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OYS #8 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 Reading MAP - Athol Kay Physical It's a slog. I'm still managing to get in the gym most days, and starting to take creatine and protein consistently after a slump last week, but boy am I tired of this. Mental/Spiritual NOT great. I created a MAP last week but haven't had the heart or energy to actually implement. A large part of this is because my relationship with my wife is actually good, which makes life very comfortable. Another part of it is because I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 04:28 PM
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Fair points, I need to stop using others as a metric for my wellbeing or "performance". Will keep an eye on that this week. Will check out the sidebar book, already read TRM.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/26 04:11 PM
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OYS #7 | Making small corrections 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF Maxes (take with a grain of salt, since this is with smith machines) Squat - 185 lbs Bench - 280 lbs Reading MAP - Athol Kay Physical Since my first OYS, I've started taking lifting seriously again, lifting heavy 5-6 days/week for the past six weeks now. However, I've stopped being diligent about upping protein intake and creatine, and my time-at-gym has been decreasing. I will work to improve that this week. HO…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 11:59 PM
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I'll work on creating a MAP this week, and re-reading Kay.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/26 02:12 PM
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Fixed!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/26 02:11 PM
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OYS #6 | Good times make weak men 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF Maxes (take with a grain of salt, since this is with smith machines) Squat - 185 lbs Bench - 280 lbs Reading N/A Physical Since my first OYS, I've started taking lifting seriously again, lifting heavy 6 days/week for the past six weeks now. However, I've stopped being diligent about upping protein intake and creatine. Mental/Spiritual Things have been too easy. Good times make weak men. I've stopped striving. Re…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 02:27 AM
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My frame is weak. But I'm not sure how to avoid feeling isolated and alone. She asked me what's wrong last night again, since I wasn't paying her mind, and I said "you shared with me that you don't believe in this relationship, so that makes me feel alone because I am alone. But it's okay, I will be fine, it's something I will work through on my own." Her: "you're lonely?" Me: "I didn't say that. I said I feel alone because I am." This all looks like weak behavior in retrospect, but in my defens…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 05:15 PM
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OYS #5 | The beginning of acceptance 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF Maxes (take with a grain of salt, since this is with smith machines) Squat - 185 lbs Bench - 280 lbs Reading Threads on betaization Physical Since my first OYS, I've started taking lifting seriously again, lifting heavy 6 days/week for the past five weeks now. I've increased my protein intake as well, and started taking creatine. I saw progress early, but this week my wife commented on it. "You look bigger". …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 02:35 PM
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Your instinct will be to judge his and your actions morally, to see who had the moral high ground. It's very hard to argue for his case morally. If you want to understand what went on in his head, you have to realize that: Approval from his existing friends matters to him, because you are a reflection of him When you look bad in front of his friends, that decreases his attraction towards you When you treat each of these cases as instances where he failed to defend you (in the moral sense), he wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/26 11:33 PM
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Before you call me defensive, I'm more confused than anything. And I agree with several things you're saying. I'm hearing "covert contracts" shared so much in this subreddit I'm thinking it's a knee jerk response to everything. Before my first OYS, I made a post about my relationship, and that was the first thing called out - by everyone. They were right. I did have covert contracts. Even though I wasn't thinking "if I do x, she should do y", I was still doing x so that she would do y, and dance…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 09:37 PM
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I never said managing my wife's emotions, your words not mine. I said do something about last night to rebuild after damage was done. I'm open to what that might look like.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 02:20 PM
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Very external
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 12:45 AM
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AWALT. Read the sidebar and then post, in that order.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 12:41 AM
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Read the oys?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/26 01:30 PM
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Carrying my own peace, and refusing for it to be disrupted by anything external.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/26 01:24 PM
