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I was going through a really rough time at my first job. I was not getting along with my manager, we had poor communication and I never felt like I knew what the expectations were because everything I did was not up to her standards or incorrect. I hated going to work. I would get anxious and upset before leaving the house in the morning. My bf at the time would drive all the way to my job to have lunch with me. I never asked him to do that and at the time I didn’t really think too much of it, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:07 PM
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But that’s the thing they are simply not being ruthless! I keep seeing posts about shit scrotes say and it’s a whole conversation these women are entertaining. They even meet up these fools when they should’ve never even gotten to that point. This should be strongly discouraged according to FDS own principles but it’s not and I’m trying to figure out where the disconnect is? Apparently my hatred for NVM runs deeper than it does for majority of the user base lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:32 PM
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You said what I wanted to say much more succinctly and clearly than I did. I don’t feel like we need to be SEARCHING for a partner. Maybe I read a different handbook or something because I thought the vetting strategies were to be used to make sure that any man approaching you that you want to give a chance, isn’t hiding or covering NV traits? I didn’t know we were meant to use them to actively search for a man, (especially on dating apps of all places) given the painstaking effort this communit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:00 PM
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Why do you need a man to have a family? You can adopt kids, foster them, be a motherly figure to the children in your life that need one, get together with your friends to raise children together. My child and I are a happy little family of two and I have reached the point where I am okay not growing my family. I would love nothing more than to meet a wonderful caring man who would be a positive role model to my child, who would grow to love him like his own child and adopt him. am I gonna be sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:14 PM
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Thank your for this insightful comment, this explains the radical transformation I underwent by following FDS. You are right it’s not strategy but a whole new philosophy on how to navigate interactions with men in general, not just on a romantic level. I have definitely made so many mistakes in dating and it’s unfortunate to know that if I had been clueless enough to post my mistakes online for the world to see I would be getting dragged instead of being led to FDS mindset that honestly saved my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 02:51 PM
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Exactly!! Like as a woman you hold all the power, you don’t need to claim you’re single or put yourself out there to be harassed and degraded by men by joining a dating app, to find a man to be with. I mean you can if you don’t care for the quality of man. But I thought it was a universal agreement in this community that most men of quality are not dating apps and they are out living their best lives waiting to run into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 02:35 PM
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I’m trying to say how it’s useless because I found him off pure dumb luck. Out of 100 men I’ve met online, 1 was good and the other 99 were pure trash. Not only were they LVM but they were actively harmful. The handbook supports and validated my experience. So I don’t understand how people are reading the handbook that supports this view and still using it to find a HVM? I stopped OLD years before I ever found this subreddit and came to this conclusion on my own. I thought women on here would mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 02:28 PM
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I disagree here. For me step 1 is to block and delete every man who has ever mistreated you, wasted your time, lead you on, lied or harmed you physically or psychologically. If you can’t even do that, do you even believe that you deserve better if you’re unwilling to take that small step for yourself and revoke access to your energy from people who don’t value it? Blocking and deleting is super basic strategy that everyone here should be practicing if they are really implementing FDS principles.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:09 AM
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My thought was to have a daily roast a scrote thread to keep it all in one place if you’re feeling like a little man bashing lol. honestly though I’m starting to get the vibe I’m a little too radical towards how anti male I am and this is not what FDS was about. I thought we were fighting the patriarchy by denying LVM attention and sex to birth a new female dominated society that only rewards kind, empathetic male protectors and providers with sex and offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:14 AM
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Maybe I am in disagreement with FDS that we should be actively dating because that encourages online dating. in this day and age everything, including human interaction, is online. I feel like dating apps being seen like gambling is even too generous. The odds of finding a HVM are just pretty much nonexistent it’s not even worth betting on. And I’m saying this as someone who did find an HVM on tinder. He spent all of college studying and had no idea how to meet women so his friends downloaded ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:08 AM
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I am unfortunately attracted to men so I need to learn how to deal with them! That’s why I’m here. I feel like a lot of users here underestimate how dangerous men are to women collectively, they just want to take their anger out on the men who wronged them. I appreciate this community’s principles and attitudes regarding how a woman should deal with men. I think there is a subset of users that don’t enforce those principles as strictly in their own lives and end up posting here. It just hasn’t c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:30 AM
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So I do kind of agree with your last point as an early point in the journey. But I get frustrated with this subreddit specifically because a majority of the user base is Western/US and we have so much power in society compared to women in other cultures/countries. I remember a user here posted a couple weeks ago about living in her Muslim country and the rampant sexism. I just could not fathom that being my lived reality, even as bad as I’ve been harassed and abused by men. Women are complaining…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:20 AM
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Doubtful. They hate that women exist and we refuse to give them sex, love, and tend to all their domestic needs. The ones who don’t get laid or any attention from women end up committing these mass shootings. This is only going to increase the more women start rejecting porn addicted, under/unemployed men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:20 PM
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I just got a new male coworker who is married and I get vibes that he might have a crush on me 🙄 he asked to call me by my nickname which thinking about it now, no one at work calls me it. He’s older than me and calls me “my dear.” He offered to cook for me once so I could try food from his culture. It all seems innocuous but I notice it is a little different from my relationship with my former coworker who held his same position. We became close after a while and talked a little more about pers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:09 AM
