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If you're worried about reactions say 'I had a few flings in University/college/whatever but I've been focused on my career/hobbies/collecting bottlecaps for the last few years so I'm a bit rusty'. I'd recommend you be a bit more upfront about just how little experience you have after a couple of months once you have more emotional intimacy with the person you're dating, but you don't have to vomit your lifestory at everyone you've just met and once someone knows you better and likes you they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:50 PM
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If your step-daughter loves your wife enough to call her every day with updates then your wife would be crazy to drive her away over details on a man she hasn't even gone on a date with yet. Your wife acting like a hysterical nutjob over this isn't going to teach her daughter to share, it's going to teach her to not bother telling her anything next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:57 PM
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Well, I can't say that it surprises me much to see someone on PPD who's so out of touch with normal social interaction that helping a drunk person get home and defending someone from being insulted are seen as an impossibly rare events, but please don't allow my post to bore you any longer, I'm sure many other OPs would appreciate your sparkling wit and insight
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:38 AM
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Do *you* have problems with comprehension or did you just get too overwhelmed to read past that sentence and see what my examples actually were?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:26 AM
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I am interpreting your comment correctly, I am just referencing my post to show you that I have an alternative explanation for what I believe to be your incorrect opinion. I don't believe that using kindness from a position of power is any less attractive than being an asshole from a position of power is, the kindness has additional RMV benefits that may or may not be relevant depending on what you're looking for but it's no less effective an SMV boost. That kindness *can* come from a position o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:25 AM
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Did you not read the rest of the post? The 3 examples I used are all things I've seen in real life (although the jacket thing only once), situations where you're actively putting yourself in danger don't come up often (although I was thinking of barfights rather than shoot outs so hardly impossibly rare) but situations where you're simply putting yourself out a bit are very common.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:10 AM
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As I said in my post, I recognise that kindness isn't the *only* way to signal this. The post is largely directed at the notion that Machiavellian traits are inherently attractive rather than being signifiers of other attractive traits and to point out that you can absolutely be kind and still build attraction because it's not kindness that's unattractive, it's passivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:02 AM
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And I'm saying that it's not the kindness that women are responding to, it's that that kindness is often coupled with passivity and lack of self confidence that leads men to seem weak because they express convictions without acting on them and allow empathy to get in the way of self advocation. Addressing the issue of passivity alone is enough to boost attractiveness since benevolence from a position of strength can send the same confidence and abundance signals as 'asshole' traits and can creat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:45 AM
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It's a very common notion in the pillsphere that Dark Triad traits are inherently attractive rather than being one of many ways to signal the actually attractive traits of confidence and abundance (it's already been said in this thread and we're less than an hour in). This is something that causes a lot of resentment and anger in men who want to be kind who then turn bitter because they've wrongly conflated kindness with weakness or passivity and don't consider benevolence from a position of str…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:33 AM
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Kindness isn't inherently passive, as discussed in the OP kindness and passivity are often conflated with kindness alone (as I feel you are doing here). As I said, kindness + passivity is often worse than passivity alone, but displays of magnanimity from positions of power are often particularly effective because they not only have RMV but also boost SMV by signalling abundance and confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:27 AM
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A lot of RP stuff is written with the intention of depedestalizating women in the minds of beta men and is harsh as a result, but because it's so heavily focused on that goal it there is often a conflation of any behaviour that could be perceived as 'beta' with weakness and a lot of the anger phase is driven by men who feel that female attraction is somehow unjust because they interpret said attraction as being to Machiavellian traits rather than to what they signal. NARPMALT, especially those i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:18 AM
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As noted in my post, kindness is *a* way to signal abundance and confidence, and what I'm saying is that for certain men it can be the best way and that it shouldn't be actively discouraged in those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:56 AM
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Why would she be interested in demonstrating commitment to someone who's just randomly revealed that they're planning to move to another country, something that's going to kill a new relationship 9/10? You're the one who's demonstrated a lack of commitment to making the relationship work (long distance is not generally going to work for a new relationship), she's just matching your energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:35 PM
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I wasn't saying that you don't experience love, I was saying that you don't experience love in the way that the people you're talking to do. I've talked to enough people who feel the same way you do not to question whether your description of your own emotions is accurate, I'm saying that you're wrong that that's what other people are experiencing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 11:48 AM
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Loving and being loved in return romantically is uniquely fulfilling for many people in a way that having your physical and emotional needs met separately isn't. I believe that there are people who don't experience that and you may well be one of them but it's pure solipsism to project that onto others who have experience to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:58 AM
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Why didn't you mention what kind of bum the femboy has? How could anyone answer your question without this absolutely vital information???
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:10 PM
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This is infinitely more pathetic and embarrassing than just not getting married. If you don't want to get married that's fine, I know couples who aren't married and it isn't something I see as my business, but I would judge the shit out of someone who expected me to drag myself across the country for a 'we're not getting committed to each other' party.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:21 PM
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Gay men can and do have hang ups about this, they just make even less coherent sense than straight men's views on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:32 AM
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If people are struggling to break through barriers to independence the answer isn't to infantilise them further, it's to address the issues that are preventing them from achieving goals today that previous generations could at the same age. Also, 18-20 year olds can and do support themselves financially without parental help, it's harder to get on the property ladder now but renting with roommates at that age is a perfectly achievable goal even on minimum wage provided you don't live in a HCOL a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:44 AM
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I don't know if this is still the case, but in the old days of RPW I'm fairly sure the women were warned off dating men who actively identified as 'red pill men'. I'm sure NARPMALT but for any woman who wants material commitment and fidelity they're probably generally not a good bet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:45 PM
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Approaching is only a good strategy for women if they don't mind a massively increased chance of being used for sex. Many men will tolerate women they don't like for sex if that sex is easy to obtain and will take an opportunity when it's presented even if they would never be interested enough to actively pursue or LTR the woman. I do agree that approaching a bunch of men will increase your chance of getting into a relationship, but only if you don't mind potentially racking up quite the body co…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 05:01 PM
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Yes, they already work undesirable low wage jobs and choose not to become prostitutes despite that job currently paying more and being more flexible. This is true even in countries where prostitution is legal. Why on earth would they choose to become prostitutes in your system where the compensation is far worse and there are far easier and less revolting jobs they can do for the same money?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 02:20 PM
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How can you possibly think any of this is viable? A fundamental difference between men and women that I assumed most people on this sub were aware of is that most women are revolted by the idea of sex with men they're not into. What you think of as 'easy work' is repulsive to most women and only turned to when they need a lot of money fast and on their own schedule, both of which are things your plan would destroy. This is why most non shithole countries where prostitution is very prevalent have…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 02:03 PM
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> that’s not an indictment against grand gestures I am not saying they're inherently bad, I'm saying they don't do anything to make a bad relationship good and that they're not a substitute for your partner making you happy in day to day life, and that if she'd actually tried to 'ride the waves' with you and been 'mature' then it would have just dragged out something that wasn't making her happy to the detriment of both of you. > That’s the equivalent of saying that a woman that gets beat for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 05:37 AM
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> The monotony of our relationship isn’t neglecting emotional needs or being numb to life and to the people around you I didn't say it was, I said it sounds like you were fundamentally incompatible and that your grand gesture was useless because it wouldn't fix anything about that and that as a result she didn't 'ruin' anything for herself because the relationship was already going badly (again, not saying that was your fault). Everything else you said just confirms that I was right. > There’s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 04:50 AM
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A 'reset' doesn't save things that are fundamentally flawed. It shouldn't be some sort burden for your partner to 'provide' good feelings every day because being around them should give you those good feelings without them having to actively work for it most of the time if you're a good fit, and if you're unhappy with them more days than you're happy with them that's a big issue that has nothing to do with how often you're surprising them. I'm not saying that that was your fault, sometimes peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:40 AM
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> Biggest example in my life was when I dated an ex and I had a whole trip planned for her in secret. Things had been rough and monotonous but I couldn't wait to surprise her UNTIL one day out the blue she threw the biggest bitch fit I've seen in on literally the same day I was gonna tell her that I gotten tickets for us to go on a cruise. I was so done that I told her that I'm not gonna take her anywhere and canceled the trip, got a refund, and then dumped her. She literally ruined it for herse…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:47 AM
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This isn't a bitter pill to anyone whose brain developed past the age of 12, you're treating an obvious truth that most people subconsciously acknowledged as children as some sort of grand revelation. Reddit may have a disproportionate number of delusional people but the vast majority of men and women assortatively mate and are pretty much fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:37 PM
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Having an aversion that doesn't interfere negatively with your life isn't a psychological problem, and unless you think enjoying porn is somehow life enhancing in some way that having a healthy sexual relationship with a real human being is not she's not missing out on anything by avoiding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:41 PM
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Why would how vanilla it is matter? If you need to watch any kind of sex between two strangers to get in the mood to get stuck in with a real life sexual partner then I would advise you to maybe speak to a professional about your broken dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:50 PM
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> Has a juvenile but hilarious sense of humor. The Venn diagram of adults with a 'juvenile' sense of humour and people who are actually hilarious is two completely non intersecting circles
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:48 PM
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If anyone is interested below is an MBTI thread from the olden days of PPD, might be interesting to see how the demographics have changed (trigger warning for use of 16 personalities). ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/3uhhaj/the_largest_mbti_dataset_ppd_has_ever_seen_come/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:52 PM
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even though currently women consistently out drink men in 2021 ​ I have literally never felt so ashamed to be a man
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 09:22 AM
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I doubt that most people who post occasionally on FDS become 'monsters' in the same way that I doubt that most casual RPers become dedicated misogynists. I assume most try a couple of things, keep what works (boundaries and not being a doormat largely), discard the stuff that doesn't and move on with their lives, leaving the subs and identities behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 09:20 AM
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It's not feminists, it's black pillers and neoreactionaries who say the exact same things on their own forums and blogs. I can't imagine how strong your in-group preference for men must be if your position is that the possibility of some being misogynistic is slim to none even on a forum that deals with topics that specifically attract people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 12:57 PM
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Now people only give a shit about you if yoy fulfill their Value Checklist, theres no room for being nonconformist whatsoever. There is plenty of room not to conform to social standards and still add value to someone's life, and honestly I don't think adding value is an unreasonable standard at all. The only version of ourselves that people see is the one we project into their world with our actions, it's not fair at all to expect people to love some internal self that they can't directly percei…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:52 PM
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6/10 is a higher bar than most people think imo, but regardless of your own attractiveness you should still go on dates with these women, you might even find that you're more attracted to them than you think in person since pictures can be a poor indicator of chemistry. Go without expectations and try not to worry about whether you're going to be with this woman in 5, 10, 20 years, even in the worst case scenario where it goes nowhere you'll at least be over the 'first ever date' hurdle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 05:15 PM
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Nobody is going to say 'that's great, go for it', but in reality many people don't find their partners perfect. If you've struggled this long to get a partner that meets your standards chances are she'll not think you're the most physically attractive man in the world either, but if you care for her you can focus on the things you like about her and make her feel good enough about herself to forget the less attractive things, and hopefully she'll do the same for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:58 PM
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If you care about someone but don't think she's amazingly fuckable why would you ever let her know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:54 PM
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This is not hypocrisy. Unless your grandmother is ethically devoted to the removal of bald men from the gene pool she's not betraying any moral standard she holds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 06:31 PM
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No? I am saying that men should expect their wives to be less attracted to them when they act less attractive regardless of how much their changes are driven by practicality. A man who changes completely can't be surprised if a woman who was attracted to his personality loses interest. A woman who gains 200lb can't be surprised if her husband finds her less attractive. You should expect that changes in your behaviour after marriage will impact how attracted your spouse is to you, but how reasona…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:39 PM
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It's about as unrealistic as men who expect their wife to put the same amount of effort into being fun, staying attractive and having sex after children as before, which is another situation where I sympathise with the position of both parties to different extents depending on how extreme their expectations of stasis are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 01:56 PM
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As I said, I do sympathise with the husbands in this situation as I think it's natural for a lot of people to want to slow down and focus on family life as they get older, but I also think it's unfair to characterise the complaints of the women as being entirely materialistic when it's more a matter of shifting priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 01:56 PM
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I specifically say in a downthread comment that it's not anybody's fault, it's people falling out of sync with each other as they hit different lifestages.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 01:46 PM
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I understand the concern, but I think in most of the cases this was a matter of both partners being fun and dynamic before the marriage and the man changing after rather than the man being the only one adding excitement all along. I also disagree that this is an expectation that only men are expected to live up to, as I said in my downthread reply to someone else the gender-swapped version is a man complaining that his wife has gone full 'mum mode' after the first kid. There are a lot of women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 01:13 PM
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I disagree, it's very likely the guy has changed. This is no different to the complaint from a lot of men that when their once fun and exciting girlfriends/wives settle down and have kids with them they go full mum mode and become boring. Some people change more than others when they progress to different lifestages, and while I don't judge it as I think it's pretty normal it can obviously cause friction with partners who were more compatible with the 'old you' without either of you being in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 12:37 PM
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'Loss of ambition' is not just about loss of potential income. Women in that thread are complaining just as much, if not more, about the man not being the interesting and dynamic guy they fell in love with. THIS feeling!! I feel duped. When we were dating, my husband was into running, swimming, hanging out with friends, doing things. We even did karate together for a few years together. I loved that he led his own life. None of this has anything to do with income, it's about guys becoming differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 12:27 PM
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Most of the comments are saying that they wouldn't care as long as the woman is kind and pleasant to their son and family. Women and men who are compatible with your kids and who fit well with your family don't grow on trees and not being supportive of a happy relationship based on information that is frankly not any of the MIL's business seems overly protective and patronising (if the mother knows the son definitely knows and as a 30 year old man should be trusted to make his own decisions).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:18 PM
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It depends on weight distribution. I'd say there are a wider variety of weight distributions that can look good on women than men (generally anything except upper body or all over proportionally looks bad on men whereas women can get away with bums, boobs, hips. even thighs), but a bad weight distribution on a woman looks as bad as a bad weight distribution on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:25 PM
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if you make it clear up front, you save so much headache and possible missed cues. Being very upfront about being attracted to a guy is a fine strategy if you don't mind the increased risk of being pumped and dumped or strung along by someone who is 'meh' on you. Many men are willing to have sex well below their relationship standards and if an easy opportunity presents itself they'll take it even if they are lukewarm on the person. If you're the kind of person who can roll with the punches for …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 04:48 PM
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Your confused opening tangent about symbiotic relationships obfuscates your relatively simple point (that women choose 'dangerous' men because men could be dangerous to her are also dangerous to others and she believes that she can control the risk to herself, consciously or subconsciously). This would be a better post with the first half gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 07:09 PM
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What superpowers does he have
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 04:52 PM
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A *lot* of boys and girls are told they're handsome or pretty by their family, most figure out that this is no guarantee of attractiveness by the time they're out of their preteens at the latest. Not working that out is probably more a sign of not being socialised with peers properly or poor social skills as kids work out where they stand in hierarchies pretty quickly if you leave them to their own devices. Of course neither of these factors are necessarily the fault of the kids in question, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 04:12 PM
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I recognise you and you've been unhealthily obsessed with this for years. If this was anything other than pure mental illness or fetishism talking you'd have worked out by now that you can date women who are infertile or have had to get hysterectomies or who are old or are trans* without fear of pregnancy and without mutilating your genitalia.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:10 AM
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They often do prohibit women, it's too much of a liability to house women with men and the vast majority of places won't risk it, if a woman asks to stay there they'll refer her a female only shelter or one that has sex segregated areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 06:52 PM
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> there were few men’s shelters (if any), as a prime example of this. Men's shelters are just called 'shelters' and make up the majority of homeless shelters (not that that's a bad thing since men make up the majority of homeless people). Most shelters that aren't specifically for women (or for a minority group like gay or trans* people) are all male by default since the risk from housing men with women is too high. The main thing men lack with regard to shelters is specific DV shelters with fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 06:21 PM
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if he's not sleeping with at least 7's, then his quantity means absolutely dick, just fyi Unless you can only get a boner for women who are 7+ then yes, the quantity *does* mean something, especially since the friend as described is sub 7 himself. There's no less sympathetic creature in the world than a man who says he wants casual sex and then whinges about having to have it with average looking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 06:59 PM
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You don't need to give up on dating forever, but after COVID lockdowns ease you really should prioritise finding a social circle over going on dating apps. University is often great for that since there are hobby clubs that have inbuilt social events (there may even be some going on now via zoom etc). Even if it's just men you end up hanging out with, those are men you can go to events with (preferably ones with booze) without feeling awkward alone. Dating apps are often male dominated and of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 03:09 PM
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Aye, there are always going to be some people who buck the trends, I am generalising.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:55 PM
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Older men are never 'similarly attractive' to 18-22 year old men. They can still be attractive, but they're attractive in a different way as men tend to get a bit more rugged as they age. A lot of women prefer slightly less masculine looking men when younger and their preferences often shift when they age to roughly match the physical maturation of their age-mates, so an attractive 30-35 year old man is still going to be most attractive to women roughly in his age range (probably as low as 25 to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 12:19 PM
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I am utterly and completely sure that this will not become a social norm. In the event that we truly do go through the looking glass and it becomes a social norm in 5-10 years outside small and very niche groups please feel free to PM me to tell me that you told me so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 11:41 PM
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I would never expect a positive outcome from a discussion like that so neutral seems reasonable to me. If you're presenting someone with a negative (which any kind of trauma is unfortunately going to be seen as by most people even if you're sure you've overcome it) and they respond neutrally that seems like pretty much the best possible outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:44 PM
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Being occasionally emotionally vulnerable with someone you're in a long term relationship with and who already knows that you're generally stable is usually fine. If you share these feelings too early in a relationship (or worse, when you're not even committed yet) it's understandable for the person you're seeing to be concerned that this is only the tip of the iceberg since you aren't established in their head as someone who generally has their shit together yet. For what it's worth, I'd also g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:28 PM
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I'm not engaging with you anymore since you apparently cannot stop yourself making arguments personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 09:07 PM
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I'm comprehending what you're saying just fine, I'm disagreeing with your definition of loving someone for who they are. I cannot make your happiness connect to another person's wellbeing unselfishly And I apparently cannot make you understand that this is not loving someone 'for who they are' since how much their happiness makes you happy is irrelevant to whether you value them 'for who they are' or not. You've arbitrarily redefined loving someone 'for who they are' as loving someone without ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 08:17 PM
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Your ability to make arguments personal in the absence of any evidence for your POV is truly inspiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 07:42 PM
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All I stated was that loving someone for who they are is possible And all I'm saying is that nothing you've said supports that What concerns me is that you seem to WANT to believe someone's happiness can be attached to another person without a fixed preconception of the person I don't 'want' to believe anything, I don't think anyone loves the objects of their affection 'for who they are', we all enjoy the feelings our loved ones elicit in us and the pleasure we get from making them happy to vary…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 07:28 PM
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The reason why it matters is because the capability of unrequited love is the LITERAL example of loving someone for who they are not for what they do for you. Unrequited love is in no way at all automatically an example of this. Oftentimes the person who is the object of 'love' isn't even particularly well known by the person who 'loves' them, they 'love' what they imagine the person to be and the way they think their relationship would turn out. It's just another example of loving the way someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 07:04 PM
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many aspects that men love about women's femininity can be perceived as an illusion And loving that illusion is not loving someone 'for who they are'. just because YOU'RE incapable of attaching your happiness to another soul's happiness in a unrequited manner doesn't mean that everyone is Whether the feelings are requited or not is irrelevant to whether they're based on who someone really is or not. The question is not 'are men more prone to have strong, unrequited feelings for people', it's 'do…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 06:28 PM
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Is this really what people on the sub mean by loving someone 'for who they are'? Paying money to a twitch streamer for their content isn't loving someone for who they are at all, it's appreciating the entertainment value someone provides and giving them money in hopes they'll continue. Even when it's obsessive they're still not loving the streamer 'for them', they're 'loving' a combination of the outer veneer the streamer has designed specifically to entertain and whatever qualities they're proj…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 06:09 PM
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A lot of women wouldn't do it even if there were no social repercussions because the feeling that sex work is degrading comes from something internal for many people and isn't necessarily a matter of social pressure. Some people don't have that, and if they wish to pursue sex work then more power to them, but for most it would be a last resort if they'd consider it at all. And no, it's not a 'mistake' not to pursue that sort of thing if you don't have the mentality for it. Selling nudes and even…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 02:43 PM
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There is a balance between effort and reward that you need to strike when it comes to having an appealing job. The top comment in your thread was someone aspiring to be a history professor, which is actually a good example of what I mean; realistically the path to becoming a history professor involves long hours, moving around a lot for post docs and immense amounts of stress with regard to publications etc, and there's a good chance that even if you make those sacrifices and do everything right…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 07:32 PM
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Probably not absolutely, I know gay guys who've slept with their fag hags (although I don't know anyone who's messed up a relationship with it). Most gay guys can get casual sex just fine with dudes and aren't gunning for your girl but there's a not insignificant proportion of gays who aren't 100% gay but just strongly prefer men and for those guys there's no reason for them to turn easy sex with a woman down if the opportunity presents itself. That said if you complain about light flirting with…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 03:23 PM
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Advantages: those who prefer fantasies to people take themselves out of the dating pool so nobody else will accidentally end up dating them and spend the rest of their lives miserably attempting to live up to their deeply artificial and unrealistic standards Disadvantages: at least one person you have to interact with on a day to day basis will probably come out as robosexual and you will have to come up with a way to look them in the eye after
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 11:07 PM
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WAATGM will always be worse to me because they post people's profiles (including their faces, which is beyond the pale IMO) to mock them as individuals. FDS either mods stuff like that better or the users are less inclined to do that because I see that a lot less often.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 08:57 PM
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It makes sense that TRP and RPW would speak of spinsters as sad and lonely because they think peak female experience is extracting resources and precious bodily fluids from attractive men, and they have AWALT goggles that prevent them from seeing the not insignificant minority of women whose goals don't align with that. Even those who appreciate that, in fact, NAWALT tend to speak generally so are unlikely to talk about the lives of women they see as outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 12:19 PM
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What about the act of sex creates the astral bonds? Penetration? Orgasm? Does oral create astral bonds? Anal? A handjob? Does using protection like condoms or even hormonal birth control affect the formation of astral bonds?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 01:34 PM
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Yeah this makes it sound like all rich guys are controlling a-holes and women are these unemployed meek little submissive things that do whatever he says. No it doesn't. The question is about marrying a wealthy provider specifically for his money and being a SAHM vs. being a sex worker. Wealthy men usually have a set of expectations that they want their partners to live up to if they're supporting them entirely; this doesn't make them abusive or bad people but it does mean that if you choose tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 04:30 PM
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The question was 'Why do some beautiful women become sex workers instead of marrying a rich provider?'. Obviously most women choose not to do either and go entirely different routes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 03:37 PM
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The act itself isn't freeing, but the money that it provides without having to rely on an individual man and giving him control over your life is. I am not suggesting people get into sex work, I'm just explaining why it's preferable to having a wealthy partner who 'looks after' you to some people,
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 03:23 PM
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Being 'provided for' by a rich man makes him feel like he has the right to dictate how you live, how you dress, how many children you have, etc, etc. Being a sex worker, especially one that doesn't have to physically interact with her clients, gives more freedom and personal autonomy to women who value that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 01:38 PM
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To me they are prerequisites for initial attraction rather than preferences for LTRs, like I can't even conceive of someone as attractive really until I have that info. I can still rate people, but that rating isn't based on my own opinion or gut reaction to their attractiveness, it's just based on how I feel others would react and metrics like symmetry/ ratios that in my experience don't necessarily translate to how I personally react to people in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 12:33 PM
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Aye, I've never had a 'kaboom' moment with anyone based solely on appearance, I only experience 'kaboom' feelings after I've got a feel for them and seen how they move and talk (also, smell is very important, the most physically perfect man in the world might as well be facially deformed, obese and 2 feet tall if he smells bad, but an average looking man with a decent scent gets a big boost).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 12:12 PM
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This thread is asking what SMV means to us personally and I'm saying that it's meaningless to me beyond a certain point because I can't experience peak attraction to someone without seeing them in action and knowing a bit about them. There is no such thing as a contextless HB 10 to me personally, I can only roughly estimate what I think other people's reactions to very attractive people would be, which is not a personal rating. Also SMV doesn't only mean body, a good body with a jacked up face w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 11:54 AM
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'A passion' is good because it indicates a certain kind of personality (i.e. dynamic, self motivated, dedicated). If you have a 'passion' but don't have that personality type then the appeal will immediately die out when that's discovered.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 11:09 AM
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I can't really answer that accurately because to get that stunned 'whoa, I'm bowled over' feeling that means someone is top of my scale there needs to be an extra element that comes from context or personality. I understand that many would class that as RMV but pure SMV is effectively meaningless to me without that context when it comes to the top people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 09:51 AM
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If asked it's probably good form to be honest and I wouldn't lie myself, but I don't think you 'owe' potential partners a list of your faults and failures especially if they haven't asked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 07:52 PM
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Most desirable people meet their marriage track LTR in their early to mid twenties so there's a drought in good options between then and the when people start divorcing and you get onto the SMP for divorcees (although obviously you need to accept a bit more baggage then).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 07:07 PM
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Is a person who cheats ever capable of future loyalty It can be a red flag but depending on the circumstances it's not an absolutely insurmountable issue. Someone who cheated on their university bf/gf of a few months isn't tainted for life, but a pattern of cheating in serious relationships is a problem. is it always the cheater's fault It's the cheater's 'fault' in main because they chose to act but the person they're with can be a factor in why they chose to do it (although they aren't always,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 07:02 PM
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This would be like taking the average body weight of a man, 197 lbs, and saying that that’s the weight of a man who’s fat. Taking average height as 5'9 I have bad news for you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 06:53 PM
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Aye, in fairness guyliner is probably the one kind of make up that consistently looks good on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 05:30 PM
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I wouldn't and I sincerely hope it never becomes normalised for every day use for men, the last thing I'd want is higher standards for average male appearance. I've heard women get asked if they're ill if they usually wear make up and don't that day, why invite that evil into my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 02:01 PM
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I wasn't implying that and I was clearly referring to the text of OP's post. If you skimmed after the title you may not have gotten the context
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:41 PM
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Leaving aside your specific examples as they're messes in their own right, being attractive and wealthy is no guarantee that you have a good picker. If anything, you will likely attract hordes of fame and money hungry people and unless you're very socially adept it's hard to tell who is actually compatible with you and who is putting on a show to keep you around until you're already invested. In some ways their problems are almost like a more exaggerated version of what women deal with on dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 06:21 PM
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What are you not understanding here? OP is saying that he doesn't understand why people have sex due to the potential risk of pregnancy and the financial implications of that. I am saying that most people find sex satisfying enough that the reward outweighs the risk for them. You seem to be saying that some people can find fulfillment in other things, which is true but irrelevant since it doesn't address OP's question, which is asking why people have sex despite the risk, not what people who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 11:54 AM
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OP said 'I'm 24 and I never had sex because I am young, not far into my career, and relatively poor', not 'I'm 24 and I never had sex because I am too busy becoming the world's best kazoo player'
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 08:37 AM
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Good sex is without a doubt satisfying to most people. If OP doesn't feel that way that's fine, I have 0 interest in talking people I don't want to fuck into having sex, but OP asked why other people do it and that's a big part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 12:05 AM
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Because having good sex with someone you're attracted to and genuinely like is one of the most fundamentally satisfying things you can do and for most people is more fulfilling on a psychological basis than stoically building your bank balance until you're 30
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 10:00 PM
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The 'dedicated post' is a containment post, not a reward. The idea is that the undesirables fuck off there so the rest of us can be shielded from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 01:01 PM
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It is definitely perceived that way. It's not the only reason to visit Thailand, and am sure there are plenty of tourists who go for 'normal' touristy reasons (I'm sure your mother wasn't there to pick up underage ladyboys), but it has that reputation all over the world and a not insignificant number of men visit specifically for the prostitutes or to acquire a very young wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 11:29 AM
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Discussion of suicide and suicidality is very emotive and both genders tend to feel dismissed and attacked, so they come out swinging straight away with harsh and insensitive statements. Men feel like the fact they dominate suicide stats is being ignored and women feel like the fact they have higher rates of attempted suicide and self harm is handwaved away by men saying that because their attempts are less likely to succeed they weren't really depressed. As a result people make sweeping, aggres…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 10:18 PM
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I can't speak to the arguments you're having, but most of the time I see differences in suicide methods discussed it's not to attack men but to explain the disparity in 'success' between men and women. The 'cleaner' methods women prefer are less generally effective which is a reason people give for why women are less likely to die when they attempt. I think if someone actually says 'men are selfish for attempting to kill themselves violently' it's insensitive (although if these are arguments you…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 10:01 PM
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I've heard straight men and straight women describe their feelings about unattractive members of the opposite sex and when women describe their feelings of revulsion at the thought of sleeping with unattractive men it sounds more like straight men describing how they'd feel about fucking a man. Obviously I can't become a straight man or straight woman but I can look at what they say and their actions and see what does and doesn't align and from that it's obvious to me that there's a fundamental …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 05:16 PM
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Well yes, if you remove love, responsibility for the domestic sphere/ running of the household and the birthing and raising of children you're unlikely to find much value in the female role in a traditional partnership because that is the female role in a traditional partnership. This is like asking 'what value does a male provider have? Assume that money is entirely unnecessary'
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:50 AM
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I have absolutely no idea how you got that from that comment. She's not saying that men like gay sex because they're men and any sex will do, she's saying that men who are attracted to men will experience sex differently to women who are attracted to men because of biological differences despite both being attracted to the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:45 AM
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I'm not doubting that what you're saying is true of straight men. The point is that straight men are projecting their own feelings about unattractive members of their preferred sex onto women who are experiencing a completely different feeling when they don't find a man attractive that is more akin to the feeling of revulsion a man feels at the thought of sex with another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:41 AM
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What exactly is she saying that's erasing gay men? She's not saying that homosexuality is a choice, she's saying that women can't switch on the ability to enjoy or be satisfied by sex with very unattractive men anymore than straight men can switch it on to have sex with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:30 AM
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But if she doesn't find them fuckable right now then she's experiencing the same repulsion as you, that's the point. She's saying that the male and female perception of unattractive members of the opposite sex is fundamentally different and that since men don't see very unattractive women as non-sexual unfuckables the way women see very unattractive men they need to imagine what it would be like fucking a dude to empathise with the gut feeling those women get at the thought of fucking said dudes…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:22 AM
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You seem to be implying that a woman having sex with a gross man would feel worse than a man having sex with another man, is that correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:16 AM
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OP is talking about how men and women experience lack of attraction, not discussing how people respond to the acts, so that's irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:13 AM
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a man isn't even a sexual thing to me any more than a farm animal, its just doesn't register. OP is saying straight women feel this way about men they aren't attracted to so that would mean her example is the real equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:03 AM
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I agree that conversation petering out with someone you haven't even met isn't 'ghosting'. I don't even have a lot of sympathy for people who were actually 'ghosted' unless they've been seeing the person for more than a date or two. I understand that it's painful to be ignored but not hearing back from someone after a (to them) bad date is pretty normal and was just as prevalent 10-11 years ago when I was single as it is now, it's just that now people have a word for it it's receiving more atten…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 10:52 AM
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Oh come on, they do it because they want to get off, not to build some imaginary sex CV, and this is doubly true of the good looking men that OP is describing in their post who most likely aren't inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 07:28 PM
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tooth disease Chipping in for this one as someone who didn't see a dentist until adulthood (gross, I know, I know); if you can't afford dental care in the short term use chlorohexidine mouthwash and/ or diluted hydrogen peroxide to deal with bad breath. They can wipe bad breath issues out for a full day and will help make you less self conscious. That said, of all the things you can save up for to improve your SMV and self perception dental issues are amongst the most worth it in my opinion, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 11:37 AM
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Otherwise, I think it's fairly common to give small gifts to each other, and so long as there isn't a big price discrepancy (he gave you a ruby necklace, you gave him a $50 gift card) this is just normal behavior to let your SO know you're thinking about them. Why would a price discrepancy matter? Not buying someone something of equal value every time they buy something for you doesn't mean you don't like them equally. Provided your interest in them is sincere and you wouldn't leave if the spend…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 10:40 AM
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There is, and far too much of it frankly given that this is a debate sub and not an advice sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:36 PM
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The real pill, imo, is clearly the class pill, as if you're ugly and poor clearly you're screwed and no bit of advice here can help you. Many people who post here are out of touch but honestly if you think being broke and ugly is stopping people getting laid then so are you. I grew up in government subsidized housing and I guarantee you that nearly every man there was doing better for himself in terms of sex than the average poster here now. While there may well be some small number of people he…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:30 PM
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It would depend on what happened and how he felt about it. If he's acting traumatised about nudes from someone who isn't in any position of power over him and who can easily be blocked and ignored then he should get over himself. If he's having physical boundaries regularly violated or someone keeps going after him after he's blocked them and he feels uncomfortable about that then I'd be sympathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 02:51 PM
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Hobbies are a good way to meet people, develop social skills and give you something to talk about with people who are interested in the same things as you. Most hobbies are not sexually attractive in and of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:11 PM
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If you get on well and are good friends who enjoy each other's company it makes sense to stay together in my opinion. Romantic feelings ebb and flow in a long term relationship, and just because you're going through a bad patch at year 10 doesn't mean that time and different circumstances won't change things by year 15. If you're both miserable that's a different story, but I do believe that the grass is greenest where you water it and that if you love someone as a companion/ family it is silly …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:06 PM
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Am gay so putting here Would you have sex with pre-op trans Man. Nope Would you have sex with a post-op trans man using today’s technology. Nope Would you marry a pre-op trans Man IF THE SURGERY IMPROVED, hypothetically, making him indistinguishable from a biological man? If they were indistinguishable from a cisgendered man in every way when I met them and every feature was fully functional with absolutely no difference at all from a cisgendered man I probably wouldn't care if I was otherwise a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 02:55 PM
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IME they treat them almost completely neutrally. From my observations they see unattractive men as sexless and generally only react negatively to them if that view is challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 09:00 PM
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A mediocre looking woman who makes money sugaring is surely technically better at being a sugar baby than a very attractive one who does the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 06:24 PM
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So yes truly fat men are gross, but strongfat is inherently hotter on a man than the analog of overly stout woman. Most fat men aren't 'strong fat' and are much closer to 'truly fat'. For the average fat person who doesn't exercise much there are wider range of pleasing weight distributions a woman can have that look good than there are for a man. Weight can go to a woman's boobs, hips or bum and she'll find an audience for it whereas any weight distribution for fat men other than upper body loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 06:14 PM
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NAMALT obviously, but in general men like submissive women because they make them feel 'like men' in that they get to chase them, 'win' them and dominate them. That doesn't necessarily make them compatible with these women for long term relationships, and depending on the personalities involved the man can become frustrated with a more 'passive' partner if he feels like he has to shoulder everything or end up making her unhappy because she struggles to stand up for herself while he runs roughsho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:06 PM
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hot, fun wife This is not a status marker for high status men. Hitting a certain attractiveness threshold is necessary certainly (although it's more to do with being 'well preserved' and maintaining a certain image), but it's much more important to be able to deal with social situations gracefully and manage a network of contacts for your husband to improve his standing, something which is, if anything, probably negatively correlated with 'fun'. Women married to 'high status' men may not have 'c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 11:15 AM
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Firstly, there are definitely men who don't want kids, although it's best to date a bit older as young men often change their minds in their late twenties/ thirties (the least likely to change their minds are probably men who already have adult kids, although that can obviously be complicated on its own). And secondly, even if there weren't men like that around a cat is better company than someone who tries to bully you into staying by acting like you can only attract people with your womb.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 09:19 AM
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I don't think it's inherently terrible (I met my husband when he was 35 and I was 19) but I do think older men who exclusively hit on people in their late teens can be bad prospects looking for someone who won't notice their flaws. I do accept that that's not always the case though, and I'm a lot less skeptical when someone is open to dating a wider variety of ages and just happens to end up with someone in their teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 01:14 PM
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All you're showing is that you're deeply uncharitable when it comes to interpreting the actions and motivations of others, and that's a much bigger red flag than any of the stuff that the hypothetical women are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:37 PM
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Everyone in the UK is ugly, you just don't notice the men. The standard for acceptable self care is lower here and everyone is drunk all the time so nobody cares Source: Live in the UK
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:05 PM
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You couldn't be more wrong, I'm a bored man who's happily married and never lets anyone forget it. OP BTFO.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 11:56 AM
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I'd hit it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 07:45 PM
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One of the ones who posts pictures of their fluffy kitties on /r/aww
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 07:44 PM
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It's a sub full of alpha widows and AF/BB who talk about how much of an imprint unavailable men left on them. How is it alpha widowing? Most of these women (and men) haven't even had any sexual contact with the objects of their affection, some of them barely even know them. For the most part the 'LOs' here seem to act as blank slates for the OPs to project their desired traits on to, it's more like immature people who struggle with the reality of relationships and who prefer the romance of fanta…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 10:59 AM
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Personally, I don't care for the idea of a partner fucking me for any reason but wanting to fuck me. I'd be very unhappy to find out my partner was fucking me just to maintain a relationship with me, for much the same reason I don't want people to associate with me out of duty. It's more complicated than 'for attraction' and 'just to keep relationship together' if you've been together for a long time. A lot of the time you're genuinely attracted to your partner and would want to fuck them in oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 10:06 AM
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The vast majority of men and women I know don't talk like this, including most of the 'intelligent and enlightening' ones. Talking about how 'philosophical' you are on acid is frankly embarrassing for grown adults and most people grow out of it after University. It would appear to me that concepts like "honor" are largely male ideologies. Honour is a stupid self defeating concept so if that were true then that just indicates that 'male ideology' is largely stupid. Loyalty to proven individuals a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 06:27 PM
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The men women fangirl over is a point against them being primarily visual. Many of the celebrities that women are fixated on aren't particularly attractive (women fangirl over Ed Sheeran for the love of God, and for anyone in the UK one of the more bizarre elements of the 2015 election was the 'millifandom' largely consisting of teenage girls centred around this man.) Charisma and the almost contradictory combo of relatability and untouchability that is hard to mimic without celebrity are much l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 07:50 AM
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A few years ago, when my husband and I had been dating for about seven months, we spent a weekend with several of his friends and their wives. Talking with the women, the subject of n-count came up and essentially every woman in the room admitted to having lied to their significant others about their number of partners, except for one. I am not high N nor have I lied about any aspect of my past to my husband, but if I was I certainly wouldn't be telling strange women I'd just met about it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 10:04 PM
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Everything you've written just makes it seem even more likely that she made the right decision. You sat by for years while she was clearly upset about this and just let it happen rather than clarifying where you stood with her? For someone who apparently values direct communication you sure didn't seem to make any effort to give her clear goals or guidelines for if/when a marriage could happen. 'I'm warming to the idea' is just what people peddling bullshit say to waste their partner's time, she…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 03:54 AM
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If you sort by new the gender split seems much more equal, women's posts just get upvoted more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 10:21 PM
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Ikr? That's, if anything, a redder flag than just being totally opposed to marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 10:15 PM
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Exclusivity doesn't imply exclusively in perpetuity No, but in relationships that last 10 or so years the vast, vast majority of the time you will have been discussing marriage and planning a life together and to have the rug pulled out from under your feet after making those plans is disconcerting and upsetting, especially if you see him marry the next woman in 2 years after you break up. Again, this is less about women who have been dating a man for like 6 months and more about women who've be…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 07:26 AM
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Then a better analogy might be the "friend zone" resentment? Over-investing in a specific girl and feeling resentful towards her? It's closer but generally female friends (even ones you're orbiting) don't demand exclusivity and thus it doesn't waste time the way a relationship does, which is part of where the resentment comes from. I'm trying to dive into why the sense of entitlement is seemingly left unchecked or unchallenged by the usual characters. Presumably people aren't 'challenging' it be…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 04:55 PM
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Q4All: Is this feeling of resentfulness analogous in any way to feeling resentful towards women because of some other missed opportunity or life experiences wrt relationships/sex? No because in this case it's anger about overinvesting in a specific man and not directed at an entire sex. It would be more analogous to resentment from a man who dated a woman that wanted to wait until marriage or who dead bedroomed him due to personal issues while promising to try and get better only to cheat on him…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 04:29 PM
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I got one too. Maybe on outsider looked at PPD and was like 'oh shit all of these people need help'
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:34 AM
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Let's give it a shot, but with something more important 'Give me a Norwegian Forest cat or I'll kill myself'
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:28 AM
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Because circumcision was commonly accepted culturally long before FGM was even on the radar as a concern in the West and usually people don't like to think too deeply about practices that they have been taught are alright, especially in places like America where the majority of men have been circumcised and don't want to think of themselves as having been 'mutilated'.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:41 PM
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Seems like she was pretty polite and you decided to be a wanker. Why would you post something that makes you look so bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 03:37 PM
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Whats wrong with atheists? Maybe they're disliked because they take every opportunity to shoehorn in their judgmental, repetitive bullshit regardless of how irrelevant it is to the subreddit in question. Kind of like this Why arent you jewish, islamic, hindu, or any other religion? I am an atheist too but this brand of bravetheism makes me want to convert to Islam and throw myself off a building
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:46 PM
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STDs maybe if it's treated as a public health concern, otherwise no, that would be fucking idiotic. If you are bad at vetting then sucks to be you, unless they've defrauded you financially or something that there's already a legal remedy for take it as a life lesson and adapt for the future. And lying to get sex specifically would definitely hit men harder. Women misrepresent themselves sometimes to look like LTR material but generally don't need to just to get sex. If it covers every little lie…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 03:20 PM
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What I've described isn't prudishness, it's a completely normal life trajectory that most women live through; not chaste, but not banging a different Chad every fortnight either. Most women aren't high-N club sluts and the only people who believe that they are are delusional shut ins who want excuses not to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:32 PM
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Probably because your FOMO has deluded you into projecting the actions of a minority of women who sleep round onto the majority that usually have a few bfs, maybe a few FwBs and/or a ONS or two and then settle down with Ns less than 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:23 PM
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Most women are do not sleep around that much, but if you don't recognise that at least some do you likely are, indeed, blind, at least to the kind of lifestyles and subcultures that enable this. have strict parents It is strange that you think adults care about this. Are you from a strict religion or culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:03 PM
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Most of my friends don't have this problem 'cause they meet at coffee places or similar for a first date and each just goes up and orders their own. This probably also preselects for lower maintenance women. Also, once you're in a relationship or at least seeing each other regularly alternating who pays comes off better than splitting the bill a lot of the time (do you each pay for what you ordered? Split 50/50? Either can come off as nickel and diming in the wrong circumstances.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 05:31 PM
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Confidence, like many other traits, acts as a multiplier to attractiveness, not a straight addition. So if someone has 0 attractiveness to start with it won't gain them anything, but someone who already has something to work with will get a boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 04:51 PM
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Title: When One Tiny Thing Your Partner Does Spells Doom for the Relationship Article: 'She told me how she used to smuggle drugs into the country. I asked her if it was meth and she just winked at me'
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 04:42 PM
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Oh and if you don’t he'll legit hurt himself. You have a feeling that it'd happen. Women should not give out sex to people who manipulate them with their mental health anymore than men in relationships with crazy girls who threaten to kill themselves if they break up should stay with them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 09:01 PM
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I have a hard time believing it because men also walk around in 100°+ weather wearing more clothing and are fine Would that I lived where you live and not somewhere where 90 percent of middle aged fat men start going topless the second it stops raining
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:09 PM
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Not wanting to have children is fine and doesn't affect my opinion of someone at all. Someone moralising about other people's decision to have children says that they're the kind of person I'd cross the street to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 09:24 AM
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Looking at pics of and reading stories about the kind of guys these women put up with it seems like they earn every penny
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 11:10 PM
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It is not 'dehumanising' that people don't want to watch the sub that many of us have been on for years be derailed by whiny incels and femcels. If you want a space then make your own space, nobody is obliged to listen to off topic whinging from incels OR FDSers, which is why posts about both are banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 11:02 PM
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Please, please do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 10:59 PM
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Men who try to do the same thing, and who lament that it's a problem causing the mass depression of men in our society? Ew, gross, a man expressing his feelings! Totally taboo! The fact that you could possibly ever think this debate subreddit, or in fact ANY debate subreddit, is a place for people to 'express their feelings' regardless of gender is a sign of how badly enforcement of this rule is needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 08:30 PM
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Aye, that sort of thing contributes to the whole 'walkaway wife' phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 05:05 PM
5