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You're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 04:24 PM
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I think I need to do something about last night because my wife is in a bad place, in part due to my weak frame. I'm responsible for her. I don't know how this conflicts with being alpha-buddha, could you explain?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 04:24 PM
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OYS #4 | At my wit's end 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF Maxes (take with a grain of salt, since this is with smith machines) Squat - 185 lbs Bench - 280 lbs Reading The Rational Male: Religion (re-read) Physical Since my first OYS, I've started taking lifting seriously again, lifting heavy 6 days/week for the past four weeks now. I've increased my protein intake as well, and started taking creatine. Already I've seen progress. High risk of tapering off at this point, so I nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 02:45 PM
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Thanks for the in-depth response. You're right that I've been failing on tech addiction. I'm optimistic that my CC is mostly out the window, but now it's a matter of keeping it that way when things get better between us (which it has been). Definitely good advice, I think now's the time to just do and not worry about the minutia.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/26 01:21 PM
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OYS #3 | 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF Maxes (take with a grain of salt, since this is with smith machines) Squat - 185 lbs Bench - 280 lbs Biceps - see below 'Physical' Reading NMMNG - completed Book of Pook Physical Since my first OYS, I've started taking lifting seriously again, lifting heavy 6 days/week for the past three weeks now. I've increased my protein intake as well, and started taking creatine. Already I've seen progress. I've increased both biceps by 1/8 inch an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/26 03:18 AM
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Not sure. It was just a mistake on my end. I recognized the mistakes before I made them but the resentment and loneliness was stronger than I'd anticipated. Past few days have been better so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 04:51 AM
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18%, yes I'm bulking.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 07:02 AM
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OYS #2 | 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF, 15.6" biceps, yet to calculate maxes after getting serious about lifting again Reading Glover - NMMNG Physical Over the past three years my lifting frequency has dropped from 6 days a week to 2 days on average, my average time at the gym has dropped, and the effort I've given dropped. As I mentioned during my first OYS, I've started taking it seriously again, lifting heavy 6 days/week for the past two weeks. I've increased my protein i…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/26 06:19 PM
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Got it, I need to be more attractive, and less unattractive, and that shouldn't be "attractive for her." As for giving her the feelz, I meant I need to stop being a boring b**ch when she does get my attention, which I've been. How do I accomplish this without a covert contract? As for giving her comfort, I think there's something to be said for anticipating her cycle and adjusting accordingly. I know this sounds super blue pilled but surely that's a good thing right? "What is the covert contract…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/26 01:31 PM
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Catch me next oys.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 05:13 PM
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I've read most of TheRedPill sidebar already, though not the book recommendations here. Will add NMMNG to the reading list.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 03:51 PM
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OYS #1 | 27yo, married 1 year Stats: 5’10 and 165lb, low BF, don't know maxes since I've been lax about lifting (see Physical) This is a follow-up from my askMRP post. Reading Athol Kay - The Married Man Sex Life Primer Rollo - The Rational Male (I'd previously read Rational Male Religion) Jerr - The Wall Speaks Physical Over the past three years my lifting frequency has dropped from 6 days a week to 2 days on average, my average time at the gym has dropped, and the effort I've given dropped. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 03:07 PM
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One of the best responses, noted. Definitely haven't become someone she wants to be around. I've wildly misapplied STFU; it's supposed to be during arguments but I've turned it into the silent treatment, which is sulky. I need to be fun and not linger.
/r/askMRP31/05/26 03:12 PM
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Thanks for the advice, and yes my vibe sucks. I'm getting a common thread from the responses here, and there are a few major things I need to change.
/r/askMRP29/05/26 07:28 AM
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Just bought Athol Kay's book, reading now.
/r/askMRP29/05/26 07:25 AM
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Rereading sidebar now.
/r/askMRP29/05/26 07:23 AM
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I think there's an inevitable loss of control when one gets married. That's why it's "hard mode". I am committed to her, we have close proximity, and we see the worst in each other.
