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9

Omg the playing computer is spot on! But if they want to date someone they really like, suddenly they are not shy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:39 PM
14

Yup! Don’t do shy guys. Eh. They’re not worth it. Years later, they will be in deep depression because they haven’t made anything for themselves. So nah. And they are definitely not sensitive to your needs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:37 PM
9

Omg pickme me: I should be grateful that he’s comfortable enough with me to show his true colour 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:58 AM
13

And they say women are emotional or some Karen shit. Nah men do the same thing! Even worse. Same. I will just meh and don’t go there anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:36 AM
104

Omg yes the ‘chicks’ like wtf ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:16 AM
160

Tf that’s a horror story😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:54 AM
43

Omg ugh so glad that my ex didn’t do shit like this. Wouldn’t last a few months if I had to deal with shit like that. Even my teen younger brother can keep his bed tidy. Fr we gotta leave men like this alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:17 PM
48

Of fk. My ex was always frustrated with his dad omg😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:12 AM
21

Yes omg! Watched MAID woah definitely saw lots of red flags! Good show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:09 AM
22

Glad to know that that they called him out like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:47 AM
11

“You replace him” yes sis! I just lol because I love it! Good. Yess no need to waste time! They’d do it, if they want to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:59 AM
9

Ew wtf how can he be so shameless? Tf ew I cringe reading this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:30 PM
12

Yes this! And they are having less sex than before. But then they will become incels. Sigh, we can never win. They think having sex is a given, basic right for them. 😳. Like no. Nobody died from not having sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:23 PM
18

Yesss omg so cringe that they just let their other head to do the thinking like tf you are not some animal! And they say women are so emotional. Yeah right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:04 PM
14

They’d probably fk chicken sandwich too so yeah damn. I can’t. Just trying to imagine doing it with someone I am not attracted makes me cringe. I can’t. We should call out men who have high body count. They be collecting STDs like collecting pokemons. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:01 PM
4

Yesss! They always somehow manage to make it about themselves! Sigh. I also have small not so obvious bald patch but meh it’s just hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:59 AM
19

Nooo omg😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:25 PM
3

Nope. Not normal. Who the heck does that? Slapping hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:20 AM
23

Yesss for Hugh Jackman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:11 PM
6

Ooh I love this! I have a soft spot for Oscar Wilde❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:01 PM
161

Yes yes omg. I will keep this question in mind! Did he ever help you to level up? Or better yet, I’ll just leave the past behind. I’mma move on and keep asking is he helping me to level up? Does he look like he will do that? If not then, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:33 PM
246

The moment I see “beta male” I just yikes nah this guy is a waste of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:45 PM
20

😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:03 AM
3

Nah don’t date them. Once they hit big, they will just leave for someone better. They probably even see you as a loser for choosing them when they were not doing well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:04 PM
2

Omg cries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:58 PM
27

Yessss! Just the slight increase in their tone should already be a red flag! Just run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:28 PM
10

Wtf slapping is normal? Why? Wth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:34 PM
78

Sometimes I feel like some men are too honest to the point of stupidity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:11 AM
158

You said exactly what I wanna say. Wtf ew grosss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:23 PM
14

Ew. Why. Do oral or other stuff. Why are these women making it so easy for men? Then men feel bad/inadequate and leave them. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:58 AM
7

Wow the age gap is already showing me this is a NVM. Omg. 100 dollar is not much tbh for a nice Italian restaurant ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:35 PM
1

Oh god. Glad I got dumped. Yesss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:36 AM
26

I didnt know applying for grad school could be so easy done and a full grant at that. Where did I do wrong? Hmmmmm? Or having a side business where it just works well but you don’t know what you are doing? This post sounds like a fake or the guy is just 🤨🤨🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:57 PM
14

Yep. He probably thinks he can do better. Sigh. Why do women put up with men like that? Really hope it’s not true tho. I don’t think I could go in a relationship and see the other person struggle so much without helping at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:09 PM
18

Spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:54 PM
9

I love it omg. Thank you so much! Gonna explore more on her works. And this is the my most favourite part of the podcast where she said this: “Read as much as you can from the anti-porn feminist position and never sell yourself short. Never settle. You are too important. You are too precious and you deserve more than to settle for some guy who's not gonna treat you the way that you deserved to be treated. Absolutely not. You know what one day, you will look in the mirror if you do that, and you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:24 AM
1

This omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:51 AM
6

Aw damn right those eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:32 PM
3

Well fk. You guys are gonna kill me with this. This is the funniest thing I’ve in a while. It’s funny because it’s so cringe and sad. Omg. It’s almost 3 am here and I am dying holding my laughter in😭. Why men are so funny and sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:47 PM
25