There seem to be a lot of male adulterers on there, they're just not upvoted as highly. Women get upvoted by men and women because women relate to it and men are titillated by their posts, the latter is less true in reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 05:09 PM
13

Leaving aside the whole reactive/ proactive thing, as men generally have a much lower bar for casual sex than for relationships a woman who wants a relationship is putting herself in a position to get pumped and dumped a lot if she approaches since plenty of men will happily fuck easy women that they are repulsed by normally. Women who attach little or no emotion to sex can use this strategy fine as it'll certainly work sometimes, but someone who is negatively affected by feelings of being used …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 04:53 PM
38

It's a starting point for a conversation that gives the reader an opportunity to respond and show that they're on the same wavelength. 'Oh, you like (commonly liked thing?) I also like (commonly liked thing). (Insert hopefully semi interesting observation about commonly liked thing)'. It doesn't have to be proving or showing anything, it's giving people with something in common with her an in. If you don't like travelling and avoid her then clearly it's working as intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:00 PM
7

It's funny that it picked up so much after TRP and TBP effectively died. Explicable since we know they're *cels and FDSers, but still funny
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 04:08 PM
15

It's changed a lot from my perspective. When I started (around 6 years ago maybe?) it was more a discussion of specific concepts related to TRP sidebar (hypergamy, 'Briffault's' law, difference in male and female love, pair bonding, etc), then because it was a relatively small sub people started to get to know each other more and there was more nuanced discussion on tangential but related issues because we largely already had an idea of a lot of the other posters' stances on basic stuff and it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 03:29 PM
1

A lot of gay guys don't mind if it's an occasional thing like doing drag because that's just putting on a show rather than actually trying to pass. Crossdressing is viewed differently and is seen as an indication of a fetish and/or a red flag for being trans* so some gay dudes will want to leave well enough alone for LTRs. Bisexual guys might be more open minded about it, but it depends on how they feel on gender bending in general; some bi guys like masculine men and feminine women, some like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 02:07 PM
1

I am a gay dude, and if I were single I would date someone who dressed androgynously but not a cross dresser.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 01:14 PM
2

Having a family or even just a spouse you love and supporting them is fulfilling in and of itself, as is casual sex to some people apparently, so I don't see any reason to assume that asexuals are happier. How happy and fulfilled you are is often a matter of whether you achieve your goals, so someone not interested in marriage and sex could be happy if they have the skills to follow whatever passion they have or miserable if they don't. Similarly, a family oriented person may lead a blissfully h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 01:10 PM
10

Men are often motivated either by getting as much casual sex as they can from multiple women or by providing for a family, nether of which an asexual man has to worry about. I am sure there are successful asexual men, but I'd imagine they're probably more inclined to pursue passions regardless of financial benefit and that as a result there's a good chance they're not as well off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 12:03 AM
2

It's individual specific. Some people can handle it without negative consequences, others can't. Most people who are the latter identify it after trying it a couple of times at max and don't do it regularly (contrary to internet FOMO, most people aren't racking up sky high n counts, male or female). Problems arise when damaged individuals who aren't suited to it repeatedly end up in those situations for validation or in an attempt to get someone to commit, and those are the people who struggle i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 07:59 PM
5

I am a gay dude, I get blowjobs from my husband and I don't feel vulnerable during them at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 09:23 PM
8

It's bizarre to me that straight men think the BJ is more intimate. Would you feel more vulnerable and exposed with something shoved in your mouth or something shoved up your arse?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:16 PM
3

You are overthinking this, he probably has a number of women on the go at once and this was likely not aimed specifically at you, and even if it was you're doing yourself no favours wasting mental energy trying to second guess his motives. You have correctly identified that he's just not that into you and that's all you need to know to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 07:38 PM
3

It's a good rule to have if you're looking for an LTR and don't want to get pumped and dumped or relegated to short term status because a lot of the time older men don't take younger women seriously as long term partners. If you're aware of that risk and don't mind the possibility of getting messed about while looking for the right guy then that's entirely up to you. (Note: I'm 16 years younger than my husband so I know age gaps can work, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be realistic about po…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:13 AM
8

if a girl has sex with a ugly guy (like prostitution) in her mind the sex wont even "count" as sex Prostitutes can be virgins I knew it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 04:22 PM
2

0 if manlets not considered, 4 if manletness somewhat offputting, 5 if manlet neutral, 6 if manlet preferred (my husband is thankfully the later). Don't consciously take my own looks into account, but who knows what's lurking subconsciously
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:20 PM
1

wow I feel attacked does suspension of moderation still apply in hate crime situations
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 09:24 AM
6

Be nice, I'm shy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 09:02 AM
1

Nope. Even apart from the monogamous love feelz I figure if you're already having great sex throwing that away to pursue someone else who's an unknown quantity is a bad idea
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:28 AM
1

1-2 depending on metrics. Will hopefully stay as I am as it means my husband and I haven't divorced (unless the divorce left me so heartbroken I could never move on)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:14 AM
1

go and be free my son daughter
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:51 AM
8

Dick or no dick, kandy will live rent free in the heads of some of the posters here forever F
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:47 AM
4

If you're going to seemingly randomly mix and match completely different users why not just say we're all part of the borg and basically alts of each other
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:10 AM
9

She probably wanted all those things, but in a man she was attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 07:55 PM
2

chicken thighs Sounds like murder to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 11:16 PM
4

Trick question, any man under 6 foot is actually a woman with a fake moustache
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:21 PM
1

^^
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:14 PM
16

Rings and weddings and lying to other people about that fact you're married all mean nothing if the two of you both know you're LARPing. If anything a ceremony with no marriage is a thousand times more pathetic than just openly admitting that you'd rather stay bf and gf and getting on with your lives; not wanting to get married is fine, but roping all your friends and family into a weird roleplay where you pretend to get married while insisting that you don't find it important at all is weird as…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:18 AM
5

He can't describe it because he knows perfectly well that even if he finds something completely divorced from someone's actions it will fall into the category of 'how they make you feel'. You just need to understand that male love is pure and completely divorced from shallow things like being made to feel happy or dat ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 08:49 AM
7

I am not a woman, but nonetheless perhaps if I pump up my husband's aura with enough good vibes his 'being' can finally provide me with something truly meaningful beyond stupid feelings like 'love' and 'happiness'. I assume you reach the highest level of 'being' when you perfect the art of typing of judgemental paragraphs full of meaningless buzzwords with no concern for providing guidance for how the people stupid enough to attempt to apply your 'advice' might do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 12:50 AM
9

Yes, I should evaluate my marriage by subjectively assessing of the quality of my husband's 'being', which I'm not allowed to measure through his actions, how he treats me, how he makes me feel, his appearance or his potential, that makes much more sense, I am enlightened
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 12:03 AM
7

You got me, if only I'd selected for 'being' I could have avoided this horrible fate of settling down with an attractive man who does nice things for me and makes me feel good. Frailty, thy name is buartha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 11:46 PM
9

If you truly want to be in a mutually loving and committed relationship with a man, you have to be attracted to him and choose him for his being... you have to be attracted to him and choose him for his being, not for what he can do for you, or how he makes you feel Absolute fucking bollocks, advice like this does far more harm than good to the people stupid enough to take it. I'm sure it all sounds very deep in your head, but nobody loves their romantic partners for their 'being', nor should th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 10:04 PM
17

Yes, the modern woman is a femdom sex worker. Do you ever think you might just be working from a biased sample?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 03:56 PM
30

Waiting generally isn't about STDs for many women, it's about protecting themselves emotionally and/or preserving their image.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 08:40 PM
6

/u/sunflowerburst
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:05 PM
13

Aye, I don't think it's an exclusively male thing, I am just supremely baffled by the tone this sub has taken recently that normal men are utterly unmoved by the attractiveness of a beautiful woman when a cursory glance at the outside world seems to disprove that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:06 PM
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I'm not a woman, I'm a gay dude and most of my friends are straight men. I'm basing this on how I've seen my friends and most of the other straight men I've known in my life act around the women they're crazy about vs. the women they thought were fine and happened to fall into a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 09:54 PM
6

The point of the comment thread is that women often don't care about money if the man is following an artistic pursuit that they're passionate about, saying that the men in question aren't rich is just proving their point surely?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:19 PM
2

Yeah, I think it would be weird to talk about how the sex itself went with a committed girlfriend/wife Aye, most of my friends are straight guys and that's the pattern I've observed with them. It's understandable, there's nothing lost making your friends picture your ONS naked but the last thing you want is them doing the same to your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 07:44 PM
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The man will do all the same things for Becky that he would have done for Stacey. Definitely not true, the way men act around top tier women and the gestures they'll make in an attempt to secure them are miles away from the way they act around 'normal' girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 07:37 PM
6

Sure, they want a "seeking an arrangement" thing, but they definitely want to go out with me. They want to go out with you for money. They are exchanging their services for your goods. They don't feel any more for you than a salesperson trying to sell you a car or a job applicant trying to get work with you would.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:48 PM
13

I'm a gay dude. I don't understand why anyone, male or female, thinks that it's rude for the world not to be their unwilling audience based entirely on their whims. I don't want to have a conversation with random strangers in public, why would I expect a woman to?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 07:46 PM
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It's not 'basic human decency' to have to listen through someone's attempts to get into your pants any more than it's 'basic human decency' to sit through a sales pitch every time someone out leafleting approaches you. There are polite and impolite ways to separate yourself but it's not inherently rude not to want to socialise with everyone who approaches you for their own self-interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 07:40 PM
12

a small jar of his cum to wear. Why did you have to go ruin sex for everybody else
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 06:37 PM
2

No and no. I think sex affects behaviour due to hormone levels etc, but there are too many competing factors that vary in impact depending on individual circumstances to say which is the most 'important'.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 06:32 PM
1

I agree that exercise has these benefits. I disagree that most women here 'miss the point' because for the most part they're responding to specific claims regarding boosting physical attractiveness (which it definitely can do, although I would argue there are diminishing returns beyond a certain point).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 09:04 PM
2

I don't particularly like it when people scroll through post histories and present someone's past comments as if it's a valid argument against them unless they're looking up a something that specifically contradicts what the person they're responding to said (i.e. if someone is claiming they're a virgin when in the past they'd talked about having casual sex with a bunch of people). Dredging up random unrelated comments for a character assassination isn't good form on a debate sub. That said, I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 11:26 PM
6

I would never date someone who I knew had seen a prostitute. Even in many countries where it's regulated people are trafficked in to meet demand since most citizens won't turn to that sort of work unless they're poor or desperate, and even when the prostitutes aren't actively forced the thought of someone willingly fucking a person who would rather be anywhere but there disgusts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 06:22 PM
4

If anything I'd be more likely to fuck someone with your body type since I'm a gay man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 05:52 PM
8

Her body type is more attractive than yours even if yours took more work. Pretending otherwise is no different to gymcels complaining that women prefer other men despite all the extra effort they're putting in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 05:37 PM
3

I've certainly seen a few people in that area involved in various reddit dramas who seem to have managed to keep their real life names out of their online presence but I've not got a clue how they do it. If you don't try for the big leagues and mostly stream it's probably easier, but I guess there will always be a degree of luck involved since you have to pray that your friends and family don't enjoy your specific niche, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 11:23 PM
3

When I wrote that I was thinking of people who show their face but manage to keep it secret enough that most people in their day to day lives don't know about it (apparently showing face makes for better business so I assume most people who actually make enough money out of it to live off do this)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 08:22 PM
1

Show me some stats, I don't know what kind of work you guys do but toward the ends of projects even well put together guys come out haggard, tired, with a few additional grays, fitness and hygiene can easily go out the window at least temporarily Most people don't work the kind of jobs that have demanding 'projects' like this so you're showing your bias immediately. What this tells me is don't work so much harder than the average to the point that you have to make sacrifices elsewhere if you don…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 04:17 PM
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It's very true in most cases. People like those you're describing exist, but people who work incredibly hard in their work lives but slack in otherwise are an extreme minority compared to those who just try to get away with the bare minimum in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 03:40 PM
14

I would disagree on the basis that a lot of 'ugliness' in both men and women is a function of lack of care rather than genetic fate, so lazy people are predisposed to looking worse than their natural equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 02:48 PM
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I think the ones who manage to do it semi-anonymously, without having to resort to actual porn and strictly for money are savvy and their actions speak more to ruthless practicality than narcissism or social media obsession. I would probably not want to date the male version of that because I'm possessive and don't want other people looking at what's mine, but I don't think they're inherently a massive risk if you have a compatible personality. Sharing sexual pictures regularly for kicks rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 11:44 PM
1

4-6 depending on how you feel about small, pale Irish men. I'm fairly sure most people would regard me as bland looking but I fit a niche for some and it's not like I need more than one husband so that's fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 08:25 PM
0

Drinking and partying is fine in an LTR regardless of gender as long as your enjoyment of it roughly matches your partner's. If a girl is out every weekend she's probably not a good match for a homebody but she's probably great for someone who leads the same kind of lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:32 PM
5

Q4ALL- A man with a gun comes up to you and tries to make you choose between answering a PPD thread about whether you'd prefer to date a monogamous poor man or a rich poly man, or one about whether you want to date a horny ugly woman or a hot prude. Do you choose the first, the second, or beg the gunman for the sweet release of death?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 10:47 PM
2

My views on relationships probably aren't controversial enough to warrant a 'cancelling' by most people, but as a fairly ardent Irish republican living in England I have occasionally had potential friendships with stupid English people who object to being blown up cut short (by them, not me). I don't think people need to be more 'forgiving' about beliefs; if you know that being friends or partners with someone whose views run very contrary to yours would make you uncomfortable then you have ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:01 AM
19

