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I used to be like that. All nervous about dancing, flirting from women, I'd freeze like you, I'd not know what to do, how to escalate, how to flirt back. I tell you what I did, and now no girl scares me. Want to feel better with physical contact while dancing? Go do salsa lessons. Dancing with 10 different women in 1 hour, because you are forced to change partners constantly, really helps being physical with women. You learn to lead like a man, to put your hands confidently on her body, and to f…
/r/seduction11/05/14 10:27 PM
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I could see some of your story in myself. Gaming... pretending to be indifferent, not texting too often or too much etc. However, fake indifference is also a technique to keep you calm. Not chasing too much is also good, because it gives room for the lady to chase you, for her to be intrigued. Acting somewhat distant - for some reason women treated me as if I am mysterious whenever I did that! Game teaches you this, even though it's fake. Techniques to keep calm, composed and attractive. About t…
/r/seduction07/05/14 10:37 PM
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Nice one man, the journey is about the process, not just the result
/r/seduction07/05/14 10:23 PM
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That's again a limiting belief. Blood is sexy. Soak her with it.
/r/seduction06/05/14 10:09 PM
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I like
/r/seduction05/05/14 10:16 PM
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That's a different issue, a hygiene one.
/r/seduction05/05/14 08:16 PM
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Limiting belief. Still use eye contact. It's not what is around the eyes. It's the eyeeeees themselves. Go on and start eye-fucking without a shame. It's about the tension and connection 2 person feel when they stare into each other's eyes.
/r/seduction05/05/14 01:21 PM
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Sir, yes, sir, and eye-fuck I will!
/r/seduction05/05/14 11:28 AM
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Eye contact is a mutual thing. You and the other person hold it for exactly the same time until it is broken. That makes you both equally interested/creepy/weird/attracted, mate. They are looking at you too! Looking at people as you walk by them shows interest. Just do it. Try to keep strong eye contact with everyone. Smiling is great to accommodate that.
/r/seduction05/05/14 09:04 AM
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Just ignore what she says. I often say "we won't do anything you are not comfortable with". Then I do the following sequence of actions. You kiss and start running hands over her body. Then you kiss her neck. Then you kiss upper chest. Then you touch her chest. Then you put your hands on her thighs. Then you put your hands on inner thighs. Then you touch her pussy over her jeans. Then you slide your hand into her jeans and touch her up. By this stage she is horny as fuck and is ready to go. She …
/r/seduction04/05/14 09:18 PM
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Some girls flirt with you for fun, and flirt with many men, even when they have boyfriends. You can then flirt back with intention (and actions) of hooking up, flirt back for fun, and not flirt back, and probably some other options like being "nice guy".
/r/seduction04/05/14 09:11 PM
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I flirt by doing these: Kino (there are tons of ways), getting into her personal space, devil smile (just think that she is a dirty girl or something), really intense eye contact (important), teasing her (amplify and exaggerate whatever she tells you), have a smirk on your face. There is cocky-funny (Google it). Flirting is an art, and you gradually will get better at it. Flirting is about you mate. YOU need to have fun, and include her in it. It's not about entertaining her or anyone else, but …
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:44 PM
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EdmondDantesJoe is correct. The fact you stopped teasing her because someone told you that you shouldn't is weakness. If you truly believe that it is strange the girl has not heard of an artist, say it. Otherwise you are filtering your speech in order to say things that you hope the other person likes. You are seeking approval this way. That's not attractive. You might piss her off, which might mean that she is not for your sort of humor, and she is not your type. Do you really want to be with a…
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:24 PM
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I think you are wrong. If the girl likes you, she cares not if the touch is awkward, which means it is not awkward. Always touch girls. Gauge how much touch is comfortable with her. If she reciprocates - Green Light. If she says/does nothing - proceed. Stop when they tell you to stop, and then keep trying. A girl rejects your advances when she WALKS AWAY or says STOP.