Yup. I tried my best to not get on his nerves because who would want to get someone upset. Then he gets upset that I didn’t support him emotionally when he needed it, and it’s just me being me. And then after that said that I should tell him about things that I don’t like and be true to myself cause now I “lost” him. 🤡Goddamn. I will be flexible af if I did gymnastic as much as my mind did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:04 PM
5

Where was she 7 years ago? I needed this. It’s never too late tho! 🔥👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:46 PM
2

Omg I am so grateful that my ex never wanted to do anal. I feel so bad for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:05 PM
26

Ugh. Omg. That “I’m a good person” statement. I should have known and just run off. What a waste of my energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:46 AM
108

😭. Out of nowhere suddenly befriending and hanging out with a married female colleague to avoid me because I don’t “support” him emotionally. Yeah right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:39 AM
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Omg same. It always me who has to reach out. It’s fine taking some time off but for days or weeks? Goodness. I can’t. That’s how trauma bonding develop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:35 AM
4

Ooh yes. I wish everyone can enjoy just doing things doesn’t matter if they are feminine or masculine. I enjoy dressing both styles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:43 AM
6

Same sis. They should learn how to cook. Everyone should know how to cook. Simple meals will do. You can’t survive on microwave meals. That’s depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:36 AM
10

Yes! If they ask for Dutch or 50/50 just pay and then block delete. No men should be so fussy paying for food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:33 AM
9

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:33 PM
6

Yes. Ding ding. “Predict their behaviour and recognise inconsistencies”. Thank you. I know something was up. Gosh me and my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:10 PM
2

Yup. Journaling helped me to put into perspective that we were just not compatible and just stressing me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:05 PM
1

Oh wow the overly veiny hands. I’m making a mental note on that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:00 AM
29

I just laughed. How ridiculous! Ugh. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:53 AM
3

I agree with Meditations. I am on a stoic sub, and it’s an issue as well people misunderstanding about regulating emotions to not having any feelings at all. I think in the end, whatever book you get, you only see what you want to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:51 AM
15

Ugh the removing one stresses me out especially mascara. I just die a little every time I try to remove it so much time wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:00 PM
20

Oh wow I look like shit working out hahahha. Why would you sweat in make up it’s so uncomfortable. And you will need to wipe your sweat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:52 PM
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Aww thank you mods for doing all the handwork!I am so happy to be a part of this subreddit❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:28 AM
1

😂😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:51 AM
10

Oh absolutely. He told me his password and let me reply to messages when he's driving. And he knew my password too. But we both never bothered to snoop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:12 AM
3

Yes. Just bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:55 AM
7

Ugh the stonewalling. Immediate shutdown. I got panic attacks because of this. Thank you for this post helps to clear what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:34 PM
6

😍😉damn hun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:00 PM
20

Omg same. I don’t like hair or beard much. I don’t mind height as long as they are taller than me. And I am short
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:36 AM
10

😂Me! Just a projection jeez they don’t say that when they buy their expensive gadgets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:09 PM
57

Eh that guy is weird af. A whole week has even passed. Dump his ass. And he old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:27 AM
26

Hahahahaha I cry whenever I see the age gap and they are so vehement to say this. Even a 4 year gap I could already feel the difference in interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:39 AM
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I am dying from laughing. Maybe more dolls should be created. Let these LVMs breed out of existence by themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:21 AM
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Yes. Just dump his ass. If he can live and clean up after himself while staying with others why can’t he do it after getting married or getting a gf? Nothing changed. You still need to eat and clean after yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:09 AM
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Omg your comment give me life! And he’s so weird and creepy. I’d be so uncomfortable working out at the same gym with him. I just hope he won’t do anything cause they really hate it when women laugh at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:01 PM
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They do it too! But I will never go around harming someone. Just move on. Just a bad day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:45 PM
2

Yup. Shulamith Firestone did elaborate how child rearing should be in done in a smaller community. Nuclear family is just not sustainable and unfair for the mother. It’s laughable how US and Japan are worrying about low birth rate and they are actively trying to pressure women into giving birth but failing to see that theres not enough support for women after giving birth. And men certainly don’t do enough to support their wives especially with taking care of the household. Yes. I am only prepar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:05 PM
1

Well if someone really want one then sure go ahead. But it’s not a secret having a child is costly. Even giving birth in USA is costly. And that’s just giving birth. And when I said only people who have the resources and money should give birth, I was thinking of more on the mother’s side especially for working mothers. You do not want to let go of you career just because you have to take care of a child for the first few years and then end up having difficulty to return to work. You can see thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:58 AM
9

