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DATING ADVICEemmalai85/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 07:17 PM
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I live in central america now, and none of this is weird as a concept here, most of the wome here breastfeed for extended periods, too. That was a nice culture shock for me, that there's no shame in nursing in public and you see people here doing it all the time, even toddler aged children. I'm very old fashioned in a lot of ways, including that if I can have a natural birth, I want one, if I can breastfeed, I want too. lol I also wanted a big family. Wanting kids was fine, until we got past 3-4…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 09:22 PM
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we shouldn't have to do that. I don't want to pretend in order to make friends. If they can't accept my diffences, and the things we have in common, it's likely not going to last as a long-term friendship anyways. I'm too old, and too cranky to want superficial connections anymore. I tend to get attached to people I talk to on a regular basis, and I'd rather not have to pretend or mask who I am - it's already exhausting enough being autistic trying to remember enough social rules with out removi…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 08:53 PM
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Hi! lol I generally keep a low profile about being on this group, lol it doesn't usually go over too well. haha!
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 03:22 PM
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Married, 6 kids. A 7th on the way. Been busy building a cabin, lol
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 01:48 PM
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find a group of people. For me, when I was young, I found submissive women in the BDSM community, that was a good starting point for me. I've branched out as I got older because mine was based less on sex, and more on our relationship, most of those friends ended up bouncing from relationship to relationship, but the ones my age who marrieed their dominant partner, and chose to submit and follow their lead, have kids, or work whatever they decided, we've stayed in touch over the years and that's…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 10:58 PM
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This is why I posted a dating ad when I was in college, stating I was looking or a husband, not a boyfriend. lol That snagged me a husband. The other dating method had not worked for me lol Everyone else justed wanted sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 03:36 PM
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Not with him. Just say no
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 07:56 PM
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What I would tell my daughter is to think about priorities and costs. If day care costs more than she can make, to cover that, plus school debt or debt outside of the households month to month expenses, it may be cheaper to stay home and work from home part time, or whatever. As a mom - if i'm healthy enough to babysit, I will offer free childcare to my children if they are close enough by to have me do that. I know their dad would also baby sit if needed. For me, I don't want them to have to wo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 07:27 PM
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this has to be a troll post.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 06:23 PM
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trust your instincts. My husband and I had sex on our second date, and every day thee-after. I only met him to see if we had chemistry, because we vetted each other, for marriage. So when we met seeingi f we had chemistry, one of the reasons I chose him, was he kissed me on our first date, then sent me home. It made me want to share myself with him the next time I saw him, and we were married weeks later. we've been married over sixteen years.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/22 05:34 PM
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I'm fine 🙂 not gonna live in fear.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 09:23 PM
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I've had people talk crap because I share pictures of me on here, (nothing nude) while being a mom, and being involved in differnt forums, like this one, BDSM, clothedpreggo (I like documenting my pregnancies, and want to only share where it doesn't offend people) but people find a way to be offended anyways. I try to be nice, I try not to argue, or cause people hurt or harm. I avoid threads that seem like they are based on drama. It is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 12:43 PM
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Yes, about a year into our marriage, obey was left in our wedding vows,, and I needed better language for friends,, family, etc.. I won't do things without permission including being on boards like this, we talk about everything. But, i am submissive in a bdsm way, not just using red pill and surrendered wife way. This forum would not offend him lol There's a mix of us here, people are different and need different things relationship wise. Don't compare
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 12:26 PM
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I'm happy with an older man. He was ready to start a family, settle down and retire in a time frame that worked better for my plans in life
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 10:52 PM
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Don't live above your means. Be realistic about priorities. Decide how to be where you want to be in, 5, 10 retirement age. Grow your own food that you can. Be thrifty. Don't care about name brands and being fancy. We retired at 36 and 49.we are 50 and 37 now. We have 6 kids, and a 7th due in dec.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 04:07 PM
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We should be friends lol 😆 🙂 🤣 😂
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 04:22 PM
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i got married at 20, too. It still shocks people and people make weird comments about stuff, and I just turned 37 yesterday and I'm still married to the same man. lol
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 01:59 PM
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It's a conversation you should have up front. My husband and I have watched anime/Hentai when we first got married, but cartoon shows with adult content isn't the same as live action porn. We haven't in a dozen plus years, and I skip the sex scenes in most regular movies and shows too. I don't have an ethical problem with it, but we both would rather think about, watch, talk, touch the other person. There's not much I'm unwilling to do between us either, so when he can customize it to his mood a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/22 01:18 AM
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It's not for us. We don't participate in that behavior. I don't think it's wrong for every relationship but I wouldn't like it in mine.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/22 01:09 AM
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I use some of the labels you put in your OP - but our relationship also falls under the BDSM umbrella. LOL I try to avoid those words here, because it generally triggers regular people, but I find those words erotic and for us, they suit us. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 03:46 PM
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I choose to be subserviant to my husband. I however, do not advocate this role to people who are not suited for it, or men who are not responsible and pay attention to how they choose to be leaders. Having the power doesn't mean you should use it poorly. with that said, I enjoy a certain level of objectification in my personal relationship, and when he makes me feel small, and like he could throw me over his shoulder, and ravish me - so there's elements that some relationships wouldn't have, tha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 03:31 PM
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My husband doesn't like discussing politics, either, or me being a part of it. Not because he doesn't think I'm intelligent, but because friends and family brow beat me, or pressure me and dont' allow me to have my own feelings different than their own. ​ so we have a no politic rule for our household outside of the two of us talking together. It makes life so much easier for us. it's a clear boundary I can set with everyone, family, friends, anyone who gets pushy. It also helps that we moved ou…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 01:10 PM
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My husband appreciated that I had explored my sexuality because I could communicate what I was comfortable with, and he had an ex gf leave him for a woman because they didn't explore their sexuality, so the fact I had, and knew I was content/happy to be monogamous was a big selling point for our relationship. I think if it's important to the person - then do what is right for you - but I know my husband wouldn't have chosen me if I had been a virgin my being a single mom was a selling point for …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 02:08 PM
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Which is why I'm here and feel like I belong. The vast majority do comment on religion and saving themselves for marriage. I did not do that and I'm bisexual, I dated women before I found my husband. I've been bashed for that by women before, (not this group in particular) but there are some views I don't hold too - i.e. being chaste before marriage. I was a single mom when I met my husband. lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 01:53 PM
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I'm a tomboy who wears a dress while riding a horse. I grt dirty, that's what a shower us for. I'm not a maid, my husband does most of the cooking and helps with laundry and is an involved father. Your relationship shouldn't be compared to others You are not them. I'm not redpilled in alot of ways, because I came at this from a bdsm point of view, not a religious one. This is a conscious choice I make to follow his lead to the extent that works for us because I wanted too and it suits us best. F…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 12:52 PM
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None of them are self proclaimed feminists, except my older sister. My grandmother was a divorced single mom, who married my grandfather in her 30's. She died last year, but he's still alive. Their relationship was very solid and strong and they had 40 years together before she passed. but she didn't rely or trust on any man - until her health didn't leave her a choice. My grandfather never hesitated to be there for her, but it definitely condradicted her advice growing up of never relying on a …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 02:36 PM
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If you have want to talk about writing feel free to message me. There are alot of groups for both trad and self published authors, and free lance writing can make a decent amount. You don't owe anyone an explanation. And there is nothing wrong with coffee and fuzzy pajamas while you write
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:18 PM
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This!!! I'm not sure what other people are doing but I manage to find time for things.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:16 PM
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I have soon to be 7 kids. I'm a published author of romance novels, and I was a ghost writer for 4.5 years. I quit that to run a home business until I retired. Now I'm retired with my husband. If it's important to you, you make time. Writing is one of my main hobbies that way, and it made ok money for part time work.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:15 PM
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I got married before social media was a thing like it is today. My oldest sister disowned me for dropping out of college and marrying an older man, my grandparents expressed dissatisfaction with my choice to be a stay at home mom instead of having a career, my husband's mother implied I didn't add value until she saw me make money working from home (by choice, not need) and his sisters called me a gold digger. None of these behaviors happened to me online, but the amount of real life "don't you …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:12 PM
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Sounds familiar. I also wanted to be a writer. It's been 16 years of marriage and I have no regrets. Life is too short. Don't worry about what others think. Live your life for you
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:08 PM
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I use discord, but I haven't had much luck outside of a friend's group
/r/RedPillWives09/06/22 12:32 PM
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Craigslist. I posted a dating ad saying I was seeking an old fashioned relationship. I made it clear marriage and kids were my goal. I had so many replies it was overwhelming
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 11:59 AM
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I didn't put a "date" for when we'd have sex. He kissed me our first date. We had chemistry. Since we had talked non-stop on and off for a year vetting each other for the future of *marriage* and not dating, I slept with him on the second date. I would not move in with him unless we were married, since he was in the process of buying a new house. He married me the day before our house closed. It's been over 16 years of marriage. We are retired together now. (me at 36 and him at 50.) If a man is …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:29 PM
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My husband doesn't. I appreciate that about him alot
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 02:09 AM
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My husband doesn't
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 02:09 AM
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I don't try to stand out. I was myself and met my husband, he is attracted to vulnerable femininity it makes him feel protective and a desire to take care of me. He doesn't like alot of makeup, he does prefer long hair but mine is shortish right now. I stay healthy, active, but I don't work out to get all ripped, he likes me soft. I don't have big boobs, but he's a butt and hip guy. And I got those. Find someone who thinks your beautiful when you wake up with messy hair and wearing his shirt. Ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 07:39 PM
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I've been married for 16 years. I wouldn't like if my husband did that. Sometimes I'll show him a girl and ask him what he thinks,but more because I'm trying to decide if the outfit, hairstyle or makeup would be something he'd like. If he watched porn all the time, (he chooses not too at all) or spent all his time flirting we wouldn't be married
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 10:21 PM
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I look young. He's also in good shape, too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 12:10 AM
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i met my husband online. I rarely wear makeup, he prefers me to be natural. I have tons of tattoos, most were after we got together. He thinks they are cute on me, as long as they are feminine. most are blutterflies, flowers, hello kitty, and things to do with our losses. I'm pregnant with #7. The main difference is, I haven't let myself "go" - he hates wasting money on hair and nails and he doesn't mind me wearing makeup occasionally, but he'd refuses to kiss me if I have lipstick on, he hates …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 11:59 PM
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My husband's 50, we still have sex at least everyday, but 2 to 3x 8snt unusual for us, even after 16 years and I'm currently pregnant
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 05:56 PM
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I'm married to a man almost 14 years older. It was weird to people when I was 20 to 28..... but I'm 37 this year, we have kids, we fit together. People don't comment except online when they find out. If I didn't tell people, no one would know.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 05:54 PM
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vibrators, sexy clothes, touching talking. 16 years, and I'm pregnant with #7. We have sex every day in some fashion - and still average 2-3x on regular occasions. Making ir a priority. using tools to help get you in the mood. Asking them to touch you in ways that arouse you - in my case, I like when he bites me, grabs my hips, I can feel him rubbing against me, when he calls me pet nick names. I will be graphic even though i'm naturally shy - I will text him what I'd like him to do, my shyness …
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 04:07 PM
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I'll be your friend I'm similar to you
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 12:23 AM
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I live in the jungle. Shorts, tank tops, jeans, skirts, dresses. Flip flops, hello kitty rain boots, and sneakers. If my husband doesn't like it, he won't buy it, so I'm not worried about wearing stuff he doesn't think is cute on me. In bed, I wear his shirt, a nightie or naked. He prefers me without makeup, but I wear it if we go our or have company I'm expecting over.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 02:18 PM
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There are some discord servers meant to provide this support, they are free
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 12:59 PM
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We have sex everyday too. 16+ years. Sex is really important to us too. Although he doesn't need it 2 to 3x a day as often as when we first met in his 30s(he's 50) but daily is still preferred for us both. (Although we still average 2x a day alot, and morning is a key time for him, too lol ) Sex is great.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 11:47 AM
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no idea. I had poor dating experiences because of men calling me cold, or a ice queen or saying I was emotionally unattached, but too emotional as a person. I didn't read them well, didnt pick up on cues unless it was blunt. so I didnt date normal. I posted what I was looking for in marriage. i found it. my husband understands my ADHD, autism, PTSD etc, and is fine with all of it. We talk a lot. I text/email him a lot to work around emotions that I can't communicate well and make sure I stay vul…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 11:21 PM
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I've bene long distance for short periods from my husband for various reasons - I'd make sure you can handle it if it were to come up for whatever reason. There's reasons in life where it's possible to need a seperation by distance. Talk about how you'll handle it if it comes up in the future. If he didn't want anything serious with you even if you were 4 hours away, that's not very far in the whole scheme of things. I drive 3-4 hours to see my OB when I lived in Texas each direction, if someone…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 03:19 PM
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First, i wouldn't probably consider a ex that wasn't ready to commit. If he wanted to commit, he would have the first time, so before putting eggs in one basket, I'd be watching to see what's changed. I'd be looking at what makes him different now, than before. Ex's are generally an ex for a reason - if those reasons haven't changed, neither will the future. For me - taking lust and emotions out of it - logically, are we a good match, do we have the same long-term goals, do we have anyhting in c…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 03:12 PM
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I'm in Central america now, the school here us 4 to 6 hours, uniforms, 4 days a week, 30 kids total for ages 6 to 12. You have to test to go to higher grades, but they help pay for college. I like alot of the benefits of it, but my kids need to be bilingual first to benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:12 PM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:04 PM
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I trusted my judgement. I don't know the right answer. I kissed my husband on the first date. We had good chemistry. I slept with him on the second date - but we basically moved in together on our 2nd date, we were inseperable. We were married 8 weeks after our first date and it's been 16 years. But.. we met with the intention of "if we have chemistry, everything else already lines up, so we can get married." I basically arranged my marriage, I could have probably waited for marriage with him - …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:51 PM
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If there's no point. I don't try to make one. I'm autistic, and I tend to be honest and blunt - but not every conversation needs my opinion. I read a lot on here I read and exit off of, with out putting my opinion or feelings because it doesn't add in any manner that would actually make a difference. I don't nag. I only share vulnerable moments when I'm sure there's a point and i'm not just whining. It's not "what" you say, but how you say it. If my opinion doesn't make the conversaiton better i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 06:07 PM
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mine doesn't want me to go to the gym, but we do physical things together. I think being active, feeling good, and being healthy are very attractive, I think the gym is just one tool to achieve that goal. Side note : I'm not strong and have no intention of lifting or doing things to build a lot of muscle. He likes me softer. as long as I can lift a saddle onto a horse and do the basic things in life I want, I don't feel the need to change my frame.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:32 PM
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I had a very active sex life, as i'm bisexual and wanted to explore to figure out who and what I was. by the time I was ready to settle down and get married, I was not only ready, but had no doubts about grass is greener. For me - with my wiring, I would have sabatoged my relationship, because I always wanted to know what a new experience felt like - until I was done with that phase and ready to settle down, it would have destructed every serious relationship I had. Because of my choices, I can …
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 12:16 AM
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I disagree. While age differences aren't always a preference if you want kids, stable job, ready for marriage, a late 20s to early 30s is more statistical likely to want that too. I married a man almost 14 years older. It's not always a bad thing. I wouldn't hold their age against them. I would look for specific red flags in men of all ages, including why past relationships didn't work. (In my case he wanted kids, she didnt.) If someone is marriage minded, telling them to date even if you say do…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 01:21 PM
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I was honest in my dating ad. Anyone who didn't mention marriage as an end goal of dating in response was weeded out
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 01:11 PM
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I guess it's more of an emulation thing. I'm autistic and I'm naturally just a happy person most of the time. I find your OP mildly offensive in wording, but I got your point and don't disagree with the premise that coveting what others have and never being happy with whats in front of oyu is a problem. I just don't like the word loser, learning how to be happy is often a journey.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:39 PM
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This is the way, we also give out the biggest piece to the kids who help out the most. Then it's on them if they get a bigger or smaller piece based on work merit. Life isn't always fair, but cake can be
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 05:29 PM
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he likely just wants to not be married, or realized he rushed into things with you. Nothing you do will be good enough for him at this point. You can try therapy to see if it's reparable, but if he doesn't love you, I'd move on. This is going to blow up in your face one way or another at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 02:25 PM
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Fire that doctor. Seriously, wtf? I've got 6 kids, 5 still live at home, and I'm pregnant with #7, I've NEVER had a pediatrician talk to me like that, and if they did, they'd be fired. They have no business projecting their emotional issues onto your personal life or business. Do what you want. Do waht feels right for you, your family, your husband. Let that doctor know when you fire him, WHY you fired him, and hopefully his bedside manner will improve for future patients.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:26 PM
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Dump him if you want. Today is my husband's 50th birthday, and I'm pregnant. Our age gap is a little less then 15 years. We've been married 16 years. If he's the right person, you'll love him as much as you can and cherish each day you get. If he's not. Don't waste his time. I've seen too many widows who had husband's less then 5 years apart. I knew 3 before I moved who'd all been widowed by/before 30 due to freak accidents at work. You can't predict the future. In my case my husband's family hi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 11:53 AM
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I'm autistic, I can't read cues, that makes me feel socially insecure with most people. Him making it safe to feel that way and tell him, he makes my world safe. I like that as a leader he wants to provide comfort, safety, security, emotional comfort. Attachment styles, personality, individual emotional needs are complicated. If done well, with safety to build intimacy, positive reinforcement on both sides, you learn to trust. Trust builds emotional security, along with knowing its safe to commu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 10:15 PM
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Nobody is saying that, I'm saying even if they just want one or two. Miscarriage rates go up after 30, and decline rapidly between 35 and 42. If you can afford Ivf and genetic testing it's still not a guarantee you won't miscarry. And tons of women struggle with issues, pcos is one of the main reasons women need intervention and struggle to get and stay pregnant. Even if they only want a couple kids.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 10:10 PM
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Assuming pcos doesn't effect ovulation and if it does un any kind of significant way, she has money or insurance for infertility treatment. I know people who spent 15 years trying to have 1 baby. It can happen that way.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 06:04 PM
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I'm fine with diversity and different needs. I just want it safe for us to have a choice
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 05:25 PM
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This is hard for women to hear, but I agree with you. Short of being completely disabled in some fashion where you can't, (like bedrest an entire pregnancy) but them your doctors should be honest about how much your eating. Mine always told me to cut back on food if I gained too much in a month to even it out a bit. Eating for 2 isn't literal, baby needs the equivalent of a regular sized snicker bars until mid or late second trimester to your regular diet roughly. You feel starving while pregnan…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 10:25 PM
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I'm a mom of 6 and pregnant with #7, weight gain isn't always going to happen. Just because you have kids. Calorie intake, and working with a doctor for hormones, a nutritionist if you need help balancing meals and calorie intake. If you eat less then you burn you will lose weight, barring medical problems. You have to prioritize yourself, it was important for me to send a message to my kids that my health is important for them, my husband, and myself. She should rule out depression and medical …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 10:12 PM
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I posted a dating ad at 19. I was married at 20, it took me a year to weed through people. He was early 30s
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 11:44 PM
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She posted she has pcos and it's a concern. If she has symptoms she's rightfully concerned. I did pre fertility testing before I had a husband, when I met him I was able to be honest the investment making a family would cost us, or him. It's easy to rack up debt equal to any mortgage on infertility treatments. A potential partner has a right to know what they are walking into. she's looking big picture and longterm and debt is often a major deal breaker. If she picks the kind of man she wants, I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 09:25 PM
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i luckily got diagnosed at 13. I had my first at 18, after not having a period for a year, it was a total fluke, still knew I had PCOS, and started talking to doctors at 19, got married at 20, because I was told I was young, had a previous pregnancy, they said it's no big deal, I maybe ovulated, with meds, less then 1x a year, between 19 and 24, I started regulating my cycle on my own because doctors wouldn't help, went gluten free, to prepare for IVF, because after almost 5 years they finally g…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 08:54 PM
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anecdotal evidence is nice and all, but statistically, the Reality is your miscarraige risk starts going up a lot after 35, I had a trisomy 15 miscarriage in jan, - never had one like that before. Because of PCOS, I also had progesterone issues, and lost 2 pregnancies in the second trimester while they sorted that out, now I take high doses of progesterone, that doesn't include the actual ovulation issues, and my insurance being good enough when I was in my late 20's and early 30's to cover medi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 07:02 PM
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If you have PCOS that's not always true - it could take 10 years and extreme intervention to have kids with PCOS, my first one wiht my husband took almost 5 years, then 2.5 years for the next pregnancy. If I had started in my mid 30's, we wouldn't have the family we do, I would have ran out of time. Fertility risks really changes thing, you think you have all the time in the world, but you don't... and your miscarriage risks goes up significantly in your 30's and very high in your 40s.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 05:56 PM
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I personally would keep the job, but spend my energy on attracting a man who has similar life goals. Debt is stupid and working just to pay off debt you don't need to create is also not the wisest. Do what you feel is best for you, not what family or society says.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 05:26 PM
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It may be worth investigating both
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 08:30 PM
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Have you been evaluated for adhd or autism? It's different in women, we often fly under the radar. Your post has some signs that sound familiar
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 08:21 PM
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I have autism and OCD - and I sometimes push issues I shouldn't. I've given him permission to tell me to stop talking. If I don't, he's been given permission to escelate until I hear him - whatever that means in the situation. Very, very, very, rarely has it required him telling me to shut up because I'm being disrespectful and he's setting a clear boundary because playing nice wasn't working. A heart to heart where you both leave your emotions at the door is the only way you talk this kind of s…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 08:13 PM
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absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 09:41 PM
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I've had 6 living children, and just found out i'm hopefully pregnant with #7. (I had a loss in jan.) If you need a friend to talk too - I'm very happy to talk to you about it. I'm a certified doula and lactation specialist, and I've personally had every variation of birth you could imagine, induction, c-section, vbacs, homebirth with a midwife, unassisted birth, unassisted birth in the hospital where no one came back in time, ones where my doctor induced me AS a vbac and my daughter got to help…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 01:50 PM
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Yes, and that's the problem. If he spends the best parts of your fertility with you and then you break up when he's 40, many women who are in their late twenties and early 30's will date a 40 year old and have a family. I would know, I did it. I am currently pregnant and my husband's 50 this month. I'm almost 14 years younger than him. His first wife never wanted kids, he did. So he then met me after they got divorced. If you know it's on your radar, the odds of him having children with you, is …
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 07:55 PM
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I would get rid of the boyfriend and find a compatible mate. If your goal is marriage, and kids and being more of a traditional wife that way, and he doesn't want it, you're not on the same page. You won't get the relationship you want with someone who doesn't have the same goals. I would sit down and have a heart to heart with him about what you want and then make a decision based on his answer. You have limited fertility. He doesn't. He could change his mind at 50. You don't have the luxury to…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 02:43 PM
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then don't. I enjoy spaces where people feel safe to share their experiences with a male-led relationship in their personal life. This group allows it, but most spaces are not safe to share that bluntly.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 04:44 PM
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I basically arranged my marriage like an arranged marriage. We vetted each other and then got married within a few weeks of our first date in person, knowing that was the goal. Love, loyalty, all of that came with shared experiences, choosing him logically allowed me to feel safe to trust, be vulnerable, and grow with him. I'm not against arranged marriages, unless they are forced.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:14 PM
