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I'm about to read a book called "In Sheep's Clothing" by Dr George Simon. It's about how folks with narcissistic cluster B personality disorders use overt and covert manipulation. Apparently it's quite good. I haven't read it yet but perhaps take a look.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 01:26 AM
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You made the right move. My last LTR had behaviors and comments just like yours. She was BPD. It's hard because you do love her but it WILL continue getting worse.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 01:21 AM
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Agreed. "power fucking"... what is that? Like just constant hard railing? That's not dominance. Do as buncha-circles says and carefully read the sex god method as a starting point (find a free download).
/r/TheRedPill04/06/17 05:46 PM
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Is grinding still something you do? I am totally with you on the just having fun part. I am usually one of the only guys on the dance floor letting loose and not caring, but I feel I've missed out on the whole grinding thing. I've done it maybe three times my entire life and it was mostly an organic interaction where I just kind of moved up against the girl and she was down, but is there anything in particular you do to initiate? I tend to come out empty handed even though I'm having fun.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/17 07:47 PM
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I totally agree, but I will say as a counterpoint - applying red pill tactics and mindsets on that one girl can be extremely enlightening and a great learning experience (because usually it works). A lot of what I know comes from doing just that.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/17 04:14 PM
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I think you are spot on with a lot of this. I am most certainly twisting the knife in him by letting this go on. Would you mind talking about the dynamics/motivations/your own part in the situation you went thru? For me it was that the three of us were "best friends" for a couple years. We did everything together. I was attracted to her but we didn't start teasing at our mutual attraction until her and his relationship started getting stale after about a year. My friendship with him was equally …
/r/TheRedPill05/04/17 03:24 PM
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He is still with her and knows i am fucking her but as of these past couple weeks there is some glimpse of change. She has been trying to get me exclusive and she told me shes been avoiding him. He has also went on a couple dates in that time span and he hangs out with my brother who is a strong red pill advocate, so honestly I think he will come out on the other end stronger. I think I've had my full share of feelz for her so I don't think I'll fall into it again. I'm quite certain it will even…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 11:51 PM
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I said "much of red pill stuff" meaning the majority, but not all. A primary focus is on initial attraction and a lot of the advice guides against longer term situations without very careful vetting. A lot of the content is ALPHA or bust, and that doesn't work in an LTR, but usually you are left to your own to figure that out unless the post specifically says "..dont do this in an LTR tho".
/r/askTRP04/04/17 11:06 PM
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I'm actually writing a book now (I've written one in the past) and this time I decided to get the cover designed BEFORE I started writing, to help build hype but also to add some motivation. I noticed it didn't have the desired effect. Seeing the finished cover and sharing it with people already gave me (and others) that feeling that I had already written the book. I'm still writing it of course, since I have built good habits of consistency. But your post is still quite relevant.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/17 02:49 PM
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Yep.. She pushed hard for exclusivity last night. Hinting that she's having strong feelings for me and that she wonders if it could be great to go all-in with me. I feel bad because I've sort of lead her on a bit just to see if I could be so "alpha" that I could get her to stop being poly, but I totally agree with your comment. If I said "let's go exclusive", I imagine shit would go down hill fast.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/17 08:24 PM
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i essentially do. I get sick of her after a day or two and take her home and disappear for the most part.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/17 03:23 PM
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Once I truly realized I had beta-backslid into ONEitis with her (thinking about her all the time, being emotionally reactive to her shit tests, having my internal state dependent on what I thought her opinion of me was) I got some support from my brother who is on the angry end of the red pill spectrum. Plus reading every damn post on this sub + rational male + heartiste. I eventually had the courage to break up with her. It was a bit sloppy, she came over and I was planning on the break up but …
/r/TheRedPill31/03/17 03:08 PM
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Is there something specific that seems fake? I'll happily elaborate.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/17 01:30 AM
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I totally agree. The situation played out like: relationship starts out fine (it's his first girlfriend) starts to go to shit because they aren't really "compatible" and she's a high n-count former stripper so she starts cheating eventually he finds out but forgives her she starts to condition him to the idea of polyamory but he tends to be skeptical and thinks shes really just looking for better options (he's right... he actually read some redpill stuff during all this but it didn't stick) she …
/r/TheRedPill31/03/17 12:49 AM
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I've been like this too man so don't be too hard on yourself. We get excited about this RedPill stuff and sometimes it's easy to over apply it, especially in an LTR sense, since much of red pill stuff is just meant for plates. It's easy to get cold and shun our LTR and forget that we've chosen to share something a little more personal with them. I'd say just look out for yourself, enjoy your LTR, fuck her good, and work on your mission.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 06:50 PM
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Wish I had more friends like you man. Cheers.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 03:27 PM
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Do a google search for "theory_the_betaization_process_stages_of_female" and read the married red pill article. It's just the natural way a women unconsciously tries to make her man more dedicated to her
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 01:13 AM
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Yep, chock one for something I'll never do again, that's for sure.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 01:06 AM
