It's quite quiet in here

bananab33 · 2022-06-28T01:59:21+00:00

Hi OP! I agree this sub is too quiet. I am very, very happily married for 13 years with 5 kids. I come to this sub because I like to get tips on being more feminine. I recently unsubscribed because I was really turned off by a BDSM-type post. In that vein, I think this sub can be confusing in its purpose. Is it just about being more submissive? More feminine? Better wives? I feel like half of us are religious wives who are more "complimentary roles" than "red pill", a quarter are kinky (that can overlap, I know), and the other quarter are just peeking for curiosity or aren't on board or float over from redpillwomen.
I would like to see more image posts I think! I need help with modest fashion, housekeeping, and general being-a-good-wife tips beyond just "don't nag".

Thank you for your efforts, OP! I hope this sub succeeds!

grahamcookiefart · 2022-06-28T07:47:02+00:00

I also think it's awfully quiet.. I was thinking of getting mods to do maybe some sort of weekly challenge maybe instead of the Tea time? :)

Something like hubby day, where we challenge each other to do something specific. It'd be fun thinking that a bunch of RPWs around the world are all doing x for their husbands today. "Challenge: wake him up with sexy time today"

I don't know I think it would be fun :D

As for your questions... I'm a young wife, married two years to a wonderful man. I'm here because I live in an aggressively progressive liberalist space (Germany) and have no friends, no amicable colleagues and feel lonely in my ideologies.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2022-06-28T02:34:21+00:00

Thanks for starting the conversation. I like that this sub gives women an opportunity to vent and think through feelings without all the strict rules about actionable advice on the other sub, if only in the weekly tea threads.

I understand and appreciate their approach, but I do think it's helpful and valuable for women to have a space to get stuff off their chest or find a solution by sort of meandering.

As for me, I've been married for 10 years, 3 kids, and entering a weird stage where my older kids are becoming kind of independent, so I have a bit more free time to focus on myself and think about stuff.

emmalai85 · 2022-06-28T13:48:55+00:00

Married, 6 kids. A 7th on the way. Been busy building a cabin, lol

WHAT-WOULD-HITLER-DO · 2022-06-28T02:35:18+00:00

Not a wife because there's no reason for it. Don't care about weddings or rings. No kids, no desire for them. Been cohabitating for 10 years now. Very happy. The best years came after discovering Patrice O'neal and taking his advice to heart. Don't remember how I found this sub, but I just like lurking when threads pop up on my feed.

The way it's all structured (threads/post guidelines/rules) seems strict, so I haven't tried to participate. Feels like it would get deleted anyway, so why bother. I'm not militant about being a good partner, but I do try to be cognizant of it every day. It would be nice to feel free to ask questions as they come up in a sub that's relationship focused in a RP way without all of the "yass queen dump his ass gurl" horseshit. But it's also not a big deal. I'll just listen in (visually) and learn what I can. I know some people need that structure, so I wouldn't want to take that away from them.

Personally I need help with being a good partner to a very good man who struggles a lot with PTSD + chronic pain from military service, but that's probably too specific for a sub like this. There are still takeaways that can be applied.

I'm not sure what that other sub is and why it's talked about like Voldemort?

Maybe many women who are into this mindset are too busy applying it to essentially write out and respond to elaborate blog posts. No time or energy.

augustflower25 · 2022-06-28T14:35:09+00:00

New Mom to a baby boy. Holding him right now as he takes a nap. I joined in hopes that it was advice on marriage and rants about culture. But it's just very quiet, I barely check it anymore.

lookylolo · 2022-06-28T14:39:16+00:00

I don’t usually post only because my partner and I aren’t married…. We have 2 children together and neither of us plan on going anywhere. But I would like to be married and he’s not quite on board. Tbh I feel a bit embarrassed about that because I know RPW advises against the way we got together (pregnancy after dating 1 year). I guess it’s that I feel I just don’t belong… and I honestly don’t know if most women here would agree with me or would say I’m just being silly?? Either way, I do all the wife things without the title and appreciate reading about other women who think similarly :)

katsumii · 2022-06-28T15:13:46+00:00

Hey. I agree.

I go by katsumii or Kat online and I've been on reddit lately for the r/BabyBumps group and my December bump group because I am due with my first baby in December. I'm married as of 2021, and finally wrapping up the name change (it is ROUGH!!) by end of next month, and I'm a bit right-leaning politically so it's hard to look on reddit sometimes without feeling attacked, lol. My hobbies are computer gaming and listening to music. I work in graphic & web design.

The stuff that brought me to RedPillWomen and RedPillWives of course were the values typically held and expressed here. I like making my man happy and helping him be his best self. I like having my own life, too. I like supporting him. I have some flaws in that I sometimes get too lenient in my relationship and turn into a doormat, but I've worked a lot on that in the last few years, and I'm so fortunate my husband respects my wishes and boundaries. He likes to make me happy, too.

I have been pretty quiet here because I haven't felt the need to ask for advice, like at all, but I do still like to check in every so often.

skllyskullstyle · 2022-06-28T21:19:22+00:00

Can i join? Imma young man

Sufficient-NightOwl · 2022-06-28T23:58:17+00:00

Who are you and what brings you to RPWives? What sort of stuff would you like to see? What do you need help with?

Hello, I'm new here and looking around. I sought this group out since it seemed up my alley and maybe I could find helpful information here. My husband started the Red Pill journey/dive about 4 years ago but didn't make it know to me until about the last year. It's been causing a bit of tension. He tells me he wants me to change throwing up phrase such as "fit, feminine, friendly" but doesn't really get down to the knitty gritty of what he wants me to improve?

So, I am ultimately hoping a Red Pill community for women/wives could be more insightful for me. Maybe reading recommendations, self-help books, self-development books. I want to improve and not have tension in our marriage. We've made it 17 years, and I want to continue to grow together.

NoTension7083 · 2022-07-24T16:39:38+00:00

Hi Ladies.

I have one simple question. How do I go about finding a red pill wife?

NoTension7083 · 2022-07-24T16:43:51+00:00

Hi Ladies.

I have one simple question. How do I go about finding a red pill wife?

Title	It's quite quiet in here
Author	blushingoleander
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Comments	38
Date	June 28, 2022 1:19 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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