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So, you wouldn't respect rules set by a man, on a group, simply because of his gender? it's not defering to gender it's enforcing group rules. I don't submit to random orders from men either, but there's no reason you can't respect men in general, especially if they are respectful to you. but if you join a group and someone enforces the rules, that's kind of their position. But honestly, the most drama I deal with, isn't from males. 90% of the people I end up moderating.... are female.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:58 AM
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My discord server, my husband is the figure head, if people don't respect my authority, he steps in. but I do 99% of the work, and most people DO respect that. but, occasionally, someone doesn't. Having a male to back you up in a moderator position sadly is useful. The difference is we openly admit that there's times where it's needed. I run a relationship group on another website, over 80k members, everyone who actively moderates the group is female, but when it gets to be too dramatic, he step…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:52 AM
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.... it's not run by a male, most are run by females, who want male-led relationships. O.o It happens to allow both genders there to discuss relationships and what their lives are like, some are ran bymales, as a moderator, but they aren't expecting women to be in relationships outside of their own. You misunderstood what I meant. they are generally a discord server, to talk openly about people who want male-led relationships and what reality is like.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:48 AM
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For a male-led household? For those of us who prefer our men to be in charge.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 12:18 AM
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If you send me a private message, i can send you a couple of invites to servers I know support the male-led version of stuff, just stay out of the picture channels if you don't want to see boobs.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 07:26 PM
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depends on what your interested in, I only join ones that verify ID and don't allow any minors. Most of the ones I'm in, focus on having good communication, being polite/respectful, having good boundaries (on both sides) and promote learning ways of coping with stuff. With my autism, I need rules, having more than one set of tools to use to achieve my relationship goals keeps me pretty open minded. I have a "take what works for me, and leave the rest" view on most of it. And, I do like things th…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:58 PM
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Most of the kink groups don't spam pictures in general chat or discussion areas, they usually have a dedicated picture channel, I know the run I run doesn't allow genitals and pornographic content. Not all kink servers are sex-based spam.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:19 PM
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There are discord servers out there, most of them are either male-led discussion forums, or kink-based ones. But I'm open to getting resources from other groups that live like me, I can fit into all of those groups with out having to change my language too much and they understand/relate.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 02:25 PM
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Because i had time. If I had been 35, the window wouldn't have worked, we wanted a large family, we have 6 children. ... it took 4.5 years for our first. We did the math when we discussed my fertility issues, the odds were good it would happen eventually if I had 20 years to try. (part of it, is because pre-35, no one wants to try too hard to get you pregnant. They wasted 4.5 years of my life trying things that didn't work.) but 5? Not so much. That's the reality of infertility issues. He's 50 t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 01:31 AM
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My husband and I got married when he was 34 and I was 20. He wanted children, I was a single mom, I knew I'd have PCOS and other infertility issues, he had the resources to pay for infertility treatment. We had the family we wanted, but a 20 year old man wouldn't have appreciated my fertility, or infertility issues, or been ready to start trying. It took us 4.5 years to get pregnant with our older daughter. Fertility is a huge, huge, huge, reason why men in their early 30's often would pick a wo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 08:33 PM
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It's not common, most people I know are with in a couple years of their partner one way or another. I'm almost 14 years younger than my husband and people have harassed me all the time for our age difference. We have adult age children now - and people still snark about our relationship. But we've been married for 16 years.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 08:29 PM
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Generally, you need to find new friends. It takes a lot of strength to trust, to be vulnerable, to follow and believe in someone else's vision instead of your own. They are telling you not to have something that makes you happy. They aren't your friends anymore. Move on, find women who support you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 01:00 PM
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I have issues due to burn out with autism, and I manage to shower every day, have sex with my husband 1-2x a day and it's been 16 years and we still have that much sex. We have 6 kids, my house isn't perfect, but I prioritize the things that matter, laundry and dishes done daily, showers done every night before bed or going out in public. We live in the rainforest, so mud is a never ending battle and some days, I just let the tile stay muddy since we are still figuring out the bext way to fix th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 11:04 PM
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I don't think she's bad. I think she needs to take a hard long look at her behavior and figure out how to support him, if he's feeling burned out, it's not just women who need help. But, I don't think she's bad for needing help, and the lack of awareness of his feelings is common for undiagnosed autistic women. The other stuff she mentioned stuck out to me. I don't know or assume either way, but because that's how it read to me, that's why I responded the way I did. figuring out why you are the …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 03:54 PM
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I'm autistic, that burn out feeling you're talking about is very common for people who aren't NT. (Neurotypical.) Very few men are up to the challenge of dealing with a high-needs woman, it takes a special man to be able to handle it. They do exist. It's not about chores, being emotionally needy for the right men, is a good feeling. They get to help, be there for you, educate, guide, but not all men want that job and would find it emotionally exhausting if they aren't wired for it on their side.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 12:35 PM
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I've had people dislike that I am openly submissive to my husband. I've had people shame me when they find out that I am happy with our relationship, we do have a large age difference, but he doesn't look his age, but people still knee-jerk when they find out about the age difference. I've had women (more than men) insult my makeup, my hair, my boob size, etc. For the most part - women are kind, polite, civil, and kind, but there have been some extremely negative experiences I've had, generally …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 02:28 PM
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Agreed with this, too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:07 PM
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This ^ - as long as women are honest about who they are and don't manipulate or lie to get married, men often know what they are getting themselves into and choose it for a random reason. There's usually something redeeming. What I see, is women get married, and then stop offering sex, or caring and then play the "not today, maybe tomorrow, respect my choice" card, and then wonder why their husbands get unhappy after years of being under valued and untouched. Men deserve to be respected and feel…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:02 PM
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i use the internet lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 06:57 PM
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I exist to please my husband. What other men think doesn't matter. I'm not what a modern man want on paper, but loyalty, taking care of myself, following him and supporting his dreams. In return, I need leadership and him to love me. Caretaking isn't 100% required, but his willingness to provide and protect makes me worship him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 01:17 AM
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I am not a neat freak most of the time, but I have a few, literal, OCD things, that are unique to my autism. the way things feel to my feet, dirt on the floor, I accidentally, OCD just swept dirt off the tile and into my husbands face because I do it so subconciously, I don't even realize I had the broom in my hand and he's like "wtf?!" lol oops. there are things that trigger my OCD like that, so for his poor sanity, he's fixing the floor, I don't notice I do it, but watching me obsessively swee…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:23 PM
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i didn't like our gas when we had one of those. But, I live in the jungle, and our kitchen is outside. so we cook with wood, on a fire. lol right now we are building a floor, because I can't take the dirt floor.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:12 PM
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We cook on fire, 3x a day rather than a burner. It cooks the food faster and better, we are always cooking for a large family and even having to start a fire, it takes less time to cook on it. We are planning on building an adobe pizza oven down the road, too, for baking. My washer/dryer went out before we moved from our last house. So we got used to washing clothes by hand and hanging them up to dry. my back can't take it, so my husband does the washing in the sink, and I hang them up. lol he e…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:41 PM
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I thought that, until they ate my potatos and porch. Then I traded the boys to butcher for a couple of bottle fed baby girls. they were good eating. LOL
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:38 PM
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You sound like me and my husband, lol sheep are better for food, goats are fine, but they are nothing but trouble, lol they dug up my potatos one year. LOL And.. ate my porch railing. Having them in a contained space so I could milk them worked better, but free-ranging they are escape artists and get themselves into some hilarious trouble. Sheep are less motivated to be trouble makers. Our Ram was very nice. I had to give up the Texas homestead, to move to the jungle, but I just have chickens no…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:37 PM
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for a normal, healthy couple, it can take 6 months, 12 months, 18 months, to get pregnant, with out help and that's even people who know how to do basil temp charting, check fluid and cervix position, etc You could waste years, if your timing is off by a few days because you assume you ovulate on cycle day 14 and you ovulate on cycle day 19. I've helped more than one friend figure out why they weren't getting pregnant simply because of timing. the lack of education about things like this, baffle…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 12:10 PM
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honestly, I don't know. I think men are generally, more inclined to want kids after 30+ My husband had a wife for 9 years, he divorced her because he was ready to have kids... and she wasn't. Never wanted them. He chose me, because I wanted kids. I was 20 and he was in his mid 30's. We have 6 kids now. The issue is, women who screw off in their 20's with a man who's not interested in settling down and committing, may not ever intend to marry them. May end up finding someone else, younger, who is…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 12:42 AM
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I'm also religious, but that's not why I chose this either. I do it simply because it makes me, and him, happy. I don't teach my kids that God wants me to do this. God created and loves diversity, so that's what I teach my kids. I care about their happiness. As long as it's not harming themselves or others, I'm supportive. If my girls want this, great. If they want to be a doctor (like my oldest daughter) I support that, too, and offered to babysit for school, or work. Realistically waiting to 4…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:07 AM
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If you actually trust someone to take care of you, surrendering to them is a beautiful experience. He is probably the least controlling in the bedroom, I'm usually initiating and offering ideas that way to him, he still wants to decide what we do, but he isn't offended by flirting. I think you're asking these questions because deep down somewhere, in your heart, the idea appeals to you, but you have trust issues and poor taste in men, and haven't worked out what a healthy, safe way to submit, lo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:37 PM
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would it shock you if I said yes. I am also part of the BDSM community, because I use vanilla words, here, and BDSM words there. So yes, I'm a kinky freak and I find it arousing to submit to him, but it's also my nature and personality, and how I live my life outside of sex. So being part of this community here, helps me communicate better on the non-kinky parts. When I pick up after him, i don't think "screw this asshole, he left his garbage out again." I think "he was watching out for me while…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:20 PM
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Okay, well in my world - the idea of being his sex slave is hot, so if that's what he wanted in the bedroom, bring on the princess leia outfits and chains. I'm down. Outside of that, I cannot imagine him hitting me for sitting next to a dog? Like, what you're describing is not normal. These are consensual, and mutually fulfilling relationships where both people get what they need to be happy, and fulfilled together, as a team. If you don't want to trust someone to lead, it's probably because you…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:13 PM
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My husband retired. He cooks 3x a day, and does dishes and laundry. today, I'm sitting here and bringing him every brick by hand, when he's ready for the next brick for the floor we are building. I'm also watching small children and while he could work from home, I'm a faster on a computer than he is, and he's better with domestic stuff. I've done it for the last 16 years and hate that there's an expectation that if you stay home, you do all the work. I did all the work for 6 children, kept myse…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:02 PM
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I was honest in my dating ad what I was looking for.
/r/RedPillWives12/03/22 09:01 PM
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No. If he wants kids, he's going to find a younger woman to give him a child. at 42, the odds of you having a child is fairly slim. Not impossible, just slim. he can still have kids. Everything about his behavior is a hard no for me. If my daughter told me this story, I would keep my mouth shut, but if she asked me my opinion I'd tell her "don't do this. this sounds like a bad idea. Take a little space and find someone who doesn't try to make you feel bad."
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/22 12:15 PM
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My ex sexually assaulted me. It took 2 restraining orders, living in fear for years, even after I got married, and my husband sticking up for me when my ex stalked me even for 5 years after our marriage. My ego is perfectly in check. I know I got lucky that I married such an amazing man. I also know I made a bad choice in my ex, because I got involved not realizing that his interest in me was bad. He started stalking me when I was 15, and was waiting for me to turn 18, we had the same gaming-fri…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 12:16 AM
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I got pregnant when I was 18, on my birthday. lol I kept the baby, lost the loser boyfriend who couldn't keep a job, and worked on providing a stable life for myself and trying to become someone that a man would want to take care of. My husband met me when I was 20 and we were married within a few weeks after vetting each other. He wanted children, I wanted stability and security. We both had something the other person wanted to work on a big-picture. I know love is complicated, and love for us …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 06:03 PM
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I expose my children to all sorts of relationship styles, because I want to teach "you're free to live how you want." I won't judge their choices. But, there's a million ways to have a relationship, and I want them to feel safe to explore and live how they want. However, I think my kids, both genders, should know how to sew, cook, change a tire, etc no matter gender. After that, we also retired to central america and the culture here is more in line with how we want to raise our children. I home…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/22 05:54 PM
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I posted I was looking for an old fashioned relationship, this was 17 years ago, and I got over 2000 emails, and I posted on Craigslist. You'll be fine. Even now, if your cute, have a pleasing personality to be around, you'll have your pick on men. Use what you have, list what you can offer, and what you want in return. I married into a family where his older sister called me a gold digger. You just have to ignore the haters, and people who are rude. The right guy, will appreciate what you are o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 12:29 AM
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That's why they need to talk about it. She may not even know what her needs are. I think this could be resolved with a couple of heart to heart conversations with her husband, unless, he's going to just blow her off or reject the conversation altogether. I wouldn't automatically assume he knows what she needs, because if she hasn't asked for it, it doesn't automatically mean the man can read her mind, either. My husband needs to be reminded what I like sometimes, and as long as I ask nicely, he'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 04:21 PM
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(I don't disagree with your post, I just want to add a few thoughts that I had when reading your post that may also help her.) We've had to go periods with out sex in our relationship, BUT - my hands and mouth certainly aren't broken and i breastfeed and even while healing, I still found time to touch my husband with my hands and mouth. (I have 6 living kids. and been pregnant more than that. So if sex is a priority, or intimacy and touch is, you find ways to include it. Not everyone has the sam…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 03:19 PM
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If sex is part of his love language, don't make it about how you feel. Focus on just making him feel good, blow jobs, hand jobs. I have high risk pregnancies and we still had sexual contact daily. It just wasn't intercourse. There are a lot of ways to make sex fun. Buy a vibrator. Pregnant sex is some of my favorite, all the way until the end. Doggy style, side-laying, tons of ways to switch positions. If you're "not into it" with out alcohol, have him hold you close, whisper to you, touch you, …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 01:23 PM
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I have friends who are swingers, and poly. They are fundamentally wired differently than I am. So I fully support their rights to have relationships, and experiences, that make them happy and fulfilled. For me, sharing isn't for me. It makes me feel icky inside, but for someone else, they get totally different feelings from those experiences. Diversity is a good thing. Allowing room for that diversity, is a good thing. Don't do things that don't work for you. Don't pick someone who is fundamenta…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 04:55 PM
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frustrating because my pants won't go over my hips when I gain weight. LOL
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 12:28 PM
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I can't be a size 0-2. I'm 5 7 and broad hips and shoulders but I'm petite everywhere else, even at 115 I'm a size 5/6. It's more how your built. I have a tiny waist when I gain weight it goes to my hips and butt first. It's more how your built, it is bad advice to say go for a clothing size rather than optimal health based on your body (I'm agreeing with sunshine)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 11:53 AM
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I proposed to my husband. Why was it his job to risk being rejected simply because he had a penis? I made it clear what I wanted from him so he didn't waste his time. It's often not even safe socially for a male to approach a female these days, they get accused of harassment or sexism. I think its more than fair for a women to show interest openly. 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 11:51 AM
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I asked my husband to marry me. I wanted to make it clear where I stood. I'm very naturally submissive to him, but letting him make the decision ob things like that appealed to him. I was giving him control instead of making him risk being rejected. You can do the action and come off with the right energy, an action itself is not masculine or feminine, it's more how you do it. For what it's worth, I don't do any of the beauty routines or heavy makeup, and most men in my experience appreciate a w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 11:46 AM
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I homeschool, too - and I use a program because the kids can work more independantly. it's called acellus. It's a good option to free up some time, my 7 year old is also doing duo-lingo to learn spanish (although the program I use has german, french and spanish, too.) I've learned with having multiple children, to use tools that free up time for me to do other things. We have a homestead type thing, and I need to be able to take care of animals, and other stuff, too. It sounds more like you need…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 03:54 PM
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mine went to culinary arts school and was a chef, and has changed careers a few times, when I met him he was making 6 figures, and he wanted a career change that made him go from GOOD money, to like 30k a year, and I worked to help out, then he went back to another 6 figure job, but the economy over the last few years, especially with a large family really changed how we view money, success, and family.... so he retired early, we now are on a budget, but we retired to the jungle to live in natur…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 05:44 PM
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For me - access to the ability to make whatever financial situation we need to survive, work. Jobs can change, careers can change, having the resources to survive change and hardship are important to me rather than just a high income. Tall dark and handsome didn't hurt, lol athletic and physically fit and encourages me to keep up with him. I like things that other people often might not both sexually, and romantically. I don't like flowers, but I like that he will cook for me since my cooking is…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 12:27 PM
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I was open minded to it - but once we tried it, we decided it was not for us. I have a lot of friends who are in open relationships, and it works for them. It's just not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 06:30 PM
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This is why we retired to the jungle. To be able to go off grid and live in a more sustainable way if everything in the world goes wrong. We've got multiple water sources, we got stuff setup to go off grid on solar if we need it. We have school and internet - but if everything goes wrong, the school here is within walking distance if we lost access to their online school back in the USA. And it's a bilingual school. I was in texas, and covid and the power outages taught me the risk of no water a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 11:45 PM
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You're allowed to have boundaries. He's allowed to do what he wants, but disrespecting your boundaries like this comes down too - can you accept he treats you this way? Do you need this as a boundary? Or is it a deal breaker. Only you can decide what is a deal breaker. In my case, this attitude towards my feelings would make me nope on out of the relationship. 2 years is not very long in the scheme of a lifetime. You haven't lived together for those 2 years, the emotions are real, but your share…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 01:52 PM
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I understood ethical non-monogamy, and was willing to offer it to my husband. He didn't take me up on it, until over a dozen years of being together, and then after we tried it, he decided that it wasn't a good idea for our relationship and we are monogamous by choice. I'm very open minded, and I read what you're saying and I'm just gonna nope on out of it. Don't do this. He's not being ethical, he's not being honest, he's over-valuing his worth. He's not giving you any commitment, or security, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 12:42 PM
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Didn't know it was, but its ok. A lot of people think it's wrong. I don't care. We are happy 😊
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 02:16 AM
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Mine just retired and had us move to central america. I followed him to a place where I can't speak the language, or drive a stick shift. he cooks three meals a day for us on fire, he does all the laundry since we don't have a washing machine yet. He got me kittens, chickens, built us a bedroom to feel safe in, and made sure I had hot water, he's working on getting me internet because that was important to me and when he was looking at rural jungle properties, I only had a couple things that rea…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 11:41 PM
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I haven't read your post yet, but i'm answering your questions. It did not hurt my relationship with my husband. He knew my entire sexual, and abuse history, and my experimentation with women, as I'm openly bisexual. I was open minded to trying poly with my husband, and it was NOT for us, but he chose me, knowing that if he asked me to try it, I would consider it. In the end, it wasn't for us. I don't regret learning those things. I don't regret him learning those things. But that is why he and …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 06:53 PM
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My husband is 50 in april. I'm 36, and autistic. We have 6 kids. We didn't have a miscarriage with a genetic issue (trisomy 15) until this year. Doctor said we were fine to try again. The risk increases more after 40. So, we have a couple years to try before there are significant risks due to age. Half our children were born in my 30s. Genetics are more of a risk than age. My being autistic runs in my family and I'd say at least half my kids are somewhere on the spectrum. And that's fine with me…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 12:59 PM
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We do some things differently, but your list is a fair example of how it works for you and I'm glad you shared. i need to hear I love you often, I had abandonment issues as a child, and I make sure to tell my children I love them every day, when I'm angry, I tell them I'm angry, but I still love them and I just need a few minutes to calm down. When I'm angry with my husband, I try to tell him I love him. We never leave each other with out a long hug and saying goodbye and we love each other. If …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 02:52 PM
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Exactly. Lolol
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 12:06 PM
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Pets are different than babies and toddlers, in the sense that you can cage them and leave them home alone safely for a few hours at a time if needed (same with birds.) Like children - animals need to be treated based on their personality, breed, type of animal (i.e. you treat a bird different than a dog, in the way you interact with affection, and a predator animal is different than a prey animal.) If you respect them, you'll adapt to what they need to set boundaries, communicate in ways they c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 07:43 PM
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I actually am the one person who feels that babies are easier then puppies. LOL I have 6 children, ranging from 18 down to 1, and I've had a lot of animals in my lifetime, including a parrot that told me he loved me and would also ask me if I was stupid, LOL I love birds.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 07:06 PM
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I love my pets, but they are pets. I don't treat them like children because that's also doing a disservice to the animal. A well rounded, stable animal is treated with respect for what it actually is - and most aren't capable of having human emotions and human-empathy the same way we are. By treating them like the animal they are, you can have a healthy relationship, with good boundaries for both humans, and the particular animal. If you like your dog, or cat, you don't treat it like a human bei…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 07:02 PM
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My oldest sons father was a gamer-buddy who assaulted me. My husband protected me from him and adopted my oldest son. Your view is not reality - if a man would hold that against me he's not worth my time. Being trusting is a good thing - if you're paranoid you can't truly be vulnerable with your husband, either. You'll always be looking over your shoulder for the next person to do you harm. This mindset isn't limited to friends or strangers. The more you tell yourself men view things this way th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 03:45 PM
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I've been sexually assaulted and it absolutely did NOT hurt my value to my husband, infact all it does is make him more protective of me and helping keep me safe in the future so i never have another experience like that again. This is nuts that you think something outside of your control takes away your value.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 03:35 PM
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I read it that way too - if you respect men's nature, then you set clear boundaries and the ones who act with honor and protective nature towards smaller females, are worth being friends with and knowing. A good man will respect boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 03:34 PM
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The biggest part of having a large family, btw is time. We had to set aside time, every day for him and I to do something together besides sex. (we like sex, we have a lot of sex, but sex isn't the only form of intimacy people need, well, I was happy with it, but he wasnt lol) I got into fishing for him, we would do that for an hour day together because we had near adult-age kids who could help to let us have that time together. You need support with a large family. Don't put everything on yours…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 12:57 PM
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I met my husband at 19, met him in real life at 20 and married him 8 weeks later. He's almost 14 years older. We've been together for 16 years in a couple months. 5 biological children and he adopted our oldest, because I was a single mom at 18 and was raising him alone. I would probably wait a couple years to start having a baby, just to get to know each other and establish a healthy relationship before adding kids. But I don't regret getting married young, having a large family, although I'm n…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 12:28 PM
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Here lol 😆
/r/RedPillWives03/02/22 09:31 AM
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I don't really worry about other people, I send him flirty pictures, dress up, and have even worked on sexting with him to expand my ability. We've made a point to openly discuss sex, there is no shame in having a healthy, happy, sex life. ​ And consenting adults shouldn't feel ashamed for talking about it together. The fact in an adult forum about relationships the worry about talking about it makes me feel sad that you feel like you need to hide it away like sex is a bad word. ​ Don't. Also - …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 07:53 PM
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Sure, you can DM me. Tha'ts fine.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 03:14 PM
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I have PCOS and Endometriosis. We have 6 kids, so it didn't stop us, but it did cost us a lot of money to have children.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 03:10 PM
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I was open about my infertility issues to my husband since he wanted kids up front. He was fine with the fact we'd have to adopt, use IVF or other medication. there are men who don't want kids - so if a woman is infertile, they may be the perfect partner for them. Kids aren't the only thing that matters. Also - I know women spend a lot of money on products that cost a ton - but I dont' do any of that stuff, and my skin is good, my nails are fine naturally, I have some makeup, but my husband like…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 02:54 PM
