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candacepatra/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 11:33 AM
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candacepatra/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 04:33 PM
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This is really wonderful advice. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:36 AM
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Yes, exactly!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:34 AM
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Thanks for your explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:32 AM
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Thanks! I really appreciate it. Of course I got the "this video is not available in your country" message but I might be able to use a VPN later to access. Otherwise will have to wait until I'm back in the US next, not sure when that will be. I can't wait to watch!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:13 AM
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If you find it online for non-US viewers, please send it my way!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 09:24 PM
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I've searched on YouTube but find no option, even to pay to watch. Maybe it's because I'm not in the US? :(
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 09:21 PM
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Same here! If you find a link please send it my way!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 09:19 PM
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What should I be doing right now to prepare for a happy life? Workout, create habits that help you maintain physical and emotional health, learn how to cook, develop your talents and hobbies, read a lot about personal growth and self-development, and put together a lose five-year plan that incorporates goals you'd like to reach (in any area- relationships, work, school, travel) and how you'd like to get there. Much of TheRedPill dogma just makes it seem like women can't win and that in 3 years I…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 02:53 PM
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Learning how to make a simple, delicious roasted chicken is really a good skill to have in life! It isn't labor intensive and turns in to the most fulfilling, beautiful dinner if done right.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 02:27 PM
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Excellent reminder! Treating people with respect is so important, especially those who are close to us. It's easy to forget when you get caught up in daily banalities and let your mood overtake you and drive your behavior around people that you spend time with a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 02:05 PM
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Hope it goes well!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 01:41 PM
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First of all, cool username... ;) I wouldn't read in to it too much. She's your guest, and you're putting her up in your place, hosting her and planning on making her five days fun-filled. It takes a lot of energy to host a guest, even if it's a best friend. I'm sure she'll be grateful for all of it and isn't truly expecting you to go completely out of your way to give 100% of your attention to her. Hopefully it was just a small fear disguised as a bad joke. I'm assuming you're past the age wher…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 01:12 PM
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Agreed - that's an excellent subreddit to go to for support. It helped me to understand my father's narcissism and how it affected me as a child and still does to this day. It was eye-opening to understand how his behaviors affected my relationship and contributed to the insecurities and issues I have had in the past!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 12:54 PM
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Totally agree. I love cooking. Once you're actually good at it, you can spend hours in a zone listening to music and cooking ALL THE THINGS. My favorite cookbook is Julia Child's Mastering the Art of French Cooking. It helps lay a good foundation for learning all types of cuisine and how to just throw together something amazing with simple ingredients. It also teaches you a lot about the science and chemistry behind cooking and baking with certain foods. I also really love Claudia Roden's The Ne…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 12:51 PM
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Bring it in to the office! Or to teachers, or for a friend or neighbor. Everyone loves baked goods! :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 12:46 PM
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Reading The Surrendered Wife right now. Would love to read her next book. Can't wait for the AMA :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 12:43 PM
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I love /u/RPDame's response and would just add... give yourself the space to experience emotion. We are women, after all. Sometimes shit gets tough and we cry when the rice spills all over the counter. I know personally I'd like to have a better handle on my emotions, and I've been actively working on understanding why I experience emotions and not "controlling" them but also not taking them out on my SO or blaming unrelated things on my emotions. I can identify with what it's like to be a stron…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 12:42 PM
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Thanks! :) RPW helped me get there.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 10:23 AM
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Sure thing! I see you've PMed me. I'll take a look and get back to you. Sorry I wasn't around the last few days! :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 10:23 AM
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Have you started reading The Surrendered Wife? It's very helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 01:57 PM
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I suggest you make this a separate post if you're hoping to get advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 01:51 PM
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Adding to my list, next after I finish The Surrendered Wife. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 01:14 PM
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Thanks for sharing this! I love it. I can't wait to start reading through all the posts.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 01:02 PM
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I completely agree about the tone and how it's written! That being said though, I suppose somehow this article is meant to appeal to the "average" ie., not yet enlightened woman... and that kind of language is used to draw her in as a reader. Sadly, it's yet another representation of how culture perverts relationships so that contemporary thought and advice is not even remotely helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 12:27 PM
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It sounds like these day-time texts are important to you for two reasons: You get validation & security from them (he still loves you, he's not mad, he's thinking of you) They're representative of how things were before you messed up I think the first step is just to relax. I know how frustrating it can be to feel how you feel in this situation, I've been there myself. It's absolutely terrifying to see that you had a good thing, and some of your own issues caused you to be suspicious or act nega…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 12:11 PM
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This is such a good addition... it is minor and usually an oversight, but it does make a huge difference! I just purged my wardrobe (belated spring cleaning) and I've only got one bra left sigh Matching sets make you feel a lot more put together, and also, sexy! And I think feeling that way all day long contributes so much to feeling feminine and attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 11:40 AM
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Our stories are so similar, it's really crazy! I've been reading up on your posts. :) I got to a point recently where I think we could have broken up, we came close to it. Afterward I had some huge realizations, one of which was that I also was repeating behaviors I learned from my mom (who has been married three times and clearly harbors insecurities from her father leaving). I remember how eye-opening it was to me when I realized not every argument or disagreement means that someone is leaving…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 05:13 PM
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This is amazing. You must be proud that your work has paid off! When I read your posts, I get this feeling that I'm going through what you've already been through. That I could be saying the same things you're saying, in just a few months. Reading your words also really reminds me of how confident and comfortable I was with my relationship during the first few years. Back then I knew nothing of RP, but my ideas and beliefs were exactly the same, as a result of some stark realizations right befor…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 04:59 PM
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This is a wonderful, and extremely encouraging story! Thanks for sharing! I am currently in a position where I've realized that I was actively RP for the first few years of my relationship, but in the last year or two I've somehow slipped out of it unknowingly and have done some major, but not unrepairable, damage. I am now looking for ways to improve and grow, to keep myself from reverting in to carelessness. Your story is inspiring to me, and gives me hope that with a little work and dedicatio…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 04:39 PM
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Wow! Thanks for this in-depth and thorough reply. This advice is incredibly rational and really makes sense. Every point seems so obvious when I read it, although somehow I've overlooked it until this point. It's so simple. May I ask, what kind of hobbies do you have that help you to stay balanced? Based on what you've said, it seems you've taken great care to deliberately grow in these areas, I'd love to hear more about how you've gone about that process and how you maintain it. Thanks again!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 04:28 PM
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Kudos to you for being able to have the self-control to wind down in such instances! I am working on building that up. I need to find a good medium between "this is an okay emotion to express" and "maybe now is a good time to go get some quiet time" lol. I can easily watch a few episodes of the Kardashians back to back, it's like junk food... filling, addictive, satisfying, low-quality, and you feel bad about yourself if you indulge too much. But still good. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:22 PM
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Exactly! I try my best not to bother him with unnecessary things, but he is really he best person to give me answers about certain situations. My girlfriends are wonderful, but a situation recently made me realize I was involving them too much, maybe to the detriment of my relationship. I'm now involving them less.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:13 PM
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I understand what you mean. It's great that you're able to feel so secure. I love lifting! I'm a beginner but I decided recently to devote more time to weight lifting and less to cardio. I enjoy it so much more.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:11 PM
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You're blessed! Has he always been his way, or do you see a correlation between his supportive behavior and your RPW characteristics/growth?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:09 PM
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I need to get back in to the habit of journaling!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:07 PM
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Isn't it funny how a man who can remember to remind us to check the calendar can help us reset completely during mid-hysteria?! Such a small thing, but those of us who have it are grateful haha. I downloaded an app that shoots me a reminder five days beforehand which helps me stay in check.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:07 PM
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I'll have to check the IRC out, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:05 PM
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So true!! Thanks for pointing at out! I also really appreciate your reminder that emotional support or comfort can be acquired in many ways.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:04 PM
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How lucky you are! :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:03 PM
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I'm so glad I found this sub, it's a necessary reminder of how important it is not to take anger or dissatisfaction out on my SO. I was successful at doing this in the first few years of our relationship, but over time I seemed to be less conscious of it and let some old habits creep back in. I'm making a conscious effort now not to discuss my relationship with my girlfriends, especially after getting to a point where I realized how all of the chatter was affecting my relationship negatively.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:03 PM
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I love how you put this. Most of the time when we get worked up, it's hard to identify the true emotion behind it and to let the craziness fall to the side. I need to find a way to ask myself that question ("what's behind this?") in the heat of the moment!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 04:00 PM
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That's why I went off any birth control all together! I didn't realize how much it affected me while I was on it. I just watch my cycle to know when I'm more fertile, and take care on those days. Some people call it family planning or the fertility method. It's worked for me for five years successfully! I've also heard of non-hormonal IUDs as an option.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 03:58 PM
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It's worked very well for me! Also I like that it's natural. For a while I was considering asking my doctor about a light anti-depressant, but once I started SJW I felt an immediate difference. I only really need it about half of the month, when hormones get he best of me. Wishing you luck!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 03:54 PM
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Interesting experiment. I suppose many of us never think from the get-go that flattery wouldn't be sincere, but all the wiser...!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 11:24 AM
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I used to do the same! I was stupid and young enough that I didn't realize they were trying to friendship their way to physical contact, and I was confused about why so many male friends would bail once I was official with another guy. Never occurred to me that everything wasn't innocent! Hindsight is 20-20
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/15 10:01 AM
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It's an all natural substance, you can buy it at any supplements store without a prescription. But do your research as to which supplement brands are better - recently there was a big scandal related to how many supplements don't have the ingredients they claim to! But it was only certain brands, others were found to be correct. I'd give you a recommendation, but I live in the Middle East, and we don't have the same brands here :) Edit: Just wanted to add, also read up on the supplement itself t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/15 09:41 AM
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Agreed! If only I had so much control over shit testing, I bet I could accomplish so much more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 10:37 PM
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I'm in the same boat! What a mind-bending realization this was for me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 10:34 PM
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Hi! I just wanted to share to let you know you're not alone. I have had a very similar experience. My cycle has caused more problems over time and my emotions vary far more as I get older than they ever did when I was younger. Remember, us women have hormonal changes throughout our our lives! I recommend reading up on whether taking a St John's Wort supplement may be helpful for you. It really helped even out my emotional state In a noticeable way.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 10:26 PM
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I live in the Middle East and really love the attention both men and women pay to dressing masculine or feminine. I appreciate how most of our social class appears perfectly coiffed or rugged. It's like night and day comparing them side by side with the average American man or woman. It always makes me feel so strange when I go back to the US, because I'm always overdressed in comparison! I can't understand how a whole country can be so sloppy and androgynous.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 10:08 PM
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Hi ladies! I just found RPW and have spent he last hour reading to learn as much as I can. I am so happy to find you all! I have spent he last few years of my life believing here was a truth to make-female relationships and many of the points are similar to the core tenets of RPW. I feel like I've found home! This comes at especially good timing as I've reached some difficulties in my personal growth, and it's become clear to me that my relationship has been affected as a result. Now I feel like…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 09:59 PM
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