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I can’t read that subreddit anymore, most of the posts are women slowly coming to the realization that they are being emotionally/verbally/financially abused. I don’t know which pains me more, the women not realizing they’re in an abusive relationship or the commenters trying to justify the abusers actions. It’s even more heartbreaking when most of the comments are pointing out the red flags and OP doubles down on their spouse’s behavior and you know they won’t be getting out of that relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:44 AM
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This is why I don’t give men the time of day. They say hello, ignore. The ask me a question that I’m not getting paid to answer, ignore. They compliment me, ignore. They all think like this to some degree. They’re not as hateful as some of these are (“fuck her like you want to end her life” is seriously unhinged), but all we are to them are living sex dolls & maids. Society has promised them that they are entitled to sex and love from a woman solely because they’ve been born with a dick. a small…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:22 AM
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When I was in college I worked at a fast food restaurant on campus which meant serving drunk ass college students. It was the worst. I remember one guy asking for my number and I said no. He refused to move and was holding up the line. My manager yelled at ME asking why I was taking so long with the customer and I said he wouldn’t move. So this man moves off to the side and takes out his phone and just holds it out for me to put my number in it. He stood there for a good 15 minutes insisting tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:57 AM
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I’m sorry this happened to you! I don’t think you did anything wrong, I think you did a lot right: rolled up your window to signal the end of the conversation, waited for him to leave first, checking to make sure you weren’t followed. But you gave him way too much info, those questions were super creepy and he was definitely tryna pin your movements down so he could “bump into you” again. Please don’t go back there or at least wait a good while before you do. Please don’t blame yourself either, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:03 AM
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Exactly! it just screams complete disregard for the safety of the women and children around them. I’ve even seen some that blur out the kids face which is like I GUESS but even then, what was the reason?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:15 AM
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The one that kills me is when they have one picture with a kid and they write a whole disclaimer in the bio “kid isn’t mine haha it’s my nephew.” Like if you didn’t wanna give off single dad vibes then post a picture without a child in it??? Even before i was a parent I still never posted pictures of me with children on my dating profile lol it’s just so weird to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:19 AM
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If he lives with you he needs to be out TODAY. Not only is this your home but it’s also your kids home! I bet they aren’t comfortable with all this drama going on so you need to end this for their sake if not for your own. If his name isn’t on the lease you don’t need to give him time to look for a place. He said he can’t wait to never see you again so fine, pack his shit for him, set it outside and call a lock smith to change the locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:47 AM
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The fact that you have kids should make you start planning that exit ASAP. Kids are sponges who imitate what the adults around them DO and not what they say. You did a good job not tolerating the cheating from their father. You showed them that no one deserves to be disrespected like that and you shouldn’t put up with it. You need to do it again, and again, and yet again until you find the right guy who’s going to be a positive role model. You need to model for your son that low value behavior f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:42 AM
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there was this really popular Twitter account @emoblackthot that did a reveal after years of concealing their identity and ended up being a man. all the women were pissed cause apparently they led an all-women group chat where a lot of the participants posted their nudes. I think it was even revealed that Lil Nas X had something to do with it, that he knew the person behind the account was a man or something like that back in his Barb days. It was really sickening how they would tweet about PMS …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:33 AM
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I used to be a J. Cole fan but honestly not anymore after analyzing some of his lyrics with respect to how he talks about women. Great story teller but, just look up the lyrics to “Dreams” off The Warm Up mixtape. I think this was written un-ironically but a great look into male delusion and how they get obsessed with women. Writes about this same person on Power Trip, which shows no growth and progression in his emotional intelligence. Also see “Dollar and a Dream II” to hear how about how men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:36 PM
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Going to disagree about J Cole, he made a song defending that clout chasing loser tekashi 69. He got so booty hurt that Noname (female rapper) called out all the male rappers for claiming to be conscious but don’t speak up or support protests against police brutality. He still felt some type of way to make a song about her (Snow tha bluff) even after freely admitting he doesn’t read. Here’s an article that talks about this drama between them: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/amphtml/natalieharmsen/j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:01 PM
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A lot of music has become unbearable to listen to honestly. The songs written by women are full of pick me propaganda, either encouraging being a hoe or forgiving a man for all his bullshit. The men are misogynistic af and even if it’s a love song, it still gives love bombing narcissist vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:32 PM
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In my experience as a Latina, the car guys in my culture are either older guys who work at the auto shop 24/7 and drink all damn day. Especially the diesel mechanics. Or they’re the type to have the well maintained classic car, participate in car clubs and be a little more flashy. An old landlord of mine was a mechanic at a luxury car dealership, he was an attractive single dad who owned the 3 flat and lived there too so it was always well maintained. I don’t recall ever having a problem with an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:28 AM
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Just ghost him. I know you’re not trying to hear this, but if he can’t be bothered to send one single uber for you to come to his place all of these times, then he doesn’t care all that much about you. He doesn’t care that this bothers you either. He probably won’t care when you do ghost him. It has nothing to do with you though, so please don’t internalize this behavior! he’s just an inconsiderate ass that doesn’t deserve your attention and will do it to the next woman. Whenever a man asks to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:54 AM
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It really sucks that most of my hobbies are related to home-making. I’m very into cooking, baking, and reading up on cleaning/organizing hacks to maintain a cleaning routine. I collect clay cookware & dishes made in my home country and i am teaching myself to cook all of the traditional recipes from scratch. Ive realized i can’t let men know about any of this though. Even showing a pic of what i had for dinner is too much cause they say dumb shit like “you made that?!” Then when i say yes they’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:37 PM
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I’m so sorry your friend is going through that! Girls can really be so vicious when they’re fighting for a low value man’s attention. I think the first thing that will help your friend a lot is to reassure her you don’t believe her roommate and friends and you believe her, which it seems like you’ve already done. Just keep reminding her that you’re there for her and spend a little more time with her than you normally would. Hold firm on your boundaries and don’t let these friends turn you agains…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 01:47 PM
