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| 14 | Going to a singles event with about 100+ women in attendance (and 100+ men). Any tips on sticking out of the crowd?I heard a lot of the girls there have super high standards and it can be constant rejection after rejection. This is just from the internet though and have never been to one so can't comment. | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Mixed signals?Yea could be that or she's shy. I would go with my gut in this situation. If she really wants to reach out especially after you did all this visiting to her city she will. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Mixed signals?Idk might just be a shy girl. I don't see why she would meet up with you multiple times if she wasn't interested unless she felt bad about you traveling all that distance. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 11:48 AM |
| 2 | What do you do if a girl doesn't have time for a date right away?Was just in a situation exactly like this. Met a girl off an app and she couldn't meet that weekend but we planned for the next week. She was never busy for two weeks per se but she would say things like "I can't do this week but next week works." We had one date tentatively scheduled and two others firmly scheduled during that month. The first one (tentatively scheduled) she seemed to lose a bit of interest when I tried to finalize the date and didn't open my message when I asked her when she w… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 05:30 AM |
| 2 | If a woman likes you, she will let you know6 years is way too long to play this. She keeps doing this because she knows you'll validate her. I would just cut my losses and stop responding to her. Funny enough that's probably when she'll actually make a date with you. | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 08:39 PM |
| 3 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowI mean at that point you just gotta keep any dignity you have left and get out of that situation man. This is just a one case scenario. | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 05:30 PM |
| 11 | If a woman likes you, she will let you knowTrue this. 2 years ago my friend DM'ed this girl on Instagram and she never responded to two messages. He DM'ed her recently and she started to respond and they ended up hanging out and now they are dating. Sometimes some people are just going through shit. | /r/seduction | 22/01/24 03:02 AM |
| 5 | Got her number, what should I text her?Do you recall anything interesting from your Convo with her? Did she tell you where she was from? What she likes to do? What she does for a living? If so try and recall something from that Convo and bring it into the text. E.g. you live in California and she's just moved from Texas. So you say "hey XYZ, it's ABC from Target, so what brings you from Texas to California" If there was no chance to build strong rapport then I think what you normally say is fine except maybe not put the "lmao" (this … | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 09:33 PM |
| 4 | Prevent Getting Fake NumbersEhh honestly like you said in your first paragraph getting a girl's real number who isn't into isn't going to change much. Overall you should focus on getting better leads not bad ones so you get good numbers. | /r/seduction | 12/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Should I be more direct about my intentions?Maybe I wasn't clear in my post but I've only seen her in person twice lol. I don't have anyway to contact her so the only way I can essentially hang out with her is if my friend sets it up and since he's basically gotten into a relationship rn he's been really flaky about hanging out in general lol. So I'm wondering if and how I should be more direct in making sure we all hang out. | /r/seduction | 10/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Should I be more direct about my intentions?We weren't holding hands per se but she like grabbed and held my hand after I said a joke or made a comment lol. | /r/seduction | 10/08/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Any reason why I'm getting ghosted?Lol I definitely know I have needy tendencies, but IRL I'm able to disguise it pretty easily. i just showcase it online because this is an anonymous platform and I can be my true self without having anyone in real life knowing my true emotions. I haven't been needy in person. I have met up with her in person twice but I was going to meet up with her this week for a movie and wine to try and escalate to the next level. After our date on Sunday she definitely seemed up to hanging with me before sh… | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Thinking of carrying my phone number written down and giving it to girls who show IOIs.Go for it bro, I don't see the issue. | /r/seduction | 18/07/19 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Dating Tips for Short Men | Paging Dr. NerdLoveDamn I'm not the most open about my insecurity about my height but shit this helped a lot. | /r/seduction | 18/07/19 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Should I drop her?I would put the ball in her court. E.g. Ask her if she still wants to hangout because if not you're totally fine with that. Then you'll know if she's actually busy, playing a game or simply not interested anymore. | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Is she into me? how should I go about this? [M24]We don't know. You answered your question in the last paragraph. Next time you go, talk her up and make a move. Ask for her social media/number and if she gives it to you then she's probably interested if not then she's not. | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Why is it so hard for me to make friends/girlfriends?This won't help. | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 12:49 PM |