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I get up at 6am - breakfast for kids by 8, normally school, chores/freee time and play, lunch at 11-12 clean up, school and hanging out, 4-5pm is dinner, clean up + showers, etc. freetime, and movies and then bedtime by 8-10 depending on age of child. i have 7 kids living in my household, ranging from 1, to 20 We will do snacks before bed if needed or asked for. my 5 year old is the only one who asks every night LOL I do errands as needed, and the older kids (teens) can watch when I run to the s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 12:34 PM
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I just sit around and read reddit, or discord. He worked swings. Now that he's retired, i'll let you know in a bit how we spend friday nights, but my guess is together and alone (as in, excusing ourselves to be intimate.) lol we spend most of our freetime having sex
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 12:09 PM
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I see me as being his, and he's mine. I see my children as borrowed. I get the pleasure of being their mom and raising them, but they do not belong to me, and will grow up and have their own life. They are "our" children. We raise them together. I like when he's possessive of me and pulls my hair and says i'm his, like the historical romance novels I read growing up, nothing like a sexy pirate ravishing his lady love. LOL
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 07:47 PM
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I hang out in a group for red pill wives - or those wanting to be them, and I hang out in groups for submissive women for BDSM relationships. Both I can equally talk too and bond with over a male-led relationship and it's not weird. Lots of girls your age around. Highly recommend discord servers for those technically inclined for either.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 02:22 PM
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Non violent communication is a great book. Active listening skills are hard sometimes because you have to adapt to the person you are talking too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 08:04 PM
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Lack of respect, while being an entitled twat, who knew that makes men unhappy ? Being able to compromise, listen with an open mind, work together for a common goal, it's very possible in all sorts of relationship styles, but it would not hurt to throw "how to have healthy communication" into a classroom as people grow up. I don't think most people act like jerks to their spouses on purpose, I think there is often a distinct lack of communication or consideration that your supposed to work as a …
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 07:38 PM
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I think bringing up permission and consent on sex opens up the words to use to talk about sex, and what kind of boundaries they want. Communication takes practice, I have found that "ew your one of those kinky people" and suddenly your invalid to listen too. So, I advocate the same ideas, but leave kinky words out of it unless people ask lol 😆 I think red pill forums are closer to a D/s relationship just in general, which is why I like this group more than other marriage groups. I can't handle t…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 07:03 PM
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I generally don't share that outside of that group BECAUSE consent, the word, is still consent and they can choose to do that with out using BDSM labels or being interested in kink. I generally think communication and consent is pefectly doable in a vanilla relationship, too, and I've found in the past, that you mention BDSM in groups like this, and people freak out. Which is why I don't mention it.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 06:14 PM
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I am not sure that my libido would be high - he inspires me to be affectionate that way. I just know that when his hands on me, I feel safe, and good, and I want to make him feel that way too. Sex has gotten us through traumatic life events, and all sorts of struggles. We both had discussed that sex was sort of the magic clue in a long-term relationship, even when everything else is going wrong, find a way to touch, be close, hold each other, cuddle, and really SEE the other person. I'm autistic…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 06:03 PM
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I don't deny my husband sex, ever. He has blanket permission/consent to wake me up for sex, use me however he wants, tell me what he wants, and I do it. ​ I enjoy sex, and have a high sex drive. I would be very, very, hurt if he turned me down for sex. The only time we have done that, is when one of us is so sick we were near dead. and then duh - lol I usually ask him when I have a migraine to have sex with me, because I read once that orgasms can help headaches, it's hit or miss but I never reg…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 05:08 PM
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I often joke that I basically arranged my own marriage, lol I married my husband 8 weeks after we met in person, and all our emails were basically compatibility checks, then meeting in person to make sure we had chemistry. I don't see anything wrong with arranged marriages IF everyone involved is game. I don't like the idea of pressuring people into them. ​ Edited - I wouldn't want my parents/family touching my ideal life mate with a 10 foot pole, they wouldn't have chosen my husband for me, and…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/22 05:34 PM
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If he has two kinds of cancers, is he even going to survive? By all means, walk away if that's what you want to do. But, any chance the cancer(s) are as much of a lie as everything else
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/21 11:14 PM
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Uh... I was a single mom when I met my husband. I warned him I didn't have a perfect body, his response was "so what?" Okay then. Since then, we've had 5 more living children together, and I'm pregnant with baby #7 living. He adopted my oldest, so we have "6" kids total right now. I've had a c-section, he's delivered two of the babies himself up close and personal and gooey. If a man can't handle birth, I don't know what to say, I would be ashamed to call him a man, because to me, a man should b…
/r/RedPillWives31/12/21 05:31 PM
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I have a lot of friends that I'm emotionally close too - but it's not my job to hold them accountable. It's my job to be their friend and be supportive. I make my emotional boundaries clear, when I need space, but it's not my job to "tell" them how to be a person, find a partner, etc, if they ASK me for my opinion on something, I will be honest, but it's still not my job to tell them what to do. I give my feedback and butt out. I've seen what friends who interfere and push their morals on other …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 05:05 PM
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I never had anyone drive me from my own house when dating, it's dangerous and stupid before you know them well. I believe in my values, but I wouldn't tell someone to get in a car with a strange man, that's definitely not safe first-date/stranger behavior. you should meet in public, have your own way home, even if you have a reasonable expectation that the man pays for the date, it's very dangerous to be trapped with a stranger and not have your own way home. I think saying it's okay to have tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 04:36 PM
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I need to stop laughing about "men need to be trained" - in our household, it's the other way around, including being told he expects me to cloth diaper on top of breastfeed. (I'm pro breastfeeding, I was anti cloth diapering, but he put his foot down about the next baby, so he did all the research and told me which diapers he expected me to buy and I bought them.) My job is to be submissive, in service, and pleasing to my husband, the idea of "training" him is the opposite of my entire goal in …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 04:01 PM
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I'm not sure what counts as an addictive personality. I'm ocd and autistic, the combination makes me like routines and patterns, but life has taught me how to be flexible enough to come up with new stuff when required I still need structure, routines, and I might freak out when the initial change is required to happen, but I can adapt
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 07:52 PM
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Feeds me, encourages walks, rests, emotionally is there for me. Lots of sex, lol 😆 it helps my moods be stable and I like the intimacy and closeness. He listens to me, but doesn't encourage spiraling, he redirects me. I appreciate him alot
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 12:45 PM
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I'm autistic. Being a selfish, bad lover is not ok to blame on autism. Plenty of people are Autistic and eager to make sex enjoyable for their partner. Communication struggles might be relevant but learning to communicate effectively with someone on the Spectrum also means he wants to work at it. Bringing up issues in a kind and open way and giving him room to process and emotionally problem solve may help. I recommend also reading autism groups on here, there are things specific to dating autis…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 12:10 PM
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I'm sorry I don't see how not getting angry is being weak. You accidentally broke something and he responded appropriately and your responses to come here and call him weak. he deserves someone who appreciates him. If you really have such little regard for a man that sounds pretty freaking awesome to me you don't deserve him. Go behave like the wife he deserves. If you want to spice up your love life just have a conversation with him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 11:15 PM
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You stop talking to the guy chasing you and focus on your husband. Or you decide hat you need to get a divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 06:46 PM
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Anytime 😊
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 04:36 AM
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Low progesterone, makes me at risk for preterm labor. Requires meds the whole pregnancy. We took in an older teen, we might adopt in the future, it's not 100% off the table. I have 1 ovary basically left after growths/tissue were removed, painful cramps, ovaries/bowels and random tissue that comes and goes. Being pregnant and nursing helped get it under control, but it didn't stop me from losing an ovary. There is a group on here for endometriosis that you can join. May be able to help you more …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 03:45 AM
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I'm sorry but your stepson needs boundaries you need to have a clear conversation with your husband because this is not Behavior you want your other children emulating. Lack of rules and enforcing boundaries in discussion on appropriate behaviors can lead to some of this but he also might have some kind of social disability and just isn't picking up on the cues from other people when they get it and don't understand that when people are laughing that it's really not going to be funny in a couple…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 02:59 AM
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I wanted a big family - and would have done anything to try to achieve it - but I have PCOS and Endometrosis, there was a possibility we'd never have had bio kids together, we were in the process of adoption/foster to adopt classes, when I finally pulled him aside and told him I didn't want to adopt if we couldn't have our own kids together, first. Any adoption, was based on us 100% wanting to do it by choice and not because it was our only option. It took us a long time to figure out what worke…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 10:32 PM
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I have 6 kids - I take care of myself, and I'm not overweight, I'm pregnant with #7 - I work from home part time when required/needed, but it's not my priority. My family and my husband is my priority. (I'm currently hiding in my room for a few minutes drinking coffee because we just got done opening all the christmas stuff, and the kids are all sugared up on suckers and tootsie rolls before breakfast, lol) I'm autistic, I have limited amount of reserves socially - I've learned long before havin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 02:44 PM
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I shared only what my husband wanted to know
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 10:09 PM
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We were having a discussion about a homebirth today. And different styles of tubs for outdoor use since I'm due in the summer.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/21 05:16 PM
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Have sex in some fashion with my hsband every day. take a bath or a shower and be clean or relaxed, it's okay to just have 1. lol Sleep if possible. (and/or a daily walk, too.) watch netflix in the background while life goes on around me dink around on silly word or block games on my phone to mellow my brain/unwind at bedtime once the toddlers are out for the night. This is my daily norm for self-care. Sometimes I even wear makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 07:40 PM
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I need this emotional transparency and emotional connection. The lack of this would have me spiraling emotionally all over the place because I'm autistic and I cannot read between the lines. I don't know about people who are neurotypical and emotional attachments but I would imagine that an average person likes that kind of reassurance and emotional intimacy. If he is unavailable emotionally I would second-guess this relationship if you're someone who needs that to be stable emotionally within a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/21 09:32 PM
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Nope, I offer daily blow jobs, definitely while pregnant, or on my period - We've been marreid almost 16 years, and he gets a blow job almost daily, (and we usually average sex daily, too as long as it's not contraindicated during pregnancy.) ​ Every relationship will be different, I have a high sex drive too, and I'd feel pretty hurt if he rejected me, so we both made an agreement that unless one of us is dying, we typically don't refuse sex if the other person initiates. I love giving him blow…
/r/RedPillWives18/12/21 06:42 PM
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This is why my husband is retiring. I don't work outside of the home - but he realizes that he wants time with family, not to work 12+ hours per day and never see us and me being home alone missing him for years because I'm just waiting for him to retire so I can have him all to myself. He's retiring at the end of this year. I was patient, I waited, and I'm willing to take a huge paycut and live on a budget in order to have him around full time. ​ there's no way I could have kids, and work a ful…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 02:20 PM
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I take care of mine when he is sick, he goes to work no matter what unless he thinks he's contagious, so if he stays home, I don't think he's being a baby. O.o
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 02:23 PM
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Mine went to culinary arts school, so he spoils me
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 07:35 PM
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Agreed
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 07:32 PM
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I don't. I just listen to my body. I get hormones/vitamins checked yearly, I ask my husband to help me eat healthier or watch my portions and help weigh me or make me go for walks and get out of the house. I don't usually eat my feelings, I aim for a gallon of water per day while breastfeeding or pregnant. I like me thinner than my husband likes me, so if I'm a few pounds heavier than my preference he loves my bubble butt, lol 😆 I take my thyroid meds, liquid calories sneak up on you, pay attent…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 07:32 PM
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Pretty much what you just described. Except, I want a little help with cooking and housework, because I get distracted and overwhelmed and my cooking skills are hit or miss, lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 06:09 PM
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I'm nearing 40, and I'm not single, i'm married, happily to the love of my life but he finds pregnancy beautiful, he loves my body. Not all men think you need to have the body of an 18 year old virgin to find you attractive. I gave him his offspring, but I also didn't get fat. I took good care of myself over the years, to keep up with him. I don't accept that this is the truth. I think I increase my value because of shared experiences, because I'm pregnant with #7, that he loves me pregnant, lov…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 06:05 PM
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My husband said a similar thing, if he trusts you enough to marry you, he's not going to wait years to commit. We got married 8 weeks after we met in person to make sure we had physical attraction, we hashed out all the life stuff via email before meeting in real life though. 16 years of marriage April 2022
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 08:17 PM
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I wouldn't turn him down. I'd ask for things that help you feel sexier. Don't let having kids ruin your sex life.... if you go down this path now, it doesn't get better from what I've seen. Wear a belly binder or corset, wear cute nightgowns, find ways to boost your self esteem so you aren't rejecting your husband. He may not pressure you - but if you keep rejecting him, that's how he's going to feel. Neglected, rejected, used for a baby and like you don't want him anymore because the baby repla…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 12:34 AM
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I've been married for almost 16 years, and we still boink like bunnies. LOL Dead bedrooms are the fastest way to ruin a relationship so I agree with making him and sex, and intimacy (even if it's not penis in vagina sex) important.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 05:40 PM
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Also - my husband chose me because he could see the kind of mom I was, I was a single mom and he DID want a family, I'm in my late 30's now and we have kids together. A man may not always think children either way is a deal breaker, and seeing the kind of mom you are, might actually be a bonus because he can see it in action and decide that's the kind of mom he wants for his kids (assuming he wants one, or two or whatever.) A lot of my friends who've married single men with no children, or dads …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 05:09 PM
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Anxiety - focusing on turning my anxiety into positive interactions with being vulnerable, and demure/kind to my husband and allow him to help me. ​ - I like the head pats when he's busy, just him taking 30 seconds to acknowledge me when he's busy is all I need to beam like a happy child who's daddy just handed her a unicorn stuffie. I'm not hard to please, I appreciate that he takes any time to respond lol
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 10:42 PM
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I was born on the wrong side of the tracks, I did *whatever* it took to survive. My husband still chose me, because he appreciated my openminded ness to survive at all costs. That was a valuable trait to him, it showed him that if any and/or all things went wrong, i'd find a way to survive. That was valuable to him. Some men appreciate a woman with some sexual experience, who can communicate her needs and make sex fun and interesting and doesn't have hangs ups. I'm naturally shy, but in my 30's,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 10:32 PM
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I disagree about loyalty, the longer you are together and more shared experiences, that builds loyalty. Especially if you have kids, and do big life changes and adventures together. I don't think there's a magic age on loyalty.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/21 12:48 PM
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Women who want to settle down young have a harder time finding a 20 year old male in the same place.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/21 12:46 PM
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Might be how they do it, but I'm like you, I would need permission to spend that kind of money.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 07:31 PM
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I had a way higher body count than you did by the time I got married at 20. My husband didn't care. He wanted me, he didn't care what my past was, he cared about our future. Some sexual history shouldn't be a deal breaker, but if it is, than you know he's not compatible with you, and you find a different man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 12:00 AM
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I found it was hard with 1 kid, but once I had a few, it actually got easier, more chaos, more mess, but more hands and help and the older they get, the easier it is in some ways. I bring my husband his coffee in bed everymorning before the kids get up - I make time during that period to be intimate with him, I sleep naked in bed if he wants intimacy in the middle of the night. I give him a lot of... oral attention, which I enjoy. I ask for his help with housework, if I need it, since I have a l…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 11:56 PM
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I made it clear I was looking to get married and wanted kids right away. We were married 8 weeks after we vetted each other and then met in person to make sure there was physical chemistry. It's going on 16 years. I do not have good advice on this, because the idea of being 25+ and unmarried never occurred to me as a possibility. I was 20 when I got married. It never occured to me NOT to have this conversation, I didn't want to waste my time, I didn't want to waste their time, I didn't want us t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 11:13 PM
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The kid of men you want, if financial stability and maturity are what you seek, likely will be in their 30's. I have an almost 14 year age difference with mine, we've been together almost 16 years. If you want to limit age, then you may limit potential mates. I had an age limit for men older than 10 years... but he was the one for me. All the men close to my age were nowhere near ready to settle down and have kids, and that was important to me. ​ You're prime real estate for a partner, and the m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 04:26 PM
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i know girls who had grey hair at 18. Doesn't change their age. A grey hair is not a big deal, and wrinkles are part of the process. It's okay to get older. Chasing your youth will keep you from moving forward to the grown up part of your life. Like settling down and having confidence in your appearance. If you don't like having a gray hair, dye it. lol I dye mine, although not because I have grey hair because right now, it's rainbow and like 8 colors and I think it's fun. Have fun with it. Make…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 03:27 PM
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you're not even 30.... you got time....
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 03:15 PM
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I'm 36 and men still hit on me and women still think i'm beautiful. (I'm bisexual and I attract attention from both genders.) I know women who are 50, who are some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen and men would kill for a chance to date them. It's not so much age, but your value, what you offer, who you are, what you're looking for, how you take care of yourself, etc. Aging gracefully doesn't happen to everyone, and even if you do look your age or older, being in good shape, and able t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 03:03 PM
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Then you make sure you pick a partner with a compatible sex drive, and make sure you have the same views on other forms of intimacy. It's not selfish to have boundaries, but it is selfish to refuse intimacy and sexual contact at the expense of your partner and "compromising" doesn't usually feel good. Having sex just for them, most people want sex to be mutually enjoyable, so you'd need to pick someone with a sex drive that fits with yours, and other forms of intimacy that you both agree on matt…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 06:16 PM
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Find a husband with a compatible sex drive. Or, give them permission to do it ethically and have a non-monogamous relationship where those needs are met by someone else. But sex is a pretty big motivator for most relationships, bad sex, lack of intimacy, can destroy a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 05:42 PM
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One, I homeschool but I use an accredited company, so math, science, they are a GOOD program and it's reasonably priced. (I pay 25 per month per kid.) https://www.acellusacademy.com/ You're responsible for the social circle, but if you are part of a church and do sports or music or whatever else, they'll be fine. Quality social interaction is more important than a public classroom. I like having the option of setting our own schedule, and it made covid easier for us, there was no transition and …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 11:36 PM
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I'm alot older than you, but I was 20 when I got married to a much older man. I'm 36 now, and we are 6 kids in, working on #7 lol (I'm not pregnant yet, we are trying.) I stopped going to church a long time ago because I felt like an outsider in a lot of ways. I'm autistic though so I don't like a lot of the social drama that goes into the networking that people do behind the scenes. I'm sorry your friends treat you like that, I had to make new friends too, and after I had a big family, I also h…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 08:33 PM
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Yes, and paid off all my student loans and debt when he married me. He wanted me to have a fresh financial start. I was a teen mom, I had debt trying to get on my feet alone as a single mom. My son's bio father was abusive/stalker and they left him off the birth certificate on purpose, so he was never legally responsible, so my husband was able to take legal responsibility for him and adopt him because there was no one to contest it. (my ex knew, he didn't care about the kid, he just cared about…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 05:12 PM
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IF you want kids and he's open to more - I would consider it if you like him. I find compassionate people to be very attractive, especially in men. I have a large age-gap with my husband, but I married when I was 20, and he was early 30's. but i'll be 37 next year and we are still married. I would worry less about the age gap, especially since you are over 30, and think more about if you're ready to settle down, one of my best friends married a single dad, but she loves kids (her's are all grown…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:49 PM
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Walking enough to keep my legs in good shape, lifting laundry baskets and other heavy stuff around the house do fine for my arms, I don't need much more than daily life stuff to stay in shape, I gained some weight because of hormones I'm on, but i'm not super stressed over it because I know as long as I eat a little less after the holidays, it will come right back off. Unless you have a medical condition, you just eat less food then you burn.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:03 PM
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As a kid who was traumatized by the public school system, I'm gonna disagree. I think that public schools CAN be good and some kids thrive, but a lot don't. And I do agree, that teaching a kid to read, is harder, but statistically, homeschooled kids are usually behind in math, not reading. There's a lot of tools these days that make homeschooling so much easier too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:29 PM
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I do and I use : https://www.acellusacademy.com/ They have an online private school version, and if you ever wanted to switch to that, it's available and cheaper than most private schools. But, I love this program. You still need to supplement with hands on learning, but my 7 year old is already through most of 5th grade, in some of 6th grade, doing stems and robotics and is on spanish 2.... It's a go t your own pace, so if you have an easily bored kid who likes school.... it's great. I like it …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 08:28 PM
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I think working on negative traits is fine. But I'm going to stop talking about it from this point because I have rules that I'm not allowed to argue ;) ​ being disrespectful and capable/take charge in areas a husband delegates are not the same thing and shouldn't be lumped together.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 03:35 PM
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I don't believe that. I would not be suitable for most men - as I can't change my autism, but what makes me adorable and youthful, innocent, trusting, and desirable to my husband is because of my autistic traits. I know many men would not like it. I think learning how to communicate more demurely, acting more trusting and vulnerable, comes with feeling safe in your relationship with a compatible partner. ​ the key word is compatible. you can't take just any woman, and pair them with any man, and…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 03:04 PM
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Well, my husband likes that i'm young at heart, innocent, want protecting. I think there are certain men who like to feel protective towards their spouse and other men who want a take-charge, equal personality, and others who like a woman who wants to be in charge. It really just depends on the man. I've seen a lot of variety.... don't change yourself, find a man who likes you the way you are.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 11:10 PM
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I don't think he should bow down to you, i'm watching the language you're using, does he deserve a break? Yes, but taking a break should prevent resentful feelings, not take a break because you are resentful, if that makes sense? It's a difference, but I think it matters. I feel for you, and I think you're justifying his feelings and I think if he continues to feel resentful, then your relationship may not last. Resentment is not a good feeling for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 08:30 PM
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This ^^ I have health issues - including asthma, a heart condition, and i'm autistic with PCOS/endo so I have a lot of pain and I have high risk pregnancies that usually involve a lot of bed rest, I had stomach issues for YEARS before we figured out I had Celiac and that's why I was so sick all the time. There's a lot of ways to accomodate issues
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 08:27 PM
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Okay, so when I eloped, I got the stomach flu and spent our wedding night in the bathroom sick after we got married. I've got chronic health issues too... they married you for sickness and in health, resenting you for something you can't control makes me feel bad for you because a good man wouldn't resent it, it's an opportunity to take care of you, just like I'm sure you would for him. If you're so sick and in pain, massage, cuddles, there are so many ways he could use it to spend time with you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 08:19 PM
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I'm angry for you. He chose you on purpose.... acting resentful for something outside of your control baffles me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 07:56 PM
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He's being defensive because he knows he's not acting okay, and using the relationship to be irresponsible and not care about you. That you should just suck it up because he said so, basically. but that won't work. you are a person with feelings, if he wants you to trust him, he has to earn your trust. If he wants you to act feminine and demure, which you can do your best but it takes TWO to make this work. He has to then do his side. ​ This should be more than a conversation, this should be a d…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:35 PM
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This wouldn't work for me. The only boundary I've ever had to set to protect myself with my husband was monogamy. I thought I was open minded about the idea until he called me on it and asked me to try. Turns out it destroys me emotionally. And when I told him I needed that boundary to stay in a relationship with him, he respected it. So it's okay to set boundaries. If something is not going to work for you, set a boundary. If he won't respect your boundary, he doesn't respect you - you get to m…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 03:19 PM
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If he's not passionately in love with you - you choose to stay because it's comfortable. You can choose to stay for the kids, you can choose to stay for any reason you want. ​ You can also, decide you deserve passionate romance and love, and feel you're worth more than just "comfortable" in a relationship. The choice is yours, his having feelings for his ex, doesn't mean he doesn't love or care about you - having a "Grass is greener" feeling does happen, but it doesn't mean he wants to ACT on it…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 09:25 PM
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I don't know, i'm not a man, I'm bi though. I'm personally not attracted to women who don't look healthy (that weight range for healthy isn't stick thin either in my brain - frail bodies make me think they might not be able to keep up with me, it's if I go for a hike, can they keep up with me? kind of thoughts.) I feel the same way about men though, I like dad bods. LOL I just want enough muscle mass and healthiness to do everything life has to offer. ​ I should maybe also inclue that I went to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 01:06 AM
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I've seen curvy/chunky girls get way more male attention than thinner, smaller breasted ones. So it really depends.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 09:20 PM
13

