talk to you, she will. If she's uninterested, move on.
/r/seduction02/12/13 06:28 PM
2

Your second to last sentence is the exact reason women (myself included) want to drive separately. She doesn't want you to know where she lives, and she certainly doesn't want the pressure of inviting you in after the first date. Perhaps she's busy, or perhaps she wants to have an easy getaway if she isn't interested. You need to focus on how the date goes rather than what may or may not happen after it.
/r/seduction30/11/13 04:45 AM
2

Theres no reason not to try. Even if you get rejected, at least youre getting practice. plus, you eventually will be successful with a girl who doesnt mind your situation.
/r/seduction24/10/13 03:24 PM
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