😭they are so sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:48 AM
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Yup that’s it. “Porn cheapens and degrades sex.” Instead of loving each other and enjoying the awkwardness, we got resentful why was it not as easy as in porn. And that’s when I know porn just ruins your sex life. And the fact that exploitation happens and that someone is being abused and pushed beyond their limit. It’s damaging and dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:47 AM
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Same. I just want a self-regulating man who try his best to be the best of himself and love me for real while I also level up. Not the eh please be my therapist and resent me when I can’t be one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:15 AM
56

Well the fact that some of them don’t wipe their ass or clean their penis properly still shocks me. I just knew this this year and I died a bit. Animals clean better than them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:03 PM
65

What? No? Omg. How does that happen? Thank goodness, I am not into beard!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:48 PM
71

Woah why is he so mad? And 6 children? How about we swap the gender. Maybe he will feel better😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:45 PM
94

Yes! And I am like yes thank you for calling me baby😂. But true, gotta love myself more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:33 PM
18

Great article! I just think having kids is a privilege. Not everyone can do it. Only people have the money and resources should be free to have kids. Like having a housekeeper and a nanny costs money. Otherwise, you are just producing kids with unhealthy behaviours and get yourself harmed in the process mentally, physically and emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:56 AM
1

I definitely be one of the boys if I could enjoy eating cod dinner together with them! Hah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:29 PM
2

Oh wow. Lots of good points! Thank you for this. I agree with all. Especially shorter and more flexible working hours. Even as single person, I can barely take care of myself. Taking care of another person and a man-baby? No sir bye. Pointless job yes. So much resource waste on ads. It’s hard. We might as well be long dead as a species before any real change can take place. Although, I am still hopeful especially when I see subs like FDS and anti porn exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:49 PM
41

“He put his finger up she needed to be quiet and wait” Nani?! Hahhahahaha man, I wish have half of her optimism!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:15 PM
8

Whats cod? Fish?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:33 AM
61

I know someone who went through the same shit. She was young, barely finishing her high school and her older scrote did this. She got pregnant and eventually married him. Now they are separated. Don’t trust men. Never ever get off BC especially if they request you to! A glaring red flag! And condom is not enough especially when they do shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:33 AM
9

Never again! I will just bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:36 AM
7

😂😹I’m dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:14 AM
8

Yes! I’ve been saying this! Really upset me when a man ask me what my love language is. Nope. All okay all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:12 AM
32

Ew I didn’t have to know this😭. Why are they so weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:54 PM
38

Is this fake? Cause I can’t. I can’t even figure out what’s on his mind when typing this out. Each day, I am getting more embarrassed for them. Omg. I so wanna tell his GF like the tiktok video, “Sis, dump his ass.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:59 AM
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Yeah I got a permanent ban from a dating subreddit. Never even been there😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:57 AM
8

Thank you for the article! It’s in everywhere omg. Even in shampoo and body wash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:54 PM
10

I am in my late 20s and some teenagers can’t still believe my age. My colleague who is early 20s look like some dad. And some acquaintances the same age as me are woah they look like 30 plus and I am being generous. My gay friend looks younger cause he takes care of himself better. Where are these men who dont use any product and have better skin? Where? Let me see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:36 PM
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Yes. Hold that standard higher. If I can stop watching it, then men can too. So what if we are gonna be single forever? It’s better than being stuck with a porn addict who cannot view women more than an object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:19 AM
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I have one friend who doesn’t watch porn because he just doesn’t feel it right. He just wasn’t interested. I wish we didn’t normalise watching porn so much to the point that he becomes the weird one when in reality he is the only one sane enough to not watch it. So yes I agree. We can do better than lowering our standards. Plus letting men who watch porn into our life will only destroy our relationship because they have different expectation and view on sex. Sex can no longer be an intimate mome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:04 AM
2

Thank you for this comment. It’s definitely harder to achieve being content with how you look if there are options to completely enhance your looks. And it’s scary that more women are beginning to look the same because of plastic surgery while men can get away with having a dad bod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:15 AM
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I just snorted hahahha! Yes. You see attractive women everywhere and their partner? Ugh. They look like trolls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:08 AM
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This. I just asked whether she’s free to watch movie with me. No pressure if she isn’t. She said later. Well the later never came and I waited. I just watched the movie on my own and had fun. So from now on, I will just do things on my own. It’s not so hard to say, “hey, I am not in the mood to watch”. I am not a kid. I can understand if people don’t feel like doing something. And this isn’t the first time it had happened. So I am done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:40 AM
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Not sure we have it in my country but will definitely look for that some day. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:46 PM
8