He's evolved from preachy slut to preachy Christian, it's the standard lifecycle of the greasy manwhore and utterly unremarkable to me since I've seen it play out to a less extreme degree with 'players' in real life a thousand times
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:54 PM
4

paying their credit card debt I think the main issue I'd have here is that I wouldn't want to date/ marry someone with obvious and severe brain damage
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:50 PM
3

For women in their early twenties the reality is that you likely won't regain all lost 'value'. While a lot of this ground will be regained with time as your female peers become more amenable to baggage as they develop some of their own (and become more open minded about children), keep in mind that two of the big worries with dating single parents is that non parents don't want to compete with the ex and the child for attention all the time, and they don't want to have to contribute resources o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:14 PM
5

I don't know why people are assuming that this is a a result of bias and not reflective of a real difference. I think the 'average' man, particularly the average single man, probably isn't as 'good' for a relationship as the average woman at first glance. Women tend to put more effort into upkeep and appearing like they would be good relationship prospects even while they're single and not actively looking, whereas single men who aren't players often revert to gross university-style bachelorhood…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 06:44 PM
2

Aye, I definitely don't mean to completely discount the role of personality, just focusing mostly on the physical for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 12:27 AM
19

Do any online dating experiment of a woman with no face pics (just body pics in a bikini etc, with the face cropped out) and you'll get 100's of men a week messaging. To fuck. Good body + shovel face in women makes them ONS/ FwB material for a lot of men. A cute face is more often than not is what inspires love-feelz in men, which is why there are so many men with good bodies and hideously ugly faces with fat women who have pretty faces. Most online escort personals (in my area) a woman's face i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 03:32 PM
2

Preach
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:54 PM
8

I believe that the majority of trans* people transition to relieve dysphoria, but Yaniv is so obviously pretending to be trans* in order to target groups that he either wants to harass or perv on that seeing him referred to as she is like being told a leopard is an apple. I don't think calling people like Yaniv out for being disrespectful at best and dangerous at worst to women is incompatible with supporting trans* people in general. BP.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:57 AM
14

As a 5'5 man I can confidently state that 5'8 men are literally the worst. Men around my height or below can actually lay claim to being short, whereas 5'8 just LARP being short for attention and excuses for their mediocre lives
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:31 AM
3

Or that's just a cunning cover
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:00 AM
9

You're move bluepillers No I'm buartha
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:01 PM
1

I imagine Molyneux's role as giving the final say at the end, just in case a few go poof during the competition and they need an updated total to determine who was closest
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:40 PM
1

I'm hoping there will spins on normal games people play at big meetings, like maybe instead of guessing the number of jellybeans in a display jar you guess what percentage of her egg store a display woman has left
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:34 PM
3

I didn't realise Molyneux was confirmed, now it's srs bsns. And to think I thought it was a testament to the hubris and imbecility of the average manospherian talking head! Fingers crossed a wig and a good shave will allow me to pass so I can get front seat
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:29 PM
4

To clarify
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:16 PM
3

He likes big dogs (once he's over the 10 minute barking introduction), he's only little but he has big dog energy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:10 PM
3

I have a terrier/ Pomeranian mix that's only mostly an embarrassment if you can't find any other dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:06 PM
1

discord Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 09:43 PM
2

Why are you 'saying' anything, you get drunk, go to a sleazy club or bar and then grind on someone until the time is right to maul onto them (not a woman but this is purge week and your labels don't apply here)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 09:39 PM
2

I wish him all the joy of them, but personally I prefer a bit more coverage
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 09:16 PM
11

>/r/Drama >outside the incelosphere Pick one
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 09:06 PM
0

Ah now, you'd have to have some hope of ever getting laid for that to be relevant here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:58 PM
1

This kind of top tier humour makes me more sure that breeders are just bots that spit out 1 of about 5 preprogrammed phrases in response to external stimuli
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:41 PM
8

Out of spite, probably
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:14 PM
3

Always upvote blues brothers
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:52 PM
1

You don't even need a social coke habit, a decent personal weed stash will get women through the door, and that's half the battle
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:24 PM
11

If thongs were genuinely comfortable and practical, then everyone would wear them, nut just women I don't know what you have going on but from my own male perspective I can think of a few anatomical differences that might affect this decision
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:15 PM
10

I feel this way about straight 'people'
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:13 PM
2

I actually live with a 'boom(ah)' and they prefer to be called Gen X
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:12 PM
8

Accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:47 PM
4

Irish Americans See this is your problem, we sent the defective ones your way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:41 PM
18

I dated girls in my teens before I came out as gay and I'm way more of a pussy than most of the women here tbf
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:28 PM
2

Masculinity 103 Femininity 99 As technically I'm in the masculine section it's nice to know that if I ever lose my husband I can now put masc4masc on my dating profile. BP/Male/gay
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:32 AM
7

I have told this story on PPD before, so apologies if this is a rehash for anyone. The first man I dated at Uni brought a copy of Das Kapital with him and talked about Marx all through our date. I didn't know anything about non-Northern Irish politics at the time so it was very surreal, and then he tried to get me to go back to his after which was even more overwhelming. I do not recommend this approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 01:21 AM
6

Their wee minds would explode the first time they saw 'no fats, no femmes, no rice, no curry'
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 08:02 PM
8

They don't, the vast majority of 'you go girl' posts on social media are to address the low self worth that many women have. Happy, self confident people don't need a constant stream of validation to get out of bed in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:23 PM
8

Should men who who find it difficult to fulfil their performative masculine roles and conform to narrow behaviours that women find attractive and indicative of a mans worthiness as a mate just go gay when scientists find a way to change someone’s sexuality? yes they can get acceptance from gay men, who are far more tolerant of different expressions of masculinity? Oh boy you're really going to be in for a shock if you ever do figure out how to go gay
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:39 PM
1

Like now but I pick up birth control at the same time as my other prescriptions
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:31 PM
1

I feel almost entirely the opposite. I don't think going for coffee is always a bad first date, especially if you're young (early twenties or below), but in terms of the effect it's going to have on the impression you leave it's almost better to pay extra for the person you don't know than the person who's already in your friend circle. Someone who knows you knows what kind of financial situation you're in and knows whether $50 is a big deal for you or not, and probably knows (or can find out by…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:23 PM
8

Gay male, when I'm with my husband all the time, and it pops into my head when I'm around other men especially if they stand close to me or do certain things, but it's not 'fun' or 'sexy' it's just like a flash that makes me uncomfortable more than anything. It was much more intense when I was single since I didn't really have an outlet (but I was last single in my teens so that probably affected it too).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 03:01 PM
2

I don't understand how expecting women to 'appreciate' that men can protect them from problems caused almost exclusively by other men is anything other than infuriating. Most women know perfectly well that men are dangerous and that they can't adequately protect themselves from them based solely on their own strength, that's one of the reasons a man who can make a woman feel 'safe' is attractive, but why should they feel gratitude towards men as a whole for saving them from men as a whole? It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 01:18 PM
1

Take the unintended accidents out of it, 1 in 5 young men kill themselves between the ages of 10-34 You might want to rephrase this (I'm assuming you've typed it wrong as nobody could possibly believe this as stated). Even if you're just claiming that that there's an epidemic of youth suicide and that young people kill themselves at greater rates than older people due to some social shift, from stats based on National Violent Death Reporting System in America (which is where I assume you're from…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 11:48 AM
3

Assuming that you're not in your teens the fact that 'high school' is your point of reference both here and in your OP is telling. If you think men (or women) act like their teenage selves their whole lives then that says more about the immaturity of the company you keep than it does about either gender as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:07 AM
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While I don't think it's as extreme as you're making out, I agree that there's somewhat of a divide between 'typical' straight men and men who aren't attracted to women since men (especially young men) often let their lives revolve around getting laid, whether by talking about their actual sexual exploits or just what they'd *like* to do. I'm not asexual but I'm gay and mostly 'straight pass' in real life so other men do try to have these discussions with me sometimes and I appreciate that it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:41 AM
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If you don't immediately start beating her with a sandwich board you might as well just castrate yourself in the kitchen tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:06 PM
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We get fucked up beyond blackout, on the journey towards sobering up he tells me "being a leader is very important" to him. Sounds like he wants to top when all the tension reaches its natural conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:03 PM
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Compatibility doesn't come from similarity but from being complementary to each other. I am gay, but my husband and I differ in pretty much every other way but sex chromosomes and I find our relationship far more fulfilling that I would a relationship with someone who thought and acted like me, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:45 PM
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This makes it make a bit more sense, but it's still a distracting example to use since in most situations people's reaction to an SO randomly turning up without their partner who actually works there would be suspicion that a scene was about to be made and it wouldn't reflect well since it would make people uneasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:56 AM
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I am not a woman, and there are absolutely women this wily, and women like them have succeeded and will continue to succeed in seducing high value men long after you and I are dead and buried.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:41 PM
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I don't understand why you think repeating the same thing that everyone else has said that didn't convince me the first time will have any impact on my opinion. I see high value men get stuck on particular women all the time; sometimes these women are genuine, sometimes they are not, but the idea that there's some magic level of experience or attractiveness that makes a man immune to 'oneitis' is pure terp fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:40 PM
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No,why would they?They have equally attractive and quality women that won't make them play these games. Because they like her and find something intriguing/ interesting in her, either because he genuinely is more compatible with her than most women for whatever reason or because she's wily enough to know how to give the impression that there's something special about her. There's an assumption I see a lot on here that all 'high value' men both have such a strong abundance mentality that they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:38 PM
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Yes for 3 months and yes without sex from her in the circumstances I outlined above.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:22 PM
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Ultimately it would probably depend on how often we see each other and how quickly that accelerates. That's a good point, big difference between 3 months of seeing each other every day and 3 months of seeing each other every other weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:57 PM
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>I don't fuck with someone who thinks like that and imposes those types of rules. The people I've liked have always gone at a pace that is comfortable for them, but not in such a rigid manner. ​ If done properly you wouldn't realise that it's a rule they have, it'll seem like an organic evolution towards getting more comfortable and opening up to you. I think the objection to rule setting is fair enough, it's just hard to see coming if you're not conversant with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:56 PM
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Attractive, high value men will absolutely be willing to bankroll dates for a while for a woman they see as a potential LTR if they believe that her reasons for not 'putting out' aren't purely manipulative (i.e. not wanting to get hurt, not being very experienced, etc), especially if they're capable of quietly getting some on the side (which most high value men are). I will say that it's a strategy that's most effective when both parties are young; there's a world of difference between a 22/23 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:48 PM
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>I wouldn't pay for more than a few drink dates. ​ Getting people who aren't invested to weed themselves out like that is pretty much the intended effect of the three month rule. Not saying that you're wrong to feel that way, but it makes as much sense for a woman who wants someone who's mega keen on her to have those standards as it does for you not to play along if you're *not* mega keen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:29 PM
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As a man I know from personal experience that while I can still have and enjoy sex daily while I'm consuming porn on the side I'm a lot more energetic and motivated and put a lot more effort into the sex I have with my husband when I don't use it. Giving it up years ago was a great decision for me, and anyone who's noticing issues either in their LTRs, in getting up the motivation to approach people they like or who feels that their physical standards are holding them back is shooting themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:47 PM
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I don't like touting short of murder or rape and probably wouldn't have done it myself but I'm definitely not 'supportive' of the guys she told on either. If they were just talking shit then maybe it's an overreaction, but if they were making an actual list, physical or digital, that was going to be passed around then the the ensuing shitstorm that would have resulted when it was inevitably unearthed by the women (and it would have been, believe me) is absolutely not worth the liability of keepi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:11 PM
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It's definitely incels rushing the sub at least in part, the sub has been posted to incel discords and unfortunately the dregs stuck around.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 07:26 PM
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I'm gay and married so I have no horse in this race. I'm here because I enjoy arguing about things, and gender debates are a good way to hear the views of a wide variety of people since the topic is a lot less niche than other things I'm interested in. ​ That said, I have been getting less out of it for the last while, which is why I don't post as much as I did a few years ago. I don't mean this to be rude to you specifically OP, but the influx of people with no dating experience over the last c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 07:06 PM
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Is this a joke? I'm truly baffled that you feel qualified to come into the home of someone you've barely talked to and pass judgement on their intelligence based solely on their bookshelves, and lack self awareness to such a degree that you'd post about it without seeing how badly that reflects on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:24 PM
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I would probably live my life much the way I do now, and much the way I would were I woman and looked normal/ somewhat good looking (although if I were truly gross to the point people remarked on it I would probably leave the house even less than I do now since I don't like being singled out). Instead of having to focus of a myriad of traits to be successful, a woman just had to focus on 2. Her looks and demeanor. That's basically it. All she has to be is not fat and shut up, and she can get pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 06:31 PM
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People change over time, and I have particular sympathy for those who got into a relationship with someone when they were teens/ young adults only to have their partner's 'real' self come out years down the line, which isn't uncommon at all since often people face their first true stressors (death of a close relative, unexpected baby, etc) around that time. When someone is young and untested predicting how they'll react to trauma can be a real crapshoot, and I suspect this is why a lot of young …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 11:22 PM
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I can't help with the stuff about interactions with women as am gay, but not watching porn/ not masturbating helped me direct my energies more towards my husband. We've never had a problem with frequency but when I used porn/ masturbation as a way to wind down from work before he came home I was generally tireder/ less enthusiastic when it came to sex later, and over time that sort of thing can really grate on a relationship and build resentment on both sides over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 09:09 PM
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The women who complain about 'mothering' their husbands are largely annoyed because they do all the 'mothering' stuff while getting few to none of the benefits you're describing. Most women work other than when they're off on maternity leave (or maybe past the kids being young when daycare is expensive), most men around my age (say mid 20s to mid 30s) can't fix shit, and barely anyone in the West outside very rough areas is being actively physically defended by their spouse with any degree of re…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 05:48 PM
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Aye. a/ people who used to be BPers are mostly concerned with Trump and arguing about that so have moved on because TRP is so 2016 and b/ there are too many black pillers and incels so the debate isn't interesting anymore, it's no fun debating someone with 0 life or dating experience to validate their theories with
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:56 PM
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That doesn't follow from what I said at all. My husband and I do things for each other that we would rather not do all the time, we just don't pretend to enjoy it. That's the part that's gross to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 10:21 PM
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I suffered through the ballet earlier this month for her. I pretended to love every minute of it. It brought her great joy to share something with me. If I had "starfished" the ballet, it would have significantly diminished her happiness. I care, so I pretend to love it. I would find your enjoyment pantomime repulsive and weird. When my husband does things he doesn't want to do for me I don't put the burden of pretending to be happy during it on him as well and he returns the favour. Perhaps the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 06:48 PM
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He was talking about gay men because I am gay, it's in my flair
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:02 PM
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Picture thread just showed that we are all beautiful people who could totally slay if being a basement dweller who burns at exposure to sunlight wasn't a PPD requirement
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 06:58 PM
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Having to date men makes you hate them regardless of what's going on in your own pants Seriously though, it is very easily to sympathise with women's issues with dating when you can see them amplified in your own community. Gay dudes don't tend to 'filter' themselves the way straight men do around women so some of the more unpleasant aspects of male sexual/ romantic behaviour can become very obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:46 PM
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Women can’t eat as much as men. Aye, and adding to your other points once you settle down with a man and start making joint dinners it's very easy to let portion control get out of control. I'm not a woman, but my husband is 8/9 inches taller than me and if I ate like him I'd be spherical
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:38 PM
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A perfect insult isn't one that resonates with you, it's one that resonates with your target. If someone is calling you an incel as an insult it probably says more about how you present yourself than it does about their values.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:02 PM
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Encourage the incels to fuck each other by giving free access to high quality wigs and lube
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:22 AM
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If you have one above a certain threshold (probably somewhere around 5 inches with an average girth) it is not incredibly important to most women. Size queens exist, but it's more common in gay men than women. Below 4.5 inches you will run into serious problems with a lot of women, and the extreme scenario of a micropenis will be a deal breaker for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:19 AM
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If only you didn't have the upper body strength of a 6 year old girl
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:06 PM
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A lot of FtMs pass really well physically (hell, even that one in your video could pass for a chubby gay dude). The main FtM 'tells' for people who have been on T for a while come from height, frame, and their female socialization when young in my experience (more conscious of other people's space, less likely to speak over people, etc), but a lot of more anxious guys are like that too so it's hardly a dead cert.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 10:12 PM
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The size of the average man is fine. In that an ideal penis should be 5'10
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:53 PM
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This is the real black pill
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:51 PM
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No matter how hard my husband and I try it just doesn't seem to work for some reason </3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:21 PM
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Roaming the land, extorting transgender people, throwing them to hogs and shit is masculine. What happened to you to make your model of masculinity Mason Verger?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:16 PM
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If I wanted to look at a muscular man, I’d just watch gay porn, and see your twink ass getting railed by a 12 inch cock. If I accept this as accurate can I tell you to hit the gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:59 PM
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Relevant experience: Am a gay dude and not a woman, but my husband would prefer me to stay home and I choose not to because I enjoy having something to occupy my mind. It's enjoyable to work for a living at something you have an interest in, and some people get a sense of purpose from doing work that they feel contributes positively to the world (or even just from feeling like they've 'earned' their spending money). Also, having a wealthy husband means you can wait for the right job to come alon…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:34 PM
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I think people who are incidentally bisexual are more likely to own the label now (or to overstate just how bisexual they are). As for choice, bisexuals can 'choose' to label themselves as gay or straight, but actual monosexuals can't shift and it's incredibly frustrating when sanctimonious bisexuals act like if something is true for them it must be true for everyone. The idea that I could 'choose' to be attracted to women is ludicrous to me as a monosexual gay man who becomes actively unaroused…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 09:31 PM
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> posting relationship theories online (women do this to waste time and be bad wives and attention whore, men do this to be intellectual and self improve and go down in history as Thinkers) ​ while I fully agree with your excellent post, I would just like to point out that when men do this it's called 'social analysis' and is thus very different in obvious and innumerable ways
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 08:14 PM
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Alternative soluition: it's easy not to hate a woman for being female if you only go for the ones that aren't female in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 08:04 PM
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I would compliment the terp dudes here all day long if they sent me pics like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 07:59 PM
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2 of the 3 trans* women you posted just look like twinks with long hair, and liking that is fine (twinks need love too) but if you prefer them to bio women you should accept that you're a notch or two higher on the Kinsey scale than you thought
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:03 PM
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Accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:55 PM
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Pic thread means we have SCIENCE to prove that we are hotter than them though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:49 PM
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If she breaks it off for some reasons other than his unreasonable behaviour (cheating, murdering her cat, etc) ​ If he breaks it off (and she wasn't trying to goad him into doing it or being similarly unreasonable) then she should dispose of it in the most dramatic way possible
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:31 PM
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I genuinely think he may have drunk himself to death. I assumed he was stabbed to death by a angry trans* prostitute that he tried to stiff, but I could believe either
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:20 PM
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I agree with the other posters about confidence. It's also pretty clear that most of the men aren't looksmaxxing (some are practically looksminning since they have a super attractive base to work with but aren't doing anything with it) while the women are at least putting some effort into living up to their potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:18 PM
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I like to think that if I were doxxed that I would be lauded by my associates irl for my sparkling wit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:13 PM
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awww it thinks he's its mammy <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:28 AM
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An attractive man who would do well without his mental issues is no different to me than a woman who would do well without the same. The knowledge that someone will put up with you long enough to bang you doesn't get rid of anxiety, self hatred and other mental health issues that many incels and femcels have in common regardless of how attractive they are
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:24 AM
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True, but hot gay. I certainly would, even if he is a dick on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:12 AM
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Don't stress too much about dieting for facial chub (not that your face is that chubby), that will fade with age. I too was cursed with it. Plus side is that you'll probably look young for longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:09 AM
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A lot of it is down to psychological issues ('mentalcel', their word not mine), which I sympathise with. However, I do find it irritating when those same people then turn around and complain about women calling themselves femcels since mentalcel issues are pretty applicable across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:51 PM
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Disclaimer that I'm genderfluid for purge week And I would be out of there, would probably try to make up something about chemistry or 'it's not you it's me' them to try and spare their feelings though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:44 PM
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I worried about before I posted too, but you can always gaslight whoever recognises you into believing that it's actually just a person who looks just like you by freakish coincidence
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:18 PM
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I avoid number ratings but you are cute, you just look a bit uncomfortable with taking photos of yourself. Don't stress too much about your attractiveness but maybe work on looking a bit more relaxed if you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:13 PM
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'dorable. Although I will now imagine you pulling that face when you have to deal with incelposting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:00 PM
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Babby pic is cute af, although babby you looks a bit over it, ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:50 PM
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https://media1.giphy.com/media/En0rwC2l5WCxa/source.gif
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:23 PM
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You know who you are Excuse you (and you guys are looking great as ever)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:09 PM
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You could be a perfect 10/10 but I'd still try to garrote you if you sent me a text with this level of irresponsible spacebar use
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:36 PM
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Haha, I can definitely see that he's objectively fit and good looking, just not my type!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:10 PM
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It's not about what 'women' and 'men' can give you, it's about what a specific person who you are compatible with can give you. It's difficult for some people to find people they really get on with and enjoy spending time with, and when you do find someone like that you should hold on to them whether they're a romantic partner or a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:58 PM
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There are black dudes I find attractive, but I'm not into guys with very, very dark skin. I think it's more the undertones than the actual shade though; this guy's skin with very cool undertones is what I'm talking about. That said, I do think women can look very good with that skin tone (see the chick in the cool section here, she looks very striking in a good way), but I can't say whether I'd be attracted to her if I were straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:36 PM
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Scottish Are we going to have to take this outside
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:37 PM
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No kilt pics on me I'm afraid, but here is one of me in my natural habitat
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 03:25 PM
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Well, not if you do other drugs to make up for it. If not I have bad news for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:12 PM
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Am a little on the chubby side here but otherwise accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:08 PM
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/u/AutoModerator The only bot I've ever loved
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:04 PM
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White (or potato-raced depending on your views of the Irish), Ireland, 28
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 01:16 PM
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It, this retort, this Ralph report, claimed half, that's fifty percent, of masters degrees and half of the PhDs, are unemployed. Can you post this study/ retort/ report? I'm not up on the stats for masters' grads but for PhD students unemployment is usually sub 5% within 6 months of graduating in the UK (and apparently America judging from googling).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:17 AM
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Because it lowers your inhibitions and the inhibitions of those around you to increase the chances that one of you will be comfortable approaching and the other comfortable accepting. Also, being uptight and boring is not a selling point, and while not all people who are non-drinkers for ideological reasons fit in that category a disproportionate number of them do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:23 AM
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Anyone who unilaterally dislikes the entirety of the other gender has childlike narcissism I agree, the only sensible position is to unilaterally dislike the entirety of your own gender
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:22 AM
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Ugly but smart. Beautiful but stupid people can have all manner of awful things done to them by people smarter than them who are willing and able to manipulate them into getting what they want. An ugly child may find it harder to get what they want but at least they'll hopefully have the wherewithal to recognise when someone doesn't have the best of intentions for them and be better able to protect themselves when I can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:19 AM
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Nope, more successful than equivalently attractive dudes who didn't go the same route. It is bizarre to me that someone would deny the advantage of being the only straight man around a bunch of women in environments that can often be emotionally charged and intense, especially given how temperamental and impulsive some artistic types are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:59 PM
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Plus the women get to see you act as various interesting characters, practice and write intense scenes with you and have loads of time to party with you. It really is all win (apart from job prospects, but that's a problem for after you've gotten your dick wet).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:55 PM
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Nope, he was a normal upper working/ lower middle class Irish expat like most of my friends. Plenty of people in the UK do degrees for passion and interest rather than profit since the loan system pretty much means if you don't earn a decent grad salary you won't be paying it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:49 PM
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8 ===== D
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:40 PM
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Dude I know who got laid the most with women out of his league during his Uni years was a straight guy who did theatre studies. Make of that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:35 PM
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I can't be 100% on the proportions I suppose. I think white people who are stuck on race are over-represented on the internet (as most neuroses are), but it's also very possible that I miss a chunk of the more race obsessed white people irl as I'm a white dude myself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:31 PM
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He tried to save you, but America wouldn't listen
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:21 PM
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I'm afraid that's not women, that's just me on a series of alts getting all gross and gay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:16 PM
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what are some ways that men dig at each other that women would have no clue about? Is it true that men are in constant competition with each other to be the 'alpha'? If so, how is this done? There are some very interesting clips of this how this plays out on relationship analysis sites like XHamster if you're interested in learning more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:51 PM
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A slightly edited version of this is essentially what my bisexual husband thinks of straight men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:48 PM
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One thing I notice on the internet is that insecure people of both genders who are ethnic minorities (and white people who fetishize them) massively overestimate how much average white people notice or think about ethnicity and race. This is one of those posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:24 PM
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Can't fault that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:15 PM
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Why would you assume that I am referring to everybody with a reddit account when I specifically mentioned people who are 'whinging about women on the internet instead of drinking and partying to socialise and meet people'?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:10 PM
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Yes, the point of the black pill is to constantly feed your misanthropy/ misogyny from your echo chamber so you can convince yourself you don't need to expend the emotional energy of trying because you'd fail anyway. Also, you're a child, do yourself a favour and give yourself some time to grow up before you write yourself off based on an attractiveness level that will undoubtedly improve as you physically and mentally mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:05 PM
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It is truly fucking amazing the amount of effort that freaks on the internet will go to to try and 'prove' that unattractive people do less well on the dating scene. No fucking shit you absolute melon. Everybody knows that the more attractive you are the easier you will find it to date, but since most people are not going to be models no matter how hard they try and there are diminishing returns past a certain amount of effort it often makes sense to invest energy into improving your other trait…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:46 PM
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Once I was sitting reading PPD and then a cringey edgelord post from some moron's purge week novelty account just jumped out and raped me right in the eyes I don't think I'll ever recover
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:06 PM
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I'm so much smarter than these stupid cunts, but they still won't touch my dick why
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:01 PM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:57 PM
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If you're young and whinging about women on the internet instead of drinking and partying to socialise and meet people then you've brought your failure on yourself and deserve to be told to shut the fuck up due to your lack of insight and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:55 PM
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I think ideally if you want to bring the best out in a bisexual partner you should try to develop both sets of all primary and secondary sexual characteristics. This will naturally result in her being twice as attracted to you as most other people in the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:42 PM
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This is an observation on the state of relationships in western culture in 2019 There's a whole world of backwards shitholes out there where you can hold your power to provide basic necessities over the heads of desperate women to convince them to marry you, no need to limit yourself to the awful oppressive Western world. Don't let your dreams be dreams!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:29 PM
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I'm sure you think of it that way, but the definition of 'slutty' online varies from one person to the next. For some people, any sex outside marriage is 'slutty'. For others, some FwB and ONSs are an expected part of sexual experimentation and not 'slutty'. It's an imprecise term often used on this sub to evoke emotion and disgust the same way 'creepy' is, and while I don't support 'partial censure' of slutty or creepy I think getting your panties in a twist about one while ignoring the other i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 02:23 PM
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I’m treating PPD as debate subreddit. I try not to get too insulting. But there are some disingenuous debaters here that almost immediately go with insults or appeals to emotion. I want to tell these people to fuck off but I can’t because that wouldn’t “be civil." But people here are allowed to use “slutty” without repercussions. There are very few genuine uses of slutty. The definition of slutty is “any sex a woman has that a man doesn't like.” It’s an appeal to emotion and is also a call to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 01:27 PM
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I find I get more compliments from women once they know I'm gay. Generally women avoid complimenting men not because they don't think they look good but because they don't want it to be seen as an advance (and it often is interpreted that way, so I don't blame them). Compliments from straight male friends are rare, and even rarer when they know I'm gay (bar a couple of guys who are just generally happy and bubbly with everyone). Even aside from the gay awkwardness men are generally a bit less ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:41 AM
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This is one of those things that I hear about people caring about much more than I actually see them caring about it. While I agree that it's seen as a bit rude generally, when I've seen it be asked of anyone around my age (think 20-40) they just answer and above that the women usually just chuckle and make some sort of non-committal comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 10:04 PM
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PTSD and depression, but it doesn't really matter because I already have a husband so I can have as many red flags as I like now 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 04:20 AM
3

So what you're saying is that if a woman eats pizza like a normal human being and mispronounces some words she can avoid people like you? This important information to get out there for the good of women everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 03:38 AM
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Agreed, this is my take on it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:13 PM
71

I think SAHPs should generally do most of the the housework on weekdays when the spouse is working, and take care of the kids when they wake up on weeknights so the spouse can be rested for work. That said, it's perfectly reasonable for the husband to pitch in on at least one of the weekend days to give her a break, especially if there are little kids. He gets a break from his work, why shouldn't she get a break from hers? It's not sangria and relaxation, it's gross, tiring and frustrating a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 02:59 AM
4

Let me help you out there
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:45 PM
3

Deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:43 PM
10

If men's conditional love can be inaccurately called unconditional then why not women's love? In fact, why can't a sausage roll be called unconditional love if we're just assigning random words to things?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:35 PM
24

It is sweet to think that even if a man leaves his wife when she's in her 40s after 3 kids to bang 20 year olds that their love will always live on in his heart <3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:09 PM
7

