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Being yourself yields the most success. After a while, the thrill of seduction vanishes, so be sure to have a hobby, or focus on your career.
/r/seduction17/09/22 08:46 PM
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Your problem is that you're actively looking for a relationship. You need to change your mindset, and focus on yourself. If you think your fashion is bad, change it up. You do not need to spend exorbant amounts of money either... I highly recommend losing that desperate attitude, focusing on your hobbies/career, and take care of yourself. When you feel happy, and confident about yourself, you will give off that energy. I was like you too, actually, a 4-5 months ago before I actively utilized the…
/r/seduction31/08/22 07:45 AM
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I didn't read the The Game. I did read mystery's book though. But the best teacher is through trial and error. I don't think wearing a top-hat to a bar with painted nails works anymore. I've gotten good results through trial and error, and actively going out. But the best way to improve is literally to improve yourself in anyway possible. Finances, education, work, physique, hygiene, etc.
/r/seduction22/08/22 02:30 PM
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First of all, don't play stupid texting games. You should actively be going about your purpose, instead of itching your balls, and watching shows, or playing video-games. Respond when you have time, but that shouldn't mean two days! And leave the useless texting out of it. "How was your hangover" that's so lame. You could have waited a bit before you initiated contact, and said "You were really fun, but this hangover isn't. How are you?" and then set up a date after a few exchanges. I personally…
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:28 PM
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Yeah, so basically went onto a Ph.D.. a year ago I didn't have the correct mindset, nor how to act really around girls. But one girl in our cohort I've had a thing for, and still do. But I left for 2 months unannounced, back to my parents, I was going through some shit. So, I come back here to my hometown/parents, start traveling, and partying. End up getting into a relationship, while banging my old girl frequently. But, I suddenly get a text from that girl in my Ph.D. cohort, and I respond. Th…
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:11 PM
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Easiest way to get laid is to focus on your goals, and things that make you happy. Stop giving validation to girls, if you are. And approach women! I'm sure in a lecture hall, it shouldn't be that difficult right? "Hey, did you complete the homework? By the way my name is X, what's your name?". From there you can talk about whatever lol. Do this in every lecture lol, and talk to girls.
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:05 PM
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Enough where you don't care anymore
/r/seduction10/08/22 05:37 PM
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I met the girl I'm casually seeing at a Bar.. I've been rejected a plethora of times.. Once it happens enough you start not to care lol. Funny enough, I'm not a bad looking guy, and I went up to a group of girls. One of the girls was this obese mammoth. I told the obese mammoth's friend I can take a picture for you guys :). The obese mammoth goes, "IM MARRIED!" and I'm like "okay cool no one asked" and go back to her friend lol. So you see it happens, but don't pay to much attention lol
/r/seduction10/08/22 05:05 PM
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not it boss
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:02 PM
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no movies suck too we aren't 12 unless u r
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:01 PM
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Yeah with plausible deniability. Show a picture of your dog fluffy early in the date, in a non-creepy way. I always have to say 'non-creepy way' because I don't know how you people act on here IRL. then near the end ask if she wants to come over and see fluffy
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:21 AM
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Museum are so boring.. wtf? Do not do museums.. You want to establish physical contact, not looking at ancient artifacts.
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:18 AM
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Walks in the parks are great, then go to a secluded area for an intense hookup session ;)
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:18 AM
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You don't need much friends, only 1 or 2 people that are solid. It's actually quite a good starting ground in my opinion. Once you make one or two friends, don't reveal any secrets, and reciprocate kindness. Join some events/organizations near you, and start socializing. I have probably 3 solid friends, and the rest I designate as 'associates'. Focus on self-improvement, join organizations to make friends (similar hobbies) hopefully, and start hitting up the clubs/bars, and get some experience i…
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:13 AM
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It's really just conversation. Just be like, 'Oh. Is this how you typically like your nails?" etc. Don't fall into the trap of giving validation. I'd personally would throw in a neg if I'm going to compliment. It doesn't really matter what she says, and you aren't the gay best friend. Just shut your damn mouth and let her talk. And escalate! I'd say like. "Oh, how do you typically like your nails done?" She'll reply. "How often do you get your nails done?" she'll reply. "What made that guy nice?…
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:59 PM
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What is the black pill? Isn't that the incel movement?
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:50 PM
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You do have to approach. Once you do some approaches, and go on a few dates, use your game. Get them attached to the point where they're obessed with you. Being attractive is like, an ugly dude might make a corny joke, and get a negative response. But an attractive guy makes the same joke, and she'll let it slide because you're hot/cute. You get some leeway in that regard. But game is always important regardless on your looks.
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:49 PM
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Making out
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:47 PM
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I'm visiting family, and I brought girls home. If that's not possible, get a hotel room!
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:47 PM
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Next step is getting laid :)
/r/seduction07/08/22 03:46 PM
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Be normal. I feel like half of you guys act like robots and go in with that conditioning with some motive of getting with a girl lol. You're gonna do better if ur confident and urself lol
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:50 AM
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I don't really share stories unless it's necessary. If you're good at the art of small talk, you can make a girl talk, and it'll be so annoying. You'll then think to yourself, is this really necessary for some pussy lol
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:49 AM
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Also getting a girlfriend is headache. Well I don't know what to tell you. Go out grow a pair and start talking to girls. Join clubs/events, social gathers, and meet people. I don't have a 'social circle' and got girls ez.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:51 PM
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Respond when you have time. You shouldn't pretend to be high value, you should be. You could be playing video games and respond like 5 hours later.. sure. But I always say this, you're fooling yourself this way.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:50 PM
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Go out to a bar/club. Dress up.. find clothes that fit. Use your dick. Escalate. It's not hard dude
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:48 PM
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'No worries. Seems like your schedule is busy. I'll hit you up later.' Then forget about her, and make her chase you...
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:44 PM