Yup. I just want one person. Gotta drill this in my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:43 PM
3

Exactly! I was like wtf is he on about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:57 AM
10

Oof that comment. So much effort just to say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:00 PM
14

Thank you for these links. Not American but they do help me to notice my internal bias against women as well. And understand how working women have to be super aware of how to behave just right without compromising what they want and how they present themselves. Tough world tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:18 PM
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I would have love them to say what they don’t like about my behaviour and how it doesn’t help them just like how I was being honest about theirs. But no, they just let their resentment festered and then they blew up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:08 PM
5

Yes this. They wont be able to even feed themselves properly. Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:30 PM
4

I just wanna walk a dog. Maybe I will find nearby shelter to help out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:49 AM
8

Omg the bedsheet part wtf. What a jerk. My ex was at least generous enough knowing I am still studying. But even then I know he’s the 50/50 guy. And rather spend more money on his gadgets. And yes he was short too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:43 AM
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Yup. Growing up we were told to cook, clean etc. cause it’s our job while boys can play and just be kids. Gee I wonder why boys mature so slow🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:51 AM
6

After 7 years and suddenly he is confused. Of fk off mate😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:39 AM
18

Ugh. The “I am a horrible person” excuse. Fucking hell. Made me even feel guilty for calling him out on his behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:18 AM
3

This. Thank you for this comment. I keep thinking of my codependency because I got clingy towards the end of my breakup 🤮 and try to attribute it to my childhood, maybe I didn’t get enough love and attention etc. It sounds plausible sure but idk the attachment theory gives me the same feeling when I read love languages. Just some pyschobabble to affect women negatively. I could be entirely wrong of course. It also reminds of me of the Freud’s Oedipus and Electra Complex. He did write something e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:18 AM
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Yikes. The part that they need your reassurance they are a good person. Um if you feel that you are useless or bad, you should probably seek a therapist and work on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:48 PM
2

Yup this is what I did. Cause I didn’t want to deal with going through my gallery and deleting pictures. Will have to do that eventually tho! Plus, my phone was no longer updating. So new me new phone😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:43 AM
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I cringed and I don’t think I ever did baby voice even when I was with my ex. My soul died a bit listening to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:39 AM
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Oof god I remember one of my customers saying I am a lecturer in this uni! A well known public uni. Hinting she deserved to be treated extra special than the rest. So? It doesn’t give you the right to be an entitled prig. And ironically, I am studying in the same uni!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:37 AM
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Oh I have this when I deal with customers. Overfriendly tone🤣🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:24 AM
13

My goodness the nude painting is so pretty! Yes this is what I want. I just want to appreciate my body as it is. Gonna include it in my bucket list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:19 AM
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For me, I just want someone to paint me naked and show it off on my wall as some vanity painting😂😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:58 AM
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Man. I should have asked these questions too cause he did ask me about my finance. I have so much to learn on how to date properly. Makes me wanna abandon the whole thing and remain single for the rest of my life😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:55 AM
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This omg. He ghosted me a few months then suddenly contacted me out of nowhere. And then he said, “hey you’ve changed” when I no longer wanted anything to do with him. Like wtf? Like I’d wait for him like a sad mopey dog. No Dickie. I don’t care if you have bipolar. You don’t just disappear and come again like it’s nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:42 PM
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Thank you so much for this post! I was mortified reading and then relieved towards the end because it could have been me too! He kept moving the goalpost and just being stagnant. I am so glad you are in a better place now. I look forward to see myself there too🌹❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:25 PM
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Yes. This. Work then do nothing else. Then complain they ain’t going anywhere. Eh okay sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:41 PM
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They always say “Dunno”. Like okay Mr. Dunno. And had the audacity to get upset I cannot connect emotionally to them🥱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:14 PM
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I asked my ex to remind me one thing. Nope he can’t🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:12 PM
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😭reminds me of someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:38 AM
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Thank you for the link. It’s an interesting read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:32 PM
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I wish my ex would just be honest and say I am not in the right place to be in a relationship now instead of saying I didn’t give him the emotional support when he needed one. Because I suggested him to find ways to improve his career. And even then, he did not say he needed emotional support rather than suggestion. I think he resented me for that and started to stonewall me and basically started to avoid me. Even hanging out more often at his female colleague’s house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:40 AM
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Yes. Unsubscribe. I only have like less than ten subreddits now. It’s so nice. Even if I see suggestion like dating sub, I just opt not to see it ever again☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:04 PM
5