Money is not everything - I married out of my "class" (meaning I was from the poor part of town and his family was affluent) - and I've supported my husband through career changes and all sorts of things, and he told me he's put all his years in working hard, and what he wants to do now, is retire, and be with me full time, but it means living on a retired budget. I didn't blink twice. I told him to quit his job and we'd retire together. Because what I value more than money, is experiences and s…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 10:41 PM
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oh, we are married, going on 16 years and working on baby #7.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 03:53 AM
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I... want to text him about 5000000x a day, I've learned to write hm emails and when he has time, he texts me that he loves me, and respond back. I dont' want to be... a pain in the butt... we are working on it... after 16 years :P I text based on when I think it may be acceptable and if I'm not sure, I write him an email and he gets back to me via text.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 02:24 AM
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I hand selected my therapist and was blunt that I was a submissive wife, and wanted him to be supportive of my sexuality, my orientation, and my interested in traditional values. I chose one who identified as LGBT/BDSM/Poly friendly, and then made sure he would also be supportive of me as a submissive wife, who was not desiring poly. He was the best therapist I've ever had - and he was very supportive of my relationship, the fact that my husband was expected to be head of household and was respe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:25 PM
1

I did - I knew I had PCOS from like 13 on, and I knew infertility would be an uphill battle... and I wanted a big family. I picked a man willing to do that battle with me. We are currently Trying for #7 (and likely our last since I'm in early menopause according to my family doctor.) Fertility treatment is not cheap. It was absolutely something I took into consideration and I got married at 20 and we didn't have our oldest daughter until I was 24/25 and we started trying from the moment we got m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 11:49 PM
1