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Even worse, that usually means he’s not involved in his kids lives but gets a tattoo to make it seem like he’s a devoted father. I’m sure his baby mama be dying for him to throw her some money for the kids and he goes to spend it on a tattoo. I’ve seen this happen so many times so it’s a no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:32 PM
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Oh okay I see now. well then if she follows every other rule then her view on this is probably due to lack of life experience! For most women who don’t practice FDS it makes sense that you would move in with a boyfriend to show that you’re committed, you’re taking your relationship to the next level by cohabitating. We’ve been conditioned to believe that modern dating involves moving in together to practice being a married couple. It takes a lot to undo that programming, so just give her some ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:12 AM
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They think it protects them from demons like bro YOU are the demon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:55 AM
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Honestly the more you try to convince them, the more they double down on the pick me behavior. With friends like that, I adopt an “if you like it, I love it” mindset if I know they aren’t receptive. I kinda just let them vent and smile and nod and agree with everything they say/do. If you’re not capable of emotionally detaching enough to take this approach, then I would just tell her nicely that you don’t want to discuss her relationship because you both have very different views on dating in ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:45 AM
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Maybe if she’s dead lol but I feel like most guys who tattoo their mom’s name on them have serious mommy issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:07 PM
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Lmfao every toxic man I have dealt with has this tattoo. Living so immorally and breaking every single one of the 10 commandments, but has religious iconography permanently inked on his body. IMO its just a visual representation of typical male cognitive dissonance and hypocrisy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:37 PM
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Neck tattoo especially if it’s a woman’s lips or her name. tattoos of any woman’s name even if it’s his mamas name. Specifically for Latino men: tattoos of Aztec warriors/women or a rosary/prayer hands. Any tattoos with basic man hoe phrases like “fuck love” on his knuckles, trust none, no regrets, only god can judge me, etc. Most face tattoos tbh. Unless he is a tattoo artist, most of them are gang related. Tattoos that look shitty in general means he probably got them when he was underage or b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:50 PM
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Thank you for validating my experience and feelings, it really does help immensely. Even now reading all the comments, a part of me still questions if it was abuse and not just apathy. I keep telling myself he doesn’t deserve the benefit of the doubt either way, he still did what he did and he never atoned for it so the motivation behind it is meaningless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:30 PM
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I fucking wish I had them so I could warn other women in my area about this loser!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:17 PM
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Back in college I had a date with a man who failed to mention he was a wheelchair user. I even did the pre-screen FaceTime date and he still catfished me!!! He had full body pics of himself on his profile but I never realized that they were all of him sitting. I show up to our date and I’m looking around for him, and then I feel someone come up next to me and I look down to see dude in his wheelchair. I felt like it would be ableist to be upset and walk out of the date so I continued it. It was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:12 PM
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Oh he had me so well trained I started gaslighting myself into thinking I was overreacting. I still have a text where I went off on him, then hours later I went back to apologize because “it’s just a stupid pot and I’m overreacting, love you.” He ignored the first text telling him off but immediately replied to the one where I apologized. It’s embarrassing and pathetic to look back at now but I was completely under his spell and i mean that in the worst way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:56 PM
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When I was dating my ex my mom bought me a really beautiful cookware set for Christmas. Half the set is gone because he threw out a lot of it. He would cook, let the food cake on or get moldy, then he would throw it away instead of washing it. This is one of the things he did that still hurts for some reason. He knew that set was a gift from my mom. He would blame me too saying “I told you I was gonna throw this away and you said okay.” He would make me feel crazy for getting so upset every time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:09 PM
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As a plus size woman I can’t tell you how many men hit me up thinking I’ll be an easy lay. Honestly about 90% of them treat me like that. So many of them harp on and on, completely unprovoked, about how much they love big girls and “I don’t need to be shy or embarrassed” “you’re beautiful just the way you are.” They treat me like a dirty secret. One guy that I “dated” aka stupid situationship, strung me along for a solid year. Let me cook for him, had plenty of sex with me, even introduced me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:31 AM
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The easiest way for you to not get caught up in supporting a man who’s leveling up, is to focus on your own life and your own goals. You’re already planning too much of your future based on the moves your bf makes and things can change so easily. His job prospects could have him moving to different places and it’s often expected that us women are the ones who need to compromise or sacrifice our careers and lives for our spouses. And even if things do work out you should still always have your ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:47 AM
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First off, you are too young to be thinking about this imo. Also you seem a little too invested. He’s young and just starting off in his career. When men become successful they often don’t stay with the woman who supports them while they’re coming up. They dump her when they realize they have access to more money and more women. So keep that in mind while thinking about your future together. Don’t move in together unless you’re married. Not engaged, MARRIED. He should be putting up the down paym…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:00 AM
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I read a post on AITA about this woman asking if she’s an asshole for putting puppy pads around the toilet because she was tired of cleaning up her boyfriends piss off the floor because he would never aim properly. Naturally he was being a big fucking baby about it. She tried cOmMunIcaTInG with him about it and it was her very last resort to get him to stop doing that. I’m sure he never stopped either. That’s the difference between dogs and men— you can actually train dogs to listen to you and c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:44 PM
