cannibalstreudel Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
109	You don't owe girls friendship or attention	Inner Game	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	29/12/21 05:28 PM
85	I used to think I had to be into "manly" things to get with girls	Lifestyle	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	04/01/22 01:14 AM
8	Dating is super simple. It's more about UNlearning things than learning what to do.	Fundamentals	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	22/12/21 01:12 AM
4	A lesson I learned - keep first dates simple	Fundamentals	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	24/12/21 04:56 PM
2	Advice on dealing with authority		cannibalstreudel	/r/askTRP	03/06/18 11:01 PM
1	How to frame your dates so flakes don't hurt anymore	Inner Game	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	13/01/22 07:21 PM
1	What's the difference between being a chump and calibrating?		cannibalstreudel	/r/askTRP	02/11/18 03:03 PM
0	Girls are the dessert, but make sure you eat dessert	Inner Game	cannibalstreudel	/r/seduction	10/01/22 03:53 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Going "too far" sexually on first dates Yup! It's a good problem to have. You're moving in the right direction ;)	/r/seduction	29/07/24 09:32 PM
3	Going "too far" sexually on first dates 10000% exactly Some things I like to do to build tension: Look at her lips and make it obvious. Or move in for the kiss slowly and instead, touch our noses and get close but don't touch lips. Or caress her chin with my thumb, as I eye-fuck her then pull my hand away. Make it fun, make it as exciting for you as it is for her.	/r/seduction	29/07/24 09:23 PM
3	Going "too far" sexually on first dates I agree with u/ThrowRA_typicalAnon. In addition, building sexual tension is more important than actually doing sexual things. Doing sexual things shows intent, but if you're deeply rooted in your masculinity, you'll show her your sexual intent with your vibe and with your body language... the way you speak to her, the way you look at her, etc. Doing sexual things with her diffuses the tension... so it's a play between building the excitement, the sexual spark in the air, and diffusing it by cash…	/r/seduction	29/07/24 08:38 PM
1	In 2024, is "emotionally unavailable" a woman's default state? u/DaygameCode said it perfectly. Real life is very very different from a college campus. People are generally much more closed off by default. You get to get people comfortable though, by being comfortable in your own skin, rooted in your masculinity, and unapolagetic about your desire for her time, attention, and sharing how she affects you (attraction)	/r/seduction	25/07/24 07:49 PM
1	Women I approached either married or have a boyfriend Based on what you wrote it's likely you're putting out a needy vibe since you're a virgin and you're fed up about it. Here's a secret... it's not that you're a virgin that's making you needy. It's your relationship with being a virgin. Your internal shame around it. You're making it mean something it doesn't have to mean. If you learn to accept that you're a virgin, and not make it mean anything more than what it is, then your vibe will relax and girls will feel more comfortable around you.	/r/seduction	24/07/24 04:56 AM
2	I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch them Awesome. Update us with how it goes! It may take a few tries to find a good therapist for you	/r/seduction	17/07/24 05:05 PM
2	I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch them Agreed. When it comes to getting girls, men understand what it's like from the inside. Women understand what it's like from the outside, which won't help you change in the permanent, powerful ways you need to change.	/r/seduction	17/07/24 05:03 PM
116	I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch them Sounds like you have some internal shame about being sexual. I've gone deep into seduction, getting used to women, etc. and have made the mistake of going way too far in my early days. The consequences you hear about are if you are a predator, purposefully hurting women, or forcing women into situations they're not cool with. Generally, if you have good intentions but accidentally go too far, there's no consequences - I speak from experience. As for the internal stuff, it's not sexy, but therapy…	/r/seduction	16/07/24 09:53 PM
18	drunk texted a lot of women, what now? Ask them out right when you get the number... or better yet, right before. "Hey I like your vibes, and you're kinda cute. We should grab a coffee and see where it goes. What's your number?" or something similar is more than enough. If you just ask for their number they might know why, but being chill and direct makes you stick in their minds as an option - only confident guys do that and you can be one of them. Get comfortable flirting and sharing your interest during the meetup. Teasing, etc. i…	/r/seduction	13/01/22 07:26 PM