Weight and looks are things that change in a person's lifetime, and while it's nice to pretend looks don't matter to people, but they do a lot. It's not right or fair, and we can't always control what we are attracted too - but you don't have to be cruel. That is something that makes a person *very* low value to me. If you use another person's issues, traits, weight, looks, style, disabilities, to mock them or be an asshole, you're not nice, and I don't like rude people. ​ Confidence helps a lot…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 07:43 PM
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I don't understand
/r/RedPillWives02/10/21 04:19 PM
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I have stretch marks all over, even on my lady bits. It doesn't matter. If a man cares he isn't being realistic. Very few women won't ever have a single life mark as they age.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 10:40 PM
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I have stretch marks all over, even on my lady bits. It doesn't matter. If a man cares he isn't being realistic. Very few women won't ever have a single life mark as they age.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 10:40 PM
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I'm happy to be your friend, I am on discord a lot in my free time to chat easier back/forth.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:29 AM
2

I'm in a number of support groups for autistic women. I live in the middle of no where though, my friends who know my husband says I'm not the issue, his current midlife crisis/behavior is. I'm just trying to give him space to figure it out for himself. To be fair, my friends think I communicate fine, they think he's intentionally nitpicking to hurt my feelings
/r/RedPillWives12/05/21 06:34 PM
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Oys I had a baby 8 months ago, and I'm down to my normal weight of about 120. I did it wrong I stopped eating like I should due to stress. I need to make sure I don't rebound back the other direction. My marriage is a mess, I'm working on it. I'm struggling that my husband doesn't like how I communicate because I info dump due to my autism. I wish he'd help me learn to communicate better in a style he prefers, because it's been 15 years and I need his help. He feels like he's trapped and not in …
/r/RedPillWives12/05/21 01:44 PM
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Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 10:18 PM
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I understand. Financially, for both of us, it's in our best interest to not get divorced right now. For our kids, I don't want to disrupt their quality of life. He's moved into the guest house because I told him I needed to have a boundary and have him stop treating me like crap. I told him I was still willing to work on our relationship, but as long as he was checked out and not willing to put effort in, I was not willing to let our daughters see him treat me like this anymore. I was working on…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 09:43 PM
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I think its solid. I don't do my hair or nails, but I asked for a parrot, that was 2000 bucks. But he bought it for me. I didn't buy it for myself or without permission. Marriage to the right person is security fir you both. Pick a woman who isn't vindictive or cruel/revenge minded, and marriage is important for security for a family and legal protection. There's no guarantee either way but you can get a prenuptial agreement out lining expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 08:32 PM
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I took care of everyone with 103 degree fever, not able to breathe, etc My husband knew I was that sick but wasn't too caring either. But make it 6 kids not 4. I don't think "sick" registers unless you need a trip to the ER. I hope you feel better. Sorry about covid, sorry about your canceled trip. I hope you can find some peace. If you do, please share your secret
/r/RedPillWives11/04/21 02:41 PM
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I am not his friend. I'm his teammate, our roles together are not as best friends. I can be best friends with a girl. That's my peer and that's who is appropriate for me to be best friends with. He and I are in different roles to each other, I would not submit to my friends, but I do submit to him, for that to happen, the relationship needs to be different by default, or I would struggle to follow his lead in the relationship. My friends don't get to boss me around lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 05:35 PM
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Honestly, I would just ignore her and not be her friend anymore. Her husband and her's relationship is their business. If he's not bothered by it, then you shouldn't be on his behalf. If it bothers YOU - and her telling you that you're jealous is definitely her projecting her feelings to justify your dis-taste of her behavior, is a valid reason to distance yourself. But, if you let go your feelings about their relationship, you might find yourself less likely to instigate the conversations where…
/r/RedPillWives17/03/21 05:00 PM
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Sure, i'm very excited to connect with someone who lives similarly, big families are less common. Also - the teen thing, I think it's totally normal to have to remind, even adult teens. We have a bonus teen living here and I feel guilty reminding him to do basic stuff around the house, but he lives here too so it's fair lol As to resource guarding, that's actually very, very common with great pyres, on a farm if they don't stand up for their food, they can lose it to other animals. Making it cle…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 07:52 PM
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I have great pyres, lol I actually just got 1 litter mostly weaned, and another on the ground (8 pups) we have 17 acres, so they protect our birds and live stock. Great pyre's are wonderful dogs. You're welcome to message me on here, or discord kajira#6231 if you want a friend to talk too, who relates to you. Our home business is working with dogs. we board them, train them, work on behavioral issues, etc. As to guilt, the only thing I've felt guilty about is when health issues get in my way, li…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 07:27 PM
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15 years, 6 kids here, although ours range from 17 down to 6 months. We are planning another baby, but I have a plan for retirement once the kids are out. We have a home business that we are getting off the ground, so when he's at work, I'm involved in taking care of the responsibilities for that. We also homeschool. I also got parrots, so I spend a good chunk of my time training and socializing with my birds, they are like a permanent toddler. I like children more than I like people, so birds w…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 07:14 PM
2

