TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

ceruleanavocado Archive

View 3 posts and 50 comments by ceruleanavocado on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
106

Sometimes the calm, unsure, borderline forgiving/defensive tone of these posts written by women disturbs me more than the content. It's interesting how they all have this tone. I think a lot of the women writing these posts must actually be genuinely terrified because they're so close to realizing the truth. But they're desperate and hoping for any shred of reassurance that it's "just a misunderstanding" and "not that bad", because it's a lot less frightening than the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:24 AM
43

This woman's post is so fucked up I can't wrap my mind around it. So she gets choked during sex and passes out, and reddit is freaked out about how HE must feel? But she's clarifying that she's actually seeking advice on how to make him feel better so he can choke her AGAIN? It's crazy how in any other situation, saying "my fiance choked me until I passed out" would make people panic and try to get her to leave, but reframe it as a kink and everyone is somehow okay with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:22 PM
11

This is so true it hurts 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:53 PM
15

Oof I've heard that one a lot too. I think women often tell each other this stuff because they don't want to accept the sad reality. Which is understandable, but advice like this hurts women and helps keep us in crappy situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:52 PM
30

I have encountered this issue a lot. It's gotten to the point where I no longer tell my friends much about the guys I'm dating, because if I tell them something like "I don't really like how he's acting, I think I'm going to stop talking to him", they always try to make excuses for him and suggest that I "just give him another chance, things might work out!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:16 PM
5

I see two possibilities here: the first (and probably less likely) is that if he told you about his date, it's because isn't attracted to you and sees you as just a friend. Or, the other possibility is that he is attracted to you and told you about his date to see how you'd react/show you that he's considered desirable by other women. If it's the second possibility, ignore him. Even if he likes you, don't waste your time dating a guy who will play games like this. It's probably best for now that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:40 PM
31

I struggle with this all the time. I think it started when I gained weight in high school and convinced myself that I was fat and no one would ever be attracted to me. I solidified this belief over the years as I watched my thinner friends end up in relationships (with guys I now realize were LVMs) while I remained single. Then, I started online dating and it actually helped to change my perspective. I actually got matches and guys would message, telling me I was attractive. I was in complete sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:21 PM
40

I once saw a Tumblr post along the same vein that instead asked "what would you do if all men had a 9 PM curfew?" Since it was a little bit less abstract than a full on "world without men", it had me fantasizing about going for long runs and not having to avoid the more dangerous neighborhoods near me, and how much safer I would feel going out drinking with my female friends and taking public transportation home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:59 AM
52

The irony of this post is that I've seen the inverse of these strategies in places with more mainstream dating values. A lot of them emphasize the idea that the woman has to prove that she's honest so he can trust her, has to give the man the benefit of the doubt (even at the expense of ignoring her intuition) and that she's responsible for telling him what she wants/expects in a relationship. I like that this post is helping to expose the toxicity of mainstream dating culture and how the way it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:29 AM
366

Once when I was a small child I dyed an Easter egg blue, drew a face on it, and then cried because it was ugly. He looks a bit like that egg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:05 AM
7

First off I appreciate your post, it made me think and is a nice change from just seeing screenshots of LVM texts. My thought (and feel free to ignore me because I'm not an expert, this is just what it sounds like from reading your post) is that if it makes you feel any better, I wouldn't call staying single the easy choice. It sort of sounds like you see being single as a cop-out option, rather than a challenge/opportunity for growth in itself. You can definitely be single and focus on growing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:55 PM
14

That's why I appreciate FDS so much, it's one of the few places that understands that an independent women is not a hypersexualized one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:45 PM
42

This hits home for me. Before I started following this sub, I completely fell for the idea that casual sex=female empowerment. I wasn't completely blind, I saw how bad my friends' relationships were and realized that it was probably better to be single and focus on school/my career. But I still latched onto the idea of casual sex as a sign of independence because I was insecure and wanted to be able to say "I'm single by choice". My (mostly female) friends didn't make the situation any better, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:28 PM
22

It's definitely messed up that Carole gets all the hate, but all of them seem like awful people though. Sure, they might have experienced some trauma in their lives (like Carole was abused, Joe Exotic got disowned by his family for being gay) but having a difficult life doesn't excuse the mistreatment of their employees and animals that they ALL participate in. Again, it's definitely an example of misogyny that she's getting all the hate, I just wouldn't paint her as a total victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:34 AM
1

Yeah I definitely saw his driver's license, so I'm not too worried. I guess the search engine optimization kinda explains it. I just thought it was unusual because we met on Tinder and someone else on here pointed out that you usually have to have a Facebook or Instagram to register for tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:32 PM
2

Yeah, see the thing is that he and I are both young enough for it to be unusual not to have social media. I guess at first I was just happy to meet a guy my age who wasn't glued to his phone constantly so I didn't question it too deeply at first. But yeah, I guess it wasn't smart that I didn't check sooner. Also, good point, I think you technically need Facebook to register for tinder but I think there are ways around that, like deleting Facebook won't delete your Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:47 AM
1

I just finished watching "You" and discussed it with the guy mentioned above so maybe it's just getting to me haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:35 AM
2

I haven't actually asked, I think I will though. I guess it's a fair question to ask in this day and age, and since a lot of other commenters have highlighted some positive reasons for not having social media it might be a good indicator of his personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:11 PM
2

Oh that's true. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:37 PM
3

I was afraid of hearing something like that but I actually doubt it, we're both legal adults but definitely young enough that being married is unusual. Also I've seen his driver's license (we were at a bar and they asked for ID), so I feel like that's hard to fake. I still think it's a little strange though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:30 PM
4