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It's literally just improving yourself. That's all it is. And confidence. It shouldn't be rocket science. Then there's game, but depends on the situation.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:42 PM
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No it's not because it's not going to do anything. Did she text you? Did you bang? Did she give you her number? It's useless.
/r/seduction02/08/22 05:04 PM
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Well, you need to escalate it, and get them in the mood, and do the deed. But if they bring up the 'what are we discussion', I usually respond with ' I'm looking for good chemistry, and where it goes :)'. Something along those lines. Eventually you can discern you guys are fuck buddies when that's all you guys do without a relationship agreement lol also that confuses the fuck out of them.. haha "I CANT READ YOU" If you say you're not looking for something... then it's like what are we just frie…
/r/seduction02/08/22 04:17 AM
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Even if it's sarcastic it's weird, and unnecessary. Seems like you're jealous, or butt-hurt.
/r/seduction02/08/22 04:14 AM
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When I meen acting mysterious, I don't mean like act like you work for the FBI. Just give short answers, then flip the discussion back on her. Most girls just want attention, and validation. If you can listen and keep inquiring, keep the discussion going, flirt, you're good..
/r/seduction02/08/22 04:12 AM
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I already said it.. scroll up
/r/seduction02/08/22 02:27 AM
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What? Honesty works sure, but, depends on the circumstance. If I'm going on consecutive dates with the same girl, I keep mysterious. For instance, she asked me second or third date, "What are you looking for?" I said, "I'm looking for good chemistry! and see where things go :)" I'm not going to sit there like a dweeb and say yes, I want a relationship baby i love you.
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:38 AM
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Stop giving them validation...
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:35 AM
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I don't know we make out at the park lol I really don't care?
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:35 AM
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Do not do this... Do not feed them validation, such nice guy/low value behavior.. lmfao
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:30 AM
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'Here take my number :)' then walk away. Don't take hers. I mean, this way, the ball is in her court. Now you know your role, and she knows her role. You're that guy that gives her the dick when her boyfriend can't, but that's if she responds/texts you lol. If she does, you're in. If she refuses that, then say, have a nice day and walk away. I don't know why these losers keep saying, 'lucky guy' or 'he's a lucky man'. This is such beta shit. You can literally just say, 'Okay. Have a nice day.'
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:30 AM
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Hey. Are we still good for X day at Y time? I like to do it the day before.
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:28 AM
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I didn't with my girl, it also depends what you're intentions are. If the attraction is fine, or she finds you cute, a ONS is fine, but the probability for a relationship depends then. For instance, my girl brought it up the second date, but I said, 'if it happens, it happens'. We ended up having sex after like the fourth date. What do you want? Do you want to bang, then move on? Then make out, and see how she's reacting, you can tell. If this is the first date, you need to escalate. If you don'…
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:24 AM
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Few weeks ago, went to a bar. I'm not sure if it was my mental state. Random guy started buying us shots, but his friend was so hot. I decided to use my social skills to find out if they're dating. Established kino, got her number, subtly flirted. Few days later took her out. Few days after that she's blowing me.. So, really, it's the mindset, not giving extra attention over text, and being straight to the point. I don't want to rush having sex with a girl that isn't ready yet, but they'll let y…
/r/seduction28/07/22 08:10 PM
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No, it's not late.
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:45 AM
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Exchange a few texts, then schedule a date. You don't need to give anyone attention over text, or form some bond over text. That's what a date is for...
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:43 AM
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I don't enjoy being friend-zoned. I have enough friends that are girls, that I realized friend-zoned me because I was always afraid to escalate. Now I make my intentions clear with escalation, and I go from there. If she isn't receptive, she's gone. I don't need any more friends that are girls. That's the approach I take...
/r/seduction27/07/22 10:12 PM
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Totally agree. I established comfort, and attraction. I fucked all night, plus insane blowjobs. Connection is super important.
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:08 PM
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A lot of PUA videos, or, YT videos will tell you looks don't matter. Looks do matter, I don't care what anyone has to say. But there are things you can change. Fashion, physique, career, and other attributes. You need to think about the girls that are 10's the amount of effort they put into looking like that. The amount of money they put into their nails, fashion, hair. Why would they settle/sleep with someone who doesn't do that? Confidence does go a long way though. Unless you're confident, an…
/r/seduction25/07/22 08:18 PM
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You need to learn to escalate. I've been talking to one girl I cold approached, and now we're dating.. You need to be a bit balsy.. you can read if a girl is interested in making out, or going further. You have to be an idiot to be not read the cues. A girl will friend zone you when you don't take intiative.. Like for instance simple things as kino goes a long way.
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:12 AM
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This is so weird..
/r/seduction24/07/22 07:00 AM
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I suffered from anxiety, for the longest time ever. I realized it stemmed from my insecurities. Find some things you can do to clear your mind. For instance, maybe lifting?
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:12 AM
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I'm a solid like 7-8... I think so at least. I just had no experience with girls in the past, that's why I joined this sub.
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:57 AM
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They are. My wing made out with a 40 year old, he's 25. Ended up banging her the day after lol.
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:56 AM
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I think the issue is - I'm not meeting the correct people while cold approaching at bars. I might need to change where I approach.
/r/seduction21/07/22 10:35 PM
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I might be acting needy, or pursuing too hard. Can I DM you in a bit with more details?
/r/seduction21/07/22 06:53 PM
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You're going to get arrested sooner or later. You're acting really creepy. The art of cold approaching has to do with confidence, and sincerely conveying that you're a high value man. You need to learn how to have an honest/joyful conversation, without acting creepy. From there you can number close, or go on an instant date. Happened to me back at my apartment. Saw this girl walking around three times. I went and approached. We hit it off, and we went for a very long walk, and hung out for about…
/r/seduction21/07/22 06:08 PM
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You'll know when to make a move. It'll be really obvious. You can then capatalize on that, and go in for the move. Even if you don't like traveling, say you do!
/r/seduction20/07/22 07:59 PM
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learn what
/r/seduction20/07/22 07:07 PM
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You seem disgruntled
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:18 PM
1

