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Fundamentals bodd619/r/seduction30/03/25 12:22 PM
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She has a boyfriend, that won't end well. Just find another girl that is single
/r/seduction09/12/25 01:41 PM
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I have a sort of scalation ladder that has worked for me so far, in a nutshell is seeing that she is comfortable with you increasing the "intensity" and proximity if your touch. For each, if you see that she backs up a bit then you back up for some minutes and then try again, if she is still hesitant or moving away you can't move forward until she is comfortable with that. So is something like this 1. Soft touch on her arm 2. Soft touch on her hands 3. Longer touch on her hands 4. Longer touch o…
/r/seduction22/04/25 10:07 AM
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That happens more often than you think, it's not that you are depressed or something, is just that your dopamine levels crash the day after and you feel yourself sad, empty or whatever bad feeling. The best way to overcome this is first of all realize that it's normal and that you just need sometime to get back to normal. Usually in my case what helps me when I feel this is sleep more, hydrate very well and getting some sun. Also when I realized this was happening more frequently I stopped going…
/r/seduction29/03/25 02:19 PM
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What do you mean talk daily but no luck? Have you told her directly "what are your expectations with our sex frequency?" If so, what has she said about it? There is no average number, for example for me the best number is around 5 to 6 times per week, for you that may be too much, for other too little, so that's why the best thing you can do is explicitly agree in something with her. If its not possible to do that then maybe you may have bigger communication issues
/r/seduction29/03/25 12:05 PM
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She is the only one that can give you that answer, talk openly about the topic with her and see what are her expectations and what can you do to fulfill them. For some people the right answer is everyday, for others could be once every week so just talk and find out what frequency can satisfy both of you
/r/seduction29/03/25 11:59 AM
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If she's giving you mixed signals let her go, not because of the first date but because you should not invest in someone who is not doing the same for you. If you want to give her a try just ask her out, then it's on her to accept or not but either way you will not over think it
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:52 PM
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Ask her out again. If she accepts it's a good sign, if not, move on. In case she accepts, don't over think what happened during the first date and just focus on fun and physical escalation
/r/seduction23/03/25 02:41 PM
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Ok man I understand and I see you are making lots of mistakes and I'm not referring to how you do the approach but the mindset you have and that's why the energy you are giving during the approach is odd which most likely will explain these reactions. You are seeking external validation (getting a girls approval by getting her number, a date or whatever) and that's the biggest mistake. Also I see that maybe you are not considering how is your sub communication which is even more important to wha…
/r/seduction13/03/25 06:45 AM
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Hey man I'm curious, why do you say bring treated like shit? And not getting a single date after 600? How are you usually approaching? (So where, at what time, how and what do you say?)
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:58 PM
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What's your mindset before doing it? And what's the outcome you are looking for when doing cold approach? Shit I would love to try in a bookstore but whenever I go i don't see any girl that is good looking haha
/r/seduction12/03/25 01:35 PM
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That's spot on! Smiling and just seeing her vibe, there's no point in extending an interaction if she is not interested. It depends but I'm 100% into day game, usually walking in the street, bus/tram stops or parks. What about you? Also, how do you deal with anxiety now? In my case if I pass more than 2 or 3 weeks without approaching I feel a bit of approach anxiety but it dissappears after the second approach.
