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Good on you for letting your true self shine through; that's really what was sexy to her. You managed to link your passions/interests to the sexual tension that was already present.
/r/seduction27/12/12 10:04 PM
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Girls I've been interested in just haven't been showing interest back. Although most often they fall in love with my personality. Its very likely they don't see you as a sexual threat. You want to put yourself in the position to where if she had a boyfriend, she would NOT want him to see you two talking. You want her to feel that "this guy is into me and will actively go after me." Don't just put your heart on your sleeve and hope they show interest back; be sexual. And also show that if they ar…
/r/seduction27/12/12 09:31 PM
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I wink all the time and that shit always works. Granted it needs to be done right; a cool collected middle-ground between "I'm a sleazy creep," and "I have something in my eye, damn that hurts." The way you described it is pretty picture perfect to what I do. Its quick, subtle, and simple, yet speaks volumes about you, your character, and your confidence level.
/r/seduction01/11/12 09:08 PM
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That's actually a great experiment me and my buddies do. The idea isn't to find the "best" pickup line, but instead have your buddies come up with the worst, most nonsense line they can think of, then have you go use it on girls. Its fun, it keeps the mood light hearted, it gets you feeling goofy which brings out a fun vibe, and overall it teaches you to (a) not take rejection so seriously (b) to improvise your way through the conversation and (c) that if you say anything with direct confidence,…
/r/seduction24/09/12 05:46 PM
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I'd normally say "Yeah, lowering your standards is fine," but do NOT do so with a girl that you are going to see again/often. I've found myself making out or going home with girls who are, as you described, cute but for sure not my type. Usually it happens, all is well, I get out of my funk, never see her again (or if I do, I explain to her that I'm not looking for anything serious), and life goes on. With a friend, however, it is very likely you're going to need to deal with some backlash. If s…
/r/seduction14/09/12 03:58 PM
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I go out with two or three buddies and we like to either: A) Pretend we're all in a band touring around the U.S. We completely make up every answer to any question they ask us, including our band's name. Its fun coming up with lies on the spot, especially with 2-3 other people making up lies that contradict your lies. We'll take turns answering questions, slowly building off of each others lies, creating this massive story that is ultimately BS (somewhat akin to this) B) Everyone speak in a diff…
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:12 PM
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I realized I like two pretty polar opposite types: Either ridiculously fit/toned or chubby. I'm really not into skinny girls. She has to have something on her, whether that be some muscle or some pudge. But overall, I've dated everything: skinny, toned, short, tall, chubby, brunette, blonde, dark hair, curly hair, tan, pale skinned. Honestly if she's an awesome girl, I tend to be more attracted to our chemistry vs purely physical desires.
/r/seduction26/07/12 10:10 PM
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Well unless she's into Han Solo, it just sounds vain. By quickly changing topics in a nonchalant manner, you're already confirming "Yeah, I know I'm good looking, but there's no need to dwell on that topic, let's keep talking about something more interesting." If you just say "I know" she might laugh, but she'll probably be thinking "wow this guy is full of himself." Just saying Thanks and moving on is a perfect mix of self-assurance, confidence, and humility (in my opinion).
/r/seduction06/07/12 01:16 PM
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Exactly. Segway into another topic. As in, roll into the next topic in a painfully slow manner.
/r/seduction04/07/12 12:13 AM
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Yep, in fact one of the easiest shit tests is a compliment. How a guy reacts to a compliment tells a girl a lot about him. You're much safer just saying "Thanks, but anyways blah blah blah" than talking about it as if it were a segway into another topic. Don't let anything she says throw you off your game.
/r/seduction03/07/12 06:49 PM
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I never once said that women are emotional and illogical. I pointed out that most are simply persuaded by the moment (as are men, though a part of this subreddit is about becoming constant rather than changing depending on the environment, but that's a different topic altogether) And, in fact, I pointed out that "no one likes to be told its all that simple. No one likes the magic being taken out of it." People in general don't like being told they're carbon copies. They want individuality. This …
/r/seduction02/07/12 06:44 PM
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Don't worry about being too talkative or mimicking what your friends are doing. Be yourself. The more you try and alter the way you act, the less genuine you're being and the more awkward and uncomfortable you come off. Someone else mentioned being too friendly; too many pulls, not enough pushes. This could be it as well. In the end, be proud you're the outgoing one. Different girls go after different things and there are lots of girls who want to be wrapped up in the world of the outgoing, exci…
/r/seduction02/07/12 05:36 AM
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Open a group, warm them up a bit, invite your friend to come over. Don't make it obvious you're trying to sell your friend to them (overcomplimenting him and such). Let him hold his own weight and steer the conversation once he gets in there. Like you said, he's an outgoing, charming guy; if all you're doing is the approaching/warming, you're being a good wingman, since that's often the hardest part.
/r/seduction02/07/12 05:29 AM
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Of course, this is bullshit! I think it's partly a defense mechanism, that they are special, that they are not "easy" girls. And it's partly that if you do this stuff well, they just don't realise it. They are completely oblivious! That is the sound of the hammer hitting the nail on the head. Women (most) are swayed by emotions and by the moment, not by explanations and logic. When you explain the steps of pickup to them, of course they're going to go defensive and claim it would never work, bec…
/r/seduction02/07/12 05:13 AM
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Just FYI, this question would be much better suited for /r/askseddit. That being said: Frame control. A girl compliments you and you freak out, start overthinking, and begin to get stuck in your own head. A girl blows you off or rejects you and you freak out, start overthinking, and begin to get stuck in your own head. Both scenarios, the answer is frame control. No matter what happens, stay cool and play it off. In English, act almost as if they didn't say anything. If they compliment you, just…
/r/seduction22/06/12 05:53 PM
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I fake absolutely nothing. Its not about putting on a mask; its about becoming a brand new person with a new sense of confidence. And based on your message, you have absolutely zero confidence or self respect. How are women supposed to respect you and like you when you don't even respect/like yourself? You call yourself pathetic and weak. Guess what. Its a self fulfilling prophesy since going out of your way to call yourself pathetic and weak is pathetic and weak. You also don't have to be an as…
/r/seduction22/06/12 04:40 PM
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Its just a bad idea. And most of the women involved are smart enough to know this as well. Even if she ends up kind of liking you, the inhibitions a potential relationship poses to her career will keep her from acting on it. Just stay away.
/r/seduction22/06/12 04:19 PM
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Whether or not he was ever in the friendzone is irrelevant; he made the right move that any guy in the friendzone (or pseudo-friendzone) should make. He stopped being the guy desperately hoping things would become something more and moved on. He treated her like a friend (just like she "wanted") and began seeking other girls. Whether or not she secretly wanted to bang him the whole time or simply reacted with a "hey he's moving on good for him," he made the right move.
/r/seduction21/06/12 05:15 PM
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Usually means he's taking them home that night or not at all. All Same Night Lays.
/r/seduction15/06/12 01:50 AM
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Your texts kind of reek of desperation, and I've been there. One big tip that helped me: don't use "haha" or "lol" as filler. Your texts may come off a bit more serious without them, but that can be a good thing. Also, inside jokes can be fine depending on the person, but don't use them as a crutch. Relying too much on inside jokes, quirkiness, and humor just boxes out room that could be used to be real with her. Talk to her about real thing and get her talking more about herself. It sounds from…
/r/seduction14/06/12 03:37 AM
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Yep yep yep. A lot of success has come from letting her be the one to go for it; like dangling a carrot in front of a horse, they start chasing it and aren't even aware they are doing it. As the night is ending, throw out teasing things like "I'm not sleeping with you tonight," or "Look at you! You think you're getting lucky tonight! Sorry, but you have to buy me dinner first." They're fully aware that you're messing with them, but it still gives them a sense of comfort and allows them to open u…
/r/seduction13/06/12 01:26 PM
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Girls at house parties are the same as girls at clubs or bars or grocery stores. But a word of warning: Be careful using seduction/pickup techniques with people you know or will see on a regular basis.
/r/seduction13/06/12 01:15 PM
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Thanks for the link! There is limited learning value from the series, but to me, in-field footage is like a cheesy comedy; you watch it solely for cheap entertainment.
/r/seduction13/06/12 02:03 AM
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I was guilty of this, and then I realized it was all part of process between becoming a "newbie" and getting more intermediate at it. Its like experiencing something new for the first time that really excites you; all you want to do is talk about it non-stop. For instance with drinking. Back in high school when it was "cool" to go to parties and drink with the risk of being caught. The first time I did it, I thought I was the biggest badass there was and at first I just wanted to tell everyone a…
/r/seduction09/06/12 01:13 AM
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Great read and well said. Just the idea of "tricking" someone else into sleeping with you is absurd and it continues to forward the (bullshit) idea that sex is something that women own to give out as a reward and only men crave. Men like sex. Women like sex. To me, seduction is about breaking down those societal barriers that tell a woman "No matter how much you like this guy, don't show him you want to have sex with him. Otherwise you're just a big easy slut," and getting her to make her own fu…
/r/seduction08/06/12 01:28 PM
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I used to be close friends with 3 girls but since applying PUA these relationships have descended into a manipulative sexual triangle, where I'm gaming all of them and making them guess. Dude. Never game your friends. Just don't do it. You can apply the lifestyle skills you learn from pickup to your every day life (having more confidence, going with the flow, showing more frame control, always being the fun) but its a bad idea to actually try and pick up friends "just because you can." Because a…
/r/seduction07/06/12 01:29 PM
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That's how I do.