I like watching alpha male strategies. He's funny af. Haven't watched RSD
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:17 PM
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It happens. I went into a set with an indirect opener once, and then introduced myself. Her friend was receptive, the other girl wasn't. She said, "I'm not interested" in a snarky attitude. I just replied with, "woah, who said I'm interested? :D". Then said I need to go catch up with friends. She tried fist bumping me, and I said "no thanks haha" and walked away. It's okay to put them in their place sometimes... obviously not as a jerk. My point is that night game can be really hard sometimes. I…
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:12 PM
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It worked for me too! But people forget that you need to actually take initiative. Reading doesn't help, you need to also excercise what you learn.
/r/seduction20/07/22 04:14 AM
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you're an idiot
/r/seduction20/07/22 04:11 AM
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I've been doing cold approaches for like 2 months now, and I'm literally making out with a girl every day now. Just be confident. My girl today told me that she really likes my confidence, etc. Be yourself, confident. Learn some humor too. Before I was on this sub I was a mess, helped a lot. Before this, I literally had one kiss! I'm 25 too. Apparently I can make out well... which I learned today hahaha
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:52 AM
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You need to start small. I would first start by complimenting people, anyone really. That should be build up the initial confidence. But at the gas station, you could have said, "I really like your shoes" smiled, and left. Nothing wrong with a compliment. When you have enough courage, you can try a cold approach.
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:39 AM
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After you fuck a new girl, ask her out on dates other than drinks and to fuck. Take her out to do something fun like go on a hike, go to the museum or park to play frisbee, go on a walk or take her out to the driving range or go to a music festival. This conveys to her that you value her and her company other than just sex. If she gets fuck boy vibes from you, this will probably work in your favour because she will wonder why she's so special from all those other girls you see? Is he giving up t…
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:27 AM
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The girl I closed at the club, responded right away. So, if she's interested she'll reach out. Just because you got a number doesn't mean anything. I ended up going out with her, and she was boring as a rock. Second date, a little older, much much better. So my point is, happens. Happened to me a lot in the past lol
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:24 AM
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Let's get some thai food tomorrow around 7, then I'll teach you some Turkish after (wink)
/r/seduction19/07/22 03:18 AM
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I didnt want to come off too needy right now
/r/seduction19/07/22 03:10 AM
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How should I follow up? I replied with "Anytime! I had a great evening too"
/r/seduction19/07/22 03:07 AM
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Go get busy! Start lifting, hangout with friends, work on your career. Reply when you have time.
/r/seduction18/07/22 08:38 PM
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Need to find what's your fit. I changed my style drastically, and started lifting. I wear a bracelet, a watch, a button up with a t-shirt under, jeans, and casual shoes. I have a silver chain I keep under my shirt too. Or I keep it simple, a black shirt and jeans. See what looks good or doesn't. Ask your friends, look on social media for ideas, etc.
/r/seduction18/07/22 08:35 PM
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Because we aren't in a commited relationship. Girls do it everyday, so it's fine for them? What's with the double standards. Lose the beta mindset. The only time I'd find it disingenous is if you're in a commited relationship, and gaming.
/r/seduction18/07/22 08:33 PM
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Not for me bro. I literally cold approach and hit up the scenes on the weekend, I have a date almost every day now lol
/r/seduction18/07/22 08:28 PM
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Just reply like a normal human lol people don't have time for games haha
/r/seduction18/07/22 05:33 PM
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Totally agree. Trial and error my friend. This gives me more motivation after a shitty night out yesterday.
/r/seduction17/07/22 07:52 PM
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Had a date, and it was terrible. It's all experience!
/r/seduction17/07/22 07:51 PM
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Beast!
/r/seduction16/07/22 10:26 PM
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Going to utilize social value for sure man. When you mean by roll off, what do you mean?
/r/seduction16/07/22 10:09 PM
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I sent you a few messages. How about you Pm me and we’ll discuss logistics
/r/seduction16/07/22 09:22 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with me. Ph.D. and have a bachelors, I'm pretty attractive, and fit. Either way, who said I'm looking for a relationship? haha
/r/seduction15/07/22 11:27 PM
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I’m retarded
/r/seduction15/07/22 11:02 PM
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Why not?
/r/seduction15/07/22 10:47 PM
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So many mixed signals... the way I took it is; I don't want to talk to you anymore. Okay then.. Like I give a shit. I'm not a texting buddy either.
/r/seduction15/07/22 10:02 PM
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Yeah man totally agree
/r/seduction15/07/22 09:54 PM
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I'll just be honest then. "Worked out, about to go out with friends later. Hows your day going?" at the same time, I don't want to act butt hurt, I mean I was a little, but nothing major because I know I'm going out again lol
/r/seduction15/07/22 09:51 PM
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So, I shouldnt offer a reschedule?
/r/seduction15/07/22 09:50 PM
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It's normal lol they're desperate. I usually block them haha or report them oops
/r/seduction15/07/22 09:26 PM
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Totally agree man, it's all experience, and trial and error.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:02 PM
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Either way guys, she flaked. I learned my mistake. It's all a learning experience. I'll go out tonight and have fun either way.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:01 PM
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I sent you a DM, I think we might be in the same city. Let's go approach together
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:16 AM
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thats weird i just said looking forward to tomorrow btw!
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:33 PM
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I wouldn't say pick up is entirely dead. I read the book Mystery published, and it had some good pointers. But, it's sort of out-dated, but the core concepts can be utilized for 2022. The emergence of OLD really eliminated a lot of practical PUA strategies. Like the idea of attraction ---> comfort ---> seduction, kino, social value, etc still hold a lot of value. That's primarily why I like cold approaching. When you approach a girl has literally like 2 seconds to decide whether she's going to s…
