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I read things on this sub because I’m interested in seeing men’s sides of things and how life can be unfair from a different perspective. The comments on this post (and many like it) don’t seem to focus at all on men’s rights or making things equal it’s just about hating on women and making the same sort of general claims about women than the OP is complaining women make about men. I know not all of the men on this sub hate women and genuinely want to discuss inequality, but those of you in that…
/r/MensRights25/11/23 07:08 PM
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I like Shrek but I’m a bigger fan of donkey…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:50 AM
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They just can’t not have a discussion that isn’t centered on them and how the womenz r just as bad 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:57 AM
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Just go already 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:54 AM
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What happened to him that makes him say that? Nothing? He’s just got a fear of it? Something false? Or he got legit accused of something he did that was creepy? You’re saying this man said this like his word is gospel
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:01 PM
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I bet he’s ran through though…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:46 PM
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What qualifies him as the expert? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:24 PM
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I won’t need to fight you.. I’ll just get Mega giga chad to do it for me whilst I go and fuck his mates
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:15 PM
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This shitty take makes me think “kill all men” wasn’t taken literally enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:09 PM
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Your shitty take makes me think men should lose voting rights and be sent to war immediately regardless of what country they’re in But only if they’re not giga chads cuz I want them to stay so I can have starfish sex with them all
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:08 PM
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I know a hot dude whose wife looks like a snowman build… I don’t get it.. but he obvs find her attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:40 AM
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I guess men aren’t of value then since women created them all 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:40 AM
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Maybe in your social circles. Not mine
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:25 AM
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I think people care about what’s important to them and should partner up with people who care about the things that are important to them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:02 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:01 AM
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Are you fighting a war right now? Are you going to die for your country? Doubt it So why should you have voting rights? Because you advocate for “group think”? Voting rights dictate far more about how a country is run than just war. You just have a blinkered one dimensional view of things. Men and women all have to live in these counties and abide by the decisions made so of course we should all have voting rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:26 AM
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People think that the things that matter to them should be important factors to the people who love them and want to partner with them. PPD wants to “other” women so much when we have more in common with men than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:23 AM
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Both are true - they aren’t mutually exclusive 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:26 AM
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Where do I pay my $40?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:19 AM
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I reckon all the virgin women are running out to jump on the first dick they see just to eliminate the possibility of being stuck with a man like you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:16 AM
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Look you told on yourself with your tirade about women caring about height and penis size. No man who has a decent penis is worried about that. No one is ever gonna enjoy your limp noodle so suck it up buttercup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:15 AM
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😂 if anything my dick is too big
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:07 AM
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Found the short tiny penis incel dude 👋
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:04 AM
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Wow those are pretty basic requirements to fail at!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:03 AM
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And yet here we are… They are managing to live their individual lives and you are crying about it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:58 AM
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They aren’t “your” women They are individual people who got out of a bad situation and rightfully get to do with their lives as they please - and dating is part of that. It’s hardly being sexually pillaged. I don’t advocate for war or conscription But just because something crappy is happening to you doesn’t mean you can dictate how others live their lives just because it upsets you. Evolve
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:40 AM
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What decade are you in? What country? Most married couples both work. Women are opting out of having kids in record numbers. Women want the freedom to live life as they please and not to have to rely on someone else to provide for them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:03 AM
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Never in my life have I equated my career with my romantic life 😂 I have a whole life outside of my partner. Women are human beings as well and until you understand that you will always be stuck making these insane claims about women when I doubt you know any. I chose my career because I enjoy it, and it affords me the ability to travel and do the things I enjoy. See friends, eat out, try new hobbies, buy things that I like etc. etc. just normal human stuff. I was already established in my caree…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:41 AM
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Why? Me not eating doesn’t save a person who is starving. Me not having sex doesn’t help my brother if he is fighting a war. You all just want for everyone to be miserable because you are
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:29 AM
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Surely posting a random persons real life pics without their consent can’t be ok even on Purge week?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:38 AM
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It was me… all of it. I started the whole thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 06:12 PM