You are very uneducated how bodies work then.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 07:04 PM
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I've had 8 pregnancies and 6 living babies, it did not make men hit on me less. I was a single mom when I married on older man. He had never seen my body pre kids. If you take care of yourself, put effort into your relationship a man is not going to care about a few stretch marks. Everyone has them...... They also do not suck the life out of you if you enjoy being a mom. (Edit: I was a single mom with 1. He's the biofather of the rest)
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 06:12 PM
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To be fair, you need to sit down and ask him how you can help and what he's willing to do. Even if you step back and let him make decisions and take the lead, if he isn't interested in doing so, you'll just get really frustrated. I would recommend at least trying. Appreciate him and thank him when he makes decisions. Encourage him to show the traits you want him to exhibit, be softer, kinder, let him protect you, and thank him for it. ​ You can read books like surrendered wife and stuff, but I f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 07:46 PM
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I put more effort into my looks now than I did when we first met. 6 kids and 15 years later, and I want him to see me as a sexual person who is still very interested in him that way. I think wanting intimacy and caring about each other, it's effort that matters. Not always spending time on makeup or whatever but a few minutes sending them texts that say you care, holding there hand and hugging them, reminding them you appreciate them and their hard work. I dress cute for him, I flirt with him, I…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 02:47 PM
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Your breasts would change from being pregnant, the hormones would do the same thing. I'm small framed, with tiny breasts, and I have stretch marks on my breasts from pregnancy. If he says he likes them, take him at face value and give him what he wants. Your hang ups aren't his feelings, you know? by that, just uncover them, close your eyes and let him enjoy them. If you don't want to look at them, you don't have too, but you could also watch his face as he touches and looks at you, his reaction…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 03:49 PM
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Worry less about the housework and focus on your new baby. It goes by way to fast. A routine will come over time. Focus on healing, bonding and enjoying your new baby
/r/RedPillWives13/03/21 05:49 PM
2