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:19 PM
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Girls are not like that with everyone. You are attractive and they do it because they find you attractive - that's the correct assumption. How many girls do not flirt with you? Well, those that do, they like you to some extent. When girls flirt with you, they are playing with fire. Make a concrete move like kissing her, asking her out to hang out just two of you etc.
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:17 PM
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Mate, you can do it with anything. TV, pizza, smoke, music, champagne, comics, photos, whatever. As long as you are flirting and doing kino. No rules. Put music on and dance a bit. Anything goes. No need to limit yourself to certain "activities".
/r/seduction04/05/14 12:46 PM
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Hmmm use any excuse to sit next to her. Looking at comics is great. Looking at anything. You can sit next to one another and kino while your attention is actually turned to something else.
/r/seduction04/05/14 11:53 AM
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Glad you find it helpful. This is theoretical and technical: http://whetyourwoman.com/pickup-women/kino/ This has examples and techniques: http://www.thepuaschool.com/kino-escalation/ More http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall237.htm Mindframe + technique is good. I'd recommend also trying to gain perspective on what the situation means. She invites you over = she likes you. She is sitting with you for coffee and keeps touching you = she likes you. She teases you, looks strongly into your eyes,…
/r/seduction04/05/14 11:51 AM
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Start doing kino when sitting next to them on a sofa. When watching a movie, tickle a bit, be playful, put arm around her at some point, cuddle her a bit, take her hand for a bit, kiss her. This way the kiss is not such a large scary "make a move", but gradual and logical. Much easier to kiss her after you hugged, cuddled etc. Intimate hugging is hugging that is done longer than you would hug just a friend. If she remains in your hug, you can kiss her. If you are not watching a movie, just sit n…
/r/seduction04/05/14 11:10 AM
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haha I like your question
/r/seduction04/05/14 10:50 AM
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Nice one, excellent on turning back and going for it
/r/seduction04/05/14 10:48 AM
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I am only reading it now. I seems to confirm many of the thoughts I have developed over the last 6 months. I learned theory from online at first, and then applied it, and reached conclusions.
/r/seduction30/04/14 11:04 PM
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My mate is a restaurant manager or hotel manager. He bangs everybody there. I worked at a language school abroad that attracted travellers and volunteers, and I banged. Any job that gives you authority, and there are lots of women about.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:06 PM
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Sometimes a woman refuses because she doesn't feel yet comfortable with you. How do you know? She sticks around, she hugs you, she still flirts. Do some more kino, hold her hand. When a woman doesn't want to be with you, she leaves. She may say "let's be friends", but if she acts flirty, touches you, wants hugs from you or what not, she is interested. Stop listening to her and look at how she behaves. If she wants to be just friends, you cannot win by being a good friend. You will lose, and beco…
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:34 PM
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I like the motivation mate, well done. Keep at it. Abundance mentality is having options or having the ability to make options. If you don't have that, you will treat women with too much respect that they haven't earned, and you will supplicate and act not confident. Your desperation will shine through your actions, your best pick up lines, your best outer game. Work on both.
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:30 PM
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Here is another post: http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/are-you-creepy-vt102145.html And another http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?4154-What-makes-a-guy-quot-creepy-quot Seriously guys, if you have a question on anything in seduction, use your best friend, GOOGLE. How to kiss a girl? Google. How to make a move? Google. What is creepy? Google. What do women find attractive? Google. Google is good at answering specific questions. Or here, though you will get lots of mixed opinion.