20	Girl I am seeing playing mind games, showing some interest and then not showing any at all. Rollercoaster Move on. You deserve girls who freely and openly show you they're interested. Drama can feel exciting in the moment (like a roller coaster) but as a mentor of mine once said, don't mistake intensity for happiness.	/r/seduction	29/12/21 05:19 PM
1	The concept of alpha/beta/sigma males is bullshit. Independent, self-assured, centered men don’t care about labels 100% A bunch of people believe the best way to be a certain way is to mimic that way of being. This is not 100% false... mimicing is ONE way of assimilating a new personality, but it's the INTERNAL qualities which solidify it and make it a real, deep personality shift. "Alpha" behaviors from the outside really just come from internally caring more about what you think of yourself than what others think of you. It's that internal shift from caring about what others think to caring about integrity…	/r/seduction	29/12/21 05:17 PM
3	If you receive a compliment, don’t respond by downplaying it, or giving a compliment in return https://tenor.com/brkzH.gif	/r/seduction	27/12/21 10:31 PM
72	If you receive a compliment, don’t respond by downplaying it, or giving a compliment in return 100%. A simple genuine heartfelt "thank you" with a smile is overpowered.	/r/seduction	27/12/21 02:29 PM
1	I hate myself for being effeminate https://youtu.be/XMroh2Eahk8	/r/seduction	19/11/21 01:02 AM
2	I got a girls snap at work today. Nice man! A lot of girls actually like when you're nervous - it makes them feel pretty, they can see how they affect you. Props for going for it even when you're nervous! What matters is that you pulled the trigger, her reaction is up to her. Keep it up!	/r/seduction	10/11/21 03:49 AM
1	Girl says “I’ll text you” We have no idea. If you wanna go on a date with her it’s up to you to make it happen. I’d follow up in 3-4 days and try to plan something - a specific place date and time. Then let the pieces fall as they may.	/r/seduction	23/10/21 01:20 AM
1	I woke up today and i saw a message from a girl who broke my heart 3 years before. Why did you fall in love with her after only sleeping with her once? How many girls have you been with?	/r/seduction	22/10/21 06:48 PM
1	I woke up today and i saw a message from a girl who broke my heart 3 years before. What did she do to break your heart?	/r/seduction	22/10/21 06:32 PM
3	10 rules that i've learned from around 50 lays Been with more than 110 girls and can confirm. These lessons only get more and more strong the more experience you get. One awesome thing about seduction is that going after girls helps you become a better man. In fact it's mandatory - if you don't grow as a man, you won't succeed. Cheers man! Onwards and upwards!	/r/seduction	19/10/21 07:33 PM
1	If she starts acting cold, in person or over text, always mirror her behavior. A lot of guys do the opposite, and it backfires I like the edit you put on the post. And you're right about the best behavior. The issue I have with this post is it doesn't mention the real issue... If a girl isn't giving you her attention, why would you even try? Aren't you worth being with someone - or several - who give you attention and time? A more helpful way of saying this is if a girl isn't giving you attention, delete her number and move on. Other girls will. Go find them. We get in our own way sometimes when we feel like the girl we…	/r/seduction	15/10/21 04:11 PM
1	What did I do wrong? Why do you think you did something wrong?	/r/seduction	09/10/21 01:44 AM
6	[deleted by user] If a girl really likes you, you wouldn't be second-guessing yourself. It would be obvious. She'd reciprocate your advances without tons of work on your part. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it seems like this girl is just leading you on.	/r/seduction	08/10/21 08:11 PM
37	[deleted by user] I read some other comments. Why are you giving attention to a girl who's rejected you? It seems like you're hyper-focused on getting this girl despite her not being interested. If you stick it out, there's a 5% chance she'll change her mind. But you could have hit on 100 more girls and swiped on 1,000 and gotten 3 hot fwb with the same effort. I get how hard rejection can be. The hard truth is we're men, and as men it's expected that we make the first move and risk rejection. Learn to embrace it…	/r/seduction	08/10/21 07:54 PM
3	quick, I need a response for "Are you always so funny?" Why are you asking us? We’re not the guys she thinks are funny. You are. Do you want to be dependent on other guys to flirt with girls for you? Do you want to always feel like you need our approval? Go experiment, fuck up a bit (that’s what you’re scared of, that’s why you want our permission- so you’ll never be rejected) and eventually you’ll be great at flirting yourself! You’ve got this! I’m being a bit tough on you here so you see the point I’m making but I know you can do it!	/r/seduction	07/10/21 05:11 PM