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:01 PM
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Yeah, that's what I was also thinking too.. I'll just do it in a bit.
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:56 PM
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The texting seemed that way. But I always had the mindset that she could be easily replaced. So, I mean, I was prepared for that and as shitty as it sounds had an abundance mindset.
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:47 PM
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True, and alright. I mean if she flakes, I'm just going to go out either way lol. I already had that in the back of my mind. But she's really interested, so, I don't know haha
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:45 PM
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Interesting, so I shouldn't ask about confirming our date for tomorrow?
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:37 PM
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This is gold
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:06 PM
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I don't keep track of how many cold approaches I do. I literally go approach. But out of 5 in one day, 2 numbers, and 1 date lol. Well; I don't know what to make of it haha
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:04 PM
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Then continue? I'm so annoyed with OLD. Go and meet girls IRL
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:02 PM
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I'm better with an indirect opener, and get a conversation going. Then introduce myself, and let the conversation flow. You'll know when you can get the number. But getting a number isn't really a success. It's about how many you can actually get on a date, then sleep with. So numbers don't really mean anything..
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:52 AM
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That’s for night clubs/bars. I could solo it and be fine, it’s about your energy, having fun, drinking, and meeting new people. Talking to girls before going in is always a plus, and show your energy. There’s a different vibe with nightclubs and bars. Nightclubs it’s all nonverbal cues, bars, similar but you can actually talk with girls. Just depends No, weekends it's mainly night game. Throughout the week it's day gaming season.
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:13 AM
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Really shows a level of confidence. I like to do it, but I need better gaming spots
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:12 AM
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Most that are left are very good as the content of what they teach is more practical and effective You could neg in a good way.. "I don't usually like that color, I'm more of a fan of darker colors, but it looks nice on you and the way you orchestrated your outfit :)" No one is saying be an asshole.. I don't know that's off the whim but you get the gist.. Any tactic I use, I try not to be an asshole, and I'm pretty respectful. I don't use sleazy ways of getting with girls either
/r/seduction13/07/22 05:32 PM
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I'm in the same boat. So, I sent a text about like 8 hours ago.. no reply. We're apparently 'going out' on Friday. Having a feeling she might flake. So, if she doesn't reach out, or care enough, why should i? I'll go out and meet more girls. I think that's the attitude you should have as well. It's not the end of the world. Sometimes she may have shit in her life, not in the mood, etc. Found some other guy. I wouldn't put a lot of thought in it.
/r/seduction13/07/22 02:58 AM
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He's got a point really. I was really direct, and I'm going out on Friday. Who knows if she'll flake. I can just go talk to more girls... her loss lol. Have this mindset and you'll be fine. Don't act desperate or needy lol
/r/seduction13/07/22 12:41 AM
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That's retarded why would you wait 3-4 days, just text lol
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:05 PM
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There are several things you could do. You need to be creative, and need to learn to improvise, being funny is a plus.
/r/seduction12/07/22 06:45 AM
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I've been trying to work on night game, did a cold approach, and got a straight 10 today. Although, will it lead to anything? She was nothing like on her instagram looks wise, and she insisted on that, so that's where I am with her. Reminder broads look way better in picture with make up and shit, but IRL, they're like a 5. Clubbing is all non-verbal cues, which I can't seem to fucking master for some reason. I'd honestly try to go up to two girls, and say let's make new friends! Get them around…
/r/seduction12/07/22 02:47 AM
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Entirely depends. Usually depends on my routine. So, my friends have approach anxiety. If we're going out to say the park, and I see a girl I find attractive, I'll approach. Just do your daily routine, and if you see a girl looking, or someone you think you can't pass up, go ahead and talk. I don't like to really go out my way to day game. If I had someone cold approaching with me, I'd do it all day, but I don't.
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:03 PM
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Same every where
/r/seduction11/07/22 10:20 AM
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I usually go out with a few people, 1 or 2. But their game is weak, so I just go with them then go find other people to talk with and socialize with. Eventually my friends will come and it turns into a big group. I met a ton of people going out to bars/nightclubs who regularly message me where their going, or to other events like the beach.. etc That’s for night clubs/bars. I could solo it and be fine, it’s about your energy, having fun, drinking, and meeting new people. Talking to girls before …
/r/seduction11/07/22 06:19 AM
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Well, I'm feeling good because she lives far away. And, we're going out late at night. But I'll see tomorrow or the day after.
/r/seduction11/07/22 05:05 AM
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Right while she's getting pipped by chad right? Stay in the friend zone for sure...
/r/seduction11/07/22 05:03 AM
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It's been going very well. I realized I needed to make a change in my life. It's not entirely about getting laid. That's a bonus of all the benefits that come with improving yourself. Quite frankly, I quit masturbating. Started intensely lifting/bulk. Going out every weekend and getting experience with night game. I'm naturally a social individual, so, day gaming is really easy for me. I never really had trouble doing that, but I did get better. I'm also lucky even though I was a nerd for the en…
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:27 AM
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Literally 1 month ago lol
/r/seduction11/07/22 01:56 AM
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Day game it man. Wish I was into this seduction shit back in undergrad. Spent too many years studying like a fucking nerd for 10-12 hours a day, neglected literally everything and starting from the ground up.
/r/seduction11/07/22 01:19 AM
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well shit I already scheduled it
/r/seduction11/07/22 01:13 AM
2