Gosh I so wish to tell my 20 year old to just focus on studying and no dating. Thank goodness I did keep my grades above average. Our relationship did feel like I was a child and he was an adult even tho the gap wasn’t so big. Now I gotta focus on finding myself and my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:36 PM
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Is that why they said life starts at 40 for men? Hhahhaahaha I will just die alone. It’s okay👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:56 PM
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😭👌🏻 I am crying for Brent too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:32 AM
14

For me, focusing on how to get financially stable so that just remove all the need for male validation. I don’t have enough time to think about them tbh. And if those moments do come up, I just question myself, “Great, but what can they really offer to you?” May not answer your question but hope it helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:44 AM
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Omg I’m cackling! I specifically said I am not looking for anything flirty etc and bam here’s my 7inch ding dong. Hun. It’s just a piece of meat. It’s so rude. And they wonder why they can’t get female friendships. And as someone who enjoys just talking to people it’s hard because they always manage to steer the conversation to something sexual. Like uh I just, why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:35 AM
7

That’s good enough! Sorry about that colleague. Honestly, we don’t need more friends. Just a few high quality female friendships will do. Yes! We can talk about FDS and levelling up. Or just chat whatever we want. Anyone who wants to just talk are welcome to DM me as well! And no worries about dipping out cause we are all busy levelling up😌😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:10 AM
3

Now I wanna buy a ring for myself too! It’s so pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:59 PM
17

Yes! My male friend said, “Now you have more money to spend on yourself.” That was his response to my breakup. And I am not even in a state to spend money on someone else. Just gotta work to be financially stable first! The rest will come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:57 PM
19

You can do it! Start small with being thoughtful to your female colleagues or reconnecting with your female friends. I recently spend more time playing game with my best friend even though I could be doing something else. And I enjoyed it! Way less stressful playing with my ex who gets easily frustrated when I played horribly. I also made a dinner plan with a female acquaintance even though I am not that close to her and I can be awkward. Just be nice and you will do fine! And if you want, you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:52 PM
15

Aww this is so sweet. I am so happy for you. Makes me feel hopeful for HVM. Good luck on your keto journey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:13 PM
5

But I like emojis🥺. But true. Just be blunt and things get done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:52 PM
7

Oh I absolutely feel the same way. At least we could learn from this. But if it wasn’t carried over to FDS, nobody would have appreciated it. Maybe irl we strive not to do this with any LVMs. Just block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:53 PM
1

Thank you! I look forward to that day. Really happy that everyone on this sub is so helpful ❤️😭💐🌹🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:41 PM
5

Yes. Thank you so much for this. Really appreciate it. I’m really grateful that I prioritised myself and my education first. Otherwise, it could have been really bad. Honestly, we were both in no place to date to begin with. Still working on ourselves. But lesson learned! I have a lot to unpack. This is why, I’m so glad FDS exists. I am healing better with helpful and supportive FDS members. I am happy that we get to learn and help each other to level up. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:48 PM
4

I am proud to say I have read one and almost finished with another in this list. I look forward to read more books and your list looks good! Thank you for this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:05 AM
63

This! No need long paragraphs. I learned that the hard way. What a waste of time and energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:53 AM
11

Omg I am dead😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:02 AM
9

I wish I have seen this comment before getting into a relationship with someone who has been working relatively long as a part-timer for his age and he has a uni degree too! I didn’t see anything wrong with that because I was in my early 20s and still studying. Believing he will work harder to improve himself. Welp 7 years passed by and in the end I got dumped. So yup just gonna focus on myself and if there’s a HVM out for me, good. If not, then I will be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:35 AM
23

Gotta keep this in mind if I ever get back to dating🤞🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:21 AM
20

Welp time for me to unsubscribe it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:19 AM
15

Thank you for this comment. I shouldn’t feel bad for getting jealous. I should have trusted my gut and yes he’s emotionally cheating whatever the fuck he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:42 AM
19

Oh wow. Can I use just this excuse every time I don’t feel like doing anything? Like if someone ask for help, I’mma just reply, “I’m shy”. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:49 PM
30

Exactly. Told my ex to get a vasectomy cause he’s 100 percent sure of not having a child. Then he kinda went quiet. Like if you really think about it, not matter who you are sleeping around with, the risk is always there. So why not cut it and be worry free. Instead of pressuring women to get BC or abortion and damaging their body. Be a responsible adult if that’s what you really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:38 PM
15

Sometimes I feel like, can they just get the snip? If they are so scared about having us baby-trapping them. No BC is foolproof so foolproof yourself. Get the snip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:32 PM
2

Yes! I can’t stand even stand the smell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:33 AM
10

Why do they always have these weird fetishes😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:26 AM
37

I just converted that to KG. Holy shit! 68kg? I gained like 5kg and I already feel uncomfortable. How do they just gain 68kg and be okay with it? And I read that men lose weight waaay easier than women so idk I guess they work really hard in letting go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:16 AM
6

Wow. Does this guy really don’t have other stuff to do than trying to poison his gf? The whole elaborate scheming and acting it out, it’s just horrifying. I am alarmed such person can even exist. Just pure evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:16 AM
4

Thank you for this post! I wish my mum was into reflecting her life and try to have more fun on her own. She has so much to explore with her life instead of focusing on something futile. And just because she’s older doesn’t mean life just stop for her! And yes! I gotta work hard to become the main star of my own movie🤞🏻😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:54 PM
14

I will just give up finding a partner. It scares me that I can get so sick just from being physical with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:09 AM
4

Like for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:36 PM
10

Shit. I actively try to improve myself even tho I am super stressed out with my family issues. And he is just there with the same career for almost a decade and not really pushing through it. And then get unhappy with it and blame me for not connecting to him emotionally when I give suggestions to improve. So okay bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:35 PM
6

Yes I needed this! I used to hate explaining myself. Now I need to get back at it. Just keep it short and sweet. Okay. Good. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:23 PM
12

Fk hahahaha nooo😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:58 PM
4

Gosh I am dying to try her hair colour. It’s so fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:27 PM
39

Yes. I just had the thought of this today. A 7-year relationship but I felt like I got a divorce. Too much pain. Still can’t get over him🤦‍♀️. And there’s already guy who is asking me to be his girlfriend knowing I broke up only 1 month plus ago. Like come on give me a break😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:29 PM
13

Yes. I need to keep reminding myself this. You have to bring something in or it’s just a waste of time for me. I might as well be single forever. Free from distraction and inconsistent treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:32 AM
12

Lol😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:02 AM
21

I love this! The art and the words! Such sass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:58 PM
15

🥲same sis same question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:34 AM
14

Yes. That’s the word. Consistency. You gotta show it. Not flip flopping like a fish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:32 AM
5

Same. After all those years. Makes me think to never date again😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:00 AM
11

Omg finally. Thank you so much! Can’t wait to listen to them! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:35 PM
22

Yes please I need some input on this too! A lot of comments on FDS said marriage benefit men more. But at the same time they also say get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:49 PM
3

Thank you for writing this! It really helps! I wish you all the best on your journey to become a badass lawyer!❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:11 AM
2

I too need to know! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:29 AM
4

I am on the verge of wanting to contact my ex😭. So thank you for the book list! Gonna read them instead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:11 AM
6

I am in the same boat. Just focusing on myself more. And undoing whatever people pleasing habits I’ve acquired and trying not to bother what others think so much. It’s hard but we can do this! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:00 AM
7

I need this comment to be ingrained in my brain. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:45 AM
4

Goals!❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:19 AM
2

I am looking forward to where I can afford a therapist! Until then I am gonna work hard improving myself❤️🤞🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:11 AM
8

Omg this. Those movies. Ugh. It’s always the unattractive girls changing and nerdy boys winning. Is this why some women are so hell-bent on changing themselves to become more attractive even to the point of having a plastic surgery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:32 AM
5

I am sorry. I might have answered your question wrongly. Short answer: Yes. Long answer: Anyway, again, is he friends with her since forever? Like do they know each other before he met you? I honestly don’t have the desire to befriend the opposite sex. There’s not much reason to. And yes I do have male friends but usually because I know them from high school. These male friends, I have known them like since I was 13. And even then I just don’t go spend time with them so often. I just don’t have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:29 AM
2

Yes this is the one! I couldnt read it until the end because it’s so bad and encouraged. Please read the reddit post instead. Pm me for the link or you can find it a bit further down from the google search.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:40 AM
15

My ex suddenly was hanging out with a female colleague “friend” and while he’s giving me breadcrumbs attention. We were having issues. Maybe if they have been friends since forever maybe. But if you have to ask this question on reddit he’s probably not the one. Because I would have asked the same thing before. He would never make you feel suspicious, unwanted and insecure even if the relationship is getting rocky. An adult will sit and try to work things out with you. Not just run off to some fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:52 AM
2

Hahhaa yes this happened to me too! Permanently banned! I was so confused because I never even visited that dating sub. I am like eh. Good thing tho. I would probably just waste my time there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:09 PM
23

😂I’m dying👏🏻. A good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:22 PM
3