Agreed. I'd go so far as to say that speaking charitably about your exes is a green flag (although I'd rather you weren't best mates with them fire insecurity reasons)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:39 PM
24

My instincts say it's worse to leave a sick spouse, but there are narratives for either situation that could make them more or less understandable. I've given some extreme examples of both below to illustrate, but obviously in real life it's much less black and white and more down to personal values. Job loss 1/ husband lost his job a month ago due to company shut down, has been looking for work ever since, is applying to roles both in his field and more easily attainable jobs out of it and is s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:30 PM
1

Do you prefer a partner who doesnt see law as an extention of morality and is comfortable breaking rules they dont agree with (victimless crimes/low risk situations only)? Yes, as long as we mostly align on what the important rules we don't agree on are Do you like the mindset that questions and challenges moral norms that are considered established (if they dont believe anything that really violates your own moral.codex)? Yes Do you get annoyed by people who obey every rule, whether its health …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 02:14 PM
3

I agree. When I was single and going to gay bars where I was noticed much more than I am in my day to day life it made me feel insecure and self conscious, even moreso because of how men act when you reject them. That said, I think whether this it's a good thing or not depends on your personality. If you are bubbly and love attention, then yes, being a young woman is probably ideal for you. If you find being in the spotlight either unpleasant or anxiety inducing then being an average looking man…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:58 AM
26

I don't even necessarily think it's just 'putting out' so much as 'being attractive'. In my observations men are a lot more caring when they find the person they're with cute/beautiful, if that starts going away, whether it's through something controllable like weight gain or something outside the woman's control like aging or sickness, so does the kindness and patience. I don't think it's a conscious thing, and obviously it doesn't represent every man since I do think a minority of guys have wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 03:48 PM
3

It's difficult to say since the only stats I know of are for BDSM sexual submissiveness, and both genders are interested in that (this study shows 64.6% vs 53.3% F vs M for fantasties), but as I said I don't think that necessarily tracks to real life personalities and character. I'd say that women probably tend towards being 'submissive' in character more often than men from my observations of people I know, but I can't see behind closed doors so I can't say for sure what their relationship dyna…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 12:49 AM
3

They are absolutely not alphas. You would only classify them as alphas if you think alpha=good and beta=bad. Alpha and beta are a spectrum of traits and to be successful in most areas you need a significant dollop of beta to succeed since those are the characteristics that encourage collaboration, team work and leadership through negotiation rather than force. Also, I was using 'beta bux' as a verb there, i.e. actively date and marry someone they don't love for money and/or security.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 12:32 AM
8

'Submissive' to me in the non-BDSM sense means naturally falling in step with what your partner wants, in and outside the bedroom. It doesn't necessitate passivity. Also, using that definition if your partner is approaching you with whips, chains and demands then they're probably not a 'submissive' in the sense I mean, they just enjoy roleplaying one in the bedroom (which is fine of course, I just think there's a difference between that and having a naturally submissive personality).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 12:10 AM
5

Do you understand who makes your comfortable life possible? Who writes your apps, engineers all your shit, does your science, plans your cities launches rockets into space? Or do you ladies not give a single fuck? Are you complaining because women would rather date and marry someone they love than beta bux?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 12:05 AM
6

Being any of those things is better than being none of them, which is usually the case when someone defines themselves by their 'goodness'
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 07:29 PM
3

Or does it have more to do with the large presence of people who subscribe to these ideologies holding those views? The reason gay stuff isn't discussed is for the reasons other people have already stated, that the focus of TRP is on heterosexual relationships, and while elements of the debate are generalizable since most of TRP and PPD are straight that's what people are most interested in talking about. As for whether TRP is inherently homophobic aside from that, I would tend to agree with you…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 07:22 PM
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Again, marrying someone who thinks of you in those terms is losing. Even casually observing how men interact with attractive women shows that they offer attention, money and commitment hand over fist to the women they truly want, and if he begrudges the woman he ends up with then she's not 'winning' by having him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 04:35 AM
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If a woman's husband wishes he could have gotten her with no effort and and not committed to her then she's not winning either. Sounds pretty evenly matched.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 04:13 AM
5

PPD has largely reinforced the negative views I had of other men from my own experiences growing up around a lot of violent men and as a gay man when I was dating. It hasn't really changed my views on women as much to be honest, although some of the explanations of why women do certain things in relationships has been enlightening as to why I do certain things despite not being a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 05:57 PM
1

Pretty much everyone's actions are a consequence of a mixture of external pressures and internal motivations/ values/ 'character', but the degree to which each individual person is affected by the former and the latter vary significantly. Some people are very much moulded by their environment, and the way you treat them will have a massive effect on whether they cheat or not. Others are the opposite, and will cheat or not cheat largely depending on how it aligns with their own goals, weaknesses …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 05:16 PM
6

One that people take too seriously: Agreed on the hook-up phase. It's only a big deal if it's combined with undesirable underlying reasons. One that people don't take seriously enough: Shit talking their exes. You'd think it would be common sense that that person is the only common factor in all their 'crazy' relationships but you'd be surprised how many people overlook that in favour of pitying their new SO uncritically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:58 AM
3

I don't personally care about it, but I have observed enough people caring that I recognise it as a real concern for those who are worried about public perception. It's also not just women who get judged for it; men might not get viewed as harshly, but there's still a perception of them as perpetual children playing house in the eyes of certain groups. In some ways reputation-wise it's almost better to have been married and divorced than to never have married at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:48 AM
1

I do have the odd positive trait too in fairness, they just weren't strictly relevant to the question
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:27 PM
2

Neurotic, standoffish to the point of rudeness to people I don't know, can't really be trusted around alcohol if left to my own devices, emotionally unstable (depression and PTSD), paranoid and jealous. Pretty much my only saving grace in these regards is that I'm fairly private with my negative feelings and unless things are very very bad I'm the only one who hears about most of the unpleasant stuff I'm cracker at baking though, which I assume compensates for all of the above. finding happiness…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 11:08 PM
2

For me it was largely an emotional thing; I don't have much in the way of family and we're almost certainly not going to have kids so marrying him was kind of like making my own family. It made practical sense in some ways as well (my husband wanted me to cut down on my hours and do more stuff at home, and marriage protects me somewhat if he decides he's bored of me and leaves me in ten years stuck in a part time research job) but I can't pretend that my motivation wasn't largely down to feeling…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 07:19 PM
5

Go for the Irish one No reason
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 10:13 PM
7

Do you get a prize for being the 1000th person to post about the fuckzone?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 02:53 PM
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It's not that people are intentionally looking for the most attractive long term mates so much as they tend to fall into casual relationships with people that they're physically attracted to and just stick with them if they're compatible enough rather than actively seeking out max compatibility. Users here and online sometimes make a big point of red flags, standards and checklists but in real life people sort of fall into relationships with each other and work it out from there, there's very li…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 01:45 PM
2

Irish is very nice Good call (definitely not biased)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 08:48 AM
3

In my observations bisexual men are far more likely to see their 'gay side' as an experimental/ fun thing that's only ever indulged to any great extent in during Uni, and after that men are mostly used as a bit on the side to either satisfy sexual frustration or for variety. It isn't universally true (my husband is bisexual) but even using my University's LGBT society as a example, everyone I knew graduated between 5-10 years ago and there's a fair amount of variety in who the bi women ended up …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 12:08 PM
11

In terms of the title, as a gay man elements of the LTR stuff are relevant. Not necessarily because I believe the underlying theory, but because I think relationships do best with well defined roles as it reduces the chances of miscommunications and covert contracts leading to resentment. While dividing things into the categories commonly used in traditional gender roles isn't the only way to do that it's probably the easiest given that it's a cultural touchstone that everyone understands. As fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 11:47 AM
1

(Reposted under automod as I didn't notice Q4Women) Sometimes it's due to lack of comfort/ insecurity, sure. Other times it's because he's not particularly fun or interesting and being with him in the long term would be aggravating. Even in a non-romantic setting I'm sure most people have met people who make a good first impression but are essentially hollow on the inside, and some guys who can get ONSs and STRs get by like that, developing only the traits that make them temporarily interesting …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 03:56 PM
3

To couples without kids it's usually not a big deal. I do all the housework and cooking and it takes me at max about 20 hours a week including errands, usually a bit less. To couples with kids, particularly young kids, it can become a much bigger deal because usually both of them are working, trying to keep track of the kids and keep house at the same time, and for the person who has to do more work on the housework side of things it becomes tempting to think about how much less stressful everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 09:00 PM
1

I could probably deal with any scenario close to genderswapped 1 or 2 or 3 if he acted affectionate and loving in the relationship now since I do believe that affection/ desire for an LTR can grow over the first few months/ half year of a relationship, but the guy in this one can go fuck itself if he admits on your 5th wedding anniversary that he only proposed as a joke and didn't expect to actually go through with it 'cos he thought you guys were about to break up from being too boring, but tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 06:10 PM
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Nobody's misunderstanding anything. They're applying the knowledge they have of normal human reactions to things and coming to the correct conclusion that this would be interpreted as a sign of guilt by most men who aren't manosphere addicts constantly fearing women getting one over on them. If you have a conversation at the start of your relationship well before you're pregnant that this would be your approach then it will probably be fine, but randomly offering this will be detrimental to most…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 10:36 PM
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You are 100% right. It's bizarre to me that people aren't seeing that for most men who haven't been reading manosphere blogs for years something like that would be seen as the act of a guilty conscience? Like if I turned around to my husband unprompted and was like 'good news, the STI test I asked for came back clear' that's going to cause a lot more issues than it solves
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 10:29 PM
3

Women like to throw around statements like "You'll never find another a girl like me", "I'm a prize" or "I'm the best/realest woman you'll ever meet" People who say this sort of thing are usually trying to buoy up their poor self esteem, especially if it comes post break up. It's very rarely a true reflection of how they value themselves. 'You're/ she's nothing without me' is a more gender neutral one. Also, male overestimation of value is generally less obvious because those who feel that way a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 01:09 AM
4

As you say, people don't build specific homeless shelters for men because as it stands '(m)ost hostels are for single homeless adult men' already. That's not a not a bad thing in and of itself since the majority of homeless people are single men, but when looking at the stats for gendered shelters you have to remember that if a hostel does not specifically advertise that it is for a minority group then it will be for men, and if you contact it as a woman you will likely be redirected elsewhere d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 05:15 PM
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Many women who it's relevant to 'get' it, and the kind of woman who cares about what that kind of man thinks isn't that likely to have that high an n-count anyway (and the small minority who do will generally have the good sense to lie or tell him it's none of his business). The reality is that for the most part experienced, higher n women end up dating experienced, higher n men who don't give a shit, so I absolutely believe them when they say stuff like 'I don't know what you're talking about, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 05:18 PM
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Plenty of 'poor' men are 'able' to marry and choose to cohabitate/ have children out of wedlock instead. I grew up under/working class and there just isn't the same cultural emphasis on it (outside religious communities) as there is in the middle classes and up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 05:33 PM
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That's not a matter of men being told they 'must accept' less successful women, it's a matter of men prioritising looks and other factors over financial/ career success.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 05:20 PM
5

I'm a 6. I don't find women gross or repulsive or anything, but I do think their bodies fundamentally unerotic and know from past experience that I can't get 'excited' around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 05:22 PM
2

My husband and I were supposed to go to Ireland for a bit before our wedding (I'm Irish and living in England) and in the end couldn't because of various things going on with him at the time, so he changed our honeymoon plans from France to Ireland and surprised me with it, which was very sweet and nice and meant a lot to me. I value physical displays of affection and being told he loves me more than anything though, which he's also generally good at keeping up on. Bonus question: how do you exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:07 PM
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There are a number of possible reasons for this. a/ she's just not that into you b/ she's shy and dislikes the focus being on her (I was like this when I was dating) c/ her work/ hobby/ degree either isn't that interesting to outsiders, is highly technical and she doesn't want to waste her time explaining it to you like a child, or is something she thinks about all day at work/ Uni and doesn't want to have to rehash it with you as well. I work in research and enjoy it but it can be stressful and…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 06:31 PM
1

Is it possible for a woman to sexually harass, assault, and/or rape a man? (choose any or all of them) Yes for all in my opinion. Should it be taken seriously as its male-on-female equivalents? Yes generally, though as with any kind of sex crime I think the individual who it happened to should have some input in how it's talked about and treated around them (i.e. if someone jokes around about something that happened to them you shouldn't get into an argument with them about how it's rape and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 07:49 PM
3

If OP is actually an artist in any kind of visual medium then I would assume ISFP before INFP. And if it's a written medium then I would suggest another career choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 05:39 PM
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No, as my comment implied I agree with the idea that artistic temperaments are attractive. What I was saying was that the way OP writes is so repugnant that I've now lost all sexual attraction to artistic people, and am perhaps even so traumatised that I may have lost all appreciation for art.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 05:24 PM
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I don't know how you've done it, but you've officially achieved the impossible and made men with an artistic temperament sound repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 05:16 PM
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Married 1 year, together 9, gay male. I don't doubt that I love my husband and want to be with him for the rest of my life, but I don't believe that there's one true soul mate, I believe 'the one' can be anyone you're sufficiently attracted to and compatible with. I think the ideal of the 'one true love' that acts almost as an external force kills a lot of relationships for dreamy types when in reality you, at least in part, make the person you're with 'the one' by actively working on yourself a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 10:27 PM
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I'm also a believer in telling their parents and family members about it. If their moms raised a porn addicted guy who can't please a woman in bed she should have to tell her son not to and she should be able to face the consequences. If he doesn't want mom to know he shouldn't be like this in the first place. Their moms need to know and their dads need to know. They raised them so their parents should feel the shame as well. Having to sit down with someone's parents and tell them about their so…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:10 PM
2

I get jealous of certain things occasionally. Not of romantic stuff since that's something I have control over, but things like people with living parents who they get on with or good familial support bases trigger jealousy in me sometimes, although not as much as when I was younger. The best way to deal with it constructively is to improve the areas of your life that you can change as much as possible so there's less of a hole left by the things you can't have, but there's nothing wrong with le…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 04:03 PM
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In that I have expectations of how my husband treats me that I occasionally don't deserve? Yes, I absolutely do. I also don't go around falsely trumpeting how low maintenance I am like most of the men on this thread, who apparently also couldn't resist a nice bit of whataboutery despite Creighton specifically asking them to focus on the topic at hand. baby If I put 'I AM A GAY MAN PLEASE REDIRECT ALL GENDER BASED SMUGNESS TO THE UNFORTUNATE WOMEN OF PPD' in my flair do you think that will stop o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 01:29 AM
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No man has ever had an expectation of anything, we just dully trundle through life with no aspirations or expressed desires until we eventually keel over and die, probably because we were too selfless to go to the hospital and foist the weight of our expectations of patient care onto the mostly female nurses
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 12:51 AM
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My supposed 'what have you done for me' lately attitude hasn't gotten much chance to bleed into my personal life as my husband doesn't generally go through prolonged periods of being unworthy of respect (also, 'his'). Although thank you for confirming that yes, 'niceness'= blindness to or actively not addressing any current and continued failings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:49 PM
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From what I can see, 'being nice' to a man in a relationship context means always treating him with the respect and deference that he'd expect when he's at his best (or what he thinks is his best) no matter how far he's fallen below that standard, how long he's been that way and how badly that's affected you. You just have to not acknowledge how his actions or inactions have affected you negatively in any way, which is clearly incredibly easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:08 PM
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With the exception of the truly repulsive guys, if a wealthy man is paying for companionship in addition to sex he's usually paying so the women are entirely focused on him and making him feel good and and he doesn't have to care anything about their thoughts/ feelings/ internal world like he would with an unpaid woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 04:44 PM
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I'm generally a bit opposed to any kind of 'sex work' because of the exploitative element, but while I understand that I maybe should object on a purely ideological standpoint I can't get myself to get too het up over Belle since she seems to have found a way to do it that's free from a lot of the physical and emotional consequences that porn stars and prostitutes often report. As much as I find those weird anime orgasm faces she pulls repugnant, she has clearly found her niche and I sincerely h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 01:05 AM
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Male/gay/BP. Don't watch porn as it takes sexual energy away from my marriage. When I did I watched amateur porn because I think the whole industry is gross and exploitative.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 10:52 AM
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1) Have you ever seen a woman hit at home or in your friends/family? Did she "deserve" it and why? Aye, in family and friends' families from when I was young. And not as far as I know, although obviously I don't the full story with friends' families. 2) Were the cops involved? How did it resolve? Was it repeated? I don't think so. There have been various instances that resolved in different ways each time (or didn't resolve at all), but with friend/ family violence I've never seen the police inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 12:52 AM
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Am BP but 'exercise and stay fit' is advice I'd give anyone who is struggling romantically so I'll try to answer your question. In terms of pure attraction, it's overrated if you're a healthy weight (even if you're skinny fat). Hell, I'd say it's probably overrated even if you're 'just' in the overweight category since being a bit fat is the new normal. That said, if you're an otherwise attractive man and your BMI is 40, even if you're getting laid, enough women probably look at you and discount…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:37 PM
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The majority of this is such a generic victim rant that it doesn't bear responding to, but with regard to women not wanting to make 'friendly conversation' with you, not everybody wants to be your 'friend'. I'm a man and if I wasn't in the mood to talk I would have treated you the same way. People who feel the need to force conversations on you when you're 100% not into it are annoying as fuck, and I can only imagine how much worse it is when you're a woman at a bar and a solid 90% of said annoy…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 09:02 PM
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I would say no. Men seem fairly consistent, but it seems to me that women's physical preferences genuinely change over time; 'pretty' guys get a lot of attention from younger women (think 23ish and under) whereas older women seem to have a much stronger preference for masculine men (which can work quite will since men tend to get a bit more masculine looking with time so they're essentially looking for agemates). I'm not usually a big fan of dating site data, but for those who like it you can se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 01:54 AM
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a/ Men usually ask out women, and paying in entirety for a date that you didn't even suggest in the first place seems mad, it would be like a headhunter contacting you and expecting you to pay your own expenses to an interview for a job that you didn't even know existed before they contacted you. b/ Men offer to pay to show off that they can. Since men generally care more about appearance than success, and can even get uncomfortable when their dates offer to pay, it wouldn't really benefit women…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 01:10 PM
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there are mature ways of getting someone to back off Like so clearly signalling discomfort that people who aren't even part of the conversation can see it? If someone is so obviously not into an approach that your own friend tells you to back off then you probably need a short sharp shock to make you wise up. It's not the job of 19 year olds on a night out to massage some random man's hurt feelings, and what they did worked so fair play to them if you ask me. Even having him kicked out is nicer …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 07:14 PM
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I completely agree with you to the point that I don't really have anything to 'discuss' apart from the fact that it's equally true of other aspects of a relationship (i.e. if you're expected to make Michelin star quality food every time you offer to cook you probably won't offer if you don't have the energy, if every time you clean you're told off for 'not doing it right' you're not going to even try unless you have time to make it perfect, etc, etc). Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:57 AM
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In the UK when you adjust for poverty and other circumstances (for example that usually single father households have older children and the father was already financially established before becoming a single parent) outcomes are similar. Also, interestingly: '"The impact of lone parenthood on emotional outcomes differs, however, with children who are born to lone mothers having similar outcomes to those in equivalent "intact" couples. But the emotional outcomes for children whose parents separa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:30 AM
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As someone whose mother died when they were a baby and who has thus had other people in similar situations open up to me when they probably wouldn't to others you are incredibly wrong. You probably notice it less because children are much less likely not to have a mother figure than a father figure because it's usually either the mother or her mother that take care of a baby when nobody else wants it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:05 AM
1

Haha it always comes out in the end!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 06:23 PM
1

It's lucky I'm a gay dude and not a woman because I would baby ambush the shit out of every man in those scenarios. I'm not living with the guilt of killing my hypothetical child because it might mildly inconvenience or worry some hypothetical guy, and assuming I'd follow a similar life path as I did as a man I'd be qualified enough that I doubt I'd need or want his money or input unless something went horribly wrong anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 05:49 PM
1

First one because I don't think people 'find themselves' any better through travelling than they do by working hard and succeeding in their chosen field.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 01:50 PM
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Note that this is hypothetical as I'm gay. I wouldn't actively hound her for the information, but if she brought it up without regret and it wasn't done in some kind of exceptional circumstance then I would probably end the relationship. I'm pro choice politically and believe that women should have the right to do as they would with a pregnancy, but I would like to reduce the risk of a child of mine getting aborted if there was a mistake and she wasn't ready, and her having previous form in that…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 01:17 AM
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I'm gonna be honest here, the way women talk about men you guys do not care about men at all. Women on the internet demonize men for trying to be nice, you also demonize men for even having the audacity to talk to women, you take the womans side whenever she cheats on a man and you where cool with Cardi B drugging and robbing men. You guys are so fucking obnoxious that you caused a fucking movement based on rejecting women this makes me question, do you ever truly conciously value men for what m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 02:50 AM
2

I disagree in certain circumstances. I think one party can be attracted, or there can even mutual attraction, provided the attracted parties feel like they have other options to avoid becoming fixated on the person they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 01:50 PM
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I largely disagree. How can you disagree when you refuse to work more than a normal working week and thus have no frame of reference? I also think people who regularly work longer than 45-50 hour weeks are idiots, so that's just me. That's good for you. A lot of careers require commitment at this level or beyond to progress in them and women and men who are ambitious enough to want them understand that they require sacrifices. Also, if you're both working serious job, why aren't you just hiring …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 01:01 AM
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Because if you're serious about the relationship it is detrimental to your career, assuming your career is actually a proper challenging career and not a 9-5 you can leave at the door. Maybe not in the immediate future when you're at the dating stage, but a live in LTR/ marriage/ family/ children absolutely takes a toll. A lot of people consider marriage/ kids as the point at which your career starts suffering, but from my own experience (as a gay man rather than a woman, but with a now-husband …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 01:07 PM
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I know people who've done loosely arranged marriages (i.e. both parties could veto, they talked to a few different people and felt that they could back out if they wanted to) and I don't think they're necessarily universally a bad idea. Essentially in these cases the role of the family was pre-screening for values and long term compatibility in ways that a young person who's infatuated might not think to, not putting a gun to either person's head and forcing them to do it, and I think these can …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 05:53 PM
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For what it's worth I've never known a non-homeless busker who struggled with getting laid. I think the confidence to go out there and do it combined with some talent is a winner
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 01:40 PM
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There's a big difference between 'random person who I can project any negative concerns about n count on to' and 'my mate Betty who slept around a bit but has always stayed clear of any man she knew I liked'. What you're describing is how women might react to strangers and acquaintances they don't know very well, what /u/flamingoinghome seems to be talking about is how 'slutty' women are treated by their friends and people who know their characters well enough that they don't assign random negat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:18 PM
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I said 'don't contradict each other in front of the children', not 'one person's word should always go no matter what and you should never have a discussion about it'. Exile got what I was talking about no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 07:39 PM
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It makes perfect sense that the gender that takes on most of the childcare responsibilities would be perceived as being 'in charge' by children while a further 57 percent said he rarely goes against the female of the house As it should be, not contradicting each other in front of the children should be the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:07 PM
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I probably would have married my now husband in the first week if he'd asked me to so I'm probably not the the most representative sample. I'd say I would probably be able to be married to maybe 30-40% of men between the ages of 25-50 based off physical attractiveness alone and have a happy marriages with about a quarter of them based on personality. I don't know if I could put a percentage on it for people in general, but overall I'd say that it's not so much that standards are higher but that …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 11:23 AM
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Men are, I think, just more forgiving towards women than woman are towards men. Except of course when it comes to actual sickness, since men are more likely to leave their ill wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 10:15 AM
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To be honest if your daughters are standing up for each other and not immediately throwing each other under the bus like most of the other siblings I knew in my teens then I'd say that overall that's a positive thing, even if it's probably a nightmare to deal with as a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 06:06 PM
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There are men I feel that way about as a gay dude. Like I know a lot of people find strongfat/ particularly muscular guys attractive but I find bulk really offputting, so I would consider them attractive but not attractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 12:06 PM
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Even if I'm not actively trying to get pregnant I've still got the risk of pregnancy, which would be an issue as I wouldn't abort, and the side effects of birth control, and nothing you've said addresses me not wanting to be bothered by strangers. Alternatively I can just continue being a man and not worry about any of that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 01:14 AM
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Nope, pregnancy/ childbirth/ periods and the ramifications of all of the above alone would put me off it, and I'm the kind of person that would find the attention from random strangers distressing. Being a man is great for me, people pretty much just let you do your own thing. If someone's more buoyed by external validation what's a positive for me might not be for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 08:46 PM
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Even if women and children first was a thing I would just bring a razor and a wig when I went on a boat
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 07:06 PM
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I feel the same way as I felt every other time this sort of thing has been posted. It's a myth outside a few isolated incidents, but if it weren't I would support it on the basis that women of child bearing age have the chance of being pregnant. No room for post menopausal ladies though, sorry nans.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 05:45 PM
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It's worse, work sucks my wife's energy and time, she has less energy for sex, less energy to maintain her looks, less time to do chores and baby care While I agree with OP that a lot of men do value the rescuer/ protector role, I do think this is a part of it too, both from my own experiences and hearing my friends talk about their relationships with their girlfriends/ fiancees. Men like coming home to a well run house with someone attentive and looksmaxed running the helm who's ready to look a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:39 PM
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An alpha can definitely have some beta traits and still be alpha, but it doesn't change the fact that provisioning is fundamentally beta. Take alpha bux as an example, that's high alpha/high beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:08 PM
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I'm only in my late 20s so this is observational rather than from personal experience. My husband's gone from 35-44 while we've been together, and while sexual frequency hasn't really changed much, what has changed over the last few years is that we have had to do more careful scheduling to avoid stuff like cutting into sleep or throwing the food schedule off (hanger and sleep deprivation frustration have increased exponentially since he hit 40). So while I wouldn't say that men that age stop wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:01 PM
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When a man has sex with a woman. he loses a small portion of his masculine essence, while also polluting the feminine essence of his wife with his secretions, inevitably making her more and more masculine until she eventually develops enough of a thirst for casual sex that she cucks him with the poolboy/ local beach Chad/ frat boy etc. With gay men, the masculine energy we lose is constantly being replenished by our partners, so we retain our strong masculine physiques and characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 09:45 PM
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Did I say there wasn't a difference? I said that there was an increase in female sexlessness too, which there was. And the factors I mentioned in the rest of my comment contribute to it disproportionately affecting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:14 PM
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Before I answer, while I do put some of the blame on porn, I think the increase in young male virginity is largely due to the fact that a lot more guys are late bloomers these days, and I'm guessing that the virgin score is very front-loaded (i.e. lots of late teens/ early twenties virgins, much fewer beyond that). This is just dealing with how I see the porn component contributing, not saying that I think it's the only factor. Besides porn, women have always consumed romance novels which serves…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 08:00 PM
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It depends on the age range and demographics you're going for in my experience. Younger women (late teens/ early twenties) seem to gravitate towards 'pretty' or 'cute' guys. Beyond that age being more masculine seems to help. I definitely can't confirm your observation that Uni girls are going for guys who are more masculine, that's the opposite of who I've always seen get the best approach to success with girls in that age range. When more jacked but 'ugly' guys succeed it's because they're app…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 10:36 AM
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Sounds reasonable enough assuming events happened as she described, which I'm assuming is what the court believed. Obviously we don't have enough detail to make that judgement ourselves. It's somewhat higher than other rape sentences I've heard, but if anything I think those other sentences should be longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 07:29 PM
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I heartily approve of this bunny
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 12:02 AM
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How is a form of 'marriage' that doesn't exist in the majority of your country and that's only applicable in certain situations important when considering marriage as a whole? Common law marriage mostly comes into play when you 'hold yourself out' as married, not just for living together, and only applies in 8 states. Plus, you think it's 'unjust' then how the hell is extending the penalties associated with it to people who it otherwise wouldn't apply to any better? If you don't like common law …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 08:05 PM
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Civil marriage is optional. If you don't want to get married, you don't have to, but if you can't afford to live on your own then housesharing could well be your only option, and plenty of landlords won't accept separate lease agreements if there are shared common areas. I don't understand why you want to replace an opt-in system with an opt-out one that you have to engage with if you want to share a lease with someone, especially since people who have to house share are less likely to want to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 07:26 PM
3