/r/seduction12/03/25 12:06 PM
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That's for sure one of the hardest ones. What's your view on the impact of your energy on the first reaction? I see it as a mirror, if you feel genuinely good she will feel that and most likely will react positively to the approach even if not interested but if you feel bad, she will mirror that energy as well
/r/seduction11/03/25 08:49 PM
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I'd say the starting point depends on your current level, first determine what makes you nervous and what can you do normally For example something like this was what I did to get rid of approach anxiety. I realized asking for directions was good for me so I started doing since level #3 you but you get the idea, all of this is with women ofc and i did it until I felt really comfortable doing all Ask for directions and leave Ask for directions, make a comment and leave Make a compliment (not phys…
/r/seduction10/03/25 09:00 PM
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As she said it was going too fast just evaluate her investment towards you, how often she suggests plans, how often she calls you, how she treats you in general and see how it goes for 1 more month, then you could just tell her "I really like how our connection is evolving, you should be my girlfriend", if she is genuinely excited she will say yes but if after 3 months of non exclusive dating she is not ready or says no then you have to move on. There's no issue on being clear with her on what t…
/r/seduction13/02/25 03:47 PM
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I see your point and I agree on the tease, not like busting your mind on "oh how can I tease her" but more on enjoying the conversation and just playfully challenge her. One thing I always do with compliments is not framing it as "oh I'm amazed by xyz" but more "oh I like xyz, you won 1 point" as this framing is more you qualifying her rather than you qualifying to her so you'll be the chooser 100% and she will want to gain your approval. However expressing what you like about her is also good t…
/r/seduction09/02/25 05:26 PM
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I don't agree with this. While a girl like that will be used to hear compliments all the time (especially on her physique) that doesn't mean you can't genuinely tell her something you like about her. Compliments in fact are needed to build a man to woman connection. The difference is (and maybe it's related to what you say) the motivation. Are you seeking her approval? Or are you genuinely expressing something you like about her?
/r/seduction09/02/25 05:05 PM
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Compliment her on something you genuinely like about her and on something she actually put her effort in, her vibe, her style, any random fact she shares, any view she has on life. The more specific the better and more importantly that you actually feel what you are saying, otherwise she could sense you are being just fake nice
/r/seduction09/02/25 02:19 PM
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Sexual tension is created more with your vibe and body language rather than with words. You could say some simple shit and still create good sexual tension if your vibe is right, have strong eye contact and are present on the moment
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:06 PM
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Even if he is a 5 and hitting in 10s after 400 approaches he must have learned something. Even after 10 you start seeing patterns.
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:04 PM
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Approach her inside the cafe when you think she is not very busy, say something simple like "Hey I've seen you a couple of times and you always give me a good vibe so I wanted to say hi". Then make some small talk about what she us doing, what you do, etc. If she is open and receptive try to find a common activity you both enjoy (coffee, cocktails, dinner, etc) and if she is still open just suggest that you should do that activity sometime. If she agrees, grab her number and you are done in that…
/r/seduction21/01/25 05:29 PM
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The fact that you approach women like OP IS suggesting will automatically make yourself better, approaching women like this not only improves de facto your social skills but increases a lot your confidence even if you don't get the results you are looking for at the beginning
/r/seduction13/01/25 03:12 PM
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So I would suggest you this -Dance a bit more with other women rather than with her and approach her at the end of the event, just be mindful of not allowing her to get close to other men because if other one gets ahead then everything goes to shit that day -When you dance with her, have super strong eye contact, smile and be present (just this literally would do the work). Have small talk about any non logical stuff, something that always works for me when i cant make a non logical topic is "wh…
/r/seduction09/12/24 08:54 PM
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Make your verbal intentions casual but flirt with your body by having strong eye contact, smiling, having light physical touch and teasing her in a playful way with some push pull. Don't be overly friendly and if there is vibe at the end just ask her out lightly like "you seem fun, we should go out for a drink sometime". If she accepts, grab her number, set up logistics and during the date is where you'll be direct. If you flirt well she'll know your intentions are not purely platonic and in set…
/r/seduction08/12/24 03:21 PM
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Just ask her out straight away with very low investment, first soft close, then hard First say something like "Hey it was fun meeting you yesterday, let's go for a drink one of these days". If she is interested she will say yes, then you just hard close by saying "cool, would (day 1) at 8pm or (day 2) at 9pm work? Then you just set up the logistics and that's it. Try to set up the date for max 2 or 3 days and don't text that much in between, just to confirm the day before and the day of the date…
/r/seduction08/12/24 01:56 PM
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That's a polite form of rejection, maybe she was just being friendly, move on and if you see her again say hi super casual as with other person, be kind but don't engage long and that's it. You already displayed interest and she stopped you so if she is interested, it's on her now but very unlikely to happen.
/r/seduction15/10/24 12:25 PM
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