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WHOLESOME CONTENTbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:29 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:24 AM
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LEVEL UPbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:30 AM
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LVM MYTHSbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:39 AM
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STRATEGYbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:17 AM
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LIES MEN TELLbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:21 AM
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STAY WOKEbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:34 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨bqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:48 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 02:56 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:52 AM
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DISCUSSIONbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:40 PM
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Muh PENISbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:16 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:40 AM
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#KickHimOut2020bqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:35 AM
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PICKME CULTUREbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:19 AM
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#JustLVMThingsbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:50 AM
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REMINDER 👑bqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:07 AM
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#JustLVMThingsbqluoeoedn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:39 AM
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Ah. Gotcha. Hahaha. Scrotes—I’m guessing. But agreed. Apologies for any defensiveness on my part—it was a tad mind boggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:47 PM
1

I haven’t gotten to that one yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:36 PM
0

Agreed but are you seriously downvoting to downvote when I’m agreeing with you? I’m just going to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:35 PM
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Agreed. I listed the information because it’s interesting to note their own mood swings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:38 PM
14

No chasey. Noooooooo chaaaaaaasiiiinnnnng. LVM. LVM. LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:02 PM
19

The trauma cycle makes it addictive. Yes, block him everywhere. Xo We got you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:00 PM
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LVM weight is way worse than a few normal fluctuations in body weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:59 PM
5

🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:52 PM
13

Poetry Open Mics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:44 PM
33

Handbook material 👌🏻 Also, ladies: read Women Who Love Too Much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:42 PM
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Byyyyyyyye — and the car thing was solid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:37 PM
36

Be like Angelina Jolie and direct that otherworldly shit yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:36 PM
5

No, you’re definitely being real. It’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:35 PM
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👑 Good gesture to a fellow human being. Glad you’re okay. Drink all the water. ;-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:54 AM
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It’s a how-to. These high value moments matter and we need to endorse them more (yes which is kinda sad since it should be normal behavior between human beings). “Next time might not be that lucky” is true in this climate unfortunately, but it also can be harmful—think of things said to sexual assault and rape victims—this. I do get and understand where you’re coming from for the POV though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:52 AM
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Maybe he’s a validation junkie in disguise .... maybe he was a secure partner for an anxious attachment style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:23 AM
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I felt the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:43 AM
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Oh that relationship will be a doozy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:59 AM
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And it’s amaaaaazinnng. Thank you & the contributors! LOVE the ePub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 02:59 AM
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Boys definitely have their own set of problems but become men as they work on them in a healthy way. Meanwhile, we ain’t doing that shit no more—2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 02:27 AM
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I literally meant boxes — categories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:26 AM
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I’m so fucking tired of these boxes too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:16 AM
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Girl not even the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:13 AM
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Discord Announcement From Moderators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:13 AM
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That second half copies a very specific type of the average LVM profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:39 PM
11

Join the Discord. :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:37 PM
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Last one said, “I do care. I’m still talking to you. I wouldn’t if I didn’t care.” Bread crumbs. Boy, bye. I care because I earnestly want to know you and have fun and be in this... but you’re avoiding and gaslighting me with your bs. My reacting to it is not “female emotional drama.” It’s your utter lack of emotional intelligence and respect and surplus of laziness. LVM everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 09:22 PM
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Yes that’s hot as heck and can still be combined with other sexy talk after confirmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:58 PM
12

Madonna Whore porn-induced mindset— but I’ll take you, use you, and blame you for it, either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:52 PM
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Or leaving if he was so unhappy in the first place. But muh dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:47 PM
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No. If I go out or feel like it, usually eyeliner. Sometimes concealer, light foundation and eyeshadow. Full face for more formal events or natural look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 05:39 PM
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I get it. It’s mine, too. Lay down the law and go. 👀😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:26 AM
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Screenshot sent & block and delete is a good simple one that requires less energy and no words. But you get to use your words in a sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:07 AM
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Oooh you unmatched... creatively... before here’s what I had written: Please wait for more experienced women who have been through this... and don’t take this too literally... if you want... but 😬... you could get a random address for the dog pound or garbage jump and have him meet up with “her” there — send him a burner number with the area code there — by which you could use to answer the phone and tell him it’s over. Then block his ass on everything and tell your friends and family (if you wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:04 AM
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I have to concur—beard included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:53 AM
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The difference between the Hero’s Journey and the Heroine’s Journey is that the Heroine takes on allies right away and she does not deny her call. Cue: FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:23 AM
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When they list hobbies, they haven’t touched them in years—just themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:43 AM
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Not only do we have the mega-role of mommy bang-maid & therapist, but now we add being the man to our role. LVM looking for the full parental set.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:29 AM
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She’s so gorgeous, inside and out, and kept her composure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:22 AM
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one year later: they meet again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:21 AM
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Aiming to watch and just linked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:21 AM
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one year later: they meet again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:21 AM
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“I hope we can be friends and I get to see the woman you are becoming.” Condescending. She is a woman. You can love him as much as you want sis. You have a strong faith sis. You can be the best girlfriend sis. He will still cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:18 AM
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Negative value real estate. Himbo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:32 PM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:28 PM
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Weird sexually charged compliment sandwich there. No go bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:27 PM
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Hell no — scrote’s gotta go. Go ahead and marry your mom. I’ll be the flower girl and skip my way the hell out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:16 PM
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Jeez an ex could cook and he and his other male roommates used the pool table primarily to fold laundry. The house was always immaculate. Little boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:05 PM
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Some men are only looking to check a wife box. So if you want to be a priority... be aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 05:08 PM
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Unabashedly fucking those McChicken Sammiches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:33 AM
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I’m just getting started as well, but I remember being a lurker and seeing someone ask the same question. There are several replies here https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fyholw/positivity_post_tell_me_about_your_hvm_success/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:08 AM
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Exactly this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:17 AM
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I love how you “put me in my place” until I let my insecurities really get to me and I just disappear or lame-neg you. Quotations because a guy said that once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:17 AM
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We know he will anyway even if she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:07 AM
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Yep just let flattery and any sort of future-faking sounding thing go in one ear and out the other — that sounds nice. And let go. I hate this male bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:06 AM
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Yes—you should love yourself and get your mind and heart clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:02 PM
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Not in one area does she sound excited but for maybe trying something new. So basically she’s becoming a utility and it’s less about the experience. This definitely isn’t my thing at all. I know some people can turn off emotions to enjoy sex in the moment itself, but you can’t totally turn it off — people matter as people. Plus everything else (red flag galore) that’s obvious here and I’m sure others will cover. There are so many cons she lists here from her POV yet she won’t listen to herself. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:54 PM
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That’s great and he sounds like he has a lot of great goals and so far good communication, but what about your needs and standards? How does this match your goals and trajectory for life? Yes lots of potential but don’t hang your hat on it. Remember to watch actions and keep dating others, depending on what you want. He is where he is and that’s okay too. This is your life. I also agree about the flattery aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:47 PM
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Look at her eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:13 PM
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Let me get off so I can see if I see you as a person because sometimes I do but actually I don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:38 AM
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But he like got a pot and everything and didn’t burn his special little boy hands on the stove like mommy taught him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:31 AM
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Just the tip. Unless you want it to be choked on... there may be some tearing... but... ‘Tis a mere flesh wound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:10 AM
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I posted a meme a while back a man made about wanting to go 50/50 on bills with a girl — how cute is that commitment!!! wretches We had a quick chat and he said he meant commitment—he wanted to come home to dinner and a good fuck. A wife. “Oh a mommy and a bangmaid. No thanks,” I replied. He had nothing more to say, affirming the truth for what it was. No love. No autonomy. Only utility with a smile. And from reading stories from many sex workers — they really believe these woman like their weak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:29 AM
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Yep.... and he may care to some degree which makes it worse. But not enough. Not enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:50 AM
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Yep he was definitely jealous of you doing something he couldn’t aka doesn’t have the balls to do. How are you loving the big city? Big congrats!!!! Good on you for leveling up and moving on. I’m saving for a move next year... tips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:19 AM
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Still reading but I must quote the beauty that is “This is the bottom feeder trying to wife me???????? I think not.” Glad you dodged that bullet and good GTFO food for thought. Makes me seriously never want to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:09 AM
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I did this with a 30 year old. It’s a male thing in general for LVM. All you are going to get is have a pen pal for ego strokes or some online fake situationship that drags. Maybe a “hang out.” You could try leaning back and missing more of his contact by reprioritizing him on the back burner but... yeah... most of us knows how this goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:49 AM
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Pop quiz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:11 AM
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Still... if he wanted to, he would. They’ll each find their right fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:06 AM
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This is the common LVM issue + their own insecurity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 01:35 AM
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I’m guilty of the couch thing. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:28 PM
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There has to be obvious signs of escalation. Meeting the family is no longer any sure sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:23 PM
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He did try to fix it but she’s a survivor. She shouldn’t touch this with a ten foot poll and he needs more therapy to get to the root.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:21 PM
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“Awwww that’s sweet” 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:20 PM
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ShE DiDnT CuMmm LiKE In ThE PoRn. WhY Am I NoT a SeX GoD LiKE ThE PoRn SaID?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:16 PM
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I like her but MUH DICk Entitled bs rapey asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:05 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:03 PM
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I’ve given a possibly shy one a “sounds good” and “I like that idea” before for nudges but after that—he got returned to the shelf to gather dust. But I agree with the others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:28 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:46 PM
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Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:10 AM
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She’s taking what she can get. Most men are emotionally unavailable and pull this bs. She likes you so she’s trying to be casual. I tried it and it was horrible. Let her go if you respect her at all or fix your debased attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 10:07 AM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:45 AM
5

Red is also back by a scientific study—I’m sure I can find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:44 AM
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It’s not alpha. It’s just intelligence and I get that all the time even in my past as a pick me. “I’ve never had deep conversations like this with a woman.” Similar conversations about intelligence with attempts at negging that they may halfway think is banter. It just comes off weird to me. Then it’s like they panic or their little hearts flutter because they assume it means EfFoRT (yeah being a fucking human being)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:35 AM
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I have seen a sub on Reddit focused immobile highly obese women AS A FETISH and it’s disturbing — and some guys were grooming women for it — I found the original video and she says she wanted to keep the carer role and relationship separate — one day, no one was available (agency had no one to send; not even family) so... he did it and kept on. link But as a carer... he gets the $. He’s in control. (He wants to be an author. Random...) Her friends even questioned it—they think he had an ulterior…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:15 AM
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Exactly this is why I am afraid to date ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:11 AM
9

True but reading the bottom — it sounds like she jumped hoops already (especially this is shitty if he asked)—making him dinner etc... how many more hoops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:03 AM
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That’s an interesting juxtaposition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:44 AM
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At least he didn’t say a tall glass/drink of water... old school is still uncool... meh. I’m trolling himbos for fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:29 AM
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Insecurity or something missing INSIDE HIM. He should’ve talked to you. This is not on you. I’m dealing with this too because I’m trying to understand how in the short term and in the long term they just .... change. All hot then cold. (Just a robot.) And won’t open up. They just shut down. I used to chase and try to fix (unappealing and can come off controlling in some eyes or too emotional but the hurt was so deep) and definitely messed up the last...in my way.. I see my contribution... but it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:05 PM
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Here’s my audacity and my red flags on a silver platter. Can’t fault this one. Except the whole personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:57 PM
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I love that word. I am a witch and will own my bitch card soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:56 PM
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I had a feeling the one might pop up there when I read her Q...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:55 PM
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Yep it was planned but so good. For the ex... not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:32 PM
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Yeah. I’ve been there. But it keeps you awake even though painful. But we’re all here together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:51 PM
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Lol And I know. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:42 PM
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This is true—my 2 exclusive relationships where I had sent before the situationship—I was never asked at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:40 PM
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And honestly that’s usually the case. I don’t mean to project or assume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:39 PM
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You can keep dating anyone you want. It’s good that you went quiet because boundary crossed. He may have thought that it was ok because of how shit is now but that doesn’t mean it’s actually respectful. Beyond this post...There are women here who have made videos and pics for guys they saw and even women who were in sex work. The guy I clowned for—I felt loved and free and trusted him but he broke that trust. We’re saying that we don’t like it and we see how it makes men just not see us as peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:27 PM
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Another case of the “decent man” and he seems genuine syndrome .... I clowned myself hard with the last guy. We put them higher on a pedestal subconsciously. It’s a tough one to break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:25 PM
5

You ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:22 PM
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Here is where a “clueless” scrote makes a joke about “But you didn’t die.” But you are about to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:19 PM
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I had to help my friend clean the garage because I promised VS. your wife is in labor....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:17 PM
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He did a good thing so why wait 4 mos?This is exactly why the girlfriend was concerned. If he told it too early... depending on how he told it... the “hero” story could’ve been off putting. But if the child and people are important to him... yes... she should know ASAP if she too is important to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:11 PM
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“HVM” Some have worked hard to try to be good men... but yeahhhhhhhhhh. This is too familiar. Bare minimum is not high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:09 PM
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That “simp” teen is more man and king than most men. Especially on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:04 PM
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Sometimes it’s good for banter and can scare them away. Others are just narcissistic and glaze right over it after a while. But good for you for not giving a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:38 PM
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Progress is progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:35 PM
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If the sex is that bad, it’s easy to break up. If he wants to date others, he can. If he wants you, he needs to choose you and naturally would. They make it harder on themselves. It’s definitely entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:30 AM
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I just... can’t. I can appreciate a classic car, but otherwise, the whole attitude is just disgusting, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:26 AM
7

Wow that’s tough. Four months isn’t long to wait for someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:08 AM
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Posture and confidence is everything. I’ve been going on more walks with my playlist. Emphasizing my hip swing I always used to hide... eyes forward... good posture... it’s everything. No guys cat called. If they looked they quickly readjusted their gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:11 AM
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We need the tea now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:00 AM
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Oh I watch those, too. It’s really opened my eyes and shocked me at how even “regular guys” (LVM) use the same phrases and tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:50 AM
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I’ve seen teen girls on anonymous apps respond to mid 30s males and I just hope that it’s someone doing a Predator sting operation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:35 AM
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They think it’s flirting and if you don’t bite.. at least your self confidence is at or below their level in their minds... which is exactly what the fuck this is. They’re insecure and emotionally stunted. Fuck this shit. I’m taking no prisoners and fires are going to burn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:33 AM
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Yep. One of my favs too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:24 AM
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EXACTLY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:22 AM
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I’m not like those other guys. You won’t be a trophy to me. I remember raising my eyebrows,... like mmmmkthen but these things are not simple cognitive dissonance. They are bright red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:19 AM
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Awww yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:14 AM
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I feel like we should all be in some French Cafe 👸 and I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:14 AM
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r/happysinglewomen Slow days but responsive ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:11 AM
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I’m hugging a pillow while reading this sis. Just blocked someone myself. Hang in there. We’re feeling it together. Will add to this post with any tips later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:07 AM
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Dick itself can never be that good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:04 AM
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Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:03 AM
2