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Communication is useless when the other party is not receptive to you and what you’re saying. If they don’t respect you, you can cOmMuNiCaTe until you’re blue in the face but things won’t improve. They’ll do the apology and “i promise to do better” song and dance, but no real immediate and concrete changes will occur. Most times you end up getting gaslit, or they will derail the convo to bring up a host of other situations where you failed to communicate, ignoring your current attempt to express…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:46 PM
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Sorry girl but I don’t think it works like that. Men will manipulate you with honesty and make you think he is trustworthy because he was forthcoming about his porn habit. You told him in so many words that this is a boundary he can cross because you would excuse a “relapse” as long as he’s open about it. If he thinks he can live without porn then why would there be a relapse? Now next time you do catch him watching porn (which you will) you don’t even have a leg to stand on, because YOU said th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:18 AM
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Probably cause they’re used to their mothers making the appointment for them and forcing them to go. It’s honestly super frustrating how they bitch and moan and the slightest ailment but do not go to the doctor for it. I don’t know any man whatsoever who visits his PCP regularly and follows up with specialty care. They don’t even go to the dentist twice a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 12:52 AM
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Captivate by Vanessa van Edwards talks a lot about this, it’s a great book that talks about micro expressions and using them to your advantage when socializing or networking. The eBook is on YouTube as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:00 PM
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Women are multidimensional beings. You can dress as sexy as you want and still be smart, powerful and command respect. Obviously there is a time and a place for certain attire but most women know that all too well. If a man would disrespect me for the amount of skin I’m showing I don’t want or need his respect. Dressing conservatively to command men’s respect is still pandering to the male gaze. I wholeheartedly reject that for myself. Glad this works for you but this isn’t for every woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:50 PM
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i yelled at “take a another toke from the hopium pipe” 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:13 AM
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I somewhat agree with you. I think men from the motherland still have a lot of toxic machismo to work through. First generation Latinos are more likely to reject some of those masculine stereotypes, but it’s a very fine line to walk. some of them go the other extreme into completely rejecting the breadwinner role but not stepping it up in the domestic realm. The Latino men of my generation at least are just as patriarchal as their fathers with none of the work ethic or shame at being unable to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:33 AM
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Very true! My old best guy friend in high school/college is studying to be a doctor. He r***d me on my 21st birthday. He killed his pet rat because he didn’t want it anymore. He justified cheating on his gf because “I’m gonna marry her anyways so I’m allowed to have my fun.” He was addicted to porn too. Unfortunately nothing has been a barrier for him getting into medical school. I am patiently plotting my revenge by waiting until he becomes a doctor to report him to his licensing board and hope…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:51 PM
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That text example was too accurate, especially the part where the narc says “I’m going through some things but it will be over soon.” My narc ex would say this All. The. Time. He claimed to have some issue with his private part that I personally NEVER saw or even knew what he was talking about, but for him it was so vital to have it fixed. He went to the doctor for it once way before I met him and according to him the cure was exercise and more sex. He grabbed ahold of that like his life depende…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:08 PM
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Completely understand!! I work remotely too and I realized I have gotten to a point where I’m like “make sure you change out of yesterdays shirt before your meeting.” I know my mental health is slipping when I let go of my appearance and you reminded me not to forget to love on myself, so thank you and don’t you forget it either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:29 PM
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Hmmm, honestly I’m torn. I had a glow up from high school to college and a lot of my male classmates who actually bullied me suddenly wanted to get to know me and hang out with me. BUT, I do understand that changing my lifestyle—eating healthier, exercising regularly, dressing up more, being less socially awkward, working through my mental health issues and developing a more positive outlook on life—would attract a different kind of guy. most of my blasts from the pasts are complete scrotes thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:12 PM
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Yay! Make sure you wear this sexy lingerie ASAP. Don’t save it for a special occasion or for your bf. Upgrade your sleepwear to a nice babydoll or matching pajama set with a silk robe and wear them to bed to channel your inner goddess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:58 PM
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I know this is not encouraged by FDS but what I do is ask for their number. I play up the flirtiness and if they ask for my number I say something like “how about I take yours down?” they’re too dumb so they feel flattered that you want their number. I then make an excuse like “I’m in a rush but I’ll text you in a bit” “my friend just texted me that she needs rescuing, g2g.” And I just never get around to texting them and delete their numbers soon thereafter. I have found this to be the safest a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:18 PM
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My ex tried stalking me only once after I blocked him. he drove 10 miles to my house in the worst snowstorm we had all winter, to bang on my door at midnight to let him see the baby after I blocked his number and told him to leave me alone. The reason he never tried it again is because I: a) alerted everyone I knew via social media that I was being stalked and if anything happened to me my baby dad did it. Not sure if this is a good idea but I also told my boss about it. I was extremely worried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:05 PM
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I would’ve wrote down his name and looked him up to report him to his medical licensing board. I don’t know if that would do anything but that’s super unethical behavior to engage in while on a work trip no less. Men really ain’t shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 02:54 AM
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when it seems a little too perfect: when they ask about an interest or hobby of yours and they somehow LOVE it too. You share similar circumstances “I’m a single mom” “oh what a coincidence I’m a single dad too” it could be genuine but men who wear masks are empty inside, so they are just mirroring you and saying whatever they need to say to get you emotionally invested and vulnerable. repeatedly saying how they’ve never met anyone like you, you’re so different, they’ve never felt this way befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:55 AM
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So basically you used tinder like a man LOL except they rarely get any matches back, so it’s astonishing how they manage to talk themselves out of some vagina within the first 10 messages 😂 I use the opposite strategy where if I’m not even attracted to them at a passing glance they get an automatic left. Pre-FDS i compromised my standards wayyy too much with “well he’s not my type but we are intellectually compatible so let’s give it a shot.” Both ugly and hot guys are equally shitty so imma ind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:20 AM
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Damn how long did it take you to get to 100 matches? My left to right swipe ratio was about 20:1. Last time I used OLD I lasted one week. Out of like 100 swipes I matched with 5. I got bored when the convo and unmatched 2. 2 eliminated themselves asking for sex too soon. The one I did go on 2 dates with got too comfortable and stopped texting me back, stopped planning dates after the 3rd one so I blocked him too and closed my account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:22 PM
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even pre-FDS I enjoyed bruising a man’s ego and ruining his self esteem😂. Whenever they’d ask if I came all I say is “if you have to ask…” most of them got so embarrassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:58 PM
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Having my child was the only thing that convinced me to leave my abuser and led me to take action. I was subjected to so much trauma thanks to my mom letting shitty men stay in her life. I thought I had escaped my narc dads verbal abuse and palpable shame he felt toward his fat nerdy daughter by moving with my mom, but instead I was just molested by my stepdad me all through my tween/teen year. my mom didnt do anything about it, even when she caught him watching me take a shower. I was forced to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:21 PM
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Your last point is what keeps me up at night—what will happen to my baby if I die? His NVDad hasn’t asked about him in months now, so if I die my son would be raised by someone who is a complete stranger to him. I regret ever having a child with my ex, for one he didn’t deserve the precious gift of me carrying his child for him only to turn out to be a deadbeat father. I knew that shit was going south when my ex let me go to my dads wedding by myself when I was 8 months pregnant. I didn’t give a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:44 PM
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Yikes I’m sorry you went through that but I cringed so hard with your use of the r-word throughout this comment. If you’re as smart as you claim you’d understand why that word is offensive and retire it from your vocabulary .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:41 PM
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I made a post and lots of women commented with their strategies for running background checks on men, hopefully this helps! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ps1999/strategies_for_running_background_checks_on_men/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:58 PM
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Here are two of mine that I use: What’s the first dish you learned to cook? Then I follow up with: what’s your favorite dish to cook? Usually they can answer the first question, but if they give a vague answer or something basic af like chicken Alfredo or tilapia and rice for the follow up, i know that they haven’t invested any time learning to cook for themselves and being a responsible adult. If their answers are the same for both it tells me they don’t have a growth mindset. I don’t expect th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:39 PM
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According to Bancroft they make up a high percentage of the male population. He states that narcissists are not born, they are made due to their values being corrupted at an early age. Our image and porn obsessed society cultivates a lot of narcissistic values and rewards those who embrace them. Bancroft’s says that naming and shaming the abuse and changing societal values as a whole by ostracizing abusers is really the only way to get an abuser to change. They are not self motivated to do so si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 06:22 PM
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Oh my god that’s so crazy but I’m so glad you were there to help her! That could’ve ended so terribly for her. Us women really only have each other to lean on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 06:16 PM
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Wow you just read my baby dad. This is exactly how he would act. He would retreat behind stoicism and act like I was crazy and childish for not being calm and collected like he was. In reality he just had no empathy, he was never sorry that he hurt me and never had any intention of changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:22 PM
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I recently re-read old texts between my ex and I was so disappointed in myself. I clearly articulated my problem, why I was upset, and what he could do to change. Then to see how he would just ignore everything I said and twist the entire narrative to make everything my fault. I let him get into my mind and make me doubt myself and my feelings. It sickened me to see this amongst the sweet I love you and good morning texts. I’m not even sure how he managed to convince me every time to take him ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:46 PM
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Trust your instincts, if you think they might respond poorly or your ex would find out and hurt them, then I would avoid. But if you even have the tiniest inkling of “maybe I should reach out,” I’d encourage you to try. Even if you don’t get a response at least you planted the seed in their minds that they will hopefully remember the next time they are being abused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:12 PM
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Not gonna lie I had to work through a lot of my own jealousy and insecurity before I could even reach out. When I finally put a face to her name i became deeply insecure once I seen how beautiful she was. I had it in mind that of course he cheated on me with her, obviously he never found me attractive if that’s the type of woman he’s used to dating. Even now sometimes I feel like I couldn’t match up to her physical beauty and that my ex was punishing me for that. But after some time I realized h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:02 PM
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Sounds like a guy who I met on Bumble that took me on a date and then told me he’d be unreachable because he was going on vacation with his family. I realized after some days that he had blocked me which I thought was weird, but after doing some digging I found out that he used a fake name on Bumble, married (told me he was a single dad), and we went on the date the day of his daughters baptism smh. The going MIA for two weeks is very suspicious and so is the late night texts—this guy would text…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:54 AM
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I just don’t bring it up anymore unless I’m asked specifically and I feel that they wouldn’t brush me off as a man hater. My mom is super male identified and an enabler, so I don’t bother discussing those topics anymore. I only bring up FDS with my bestie, but I’m not invested in getting her to change her mind. She agrees with a lot of things in principle and uses FDS when engaging with men online, but still has a LV boyfriend and watches porn. She doesn’t try to sabotage me when I tell her abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:26 PM
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I met first ever bf who I thought was a good boyfriend on tinder and had a coffee date. I set up my tinder profile for a job listing for full time bf and he was the only one that answered every prompt correctly. After talking a bit he asked me to check out a coffee shop with him, not too soon after matching but definitely expressed interest in meeting me soon. He paid for my coffee and pastry, we chatted for maybe like an hour or two getting to know each other. We were college students so it was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:12 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story. It’s great that you have come to this conclusion so young. I grew up as the bigger girl so I never had any attention from boys while growing up. I would get asked out on dares from asshole boys in my classes. Boys would be really nice to me just so I could hook them up with my best friends. I was a late bloomer so it wasn’t until around 18-19 when I went to college, most men became taller than me, I lost some weight and being curvy became more acceptable so men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:00 AM