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That dude has creepy fingers… I’d never date him 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 06:10 PM
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There are ugly man sluts too… I refer you to Jeremy Kyle Uk show it’s mental 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:56 PM
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Good bot
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:42 PM
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Likely just literal ones 😂 and prob dropping them too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:40 PM
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Don’t you ever read the other posts on here that address this “filing” point over and over again? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:39 PM
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He says men love women so much but then that he views them as only good as baby making machines… I mean he has literally disproven his own point 😂 And of course all of it is observably untrue in the world not least because he insists on using hyperbole I reckon it’s a gay dude just recruiting 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:38 PM
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Who set up this system? I don’t agree with it myself but it’s men who send men to war. Female foetuses are more likely to be aborted than male overall Patriarchy hurts us all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:54 PM
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Haha you’re not living in reality. We all age and women take care of themselves and their skin better than men and don’t go bald
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:50 PM
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I recently argued with a guy who said a widow would have too much trauma for him to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:17 PM
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Raise my kids 😂😂😂😂 he should raise his own - why do they think we want to be their baby makers? Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 05:27 AM
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You haven’t been here long then 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 05:21 AM
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I know right
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:15 PM
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I would agree cold approach is rare but I have been approached in the street and on public transport and even though my social media is private I get a lot of friend requests from random men. I would say this year cold approaches in person would be about 1 a month. Online much more
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:45 PM
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I’m in a relationship and I still get approached. At weddings, at work, at friends’ parties, at my hobbies (I play social mixed team sports and it happens a lot there) and if I go out to a bar or club then every single time. This week alone I’ve had 2 married guys go after me despite making it clear I am taken and wouldn’t f around with a married man if i wasn’t. My partner is very patient but he does get frustrated sometimes with how persistent men can be even when I’ve made it clear I am not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:03 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:21 PM
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So sad when you see how many men on this sub have never been in love and prob never will find it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:34 PM
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How awful!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:32 PM
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Don’t worry on ppd it balances out when you call us all ran through post wall land whales… and then wonder why you can’t get laid 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:31 PM
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Don’t touch me with those fingers 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:28 PM
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I didn’t say anything was funny, I told the commenter they went too far. Don’t attack me dude I was trying to defend you if anything
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:55 PM
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Ooh maybe too far even for the purge 😅 no one wants to push anyone over the edge right
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:48 PM
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Ok incel
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:48 PM
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I once heard someone say - “I don’t want to be a mum but I quite fancy being a dad” I totally get that although personally I love being child free so much I wouldn’t even want to be a dad 😂 Why have a kid as a woman? Pregnancy and childbirth are truly brutal on the body. It’s mostly not talked about (increasingly more so hence women opting out and having more options). The brunt of the responsibility consistently lies on the woman. Oh and if your husband leaves or dies even these ppd men no one …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:40 PM
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There’s men I went to uni with who have hit the wall way before 30 and the women all still looking hot, with good jobs and options. I love to see it 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:32 PM
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We love the purge
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:26 PM
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It’s what people need when they’re whinging “Waa waa”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:42 AM
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Im a woman. No need for a wambulance like the men on here 😛 P.s. I love the purge
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:40 AM
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I fucking wish 😂 You men are thirsty AF
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:31 AM
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Well there’s a lot of them 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:06 AM
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Are you on the right sub? 😂😂 the whole ppd vibe is whinge whinge no women want me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:05 AM
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Could be either 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:04 AM
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But we don’t give a fuck about being attractive to you fat dudes 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:46 AM
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Can’t do that if women don’t want you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:37 AM
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Then you’re a moron
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:32 AM
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Haha the male gaze prove yet again. Being me some Harry styles immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:02 AM
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Ha If it was women doing if you wouldn’t say that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:59 AM