There are a certain number of traits that you must have per the DSM5 and only a psychologist can diagnose... I noticed that some of my cPTSD/anxiety crosses over two of the traits. It was just for learning purposes. However, it’s easy to get into self-diagnosis as a rabbit hole distraction tool. I also definitely applaud you for talking to a therapist. I did after a death in my family and the greatest thing was to have a professional validate me and help me make room for myself to heal — I had g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:57 AM
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Tempted to use this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:00 AM
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💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:44 PM
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There seem to be some decent ones that are misguided... but appear as HVM. I understand why we classify them as LVM—it prevents us from falling for potential... but I still like to think of them as Mediocre Value Men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:42 PM
10

Mmmm They Call Me Big Dusty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:19 PM
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Flip it. Gaslight his ass. (Or we can PUA some bullshit about controlling the frame lmao) Laugh all good naturedly and thank him for his compliment of how technical you are and how much you love his humor. Twist, flip hair, walk away. Lol. Hair flip optional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:56 PM
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Oops 🙊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:30 PM
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They do it everywhere. Pickmeishas normalize some of it. The sugar baby thing was probably a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:12 PM
31

Yeahhhh that’s the bigger nuance that’s messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:57 AM
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FDS Rescue Mission... she literally could have starved herself to death over a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:46 AM
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Slow clap 👏 fap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:25 AM
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Annnnd the trash takes out itself after having the audacity to spam your inbox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:08 AM
5

I know. That sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:14 AM
8

Hey they play dumb to get women to clean. Take advantage of that and let him hang the clothes you’re leaving him with tomorrow. In theory I know. Thankfully it’s done...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:55 AM
101

Dong so full of grime... Beauty and the Least 🤡💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:07 AM
169

Oh but it’s your fault you caught feelings; you knew this wasn’t an official thing ghosts for two weeks and pretends nothing happened Whazzzup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:02 AM
201

Girl, you’re a real cool girl. I looove being with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:54 AM
37

Nah bruh we ain’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:49 AM
7

Keep eyes open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:42 AM
44

Many use their faith as a cop out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:05 AM
23

I really want to believe this is a scrote LARPing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:02 AM
46

No last minute dates, especially with him trying to get you to budge after you already made plans for yourself. That’s messed up. Good for you. But yeahhhh it’s not looking good for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:01 AM
4

He could be counting high school. Doesn’t sound bad. Depends on what happened in the past and how he talks about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:56 AM
6

Part of it was a conscious plummet to get it out of my system. So yes. Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:52 AM
1

So did I. While laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:51 AM
14

I was worse in my last situationship and I had also been through personal hell before that. Yaaaaaaaaaay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:30 AM
67

It puts you in the position of doing too much again. Yes we get guilty of that by conditioning to be a pickmeisha but they also try to manipulate us into it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:29 AM
63

Oh goooood Flashbacks Not the whole damn house — but my place and fixing him a home cooked breakfast with everything from scratch — meanwhile he was texting his ex and bragging but said that it took forever. Nothing physical happened but he was pitting us against each other for ego strokes. Fuck that. Go to Bojangles Bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:27 AM
6

Forsooth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:23 AM
1

Yes, I Quoteth’d @1 hr 23 min
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:18 AM
9

Yup we’ve seen this one. Still, even at my lowest, I would not do that. I just sent a recorded video poem. 🤣 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:10 AM
16

I think the closer you are to 30; it’s not so bad. There can be healthy age gap relationships, but they are few and far between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:09 AM
1

I liked #2 also
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:24 PM
1

Link? Works for me—title is: Fearful Avoidant: Regulate Your Emotions When Triggered Same YouTuber https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQTNiW5baic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:53 PM
2

Bye bye — have a good “dinner” Mammmmmmmmaaaa/ Oooooooohhhh/ I dun fucked up again/ Maaaaammmma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:46 PM
2

More on attachment styles when you feel unseen and unheard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:33 PM
2

Emotional Regulation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:23 PM
3

Here’s the link for Emotional Regulation — don’t punish yourself with your emotions & how your emotions are a guide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:22 PM
5

This will help with emotional regulation and control. I know what’s happening but it gets confusing sometimes when I overthink and have this NEED for a partner to tell me they care and I am safe—pickmeisha. Normal need but in excess—nope. Unfortunately many men are emotionally closed off and give you the silent treatment which makes it worse, even if you’re like: just be consistent dude and hug me. Ugh. They don’t listen... which makes stuff worse. My need is to not talk things in the ground and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:15 PM
14

Orbiters can go right back to the LVM Trash Belt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:35 PM
1

Sometimes she’s a wee bit extra but she’s she’s great.... but this video was so on par with FDS and fair in terms of dating “rules” in general... I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:26 PM
10

Exactly. No notice of him being late, no...nada. Only audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:58 PM
18

Don’t even respond to his sorry with an it’s okay. Text like normal. If you notice distancing that repeats... Fly, you fools... But good on the emotional control. :-) I’ve definitely been guilty of that too but when the pattern of communication changes and they get lazy... but we can definitely contribute because we notice shifts and have been messed with before and don’t want it to happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:55 PM
47