/r/seduction30/04/14 11:17 AM
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Personal experience. Until I was 25, I was scared shitless of the label "creepy". I wanted to make girls feel comfortable with me. I went to all costs to avoid making women feel uncomfortable. Now there is bad uncomfortable and good uncomfortable. Showing your interest in her by asking her number, asking her out, kino her, teasing her, strong eye contact - this is excellent. Top top stuff. If she finds it creepy, stop, move on. There is bad uncomfortable. Trying too hard, not knowing how to comm…
/r/seduction30/04/14 11:15 AM
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www.girlschase.com/content/how-not-be-creepy-guy www.thedatingspecialist.com/blog/the-truth-about-being-creepy/ Creepy is a strange concept, and women don't even know how to define it. Essentially it is showing interest and her being not interested. Another girl will like it, will think you are sexy, and will hook up with you. For me creepy is increasing sexual tension. Touching her, look her straight in the eye, putting arm around her, having awkward silences (Can you handle the awkward silence…
/r/seduction30/04/14 11:02 AM
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Oh sorry, not patient enough? Spelling mistakes putting you off? Too good for that are you? Because to be good with women, you have to pass their spelling and grammar test, just before gaining access to their vagina?
/r/seduction30/04/14 09:10 AM
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Pointless comment above. What's the point mate?
/r/seduction30/04/14 09:09 AM
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Now mate, why don't you detail to us what you mean by finding yourself, understanding yourself, realizing you are the most important person to yourself, standing up for what you believe, self-respect. Then can you please detail how you went about doing these things. What do books about great people have to do with any of this? I agree with the tone of what you are saying, but a bit more detail and direction would be useful for us. And also, what results have you had with your approach?
/r/seduction30/04/14 09:06 AM
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I was 26
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:24 PM
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Neediness is a curse. To want a woman is different to need her. Show her you want her, mate.
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:18 PM
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Indifferent - you don't need to chase women or impress women. Women find this attractive. You are not needy. You are a challenge. Confident - you are not needy. You have a girl who is your girlfriend. Happy - who the fuck doesn't like happy people? It is attractive. On top of this, you are relaxed around women because you don't need them. You want them still (they are sexy aren't they, all these other women), but you don't need them. When you are not trying to impress anyone, it is because you a…
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:17 PM
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Excellent post mate. A further point. Girls flirt for fun. When you are showing yourself to be wanted (by having a girlfriend), that you are unaffected by them (due to subtle changes in behaviour, as the dude above said), that you are confident, happy, these all are attractive to women. Women, thus, are attracted to confident, happy men, who are relaxed and do not seem to chase them. You don't need to impress them. You are a challenge for them. Congratulations.
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:11 PM
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The mantra is "be honest with your intent LIKE A MAN". So that is showing in a manly way that you are interested.
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:07 PM
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First of all, it is necessary to define "player". For women it is someone who seduces them dishonestly. This means he cons them. The statement: "I am conned by conmen" ->> "I like conmen" is not a logical one.
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:04 PM
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Exactly. Women seem to like dishonest seducers not for the fact that they are dishonest, but because these men are experienced with women and say what a woman wants to hear. They "play" her, because they know how. Just because I get conned, doesn't mean I "like" conmen. What the fuck is this logic.
/r/seduction29/04/14 11:02 PM
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Men and women define the word "player" differently. Men define a player as someone who gets lots of women. Women define a player as someone who is dishonest AND gets lots of women. By dishonest I mean lying to women about his intentions with them. There is nothing wrong with womanizers or sleeping with lots of women. Women only don't like men like that when they lie to them. Of course you can lie and sleep with even more women, but you will get a bad reputation. I recommend not to lie to women. …
/r/seduction29/04/14 10:57 PM
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A group hangout is not a date. You need to spend time the two of you only for attraction to grow, for you two to get to know one another. If she doesn't want to meet just two of you, then it is easier to find another girl, then for you trying to convince her to meet you the two of you. If you asked her out clearly, she then understands that you are asking her our, and is trying to avoid it. My recommendation is to spend as little time as possible pursuing shifty girls, and giving maximum time to…
/r/seduction29/04/14 09:37 PM
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If you find yourself with friends who don't respect or look down upon something that you involve yourself with, people that call anything you do "pathetic", then I'd recommend to make other friends or more friends. There is nothing constructive in this style of put down. People that belittle anything about you are not the sort of people you want to be around. They often feel jealousy. People will try to hold your self development back. Continue as you are, do what you want, you live your life. P…
/r/seduction29/04/14 09:27 PM
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What's the claw, man?