Alpha is based on science that's been debunked. In nature they call it "daddy" and "mommy" in wolves, which is where this term started Most people who identify with the alpha term like the idea of being an alpha predator, in fact it's a whole primal ideology. Outside of people who use this language as a communication tool to talk about consent, most are bullies. The correct word is dominant or leadership qualities. Using these words is more likely to get what shes looking for. Men who like the i…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:42 PM
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Dating Apps are probably your best bet. I met my husband on craigslist before they removed the seeking/personals section. I just posted I was looking for an old fashioned relationship, with a male-led head of household. I said the kind of lifestyle I was looking for, and a few things I wanted (like animals and children) in return for loyality, submission in my relationship to him, and supporting him on his goals. We've been married 15 years, I would not think you would find the kind of man you w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:46 PM
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The word you're looking for is a "dominant" male - not an alpha male. You want a man who likes to be in control, likes the responsibility that comes with that control of his household. Alpha, predatory men, are not what you're looking for. changing the language may help you change the kind of men you're focusing on. A dominant male is a guiding force, nurturing, in control, share their emotions openly with their mate, if our role is to support them, we are the one person they can be vulnerable w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:25 PM
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I don't have any advice, but it sounds like your sex drives are not compatible, and there may be an underlying issue going on, depression, physical issues, etc. Whatever is going on with him, I definitely think you should talk to someone about it, a therapist, counselor, etc. See if he will go with you and see if you guys can work it out. I hate to say this, but sex would be a deal breaker for me. I would need him to offer some kind of alternative to that intimacy if his parts wouldn't work, int…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:15 PM
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Erm, my husband is nearing 50 and we still average 2x a day..... I hope he doesn't lose his sex drive in 5 years lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 07:14 PM
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I have "men" I talk too from a distance, I do not get close emotionally to men. I find it inappropriate and disrespectful to my husband. It's a personal preference, I don't want him to have a ton of outside female friends either. Couples? Sure, people who are willing to talk to us both? Okay. I do not seek out men for friendships. I just find it highly inappropriate and most of them end up hitting on me at some point and I don't even want to be put in that position.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 02:47 AM
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My mother in law was baffled why my husband would change diapers, or help with housework. I am grateful that he ignores his mother. LOL I think mothers have a lot of influence, and yes it can be a problem with some men, I don't think it's always their fault though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 02:08 PM
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My husband felt "too good" to be true, to me, too. He was almost 14 years older, divorced his ex wife (Because he wanted kids and she didn't), told me everything I wanted to hear. Was also honest that he was looking for a submissive-type woman who'd be in a supportive role and as long as I kept him happy, he'd take care of me. It took me about 4 years to really believe him, but I wanted too, so I watched for signs that he was going to change his mind or turn on me, and I can truthfully say that …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 02:02 AM
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I would continue to date him - But I would go slow enough to ferret out anything that might be a red flag and a deal breaker. I had things that I thought were red flags for me (i.e. a divorced man, more then 10 years older, etc.) and if he truly changed his behavior, and wants to make up for the bad choices, then I would probably be more forgiving of his past. We all have a past, some of us have a more sordid past than others, but if he's up front and honest about it - I don't see him as being t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 12:04 AM
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This would be a deal breaker for me. I need a man who can get off the video games and cares more about his relationship *with me* This type of behavior would make me feel unwanted, unloved, and to not listen to my feelings about gifting large amounts of money to other women, twitch subscriptions or not, I can tell you as an "ex" gamer girl - girls often use their sexuality, gender, and flirting to get things, and it is toxic for men who have girlfriends at home who aren't a part of this culture.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:08 PM
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You just do. You find it in yourself to love them, and find an outside source to be afraid too. A friend, a pastor, a therapist. Someone who can offer emotional support who isn't in the middle of the situation and has the reserves to support you so you can take care of him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 04:53 PM
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Ask him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 10:40 PM
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I am not trying to do his job. I thank him regularly for the things he does that are "masculine" and male and... extra. ​ he likes to cook, he went to culinary arts school, I tell him how proud of him I am that he can compensate for my inability to cook ;)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 03:06 AM
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If texting good night and hello is important to you, I would just bluntly say that. My husband has that rule for us if we are apart. It's important to him to have closure at night to go to sleep and to make sure I'm up and okay in the morning. It makes 100% sense to me for that type of discussion to be had so there's no misunderstanding. I have anxiety and I do not feel guilty telling my husband I miss him and sending funny emojis or random dumb texts whenever I am thinking about him when he is …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 02:04 AM
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I think that's dumb, but I call my husband Daddy. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 01:54 AM
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block the ex that's not working out for you. Focus on you and then be available for the right person when they come along.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 11:58 PM
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I was looking for someone who was open minded, but more conservative in their personal relationship(s). I'm naturally submissive and want a leader, I want to please him and keep him happy and let him take care of me. A lot of people feel this isn't an okay thing to want in modern day age, modern society says we shouldn't "need" anyone - but the level of intimacy and trust we have, is simply because the more vulnerable I am allowed to be with him, the more he loves me, the more he focuses on taki…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 06:44 PM
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I didn't care what my parents thought. I was a foster care kid and my family didn't get a say in my life. When you learn to survive on your own from a young age, you're in a different place than most other young adults. I had my own apartment at 16 with roommates. My life experience prepared me for a more adult-relationship by the time I was 20, I was also a single mom to a toddler when I got married. He was ready to settle down and start a family, my being a single mom with no ties was a bonus …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 06:15 PM
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Also to add - you can do schooling online, and find other ways to have a back up plan. In my case, I'm autistic and traditional schooling wasn't really an option for me to succeed at. He has financial stuff in place that if he dies, me and our children are taken care of for life, so if I wanted to work - it's an optional thing and not required to cover our bills and essentials in life. He was realistic about my limitations and compensated for them. I chose someone who wouldn't abandon me, and ev…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:49 PM
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I got married at 20, I started looking at 19. I married a man almost 14 years older than me and we've been together for 15 years. ​ Do you. If you feel you're ready and know what you want, find it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:38 PM
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http://fxckfeelings.com/wp/page/10/ They have a free PTSD book you can read, but it would be best paired with F*ck Feelings - which is 4 dollars on ebay. It's a good read - and one of the better psych books I've read. It will mesh with the RP beliefs. They even talk about joining a cult in the PTSD book as a possible option of dealing with your needs of structure to cope. So it's a really open minded concept and one of the only ones I read that acknowledge t hat some people need different things…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 02:22 PM
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Don't talk to them about it. It's okay to have boundaries with your parents.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 02:15 PM
1