Guys who come back around and “orbit” you. They have plated you or put you on the back burner or sort of bread crumb you...etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:51 PM
50

Leave orbiters to their space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:49 PM
8

I can hear the broken record squeaking so BADly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:34 PM
16

I hear this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:18 PM
12

r/FDSSuperFans Aw. Bless his little scroteheart. Wee little lamb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:17 PM
34

Sad negger knows exactly who you are and had a majorly fragile ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:10 PM
5

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:57 PM
9

I got mine at 29. I survived before Uber and etc. It was tough at times but so am I. Nowadays, if I need one I borrow or rent; but first... everything else. The right guy will love you either way and not mind. Needless to say... you’d want to take longer to vet a guy and become official before going to his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:41 AM
29

Shhhh lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:36 AM
16

It’s the fairy dew drops of goodness these Nanas are inspiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:10 AM
12

I’m so on board with this. Always wanted to, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:29 AM
23

I laughed and cringed with you. Awwwwww honey whhhhhhhy. Then there’s part of you inside watching the whole train wreck unfold and yelling at you. Write down everything that made you cringe, too. Definitely calling him and asking him to breakup was the clown nose, girl. NOW—put on the FDS playlist, put on your most bomb outfit, and make those lists, check them twice, and make a goal to do something empowering tomorrow. And needless to say.... BLOCK HIM. goes to block her own last LVM 😬🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:22 AM
27

IK!!! We can make change. The smallest of actions can be the biggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:19 AM
14

Me toooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:18 AM
38

Copypasta sex cult spam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:32 AM
136

Recovering Pick Me struggling? Love your community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:30 AM
7

I’ve avoided the heck out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:15 AM
9

It’s just the LVM Brain Fog. It is clearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:14 AM
11

Aw hey string bean, hru?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:12 AM
42

She needs to go to the dollar store for some LVM glasses with his coat pocket change. Then, pack her bags and go because she can see clearly now the scrote is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:07 AM
2

Yeeeep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:47 PM
53

I have had my bad moments but I would never do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:33 AM
3

He’s prepared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:45 AM
8

I think a few people are going to recommend ending it. That may be best. That’s up to you. In the Long Distance subreddit there are a lot of sweet stories about how HV couples make it work but there’s also a lot we don’t see. There are also bad stories. You are about to enter different life stages. You can’t predict what will happen. You can do your best by each other but stuff may happen. The best thing is to know when to walk away. Could be you come back together later on. I’m not saying break…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:50 PM
10

GranDaddy... Babygirl is ready to... I can’t 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:09 PM
8

Yes! And there are lots of connections in myths and even monotheism—like with Odin/Christ/The Hanged Man... but instead of nerding... as I don’t want to offend anyone... I’ll leave it here. But awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:11 PM
9

Re-parenting. It’s a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:02 PM
5

Aw that’s an awesome combo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:02 PM
23

Venus in retrograde and mercury in retrograde coming. I see them as symbolic too. Just interesting. There’s enough there that has helped me analyze my personality and growth. Kind of like poetry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:00 PM
23

Oh yeah these weirdos and their convention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:42 PM
2

It’s very concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:41 PM
10

You are a true visionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:24 PM
49

Wrong target ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:19 PM
4

A LARP then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:04 PM
1

I choose these because they are “flaws.” I wanted to show that many women are open to these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:02 PM
38

predator vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:38 PM
24

What is this the 50s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:15 PM
7

Exactly. A whole year of the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:08 PM
2

It’s a factor that FDS has addressed as part of the equation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:04 PM
9

Me too lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:02 PM
11

Unless he knows how to use his hips and undulate—all dude has is a hose and the standard 3-minute jackhammer. He gets done faster than an egg. I read 15-20 minutes and laughed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:57 PM
54

My go to was “Something real.” I like “I know when I’ll see it” and “Something worthwhile” mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:53 PM
35

“You know how I feel about that. If it’s something you need, I support you. You can go find the right people for your MMF and I can move on separately.” smiles compassionately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:50 PM
30

Exactly + given his weirdness, he probably obsessively watches porn and can’t get it up without it. Yes, I assume because of female collective experience. And clearly she had reason to slowly disclose... Exhibit A-Z: This whole boatload of obsession
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:58 PM
39

Anxiety as long as he can come back to a center and always is honest and communicative. Because me too lol. Height isn’t an issue, long as there is a little tiptoe to kiss him action going haha. Being a little stuck is okay. We all get in ruts. We all get sad. We all get depressed. But please move through it and don’t rut in it for years like a dirty feral pig who is mad at everyone. I like a good balance of squish with some muscle and healthiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:44 AM
19

Lean back. Keep options open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:42 AM
97

Omggggg he went to the grocery store and found a food item he thought was flowers. Lettuce break up now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:57 AM
24

This is just sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:23 AM
13

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:10 AM
25

I don’t want iron but I have had enough potbelly beer gut plushies for a decade. The inside is still 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:48 AM
23