Haha that's definitely a plus! Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:18 PM
6

Yeah that's why I'm weirded out. I'm honestly not sure how to interpret it. Like I found absolutely NOTHING. I can understand not having social media, but even my friends who aren't on social media have random mentions of them in old local news articles and similar stuff. He doesn't have anything at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:09 PM
6

Oh that's what I was hoping to hear. Thanks for the reassurance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:55 PM
26

Totally agree . I used to read a lot of Seventeen magazine when I was younger (early 2010s) and although the sex ed/health advice was okay (since it was directed at a younger audience they answered the questions I was ashamed to ask my mom about periods, sexual orientation, STDs, and alcohol/drugs) the "relationship" advice was such PickMe bullshit. Articles like "how to tell if he likes you" convinced me that I could just analyze a guy's behavior well enough I could magically find signs that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:43 PM
26

You really hit the nail on the head with that description. I swear I've seen this exact thing in 90% of mainstream movie sex scenes. I think it's supposed to imply that "heh heh they're just SO HORNY that foreplay is a waste of time lolz"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:23 AM
3

Oh you're right, I guess there's no point to trying to pursue a relationship with a guy like this then. I guess this was me getting defensive about my status as a single woman haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:37 PM
9

What a beautiful imaginary tale!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:03 AM
9

Yeah and sadly society only glorifies this matyrdom 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:42 PM
4

I think at a certain age you do have to ask, WHY is he single? Age in itself isn't bad but the reasons behind it are worth wondering about. He could simply be happy with his life the way it is (which doesn't necessarily mean he's HV or LV, although the ability to function on his own is at least a positive sign), or he could have unrealistic standards, be abusive, socially awkward, a fuckboy who still thinks he can pull younger women, or a workaholic who has no energy to date. There are also extr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:56 PM
35

I suspect that often the children of parents whose relationships are like this end up learning from their fathers not to respect their mothers, and as a result end up treating their moms like servants. Probably a lot of these moms are socially pressured into not asking anything from their kids and being the "cool parent" (another sitcom stereotype that usually comes at the parent's expense) and as a result their kids don't respect them or help out much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:29 PM
3

No, probably for the best though, she might be a pickme anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 07:10 PM
4

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 05:12 PM
5

Exactly! Sadly I don't know how to get in contact with this girl without talking to him, but I would love to see his reaction if it were to happen 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 05:12 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:52 PM
17

Seriously!!! This is just common sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:07 PM
2

Oh interesting. I assumed it was a new thing because I figured the intent is that they're trying to make us think they're"woke and sensitive"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:38 PM
4

I'm so sorry. I hate how these assholes flip the situation around and start talking about how scared THEY are. Like good, you SHOULD be scared, you sexually assaulted someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:36 PM
5

Sorry to hear that, glad you're out of that situation though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:33 PM
8

You're a genius! I'll try that next time haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:24 PM
17

I figured it must be something like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:04 PM
36

Yeah this is what I'm especially curious about. I figured it was a tactic they're using to get laid but why are so many of them using it now? I also suspect they must have heard about it somewhere, in my experience it's been widespread but it's not something I've heard other women speak about, so I was wondering if I'm just experiencing this by chance or if they're hearing about it from somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:58 AM
50

Cool, I needed to confirm that I'm not losing my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:56 AM
31

This is totally not the answer you're looking for but I'm going to add it anyway because it's telling. The best first date I ever went on was the only one I have ever been on with another woman. She picked a lovely restaurant, and afterwards we got ice cream, went for a nice walk, and (this was the best part for me) she took me to a really great bookstore. Ultimately it didn't work out (because I'm bisexual but am too scared to come out to my family) sooo that's why I'm here on FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:36 PM
8

I may be in the minority here but I don't think memory has any correlation with romantic interest or being high value. I could see a HV guy who is interested making an effort to remember the things you say, but I've also had male friends (who definitely weren't interested in me in that sense) remember stuff I didn't expect them to. I've even encountered fuckboys who just happen to have good memories. I guess in order to determine romantic interest, you'd have to understand WHY someone remembers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:56 PM
11

Lol I think I'm going to use "MommyNurse McBangMaid" in the future, it's such a great explanation of what some of these assholes look for in a woman while looking to contribute absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:25 PM
3

Why is it always BPD that these guys come up with?! Is it because of the show Crazy Ex Girlfriend? I know that was the main character's eventual diagnosis but that show worked really hard to debunk common stereotypes about mental illness so if that's the reason then that makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:07 PM
39

My other favorite is "Yeah idk I think she needed therapy, definitely some untreated mental illness going on" It's like the hard work that mental health professionals have put in to try and destigmatize mental health has been corrupted by fuckboys who apply to everyone but themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:42 PM
33

That was hilarious, I don't know whether to laugh or throw up. That was a masterpiece though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:56 AM
3

WoMen aRe jUSt sO ~myStErIoUS~ hOw cAN mEn Be pOSsiBlY eXpeCTeD tO uNDerStAnD ? 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:06 PM
9

First off I'm really sorry for your struggles, I wish you and your child the best. But I'm thankful for seeing your story, it gives me a sense of perspective. I know that being single is a million times better than being in a bad relationship or even just an okay one, but sometimes it's hard to be 23 and single when most of my friends are in serious relationships and a couple are married. It's kind of a relief to hear people (other than my mom anyway) tell me that it's okay to just be young and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:35 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter