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| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.Hypergamy – The instinctual urge for women to seek out the best alpha available. This is marked by maximizing rejection (therefore women are the selective gender). A woman will vet her alpha through various shit tests to ensure his "health" on the alpha scale. She is conditioned to recognize a declining alpha, as hypergamy also tends to continue seeking out higher status males even while with an alpha male. Shit tests allow her to prepare herself for eventually leaving when a new higher status m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.This is a basic red pill idea. Maybe you should read the wiki. I no longer have any desire to help you with anything. You obviously don't understand the sub you on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.Did you get in a fight with your husband already this morning or is this PMS? What I said was valid and it was valid rpw advice. Filling your head with idealized men and relationships when yours is a problem is not going to help your mental state. Thank hypergamy for that. Which is why I started by asking you questions. If you had said "the marriage is fine I just like books" well then NBD. But you didn't, you got maaaaad. Maybe you should consider that the women who have been here for longer th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.I'm not sure who brought the attitude to this thread You did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.Well it is a relationship advice sub not booktok. I can't imagine why you aren't getting more suggestions with such a lovely attitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Green flag novels for the feminine ear.Are you working to repair a marriage currently? Why is it important for your escapist fiction to follow a male-led dynamic? What unhealthy dynamics that you are coming across that frequently? If you are trying to be in the right head space, fiction is the wrong place to look for it. You are dealing with heightened situations and sanitized versions of men and love. It is just as likely to leave you with "bad ideas" as the "unhealthy" ones you are rejecting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/26 11:48 AM |
| 15 | Need advice on getting him to commit and propose2 months ago you were disconnected, not having enough sex and he was thinking of breaking up. Is it that or his high income that are making you desperate for a proposal? Is he even happy with you again? It hasn't been very long for you to change and him to assess that since your last posts. There is no forcing your way into a good relationship but forcing a proposal is a good way to build resentment into the marriage from day one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/26 11:03 AM |
| 5 | Is it just me, or do men still have a long way to go when it comes to emotional maturity and accountability?When you are talking about every person you meet being a problem then yes, it is you. But indulge me, what are these emotional requirements that you have that require handholding. This all seems very vague and vagueness allows you to paint with a wide brush. What specifically is happening in your relationships that you are upset about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/26 10:57 AM |
| 2 | When Your Husband Doesn't Initiate Sex Anymore (And You Feel Stupid For Trying): How To Find The SolutionHow many kids do you and your wife have? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/26 06:18 PM |
| 2 | I'm happy and in 🥰Oh friend, ask and you shall receive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 08:59 PM |
| 2 | I'm happy and in 🥰Well we do field reports here but they are supposed to have a connection to RP strategy so others can learn from it. Just a "my man is so great" isn't useful to the sub, it's just bragging. We don't allow rants because we are about self improvement and rpw strategies here. I think maybe this is somewhat similar. But I don't like your tone either and I'm not actually nice. Anyone who jumps to things like "too many career women" or "women don't help women" is taking pushback and instead of reflect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 08:48 PM |
| 2 | I'm happy and in 🥰I am older than you are just for the record. Trad is an internet concept that has gained traction recently. What you are living isn't even really properly traditional, it's the kind of traditional that men scoff at because it's having your cake and eating it too. For the record, I don't qualify myself as traditional. Most of the older contributors here don't. We say it's a tool box where you pick the tools that work in your own life. And you are completely wrong that this has anything to do with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 08:31 PM |
| 2 | I'm happy and in 🥰No one here is upset/jealous/envious of your life but also no one thinks that a three times married 37 year old with no kids is "trad". You are too old to be labeling yourself via tik tok trends. You've never been on the sub before, it's not an odd thing for us to ask "why red pill". | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 07:27 PM |
| 1 | About men's mentalityYou are correct that women's attraction is based on more than looks. Anyone telling you that women are purely visual is going by a watered down (incorrect) red pill AND they are too stuck in their own solipsism to actually understand women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?May I suggest "back rubs for blow jobs". Ask for a naked massage before you go down on him. That way you have time to be touched and relax before it's "his turn". | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 11:53 AM |
| -4 | Torn between following a trend/tradition versus following my own idea. Need a girlfriend’s advice!This is RPW so what does your boyfriend think? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 11:14 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?Why aren't you in a subreddit for your culture if you prefer answers from your culture. My initial comment was brief because you posted this in so many subreddit that it seems like you are looking for a specific answer and don't actually care about a red pill answer. And I think advice shopping like that is a crappy waste of everyone's time. If this is your culture then my western red pill answers are irrelevant to you. Unless you are trying to be Western and red pilled. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 07:24 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?Feudalism is also part of western history. It's still pretty foreign to any discussion about the modern western culture. 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 03:38 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?I said nothing about consent or lack thereof. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 02:34 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?We don't live historically though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 02:34 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?You ask for opinions, is it your intention to argue because my opinion doesn't match your cultural experience. Different cultures are different. Attempting to blend them creates a powder keg that we are seeing across the West now. Arranged marriage has not been a thing in my culture for a very very long time. It doesn't impact my life or opinions in the slightest that it's has been in yours. We are not the same and I don't see the point in pretending the same cultural ideas work for everyone. We… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 01:20 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?It works in cultures where men are known to be a bit rapey and parents need to make sure their daughters are going to a safe man. Otherwise, from an American perspective, it is a lack of independence and if you can't pick your own husband then you probably shouldn't be allowed to vote either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 12:52 PM |
| 2 | I'm consistently being called "independent" by men I go on first dates with and I'm wondering if this is pushing them away and how to change thatYes, clearly I am the problem. But tell me, why is the strategy viable if you cannot demonstrate it's success? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 06:52 PM |
| 4 | I'm consistently being called "independent" by men I go on first dates with and I'm wondering if this is pushing them away and how to change thatIt is sort of irrelevant though since she's your ex. If she didn't get the ultimate commitment of marriage then her strategy remains unproven. So many men come here and say "I loved this ex of mine who chased, paid, put out, did my laundry, whatever." But it's always an ex. I'd prefer to be a wife than a cool ex girlfriend. Tell us what your wife did to get your attention and then we can talk. (Also if you are a single man then you aren't supposed to be here. Check out the rules) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Recherche sur les modes de vie familiales des femmesRemoved. We do not allow people to use us for research | /r/RedPillWives | 17/01/26 02:47 PM |
| 1 | I want a wife?Men's questions are not allowed on RPW. This has been removed. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/12/25 09:14 PM |
| 7 | Lower rank in social group causing rejection of opinion?You as a man have no idea how to find compatible female friends for the OP. None of these place are going to be automatically good women just because they go to the gym. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 11:25 AM |
| 1 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?Are you a troll or just delusional about the world around you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/25 01:00 PM |
| 4 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?You are being too precious. You don't want to express your desires around sex and you don't want to discuss sex (your other post). You want to avoid a certain type of man so much that you wont put yourself out there in ways that will potentially attract the relationship you want. You only want a white collar man because you think blue collar men arent smart enough for you even though the relationship you are looking for is less common for college educated people. You are just a big bundle of "No… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 10:31 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about men using Undress AI tools to digitally "undress" people in photos, even when it's not someone they know personally? Is this crossing a line or just fantasy?Sure, in the same way that hacking into your online banking is guessing at your income. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | “Preparing to Be (or Becoming) a Biblical Wife | 5 Heart Shifts I’ve made or am I’m Making”The new girl does not get to determine what red pill is. You are religious not red pilled. And you are trying to use us to promote your channel. Hard pass. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/06/25 03:00 PM |
| 1 | “Preparing to Be (or Becoming) a Biblical Wife | 5 Heart Shifts I’ve made or am I’m Making”Removed. No religion. No self promotion. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/06/25 11:32 PM |
| 5 | Is it normal to not be 100% attracted to your partner?Seriously! Some people would rather tell you how great their relationship is than give realistic advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | The Raw Side of Female Nature and What Men Refuse to Accept.This post has been removed. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/25 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Husband says he doesn’t respect me because I don’t cookRemoved. Do not insult the community. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/25 09:28 PM |
| 1 | My husband doesn’t speak my love languageRemoved. Men are no longer welcome to give advice on RPWives | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?I'm not actually interested in picking apart my ex. He wasn't a bad guy and he is married now, he just wasn't my cup of tea physically. I felt like I could do better and as it turns out, I was right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?For me, no. I wasn't sexually attracted to my first boyfriend. I chose it once, so I won't say that no one chooses an attraction-less relationship, but it wasn't ideal for me or for him. I'd be single if that was my choice. The problem comes down to sex. Being with a woman who isn't attracted to you means at best a lifetime of duty sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 11:30 PM |
| 7 | 'Manosphere' tactics don't work- They destroyed my relationship with the love of my lifeThere are levels of dread game but (some) guys skip straight to the nuclear options. It should start with a man becoming more appealing and building his own life. The idea is that a previously indifferent wife will sit up and take notice and just maybe, realize she might lose him. It is for dying marriages not blossoming relationships. It won't work all the time but it certainly won't work if you go straight to the " flirting with others" stage. He played himself. You aren't the first TRP girlfr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Occupations that are in line with RPW goals?Unless she's on a farm, it's a kink thing. We get those types sometimes. The best was the chick who claimed to pay for her man to be a lazy bum while locking her in a cage. She thought that we were all bad partners for having expectations. (Gimpgirl for anyone traveling down memory lane) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?Sure don't tell her. I have my opinion for the question asked. If men are secure in their convictions then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:09 PM |
| 4 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?That's fine. This post asked for an opinion. And because hypergamy and whatever, I think my husband is the best and I think less of men who behave differently. That's my opinion. Other men can do what they want with their own wives and deal with the consequences of their actions. The question is, does your wife think you are awesome enough to get away with anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:07 PM |
| 13 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?I offered it to my husband with our first. He laughed at me and said "I know that's my kid". After that response from my man I can't view it as anything other than an accusation of infidelity when men suggest it. I was willing to give room for some male insecurity but seeing a man handle it with zero insecurity, eh, it was the best way to handle it. I think the average guy should do the test if there is a reason to believe he should. If there is no reason then he should understand that his peace… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/25 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Accepting money from other men other than my boyfriend?It can seem like an easy answer to financial troubles. You are probably correct about your boyfriend not wanting you to talk to another man. Most men would not be happy about the situation, and you likely don't want a guy who would be happy with it. So the cost of the easy money is very likely your relationship. Go with your gut. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/25 09:29 PM |
| 6 | Accepting money from other men other than my boyfriend?What does your intuition tell you to do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/25 08:39 PM |
| 3 | LysistrataOh, you were there? Or have you read contemporaneous sources that show that this fictionalized event was an accurate representation? Or does it just fit your workflow so it must be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 09:59 PM |
| 2 | LysistrataIt tells us how men (at minimum the author) perceive women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 08:47 PM |
| – | Ideologies turn young women obnouxious as a way to isolate them.There have absolutely been brigades of other subs in the past. And how about when men were sending pictures of empty egg cartons to public women they think are too old? There are a lot of men who know RP ideas and they do a lot of not so ideal things but you aren't seeing it in the spaces you frequent. Just like there are vegans who don't proselytize but you aren't seeing them. Please don't be naive here. We need to be as honest and clear sighted about our own flaws as we are about others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 12:30 PM |
| – | Ideologies turn young women obnouxious as a way to isolate them.For years RPWomen and RPWives have been kicking out anger phase men who come over to lecture us on information that, as an RP sub, we already know. Or to tell us that we can't be RP because women can't be RP. Or just to insult us for funsies. I know that the word is "don't talk about fight club" but that doesn't stop the men's posts saying "how do I red pill my girlfriend/sister/friend. There are absolutely men who talk about it. Further with the whole new iterations of rp influencers, we have g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 11:50 AM |
| 3 | how to be a better RPW + partnerWould you explain your thinking here a bit more. I know the OP took off but I can't quite wrap my head around your comment. Generally RPW is a toolbox. I'm not so sure that everyone here is interested in being, owned, monogamous or both. My understanding has always been that you can take the tools and see which parts of them work on your particular partner. Given that, there isn't such thing as a Red Pill Woman. How do you understand the ...idk ...ethos? of this place? And I feel like the desire… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/25 12:37 AM |
| 6 | Do you oppose or support men being able to legally cut ties with children not biologically their’s in the case of late stage paternity misattribution?I know you are using this as a gotcha but I think I would say a qualified yes. It depends a lot on the scenario. If my husband is cheating now and brings home a newborn then i'd probably leave. If he brought home a 10 year old (we've been together 17 years), especially one with no other family (which would be the equivalent to the OPs scenario imo) then there is a solid part of me that would want to do right by the kid. It wouldn't be easy and I would still feel betrayed but the kids are not to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 10:37 PM |
| 2 | It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits."high rate of cheating" strikes me as a neurotic stereotype Possibly but people can be neurotic and women statistically more so. I think it's no less reasonable than men wanting low n counts because the statistics show those women are less likely to divorce. would you say your emotional intelligence is at least within a pretty close range? I don't understand how a person can feel connected to someone without sharing that. I am much better with people than he is. We are actually quite complementa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 07:49 PM |
| 1 | It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits.I would say that the primary, subconscious reason is that status is important to women. It is important to the degree that status can be sexually attractive to woman. Beyond the subconscious aspect, there are different rationals for different women. There are personality differences between an engineer, a lawyer and a firefighter. All three jobs can earn into the 6 figures. But women may find themselves more interested by men in a particular field over another. There are careers with high rates … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 05:21 PM |
| 2 | I’ll Answer the “Why Don’t Men Read Our Profiles?” Question.Right, it's a good strategy from women's perspective. Since the OP is claiming that his strategy is the most logical from the men's perspective, I'm wondering if he feels the same way about women using a logical strategy to eliminate men. Since I haven't gotten an answer (and I posted this when the thread was still in double digit comments), I'm going to assume this is just another "everything women do is bad" variation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 05:00 PM |
| 1 | It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits.So I'll agree that solely seeking out financial success is not romantic, even if it is practical. For arguments sake, can we agree to agree on that and just look at competence. What is wrong with wanting a competent partner? What is opportunistic about seeking competence. How does a higher status job automatically denote more competence? Is a lawyer more competent than a Physician's Assistant? How about a lawyer practicing something like contract law vs a public defense attorney? What about a la… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4A: "If men did more [of women's thing] they would get more of [women's results]" - why do you think they don't?but the last possible time I’m going to the gym is after work when it’s wall to wall oglers. After kids, I traded out the gym for pole fitness. The only men there are the gay ones and it's a great. But if a woman works out in a forest without men watching, did she really work out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Q4A: "If men did more [of women's thing] they would get more of [women's results]" - why do you think they don't?Women are also more likely to take fitness classes. A man going to the gym and seeing more men tells us absolutely nothing about how many women are exercising in other ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:32 PM |
| 4 | I’ll Answer the “Why Don’t Men Read Our Profiles?” Question.Initially perhaps but we are an adaptable species. If men had higher standards starting tomorrow and only the top 20% of women currently meet those standards then the 20% would get dates/relationships. Then if men, as a whole, continued to say "we aren't dating women who do xyz" the female social matrix would eventually catch on and women's dating strategies would change. When I first came to RPW the whole tradwife thing was not nearly as common as it is today. I'm sure this comes from many plac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:24 PM |
| 5 | I’ll Answer the “Why Don’t Men Read Our Profiles?” Question.Is it likewise acceptable for women to unmatch men who have clearly not read their profiles? It would be a good strategy for women to wade through all the 500 plus likes they receive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:15 PM |
| 1 | It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits.Are you suggesting that rate of pay determines competence and whoever earns more is more competent? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:11 PM |
| 2 | It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits.You are undervaluing competency. I want a man I can trust to do what needs to be done and to do it well...in all areas of life. No one wants a fool. Competency is attractive I don't understand why you think it isn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Why do you make general assumptions about womenLooking at the generalities in a population is a good start. If I know that most men require respect to feel loved, then it's a good assumption that my husband will too. Then I test it to see if it is true for the individual (my husband in the example) TRP used to encourage men to get out there and talk to women, have sex, date, experiment and test the theories. But you have to start with generalities. Over time the testing has fallen by the wayside. Men, especially here, seem to take as fact wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?So...then why make the comment? Do you often say things you know to be untrue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?Sure she would. We still want to be attracted to the person we are having sex with and as you all point out all the damned time, we aren't attracted to most men. No attraction no immediate sex for you. That doesn't negate the above comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 01:15 PM |
| – | Women in this subreddit are always confused about 'high standards'.If women lower their looks standards too much, they wont be interested in sex with said man. So what is important to you here, that women stop complaining that it's hard to find a decent relationship (when they really mean with an attractive man) or that those who do settle aren't going to force a dead bedroom on their husbands? As a personal aside, the man I went after who had lots of female interest treated me way better than the non "chads" I dated. It's been said before but unattractive=/=go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 12:51 PM |
| 0 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.So basically, men only see the top 30% of women and the bottom 70% are invisible to them... something something 80/20 rule something something. Seriously though, it would explain so many of these posts about how dating is so easy for women. They only see the top and have no concept of average or below average women beyond an insincere "yeah she's ok looking" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 01:06 PM |
| 4 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.I'm not saying that men can't. There will always be a subset of women who, for instance, don't care about his wedding ring. But for women looking for a real partner, that can be discouraging and lead to hyperbolic statements like "the bar is in hell" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 08:19 PM |
| 1 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.This does particularly match my experience but since "agreeableness" is a range i am sure it is true for a subset of women. At this point I think that this tendency to state some parts of attraction and not others is simply tied up with women's social communication style. We certainly communicate way more covertly and a lot is understood even if it's not said. And yes perception certainly matters. Social standing matters. Both I suspect matter more for women than men can wrap their heads around … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 08:14 PM |
| 2 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.Women aren't men and aren't as direct. What you are asking would require women to be less agreeable I think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 07:34 PM |
| -3 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.You can't tell how a man treats you until after you've gone out a few times at least. You can tell what he looks like. Personality and character take longer to suss out so the tendency is to start with what is in front of your face and go from there. I also don't see "the bar is in hell..." as a concrete statement about a woman's standards, it's saying that she can't find men to meet her standards. Whether those standards are reasonable or not will depend on the people obviously. My bff is datin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 07:13 PM |
| -4 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.Well sure that is still something women want. Attraction isn't enough for more than a short term thing. We do want to be treated like a human being (women want to be loved for more than looks too) but that doesn't mean by anyone. It means by the guy we also want to bang. Men constantly point out that women don't say that part. And I'm just asking why it needs to be said and isn't just understood that to date someone you need to at minimum, be attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 06:51 PM |
| -9 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.Why does it need to be stated? Genuine question. RP has been around since the aughts and the concepts are out there. Who doesn't know "be attractive, don't be unattractive" ( even if not in those terms). What makes anyone think "I want someone I'm attracted to as a baseline, but she will feel differently" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 05:39 PM |
| 6 | How important is physical fitness to you?It's not just flavors (or self control) either. So much of our packaged food has additives or emulsifiers that are messing up our systems. Like even if you eat salad, emulsifiers in the bottled dressing mess up your microbiome. High fructose corn syrup is in much of our sandwich bread. It's so much effort to avoid it all and I'm jealous of countries where it's a non issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | You cant expect women to help with your loneliness or give you validation when you don’t show appreciation.So at what point of association is it acceptable for a woman to expect appreciation/effort/what she needs to feel loved? I think you all love these posts of Lilith's because it gives you another way to bitch about evil uncaring women. I like men but it's hard to sympathize with many who frequent this sub so I don't really blame her for her perspectives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 03:08 PM |
| 5 | You cant expect women to help with your loneliness or give you validation when you don’t show appreciation.No one requires appreciation from strangers. Men can stay strangers and stay lonely. If you want a gf then you need to "actually do something". Because no one needs to give a shit about someone they aren't dating but also, people will eventually stop giving a shit about a partner who isn't keeping up their part of the relationship. And no justification is needed. Her girlfriends will cheer her on and tell her you were a loser who didn't appreciate her or give her what she needed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 01:07 PM |
| – | If You’re a “High Value Man” You Will Only Accept a Relationship with 2 Types of WomenThe argument is this: Men do not get to determine other men's relationship market value. Women do not get to determine other women's relationship market value. Your entire post is predicated upon the idea that YOU get to say what make a man high value. Further that a truly high value man gives a flip about who you think he should date. But I'm disappointed by the level of this discourse. The real RP Men's answer is this: "There is a male hierarchy in which men decide who gets pushed to the top. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 09:22 PM |
| – | If You’re a “High Value Man” You Will Only Accept a Relationship with 2 Types of WomenSigh. I can't keep repeating that men do not determine male-dating-market -value. This is like if I insisted that a 30 year old lawyer who is a bit pudgy with a pretty face is high value and any man who won't date her is a loser. Or a 22 year old is low value because she hasn't established herself in the world yet. I as a woman cannot tell you what to value. You as a man cannot tell women what to value. We wouldn't have the gender wars if you could. Let's just agree to think each other are idiot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 09:10 PM |
| – | If You’re a “High Value Man” You Will Only Accept a Relationship with 2 Types of WomenIf the man is sought after by multiple women, that would indicate that he's high value. If he settles on any one of those women, that is a matter of taste. Your opinion of his taste is irrelevant to the value that women have placed on him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 08:13 PM |
| 1 | If You’re a “High Value Man” You Will Only Accept a Relationship with 2 Types of WomenWomen determine what is high value in a man in the dating world (and the reverse- men determine what is value in a woman in the dating world). I'm not sure that as a man you are in a position to accurately make this determination. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 04:44 PM |
| 1 | What is pair bonding?So you came into a post from a year ago where the OP has deleted her account. And you decided to push back at me when you have no idea what was going on initially but cool. The OP had a higher partner count which is why I was talking about her knowing that the grass isn't greener. No one is telling women to go out and have a ton of experiences. What I am saying is that once that cat is out of the bag, you aren't doomed for all future relationships. It also occurs to me that you just don't unders… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/25 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Married RPW, how do you manage your finances?Someone asked for help and you said: "why are you even worrying" Not sorry for telling you that is a bs response. Let's try with other examples: "My 12 year old is smoking pot" "It's not heroin, why are you worrying" "My husband is watching porn and doesn't touch me" "It's not a real life affair, why are you worrying" I work in personal finance, I've seen every management style under the sun. Ultimately, as long as it works for the couple it works. I've also seen people earning mid six figures s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/25 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Married RPW, how do you manage your finances?Because money is a complicated thing that everyone carries ideas over from the childhood and single life. Having nice salaries does not change all the psychology NOR does it help solve the actual practical issues of combining income. You may not see it as an issue because you aren't used to being as well off as the OP but you are flat wrong that it's not an issue worth working through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/25 10:17 AM |
| 0 | Married RPW, how do you manage your finances?If you are too jealous to offer real advice maybe you should have just said nothing. This is a bad look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/25 09:11 PM |
| 10 | Am I (28F) letting the provider (28m) comments get to me?There is this dumb idea that goes around some rp spaces-- it says that if a guy is desirable then he must be bad in some other way. Life and people do not work this way. There is zero reason to assume that a man making good money will treat a woman poorly. It is a cope by unsuccessful men and not reality based. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/25 01:39 PM |
| 2 | “Women live their life on easy mode”Until the draft is reinstated, men also have this choice. And in the present year, men are not scorned for not going to war. We have also moved closer over time to requiring women to sign up for selective service. This is a weak argument for women having life easier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Women do really become invisible when their youth and beauty are gone. Thoughts on this?Saying women have no agency doesn't really indicate gratitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/25 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Women do really become invisible when their youth and beauty are gone. Thoughts on this?What does that have to do with anything? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/25 08:55 PM |
| -1 | Women do really become invisible when their youth and beauty are gone. Thoughts on this?Found the feminist. I think you might be in the wrong sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/25 07:10 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of loyalty testsYeah that's totally healthy, not at all crazy and can't have any negative consequences to your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Am I coming on too strong or he’s not interested in me?If you read for comprehension and not simply to argue, you'd see that i said "it's possible..." not "it's absolutely the case that sleeping with him early was bad". You cannot say what his intentions are because not even the OP knows them. But once again for the idiots with an agenda: He's not using you if you offer sex. He is accepting an offer. Vet better, have sex later and many problems like this would be solved. Or you know, be /u/Intelligent-Cry-7884 and wring your hands and cry about life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/24 04:47 PM |
| 2 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?The purpose of a marriage isn't about the man or the woman though. It's about raising children. I was responding to the comment that it's insane to marry for love. I said I wouldn't want that. You called me self centered. So ok. If we are removing love, let's also not worry about respect. I don't need to respect a man to have a baby. And marriage is about raising children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?Would you be ok with a wife not bringing respect into the marriage? This all makes sense if you believe marriage is a purely contractual institution. I think that view misses out on something | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/24 12:13 AM |
| 5 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?Do you have close gal friends? Yes but what does that have to do with anything? Why haven’t you denounced the title system and formed C-corps with them? I don't know what you mean by "the title system". And I have no formed a corporation because I am not doing anything with my friends that requires the protection of a corporation nor am I doing anything with my friends that earns money/produces anything for the consumption of others. Which men don’t want feminism to continue My bad. I assumed th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 10:51 PM |
| 7 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?The fact that people marry for love is insane to me. I can't imagine marrying someone who viewed me exclusively as a baby machine. If men don't want feminism to (continue to) flourish then you are going to have to treat women as though we are more than tits and a womb. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 08:39 PM |
| 8 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?Nursing isn't a job that UMC or UC women go into as a rule. Actual income is not the only thing that makes up socioeconomic status which is what we are talking about when someone says something like "wealth marries wealth" | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?So you came to a year old message board to whine about it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 02:17 PM |
| 3 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?He also says that he is fairly middle class. People tend to forget the "socio" part of socioeconomics. This isn't an example of a UC man marrying a waitress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 02:16 PM |
| 20 | Am I coming on too strong or he’s not interested in me?No I don't. It is up to OP to have her words match her actions. Just based on what she writes it is entirely possible that he was looking for marriage at the start and decided she wasn't wife material after she slept with him so soon. But in the end she offered sex and he took her up on it. He did not offer commitment and she's naive if she believes that sex at two weeks equals commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/24 01:07 PM |
| 18 | Am I coming on too strong or he’s not interested in me?The man isn't a bad man just because he isn't interested in the OP. He doesn't owe her commitment just because she had sex with in within a month of dating him. That's on her. Are women no longer the gatekeepers of sex? Should he have said no when we know that that isn't how men tick? No, she should have been wiser and waited until he knew her better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/24 12:55 PM |
| 11 | Am I coming on too strong or he’s not interested in me?Are you pregnant? Early pregnancy and PMS can be pretty similar and that is something to keep in mind before you blow up another relationship. But yes, you came on strong. You pushed for commitment early and without inspiring it OR mentioning the pregnancy scare to him. I doubt it's ego on his part. He may not have been interested at all or he may not be interested yet. You may want to read the final exam to understand how men might not actually see you clearly until after sex. But honestly, I t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/24 12:49 PM |
| 5 | High heels versus modestySo just to be clear- you are 22 with an 11 year old daughter and butt plugs are cool but high heels are immodest. Troll or ai or larp 🤔 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Should I move back in with parents or continue living with my “boyfriend” in a different country?That is great advice for anyone who hasnt already made mistakes...and stupid and unhelpful for anyone over the age of 18. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 05:03 PM |
| 5 | Should I move back in with parents or continue living with my “boyfriend” in a different country?Ah yes, lying and hiding things, the ultimate way to secure a healthy lifetime relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 03:29 PM |
| 5 | What is the line between a man having freedom vs infidelity with other women?His metaphors are terrible. Hunters don't hunt to leave things in the woods. I'd have to put it up to a group of men to be sure, but I'd guess that the majority of hunters would view that somewhere in the realm of immoral. It is hard to give advice on how you can protect your heart here. If you were a married woman who wants to stay with her cheating husband the advice would be: Keep your head on your own page. Do not seek out evidence of what he is doing and do not check up on him. Preserve you… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/11/24 06:43 PM |
| 7 | What is the line between a man having freedom vs infidelity with other women?he’s not saying he has long-term female friendships he would like to keep, This jumped out to me too. There is also a difference in making opposite gendered friends in the regular course of your life and going out and looking for women to hang out with. The former conversation is more about "hey I think it's ok for men and women to be friends" not whatever this is. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/11/24 05:44 PM |
| 6 | What is the line between a man having freedom vs infidelity with other women?As everyone else is saying, if you are uncomfortable with it, then it's an incompatibility. Personally, it wouldn't bother me if my husband was flirty with a woman while out at a bar one night - as a casual one off instance. Nor would it bother me if my husband had female friends that he met naturally but was not flirting with (ie: coworkers and the like). I don't think flirting or opposite sex relationships are a big deal. What would bother me is the discussion that he has to do this to keep up… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/11/24 05:41 PM |
| 3 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.Is it ok for a woman to leave her husband if he loses his job? I believe that marriage is forever and both partners need to be striving to be their best for themselves and their partner. I believe that pregnancy, like job loss, is temporary and not an example of a lack of self improvement. I'm curious what part of my comment you are targeting with this question? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 10:07 PM |
| 4 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.You have told me that you can debate with me because I'm a woman so please stop responding to me when you aren't actually looking for a debate/discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 08:12 PM |
| 2 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.Ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 07:53 PM |
| 3 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.No one understands your OP so I doubt it has anything to do with my gender. However since I, as a poor feeble brained woman cannot possibly attempt to understand what men's perspective is, I'll just check out and leave you here to argue with the men who also don't understand you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 07:41 PM |
| 7 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.You know what. I think people see key words/phrases and just assume. If no one understands the OP (in your opinion) then the problem is the writer not the readers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 06:40 PM |
| 4 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.If you have to: [self improve] Just to attain love or friendship ... That is not true love or true friendship. And it is not worth doing those things only for that outcome. If everyone around you is growing and improving then you will be left behind. If you are not finding love as-is and you do not wish to self improve, then you will not find love. You seem to think that friendship or love are only genuine if you don't have to put effort in. Fine do not put effort in, but do not expect to be aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 06:19 PM |
| 8 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.I worry about the Zoomers relationship with reality sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 06:07 PM |
| 16 | A man should self improve only to attain sex or starting a family. A man should not self improve for love or friendship.This is comparable to women telling each other: you are perfect just the way you are and the right man will love you for you. Beyond that, it is said that you lose a few friends with every major life change. Someone who never changes will be the friend lost. If people are growing their careers and doing happy hour, you will stop being invited cause you are broke. If they are married you will be left behind as the third, fifth, seventh wheel. Kids...same. If your friends are gym rats and you are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 06:04 PM |
| – | Wanting left winged groups to win requires more support to menIt’s an old post-slavery thing that basically was an attempt to give ex-slave owners in rural parts of the south greater power in the election. It was created during the constitutional convention in 1787 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/24 07:33 PM |
| – | Wanting left winged groups to win requires more support to menAbsolutely, if my husband doesn't succeed our family doesn't succeed. My and my daughters self interest is tied in with his. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/24 07:10 PM |
| – | Relationships ruin menThere are two possible red flags for a guy (or girl) who is constantly cheated on/abused. First, it's a vetting issue. Fool me once shame on me... And all that. What is it about the women he is seeking out that he constantly attracts cheaters? This is something he can self reflect on and hopefully make some changes as to who he allows to pass his vetting. Second, how angry/jaded does this make him. This is a concern for a woman vetting him. Has he started to resent all women, see all women as ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/24 07:02 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Men shouldn't help/physically protect women due to the risk of protecting a misandrist or a feministOk. What is your end goal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 09:42 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Men shouldn't help/physically protect women due to the risk of protecting a misandrist or a feministYup, if you leave a misandrist to be harmed that will really change her mind about not needing men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)?Yeah, upon reflection, I think the emotions behind new relationship sex has more to do with the nervous energy of the unknown. It's not that it's strictly more passionate rather, more unstable. Why the instability makes for good sex, idk. Sex is weird like that. But I'm too old for that and I'll take a sure thing over exploring something new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)?Yeah, upon reflection, I think the emotions behind new relationship sex has more to do with the nervous energy of the unknown. It's not that it's strictly more passionate rather, more unstable. Why the instability makes for good sex, idk. Sex is weird like that. But I'm too old for that and I'll take a sure thing over exploring something new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 12:46 AM |
| 10 | Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)?New Relationship Energy sex is fun. I won't discount that. I held onto my husband because when he was my boyfriend the sex was awesome and passionate and exciting. Now that we've been together for 17 years, it's still awesome and passionate and exciting. The "routine" is anything but so I don't see why this has to be an either / or. You pick someone you are compatible with and keep things interesting. If I had to pick from your hypothetical, I'll take the man I've been with for 10 years. The exc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Women can't have it all..Well this is black and white thinking that any attempt to debate will leave me beating my head against a brick wall. I'm sorry your parents were terrible though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/24 09:19 PM |
| 5 | The Type of Women Normally Chased by MenBirth control messes with your hormones in all sorts of ways, among them, it stops ovulation which means no ovulation sex, which is, by far the best most lustful sex. Getting pregnant isn't universally exciting. Birth control does universally change your hormones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/24 08:12 PM |
| 15 | Women can't have it all..Good fathers are present. Having a demanding career means you chose between being present and your career. (Some) Men don't think about this because they have wives to raise the kids and believe that's enough. They will never acknowledge that their version of "having it all" means forgoing a relationship with your children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/24 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Single dads shouldn't be encouraged by societyIn all seriousness, the apps give you a window but unless you are also charting your temperature (taken at the same time daily, before you get out of bed in the morning) you can't know if you DID ovulate when the app predicts. Also even with the LH test strips you know when you get a hormone surge but not when you ovulate. And you can be regular most of the time and then have wonky months. It's not as simple as counting calendar days. It's not as simple as using test strips or temping. You have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/24 04:09 PM |
| 22 | Men dont love harderThis post does not provide sufficient evidence that you know what love is or have felt it genuinely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Men; if you were a woman, would you be a trad wife, or would you aim to be a “modern woman”.Right and marriage was "RP on hard mode" and "just don't do it". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Men; if you were a woman, would you be a trad wife, or would you aim to be a “modern woman”.RP didn't even create the trade wife concept. That spun out of women's groups and influencers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 12:15 PM |
| -1 | Men; if you were a woman, would you be a trad wife, or would you aim to be a “modern woman”.But none of those qualities you listed are "uneducated" or "unable to support herself". Also I'll give you that virginal has become more prevalent in recent years but it used to be more about low N than strictly virgins. That whole push came when RP spread past the western world and brought in other value systems (plus when reddit let the incels out of their containment zone). That's just my own frustration though, I'm not disagreeing with that parameter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 12:12 PM |
| -1 | Men; if you were a woman, would you be a trad wife, or would you aim to be a “modern woman”.I know quite a few "trad wives" who have degrees and a job until kids. Why is it such a black and white thing with y'all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | People who hate feminism don't have a viable alternativeBecause this was the topic of the post. I am confused why you are asking me why I answered the topic of the post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 04:09 PM |
| 1 | People who hate feminism don't have a viable alternativeWhy not what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 03:56 PM |
| 4 | People who hate feminism don't have a viable alternativeI don't mean individual like you and me. I mean that issues should not be bundled together under the heading of "women's rights". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 02:29 PM |
| 4 | People who hate feminism don't have a viable alternativeReproductive rights Equal pay for equal work Representation in media (Bechtel test stuff) These are all individual issues (not the only ones). They do not need to fall under one umbrella where you have to buy into all of it. Feminism is too broad and requires subservience to the whole. Dealing with individual issues that you care about leaves more room for individual thoughts values and reflections. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 02:00 PM |
| 7 | People who hate feminism don't have a viable alternativeWork for individual rights. It doesn't have to be a movement where everyone buys in or is automatically considered anti-woman. Because it exists as social, academic study and political there are people making money off of it which means there is an incentive for it to continue even if the original goals are accomplished. I'd rather see people work on individual rights and close up shop when they have accomplished their goals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Some men should stop wanting women to "lower" their standards to meet them.Why did your wife find you attractive and it's real but a hypothetical 30 something would find you attractive and it's not real? I'm all for growing together but I don't understand the logic that attraction is only valid at younger ages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 03:26 PM |
| 4 | The Hypergamy Myth. How Narratives Distort Human Connections.The Red Pill (for better or worse) redefined hypergamy beyond the social science "marrying up". Generally it is a woman's desire for the best man she can get, sometimes with cheating (monkey branching) added in. It is an impulse that can be acted on or controlled but the desire is considered biological. Or we can write a whole "I never left academia" post on why red pill is wrong based on definitions that red pill doesn't use. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 12:33 PM |
| 5 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWIt really seems like you read a different post than the rest of us. Summary: OP is at a bar. An unknown guy hits on her, is touchy, tries to escalate. She turns down a hook up, recognizing that is what it is. Gives him her number "in case she's mistaken" but he says he's from out of town. Everyone goes their separate ways. There is no second man. She turned down the guy hitting on her and won't likely ever see him again. There are no other men in this story, no friends, bfs, husband, orbiters et… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Let's say women's standards are too high. Now what?It would cost too much for little return. We can't know this without running hypothetical numbers and even then it will be projections and assumptions. And the return is as much values based as numbers based so it's going to be hard to get at. It's not really lack of money It's a lack of money for the subset you described above. People go to college to (theoretically) have a better financial payoff in the long run. Getting out of school with high loans and an entry level job isnt the time you wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Let's say women's standards are too high. Now what?I agree but if, for instance, government assistant/tax credits/whatever were given to married couples having kids, it helps make kids a more viable option. Millennials delayed major life events (buy house, have kids) for both cultural and financial reasons. Public policy/government can make some contributions to the later to start. A man making under six figures would become a more viable partner earlier on if subsidies (or whatever) bring the cost of parenthood down. It also would make a statem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 09:05 PM |
| 10 | Let's say women's standards are too high. Now what?You could (potentially ) incentivize marriage or kids in your public policy to make it easier/more appealing to men and women to pair up and form families. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 08:49 PM |
| 0 | Most dating problems in men's life arise from the fact that they are condition to reward bad behaviour.Right! We pay a babysitter double that (monthly) for about two half days per week. Forget about day care, that wouldn't even scratch the surface. But these guys are right, child support is soooo unfair, I think they should all get 50/50 custody with the requirements to take kids to half their events, buy a separate wardrobe for Dad's house etc etc. Child support isnt parenting, divorced men should not give up their money they should be gifted the time with their children they claim to desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option?Young men are stupid and immature. That's why their car insurance is so high, they are stupid and immature enough that it shows up in actuarial tables. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/24 12:37 PM |
| 2 | What Is Your Opinion On 50/50 Relationships?Checking to see who you are and where you are coming from is considered valid for discussions and advice around here. I was curious why you were in RPW with this particular POV. And I didn't say that you were wrong for being on EBT. It is a fact that you are correct? That means someone else is providing for that aspect of your life. You are here saying that you want to be independent and don't like the idea of a man providing but you ARE being provided for and you are NOT independent. It's somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 10:13 PM |
| 2 | What Is Your Opinion On 50/50 Relationships?You are on EBT so you aren't independent. It's just a matter of who you are depending on. Many women here would prefer that it be the man who they love and who loves them rather than the government. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 10:08 PM |
| 10 | Resistance and switching rolesI've never seen a stay at home spouse (child free) complain that staying home is hard. Usually it's the stay at home parents who get sore at being told that going to work is harder. I have a part time wfh job and two littles. We are home schooling. I spend a chunk of my day walking around picking up the same thing I picked up earlier in the day. The kitchen gets messed and cleaned several times a day. We drive to kid things and do kid things several times a week as part of the routine. And of co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 07:52 PM |
| 7 | Countries where men have housewivesI cannot fathom why you think this would appeal to a western woman. We are hypergamous, we don't want a man so badly that we'd decrease our standard of living to go work in a poor rural area where women are groomed to be wives since they were children. And these women who are groomed to be perfect wives are working fields waiting to be saved by men...this isn't not a selling point for a western traditional women. Eeah. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/24 01:02 PM |
| 0 | What do you agree with the "other side" on?Ok. You can win because I'm not interested in this as a debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 12:02 AM |
| 1 | What do you agree with the "other side" on?Why do you doubt it? I wasn't a men's rights activist or anything but I wasn't a feminist either. It's not my comfort that has anything to do with internet men becoming exhausting. On RPW men come in all the time to lecture and moralize and command. After a while it becomes exhausting and the quality coming out of TRP has plummeted over the years. And I've lurked here on and off for years as well. It's disappointing to see what some men seem to think is normal. Too often RP draws men who can't i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 11:40 PM |
| 3 | What do you agree with the "other side" on?It's funny you say this because I went into the red pill with a lot of sympathy for men's issues and the more interactions I have with men (specifically online) the more I feel that they are their own worst enemies. The Internet often represents the worst of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:31 PM |
| 1 | If you're not making $100k or more looks don't matter as much as you think.I agree that attraction isn't entirely physical on our(women's) side. That doesn't have to mean money though. If money alone was a prerequisite then you wouldn't see people pairing off right after college and there would be more game gap relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 11:32 PM |
| 3 | If you're not making $100k or more looks don't matter as much as you think.Ha! Seriously though, this is really tacky behavior even if she seemed genuine. Not because the money doesn't matter at all but she doesn't know you enough to be asking those questions. Money doesn't make a man attractive but it can make you think of the nice life you could lead with that man. The problem is that the attraction is to the life not the man... Which I imagine is unappealing to all but the most desperate of guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 11:13 PM |
| 4 | If you're not making $100k or more looks don't matter as much as you think.She told you that she thought you looked like a lawyer yes? She picked you out because she thought you had lawyer money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 11:05 PM |
| 4 | Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap?Does this mean that of all households where there are two partners, 42% are not dual income or does it mean that of all households (single people included) 42% are not dual income? How are retirees counted in this? What 'counts' as a household here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 06:17 PM |
| 7 | Women demands equality but doesn't understand equality.When women say they want equal partners they are not talking about "exactly the same in all things". Equal in a relationship means a balance of control and effort. Equality-minded women don't want to be the only ones responsible for all the housework, especially when while are also bringing in an income. They don't want to be the sole planners or responsible for remembering your mom's birthday. They don't want to had over all decisions to their partner and would prefer things be discussed and ag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Declining birthrates mean less young women for future men to dateI guess the question is whether or not they will interact with more older men as a result of differing populations. We will still see young girls/women going to school with their same age counterparts. High school through college they will continue to spend with their peers. What men you are frequently around after school is the question. Do these young women then go to a work force that is mostly older men (and will men be willing to approach coworkers), do they spend time with their friend gro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 02:39 PM |
| 4 | Declining birthrates mean less young women for future men to dateAh, see I suspect that it is a rather fixed portion of women. Now, if older men as a cohort, become better options than younger men as a cohort then more young women will go for an age gap. But I can't see how population alone would result in a deviation from the current norms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 10:17 PM |
| 5 | Declining birthrates mean less young women for future men to dateWhy do young women "naturally end up dating older men" just because there is an oversaturated market? There is a percentage of young women who will want to date older men. The remainder will prefer close-age relationships. I don't understand how the ratio makes a difference. It seems that the percentage should be based on the number of women interested in age gap dating rather than the number of men available for age gap dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?What about you? I am missing what the question is that you are asking. If you don't need to make adjustments then don't? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?Oh yeah I get that. Lots of criticism and very little self reflection around these parts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?We are talking about preferences for a partner right? Everyone's going to have different tolerances for behavior/looks/whatever. Personally I believe that a relationship is a lifelong effort to be there for each other, be attractive for each other and not dump all your issues at someone else's feet. But especially if you are talking about things that impact your own life (outside of a relationship) then it is in a person's best self interest to put in a lifelong effort to better themselves. Undi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?If something is having a negative impact on your life AND it is changeable AND you choose not to put in the work to better your own life ...why would that NOT be considered lazy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 04:12 PM |
| 8 | Handling Impotence in MarriageYou joined reddit 8 hours ago just to be condescending to a woman struggling with her sex life. Classy. You must be a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 10:57 AM |
| 8 | Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove itI don't need wikipedia links about sexual dimorphism from someone claiming to be blue pilled. I fully accept gendered differences. What I think is silly is your claim that being stronger accounts for the chores that you mentioned. If I had to take a guess, chores broke down along these traditional lines because there are chores that DO require more strength. But laundry isn't it. Doing dishes isn't it. Cooking isn't it. Maybe if you have a wash board in a river it would be faster for a guy but t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 01:37 PM |
| 14 | Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove itMost vacuums are not super heavy and most people don't have 5 dogs. But ok dude. You are super strong and that's the answer to any difference between men and women. Forget I even got involved in this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:37 PM |
| 14 | Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove itThis is silly. Strength isn't a factor in the speed of the tasks you list. You won't get clothes through the laundry faster by being strong. You won't speed through vacuuming by being strong. I truly hope that people aren't scrubbing dog blood enough that it plays into these numbers. There absolutely are tasks where men will go faster by virtue of being overall stronger. Wood chopping, lawn mowing etc. There are tasks that can be half assed or done correctly and that will impact speed (laundry i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Why is this so accurate?Sigh. No I don't care about you in the slightest. I'm enforcing the rules about link drops. Usually we ban people that do it. I thought I'd give you a heads up about the values of the sub but if you continue to be a brat we can go back to the standard operating procedure. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/24 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Why is this so accurate?Either it is indicating that men move the goal posts so that poor women can't do anything right OR it's satire and off topic for the sub. Either way we don't allow outside links with no context. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/24 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is this so accurate?Removed. No link dumping. If you have a question or a discussion to go with the post the you can update the post and let me know and I will reapproved. However, this isn't a sub to badmouth or complain about men. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/24 01:16 PM |
| 1 | struggling with biting my tongueRemoved. Be polite or be quiet | /r/RedPillWives | 28/08/24 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Why do you do everything on your own?We aren’t that far removed from housework being considered solely“women’s work” and unfortunately society has socialized the sexes to be egalitarian without renegotiating expectations around what that would look like. Yeah we aren't aiming for an egalitarian relationship on RPW. I have no problem with house work being considered "women's work". Egalitarian relationships don't really serve as well as the feminists idealized them. If anything, the lack of input on major decisions in their marriage… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/08/24 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do you do everything on your own?I never said "we all want to maintain some level of control". I said that the type of women for whom it is true (that they are overworked with little help) often have control issues. These type of women think their husband is inept because he doesn't do things the way that she does them. She thinks that if she doesn't do something, it won't be done right. So she ends up overworked because she can't let go. In this sort of situation, you can either let go of having things done your own way and ge… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/08/24 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do you do everything on your own?Many women are their own greatest enemies in this regard. Laura Doyle wrote Surrendered Wife (which is pretty popular in these parts) to deal with these women who take on every burden, feel over burdened but don't know how to let go and let their husbands help. You have to be really careful in assuming that what goes on in a long term relationship is as clear as it looks. I'm in my 40s. I've seen some of these relationships where the woman is extremely overworked and feels like her husband is do… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/08/24 05:03 PM |
| 15 | book suggestionAww sweetie, did you just check Amazon for a list of books about relationships? A man at 20 does not have valuable advice for women. Did you even read any of these? You didn't bother to tell us what they are about so why are we supposed to take your word for any of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 11:48 AM |
| 3 | Why do you do everything on your own?Almost no one in America ACTUALLY budgets, so they all have no idea how much they are spending on outsourcing through eating out. I work doing personal financial planning. My favorite example of this was a client from years back who was making upwards of $300,000 / year (possibly even $500,000 but it's been so long I forget). He worked, she stayed home with kids. They complained that they lived paycheck to paycheck. We downloaded their bank and credit cards statements into a spread sheet for the… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/08/24 06:10 PM |
| 5 | Why do you do everything on your own?But it sounds like a lot of your husbands just tell you “No, there’s no money” or “those are the tasks of a wife” and leave you with raw hands and broken backs. I'm going to push back on this because I don't think it's the norm. I've never heard this from friends in real life, even the ones who make complaining about their husbands into a hobby. I never heard it from cousins, aunts or even my mother (who is a self-inflicted overworker). I haven't seen it from regulars on RPW or RPWives. Where yo… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/08/24 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Husband of one month not keeping promises, acting different, probably wants divorce m30 f29Then your best option in my opinion is to end this now and start dating again. This is not the standard RPW advice but you aren't young enough to wait a few years and see if he improves. His promises have already been proven false. Getting a divorce takes time depending on the laws of your area. Dating takes time. Getting engaged and married takes time and then kids take time. You don't have the luxury of taking time to see if he improves. You will make your life infinitely more difficult bringi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Husband of one month not keeping promises, acting different, probably wants divorce m30 f29Do you want kids? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 05:05 PM |
| 3 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Removed. Every woman is entitled to her own goals. This isn't helping her achieve what she's asking about. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/24 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Breaking Good: Spoiling Your HusbandThis comes off as snarky. I'm removing it unless you want to explain why it's relevant. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/07/24 10:16 PM |
| 4 | Husband Came Home with a Surprise GiftVictory may be the wrong word - it used to be used around here as a synonym for "successes" or "achievements" which is what I intended. Not that marriage is a war. You are here telling us about this wonderful thing your husband did for you. At RPW we would assume that you vetted well and also contribute to his life in such a way that he wants to do these things for you. That is what is worth talking about because that is what others can take and apply to their own situations. FSM is "female soci… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/07/24 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Husband Came Home with a Surprise Giftwill share pictures We actually discussed this recently and are concerned that allowing people to share images on the subs will turn us into something that it is not meant to be. We want women to share their victories and how they achieved them so everyone can learn. Allowing images risks turning it into a sub for either bragging about your stuff (which knowing what we know about the FSM and hypergamy is clearly a negative) OR advice focuses more on appearance than behavior which is simply not w… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/07/24 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Mod Note: New Sub of Cranky SinglesSocial media is not the total of reality and happy people don't go on social media to complain. Further the algorithms show you more of what you glue your eyes to. So reject the idea that you understand anything because you've seen it on social media. Red Pill isnt specifically trad, especially on the men's side. RP doesn't teach anything about homeschooling. If you'd like to understand what we are then there is a whole wiki on this sub and r/redpillwomen that can help you understand the underly… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/07/24 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Found my (26F) boyfriend (30M) has been chatting online with girlsI'm not sure the stats back you up and also there are issues that aren't tracked. I can just as easily say that I've seen first hand the problems divorce caused for my ex and my husband. Your anecdotes aren't better than mine. They are just your experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/24 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Mod Note: New Sub of Cranky SinglesWhat rules and what women? Most RP women will tell you not to be with a man who is specifically into RP. Generally we want different things. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/07/24 09:07 PM |
| 7 | Provider mindsetLifestyle is a loaded word because we often connect it to money. However what I'm talking about here could be anything from "I wouldn't want to have kids if I can't stay home with them while they are young" or "I am passionate about homeschooling" or "I wouldn't be happy without this kink in my sex life" or "I would never want to leave the city" And yeah, women who only want a provider in a gold digger sense of the word, that too. And I'm not suggesting that this be done in a classless manner or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 11:19 AM |
| 10 | Provider mindsetWe are told again and again that our greatest asset in finding a man is youth and beauty. Men want an unjaded woman who isn't hurt by her past. What you are suggesting could easily lead to a series of heartbreaks when a woman gains commitment/falls in love and THEN finds out that her partner is not interested in the same lifestyle that she is seeking. It wastes time which we have a limited supply of. In invests our hearts in something that doesn't meet our goals. It leaves us jaded about men. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/24 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Provider mindsetThis is how you end up with a man who has no interest in providing for a family. Also you are misunderstanding the "don't talk about fight club" rule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/24 10:09 PM |
| – | What do you think of my “to do list”OP, you need to engage with the comments and also stop deleting and reposting the same thing. If you want feedback then talk to people instead of reposting. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/24 01:28 PM |
| 4 | Mod Note: New Sub of Cranky SinglesI agree. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be desirable to men. You need to be attractive in order to attract a partner! In this context, the women using it are using it as an insult and coming here to argue. IMO anyone who uses "pick me" as an insult is not really someone who can give good relationship advice, especially in an RP context. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/24 01:24 PM |
| 1 | I just want to be a good wife but don’t know howOP, it looks like this post got picked up by a man hating sub who are coming in to give you "advice". I'm going to lock it. If you aren't ready for that please shoot me a DM and we can figure out the best way forward. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/06/24 03:49 PM |
| 1 | I just want to be a good wife but don’t know howRemoved. I don't know why you thought this was a helpful comment. Do better. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/06/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Best way for women in their late 20’s to secure marriage from HVM?How long have you been together? Do you still have an active bedroom? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 09:09 PM |
| 5 | Ways to prepare/work on myself before dating and marriage?Men do not want to be with other men. We are complements not mirrors. Unless I'm confused about what you are saying because you are vague here, this isn't RP advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/24 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what?Actually, what you do is calculate the insurance so that the money WILL last forever. It ends up with a very large policy depending on how much income you need. But a general rule of thumb is that a properly invested portfolio can kick out 4% annually without running out. So a $3Mil life insurance policy would generate about $120,000 annually in the event of his death, as a for instance. Depending on your age that can be a fairly reasonable annual cost. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/24 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Should the man travel first in long distance relationships?This is so passive aggressively bitchy. It's straight out of a sorority rush party 😂😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/24 11:40 PM |
| 5 | How much money would it take for you to sell yourselfObviously you think that you would just have a sense of it. In reality you'd likely do the same as the OPs bf which is to take the part that fits your expectations and ignore all else. This question is framed so that you are more likely to give an answer even an absurd one. If he asked "is there any amount of money that could buy sex with you" she'd have been more likely to answer no I think. Frame matters a great deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/24 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Low self esteemLife pro tip, no woman wants you to be honest that her body isn't enough for you. This is particularly true when you are sleeping with the woman. Don't use "I'm just being honest" to be an asshole. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/24 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Exploring the five faces of the perfect wifedoesn't that leave the husband as nothing more than the beneficiary in the relationship? Why would you assume the husband is doing nothing? IMO both partners should be striving to be their best for themselves and each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 02:22 PM |
| 6 | Desperately Need Advicemake it a stand alone post? | /r/RedPillWives | 07/05/24 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Desperately Need AdviceHe's been banned. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/05/24 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Desperately Need AdviceMen are no longer permitted to give advice on RPW and this is part of the reason why. None of this is actual RPW advice. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/05/24 07:17 PM |
| 4 | How do I move on from being playedAh ok. I did message you back in DM and I added the link and some context here for the post I was talking about. Alpha Widows are women who are hung up on a particular man. It's someone who has "the one that got away" and even a year or more after the break up still isnt able to move on from a guy. It isn't your situation IMO, you are just raw from a recent break up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 05:17 PM |
| 4 | How do I move on from being played4) Getting Over Him a) “Normal” Breakup – in no particular order of importance i) No contact – includes internet stalking ii) Post Mortem Relationship Review (1) Where did you mess up? What would his friends say about you if they were asked? (a) Do not involve friends – “he doesn’t deserve you” bad and untrue (2) Where were you incompatible (3) What did you dislike about him, what red flags might you have ignored, what do you need to vet for or against next time (a) This is very easy in a normal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 05:15 PM |
| 3 | How do I move on from being playedSo I have no right to feel sad for myself for being dumb? Of course you do. However, there are supposed to be no rants or validation seeking on this sub. If everything is someone else's fault it may help you get through the hard feelings but it's not going to help you attain your long term goals. Also, if he was just a big meanie with no redeeming qualities then you are more likely to seek out his opposite whether or not that is what you actually need to be happy. Mourn the death of a crush. Get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 05:02 PM |
| 11 | How do I move on from being playedIf he took advantage of the fact I didn't get enough and accepted the bare minimum Not his fault that he accepted what you offered. but why would anyone want to be sloppy seconds, Are you a virgin? Are you dating virgins? If not you may not want to go down this rhetorical road. he clearly only wanted to keep me around his circle to stroke his ego Girl. Do you always ask for help and then argue? I saw you did it on the post you made on askmen. If this is a general tendency of yours then perhaps y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 04:32 PM |
| 7 | Bait N Switched by a Dylan...Chad's younger brother | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 03:48 PM |
| 12 | How do I move on from being playedI did read your post. All of it. Him not telling you that his last relationship was so recent may be him being loose with the truth. This is what vetting is for but it's not him using you. If you went out as friends and he wasn't even promising you a relationship then this is ENTIRELY on you. It sounds like you made out your connection with him to be more than he ever made it out to be. You are sad and hurt but that doesn't mean that he did anything wrong. It means that you thought this was some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 03:11 PM |
| 47 | How do I move on from being playedHow were you used? You went out on a couple dates, made out without sex and then it ended due to his health. When he was healthy again, he didn't want to go out with you again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 02:01 PM |
| 16 | Bait N Switched by a Dylan...A sugar baby has a transactional view of relationships. Shocking! We've never seen sex work impact a persons personality/dating approach on this sub. It can't possibly be a problem for a relationships! sigh. every time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 01:52 PM |
| 20 | Bait N Switched by a Dylan...First, this isn't the Dylan archetype But more importantly, this isn't a bait and switch. You had a relationship with him and blew it. Just because he only wants you back as a plate doesn't make it a bait and switch. Lacking any additional information, this looks like it was yours to lose and you lost it. You say "what do y'all think about this" what sort of advice are you looking for? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 12:05 PM |
| 3 | How to find a traditional manThis is so very vague that you aren't actually giving advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | If you were on an island, who would you rather be with, a group of men, a group of women, alone (or with a bear).Ive watched groups of people in various settings over the course of my life. Both men and women overwhelmingly follow a leader and have no interest in being a leader. Women are actually harder because there are a lot of unhelpful undercurrents insofar as accomplishing a goal. But as a whole, people are followers. Men will do the work as long as someone is setting out the plan. Leadership isn't challenged as much as you think. It does happen but it happens when current leadership is failing in so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/24 05:14 PM |
| 2 | If you were on an island, who would you rather be with, a group of men, a group of women, alone (or with a bear).So basically there is no answer that a woman can give that will satisfy men. I am so glad that I am out of the dating market in this climate. Y'all are impossible to please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/24 03:32 PM |
| 2 | If you were on an island, who would you rather be with, a group of men, a group of women, alone (or with a bear).So men are uncivilized, can't respect their chosen leader and would rape a woman given the opportunity? I wasn't using this as a gotcha answer but your premise shows all the "bear-answer" women that they are completely right not wanting to be around men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/24 11:32 AM |
| 6 | If you were on an island, who would you rather be with, a group of men, a group of women, alone (or with a bear).Men. I'd trade sex for protection & provisions from the alpha male of the group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 10:10 PM |
| 1 | On average women paid $499.96 for a date and men paid $861.29 in 2019.It always was both a men's and women's issue. I don't mean the issue in particular, I meant the fact that you are suggesting men are paying too much instead of assuming it's a choice. It is not dissimilar to feminists saying "prostitution is renting your body, marriage is selling it" as though they can make judgements for everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 09:51 PM |
| 1 | On average women paid $499.96 for a date and men paid $861.29 in 2019.LOL! IDK when I was dating I always offered to pay. There were men who accepted and men who insisted on paying. Seems like no one should have paid if they felt like they were just a wallet. I'll leave you be because we aren't going to see eye to eye. I'm just fascinated that the feminist/equality vs trad/submissive female infighting seems to have moved over to mens issues now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 09:25 PM |
| 1 | On average women paid $499.96 for a date and men paid $861.29 in 2019.But on what basis do you have the authority to speak to what other men want? Again, it goes to preferences. Why are your preferences more valid than a dude who feels good about providing? Why is your way better? I guess the point of the OP isn't clear to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 09:10 PM |
| 4 | On average women paid $499.96 for a date and men paid $861.29 in 2019.Why are you? It's other men who are paying more if you are only dating women who will split things equally. If an equal relationship is what you want then that is what you should go for and if a non equal relationship is what someone else wants that is what they should go for. The statistics are accounting for both types of desires. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 09:04 PM |
| 0 | On average women paid $499.96 for a date and men paid $861.29 in 2019.If I'm not interested in equality in a relationship, am I still required to be outraged that men pay more 🧐 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/24 08:49 PM |
| 0 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.I've been an RPW since the dudes at TRP were running it. I know the theory dieectly from the men who put the sub together but sure dude. Whatever you think is going on here you must be right cause I am just a silly girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 08:49 PM |
| -2 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.This is a weird thing to get insulted over. She's not wrong. It's THE red pill answer for the OP. Most men here are RP and I've seen this answer given repeatedly for years that's I've participated in these spaces. If everyone is speaking for themselves then is this even red pill v blue pill debates ? Why are men suddenly so offended at being generalized when it's the basis of RP thought? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:22 PM |
| 0 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.But it IS the traditional red pill answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:14 PM |
| 4 | If a woman can't handle your insecurities, run like you're one with the Speedforce*Enabling people's maladaptive behavior doesn't actually make you a good person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 11:54 AM |
| 4 | Are sexual needs a mutual obligation?Know your partner's refractory period / how long they go before "I need to get off." Don't exceed without a solid reason. If it's three days and partner is miserable and distracted then five days straight of " no" ( without reason) is "TOO much". If it's two weeks before partner gets itchy then you have more wiggle room. Being able to keep up with someone is a compatibility issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/24 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Well the suffrage movement predates modern feminism. Seneca Falls was 1848. The claims of modern marriage failing usually start post 1950s where the 50s are some idealized time when people had perfect relationships and it's been downhill ever since. So I'm assuming that you mean more like 1960s feminism. Remember that that was also a time when men were happy to let go of the sexual mores of the past in order to get some ass. If things were hunky dory, feminism would not have gotten the foothold … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/24 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?I think this is overly simplistic. Tired moms aren't thinking "I'm not having sex to bust the patriarchy". There are so many reasons you see named in this thread. Feminism may have an impact but it's not the be all end all boogie man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/24 03:28 PM |
| – | Do you feel that Logical conversations with women lead them being emotional and manipulative ?Isn't this the historical and traditional logic though. Men were the warriors who went out to protect, provide and often die for their family (community, country). Men are stronger and more aggressive so they stand a better chance against an enemy, who is most often other men. Children need their parents and the age of the child matters. But it is the traditional approach that the mother is MOST responsible for the children especially when they are young. Women are more agreeable and our brains … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 01:39 PM |
| – | Do you feel that Logical conversations with women lead them being emotional and manipulative ?Agreed. My take is that he knew exactly what he was doing and is here to humble brag. I do not buy for a second "I'm so confused that she got emotional when all I was saying were facts". He knows. He did it to rile her up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 01:19 PM |
| – | Do you feel that Logical conversations with women lead them being emotional and manipulative ?She made a broad statement and you made targeted criticisms. It's not the same in the slightest. This particular emotional woman is your creation and has nothing to do with your "logic" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 01:11 PM |
| – | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5 years, 3 children)It has become clear that the OP has already made her decision and is looking for validation not guidance, RPW or otherwise. These posts are being locked for further comment. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/04/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with these points of frustration without nagging my boyfriend?This really isn't RPW advice. Have you been on this sub before? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 03:08 PM |
| 3 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)::shrug:: still, in the end, instead of trying to fix anything with him, you are listening to her and going to leave. And even if she didn't verbalize that you should leave until recently, you knew what her opinion would be didnt you? So she communicates her feelings for him well enough while maintaining deniability. That doesn't make her supportive of the relationship, it just means she knows how to bide her time. My mother thinks my husband is controlling. She thinks that because SHE doesn't h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 01:11 PM |
| 1 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)You have your soapbox. You aren't looking further than your own opinions. That's not advice and I can't have a reasonable discussion with the fantasy world in your head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 12:49 PM |
| 3 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)He is concerned that she is influencing you to leave. She has told you to leave. You are seriously thinking about leaving. He's right. Objectively, his concern about your mother is correct. You can go back and forth about whether leaving is right or wrong in the situation but your man is right that your mother's influence is influencing your behavior in the relationship. It's not an opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 12:46 PM |
| 1 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)Oof, insulting the OP and her man all in one go because you would make different life choices. That's...something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 12:44 PM |
| 2 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)So your husband's concern about your mother is valid then correct? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 12:40 PM |
| 2 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)Consider that his instincts might not be wrong here. Per the OP there have been complaints for years now about her mother that obviously haven't changed based on her other post. Now, SHE slapped her daughter and she is blaming it on him because she didn't have the wherewithal to tell him no in the moment. Her answer to HER slapping the daughter is to leave the relationship. The OP has major accountability issues and her impulse is to flee the relationship. BUT (and this is important) before maki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 12:19 PM |
| – | conflict between SO and my motherOPs post on a related topic | /r/RedPillWives | 29/04/24 09:39 PM |
| 2 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5 years, 3 children)OPs second post on a related topic | /r/RedPillWives | 29/04/24 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?Why buy the cow... Passion The Final Exam These are probably worth a read for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 11:41 PM |
| 68 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?If you intend to stop having sex, then yes, I would expect he will end things with you. Otherwise, this is a foolish move from a strategy point. You had sex so the cow is out on rental, the cat is out of the bag, the horses have fled the barn and whatever other idioms you want to throw around. You will never know if he sees you as wife material at the second date. He doesn't know if he sees you as wife material and you don't know if he's husband material. You both are in a phase of vetting each … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?How? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 10:29 PM |
| 57 | Had Sex. What do I do Now?What is the purpose of ending it now? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/24 10:28 PM |
| 3 | He's constantly late and cancelsExactly this. And we can't know what he's thinking but I also can't help but think that a woman who can't introduce you to her parents is a really good option if you are only thinking in the short term. There is no pressure to move things forward because, well, she's not even allowed to be dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/24 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Lesson learnt after breakupOk so why are you here and what value does your experience add to the community of women? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/24 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Lesson learnt after breakupAh ok. I understand what you are saying. Yes some people have a personality that will always be goal oriented and "mature" but it's very easy to be immature forever in this culture. And I agree that it's not biological it's motivation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/24 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Lesson learnt after breakupWe are all born immature. Some people grow up and others don't (ie remain immature). I agree with the last sentence, I'm not clear why it's a lie to say that men are born immature. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/24 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.A 5 or a 10 is looks based. This comment doesn't make sense the way it is written | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/24 07:59 PM |
| 9 | So, We've Decided to Ban the MenBanned on sight | /r/RedPillWives | 13/04/24 03:50 PM |
| 23 | So, We've Decided to Ban the MenBanned on sight | /r/RedPillWives | 13/04/24 10:40 AM |
| 1 | I (21F) have too many male friends and it’s a problem for my (21m) bf.Removed. The snark is unhelpful. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/24 08:22 PM |
| 2 | I (21F) have too many male friends and it’s a problem for my (21m) bf.not all men want to sleep with you When you meet someone who is already paired off or is asexual, then sure, this is less of a concern. But you won't necessarily know why someone started being your friend, nor will you necessarily know if they have feelings for you unless they disclose it. Men are usually the ones that tell you that other men aren't your friends. Dads pass this sort of information along to their daughters because they understand male sexuality. Your male friends are unlikely to … | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/24 01:49 PM |
| – | How are you raising your boys and girls with redpill theory in mind?Hi RPW, This question came from (based on post history) a not-quite-RP party boy. As such I've removed him from the sub. Outside of the condescending assumptions, I thought it could be an interesting topic for discussion so I am leaving it up for anyone who wants to simply use it as a jumping off point. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/04/24 12:36 PM |
| 1 | unsure whether multiple wives lifestyle is for meHis father wants what is best for his son and not what is best for you. It is unfortunate because if his father should be smacking him upside the head and giving him a reality dose not trying to make you live in his fantasy world. He's doing his son a disservice here IMO. But it sounds like you have your approach and good on you for not forcing yourself into something you do not want. Good luck in the dating world!! | /r/RedPillWives | 02/04/24 04:11 PM |
| 8 | unsure whether multiple wives lifestyle is for meFor all the reasons that everyone else has said already - you probably should end this relationship. But here is is a hail mary option for you: Explain to him that you understand that men are polygamous and it's simply their nature. Women on the other hand are hypergamous and that is our nature. You are ok continuing in a relationship with him where he does not control his nature as long as you are also not expected to control yours. To that end, you will be going on dates with other men to dete… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/03/24 04:51 PM |
| 3 | What roles do parents play in raising their son to be a high value man?A man cannot replace a mother, a woman cannot replace a father. We have different natures, strengths, weakness and contribute different things to a healthy upbringing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/24 05:15 PM |
| 4 | The case of dating a man in a bad financial stateIs this the guy that bought McDonald's coffee before going on a coffee date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/24 12:30 PM |
| 3 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Oh lol. I wasn't even thinking a bot, just someone who made crap up to feel superior to everyone around her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Honestly, getting to the wedding isn't even the full picture. With divorce fairly common, you have to get past the wedding before you can say that a strategy works. I'm reminded of a guy who married his long term girlfriend under pressure and the marriage lasted under a year. Once she had the ring she became intolerable and the whole thing fell apart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 08:42 PM |
| 6 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Given the attitude we are seeing here, I have trouble believing anything she's saying but hey, there are plenty of men out there with the "I can fix her" attitude when it comes to getting dates. It just doesn't last when they realize that they cannot fix her. But yeah, what man doesn't want to be married to a woman who isn't attracted to him. I imagine he made out ok in the break up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?hench, why you're in here trying to hoodwink a male into marrying you. Sigh. I'm married...for 17 years. And I don't need to say anymore because I read what the men here are saying to you and so I'll just bow out of this unpleasantness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 08:30 PM |
| 9 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Thanks, I'll pass on that advice. I'd be both unhappy and divorced if I had to be mean to my husband unless I wanted something from him. And it hasn't really worked for you either. Being almost married isn't really impressive. If your technique isn't getting you to a ring with the kind of man you want to be with then it's not proven advice. If it gets you to the ring but you can't sustain a relationship then it's also not good advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 07:33 PM |
| 5 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Yeah, why are you here then? Is it just to act like you are better than a bunch of people who want to be married? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 07:16 PM |
| 6 | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?And how is that going for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Help He yells a lot and slams doorsRemoved and I suggest you take a break from the Red Pill Women's subs. You don't seem to understand the concepts if you are choosing to debate something so basic. No one is capable of changing another persons behavior. The start of all good advice is to look at what you can change and then assessing the situation after you have done so. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/03/24 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Dating and being "older"What exactly is your point here? That men are bad? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 12:34 PM |
| – | Update: ex bf (20m) and i (21f) still want to be in contactAs it is clear you have no intention of listening to any advice you've been given, this post is locked. Best of luck OP but we aren't going to keep going in circles with you. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/02/24 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with dating a high value man.I see no removed comments for you. This one is removed because there is no reason to let you complain that we don't understand RP here. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/02/24 12:38 PM |
| 14 | How do I get my bf back?I don't know kid, you aren't always going to get closure. Taking a look at what you wrote the situation is pretty damning. We’ve had some problems since the beginning of him being distant and avoidant towards me and I was awfully clingy Already, you are a bad pairing. He needs his space and you need someone attentive to you. And this has been an issue since he broke up with me and came back, It is rare that getting back together after a break up really fixes the problems. Especially if you haven… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/02/24 04:37 PM |
| – | How do I get my bf back?OP Please answer the questions when asking for relationship advice. You can edit the post and let me know when it has been edited. As you have been posting about the same issue with no changes over the past weeks on here and Red Pill Women, it is particularly important for you to reflect on the questions about "How have you contributed and what have you done to resolve the issue". I will reapprove the post after you edit. Please copy and paste the questions listed below into the submission box a… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/02/24 03:54 PM |
| 17 | How do I get my bf back?None of your very many recent posts indicate a man who wants to be with you and you aren't accepting that. Are you really still together? Because it sounds like he broke up with you and you can't accept it. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/02/24 03:27 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeAnd back in the day the man had the bare minimum of providing. Back in the day you would be married by now and not living together for five years. Listen, no one gets credit for listening to their partner talk, snuggling and other general demonstrations of affection. No one gets credit for sex either by the way. Sex and affection are what we expect out of relationships in 2024. They are the feelings that change a friendship to a relationship so neither partner gets credit for those things. Now, … | /r/RedPillWives | 14/02/24 01:37 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeThose are sort of the bare minimum for a relationship don't you think? Would you be in a relationship that didn't offer cuddles, rubs, listening to you? You know, I was about to say "put what you bring to the table in one column and what he brings in the other and see how things shake out" then I realized that I would absolutely RAIL against that in any other context. Keeping score is toxic and pretty unsustainable and really that is what he's doing here. If every nice thing he does for you (you… | /r/RedPillWives | 13/02/24 10:18 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeI once heard: just because you do not intend to be abusive, that does not mean that your behaviors aren't abusive. Perhaps think in those terms if it helps. Maybe, maybe, he doesn't mean to be controlling, but that doesn't change what the behaviors are and how they are making you feel. It can still be an incompatibility even if he thinks that this is simply the way men are supposed to act with women. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/02/24 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeThat is fair and I agree with that particular sentiment. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeThis sub is not for men who do not understand the balance required to have a lasting relationship, as you obviously do not. Dismissed. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/24 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeYou are welcome to ask questions here, marriage is not a requirement. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/24 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeWhen it was founded and through today, the sub has been for Red Pill Women of any stripe. The fact that it is title Red Pill Wives is because it came after the original red pill women sub. However, we are not exclusively for married women. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/24 07:47 PM |
| 2 | My friend 28f says she sees me 28f as competition, what should I do?LMAO, one comment back you referred to women as girls. If you are going to police someone's language at least make sure you are using the approved words yourself | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how. *Cross posted*Yes. This is a red pill subreddit so jumping to divorce is not really advice. In fact, none of this is advice, helpful or actionable. Comments removed. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/02/24 05:21 PM |
| 6 | Is a list of expectations going overboard?You are right I'm sure. It might be time for a new post: AWALT - Yes You ARE Like Other Girls | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Is a list of expectations going overboard?I'm totally blown away by the logic "he didn't like other girls expectations but surely it will work for me" | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Looking for hard truthRespectfully, grow the fuck up. Parents can screw us up in all sorts of ways but once you have entered your mid twenties you are the problem not them. If you need to disengage from your mother for a while to get mentally healthy then do it. Right now you are seeking her attention at the expense of your life. While you are behaving like that you will not have your own family. Would you like your mother's attention or a family of your own? But by 25 you have to stop blaming your parents for your o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/24 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Got pregnant and shouted at husbandYes it was tone deaf. However what most wives would think of it and what she thought of it in the past are not the same. They'd had these conversations before. Was her pregnancy the time, no. Pregnancy is weird and you can mentally change on a dime. He made an error based on something past-OP would have been ok with. It is unclear to me whether this has been going on a year past birth or if the kids are three months old now (which is what it sounds like above) Look pregnancy is hard on both part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/24 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Got pregnant and shouted at husbandOR, he asked for the threesome and when she shot him down, he backed off to give her space. She was on bed rest (couldn't have sex) plus post birth restrictions. She says that she's just starting to think about sex again recently. Maybe he was doing what he thought she wanted and is actually an ok guy. Sometimes our partners deserve the benefit of the doubt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/24 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Getting commitment after sexThis would make an valuable stand alone post (it's a good piece of vetting/girl game). I think you hit on a very real dynamic here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/24 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Annoying comments from HusbandThe mods give out stars for particularly good comments and an understanding of the red pill. Someone with stars is worth listening to, someone with "endorsed contributor" in their flair even moreso. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/24 02:47 PM |
| 8 | How to get over being pumped and dumped?One of the core tenets of RP is that men and women handle sex differently. Women tend to become attached in ways that men tend to not. And I will add that as a woman, I've never ever ever understood my "league". What we are attracted to in men is really varied and more than just physical. Throw in the idea that it's "whoever is attracted to you" and you might see where a woman could be confused by a man who sleeps with her but doesn't want to be with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 11:32 PM |
| 6 | How to get over being pumped and dumped?nobody uses anyone for sex that’s consensual and here it clearly was. Yes but in this situation it's not actually helpful. Alpha widowhood is one of the few cases where a woman needs to get angry at the guy and distance herself from the relationship. Arguing over consent or who used who is entirely beside the point unless you are just getting on a soapbox. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 11:21 PM |
| 14 | How to get over being pumped and dumped?Losing weight is good. Looksmaxxing is good but you should focus on things you will not have to pay too much for (or save). Adding credit card debt does not make you a more appealing long term partner. You have two goals here. The first is to improve yourself as much as possible. This means not just your physical appearance but also feminine behavior and solid mental health. You want to work to develop the confidence that you can recognize that this guy is not the only tasty fish in the sea. The… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 10:31 PM |
| 24 | How to get over being pumped and dumped?What have you done to try to get over him? What have you done to improve yourself so you can get better men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 10:08 PM |
| 39 | Loose vaginaWas this by chance a random hook up? It is a pretty appalling comment from someone you are in a committed relationship with. The vagina is a muscle. It stretches to accommodate penises and also, babies, which are way bigger. Pelvic floor exercises, kegels, kegel weights can all help you tighten up. Also, women are different sizes, just like men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Feeling upset after last nights conversation with my boyfriendHe's not her future if she wants kids and he does not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 04:17 PM |
| 5 | Annoying comments from HusbandIt's not an issue of agreeing or disagreeing with the comment. It isn't actionable. If I think my man is great except for this one thing, and someone comes in and says "well actually, that one annoying thing means he's not a high value man (which is a much broader issues)" what is my recourse? At best I'm in the same situation that I was in when I asked the question. At worst, I'm not more angry and I have someone else to back up my anger. This is a good way to start the hamster going. Further, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 04:10 PM |
| 14 | Annoying comments from HusbandYou know that it's possible to help women communicate with their men whether the men are what you consider high value or not. This "hvm" thing is just a way to brush off an OPs issue without giving useful advice. "Oh he's not high values can't do anything about your problem" and then telling her that he's not a leader and needs to grow up? As someone with a bunch of stars, this comment is embarrassing for the sub | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Why is the answer to almost every relationship advice post on Reddit “leave them”?You don't but how can you be so confident that leaving is the right choice for someone else. Leaving because of any conflict rather than attempting to work through it first is also "dumb af" and typically is a pattern that will repeat itself in future relationships | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/24 08:43 PM |
| 21 | The Curious Case of a Married Couple's Strange Interactions #1This is an unhealthy amount of knowledge you have about your coworkers lives outside of work. You might need to mind your own business here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/24 01:05 AM |
| 22 | Struggling with submitting and STFUYou are saying the quiet parts out loud. When women are saying these things to their friends, they are not saying them to their husband. This isn't about feminism (and I am absolutely not defending feminism) and it isn't actually about submission. This is courtesy to your partner. Now, how to stop doing it. First, it might be worth looking at what else is going on when you snap at him like this. Are you worn out and lashing out? Could it be hormonal? Is there something he's doing or not doing th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/24 12:29 AM |
| 12 | Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractiveIt is the glorious train wreck that you think it is. It also is a huge demonstration that sex work is bad for women's dating prospects and psyche. The thing I will give those women credit for is that they aren't recruiting. They often tell wannabe strippers that it's hard, filled with various levels of assault and changes the way you see men. but they NEVER ever marry them. I remember a frat dude in college who was dating a stripper. He specifically did not ask her real name because he was datin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 08:12 PM |
| 13 | Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractiveI would really disagree that men are lining up to marry porn stars (yes, only fans girls are porn stars). For funsies, I like to check in on r/stripper which is exclusively for strippers to talk to each other. You can see what their dating lives are like and extrapolate. Men go out with them, in many cases, it doesn't stick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 07:49 PM |
| 13 | Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractiveLet's presume that you are correct. Ok. So men will marry beautiful women. However, not all women are beautiful so what else do men seek? Some seek a more chaste woman, some want a homemaker, some want a partner in crime, etc etc etc. And of course you will be better off if you have multiple attractive qualities. There are a limited number of 9s & 10s and not every man can have the most beautiful women in the world, even if they ignore all other qualities and just seek out beauty. So when those … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 07:45 PM |
| 6 | How do you find a man to pay for you?Wow you're fun. It's against the rules to dox so no I will not ask you for your wedding pics. The point is that men will shoot their shot where they think they have it. If you have a great man then awesome for you. But the ones who simply hit on you don't count for much and you are trying to suggest they do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/23 10:05 PM |
| 7 | How do you find a man to pay for you?If you aren't married to one of these men then this is a flex without merit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/23 12:34 PM |
| 24 | Why are all the high value and marriage material men already taken?She had an affair and an abortion. She's no longer a contender for religious men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 03:45 PM |
| – | Thoughts?Please explain the relevance of this to RPW? There is no content in the post and not everyone wants to click through without knowing first what they are seeing. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/12/23 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Getting eaten out for the first timeThat depends a lot on the situation and the man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/23 04:56 PM |
| 3 | How can I make more girl friendsIt's based on personality research that broadly breaks down personality into five dimensions, of which agreeable/disagreeable is one. Everything is on a continuum so there is no (rarely) one who is entirely disagreeable or entirely agreeable. There is additional break down within each category but that's the gist. And I don't think you get to decide "where you'd like to fall" it's just sort of where the test/your personality determines you are. Anyway, if it doesn't resonate for you then it does… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 10:33 PM |
| 10 | How can I make more girl friendsAgreeableness is the general concern for social harmony. Agreeable individuals value getting along with others. They are generally considerate, kind, generous, trusting and trustworthy, helpful, and willing to compromise their interests with others.[1] Agreeable people also have an optimistic view of human nature. Disagreeable individuals place self-interest above getting along with others. They are generally unconcerned with others' well-being and are less likely to extend themselves for other … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 10:16 PM |
| 11 | How can I make more girl friendsHave you ever taken a Big 5 personal test? You come across as very disagreeable here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 09:46 PM |
| 19 | Sex and spending time together…If your parents spend all their time in front of the TV and not being intimate then they aren't anything to emulate. My grandparents were married til the day he died, but they never spoke and lived on different levels of the house. Longevity is not the only thing you need for a successful marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 12:20 AM |
| 6 | What is your Preference for Male Body Type?Right, as long as the functional strength isn't hidden behind an excessive amount of fat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/23 07:23 PM |
| 25 | My boyfriend asked for a 50-50 split on the tripYou would have sex if he pays $80 for a room. You will not have sex if you have to contribute $40. You want him to pay your half ($40) ergo, sex with you costs $40. I know a bunch of men who would sign up for this deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 01:39 PM |
| 17 | What is your game if you are mid 30s (never married, no childen) dating someone from 2 months? What should you tell them, or how long you should wait?How much time did you lose? Why did the relationship fail? What flags should you have recognized sooner? Those sorts of questions will help you more than what others do | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/23 12:07 PM |
| 16 | What is your game if you are mid 30s (never married, no childen) dating someone from 2 months? What should you tell them, or how long you should wait?And what mistakes were those? Just knowing what others do won't help you not make mistakes. Other people aren't you and don't have your goals values and baggage | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/23 12:02 PM |
| 19 | Men wanting to have sex with me is a turn off.You aren't ready to date yet. Take a break. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 06:09 PM |
| 5 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?Staying at home with kids isn't allowed to be stressful? 😂 You aren't a parent yet are you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage adviceAre you a father? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 08:20 PM |
| 53 | CMV: Asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating, and women who think like that are red flagsNo. Not wanting to rely on blind faith doesn't mean she cheated but it does mean that you think it is possible and she is allowed to be insulted by that. Trying to argue that she's wrong for being offended that you think there is a possibility she cheated (ie baby isn't yours) means you either are arguing in bad faith or you are foolishly solipsistic. I don't plan to respond further because I've read your comments to others and it would be a waste. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 05:56 PM |
| 7 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage adviceSo I wfh and have kids similarly aged to OP's kids. We also do a cursory bit of homeschooling to gradually get into the swing of it for when the older kid has to be schooled. Plus all the usual household tasks. I have a sitter a few days a week (when she shows up :-\ ) and have found a routine where I leave the less important stuff (uhh like cleaning) when there is simply not enough time or sanity to do it. I'm generally ok but definitely have days where I'm going crazy or need sleep or whatever… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 02:13 PM |
| 11 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage adviceI babysat my twin two year old cousins when I was in college. I actually did a ton of babysitting when I was younger. It certainly made me think that I had a clue about what having kids would be like. It did teach me how to change a diaper and give me an idea of the rhythms of a kids day. I wasn't scared to parent. I had absolutely no idea what I was getting into as a parent though. Honestly, from the husband's responses, I wouldn't be surprised if he had experience with younger siblings or cous… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 01:59 PM |
| 3 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage adviceFor starters, that begging for sex and throwing tantrums like a toddler being denied a cookie does not turn women on This is a not insignificant part of the problem but idk how you address it when there is so much else going on too. Begging for sex is the quickest way to make a woman not want it AND turn it into just one more chore. (All your advice is solid this part just bothered me in the OP because the husband is working against his own interests and you wish you could just smack him upside … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 11:59 AM |
| 10 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage adviceTrust me when I say you have no idea what the OPs life is like just because you baby sat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 11:12 AM |
| 11 | Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender?I said married women having one night stands and multiple boyfriends is rare to non existent. You are having difficulty formulating a solid argument here and are just throwing stuff at the wall to see what sticks. I offered my husband a paternity test so I've got no skin in the game, I just thought your logic was faulty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 08:12 PM |
| 9 | Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender?Sure I do but that's not what your example says. You list a lot of behaviors that are rare to non existent for a married women. If your wife or girlfriend is having ONSs then you probably are headed for break ups whether there is a baby or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 07:54 PM |
| 9 | Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender?If you are in your 20s, one night stands, multiple bfs, believing in the pull out method.. But then you wouldn't have a husband to accuse you of paternity fraud so these women are outside of the OP, no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Should I 26 F let my fiancé 30M sleep with other women?Actually it is pretty classic red pill. It's not in women's best interest but yeah definitely within the RP framework | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/23 12:57 PM |
| – | Chicken soup for sick captain :(A lot of nutrition in the cartilage, bones etc. I was taught to boil the whole chicken too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/23 12:46 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?Nah, women don't approach sex as a method of gaining power over men, unless you are talking about sex workers. Women give sex in three dates (or whatever) because we've been programmed all our lives with the idea of easy sex being the norm. Or because we like a guy and the current game tends to go sex to relationship. Now with the rise of the Trads this is changing somewhat but I'm an older Millennial. Not one woman I know, feminist or otherwise, ever said "I'm going to have sex so I can control… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 08:16 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?We are at the point of the decline that it's a tragedy of the commons issues IMO. Everyone would have to work in the interest of the greater good to stop because on an individual basis you have to use whatever strategies help you reach your goals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 08:09 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?There is a difference when talking about men who have options and men who do not. TRP has been teaching men not to give away commitment for years. They wouldn't need to teach that if it was self evident. Men who have options likely will be pickier when it comes to sex because they can be. They will be very picky when it comes to commitment. But your average guy, he's just as likely to have sex and commitment go hand in hand with considerably less vetting because his options are lower. And again,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 08:05 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?I agree with you that people should make their own decisions, very very agree. My point is not that the TRP teachings are right or wrong. The comment above me said that men are pickier in giving commitment. My argument is that TRP (and the wider manosphere) would not have to spend so much time telling men "it's just your turn" "don't have oneitis" "marriage is against you" "don't be a beta simp" etc etc IF men weren't naturally inclined towards these things. You don't have to tell someone not to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 07:57 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?That's fine and not quite the point I was trying to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 05:03 PM |
| – | Why is the fact that men will fuck anything used as an insult towards women?It's simply untrue that men are pickier in other aspects or RP wouldn't have spent the last two decades beating into their heads not to be simps or get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 03:27 PM |
| 5 | How many matches do you get on dating apps each day?None because I've been with my husband since before smartphones. What do you hope to glean from this exercise? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.This happened to my husband's buddy from HS. He was leaps and bounds out of his wife's league. She got pregnant and he 'did the right thing' when they were young. After three kids and years of her being the oldest (but not most mature) child in the house, he put her through nursing school so she had something of her own and contributed to the retirement savings (instead of running up credit cards). She started working, met another nurse, left her family (told him he could keep the house and kids… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 06:09 PM |
| 11 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.I m in an argument with a friend. He says its okay for a men to sleep around IN A RELATIONSHIP if they are honest with eachother. Women cant. Two people can do anything within a relationship that they agree upon. Good luck to him finding a woman that will agree to this set up. They are out there but they are unicorns and a man has to be very desirable to manage it. He can say that "it's ok" all he wants but if he can't find a woman to agree with him, his "okay" is meaningless in a real world set… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:26 PM |
| 19 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyOh this is helpful. You want to actually say which parts are wrong or are you afraid your ideas fall apart under scrutiny | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 09:57 PM |
| 15 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyYour view of men is pretty messed up. I don't think you belong giving advice here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 02:19 PM |
| 7 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plans😂😂 well said | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 02:53 PM |
| 5 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.n fact these type of men go into relationship with young women openly agreeing with each other she is dating him for his money and they’re not going to keep moving because they can provide for those women, I ask again...how many high value men have you locked down?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:38 PM |
| 8 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.Nothing. If you see the same post on ppd, this is a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:02 PM |
| 5 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.Are these standards successful at getting you repeat dates the majority of the time. Have you landed a high value husband. If the answer isn't yes then you are just writing a wish fulfillment fantasy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 11:36 AM |
| – | What do women think they accomplish when they say how offended they are when someone calls them slut despite doing slutty acts and/or think that someone is obligated to care what they think?Are you sure that women aren't doing those things because men expect it rather than out of their own desires? We are the agreeable sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Husband having an affair/midlife crisis?You were a man writing this on RPW earlier and now suddenly you are a woman 🧐. Post is removed, we can only give advice to the person in the relationship. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/10/23 05:45 PM |
| 33 | Why does this man act like thisIn all likelihood you are hanging onto the idea of him because he turned you down. He seems more desirable because he's hard to get. I know you asked why he does this but consider your own part in it too | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/23 10:38 PM |
| 46 | Opinion about multiple women in marriageMy opinion is that it is exhausting every time some stranger comes in and instead of reading allllll the stuff we've written over the years, asks dumb questions that demonstrate a facile understanding of the sub | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 01:02 PM |
| 9 | What do you bring to the table?It is a question that has been asked by RPW/TRP for years now to mean "what do you contribute to the relationship" but sure you know better how to phrase things lurker dude | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/23 11:57 AM |
| 26 | Stuck in a situationship, now 26, is all lost for me if I want children (multiple)?You should stop posting on Reddit. Not only are you wasting our time since you've been in the same situation for at least a year, but writing here appears to make you think you are actually moving forward when you are not. You have to do something. Not wring your hands about how you don't like him but want kids. Make a decision to stay or go and then follow through. Go all in or GTFO and stop asking us for advice on the same damned thing. No one wants to give advice and then be ignored and that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.Ok. If you say so then it must be true. Feminism does not belong on an RP sub. You've never been here before and I'm feeling ban happy today. The comment is removed and not really up for debate | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/23 05:54 PM |
| 0 | Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.acknowledging that women can change their appearance with make up is not hating women. comment removed. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/23 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.I'm very confused how you are connecting what he said to yourself. It doesn't sound like he's talking about you, could you explain? | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/23 12:18 PM |
| 2 | What do HVM want? I need a women’s perspective because what is said in those male podcasts is not what I’ve observed in real life.So watching them isn't a great insight into what HVM want. Yes I agree, however I was responding to the fact that you were laughing at a woman asking other women's opinions on what men want. Men seem to believe that they always act in accordance with their words, it is only women that say one thing and do another. In my experience, this a human condition. And when we are dealing with online communities in particular, it is important to match up what you are told with what you see around you to s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 03:11 PM |
| 3 | What do HVM want? I need a women’s perspective because what is said in those male podcasts is not what I’ve observed in real life.Do we no longer do "watch what they do not what they say" in Red Pill spaces? Besides, while OP is incorrect, current podcasters are pretty awful. Please don't tell me that you think she should take the words of Fresh and Fit as gospel because I can't respect you if that's your take. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 05:11 AM |
| 1 | What would the “Surrendered Wife” approach be to husband’s excessive porn use?Perhaps you should read all the comments before giving this unhelpful and destructive advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/23 01:41 PM |
| 8 | Not sure if I me and my fiancé are compatible enough - need adviceOver a lifetime relationships have many struggles. Pushing them deep down does not typically mean a good outcome. Sometimes you need the right someone to talk to. She deserves a place to work through her thoughts whether or not her man would like them. She may not even feel like she's settling in the end. She has to figure out what she really feels like and suggesting that she is disgusting ("i would be so disgusted") because she is having cold feet is not helping her to work through her thought… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 08:11 PM |
| 7 | Not sure if I me and my fiancé are compatible enough - need adviceYes we must never ask for advice lest it be unflattering to our partner. Suffer in silence. Honestly, why do you think this is a comment worth posting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/23 05:17 PM |
| 4 | How do women help men grow?If you are preparing a man for his next partner it means that your girl game isn't strong enough to inspire commitment. Work on that. This attitude means you will always be alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 12:01 PM |
| 2 | Money.Ok but my husband is pretty awesome and impressive and marrying someone rich doesn't make him or you high value but hey, you do you sugar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/23 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Money.Sure ok, there are things I could do for my husband to leave me but I value him enough that I wouldn't and it goes both ways. I would say I'm sad for you but I honestly find your whole schtick to be utterly contemptible | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/23 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Money.Aww engaged not married, not living your lives together. Cute. Ah and posting on Sugar baby forums. It's always the sex workers that view relationships as transactional. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/23 12:31 AM |
| 0 | Money.Oof, you aren't in a real relationship are you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Meal Box Services are Improving my RelationshipsHi, I'm not sure how you stumbled in here grumpy sir, but kindly get out | /r/RedPillWives | 27/07/23 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Awkward sex questionWhy? | /r/RedPillWives | 24/07/23 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Snickering at Daughter's WordsThat's so cute! My daughters think I'm pretty (encouraged by my husband for sure). I often wonder how important that is to a little girl. I thought my mother was frumpy and unhappy so I don't know. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/07/23 08:20 PM |
| 23 | 21-35 vs 35-50 Speed DatingIdle curiosity about a couple of these points: Men presented their baggage up front What sort of baggage were you seeing? More men who were slightly mentally ill Effeminate is mannerisms but how are you diagnosing mental illness? (this sounds like i'm pushing back at you, i'm not, just wondering how it comes across in such a fast paced setting) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 05:43 PM |
| 5 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?It is possible for a woman to be attractive and not a spoiled bimbo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Help me stop eating!I have zero advice on the food front but it doesn't actually sound like you need that. What about something in the way of a food diary, or even a chore chart sort of thing in your kitchen. Something that makes you look at what you are eating each day. It won't necessarily stop you from eating but maybe putting stickers under your junk food column will force some accountability? Good luck lady, I know how far you've come with your life. I hope it doesn't sound corny but from one internet stranger… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Help me stop eating!How bad does it need to get to be taken seriously? At what point to we admit that your own issues color your judgement and you are not fit to give advice? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:35 PM |
| 6 | Help me stop eating!The OP has been on a years long journey to improve her relationship. If at this point, she says that she needs to lose more weight then I respect her judgement as an adult who is doing here best with what she's got. You aren't dealing with a 17 year old who is giving signs of anorexia, but an adult woman, a mother and wife, who wants to get her weight to a healthy level that will improve her life and marriage. You are looking for signs of disordered eating that simply aren't there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Help me stop eating!The OP is talking about losing weight so, yes we are talking about body shape and size. Not feeling satiety is not exclusively due to past restrictions. Pregnancy and weed can both mess with those hormones. One of the pharma companies has recently developed a weight loss drug that IIRC targets the hormones that prevent people from feeling sated. (A friend works on it but I may be wrong about what it's targeting). And anecdotally I know a man who can and will eat anything that is in front of him.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:19 PM |
| 2 | FR: I left a bad relationship at 23 and my life didn't end.relationships can develop at a faster pace when you're older The Wall is an event horizon, everything speeds up the closer you get to it. In all seriousness, this comment is so very true and I think something we fail to consider when talking about timelines around here. My bff and I married in the same year. She had been dating her man for about 2 year (1 to engagement, 1 to the wedding) and I'd been with mine for 5. I was 30 when I married and she was 30 when she got together with her man. Very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Help me stop eating!It can be though. There are a lot of disadvantages, health and physical appearance-wise to being overweight. If your body doesn't know when to stop (you don't feel sated) then there is a problem with eating because you think you are hungry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:01 PM |
| 9 | FR: I left a bad relationship at 23 and my life didn't end.YES! I was 22 when I broke up with my college boyfriend. He was a good guy with a solid life trajectory. On paper we were great and off paper, I didn't like having sex with him and he cheated on me. We were both clearly better off without each other but were so comfortable together. If I had married him we would have been divorced within 5 years - a fact we both agreed upon in later year. It's not good to meander your way through your 20s but it's not BETTER to stay in an unsuitable relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 02:29 PM |
| 3 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?You do realize that we are not him. It seems very important to you for everyone here to tell you that everything is fine. In the end, this is between you and him and if we say "don't worry everything is fine" then you are still in the same situation. If you don't trust our judgement then go talk to him, go on the date and see where things go. You should probably do that anyway. But stop fighting with everyone here we aren't the ones you need to convince you like him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 08:30 PM |
| 8 | Please welcome our new mod!🍷🔨📚🚫☕ here is your mod starter pack And in case of emergency 🐱💣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:49 PM |
| 13 | Please welcome our new mod!Hello and welcome /u/ChamomileMist . We will behave ourselves for the next five minutes in honor of your arrival :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:42 PM |
| 8 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?In addition to this /u/ins0mniaa , you were ready to walk away from this guy yesterday because you thought he'd be better with someone else. Your actions to him said someone else is better and your post to us said I'm looking for reasons to pass on him. You may want to have a hard think about if he is even worth all the stress. This might be a case where if it's not hell yes, it's no and it's very obviously not hell yes for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleNo one can tell you if he will be a cheater or not. The statics that get floated around red pill spaces say that a higher partner count tends to lead to a higher divorce rate. I have yet to see a single thing that shows a direct correlation. You can't predict the future, and past results are not a predictor of future behavior. It may be that promiscuous people have a harder time settling down into a long term stable relationship. It maybe that having cheated once, it becomes easier and less tabo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 04:03 PM |
| 7 | What career do you have/ are pursuing?This post is old now but it was the women on the sub talking about being badass and RPW. Might be of interest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 01:46 PM |
| 12 | I’m not his ideal woman, still should I give it a try?This seems like a perfectly reasonable discussion to have with him. I wouldn't suggest saying "I'm not your perfect woman..." rather, ask him what raising his kids Ukrainian means to him? Is culture or faith more important in a partner? Does he view himself moving back to Ukraine? Listen to the answers, ask relevant questions and get him to draw a picture of the life he wants. See where he is willing to compromise. This doesn't have to be about you directly, you want to know what his aspirations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 02:47 PM |
| 4 | About modesty and famous trad women.What do you think the value of modesty is? Putting aside whether influencers are a good representative of "trad" (they are not) - can there be degrees in modest dress or do you perceive it to be one size fits all? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 02:05 PM |
| 12 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?First comment on the sub and this is what you went with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Any good books on how to have more sex appeal as a woman?We give away more of ourselves than we realize when rambling. I don't see /u/FrankieOKnows as being hateful, just direct and perhaps saying some unpleasant things. Maybe it's incorrect but if it's incorrect it should be pretty easy to brush off and move on to advice that is more meaningful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 08:14 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being a plateI personally tend to agree with /u/Jenneapolis on this. If you want to stop being a plate - stop going to his house for hooks ups etc. This is especially true if "hot and cold" means a lot of break ups. Generally, you break up with a man for a reason and the reason isn't gone when you get back together a week or two later. If there is any chance at getting him in the long term, I think you will get more bang for your buck by gaining some distance, making the changes (and we are probably talking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 08:11 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being a plateThanks Cammie, you're the best :-) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 08:04 PM |
| 4 | How to stop being a plateI need to stop going hot and cold on him Do you argue a lot? What does hot and cold look like? Do you think this is a "you" issue or do you think it is due to the nature of the relationship with him? If it's a "you" issue then we need to dissect what it looks like and where you can start to correct. If it's because of the relationship dynamic then you might be best putting a pause on seeing him until you have more of your life together. There is a risk to the pause but you are going no where wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | How to stop being a plateIf I had to guess, part of his appeal is that he doesn't want you. It makes you try harder and want him more. This does not mean he is a great guy or even that he's super attractive, it means that the hot and cold is your turn on and he's playing to that. This is where I say that women's sexuality can be a mess sometimes and others on the sub will tell you to read up on attachment theory. There is a lot of room between plate spinning alpha and unattractive beta but you have to have your own head… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Single at 31 - how do I not freak out?You are new to RPW aren't you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 04:10 PM |
| 10 | How to stop being a plateFirst, Whisper's post about The Talk has more to do with it being socially awkward rather than disqualifying. If you truly believe that it is disqualifying then you have already been disqualified and move on. If you actually take the piece as intended then you would understand that it is your job to inspire his commitment. You haven't done this after five months because he still has other women and you are not his girlfriend. I keep coming back though because he's an alpha and so irresistible. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?IMO the hitting or the direct attack swear words are no-goes because they get easier to pull out over time. It's not that the swears are a direct analogy but are things you don't say no matter what. The hitting may not hurt but it's a thing you don't do. Both are disrespectful and both are easier to do the more you do. If you don't start then you don't escalate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:21 PM |
| 23 | How to stop being a plateYou have hit on and misconstrued every absurd rpw talking point. It makes me believe that you aren't for real. BUT for others reading this wild misinterpretation of RPW: If it's been five months and he is still sleeping with other women then you aren't his girl and there isn't much you can do to change that. You've solidified your status as plate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:09 PM |
| 17 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?Not ok in any scenario. It's a lack of control over your emotions and doesn't matter if it hurts him or not. Is it ok if he calls her a cunt because he's less emotional so he doesn't mean it as much? What if he says it was a joke? Don't be violent and if this was you then go apologize. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:01 PM |
| 3 | My (35F) ex husband (33M) left me for an engineer (26F) from his work, will he want me back some day?OMG why do you people need to promote things that are statistically incorrect and medically incorrect just to make yourself feel better. Just because you know someone doesn't change the over all picture. It IS harder to have kids later in life. It is harder to conceive and the risks for defects are greater. Many women who delay find that they need intervention. Your sister getting pregnant won't help the OP if she's not one of the lucky ones who has it easy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/23 03:56 PM |
| 2 | My (35F) ex husband (33M) left me for an engineer (26F) from his work, will he want me back some day?Well one answer would be that it sounds like you ex is chosing that (a feminine woman who works) after having you as a stay at home wife. Were you holding up your own end of the homemaker bargain? Did he have complaints about what you did around the house? This is worth exploring if you hope to find a similar situation in the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/23 02:37 PM |
| 9 | My (35F) ex husband (33M) left me for an engineer (26F) from his work, will he want me back some day?Alternative option is that his wife was constantly suspicious and this was his final straw. We don't know. Anecdotal: a woman I know told her husband for three years running that she was thinking about divorce and when she finally pulled the trigger for real she was shocked that he was out within three days. There is too much unsaid about the relationship prior to the break up to assume this is one sided and he's the bad guy | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/23 11:09 PM |
| 3 | My (35F) ex husband (33M) left me for an engineer (26F) from his work, will he want me back some day?Fertility in general is falling off a cliff. The statistics of the past barely count. It absolutely is more difficult as you get older for men and women and that doesn't take into account the increase in miscarriage and birth defects. Don't give false hope, it is wrong | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/23 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what to do about this manEvery situation will be unique. There can be men that are way too attached to Mom and others who look better because of their relationship. This particular phrasing is bad. I ride (or did before kids), if I am out with my husband and his mother is the one in the side car then I am on my own and he is taking care of her and closer to her. I'm expected to be "ride or die" but he's allowed to have a split focus and protect Mom first. If that is the metaphor for the relationship I'm out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/23 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what to do about this manThis is your just slightly oblique way of calling me a pussy It's my honest gut level response. I don't care whether you take care of yourother or not. I felt genuine disgust at the phrasing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do about this manIt is a pretty big decision to take responsibility for someone else's family right from the get go. I think your own experience is coloring your opinion. Maybe they aren't right together but I think it's irresponsible to act as though this isn't a package deal. It's like kids. Some women will be game and some will see it as a deal breaker. Acting like it's nothing is foolish. And I gotta be honest, there is something really off-putting to the idea of ride or die with momma in the sidecar to me. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 02:21 AM |
| 0 | Not sure what to do about this manDon't get all persnickety. Women are competitive, especially sisters so it's not out of the realm that it might color her sisters advice. AND yes, on average, lawyers are smarter than construction workers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 01:51 AM |
| 3 | I'm 27 and Never Had a Boyfriend...I guess the question I'd like to ask is, how do you keep up the interest if you're someone in the position like me? Whereas more women are told to go off and have their own things going on, from this post alone it sounds like you have too much of your own thing going on. Look at what you are saying: I can live very comfortably alone. I hate trying to get people to like me enough so they'd spend time with me I'll go through those moments of wanting a boyfriend Then I get depressed and drop the wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 06:31 PM |
| 3 | The "What do YOU want to eat?" cycle and how to break itAt the moment we're VERY pregnant !!! Congratulations I spent so very much money on take out when I was pregnant with my first. Obscene amounts of money on take out. And I didn't have the excuse of all the things that you just listed, it was just too much effort to feed myself. And FWIW, I am overall more pathetic but less submissive when pregnant. I think there is something in your brain that kicks into overdrive wanting to fitness test. Plus a tendency to turn inward and quite literally navel … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 06:16 PM |
| 4 | The "What do YOU want to eat?" cycle and how to break itI absolutely love this post. The practical application of the relationship dynamics are (I think) the hardest thing to understand when you come to RPW. I would do the "he gives options" with an ex..and i guess sometimes with my husband regarding take out. It goes something like: Him: where do you want to go? me: what are my choices? or could you narrow it down for me? Him: x, y, z Me: (when feeling decisive) Let's do Y Me: (when I'm feeling indecisive) "I'd be happy with x or z" and then usually… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 04:24 PM |
| 15 | Shift in husband’s behaviorAre you married? Life has ups and downs and you are wrong to suggest cheating simply because it happens. This sounds like the response of a woman with no good relationship experience | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 12:18 PM |
| – | Submission or Leadership - which should come first?I think a lot of "submission" in 2023 is more "don't fight with him over everything and don't do his jobs" but people see the word and think doormat woman with no agency | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 03:00 PM |
| 10 | Is my husband okay to talk like this? How would/should a RPW feel?technically, the baby reduced her to one body part - he just articulated it in a vulgar way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 01:45 PM |
| 38 | Is my husband okay to talk like this? How would/should a RPW feel?Honestly, yes what you are saying here and the language you are using makes it sound quite trivial if you are trying to make it work. HOWEVER This is the same husband who has been physical during fights among other issues so I think you are focusing on the trivial so you don't have to deal with the actual issues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Do you share location w ur bfMy husband, father and brother have rescued me on various occasions prior to the advent of location sharing apps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Submission or Leadership - which should come first?Because RPW believes in male-led relationships. It doesn't have to work for everyone but it works for the women here. To come in and say "you are wrong" about something that unites the sub...I can only assume you are mistaken about where you are commenting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Submission or Leadership - which should come first?You've stumbled onto the wrong sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Soybean Oil Destroys Oxytocin. Could this be one of the reasons when it comes to certain women not able to pair bond?One of the things to remember about TRP/Manosphere etc is that it didn't start with science. It started with a bunch of men getting on the internet to share experiences. From those experiences they pulled the commonalities and used it as a basis for the theory. The "scientific data" (including some stuff that we cite on RPW) came in to justify what men were seeing in the wild. So the idea of the "thousand cock stare" comes first and then pair-bonding voles follow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 02:01 PM |
| 6 | I keep getting asked “why” with why I don’t want a full time job or career :(And I'm responding about all your comments in this thread. You jumped down two people's throats with a crazy amount of negativity and disagreement that was pretty off topic. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/06/23 10:45 PM |
| 4 | I keep getting asked “why” with why I don’t want a full time job or career :(Hey, take a break. I don't know why you have turned this into a debate but it isn't appropriate for the sub or topic. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/06/23 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?But we ARE talking about a promiscuous woman and so the rules are different. But ultimately saying "it's not RP" isn't accurate. It's a strategy that you disagree with but that doesn't make it "not RP". | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?Being open and honest and being yourself is blue pilled advice. No it's not. While you do want to improve and not expect that men will accept your worst, being open it's being vulnerable. Being honest is a solid foundation for a healthy long term relationship. What the OP is suggesting is insane but I think the OP has more issues than her n count. But let's say that she is not insane and she wants a man who will not care that her n count is high. Bringing up her dates feelings on sex early on is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?I worry for gen z sometimes | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?Why is it blue pilled. You keep repeating the same words but not explaining anything. I know RP is a toolbox. That means you use the appropriate tools for a situation. Honest can be a vetting tool. But I'm open to hearing why you think that disclosure is specifically blue pilled. Please don't give me stock phrases though | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?I also disagree with bringing it up but I fail to see how it's "not RP" | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 01:53 PM |
| 2 | How to backtrack now that everyone thinks I'm a gold digger?Ugh. I have read that post before using one of the "undelete" sites but as of today, none of them are functional for recovering user deleted data. (On one hand that's sort of nice for privacy but on the other, ugh so much content lost). I know trp.red backs up this sub and /u/sunshinesundress has pulled some old stuff up through there. She likely knows how to search that site better than I do. I don't know if they archive RPWives... The discussion is better than I remember the post being. I migh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 01:52 PM |
| 8 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?There is a really old post called "The Wall and why i'm sick of hearing about it" and I'm ready for it's sequel "N Count and why I'm sick of hearing about it". | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 01:18 PM |
| 5 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?I'm not convinced that she is a troll. She's mentioned having mental health problems in the past and it sounds like she has been watching men's RP channels which these days are mostly outrage content with little to no advice. It leaves a lot of women feeling down about themselves (always has but I think its' gotten worse) and if you a woman inclined to hyperfocus, well then you get this person. Honestly, I'd feel better if I thought she was a troll. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 01:16 PM |
| 43 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?OP this obsession with body count is unhealthy. You've been given a variety of things to help better yourself on this and other topics. You don't stop asking questions for long enough to implement any of the suggestions and it is getting to be a waste of RPW's time. Have you actually had a man reject you for body count? How many men? How often does it come up? Further, are you taking any of the steps to increase your SMV? Have you gone into nun mode? You've had 11 posts on the sub in the last mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/23 10:51 PM |
| 2 | How to backtrack now that everyone thinks I'm a gold digger?There isn't anything beyond Ruby's post that you've referenced. RPWives had one once but it's been long deleted and iirc didn't recommend Nun Mode as a rule because time is important for women. It would be awesome if someone broke down what Nun Mode looks like but I have yet to see that here in anything other than comments 🙃 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/23 12:18 AM |
| 10 | Do you share location w ur bf"neither of us have nothing to hide" is called a double negative. "Neither" and "nothing" cancel each other out, implying that someone has something to hide. This has been your grammar lesson of the day. Trust and transparency have nothing to do with the concept of a double negative | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 12:15 PM |
| 10 | How do you stop shit-testing men?Could you describe an interaction where you are doing this? It might help to see what shit-testing looks like for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Disabled ex husbandThis is not what I have seen reported - I do not recall a source so I could be incorrect but it doesn't quite fit with human nature. Women are still overwhelming the caregivers even in this messed up world. I have a friend who did emt transport for a stretch and observed that to be old comfortably you needed two of the following three: not fat, wealth, or daughters. Not sons, it was daughters that cared for their aging parents. What is your source? I'll be honest though, I don't believe that "ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 12:11 PM |
| 6 | Disabled ex husbandWhat makes you say this? Men are statistically more likely to leave an ill partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 07:29 PM |
| 7 | Strong desire to start dating again, but can't seem to attract the type of man I am looking forYou aren't the only one who thinks the apps are unnecessarily derided on here. A while back one of the ECs (Kara_El iirc) wrote a couple posts about how to use them and not to knock them. Since the data shows that many people are meeting their partners through apps, I'm not entirely sure why RPW hates them so much. I suspect that it's a vocal minority that are against them and others remain silent because they think it's not-RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Climatizing to being a RPWI guess, what is a traditional relationship to you? What is a red pill wife to you? I believe that traditionalists follow the established path (dating > marriage > children) and gendered roles (provider & homemaker) because that is what has always been done. RPW generally follows the same structure but deviates where it works for us. I consider myself RPW but not traditional. I've been married for a while and we have 2 kids. But we also dated for a really long time, lived together before marriag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Left holding the baby...Something I have not seen mentioned here is the fact that men have a different relationship with children, particularly new babies, than women do. We were created to do this and the babies know it. You will always be the primary caregiver to a newborn, the one that your baby is comfortable with right out of the womb. Your husband, on the other hand, has to develop that bond. And I believe that can be rough for men. Now some men take to parenting babies like fish to water. Others desperately want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 12:02 AM |
| 22 | What is pair bonding?No one has a solid answer for "what is pair bonding". The study that supports the thesis was done with some sort of rodent. It is also supported by the idea that a higher partner count correlates with a higher divorce rate. So let's assume that pair bonding means your likelihood to stay married. This is largely a choice. You vet well, and then you make the decision to remain married even through the tough stuff. When you feel the proverbial 7 Year Itch, you remind yourself that the grass isn't g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/23 11:48 PM |
| 4 | Skyla IUD Hormonal Experiences.. is my IUD causing my depression?I have had an underactive thyroid for years and when I couldn't get it to smooth out, I asked if the birth control could be adding to the problem. I was told no repeatedly and sure enough, things improved considerably when I went off the pill. Hormonal birth control can be a huge issue and so very many doctors treat it as though it's a natural part of your system with no consequences other than preventing pregnancy. Anecdotal side note on the copper IUD: A friend had it put in between her second… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/23 03:13 PM |
| 11 | I (27F) left work 2 weeks ago & am obv worried about money. Fiance (33M) of 7 years still hasn't offered to help. Red flag?There is so very much in her post history about money and gifting and why people arent giving her things. Sound like there is way more under the surface of the relationship than we can know from hearing only her side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/23 01:57 PM |
| 3 | What exactly is an "alpha" and why would a woman want to be in a relationship with him?Women aren't categorized in this fashion in RP so this makes zero sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/23 07:40 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?Funny enough, if you go a little ways back in her post history...she's not a virgin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 10:43 PM |
| 4 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?Since you seem to have a type of man in mind...look at the women these types of men are married to. What do they look like, what qualities do they have, where are they from, their education, their skills, how they speak, how they dress etc etc etc. Then be as much like those type of women as you can be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 06:22 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?It's our job here to help women figure out how to achieve those goals, not disparage women for having goals. I don't see why you are getting angry but perhaps RPW isn't the sub for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 05:27 PM |
| 4 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?The truth is always unflattering, ugly, not nice and dismissive isn't it? I suppose that depends on what you think the truth is. I think the truth is that humans are very susceptible to manipulations and there is a a broad, culture wide narrative pushing us both to behave against our nature and promoting the worst parts of it. A woman wanting the best she can get is not bad or negative except for men who cannot make the cut. We want the next generation to be the best of us not the mediocre-est. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 03:08 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?You need to remember that every woman is going to have a different definition of high value. It's more like "high value within my social sphere". BUT ALSO It's unfortunate for the women who have been brainwashed by current media trends. You say this in an incredibly dismissive way. The Red Pill wouldn't exist if the current narrative didn't draw in so many people, men and women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 02:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you indicate to a guy that you’re interested?except that one of the rules here is that personal preferences aren't advice but you do you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 06:23 PM |
| 4 | How do you indicate to a guy that you’re interested?Why would a guy want to date an OF girl? Preferences are crazy like that. Don't tell people what you think their preferences should be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 01:08 PM |
| 5 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?Why on earth would you think that makes women feel better. That just sort of makes him gross in our eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 06:25 PM |
| 4 | Ideas on introducing Red Pill content to men who are not awareBut whenever I meet a potential partner and they are not informed I feel the necessity for him to be aware. Why do you feel this way? What is the goal in making him aware? Understanding what you wish to accomplish by red pilling a man might help us give you better advice than simply "don't" | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 01:41 PM |
| 10 | Divine femininity makes me feel less of a women.There is a bit of a backlash going on. I've even heard it argued that "TradWives" are the newest form of feminism. Whatever the case, we seem to be at the juncture where you are wrong if you work and you are wrong if you don't work. I do not consider myself a feminist but I work. I don't think that life is so black and white as saying "there is one way to be a woman". Let the tradwives on tiktok have their space because they deserve it as much as anyone else. They are doing it in a way that is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/23 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Why is dating so complicated?It is also important to moderate your "standards" to match with what you bring to the table. Some of modern dating is complicated because women believe they can have high expectations of men and men must simply "love me for me". | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/23 12:12 PM |
| 2 | Why is dating so complicated?Oh my goodness yes. The advice in this post is fine but the delivery is such that women's reaction is to argue. OP needs a little more finesse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/23 12:05 PM |
| 11 | How to raise SMV?All your posts are about how there is something wrong with you. Is there anything about yourself that you like? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 06:12 PM |
| 3 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?It is not that I am anti-cleaning and cooking. Please do not let that be the take away. I think that it is a tool that helps you create "a soft place to land" that you describe in your second paragraph. The warm inviting space that you create around yourself and your home is RPW, cooking is a way to get there. Understanding men (as detailed in For Women Only or any other reading like that) is RPW and the tools to approach it are things like STFU, low n, voicing appreciation and respect, sexual a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 12:44 PM |
| 7 | Guardian Article about RPWI find it interesting that you are either a feminist or an anti-feminist. There is no third path where you can simply not participate. We shouldn't have to justify that there are feminists here and we shouldn't be slapped with the label "anti-feminist" as though not following a progressive path means we are working against it (as the article alleges). Dear feminism I don't think of you at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 12:32 PM |
| 5 | Guardian Article about RPWDouglas Murray's "The War on the West" lays out all the moves that have been made to dismantle western culture and the hypocrisy involved. It's an interesting but maddening read. What is particularly funny about the attack on RPW as white supremacist and thus evil, is that RPW really still tries to "accept the terrain" as the men used to say. We aren't suggesting a move backwards and we aren't pushing it other than for our own lives...but it is still somehow a threat to not follow the party line… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 12:15 PM |
| 6 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?But there is so much more to this sub and to a relationship than cooking and cleaning. It makes me sad that people seem to think a relationship comes down to your past behavior and your ability to cook. That's just not all there is to being a good partner. It's very easy to be a woman he would sacrifice for and it has little to do with any of those things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 06:20 PM |
| 5 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I don't doubt that there are men that feel this way but it remains the case that plenty of men who are excellent husbands and fathers are married to women who weren't virgins or even "good girls". What is being said between young men and what is playing out with marriage aged men are not the same. And it is overblown because on a sub that already promotes a low n count, men still feel the need to bring it up in posts that have nothing to do with n-count (ahem). It simply isn't he be all end all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 05:26 PM |
| 9 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?No, you really don't need to bring this up because it's both off topic and wildly overblown. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 05:04 PM |
| 7 | How to weed out useless datesI don't know, I tend to agree with what the men are saying. Women can do whatever they want but to eliminate a man immediately based on the criteria that he won't pay for a date with someone he is just meeting? I don't think that should be held against him. He asks her for a date because that is the way things are done. If he doesn't ask then she's going to consider him too passive. So to say "he asks so he should pay" isn't quite honest. Everyone is a little gun shy these days about getting use… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:56 PM |
| 4 | How to weed out useless datesah, a truly mature example of masculinity here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:50 PM |
| 4 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I think that a lot of people just can't see themselves with kids so they throw up these ideas without really considering their lives. If you are a couple that really does travel, you will figure it out with kids. It might look different for a while but showing new little people your favorite things has it's own charm. We are doing our first big road trip this summer but we've already done a bunch of long weekends and hotel stays. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:48 PM |
| 4 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I laughed out loud at "just leaky". I find that my children are bright and curious and others just want constant attention for no reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 04:41 PM |
| 8 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I still don't like other people's kids. Other people's kids are the worst :-P | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 03:49 PM |
| 8 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?My husband and I were fence sitters for a very long time. We had a good relationship before kids and we have a good relationship now. What pushed me off the fence was this: we always said that we were not going to have kids so that we could do x,y,z. And we did do a bunch of x,y and z over the decade we were together pre-kids. However there is a lot of life in between dinners out and vacations and overnights with friends etc etc. In that in between, my husband was very career focused and I began… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 03:47 PM |
| – | Genuine question: what's so bad about "modern women"?Pretty sure that u/diaryofalostgirl wasn't looking for your opinion since she's talking in a discussion thread and not asking for advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 01:55 PM |
| – | Genuine question: what's so bad about "modern women"?She has all the trappings, yes. She got them because she de prioritized her marriage and they decided not to have kids. Then she started to do better than he did at work and she started to like him less because he couldn't keep up. Then she wouldn't show any amount of compromise or vulnerability on anything ever. Then she started to feel like he was overall incompetent. It's not that you have to have kids to have a good relationship. That was only one small aspect of the problem. She decided tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?u/livelylychee what do we do with men who think women are old maids without hope after 25 🤔 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 12:28 PM |
| 4 | Genuine question: what's so bad about "modern women"?I have a degree, a respectable job, the ability to care for myself. I also have a family that is my priority and a husband who I would do anything for and vice versa. My bff has a ton of money, a home at the beach, an ex husband and a new dog. I don't want her life and I am watching her quietly fall apart following the path that feminism set out for her. I don't want that. I love her but I do not envy her life. I think this is what you will find with many RPW. We don't hate women who make differ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/23 10:13 PM |
| – | I think my wife is crushing on other menThis isn't an issue for women to help you with. If you are "redpilled conditioned" then you know that change has to start with you. If your wife isn't attracted to you then you need to do something about that. The first thing is to get your butt over to marriedredpill and not to be asking women how to be a man at RPW. The post is removed and I'm doing it to help you. We aren't RP easy-mode. We are RP for women and you aren't a woman so don't ask help from the fish. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/05/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Less affection from boyfriendShe ask this question on a platform for Red Pilled opinions | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/23 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Anti sexism is an anti religious, anti tradition, anti family psyop.Reddit removed one of her posts on this sub for violating TOS. Between that and this pedo stuff, we don't need her associated with the sub. Free speech is well and good but she's standing in the movie theater yelling "fire" and I don't want to get shut down for her to tell us how terrible we are as women. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/05/23 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Help from the men here for becoming the ideal rpwPeople weren't invading your privacy. Reddit isn't private and it's pretty common to check post histories especially because you were asking for advice to become an "ideal RPW". Checking your post history tells people where you are as a starting point. I see a lot of people discussing your occult interests and whether or not that would send up flags. Are you perhaps upset to find out that something that you care about would be a turn off for a large swath of men? Or are you simply concerned that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?Well actually... In all seriousness, this is where "high value" is less useful than the old 'alpha' and 'beta' traits. A man who "orders women like pizza" could be high in alpha (attraction) traits but low in beta (comfort) traits and would therefore be a poor choice in a mate. The apps are great for high alpha trait men but they don't tell you a lot about a person's overall value as a partner. It could even be argued that a more marriageable man might struggle on the apps. I agree with u/diaryo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Anti sexism is an anti religious, anti tradition, anti family psyop.I've banned her. Not sure what is going on, if she is real or not, but I think we can safely say that her values are not the same as the rest of us. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/05/23 01:39 PM |
| – | Anti sexism is an anti religious, anti tradition, anti family psyop.This has been reported because it does not add value to the subreddit and I tend to agree. It's a rant, and red pill does not mean anti-woman, particularly red pill women. Removed. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/05/23 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?And? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/23 05:15 PM |
| 31 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?Men don't have a wall but they have a ceiling. The theory goes that men get better with age as women get worse. Women must put in effort to avoid being the party girl/wine mom/whoever who starts to age hard before 30. The wall (as applied to women) can be either a warning or a bitter fantasy for anger phasers. RPW should be using it as a warning. You shouldn't live hard, make bad decisions or think that you have forever to find a partner, especially if you want kids. I'm sort of watching this in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Liberal men vs conservative womenAh yes because the opposite of liberal is racism 🙄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 08:40 PM |
| – | I (23F) and not a bit attracted to my 37 year old husband.But the UTI issue has been corrected so why it is still an issue at all? Why are you arguing back with what everyone has to say? If you are simply looking for validation that you married a bad man then there is no point in being on RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 06:46 PM |
| 1 | FEMINISM/REDPILLPost is removed. If you wish to post a link it needs to have a description and enough information that people can decide if they want to click through. Generally it is better to write a text post than sending a video link. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/05/23 05:47 PM |
| 8 | I (23F) and not a bit attracted to my 37 year old husband.What exactly is your desired outcome for your relationship and from coming to RPW? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Liberal men vs conservative womenThe idea behind "married" is that you know what women want and how to sustain an RP relationship. Divorced and looking to try again isn't exactly a mark in your favor. And dear goodness do you talk about yourself a lot. Honestly, if you can't convince a bunch of submissive women to take you seriously, you probably need to spend more time in the men's spaces. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who have no personal income and stay home with your kids, what does your financial situation look like?I can't believe you would share this information as though it were normal. Let's presume this is for real. Do you genuinely not understand math to realize this wouldn't work? How do you intend to correct this problem or will you continue to see how low you can go in life? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Reddit crowd sources information. It sounds like you are upset that what you do professionally can be obtained for free on the internet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Sometimes basic isn't bad, it opens up room for discussion, reminds people who know the basics and serves as a jumping off point for people who don't. But yes, if you have something to contribute do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Good male psychology booksI've seen this generation of YouTubers. The popular ones aren't worth much. However, the stuff on the sidebar of TRP and the wiki of RPW have been vetted over and over by the men and women who created and frequented these subs over the past decade. YouTube may have decent content but you need to know enough to separate the wheat from the chaff. The algorithms don't necessarily push up what is good just what is popular and often what is popular these days is outrage content because it drives clic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Good male psychology booksThis books has been discussed before and IIRC it's more about boundaries and confidence than being a "bitch". | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 03:33 PM |
| 6 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.You must be a mod, gatekeeping the sub like this and all. An EC? Have you written anything or do you just want to complain about someone not following your personal values | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 12:08 PM |
| 22 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Because "don't be fat" is pretty big around here. We haven't had one of these in a while but it's definitely appropriate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/23 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Good male psychology booksYes whatever you do, don't read! That would require brain power and effort. I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at this. Do you know that original RP was blogs and books? Youtubers are cheap knockoffs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/23 09:37 PM |
| 13 | Understanding RPWHave you read the wiki? This does not read like you have an interest in being RPW but rather studying us. That might be why you aren't getting any responses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 04:52 PM |
| -1 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countI think you don't understand men very well if this is your assessment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 01:59 PM |
| 17 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countOnce upon a time I had a discussion with one of the male creators of TRP about men and n-count. His take is that men have a retroactive jealousy with women they feel strongly about. Because men value their rationality (often above all things) they then ascribe reasons to why a high partner count is bad (pair bonding, lack of self control, whatever whatever). What they are really trying to do is to rationalize the jealousy over something that predates them. But if you assume he is correct and thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 01:58 PM |
| 8 | Would you marry a man who divorced 10 years ago because of infidelity?You did not word it incorrectly. You said what you said and it's not an incorrect assessment of the situation. I agree with you that the behaviors that you expressed, here and elsewhere, show a lack of integrity. What I am pointing out to you, is that it is hard to respect, follow and build a life with a man without integrity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 04:28 PM |
| 10 | Would you marry a man who divorced 10 years ago because of infidelity?I understand but what you chose to convey is going to get you a whole lot of "absolutely not" answers. While once a cheater always a cheater may or may not be true, there is a reason to be concerned that he has two failed marriages. It is particularly concerning that the last one was very short and he is rushing things along with you as well. Something changed in that relationship between the courtship and marriage that became unsustainable once married. I would want to know what that is and I'd… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 02:18 PM |
| 23 | Would you marry a man who divorced 10 years ago because of infidelity?I don't see much from you that indicates you actually love or respect him. Would I marry him? No. Sounds to me like you don't think you should either and are looking for validation to decline his soon-to-come proposal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.Yes because prior to 1960, no woman worked, all men were crap and this is in no way a feminist propaganda point that you are blindly reiterating | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/23 12:52 PM |
| 5 | Let Men Own You.This has nothing to do with my question. I'll simplify: How do we know that there are 17 women to every 1 man historically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 09:28 PM |
| 6 | Let Men Own You.OP can you comment before the mods take this down and ban you? I was hoping for more fun than this and we already banned you on the other sub. it will be a real disappointment if you put up this amazing piece of writing and don't spend any time defending it in the comments...and I can't imagine you have much more time left.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 08:46 PM |
| 7 | Let Men Own You.Nothing automatically except that he's claiming to be a woman. If your ideas are solid then there is no need to pretend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Let Men Own You.Oh, see and I think this is an absolutely brilliant piece of writing...PhD level content... we should be treating it with all the seriousness it deserves by asking the tough questions that I'm sure only OP is capable of expanding on . :-D | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Let Men Own You.Oh man, I'm getting out the popcorn Here is my question as you are so obviously well read on history, evolutionary psych and modern dating strategy: At certain points in our pre-history 17 women reproduced for 1 man. Were these men “selected” by 17 women? Or did these men slaughter all their competitors and take their women? Which makes more sense? Could you elaborate on this. I have certainly heard the statistic before but it's always confused me what is actually being studied. How do we find t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 08:20 PM |
| 6 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”Everyone is doing something wrong. Our society discourages heterosexual marriage and family. In fact, many women here are in lifetime relationships that aren't marriage And/Or are childfree. We are raised now with the idea that individual happiness is the highest goal. There is no talk of duty to your partner or the future. There is no societal push to keep a marriage when things aren't great. We don't know how to support each other through hardship. We have extended childhoods that delay marria… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”Honestly, no man (or woman) is a prize over a lifetime. It's a facile way to look at a lifetime commitment. There will be ups and downs in any relationship. If the relationship or marriage or whatever is a prize and not a person and a joining of lives then you are probably doing it wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”You cannot use famous people to illustrate the average life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 04:46 PM |
| 5 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”Yes and to marry by 25-30 you are dating for a few years prior. This idea that a 20 something us automatically set for life with a never married 40 year old is madness. It's not that it never works but it is hardly a guarantee of anything. I am not against age gaps but I am tired of the male fantasy that claims it is the best and only way for women to have good outcomes. Besides, if you marry at 25 and realize at 30 that he's not the guy, that's still going to happen whether he is 32 or 45. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”First, RPW does not advise a "pure alpha" nor is the man with the ivy league degree making whatever automatically "alpha" by the RP definition. If men are marrying at 30 they are dating earlier than that. It is not common to meet and marry within a year. But seriously, the "hvm marry older" is a disservice that RP does for men. Everyone has a fertility clock and everyone has a shelf life. Women quickly learn that unmarried 40 year olds are unmarried for a reason. The most desirable partners pair… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 04:10 PM |
| 10 | Advice on anxiety on “The Wall”You know, from everything I've seen in the real world, this isn't true. Men can marry younger and it give them more time to build themselves first but it's really not the norm. Additionally the real world men I know who have made it to 35-40 are probably not ever getting married. Most people assume the fertility problems won't hit them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 03:29 PM |
| -1 | Our marriage (F33 and M35) is fine but we lost our spark (because of me...?)This has not been my experience. We have two 18 months apart and the strain has less to do with their age gap and more to do with ANY child and being a working mother. I'd advise women to be more leery of the "work from home and you can have it all" attitude that pervades our society now. Working with one kid was hard. Working with two kid is hard. However, once the younger kid hit age 2, they were able to start playing together on their own and that makes things a little easier every day. Our s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 07:19 PM |
| 6 | Guide: How to NOT be a NagI was going by the comments you were receiving. We can be done now. I certainly am. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 11:28 PM |
| 7 | Guide: How to NOT be a NagSo that circles back to my original question: what do you accomplish if no one listens to your advice because of your tone. It's so rare to get new writers, it would be unfortunate to give advice that no one listens to because you are catering to an audience of one man who isn't the target of the advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Guide: How to NOT be a NagYes. But he is irrelevant to everyone here. You do you but this tells me that your advice has more to do with your kink than giving advice. It's fine but I'll personally chose to pass on your posts in the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 05:54 PM |
| 7 | Guide: How to NOT be a NagOk, so your intention is to write for the benefit of your husband and not for the community? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 03:12 PM |
| 5 | Guide: How to NOT be a NagWhat do you accomplish by writing in a manner that gets everyone riled up? You must have a rationale for this. Usually when people are busy focusing on the tone, they aren't listening to the words so it seems like a wasted effort on your part unless you intended to write bait. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 03:05 PM |
| – | How traditional is too traditional?Hi Wives, I'm locking this thread and kicking the OP out. As you all noted, she just wants to troll and was already kicked off the other sub. Honestly since she's got post history about a transman she knows, I have my doubts that any of this is even real. But I'm leaving the post up and locked because it shows what this sub is and is not about. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/23 06:39 PM |
| 5 | what do you guys think about the gender wage gap I don’t believe it’s realIf you came to your conclusions through school then you probably do not have any diversity of thought. Colleges view of progressive issues tends to be one sided in favor of feminism (and other pet causes). It is highly unlikely that your opinions are more "truth". Check out Thomas Sowell for the massive issues in education over the last 50 years. Don't be so confident in what you think you know. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/10/22 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeYou are welcome!! | /r/RedPillWives | 12/08/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeYour venting is heard. I can see where this was a really frustrating day. I hope the gym helped and you are feeling better today. Since you asked for possible advice, a couple things that I see from your vent: Do you tend to employ STFU instead of bringing him a problem or expressing a concern. There are a few instances that sound like you could have been more upfront about what you were doing and what was needed for the kid. For example: the getting ready and out the door part - you were trying… | /r/RedPillWives | 12/08/22 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsAnecdotally I’ve found lesbian/bisexual women to be the kinds of people without a strong sense of self, who let themselves get taken different directions like a sheet in the wind. I think this is true for a lot of young women. When the messaging is that it's good to be fluid and your own sexuality allows for it and you are younger and finding yourself, then it's easy to get pushed in that direction. It's also why I wonder if those are lasting relationships. Anyone over 30 knows how much you can … | /r/RedPillWives | 12/08/22 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI've seen you mention Camille Paglia before, Yes. I <3 listening to her rant about the feminist movement, particularly because she does it without being trad or conservative. I'd be interested to read her thoughts on homosexuality. I think actual "born that way" lesbians are far more rare than actual gay men... This is my going assumption (everything you said in this paragraph). I leave room for the fact that I simply have not encountered that may lesbian or even bi-but-lesbian-leaning women in … | /r/RedPillWives | 12/08/22 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI was in a group of women where they were all encouraging each other to do non medicated and home births and then there me...over in the corner with my epidural and induction. There is a lot to question these days but I like my 21st century technology thank you very much. I think that people start to reject the narrative and they go down a rabbit hole where everything is terrible and we have to go back to tribal times. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/08/22 01:41 PM |
| 7 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI never cease to be amazed by all the messaging that guides our behaviors...all while letting us think that it's our own choices. I've known gay men since I was in high school. I am convinced that there are men that are just 'born that way' (though a lot more complexity than that). Women...I don't think I've actually encountered a woman who considers herself a Lesbian...a lot of bisexuals though. And I'm hugely cynical but I wonder how many of these same sex marriages will actually last for the … | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/22 06:03 PM |
| 5 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI want to say that no one is that oblivious but then I think about the women who said "if we can't have abortions we won't have sex anymore" and I think that maybe some women ARE this oblivious. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/22 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsThis was a great read. I sent it to my mom. Growing up she was neutral to anti feminist and now that she's older if seems to have seeped into her brain. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/22 05:20 PM |
| 11 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsIt has become self perpetuating too. If most women work during the day, it can be isolating to be a SAHM. Then you have women that feel like they need to work for their own adult time and sanity. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Casual QuestionsIt would be an interesting stand alone discussion too. If you wanted to post it. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/22 12:46 AM |
| 3 | The Good Wife Weekly ChallengeThanks for this. I didn't have it set to auto-post. It's fixed and will be back on Monday. And definitely drop me a message if stuff isn't showing up that is supposed to. I am very very fallible. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/22 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI'm not really interested in debating this. I was interested in creating a small space for women who hold certain beliefs within the red pill community. Obviously that did not work because people with more liberal beliefs can't leave any space for people to disagree with them. I agree with you that red pill means opening yourself up to something beyond the narrative. In this particular case, the narrative is very much that abortion is good and should be legal. It's the story line on televisions … | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsPersonally I think that it is the highest level of selfishness for me to kill a living thing because I wanted pleasure with zero consequences. That I could have done that and then spent my life with the physical and emotional fallout is horrific. I genuinely don't know how this needs to be explained even if you are on the other side of the issue. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI took that as a specific answer to the question about our own daughters. What one feels for their own kids and what one is willing to legislate are different. But admittedly, that is my interpretation of someone else's comment. I don't think it's wrong by the way. I had a lot of casual sex in my younger days with the idea that I could never be stuck. In retrospect it wasn't worthwhile and the "cushion" of "I can just get an abortion" is sort of horrific to me as a more mature adult. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsI certainly don't agree with the idea of restricting abortion in order to make women think twice before sleeping I don't think this is the rationale for any pro-life person I've ever encountered. The thought goes more like this: The baby is a living human from conception. Society should protects the weak. If a woman does not want to have a baby, she has options before the abortion stage. The real problem is that even after you take the baby out of the equation, there are a lot of risks to the wo… | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsIf I'm remembering correctly, the majority of Americans think there should be some restrictions on abortion. You aren't alone in your views here. The first round of genetic testing can be done around 10 to 12 weeks. I also think that makes a good cut off. My sister took the RU486. It was ... messy. (Just a side thought). | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsLike it or not, if the only people getting pregnant were married I recall stats that showed a good number of women getting abortions were married with other children. This to me is crazy because it means that it's so ingrained in our psyche's as a method of birth control (as opposed to an emergency option of last resort) that married people use it for convenience. But it's used as a political wedge because it's emotional and effective, not because it's most important to people. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsThere is lots of misunderstanding in your accusations But really? It surprised you that a community that is home to religious, conservative and anti-feminist types would have pro-life people in it? | /r/RedPillWives | 05/08/22 02:58 AM |
| 4 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsSexual Market Value | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/22 05:08 PM |
| 10 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsIn general, I had intended this to be a opposition free space but we can make of it what the community is looking for. I'll bite here and see where it goes for everyone else... I am not coming to this from a religious perspective so I can't answer for anyone but myself. Things like abortion and gay marriage and I don't know what else, were never part of the rights espoused in the bill of rights or constitution proper. Roe v Wade was always a bad legal decision regardless of your feelings on the … | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/22 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Challenge Field ReportsI think it will develop over time. u/grahamcookiefart suggested it in a post a few weeks back where we were talking about ways to get the sub active again. She outlines in that thread how she saw it going. This is the first week that we've tried it and everyone sort of ran with it in their own way. For the moment, I'm going to leave it open to interpretation so people can use it in whatever way they think works for them. The challenge post pops up on Fridays and then the this field report post p… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/07/22 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsThe men's subs and the women's subs are very different in their goals and their approach. There are a lot of Christian conservative types on the women's subs, including men who don't want to be on the men's subs because of the values there. But there are a lot of men who are not Christian, or any particular religion, who found RP because they were struggling with how men and women traditionally view relationships. They don't always take the red pill and use it towards settling down and having a … | /r/RedPillWives | 28/07/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | It's quite quiet in hereYou should be asking the men. "ask the fisherman not the fish". It is variable and a lot depends on who you are as a man. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/07/22 04:57 PM |
| 4 | It's quiet in here - Part 2I not religious and I've been moving away from politics as everything becomes exhausting. However, after many years on these subs, I've seen women in those categories looking for a home. While I have always approached RPW as a toolbox, there are women who approach it as a lifestyle. The other women's sub doesn't really offer a space for the small daily life discussions and that's what I'm hoping will happen here. If any of these threads end up unused we will wipe them and try something new. I ho… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/07/22 12:25 PM |
| 6 | It's quite quiet in hereYes!! I think that's a great idea and the perfect way to set it up. I'm on a phone for the next 24 hours but I will set it up when I get home to start next week. I'm thinking Mondays for the initial post and then when should we do the follow up post? | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 10:20 PM |
| 6 | It's quite quiet in hereNo not really. The sub is for women. I'm not even sure what you would hope to get from it. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 09:20 PM |
| 3 | It's quite quiet in hereWith my first kid I wanted the community of women sharing my experience AND I wanted to be open about my gross stuff with some level of privacy. I used RPWo extensively at the time and didn't think most of them needed to know what was up with my poop just from checking post history. My second I actually bailed on the whole bumper thing because there were too many men in the group and they were pushing the "birthing person" language. It's not right that we need to take this level of care but here… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | It's quite quiet in hereit's hard to look on reddit sometimes without feeling attacked Telegram my friend. I hear Gab is good too. I know what you mean though. Some day we will need to give up Reddit as lost. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:56 PM |
| 5 | It's quite quiet in hereThere are certainly women who will think that you did it backwards. Marriage is supposed to be for our protection and for the kids protection. IMO we all know that marriage is not a guarantee. You still make the decision to be together every day and mom , dad and kids is still a family with or without the document as long as it's what you want. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:54 PM |
| 2 | It's quite quiet in hereI am fully on board with culture rants. Rant away!! | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:52 PM |
| 2 | It's quite quiet in hereI created alts when I was pregnant because of this. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:51 PM |
| 6 | It's quite quiet in hereThe difference between the two is that because we are quieter and have fewer guys coming in, the discussions can be looser. I like actionable advice but we are women and sometimes talking through something is really what we need to get it squared away on our own heads. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:50 PM |
| 5 | It's quite quiet in hereIt would be nice to feel free to ask questions as they come up in a sub that's relationship focused in a RP way without all of the "yass queen dump his ass gurl" horseshit. I wanted to come back to this point. I'm curious who else feels that the requirements for posting are preventing them from posting. I had hoped that Tea Time would give the opportunity to do what you are saying in a casual fashion. I don't think that a lot of people respond to comments in there though. The guidelines are help… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:48 PM |
| 7 | It's quite quiet in hereI was thinking of getting mods to do maybe some sort of weekly challenge So we can set auto posts - which is how Tea Time works. I am totally up for doing something like that OR manually posting a weekly challenge or topic or whatever. The only thing I cannot promise is to think of a list of challenges. My brain is too fried. Maybe we can spin this off into another post and discuss topics we'd like to see brought up for discussion. I like the idea of a challenge and then asking people to report … | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:46 PM |
| 5 | It's quite quiet in hereIn that vein, I think this sub can be confusing in its purpose Yes, I agree. RPWo states that it's about male-led relationships in all their forms. I was told a loooong time ago that RPWives was much more traditional conservative (by one of the founding members). I don't know what we are supposed to be now...thus this post. It sounds like we have a pretty varied group. I would like to see more image posts I think! These should be an option here. They aren't on RPWo. I'll make sure that we have t… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 08:43 PM |
| 5 | It's quite quiet in hereI'm not sure what that other sub is and why it's talked about like Voldemort? Honestly, I was just sort of joking around. I didn't realize how it came off. The other sub is Red Pill Women. The same women started both and there was some bad blood way way back | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/22 03:22 AM |
| – | How is this whole thing NOT about being a subservient dog?Aaaand she's gone. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/22 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Tea TimeMy mother is American but with...kinda crappy parents. So my grandfather instilled in his daughters to not be fat and his sons to not date fat women (men being fat was not an issue and they all took advantage). So I definitely had a few occasions growing up where my mom commented on my weight. Lucky for me it was babyfat that didn't look like fat when I was 16 and then fell off in college. But yes, I understand the bluntness and the ideas that are rooted deep in your psyche growing up. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/22 08:21 PM |
| 8 | Tea TimeI share your frustration. My husband does the exact same thing. My father did/stilldoes the exact same thing. I would bet that the people telling her "your guy should do this" are not married. I was so fed up that around the last time I got pregnant I was about to tell my husband that I was turned off by the gut. Which was the truth. Then I got pregnant and it wasn't really an issue (we were really having sex and I don't remember if I said anything but probably not) Recently (kid is nearly 2) he… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/22 03:04 PM |
| 3 | How do you filter f$$k boys, vet guys better for a LTR? Do you actively try to keep a relatively low body count?Be polite. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/05/22 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Looking for directionFirst if all, you should be asking the men if you are looking to help your friends. Second, the men are going to tell you that you shouldn't talk about fight club. You can't red pill someone unless they are ready. And from me to you, you really are setting yourself up for failure of you are trying to get in the middle of people's marriages when they haven't asked for advice. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/03/22 12:25 AM |
| 2 | What are the qualities in your man that make him a high value man?Why would you assume that the 6'5 guy is an arrogant lying idiot? Plus you should never choose a partner based on a single trait. But it is a red pill truth to say that you cannot negotiate attraction. You are going to have sex with this man for the rest of your life so you should be attracted to him. High value is in the eye of the beholder. If height doesn't do it for you that's fine. That doesn't mean that other women won't find it to be a trait that contributes to a man's value (on the datin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 4 | What are the qualities in your man that make him a high value man?You want a partner who you are attracted to. Height is attractive to most women. Thus tall is valuable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/22 01:40 PM |
| 3 | Tea TimeMy husband and I were together foreeeevver when we got married. Then we were together foreeeevver when we had kids. When I got pregnant the first time, he panicked about the responsibility and I panicked about how I was now stuck with this man no matter what. All his flaws hit me and it was frustrating and rough navigating for a little while. Figuring out who we were with a pregnancy and then with a kid took some time. The feeling of being trapped and of having made the wrong choice completely f… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/02/22 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Tea TimeThere is no real definition of purple pill. It's used when someone has some red and some blue ideas. It's also used as an insult to suggest that someone isn't red enough. That is why the women are often accused of being purple: obviously no true red would believe in marriage, the thought goes. The historical beefs are pretty historical and a lot of women can be found on both subs. I don't know if you will be downvoted into oblivion because I don't know what your ideas are but it's reddit so it's… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/02/22 02:37 AM |
| 5 | Tea TimeHi and welcome! It's somewhat of a fine line. It's not that everyone's husbands are perfect by any stretch! We have relationship advice posts and there are guidelines for how to frame a question. One of the guidelines is not to badmouth your SO. Since it takes two to tango, it's rarely an issue where he's all at fault and if you are looking for help then you need to look at your own part in the problem too. Based on this set up, you don't see many rants. This doesn't mean that we will tell you t… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/02/22 02:05 AM |
| 6 | Tea TimeFrom what I've seen any women's red pill is accused of being purple because of the focus on marriage...which the men's RP subs are highly against. What is it that you are looking for? We tend to lean more trad here and are more heavily married ladies than younger women. So there isn't as much dating advice. It's usually pretty quiet though. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/02/22 01:57 AM |
| 1 | A little off topic, but need advice on my female friend?This is too off topic. We are a sub for women and specifically for romantic relationships. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/02/22 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?I understand that she is here because he has been involved with RP. There is still not a "true RP". But ok, generally RP would advise men to not be with a woman who has cheated. He chose to stay. Now what? We are here to advise her. It doesn't seem entirely relevant to me whether he is following RP to the letter. Again, theory and reality don't always match up. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/22 03:43 AM |
| 4 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?In the years I've been on RP subs, I have found that everyone has very strong opinions about what a "true red pilled man" (or "alpha" or "high value man") would do say or be. Ultimately RP teaches men to take ownership of their own lives. If this man made a choice, for whatever reason, to stay with his wife, then he is taking ownership of his life. Perhaps it's his religion, perhaps something else. Ultimately though, how is it relevant to advising the OP? We are here to help guide her. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/22 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?Theory is not always real life. I'm not sure what the point of your comment is. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?Leave now. You either didn't read or didn't comprehend the post and comments. From this comment I doubt you have anything of value to say. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 1 | 21M Questioning the sexuality of my girlfriend. Shocked about what I found in her search history. Need advice and insight please.This really belongs on the men's subs and not here. The short answer, as others have said, is that you are over thinking this. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 4 | How do I inspire appreciation?This isn't advice and it isn't helpful. If you don't agree with anything RP then you probably don't belong here | /r/RedPillWives | 20/01/22 09:45 PM |
| 3 | How to submit / let him lead when it comes to parenting?This is naive. Over a lifetime relationship you will be in situations that you didn't expect and don't know what to do about. It may not be this situation but rough seas are pretty inevitable. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/12/21 06:01 PM |
| 3 | How to submit / let him lead when it comes to parenting?Insulting someone's spouse isn't a great way to help her OR to get her to listen to you. And while vetting is important, this sub was established to help women in all situations. Issues arise over time. Vetting is not the be all end all. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/12/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Seeking your adviceThis is not really the best place for a guy to get dating advice. Removing this post. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/21 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Tea TimeI went in fits and starts both times. I'd lose then plateau then drop more later. I feel you though. I've been trying to yoga at home lately and my oldest does. not. like. it. She climbs all over me and makes it generally impossible. Wouldn't simultaneous naps just be awesome! Cheers to you for getting back on the exercise. I am still dragging my feet in that (and dragging a toddler when it comes to at home yoga) | /r/RedPillWives | 19/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Tea TimeHow much postpartum are you? I'm 11 months and it took til about now for it to "fall off". I'm still about 5lbs off of my pre baby average. I think breastfeeding makes you hold on to weight too. My experience anyway. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/09/21 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeI don't know and I was going to bring this to the community. Technically men are allowed and male questions are allowed so I haven't been removing them. This might be worth revisiting though. Thoughts u/teaandtalk | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Tired of mixed messagesThis is not a helpful response. Whether you think she should do, this is what her situation looks like and you are not giving helpful actionable advice. Unless you are her husband, you can't say what he and she should be doing without giving her guidance on how to get there. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/08/21 05:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I serve my bf best?Hush. If you don't understand the sub, you look foolish when you talk. Lurk instead. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/08/21 04:37 PM |
| 6 | Tea TimeWhen I got diagnosed I basically said "I'm tired all the time and feel like my head is stuffed with cotton. I go to the gym and eat healthy" and he did a blood panel that include the thyroid hormone checks but probably a bunch of other stuff too. Just tell your doc your situation and let him guide you. He probably will (and should) check a lot of things in order to narrow down the issue. Unless he just tells you that you are depressed or imagining it. Then find another doc. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/21 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Tea TimeGo to a doc and have your everything checked out. Personally, I have an under active thyroid and the brain fog is a major symptom that I need more meds. It can mimic depression. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 6 | Is becoming a “traditional woman” lowering your social status?And yet, half the country has conservative politics 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/21 04:06 AM |
| 15 | Is becoming a “traditional woman” lowering your social status?There is a cultural and practical push away from SAHM. I don't think it's ... No wait...there are definitely economic reasons which isnt quite what you mean. And there are certainly cultural forces denigrating womanhood and motherhood. Neither of these help women view it as an option. But A sergeant and a motorcyclist are not specifically high value or prestigious unless you are in the right circles. (And in the right circles a girl with a bike, who is also a seemingly good wife would get more c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/21 04:01 AM |
| 26 | Is becoming a “traditional woman” lowering your social status?My best friend is a Career Womantm. She makes a ton of money, manages people, has written language for stuff that turns into laws. She's still not a main character in any story but her own. Even if you do something amazing, it doesn't mean you will be important to more than a small group of people. This is why there is the concept of "15 minutes of Fame". Further, lowering your status among what group? If you don't work then it doesn't matter if the working world doesn't see your value. The same… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/21 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Combatting hypergamy in a LDRThe key to combatting hypergamy is believing that your SO is the best guy out there. Not giving yourself opportunities to crush on someone is good. You should also find ways to keep your BF's attractive qualities in the forefront of your mind. And you are still young and vetting. If you find yourself constantly attracted to other men then it's worth looking at the relationship to see if it really is the best guy you can get. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/21 12:13 PM |
| 2 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?I agree that she's an adult who can make her own decisions. It wasn't an insult. The fact that she is already working and earning real money puts her in a different position than many college aged people. She even acknowledged this when she says that it makes it hard to connect with immature 20 year olds. She isn't the average college student so her choices won't necessarily work for the average 20 student. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 12:29 PM |
| 56 | I can’t wrap my head around why I should have to clean for a man (not feminism)You don't have to do anything. Will you mow the lawn for half the season? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/21 12:57 AM |
| 6 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?So you are saying that you are and outlier... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Dating outside my raceMight you also be fetishizing him? You seem to disagree with everything he says and you think he says. Seems like you don't like him. Would you be asking reddit if you should continue to date an incompatible black man or would you just stop seeing him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 04:04 PM |
| 4 | I'm 22, and my dream is to become a stepmom lolYour reasons for not wanting to look for a partner now are at least partially fear based. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 01:44 AM |
| 3 | I'm 22, and my dream is to become a stepmom lolIt's going to be harder to find when you are older for many reasons. Red pill aside, the longer you are single the more difficult it is to bend enough to live in a relationship with another person. And I didn't say they were bad people. I said they had problems in relationships that led to them failing at relationships. One divorce makes for a higher risk of another divorce. Mid 20s marriages are not the ones with the highest divorce rates iirc. It's very young marriages that have those high rat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 01:25 AM |
| 8 | I'm 22, and my dream is to become a stepmom lolI guarantee you are not the only person to ever consider it. None of us are so unique. Also, it's a forum about a specific type of dynamic. It's not that your ideas wouldn't work within a red pill dynamic but its not typical for the space. You assume that the wall is exclusively a fertility phenomenon. It's not. It's also the point where it becomes more difficult to be a woman in the dating market with more competition. People pair off through their twenties, men and women. You are looking for o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 01:01 AM |
| 1 | I'm 22, and my dream is to become a stepmom lolYou should not need others to validate your dream. Why are you asking internet strangers if you are comfortable with the plan? Why this sub in particular? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 12:47 AM |
| 53 | How do you deal with the feeling of " but I deserve better" when it comes to settling down with a man?My husband was the guy who made me stop looking at other guys. When I found that I held on tight. If you feel like you can do better from the beginning, it's probably not a good start to a relationship. If you always think you can do better then it's your own issues and that is another problem to deal with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/21 01:40 PM |
| 25 | Questions and stuffIt's very ballsy to show so much contempt for us and then ask for help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/21 01:41 AM |
| 13 | Questions and stuffJust ... Wow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/21 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Please help. I need to face some issues and I need your help to hang on to my composure.Big big hugs. Your old people:the only good side to this (and it's good for your kids, not for you) is that your generation is going to be a lot more gracious than your parents. My mom had this same issue with my grandparents and I also watched it with my bff's mom & grandmother. In fact, my grandfather was such a jerk in his last year (and I adored this man with every fiber of my being) that he was calling and bothering my grandmother every day. Because you see, he didn't go into assisted livin… | /r/RedPillWives | 01/07/21 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Playful Bashfulness: My Secret Weapon to Melting His HeartI've never heard a man to judge a woman's RMV by her ability to not be offended or find things funny. "How many feminists does it take to change a lightbulb?...THATS NOT FUNNY" | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/21 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingOk. So why are you whining so much. That is pretty "soft girl" or "weak man" no matter how you slice it. you come to rpw to argue and test the ideas of women here. We call that a shit test. It's a female thing. Even your idealized version of men is something that only could come from a woman's mind. Men are just people. Most are average. Women don't want average (hypergamy). I hope you have taken the steps to actually join the army. If not then you are just a little girl playing at being a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/21 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingI'm not attacked. I'm just not into wasting my time. Men have to be more in life than "man". A man who doesn't have goals or aspirations beyond "man" is a loser. There are a lot of things that you could do with your life that are the same if you are a man or woman. But if all you want to be is "man" that is lazy thinking that will lead to misery on every front. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/21 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingI'm truly sorry that I bothered with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/21 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingAnd how would you accomplish that. Think in concrete terms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/21 08:40 AM |
| 2 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingPut aside masculine and feminine for a moment. What do you want to do with your life? You are young and you are starting out. What are your goals? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/21 09:23 PM |
| 15 | Tea TimeI was ok with it until I started to see the crazy amount of push back that people (mostly men but some women too) make online. It's like you want to take away a junkies fix. And that is when I decided that it can't be ok. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/06/21 01:43 PM |
| 3 | OYS- Own Your StuffOk. I'm going to suck it up and do this OYS thing for a little bit because I need to seriously get myself on track. Here goes: Me: 38 (almost), him 40. Two girls Red (2 yrs) Green (8 months). Together/married 14 years. I wfh with unset hours. Homemaking - we bought a fixer upper and it's getting to me more and more every day. This weekend I refinished my kitchen table, a task I have wanted to do for a while now. I'm pleased to have that done but it's a drop in the bucket (or as my ever so eloque… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/06/21 03:16 PM |
| 9 | I am soon going to be intimate with my bfA promise ring is something high school kids do. You shouldn't gauge commitment by the stuff you get. It's one thing to tell the OP to be sure for herself, it's another to tell her that he's not committed because he didn't buy her jewelry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/21 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Tea TimeI do not know the answer. u/teaandtalk do you? | /r/RedPillWives | 18/06/21 11:53 PM |
| 2 | I need some rpw encouragementThe upside was that I was too tired to care about much else. 😛 Thank you. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/06/21 11:18 PM |
| 3 | I need some rpw encouragementI got to take a nap today so that was a plus. Red was up for two hours overnight so I needed the nap but it was still nice. Tomorrow I will process some more. I'm ok. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/06/21 11:06 PM |
| 2 | I need some rpw encouragementHe is extremely disagreeable (Big 5 personality wise). He keeps saying that he doesn't care and whether that is true or not, it's probably not helping my mental state to think that he can lose a job and not feel anything. I suspect that he does care and doesn't want to express it because that would give them power over him. He hated this job from the beginning but kept it to be close to home and the kids. He was five minutes away so he came home for lunch every day. It will be hard for him to gi… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 10:17 PM |
| 2 | I need some rpw encouragementI can't work more (I could but I'm salaried so it doesn't matter). I can curb my spending and do better with meals. We were really good about using all the food and not wasting when we first hit quarantine. I can get back to that and cycle through some of my freezer food. I can also cut back on my frivolity. I have fixed Stitchfix a buttload over the last few months. what happened happened to him first and you second. I am going to hide this on a piece of paper in my vanity. No lie. It's good to… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 10:11 PM |
| 2 | I need some rpw encouragementWe did not ever lack for food or necessities and I know we won't now either. I mostly trust him but we have different idea of how to handle money. I'm cautiously optimistic that this time the money will be handled better but no matter what we will not starve. I need to work on my trust. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 10:07 PM |
| 7 | I need some rpw encouragementThis is actually great. We had a really chaotic day (car accident, everyone fine) but in a couple day I think I will broach the subject of planning out activities and things we want to accomplish. It will be good for me to get more organized even if he doesn't want me making suggestions for him but I can see where we both could benefit here. He's been exercising so that's good. The last time he spent the whole six months he was out of work on the deck working on his bike (which didn't actually n… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 10:04 PM |
| 3 | I need some rpw encouragement. It is tough on a marriage when a husband is home all day instead of going off to work Right? It makes me feel so bad that I'm not more excited to see him. He's been home for quarantine and then again for my maternity leave. He doesn't tell me how to manage things thankfully, but it's not a huge house and his preferred schedule is different from mine. He has his garage and basement. I don't have a private space because the house is still a work in progress. It's a good idea to get involved in a… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Traditional or controlling?In a more established relationship that doesn't sound too crazy. From everything I've ever heard, the military results in a lot of cheating so I could see where that is a point of paranoia for him. My husband and I share location. We don't specifically share passwords but I also wouldn't hesitate for him to grab my phone or see my social media. Do you have male friends where this one is an issue? Some people are ok with opposite sex friends some are not. It's not gendered but it might be an area… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 09:51 PM |
| 5 | I need some rpw encouragementI don't think he's happy. I think he's looking on the bright side. I am trying hard with the fake it til you make it. I thought I was doing ok until he said "try to act like you want to see me". Ouch. Obviously I was not faking it as well as I thought. A gratitude list is a good idea. Logically I know this doesn't have to be a bad thing, I just have to convince myself. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | I need some rpw encouragementI often feel like he is "in my space" and messes with the flow of me and the kids during the day. Yes I agree with this. He was wfh for a while during quarantine and it threw off our whole routine. You are right that I'll have to find opportunities out of this. Rn I'm feeling like we can't do anything because there is no money coming in. That's probably not true and I should trust him more when he says things are ok. And you are also right that whenever he starts a new job he gets super focused.… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 4 | Concerned about my boyfriend's temper.....Then why are you staying? What are his positives that outweigh the immature reactions and temper from him? I'm trying to understand because your post seems so cut and dried. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 03:32 PM |
| 12 | Concerned about my boyfriend's temper.....I have a hard time believing this is for real. What's going on with you woman. Do you, in your heart of hearts, believe that it's a good idea to quit your job and move in with someone that you've known for a month. The temper and how he's treating you are issues. The speed that you think is ok to move is also an issue. The second needs to be unpacked so you can address the first logically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 03:24 PM |
| 44 | My husband says I haven't been giving him enough attentionHas he articulated what he expects from you? Everything you are saying sounds pretty normal to me 6 weeks out. Your sleep is off and you are learning to parent so a lot of other things take a backseat. My initial instinct is to say that his expectations don't match up with the reality of a baby. But you are a bit vague about his expectations. So what does he want, specifically? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 10 | No one is happy I am pregnant!I think there is a lot more to it than "we are mislead". My parents got married very young. My mother wanted her daughters to have their kids young but not until we had enough skills to support ourselves if we had to. That's because she felt trapped as a young wife and mother. My parents are still married. My great aunt married and older dominant type and is more or less waiting for him to die to have a few years of peace. He prevented her from growing in her career after their kids were grown. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 09:11 PM |
| 12 | No one is happy I am pregnant!you keep painting him in such a positive light, I do not understand why they don't like the differences you two have Because it can come across as either false or naive and they probably don't believe that everything is the sunshine and rainbows OP paints. It's possible that it's all true and he's wonderful. It's possible that she's still blinded by infatuation and her parents see that. It's possible that "the lady doth protest too much" Without weighing in on the OP topic specifically, I can co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 5 | Revisiting Fascinating Womanhood Ch21 The Feminine Role vs The Working WifeI work. We have two young kids. I asked my husband if he'd ever want to consider me staying home full time. He said no because he thought it was good for me to have something out in the world. The double income isn't so bad either. Now, I have a huge amount of flexibility with my job. I more or less set my hours and as long as the work gets done I can do it at noon or midnight. I do have to answer my phone when it rings during business hours. I do have to go to the office on occasion to check in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/21 12:53 PM |
| 0 | BBC article on the workload of wives/mothersResearch shows much of a household's emotional labour, such as calming distressed children, is part of the load that generally falls on mothers Biology is soooo unfair. Seriously though, examples like this miss the big picture. My husband would loooove if the kids would go to him when they are distressed and maybe over time they will. But mom is mom. In a healthy relationship, that is always going to be the default for young kids. Beyond that, tell me who doesn't love being the one their kids go… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/21 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Being a SAHM / housewife - positive or negative?I find your question confusing. Are you asking if being a SAHW adds value or creates extra work (for others)? Because that's answered on a case by case basis. And I don't think that being on the ball is the be all end all of good wife-ness. My mom was your positive example but she's also exactly the type of woman The Surrendered Wife was written for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Some of the moms at my son’s school stopped talking to me when they found out I’m a housewife.Everyone is telling you that they are jealous and I don't think that is necessarily the right answer. The mommy wars can be intense. Everyone needs validation for their own choices. They probably aren't jealous of you but they don't understand your choices (or simply think theirs are better). They may even think you are judging them. As an alternative theory, if you aren't engaging in gossip or loaded topics, they might think you aren't interested in them. And, if that is how the dynamics of tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/21 07:15 PM |
| 22 | Some of the moms at my son’s school stopped talking to me when they found out I’m a housewife.Yes yes yes. Everyone jumps to the "they are just jealous" and that feels like a real ego-soothing answer. The truth is that we have no idea why OP is being excluded or if she even is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/21 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Advise for a man about to be marriedThe men's side of the red pill is dedicated to pushing men away from marriage. Not relationship necessarily but formal marriage. They will tell you all the ways that divorce laws are set against men. They will tell you that women are not responsible adults. They have a lot more to say and if you are truly curious you could go to the men's subs and talk to them. Many of the problems can be alleviated by having two partners who work to fulfill their role/duties in the marriage and who believe that… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Advise for a man about to be marriedIf a man wanted this advice, he would not have come to rpw. It's time for you to go. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 11:36 AM |
| 2 | What is a woman’s value over 40?Do you not understand the very human fear of aging? | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 02:03 AM |
| 18 | What is a woman’s value over 40?TRP is a set of ideas that scratches the surface of a lifetime relationship. As a woman, you should take away the idea that looks and sex are important and don't let them fall by the wayside. You should not take away the idea that your sole value is in your looks. It's just not the only thing and it's not enough to sustain a relationship Ive been with my husband since I was 24 ( 14 years for anyone counting). We have shared experiences and a shared history. He knows that I will have a steak read… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 02:02 AM |
| 0 | What is a woman’s value over 40?I mean, you do not have to be here and comment if you feel that way 🤷 | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 12:48 AM |
| 1 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsYeah, I think she's lashing out because she doesn't want to hear that she has to fundamentally change her attitude, not just her outfit. It's not easy. I have some degree of sympathy for her. I am also not the slightest bit shocked that men are not responding favorably. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 12:47 PM |
| 3 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsI'm happy with my life. It doesn't seem that you are. They say that insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 12:02 PM |
| 3 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsActually, I have a job in finance that allows me to wfh and raise my kids without daycare. My husband goes out to the office and comes home and does the heavy lifting chores. I cook, he mows. I carry kids, he carries me. We have a great balance and a fairly smooth relationship. I recognize what he needs as a man. Since you don't care, I won't waste my time but the wiki has some good sources on what men are looking for. I can be a soft place to land without being less. Being a hard ass bitch isn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 11:47 AM |
| 2 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsYou have no idea what feminine means then and so you are going to fail in this endeavor. Also, since you don't live in a western nation, I don't have the experience to help you | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 11:34 AM |
| 5 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsThis is so vague but... Femininity is more than "gender roles and such". Women who don't believe in gender roles demand to have their dates paid for. u/countthebees is right that "demand" isn't usually a feminine characteristic. This post sounds like you are keeping a tough attitude and then requiring that others treat you as though you are soft and feminine. This is why I asked what feminine means to you. If your idea of feminine is exclusively pretty dresses and being asked out then you aren't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 11:29 AM |
| 2 | I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effectsHow did you demand to be treated feminine? What does feminine mean to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Tea TimeMy fingers are crossed for you that you have a positive experience. RP and Laura Doyle are usually anti-counseling (and I get why) but husband and I did a handful of sessions way back and it was the start of turning our relationship around. Good Luck! | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/21 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeOh the boredom can still come on when there are kids. I get busy and miss adult contact. So when Husband goes away I usually treat it as a self care weekend or a time to unwind with friends. I've scheduled FaceTime dates with my BFF (because we have kids) and we have a glass of wine and chat. Or I go for leisurely shopping (or browsing) trips. I make myself dinners that I wouldn't have with him (wine and cheese plate). Get my nails done, dye my hair, do a face mask. Make long phone calls to catc… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/21 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Tea TimeTwo questions: do you have kids and what are the current covid restrictions where you are | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/21 02:01 PM |
| 16 | My ex wants me to do certain things in order for me to see him more oftenHe's proposing a transaction not a relationship. There can be grey areas where it is beneficial to do things you might not be super keen on for the overall good of the relationship. This set up isn't one of those times. On a personal note, I felt the way you do with my ex. Getting back together felt right every time and every time we broke up again. It can be a habit and a cycle. Break it and close the door. He wasn't good enough for you for a reason and that probably hasn't changed. I knew my h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/21 08:53 PM |
| 10 | If MRP is RP on hard mode for men, what is RPW on hard mode?Kids. When it is just the two of you it is relatively easy to care for your partner, look nice, not be snippy, have lots of sex... All that good RPW stuff. Adding kids makes all of that more difficult. Your focus becomes divided, time is at a premium, you compromise on your looks (at least early on) and your temper and patience can go out the window some days. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/05/21 08:55 PM |
| 7 | Help with more resources on red pill theoryI listed four books. Reddit formatting is annoying. Will edit. And I didn't mean to be harsh.. well I did... It sounded like you were saying "prove it to me" which is an annoying tendency of the people who want to come here to save us from ourselves. I was raised by a woman who is incapable of vulnerability and giving up any control. Took those lessons to heart and it put a strain on my marriage for a long time. Understanding his perspective helps. Learning how to let go and not argue everything… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 11:26 AM |
| 13 | Help with more resources on red pill theoryRP started as a bunch of men comparing notes and finding similarities. RPW is not dissimilar. You aren't going to get studies. And if your husband is about to leave you, why are you focusing on studies to prove something works. That is a waste of time and sounds like you don't really want to make changes. Read The Surrendered Wife or First Kill All the Marriage Counselors Fascinating Womanhood For Women Only The last two are summarized in the wiki. And try out the suggestions. It doesn't matter … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 10:41 AM |
| 3 | Need a perspective, because I screwed upWhen you look at the scope of the relationship, do you want it to be like this? Sometimes we accept things because a person seems worth it. Obviously he was worth it to you but is this the type of relationship you want with a different man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Tea TimeI definitely prefer it but I think it's more for it's ability to serve as a hidden drying rack. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 8 | Tea TimeHere's my shower thought for the day: A friend was having husband issues yesterday and the question about whether her husband is "on the spectrum" came up. I've had people ask me the same in the past. Wondering now if masculinity (or certain male traits) are "on the spectrum"...either for real or just in women's heads. Idk and I don't have an answer it's just ... Idk | /r/RedPillWives | 29/05/21 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Tea TimeI thought it would improve when we moved to a house with a dishwasher. I was wrong. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/05/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Tea TimeNo one's work day stories are actually fun. We listen to each other out of courtesy and every once in a while find common ground. But seriously, your life isn't more boring than hers just cause you stay home. I had to call out my mom this week because she made a comment about my husband not understanding what it was like to be home with the kids. He's a pretty good dad and the kids are 2 and 7 months so there are things we are still figuring out. After a few pointed comments I said "why do you t… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/05/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Can't be it allHugs. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/21 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Can't be it allAre you taking care of yourself? It sounds like you have a lot of stressors in your life. Some people probably are judging you, not gonna lie. It's likely fewer than you think though. In most cases, judgement happens when someone's choices dont conform to our own. Everything these days is so black and white. If you aren't liberal you are immoral. If you aren't conservative you are crazy. If you bottlefeed you aren't following the science. If you breastfeed you better do it in private cause we do… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/21 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Can't be it allAll those messages are out there, contradictory and exhausting. And it sounds like you are giving the red messaging and the blue messaging equal weight. I decided some time ago to do what I can do, chose a path and acknowledge the trade offs. My bff is a Career Womantm. She bought her second home this year and it's amazing. She has all the fabulous clothes and trips and a lot of enviable aspects to her life. She has time to work out and look fantastic. She has time to read books (this may be the… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/05/21 12:23 PM |
| 9 | In the modern era, what should a man's protection actually look like?One way: I think a husbands protection is like a security alarm sticker. You know, the ones that you put on your window that say "this home has such and such alarm system". His existence as a man is a deterrent to people (specifically other men) looking for an easy target. Burglars will pick the house next door without the alarm. Harassers will pick the woman who doesn't have a man ready to knock his teeth in. Whether you have the alarm system or a man who would take a swing for you is somewhat … | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/21 01:54 PM |
| 2 | feminismWe aren't here to justify ourselves to you. Feminists don't have the market cornered on rights. If you want to read some anti feminist perspectives try Phyllis Schlafly, Camille Paglia or Christina Hoff Sommers | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/21 06:40 PM |
| 9 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveSo, I read the book and it was a long time ago. I don't know what was more fleshed out in the show. The book doesn't articulate what the alternative to Gilead is. I don't disagree with what you are saying but I believe that Atwood's goal is to make us look at Gilead and think: "this could happen if we don't fight the patriarchy". Feminists like Atwood, think that RPW and religious folks are giving in to the patriarchy and making life worse for themselves and the rest of womankind. It's not accid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 05:25 PM |
| 6 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveJust saw your edit. The Handmaid's Tale is a dystopian novel, agree? Atwood takes some feminist views (the existence of patriarchy, men want to own women, men want to control reproductive freedom) and pushes it to an extreme. Nothing in the book has been suggested as a direction for society by any western group that I'm aware of. If Christianity wanted handmaid's, they would have existed when Christianity was at its height in the western world. THT says "if feminisms is right about all of it's b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveThey were. But given a roughly 50/50 population, you will still end up with a disparity if there are 3-4 women per man in the upper class. To some degree it happens here and now. Some men marry multiple times, if their exes don't remarry (and women are less likely to remarry than men iirc) then the twice married man has "taken" a woman away from a lower tiered man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveThe book is definitely against religion and I think that your assumption (no IVF because religion) is logically consistent with the text. There are some religions that are against it because it creates fertilized embryos that might be discarded later (akin to abortion). But it is one of the things that makes it all unlikely scenario for 2021 though. In 1985 when it was written, fertility treatments were not what they are today. In a population crisis we would likely look to those before we adopt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 03:36 PM |
| 14 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveNo one wants Gilead. The feminists think that RPW want it because they don't understand RPW. Even men don't want it because it would create an underclass of men who don't get to have marriage/family/legacy. Societies with too many men like that are unstable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 12:58 PM |
| 9 | Has anybody read the Handmaid’s Tale? I’d love to discuss it from a rpw perspectiveIt's a feminist dystopia that Ive never found particularly compelling. The premise for the set up of Gilead is that there are severe reproductive issues. They address it by giving women who have been proven fertile to the ruling elite to have babies, taking away their other children and adopting them out in the process. In talking about pregnancy as women's biological destiny, the commander is viewing it more from a male perspective. Women don't want to spread their seed and go to work to provid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportMe too | /r/RedPillWives | 22/05/21 10:24 PM |
| 10 | Am I just bad marriage material? 😂Why do you want to be feared? A man who wants to be feared isn't a good leader or a desirable man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/21 12:56 PM |
| 7 | My female honorA civilization without children will die out. Having children changes your body and brain. A part of your heart will always be with those kids. You've never seen pain like a mother losing her child too soon. How you raise children and what you teach them influences the laws that will be passed in 20+ years, the wars that will be fought, the businesses that will be built. It takes effort and attention to raise good people. You don't give up everything but your life and focus change. Women step ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/21 12:55 PM |
| 4 | My female honorWar and death are not better for society (more honorable) than childrearing and life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/21 09:02 AM |
| 20 | Am I just bad marriage material? 😂Yes. You are bad marriage material. There might be a man out there who falls for you but you are certainly not going to be most men's cup of tea. Your ideas of what it means to be a woman seem off. What you are bringing to a relationship is an aggressive nature (which not many men desire and women vet against when it's too much in the forefront). A smart ass isn't an endearing character trait for either gender either. You can be vulnerable without being incompetent. In fact competency is a prefe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/21 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportIMO women need to collaborate to feel comfortable writing RP content. But let's not gender this too much. We are constantly told that RP came to be because men kept comparing their experiences and finding commonalities. Then there is a question as to whether RPW should be the exact same theory as the men follow or if women are "allowed" to put their own experience into the interpretation. Those single childless men who have the time to post aren't going to help married mother's figure out how to… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportI think that is part of it. Also, it can be time consuming to write. Depending on the stage of life you are at, it can be far easier to read and comment on the fly than to sit and write a theory post. I wrote A LOT for RPWo before kids. Now the time (focus) just isn't there. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportPerfect. We can chat about it down the road then. Once (finger crossed) we see some more posting. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportI believe you are correct about the men's sub. It's easier to do that way for them because they have a larger sub with more traffic. After the field reports are squared away and on firmer footing I'll get on a plan for this. Please please bug me about it in a couple weeks. My focus on reddit has taken a serious backseat to work and kids (but is still above cleaning my bathroom 😂). Or if you are interested in spearheading it, that'd be cool too 😁 | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 6 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportYes and differentiating the two is something I'd like to see happen. They will always get traffic because of the affiliation with TRP. I think RPWives had the potential to be something more than a q&a sub. It is very difficult to get people to write content though. It was a special group of ladies who created this place. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Sub related stuff- a new type of field reportCould you elaborate on how we would vet people? I think you are right that people would be into the idea, but how do we determine who should be on the list. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Dear Diary / Field Report - Tit for Tat VacationsAgreed! I think that some people get so caught up in "fair" that nothing will make them happy. Then it comes out in instances like vacation. And it's so hard to talk about these things without caveats. No one, man or woman, should allow themselves to be taken advantage of. No one actually appreciates a doormat or a martyr. It's finding the right balance on both sides. But when you just want to prevent him from ever leaving... That way leads to madness. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 02:26 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with disappointment?Usually if I can't shake something off it's PMS related so I try to keep that in the front of my mind. I'll tell myself (in my head) that this isn't my typical reaction so I should acknowledge that it's probably hormonally driven to some degree. Other than that, I rant. That's just how I get things out. It may not be feminine and graceful but I need to vent so I do. I'll use my husband but more often than not it's my mom or a friend. When it's my husband I tell him that I'm just cranky and disap… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/05/21 12:22 PM |
| 7 | Love between gendersA manual labor job is tough but I'd bet most of the men here sit at a desk. Pregnancy is tough in different ways even before you get to the actual labor part. Probably we should not try to compare the two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Men are not made of porcelainAnd rant may have been the wrong word to use so I apologize for that. It was well written and I think I get to your point. To my mind, everyone comes from different places. What looks overly cautious to some might be a correction for long time "bad" behavior. And there are people that take things to an excess no doubt. I just worry that women will take these ideas as an excuse to continue overly critical behavior. Not that you encourage that, but you can see the tilt towards 'anti man' in some o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/21 12:41 PM |
| 13 | Men are not made of porcelainI disagree that this post belongs on RPW. Not because direct communication is inappropriate and not because men are going to break if you say the wrong thing. But one of the bigger lessons in the For Women Only posts is that lots of men have imposter syndrome and fear being inadequate. A woman who is constantly telling her guy that he's not doing x, y, z or is doing it wrong will chip away at him. I'm watching this with friends right now. They are going to end up divorced soon. It's been years w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/21 11:34 AM |
| 4 | Should I (24F) date 23 M casually yet mutually exclusive for 4 years when both party are aware that the distance between us won't be closed ever and there's no marriage possibility?This is a character test for you then. You don't think it will go anywhere. You don't think he fits in your long term goals and most important, you don't think it's right. Stop asking others to convince you when you already decided that it's not right. Put on your big girl pants and make the hard decision to cut this guy off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/21 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I (24F) date 23 M casually yet mutually exclusive for 4 years when both party are aware that the distance between us won't be closed ever and there's no marriage possibility?Why are you making this post? It sounds like you've made up your mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 6 | Should I (24F) date 23 M casually yet mutually exclusive for 4 years when both party are aware that the distance between us won't be closed ever and there's no marriage possibility?You may be a little naive about what it takes to make a relationship work. Love and chemistry are not enough, especially in the face of distance, different cultures and different values. And you can't determine chemistry from afar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/21 02:22 PM |
| 2 | How to make more time for sex?So I definitely had a discussion with my husband around this comment. His take was more along the "please let me sleep" lines. And half a bj before work wouldn't fly in our house. My criticism isn't about blow jobs specifically, more that after spending years around these subs, it gets old. I hope it works for the OP but to me "we are too tired for sex" isn't necessarily answered by "why don't you give him more sex". And it's almost always coming from young men which just frustrates me further. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/21 01:38 AM |
| 8 | How to make more time for sex?We went from nightly sex pre-kids to making time at least once a week but usually it happens once every 3-4 days. Neither of us are thrilled about it but like you, work, kids and lots of house projects make for lots of exhausted nights. We do get the kids in bed before 8pm (usually earlier). Kids get less sleep than a generation ago and it's bad for the brain. This is my justification 😛. We don't schedule sex but we do set out early in the night if either of us wants it. Chores can go on the bac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 01:21 AM |
| 2 | How to make more time for sex?Ugh. I know this is rpw but why do men always jump to assuming that a bj can fix any marital issues. If I tried to wake my husband up with a bj he'd bat me away.... because it would have to be at 5am before a kid woke up...and of course there is a risk of a kid getting up in the middle. I imagine that'd be fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 01:09 AM |
| 5 | My 4 year relationship is ending and I'm 26.I should hope it takes more than lust for you to die for someone. And if you are conditioning love on lust then it's still conditional. Maybe you could say that lust is unconditional but it's conditioned on the person having traits you find attractive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/21 10:39 PM |
| 4 | My 4 year relationship is ending and I'm 26.All love it conditional and lust doesn't change that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/21 10:18 PM |
| 4 | Help me help him be the man he is insideThe alternative is to attempt to force her man into it when he's not budging. We are all multifaceted people and rpw doesn't lay out what chores each person is supposed to complete. A man isn't going to grow a vagina because he makes himself a sandwich anymore than a woman stops being feminine just because she's capable of handling a mouse. Unless you want to be a wilting flower. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/21 12:01 PM |
| 4 | Help me help him be the man he is insideI didn't downvote but perhaps other people are sensing an attitude in your comments. Personally I think the "fuck off" is a bit much here. Being feminine doesn't mean you don't have to be a grown up. Being masculine doesn't mean that a man has to coddle you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 06:26 PM |
| 9 | Help me help him be the man he is insideA captain / first mate dynamic doesn't mean that he does everything for you. First mates sometimes need to step up and steer the ship. You are still vetting him but he's also vetting you. What would you do if he was on a business trip? What would you do if you didn't have a boyfriend. Mice are gross, I'm not discounting that. I would also prefer to have someone else handle it. You cannot fall apart though. You will be stronger if you face this. It's the adult thing to do. You will be better off … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Help me help him be the man he is insideWhy not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 01:16 PM |
| 6 | Help me help him be the man he is insidehow do I change myself... You learn to deal with the mouse on your own and watch how he responds. You may be putting too much weight on this issue but that depends on how he is in other areas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 12:41 PM |
| 14 | Struggling to meet an Alpha.This post doesn't actually tell us enough to help you. Other than cleaning men's houses you don't describe what you are doing in relationships, how long they last, how you meet men, who you meet... nothing. Maybe you could give us some more insight into who you are meeting and what the problems are that are resulting in break ups. And in general I am wary of anyone who thinks that Alpha is a type of man. RP isn't exactly science and even RP uses it to describe traits (and not 100% desirable trai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 12:36 PM |
| 13 | Feeling doneHugs and sympathy. When my husband went through a bit of job loss related depression (for over a year), I had to give up on him a little and focus on my own life. I told him I was there for him, wanted to do stuff with him but was no longer avoiding friends and activities because he didn't want to do anything. It didn't fix him but it made my life happier. If you feel done with him then be done. Not done with the marriage but refocus your energy on yourself and tell him that you are available wh… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/04/21 12:30 PM |
| 8 | Feeling doneIt's not your job to convince someone to divorce when it is against her values. If you want to accuse someone of being abusive then you need to outline the actual behaviors and not just throw it around haphazardly. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/04/21 12:19 PM |
| 1 | I'm a (20)F and I'm always worried about my bf(25)M cheatingDo you have a lot of experience with this strategy working? It's not in women's best interest at all so it seems to me you will not get the best quality women is the best relationships out of this deal. I say this as someone who has had threesomes with my husband but there is give and take on both sides. You seem a little naive about relationships but perhaps your experience is just not coming across well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/21 06:13 PM |
| 2 | I'm a (20)F and I'm always worried about my bf(25)M cheatingAnd are you prepared for her to date you while she continues to look for someone better? That's hypergamy after all and it's biology. She needs to find the best genes. If there is anothe man who is better than you then she shouldn't stay, no matter how much you provide or what commitments she made. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 2 | I'm a (20)F and I'm always worried about my bf(25)M cheatingIf it's not men being douchebags then why are you so quick to swear (in bold) that you would not do it yourself (implication: I'm better than that). | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/21 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Husbans Presence at BirthI'm not sure I have wisdom to offer but I don't think you are crazy. My husband is great at a lot of things but being in the room for both my kids he was unhelpful. He didn't detract really but he wasn't a help. When things went sideways with my second I was the one telling him it was going to be fine. Bless him he tried but my sister was a bigger asset in the delivery room. I wish it wasn't so expected these days to have men there | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/21 05:19 PM |
| 12 | Please decode these texts of what he’s looking for. Do I run?Ok. He didn't say that though so what are your options from here? You can take him at his word, decide if you want to stay and see if anything develops in spite of what he said. You risk wasting your time and feelings. You can take him at his word and walk away because you want different things. You absolutely lose him but save your time and heart. You can ask him what would make him want to commit. You risk him telling you what you want to hear or finding out that it's just not you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/21 10:35 PM |
| 21 | Please decode these texts of what he’s looking for. Do I run?Well we are not in his head but generally, men mean what they say. In this case that he's looking for casual and perceives that you are looking for serious. Is there a reason you think he means something other than his words suggest? And I don't think you have to be so dramatic as "should I run". It does sound like you want different things though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/21 07:51 PM |
| 4 | How do you define Success and a High Value Male?Are these stats directly for men with an IQ over 120 or are you extrapolating from the general population stats? At any rate, it doesn't really paint you into a corner because of you can't respect a man then the relationship is dead before it begins. Intelligent likely means "relative to myself" for most people. It also doesn't necessarily mean IQ. I've also read that people need to be within 15-20 (I'm forgetting the exact #) of each other's IQ to really be able to communicate. It becomes diffi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 3 | A question on financesPersonally, no I like to have my own pool of money to draw from. With your friend though, you don't know if there is a reason for this. Off the top of my head I could see this making sense when there is an overspending problem or an addiction problem. If it works for them then I don't think it automatically has to be an issue. The devil is in the details. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/21 12:19 PM |
| 4 | I need an attitude adjustment, help!!I had a trip to the ER and it still didn't register to my husband how sick I was. (Tbf I was at my mom's so she could look after my then 8 month old while he worked). I think that men are not fully attuned to illness (unless it's their own) in the same way women are. It's the lack of nututure qualities. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/04/21 03:41 PM |
| 3 | How do you have time to yourself when you live with a boyfriend?I am 37 and I have two children. Now more than ever, personal time is necessary. It's less available and more important. I'm still not sure how the sacrifice message is relevant to the question asked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/21 12:53 AM |
| 3 | How do you have time to yourself when you live with a boyfriend?Her question was "how do I get time on my own" and you said "you have to sacrifice" Sorry if I took the wrong thing away from your comment but since you did not answer her question at all, that's how it read to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/21 02:26 PM |
| 3 | How do you have time to yourself when you live with a boyfriend?If you give 100% of your time over to your husband and kids then you stop being a complete person. It's also how women get overly stressed and resentful. This sounds like lofty rhetoric that can be a problem in practice | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | What to read / listen / podcast recommendations for when you’ve gone totally off track as a red pill Wife and need to win back your husband ?Anything you want to talk about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/21 09:36 AM |
| 3 | What to read / listen / podcast recommendations for when you’ve gone totally off track as a red pill Wife and need to win back your husband ?This is a night and day attitude from your earlier post today. Are you ok?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | shower thoughts: Why is this sub so compelling?This is an interesting question. I love looking at gender differences in behavior. It fascinates me. My relationship was sufficiently solid when I found rpw but I'd spent a long time beating my head against a wall because I thought we were the same and to understand him I only needed to understand me. So wrong. I stay because I want to help women not make that same mistake. Also I like telling people what to do. Though this account is mostly to make snarky comments 😛. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/21 12:12 PM |
| 6 | Help. I am worried I fucked up big time. I married at 22. We are 2 years in he’s 27 from Mexico and hates being the breadwinner & doesn’t want to provide It seems likeThis answer is not about whether or not you should leave. Other people have covered that. You need to look at yourself some. You say that you are a ten and have no faults but you ended up with a horrible partner. So either, you are perfect now and made no vetting mistakes and he's a monster, or, you have some culpability in this. You need to seriously unpack this whole relationship, what he brings, what you bring, how you each respond to each other, what instigates these fights, what attracts yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/21 11:52 AM |
| 3 | Learning to cook - tips?How to cook ethnic foods from scratch (Filipino, Mexican, Indian, Korean, Jamaican...) Why this, if I might ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad to contact a man I had ghosted years ago?Be polite or be quiet | /r/RedPillWives | 17/03/21 12:30 AM |
| 2 | My husband is oversharing and "mansplaining" things about having a baby to our female friendsThis lecture is entirely unnecessary. RPW exists to discuss gender differences. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/03/21 11:01 AM |
| 4 | Your thoughts of mid life crisisWhat qualifies as a midlife crisis? I can look back and say "I could have done this differently" but really, I'm in the middle of the ride. There isn't a way to know if I made the wrong choices until the end. And I believe everything is about balancing the trade offs. There is no perfect life and you have to work with what you've got. I try not to constantly think about the what ifs because overall I'm happy. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/03/21 02:08 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with micro-aggressions (coming from others) that I’ve been raised with and I accommodate when others treat me like crap?Micro aggression is a nonsense concept. Stop looking for reasons to be a victim. "If you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you are the asshole" If everyone in your life is a problem then you need to start looking at yourself more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 2 | What is the mindset of women in their late thirties or older wanting to have kids?I don't disagree and when I got pregnant he wasn't ready either. There are some benefits and drawbacks to waiting (for us). I'm not sure what I'd do if I had a redo except maybe tell him that he was never going to feel ready but he's figure things out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 3 | What is the mindset of women in their late thirties or older wanting to have kids?My husband, who I have been with since I was 24, wanted to be 'ready'. When I hit 35 I told him now or never. Why assume it's 100% women who are responsible for the delay? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/21 06:25 PM |
| 3 | How do I begin attracting men when I’ve always been career-driven?Not everything is about men though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Is it a prerequisite to talk about your own personal experience as an example when answering questions here because I’m seeing that a lotNo but it is how people, particularly women, communicate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/21 05:23 AM |
| 4 | Did he choose to pursue someone else because I couldn’t make it to an expensive reservation he booked? Surely not?After reading all of this, I can't imagine why he wouldn't move on. What exactly was in this for him? Sounds like you tried really hard to make sure he wasn't important to you and you didn't need him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/21 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Understand, I'm not making the argument in favor of promiscuity. Even if it had zero impact on bonding, there are plenty of reasons to be careful about who you choose to have sex with. That out of the way, I'll repeat that we are on the women's sub. What men should do is beside the point. Now what men do is not irrelevant and so to your second point, men continue to wife up formerly promiscuous women. So while you alter your dating pool with wanton casual sex, you do not eliminate your ability t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Look your argument with me about grammar shows that you don't understand what I'm saying. FIRST: Men do not like promiscuous women. Men believe that they are 100% rational creatures 100% of the time. Therefore, their dislike must be based in science, not their feelings or gut. THEN they pull related studies to back up what they feel. It's ok to have a preference. It's not ok to suggest on the women's sub that your preference is the result of a causal relationship between promiscuity and ltr succ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?So, ok. That's fine and from a male vetting POV I'm not against this line of thinking. However the logic you present doesn't make it science. Being good sense doesn't make it science. None of the studies that I've seen presented ever suggest a causal relationship. Which is important for the women's sub It means that as best we know, there is a connection between promiscuity and failed relationships. It also means that in all likelihood an individual woman can identify the issues that led to her … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Proceed. Maybe if I talk super simply you will figure out what I'm trying to say? I'm not trying to shame you. However, trp teaches men to own their mission and their beliefs. That's all I'm saying. It was a general "you". I've been with the same man for 13 years. Are you married as required by the rules? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 04:05 AM |
| 0 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Am not your sis. You claim that you don't need to rationalize your feelings and then proceed to do so. Be a man and own it without whining about women getting upset so you need to blah blah blah... | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 03:14 AM |
| 5 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?I don't believe they do either. That is why men should just say "we don't like promiscuous women" rather than making up faux science to justify the dislike. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Or, perhaps, it's a post hoc rationalization by men to justify their feelings about promiscuous women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 02:09 AM |
| 4 | How to stop being competitive with other women and overall insecure?So mate guard but don't be combative. No contradictions there. Have no life outside your partner. Clingy girls are always desirable. And for goodness sake vibrate! Men love when you talk wavelength and vibration and astrology. 🤨 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/21 12:45 PM |
| 3 | I need help with this situationWe're you thinking about breaking up with him before this? It sounds like you might be looking for reasons. Once you lose respect and start thinking about a break up, the relationship is over. The question is simply when it ends. Reading your comments, I think the relationship is over. I'm not sure you handled this situation gracefully though. No one likes to be put on the spot and told their failings in the middle of a failure. It's not surprising that in the moment he made excuses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/21 01:42 PM |
| 13 | How do I show him I’m not a pick me type of woman?You are overthinking this. You weren't talking about anything he could engage with beyond cursory displays of interest, which he did. Don't cancel the date. That would indicate a declining interest in him. Be openly excited to see him when you do but don't obviously bend over backwards to change plans (with other people) for him. Let him talk about himself more than you talk about you and be genuinely interested. Don't attempt to be hot and cold. Don't attempt to withhold sex now that you have c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/21 01:37 PM |
| 2 | People around here forget the biggest obstacle when it comes to young women dating older men: their friends and social circleIf she is the poster I think she is then it's sad all around. She breaks up with him and then he says stuff to get her back and she convinced herself that all the standard lies of a cheating spouse are true. But at a certain point the entirety of reddit has told her it's BS and she seems like she's sticking her fingers in her ears and insisting it's normal. Like I can't even with this post. And I don't usually get too involved saying "oh the poor wife" but the excuses this guy gives don't even m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 04:55 PM |
| 10 | People around here forget the biggest obstacle when it comes to young women dating older men: their friends and social circleIt's in her post history that she's the other woman. And I'm fairly certain that she's posted on other subs under other, now deleted, names. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 02:58 PM |
| 4 | People around here forget the biggest obstacle when it comes to young women dating older men: their friends and social circleIt is but she's trying to make an argument using herself as an example while withholding key details. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 02:57 PM |
| 6 | People around here forget the biggest obstacle when it comes to young women dating older men: their friends and social circleHe is married. But it's a loveless marriage and he will leave in 10 years when the kids are grown. And there is no possible way that has anything to do with her friends making it difficult on her I'm sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 02:52 PM |
| 4 | How to become more “into” cooking.Growing up we all had similar eating habits and I still remember my mom begging us to tell her what we wanted for dinner. I honestly thing "what's for dinner" is one of the most daunting questions of homemaking. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/21 04:19 AM |
| 11 | Marriage after abortion?My husband didn't feel ready and we were in our late thirties. He had an absolute meltdown in the first month of my pregnancy. I'm actually pretty sure that he was never going to be ready until it happened. Now I don't know if that's the case with your husband or not. The thing is- you are risking the marriage either way. It sounds like you might not be able to stay with him if you get the abortion that you don't want. And you think there is a possibility he won't want to stay with you if he has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/21 04:12 AM |
| 10 | Lol at women who think they're "educated" with a liberal arts degree 😂I'm so confused, do men not care about our degrees, as we've been told ad nauseum, or do we need STEM degrees to attract men? 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 04:01 AM |
| 11 | How to become more “into” cooking.First, I know exactly what you mean about cooking losing its appeal. When I was single I loved to try new things. My husband is a meat and potatoes guy and that puts a serious drag on my motivation to cook. Anyway, that doesn't help you, it's just a personal lament. There are so many vegetarian-focused cookbooks. I'd start there to get your juices flowing again. I find that a good blog or cookbook can help get me excited and my mind turning...even when I don't make anything specifically from sai… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/21 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Mrs_Degree is a poster child for why women should never be given powerI think your fixation is...idk bizzare. It seems like you got your feelings hurt and are lashing out. Also as a clit-haver who loves the word cunt as an insult, your argument doesn't hold water for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Mrs_Degree is a poster child for why women should never be given powerThis crusades of yours is super weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 02:55 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Was your pumpkin pie cakey? Or is your carrot cake custardy? Not a knock on you but I'm very confused that you found them similar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 04:46 PM |
| 1 | I'm Alexis, a red pill woman who is struggling with my boyfriend's video game addictionWhat's the story with the OP impersonating people? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 05:59 PM |
| 11 | Feeling Down About Uneven Christmas EffortI'm so glad that gift giving isn't my love language, it makes it easier to not have holiday gift expectations. I buy own gifts for Christmas because I want the whole family to open presents together on Christmas morning. My husband is totally an act of service guy and he's been fixing up the baby's room so I can have an office. Hard to get upset about Christmas presents when I can recognize how he is expressing love. Pretty sure he wouldn't be feeling love if I made him go buy me stuff 😛 | /r/RedPillWives | 16/12/20 11:34 PM |
| 9 | Feeling Down About Uneven Christmas EffortI agree, And I'd probably have more advice if she had responded. But this to me has the potential to be one of those situations that you don't entirely know what you want so you're trying to come up with an answer when you're not even sure what the question is... If that makes any sense. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/12/20 10:48 PM |
| 13 | Newly Married, Need Help Avoiding Judgmental AttitudeLook at what he does that doesn't correspond to your schedule. He might sleep in but he's probably working when you have down time between classes. You aren't supposed to be equal in all things, you should be contributing to the family unit in your agreed upon manner. So if he can provide his income and sleep in then that is ok as long as he's upholding his end of the bargain. If you take on so much that you don't have downtime, it's not his responsibility to match you. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 23 | Feeling Down About Uneven Christmas EffortWhat is it that you actually want - is it the 'experience' of Christmas, is it the gift itself, an equal monetary split, a feeling you are looking for... or something else entirely? Figure that out and you'll have a better idea how to deal and whether or not your bfs attitude is one you can live with. And there isn't a wrong answer. I'm not suggesting that you are bad for desiring gifts or an equal exchange, but you mentioned a kitchenaid - if he bought a long weekend at a b&b would you be happy… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/12/20 06:14 PM |
| 4 | I keep living in the pastWhat are you doing to meet men for potential relationships? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 04:09 PM |
| 2 | "Be yourself" and pretty much all dating troubles started with Baby BoomersBaby Boom - 1946-1964 Hippies - counter culture youth movement of the mid 60s. 1960 - birth control pill introduced The parents of the boomers werent the hippies or the sexual revolution | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 1 | "Be yourself" and pretty much all dating troubles started with Baby BoomersYou are confused about who came when. Also "hippies" are not a generation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/20 09:33 PM |
| 2 | I just don't want to be the average womanNo matter how much you claim otherwise, it's a critical or judgmental statement. Not sure how to explain it to you but it's coming across badly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/20 06:49 PM |
| 2 | I just don't want to be the average womanYour critique of those women is entirely irrelevant to your question though which is why you don't sound good and are getting backlash. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | I just don't want to be the average womanLook at the wives of the type of men you want and emulate them. Also, proximity. Be near enough to open conversations with the type of men you want. HVM is a vague descriptor so the best anyone can do is vague advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | I'm insecure about my boyfriend's porn consumption, am I in the wrong?It seems like you don't understand men's relationship with sex. You aren't being untrue to yourself if you try to understand the male experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Domestic DisciplineMakes poor business decisions, blows savings, won't discuss with wife who is sooo annoying Domestic discipline is.obviously the marriage saving answer here! | /r/RedPillWives | 10/12/20 10:27 PM |
| 9 | I(22f) can't figure out how to bring up an issue to my bf(29m)As a 18 year old man, you are not in a position to give relationship advice to women. Please move along. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/12/20 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Coping with stressAh so he doesn't understand western women or childrearing. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/20 09:02 PM |
| 4 | Coping with stressDo you have kids and do you spend the days with them? | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/20 03:20 PM |
| 2 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..I disagree. But my opinion aside, why did it make you emotional enough to start throwing insults. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 0 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..TRP does NOT recommend watching it. The foundation of TRP is for men to make their own choices rather than following someone else's script. Porn is controversial whenever it comes up. The truth is that it's not a problem for everyone who uses it. It doesn't really sound like the main problem for the OP. wasn't what those two idiots were suggesting I went back and reread those comments. They said "help get yourself off" and "during sex". I took that to mean...during intercourse, which is not unco… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 08:37 PM |
| 3 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..You should always make the decision that is best for you and your relationship. People on here are just people. You don't know who has the best relationship or even if you want to emulate the relationship that they have. You and your husband have to make the best decisions possible for your relationship. So look into porn problems, talk to your husband and figure it out for your relationship. I don't think that porn is the answer to all your problems no matter which direction you choose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 04:53 PM |
| 1 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..He said maybe it would make me last longer if I did though. Yeah, as far as I am aware, this is the more common result. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 04:25 PM |
| 2 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..I felt the same way until I started hanging out on reddit. My husband and I used to watch separate and together on occasions and neither of us ever had problems with it. I've seen a lot of people (mostly men some women) tell stories of porn addiction ruining sex and relationships. I assume that it's always been a potential problem but has gotten worse with the easy access to internet porn in the last 15-20 years. When the debates about it occur on RPW it's usually the older people who didn't gro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 04:12 PM |
| 2 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..There are issue with porn, full stop. That doesn't mean they impact everyone the same or at all (unless you want to talk about the ethical issues in the industry which I don't). However most men who are porn addicts can't get aroused or keep it up or finish. That doesnt sound like your husband. It might be that he's trained his body to get off quickly from masturbating and he's bringing that to sex. This is probably an area that men should weigh in on though. Nagging is how you go about it. If y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 03:56 PM |
| 1 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..I think your expectations are a bit unrealistic. A session of sex - foreplay through completion - should be long enough for both partners to get off in some manner but that doesn't mean that PIV has to be the focus from beginning to end. A lot of women don't get off by PIV alone. There is nothing wrong with adding other acts to sex. That doesn't mean a guy should leave a woman to her own devices but if she touched herself or uses a vibrator during the action why not. If he gives her oral before … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 03:47 PM |
| 6 | RPW truth: appearance is the most important thingIt's the comment responses more than the post itself. I don't usually judge anything by downvoted but a lot of people are downvoting the OPs comments. That probably means that I'm not the only one seeing negativity in her attitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/20 05:36 PM |
| 18 | RPW truth: appearance is the most important thingOP, you attitude in this whole thread is super unattractive. You come across as both bitter and jealous. I don't know you so maybe you are just having a bad day but if the attitude here carries into the real world then that might be your problem with men more than your looks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | The cons of being in a relationship with an older manFirst, how is this relevant. Second, sperm degrades. 40 is about the magic age for men as 35 is for women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | StoicismTautologies make for terrible "advice". | /r/RedPillWives | 21/10/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | How to tell your captain he's dropped the ball?This sounds really over the top. Would you elaborate why you think it's irredeemable and he doesn't belong with children or pets? I don't see that from the context. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/10/20 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Are men with tattoos a red flag for a rpw lifestyle?How am I being unfair? RPW suggests vetting a man, not acting on impulse. So sure, some relationships start with a gut feeling, that doesn't mean that marriage at first sight is a good idea. And since dating for a period of time is the general norm, it's reasonable to assume this is the better relationship path (ie: not choice by impulse). Yes, a lot comes down to personal taste. You cannot negotiate attraction. But your comment reads as though tattoos are all positives and no negative and I thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/20 12:10 PM |
| 6 | Are men with tattoos a red flag for a rpw lifestyle?Those seem like overly optimistic spins to put on all tattoos. I've seen way too many people who got them with the impulsivity of youth and without considering the lifelong change to their body. It's also a fairly frivolous thing to want so I'm not sure the pain to desire correlates with anything practical. I can think of way better signs of someone's determination than sitting in an artists chair for a few hours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/20 11:53 AM |
| 6 | I'm so young and so stressed.Support is helping you to make a plan to achieve your goals. Validation is saying 'you go girl'. Monitoring kids is not motherhood. Liking the smell of bleach doesn't equal a clean bathroom. Waiting for this life and husband to drop in your lap does not make it happen. So I ask again, what is your plan to make it happen? How will you prepare to be good at this lifestyle? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 11:12 AM |
| 3 | I'm so young and so stressed.Do you know what it takes to do those things? If your goal is to be a mother then you should work to achieve that. I am not knocking the life style. But what you write above sounds more like a fantasy than a reality based goal. You even talk about wanting this because life now is too stressful. I've seen women here who go through childhood education or development degrees because that will prepare them for motherhood. Obviously this isn't a requirement but what do you plan to do to prepare yours… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 10:44 AM |
| 19 | Not even an unpopular opinion, just one that consistently brushed under the rugAlternate possibility: women are attracted to dominance, competence and authority. The teacher is in an attractive position and it is the position (and what it represents) not the man that students are attracted to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 12:14 AM |
| 2 | After a fight, my husband reverts to not attending any events. Leaving me stuckMy fingers are crossed for you and you can message me anytime if you have questions or just need a sounding board. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/09/20 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - September 26, 2020I think the best thing about #1 is that I didn't have to do anything the last couple weeks except nap and watch tv. Now I have to be more attuned to the world around me and it's making me aware that she's. not. here. yet. But thank you for the encouragement. I know it's so close.... And yeah, my pregnancy sub last kid was a great group of women. This time it was infiltrated by special snowflakes and victims who wanted the rules to be all about them and the mods seemed to agree. I don't typically… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/09/20 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - September 26, 2020Current outline: Grandma is your best friend- sending your child away so that sleep becomes possible once again Freezer food and take out - why no one should expect me to cook at 38 weeks (I have to admit, husband is great about this but with a toddler, I can't lean on take out as much as we did the first time. I've been marinading meat and throwing it in the grill most days which is pretty doable) Cleaning?? - Sending your husband AND your toddler away - because then the house can be cleaned on… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 2 | After a fight, my husband reverts to not attending any events. Leaving me stuckWe also had issues with my parents for a long time in our relationship. I was far too inclined to let them get in my head and for reasons I'll never be able to figure out, I'd repeat things to my now husband. I had to take time away from them and develop myself as a person to break the cycle. I spent about a year and a half no contact with my parents. First I was angry and then hurt. I processed a lot and decided what made me happy and who I was in my relationship without their input. Now we hav… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/09/20 10:08 PM |
| 11 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - September 26, 2020Ugh, you guys, I have a max of two weeks to go on this pregnancy and so done. The first was easier because I could sit on my butt watching tv. Now I'm chasing after #1 who has learned passive resistance at the same time I lost the ability to bend over. I bailed early on from the pregnancy subs because the non-binary 'its rude to assume I'm the mother just because I'm pregnant' voices were drowning out the rest of the sub. My husband's answer is to pet my head and tell me I'm in the home stretch … | /r/RedPillWives | 26/09/20 04:53 PM |
| 6 | After a fight, my husband reverts to not attending any events. Leaving me stuckYou've just served as an object lesson. Men hear criticism when none is intended. There is nothing in the comment that indicates snark to me. Still you read that in and responded antagonistically. It's not uncommon for this sort of communication error period and it's likely worse when a marriage is already rife with disagreement. OP, in addition to Laura Doyle, throw 'For Women Only' on your reading/audible list | /r/RedPillWives | 26/09/20 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Boundaries or Control?It's not abnormal to keep distance with opposite sex friends once you are in a relationship. This sub tends to have very mixed feelings about male/female friendship. This could be a compatibility issue. How long have you been dating? Let's just assume for a minute that he's making a reasonable ask. Why are you hesitant to grant him the request? Is your gut telling you there are other issues? Are you more comfortable keeping men around as a 'back up' if this goes south? Do you not see this man as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/20 08:21 AM |
| 10 | What is RedPillWives? How does it differ from RedPillWomen?It comes out less in the marriage issue in recent years. You see it strongly when education comes up. There is a strong appeal to femininity and women with an attitude or a backbone leave. And since Reddit is majority men and many of them fetishize RPW, without ruthlessly ejecting them, a sub can be overwhelmed. That doesn't mean that a few men can't offer insight, it means most can't and don't want to push for women's strategy. I can disagree with other women while knowing we still have woman's… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/09/20 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Are all women like "that"?I would not have noticed until I was pacing the floor at 3am 😛. There is this general drift with a lot of RP theory and I women who think that because they are sahm's they understand RP. That's not a knock against them. The discussion and teaching has died down over the years. I look forward to seeing the revised post. I really hope this sub picks up some steam. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Are all women like "that"?I've always believed that AWALT was more "all women have the potential to be like that". One of the reasons that RP struck a cord with me originally was that it gave me words for a lot of my behaviors in my younger years. We are still fully conscious and self aware humans though and our basic drives and programming are not the only things that guide our behaviors ie: we have complete control over how we behave and how these tendecies manifest in our lives. I'm not even completely sure what falls… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 11 | The Wall, by Barney StinsonI've never thought the wall was purely physical beauty and you've hit on some excellent psychological issues with being unattached for too long. It's a disservice to women when we talk about the wall as a looks only issue. That's when you get all the push back of 'I look as good...' or 'it is incel revenge fantasy'. I noticed a real difference at 35. It was subtle before that. Adjusting to life with another person takes some effort. Having to take another person into consideration takes some eff… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/20 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Childfree friend is mad at me. Was I wrong?Personally in the case of the OP and her friend I think they were both in the wrong (after reading all the OPs follow up comments). What I don't understand is you being aggressively snarky and calling it advice 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 4 | Childfree friend is mad at me. Was I wrong?And is your attitude really better? I'm going to go ahead and guess you post plenty of negative things on childfree . Glass houses friend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Tips on improving my unhealthy mindset towards other womenJust-so | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 13 | I'm involved in an affair with a married man and I need helpHis daughter will absolutely stop being in his life when she finds out that daddy is divorcing mom and trying to have another kid with his mistress. So there, problem solved!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/20 11:00 AM |
| 5 | I'm involved in an affair with a married man and I need helpFirst of all, June to September isa very short time to be considering a serious commitment. For either of you to know now that you want to wait for 10 years adn then marry - I'm assuming that is the implication here - is a new relationship pipe dream. Even if he wasn't married and you told us that he was the one after three months, we'd remind you to keep vetting and not allow your hormones to lead the way. Because that's what this is, hormones. You have that new relationship energy and everythi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/20 10:56 AM |
| 1 | What is very unflattering for a woman?He knows every high value man that women would want to marry...every last one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 9 | Do not put your life on hold waiting on Prince CharmingI worked in a bridal salon for a while, sewing is very much a career skill if you are a seamstress. Plus that's something that could be done on alternate-raise-kids hours & still have a more or less traditional life with a pretty decent skill to fall back on. Bonus your kids would have awesome Halloween costumes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 09:28 PM |
| 0 | Do not put your life on hold waiting on Prince CharmingI mean again my job wouldn't require relearning skills it may require brushing up on new information. My husband's job wouldn't require relearning skills. I know a lot of friends that wouldn't require relearning skills. I learned to sew when I was 9 I don't have to relearn to use a sewing machine every time I want to do something even if it's been a decade since I touched it. I don't know what it has to do with being assigned a husband at 18 or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Do not put your life on hold waiting on Prince CharmingThat really depends on what the career skills are. and being able to brush up on a skill is a lot different from learning it from scratch. Plus as somebody who has to do continuing education to maintain licenses for work, the continuing education is kind of a joke. I could walk away from my job for a decade and come back and not have a huge amount of relearning. and there's no way to say this without being snarky and I don't mean it to be but, if you're a stay-at-home mom and not in the workforc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 09:06 PM |
| 35 | Do not put your life on hold waiting on Prince CharmingI agree. in a lot of ways our skills are the only guarantee that we carry with us for life because you can't unlearn something. There is disability there is divorce there is death there is job loss there are recessions there are jobs that go away and never come back. It has never been the case that women didn't work. My grandmother worked part-time as a lunch lady to help the family make ends meet and she had nine kids and remained married to my grandfather till the day he died. It has nothing t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with having more attractive female friends?Is there honestly any advice you are going to listen to? Whenever I see you posting it's all about how you are hopeless and ugly. it's nearly impossible to tell whether it's in your head, you've tried makeup and style advice, or if you are truly hopeless. it's rare to be truly hopeless as a woman. So really what are you looking for here that you're going to actually follow through on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Continuously amazed by the results (rant)😁 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/20 07:12 AM |
| 5 | Continuously amazed by the results (rant)The only praise that has any validity for this purpose is praise from your partner. You are in a relationship with him not with the beta orbiters of the sub. I've written a bunch here and the praise is rarely helpful and it doesn't lead to discussion either. Most often it's more about the desires of the praiser than the praisee anyway (ie: I wish there were more women like you...) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/20 06:45 AM |
| 4 | How much of an age gap is too much?If you want to date a man older than you, then you will need to behave in a manner that is more mature than your cohorts. Taking the time to assess this man and this relationship is a good step in that direction. I'm not going to treat you like an immature child, incapable of living her own life, as I think many people are doing in this thread. Yes, there is a difference in the person you are at 18 and at 25 and at 30, 40 etc etc. My advice is that you handle the relationship accordingly - as it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/20 02:50 PM |
| 3 | How much of an age gap is too much?Relationships at most ages never work out. Too many people - you included - are crusading against this man based on his age instead of giving the OP tools to make the determination for herself. In doing so, you not the potential bf are the one treating her like a child. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/20 02:22 PM |
| 3 | How much of an age gap is too much?How did you meet? I ask because a lot of people are assuming that he sought out a younger malleable woman and so I'm curious if ages were obvious when you first went out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 2 | How much of an age gap is too much?Since when is 27 the peak of anyone's career? I think 27 is an age when a lot of modern people have college and a few years of entry level jobs completed and start to look at the longer term. The age gap alone doesn't warrant the assumptions being made in this thread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/20 08:24 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on what these studies have to say?None of the above impacts my life. Laziness irks me. Taking away anything from someone's excerpts on reddit without doing your own reading is a flawed way to start a discussion. Everyone has an agenda. I don't know this dude so I don't know his. RPW isn't a place for men to pick the brains of women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/20 02:17 AM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on what these studies have to say?Why? If we have discussed them before, you could search the sub to see those conversations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on what these studies have to say?That it appears to be a cut and paste job that pops up regularly by men who want to lecture women on rpw 🤷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Does “Girl Game” exist?Yeah I'm not sure this negates my point that men like him want a man in a woman's body. Way to tell women 'be feminine but we will only want you if you act like a guy'. Cognitive dissonance much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 11:25 PM |
| 4 | Does “Girl Game” exist?It's nice to think that those things are all true but I've been around these subs long enough to know that it's not always true that men have a good handle on what is "overly emotional" and what is just natural for a woman. Also your final sentence is a fantasy. No one is perfect and while we can strive for an ideal, women are not generally inclined towards stoicism. What you view as a safe haven will be interrupted on occasion by our feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 11:03 PM |
| 4 | Does “Girl Game” exist?I'm not trying to insult you so apologies if I did. It's hard to tell what exactly you are looking for (which is probably why you have a lot of men telling you what they think they want). Good luck 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 10:18 PM |
| 8 | Does “Girl Game” exist?You can't say "I wish to be passive" in one breath and "I want this specific man to approach me" in another breath. If you are only approached then you are have the potential to miss out. If you are interested in someone you should give signs of it (check out IOIs on the men's subs for what they look for) - smile, laugh, touch his arm. If you need an initial meeting, then try "the art of the bad excuse" in the wiki on this sub. It's basically find any stupid reason to say something to him and gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 7 | Does “Girl Game” exist?There are a number of men who want a woman who looks like a woman but acts like a man. They complain about women being emotional or hypergamous and call traditionally feminine hobbies and endeavours vapid or not real. They want us to have a spontaneous sex drive. The internet is full of them. These men should be ignored for relationships but you shouldn't be LyourAO that some women get confused. No disagreement re: feminism though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | "Wife benefits/duties should only be given to a man after a legally contracted marriage"People have different ideas of what 'wife duties' and 'husband duties' are and this concept comes up when someone is recounting a one sided relationships usually. I'm not convinced that a good man would take advantage and I'm not convinced that withholding, say cooking, would prevent a guy from stringing you along. You should give a little and then get a little in return; then give a little more and get a little more in return. If there is no reciprocity, you should move on. When it's phrased li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 04:07 PM |
| 0 | Feeling resentful towards the endless objectification women go throughAww poor baby. Were you feeling left out by the women discussing women's issues on the women's sub? It's not necessary to say "what about us" to everything we talk about here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/20 02:34 AM |
| 6 | Feeling resentful towards the endless objectification women go throughWhataboutism isn't perspective. It's a solipsistic game where you don't listen to or empathize with the person speaking because you can't put aside your own feelings to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/20 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Barefoot and Pregnant in the KitchenI think it was about a month for my husband before he got excited. It might even have been longer, I've blocked it out a little bit. Once he got past those initial feelings, you'd never have known he was hesitant. Have you joined your monthly bumpers sub? The value depends on the particular group of women it attracts but with my first I loved having people who were in the same place I was. It was a really great outlet so I didn't feel like I was making friends crazy. Also, if you feel like doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/20 10:46 PM |
| 14 | Barefoot and Pregnant in the KitchenCongratulations! My husband panicked with our first. He chose the timing and it still brought the weight of the world down on him when it actually happened. After he was able to wrap his head around it, he was much more on board and doting. Give your husband some time and breathing room. Be understanding. He is probably feeling intense protector/provider feelings right now and (I imagine) that can be scary. Assure him that he's going to be a good dad and you trust him and you can't imagine doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/20 10:16 PM |
| 7 | Barefoot and Pregnant in the KitchenIf some strangers pregnancy triggers you then you need some serious help and self reflection. You are the problem here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/20 10:02 PM |
| 3 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?It's not spoken about often enough on this sub and it's just as important to consider as a woman's fertility. This idea that 'young women should marry middle aged men' is male-centric and naive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/20 06:41 PM |
| 4 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?Sperm goes bad starting around 40. Terrible age bracket to tell women to find a mate. If people want kids both should start young. That's the current state of biology. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/20 04:14 PM |
| 4 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?Also, not for nothing, but fertility declines in men too. It's harder to get a woman pregnant and there are more genetic risk factors as men age. It's not in women's best interest to have a large age gap if children are the goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/20 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Thank you for making me feel like femininity is normal.You fold your dollies?? How gauche. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/20 07:10 PM |
| 4 | Are you people traditionalists? Why not say so in your description?On Wednesday we wear pink. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/20 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Would I be a hypocrite to want to wait for sexIf a man is not ok with waiting until you are ready for sex then your values are incompatible and it's a problem long term. If a man will have sex behind your back after deciding on a committed relationship then that is a reason not to be with that man. If a man watches porn and you are against it in your relationship then that is incompatible values. Women need to understand men's need for sex and accommodate within an appropriate relationships structure but do not act like men lack agency and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | According to someone who was active here, You all are extemists😂 Oh My GawdI don't think you meant it this way but remember that there is nothing wrong with women being straight or Christian. Even if it was a sub exclusively for that demographic, that doesn't deserve hate or derision (from the article). We're quick today to jump to saying "I'm not part of that group" which implies that there is a problem with "that group". It's a subtle form of manipulation of your thoughts that goes on from articles such as this one. We automatically 'defend' our participation by defi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/20 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Pornography & MenWere you a teenager/adult in the 70s and 80s to know what men were feeling as a result of the feminist messages. Certainly it has grown over time but people's tolerance grows over time as well. I do understand that a lot of men turn to porn but whenever it comes up men like to suggest that choices they make are a result of what women do. The irony is that women prefer men with confidence and a bit of a 'zero fucks' attitude. RPW prefer men who will lead not follow. The men who decide they won't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Pornography & MenOr, more likely, blogs and porn grew simultaneously due to advances in internet speed and you are attempting to make connections that will blame women for men's vices which is... weak. Feminism came up with the "fish need bicycles" line in the 70s. Try again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/20 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Pornography & MenYes, 30-40 years ago all the women were automatically submissive to all men. No man was ever turned down or mocked and no woman ever nagged. Where does this nonsense come from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/20 07:05 PM |
| 7 | Pornography & MenNo one is coming into your bedroom, you are coming into our sub... | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/20 02:18 PM |
| 21 | Stop putting worth on how many people want to smash you...If you are trying to get validation for being hot and sexual then that is how men will see you. Truthfully, men will usually have a sexual component to their view of attractive women but your behavior will influence that too. So like, rah rah you go girl, your post isn't untrue but it sounds like you have a lot of baggage to unpack beyond whatever validation you are looking for on RPW. Unpacking that would be a much better post to help you grow as a person and as a woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 04:15 PM |
| 13 | Stop putting worth on how many people want to smash you...Why exactly did you choose to put this here? You are preaching to the choir. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 02:26 PM |
| 7 | I feel inferior and like the "odd one out" when hearing of my friend's casual sexcapadesI suppose if you are ready to move on from a friendship then it doesn't matter what you say. Very few people like to be preached to. Fewer like to be told you think you are better than they are. Not everyone is damaged by casual sex. I'm not promoting it but it's not true that it will ruin any woman who engages. So be prepared to lose friends if you decide to tell them their lives are wrong. OP says they have relationships and she does not so it's going to be a hard sell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/20 05:24 PM |
| 5 | I feel inferior and like the "odd one out" when hearing of my friend's casual sexcapadesThis is a good way to lose friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/20 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal for a ONS to ask if they can keep a pair of your underwear?He will never be serious about you. He probably doesn't view you as a person. You stand an excellent chance of picking up an std from him. He will bail if you get pregnant. He will bail if the day comes that you develop feelings for him because he doesn't view a connection between sex and relationships and he's being quite clear about that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/20 06:26 PM |
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