| 0 | Approaching at bars/clubsI disagree. It's ok to buy them a drink after you've built rapport. It depends on your intention though, it your intention is to use the drink to get sex from her then forget it. If your intention is to show her that you're interested in her, go for it. | /r/seduction | 24/06/19 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Need some ideas for a first kinda date [18M, 19F]Ice cream and walk around the town square | /r/seduction | 23/06/19 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Are nightgame rejections the harshests?My worst rejections are definitely at night, even when I go for day drinks they aren't that bad. But usually my worst rejections are when I ask a girl for her name and she doesn't respond . | /r/seduction | 22/06/19 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Turning things sexualDon't listen to this guy. | /r/seduction | 10/06/19 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Girls keep track of a lot of stuff fellasI know she has a boyfriend so I can assume she's not going to cheat on him but is there anything to take from the interaction | /r/seduction | 09/06/19 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Text game, how should i play it?Might need a bit more context. I think generally the rule is, if she says she's busy but doesn't counteroffer a concrete time for another date, you should move o , or just try again once. If she keeps rescheduling but doesn't seem to give a definitive date,then move on. Maximum 3 times, unless you think she's genuinely busy. | /r/seduction | 09/06/19 09:49 PM |
| 0 | Was this a shit test? How should I have responded?I was thinking she was either not interested or doing some sort of test cause she wanted to stay with me for a while. | /r/seduction | 09/06/19 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Why is it easier to pull at house parties than at nightclubs?This is gold. The guard is up in a club. Yesterday I saw a girl (just a friend) that I hadn't seen in almost a decade and I went to say what's up, her friend for some reason was being a bitch and waved her hand and said 'swerve' to my face (lol). I wasn't even hitting on her at all, but once her friend knew I was friends with her she started opening up more. Would this have happened in a grocery store? Or a house party? Or a gym? Or school? Nope. But people put on a persona in a club and it lead… | /r/seduction | 09/06/19 09:00 PM |
| 1 | What do you need help with?Getting over rejection? | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 03:28 PM |
| 2 | is it over if a girl mentions her boyfriend in a conversation?This happened to me a few times in college. What's happening here (or what I think is happening) is she's interested but she's letting you know she can't do shit because she has a bf. But still wants to be friendly with you. Think about this way, she obviously enjoys your company. As for my advice. Imo like a poster said earlier it depends if you don't mind going for her when you know she has a bf. i don't think she's lying. I wouldn't cause I respect relationships so if she moves to you, then g… | /r/seduction | 27/05/19 05:00 PM |
| 1 | What are some conversation points when going in for the cold appraoch?That's definitely true on your first point but sometimes I honestly can't think of anything better to say hahaha. I usually ask them 'where did you get it from' and when they tell me where they got it from I say 'damn well now I know you have nice style shopping there' or something of that nature, depends on what they respond with. If it's an LV bag then I obviously hype it up, if it's a MK bag I'd probably say 'wow that looks amazing for Mk' etc. I usually don't talk about the bag for too long … | /r/seduction | 30/04/19 05:01 AM |
| 2 | What are some conversation points when going in for the cold appraoch?I either open with a compliment e.g. I like your bag, I like your shoes etc. Or (and this is how I prefer to open) I talk about something that is currently occuring or ask them a question about my surroundings. E.g. I was once at a beer garden and there was this plastic preztel hanging on a pole, I asked a group of girls if they thought it was edible and had a nice convo after that , got igs etc. Sometimes there isn't shit to talk about so I just open with a compliment most of the time. | /r/seduction | 30/04/19 03:25 AM |
| 5 | I picked up a rich 10 but she is extremely flakyWay too available and way too needy. She's lied to you blatantly multiple times this early in your relationship. Move on my friend. | /r/seduction | 30/04/19 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Is this girl wasting my time?I would note that sometimes girls will string you along and still give you a counter offer. I literally had a girl reschedule 5-6 times on me and every single time she initiated the counter offer. Her excuses were usually work related so I gave her the benefit of the doubt It was so annoying because I'm thinking 'If you're not interested, could you pleaseeee just not counteroffer or give me some silly excuse or give me pretty clear signs that you're not interested so I don't waste my time?' The … | /r/seduction | 25/04/19 01:22 AM |
| 1 | FR: Night out in a ClubOoo ok makes a lot more sense now. I thought you were just some newbie who didn't know what else to say. | /r/seduction | 23/04/19 01:06 AM |
| 6 | Need some tough love about my ex. sometimes I’ll get down like today and start really thinking about her and in the past when this happened I’d reach out but I really want to stick to my guns and stay nc. What should I do in a situation like thisStay NC | /r/seduction | 22/04/19 02:26 PM |
| 3 | FR: Night out in a ClubLOL this is an interesting approach strategy. I guess this is what people mean by 'It's a numbers game' lol | /r/seduction | 22/04/19 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls reschedule then flake (mini-vent)I said this pharaphrased 'hey you seem pretty busy are you sure you can make the next two dates you said you could? If you're too busy to meet up right now that's fine no worries ' | /r/seduction | 12/04/19 12:10 AM |
| 0 | Why do girls reschedule then flake (mini-vent)No sometimes I was busy and I told her that I couldn't make it but offered alternative times. You're right, I'm not planning on texting her until she texts me. I will say I am invested but not extremely emotionally invested in her, if she flakes after this time I'm done. No no no, I was gonna take her out to get to know her,I wouldn't call it oneitis because #1 it's not like I'm waiting for her or only trying to get with her but also because I'm not obsessed with her, I'm just mad at her actions… | /r/seduction | 11/04/19 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Girls ghost after agreeing to make plans?That's tinder mane. | /r/seduction | 11/04/19 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Is this a shit test? How do i respondAny suggestions for how to respond | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Is this a shit test? How do i respondI'm just visiting for the night boss. | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Girl wants to meet up next weekend... Should i text her at all before I confirm the date?There's not a set time yet though so I need to confirm eventually. | /r/seduction | 02/04/19 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Girl wants to meet up next weekend... Should i text her at all before I confirm the date?Appreciate it boss. | /r/seduction | 02/04/19 08:04 PM |
| 13 | Can't tell if she's interested, mind to advice?She doesn't seem interested man. | /r/seduction | 02/04/19 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Girl stopped responding for some unknown reason. Unable to wrap any logic around it.It's honestly not a big deal though, you'll be over it in a week. | /r/seduction | 02/04/19 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Girl stopped responding for some unknown reason. Unable to wrap any logic around it.Tbh it doesn't hurt in sending another text....but by all you're showing us, she's not interested. Maybe she was feeling it the night you guys met but after that night she decided she doesn't want to do anything with you anymore. It's 2019 everyone is on their phone every 5-20 minutes. I will say though girls have texted me days after and I have ended up going on dates with them. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Best places in the USA to pick up or hook up with womenBillings, MT | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Do you get more rejections with street/daygame or nightclub game?Nightclub rejections tend to be more straight up,day rejections you get let down a little easier. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:25 PM |
| 1 | SHE CANCELED DATE NEED HELP!!Have you never met this girl in person? You said you asked her in the morning? How long have you been talking to her for? | /r/seduction | 30/03/19 12:58 AM |
| 47 | Men not having sex at an all time high. What happened in 2008?Seems as if the 'hookup' culture is even less slutty than past generations lol | /r/seduction | 30/03/19 12:56 AM |
| 3 | Does the amount of Y’s in okay and hey really mean anything?Yes and no is the real answer. It depends, it's all situational. Can't really answer definitively but I'd say in your case you're good to go | /r/seduction | 30/03/19 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only one that doesn't like going to clubs?I like lounges and bigger bars. Clubs aren't really my thing unless I have a table or so. | /r/seduction | 29/03/19 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Utilize Uber/Lyft Pool (if you live in a big city)Please my friend, calm down I think you overlooked my statement. What I do isn't creepy at all it's simply starting a conversation Maybe I used the wrong phrase, but when I said their 'guard might be let down' I meant in the sense that when you're at a bar, a girl's 'guard' will be up because she is expecting to get hit on, thus she's probably less likely to reciprocate conversation if tons of guys are coming up to her saying the same thing every time. Eventually she'll just start rejecting you … | /r/seduction | 29/03/19 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Is throwing the ball in her court a good idea?As with everything.... It depends (gasp). You want to show initiative at first as that displays confidence and someone that knows what they want but... If the girl seems disinterested throwing the ball in her court is a good way to find out if she's playing hard to get or simply uninterested. E.g. asking a girl to get coffee on Saturday afternoon is showing initiative. If she says well 'Idk I might be busy yadda yadda yadda' you then say 'ok well let me know if you want to come'. If she's intere… | /r/seduction | 27/03/19 08:09 PM |