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That's a good question. The better I get, it leans towards the latter, but we have definitely traded the power back and forth a few times in the entirety of the relationship. As to your first points, I totally agree, and I'm fine if she leaves. She has the provider stuff handled by the other dude so she's certainly well-entertained, but she could easily get used to it all and decide to pull on a third dude (she has before but it was "too much to handle") I often will show her provider traits but…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 01:04 AM
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Yeah that's my biggest fear. And yes.. i'm aware of what I have done and am suffering gravely because of it.. Definitely my life's biggest mistake/regret right now. To be fair our friendship was coming to an end and almost did a few years back, but after realizing hypergamy and shit like that I now would not have done it if I could rewind time. The bond I had with him is A BILLION times more valuable than this shit. It's not behind his back though. She's openly poly and he knows I'm the other gu…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 10:01 PM
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Just re-read this and the her destination is the storm really stood out. Reminds me of Way Of The Superior Man.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 07:35 PM
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Really cool perspective and I think it's on point. I have thought about how my role for her is essentially providing drama. Giving her her childhood trauma so-to-speak.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 07:12 PM
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lots of good advice here, I hadn't considered the enabler aspect.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 06:18 PM
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In my case it was that I got so into her that I ended up getting nervous and "hoping for sex" to the point where she was just letting me fuck her and I prematurely ejaculated while not even inside her. It was pretty funny actually.. She was like "...so...what does THAT feel like?" When the sex goes from intense to vanilla, it's a sign. Also LMR. Experiencing LMR with her when i never had before was a super red flag. The other stuff was subtle, just more of a power play on her part, shit testing …
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 06:05 PM
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100% agreed and understood. :) There is NO CHANCE I would let that happen. She is a very high n-count former stripper.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 05:59 PM
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Yeah I sleep with other women and she does know about it. She displays jealousy towards me and I know it works to fuel the fire between us. The problem is my sex drive isn't super high to begin with and she keeps me well drained so it's really an effort to set up dates and the like when my desire is low. I do know the other dude. I'll come out with it and just say I made a terrible scumbag move that I regret deeply. He was my best friend (yes this is the classic girlfriend sleeps with best frien…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 05:58 PM
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Awesome comment. I remember after the conversation reminding myself of something I read here, something like: "she literally doesn't know what is best for the relationship so it's up to you to hold frame. She thinks she wants more time, more comfort, but doesn't know that will drive her away."
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 05:34 PM
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You wouldn't be too far off the mark. I'm not infatuated but I've known her for a long time, lots of shared memories, gone thru hell and back together, so I've honestly been hoping there would be some way to "just go back to friends" but I know that can't happen. I've broken it off with her before but it didn't stick. I'm pretty certain I will eventually end it for good. There's a lot of problems with the relationship including shitting where I eat. It's a MASSIVE FLAMING shitfest, trust me. I k…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 04:59 PM
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Of course. I went thru that classic experience of being naturally alpha in her eyes because I would do pickup at bars in front of her before we started hanging out, but then she sort of "love-bombed" me and I got infatuated. It was a love-high. We then had a couple of episodes of bad sex and some other red flags that she lost desire and I panicked. But by some luck I found this subreddit and had the conviction to fix my mindset fast enough. In the end it has been worth it as a learning experienc…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 04:27 PM
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Mhm, the sex is great so that's why I've stuck around. I have to constantly remind myself to just enjoy her while she's here and be ready for her to disappear. It's been a really interesting experience, fluctuating from alpha to fall-in-love-shower-her-in-gifts-beta then back to alpha with her. The best mindset I can hold is that she has her provider needs met, so I simply don't need to offer that. A great red pill learning experience.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/17 03:11 PM
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I'm actually more with this answer. We as Red Pill men are aware of how a majority of men are pathetic. I've heard this statement with my last three girls and I believe it. Maybe I'm just super narcissistic but I'm fairly confident most dudes in my area are just doing lame in-and-out sex.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 09:36 PM
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I'll give that a shot. Seems fair to me. I'll just have to put a bit more effort in making sure the dates are interesting and not always just netflix and chill type shit. (Should have just kept her a plate TBH)... Thank you
/r/askTRP25/03/17 02:33 PM
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Thanks for this.
/r/askTRP19/03/17 10:00 PM
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I think I actually just want to end the relationship lol. Now that I've had a day to think about it. I wanted her out before I got there.
/r/askTRP19/03/17 09:58 PM
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Yeah in hindsight I guess I totally was creating this drama. To be honest I shouldn't even be trying to make this LTR work. It's an unhealthy relationship.
/r/askTRP19/03/17 09:58 PM
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I can attest to this. A plate of mine betaized her boyfriend and in order to "not lose her" he allowed her to be polyamorous. Now she's fucking me but I honestly could never fully commit to her because she is splitting her commitment. It's too much risk.
/r/askTRP19/03/17 09:55 PM
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Yeah...I think you're right. I think somehow I got the idea I should just speak directly like that. I figured the "I love you" would be enough. Or honestly maybe I was subconsciously trying to create a bit of drama... Thank you for the advice.
/r/askTRP18/03/17 09:16 PM
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We hadn't even planned it other than me asking her if she wanted to go to one the night before. This convo was during the morning after that night. She had just woken up probably an hour before my text. She's about to have her period btw if any of that extra context matters.
/r/askTRP18/03/17 09:02 PM
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