Aww see they can be sweet and caring🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:11 PM
35

I really don’t understand why they can’t accept us 100% the good and the bad when we just accept them as they are. 100%. No need to change. Sure both of course need to strive to improve themselves better but asking people to change the way their talk or body completely different it’s just idk. You might as well not agreed to be in the relationship with me in the first place. What a time waster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:28 AM
41

😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:22 AM
53

I found some reddit post on it through google search. And woah it even has 12 stages and it’s just an abuse. Basically when men, usually unattractive men, fear of losing their partner they start to act shitty, flirt with other women etc. And then their partner will work harder to keep the relationship alive fearing they will lose their men. But that’s just the gist based on one post and the comments I’ve read. I also read a blogpost about it, but I couldn’t read past through the first few paragr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:14 AM
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Second this! They made me feel like I was so clingy when in reality I wasn’t given enough attention. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:37 AM
8

I had an old guy following me offering me a ride home cause I was walking home from uni. I said no and he kept following me for a while. I couldn’t walk on my own for a while because I kept thinking he will just pop up out of nowhere. I bought a bicycle just to avoid from walking. These days I’d rather spend more money taking Grab rather than walking in a secluded area even if it’s only a 15 minutes walk. Even then I am still conscious and alert. It’s really stressful and tiring. I can’t wait to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:09 PM
1

Yes any conflict was uncomfortable because he will get stressed out and his tone changed. Doesn’t help that I don’t like confrontational situations. Will definitely watch out for how they behave in a stressful situation next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:48 AM
1

The last part complimenting yourself. Yes I feel you. I mean I think, I could be wrong but who cares really, that I am quite pretty so it always make me happy when I see my face in the mirror. Like, “aww you cute” 😌😂. Compared to sending a selfie to my ex and he’s just eh I don’t get it. It’s just a selfie? I am still annoyed thinking about that. Ladies let’s just praise and appreciate our own selves we don’t need others to do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:06 AM
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This is beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. Women have to stay alert all time that it is so tiring. Even today some guy purposely touched my hand when I was giving back the number card at a supermarket. He didn’t even have to touch my hand just to get the card from me. It was a big ass card. I wasn’t really looking, busy trying to pay and that’s what I get. I held the card at the edge for him to take and he just had to touch my hand. EDIT: Someone messaged me about me posting this, say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:27 PM
22

Hhahaa gosh this comment! Sick burn! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:09 PM
7

Yes thank you for this. That thing is garbage. I got offended that I needed to figure out which one is my ex’s love language. Like hello all of these are important. And of course it was an advice from another guy. So I should have been wary about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:35 PM
16

😂omg yes. When I do it, “Explain to me loud and clearly!” Despite my repeated explanation. When he does it, “Why do I need to spell it out for you? Are you that dense?” Like ugh. We can never win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:32 PM
7

Yes someone talked to me about it and it was my first time hearing about it and eh it’s just weird. Why do I gotta show my love through certain acts or behaviours? But maybe it can help others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:28 PM
12

Why the heck would someone waste their time to just hop from one person to another? I can’t. It sounds tedious. Idk what he’s trying to achieve here. Sure attractiveness works but eventually his shitty personality will repel any woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:20 PM
32

Exactly! My ex sent me a youtube video showing why wanting a taller guy is shallow but he wants a fit girlfriend. Okay why my preference is not as important as yours? And I didn’t even think of his height by then. It was a weird moment for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:03 PM
79

This. I am crying😂. I was just distracted with his rings instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:52 PM
14

😂👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:33 PM
6

Same! We can do this! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:06 PM
11

Imo we could have probably seen several red flags but were blinded by them being “nice”. But again this is only based on my one and only past relationship so this may be only me. And speaking of extricating, I am just gonna be prepared for the worst even if I found a HVM. Always be ready to take off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:04 AM
21

“Settle into their boring and negligent routine.” This. Woah. Thank you for this comment. I really need to see thing as it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:27 AM
14

Yes! I needed this! I still feel guilty for not trying harder but then it’s true, I wasn’t the only one who was in the relationship. It takes two to make a relationship work. And he definitely love himself more so now I am working hard to love myself. I’d rather do that than wasting my time thinking what I could have done more. Cheers queen! Thank you for this post! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:34 PM
17

Aww this so sweet! I am happy for you! Gosh I want an effortless relationship too! 😍🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:43 PM
13

My love story oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:05 PM
29

Exactly! I had to google how tall is that. At least 172 cm! And I just end up laughing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:38 AM
1

Yes this! Working hard to move on. Thank you❤️🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:31 AM
2