0	[deleted by user] Dating and sex is extremely important to get handled. So is money. The timing would depend on the person, I'd advise focusing on one at a time. Either you focus all-in on girls, improve yourself enough and get over your fear of rejection so you can get laid whenever you want. Then when you focus on building wealth, you're good enough at getting laid you just buy a few Tinder boosts and you're good. Or the other way around. Achieve financial freedom by early 30s, then take time off/retire and go …	/r/seduction	06/10/21 11:46 PM
12	I already scheduled a date for the weekend but the girl still initiates conversations on text. In reading the comments there's not much to add. Most of the commenters got it right. Reply when you can, just don't over do it. You've got this. I will add value to the post though by dissecting the idea of "be distant" "be a mystery" etc. What's the reasoning people give behind this piece of advice? If she knows who you are, she'll leave. Look at that sentence again. "If she knows who you are, she'll leave." I don't think it's possible to get more insecure than this. Every guy is insecure, hec…	/r/seduction	06/10/21 11:22 PM
2	[deleted by user] I can imagine dating seems super exhausting when you're working on your "game." You feel like you have to be "on" all the time, and if you fuck up, your girl will find a better guy. Ugh so demoralizing! And I don't blame you for thinking this way. Most guys, after they're disillusioned with the "just be yourself and girls will love you!" mindset flip and feel like they have to be on their game all the time or girls won't like them. This, like the "just be yourself" advice, is partially accurate …	/r/seduction	05/10/21 12:18 PM
1	Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday? Mixing dating and work is a big risk you have to take into account. I've been fired a few times (self-employed now so no risks there!) for mixing the two. I'd just ignore it, and seriously consider whether you want to take the risk of losing your job in the future. Your choice - there's more than enough girls out there in the world or online on Tinder/Bumble etc. if you don't want to take the risk. As for continuing to follow this girl, a lot of other commenters said it well - why would you want…	/r/seduction	03/10/21 06:08 PM
2	How Long Does It Take To Get Rid Of Approach Anxiety? However long it needs to. More in depth answer with some tough love at the end: Depends on the person. Why do you ask? Are you trying to justify not taking action? Are you trying to figure out why you're still anxious if you've started approaching girls already? Nobody can predict this for you, just keep approaching. You might never erase your anxiety. What matters isn't how nervous you feel, it's how many girls you ask out. Feel the fear and do it anyway - anything else is mental masturbation.	/r/seduction	02/10/21 04:30 PM
2	[deleted by user] The point of the book is that it's not your job to attract women, and you'd be wasting time and energy trying. If you try, and then the woman's attracted to you - it probably wasn't your trying that attracted her. She'd still have slept with you if you didn't try. Sure always self improve and make yourself more attractive (diet, workout, fashion, money etc.) but aside from that, why do you have to "attract a girl?" Are you not good enough as you are?	/r/seduction	02/10/21 04:12 PM
3	Not sure what to say to approach a girl From my perspective asking... "Hey, you're cute - are you single?" "Yeah" "Let's grab a drink, what's your number?" gives number *text "Hey cutie it's OP, save my number. Let's grab that drink - you free tonight at 7?" ... seems super confident. And while I totally understand you wanting to avoid being rejected, isn't it a bit more desperate to spend hours texting her and exchanging photos without any commitment from her to meet up later? I mean heck, it's bothering you enough to talk about it…	/r/seduction	29/09/21 05:19 PM
2	Not sure what to say to approach a girl What's desperate about wanting to find out as quickly as possible if she's down and not wasting your time or hers?	/r/seduction	29/09/21 05:08 PM
6	Not sure what to say to approach a girl You hit the nail on the head here - the reason most people avoid going directly for "You're cute let's go out" and instead try to "come in through the side door" is because most people are afraid of getting rejected. I used to be like this. But instead of risking rejection, you're wasting your time, getting overly invested in a girl and drawing out the process. A guy I learned a lot from said it perfectly - the solution to all your girl problems is to go talk to more girls. You can't make a girl…	/r/seduction	29/09/21 05:00 PM
