brandelyn_ Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
155	Men who are abused usually suffer in silence. Together we can change that.	progress	brandelyn_	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	29/07/21 04:03 PM
1	Based on a recent post here, I asked him why he loves me/what he loves about me	DISCUSSION	brandelyn_	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 07:51 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Women are not entitled to anything from men Believability as victims. We should automatically distrust any claim of abuse by anyone of any gender until proven otherwise. Well, this is a take. Wow. Does it apply to children as well?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 10:54 PM
3	Many TRPers in here have a high external locus of control, and are hypocritical about it. If a woman finds you ugly there’s no amount of game or gym that’s going to get her to like you This is false. There have been plenty of dudes who I didn't initially find attractive (at ALL), but once I spent some time around them they became very desiriable. This is why I'm not a fan of OLD. Pics don't present a person's energy or interaction style, and that's what is most important for a real relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 11:31 PM
1	Question for women - why do women shame men for having standards? What is the actual reason for this? 🤣🤣 r/menandfemales Wow... truly written by an incel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 12:19 AM
6	I don't buy the narrative that single, childless women are the happiest group Since women can never truly love a man, they can only truly love their children Well this is certainly a take!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/24 01:58 AM
0	Billie Eillish and double standards in sexuality The current state of the manosphere is a direct result of predominantly feminist and progressive attacks on any men's groups that were healthy, by disregarding men's issues, it forced these groups to feel intense anger. What men's groups "were" healthy but are now "forced to anger"? I agree with some of what you wrote but this sounds like a huge cope. Source(s)?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/24 12:37 AM
7	Women consistently base their selection and opinion of men on what other men and women think of them, this is very strange behavior Portrayal has nothing to do with behavior ...then what does it have to do with?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 04:42 AM
4	Women accept being alone better than men a man’s biological desire for a mate What are you referring to here? Biologically, it would make sense for women to have a deeper desire for a mate, if such a thing were actually measurable. What makes you think the difference goes the other way? Genuinely curious, not looking to argue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 04:39 AM
–	What percentage of female posters here are trolls? How do you relate to the men here? You probably arent single, dont struggle with dating, and probably have not tried to date women either. ...where exactly is the requirement for women posting here to be single/struggling? In what universe is this a men's sub? Wtf are you actually talking about?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/24 04:15 AM
–	If “your league is what you can get” then women are shooting too high for guys they can only get for casual sex Your insecurity, bitterness, and anger are truly a thing to behold. Are you saying that if a woman has been with someone more attractive than you, then you can't date her because she's now settling? Blows my mind... How would you even KNOW? Like do you plan to stalk every man she's ever been with to make sure you're the most attractive? What if she was in a long-term relationship with someone hotter, does that change anything? But with this resentful energy, honestly good luck finding anyone wil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/24 10:42 PM
2	If “your league is what you can get” then women are shooting too high for guys they can only get for casual sex Believe it or not for most women, a guy who describes them as "cum socks" in any context isn't really a considered a decent option. EXACTLY. They don't realize that those vibes go with them wherever they are, and their energy affects every interaction. You can't be a foul-mouthed, bitter, poor-me misogynist online but not have it affect your real life... sorry it just doesn't work that way!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/24 10:34 PM
2	The entire “if a girl is really into you, you’ll know and there is nothing that can dissuade her” narrative really needs to die already. This is completely false, and is misleading generations of men. Liking someone or not isn't logical and can't be based in logic. For whatever reason, she doesn't like you anymore. She's not feeling it. What does it matter why? She's not not you, move along. What "logical conclusions" would you accept in this case anyway, really? You've got this shrill edge of angry resentful desperation to your comments, and if you're getting rejected repeatedly it's likely that exact energy causing it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/24 12:30 AM
0	I Don't Have Anywhere Safe to Share This... Consider posting a profile review to one of the OLD subs. You might find that there are several ways you can improve the way you represent yourself!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/03/24 09:50 PM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? Of course anything that isn’t wholesale in favor of women is scary to you, we know. I feel bad for you. This extreme thinking is indicative of an undeveloped mind, incapable of seeing nuance and shades of gray. Banning abortion and regulating contraceptive use will benefit men how exactly...?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 10:20 PM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? use their frustration when it comes time to vote to make their discontent known. I mean, they should do what’s in their best interests, and it’s clearly not what women want that’s in their best interests. What types of legislation are you referring to here, and who is currently pushing for these laws? Your tone is actually a bit scary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 04:22 AM
2	I'm homeless, alcoholic and no one cares Go to an emergency room and tell them you're suicidal. You'll be put in a locked ward away from alcohol and they'll give you medicine so you don't die from withdrawals. You'll also get psych help which you clearly need. This is realistic and if you can't stop on your own it may be your only hope.	/r/MensRights	01/03/24 11:43 PM
-3	I'm homeless, alcoholic and no one cares Unsurprised you're a JP fanboy... what exactly was the "false allegation" against you? The fact that you've ended up a homeless alcoholic shows you have serious impulse control issues, which goes hand-in-hand with law enforcement DV rates...	/r/MensRights	01/03/24 11:42 PM
0	I'm homeless, alcoholic and no one cares Additionally, Peterson advises against allowing drugs to control your mind. ...wasn't he preaching that all throughout his years of severe benzo addiction? Man can't even practice what he preaches, not sure how you see him as a credible source of advice.	/r/MensRights	01/03/24 11:40 PM
–	Women preferring to stay single because they don't feel attracted to average men says a lot about their unrealistic expectations ...I thought "being settled for" was y'all's worst nightmare and resentment. Now you're saying this is something that should happen?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/24 06:11 AM
1	The Andrew Tate phenomenon shows that the mainstream responds very positively to "pill" ideas, but they are artificially suppressed by Western media companies ...why is it okay that your goal to "sleep around a lot," but when women do it, it's disgusting?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/22 04:01 PM
2	Women claim all guys, even below average men, struggle because they all want "hot supermodel stacies" and yet they defend women who have delusional, unrealistic standards I'm an introvert (41F) who has no interest in being part of any "gym culture," and I've belonged to 4 gyms so far (this is Metro Detroit). All I've ever seen is people working out in headphones and sometimes a few couples and some of the guys on weights would chat. I don't know where you live, but unless your bf told you about the people there being douchebags I would wager that the focus is on what they're doing. The purpose of the gym is to become fitter. It's not a social event. If there's a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/22 10:18 PM
10	"White men can't experience racism" I'm a huge advocate for men's trauma support. Men's emotions are very strictly monitored and boxed in by society, and if you deviate from that, humiliation often follows... and then silence. Men give up and spend their lives emotionally isolated, angry, and deep down, afraid. They feel worthless and those messages are sent & reinforced over and over, especially by women unfortunately. I think a lot of the anger and frustration I see here is a result of deeper emotional wounds that remain not onl…	/r/MensRights	31/07/22 09:31 PM
21	"White men can't experience racism" I'm probably going to get banned from some subs for even posting here, but here goes. I'm usually only ever here to lurk and observe you all like animals in a zoo, but I agree with this. I'm not trying to discuss hiring practices or whatever else, but specifically, my (white male) SO was born in Detroit and went to basically all-black schools the first 12 years of his life. They did massive damage to him in terms of trauma and self-esteem. He was relentlessly surrounded, ridiculed, shamed, and b…	/r/MensRights	31/07/22 07:59 PM
3	Lack of relevant social circles is bad, here's the main reason. Holy shit I didn't even realize. I'm dying 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/22 06:42 PM
3	Lack of relevant social circles is bad, here's the main reason. Yes, I do know what sub I'm on. "Women who sleep around?" Lol. There's zero point in engaging you further. "No, you're bitter." Come on... I know you're serious but theres got to be some genuine rationality in there underneath the superiority complex and dislike for women. Grow up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/22 05:18 AM
5	Lack of relevant social circles is bad, here's the main reason. Why.... uh... why are your height/weight stats in your flair? But what do I know. I have no experience Nothing. You know nothing. Everything you said is incorrect. Only "very broken girls" use online dating? You sound really bitter, and I get why. But for real, man. "Girls?" Are you referring to women? People meet alllllll the time in many other ways than being "the affable and the pleasant" who go out on the town. In fact, have you not met the huge amount of assholes who are outgoing and extrov…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/22 04:35 AM
9	No matter the "pill" you take as a man, in the long run it is no match for the nit-picky nature of women You're misinformed and I'm sorry youre so stuck in it. Rage and anger are poisonous to the soul.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/22 10:17 PM