/r/askMRP29/05/26 07:22 AM
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I completely agree. When she starts bitching I genuinely don't care. But what happens next? She gets progressively more upset when I "don't take her seriously", escalating to the point of saying she regrets marriage. Is there something obvious here that I'm missing? Again, I completely agree. I do apologize when I think it's merited, and I don't apologize when it's not. My concept of frame is not dictated by outside approval from the red pill community. Why would it be? Why is this an assumption…
/r/askMRP28/05/26 10:34 PM
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Agreed.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 10:17 PM
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"If I do X, then she should do Y" is a covert contract. It is an unspoken deal to negotiate attraction. "If I increase my SMV, then my wife will be more attracted to me" is objectively not a covert contract. It is a prediction. [edit] But you're right in that (from the article you sent) there's a high risk of losing frame with this kind of thinking, or slipping into covert contract mode.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 10:16 PM
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Okay man, I'll take it. I think you're 50% right and that's enough. I have been leaning towards resentment and placing too much stock in her responses to my changes. So yes, that's something I need to change.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 08:12 PM
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Okay, that would make sense. It's her trying to confirm that she didn't make a mistake. Then how would you address my situation? The wife builds resentment over weeks, then lashes out in contempt and lists all the petty things you've done wrong.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:51 PM
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The red pill is a praxeology. But praxeology by itself just adapts to whatever the dominant culture is. In our case, it defaults to self-indulgent self-interest. I've chosen to commit to one woman because I am a Christian.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:44 PM
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I've chosen hard mode.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:38 PM
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These are not covert contracts. Rather, I’m acting in a way that I believe will naturally evoke a genuine response from her. Yet it is miscalculated. Surprised to see the red pill principle so clearly misapplied here. Would love to hear your actual advice if you have any.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:37 PM
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These are not covert contracts. Rather, I’m acting in a way that I believe will naturally evoke a genuine response from her. Yet it is miscalculated. Surprised to see the red pill principle so clearly misapplied here.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:36 PM
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All good points. My understanding of comfort tests is that they are tests in which she shows a vulnerability and wants to check if the alpha male will also be the provider male. The proper response to it is to comfort her. The trouble is, whenever I come across these tests it's almost always when she sees me as anything but the alpha male. Rather, she has built resentment up over a week plus, and now that she lashes out in anger, she wants me to admit to my failures and bow to her wishes for cha…
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:14 PM
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During our dating phase I felt like I did everything right. - Outcome independence - never needy, never over-committed. - Kept things exciting - didn't overshare and didn't let her "figure me out", ALWAYS had something interesting going on or something to do - AA, Amused Mastery, shit tests generally passed well - At my physical peak - respected by other men etc. my frame was solid. So I thought for marriage/LTR, the process would probably be similar. Sure, desire would decrease with proximity a…
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:08 PM
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Thanks, I'll look into it.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:01 PM
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By dancing monkey do you mean that I'm too focused on my performance and her reaction to it? That makes sense. I'm planning on spending the next three months focusing on myself without mind to her perception of my progress, which I think is a step in the right direction.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:01 PM
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Np man lol. Hopefully this is the bottom.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 05:59 PM
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Will do, thanks.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:55 PM
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Do you have anything constructive to say? I know I need to get back in the gym. That's step 1.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:50 PM
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Name a single covert contract that I have.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:49 PM
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Check my profile for images.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:34 PM
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Lifting better is low hanging fruit, the comfort tests is where things get difficult.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:24 PM
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Hey guys. I could use some help. Stats: 27yo, 5'10, 165lbs, mid-range 6 figure salary, lost track of gym maxes Physical: I've been doing poorly with lifting for the last three years, after reaching my peak in 2023 (and getting complimented left and right). I am almost to the point of skinnyfat now, while still maintaining some definition with 2/week gym sessions. Instead, I spend too much time looking at screens, I have cortisol face and puffy eyes, and I don't get enough sleep. I have a boring …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/26 01:51 PM
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Hey guys. I could use some help. Stats: 5'10, 165lbs, mid-range 6 figure salary, lost track of gym maxes Physical: I've been doing poorly with lifting for the last three years, after reaching my peak in 2023 (and getting complimented left and right). I am almost to the point of skinnyfat now, while still maintaining some definition with 2/week gym sessions. Instead, I spend too much time looking at screens, I have cortisol face and puffy eyes, and I don't get enough sleep. I have a boring life, …
/r/RPChristians28/05/26 07:46 AM
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This is not it.
/r/RPChristians12/08/25 04:33 PM
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Like everyone else here is saying, you need to read the sidebar. Learn what frame is, what outcome independence is, get your life in order, and then let your convictions guide your interactions with your wife instead of your emotional neediness.