One thing I don't care about is how long i take to respond or if she even responds not lol plenty of other options!
/r/seduction10/07/22 09:10 PM
1

Fuck you prick
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:14 PM
3

Yeah, it happens.
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:09 PM
2

To get experience talking to girls... You're bound to get rejected, but that's the name of the game.
/r/seduction08/07/22 07:57 PM
1

Just don't care lol live your own life
/r/seduction08/07/22 05:08 PM
2

Make the most with what you're given. I'm currently talking to one girl, and going out again on the weekend, and doing cold approaches when I get looks. Only did 2 today.. one went well, and the other one, she had a boyfriend.
/r/seduction08/07/22 02:52 AM
0

It's not if she's showing interest, just be about your purpose
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:42 PM
19

You only do it to girls that are giving the signs that she's interested though. If she's looking at you, or smiling, etc. But if you're somewhere that you'll never see that person again, why not. Just don't do it in a creepy way. At least that's my approach..
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:26 PM
6

I did that, and I saw crackheads, and bar-fights lol
/r/seduction06/07/22 09:48 PM
2

Grow a pair of balls pussy and talk to her...
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:52 PM
-1

I'd try to go for some push/pull flirt, then subtly go for a date.. I'm actually in the same boat, but I'm going to cold approach, and go out this weekend. What did she say after your text?
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:35 PM
2

I'd leave it, and talk to other girls.
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:31 PM
1

Exactly! I'm chasing T. Although gaining bigger is a plus...
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:54 PM
2

Leave it, then she might reach out: You are banking on a long-shot effort..
/r/seduction05/07/22 03:02 AM
4

It's called plausible deniability. For instance, at the date, say, 'The stars are so beautiful in my backyard. I have a telescope which can view Mercury' drop it in the beginning not the end. Or show pictures of your dog, bird, whatever. Then she comes back and fucks. She'll tell her friends, yeah he showed me his dog but we ended up having sex. She doesn't feel like a slut then.
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:54 PM
1

she isn't interested then boss
/r/seduction04/07/22 07:16 AM
1

Flirt, keep the tension alive, and respond when you have time, and I'm in the same dilemma but it's experience
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:58 AM
1