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I don’t like this because it reminds me of how my ex would treat me. He used to tell me things like “you should be grateful I put up with you,” like he genuinely thought he should be patted on the back for sticking around during difficult moments (that he caused) and this gives me a little bit of that vibe. Like why is he “silently irate” vs mildly annoyed? Why is he even annoyed at all? Most people can’t sing but he describes her singing as “can’t carry a tune if it had handles.” Like yeah dude…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:36 PM
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Stoicism/Marcus Aurelius, Joe Rogan, Robert Greene, evolutionary biology/psychology, Wim Hof/Alex Honnold/obsession with other athletes who perform record breaking feats, lots of men who are into boxing and UFC tend to be toxic, Most organized sports but especially American football. A lot of toxic men use playing chess as a hobby to appear like they have intellectual pursuits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:44 AM
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I have no idea how to do spoiler tags but spoilers ahead: I think they nailed Seong Gi-hun’s portrayal of the low value male we often talk about on this subreddit. Living off his momma, broke, a shitty dad, addicted to gambling. It would’ve been funny except it was so painful to see because of how accurate it was. Same with Sang woo making bad investments with his moms business as collateral. Reminds me of the male narcissist obsessed with his image but really is a failure to launch—so they lie …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:14 AM
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Some things my first bf would do that I considered high value: very compassionate towards the women in his life: he sent me a very sweet international woman’s day text saying that he respects and admires me for being strong throughout all the BS I put up with just existing as a woman and that women should be appreciated everyday, not just on that day. He did not shy away from choosing female characters in video games. He was very caring towards his sister who suffered from depression and he woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:28 AM
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I agree with you! I just think there are probably some women who visit this sub who aren’t there yet mentally. It’s probably the same ones who posts stuff about male depravity cause they aren’t at the point where they’ve stopped giving a shit about men entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:17 PM
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True I am here for the dating strategies and how to vet men, but sometimes some of these posts about the shitty things men do or the stuff pickme’s put up with seems counter productive. Like what do we gain from criticizing these abused women? We already know these men aren’t gonna change until women deny them sex en masse so posting the awful stuff they do doesn’t do anything either. I wish there could be like a daily man bashing thread or a pick me hall of shame thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:14 PM
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No need to be sorry! as horrible as it was I learned something crucial about myself. Being with him unlocked so many things for me, realizing that my dad was a narcissist too (even worse), and where my childhood trauma and my current emotional dysfunction comes from. I hate that I had a child with him but my baby honestly saved my life 🥺—saved me from falling into that dark hole with my ex and becoming my mom, my sisters, my aunts, and all the other woman who let these abusive men completely ext…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:58 AM
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I’m new to this sub and I agree that I would like to see less about men. I feel like the ultimate goal should be de-centering men completely from our lives to truly embody FDS standards. I feel like a lot of women might not be there yet, and that the goal is still “how to find a HVM” or how to become a HVW to find him. Not knocking the women who are still there but I’m past that phase and I need something a little more. I’m here to learn how to tap into my feminine intuition and free my mind fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:45 AM
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I suspect my ex was a narcissist because how obsessed he is with his appearance and how people perceive him. He really is a black hole of self loathing. Despite how much he flaunted how attractive women found him, he still didn’t have shit going for him and i think some part of him deep down was aware of it—hence the lying to escape the truth of his life and the verbal abuse to make himself feel superior to people who actually are better people than he is. Now that I’m out from the emotional fog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:24 AM
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Shave. I stopped shaving my legs like 10 years ago. nowadays I only shave armpits when I want to & I don’t even care about wearing tank tops with hairy pits. I never shave my pubic area, I’m not about to suffer from ingrown hairs for a man’s viewing pleasure or for his stupid idea of “sexy.” I like mine with hair, it makes me feel like a grown ass woman, it’s there for protection. It’s stupid that men are allowed to have hairy backs and ass cracks, unkempt beards and untrimmed pubes and nobody t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:56 AM
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I realized that my ex was jealous and a hater and he was incapable of loving me because he has no self love. I suspect my ex is a narcissist because he places heavy emphasis on his looks and constantly degraded me saying he settled for me because he was depressed but if he weren’t he would’ve never had a kid with me (that statement alone is just so telling now that I have a clearer mind). Despite being attractive (he really ain’t all that tbh), he is still a failure to launch—still lives at home…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:27 PM
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Is this the same husband who picks his wife’s Afro and paints her nails? I love them so much, she is such a queen and you can tell he’s still absolutely smitten by her after all these years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:25 AM
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Women surpass men in just about every metric except for physical strength. Doing the heavy lifting is the least these useless males can do. I use it as a way to vet men—if he is okay with seeing you struggle with lifting something physically it means you’re also going to be carrying the mental, emotional, financial, and logistical load of the relationship and he is always going to offload his share of the burden onto you. I will always give men my heavy bags/items to carry and their reaction it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:56 PM
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Thank you for this post! This is so well-explained and this gave me the words for similar feelings Ive had about breakups and closure. Also I really appreciate you providing corrective actions. The over explaining and breaking up then getting back together really resonates. I reread some old texts with my ex where I would explain why I was breaking up with him, recall all the times I asked him to change and he didn’t listen. Now that I see with a clearer mind I’m just like why did I ever bother?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:50 PM
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Appreciate you taking the time to reply! You are right about compatibility vs interest, it’s taken me way too long to understand that. As far as why I feel sad and lonely…I’m sure some subconscious part of me uses them for validation. They take up more space in my thoughts than they do my actual time. I think it’s just that I have a lot on my plate, I’m very stressed out and I would like to have someone who loves me and does nice things for me because he wants to and appreciates how hard I work.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:28 PM
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I cut off all the men I’ve ever dated. I cleaned out my contact list and my friends list on all my social media, forced some of these other men to unfollow me, and blocked the ones who hit me up every now and then. I’m supposed to feel relieved and happy, but I just feel lonely and sad. Especially cutting off the one guy who I was very compatible with personality-wise but he wasn’t putting in enough effort to text/call me regularly. I realized I deserve more effort and I honestly made a mistake …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:09 PM
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I’m so confused on how she thinks being in a relationship while hiding a marriage for 4 years isn’t cheating??? One of my rules is that I’ll won’t date a divorced man unless the ink on the divorce papers is completely dry. Not “separated but the divorce is ongoing,” not “im saving up money for a lawyer,” none of that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:51 PM
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I posted this song because I thought that the lyrics promote the FDS philosophy. Bonus tip: play this song in front of a man and see how he reacts. My HV ex was even triggered by this song. Always remember that no man is big enough for your arms ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:08 PM
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I’m trying to embody your energy so don’t change! I wish I didn’t care about wanting affection or to be partnered. I think you are just so content within yourself and in your own company and your subconscious is protecting you from anyone who would want to diminish your light, by making you completely uninterested in men. This attitude, this effortless enforcement of boundaries and living only for yourself, makes you very powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:35 PM
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I totally can relate on the NV brother too. I always side with my sister in law and my family thinks it’s because I hate my brother, but I empathize with her situation so much since the same was done to me. I just cannot take his side knowing how shitty he is toward the mother of his child. I’m glad we are both on the path to healing, my DMs are always open if you need to vent ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:28 AM
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They do hate their children. They hate the incessant crying, having to drop everything to attend to the babies needs, not getting enough sleep even though they’re too happy to stay up into the hours of the morning playing call of duty. All of society is revolved around men and their desires, so they resent the tiny human that takes away their mommy bang maid’s energy to fuck and feed them and make them happy. I’m truly not sure if there is a way to vet men to make sure they aren’t that type of s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:38 PM
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I just want you to know that you aren’t alone. My ex was just like yours. He was so excited to be a dad! I thought that would make him a good one. And then he turned on me literally the same day the baby was born. The baby was in the NICU and they let me go a day early. He dropped me off from the hospital and left me by myself to go smoke weed with his coworkers. Supposedly. He was the one working while I was on maternity leave and he’d call me lazy and useless because the house was a mess and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:25 PM
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Our environment is so important to our physical health and lately I’ve started to connect the dots on how much our emotional environment impacts our well-being. It’s easy to draw the connection between a diesel mechanic who was diagnosed with lung cancer and how his work environment contributed to his illness, but I think we sometimes forget that emotions trigger a very real physiological response in us. If your mind lives in an emotionally distressing environment, your body is going to activate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:53 PM
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Despite my ex cooking healthy food for us and us exercising regularly, I ended up in the hospital twice for hyperglycemia—my blood sugar was so high that my body started shutting down and went into diabetic ketoacidosis. some of you may or may not know, but in addition to diet and exercise, stress is a huge factor in managing healthy blood sugar levels. It wasn’t until the second time where I realized I could’ve died, and he was nowhere to be found to care for me or our kid, that I realized how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:05 PM
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If you have a child and break up with their father, I would wait a minimum of 1 year before dating again. This depends on the age of the child, but I would wait even longer if the child is under 5. The reason for this is that you need time to move on from them but also time to figure out co-parenting. If you have to go to family court (which, after my experience, I recommend regardless of how amicable the break up was) this takes quite a bit of time to have your court hearings. You don’t want to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:50 PM
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Change your number! I know it’s a hassle but he will just continue to call you off new numbers until he wears you down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:40 PM
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Why wasn’t he blocked and this message was able to go through???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:12 PM
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This is a very long list of negative qualities for a supposedly HVM. Please let him go already. From what I skimmed here I know he’s unhealthy and lazy, trash in bed, emotionally neglectful, and doesn’t deserve you. Get rid of him!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:14 PM
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Ewww this reminds me of my pickme college roommate freshman year. She would do her guy friends laundry for them and she would even chew tobacco with them to show how down she was. 🤢🤢🤢 even back then I knew that they didn’t find her attractive or desirable for doing that and I definitely felt like she was trying wayyy too hard to get male attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:35 PM
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So I put some of these tips to the test and I didn’t find the guys page. Even better—I found his girlfriends socials! Messaged her with every receipt I had expeditiously. Can y’all believe this man planned a date with me THE DAY OF HIS DAUGHTERS BAPTISM????!! I was going to leave it alone but that just enraged me knowing that he was a lying cheating scumbag who would stoop sooooo low! He fucked with the wrong one this time!!! I feel so sorry for her but I don’t need to know her to know she deser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:52 AM
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That last tip is exactly what I’m looking for, thanks so much! I wish I had saved more pics from dudes profile to test this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:59 PM
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Same! I know if I looked up my NV ex nothing would show up because he doesn’t have social media or any work history that he would be featured on their company websites. I had to pay one of those background check websites to find information on his suspended drivers license that I already knew about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:19 PM
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Speaking as someone who was pressured by my child’s father for sex & caught him cheating on me multiple times and I still did not leave…sadly there is nothing you can do until she’s ready to leave. The final straw for me was the fact that he was a shitty neglectful parent, it had nothing to do with him cheating. So perhaps you could approach the conversation from that angle—someone who is a cheater and a liar will not be a good influence on their children. Someone who does not respect her bounda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:32 PM
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I am embarrassed at how much this describes my entire being and state of existence. The stadium lights just turned on for me to be honest. Thank you so much for making this post, I needed to read this at this exact moment in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:17 AM
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Can you talk more about this?? Any if you have any resources for running background checks? I did one on my ex but a lot of the sites seem like scams and way overcharge you with hidden subscription fees after you pull a record
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:02 PM
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Nicki worked so hard for her rap career just to have her home address posted on the sex offender registry. I could not imagine throwing away my career for some dick even at the height of my PickMe days. This is a clear example of why women need to entirely divest from men and stop tying our self worth and identity to being partnered with them. Nicki is drowning in the patriarchal kool aid because she’s protecting him from all of this with her money and connections, threatening the victims and pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:24 AM
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The final straw that made me kick my baby dad out for good: he broke his phone and I bought him a new one because he needed his phone to do Uber eats/door dash after he got fired from his job as a cook. So I had bought the phone since he didn’t have money, and I set it up for him while he was taking a shower. I needed a code or something that was texted to his old phone, and when I scrolled through the text messages I found out he logged onto tinder for yet a 4th time in our relationship, and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:13 PM
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Preach sis! You said exactly everything I wanted to say. I feel you on dating outside of your culture, I am open to non-Latino brown men but the few South Asian men I did date in college were clearly just experimenting. My dad is color struck AF (married to a white woman) but thankfully he supported my family financially on trips to the motherland when we were young so I have a deep connection to my culture and where I come from. Same on the #BrownLove I’m holding out for my HVM brown man with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:58 PM
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I’m sure many won’t like this, but I completely exclude white men as potential suitors for this exact reason. In college I hooked up with one who clearly had a fetish for Latinas, like even brought tacos every time we hooked up and wanted me to speak to him in Spanish. He was still racist af too saying he’d never marry a non-white woman. Of course he said it only after we hooked up. A couple months ago against my better judgment I temporarily lifted the ban on white men, and it took him about 10…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:47 PM
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Also curious about this. I indulge at time’s but I’m starting to wonder if it’s not good for me anymore? Takes forever to find content that isn’t male-centered and seems consensual. Even women + women content caters to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:07 PM
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It’s sad and pathetic how everything in their life revolves around acquiring a morsel of pussy and they still don’t get any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:01 PM
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Yup, Ive realized as part of my FDS journey that you cannot be nice to these men cause they misconstrue everything! One guy I met off a dating app assumed I wanted to fuck him simply because I wasn’t wearing a bra even though I don’t wear bras like 90% of the time. I don’t acknowledge stranger men at all, I’ve trained myself to appear like I’m looking through them as if they aren’t there at all. Even when they smile at me I just stare at them blankly. I’d rather come off as a bitch then overly f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:02 PM
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Yup it’s typical narcissist BS, they feel so entitled to everything it never occurs to them that someone can simply stop choosing to help them. And thank you, I honestly let the disrespect slide far too long. We were not even together at this point and I was still doing all of this for him in the name of co-parenting and showing him I’m not a bitter baby mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:58 PM
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Well he never apologized for saying that, but I know he regretted it badly cause he talked a lot of shit after I sold it saying I was purposely preventing him from seeing the baby since I took away the car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:07 PM
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Charge it to the game! It sucks but sometimes it takes losing something material to understand the damage being done to your psyche. For example, I gave my baby dad my old car and paid the insurance so he could work and have a way to transport the child around. When I asked him to start paying the insurance, he laughed in my face and was like “you aren’t doing me a favor by giving me the car and paying the insurance.” Something in me finally snapped. The realizations that this man was just an un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:58 PM
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I thought about it but right now I’m at the point where I’d rather struggle forever than to give him any type of leverage and control over what I do with my child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:14 PM
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I became a hard core PickMe in college. Definitely had daddy issues and grew up as the big girl that guys would ask out as a dare. I was a late bloomer and suddenly I went to college and everyone wanted to bang me and get to know me. I naively mistook this for something positive, and it took me far too much time and long string of casual sex with LVM to realize I was being used and damaging my own self worth engaging in this behavior. I did end up with a HVM after college. I thought I learned my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:52 PM
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Wow you just read my baby dad who was obsessed with Marcus Aurelius. I should’ve known better when he moved in with the entire collection of Robert Greene’s books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:03 AM
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Thanks so much for posting this! I am a single mom to a 2 year old and navigating dating has been tough! A lot of times men find out you’re a single mom and think you’re lonely and starved for dick. My child’s father is not involved at all so I’ve definitely had some time to think about my boundaries and what type of man I plan to date next: I would wait at the very least 6 months before introducing to my child and it has to be serious and exclusive. Preferably men with no children of their own …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:40 PM
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I needed to hear this, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:52 PM
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I studied all of @YeoshinLourdes’s tweets talking about findom which really helped me achieve that breakthrough and shift my mindset. I also started consuming more media created by women of color—musicians, artists, authors, and lecturers. I also watch videos from Dr. Ramani and Lisa A. Romano about decoding narcissism and codependency as I have generally found that most men are narcissists, and I realized that my childhood trauma has given me codependent traits which have made me a magnet for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:20 PM
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