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How old are you now? I don’t know about Colorado but in UK house purchases (without parental assistance) at 21/22 were realistic in the 70s/80s but not now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:14 PM
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Was a question for the guy who said this specific requirement as I was curious. No one in UK esp London would expect to own a house by 22. Esp if went to uni as would only just have graduated
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 01:27 PM
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Of course you can i was just confused by the logic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:59 AM
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So your standards seem quite unrealistic then?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:42 AM
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You didn’t answer the question… like for example I am in the UK and that would be virtually impossible unless you’re including renting alone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:36 AM
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😂😂😂 excellent answer for #3
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:24 AM
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Where do you live that people have a house at 22? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:23 AM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:12 PM
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If you don’t want to engage in something - don’t. You don’t need to worry about those who do. Why do you even care? I haven’t engaged in it personally but I don’t give a f about people doing it. Let people live
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:10 AM
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I don’t think that women have it better than men currently but a lot of people on this sub would disagree. Let’s assume for the sake of argument that right now women DO have it better. You just want to make it so men have it better. Not equality. No addressing imbalances . Just women being controlled because they get pregnant. It’s so transparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:27 PM
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Terrifying sort of a man!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:10 PM
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I don’t think that is true for all women. I think you forget about the experiences of average or ugly women. Plus intimacy is something you can only enjoy with someone you also feel that way for and so if you only like people who don’t like you that way, and you can’t force yourself to like the ones who do - you have an issue. Anyone can have that problem male or female
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:09 AM
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It’s not for me but I don’t judge people who are poly I just think people should do what is best for them but always be honest about it and not trick others into situations they don’t want to be in
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:58 AM
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This sub is always saying women overplay the threat of men…. And here you are saying beware of all men we know… Can you see why women tend to be cautious around men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:57 AM
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So do some women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:54 AM
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It’s not it’s whinging that it’s bad for men’s mental health…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:51 AM
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Yeah I know. Suck it up
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:48 AM
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We aren’t going to lie to protect mens mental health. Women do enjoy sex but the key difference is that women do not enjoy sex with just anyone. We can’t ignore a lack of attraction. Men can f anything. Women can’t. That’s the issue you have and so yeah it’s upsetting for men who can’t get sex because what you believe is true - women love sex just not with you. So you need to do what you can to become attractive to the sort of women you want to be with. Shit did I just turn RP! 😂 what’s going on…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:26 AM
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It’s bad for women’s mental health that men can’t sort out their own shit without blaming women but there we are I enjoy sex and multiple orgasms mean I prob enjoy it more than my partner. He seems to be coping though 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:22 AM
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Ah so interestingly I actually did computer science at uni so some of my best friends and co workers a are these nerdy programming dudes. They’re all doing fine relationship wise! I don’t get this concept on Reddit that nerds don’t date. But what I was saying with good is that it doesn’t matter how you define it… the person IN the relationship has to think it’s good or why be in a relationship. Relationships, even the best ones, are work and compromise and it is not worth doing that for just any…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:31 AM
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29% is a lot don’t you think given where we started?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:27 AM
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It has been shown time and time again that what women find attractive is not what men think. Female gaze vs male gaze Plus we are all different. My friends are in relationships with men I don’t find attractive - I can see they aren’t ugly but I wouldn’t want to kiss them. I’m confident they feel the same about my partner even though for me he’s sexy AF. Online influencer types and celebrities aren’t real life. Seriously. And the one guy apart from my partner that I would ever go for based on att…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:27 AM
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Wouldn’t you pick a girlfriend who was better in every possible way than the one you had? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:03 AM
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But why would you want just any partner and not a good one?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:01 AM
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You need to think about the reasons for why women have historically done this and why it is now changing. You’re oversimplifying it and just repeating your own opinion as if it is fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:57 AM
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Men also leave relationships. You make men sound weak and pathetic, and women evil. Rape is a violent act of forcing someone into sex - it is not a term to be thrown around lightly however the edgy you want to appear. I earn a lot more than my partner and I’d rather lose money in a separation with him than be raped. I’m sure you would too. Also depending on where you live, the money you “lose” in a divorce is joint assets acquired during marriage and child support. Most men who request 50/50 cus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:28 PM
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What a question?! Honestly do you ever engage with the real world at all? There’s so many self help books aimed at women, relationship coaches for women, advice columns, groups etc etc. There’s the old cliché of women getting a drastic makeover post break up (or in teen movies to go from geek to beauty). Beauty magazines and influencers targeting women who are unhappy with themselves. I am not saying life is easy for men but posts like this make me incredulous that you can’t see the real world a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:23 PM