This has nothing to do with being autistic. This was her personality. I also hate that people say autistic people don't feel love. Yes we do, we just may choose to show it differently, so I make a point to apologize to my kids and explain why I do things the way I do so they understand my intentions are good and if I step on their toes, I have the courtesy to apologize. Having good manners breeds good manners. Some autistic people are big on following the rules, some don't care about rules. you …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 01:07 AM
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I have 6 kids - I'm classically autistic, I have more issues where my husband runs interference and tells me cues I miss in the older kids - he helps set boundaries for me so I don't misunderstand things. I need the help, he's willing to do it, and were a pretty happy family. I knew going into parenting that I was going to have issues connecting - it's a lot easier to love and connect to a baby, they show their happiness and their cues are extremely obvious. ​ They cry. You go through the proces…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 12:55 AM
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I don't really care that much if I feel pretty, what I care about is how my partner responds to me. Sometimes I have days where I don't feel super great and I'll ask him for more attention, hugs, pets, sex.... lol it helps ;) I don't need to see myself through my eyes, but I always feel beautiful when he looks at me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 10:58 PM
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my husband married a woman who made a lot of money.... in the end he wanted children and a woman who was home waiting for him instead of a career-minded woman who didn't want kids. I've worked from home and I help him with the business he starts, but knowing i'm always here for him, our kids, that is invaluable and money cant replace the things I do for him and our family. It just depends on what they feel is valuable for them in life. ​ but I know many, many, many men don't want the burden of b…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 07:55 PM
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Personally - I think the person she should be talking too about this, is her partner. Your advice may really backfire if that's not why her partner chose her.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 12:15 AM
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Not always. I'm like this and I'm autistic. My partner hates bratty behavior - so I've found that if I do things that come naturally, he's more than okay in enjoying my natural personality. I like to bite him - and I always warn him. I ask him to wrestle with me. I play up the shyness and tease him that I need him to touch me like a creepy old man to joke with him. (we have a large age difference, and it amuses him that I like that.) ​ The more you get positive reinforcement from them for behavi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 12:10 AM
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my partner and I don't have friendships that are allowed to interfere with our relationship. He won't respond/check his phone. we set boundaries on phone time. No phone in bed. No phone when we are hanging out with each other. etc. Anyone who tries to take up the little bit of free time we get together gets clear boundaries established. If you feel this isn't right, then you are justified in saying something about asking for them to turn their phone off when spending time with you. If that doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 01:29 AM
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i dont see my value decreasing just because I am getting older. shared memories, 6 living offspring and a lifetime commitment. my value increases to him the longer we are together because of everything we've been through and my loyality
/r/RedPillWives24/01/21 12:30 AM
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I'm almost 14 years younger than my husband. I find him the hottest man alive even after 15 years together ❤ A single lifetime isn't enough for me, but I'd rather have what I get than someone else. I prefer older men, always have
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 05:29 AM
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Nope. it doesn't matter either way to my partner. He knew my history, and it didn't bug him. Once I was his, all he cared about was my commitment to him. He obviously had been with other women before me, he was even married for 9 years before me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 11:58 PM
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I kind of agree with your mom. Being safe to have as much sex as I want within my relationship is pretty awesome. I don't know why you think sex is better for a man. Multiple orgasms are amazing and women can do that with a skilled partner, or understanding their own bodies and using toys. You don't need to have sex before marriage, but sex is very enjoyable for women when done correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 02:29 PM
2

I used to model. Changing your look is a lot easier with wigs then dying your hair. And yes, I use wigs in the bedroom and in photography, daily life, whenever it makes sense. I love having different hair styles/colors but it's not worth the financial up keep to go to a saloon to do it professionally. Wigs are cheaper, and I can change it daily if I want.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 02:20 AM
2

I only paint my toes like 1x a month. My partner doesn't like much makeup, so I only wear it when I leave the house and just eye makeup. Covid masks make lipstick unneeded. He won't kiss me if I wear lipstick so I've been trained not to wear it. I dress up for him when he is in the mood, I have wigs and outfits. I don't bother to style my hair most days because he likes to run his fingers through it and play with my hair so he hates if it's sticky. Attracting a man doesn't always mean he likes t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 09:36 PM
2

We are always in the middle of a reno project too. Lol
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 09:10 PM
1

I love purging stuff we don't use. I hate clutter. Mom of 6, homeschooling too. I shutdown when stuff is too cluttered
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 09:10 PM
1

Mine is not super emotional but he shares it with me when he does feel something. I don't care about others in society I only care that he trusts me enough to share openly.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 09:04 PM
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I wouldn't want an obese man either. I'm not married to one. I didn't say its shallow to want someone who fits your preferences. I prefer if people were more honest. Would save alot of hurt. I said I think its shallow if a general "you" only cares about how they look. When you are 50, 60, 70, you need more to offer than a youthful pretty face. Young beautiful people are everywhere. Cultivating other elements is what makes you stay valuable. That's what I'm trying to say. I've had 6 kids and am n…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:59 PM
2

Having seen family gain weight due to medical issues (prednisone) and seeing my grandpa love my grandma regardless of her weight gain taught me that it is shallow if you would dump a person you love over it, if they can change it to get healthier I agree it's important to be healthy. But it is shallow if it's all you care about. I will love my partners at whatever weight, even if we all encourage each other to do better health wise. And being skinny shamed is a thing. Fixating solely on looks is…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:28 PM
2

Or they like the person and shallow isn't the only factor. It's not always about issues or a Fetish....
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:14 PM
2

Pretty face is more important to me as a bi woman, I care less about weight..... and not bitchy us most important.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:12 PM
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My partner prefers me curvier in the butt than I like myself, and our girlfriend is very heavy. He prefers healthy over perfect. Submissive in personality makes a woman beautiful to him. Controlling, bitchy women turn him off. Doesnt matter how beautiful they are. He wants nice, calm, Submissive and fun to be around who make his life more interesting. Easier isn't always the key part, but obedience is. He wants to be in charge. Men want different things. Pick one that likes you, your wiring, put…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 04:27 PM
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I felt the same way. We have 6 kids and he gets told how lucky he is that he has a woman who cares about his happiness, sex, looking good for him, etc. A little effort goes along way. Especially when you are tired.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 11:54 AM
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we foster our sex life we dont talk about crushes, porn has no place in our life unless we make it together. I will do anything for him sexually, he doesnt have to seek fantasies outside of me because ill do whatever he is in the mood for. Edited to add : I'm also bisexual and we recently started dating a woman together. We expect the same sexual monogamy to us, that him and I have had for the last 15 years. I mean I literally will do anything for him and he's very open to me, too that way. We c…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 11:46 PM
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I suppose because "excitement" isn't my goal with sex. Feeling close to him, intimacy, smelling him, feeling his hands on my body. That doesn't get old. Him putting his hands on my hips, feeling his arms around me, strong, the butterflies he makes me feel have never gone away. ​ Edit, I'm sexually submissive. I respond when I'm dominated in any fashion in bed with him. He likes my responsiveness, it doesn't get old for either of us, and the longer we are together, the easier it is to read me and…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 11:36 PM
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Sex is a key important part of a relationship for me. A deal breaker, so to speak. So, I want to make sure we work together pretty quickly. For me it wasn't our first date, it was our second. We were married 8 weeks after our first date (I knew him online via emails for a while exchanging information to see if we were compatible, so chemistry was all that was left when we met.) it's been 15 years now. I would not be compatible with someone who wanted to use sex to manipulate me. If it's not some…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 08:28 PM
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liking older men doesn't always have to do with daddy issues. I wanted a large family and got married at 20. a 20 year old male could not have provided the lifestyle I wanted. but a 30something year old man could.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 11:06 PM
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I chose someone almost 14 years older than me to marry. I wanted to settle down and have kids. I did fetish modeling when he met me. His GF before me was a stripper. He wasn't offended by it, but once I married him he expected me to follow his rules so he'd feel comfortable. I modeled after we were together, but he had very strict boundaries he expected me to enforce for my own safety/protection. Over the years, he had me stop doing that and the kind of photography I was allowed to share became …
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 11:04 PM
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I have PCOS and Endo - I had to have 50% of my ovaries removed on both sides. I have 6 kids. While it's possible it *could* stop you from having children it's not always a promise. I was told I'd NEVER have kids biologically with my PCOS when I was a teenager. I have a harder time ovulating, getting, and staying pregnant. I get painful cysts that rupture and pain randomly when the endo tissue flares up and causes a problem - emotionally dealing with it was hard, too. I thought I was infertile an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 09:54 PM
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I am here because I'm a submissive woman, who is in a male-led head of household. I do not believe it's the right choice for every person, or gender specific, but for *me* it works and that's why I want to be around people who feel similarly about letting women be women in a more sterotypical way, and men being more sterotypical male. I want to be weaker in strength, feminine, soft, and submissive and allow my strong, virile, dominating man be in the boss. I take care of him, and he takes care o…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 09:45 PM
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I'm pretty socially isolated naturally, due to my autism. I make a point to arrange lunch dates and stuff when I drive to the big city (even with covid I've managed a couple lunch dates with friends) but for the most part, I'm very content, to socialize mostly online lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 11:26 PM
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I will give you the advice I would give my daughter. Be an adult before you try to find a husband. You're not 18, give yourself the space to grow up a little. You know what you want, and that's great, I did too. I met and married my husband at 20 (He's also almost 14 years older, the odds of me finding a boy in college ready for the stage of life I wanted was slim to none. Be prepared that boys your age or a couple years older aren't going to be ready to talk babies and wives.) But going to coll…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 09:45 PM
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I have a similar situation and tend to seek out groups of female who have core things in common with me. I use discord for most of my socializing with other females, it takes a lot of pressure off everyone, especially with covid, and our submissive natures (which we openly discuss, 90% of what we talk about is relationships, men, kids, etc.) it's a nice way to have a support group. I'm rural, I live on 17 acres. I'm not a huge fan of city living, and I do notice that people who intentionally cho…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 09:38 PM
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Yes - and I sat him down (mother to 6) and told him I wasn't super woman. If he wanted me to not be too tired all the time, I needed help. (this is when we had a 24 week micro preemie in the nicu and I was trying to pump around the clock every 2 hours and did this cycle for 6 months before we finally got the baby home) I just couldn't do everything, even if I tried. It was that moment in our relationship where he clicked and said "I don't need you to be a maid, I want you to be here to be a good…
/r/RedPillWives08/01/21 04:52 PM
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Now that I agree with. Society is trying to teach our men that it's bad to be leaders in relationships, because it's not what women want. Sadly, a good majority of women *do* want it and now we have to go through all the hoops of telling men it's okay to be leaders in healthy relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 01:53 PM
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There are a lot of men that like to see a powerful woman on their knees, willingly submitting to their authority, do not under estimate how powerful that might make a man feel to see someone so successful submit willing to their authority. The issue is, are you willing to trust a man enough to let him lead you, or will you think you always know better? My experience with dominant men, even the ones who appreciate women like you don't care about your bank account, or your house, or if you have sk…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 05:08 AM
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This is why I ended up dating an older, much more experienced and accomplished man. I can take care of myself, but he *wants* to take care of me, so I let him. He does it differently than I would take care of me, so the fact I submit to it makes him feel good. I sometimes struggle to accept that kind of affection, but remembering it makes him happy helps me submit anyways. I don't fake or pretend things I can't give him, he'd be cranky if I pretended or lied to him in those ways, and the longer …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 03:43 AM
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