breeboop Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
55	Advice: You've Lost Enough, Don't Lose Everything Else		breeboop	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/21 06:04 PM

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2	How much is your child support? In CT at least there is a table and worksheet form. Ignore the online calculators they are always wrong. Just get the forms the gov if they follow a calculator. My lawyer used the form and that was what the court wanted. We just do it ourselves now when we need to recalculate based on job / income changes.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/22 04:14 PM
1	How long does it take to stop loving your ex wife? 100% agree. I did the pick me dance and the true love will survive crap. Don’t , it’s all bad for you. The above comment sounds super unhealthy but omg does this ever get you over the love sick phase. I’d be all kinds of lonely and thinking of how we met etc and I’d have to force myself to remember something awful. For me it was usually thinking of when she barebacked him on our anniversary and took our kids with her to buy plan b after school. Eventually I got over the hate and the longing. She…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/22 04:13 AM
2	How bad was your alimony settlement? Late 30s here, 2 kids under 10 10 years married (ended fairly abruptly 8 years in when I discovered her affair with a local married much older hedge fund dude, quasi amicable settlement reached without requiring court) When we got together we had a much lower household income and were much more comparable income wise. At this point I make 6x - 8x than her. Slow progression since marriage with a large bump coming when I took my current job 3 months after our first was born. We share physical and …	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/22 06:31 PM
1	Divorced men of Reddit,what occurred to make you think “I NEED A DICORCE!!” After the affair I caught her having didn’t end I called it quits. I still would have given it my all for my family if she was interested in making it work. She wasn’t interested, such is life. Sadly after she got what she wanted and we divorced Im often the villain and she makes it difficult with kid things. It has to be tedious to hate someone so much, I don’t understand spending that much energy on hate. Best lesson learned, I don’t have to understand her just have to accept her.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/22 05:01 PM
5	alimony and bonuses and RSUs It happens , it’s income. I just accept it all at this point, in my old life with her we started without much. Over time we created a lifestyle based around my income which had grown considerably. She ended the relationship in a bad way, so the thought of also paying hurt. None of it was relevant in my situation. The law says she is entitled to something like our lifestyle for a transitional period of time. I had two choices. I could be angry about it (I was for a while) and let it poison me or …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/03/22 04:30 PM
3	How do I arrange legal documents for my divorce we are both interested in not going to court but how do I make sure my interests are forfeited by her My ex-wife and I were able to work out the structure of the divorce agreement (custody and finances) largely on our own. At first we tried using a mediator but we weren’t ready (early stages of separation was emotionally rough for everyone). After we stopped living together it ended up being much easier for us to just sit down together and hash it out. Thankfully we both put the interests of the kids first. There are tons of example parenting plans online. We knew our work schedules and what cou…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/22 05:33 PM
5	Determining school systems for joint custody? This so much, it’s not an exaggeration in any way. The commute is not manageable.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/21 04:34 PM
6	Advice: You've Lost Enough, Don't Lose Everything Else Thankfully I snapped out of it when I realized what was happening and I've been able to get myself back together. Appreciate the support.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/21 07:05 PM
5	Am I the only one still crying even tho I moved on? The random crying was the catalyst for me to actually go out and do something about the situation. It was tough to admit that even though I could rationally process everything, a part of me still needed some help. Talking to people (therapist, friends, family) laid the groundwork combined with some medication and time made for a major improvement and I feel like my old self again.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/11/21 11:15 PM
1	How do you know it’s over and not worth the fight? I mean, it was easy enough for me. Found out she was having an affair with a married guy, when confronted she told me she didn’t love me anymore. Not a whole lot of ambiguity there.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/09/21 11:03 PM