/r/RPChristians11/08/25 11:16 PM
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Honestly man, I don't really. Chase is well spoken but I don't think he has a really deep knowledge of the red pill, despite being in it for a number of years. And I have critiques of the "Christ Pill" too. But I'm more encouraged by it than anything.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 09:04 PM
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I mean, I guess we're looking at the same X account. Definitely getting different impressions from it.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 09:02 PM
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Interesting take
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:37 PM
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You're on Reddit.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:36 PM
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It didn't "come out." Chase confessed and repented.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:36 PM
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You make some good points. Chase did sin in that way, though he repented of it. I wasn't aware of the dating course. I've heard some good things and some naive things from Pantile too. That being said, saying "1000% grift" seems presumptuous. I'd take your comment more seriously if you didn't assume the motivations of people. I could just as easily say Glenn Lawrence is a Rollo kiss-up (wouldn't be true but it's fun to jump to conclusions).
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:34 PM
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I mean I'm curious what gives you this impression.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:30 PM
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Re-reading your response I do think you're being quite reasonable and recognizing your own biases. It's okay to be wary about outsiders. I've been frustrated by the dismissal that seems to characterizes most of the other responses here.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 08:29 PM
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The Whatever podcast isn't Christian. Chase got popular by his appearance on it. I think you know this but I just wanted to make it clear. I do find it shocking that not only is there a lack of unity in the church, but that lack of unity cuts through the already small community of Red Pill aware Christians. I wish that you and others (but especially you) would be less dismissive and ready to throw out words like "corrupting" or "grifters." As someone watching from the outside it makes me not wan…
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 07:53 AM
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I'm surprised to hear this take from you.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 05:34 AM
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This feels like gatekeeping. The dude is very big on Christianity.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 05:31 AM
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I've seen a good amount of posts on Twitter and while not all, but many are platitudes and general observations. Nothing wrong with that, but in our sidebar and in replies to others in giving advice, we go into a lot of depth and specificity with people. I understand what you're saying here but I don't think it's a fair characterization. Twitter is not a platform designed for deep discussion or nuance. It's a platform for debate, and the Christ Pill sure as heck is using it as such. They've had …
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 04:56 AM
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From what I'm seeing on X/Twitter, it seems very Christ-centered.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 04:51 AM
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Based on the replies here I'm surprised you all are unaware of this community. It's popping off on X/Twitter right now. Posts are regularly getting 7-800 likes a day. But then again, they seem completely unaware of RPChristians as well. I think the main difference between RPChristians and the Christ Pill that I see is that RPChristians is inwardly focused on helping Christian men, and the Christ Pill is outwardly focused on influencing culture.
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 04:50 AM
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SovereignBrah's latest tweet: "Who, then, are those who fear the Lord? He will instruct them in the ways they should choose. They will spend their days in prosperity, and their descendants will inherit the land. The Lord confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them. My eyes are ever on the Lord, for only he will release my feet from the snare. - Psalm 25:12-15" This is definitely not a "Religion Pill." I mentioned Rollo here not because he's Christian (regardless of what h…
/r/RPChristians28/01/24 04:48 AM
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Good good good. You're going to burn out man. It's great to hear that December was pivotal for you. You're working on your spiritual life, fitness, diet, and dating options. Are there more things you can do to better self-optimize? Sure. But you're in a great place right now - I'd say the best thing you can do is be faithful with what God has given you and let these new habits ossify. There will likely come a time when your structure breaks down and you stop seeing results. RPChristians is more …
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 10:07 PM
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Yes. "bounce the eyes" (from Every Man's Battle) isn't enough anymore. Internet usage - and I'm not just talking porn - has completely changed the game.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 09:48 PM