Don't you put this on us
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 05:55 PM
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Why would you replace marriage with a series of increasingly complicated financial obligations to roommates that you have to sign some kind of 'pre-share' agreement to avoid? If people can't be arsed to research what they might owe in the event of a divorce do you really think they're going bother to set up these agreements every time they flatshare? Obviously this set up could never actually come to pass, but if it did you'd be inconveniencing a ridiculous number of people for no gain or improv…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 05:49 PM
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Nah, a lot of gay 'porn-with-a-story' stuff has the rich guy trope. And if anything in my experience there are a lot more gay guys into doing the sugar daddy thing (which is borne out in our age gap stats vs. the breeders').
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 11:49 PM
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he's six foot three, has a seven figure trust fund, the body of a Greek God and a dick that bangs against his knees. I really ought to make a sub some day which works like /r/drunkorakid but choosing between whether a description of a man came from a gay porn story or PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 11:07 PM
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That's a suspicion I have when it comes to porn surveys too, especially with the uptick in men getting off on imagining themselves as women (see: all that weird sissy hypno stuff).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:59 PM
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Eminem is part of the same music community and his wife beating had very few repercussions on his career. It's not about skin colour, it's about the nature of the fame and the expectations associated with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 08:54 PM
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You are dead wrong. Rap is filled with men who have murdered rival gang members, beat the shit out of or abused their exes, prostitutes or even just random women (see: Dre), or who at least pretend to have done all of the above for street cred. People don't care for the reasons that I mentioned above (i.e. everyone involved is seen as trash and nobody cares about them). Edit: also, she didn't rape anybody, she drugged them and stole their money. Stealing or committing other similar crimes to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 04:07 PM
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I think it's 'reasonable' in the sense that it would protect her from unnecessary exposure to harm and bad situations. But if she wants a romantic relationship with a man it's going to be hard to make herself vulnerable enough to fully enjoy it if she has internalised that message fully, in the same way that AWALT prevents men from getting the maximum satisfaction from relationships that I believe can only be reached by leaving yourself exposed to harm and pain to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:47 PM
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I agree and nothing in my comment contradicted that. I was disagreeing with your assertion that the only difference between platonic and romantic love was the desire to have sex/ be touched by them. The nature of the companionship in a romantic relationship is different too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:26 PM
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People don't care because they're johns who went back to her hotel room for paid sex, not because they're men. It's the same reason that nobody cares if prostitute goes missing but it's amber alert time if someone from a middle class family does. People see low end hookers and johns as revolting and gross and rarely acknowledge them except to make political points. I'm not saying it's 'right' or 'wrong' but either way the roots aren't misandry. Also, the trans* thing sounds more like a hypotheti…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:02 PM
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The companionship from a romantic partner that you love isn't the same as companionship from a friend, even without the physical element. My friends are great and all but I don't get the same sense of happiness and fulfillment from chilling with them as I do spending time with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 01:49 PM
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She went home and talked to her dogs Sounds like the best option by far
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 06:06 PM
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And she was so nice about it too. I would have immediately upped and left after pointing out how revolting the whole thing was. Apparently that's what nice gets you, speculations about your botox and whinging about your standards. She should have just thrown the drink in his face and been off
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 06:03 PM
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Here's the thing. You said a "Ephebophile is a Pedophile." Is it in the same family? Yes. No one's arguing that. As someone who is a Ephebophile, I am telling you, specifically, in science, no one calls Ephebophiles Pedophiles. If you want to be "specific" like you said, then you shouldn't either. They're not the same thing. If you're saying "Pedophile Family" you're referring to the fetish of Pedophila, which includes things from Pedophiles to Ephebophiles to Hebephilies. So your reasoning for …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 03:21 PM
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If it's -$60000 that probably counts for something too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:36 PM
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I wasn't 100% 'I must get married' before I did, but I still don't believe that you can have a 'marriage-level commitment' without an actual marriage. However, it's going to take the highest level of girl game imaginable to get him to put a ring on it. He's not commitment phobic, just extremely adverse to marriage. He thinks he can give you a marriage level of commitment without the "piece of paper." It's very easy to say that you're marriage-level committed 'without the piece of paper'. But the…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:24 PM
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Why even include that part if you don't have any idea what that 'modest change' in attraction would be? Why allude to things that you don't remember the details of and thus can't sense check or look up? it has multiple effects on their sexual instincts. For attractions as much as any other instincts. What effects? You're just saying 'there are effects', and when questioned about the most common claim made here regarding change in attraction as a result of BC (attraction/ lack thereof to masculin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:37 PM
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Male/BP gay dude. I would say my relationship is ~70% of my life, has varied between like 40-70% throughout our relationship/ eventual marriage. It's not so much that I wanted a relationship, any relationship to be such a big focus for me, it's that I love my husband enough to want to centre him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:26 PM
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The 'birth control makes you want betas' thing is one of those oft repeated pillisms that doesn't really bear out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:16 PM
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Modestly change what they’re attracted to What is the modest change you're speaking of then since apparently it's not anything to do with how masculine the men are?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:11 PM
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The 'birth control makes you want betas' thing is one of those oft repeated pillisms that doesn't really bear out. Women have a preference for masculine faces regardless of whether they're taking birth control, which should probably not come as much of a shock given that most of them are heterosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:58 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm fainting but I do think it's pretty shitty. Those sorts of places aren't common here so that might be part of it, but I would definitely think less of a parent who took a preteen somewhere like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 07:50 PM
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I don't think anyone wants you to trust 'women' as a whole. It's just that a lot of us find relationships to be more rewarding when you trust and can be a bit vulnerable with the person you love. If you don't want to take that risk, even with just one person, that's your prerogative, and in my view your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 01:26 AM
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Liking a guy with a good physique Gross, unicorns only like fat men with greasy back hair
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 09:28 PM
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They've already been mentioned but /u/cxj, /u/drok007, /u/exit_sandman , /u/Concacanca, /u/MercedesBenzoAMG and /u/nalkanalka.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 05:53 PM
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Aww thanks you and /u/planejane <3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 04:53 AM
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It can definitely be tough, but it can be done. If a guy is youngish and wants to settle down I'd probably recommend looking for someone a bit older as a lot of young gay guys go through a bit of a wild phase that they need to get out of their system before they're ready to commit to one person (my husband is ~16 years older than me which is part of why I think he was more amenable to it eventually).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:20 AM
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No need to apologise! I wasn't trying to tell you off, just letting you know that I wasn't acting that way out of fear of women accusing me of inappropriate behaviour or anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 06:59 PM
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I wasn't even talking sexually, I was just talking about having 0 interest in their personalities and personal lives, although I certainly wasn't interested in any of the guys I worked with romantically either (I'm gay).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 06:39 PM
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I don't mind either way. At my last job I tried to keep things as professional as possible and had no interest in my co-workers beyond wanting to be sure of their capability/ productivity. People who don't think men can cause drama at work are often blind and/or sexist enough to interpret actions that would be considered shit stirring in women as something else in men. I will say that from what I've seen introducing women into an established male dominated environment can cause issues as a femal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 06:24 PM
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I found out my now-husband was still sleeping with other people a few months into seeing each other, which upset me a lot at the time, but I felt too attached to break things off. Things worked out in the end (we became exclusive from the time we decided to be properly serious onwards) but if I were single and dating again I would probably move on if I found myself in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 05:26 PM
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If I described myself as sporty would you assume I was on an Olympic training programme? If not, why are only the most joyless of penny pinching bastards allowed to use the term frugal? Being generally frugal as most people use the term doesn't preclude spending 25 quid each on dinner and drinks on rare occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:26 PM
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In testing my GF, I deliberately put her in organic situations to reveal her inner character (loyalty, femininity, love, affection, etc) in ways that she could not anticipate and therefore not devise a way for her to appear for my approval. Forced her to be who she is inside rather than who she would prefer me or others to see. Do tell please
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 01:33 AM
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Nope, overwhelmingly it seems like they're serial monogamists or settled down young. The BPers here tend to be monogamists who haven't struggled much with dating at all, why do you think they're so sceptical of RP claims about what's necessary to be successful? Generally it's blackpillers and some RPers with the loser teens/ twenties stories, that's why they sought out the manosphere in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 01:17 AM
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Pretty much every BPer or blue-leaning purple who's posted here regularly over the last 4 or so years has been LTRed, engaged or married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 11:59 PM
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If you can 'marry up' in any way then more power to you. Chances are the person you're 'marrying up' with greatly values some trait in you the same way you greatly value the trait you're selecting for in them. Also, this sub is a bad place to get an overview about how people in general feel about hypergamy because some people have unusually strong emotional reactions to that sort of thing here, so unless you're specifically looking at pillsphere opinions I wouldn't include the views you get here…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 06:13 PM
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I think it's 'wrong' for random internet commenters to make him feel like shit about it. However, I don't think the fiancee is 'wrong' to try to convince him to live either. Acting like someone is a bad person for wanting their partner to stay alive, which is honestly the bare minimum of commitment I would expect from a relationship, is truly mad to me. Plenty of people react fatalistically to bad news at first, and a lot of the time it's your loved ones that you rely on to show you that there's…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 07:05 PM
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CMV: people who post threads on subs where they aren't mods with 'PSA' at the start should be banned on sight
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:41 PM
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Absolutely not, if I were a woman there way more to deal with in terms of physical complications (periods, childbirth, etc), especially as someone who probably wouldn't be comfortable getting an abortion. I also don't find the unwelcome attention from a bunch of disgusting randos to be a plus. Even on the scholarship side when I was at University I always did well enough to get academic scholarships so it wouldn't have benefited me then particularly either. It's all downside and no upside to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 01:28 PM
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It is! Good eye. Brb getting sideburns
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:06 PM
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me_irl apparently. Eyebrows and hair colour are dead on, unsure about the rest. Someone who's seen me might be a better judge Between 89-99% masculine, with ages ranging from 20 to 30 (am late twenties)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 12:40 PM
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My observations of the world during my life, which I don't feel the need to go into detail about here. I understand these are inherently subjective, which is why I double checked to see if the stats match my view, which they do (there are even more relevant ones but I'm limited by what's publicly available as I don't know what you do and don't have access to). If you have stats to the contrary, again, feel free to post them. As it is, it seems like either you or your sample is biased (which woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 04:43 PM
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None of what you've said supports the idea that it's a 'predominantly female thing'. I'm not saying it doesn't have negative consequences for the boys when it does happen, I'm saying that sexual abuse of tween/mid teen is not mostly done by women. If you don't have any evidence that it's a 'predominantly female thing' we're going to have to agree to disagree since all the evidence I can find supports my side and your view on the matter is 100% contrary to my own perceptions and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 04:14 PM
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It's absolutely not a 'predominantly female thing'. Do you have any evidence of it? Because it doesn't fit with anything I've seen in my life or with the statistics I can find for America.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:46 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:19 PM
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When I'm trying to do it objectively: 1- Universally considered a no. 2- Almost universally considered a no unless there is something exceptional about their personality, achievements or other non physical attributes. 5- An average level of aesthetically pleasing within a given range (i.e. a chubby 27 yo may be a 5 for a 27yo, but a 6/6.5 when considering everyone in a 20-40 yo range.) 9- Almost universally considered a yes unless there is something exceptionally bad about their personality, ach…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 03:44 PM
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I assume OP is talking about the specific subgenre of comedy films where hijinks ensue and dweebs get with a much more attractive woman in the end for unclear reasons (see: Pixels, or in fact most Adam Sandler films)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:28 PM
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Not interested in women, but in men I could get over previous sex work if it was a behaviour that they had reflected on and either regretted or at least never planned to do again. Current sex workers, absolutely not. It would be an indication that we have irreconcilably different views on sex that they wouldn't consider that cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 03:19 PM
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I disagree with you on that too, but my point in commenting was that most bloops won't be visiting /r/gendercritical because the the beliefs of its core userbase run completely contrary to general bloop belief system as sex positive, pro trans* lib fems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 03:26 AM
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Libfem is more concerned with legal equality and working within the system to change hearts and minds, and sees creating equality in the eyes of the law and through cultural shifts as the best route to women's liberation. Liberal feminism thus does not concern generally itself with policing the individual choices of women (beyond ideological purity arguably), and its modern adherents are often sex positive, pro trans*, pro kink, and is disparagingly referred to as 'choosy choice' feminism by rad…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 03:14 AM
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I don't think you understand the difference between the largely libfem bloops and radfem GCers. Chances are that no pro trans* bloop is subscribed to /r/gendercritical for any reason other than to crosspost stuff to /r/gendercynical, nor would GC want them to be subscribed since they find it annoying when pro trans*/sex positive/lib fem people bombard their comments section with non radfem stuff. There are two very different schools of thought at play in the two groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 02:38 AM
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The vast majority of BP people who've been here over the years are trans* positive 3rd wave-y SJW types (and I don't say that to be insulting, I can be a bit SJW-y on certain issues too). Why do you think otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 02:30 AM
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Good sex is when both partners have their needs and expectations met. There's no specific act or objective standard for it. For one couple it might involve someone dressed like Wallace choking a person dressed like Gromit, for another it might be missionary with lots of cuddles before and after. BP male.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 09:31 PM
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The fact he confirmed it later doesn't make it any less likely that it's fake. He's had some weird trolly persona change going on for the last year-ish and this is just a part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 09:39 AM
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People haven't been 'deafeningly quiet' on the matter, posting personal attacks against people is against the rules, and people from all sides who might have said anything would have had their comments removed and you likely wouldn't have seen it. If you want to paedobuse him wait until purge week. I'm fairly sure the dominant opinion is that he's talking out of his arse and it's some weird misguided fake macho brag anyway and thus not worth bothering with, although why you'd choose banging 12 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:26 PM
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Where were the people defending him on the original thread? The only BPer I've seen defending him on PPD at all is BRW, and he was RP for ages before he switched sides so that view is hardly some BP characteristic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:18 PM
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INFP. On one hand I like my type as I like things like being able to retreat into fantasy worlds in my head, on the other if I were most other types I probably wouldn't spend 90% of my time paralysed with existential depression and that would be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 08:19 AM
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You have no obligation to tell anyone. I'd suggest you do if it's an LTR to explain why you're shit in the sack, but for a one night stand or something casual I don't understand why it's any of their business. If you have as much experience with non-PIV sex as you say you do in another comment you should be able to cover adequately until the big moment (even if you're not blowing any minds) and then the virginity anxiety will hopefully be gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:41 PM
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You don't need to explain it, I knew this was your poorly veiled point from the start. You don't care about her case in particular, you just want tie your hatred of single mothers to an emotive issue in hopes it will get support from people too dense to see how poor the link is between the two issues. This isn't a simple matter of 'poor decisions'. Again, the people who don't support Shamima coming home and getting help from the state largely do so on the grounds that the see her as having given…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:59 PM
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If your reasoning is as tortuous as OP's you could probably make the Environmental Act 1995 apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:07 PM
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This partly proves my point. Hypergamy is accepted as long as your political views are not radicalised to the extent hers was. As long as you're not a terrorist, we are ok with your hypergamy and will pay for your behaviour Firstly, you clearly don't know what hypergamy means, even in terpspeak the phenomenon you're referring to is AF/BB with the government as BB, not hypergamy. They're interrelated but separate concepts (although they are of course equally bullshit.) Most people in this country…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 12:21 PM
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as legally speaaking she's broke no law ( I personally think she's commited treason but thats a different post ) Under recent UK legislation she may be allowed to come back, but would then face prosecution and a prison sentence of up to 10 years if she was linked to terrorist activities in Syria. Unlike the people you've spoken to, I'm fine with her coming back provided the government don't pay to help her get here and she's prosecuted upon return. The baby is a British citizen by birth and her …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 11:55 AM
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Nah, militant in the activist/ extremist sense. The flair is mostly a little tongue in cheek reference to a running joke I have with a couple of people here about taking over the world and putting straight people in zoos (or at least it's a 'joke' for now...)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:15 AM
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Have you seen what BPP is charging for his life coaching sessions? Guys, paypal me a fiver and I'll happily tell you that your wife doesn't like fat guys and that not being a useless lump around the house makes you more attractive.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/19 05:49 AM
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Don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure that posting on TRP once in a while doesn't automatically make me that much of a loser
/r/TheRedPill14/02/19 05:40 AM
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It's difficult to describe, like if we were in bed or on the sofa and a discussion turned snippy he'd get on me or grab me and put his weight on me in such a way that I can't get up and leave the argument/ flounce. To clarify, if I was screaming/ crying or actually upset by this I doubt he'd do it, and it's mostly in stupid arguments rather than anything serious. Overall I'm not really upset by a bit of grappling or whatever, due to growing up with other guys and a brother it's no big deal to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 04:54 AM
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I feel like my enjoyment of terp cringe is not going to negatively affect my life in any way, but should I ever feel like it does I will be sure to stop and dedicate the time I've saved to lifting weights with one hand and furiously masturbating to Meditations with the other
/r/TheRedPill13/02/19 10:41 PM
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If there were any interesting arguments going on I'd join in, but it seems to be 90% circlejerk at the moment so I'm just going to shit fling unless I find something fun. Which is fun enough in and of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:45 PM
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It is impossible to be in a relationship with a man and not occasionally want to beat him to death, women sadly just lack the upper body strength to make this a reality. Seriously though, male/ male relationships tend to be a lot more physical in my observations, and I suspect that a decent amount of the 'low intimate partner violence amongst gay men' is a result of the fact that things that women would consider abusive (often understandably due to strength disparity and possibility of extra dam…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:36 PM
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Don't forget Schopenhauer, but only the proto-incel stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:21 PM
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Have you see the discussion on what it means to have a dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:17 PM
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in a thread where we invite people to disagree with us. I guess we really are like SJWs where we ban people who disagree with us This is exactly what the whole thing was about, so they can pretend to be holier than thou and open minded for having one thread open for one day while refusing to participate in the sub specifically designed to debate the issues on a neutral footing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:16 PM
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Nah, watching the terp ECs discuss things is like a freakshow dedicated entirely to intellectual special needs, I underestimated how difficult it would be to tear my eyes away from the trainwreck. So am going to stick around here and enjoy myself for the duration
/r/TheRedPill13/02/19 09:06 PM
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None of what you said addresses the fact that he was banned without posting a comment. Prebanning people doesn't qualify as moderation to keep the sub clean, especially when it's someone like hyperreal that leans red anyway. And for the record I'm guessing that it was almost certainly nothing to do with what you've said and was likely a revenge banning for the fact that a couple of TRP mods have been on/off banned from PPD.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/19 08:53 PM
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You have plenty of time going forward to see how genuine the changes she's made to her life are. You don't have to make binding decisions about whether you're going to stay together forever right now, but if you're enjoying the time your spending with her you're not losing anything by observing how she acts while in a more committed relationship with you for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 07:34 PM
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And what does it MEAN to have a dick? Judging from this whole thread it means that you'll have an easier time circlejerking
/r/TheRedPill13/02/19 07:13 PM
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Best question.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/19 04:48 PM
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Gay dude. For me it's not really about gender or orientation. The importance order is My husband All other living organisms It's nice to be told you're attractive and I appreciate compliments from anyone as long as they're meant platonically. But at the end of the day if the whole world found me attractive and my husband didn't it would devastate me, while if it was the other way around I would be happy with just my husband wanting me, so it just makes the most sense to value his views above oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 08:05 PM
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It seemed obvious to me that what she was saying was that from her perspective, based on her values, she didn't see anything wrong with slut or virgin walks, not that she could not possibly conceive of or understand a perspective where slut and virgin walks would be an issue. So if you interpreted it differently then whatever you're thinking is probably not as abundantly clear as you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 06:57 PM
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I lived in London from my late teens until my late twenties and barely anyone was acting in a way that would net them anywhere near a hundred people outside the gay scene. This is what I'm saying about projection; straight dudes can't imagine having the opportunity to fuck a bunch of attractive women and not taking it, so they assume that women will behave the way men do but with a smaller segment of the population rather than recognising that the entire approach is different. I'm not saying wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 02:11 PM
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So the average woman has fucked 100s of guys throughout her 20s, many casual, a fair few relationships The average woman fucks somewhere between 5-8 men in her life. Even outliers are usually on the lower half of double figures. It's very telling that what terps and associated weirdos think women get up to is far, far closer to the life of many gay dudes than the average woman. The reason you think that they fuck 100s of men is because you're projecting male desires onto women and basing their p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 09:49 AM
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F&C*NG stupid FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:16 PM
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Just saw your other comments about the hospital stay. I hope that you're doing okay and feeling a lot better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:58 AM
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The idea is to debate, not be preached at As confirmed in the main body of this post the primary purpose of this thread is supposed to be for blues, purples, and undecideds to ask questions directly of red pillers and to clarify ideas and concepts... i.e. preaching about 'truredpill', which we don't need because we already know what it means. You people are running around the thread contradicting yourselves about what this is for desperately trying to get people on board with this insultingly st…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:00 AM
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On one hand, disgusting, on the other hand, this is clearly evidence of the transformative power of 'be yourself' so red pillers can no longer complain about it not being effective advice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 12:38 PM
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My experience of seeing my friends share stuff is that they'll only do it with women they're having casual flings with and don't see themselves dating. They generally don't want other men getting an eyeful of the naked bodies of the women they love
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 10:09 AM
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'Be yourself' is usually advice given to specific individuals who are known to the person giving the advice and who struggle to express the attractive elements of their personality around the opposite sex. I think it's fairly safe to say that most BPers are not prancing through sex offender institutes telling dudes to 'be themselves'. Also, 'BP' doesn't really take a stance on anything. BP is usually defined as either people who actively oppose TRP, who have a variety of reasons to do so, or eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 10:06 AM
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Speaking as a blue piller rather than a purplepiller who might have some sympathies with the ECs/mods/etc, do you think you're selling this experience by telling us we're going to be preached at by people whose work we've already read and judged to be so uninspiring that we've rejected TRP based partially on what we've read by them? All their comments and posts are already available and most of us have seen them, and judging from this thread and conversations that are happening off-thread about …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 09:30 AM
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By and large the mods on the sub didn't create the core content anyway, their role is largely curation and interpretation. TRP did not create the concept of the Red Pill, and you will get a better and clearer understanding of Red Pill thinking from reading the sidebar and blogs than from interacting with the members of the sub since the sub has changed in tone and character massively over the last few years but core RP beliefs have remained largely static.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:47 AM
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I know exactly what you are from being here for 4 years, reading the sidebar and reading the various blogs, not to mention the posts on the sub before it came too pathetic and desperate for me to get any enjoyment out of laughing at. I was here to see RP mods actually engage with PPD and I promise you it added absolutely nothing to the discussion beyond what other people who have been around in the manosphere prior to the sub offer, except with extra edgelording and jokes that would make a 14 yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:38 AM
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Male, BP. I wouldn't do it for any amount of money now because I'm financially stable and having to deal with periods and other female issues for the rest of my life would be an unnecessary burden. When I had no money I probably would have done it for like 20-30k because that seemed like a ridiculous amount of money to me then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:42 PM
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She's beautiful. I thought I loved my husband but apparently it pales in comparison to how much I want to cuddle your kitty
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 06:29 PM
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I prefer 'outliers' if they're outliers in the sense that they understand the sidebar and the various blogs etc that predated the sub better than the average TRP sub user. It's that and the fact that (bar the recent incel influx of disaffected teenagers) most of the users on PPD skew older and have more life and relationship experience which makes for more interesting conversation. Although someone pointed out that you're probably going to get incel/black pill brigaded which should be fun to wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 10:34 PM
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If you want to see some TRP mod encouraged brigading in action, here you go. I still remember it 4 years later, it was quite the popcorn wave
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 10:15 PM
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I don't understand why I'd want to go to TRP to have questions answered when a/ I have eyes and can read the sidebar and b/ could get any questions on TRP answered by the 10-20% of terps who aren't batshit insane or 15 year old virgins here as opposed to the 1-2% of terps like that on the current RP sub. Isn't this exact thing what this sub is for? Why expect the terp sub to serve a function that's already served by this very sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 09:35 PM
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I live in the UK and this is bollocks, there are many different types of bars and clubs with different vibes and different clientele. The idea that anyone who goes somewhere with dancing is shallow or vapid is the sort of stereotype perpetuated by people who don't get invited out and therefore just see it as one monolithic 'scene' because they're completely inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 03:18 AM
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For you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:24 AM
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as an ego boost I'm not trying to be flippant but you did kind of answer your own question here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 01:15 AM
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Because in a relationship people are sympathetic to the fact that someone isn't holding up their end of a 'deal'. If you're single and not having sex you're not being let down by anyone in particular (other than arguably yourself), so you're going to get the same half-assed 'oh that sucks' that every single person from every gender has gotten since time immemorial because people struggle to care about perpatratorless woes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 01:13 AM
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I don't believe in God or 'true love' in a spiritual/ mystical way, but do believe that you can be exceptionally compatible in a way that makes a relationship far superior to other potential ones (but again, not in any mystical/ spiritual way). I would not enter an LTR with a religious person and I do not believe in the soul. BP male.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 01:01 AM
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Masculinity is living a healthy lifestyle with a balanced diet and daily meditation and making sure you're in bed by 9 every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:22 PM
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I'm married to the gender flip of this so will give my perspective on the issues with it. You have a very warped idea of what makes someone successful professionally. It is a woman who is dedicated so much to her job that she works long hours and puts her relationship, or potential relationships, last in terms of priorities There is a middle ground that most happy people with careers reach where work is their absolute priority while they're there and they can switch it off when they get home. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 10:04 AM
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Maybe there's this whole world of women falling into toilets that I haven't been aware of since I've lived with men since I was a little kid. An entire gender's worth of secret, wet bummed shame
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 02:28 AM
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You should look before you sit down if you're a woman, but I think if you live in mixed company or you're having people over it's a bit unpleasant to keep it up all the time (as an all male household. my husband and I do have it up most of the time anyway, we reopen if we flush for handiness). I will say though that I think this is a largely imaginary problem, nobody I've met in real life has ever complained about falling into a toilet, it's only ever been the aesthetics of it that have been an …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 02:09 AM
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Baby face is fine, lots of guys do well with an otherwise attractive baby face. You just peak a bit later and end up dating younger a lot of the time, the latter being something that most men aren't too heart broken about anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:19 PM
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If he shows his vulnerability and sensitivity he is shamed for it and called manipulative. You can show your 'vulnerability and sensitivity' without acting like you're made of china. I thought I was one of the most fragile snowflakes of all and I still wouldn't huff for more than half an hour if my husband was briefly snappy with me for being annoying. I agree with the commenters that it's either a manipulation tactic or he's emotionally immature, but either way it's something that needs to be w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 02:14 PM
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Become a vegan
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 12:51 AM
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Tell her that you're not interested in her explicitly and then stop flirting with her, but more importantly, read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 11:38 PM
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I enjoy my marriage. It adds fulfilment to my life that I've never experienced with other, non romantic achievements or activities. If I wasn't romantically and sexually attracted to anyone I would have missed out on all those wonderful feelings and my life would have been less complete as a result. I probably would have gone on to do a postdoc and gone down the academic route otherwise, so it's not like my life would have had no direction or that people who are asexual/ aromantic can't make goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:10 AM
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Try to escalate physically a bit next time. Go out somewhere you can put your arm around her or hold hands so you can feel more comfortable with physical contact with her before you go in for the kiss (a horror film maybe so she can cuddle up? It sounds cliched but cliche can sometimes make things seem less nerve wracking because you have a 'script'). I would avoid bringing it up verbally if you can and just go for it; no matter how many times someone says that they're attracted to you it won't …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 02:53 AM
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On average I'd say that cute excites protective feelings whereas hot/sexy results in more passion, but which results in commitment depends on the individual and their circumstances. You might assume that 'cute' would win out commitment-wise, but overwhelming passion can result in people rushing things that they'd otherwise think twice about and committing quicker. For example, most 'whirlwind romances' where someone gets married in a month or two are with people who find each other hot rather th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:03 PM
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For that report that to be reflected at all in statistics for child benefits it would have needed to be the case for decades since I'm guessing that your statistics show current recipients and not people newly awarded the benefit that month (I can't reach the page you tried to link to, but I doubt that 63000 people were newly awarded the same benefit in one month in a country with 5.5 million people.) Also, just because a father looks after a child in a relationship doesn't mean that he'll want …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 04:31 PM
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It's not that she's worried about being raped at that particular moment, right that second. It's not knowing whether the person she's sitting opposite is putting on an act to conceal the kind of person they are to ingratiate themselves with you, not until it's potentially too late. Realising you have to work that out before you get alone with them is the 'RP moment' she was referring to. I could easily infer that from her comment and don't understand how it's eluding you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 01:47 AM
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You can if it's at the expense of women who didn't do him any wrong. Being an unattractive loser now or when they were younger doesn't mean that they're somehow not responsible for ghosting Cindy after promising her the world because they were a nobody to Stacy when they were 16. Nobody can control what you do, but when people correctly determine that you're a shitty person for doing shitty things to people don't be surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 11:23 PM
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Plenty of perfectly normal guys pump and dump or string women along until they get something better, and at least some of the time it's not even any planned manipulation. The post-orgasm 180 is a well known phenomenon and plenty of guys don't anticipate it, meaning they can be perfectly keen on a woman before sex and lose interest immediately after without understanding why, and since most people aren't that introspective most of them aren't going to think 'better ride it out, this is just a pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 08:54 PM
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TRP community online is a gateway to the movement, is a recruitment tool and a it gives information to any men. A community that actively mocks the MRM and has had several threads taking the piss out of them? I agree that both are cut from the same (although in my opinion shitty cloth) but TRP has traditionally prided itself in its separation from the MRM. The battle in the universities is lost. No wonder the MRM is such a laughing stock. Do you think any movement in the world that ever changed …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:30 AM
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they can still just shack up in someone else's life Marx did that and he was no woman. Not to mention that plenty of the 2nd wave feminists actively eschewed men and relied on the funding and hospitality of other women. Why not utilise all that male loyalty and honour and help each other out? I can do something with my life that doesn't make me want to put a gun to my head every 12 hours and maybe offers me a path to happiness and long life? That's your prerogative. But people make sacrifices fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:28 AM
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It's talking about 'masculism' v feminism, not terp self-indulgence. The 'toxic femininity' thing is more MRM than TRP. I know that TRP focuses on benefits to the individual (enjoy the decline, blah blah blah), but MRAs often claim to be a social movement. It's there that their lack of engagement with academia and the like seriously hampers them, and it's very hard to care about them complaining about lack of institutional power when the only reason that post modernists and feminists have instit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 09:16 PM
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Plenty of feminists, and plenty of people from other schools of thought, were controversial and had trouble being taken seriously at the time (and often today, just look at how much the likes of Andrea Dworkin are sneered at even now). If MRAs can't be bothered or know their work doesn't stand up then fine, but plenty of people have developed schools of thought contrary to the mainstream before.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 08:37 PM
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It's pretty difficult to say what you'd do as a woman because actually experiencing being a woman is going to change your perspective. Just look at how different gay dating is to straight dating. For the record, as a gay dude my preferences are pretty much 4/10+ face, not overweight (as in not anything over or including clinically overweight, not the weird straight male thing where guys refuse to accept they're fat at 250lb), has some kind of drive/ ambition for something, employed, in education…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 08:17 PM
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How so? If it wasn't a community property state where she was potentially liable for all the debts had it gone wrong, or if she'd married him later when the money was already made then I'd feel differently. I'm grand with equitable distribution of assets based on income (provided there's compensation for years spent at home with kids etc) if that was the arrangement at the start, but given that the business was founded in Washington and they lived in Washington while it was starting up, as his w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 07:10 PM
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No need to apologise, I don't think there are many gays around these parts anyway so I'm happy just to point out that I'm gay when it's relevant and adjust what I'm saying rather than expect OPs to cater to what must be at most like 2-3 people (more if we include the bis.)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 02:16 AM
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Aye, they can indeed, I've seen it with my own eyes plenty of times. Even if the man wants to sleep with the woman (or vice versa), they can still be friends as long as the one doing the fancying isn't desperate for affection or sex, or isn't in 'love'/fixated on the other. Generally between two people of roughly similar attractiveness who both have some dating experience it's absolutely possible because any feelings of attraction can be dealt with and put into context in a way inexperienced peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 02:03 AM
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'Expensive prostitutes' don't marry men when they have 9-5s and assume half the risk of their business endeavours, and by both their accounts she supported him practically by helping out with the company when he had very few employees, and continued to support him emotionally and practically as needed as the company expanded (not to mention the physical toll that 4 kids takes on someone.) Even in the divorce so far she's been fairly calm and classy about the whole thing, it's the other woman and…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 05:36 PM
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My understanding of community property states in America (which Washington is) is that you split everything between the couple, and that includes debt. Because of that, Bezo's wife was taking all the same financial risks as he was when he decided to start Amazon; even leaving aside the personal sacrifices associated with the start of the business, had Amazon not succeeded she would likely have been a target for the various debtors that would have come knocking on the door, even if they'd divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 03:48 PM
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It would depend on what kind of woman she was. I would rather she do whatever made her happy, whether that's being with someone who she finds exciting, having 2.5 kids with someone who sends me to sleep or having a cool career and chilling with cats in her downtime
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 02:09 AM
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Mocking idiots on a metasub is less of a time investment than arguing with people on a debate sub. I was being a bit tongue in cheek, but if you put a gun to my head I would definitely say there are more sad, strange little men here than on the average metareddit sub (TBP is pretty dead now so it's not the greatest example), especially since the incel influx over the last year or so (RIP PPD from 3 years ago).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 04:57 AM
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Yes, it's the sad, strange men who choose to spend less time arguing on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 04:05 AM
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I disagree, the emotional up and down is a big pull in and of itself. I've seen a fair number of my friends go after volatile women over stable around-the-same-attractiveness level options to the point of self-destructiveness more times than I'd care to think about. To be honest, prior to being on reddit and seeing terps talk about women doing it, chasing after the crazies is a trait I mostly associated with straight dudes (although thankfully it's something that people seem to grow out of by th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 11:35 AM
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If the thought of your partner having sex with someone else when you're in a relationship with them disgusts you then no amount of other good traits are going to make up for that. Similarly, I'm sure there are scat fetishists out there who would make excellent partners too, but that's no good to me if I want to vomit when I associate with them sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 12:29 AM
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That way he can avoid the art hoes who will objectify him for his race, and use him as a prop to virtue signal before showing him the door. If he's into abstract art and has somewhat esoteric hobbies (or is willing to develop them) then this is the sort of woman who would be perfect to burn through for experience. Neither party are that invested and he can get some dating practice (and maybe even get laid) without risking guilt over hurting feelz. I've known people who've gotten laid playing the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 04:23 PM
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Young men are naturally going to be shit at expressing interest, and will improve with time, that's fine. But it's not on women to hold back expressing when men make them uncomfortable. Women shouldn't have to read good intentions into everyone who approaches them no matter how outlandish they act, nor should they have to waste time and energy coddling men who wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire if they didn't want to fuck them. So be all means approach and improve. But women aren't oblig…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:19 PM
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If you're the same age as the person you're dating and on roughly the same level socio-economically then generally either each pays for their own (or they do rounds if you're drinking), or the person who asks pays for the first one and you can alternate from then on. In terms of strategy, by all means do that, but try not to penny pinch while you're doing it (i.e. don't insist that it's right down to the penny and don't cause a scene if she throws in less towards the tip or something) because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 07:43 PM
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What did you hate? I hate that I missed it. Dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:45 PM
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Non familial love is inextricably linked to sexual desire (or a 'wife goggles' effect where there was past sexual desire) for most men. Remove sex from the equation and most men won't experience love the way that they do now or have the same desire to couple up, especially if it's a population wide thing. There's plenty men still in the workforce in the 30s and 40s being very productive with jobs from construction to corporate law Corporate law is a 'career' as I described above, and most men wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 10:36 PM
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Without social obligation and families to support a lot of men (or women for that matter) wouldn't want to be at their 9-5 workplaces at all, or would at least be happy to cut down their hours and not strive for extra responsibility. A minority of career types are passionate about their work would probably dedicate themselves to it further and be more productive, but the fact is that most people aren't exceptional and don't have exceptional careers and their main motivator for work is either to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 07:47 PM
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Normal, monogamous human beings are going to feel more resentful and angry about another human being taking 'their' affection and time with their partner than they are about his or her stamp collecting hobby doing the same. The entire point of my comment is that it's not the reality of loss, it's gut feelings, disgust and perception of loss regardless of rationality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:27 PM
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Just because something isn't rational doesn't mean it isn't valid. I'm fine with people dating or not dating sexually experienced people as they see fit, it's the insulting rationalisations that make me roll my eyes. You can find someone unsuitable for dating due to personal preference without making assumptions about them because of it to make yourself feel better. For example, I'm not attracted to overweight people and wouldn't date them when I was single because of it. I never played the 'it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 11:48 PM
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Cheating takes your time, potential affection and sometimes resources away from your partner, and when you have sex with someone else it runs the risk of the physical intimacy breeding emotional intimacy and causing distance between you and your partner. None of that really matters though, because even if it your partner lost nothing from it, most people who are oriented towards monogamy become disgusted and angry with their partner when they find out they've been with someone else. It's a gut f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:28 PM
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Everybody is a dick here at some point, don't beat yourself up. The things you say here don't define you, although it's always healthy to try and have a more positive outlook and taking a break will probably help. I hope things get better for you soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:29 PM
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In case it wasn't obvious, for the love of all that is holy, don't do this. If you offer this to a woman who *wasn't* thinking of straying it risks her thinking you don't love or value her enough to care if she fucks around on you and that will potentially wreck your relationship in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:57 PM
4