Telling you tho it is; like a black t-shirt nice fitting, good fitting jeans, and nice casual shoes, it’s enough. I just like fashion so i go hard sometimes lol
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:43 AM
3

Like, I just wear a regular t-shirt, obviously a quality one, which fits well. I'm a fan of more darker colors. For the polo shirts, if I have some academic bullshit to handle, I'll put it on, like talking to my professor, or what not. But not to day game or night game haha Usually my clubbing outfit is, a button up, and it's a casual one, and a white t-shirt under. Nice fitting jeans, casual jeans. My watch is around like 300 dollars, cologne I usually go for Tom Ford lol, but that was 150. For…
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:28 AM
10

So, I'll give some insight. I'm 6'1 and about 160 lb. Long arms, and legs. I noticed, a nice fitting t-shirt (usually plain, I don't like being an advertisement), nice fitting jeans, and casual shoes works. I mean, I do wear a watch, and a chain, but the chain is tucked inside. I usually do also go for like button down shirts, if I'm going out. I used to wear polo shirts, and it wasn't it chief The outfit above is so casual, and basic, but like; I get in places with dress codes too. But I do swi…
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:15 AM
-7

yes go away pls
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:12 AM
1

Get into the abundance mindset, and go approach. Or if you can do OLD more power to you
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:05 AM
2

I’m not muscular.. I’m literally 6’1 and 150 - 160 lb and I do fine, I mean I suppose if I was yolked my chances would be much higher
/r/seduction04/07/22 12:07 AM
1

Sometimes I myself need a visualization check. Like, hold on, put myself in their shoes, and if she did this to me, would it be weird af? That's like a little good check. But yea u gotta practice more bro
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:37 PM
4

I literally go everywhere only to see old hags, or suburban moms. So limited for even cold approaches where I am, shit sucks.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:23 PM
3

Such terrible advice. If you're talking with a girl, and she's eating everything up, laughing, blushing, then go in for the compliment. Don't ask to compliment someone lol that's so weird
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:30 PM
6

Yes, that's when you look for nonverbal cues
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:28 PM
2

To be fair, I've done this while I was drunk before, what inept OP is talking about. Either way, I'm usually one for, if I'm not getting glances or looks, and I want to approach, I'll take a more conservative approach. If she's eyeing me, I know I'm in, and anything I really say will work
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:15 PM
2

I agree, but, I’m putting myself in a girls shoes. Say, a girl that I’m completely not interested/attracted in, says I’m cute randomly.. I mean I would feel fine, but weird at the same time lol
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:10 PM
1

Well, it’s not going up to her and saying she’s cute. That’s really weird, and that would get law enforcement involved if he isn’t attractive. Either way, you don’t have to be so direct with, ‘Excuse me, do you know where X is?’ And start spitting game. Well, I suppose it’s what you said, lol
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:05 PM
36

Don’t be fucking weird basically
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:31 AM
1

It’s all observation, and instinct. For instance, girl has really nice eyes, and you aren’t saying that just because, go ahead and tell her. She has I don’t know, a nice shirt, ask where she got it. Then literally, where are you from, where do you study, how do you like it, why did you choose what you study, it’s endless, but you should save all of it for a date, but, hey, need to go, but here’s my number, shoot me a text. If you’re feeling cocky, maybe try to throw in humor
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:07 AM
2

Confidence and approaches. I literally saw tons of ugly fat guys with attractive girls. They just have confidence
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:02 AM
5

Do your daily routine, or whatever you’re doing that day, and approach someone you find attractive. Otherwise it’s sort of creepy. That’s what I do at least
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:01 AM
1

I met her outside the club
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:08 AM
15

The age gap may seem a little weird, I'm even hesitant to get with 19 year olds, and I'm 25. Now, it's just experience. But you did well. Have conversations with everyone, compliment people, say hi. This will become natural for you
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:40 PM
1

Actually once, when I first turned 21, inexperienced baby-faced me went out to a bar with fucking weirdos. Had my first 'dance' with a girl then. Offered to buy a drink for the girl, and she made me drink it first to 'verify'. But I've been consistently going out now (25), and never once had a girl be scared, or question me about a drink. It's usually surprise me, and they're talking to their friend, or dancing more on me lol
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:34 PM
1

I dictate it
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:11 PM
2

Got a lot of compliments with Tom Ford
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:11 PM
1

Never happened to me lol. Sleezy guys must talk to you then
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:10 PM
2

Don’t listen to pretty_dead_grrl, that’s literally what happens. Learned my mistake literally the first few weeks of going out lol.
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:08 PM
2

Going back tonight
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:03 PM
1

I’ll switch it up, we’re talking now. But I’ll change the format
/r/seduction02/07/22 08:45 PM
1