| 1 | How to get a girl from a different race/nationality?Just talk to them like you would any other girl. | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 10:11 PM |
| 5 | Dating is a fucking joke when you are a short guy in collegeI've got the same dynamic, I'm 5'6, buff, and starting to bald. It really blows. I'm actually a decent approacher but I only approach girls shorter than me. Sometimes when I'm out and I don't see any girls shorter than me I just think "damn, if only I was a little bit taller I would approach every girl in this bar" but it really blows to limit the amount of girls you hit on to be less than 50% of the population (and on a night out with heels it's 60-70) At the end of the day man, you're not grow… | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 07:13 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop feeling shitty the next day after having no successWelp I've been called both by attractive girls and guys but also been called ugly (albeit mostly by guys and my friends to be more specific). I've gotten IOIs from attractive girls as well (girls coming up and dancing with me, stares etc.) It may be my short stature. So where else do I meet girls? | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 12:51 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop feeling shitty the next day after having no successTbh I've been called both ugly (albeit mostly by guys and to be more specific my guy friends) and attractive numerous times... I've gotten IOIs and I've been approached by attractive, average and ugly girls too. I personally think I should be pulling but maybe it's my height (5''6.5) is the reason I don't do as well. | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Think I gave her the wrong number but don't want to come of as creepy...Yeah follow this ^ | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys suggest I meet girls (I'm struggling right now)If out at night it usually happens from me looking at their outfit and commenting something on the lines of 'I like your shoes/shirt/bag/dress etc.' then a ask a few more questions before asking for their name and just going through the convo before going for the number/social media etc. It worked pretty well in the summer, but I've noticed a significant decline in success rate in the winter (coupled with the fact that I don't go out as much when it's cold) so I need other ways of meeting girls … | /r/seduction | 28/01/19 04:11 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys suggest I meet girls (I'm struggling right now)What's the best way to start cold approach? | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know how guys handle rejection so easily. I got rejected all night at club and feel like crap.Two questions, what city are you in? You can just tell me region/population Also how are you getting rejected? Straight rejections ? Or gradual rejections? | /r/seduction | 02/12/18 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you respond to the "I can't that night" or "I'm busy with xyz" texts with no alternative suggestion from her end?Yup, pretty much this | /r/seduction | 19/11/18 04:14 AM |
| 6 | Has anybody here ever ‘slid in the DMs’ (of someone they don’t know) on insta/twitter and had it work?I usually respond to stories on Instagram. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, I disagree with a lot of the comments on here. I say use it but not as a crutch. | /r/seduction | 13/11/18 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Just got ghosted after a great interaction... What went wrong?Can't even lie I lol'led at the OP because I hear shit like this from my friends all the time. But yes agreed with @Frosty1990 girls are strange creatures man. You did nothing wrong but next time try and close earlier. Talking in a club for 2 hours is too long honestly. Next time, ask what she's doing later and if you can walk her home, watch a movie etc. Say you're having a "postgame" or talk about something cool at your place she should check out. | /r/seduction | 30/10/18 01:48 AM |
| 2 | Asked by cute coworker to dinner next weekIt can be hard to explain my job but, I rarely see this girl and she's leaving the client this week so I wouldn't really see her again unless we're in the same city regardless. Trust me I'd never shit where I eat lol. | /r/seduction | 28/10/18 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Long Response Time from WomenDo they apologize for texting so late or just continue the convo? If they apologize then they probably somewhat forgot... If not and their responses are short then dead it. | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 04:24 PM |
| 1 | how to make the first moveJust go for it dude. Spin her around, kiss her on the neck, turn her face. Make a mooove. | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 03:16 PM |
| 2 | I been talking to her and I need to actually step it upTake her on a low investment date(ice cream, coffee, etc.) , then a couple days later ask to Netflix and chill. | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Confused after 1sth dateAs a general rule don't double text. I've had girls text me 1-2 days later and still gone on dates with them. If she wants to respond she'll respond. Double texting comes off as needy. | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 11:23 PM |
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