If you're sure enough that going to need a sugar baby in 20 years that you're making financial plans for it then it is a sexual expiry date surely? You're saying you aren't anticipating them being able to fully sexually satisfy you when they're older, unless I'm misreading.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:29 PM
5

Each to their own, but I wouldn't commit to someone who told me outright that I have a sexual expiration date to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:13 PM
3

Now Personally, I negotiate my sugarbaby plans as a fixture of my 50s with all prospective LTRs, but I understand this is a niche practice. Is this a joke? I would jump out a window if a prospective LTR tried to have this conversation with me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:03 PM
19

His children are grown adults and I absolutely think he's using them as an excuse not to divorce because he enjoys the comfort of his marriage and doesn't want to make a change. That said, I get that he's in a difficult position, and I understand why he doesn't want to disrupt something that has been going well for 3 decades. First off he should get her to the doctor as this could well be menopause related judging from the timing, as even though she was never enthusiastic things seem to have cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 07:02 PM
1

I'm not 'complicating' it, I'm saying what I observe to be true. If someone is 5'6+ and can't get laid their height might be a contributing factor in the same way as some other mildly unappealing feature might be but it's 100% not the deciding one. The one who said I was short for a guy was tiny, no more than 5'1 One 5'1 woman anecdotally having a good grasp of height doesn't change the fact that the vast majority of women (and men for that matter) are terrible at estimating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:21 AM
10

People are dreadful at estimating heights, so when they say stuff like '5'9 is short' what they're really saying is 'the 5'6 guy who told me he was 5'9 is short'. As with dick size, people lie and sometimes genuinely aren't aware of their actual height, which is something I've noticed a lot as a 5'5 guy; I've had people roughly eye level with me straight up claim to be 5'7 or 5'8, and there's absolutely no way they're anything approaching that. So when a woman says that she won't date anyone und…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 01:43 AM
3

You're thinking of transvestites. Transsexual was the favoured term in the past and is mostly now considered archaic, but when it is used it's mostly for people who intend to fully medically transition (i.e. bottom surgery). Transgender is an umbrella term including people like the above and most other non-cisgendered people (trans* people who don't want bottom surgery, non binary, whatever).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:23 AM
2

Fat ugly old guys aren't going to kill it in the gay dating world. There is a reason 30 is jokingly referred to as gay death, and guys older than that tend to try to be fitter than the average hetero dude to compensate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 06:17 PM
4

Far more bisexual 'lesbians' go the 'date women in uni when men are at their most annoying and then settle down with a dude in late 20s' route than vice versa. So while I agree that there are a lot of confused bisexuals out there I don't think it has anything to do with betabux or 'tingles,' it's more about a/ wanting to go down the 'traditional' path when older for acceptance and b/being young and genuinely not knowing themselves and c/ bisexuals being excluded from the monosexual gay community…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 11:25 AM
6

Try to imagine them doing something silly that would humanise them to you if you think that would help. Hot people are normal human beings who do and think all the weird stuff that normal humans do and treating them like they're not is more likely to make you seem weird and out of place than being less attractive than them is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 12:11 AM
7

I think there is a difference between 'winning a woman' and 'winning a woman over'. A lot of media criticisms of 'women are rewards' are of the former; women used as pawns in male competition with little to no autonomy (i.e. kill the dragon, win the princess.) That's very different to acting in a certain way that's attractive to a person or treating them a certain way to curry favour with them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 09:21 PM
2

Using a baseball bat with a nail hammered through it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:32 PM
5

Ballsacks are very different animals to labia. If an aesthetician specialises in one sex there's no guarantee they're going to know what to do with the junk of the other, even if they're good at their job, and it's not fair to put someone outside their comfort zone like that professionally, even leaving aside people not wanting to handle penises for personal reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 10:58 PM
1

Pale, short (5'5 and a man), dark hair. Usually a bit scruffy unless my husband has dressed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 09:23 AM
2

My now husband worked about 60 hours a week when we met (now down to around 50, baby steps!), and goes on business trips where I don't see him for a couple of days now and again. I'm not going to lie and say I don't miss him when he's not around sometimes, but as someone who's fairly introverted when I was working it was nice to have a bit of time to myself after work to recharge on my own. You tend to adapt and find ways to maximize the quality of the time you spend together too; I do chores be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 08:14 PM
3

Like I'm not hanging off my partner's neck like an aggressive Northern Irish necklace every time an attractive person approaches
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 06:15 PM
15

Well, aye. They don't call them trophy wives because they're shiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 03:20 PM
3

I don't think there's any objective 'meaning' to sex, but from a subjective, personal point of view it feels special because it's baring a part of yourself that nobody else sees to an individual in a situation where you have a lack of control, because there's validation in being wanted and because of silly feelz/ bonding hormones that come from sex and even just skin to skin contact
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 12:40 AM
3

While I don't know if I'd use that story as an illustration, I agree almost entirely with the core of the point (although I might not necessarily say that means they should encourage stalking, just because you want something doesn't mean it's good for you...) In addition to feeling wanted and desired when you can make someone act crazy over you, it's a case of low lows making the highs feel even more intense. Not all men go for it, no more than all women go for the male equivalent, but a not ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 06:35 PM
2

If you were in a relationship would you consider getting some home gym equipment and working on that for a few days of the week and maybe leaving the 4 hour gym seshes with the hot tubs etc to be done just a couple of times a week? I think it's a bit much to expect a partner to be happy with not seeing you more than a couple of hours a night at home, especially since you're going to be tired for those hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 09:16 PM
3

I actually agree that this affects women's dating choices, and actually think that being judged for your partner's social status is part of why women can be reluctant to date down too. However, this: This seems to be a purely female thing. None of my buddies cared one bit who I was dating or what she looked like. Is definitely not my experience with my straight male friends, if someone so much as mauled onto a fat girl at a club they were ripped on. You could maybe argue that women are more like…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 12:35 PM
3

Probably, especially the latter. Damn slutty gays
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:37 PM
3

I think that would have been even scarier
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:35 PM
8

My first date with a man was with a dude who brought a copy of Das Kapital on our date and kept talking about it. I found that terrifying because at 18 I knew nothing about politics outside Northern Ireland and I didn't have a clue what to do or what he was talking about. He also asked me to go back to his place afterwards, and to this day it baffles me how he thought that that date went well enough that that was a possibility (maybe he mistook the look of awkwardness and horror on my face for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 01:21 PM
2

'tis true, but actively BP straight men don't tend to prize masculinity either. For your standard non feminist dude it's definitely going to be more of an insult, but if you're just some randomer butting into their conversation to say it they're going to think you're a prick anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:28 AM
4

I had no idea how much that would hurt...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 10:24 AM
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Assuming you're talking about the sub or feminist-y guys like those on the sub, BP men don't care if you think they're masculine or not. I am a BP man and someone telling me I'm not masculine is like someone trying to insult me by saying I'm not a good pole vaulter; it's not something I value so why does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 11:11 PM
1

What age range counts as youth for you? Regardless, while I can find it hard to get over actively bad things that happened to me, it's not really in my nature to pine over missed opportunities and regret things that didn't happen. I had a pretty terrible childhood and missed out on a lot of things people take for granted, but even if I'd had a fantastic one those experiences are behind me and I'll get more pleasure out of focusing on the present and planning for a good future that I would nostal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 10:34 AM
1

It just makes me think of Old Gregg.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 11:47 PM
1

1 Q4ALL Is there anything more Masculine than nurturing your genetic Legacy? Yes, having so many children by so many different mothers that it doesn't matter if a few die is more masculine. Note that I'm not saying it's better because more masculine=/= better. Also, if Piers Morgan says anything, you can automatically assume that it's bollocks. He's still being a whiny little bitch about being punched by Jeremy Clarkson over a decade ago, he's not in a position to judge anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:57 PM
1

Not woman, but aside from the standard 'I feel a connection/ you're so handsome or cute or whatever', a personal of favourites were: Maybe not a lie depending on your perspective, but a spiel about how sexual repression and capitalism were linked (did not know anything about Marx at this point so that and the fact he brought a copy of Das Kapital scared the shit out of me) 'we don't have to do anything, we can just watch YouTube videos' (the olden days Netflix and chill)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 09:09 AM
2

Wow this one would work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 08:57 AM
7

We also don’t have a rule against making posts full of animal pictures Finally, you've fallen into my trap
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 08:03 PM
5

Which is usually used for generalisable advice, not 'advice on my very specific situation which I have presented to you in journal format.' Nice sarcasm though, one day you'll write enough like a human to pass the Turing test!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 07:13 PM
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PPD is not a dating advice sub and not for journaling. They made the right call regardless of the author.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 07:01 PM
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I specifically said love wasn't the same for everyone. Love is dependent on the individual and their standards. There are no specially defined male love and female loves, there are just loves with different conditions and expectations based partially on biology and partially on childhood and relationship experiences. And please don't link me to the cringey terp sidebar on male vs. female love, it was dumb the first time I read it and I doubt it's gotten better with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:52 PM
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You love them conditionally back, like every other human being. Nobody experiences unconditional romantic love, people just have different conditions on their love depending on what their standards are. You're taking no more of a risk in love than a woman is when she trusts that a man won't become disgusted by her post birth body after kids and stop loving her the same way (and there was a RP post about that exact scenario a couple of months ago).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:37 PM
4

I think the way people want to be loved and how they want love to be expressed is highly individual and based on things like childhood experience as much as it is on gender. So while I'd say there's probably some difference in the way men and women love on average there isn't a male way to love and a female way to love (and if there were, neither of them would be unconditional judging from the behaviour of pretty much every man and woman I've ever met.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 07:45 PM
2

Depends on whether the shittiness is a compatible kind of shittiness. There's a lot of variety in the way that someone can fuck up your day and some people are real specialists.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 09:41 AM
7

The closest the average woman comes to interacting with feminist blogs is upvoting some you-go-girl post from one on facebook, usually based on the title and without actually reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 09:39 AM
3

It can be about both, one or the other or neither depending on the situation. Also, there's an relationship between feeling powerful and sexual satisfaction for some men, and taking advantage of an imbalance of power (physical, status, whatever) can make it more pleasurable for certain people than if it were consensual. That's part of why some men with other sexual options still do it even with the added risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 07:40 PM
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I don't consider it morally wrong to date at work or anything, but I do think it's a risk, and you should consider it carefully before you do it. Even aside from hard feelings and management/HR interference, things can be awkward in ways you wouldn't expect even if things do work out. For example, there's a couple where I used to work who met and married before I started working there, and while neither of them are rude about the other or anything, one half of the couple is a lot more open about…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 12:53 PM
2

Do it. Write a PPD themed ballet
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 05:55 PM
0

>implying that monasteries aren't just massive gay orgies
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:37 PM
1

You laugh now, but you won't be laughing in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 11:49 AM
2

Torties are the most wonderful little garbage cats in the world, and your kitty was a very beautiful one F
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 09:21 AM
1

Ahhhhhh I want to boop its nose
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 09:17 AM
1

No, but you can choose 3 people and make elaborate home alone traps on the island to mess with them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 12:02 AM
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I wish I had alts so I could upvote you twice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:44 PM
1

I don't know the other two very well but I can definitely see griddy being a good pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:44 PM
4

I appreciate the offer, but I think I'll just kick ineffectually for a while and then slowly go under in a dramatic fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:25 PM
5

If it makes you feel better nobody is gonna pick the 5'5 skinny gay vegan either, we'll just drown <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:00 PM
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Lies, we will be fine, as a vegan I am at one with nature and all the animals of the wild will work with me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:56 PM
3

No, just trapped on an Island with them. They won't let us go, the want the lucky charms first...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:54 PM
3

That means that by default I'm on your island. Woooo!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:24 PM
1

I feel like a game called that would make a lot of money on Steam
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:20 PM
2

Damn it!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:15 PM
3

You could skip the building of a gym and choose people who you think weigh the same as the weights you normally lift
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:15 PM
1

In that case he'll feel pretty cheated when he gets out and realises she's stranded on a different island
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:13 PM
1

Hopefully we are in nearby islands so PJ and BP can hang
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:10 PM
2

/u/planejane because her army training will come in handy /u/confidentconifer for wilderness survival /u/PBRStreetsquad to intimidate hostile animals with his accent. Honourable mention to /u/drok007 for having skills that would make him useful, but me not being sure he wouldn't kill and eat us if it became necessary disqualified him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:08 PM
1

Thank you for letting me know!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 07:49 PM
1

Incels have the shit version of the Midas touch, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 07:26 PM
2

There were definitely quite a few incel users who hadn't posted or had barely posted here in the past. Whether it was those posts or it was also shared on IRC/ discord, it seems pretty clear there was some kind of brigade
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 07:24 PM
3

I want to build a life with someone, not join someone's already-built life. This is actually a very good distinction. My partner is older and he had already had his career progress for over a decade when we met and was sort of settled, so it does feel like slotting into someone's life. Neither is bad, but they are very different dynamics and you should know what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:32 PM
3

Indeed, but it's cool now, partner doesn't make me feel bad about stuff like that and he's the important one!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:30 AM
2

Awww look at their little feet
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:00 AM
9

Poor pupper has seen too much this purge week
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:56 AM
9

Testerical is the preferred term
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:55 AM
4

My only kind of relationship with a man other than my husband (dated a few girls in my mid-teens but wasn't very serious due to the backdrop of my massive gayness) ended fairly badly. We hadn't had sex and he was getting more and more frustrated by that, and I was getting less and less keen on ever doing it with him (the first time I took my shirt off around him he said that it looked like I got run over by a lawnmower 'cause scars). He got mad at me one day and wouldn't let me leave his room un…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 09:34 AM
4

I feel like everyone's appreciation of verbal throat slitting would go way up once it was literally happening during a civil war
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:58 AM
3

This is a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:51 PM
1

You broke the bot
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:51 PM
2

I like this one better
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:48 PM
1

+/u/User_Simulator buartha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:48 PM
3

Clearly that post resonates with you on some level
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:46 PM
2

TIL that I subconsciously fixate on lumberjacks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:44 PM
2

+/u/User_Simulator buartha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:43 PM
2

Then there's a decent possibility he'll either lose his temper or act catty, making the woman uncomfortable and making her not want to do it again, and making this app unappealing to most people. Guys have the potential to act butthurt after you don't sleep with them when all they do is spend 30-50 quid getting drinks and dinner, if you're not a confrontational person why would you set yourself up for a situation where that would be turned up to 11 if they paid for the date and hundreds of pound…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:36 PM
5

Exceptions are already made for well written, informative incel related content. If you want to write posts about your hobby horse aim to do that rather than trying to sneak it in using different terminology.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 03:54 PM
1

At least it beats your godawful jawsus phase
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 01:32 PM
7

I think incels misinterpret what people are saying about looks a lot of the time. When people say 'your looks aren't why you're single,' they're not saying that looks don't matter. They're saying that they know people of similar or worse attractiveness than you dating women as or more attractive than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 01:02 PM
2

Can we have automod delete comments with with word cope in them after purge week plz
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 12:57 PM
6

Between 5 and 8. Mostly LTRs or STRs that petered out before a relationship, maybe with a ONS or FwB or two thrown in (although most people I know FwB their exes, which is an absolutely terrible idea for many reasons, but doesn't up their n-count.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 12:52 PM
9

Most of the 600lb crowd have been fat their whole lives, so would likely have gotten married when they were around 300lb or at the very least morbidly obese, which is still doing pretty well given that according to some people being like an inch or two below average height or having a slightly off centre nose literally devastates your dating life forever
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:42 AM
3

Wow, she loves you so much she never wants you to leave? That's so romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:40 AM
7

It's obvious that you aren't getting paid for nothing. A man who's paying for your company upfront is going to have certain expectations and is more likely to get pissed off and aggressive if you aren't interested after the date because he'll feel like he's owed something.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:41 AM
4

Am gay but purge week so nyaaah Indian>>>>>>fat dude. I don't find the stigma against Asians as heavy here in the UK as it purportedly is in America though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 10:14 PM
7

My friend didn't lose his virginity until his mid twenties, and prior to that we helped him talk to girls on OkCupid and stuff until he felt confident enough to transfer it offline and he's grand now. He was the kind of guy that the phrase 'be yourself' was made for though; totally normal looking guy with a fun personality who just lost the ability to express that around women, so all he needed to do was be the man we knew he was around them. The issues that a lot of incels have is that they aim…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 10:05 PM
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Congratulations, you have provided me with my favourite purge week typo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:25 PM
4

Link in question for the interested
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 07:21 PM
4

It would just be like 20 wimpy late teens/ early twenties guys cowering behind rocks in different parts of the 'killing' field
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 03:28 PM
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Or before purge week. Or after purge week.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 03:23 PM
4

My husband solves this conundrum by dragging me out of bed with him to make him breakfast
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 03:15 PM
4

The plus side is that next time some incel comes in and start moaning about lack of representation the sub has solid evidence to support our position of 'this is why you can't have nice things'
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:47 AM
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Are you trying to pull an 'I was only pretending to be retarded' or do you genuinely still not get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 10:08 PM
2

This is probably the most compelling one, but honestly, the evidence is everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:35 PM
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No, literally all women are like that. Their brains are identical. If you expose 100 women to the same stimuli, every single time they will react the same way. If you don't understand that basic, undeniable scientific fact then what are you doing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:27 PM
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Shower thought: the reason you like to imagine graphic scenes like that is because it distracts you from the fact you're such a hideous person inside and out that nobody would even want to rape you in prison
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:48 PM
2

Of course one feels better for you than the other, in one you're on the side of the people mocking and on the other you're the ones getting mocked. Are we supposed to feel bad for you that people pointing out all the nasty shit you people say hurts your feelings? You can't talk shit and then act like a wounded puppy when people talk shit back
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:34 PM
13

Why are you so obsessed with a man who has never even been here? Does the thought of his coarse felon hands holding you make the night seem a little less lonely?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:50 PM
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Women is plural. Women is plural. WOMEN IS PLURAL. Actually, AWALT. Therefore all women are basically the same person. Therefore if you refer to one woman (or indeed, one women) you refer to all of them, meaning the plural is appropriate English BTFO
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:49 PM
3

Shamelessly stolen from /r/drama btw
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:54 PM
3

If I don't let the snark out once a year in a controlled manner I explode Emory. I can't be held responsible for my actions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:26 PM
4

/unpurge Nah, IRL I am a chill, intuitive guy. I can't comment on how chill you are as I don't know you in real life, but you really don't come across as remotely intuitive when it comes to human interactions (maybe you are with something else, but definitely not that). The reason people hate your posts (in addition to you spamming your own sub until you figured out you would be banned if you continued doing so) is because when you're not just renaming terp or PUA terms to something more palatab…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:09 PM
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Am not Indian, but I just wanted to post commending you on sharing your love of other cultures. One of the great things about Indian people is their willingness to embrace the West's fascination with its practices and people (one subset of their people in particular, but who's keeping track?) If you struggle getting responses here, you should consider cross posting to /r/aznidentity and /r/hapas, these subs are well known for celebrating the richness of the experiences associated in being raised…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:29 PM
9

People with high functioning autism (HFA) come across as basically normal They don't. There's nothing wrong with being autistic and it doesn't make you stupid or less worthy or anything, but if you've been friends with someone with high functioning autism or spent a lot of time around them, and you yourself don't struggle with pattern finding in human behaviour, the traits are fairly easy to spot. Perhaps it is less obvious for you because of your self stated social issues I don't know if I am H…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:18 PM
1

Only a protestant could be boring enough to seriouspost on a shitpost thread Get out
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 11:05 AM
1

I am sorting some outernet stuff at the moment (selfish of real life to interrupt during purge week, I know) and IRC distracts me more than reddit shitposting, I will be back soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:54 AM
1

/r/me_ira
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:22 AM
1

In fairness, that's a stereotype here too. Perhaps I should give them working hard and just withhold working smart
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:07 AM
3

Futrelle may be an idiot, but that remains one of my favourite manosphere quotes. That and anything Davis Aurini has ever said or done
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:01 AM
2

TRP is just a collective delusion, therefore terp means nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:55 AM
7

If you want to bring a chaperone go ahead, but be prepared that most people are going to think it's weird, especially if you explain your reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:52 AM
2