9	No matter the "pill" you take as a man, in the long run it is no match for the nit-picky nature of women ...and that's because the entire concept is already included/integrated into the main sub, and apparently the members didn't see a need to use the separate sub for the same stuff that's in the main. I'm not a member but these subcultures are super interesting, including TRP. Go look at the FDS sections on self-improvement and how to build a full, happy life. See how they define a high-value woman. It's not all about "catching a man." It's about building a life where you don't need a man, and the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/22 09:08 PM
20	No matter the "pill" you take as a man, in the long run it is no match for the nit-picky nature of women FDS has a huge focus on self-improvement. The philosophy is to become a high-value woman (the best version of yourself) in order to attract the type of mate you want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/22 08:58 PM
0	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? None of this is a laughing matter. Serious radicalization is happening to young men and women. On a dating app, why would anyone not swipe right on the people they find most attractive? A one-paragraph bio can catch attention but there's not much else to go on. They find that attraction in the photos. Sometimes it isn't just physical attraction-- maybe they have the same favorite hobby, or maybe they get a vibe off of the energy in the photo(s), or what activities the person generally spends tim…	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 11:36 PM
1	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? I definitely agree that the 18 to maybe 25-ish SMP is more looks-focused, but I think that goes for both men and women. As people age, they (generally) lose the naiveté of youth and figure out what they really want from life. Often that comes with dropping this big focus on looks and valuing other personality qualities more. I'm very aware that there are massive assholes of all genders. Humans have a biological negativity bias so often we focus on what gets us all riled up, but between just Euro…	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 09:07 PM
1	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? I appreciate the link-- always open to new information. I'll check it out.	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 08:57 PM
-2	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? The issue is that online dating is completely different from the real world. All people have to go on is pics and a bio. Or course it's a meat market, that's literally what it's for. In person, you get to show your personality, interaction style, humor. Being so angry at others (women, Chads, whoever) and feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of energy. Every moment you spend letting other people rent space in your head is time you'll never get back. I'm not trying to convince you of anything, a…	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 08:45 PM
1	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? Okay. I thought this was quite civilized. I'm pretty open-minded and willing to consider your viewpoint-- you're stating opinions as facts and I was asking for backup. Take care.	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 06:39 PM
2	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? Sorry, I misread your comment. So you're saying that there aren't studies, but if there are they wouldn't share the results anyway? Who? Why wouldn't the results of a study be published? Who would that benefit? I'm not convinced there is some great conspiracy to keep the "truth" hidden.	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 06:24 PM
2	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? I'm happy to hear there are studies backing up your statement. Do you have any links?	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 06:13 PM
-4	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? Okay, so no source except your beliefs and maybe talking to a couple women. What is the "top 6%" exactly?	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 05:06 PM
-12	Why single males are laughing matter, in the society? top 10% of men have no real competition because 80% women are open for whatever the guy wants. ...any source for that besides online dating stats, which in no way represent the real world?	/r/MensRights	10/03/22 04:42 PM
1	Most women or I should say people agree with a lot of the redpill claims when it is not framed in a way that makes women look bad & without the harsh choice of words. "Improve yourself to attract the man you want" is easily over half of the philosophy over there. There is a huge wiki on how to be a high-value woman, or HVW. It's about building a full, happy life so if "he" shows up, it's fantastic but not your entire universe. Red Pill has similar thoughts. I think they really are trying to level up to be able to land that man and have the life they want. Working on careers, making their own money, cultivating hobbies and friends, etc. People only want to tak…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/22 03:29 AM
1	Most women or I should say people agree with a lot of the redpill claims when it is not framed in a way that makes women look bad & without the harsh choice of words. ...I wonder if there's any difference between the two? I wonder if youre aware of any. There are definitely similarities, like both groups are frustrated with dating, and both groups have come up with ways to control their experience in a way that benefits them. Both have reasons for believing what they do, and both subs have definitely become echo chambers for the zealots. I think a really important difference you're not feeling is that at its core TRP is about manipulating others and using the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/22 02:48 PM
2	Most women or I should say people agree with a lot of the redpill claims when it is not framed in a way that makes women look bad & without the harsh choice of words. Most men who have been abused have nobody to talk to about it. All of our men's support groups are run by men and only allow biological males into a space to be vulnerable and validated for the first time in their lives. I don't know why you're so angry and I don't why you think you know all this about me. The things I know about you are clear as day from your raging, spittle-covered vitriolic fantasies. You're fantasizing about child abuse and blaming step-parents? For the record though, since …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/22 07:59 PM
-1	Most women or I should say people agree with a lot of the redpill claims when it is not framed in a way that makes women look bad & without the harsh choice of words. Really? I posted in Men's Lib for volunteers to run men's trauma support groups. I am not a FDS poster, but I have looked because I was curious due to the type of people whose panties were twisted so tightly by its existence. They want a man who meets their standards, whatever those are for each individual. Some toxic assholes talk shit about men who don't make good money, but more talk about men who don't wash their own ass. They're people who have been burned by the dating scene same as everyo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/22 07:23 PM
-1	Most women or I should say people agree with a lot of the redpill claims when it is not framed in a way that makes women look bad & without the harsh choice of words. This isn't that hard to understand, dude. Most on FDS don't just want some mediocre dick, they are looking for a mate that fits whatever their personal standards are. You sound very young. Please spend some time outside your echo chambers- you are being manipulated and radicalized.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/22 06:33 PM
10	For people who are childless and unmarried in their 30/40s, do you feel regretful when you see young people starting families? There are vast amounts of people who want "kids" or "a baby" because they want one, NOT because they are mentally well and stable enough to actually be parents. I literally had a conversation with someone yesterday who is planning her first child and she is absolutely nowhere near thinking about how to guide a future adult human toward success and well-being. She wants a BABY. Babies turn into people and start talking back eventually, and that's where the problems really begin. Lots of people in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/22 05:29 PM
5	For people who are childless and unmarried in their 30/40s, do you feel regretful when you see young people starting families? ???	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/22 04:56 PM
1	Men who are abused usually suffer in silence. Together we can change that. We can't have any non-US residents as group facilitators because as you noted the cost of the background check outside the US will be prohibitive. I've included below some things you CAN do if you would still like to help. There are plenty of options for this. You can definitely help via the computer with the outreach re: men's survivor groups. That basically entails contacting various agencies and services to make them aware of the men's program (since it is pretty rare to have one). We also ha…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/21 02:35 PM
2	Men who are abused usually suffer in silence. Together we can change that. Hi, thank you for your kindness! You can also help by spreading the word on your social media! We are in dire need of volunteers of any gender... most of the 60 groups we run each week are mixed-gender. We have a couple men's-only and a couple women's-only but otherwise anyone can join any group. There are waitlists for everything right now and I am hoping to change that with these posts. If you prefer to help in a different way, you can donate or use the Amazon Smile link on the "get involved" …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/21 02:20 PM
1	Men who are abused usually suffer in silence. Together we can change that. I'm linking the donation page here: https://www.hope4-recovery.org/donate.html It's in the "get involved" tab on the website. Thank you for your support :)	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/21 12:39 AM
10	Men who are abused usually suffer in silence. Together we can change that. Some topics are self-worth, de-minimizing, coping skills, expressing vulnerability, learning about cognitive-behavioral skills, retraining our automatic thoughts, internal vs. external validation, book studies, toxic positivity, social roles, expectations, trauma processing, etc. I have volunteered with them since January and have seen for myself the growth that can happen when people have the support they need (in both men and women).	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	29/07/21 05:10 PM
18	"Unconventionally attractive" is still conventionally attractive The anger in your comment has left me a little taken aback. You've had it tough. Society (in the US, but also most of the developed world) focuses on and weirdly idolizes people solely for their beauty. Women are programmed (starting early in life) to believe that worth is based on appearance. I'm 40/F btw. Young women tend to become kinda obsessed with guys they find "dreamy," like musicians and actors. This also extends to guys they know personally. Looks are the most important indicator of wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/21 03:28 PM
3	Q4women: would it be ok for you if sexbots and virtual sex were a thing? I would love this. It would separate the men who genuinely want a romantic relationship from those faking one just to have a regular sex partner. Bring on the Robot Age!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/16 01:07 AM