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I think you're right here. The conversation doesn't happen enough because the American church is slow to react to changes in society. When the internet became a thing, the conversation became how to "not watch porn." Men I speak to now are realizing that the issue is much bigger than that. It has to do with the sedative and distracting effect of the internet as a whole, and the way in which social norms have changed in society over the past 50 years. I really think that "how to resist strong sex…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 09:47 PM
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The interesting thing is that there are far more traditional men than traditional women. But most liberal women still want a man to act much like a traditional man, but hold liberal ideals.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 09:41 PM
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If you're talking about avoiding sexual sin, yes. If you're talking about becoming more attractive for potential partners, also yes. Check out the sidebar for more on lifting. Lifting has a domino effect on your life. Not only do you get stronger, but your confidence increases because you've accomplished something, you gain more respect from men, women realize that and start finding you more attractive, which in turn gives you more confidence. What I think it most interesting, though, is that it…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 09:40 PM
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If you live in a place with cold winters, summer is ideal for many reasons, but especially if you don't have a car. - Public transportation is less draining, so you don't show up to a date feeling miserable - You're not forced to keep all your dates indoors at restaurants or movie theaters. You're free to walk around the city, find scenic locations or just talk. You're also not forced to choose just one location. You can walk from one place to the next, even if the walk is rather long. - If you …
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 09:36 PM
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I'm asking what I should do in the meantime while experiencing this "gift" of singleness. Besides the obvious "work on yourself", my answer to your question is endure. We happen to be Christians in the 21st century. In most eras of human history we'd be married with a kid right now, but in the west men get married at 28ish, and competition for women is tough because of the degradation of sexual/social norms. It's not an easy situation.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 06:01 AM
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If you don't have a car, make the most of summer. See if dating apps work, ask girls out in person, and if you live near a big city use public transportation. As for not being set in the adult workforce, mista_resista is right. Women don't look at your Linkedin. They look at how you carry yourself, your ambition, your displayed competency, etc.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 05:55 AM
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I'm about your age, so I don't think I'm in the position to give advice. There are others in this sub who are much better suited to do that. What I can share is my own experience. I'm in my early 20s and have historically struggled immensely with masturbation. Porn has never been a significant part of the equation, thankfully. I started dating for the first time this year, but for the majority of the past 5 years or so I've been lonely. Here are some things that have helped me: - Once I get past…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 03:38 AM
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“Every great cause begins as a movement, becomes a business, and eventually degenerates into a racket” - Eric Hoffer, The Temper of Our Time Both the Pick Up Artist community and the Red Pill have followed this cycle, and both are all but dead. Pick Up started as an underground movement, which Neil Strauss documented in his book 'The Game.' He and Mystery monetized the movement into a business by writing books, holding seminars, etc. and eventually it became mainstream enough where it became a r…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 09:05 PM
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I think you're spot on. Your friend is just a little behind in terms of figuring out what kind of man he wants to be. What you experienced is just him thinking out loud. The position he talked about does look submissive, so he tried to justify it and then backtracked. Cuddling is not effeminate (lol), but being needy is certainly not masculine. I think he just struggled to tell the difference. He's not toxic, he's just figuring things out still.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 03:02 AM
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I'm honestly looking for that kind of mentor/coach. Moving to a new town. My strategy is this: There are a lot of older men in the church who want to disciple younger men. The fact that these guys want to mentor younger guys is already a good sign. They most likely have their sh together and understand God's command to make disciples It's not too hard to parse between men who I respect and men I don't. Those I respect are married, lead in the workplace and/or church, are socially capable, etc.
/r/askRPC24/08/23 06:38 PM
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I'm okay, still in it tho. Some steps I've taken: - Talked to my dad with full transparency for the first time - Planning on meeting weekly with my pastor to go over Mark - Waking up and going to bed earlier, praying in the morning - Reading a sociology/anthropology book called 'You Are Not Your Own' - Trying to be faithful. Instead of trying new things and discarding them when I get depressed again I'm trying to commit to a better lifestyle.
/r/askRPC20/05/23 06:41 PM
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Thank you, I'll take these suggestions seriously
/r/askRPC12/03/23 03:07 AM
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Appreciate the response.