Can confirm concacanca's, all British men look like that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:48 AM
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If you find those women unattractive what exactly are you looking for? Arnie in a wig?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:41 AM
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S'true, the only reason anything ever got done around there Flexes Irishness
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:39 AM
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Too lazy to make a new account club, woooo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:26 AM
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WE. HUNTED. THE. MAMMOTH.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 07:53 AM
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hard working protestant men Oxymoron
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 07:52 AM
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Just remember not to take it personally if people are mean if you start during the purge! People are being extra vicious as a game, I don't think people really want to hurt feelz for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 07:48 AM
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They've been around for ages to the point that incel threads are banned here normally, they just come out of hiding during the purge because the mods put the pest extermination on ice for a week
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 05:09 PM
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This gif perfectly encapsulates 90% young male PPD shitposters
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 08:12 AM
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I'm not a woman. I'm just fairly confident regarding their lack of ability to read minds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:59 AM
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No, you're imagining it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:08 PM
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Meanwhile most interracial crime is black on white. Sounds like whitey is a bitch then, doesn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:48 PM
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Woooo democracy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:43 PM
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Just because two opinions are contradictory doesn't mean I can't hold them!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 09:23 PM
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Wow, this is the most convincing evidence I've ever seen that he isn't gay
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 07:25 PM
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I vote kitty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 07:21 PM
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Absolute bollocks, men like variety and generally don't settle down before they're ready if they're capable of getting it, which this hypothetical man is if he's had sex with this woman before offering solid commitment. People who don't think that's the case are just blinded by the cadre of virgin losers they surround themselves with and/or a refusal to see how real people actually date
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:20 PM
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Aye. What are we non-incels supposed to be needing copes for exactly? Our active sexual relationships and happy lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:49 PM
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Are you feeling alright? Do you have a temperature?!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:04 PM
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I think the A might be for alpha. Which of course makes the whole thing 10 times worse
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:52 PM
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poor lil pupper
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:44 PM
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I totally would, those uniforms are H.O.T.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:41 PM
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What happened to number 2's eye?!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:38 PM
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You have to thrust in time with the winks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:36 PM
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I hadn't thought about it for months until I saw his name pop up here. I might even repost this later in the week so more people see, it's a beautiful piece of pillsphere history
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:27 PM
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1/ get knife 2/ apply roughly to ballsack 3/ repeat as necessary until rape feelings go
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 02:18 PM
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Oh absolutely, set all of them and their shitty affair partners on fire. Double fire if it was a long term affair
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 01:20 PM
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I said, “avoid” not “completely eliminate”. And I'm saying 'not easily or necessarily effectively in many cases'. That said, why doesn’t “women’s intuition” help women discern which men aren’t in the “settling down” mindset? Because having two X chromosomes doesn't make you psychic? Of course, if like much of PPD you consider 'alpha' to be every man who has touched a boob and 'beta' the 5% of snivelling weirdos who would faint at the first whiff of pussy then that distinction might be more easy …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 01:00 PM
2

I support Islam as a non Muslim because getting whipped for free sounds like a dream come true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 12:34 PM
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As a bottom, I have never put it in anyone's bum, and am thus the straightest man here CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 12:22 PM
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is only smol comment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:40 AM
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Offering more than casual sex won't make a man stick around if he isn't in the 'settling down' mindset. The idea that only airheads and bimbos get pumped and dumped is as much of a just world fallacy as acting like nobody ever gets rejected on the basis of appearance, just on personality
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:31 AM
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On a scale of pumpkin spice latte normie to being enough of a freak to write this post, I'd say electra is pretty safely towards the non-weird side
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:26 AM
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It is challenging because men will either lie to make themselves seem more invested or genuinely not be able to predict a attraction swing after sex a lot of the time, and is a much more commonly cited reason for dating struggles than your suggestion 'fear for one's physical safety', which is a generally a fear that puts women off random casual sex and not dating, which is specifically what this thread is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:10 AM
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That's hilarious, maybe you should put it on a t-shirt Edit: Realised that some of you are probably new, so reminder that TRP is so full of rubes and morons that GLO tried to get them to buy something this ugly Archive of one of his cringy terp posts about it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:39 AM
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Because a significant number of those 100s of men (assuming the woman is actually attractive since it'll be lower otherwise) will want to disappear after either the first fuck or once she starts wanting more than casual sex. Women who don't want to sleep around have to screen for that in addition to looking for traits they're attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:36 AM
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If you didn't care about people judging you you wouldn't have posted about it being 'acceptable'. It is not 'acceptable', you are not 'acceptable', and punishing random 18 year olds for what imaginary Stacies do is just as stupid as shooting some randomer because they live in the same neighbourhood as someone you hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:29 AM
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You are allowed to do whatever you want to get laid provided it's legal. What you're not able to do is demand that the world doesn't recognise you for being the lying, manipulative cunt that you are when you do those things. If you people are so sure you're right why do you so desperately need the approval of people who rightly identify you as pondscum?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:13 AM
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True facts, this is Jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 09:09 AM
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No keep talking, how else will I know who to throw the rotten tomatoes at?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 08:20 AM
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JACKHAMMER
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:16 PM
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'my gf dumped me because I asked an innocent question about experimenting a bit in the bedroom with her sister, wtf women'
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:07 PM
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I was going to try one of these but you already did it way better, much upvotes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:04 PM
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Juicy bit of post history from op (deleted but you can see the title)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:02 PM
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His post history says something about him wearing skirts, is everyone who doesn't want to date a cross dresser a dick now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:58 PM
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You go girl, don't let anyone tell you to take off the fursuit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:56 PM
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I am not a woman, but since it's purge week I'm going to go mad rebel and post anyway My husband, who wouldn't love him?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:54 PM
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Saves children (but not British children) Wtf I love your husband now too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:48 PM
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Women don't find it humiliating from my observations, women are used to being approached by gross men, most either laugh about it or it doesn't make an impression
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:26 PM
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Answer whatever you like if you have relevant experience (i.e. if you were raised a girl answer girl questions if you think you have anything useful to say) but if you're answering a question that's specific to one gender's experience you should mention that you're trans* in your comment or your flair. I automod or mention that I'm a gay man when I answer questions for men even though I'm clearly a man because my experience is different enough that it could affect my perspective to a degree that…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:01 PM
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Yes, please do! It won't destroy her self esteem, but it'll be great fun for her to laugh about you with her friends later on just before she forgets about you forever
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:36 PM
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QI facts are different though, Stephen Fry said them so they're cool
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 09:24 PM
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Good (wo)man, I love sharing popcorn. I was going to try to shape up a post of my own, but this one does such a good job of explaining it that I'd never be able to do it that much justice. tl;dr as far as I can remember: men started trampling all over the women's sub, some promoting anti-marriage/ pro plate perspectives, female mods were not cool with this and banned some of the men doing this, TRP mods weren't happy because some of the men were endorsed contributors and respected on their side …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 07:09 PM
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Lol, the cringiest ten minutes of my life were when a guy decided to serenade me on his acoustic guitar. Jesus, there would have been an Irishman sized hole in the wall in 30 seconds flat if someone tried that with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 10:59 AM
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The vast majority of aspiring artists are not very good, which makes being forced to listen to them pontificate about their art unpleasant for potential dates. Even when the artist is at least mediocre, it's still awkward to listen to because it's thrusting you into the position of being a critic towards someone you potentially like, and those negative feelings can spill into them not wanting to see you again. By all means go ahead with using your music if your goal is to find the some rare MPDG…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 10:57 AM
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However if you spend time writing up reviews and analyses of movies, books or anything else then you will quickly be able to offer meaningful conversation about the finer points of whatever you do together Bitches love it when casually mentioning that they enjoy a certain element of pop culture leads to an hour long lecture on its place in the greater artistic canon
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 10:46 AM
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A relationship where both partners meet the needs and most or all of the wants of the other, either by consciously striving to do so or because some innate element of their being satisfies the other party, and where the needs/wants of each partner don't contradict each other. For example, it's going to be easier to have a fulfilling relationship where one partner gets satisfaction from being looked after in some way (could be financially, emotionally, physically, take your pick) and the other li…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 02:19 PM
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/r/redpillwhores was a semi humour version of that that sadly died before it really got started.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 10:47 AM
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I think dating men from TRP is generally discouraged, understandably given the sub's tendency to encourage plate spinning and discourage marriage (although there is the occasional 'my boyfriend told me to read RPW!' post so I can see why it would be confusing.) Generally it's supposed to be tips for maintaining a relationship with a masculine man using an awareness of what TRP thinks is male and female nature, mostly focused on taking a supportive but competent secondary role in a relationship r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 10:45 AM
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If someone truly had that much disdain for their partner, their hypothetical future kids and the institute of marriage wouldn't they be better off just earning their own money and having fun on their own terms? If you're dedicated enough to go full Machiavellian on some simp you look down on for the rest of your life then you could probably dedicate the same effort to getting a good enough job that you only have to work part time or freelance to make a living and having the freedom to do whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 10:30 AM
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Any glossy magazine or tabloidy website sex advice ever. Everyone wants to look original so they just throw random shit out there and see what sticks. A personal favourite that I guarantee no-one who has a penis would ever green light...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 03:14 PM
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It's true that we judge people quickly, which is why most normal people avoid making themselves look like pretentious drags on their dating profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 12:21 AM
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Who cares if a lifestyle is masculine if that lifestyle is fun to the couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 10:54 PM
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And most people determine that by meeting and talking to people rather than judging people from a few sentences of a bio
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 08:54 PM
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Aye. There's being smart and then there's needing everyone in a 10 mile radius to know that you're smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 06:33 PM
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Nobody is bringing their intellectual A-game to tinder. It's largely the same for any group; most of my friends are straight guys, and some of them are pretty damn smart, and none of them talk about anything heavy on their dating profiles because you risk coming off as being up your own arse. Even the ones who are very active politically or have highbrow interests tend to go with a quippy one liner or a quick summary of their background and/or job/research area. Women who dumb down their profile…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 06:31 PM
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most women by and large due care about how much their man makes I agree with this, although I'd say 'most' here to mean 'small majority' rather than like 99%. as women as a group don't date down and refuse to date down. And disagree with this insofar as it's a description that applies exclusively or primarily to women. People in general try to get the best deal for themselves, and due to the social mores I mentioned before the social cost for a woman dating a man who doesn't work is far higher t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:23 PM
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Even if it were true that women in general are 'ashamed' of lower earning men (and the extent to which that is true is largely due to social mores rather than anything innate in my opinion), that doesn't mean anyone who responds to this question saying it's not a priority for them is lying or posturing. Responses to these situations are highly situationally and culturally dependent, and when you respond to someone's comment specifically and accuse them of being a liar it makes you look like you …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 03:37 PM
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Where is the contradiction in having had gay experiences in the past and being religious in the present? Plenty of non-liberal churches have no problem accepting gay and bisexual people who are not currently sexually active with the same sex, and Y_O has said multiple times that her relationship with her now husband has been monogamous since before her conversion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 08:35 PM
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If my husband ever said something that nasty about me it would break my heart, and if it had happened only a short time into our relationship it would have ended it. I suggest you break up with him and use shoving your success in his face as a motivator to achieve your fitness/ attractiveness goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 09:43 PM
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At least you don't have to store the prostitute under your bed...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 05:28 PM
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In terms of what I would tolerate in a relationship, rape fantasies>>>>>>owning a sex doll (assuming that the rape fantasies are a kink that can be satisfied with an occasional bit of 'consensual non consent' roleplaying rather than a full on fetish.) I'd rather my partner had rough sex with me than got it on with some creepy, dead eyed uncanny valley toy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 05:22 PM
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Aw, what a pretty kitty
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 12:00 AM
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To be honest, if you were that scared of false accusations then you shouldn't be alone with a woman in any situation where you may displease her, she doesn't need to have had sex with you to accuse you. Also, really you should avoid being anywhere without witnesses as to your whereabouts just to be on the safe side. Perhaps the guys who are worried about this could develop some sort of buddy system where they take turns watching each other sleep for maximum protection?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 06:51 PM
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Aye, I can imagine someone having a good job is probably funny if you're the kind of trashy loser who witch hunts randomers on a gender debate sub
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:21 PM
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What's 'worse' is subjective and dependent on your own value system. I think being a woman is a worse position to be in, and would rather have a slightly higher chance of something somewhat bad happening than a smaller risk of something that would completely wreck my head happening. If you don't care about abortion or the health risks of potential pregnancy then the opposite would be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 01:43 PM
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I wouldn't risk hormonal since previous history of depression and mental health issues is the biggest predictor of having mood swings on birth control. Copper IUD would be a good option but my anxiety is such that I'd still stress about it in the same way I stressed about AIDS for years as a gay man despite being in a monogamous relationship, haha. Plus, to me the negatives for getting pregnant as a woman are far worse than the negatives of getting someone pregnant as a man because I don't care …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 11:16 AM
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If I were a woman, I'd likely act basically the same assuming the change in hormones and the like didn't change 'me' that much (wanting a mono relationship, settling down ASAP), but I'd also have pregnancy to worry about, and knowing how neurotic I am now I can't imagine how I'd cope with that. If I had a daughter, while I'd want her to be a little bit of a nerd deep down (much like I would a son), I'd also enroll her in drama/ arts/ after school activities to make sure she's socialised properly…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 09:47 PM
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It's a copypaste across multiple subreddits advertising the sub for your theories. If this sub doesn't let Rollo do drive-by shitposts then why would they let you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 12:54 AM
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People have been asking for a Tl;Dr version of my posts about this subject for ages Who are these people and how do we stop them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 12:29 AM
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whoosh I'm certainly married to a better man than any you know if you think women are replacing men in their life with cats. Cats fill completely different needs to men (nurturing/protecting vs intimacy), and as the poster below me said someone's relationship with their cat is more like that of a parent to a child than a one half of a couple to the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 05:16 PM
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Dogs are a substitute for male relationships for men, not female relationships. A dog is like a brother, not a girlfriend. Why do you think cats are boyfriend replacements rather than simply for generic company? Is it because cats sit around all day doing fuck all and whining to be fed too?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 08:12 AM
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Men, every one. I should know, I've seen the dick pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 08:33 PM
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Anyway, using my common sense, what could be so great about being penetrated by big stiff rod over and over again? Is it just me or is it getting a little hot in here?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 08:33 PM
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Now, with the women I work with, I make the same as them. Most of them are attracted to me, and they tell me that frequently. They don't care that I only make $35k per year, because that's the same as them. This is assortative mating (in the economic sense), not hypergamy. How can you say TRP is inarguably correct when you contradict its premises in your own post?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 05:47 PM
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Complimenting her on things other than looks, telling her he has a special connection with her, spending a disproportionate amount of money on her (this can be particularly misleading if he's a lot more wealthy than her; what seems like a normal date to him may seem lavish to her and as a sign he's willing to invest in her), saying that he's tired of partying if he's a player type, saying he has only been interested in LTRs in the past (which makes her think that is still the case now). The whol…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 01:22 PM
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Think of the dishes if you had to deal with a harem. Why does nobody think of the dishes?!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 08:24 AM
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At least she was very clear about what she wanted!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 09:59 PM
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I think men mistake concern and maternal feelings from women of a certain age towards younger women for bitterness and jealousy a lot of the time. When older women are objecting to these relationships, a lot of the time they're thinking of the daughters, their little sisters or even themselves at a time when they were less assured or confident than they are now and thinking of the negative impact that dating someone much older than them could have had, especially someone like DiCaprio who goes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 10:08 AM
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On the 1 level the guy would never do anything that hurts you and say he's bent your leg wrong so you're getting a cramp, he quickly apologizes and let's you move back to missionary Cramping is like the least sexy kind of pain in the world, irrespective of intentions
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 01:24 PM
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Disclaimer: I am not blind, this is just stuff I can think of off the top of my head. Get fit in ways that suit your lifestyle; if you can afford it, some kind of home gym with easy to use, hard to injure yourself on equipment (rowing machine, exercise bike, etc) might be good. Try to find hobbies that are independent of her and fun to talk about with her later. See if there are any groups for blind people in your area with activities specifically tailored to you that you can join. Having intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 07:38 PM
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Both. I believe that some of the androgyny is innately linked to being gay but that some elements are reinforced by the community. You see this in recently out gay men and lesbians; they often ham it up for the first few years because they're excited to find a community that accepts them, and then dial it back a bit when they become more comfortable with themselves as individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 09:15 PM
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Nothing that you said contradicts what I said so I don't know what merits a snarky 'lol no'. Men are less cautious partially because of testosterone, and that does nothing to make their claims that women should also be less cautious any less fucking stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 11:42 PM
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How can you discount this when you yourself said that you're less cautious than most women. This is an attitude that's widespread amongst men (I'm pretty cautious, but I'm the exception not the rule) and manifests in men taking far more risks with their safety with regard to stuff like walking home alone at night, being willing to live in dangerous areas, not sticking with their friends on nights out, etc, all things that make them more likely to be hurt or injured. I'm not saying that it's othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:57 PM
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As a man I stand a much higher chance of being beaten up than a woman and I don't cower in fear at every stranger This attitude is likely a big contributor to why men are much more likely to get beaten up than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:43 PM
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The Frames Evergreen I enjoy love songs that are about long term love and and your feelings weathering time ('These tides of time/ Have carved a few new lines/ Oo-oh but they've never changed my mind'), and The Frames always produce top notch music (can't beat a bit of background fiddle.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 07:52 PM
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When you reject a man sexually, you are biologically saying "Your genes aren't worth passing on. You should never have been born. You aren't worthy of reproducing." No, they are saying 'I, at the moment in time, do not wish to help you perpetuate your genes.' A person rejecting you is not saying you are worth nothing now and forever. They're saying that right now they're not interested in you. A man would have to be a drama queen of the highest order to jump to your conclusion. As a side note, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:02 PM
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Not all men are embarrassed about being violent. I knew plenty of men like that growing up and depending on the demographics surrounding the bar have 0 problem believing his/her story.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 04:56 PM
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We're getting a completely one-sided view of this incident based on the word of the defendant's mother, who wasn't present during any of the incidents. Marcus claims that in both cases he asked for a fist bump or selfie, but in both situations the women in question say that the behaviour went beyond that. I see no reason to trust his word over theirs based on this article since all the allegations that they went back and forth on what they said come from his mum. I do generally think that the Am…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 02:42 PM
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If it was a legitimate micropenis maybe, if I'd tried dating and been rejected repeatedly and didn't see another way out. From the perspective of having an average dick, absolutely not, keep your scalpels away from my poor fella, he's just a boy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 10:58 AM
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It's really not. Women are very bad at estimating dick size by sight, so while they might see 5.5 inches written down and think it sounds small in reality for most women it's going to be seen as totally normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 10:54 AM
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Awww congratulations, I am sure she will love it whatever you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 03:10 PM
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Especially considering how many women stay with the cruelest of abusers Even aside from the fact that in most cases it's not a matter of the abuse itself being attractive, for every woman who stays with an abusive man there are far more exes and prospective dates who saw the red flags and noped out before it ever got to the stage of being abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 01:42 PM
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Being a 'beta' isn't a problem. This could potentially be though: I would love to be with a girl who is confident and be comfortable taking lead in a relationship as an 'alpha' and I support her as a 'beta'. Feeling like they're 'in charge' of a relationship can be intimidating to a lot of people, especially at your age. Even if you'd rather not be the leader all the time (which is perfectly fair,) it would serve you well to become more confident in your own ability to lead, at least in part, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 01:38 PM
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Possibly. It's not too dissimilar to what I did, although I think mine was more organic and partner approved. Most importantly though, if you want to get serious with her put your foot down about keeping the nerd stuff NOW. If you don't set your boundaries at the start and stick to them no partner, female or male, will ever respect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 04:59 PM
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If it's dishonesty done to preserve her husbands image though I don't see why she should be judged any more negatively for it than, say, a woman who pretends to her friends that her and her husband still have a good sex life when he has ED because she doesn't want to embarrass him. Even those who see honesty as a virtue usually have some patience for white lies that are ego or relationship preserving (unless they're particuarly black and white thinkers.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 04:34 PM
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However, I still don't see how disparaging that adult, consensual and safe relationship can be considered sex positive. What's inherently good about being sex-positive? I don't care about gold-diggers either way, but the term 'sex-positive' is wielded in this sub in such a way that all it is is an attempt to silence anyone who doesn't think giving blowjobs is the highest form of enlightenment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 04:01 PM
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That's to other people though. Both parties can have an understanding of the transactional nature of their relationship without the golddigger going around publicly shaming the goldiggee. If anything, the golddigger being that 'honest' would devalue her to the man because he can end up with a net loss of status because of her disrespect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/18 03:50 PM
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I agree that most of these relationships are largely transactional. That said, if you want to get a younger woman/ man and have them actually care for you, I think you're better securing one when you have more to offer physically than being a wrinkly wallet attachment. The average 35-45 year old isn't at their peak, but if they look after themselves they can still elicit enough attraction for a younger partner (say 25ish) to get enough affection for them going to keep the wife/husband goggles on…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/18 06:23 PM
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My partner and I roleplay certain scenarios that I would never actually want to happen in real life. I don't really know if I have particularly strong fantasies so much as things I like to feel during sex and ideas for how we could get there though; it's not like 'I desperately want to have sex with a sea captain,' it's like 'I want to feel X way and this dynamic/ physical act could produce that feeling.' (BP gay male.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/18 10:52 PM
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It depends very much on them as individuals, and how willing they are to work with you. If you're tackling the issue as a couple and both want to solve it, I could see either situation potentially working out. But I agree that the only mindset you can really change is your own, at least if you're working on it by yourself, and if they aren't committed to at least try then I wouldn't necessarily hold out much hope in either case. That's why I don't think it's necessarily 'wrong' to give up if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/18 03:10 PM
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All my responses are assuming that I love the person and actively want to be with them. The less you care the less effort it makes sense to put in, so adjust accordingly. Candice Assuming it was sex and not just kissing or something, I think we would eventually break up. The thought of someone having sex with my partner sickens me, but I would appreciate the honesty enough to try. However, I don't think I would get over it because of the visceral reaction I have to the thought of it. In the long…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/18 02:32 PM
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won't let me measure his dick. Hmm, so how do you know whether he's Chad or not? It's like Schrödonger's dick
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 04:39 PM
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The women responding slightly negatively here aren't the same ones who responded in your thread by and large. The longer you stay here the more you realise how willing people are to make personal attacks towards people you care about or throw stuff in your face from a year ago, so regulars being cagey seems perfectly reasonable since 'I wish my partner did X' can quickly result in 'why are you a liar who hates your SO?!' or 'your partner is a sociopath/general POS and you're a fool for dating th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 04:33 PM
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He's 16 years older than me, which isn't a bad thing for me in terms of attraction but it means that I'm statistically more likely to be alone when I'm older. I think it's worth it for the good years though, I'll just get mummified and put in his coffin. (BP male)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 03:53 PM
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I think extended LTRs are better for training a man (or woman) to be good in bed than the casual sex that your standard Chad stereotype has. People in LTRs have to learn to adapt and please each other in ways that most people don't bother doing on a one night standard. Not saying all slutty dudes are bad in bed, and some experience>no experience, just that I don't think it gives an advantage over an average serial monogamist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 03:50 PM
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My observations are largely with androgynous-leaning-masc guys, and when they're naturally fine featured/ 'pretty', provided they stick within a niche group that finds that sort of thing socially it can be a boon. It makes you stand out and provided you don't act excessively effeminate that in itself can be a positive. It may have a different effect if you have a different build (although then again, look at trash king Alex Reid, UK cage fighter/cross dresser who seems to have little bother gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 03:44 PM
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I'm getting flashbacks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 07:33 PM
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What is a more likely and reasonable answer: is the OP a misogynist (Feminist answer) or are the users accusing him of being one simply insecure themselves of approaching the Wall and thus projecting (Red-Pill answer)? Neither are necessarily true, although OP may well be a misogynist, I don't know. It's likely because people tend to vocally disapprove of blatant superficiality, either out of genuine disdain or as a form of virtue signalling. It's no different to a woman being shamed as a golddi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:41 PM
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Part of what makes our relationship work so well is our chemistry, and while that could likely survive changes like aging a sudden large deformity might permanently damage it. it seems like the point of marraige is to force the relationship to survive something like this? That's kind of what I'm saying. That it would affect my relationship quality heavily, but that due to the commitment I've made I'd stay despite that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 02:27 PM
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The specific breaking points of other relationships depends on what the foundation of their relationship was; if it was based on chemistry for the majority of the relationship, attraction will probably be the deal breaker, if it was duty, then loyalty and/or commitment will probably be a priority, etc. The person who you're breaking up with will judge your decision to break up with them based on how they want to be valued (i.e. if they want to be valued as a equal companion or for the work they …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/18 08:30 PM
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It absolutely is. It indicates an inappropriate level of investment for such a short period of time. It is not 'expected' and will likely freak non gold-diggers out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 10:35 AM
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Between C4 or D4 for me. Also, it's super hard for me to ignore the face, especially when it's like your number 1 and his head doesn't seem to match his body. Boy's not right. You might as well have posted this for how weird he looks to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 10:33 PM
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If he's bought her a mobile phone or equivalent after 3 weeks that's some weird shit and a bullet dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 09:03 PM
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Plenty of people are raised without 'strong masculine figures' and are capable of separating the kind of aspirational fiction children watch from the reality of what traits are valued in real life. And if you've rightly recognised that being easily influenced has been detrimental to you in the past then it defies belief for me that you'd immediately jump on the bandwagon of something like TRP. What you're doing is no different to this woman swapping her SaTC fantasy for an Eat Pray Love one with…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 08:53 PM
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She's an idiot and I have no more sympathy for her than I do for idiot terps who claim that watching the Disney channel as tweens ruined their adult sex lives. With regard to the quote about the 'reasonable' man, while I understand the terpy interpretation, I think given the context of the rest of the article it more refers to her no longer choosing her partners like she's Carrie and instead choosing them based on her own priorities. I can understand why anyone wouldn't be too thrilled to see th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 02:10 PM
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If you're able to pull good looking girls then it doesn't make sense to consider yourself repulsive no matter what generalisations you've heard people make about people who resemble you. Even if whatever those people said was true in general, it doesn't make it true of you as an individual, and you shouldn't let it affect your perception of yourself when your experience contradicts it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 07:45 PM
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How repulsive can you be if you're having sex with slim women that other men find attractive? Were they retching when they touched you? Did you pay?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 03:54 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 08:10 PM
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no indication it would be lower quality physical satisfaction. I think that in general that's true, but in cases where you have very strong feelings for someone you might struggle to find someone who will give you the same degree of satisfaction. I think the is the cause of some unwillingness that people have to leave relationships where the mismatched libidos are starting to weigh on them; they have such strong feelings for their partner that they're scared even if they can find someone who mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 06:34 PM
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Whether you'd be better staying friends with someone with a lower sex drive rather than dating them depends on how much you're compromising on with regard to sex and how much you like the person you're compromising with. There's no easy answer regarding whether sex the main cornerstone of a monogamous relationship because the sexual and emotional aspects of relationships support each other so much. Separating them so the roles can be played by two people wouldn't be anywhere near as satisfying, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 06:06 PM
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I probably received the average amount of being pushed around that teenage boys get, and my brother shielded me from anything worse since he was well known as a bit of a psycho. When I did get into fights at school it never bothered me that much because I had a far rougher time of it at home with my father, and teenage boys don't hit as hard as adult men so I was pretty hard to phase, which is probably another reason I didn't really get picked on. I wasn't very sympathetic to kids who were bulli…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 04:58 PM
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If you don't want to live together before engagement that's up to you, and if it's a protective measure that you feel is necessary to avoid getting taken advantage of that's completely fair, though you might want to look at more traditional guys if that's the set up you want. That said, I learned a lot about my partner when we began to live together full time, and my own tolerance for constant social interaction. When I was living with my friends, I could lock myself in my room and have alone ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 04:28 PM
3

You get to say you write the code that makes the airplanes go too, which is worth more than money can buy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 07:14 PM
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If he's a stripper that's alpha bucks, and 12 of them are worth 100,000 beta bucks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 07:02 PM
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In what way? I have different values and experiences so I tend to see different things as 'red flags' and relationship killers than people raised in more middle class families. For example, I'm more tolerant of guys who are coarse/rough because a lot of the men I was raised around were like that, and I don't really find that the 'single motherhood will kill your romantic future!' thing is true in poorer areas so the vitriol towards them sometimes having high standards on reddit took me a bit by …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 06:40 PM
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I work in R&D and earn ~£50k ($65k in 'Murican). I wasn't raised with that kind of money though and my upbringing likely affected my views on life and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 06:24 PM
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I've been around a big mix of classes over different parts of my life, and while working/ underclass women are more flexible with that sort of thing the higher you go in class the less likely a woman is to be okay with this arrangement over a long period of time. So if you work at a call centre or retail store or are unemployed and are dating similar women, you're probably fine. If you're dating women from middle class families then expect dissatisfaction and arguments at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 03:52 PM
2