10	Not sure what to say to approach a girl Nice job approaching man! Most guys don't bother you're already above average just by trying. When it comes to talking to girls, most guys give you the advice to "come in through the side door" by pretending the conversation isn't about how cute they are. I'm going to give you a secret... girls see you hitting on them from miles away. They know why you're saying "hi." Contrary to popular seduction advice (not necessarily here, but other places online), your job in approaching is NOT: 1) To mak…	/r/seduction	29/09/21 04:37 PM
1	Lost frame with ltr? Healing emotional wounds is different for different people - just like a cut on your arm is different than a cut on my arm. But there are things that help almost everyone: 1) journaling about it 2) talking to a therapist 3) others. Read Brené Brown's "Daring Greatly." She's researched shame for decades and wrote a book about it.	/r/askTRP	20/06/19 01:58 AM
1	Lost frame with ltr? Fuck frame. The issue is you. Deep down something got triggered in you... She called you a pervert as a joke and YOU got angry. Why? Do you have some buried sexual shame that she pulled out? Girls are amazing at finding our insecurities and showing them to us... The question is, are you going to take the opportunity to heal your internalized shame by being honest with yourself about it? Or are you going to bury it deeper and cover it up with "frame" meaning the same thing can and probably will h…	/r/askTRP	20/06/19 12:21 AM
1	How to stop being anxious when alone or in silence? Meditate at least 5 minutes every morning. It'll help you with tons of things, especially this.	/r/askTRP	19/06/19 11:58 PM
11	3rd date no sex Three possibilities: 1) she's manipulative and making you wait for her own benefit 2) she's just nervous 3) she's got emotional issues like sexual shame Next time ask yourself... Do you wanna keep seeing her even if you never have sex? (She's a cool enough person just to hang with) or do you need sex with this girl for it to be worth it to you? Either answer is valid. Act accordingly. You weren't too mean here if you legit wanted sex and didn't want to wait. Another path that might have opened u…	/r/askTRP	19/06/19 10:20 PM
10	Book(s) that changed your life? The Way of the Superior Man	/r/askTRP	19/06/19 10:14 PM
2	Jealous friend giving me subtle jabs - best way to handle it? Yeah. No reason to do it. No reason to overpraise either. Just be honest if it comes up in convo.	/r/askTRP	17/06/19 10:50 PM
4	Jealous friend giving me subtle jabs - best way to handle it? Truth. I used to shit on all the successful guys until I looked at myself and was like... Why the fuck do I need to do this? I should be inspired. I don't do this crap anymore.	/r/askTRP	17/06/19 04:04 AM
1	What's the difference between being a chump and calibrating? Yeah... That makes sense. I'm just not connected to her as much as I want to be. Staying connected to her feedback is a thing I want to grow	/r/askTRP	03/11/18 02:56 AM
-1	Make her day. Lol. Simple. Find something you like. Tell her that you like it and why. Done	/r/TheRedPill	21/06/18 05:26 AM
1	Make her day. Fuck yeah man! I love looking at TRP and seeing something that's uplifting! Relationships should be a win win! A lot of stuff on TRP comes from guys super frustrated with their dating lives because they don't have the right idea about what to do and are angry, and I love an uplifting post like this! Mentally healthy girls like being complemented if the guy genuinely means it and doesn't expect anything in return... If you're complementing to get her attention or her approval or her pussy you're …	/r/TheRedPill	21/06/18 05:17 AM
1	Last minute resistance Here's a better question... Why would you want to see girl #2 again? That's super shitty of her. Disrespectful. I'd soft next her and let her reach out to me... Or not. And move on.	/r/askTRP	04/06/18 03:33 AM
2	Gift from another guy She's shit testing you man. Either you've been cucked or you're about to be. Show her you know what she's up to and lay down the law. One way - show her you know what she's up to then tell her you're not coming, and she can pick up the gift, but if she does, don't come back and lose your number. If she goes, she wasn't really yours. If she doesn't, she'll have more respect for you and will stay yours longer.	/r/askTRP	04/06/18 03:29 AM
2	Where did I fuck up this time? A couple things. First of all, seed sexual comfort in the beginning. Any girl I'm attracted to I'll lightly touch her arm when I'm speaking to her or playfully scratch her thigh randomly if we're sitting next to each other, or boop her in the nose randomly then look into her eyes (as weird as it sounds I love this and they usually melt. All the time she stops, I complement her eyes or some other part I like about her, then go "what were you saying?") You went right for the pussy, no comfort, no …	/r/askTRP	04/06/18 03:23 AM
1	Question for looks maxing Don't worry about being bald. If you shave and own it you can look pretty masculine and it might even be a bonus. I'd put more energy into reframing and owning the fact you're bald, some chicks dig it and if you own it, the chicks that don't will still dig your confidence.	/r/askTRP	04/06/18 03:08 AM
1	Advice on dealing with authority You've got some good points I have some improvement to do. The point of my post isn't to apply this to the job. Fuck the job. My business in the first two weeks paid for rent and it's about to pay for next month's rent. It's to apply it to conferences, entrepreneurial groups, yoga classes... Any social group where I can pick up girls. Out of interest of building my toolbox and rising above similar situations in the future, I'm curious what you and others reading this post would do to remedy it.	/r/askTRP	04/06/18 02:31 AM
1	askTRP Megathread May 09 Personally I wouldn't. Sex is such an important part of my relationships I would never close myself off without knowing it'll be there for me when I want it. Your choice man, but I'd never commit to a girl before fucking her	/r/TheRedPill	13/05/18 03:10 AM
1	Stop Thinking Like a Beta Yes! Screw what other guys label her. The dude who owns the fact that he wants her and takes action on that gets her. (Or doesn't, and that's her loss and he moves on)	/r/TheRedPill	12/05/18 02:18 PM
3	Stop Thinking Like a Beta Totally. The way I see it, it's very simple - go after the girls you like. Screw what other guys think of them. They can reject you, their loss. Or they can let you fuck them, your gain. If you validate yourself for just talking to her you always win. I just hooked up with my cute "lesbian" friend 😂 just go after the girls you like. Let them say yes or no.	/r/TheRedPill	12/05/18 02:16 PM
2	askTRP Megathread May 09 I'd say no. Without an attraction within you you're only going through the motions and not learning anything.	/r/TheRedPill	11/05/18 09:34 PM
1	askTRP Megathread May 09 Some of the best guys I've found are really ugly with somewhat bad genes... They had to practice and practice and improve and improve that they are so good at game and no guy sees them as a threat so they go right in and get the girl. Sometimes it's actually an advantage!	/r/TheRedPill	11/05/18 09:19 PM
1	askTRP Megathread May 09 I built some sexual prowess after my first breakup, bedding about 20 girls in a year (which was what I wanted to do, not trying to brag - I'm sure many of you have bedded many more in a year - or prove myself to anyone.) I met a friend who was amazing with girls and I asked him tons of questions... It turned out he's a red-piller and he shared the documentary with me as well as this Reddit. My end game - have sex on call with girls I like being around whenever I want, feel secure in any relation…	/r/TheRedPill	11/05/18 09:15 PM
1	askTRP Megathread May 09 In respecting your own sexual activity and your own sex life, even and especially when partnered monogamously, you have to make sure you're having enough. Sure maybe it's possible she's legit attracted but has tons of resistance to sex outside of a relationship. In fact it seems this way given the way you've described your interactions, although in America the third date typically has the magic if you're going by the rulebook (which often doesn't hold in my experience but with some girls it may.…	/r/TheRedPill	11/05/18 08:58 PM
1	askTRP Megathread May 09 A guy who liked to think a lot and wrote about it. The individual and society, the nature of politics and reality... Plato's The Republic	/r/TheRedPill	11/05/18 07:33 PM
2	Why Girls Flake on Dates I agree with some of your points. That said, it's important to set your boundaries. It doesn't really matter why she flaked. If she wants to meet you, she'll suggest an alternate time, and you should assume she's telling the truth. Reschedule if you want to put in the effort, don't if you don't. If she doesn't try to reschedule, she probably doesn't want to see you, or she's playing games. Both of which are kinda shitty ways to act, and a self-respecting man wouldn't tolerate that. I know I woul…	/r/seduction	21/05/17 06:17 AM
1	Top 2 Ways to Overcome The Nice Guy Syndrome I'm glad. As I seek to improve myself, I seek to help others. I'm glad there are more people improving.	/r/seduction	21/05/17 04:53 AM
1	Top 2 Ways to Overcome The Nice Guy Syndrome This is a great resource. I've been struggling with Nice Guy Syndrome, and when I broke out of it initally I felt I was "manipulative" "narcissistic" "being a dick" "insensitive" and the like. I felt totally out of touch with myself and reality and began to hate myself. When I was approached by my dorm director for hitting on girls (while it's risky to hit on girls where you live, I didn't give a shit as I was pushing myself so far out of my comfort zone and was very successful) I locked up and …	/r/seduction	21/05/17 04:52 AM