/r/askRPC10/03/23 10:17 PM
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Thanks for this. How did you get out of the rut you were in? I 100% agree with this. I need to be faithful with a little and I haven't been. I owe a lot to my roommate. I've also been honest with my friends about my faith, and none of them have pushed me away because of it. Faith is something I'm trying to be patient with as I process my experiences and new information, but it's a comorbidity nonetheless. I definitely think it would. There have been girls that have been interested in me in the p…
/r/askRPC10/03/23 03:08 PM
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Hey man, I'm not in a great position myself so take my words with a grain of salt, but here are some thoughts anyway. ​ - You need to read the sidebar. Seriously, this alone will help you a ton. - Take your focus off of women temporarily. The more you try with women the more discouraged you get because nobody is interested in a man who doesn't have his shit together. - Cut off access to your copes! If you didn't have a tech job I'd say go and live in a place without the internet and access to a …
/r/askRPC10/03/23 05:04 AM
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This is true, the more I get out into the real world the less I care about my appearance
/r/askRPC15/12/22 05:25 PM
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Spot on advice, thank you. Especially 2 & 3
/r/askRPC15/12/22 05:23 PM
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I came for hard truth, thanks for giving it
/r/askRPC15/12/22 05:21 PM
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Thanks, I've been reading your blog but haven't had the chance to peruse the archives
/r/RPChristians13/10/22 05:22 PM
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| standing up for him would likely just make him look weaker. That makes sense thank you
/r/askRPC13/08/22 03:03 AM
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The best way to know how attractive you are is to watch how women act around you. I agree with the others here that talking about leagues is mostly futile. I understand why you want to know where you fit in, but it's just not the right approach to take. It's actually self-defeating. If you rate yourself in that way you'll be timid around women you consider in a league above you (and this will make you less attractive). Women don't find men attractive purely based on their physical appearances ei…
/r/RPChristians12/08/22 10:36 PM
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How so?
/r/askRPC12/08/22 03:16 PM
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I'm sorry but what exactly did he do wrong? Sure, his response was naive but I don't think I should ditch him as a friend because of that. Isn't that what this sub's about? Encouraging Christian men to act more like men? And yet when there's a guy who doesn't know how to handle one particular situation you suggest I ditch him. What the heck...
/r/askRPC12/08/22 03:15 PM
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Bruh
/r/RPChristians23/12/21 07:23 PM
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Probably a good hard rule to live by
/r/newTRP04/12/21 11:55 PM
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Agreed, but there's a difference between talking about depression and seeking advice or sympathy.
/r/newTRP04/12/21 11:35 PM
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Ignore women, focus on this. Now that I think of it there are a lot of things I could be doing to advance that (quasi) mission that I'm not doing. I definitely need to get a grip on my life and where I'm going, all of course while being attentive to God and leaning on his grace. Like others have said, her perception of you is still of the SIMP you used to be. That's my hope! Not saying it can't happen or doesn't happen, but it's generally not worth the effort because then you're paying so much a…
/r/askRPC10/11/21 06:09 PM
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Agreed, I definitely need to move on.
/r/askRPC10/11/21 06:06 PM
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It's more just hanging out. The key to this is being your own mental point of origin, in submission to God. This is exactly right. I know that I *should* be completely unaffected by this, but I was and I wonder if that says something about me. I'm worried that I didn't make as much progress as I thought I did (because she doesn't see any change in me), and I'm worried that I took a step back in giving a f*ck what her opinion is of me. In the moment when something like that happens however, you c…
/r/askRPC10/11/21 06:06 PM
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Very possible he has a porn problem, sorry to be the one to say it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 08:27 PM
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Link 1 & 3: yes! The first one is a sidebar post, and I think I read it some time back. That actually influenced my question. The third link specifically makes a lot of sense by defining the sin of lust as one having more to do with covetousness, or sinful intent. I'm still a bit confused about how to apply this, however. Does a holy version of sexual attraction include no desire at all, only appreciation? That seems quite impossible, but I feel like desire would border on covetousness. Also, is…
/r/askRPC19/09/21 03:16 PM
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Thanks for these links, I was hoping this has been discussed before but wasn't able to find them. I'll look them over and get back to you! As for my lifting, thanks for pointing that out. I actually wrote that wrong. Since I use dumbbells I said 75lbs and 35lbs because that's for each dumbbell. In totality I'm actually still benching 150lbs and curling 70, but higher reps now. My arms are bigger than they've ever been at this point (I'm also measuring circumference) and my weight is also the hig…
/r/askRPC19/09/21 02:32 PM
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Try Rich Mullins. Read his Awesome God lyrics for example. Definitely not like the fake CCM of today or the mushy worship songs we hear in church.