Recent Rocky Horror rewatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 03:45 PM
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Male, BP, gay 1 - Upon meeting, he solicits that he has an incredibly high count; He loses points, proceed dating 2 - On the first opportunity, he announces that he has an incredibly high count; Don't care 3 - 1, but "incredibly low count"; He loses points, proceed dating 4 - 2, but "incredibly low count"; Don't care 5 - He breaks your expectation of a low count with an incredibly high count; Don't care 6 - He breaks your expectation of a high count with an incredibly low count; Don't care 7 - 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 07:55 PM
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Being masculine and being sensible aren't necessarily the same thing. I wouldn't advocate punching someone unconscious over an insult either, but in my experience the most masculine men are the most reactive to public displays of disrespect, and even if it's not advisable it's still characteristic of their behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:36 PM
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Beating him unconscious is definitely the most masculine thing to do, though not necessarily the most sensible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:32 PM
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Do you think that most men want this regularly? I like that sort of thing, but if I spent time actively avoiding my partner's dick when he wanted a blowjob that would not go well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 04:48 PM
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I think I see it more a version of the spotlight effect than attention seeking. A lot of people who consciously subscribe to that kind of 'incel mentality' ascribe a lot of malice to what I would interpret as female neutrality towards them, things like assuming women who won't make eye contact with them think they're creepy, that someone not wanting to be friendly or talk is equated with disdain, etc. I think that's a big difference between more 'forever alone' types and incels actually; FA peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 02:56 PM
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No, I tried to avoid addressing that because it's irrelevant to my point and I knew you were trying to use it as a way to weasel out of answering. Clearly that want the right approach since you fixated on it despite it being irrelevant and me trying to steer away from it. For the final time, this person is not 'conforming' to anything, they're doing what they want to do regardless of outside judgement from straight and gay people since supposed 'femininity' is penalised heavily by gay men. They'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 05:54 PM
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You are both wrong and completely missing the point. You're wrong because stereotypically gay men don't wear dresses or make up, drag and cross dressing aren't typical amongst gay men, and I can only assume you're deliberately missing the point because you don't want to answer my question because you know that whatever answer you give that honestly answers it pokes holes in your argument. If you don't answer in a non disingenuous way in your next comment then this conversation is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 05:41 PM
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You are assuming that he's doing it to conform despite me stating again and again that he's not because you don't want to acknowledge the glaring holes in your argument by answering my question. I have said many times that in this hypothetical the guy is not motivated by external validation. I am not interested in discussing your inaccurate views on the stereotypical gay man, I am interested in discussing the specific situation that I mentioned, not getting sidelined by an argument that you've m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 05:19 PM
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I didn't mention voice inflection, what on earth are you talking about? Why are you so steadfastly dedicated to avoiding the question of whether a man who dresses and acts in a stereotypically feminine manner for his own enjoyment and who is confident in his own decisions would be more or less masculine than one who pursues manly interests at least partially due to external validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 05:02 PM
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The gay guy isn't motivated by external validation in this scenario though. This hypothetical gay dude likes pretty things so wears them and fucks dudes because he likes it. If he isn't motivated by external validation, is he more or less masculine than the lumberjack who is?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 04:41 PM
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And if he does it because he enjoys it and doesn't care about external judgement? Is he more or less masculine than the lumberjack?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 04:36 PM
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Do you think that a skinny guy who wears make up and dresses, fucks dudes and works in a gay strip joint and owns it is more masculine than a muscle bound poon slaying lumberjack who's at least partially motivated by external validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 04:19 PM
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for alpha male attention Then why are they wasting their time on the manosphere?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 06:57 AM
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I'm from a working class area Northern Ireland (which is unfortunately in the UK) I can assure you that white people are more than capable of being homophobic without the presence of Muslims
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 09:43 AM
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Even assuming there is competition, why would competition and friendship be mutually exclusive? My friends compete over attractive women plenty and bar a bit of butthurt from the losing party they're still mates at the end of the day. Hell, I've known men and women to get into full on physical fights with their friends and still be close to them when the dust settles. You can have conflict with and occasionally feel insecure about someone and still care for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 01:06 PM
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I'm not red pill. And I think it's pretty clear he knows that from the 'intensely proud/full of shame' part. I don't understand why you'd decide to take swipes at someone over a difficult situation that they're clearly still conflicted over.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 12:20 PM
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It sounds like misguided kindness to me. He seemed to think she was alone in the world and wanted to help, but also didn't want to lie to a sick woman, so tried to compromise between the two and arrived at a less than perfect solution. You could debate whether it was the course of action, but nothing he says makes me think that it's remotely 'dark triad' or motivated by self interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 12:06 PM
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There is, but so many gay guys have open relationships anyway that it just doesn't feel like a big deal, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/18 05:17 PM
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Posting this in the automod as it's not my view, but my partner has always thought that sort of thing comes from a desire in men to know their place in a masculine hierarchy. That kind of domination by another man gives them an idea of their place in that structure that it's hard to get in the developed world outside certain careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/18 04:40 PM
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The boundaries for cheating are subjective, and whether certain actions are and aren't classed as cheating is often largely dependant on how potentially sexual/romantic someone sees their partner's relationship with the other party. For example, a deep meaningful conversation about a row you've had with your partner would be less suspect when it's with a sibling than when it's with your old University boyfriend. Since people tend to see therapists as tools, a degree of emotional intimacy is gene…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/18 10:28 PM
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Male, gay, BP. I can see this being an effective screening test if you're the kind of person who wants a very 'tit for tat' relationship, or if you want to check for reliability. Personally, I wouldn't kick him out for forgetting the wine if it was a genuine mistake or if he was skint and couldn't afford it, but I would for the smirking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/18 01:27 AM
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In fairness, if you don't need the money why would you do something you don't want to do for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 07:57 PM
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I'm lateish twenties now. I don't think height isn't a factor in attractiveness by any stretch of the imagination, but if you're taller than 5'4-5'6 (depending on the demographics in your area) I'd say it's less of a handicap than, say, a bad face or body shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 05:52 PM
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Whereabouts in Ireland? My impression growing up in a working class area of Belfast was that being short, masculine and/or somewhat attractive>>>>>> being tall and average. Hell, I wasn't even masculine or particularly attractive and I still dated girls in my teens at 5'5 before coming to England and coming out because I had access to booze.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 05:18 PM
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Aww thank you! I have not been on the sub as much as I used to be though so I get why they're looking at more active users.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 01:24 PM
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Everything is fine except this There was some discussion about permitting personal advice posts on this subreddit, we are wondering what everyone's take on this would be, of course the advice would have to be relevant. Please God no. If some personal advice gets thrown out 10 comments deep in a discussion then for sure use discretion and turn a blind eye, but threads or top level/ near top level comments asking for personal advice make it harder to discuss things objectively. If you want to ask …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 03:03 PM
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Race content is one of the worst when it comes to people not being able to separate their personal situations from the debate, something that your response is indicative of. I mean no disrespect to you personally as you aren't the only person who thinks like this, but this is supposed to be a debate sub, not an advice blog. People starting to treat it like a self improvement site changes the tone of the sub and makes conversation awkward, and is part of the reason it's so frustrating to people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:24 PM
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I think a general leniency on high quality posts related to verboten topics would be the best way to handle those issues. I understand that quality is subjective, but certain traits like a wide range of interesting sources or an interesting model that links together different talking points on the sub, addressing potential counter arguments in the body of the text or presenting a point of view that can't be found in the first 10 results when you use the search function on the sidebar should all …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:08 PM
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Ever have a woman sit on your face? you pretty fucking quickly lose the idea that women are somehow "innocent." How? Do they write the names of their future victims on their labia?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 09:23 PM
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Being married to this woman is no kind of life. Although I find it funny that even her friends are on her toy boy's side.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 08:48 PM
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Violence, aggression, possessiveness/ protectiveness, in-group bias and loyalty to people within what they perceive to be their in-group or in-groups (but none to anyone outside), difficulties in dealing with hierarchies when they think the people above them are less competent and/or strong than them, dominant or vying for dominance. Some of these traits are beneficial in modern society, and some aren't, and most successful people temper the positive elements with more 'beta' or socially collabo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 03:49 PM
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My partner would deal with any potential threat if there was one, mostly because there are chihuahuas that are more intimidating than me. That said, if I ordered him out of bed to check something that was likely innocuous out he'd probably roll over and go back to sleep to spite me, belongings be damned.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 09:14 PM
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Nerdy guys are entitled to want their own spaces, but they can't then be surprised that women won't give them a chance when the attitudes women see those men display towards them are hostility and anger. Nerdy guys may not game to meet dates, but when a woman's experience of nerdy dudes is them being rude to her when she takes part in a male dominated hobby it's going to reduce her willingness to give guys like that a chance when she meets them outside that arena. If nerdy guys don't care that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 09:06 AM
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Doesn't seem like bad advice to me, at least not for certain kinds of people. A life with animals that you love seems better than life with a man that you don't. Hell, if my partner and I ever split up my plan is to start a cat reserve rather than enter the dating game again. The order for life companion by potential happiness gain is 'man who is attractive and I love>cats>rabbits>cows>other fluffies>>>>>>>>other men'.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/18 09:14 AM
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If I dated women I think I'd find this funny rather than off-putting. And I'd be morbidly curious about the results
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/18 09:04 AM
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I met my partner at a bar, because I'm a clichéd kind of gay. I can't be in crowds unless I'm drunk so my memory is a little hazy, but I made him promise to meet up with me again after that night and made him save future dates on his BlackBerry (because as we know, that's a binding contract) and freaked out on the taxi ride home because I'd never gone home with a guy like that before and tried to jump out of the moving cab. Despite this, 8 years later we are together and getting married this sum…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 10:53 PM
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It will become more popular and watered down, and the bs excuses they use to make it more palatable to people will become true ('it's just self improvement' or 'we're just telling men not to be doormats'.) I also predict a libfem red pill offshoot in the next 15 years, probably a lot sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 10:13 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 08:20 AM
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BLUE-ISH PURPLE PILL 😲 Don't go to the dark side, the feminazis need you!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 10:37 PM
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Thank you! I will see if I can update IRC during the ceremony, haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 10:35 PM
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Bar some current stressors, around a 7. Which in relative terms considering my past issues is like a 1000. Male, BP, mid/late twenties, gay, marrying my partner this summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 10:30 PM
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I'm glad too. He seemed like an interesting guy underneath it all, I think he just needed the right treatment and to get the fuck away from Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/18 11:32 PM
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Men may punch other men over this less frequently, but less overt mateguarding is absolutely still an option and frequently employed. It's not that hard to create a physical barrier and then act affectionate with your girlfriend, and you can do this while being friendly to the other dude or while ignoring him completely, physical aggression not necessary. My partner usually just puts his arm around my shoulders and moves me away, no drama and no punching.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/18 07:38 PM
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Aye, I think that's very much the case. 'Beta' guys I know who started dating in their teens or early twenties or at least haven't had any really scarring experiences often seem to make wonderful partners because they don't have any of the anger that guys who were rejected have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 04:27 PM
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Firstly, the OP has confirmed that both her partners are bisexual, which means that if we're applying your logic that one can't port experiences with bisexual men to straight men, you no longer have support for your argument. Secondly, I'm speaking from watching my friends and friends of friends date, as most of my friends are straight men, so there's no particular negativity, mutual or otherwise, clouding my judgment. What is it about the idea that repeated, long term rejection makes a person b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 04:24 PM
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You may have missed my edit regarding 'watching white straight guys I know behave in certain ways towards women' then.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 04:04 PM
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I'm a white gay dude and from my personal experiences with bi guys and watching white straight guys I know behave in certain ways towards women, I think /u/Jammerly1 was right on the money, at least about the bitterness/ anger at the sex that continuously rejected them as a whole spilling over into relationships with individuals. Although I do think these types fit into the omega category better than the beta one, insofar as these divisions actually add anything meaningful. Don't get me wrong, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 04:00 PM
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I am a man who's definitely not 'masculine' and I would hate to be a woman. I hate strangers bothering me, which women get more, I hate the idea of being sexualised in the minds of my peers, which again, women get more, I'm already talked down to because I'm small and being a woman would make that worse, and being a man means I don't need to worry about things like periods or getting pregnant. My personality not abiding by gender roles doesn't bother me because I don't care about what people I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 05:13 PM
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I am a BPer who sometimes takes the piss out of men like those you mentioned, and I don't believe that being 'good' means you get laid, or that being 'bad' means you don't. Some ways that misogyny manifests do make it harder to get laid, others don't. For example, someone who is bitter and can't resist taking digs at women he's talking to will likely suffer. Someone who thinks lowly of women but who uses that to reduce his nerves in talking to them likely won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/18 07:03 PM
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That's a mental interpretation of what I was saying. Perhaps thinking that casual sex is devaluing could be a reason why someone could be upset after sex, though I'd imagine it only applies in a tiny minority of cases. But it is not the main one, nor is it what I was getting at. I don't understand why you're trying make what I was saying mean something other than what I, the person who was saying it, is telling you it meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 11:48 PM
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In the second scenario women aren't protecting themselves from being 'devalued as a relationship partner,' they're protecting themselves from hurt feelings. They are not concerned with being 'temporarily devalued.' Is that clearer?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 10:27 PM
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What? Could you please explain how you are defining the word 'devalue,' that might explain why you don't seem to understand what anyone in this thread is saying
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 10:14 PM
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Feeling upset and betrayed =/= feeling devalued. It's a protection of your feelings, not a protection of your value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 09:29 PM
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No, that was an alternate explanation to them finding it devaluing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 09:20 PM
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Because many men act like it devalues women and men are the people straight women want to impress romantically. Also because there is an emotional element to sex for many people and they don't want to risk getting close to someone they care about only to have that person leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 06:49 PM
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I would rather date someone who was married for 18 months than 17 years. After 17 years it's basically 'I loved them so much that you'll never live up to them' or 'I'm a spineless bastard who can't end an unhappy relationship'. Give me my partner's past short loveless convenience marriage over that any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 01:15 AM
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In my eyes, that makes her bisexual instead, as there obviously is some attraction to men. Not necessarily. It's easier for a woman to 'lie back and think of England' than a man, and it's beneficial for a lot of gay people to maintain the appearance of heterosexuality in their youth. I would only assume she wasn't being honest about being a lesbian if she's had sex with a man since coming out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 12:42 AM
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It wouldn't bother me, but I see why it would bother people with a certain romantic outlook or those who are religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 12:39 AM
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Don't worry about being a 'unicorn.' Random strangers on the internet who act like you're victimising them by not being their perfect woman aren't worth considering in the slightest. If you want to save sex for marriage or a serious commitment, that's grand, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, but don't let the opinions of men who, for your own sake, I hope you'll never meet influence your decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/18 08:50 PM
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Not to what I'm using my relationship with her to illustrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/18 03:02 AM
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If someone has that kind of mindset they could just as easily accuse you for refusing to be their mentor. I am not giving advice on how to avoid a tiny minority of crazy co-workers, I'm explaining how mentorship doesn't have to involve putting yourself in a compromising position with your mentee.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/18 02:56 AM
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My point was that it's very possible to have a mentor/mentee relationship without meeting in private and while maintaining professional boundaries, so her gender and your point aren't relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/18 02:39 AM
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Putting it that plainly was a way to demonstrate how easy it actually is to avoid. Though given that the vast majority of #metoo complaints involve touching or attempts at seduction at the very least, clearly it's 'patronizing bullshit' that most men need to hear. lrn2professionalboundary morons.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 09:05 PM
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--doesn't want more kids with her husband because he's a simpering unattractive BB People who believe in AF/BB usually argue that a big part of the reason that women marry BB later in life largely to get resources to raise kids. It makes no sense to me to say women marry for resources to raise children but then abort those children because the husband is the kind of man who provides her with resources. The limiting factor in such a situation would be more likely to be finances, energy and time r…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 06:45 PM
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What kind of mentoring are you people doing that puts you at risk of being accused of rape? My PhD supervisor remains one of my most trusted and influential professional mentors and I've never met her 1 on 1 outside a public place or her lab/ office (have been to her house but her husband and kids were there.) If you see potential in someone do it, just don't do stupid shit like touch them or come on to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 06:06 PM
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There are often things that your partner is enthusiastic about that you're not. Dedicating time to doing them despite that is a sign of affection for your partner. And doing it on valentine's day doesn't mean you don't do it the rest of the year either. My partner buys me vegan chocolates as a nice gesture throughout the year. Should I throw a hissy fit because he gets them for me on valentine's too?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 03:19 PM
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Not 'allowing him to have sex,' indulging specific fantasies in a way that caters to your partner. And baking something time consuming that your partner likes is a perfectly good present, especially when coupled with a nice dinner, and especially if that's what your partner actually wants. If the men you know would rather have flowers and jewellery then more power to them, but that's not what the vast majority of men I know want, and giving them something they don't value because of some arbitra…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 03:05 PM
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Aside from women being more likely to be stay at home spouses and not necessarily having as big an income, in my experience men prefer gifts in the form of kinky sex and baked goods. NAMALT I'm sure, but enough men are like that that I can see it affecting expenditure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 02:52 PM
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Aye, it's much less creepy to leave bitchy comments under an alt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/18 03:01 AM
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As with rape/sexual assault, it depends on the level of drunkeness. If you have a couple of beers, are mildly tipsy and then cheat then you aren't getting any sympathy from me. If you're practically unconscious (or actually unconscious) then it's a different story. There is a big grey area between those two extremes, but that's for the involved parties (partners, law enforcement, etc) to work out depending on individual circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 07:16 PM
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I hope that this is a joke. Actually, I hope it's not a joke, 'cause this would be a great r/TheBluePill crosspost.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 11:39 AM
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99/100 men won't invite you out to hang either (and thank God for that, that much forced social interaction would kill me.) People who do that aren't treating you at a baseline 'human' level, they're expressing an interest in deeper friendship or the desire to fuck you. Ignoring someone beyond maybe holding the door for them if they're coming behind you is treating someone like they're 'human.'
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 11:25 AM
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It's only racist if you're English.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 01:11 AM
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I can't get off unless I imagine myself in an Irish flag cape tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 01:08 AM
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Who knows, it was so fucking dreadful that I couldn't get through the first episode
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/18 07:23 PM
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I used to baby sit for a family of three boys in my mid teens and 'IF YOU DON'T STOP (x behaviour) I'LL CALL THE PEOPLE AND HAVE YOU TAKEN AWAY' was not an irregular threat from the ma. I have heard other similar stories from friends, although most of them found it funny in retrospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 05:30 PM
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I feel the same in the big picture, but finding single socks down the side of the sofa does make me momentarily despair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 07:38 AM
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If you're living with someone you supposedly love, it should be no problem to put the socks in the fucking washing basket once in a while, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 09:32 PM
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Or just raises testosterone and makes you want her more. Just like riding Chad makes women love their husbands more
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 08:53 PM
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Aye, if I were single. I quite like kids but don't want my own biological children so it would be a nice compromise. My partner has a son, but he didn't really have a hand in raising him and his son is only like a year and half younger than me so it didn't really affect our relationship the way an actual child would (beyond me getting mad when he visits and eats all my vegan baked stuff.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/18 05:07 PM
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I think a lot of it has to do with how men and women deal with the 'grieving' stage after a relationship. Women seem more likely to mourn the relationship at the time, meaning they're sad immediately after but work through it. My (straight male) friends do things very differently, and usually do their best to block the feelings out, either through drinking, partying or throwing themselves into work, and seem like they're over it much faster, but when something from the past sets them off in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 08:18 PM
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How do you see someone being introspective? Stacy could be introspecting all day, but you wouldn't know it unless she changes her behaviour in a way that you agree that she should.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 07:48 PM
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A good proportion of my friends who party LTR or are engaged to girls who do the same. You don't attract a dour churchman who wants to marry in 6 months by downing 20 shots and hitting the strip pole of a shitty club, but a fling with your average fun party guy can easily turn into an LTR if you're well matched and do your partying with him once you're together
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 08:47 AM
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Actual example: my mate and I waited outside the toilet for a girl he was talking to and she came out and went 'god, stop following me, you're such a creep' giggle Also have had girls come up to us in the smoking area when we were chatting to their mates and go 'who are these creeps?' This is one thing I 100% do not relate to reddit about. My mates jokingly discuss 'creeping' on girls all the time and the ones who have been called it by and large don't let it deter them unless the tone is very s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/18 08:53 PM
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It absolutely does not damage reputation in an irreversible way provided that you don't act like you deserve the title and you don't flip your shit when you hear about it. Creep used in a non-serious way is often just an expression of mild annoyance at worst and can even be flirtatious (I've seen friends go home with girls who called them creepers at the start of their interactions.) Unless the accusation is made in a deadly serious tone you have a lot of control over how far it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/18 08:33 PM
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My nan said that men should always marry women younger than them because women mature faster and will resent having a man who reminds her of her children getting in her way. I clearly weirdly internalised this in some twisted way despite being gay as I'm now engaged to a man 16 years older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/18 08:22 PM
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A partner with a high body count may have 'sewn their wild oats' and be ready to settle down, whereas a low n count person who wanted to sleep around but never got the chance might always have one foot out the door waiting for the chance to expand their portfolio. As ever, this is largely dependent on the individual and their reasons for sleeping around/ not sleeping around, as some party people never want to stop and some people who refuse to do so are just natural monogamists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 09:25 PM
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Ultimately it's up to the parents, but I would say that generally the woman's if unmarried because she made the damn thing and they are generally primary custodians of children born out of wedlock, whatever the family name is if the couple are married and share a surname and double barreled or personal preference if both kept their surnames. Any parent whose surname is not used should have their surname kept as a middle name, and the child can make a decision later on as to whether they want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/18 12:55 PM
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1) Men usually marry for companionship... The kind of companionship you get from your friends and the kind you get from your SO is completely different (unless you're spooning and cuddling your friends, in which case I have news about your 'bachelor' lifestyle.) 2) Bachelor apartments usually help each other out... No splitting of duties, just easy bro organization without needing to fight about it. HAHAHA no. I have lived in a house with my friends before. I can assure you that this is no more …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/18 06:38 PM
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I am explaining the pitfalls of loser men as that was the focus of the question. The question is not asking 'loser women, why are you undatable?', as much as you would like it to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 11:17 PM
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And no, I don't think it made the issue worse, they would have picked on him anyway if they'd already started doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 09:35 PM
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Virgin isn't a taunt in this case, it's a description. And not 'incapable,' but certainly less capable than someone with experience, i.e. the sister after dating in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 09:30 PM
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I understand sexual dynamics just fine, I just don't understand being cruel enough to ignore your own sister (apart from for handouts) for 8 years because she was more popular than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 09:28 PM
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He's a fucking terrible brother. My brother and I hate each other's lifestyles and argue about it frequently, but he wouldn't cut me off over something so petty, nor would I do the same to him. Also, his sister not dating in high school wouldn't have helped him, he's just looking for an excuse to feel bitter because she's better looking than him. And I'm a BP male.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 09:02 PM
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How would her friendless virgin brother help her find high quality men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 09:02 PM
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Not a terp, but if you are a RPW it makes perfect sense to be married. Think about it this way; if you believe the core tenets of TRP most men are happiest plate spinning and most women are happiest with commitment from a high value man. So if you were a lady terp who wanted to maximise her own happiness, your best course of action is to find a high value, non - TRP aware man and secure his commitment before he gets too into plate spinning, and marriage before he hits his terp-supposed prime is …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 08:48 PM
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Gay agenda. If we don't keep it exclusive then ugly people will infiltrate the ranks, and we can't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 05:12 PM
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Sure, but this thread is about dating male losers, hence my emphasis on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 05:05 PM
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This is basically what I was going to say, but I would add that sometimes guys who've failed romantically throughout their lives will take their bitterness out on their SO, even if they have the best of intentions to start with. My sort-of-boyfriend before my current partner hadn't done anything romantic with anyone before me, and if I did something he didn't like I'd get treated to a 'you're just like them' kind of rant. My partner is like the polar opposite of inexperienced and treats me way w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 09:27 PM
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A high would be finally sorting out exactly when my partner and I are going to get married. A 'something big, unsure if good or bad' would be my partner and I planning a move next year. Probably mostly good because I don't like the city we live in, but I'll also be leaving my friends behind. There were bad points too, but that's not something I'd like to broadcast across PPD as people have a habit of using your posts against you here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 06:15 PM
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Why do you visit PPD? I originally came because I like a good fight sometimes, and stayed because I became friendly with a lot of the other posters Do you occasionally find yourself dejected or put in a foul mood by the opinions expressed here? Certain topics upset me, but it's no worse discussing them on PPD than elsewhere. If anything, the edgelord act some people put on makes it harder for me to take them seriously, meaning their comments don't really affect me. Why do you keep coming back? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 06:10 PM
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All he needs to do is lead them half way across the ocean, then the waves can come crashing down and save us all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 05:46 AM
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Once she's trapped in the sack, do you really need to worry about pleasing her anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 03:14 AM
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You can't imply you're gonna insult her and then back down like that. The people demand their popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 03:10 AM
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The enjoyment part is the hardest to believe. Because of course they say they do, they're not going to be like 'lol my regulars are shit, pay more plz'
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 03:06 AM
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One girl is undervaluing herself by at least 190 quid a go and the other by at least 200
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 03:04 AM
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I am in love with sexy benighted grandmothers who knit, also I really like young girls bobs and vagene I relate to half of this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 03:02 AM
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I've already partied, I'm too old to party past 2am GMT (and partner is too old to party past 1.) Happy new year suckaaaas
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:52 AM
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Was Hermione ginger? No? Then Ron is reaching #harshtruths
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:45 AM
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I'll read that fan fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:43 AM
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Looksmatch at least, js
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:43 AM
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Ron gets dat hot nerd puss though, so there's hope for everyone (even gingers)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 02:40 AM
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Aww thank you :P
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/17 01:18 AM
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(1) Do you believe that "getting it out of your system" is actually necessary? Do you believe that it is necessary for the majority of people? Do you believe that it is equally necessary for both sexes? I don't think it's necessary for most people, but I do think it's advantageous for a significant minority across both sexes. My partner played the field for a long time before we got together, and I think if he hadn't exhausted himself a bit on the hook up scene then we wouldn't have lasted. (2) …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 12:54 PM
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It upsets me if people say bad things about him because it makes me feel like I've misrepresented him in some way or that I'm betraying him in some manner by associating with them (which may not make sense, but it's the feeling I get when it happens.) As for people feeling sexual desire towards him, I hate that other people are attracted to him, but on the other hand I know looking good makes him feel good, so I wouldn't want to take that away from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 12:40 PM
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Lewis is planning on beating him to the punch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 04:32 PM
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I'm not judging him on the quality of his book, which I will never, ever read, I'm judging him on the quality of every article I've ever read by him. It's hardly sour grapes, I don't have any beef with him other than thinking he's an idiot who is given far too much attention
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 11:26 AM
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poor Milo Two words that should never be put next to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 11:17 AM
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In the hands of someone who can actually write maybe. In the hands of Milo, the editor would actually have rewrite the entire thing before it came to the point of being useful for anything other than lining a guinea pig's cage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 11:17 AM
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Seems legit enough to me. Maybe Milo should write better, then people wouldn't have to tell him that his book is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/17 06:51 AM
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especially, if your partner was in the closet at that time My partner has never 'been in the closet' to my knowledge, he spent most of boarding school fucking around with other guys apparently From what I can gather at boarding school it's mostly about establishing a hierarchy, getting and maintaining social influence and bonding with peers over picking on others
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 01:45 AM
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Being an arsehole to people younger than you is like a boarding school tradition. Posh people gonna posh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 01:25 AM
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Foiled again!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 12:55 AM
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If you only count the kind of English words that appear in a dictionary, then partner might have a slight edge on me 'cause posh. Throw in the Norn Iron dialect and I practically have a whole language over him that he can barely understand. EDIT: also, both of us are in specialised but very different careers, so each of us knows a bunch of jargon that the other wouldn't be familiar with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 12:44 AM
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Ikr? My partner talks fondly about spending his boarding school days bullying younger years in ways that would probably contravene human rights treaties. And at my considerably less posh boys only catholic school everybody just drank, smoked and beat the shite out of each other. Women are, if anything, a civilising influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/17 12:25 AM
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I don't understand this whole 'women can't deal with spiders' thing. I know women who hate spiders, but they deal with that hatred by squishing them with shoes and newspaper if there isn't anyone else in the vicinity, they wouldn't actively call someone over to do it. That said, you guys have way more more spider species that bite over there, so maybe the women are just being smart and not taking the risk. EDIT: I have decided to dub the desire of women to find a man who can kill spiders for her…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 11:53 PM
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What kind of hobbies does she (or he, to flip it to something more relevant to me) have? I could live with someone who dgaf about their career as long as they're doing something interesting with their spare time (though living with parents might be a deal breaker.)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 05:35 PM
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One of my ex-husbands used to spend a lot of time primping and preening in front of the mirror and buying expensive fedoras The image this conjures up in my mind is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 01:19 PM
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While there were comments on these (clearly fake) posts that attacked Marc, the majority of the most upvoted comments were just telling her to leave him due to the fact that he wouldn't commit to her and didn't love her. This seems pretty accurate from her telling of the story and would be advice that I'd give to anyone whose goals were incompatible with their partner's (obviously the best advice would 'build a time machine and don't try to change his mind for more than 6 months,' but she doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 01:04 PM
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While perusing social media, I see loads of self-made pornography featuring young women pleasuring themselves with dildos that few if not any men would ever measure up to. I'm talking 12"L x 7-8"G What kind of social media do you go on?!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/17 12:48 PM
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What attack? I'm confused, her comment seemed pretty neutral to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/17 10:35 PM
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Because if you're 'short/ autistic /ugly/ feminine/ have a bad personality/ boring etc' (although I would add 'fat' in there as well because there are plenty of young men ruined by their weight) and can't fix that for some reason then you likely won't have the opportunity for a romantic relationship unless you go for someone of similar attractiveness, and relationships have the benefits of a/ regular sex b/ emotional support c/emotional fulfillment (provided you actually like your fat gf and are…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/17 10:25 PM
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most men still aren't LGBTQ (as much as the blue pill wishes they were) Have you seen the average straight man? Ick. You guys can keep them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 06:17 PM
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Ugly nose, forehead too large, eyes too small. Don't get me wrong, weight aside he's not hideous, and maybe if he wasn't so massive those things could be overlooked, especially as it's possible his underlying bone structure could make up for it (we can't tell enough at this weight,) but he's very far from having a 'great' face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 01:18 AM
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