/r/seduction06/06/12 10:54 PM
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No matter how hard you try and press him, if he doesn't want it or care enough to want it, he'll never go for it. "You can lead a horse to water...blah blah blah." This one is on him. And honestly, it may just be something he doesn't want to concern himself with. Its like someone who's been mountain climbing and tries to explain it to people who have never tried it. All they get is "So you want me to buy a bunch of expensive gear and climb up and down rocks in the hot sun? No thanks." Its only a…
/r/seduction06/06/12 05:12 AM
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So, after he fails you try and show him game material and he just rejects it? Or doesn't take the time? Or thinks its stupid? If I was failing hardcore, and someone waved a solution right in front of my face, I'd be pretty intrigued.
/r/seduction06/06/12 04:48 AM
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Lack of self-confidence. I was in his position for most of my life. Women would throw themselves at me, but I would never take the chance because I was convinced it was better for me to save myself the embarrassment of screwing up in some way. So glad I'm not that guy anymore. He'll wake up one and day and realize how unhappy he is, only then will he actually find the motivation to stop being such a downer.
/r/seduction06/06/12 04:39 AM
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How aggressive I am depends on the situation, but when I'm in superman mode I tend to be as physical as the environment calls for. Are we on a dancefloor? Then I'm grinding, pulling, spinning, and taking her in close. Are we just chilling by the bar? I'll touch the shoulder, put my arm around her, play silly games (thumb wrestling, stupid stuff like that), and so on. If we're alone and isolated, I'll touch the leg and maybe go in for the makeout. But overall, just let kino flow. Get her associat…
/r/seduction31/05/12 11:10 PM
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Definitely. I look back at the person I was in high school and early college and just shake my head. I was the pushover "nice guy" and I got stepped on like a doormat for years.
/r/seduction31/05/12 03:32 PM
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Just ask them. No need to worry about wording it right or wrong. "Hey, I just got back in town after graduation and I haven't seen you in a long time. I'm going to grab coffee sometime today just for an hour or so, you should come join me so we can catch up." That's pretty much what I resort to.
/r/seduction31/05/12 02:47 PM
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Well this is going to sound very obvious, but you'd be surprised how few people actually follow through with it: Read the sidebar here. Even if you've already peaked through it, just sit down and read it all. Learning (and re-learning) beginner info on pickup is always good stuff. It really all comes down to the basics. Workout at least 4 times a week (if you're just starting though, take it easy. Injuries are bad). Depends on if you're trying to gain weight or lose weight, but visit /r/fitness …
/r/seduction31/05/12 02:33 PM
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I don't know about you, but I only give my number out to people I actually want to see again. Everyone and their grandma can have my Facebook info for all I care, but if you get my number, that means I look forward to hanging out again. Sure, social networking has changed things, and some girls do give out their phone numbers without much thought or care, but most of the time (especially girls who get hit on a lot) its personal. Its the only way to directly contact them and says "Yes, not only w…
/r/seduction31/05/12 02:24 PM
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Oof that was painful. But, hell, we've all been there. Hollywood crams it down our throats that women are looking for a "best friend" or the boy next door who will write them sappy love songs, long winded letters of affection, and show up unannounced at their door to sweep them off their feet. And its all bullshit. It took me a while to learn that as well.
/r/seduction31/05/12 02:20 PM
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I'll say this again and again; its not what you say, its how you say it. If you're analyzing every word you say and constantly wondering "Does she think I'm weird for asking that? What will she think if I say this? I hope what I'm about to say doesn't offend her," everything you are saying is going to come out wrong and flawed, because you're too busy walking on eggshells instead of just being you and being real with her. You know how a lot of the advanced pickups are good at this stuff? Its a c…
/r/seduction29/05/12 12:41 AM
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Thanks for making this topic; this has something that has been bothering me for quite some time. Every time I see one of those topics, I try to (politely) direct them to /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction29/05/12 12:30 AM
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I 100% agree. I never go for girls at the gym, mainly because when I'm at the gym I hate to be distracted, so I assume other people are the same. I just threw it out there though, since technically, women are at the gym.
/r/seduction28/05/12 05:35 AM
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This is something better suited for /r/askseddit or even /r/askwomen but: Coffee shops Grocery stores Concerts Gym Anywhere there are people
/r/seduction27/05/12 04:50 PM
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First off, check out the sidebar. You can find pretty much anything there. If you're new to gaming, chances are that you won't be using your pickup skills to get girls, as you won't have any. You will be (as you put it) getting "lucky." There is no one thing you can do, one thing you can say, certain thing you can wear, etc that will guarantee a girl in your bed. If there's anything you can take from seduction its that this shit takes lots of going out, lots of cold approaching, lots of rejectio…
/r/seduction27/05/12 04:50 PM
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"I actually have a girlfriend; I'm just a social person and I like expanding my friend circle. Maybe we can double date sometime?" Works almost every time I've used it.
/r/seduction24/05/12 11:08 PM
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As a fellow Dan, I endorse this comment
/r/seduction24/05/12 11:06 PM
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The post was alright and had a lot of points I agree with except this one... There is NO REASON for a man to talk to a woman about her appearance if he doesn't know her. It's intrusive, even if it's just "you look nice today." Why can't you just think that, and keep it to yourself? Why do you feel the need to make her know that you think she's attractive? That's all about your wants and your needs and nothing at all to do with her. What the hell? Well that got out of hand fast. Especially the la…
/r/seduction24/05/12 12:09 AM
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To me 1-5 is someone who is pretty much undoable (I don't find them attractive in the slightest, no matter how horny I was). 6's are my "Yeah if I'm drunk enough it might happen" and 7-10 are my "I'll have one of those, thank you." Note that my number scale is NOT based on looks alone. Attitude, personality, friendliness, and other qualities all factor in. But in the end, pickup is about going for the gold. Settling for someone low doesn't help your confidence and doesn't improve your game; its …
/r/seduction24/05/12 12:01 AM
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Mixing both is the best solution. The high energy, charisma is usually what hooks girls and makes them interested in meeting you. Once they are already attracted to you, that's when you try and isolate them from the group and go low-key. When its more quiet and one-on-one, I tend to use a much deeper, smoother voice (versus screaming over the bar music) that captures her attention and I make very very intense eye contact. The intense eye contact is a good thing; some girls just don't know how to…
/r/seduction23/05/12 11:53 PM
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A big focus on pickup is to make sure your intent is clear right from the get-go. You see a girl, you meet that girl, and she immediately knows you're interested in her by the way you talk, act, kino, etc. That is the reason most game is focused on the bar scene; people are more receptive to meeting new people who they assume will escalate things right on the spot. At work or in a small hangout with friends? Usually not a good idea to employ bar tactics (in fact, it could threaten your job) My b…
/r/seduction23/05/12 11:49 PM
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...you have the floor, moonwalker.
/r/seduction23/05/12 03:52 AM
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I agree that he should probably just avoid her if she's getting angry about it, but that doesn't mean she's crazy for feeling at least a little upset about it. By not caring, he's pretty much telling her she means nothing to him. Even if they had determined beforehand that they were just hooking up and that it wasn't going to go anywhere, its still nice to get validation from people and still nice know someone cares about you. You shouldn't seek validation from other people, but most do, and its…
/r/seduction23/05/12 03:05 AM
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Good, calm approach. Very direct and commanding ("Let's go over and chat. We're going to do this.") He made is intent extremely clear from the get-go as well ("Thought you were super cute and had to meet you. I'm going to flirt with you.") But this was the biggest part: "I'm going to get to know you and if you're cool enough I'm going to get your number." He makes it into a little "game" and puts the pressure back on her to impress him (even though he approached her) Even though he led with "I t…
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:33 AM
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Words: A pickup artist is always a master of words. He'll have the perfect pickup line, the perfect conversation starter and the perfect answer to any question. I once hooked a girl with the pick up line, "Come over here and touch my friend's ass."
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:25 AM
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Same as you basically; girls needing to constantly play games. Nothing drives me further away faster.
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:19 AM
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My common rule is that the one who invites, pays. If I ask her to a date, I'll pay. If she wants to do something and invites me (as a date), then I either expect her to pay or to at least pay for herself.
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:05 AM
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I've been a little down this week (happens to all of us) so this is an awesome topic. I think I need a good recap of why I'm the fucking man. I have an attractive face. I've been called everything from handsome to beautiful to hot to gorgeous. Its funny because I only started hearing those comments once I started smiling more. Being a happy person will make your face light up; people love it and it shows off your features. That being said, I'm a genuinely happy person. I wasn't always that way, …
/r/seduction22/05/12 04:20 AM
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Escalate escalate escalate. Don't expect a transition to happen if you don't make it happen. When you're joking around, use her as a prop. Grab her hands, spin her around, whatever. She'll go a long with it because, hey, you're the funny guy who's telling the jokes. If she refuses to participate, she's ruining the fun. So use that to your advantage. Don't be handsy, but get her used to your touch. Let her know through your touch, that she can touch you back and that you're just as susceptible to…
/r/seduction22/05/12 04:08 AM
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/r/askseddit would be better suited for this question. That being said, its all about delivering intent. Make it known that you want her romantically. The best way to do that is to ask her out. If she says no, tell her its no big deal and keep going on about your life.
/r/seduction21/05/12 01:25 PM
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Day tends to be harder for beginners since (a) no alcohol to use as a crutch for getting in state (b) no drunk girls to use as a crutch for getting easy lays. Also, when people are out at night, they fully expect to interact with others. When people are out during the day, they usually think they'll go on with their daily routine without being bothered. When someone all of a sudden steps into their reality, they usually don't know how to respond to it since its so unexpected (this is where advan…
/r/seduction19/05/12 01:15 AM
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There was no chair around to pull and bring in and sit beside them, I ejected because I felt uncomfortable standing up while they were sitting down, even though I could have still plowed through the interaction. That's always a tough one; you usually want to be standing if she's standing and sitting if she's sitting. In this case since you couldn't sit with her, the goal is to get her to stand with you (and her friend as well if possible; the more the friend feels included the less likely she'll…
/r/seduction19/05/12 01:11 AM
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You can go to Brad Branson's (from RSD) website and get a free E-book with audio samples when you register your email. The book is all about developing a commanding voice and controlling your tonality. Pretty sweet stuff.
/r/seduction19/05/12 12:12 AM
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/r/askseddit
/r/seduction19/05/12 12:07 AM
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Congrats on getting yourself out there. I know a lot of elite PUAs will say there is no difference between Day and Night game, but for a beginner they are radically different as the same skills (the skills a beginner is learning) are not as flexible as they are during the evenings.
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:57 PM
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I'm 23, have been graduated for exactly one year, and I've lived a more crazy lifestyle in this past year than I did in college. I think its because all the people you graduate with also have this feeling of impending doom, like they'll never be able to party again, so they make damn sure to party hard outside of college. If you surround yourself with the right people, crazy parties will always happen. The key is finding the right people. Personally, I had to reconnect with them. Most of the peo…
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:55 PM
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Thanks for responding; I definitely understand that its a lot of work for the mods to catch everything, especially with 50k members. There probably isn't a perfect system for filtering them out, but hopefully the rest of the community can catch on and avoid commenting on these topics or simply refer the OP to /r/askseddit. Thanks for your hard work!
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:50 PM
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I can't upvote this video enough. It was one of the first I saw when I started out and its truly an amazing starting point for beginners and also contains crazy good insight for the most advanced guys. Awesome video all around.
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:47 PM
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Should we get rid of every post that's about a specific girl, or are there some other aspects that would make that sort of post acceptable? Most of them that have been appearing lately are way more suited for /r/askseddit or /r/relationships. I see tons of posts each week that are nothing more than "There's a cute girl in class and I want her to like me, what do I do?" Those sorts of posts do not belong here. I'd rather see dozens of "reposted" articles/videos/blogs that actually contain good, q…
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:17 PM
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I'm half and half on the "rating women with numbers" thing. On the one hand, it just looks bad. It looks like we judge how worthy a woman is solely based on her appearance (which may be somewhat true for a lot guys). To people on the outside, it just makes us appear as sloppy, douche bags. Plus its completely pointless: My 10 is not your 10. Your 5 might be my 8. That guys 9 might be my 6. Its all subjective and holds no weight whatsoever. But looking at it from the other side, its a short way o…
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:51 AM
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I know TofuTofu touched on this, but I (along with him) have always thought of FRs to be more positive than negative. You get the occasional one that basically says "Got an f-close, feelsgoodman!" and offers no insight onto how they progressed, but for the most part (at least in my experience) it has been people thinking back on their flaws, asking the community for feedback, and learning from their mistakes or taking note of their successes. It makes sense that women wouldn't like the idea of a…
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:42 AM
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A mainstream seduction community would be horrible. Just imagine every single venue or club, full of people rehashing shit they read on reddit. It'd be a nightmare. Then again, people who actually know what the fuck they're doing would be able to stomp all over them anyways, so it wouldn't matter too much in the long run. And lately, this subreddit is being treated like a relationship forum. "Girl X won't call me back! Wat do??" and "Trying to ask out a cute girl in class, what do I say?" topics…
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:35 AM
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Pretty much. I love the general seduction communities (the ones that have been around for a long time) but you'll always get the occasional waves of guys who find out about it, register a user name, get all excited about getting laid, post useless shit about banging chicks, then never use their username again once they realize that this shit actually takes work.
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:32 AM
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Ah I saw that topic. I was about to comment, but it would have been like trying to stop a hurricane with plastic bucket. They had their minds made up before any conversation was had. Tyler from RSD makes up an amazing point about people calling pickup "creepy." I'm heavily paraphrasing here (off memory) but its something along the lines of... "Pickup isn't creepy; you know what's creepy? The guys who don't learn about pickup and how to interact with people socially, and still go try and hit on w…
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:29 AM
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As a fellow nofapper, I say good luck to you! Congrats on getting out there and working to improve yourself!
/r/seduction18/05/12 02:06 AM
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As a fellow nofapper, I can say that its definitely no miracle pill. The mood swings can be wild and you can get quite down on yourself when you relapse. Some find they improve their lives after going 90 days, some after 5 days. Its all about you and what you want to get out of it. With that out of the way, approach has been amazing since nofap (for me personally). I had already been decent at approaching, but after a week or so without fapping I just have this feral, sexual energy, and it seems…
/r/seduction18/05/12 02:04 AM
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First off, /r/askseddit I wouldn't be afraid to say and do stupid funny shit while with my friends, because I'm not worried of offending them or what would make them laugh. It shouldn't matter who you are talking to; talk to them as if you've known them for years and can say anything you want. Its not what you say, its HOW you say it. If you're constantly worrying about how you're going to be received, you're not talking confidently. When you're not talking confidently, you're completely transpa…
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:55 AM
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Exactly this. You can spout out obvious and utter bullshit, but it wouldn't matter if you said it like you're the motherfucking man.
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:51 AM
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I always hate "go-to" pick up shit, but I'll probably have to at least try that one someday; it could be an interesting experiment. But overall, I hate people who try and rehearse pickup content. Because it always sounds rehearsed. No matter what, as long as you are rehearsing something, people can always tell its rehashed BS. Then people who are newbies at pickup come whining onto the subreddit or /r/askseddit asking "Why, oh why, didn't this million dollar pick up line work! I was promised gir…
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:40 AM
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Great topic! Ironically enough, I made a blog post about this same topic yesterday and touched on (basically) the very same idea. Shameless plug to my blog entry
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:30 AM
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Don't get oneitis about clothing. Money quote. I'll tell you first hand: people. do not. give a shit. about how you look. They're too busy worrying about how they look. Last weekend, I went out 3 nights straight without going home. I crashed at random peoples' places in the cities, not showering/changing clothes/smelling like a bonfire/messed up hair/no cologne/etc. Every single night I still pressed on and still gamed it incredibly well. It was all because of my confidence. If a quiet, nerdy ki…
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:28 AM
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Even when I'm trying my hardest not to say anything negative, then I don't say anything at all then I get really quiet. Ever heard the phrase "Its not what you say, its how you say it." Well that times a million. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you say. You could say extremely negative bullshit, as long as you own up to it and you're practicing your tonality. If you're spending so much time thinking "Don't say dumb shit, don't say dumb shit," when you finally do say dumb shit (it will happen ev…
/r/seduction18/05/12 01:12 AM
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Say "Hi," next time you see her. But a word of caution; people at the gym are usually there to work out. I know that when I work out, I like to focus and make sure I'm not resting too much in between sets. I'd probably talk to a chick if she came up to me, but I'd probably be thinking "gotta finish this workout" the whole time we were chatting. Everyone's different though. Who knows, maybe she'd love to get hit on at the gym by a bunch of gym dudes. Maybe she'd hate it and gets it all the time. …
/r/seduction15/05/12 03:25 AM
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Lots of experience with this one. After you've flown to the sun, anything less than that feels like a waste of time. And that's depressing. Last week I met an amazing girl. We danced, touched, grinded, talked, laughed, kissed. We went back to her place, but were both drunk/exhausted, so we just sat on her porch, under the stars, making out and joking about stupid shit. Looking back on it, it was incredible and overall an awesome night. But immediately the next morning, I woke up thinking, "You'r…
/r/seduction15/05/12 03:16 AM
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Everyone is different. One thing that attracts someone, will turn off someone else. Your best bet is to just improve yourself for you. But if you want to break things down into "generalities" then I'll just say this; as long as you're confident, laid back, and able to have a good time anywhere, people will generally want to be around you. I've seen short dudes, with crazy beards, straggly hair, and dirty t-shirts picking up more women I could even fathom just because of the confidence they exert…
/r/seduction14/05/12 01:30 PM
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Congrats on getting out there. Isn't it funny how much we fear rejections? As if our lungs would explode in a gory mess if a girl ever said "No" to us. Yet, after plenty of rejections; I'm still here. I'm still fun, outgoing, awesome, attractive, and she's missing out. Great job leaping that first big hurdle.
/r/seduction13/05/12 01:49 AM
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You're trying too hard. I say move on. Once she realizes she's not getting attention from you anymore, she'll be left wondering why. Make her be the one wondering "Why hasn't he called?" instead of you. Notice how she immediately got defensive of you when you talked about her friend? Right now, she knows she has you on the hook. So stop texting/calling, stop talking, and just go after other girls. If she finally has the courage to ask you why you haven't called her or whatever, just say "Well, y…
/r/seduction13/05/12 01:46 AM
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Get into /r/fitness, keep trying to make change and it will come to you. But honestly, I've seen dudes your size (very tall, bigger) get serious attention from girls just because of how they carried themselves. They were always fun, confident as hell, laid back, could make people life, and seriously didn't give a fuck if they were getting ladies or just chilling with the guys. Also some girls seriously love big dudes; someone who makes them feel small, safe, and someone who looks like they're al…
/r/seduction13/05/12 01:41 AM
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It sounds to me that your friends are jealous of the attention you're getting. They don't have the confidence to go and talk to a girl on their own, so they need to be fucking parasites by demoralizing you to make themselves look better in a desperate attempt to feel some attention. First off, have a talk with your friends about pulling this shit. They're being assholes. But, either way, you have a bunch of options. Look at her and roll your eyes; continue flirting. She'll likely laugh and she'l…
/r/seduction13/05/12 01:25 AM
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Does anyone find themselves constantly demoralised by the more outgoing guys, or guys who are huge and by all means are chick magnets. It seriously sounds like you have confidence issues (just my honest response) and that is having a huge effect on your enjoyment of the club. To be honest, you put a guy in any situation that makes him feel like less of a man, or outclassed, he's going to fucking hate it. I love clubbing and I'm honestly a dude who dislikes the music, dislikes the "usual" crowd t…
/r/seduction13/05/12 01:17 AM
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I love the part in his song You See Me where it goes "She's such an over-achiever, all she does is suckSEED." Too much hilarious.
/r/seduction12/05/12 12:10 AM
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Just ask her. Its very very simple. This question would be better received over at /r/askseddit The biggest thing to know about seduction is (A) it is never the same twice, as no two girls are the same and (B) we do not have magic "phrases" or sentences that will work. We can't put the words in your mouth and even if we did, the probability that it would be well received is still about 50% considering we know nothing about this girl. She's already into you, so again, just ask her. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/05/12 03:35 AM
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I'd rather not exchange numbers, but that's just where I'm at right now. At the moment, I'm not really feeling any Day 2's, therefore I'd rather close by the end of the night or just try again the next night with some different girls.
/r/seduction10/05/12 03:30 AM
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Put pickup on the backburner for now. Focus on you. Burying your problems in alcohol, partying, and sex will not make you feel any better. Go talk to some old friends, meet some new people, pick up a hobby, play some sports, go to the gym, read every book that comes your way, look for a new job, ask for a promotion at your existing job, volunteer; seriously there are a million things you can be doing with your time, and your future self will thank you if you get started now instead of sitting in…
/r/seduction10/05/12 03:29 AM
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I play soccer so I'm in pretty good cardiovascualar shape but when it comes to being massy I am throughouly lacking, and it's really just an issue of not doing it before. First off, nothing is wrong with not having mass. Plenty of girls love guys who are skinnier and just in good shape. Physical appearance means nothing to your game and you shouldn't value yourself based on what you see in the mirror. Lifting weights because you want to improve yourself is a good reason to lift and put on muscle…
/r/seduction10/05/12 03:17 AM
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That's because friends will lie or avoid harsh advice to preserve the friendship. Us internet folk don't give a fuck, so we're okay with showing you a little tough love :P
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:34 PM
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That's why there is the rule of 4. After 4 attempts to engage in conversation, if she's not responding in any way or even smiling, walk away.
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:30 PM
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but the journey is gonna be so difficult. Yes, yes it will be. Some people are just naturally born with social skills, but most I'd say develop them. They develop them slowly throughout their childhood, middle school, high school, college years, and even into their early careers. If there is one thing you can take from /r/seduction, have it be this: Going out and talking to people for 1 hour is equal to reading 10,000 hours of material. You can read, read, read, read, but the only way you're goi…
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:29 PM
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The second to top rule after assuming attraction; always give no fucks Combine these two and you're good to go
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:21 PM
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I'm a guy who usually works better solo, but I usually need a friend to scope for me. For instance, about a week ago, there was this girl just standing by her friends, looking a bit bored. Very cute. Now I would have passed her right by, but my friend grabbed me by the shoulder, spun me around and said "That girl, she's the one," and gave me a tiny shove. From there, I just did my thing and we ended up dancing for a good hour and exchanging numbers. I don't like having a wing hanging by me while…
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:58 AM
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The top rule is always assume attraction. Always assume they're into you. Always. Hey! ...always.
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:52 AM
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The only thing wrong with you is your self-confidence. Women (and people in general) can smell lack of confidence from miles and miles away. And trust me, no one is attracted to that. It'll be harder to meet people, to have interviews, to get jobs, etc. This isn't a "What are women attracted to?" question; its a "What are people attracted to?" question. You need to stop acting like there's something holding you back; there is nothing holding you back but yourself. And the thing is, I fully under…
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:50 AM
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I think you're still torn up about the breakup; this has little to do with the multiple sex partners. I'm betting if you were 100% over your girlfriend and 100% happy with who you are, where your life is at, and had all the confidence you could muster, having sex with a bunch of girls would be just fine. Using sex with girls and alcohol to bury your problems is what hurts you. Seriously, take some time to improve you. Quit drinking for a while (or at least stick to just one beer each time you go…
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:43 AM
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Last Friday night, I saw a girl at the bar, said "Hey" to her as my friends and I grabbed shots. She smiled back. That was it. Later on the dance floor, I found her, made eye contact with her, walked over and grabbed her hand to pull her in for a dance. We danced, laughed, touched, and did lots of silly things like I'd spin her around swingdancing style or pull her in for random "dips" and other dance moves that do not belong to a hiphop soundtrack, etc. When we faced each other we made intense …
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:35 AM
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Let's just say, I know all about the cold feet thing. Even when a girl would be literally rubbing my leg and begging me with her eyes, I'd still get cold feet and end up leaving or not escalating until she finally got bored. Best thing that helped me: stop giving a fuck. It took some practice, but finally once I just stopped caring and decided to just ride the wave, the nights improved instantly.
/r/seduction07/05/12 02:28 AM
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Try posting this to /r/askseddit or /r/relationships. You'll probably get better advice there.
/r/seduction07/05/12 02:22 AM
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Sometimes the night just isn't right to take her home. Instead get her number and tell her that you'd like to pick up where you left off some other time. A night isn't a failure just because you didn't get sex. Anytime you're getting out of your comfort zone and establishing contact, its a success. Just keep at it.
/r/seduction07/05/12 02:20 AM
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Glad I could help put a little light on the issue. I guess it's so clear to me what you're going through because I'm still going through the same transformation. And I'm definitely not saying "stop being a nice guy." You don't need to change your personality, especially if you're already successful at picking up girls. You simply need to change the way you define "nice guy." A nice guy is a dude who is open and honest with a girl right off the bat about his intentions. A not-so-nice guy is one w…
/r/seduction07/05/12 02:14 AM
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I've been through this cycle. Hell, I'm probably still in this cycle. My problem is that I'm just too damn nice. I don't want to hurt others and I don't want to be the jerk. I have sympathy and empathy for those around me, especially the girls I pull. So after a hookup, I usually fall into the same stuff you mentioned above; I start a relationship even when its a terrible terrible match. And I fully know its mostly because I just feel bad about it; I'd feel like a jerk if I just hooked up with h…
/r/seduction07/05/12 01:42 AM
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Don't Be Weird Some of the best girls I've gotten was because I wasn't afraid to be weird. As long as you completely own it and don't give a fuck, being weird is actually quite an amazing thing. A lot of girls are much more comfortable in an environment where they can be goofy as well and not have to worry about coming off cool. You'd be surprised.
/r/seduction06/05/12 01:01 AM
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It depends how you go about saying it. Its not specifically in the content, but in the manner you address it. Make sure you're laughing, so they know you're just being a cheeky asshole and not just an asshole. Tear down the conversation, not them personality. If they have a weird purse or something, don't say "You're purse is weird," go with something that makes fun of purses in general, not her purse. Ex: "Do you really need a purse that big? It always surprises me that ladies tend to carry the…
/r/seduction27/04/12 01:16 PM
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Maybe not, but they're usually drunk.
/r/seduction26/04/12 05:18 PM
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Its not only calling her out on her flakiness, but its also making her feel like she's missing out because she flaked. Like you have plenty of other things to do. Some say you should play hard to get. Some say being direct is best. I like to mix them both. I non-verbally (and sometimes verbally) say "Hey, I think you're awesome, and I'm really into you. If you want to make something happen, I'd love to get to know you. That being said, there are like... a gazillion other single ladies out there,…
/r/seduction26/04/12 04:43 PM
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The whole night me and this chick had been exchanging flirty glances from across the dancefloor. Eventually, I stop dancing with a girl I was with and slide over to her. I grab her wrist and pull her in. She loved it and was immediately all over me; sliding her hands down my body, turning around and grinding into me, etc. Eventually, her friends drag her away with worried looks on their faces. I figure they just thought I was some d-bag and were protecting their friend. But once I was back at th…
/r/seduction26/04/12 04:38 PM
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Two answers: Very Important. Dressing nicely displays that you're well put together, clean, responsible, hard-working, and self-perceptive. These are generally attractive qualities. Not Important at all. I've seen dudes wearing old t-shirts and sporting long, straggly beards pick up girl after girl after girl, simply because they have such a strong personality. They give off the "Not giving a fuck" attitude that a lot of people qualify as an dominant trait and their lack of a wardrobe only furth…
/r/seduction26/04/12 04:24 PM
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There are a few directions you can take this. The humble: "I like to get outside and be active." It diverts away from the idea that you stand in front of a mirror in the gym for 2 hours a day and work on your guns. Instead it suggests that you live an exciting life that takes you places. The sarcastic: "Yeah! Its the most exciting part of my day! I mean, I usually start off by lifting heavy things, then putting them back down. Then I go lift some more heavy things and put them back down. Then so…
/r/seduction26/04/12 04:14 PM
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She was trying to get your attention dude; there is nothing creepy about it. Even if she wasn't trying to get your attention, there is nothing wrong about simply turning a girl around and starting to dance with her. She's at a dance club, surrounded by dancing people, packed in tight like sardines, and she's in the middle of them. Surely, she doesn't expect people to gasp dance with her? How attrocious! In all seriousness, next time you see a cute girl and she seems open to dancing (even just a …
/r/seduction25/04/12 07:58 PM
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These seem like good ideas for a game of 20 Questions, but for the middle of a club or bar? I'd avoid them. That being said, I absolutely love playing 20 Questions while on one-on-one dates. The questions always end up turning sexual. Always.
/r/seduction25/04/12 06:17 PM
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OP, what are your interests? Do you go to the gym? Do you play an intstrument? Any bands/music artists you're really into lately? Any sports? Any other activities? What do you like to do with your time outside of work? I'm simply asking because the problem may be that you don't have anything interesting to offer to the group (or at least anything that they find interesting). You see, the simpliest idea behind becoming friends with people is that you need to add value to the group rather than vam…
/r/seduction25/04/12 06:08 PM
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Ouch.
/r/seduction25/04/12 05:22 PM
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It seriously works some wonders; at least it has for me in the past.
/r/seduction25/04/12 12:18 PM
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Good list. Its funny how not giving a damn actually creates more value for you than going out of your way to prove yourself. Not giving a fuck is completely wonderful; people want to be around the guy who can always have fun, always laugh, always make people laugh, and not care about what other people think or say to them.
/r/seduction24/04/12 08:20 PM
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Drunk you is smooth! Try and transition that into sober you!
/r/seduction24/04/12 08:17 PM
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You got it man, and I wish you the best. And by all means, continue to want to look better and get more fit, or take up some more books/projects! Absolutely! I just meant not to decide that you can't attract a dream girl until you do these things. That's poisonous thinking. But yes, continue improving yourself at the same time!
/r/seduction24/04/12 08:04 PM
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I like to do indirect approach mixed with push and pull. Go up to the bar, order a drink, lean in to the person next to me who may also be ordering/waiting and just start talking. "What did you order? Oh so you're a rum girl, nice. Hmm, but you can't beat the class of a Gin and Tonic. What? You don't like Gin? Jeez, so you won't even give it a try; that sounds boring. You're boring and a rum drinker... which means you're going to get hostile in about 3 minutes here. So, I should probably go." Th…
/r/seduction24/04/12 06:23 PM
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Definitely resonate with this. Direct approach is great, and has definitely worked for me before, but in an environment among aquaintences, friends of friends, or familiar faces, the odds are definitely out of your favor. Not that you can't still pull one every so often, but there gets to be a point where Possible Social Ramifications > Making out/hooking up with a random guy, no matter how fun it may seem. This is why when approaching groups of girls, I go with indirectly approaching all of the…
/r/seduction24/04/12 05:17 PM
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Glad things are looking up! Welcome. I know I need to work on both my body and mindset...so that when I meet the girl of my dreams, she'll meet the guy of her dreams. This is one idea you need to get past and get out of your head. This is a dangerous place to be in, for one reason: You'll never be ready. Because you'll never be ready, stop waiting to be ready and just go out and do it. The people who are often "stuck" or in a "rut" are the ones who look for excuses to wait or look for ways to im…
/r/seduction24/04/12 05:02 PM
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Agreed. Keeping a steady workout schedule (accompanied by good eating) is pretty necessary to increasing your all around energy levels. That being said, if I know I'm going out Friday night, I'll make an extra effort to extend my workout on Friday; go faster, harder, for longer. You get to the point where you're so exhausted that once you finally get back home, shower, and get ready for the night, you have a new sense of calm energy about you. Its quite euphoric.
/r/seduction23/04/12 06:24 PM
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If you don't have a good singing voice, do a falsetto fake singing voice to a song that requires a high voice anyways (Bohemian Rhapsody, Don't Stop Believing, etc.) That way it shows you don't take yourself so seriously.
/r/seduction23/04/12 04:03 PM
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Also, rejecting someone is hard. I can imagine it being stressful saying no to all these boring guys who come up, deliver lame one-liners, and then get pissed when they get shut down, taking it out on her. Responding positively is usually always a good idea.
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:51 PM
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Have a setting you can turn on so that whenever you unlock your phone it prompts a message saying "Dude! Get off your damn phone! You're out having the night of your life, there are single ladies everywhere, and you're burying your nose in a text message? Pathetic! Shut this thing off immediately!"
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:14 PM
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Have conversations in my head about how awesome I am. Listen to pump up music. Hit the gym before going out.
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:13 PM
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Ignore. After I meet them, I give them a smile and make a bit of small talk, but once I catch the vibe that they're the cocky type, I just move on to someone else (sometimes when they're in mid sentence for dramatic effect). Any time after that, if they try and get my attention, I give them a half-smirk smile, humor them for a minute (and make it obvious that I'm humoring them) and move on once again. This drives them fucking nuts. They'll be so curious as to why you aren't falling for their usu…
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:09 PM
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Unfortunately he was being rude and interrupting people. I've been in groups with people who are just annoying, and yes, normally I just let them be annoying (since it only makes me look better in comparison), but this guy was effecting everyone's good time.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:46 AM
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No. No sir I am not.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:45 AM
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Haha I hear ya. If he was just a random dude at a bar or party, I would have no problem being more in his face about it. But since it was a friendly environment and he was a friend of a friend (not sure how close either) I just decided to let the situation unfold as it may and take the humor approach.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:44 AM
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Not sure if you're referring to me or him. He was very adamant about making sure we all knew he was in a band and was recording with someone who was important for some reason. I, on the other hand, didn't bring up my music skills once until I was asked by a fellow friend. Once asked, I gave a short quip about a recent show we played and that was it. I never rely on bragging to pick up chicks, no matter what it is; I'd rather they found out on their own.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:43 AM
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Well whatever situation he was in or whatever he was trying to accomplish, he was not doing it very well. He very quickly managed to annoy about 10 people who didn't know him very well. If you do that, you're doing something wrong.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:40 AM
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Exactly, and I definitely appreciated it. We hadn't planned it out, but I think he got the vibe that the girl and I were somewhat going for each other and stepped up to help me out. I'm definitely using it when I wing and intend on paying it forward.
/r/seduction20/04/12 07:05 PM
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No problem! Best of luck!
/r/seduction20/04/12 06:41 PM
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Absolutely. I love my friends for this. I think they anticipated that the girl and I were flirting and wanted to help that along. I'll definitely repay the favor to them when I get the chance if they're in a similar scenario.
/r/seduction20/04/12 06:39 PM
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Definitely. I love the moments where everyone is in on the fact that the guy is a moron, which is why the sarcasm went over really well. Occasionally though, you get the guy who's just so good at doing it that people eat it up. He has their attention and will rewire their attention back to him at every chance he gets.
/r/seduction20/04/12 06:35 PM
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There is quite a blurry line between one-upping and being generally excited about sharing an experience. I agree, I too have some great stories to share at times, yet feel that I can't just in case I come off as "that guy." But, I've found that there will always be a time and a place for it. For me, the key to avoiding trying one-up someone is to try your hardest to relate to them. If they say "Yeah we swept through Italy for a few days; it was short but amazing," simply add in your story with a…
/r/seduction20/04/12 06:32 PM
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Let's just say my team didn't do so hot :( I'm drowning my sorrows in a hopeful (yet rocky starting) baseball season instead.
/r/seduction20/04/12 06:24 PM
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Normally, I tend to be right there with you. I don't want to deal with that shit. I guess, it was the setting that had me calm though. We were just eating tacos, drinking beer, and watching the baseball game; I was in a relaxed state, around old friends, and didn't really care. Once it started getting too frequent though, and I could tell everyone was getting sick of it, I stepped up and threw in the sarcastic responses. Had we been at a bar/club and out with newer people, my game face would hav…
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:26 PM
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Just offering my own insight/FR, just like anyone else would. You don't need to read anything you don't want to :)
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:21 PM
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I'm definitely happy for you! But, sadly, this isn't always the case. I've been the guy who seeks rebound sex after my own breakups as well as the guy who becomes the rebound boyfriend. Both situations have yet to end happily. I'm sure, as in your case, it can happen; but I think more tactfulness is needed than general PUA advice.
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:19 PM
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Well, the point of my previous post was to make you think. If you're asking the seduction community when you should make a move, the answer will always be "Right now," because the end-game for this subreddit is usually sex. But if you're pursuing a relationship, as in you really really like this girl, the approach you take will definitely be different. Rebound relationships/hookups happen, but they rarely last or turn out well (speaking from experience). So if you care about her more than just a…
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:18 PM
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Its actually surprisingly sandy... feels good on your feet; its so smooth. And not a cloud in the sky, I'll tell ya!
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:15 PM
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What are you looking for? If you just want rebound sex, chances are you'll get it if you ask her out immediately. Go get 'er! However, if you're wanting a relationship out of this, rebound hookups never last. A fair warning.
/r/seduction20/04/12 02:37 PM
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I can't stress this enough. If you're waiting for the "perfect moment," you're going to be waiting around for-fucking-ever. Hollywood has drilled it into our brains that "you'll just happen upon your true love one day, fall madly in love, and live happily ever after, no effort involved! So just sit around, and wait for them to show up on your door while you masturbate to porn!" Ever heard the phrase "Life is what happens while you're making plans"? Well, that should speak for itself. Stop waitin…
/r/seduction20/04/12 01:26 AM
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You're in high school; people are going to call you creepy just to put you down. Because they're jealous of your ability to be confident and approach a girl. If they do that, you own it. You don't give a damn what they say and laugh to yourself because you're the one actually talking to girls while they go home and masturbate to fake ones. Don't worry about being creepy; be confident, tell yourself she's into you, and introduce yourself. If she thinks you're creepy, you say "Well, take it easy,"…
/r/seduction20/04/12 01:21 AM
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I want a girlfriend Most would say that this is the reason you won't find a girlfriend. I tend to be on the agreeing side. If you let it become the biggest component of your life, you're not going to be focused on improving yourself and having fun; instead you'll be focused on becoming what the girls want to see/hear in a guy and the desperation will just be backwards progress. You need to become a confident person in yourself and (honestly) start not giving a fuck about getting a girl or what p…
/r/seduction19/04/12 05:28 PM
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Some girls don't care and just want a clean place/bed when they come back with you. The classy ones, however, will take note of your place and see more/less value in what's around them. Here's what I do: No slutty posters. What are you 12? Get that shit out of your room. Bookshelf with plenty of books that you've actually read. Haven't read that many books? Why not? Start reading more books. Then fill a bookshelf. They show your interesting and intellectual side, a side that may not have come ou…
/r/seduction19/04/12 05:11 PM
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That sounds awesome! Congrats on all the self improvement. I got a similar compliment like that a few days after St. Patty's day and it seriously made my week. During St. Patty's I ended up going out with a group I had never met before. I met one dude through friends of friends that day, then when my regular group kind of flaked out for the night, I ended up just asking him what he was doing for St. Patty's. He ended up taking me from the bar we were at to one of his friend's apartments for drin…
/r/seduction19/04/12 01:06 PM
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This all stems from confidence. You're obviously anxious/nervous around single ladies (hey, everyone is), but instead of preparing to deal with it, you let the tension get to you. Once they reveal they have a BF, there's a wave of relief when you realize you don't need to step out of your comfort zone; there's no one watching or judging. You said that you can finally just be yourself, once you know there's no pressure of screwing up. That is the feeling you need to carry over to the single girls…
/r/seduction19/04/12 12:57 PM
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That first girl definitely wants you, but was too shy to make the first move. Its funny how that simple act of touching her shoulder snagged her out of her comfort zone and gave her the confidence to come up to you, hug you, sit next to you, and hang with you for the rest of the period. Its funny how often this happens; two people who both like each other, both want to reach out and grab the other person, both want to escalate things, both want to get to know each other more; but neither will ma…
/r/seduction19/04/12 12:51 PM
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I like to go with, "Really? $5 and its yours. Straight up. I'll even throw in one of my socks for free." Or if you don't feel like being sarcastic, just say "Thanks, I get them at _____, have you been there?" Honestly, just say anything haha.
/r/seduction19/04/12 12:42 PM
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This situation is no exception to the basic rule Assume Attraction. Some chicks are going to blow off guys for no reason, some will blow off guys who are short, tall, slim, fit, chubby, balding, dirty, clean, whatever. Just like each guy has his particular tastes, women do as well. And in the end, attraction runs deeper down than traits. I've hooked up with women I'd rarely find myself drawn to, yet the events of one night and the way they handled themselves was such a turn on to me that I made …
/r/seduction19/04/12 12:38 PM
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Sorry, but it sounds beta and whiny. Someone else mentioned to simply ask the friend if she's single. Don't confess your undying feelings about her to this friend; don't bring anything else up. Just bring it up quickly and put in "So it was great getting to know Heather, is she single? Yeah? Sweet." Leave it at that. But even so, this is detrimental because of how it relays back to the girl. When her friend is talking about how you brought her up and asked if she was single, you can bet she's th…
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:36 PM
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My rule for everything; every situation is different, so adapt accordingly and always have fun. Just the same, every chick is different. Some actually do want the nice guy who will hold their hand, some want to be ravaged on the spot. Some want to be chased, some want to give chase. Some want to be teased, some hate the teasing game. Some girls have no problem taking approach into their own hands, some are want the guy to take the initiative. Some are out at the clubs just to dance with their fr…
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:25 PM
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Gym game is tough. Personally, I go to the gym to get my workout done, and while I'm totally open to some conversation if I see someone I know, I usually don't talk with them for more than a few minutes because I want to keep my intensity up. So, it definitely depends on how determined they are in being there. If they're there to workout alone, chances are you'll be more of an annoyance than anything. If they're there with a friend(s) your chances are probably a little better since they'll be ge…
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:16 PM
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I must say, I enjoy the RSD free tour videos quite a lot. Though most of what he says is rambling, I think the points he gets across are vital. I remember the video when someone asked him about his success rate; he went on a long rant about random shit and going out and being a fun person, but ultimately it came down to "If you go out every night, have fun with your friends, talk with people, flirt with girls, meet new folks, make new friends, and be a person people are excited to be around; the…
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:09 PM
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So I am kind of holding out until I get a six pack and jawline I'd highly advise against this. If you keep telling yourself "I'll be ready once I look like X, or once I'm good at Y, or once I can talk about Z. Then I'll go out and get girls," you'll be waiting forever. Putting it off will only keep you in the same place longer. But to answer your question, yes, being in shape drastically improves confidence. Even if you don't have muscle definition, as long as you're actually going to a gym or r…
/r/seduction17/04/12 07:47 PM
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Non-physical Related Compliment Me talking with a girl I had met while out last week (spent the night meeting/hanging out with her friends even though I knew absolutely no one) Her: "So you think you got the job?" Me: "I think the odds are good. I'm pretty decent at interviews; in fact, I usually look forward to them." Her: "I can tell. There was something about you when we met last week. Even though you met my friends like five minutes prior, they told me it was as if you had known each other f…
/r/seduction17/04/12 06:25 PM
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If it is awkward, who cares? Sure, if she's a bitch she might laugh about it with her friends for 5 seconds afterwards, but then you move on because remember; she's a bitch. Running out of things to say doesn't happen as easily as you'd think it would, so long as the girl wants to make a little conversation. Get her talking. Also, use Nouning (picking the nouns out of the last sentence she said to ask a follow up question(s)) If all else fails, go dance! You talk for a little while, things are g…
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:44 PM
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Play the intro-setup card, and then walk away. Get him and the girl introduced, get them talking about something, and leave to go do your own thing. Or try and introduce both of you to a group of girls, and divide into your own smaller conversations; this way the attention is always split. Also, show him a bit of material on being more confident so he doesn't bore them when he talks; the rest is up to him and you've done all you can.
/r/seduction12/04/12 04:50 PM
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I've read through your blog and you've inspired me to reopen my long dried up blog from years ago. I need to get into writing again, and the dating scene is the perfect outlet for this. Thanks for the great stories!
/r/seduction11/04/12 04:11 PM
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There are lots of things you can do to get in state. Alcohol just tends to be the quickest/easiest, but it risks a lot of things as well (poor judgment, slurring, clumsiness, being an ass, whiskey dick etc.) Try: Carpooling with a friend. Pump each other up by getting excited about gaming. "Dude, the second we get in that place, let's just go for the first group of ladies we see!" The more you talk about how great the night is going to be, the more thrilled you'll be to just let loose. Listening…
/r/seduction10/04/12 04:02 PM
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Number 6 is huge. The people who only learn theory struggle a lot, because once they get out in the field, they think everything is scripted like a movie ("I should say line A to get response B, then say line C and get response D...") But honestly, learning seduction isn't something you memorize and rinse and repeat; it changes constantly depending on the situation, time of day, environment, women involved, the other guys there, alcohol that's being served, types of event/holiday that's occuring…
/r/seduction10/04/12 03:53 PM
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Sticking to generic flirting is fine. Everyone loves to flirt, even if they aren't generally interested in that person. It can be a two way ego boost for both of you. However, it crosses a line when you go beyond harmless flirting to something more extreme (touching, extensive hugging, close dancing, kissing) when you know you would never hook up with them. Then you're just leading them on and if they are someone you see often, you're damn right they're going to tell everyone that you're a tease…
/r/seduction05/04/12 02:58 AM
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Yeah I feel like I friendzone 90% of the girls I meet, just because (as you said) if I genuinely think they're a great person, but don't have chemistry with them, I'd rather not lead them on. I'm also kind of picky in who I strive to hook up with.
/r/seduction02/04/12 04:12 PM
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Yeah, but it also is a great exercise for maintaning eye contact, without simply staring. Don't think that seddit needs to be your one trick pony. Everything is situational and certain things only work for certain people; discover your own things that work for you.
/r/seduction30/03/12 05:27 PM
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Wow. Use paragraphs. And complete words. Please, for all our sakes. Solution: Just go and ask her out. Seriously. Don't "talk about things" and let her stew with her feelings; be an adult and next time you see her say "Hey, do you want to grab coffee after class gets out?" She's obviously into you, but neither of you knows how to appropriately react to your feelings. Just suck it up and ask her out. No need to keep pressuring her about "what her feelings are." If she says no, then you'll have yo…
/r/seduction30/03/12 05:24 PM
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Shark balloons show confidence. Anything ridiculous shows confidence as long as you play it off right. If you act all embarrassed that you're carrying around a shark balloon, you won't get much attention, but the key was that you owned it. You played it 100% right by giving him a name and toying along the conversation. This is often called peacocking (wearing or doing something noticably abstract and weird to illicit a reaction from people around you). Its always a good ice breaker. Instead of s…
/r/seduction30/03/12 05:17 PM
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The drive home is when you start planning the next date. Reflect upon your time together and tell her you really had a great time and ask what she is doing on X day. Also ask questions; get her talking.
/r/seduction30/03/12 05:11 PM
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Sounds like bars/clubs just aren't the place for you; go to coffee shops or venues where local bands play. You start building confidence (especially for those interviews) by simply being out more. During the middle of the day or after work/whatever, just stop for coffee somewhere. Don't grab it and go. Sit down and enjoy it. Bring a newspaper, magazine, book, laptop with you and just enjoy being out. Strike up a convo with the barista while your drink is brewing, say hi to the people around you …
/r/seduction30/03/12 05:02 PM
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Do the triangle trick. Glance from her left eye to her right eye to her lips back to her left eye. Keep making this triangle (slowly, don't look like you're twitching) and smile. It gives your eyes more "liveliness" than just staring and coupled with a warm smile you come off as interested rather than creepy. Either way, eye contact, even if its on the creepy side, will net you more success than staring at the floor!
/r/seduction30/03/12 04:06 PM
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The only time the chance of failure is 100% is when you don't try.
/r/seduction30/03/12 04:03 PM
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Yep. Two of my closest friends are women. I go out with either of them (1 on 1) plenty of nights, just when I want to have a good time. Sometimes they'll be my wingwoman, which is really nice by the way. We're all attractive, single, young people, yet we all know we're just platonic friends and have no interest in hooking up with each other. They're pretty much my bros. Just with boobs. TL;DR: Yes. Don't let others tell you what your relationships can/can't be. That is between you and her. Also,…
/r/seduction28/03/12 05:47 PM
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Assuming attraction has been working in my favor lately. Assuming attraction, even if its not true, makes you appear so much more confident; in the end the odds of rejection are much lower. And as you said, if you don't care whether or not you end up with the girl, go ahead and give it a shot. No skin off your back.
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:37 PM
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Absolutely this. This was me on Friday night. I was invited by a friend of a friend of a friend to a bar where I knew absolutely no one. I decided to make the best of it and just meet everyone. It worked out great and I ended up spending maybe $3.00 or so all night because everyone who was ordering group shots and group drinks politely included me in their order. I got a few numbers and ended on a pretty high note from a situation that could have been lonely. Saturday however, I was way too conf…
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:34 PM
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Watch your alcohol intake. Seriously, I totally blew what could have been an F-Close because my friend had to drag me out of the bar so I wouldn't end up driving home. He was just looking out for me and didn't realize he was snatching me out of the arms of a gorgeous girl, but nonetheless I went home in a cab alone instead of with someone else because I was too messed up to know the difference. The bar had a special on shots, and after doing a few rounds with my buddies and buying more later for…
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:30 PM
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Just think, most people you meet are just as nervous as you are. Its very easy to say stupid shit that you didn't mean or come off a certain way on accident, especially when booze is involved. Take what they say with a grain of salt and just enjoy a natural, flowing conversation. Its good to have standards, but try to go into the night without the bar set so high. If all else fails, the age old trick of fake it til you make it works suprisingly well.
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:25 PM
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You handled yourself well; I've heard those comments before, and I usually just say "Maybe you're going color blind," or something that'll get people to laugh in the same way. It is good to have a wide array of options in your wardrobe, but honestly, you'll be the most confident when you're the most comfortable (I don't mean old jeans, and dirty t-shirt when I say comfortable, but having everything fit well). I wear casual clothes during the evenings and business casual at work, but when I go ou…
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:22 PM
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I have the exact same thoughts about seddit; well said. I'm a guy with average sex-drive, and I use the advice on here purely to get better at conversing with others and be a more "likeable" person when I'm out with friends. But that's where it ends for me. I'd much rather use a fun time at a bar with a woman to work towards a relationship; not lead to instantly making out or get in her pants. I do also understand, however, that a lot of people need the confidence boost this site can give (it ce…
/r/seduction26/03/12 05:11 PM
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I upvoted because I do agree with what you are saying, but at the same time I have a little disagreement over this. The girl is perfectly in control of making her own decisions. If she ends up sleeping with the guy, she can't blame him by saying "Hey, you said we wouldn't sleep together and we did!" If she's allowing things to heat up and mutually engages in sex, she's made her own choice of where the night would ultimately end up. People say misleading things all the time. Girls do this to guys…
/r/seduction23/03/12 06:25 PM
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Its true. This definitely works. Why does it work? You're allowing them to let down their defenses and allow the night to progress innocently. Obviously, our culture has a negative stigma towards girls who have sex on the first date to the point that girls feel the need to overcompensate. When going on a first date, even if they really like the guy they're with, they make sure they have their "anti-slut" defenses up. They may be thinking "This guy is really awesome, I totally hope things progres…
/r/seduction23/03/12 06:14 PM
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It sounds like you're the one living a more fun life. Seriously, if you're passionate about sailing and different martial arts, women are going to be so much more impressed by you than the average "I can do a kegstand, and can quote Family Guy" dudes that crowd the bars and fight for attention. Honestly, just enjoy being yourself; people appreciate someone who has interesting passions. But if you do want to stand out more in a day to day environment; smile. Smile all the fucking time. Not in a c…
/r/seduction22/03/12 05:18 PM
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I'm trying that... the blind date routine incorporates everything so smoothly! It gives them a reason to take a good look at you, to touch you, to play with your attire/buttons/belt/pockets/whatever, and to easily slide into a silly conversation. Absolutely brilliant.
/r/seduction22/03/12 05:12 PM
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If she says these things (thinking about you for three months and wanting to marry you, etc) then why won't she date you? Why won't she be in a relationship? Why do you need to convince her to be with you? Why is she so desperate to play games instead of just talking through it like an adult? I'm simply looking out for you; I've seen plenty of guys get dragged along by these sorts of things so many times. If she really wanted to be with you, there would be no hesitation, at least not without a v…
/r/seduction21/03/12 06:31 PM
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No one actually likes the music at clubs; people just like dancing to it because it has a beat. I love clubs and dancing, but I would never ever listen to that garbage music in my free time. You don't need to enjoy the music to dance to it, just follow the beat and try to enjoy the people you're with. If you're really looking for a good alternative as far as meeting girls, its hard to find one that's as openly social. Coffee houses are usually set up in tight groups of tables, which don't allow …
/r/seduction21/03/12 05:41 PM
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Please just move on. After 40 minutes of talkingshe finally decided to "try" dating you? That's a clear signal that she really doesn't want a relationship and doesn't know how to say no. She was probably jealous of the other girl you were kissing because of some power struggle; she's always known you've been head over heels for her and the second you get over her and move on, its a big hit to her self esteem. She doesn't know how to handle it, so she reacts emotionally. I really don't think she …
/r/seduction21/03/12 05:22 PM
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Well, then your only option is to sit her down and tell her that the other night was a drunk mistake and that you really only want to be friends with her. Apologize for leading her on (even if you were drunk while doing it, she still was led on) and hopefully she won't be too upset and understands.
/r/seduction21/03/12 12:25 PM
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Yeah some of the things on seddit cannot be applied to shy girls, especially being forward with your intentions. Even if they think you're a nice, attractive guy that they'd like to get to know, if you're too open about your intentions, it can make them nervous or brush past their comfort zone. My best solution is to always just have fun. Laugh and smile a lot, let them talk once they open up, continue asking questions, and slowly show playfulness. Little things like that slowly break down that …
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:37 PM
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Oh man, sounds like my roommate. Me and my other friends call him Subject A, because if there is ever an example of how not to act around girls, he is living proof.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:35 PM
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I have to second this one. If you have any friends (preferably women) who can give you the luxury of being openly critical and honest, ask them what it is about you that turns girls away after the first date. Rejection could be from a large number of reasons, but someone who knows you personally could narrow it down to a few things.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:04 PM
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Very true and nicely put. Sometimes its not about busting down a barrier, but rather melting it down to a point that its easy to pass through. Having academic discussions is a good starting point, and I definitely know that feeling when you want to get to know someone better but don't know how to get past that "just classmates" point. It all starts with making the conversations just a little more personal. Story telling, as you said, is a great way to do this. Let's face it, there are people we'…
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:52 PM
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Do you work out at all? If not, join a gym. If your friends are these muscular dudes I'm sure they hit the gym; ask if you can join them if you think you need motivation. Your body won't improve instantly, but after a few weeks you'll feel so much better. You'll have more energy, you'll feel happier from the endorphins, and you'll notice your confidence is much higher. And let's face it, when you feel better you act better. You're more fun to be around and people notice you more. Just curious, h…
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:42 PM
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I must say, I've had plenty of success doing almost the opposite of was seddit tells me I should be doing. I take most advice on "game" here with a grain of salt. You're exactly right when you say something either works for you or doesn't; in the same light, some things work on certain women and others don't. Each person, man or woman, is different as well as the environment/circumstances you meet under. Each scenario calls for a different appropriate approach.
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:34 PM
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Everyone needs to understand that anywhere is fair game. I met a girl I dated for a while simply because I decided to take a different route walking to class. My friend met his fiance on an airplane. I know another guy who met his current girlfriend at a drugstore picking up a prescription. Don't think the only way to put yourself out there is going to the bars/clubs. Just get out more. The more you interact with others in an open environment, the more chance you have to work your game. If you'r…
/r/seduction20/03/12 05:43 PM
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I love shy girls. Absolutely love them. I've found the best way to get them talking is to ask them questions. Get them talking. The more they talk, the more comfortable they'll be. give them a confidence boost to help them open up. A compliment. Even a small one, goes a long way. Also, smile while you talk/listen (not in a creepy way) to show you're really interested in talking to them. This boosts their confidence if they know you truly are wanting them to open up a little more. don't put forth…
/r/seduction20/03/12 05:37 PM
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Exactly. This is quite important. Unfortunately, I was both unfamiliar with the area and drunk, so I was forced to just go with the flow. Still a great night though.
/r/seduction19/03/12 02:42 PM
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"You're gorgeous, but I'd rather see how you dance." Then move the conversation to the dance floor.
/r/seduction19/03/12 02:12 PM
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I like to work out and play guitar. Those are my "manly things" I guess. I also love beer, so going out for happy hour drinks is always a fun time of the week.
/r/seduction19/03/12 02:09 PM
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PROS: I love St. Patty's day. Everyone is tipsy and actively looking for a fun time. Plus, holidays give the excuse to dress ridiculous, which help as an approach tool. On Saturday, I was sporting a green, glittery, light up bow-tie. I didn't have to do any approaching, since all the girls were instantly coming up to me and complimenting on my attire. This led to many many playful conversations, flirting, kisses, and dancing. Meeting new people is amazing. Not only did I meet random girls, I als…
/r/seduction19/03/12 02:08 PM
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As a guy, I have very similar issues. I'm very particular about who I go out with and who I engage in relationships with. At the same time I love meeting new people and making new friends. This has left me with a lot of close female friends over the years, who may be gorgeous, but probably aren't the girl for me. Generally, my advice is: Refrain from 1 on 1 hangouts. Don't flirt. Flirting is fun. Everyone loves it; its a confidence boost on both sides, but in the end if both parties are not actu…
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:55 PM
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Frickin, this. Seriously man, don't escalate things with her. You're saying all the right things when it comes to remaining friends, but your actions are speaking otherwise. No matter how much you say "I just want to be friends," if you get drunk with her and allow her to flirt and eventually get you into bed, you're just promoting her behavior and telling her there is a chance. Refrain from hanging out 1 on 1. Its just going to lead her on more and hurt her more later.