/r/seduction24/04/14 08:42 PM
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Or do some Salsa. A class a week. Makes you accustomed to holding women closely while talking to them, flirting with them while standing real close, leading them physically. Gives you confidence.
/r/seduction24/04/14 11:14 AM
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Love the idea of "I need my first kiss" - bound to work! Girls think these things are cute.
/r/seduction24/04/14 11:13 AM
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You need to sexually interest a girl. Otherwise... Welcome to Friend's Zone! This guy has succeed in creating sexual interest. That's intrigue on a sexual level. She wants to fuck you. Can there be a better start to any kind of relationship, one-night stand/short or long term relationship?
/r/seduction23/04/14 12:51 PM
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While I don't like the way/style/language this dude expresses his enlightenment on the subject of seduction, he has developed a process, for attaining achievement with women. Most steps along the way have a book to read. What I like is that I had a similar thought process and development. http://www.shakedownlab.com/shakedown-method/ I will use Buddhism as an analogy. Apparently the three pillars of Buddhism are: Theory (teaching), Community (like this Reddit) and the example of the Buddha. What…
/r/seduction23/04/14 12:46 PM
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girlschase.com is great. There is a field report section. Focuses on inner game. Covers pretty much all aspects. sosuave.com is decent for techniques and stuff.
/r/seduction23/04/14 08:43 AM
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Girls don't touch guys they don't like, ESPECIALLY those they don't know. She touched you and then looked you straight in the eye. That's flirting, and with balls too. She didn't apologise. Do you want a strong helpful belief? Assume attraction always. Accidents don't happen with women. She touched you. She giggled and punched your shoulder. She gave you a compliment. These are all flirting signs. Flirt back, increase sexual tension (Google on how to do these), and ask her if she wants to hang o…
/r/seduction23/04/14 12:07 AM
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"Faking it until you make it" - I don't think proponents of this suggest not working on personal issues such as inherent lack of confidence,feeling ugly/boring/weak etc. Both work, and perhaps the best method is to do both. Your actions are who you are. Act confident, you will get feedback of people thinking you are confident, and this will reinforce your frame of "being confident". You keep thinking about this frame everyday, your frame gets reinforced everyday, and, Walla! you become more conf…
/r/seduction23/04/14 12:01 AM
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Mate, you can get dates and can get girls to sleep with you - this means something about you intrigues the girls. They are fascinated. They find you interesting. It is often not what you say, but how you say it, and given your self-confessed lack of hobbies or interests, it must be how you say it. Seduction and lifting - so you are interested in human psychology? What about attraction psychology? Nutrition? These are all huge fields of interest. You thinking you are "boring as fuck" is a limitin…
/r/seduction22/04/14 11:54 PM
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Look, I am not expert, I can just advise on what worked for me and explain why it worked. Salsa and other Latin dance classes - it teaches you not to be afraid of holding a hot woman close, of being physical with a hot woman. You switch lots of partners in a class, so you dance with lots of women. At first I was shy, and then I cared not and was no longer awed. You learn to have fun, flirt, laugh while holding an unknown woman by her hands and being 15-20cm from her face. This helped me for club…
/r/seduction22/04/14 11:26 PM
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I didn't use books at all because of being in a non-english third world country. I used the internet. I read lots and lots. Everyday I read for probably an hour on average. I used Google mainly. I didn't use to believe I attracted women. So I googled "how do I know women are interested", "how do women flirt". I read these often, so that everyday where I went and met women, I would know that this girl shows me interested or this one if flirting. Then I googled "how to flirt with women" and read l…
/r/seduction22/04/14 11:11 PM
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Sorry buddy, I haven't done cold approaches in the day, and so wouldn't be able to give you solid advice. I was just lucky to have worked and lived in a place where it was easy to meet lots of women without cold approaching.
/r/seduction22/04/14 05:48 PM
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