/r/askRPC11/09/21 11:29 PM
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Life and entertainment may be satisfying in the moment, but it is not fulfilling. Agreed. This summer I'm trying to eliminate "play" from my life. I'm defining "work" as putting effort into something that does not yield immediate fruit but is rewarding. "Rest" is doing activities that rejuvenate me. "Play" is doing things that are neither rewarding in the long term nor rejuvenating. E.g., sports with friends would be a mix of work and rest, Instagram would be play. And yeah, I definitely feel ho…
/r/RPChristians16/06/21 01:38 AM
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Nice! Great discipline here. How's your diet? I'm eating healthy, but not tracking my diet. Trying to eat generally whenever I'm hungry because I've always been skinny. I also avoid soft drinks and desserts except for once a week. From what I've read (which is a lot), dating apps are good for finding quick flings, but not so good for finding a good quality woman. I've heard this too. I'm using hinge, however, and filtering for only Christian's. Furthermore, while I'm not looking for a fling, and…
/r/RPChristians16/06/21 01:29 AM
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Physical: M/21 bench 150lbs 3x8, curls 70lbs 3x8 Working out PPL 6 days, hoping to make more progress given summer is less stressful than the school year. Mental/Emotional: Trying to maintain discipline during the summer. Starting to learn Javascript, Golang, read the Brothers Karamazov, etc. as I wait for an internship to start. I'm trying online dating. As much as I hate the fakeness of social media, especially with dating apps, I think this is necessary for me. Never been on a date before, go…
/r/RPChristians15/06/21 03:05 AM
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He's a friend trying to figure things out while in college like me, I just want what's best for him.
/r/askRPC29/04/21 03:30 AM
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I'll look for that study, thanks!
/r/askRPC28/04/21 04:48 PM
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This belongs on r/askrpc and u need to include key stats
/r/RPChristians27/02/21 11:29 PM
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You're right, different guys are different. Just in general we value looks more than women do. But for sure they're more than the sum of their parts
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:50 AM
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Guys at TRP don't think women are evil or good. They just recognize hypergamy as a fact and try to use knowledge of evolutionary psychology to hack the female mind. There are some other groups, like RPC (christian red pill) who are more concerned with becoming a godly man than looking like an alpha on the outside, but they still use tactics to love their wives by maintaining a masculinity/femininity balance.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:47 AM
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Really good points here. Ill have to save this post. Yes, I've read a bit of dalrock and he seems convincing. Too bad he threw in the towel. And yeah, I guess pursuit can be an indicator of strength to a certain extent, but becomes an indicator of weakness when overdone.
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 09:57 PM
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Yeah I'm for sure interested in the old school tactics and how they've changed. It seems a lot has changed since the red pill and pua heyday. As for the pursuit, don't women like to be pursued?
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 08:33 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. I've also been watching a bit of pua videos on yt, but it's hard for me to justify being active in that area when RPC is all about following your mission and letting girls pursue you and not the other way around.
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 08:02 PM
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Takes a lot of guts but I guess it's necessary
/r/RPChristians16/02/21 07:41 PM
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30-23%? That's impressive dude!
/r/askRPC06/02/21 03:21 AM
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You may be a betabuxx in her eyes but in my eyes you're more of a man than it sounds like you've ever been.
/r/RPChristians30/01/21 03:42 PM
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Thank you!
/r/askRPC29/01/21 01:49 PM
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Yes, good thoughts. I definitely need to work on reacting internally by handling my emotions in addition to reacting externally to defend my boundaries. Rpc isn't about creating a persona, it's about becoming.
/r/askRPC28/01/21 07:53 PM
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Thanks for the response and link to the rp marriage sub. I'm still reading it and it's very applicable. I think I'll talk to them again tonight. Im just afraid it's going to show more weakness by making it seem like I'm not over it yet.
/r/askRPC28/01/21 06:33 PM
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Great response, thank you so much
/r/askRPC28/01/21 05:53 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Unfortunately, I both don't think this issue is worth distancing myself from these friends and don't want to distance myself from them, although it will be harder to confide in them now. Also, I'm assuming by "you do you" you don't mean to live in complacency like it usually means, but rather to work on myself instead of forcing a satisfactory apology out of them?
/r/askRPC28/01/21 05:17 PM
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Yeah I get it, but the point is that you're asking RPChristians for advice when you've already refused to take their most basic advice. You shouldn't expect these guys, who take their faith seriously, to help you continue in a life of sin.