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:49 PM
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He repeated it a few times, and I got the vibe he wanted me to leave their place, so I left, not seeing her again. It sounded like she sobered up a bit as the night went on and felt like she was in over her head. She most likely liked you, but all of a sudden you're back at her place and she knows this is where something either happens or doesn't. Chances are she didn't want to give it up, but didn't know how to face you so she hid behind her guy friends. Sometimes things just go like that; you …
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:45 PM
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Honestly, you have to strike that good middle-ground. If I have a few drinks in me, my confidence shoots up exponentially, as well as my ability to let loose and laugh more, but I maintain my intelligence and wit. Once a few more drinks start pouring in though, I quickly fall off a cliff. I've learned to find that few drink min/max and keep it at that level.
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:37 PM
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You're doing all you can. As long as you're trying to help them, but also practicing what you preach, you've done everything in your power. The act of changing is up to them. You can't do it for them, unfortunately. Don't worry, eventually they'll notice that your life is much more energetic and fullfilling than the life they're living. This may spark a change. Just keep doing what you're doing. Biggest thing I guess would be to never stop offering. Most friends get sick of people saying "no" or…
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:34 PM
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it will make the rest of the semester awkward not only to the girl, but to the people around me who heard my advances. This is where you're wrong. I'm just going to say it; no one gives a shit about you or whether or not you strike out with girls. I don't mean that as an attack or anything; I'm saying in general people do not care about other people's personal lives. For instance, when you're in class, do you eavesdrop on the other people in there? Do you know who they're dating or who they're i…
/r/seduction19/03/12 01:19 PM
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My question is, why not try? If I were you, I'd own up to your mistake. I mean, think of how insecure she might be feeling from it. She asks a guy she might like to "watch a movie" and he doesn't make a move and hasn't had much contact with her ever since? She probably thinks she fucked it up somehow and is just avoiding you to get away from the embarrassment. So I say, confront her. You don't need to say "I should have made a move," but at least imply that you're still interested and that maybe…
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:41 PM
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Sometimes the movie is just too good!
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:38 PM
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Conspiracy Keanu: What if you telling him to do the opposite of those things, is the thing he needs to do the opposite of?
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:33 PM
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Listen to this guy. The "Let's save that talk for later" response might be easily misconstrued as whether or not you're being sarcastic/serious is hard to decipher via text. I'd say something along the lines of what the above user mentioned. She meant her statement to be a bit playful and a bit defensive, so your best bet is to just gloss over it and forget she said it. "I promise I'll be on my best behavior ;)" or something like that helps drop the issue, while still managing to be playful/sexu…
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:31 PM
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Depends. Fling or a relationship that's not too serious? Keep it quiet. Someone really close to you or someone you'd like to be closer with? You're better off being honest with them; they'll find out the truth eventually.
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:22 PM
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Precisely; well worded. I think people often feel the need to shatter expectations until it just becomes silly. A lot of this subreddit (not all of it) seems to absolutely applaud the alpha male game, which feels to me like they're assuming your average female is too stupid to know what's going on. In my experience, they know. They realize full well what's happening. I was talking with my ex-girlfriend from high school about this. She said that before we were dating she could tell I was "try-har…
/r/seduction08/03/12 07:27 PM
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Oh there definitely is a balance. The fact is, the PUA material (while it has some decent content) always seemed like it was assuming women are idiots who will laugh at just about anything and can be tricked. This really isn't true and a lot can easily see right through this sort of thing. That's when you cross the line between being funny/fun to just being emarrassing and loud. There's definitely the Dancing Monkey Syndrome, which I mentioned before, which is when all the guys competing for the…
/r/seduction08/03/12 06:51 PM
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I'm a late bloomer as well. I wasn't a partier in college and it wasn't until my senior year of college that I went through a total self makeover after a bad break up. I put on lots of muscle onto my otherwise skinny, tall lanky frame, I got a haircut/wardrobe that I feel confident about, and I honestly feel like I could pick up a girl in an instant if I wanted to. I've always been told I was a very attractive guy, and now that I have the body/clothes/style to compliment it, I know that I'm at t…
/r/seduction08/03/12 06:31 PM
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Ah, yes, the whole dancing monkey thing. That's a big problem with an old roommate of mine; he becomes so desperate to get attention that he stoops to doing absolutely stupid stuff just to be entertaining and get crowd approval. The competition to become the alpha of the group used to be fun for me, but now I just sit back and let it happen as the girls I usually go for anyways are the ones sitting back with me saying, "Wow, those guys are pathetic." Its very transparent to other guys when someo…
/r/seduction08/03/12 06:19 PM
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Pretty much; confidence is a hard thing to fake. Its all about becoming confident naturally through getting out there. It may be uncomfortable at first, but that will definitely get a lot easier the more you do it. Just as practicing an instrument, or honing your skills at a game; you're more confident in your ability to perform the more you simply do it.
/r/seduction07/03/12 05:09 PM
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Well, its a good thing you're now seld-aware of it, as you can now be on the lookout to stop yourself if you feel you're getting too intense. And being too intense is most likely your problem. I have a few friends who I absolutely love, but they are very much "small doses" sort of people; I like to be around them every now and again, but too much too often is just exhausting. I guess I'll try and give generic advice, but its really up to you to work it into your social interactions: Don't be the…
/r/seduction07/03/12 04:14 PM
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This exactly. To be approached more often, simply seem approachable. If you shy your glance away from us, we'll think you're not into us and move on. If you see a guy that you want to approach you, make eye contact, and flash a smile.
/r/seduction07/03/12 03:54 PM
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Its a mixed reaction for me when I'm approached by a woman. I usually don't care for it, as most who do it give off this "I'm trying to look awesome in front of my friends by hitting on a hot guy," feeling or some sort of clinginess/pushiness that turns me off to it, save for one girl who did it in such a way that lured me in. The trick is to not seem like you're overconfident (the "I'm hot and I know it so you should be into me), and not be too pushy ("so are you going to buy me a drink?"). Act…
/r/seduction07/03/12 03:49 PM
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I'm 6'3" so most women are shorter than me anyways, and I've never been one to shy away from a girl based on her height. I guess if you look at my dating track record, I definitely go for shorter girls more often, but I have nothing against taller ones by any means.
/r/seduction07/03/12 03:29 PM
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Same here, save a few girls. I like the girls I date to have confidence, especially in themselves, but I feel like its a fine line between being confident and acting like you're hot shit, and usually them coming up to me ends up pushing to be the latter. Like the OP's friend, the few girls that I've really been intrigued by after they approached me were the ones who did it subtly. They say hi, introduce themselves, give a soft smile and make eye contact, then leave an open invitation to talk to …
/r/seduction07/03/12 03:10 PM
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This is exactly what leads to success for me when I pick up girls. Honestly, just put off a friendly "I'm fun to be with and I want to get to know you; so here's an open invitation to come hang out," vibe and leave the decision up to them. To me, this is a nice balance of being assertive/direct without suffocating them or making them uncomfortable. You just put the option out there, and let the curiosity do its work while you walk back to your friends and give her a smile every now and again. I …
/r/seduction07/03/12 03:02 PM
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It honestly comes down to the individual. Some girls would be flattered to be asked out by someone they don't know; some just find it odd. You need to see it as a "you win some, you lose some," mentality. Because, seriously, the only way you're going to improve is to keep trying. Keep interacting with people, continue pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Next time a cute girl you somewhat recognize walks by, instead of shifting your glance just give her a nice smile or say "Hi." You don't …
/r/seduction07/03/12 02:45 PM
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Interesting. I don't recall how I usually hold my drink... Whatever is comfortable I suppose.
/r/seduction06/03/12 02:29 AM
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I've never heard that before. Care to elaborate?
/r/seduction06/03/12 01:06 AM
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One of my best nights was a few weekends ago, and I didn't even get laid. It was just one of the nights I felt like the man. Went to two parties in the same night; one house party and one gathering at a bar. First, at the house party, I was just casually talking/drinking when one of my good female friends comes up to me (she was the only one in the group I really knew, and I was trying my best to get to know everyone) and whispers "I just wanted to let you know, my girlfriends think you're reall…
/r/seduction05/03/12 09:25 PM
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I'll let you in on a secret; the reason you feel overshadowed by other guys when in a larger setting with lots of other guys is because every single other guy there is trying to overshadow every other guy. This is just how we tend to do it. When girls are present we want to be the friendliest, coolest, loudest, funniest, most energetic guy in the room as we know that's the sure way to get everyone to look. Its sad, yeah, but its the reality; most everyone in the group is just as insecure as ever…
/r/seduction05/03/12 09:18 PM
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Simple: Reschedule, but make the rescheduling definite. Don't just say "Hey I'm feeling sick, maybe some other time." Say, "Sorry, I've come down with a cold so I really don't know if I'll be feeling well enough to go out on (insert date), but what about that Saturday night or maybe Sunday for coffee?" If you need to ditch out on plans, the best solution is to always make an effort to reschedule within that week or your next available day. This is the best way to show you really do want to meet …
/r/seduction05/03/12 09:08 PM
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Smile a lot. This is always the number one rule. Smiling gives the impression you are fun to talk to without even having to say a word. It always creates a comfortable environment for others to approach you. Have a drink in hand. At the very least, this will give your hands something to do. This way your hands won't be able to escape to your pockets/phone/where ever. It creates an illusion of you also being part of a conversation with a group of people even if you're only listening. Having a dri…
/r/seduction05/03/12 09:00 PM
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