No, I didn't really talk in the club, if I did it was brief, like on the patio. Not on the dance floor. Also the girl I'm currently 'texting' I met outside before going inside. But yeah, I'm going to try this approach, and what everyone else suggested.
/r/seduction02/07/22 08:26 PM
-1

probably weaker drinks low quality shit city
/r/seduction02/07/22 06:10 PM
1

I did say this upcoming week, but she said shes going away with family, but the following week. But yeah, maybe get more specific!
/r/seduction02/07/22 06:04 PM
4

She replied with; "ooh that could be fun! But unfortunately this is my really busy week cuz I'm going away with my family :(... maybe next week if you're able!" Opinions? Not interested? I just said, "Enjoy your time with your family! I don't really like messaging through instagram, text me, xxx-xxx-xxxx!" Hopefully not the wrong approach, but i dont care lol
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:53 PM
0

No, I literally took 6 shots, had a few mixed drinks, wasn’t even drunk. Unless I have a high tolerance. Same amount of alcohol in a club in nyc got me rocked
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:27 PM
2

Not when it’s shit quality
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:00 PM
5

I'm thinking dinner downtown then hit up a bar then lay
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:37 PM
1

I'm an idiot, probably not. Lol, sorry.
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:50 AM
1

The girls that are left near closing are the ones who didn't leave with anyone, and are most likely, DTF
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:45 AM
1

It's not. It's easy to go in a closing, flirt with a girl push/pull, and leave the bar. The girls that are left are DTF. I mean sure, the same could apply if you went and built some sort of rapport early and leave 10 minutes in..
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:43 AM
1

Unless you’re going to a empty bar or expecting to take home a less than attractive woman your chances are better showing up early even then they’re slim. Unless you’re some aqua man looking dude. You’re not about to swoop in right before close and get some woman to go home with you. Going out earlier you meet more women, get more chances and have more fun so long as you manage not to drink yourself stupid u/CocoBabeNYC do you agree
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:30 AM
1

I wouldn't usually ask. I cold approached back where I do my Ph.D, just because I thought the girl was attractive. She was a cashier, and she told me she had a boyfriend, and I said no worries, and walked away. I mean she seemed flustered because she wanted to say yes, but didn't want to say yes because of the situation. But then again, if a girl really wants you, there could be exceptions haha
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:27 AM
6

Listen, you'd be surprised. Average looking girls get hit on more, because of their average looks. They're usually the ones who have their guards up (easy lay), opposed to an extremely attractive girl. So, when you do approach an attractive girl, it's techincally a bonus, or easier. Then again, if you get rejected, just move on. You have nothing to lose. Keep this in mind when approaching :)
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:22 AM
1

I'm not sure, I started having too much fun early on. I'm trying to take a girl home honestly, so during closing would be more benefical in that regard.
/r/seduction29/06/22 02:14 AM
1

I came too early like an idiot Coming out at midnight, scope out the area. And move around to other bars/clubs
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:53 PM
2

Most likely. I was trying to sober up, but, I should have refused the shots people were getting me. But, I'm not sure how my problem was drinking too much? I handle my alcohol pretty well, and sure, I was drunk, but I was able to maintain composure.
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:08 PM
3

Essentially, I said, ‘Listen, I didn’t know she was with with you.’ It’s honestly the girls fault. She could have said, sorry I’m with someone, or simply, no…
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:22 PM
2

That's funny lol. But in all seriousness, she was alone. So I didn't know she had a 'man'... And she didn't tell me. I went at closing to this other place
/r/seduction28/06/22 04:05 PM
1

I’m literally in the same area visiting, one less piece of competition to worry about this weekend 😂
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:35 AM
1

Here too
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:20 PM
2

I agree completely. Maybe it's an insecurity. Well, I know what to do now. Maybe half the night, I'll drink and have a good time. But near the end/closing, I'll do what you mentioned. Thank you. This is great advice. Something so simple that I couldn't think of haha
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:28 PM
1

Yeah, I completely agree
/r/seduction19/06/22 10:49 PM
1

It’s okay. Sometimes I suppose it happens
/r/seduction19/06/22 06:22 PM
1

Would coffee be lame? What about hiking?
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:53 PM
1

I actually don’t remember the 4th girl
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:22 AM
1

How so
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:20 AM
1

Any opinions on how to do that? I’m really into the first girl I was with for a while. How would you go about it? Like with the first text
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:19 AM
2

But they were drunk too, do you think they’ll remember our interaction? See, I mean, I don’t know if I should follow through or not. I did tell one of the girls I was with that I want to take her out this week, and she agreed. I wish I had the energy to post the fill interactions
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:14 AM
21

I haven’t sharpened my spear in 3 weeks, and, I’m lifting now, way more confident, and it’s great. I get urges, but I rather not masturbate. I’m much better like this
/r/seduction13/06/22 01:37 AM
1

Kimse gelmez bu isimle zaten Türkiye’deki kızların burunları havada. Bol şanslar diliyorum sana
/r/seduction13/06/22 01:35 AM
1