His insecurities are starting to show. How he handles it next shows his true colors. You could see what happens if you lean back... but the minute you see the pattern... go POOF! Pattern=Poof I’d say your intuition is on par. Lots of guys seem insecure about needing to secure riches to land a hot woman or have it represent his manhood or if he came from a financially insecure background...who knows... but that’s all his problem. Your concern is to nope out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:41 AM
42

That’s absurd! If you have been in a lot of contact everyday you may be in an uber honeymoon phase or being love bombed. That’s a major twist. Could be finances are a trigger spot for him — but if so, run — if that’s his reaction... and this relationship develops, how much worse would it get? How you handle your debt seems normal. You’re paying it off and it’ll be paid off in 3 months. How the heck does that concern him? Big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:32 AM
36

Cancel LVM 2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:44 PM
16

Conditioning and personal investment and sadness...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:35 PM
2

No. Just do a big search online about divorce and running a business with your spouse. Definitely don’t want to do that with a boyfriend. You could each start your own and contract with each other — but still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:55 PM
13

I concur. Don’t fall for the empathy trap. He isn’t seeing YOU and doesn’t VALUE YOU. He needs therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:48 PM
9

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:59 AM
7

🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤠🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:22 AM
41

Wheel classy Erick. He’s Erick with a K, k? He’s not like those other simps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:17 AM
108

Yeah... better stick with video games and fansonly; maybe put on some sunglasses and a T-shirt (Hey, Ma! You done my laundry, yet?!) for the dating profile pic. Hold up two fish instead of one. Bishes love fishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:14 AM
6

Yes & Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:02 AM
10

EX-actly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:59 AM
8

Original Post: Here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:40 AM
40

Most everything in AskTRP is vomit worthy. They’re little gamers looking for cheat codes. A few grains of okay but mostly... these are not whole human beings or even humans at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:23 AM
34

That “And as I drove home in my clown suit...” paragraph was the realest thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:58 AM
11

The best revenge is being your baddest (best) self. He will revisit everything and then slime his way back like Voldermort. This time you have to kill that last Manhorcrux though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:53 AM
21

Good for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:44 AM
82

Yep. One guy knew my address after dropping me off and ghosted — I blocked him. Two months later at 3 AM he’s in my inbox on one social media account — “I don’t allow ghosters back into my life”... blocked — showed up on another; told him that “Once again, I am saying I no longer want to be in contact.” Think he got that the police were the next step. BE CAREFUL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:57 AM
34

🤷🏻‍♀️ Girl, safety first. ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:40 AM
41

Definitely not all that and a bag of chips. Just greasy, lonely fingers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:01 AM
529

Level up man! Face your insecurities and be a whole human. Let’s not use people. We’re leveling up either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:57 AM
19

I love my small breasts. No bra. No back pain. All the hips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:13 AM
8

When I noticed that I began to have an emotional connection (that began to gain romantic undertones) with someone of the opposite sex... I knew it was definitely time to end my relationship with my ex. It wasn’t about the new person and it wasn’t intentional... but it was time. I had evidence that I could find what I needed and deserved it; I’m proud I left though I should’ve left when I felt those nagging feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:24 PM
2

I have the same concerns as others. I am still open to partnering and having a child but it would be a needle in a haystack kind of circumstance just because of the reasons given here by others that pretty much cover it. I’ve always been a maybe person but given the state of men and relationships I have experienced and witnessed as I age, I lean towards NOPE. I’m fine living child free and happy. The community is my family—I am moving into a life purpose of finding ways to better my community an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:17 PM
17

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:01 PM
48

I want to go post a Why do some women date males that need to wear bras?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:00 PM
8

My face is made of several emojis rn 😕😟🤢😵🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:45 PM
6

And in the Happy Meal was the ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:43 PM
1

Yep sunglasses and the right tennis shoe. Pony tail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:36 PM
1

I’ve also tied mine off with scarves as belts. You could also try longer necklaces to draw the eye down or V necks. I think boxier or broader shoulder shirts with some cool sewing details and a more form fitting skirt might be good (not body con just curves).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:35 PM
22

My new go to response if the topic of anal comes up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:31 PM
17

I have men frenz that mansplain when they are getting nerdy off of my nerdy but I stand up for myself; they know my look and shush with apology. They’ve improved. When men get caught up in explaining, the quality of the conversation deteriorates. If I want facts or explanations tossed around, I’ll just listen to a YouTube reviewer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 08:32 AM
3

I’m just sharing a story. I’m not you. All I can say at this point is good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 08:06 AM
60

Peter Piper pecked a polyamorous piece of poo pie. No. The fuck did just I read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:49 AM
9

Definitely!! As well as actions vs words and reflections on situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:40 AM
4

Yessssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:39 AM
35

IMO Your line is your line and sometimes they try to slowly sneak in little tests like this. Some can be light and sensual and make you blush, and then they respectively back off—but others take it as a sign to jump right in and reveal all their sexual audacity. You could say you love your arms for strength, or your hair color... or even your curves and see if he stays respectful. Your line is your line. No one else’s should matter. Sometimes, it’s best to just deflect with a joke. If he tries a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:38 AM
7

If you notice, all you’re doing is repeating the same reasoning in nearly every comment, as if you have to convince us to convince you to stay. I had what would be a “good man.” In light of all the LVM, especially the abusers and perverts, he was real shiny. But he also guilt tripped me and his family was narcissistic. He spent his life pleasing everyone. He was very romantic... but where was his life? Where was my life? I don’t regret breaking up, nor do I regret dating him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:47 AM
11

I’ve had the same happen with brown men fetishizing me as a white woman. I can’t be with you because.... Sucks when you actually fall for someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:33 AM
11

He initiates moving it too fast and then tells you to slow down and blames you. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:30 AM
10

PS... this is the guy that grudgingly holds the bag of bread and eggs and volunteers to unlock the door and you get all the groceries in one haul because it’d be too girly for this whiny manchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:09 PM
29

If I carry things, I’ll be a girl, and the security guard will judge me, and he ALREADY is WiNnINg the most levels at the video games than me, and like, even if the umbrella repped the best Super Bowel sportzing team EVAR, he would still judge me. He would sing the Umbrella Ella Ella Eh Eh song at me. So, it’s really best that I look like shriveled prune dung that got pissed on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:03 PM
3

I sleep with chakra frequency meditations and I am Safe affirmations. It helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:45 PM
7

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:41 PM
43

Fetishized too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:58 AM
14

I’ve seen this one online—I think she’s just reacting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:54 AM
3

When their weak negs give away their faults — just lay all the cards out for me. You’re saving us so much time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:53 AM
18

Miller/Bud/Corona
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:31 AM
6

Nokay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:34 AM
6

Yesssss 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:00 AM
14

This is the energy we need to embody here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:50 PM
17

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:49 PM
11

He’s acting like he’s 12 with a weak ass neg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:43 PM
81

Missing the video game controller 🎮 Solid 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:40 PM
15

In my 30s and this is exactly where I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:34 PM
30

No wet dick, just swimming in salty fuckboi tears. Bahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:30 PM
14

J’s got no girl, dawwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:29 PM
14

Yup. Banter is one thing but this seems escalated, and if she’s posting this, it clearly has escalated too far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:43 PM
11

This this this Thissssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:42 PM
75

I feel like this is also subtext cop out for “I won’t be present as a real partner.” Expect the bare minimum, if that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:20 PM
21

A more general term for the worst of the flying monkeys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:51 PM
1

This is my line. I am, too. Since mentioned, I thought it possibly appropriate to ask since it was left as a comment. No worries. Apologies! :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:20 PM
2

I was mad fantasizing yesterday haha. Aching all over. So Tis Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:08 PM
25

17 women to 1 male: resource
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:56 PM
150

Goodbye liar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:10 PM
6

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:59 PM
59

This is where my brain would be too ha — but a pattern is already forming — so facts vs thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:22 AM
52

I went on a date with a guy that said he cheated on his wife with guys and she never knew he was bi. They do this. Obviously I just let that go right back into the trash. It’s amazing what they tell you in the early stages if you just stay quiet and let them spill their own BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:39 AM
1

Actually, that middle part isn’t what I’m saying at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 01:06 AM
5

I like this idea but don’t want to take away from BLM or dishonor the movement in this moment. Good for discussion.... especially if it’s global effort. Perhaps target it toward issues of trafficking, domestic violence, rape...first... -Raise age of consent to 18 (would be one of my concerns) -Call for 0 tolerance for extreme fetishes that exhibit violence toward women in porn on platforms Make very targeted calls that many women could get on board with and represent our most pressing concerns..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:36 PM
4

Do be prepared for some guilt tripping and don’t cave. If you helped with the deposit... speak with property management company and be vague about personal concerns regarding your relationship but you need to discreetly back out... that phrasing may help if you talk to a female rep. Educate yourself before you contact property management though. Look up tenant laws in your area. Maybe check out subreddits. Tenant laws DO DIFFER per state if in the US. There can be penalty fees. https://www.movin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:29 PM
8

This... but it is a spectrum. It is how he handled it that’s the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:22 PM
15

Honestly there’s something to this... you can set your own markers.... depending on what box you want to put him in, just like they do with us. Guys are all sex and ego... Well, I know I am going to have an emotional availability rating now. It’s based off another guy’s video, right? Good satire always has elements of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:44 PM
47

I used to be one who thought it was the nice, respectful, and feminist thing to do. Oh it’s just a drink and he planned the whole day... etc... but with experience comes knowledge. It’s hard to put into words. You have to go through it to see. This felt like a test. Especially how he kept pushing it. And I have seen some “Alpha Male” and PUA sources recommend men do these make her pay tests... to reveal if she’s a “gold digger” or not. I agree with the poster about the “dumb fox” method. You cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:26 PM
2

Good! :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:34 PM
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That’s so amazing! Yes! If you could... I’d love if you could split it: https://weareultraviolet.actionkit.com/donate/donate https://www.womenforwomen.org/get-involved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:25 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:05 AM
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Will add!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:05 AM
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Yessssssss I tried to do some notes below but sticky pleasssssse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:30 AM
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Lab diamonds.... but okaaaaay .... good that you’re happy 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:29 AM
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I wrote a few notes. Not all of them, but some of them... & will try to add to it. 1. *He didn’t know how to cook or clean. She wanted to be the perfect wife.* He came from a single parent household and was left to his own devices. Does he settle as a mediocre LVM or take initiative (attempts to grow more HV)? 2. He didn’t know “how to” take their kids to activities or even sign up for them as a child because he had no activities or means to do so. 3. Not just breaking shit but slamming cabinet …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:23 AM
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Milestone achieved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:25 AM
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Buy yourself some diamonds girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:24 AM
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Steel-toe boots — scrote kicking boots Yes I have a certain song in mind now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:21 AM
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I had my “why not try it and see” or overtrusting moments too. I think a positive way to reclaim a healthy wild side is to dance to a favorite band at a bar you claim with a one drink rule or mocktail. Go to a place that focuses more on the music than drunk culture — some neighborhood bars have that family vibe. Take social dance lessons. :-) Hug your past self and know that you have experiences that will help you maybe to help some other girl out one day. A lot of bad experiences are sometimes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:02 AM
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Some can be nudged. Most can’t. But that’s my experience. If you have to repeatedly nudge... you know what the relationship will look like. A male friend and I recently tried to make plans to meet up to share on a mutual hobby.... I have usually been the planner—not anymore. Him: Next Friday should be a good time for [Hobby] from a respectable distance. Not tomorrow, a week from Friday. Me: Ok let me know the details. Him: Any time after noon, looking forward to seeing my fellow [Hobbiers]. Me: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:31 AM
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Nope. Nope. Nope. Noooooooppppppe. Yep—get thorough in those search terms, too. Work. School. Location. Etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:30 AM
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Yay! Tell us how it went!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:34 PM
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Exactly, and sometimes, the pickmeisha amnesia is so bad... it’s hard to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:33 PM
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The bar is so low it’s definitely in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:29 PM
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Distance yourself and set boundaries. What do you both expect from this? If it’s going fast, slow it down. Find dealbreakers that ensure you’d never want to be in a relationship with him. Don’t talk everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:02 PM
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It’s going to hurt and there will still be mixed signals if you stay friends. Talking everyday creates false intimacy. Suddenly he will come in and out your life but at a literal distance... it will hurt if you have feelings. I’ve been there. Start creating distance and lean back as you decide what’s best for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:22 PM
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Very sweet and nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:15 AM
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Oooh this is another thing... having to be patient when they go from place to place and realize you were right all along and they get so grumpy — no matter how politely you mention the truth previously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:14 AM
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Gym and video games (and porn)... I feel like this is most guys. One guy and I had these great two phone convos, including emotional depth, which apparently shocked him. gasp He knew I had tons of books and mentioned some titles his mentor had him reading ... (I made him a bookmark—a little pickmeisha-y before FDS) only to discover his confession that he just got rid of his video games and barely read... but did all this big talk before. Ok that would have been fine if you didn’t make yourself o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:08 AM
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Meeeeee tooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:10 AM
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—Wear something that gives you confidence and makes you feel comfortable. —Silence is just fine. Let him lead. (You’re the prize, remember!!) Don’t rush to fill the silence. —You’re information gathering. That’s all. —Picture the date you’d take yourself on. Is there a bookstore down the road from the restaurant? If it’s disappointing or creepy, you can leave. You also reinforce your standards. He should add to your life. —Write out a list of why you rock. Let a trusted friend help. —Always tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:36 AM
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I think it also easily weeds out fuckbois or LVM that are posing as HV. Because if after a week... you give them one benefit of the doubt because it all seems to check out... and the same BS happens again... it’s a LVM pattern. Block. I may be too gentle compared to some ruthless FDS’rs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:25 AM
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My rule has been 24 hours for initiation and 48-72 hours once we have been talking and it’s going well enough—life happens. After dates, you hit a week without any HV clarity... bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:12 AM
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Wow he’s having so much luck. Gym partner always equals hookup or fwb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:09 AM
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3.5 If we meet... (realistic but also a half a flag for tone given then rest of the sentence) don’t look like the photo... 🙄😩 buying first... nope. Grammar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:06 AM
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Good. Lead with your head! He goes way on the back burner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:04 AM
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He no longer has access to any information regarding your life. Not even what kind of eyeliner you're wearing now. The only topic is about your child's needs. -Keep texts short. (Text yourself your rage or journal it.) -Communicate through the lawyer (or paralegal who is helping the lawyer, which can be cheaper). When he's off topic or gaslighting, don't respond or defend. Remove emotion from your texts, and be dry.... like you're writing out the results of a science experiment or making your gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:24 AM
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I like that text. It sets your standard. It feels HV. However, I would caution you not to give him the same access to you as he has had before. This means no daily communication or intimidate details. Women tend to be very sharing in their female/female friendships and that sometimes crosses over to friendships with males... which I think is not... beneficial depending on where you want it to go. If you have feelings, either way, you NEED distance. Otherwise, yes, it will hurt. The price of his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:14 AM
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Understand. :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:37 PM
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I know FDS has a YouTube channel now and it’s not being used — I think FDS has a greater mission also... warn our young women about grooming, interviewing experts... even one section on FDS in the handbook would be helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:03 PM
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