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 09:02 PM
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I can not wait for the comments on this one.
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 01:51 AM
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True true
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 02:55 AM
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Have to say I agree, but it does seem like other guys value tits and butt a lot more than me sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 02:39 AM
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"I have no issues with this whatsoever" lololol
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 12:05 AM
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Hard truth
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 03:04 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 11:45 PM
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Thanks for your advice! Its always good to hear from guys with similar size/history of size. I'm cooking on my own, so eating more and staying healthy shouldn't be a huge problem (I too dislike dirty bulking). Haven't heard much about aging with this body type, so if what you say is true that's good news. As for clothes, I'll take note!
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 11:05 PM
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Thank you for your encouragement, and thank you for responding to all these comments. I do think there are plenty of things I can work on like my character and devotion to God. And maybe I am trying to fill the wrong void with relationships (eg validation). Still, I do feel like I'm falling behind lol.
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:57 PM
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I've never done this before! I'm sure it's helpful even if it's just for me. I'm mostly struggling with self-image, but I also realize my mission needs some major revamping. Just started college again, online. PHYSICAL Basic info: 20 years old, 5'10.5", 153 lbs, single, I want to know my bf% but no idea! Lifts: Bench: 150lbs 3x8 Bicep curl: 30lbs 3x8 (14.65in average circ.) One arm dumbell row: 70lbs 3x8 Tricep pushdown: 40lbs 3x8 Squats: 110lbs 3x8 (just started) I started lifting again six mon…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:09 PM
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Could you describe where your wife is coming from? Who initiated the separation? Has she repented of cheating on you (that was more than an "emotional affair" bro)?
/r/RPChristians10/01/21 10:46 PM
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While this makes sense, it's not easy to just snap out of anxiety. I understand every situation is different, and overall confidence does the trick, but what are some strategies I can use to regain composure when I'm in that situation? Just yesterday I was at a group gathering, and even though there were no women there I was particularly attracted to, I still froze up on several occasions simply because of how long it's been (covid) and my lack of social skills. Any suggestions?
/r/RPChristians08/01/21 12:08 AM
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If you move on and try to find a virgin you will have an N count. Why are you sleeping with a woman you're not married to bro?
/r/RPChristians06/01/21 12:27 AM
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For me it's really hard to separate mental and emotional from spiritual. A dependence on God's grace and being in His presence has been absolutely vital for coping with depression and anxiety.
/r/RPChristians30/12/20 03:34 PM
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The study you linked to blacked out the subjects faces, so yes by bodily they mean excluding the face.
/r/RPChristians21/12/20 06:20 PM
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I would like to clarify that weight and strength only accounts for 70% of bodily attractiveness, not male attractiveness in general.
/r/RPChristians21/12/20 06:11 PM
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lololol it's a toss up I guess
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:46 AM
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hmm yeah I wonder if that's due to the way Christianity is taught nowadays, food for thought
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:43 AM
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yeah, but why is it easy in the modern church?
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:34 AM
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It's not that hard to be top 20% in the Church nowadays What do you mean by this?
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:20 AM
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"Are you tall?" I'm 5'10.5, so above average but not near your level lol. "I'm not even sure if I am really that ugly or if it's in my head." Yeah! Just because we're being frank here, you're probably significantly more attractive than me lolol. I'm a pretty skinny dude, that's my main focus at the gym to build mass. But we're in the same boat in that we've never dated before, so we're super late to the whole 'finding your league based on social cues' thing. And my school is literally the simpie…
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:16 AM
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hmu if you wanna chat
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 04:36 AM
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I'm with you in many ways. I'm Christian, graduating college soon, I've grown up to be quite a beta, but after getting exposed to redpill and other groups online I'm realizing that dominant men are simply more attractive because they conform to what women for the most part want. I've been intentional about being less simpy and have started to hit the gym regularly, to the point where I've had several girls comment about how in shape I've become compared to previous years. Heck, I can even relate…
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 04:33 AM
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lololol
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 04:13 PM
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yo that's rough. I'm sorry to hear that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:56 AM
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lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:52 AM
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"especially in my country, where there are several gorgeous women."
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 09:12 PM
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This is the wrong response.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:48 AM
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