Honestly following a script makes you sound like a robot, and girls can pick up on it. Literally introduce yourself and talk like a human, and it’ll work out. It’s not like you’re studying for an exam where you need to memorize a script
/r/seduction31/05/22 05:12 AM
1

There’s a lot that’s wrong. Primarily approaching girls, and asking their age. To follow with ‘are you single’ is terrible as well. Put yourself in their shoes, some weirdo comes and asks, ‘are you single?’ I mean why do you care about my relationship status? Then leading that with asking to go to some random event with some random guy is strange as well. It’s literally better to go up and say, ‘Hey! My name is ____. And I thought I’d introduce myself.’ And if she reciprocates follow the flow wi…
/r/seduction31/05/22 05:08 AM
8

A lot of time personal experiences, and funny stories. I poke fun at myself sometimes too. Depends on the situation. And, really, just being comfortable. Before I was shy, and quiet. Now I’m more interactive, etc.
/r/seduction30/05/22 10:32 PM
1

Overdue
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:44 PM
1

I will
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:44 PM
2

This happened to me in undergrad, girl would text me every Wednesday before the chemistry homework was due.. 🤓
/r/seduction30/05/22 03:02 PM
2

Exactly! I also love that mentality of, ‘she’s lucky I’m coming up to talk’. I do that with average girls, but if I used that on all girls, I think my ability would be much more efficient 😅
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:07 PM
46

Number 1 is extremely vital. The ability to talk to people is key. It does not matter who it is, a 75 year old walking her dog, or a 25 year old jogging. You also need to know how to have a sense of humor. It’s important to be funny, and how to handle different situations. I personally always make the girls in my cohort crack up whenever we’re all together, but that’s because I like to make jokes; and also act serious on occasion. Someone told me that being funny is important, or making good jok…
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:00 PM
10

I agree completely. Used to talk to a girl, who was in a relationship. But her S/O was in another city. She used to respond instantly, call me in the mornings, we would chill, and do everything together for almost a year. So her S/O moved near her now, and she’s not texting anymore lol. And she takes a while to respond. Since it was a professional environment although what she was doing wasn’t really professional, I didn’t want to encroach on any boundaries. Point is a girl that’s interested in …
/r/seduction30/05/22 07:16 AM
2

Yeah, upon realization I see that. I’m thinking to myself I must be attractive for a solid 9/10 to come and shoot her shot. 😅🥹
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:46 PM
2

Yeah, I mean, it does happen. She was super attractive and I rarely go out to bars. I was really hoping for things to go my way last night, but it didn’t.
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:18 PM
3

I’m usually more witty, but, at the moment I don’t know what happened
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:15 PM
3

Weird as in, they don’t have the confidence to talk to girls
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:14 PM
3

I absolutely feel like shit right now
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:13 PM
1

Her lol. People enjoy talking about themselves, don’t make it seem like an interview, and try to relate or chime in on some points.
/r/seduction08/09/21 04:55 PM
2

You’re overthinking. You can even just approach, and say “Hey! My name is SDdude81. Are you new to this gym?” People who have some sort of social skills would be able to put two and two together, and realize you’re semi interested. From there, I’d ask how long she’s been coming there, if she’s from around the area. Etc. I don’t know. It’s tough but it does indicate confidence. In my scenario just yesterday, I was outside. I saw two new girls move upstairs. One of them waved to me. I waved back. …
/r/seduction22/08/21 03:18 PM
2

Unsolicited advice is usually not welcome. I would wait for one of the breaks during the sets, and walk up, and ask if she’s been coming here for a while. She might say, yeah, why? Then the ball is in your court. You can say, you’re looking at other gyms, or say you recently joined, etc. Then introduce yourself, point out a weird thing with the building, really anything. You can gauge how she reacts through your the interaction. If she isn’t responding well, giving you one word answers, abort. H…
/r/seduction22/08/21 02:59 PM
3

The art of small talk is crucial. You don’t need to outright compliment these girls. Some individuals might take that the wrong way, society has changed. Find a common point to enter a conversation rather than making a corny, awkward joke. After you initiate that common point, you can see/tell (through social cues) if she is relatively interested in getting to know you better. Small talk is important as it makes things less awkward. Even if you fail miserably, it’s still a learning experience. N…
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:37 AM
2

It wouldn’t hurt to simply say, “Do you want to grab a drink after work with me this week?” Yes. Playing games, and indirectly flirting is fun, but it’s not to the point, and it’s rather childish. Even sometimes women might not be able to pick up on the cues you’re suggesting. The best approach is to be direct about your intentions, if that’s grabbing a drink, going for a walk, etc. I would ask directly, then make a firm assessment if she is interested or not. You never know, maybe she might say…
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:32 AM
1

That’s a major step forward. Back in undergrad, I was essentially a hermit. I was nervous around girls, and would act like a white-knight. Simply focusing on my career goals, and myself as an individual is what I attribute my success to. When you get declined, it’s alright. Plenty of more girls/guys out there. It’s not the end of the world. It’s all in the head. When you approach, you have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:28 AM
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