Omg was just looking at rings just now. Should have just bought one! And lovely ring! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:57 PM
1

My ex used to this too! Oof 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:10 PM
1

Yes this. I am trying to say sorry less and just reply texts straightforward. Curt, short text. No long winded bs and apologies etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:59 AM
2

That getting flowers for yourself is a yes! I will book a body massage appointment once lockdown is done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:58 AM
3

I can relate to the trying to find the right man. It’s tiring really. There’s always a catch and it’s annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:49 AM
3

That’s why! Like gosh! But good thing tho, guess that sub just lost potential members. So weird😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:17 AM
2

Ah man well it’s fine I guess. Just a bit weirded out because it’s a dating sub. I thought they would want more women participation😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:13 AM
2

So happy for you! This kind of story makes me helpful for a healthy relationship but yes gotta prioritise myself first! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:51 PM
1

🙌🏻yess more time for me to work on myself then! And honestly I am getting used to the idea of being single forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:39 PM
2

Yes. Thank you for this! Focusing much of my love towards books and just discussing them and rediscovering self-love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:25 AM
10

This. I literally wrote reflections and blame my PMS which is BS now that I think of it. I was never easily triggered or upset when I was single. No crying or no getting upset. PMS were just regular days for me. I could still train taekwondo intensely. Sure extra tiring but shit was fine. God. This comment is giving me life. Quick Q? Why was I permanently ban from the dating sub immediately after commenting on this post? I never viewed that sub or anything tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:35 AM
2

Yup. Thank you for this reminder. Hard truth but it is the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:22 PM
6

Is this a sign I will be single forever? Omg😢😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:00 PM
11

I just want hugs and someone sleeping beside me tbh. I got lucky with ex cause he doesn’t snore just when hes’s super tired. But the rest of the point yeah. It does get tiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:13 PM
3

Maybe because they are too wrapped up in their own thinking that they can’t just accept other’s way of thinking. Or we don’t know really. I have given up trying to understand them because they won’t do the same anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:19 AM
9

Aww this is so nice! I love it! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:24 PM
8

Holy shit. I will just stay single forever if it’s like this. At least my ex was decent enough not to let me pay any dinner etc 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:14 PM
9

Aww where can I find men like this? 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:15 PM
3

Oh wow I wasn’t expecting it to be that bad, the first few words already got me what? Overpay for sex? Lol I am sorry I can’t watch it until the end😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:44 AM
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This. Wow. Had to be careful of what words I need to choose. I also had to question whether I am the one who’s always inconsiderate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:38 AM
6

Yup. I needed this comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:43 AM
11

Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:47 AM
3

Omg that last sentence. I should have it framed to remind me that I am too patient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:26 PM
18

Omg wow. The image.. Bravo😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:34 PM
32

Exactly. Beats the purpose of anonymity. But probably that's the best they could come up with for now. Really hope there will be another way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:25 PM
23

Same. Need a selfie as well hm hm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:42 AM
1

What's OLD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:09 PM
33

Yeah. My sister and I still live with our fam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:45 AM
12

Yay thank you. I look forward reading it❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 07:46 AM
3

I guess so. Plus he said I make assumptions alot so hmm there's that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:55 AM
2

Interesting. Thank you for the book suggestion. Will definitely check it out. Yeah now you mentioned it maybe we both don't realise it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:53 AM
1

Yes gosh. Definitely not an ideal life to be often walking on eggshells. But idk. I am still comfortable with having a routine with him 😂minus the negativity. Plus I am still studying and I can't be an emotional wreck for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 06:17 AM
1

Yes after we argue about my sloppy explanation, I will be always rereading whatever I have written. I have to be careful and it's taxing me. But then after awhile, I tend to forget about it. We are in a LDR so we text a lot. And I am not sure is it because I am Asian and he's not? Because sometimes it's difficult for me to express what I want to tell. But he's not an abuser. I think it's just that we both have different expectations especially when it comes to communicating our ideas. He's just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 06:07 AM
1

Gonna give it a read. Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:29 AM
4

What's the title?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:07 PM
6

I am in LDR too so idk but for me the first two years were cool but the third and now fourth year, things are getting uglier. I hope yours turns out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:06 PM
15

Gosh. This is where I am now. Thinking of the good ol' memories when in reality we are both changing. And I am not sure anymore about my relationship because it seems like I keep saying the wrong things and he's fed up with that. I am also getting tired of having this unhealthy routine. I don't explain things well and then he gets upset. I'll apologise and I'll get upset with myself and tries to make up for my mistakes and we'd be good for a few months and then repeat the same damn thing. It's t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:02 PM
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