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I want to work - my career is fulfilling. It also allows me to afford the life experiences I want… like hobbies and travel - I’m sat on a plane right now waiting to take off. Working allows me to make my own choices and not be reliant on someone else’s abilities to provide for me. I also can’t imagine having to ask for permission to do something that requires money. I don’t want kids. My partner doesn’t either. I am so grateful to have been born when I was and where I was. So grateful!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:04 AM
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Yes that’s a better way of putting it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:00 AM
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Not many people know that (if it’s even true) so I doubt it’s having any impact on women being attracted to him
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 12:15 PM
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Zelenskyy 😌😍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 12:13 PM
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Some of us do 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:54 PM
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You need to see a show called Jeremy Kyle that used to be on in the Uk but got banned. The ugliest men would be on there behaving terribly and still had women fighting over them. I mean guys with like one tooth in their head. It was wild! The bar was so low for them. Being honest the bar is not generally low in dating and I think we all understand that but it is shocking because men get praised for such basic decency. Like a woman will post on TikTok about her boyfriend making the bed and women …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:47 AM
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How do people go through life like this? Like what happens to them that they miss out on such key interactions with other humans that they form these views? It’s mad to me… but mostly sad. I don’t think anyone will change your view OP because even though men here are giving examples that disprove your point you are rigidly dismissing their points with really no substance of your own. It’s interesting you see men and women as having completely distinct interests with no overlap. There may be some…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:52 AM
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Keep living your best life 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:13 PM
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How dare you not die alone? 😂 I’m 5”2 I’ve never cared about height but I do care about attitude and someone who sees me as akin to a child, as less than a man or who would judge me for not immediately meeting the right man to settle down with us not worth my time. Double that for men who can’t see value in being friends with women. They are so naive, so inexperienced in life - they miss out on so much
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:10 PM
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The sad thing is it’s men who likely don’t have many options just becoming more and more bitter and therefore reducing their own options out of some revenge fantasy. They want to think that the women who they can’t get will get some comeuppance. They would rather focus on bringing the people they resent down than lifting themselves up..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:12 PM
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Women aren’t children
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:08 PM
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Just having different standards for men vs women is a double standard, and having that double standard is a way to control women via shaming them for something you would not shame a man for
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:31 AM
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There’s so many ways to categorise people - to choose gender is arbitrary. Introverts and extroverts / personality types / culture / sexuality etc etc So since you can categorise people so many different ways, maybe just don’t. Just let people be individuals and stop trying to make rules for all people and vary them in ways that suit you. Having this double standard for women/men when it comes to sex is just a way of trying to control women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:57 AM
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Well agree to disagree and live our lives the way we each want 🙂 appreciate your discussion as I think you do have some valid points even if I don’t agree with your overall conclusion. Have a good day 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:18 AM
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Like I said you can judge people but why do you need to go out and try and shame people or convince other people to feel the same way? Say a young lad reads this sub and is happy in his relationship but starts freaking out after all this n count stuff and starts worrying about his partners n count. What good does that do him? What good does that do her? Judge people for how they behave with you and treat you and you’ll be happier. Stop trying to control people or assuming that all past behaviour…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:51 AM
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Who are you to judge anyone for their relationship history? Why does anyone need to judge at all? It’s nothing to do with you what I do or any woman who you are not dating. You can care for yourself and for someone you date but you don’t need to spend time convincing others that they should also care
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:37 AM
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It’s a double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:35 AM
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A lot of that makes sense but on this sub there are a lot of men who think the threshold for high n count is so low that it would apply to average dating lives as opposed to banging anything you find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:24 AM
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People deny it when it doesn’t apply to them so perhaps a lot of people aren’t the outliers.. perhaps it’s just generalising is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:22 AM
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They can care but they need to just apply it to their own lives and stop trying to push it onto others like all the men on this sub trying to shame women into worrying about n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:21 AM
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False.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:19 AM
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A normal human man.. here? Are you lost sir?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:44 AM
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There is no men what x, women want x. People are unique individuals. just focus on what you want and stop trying to force people into boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:36 AM
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Perhaps that’s because you hang out with people with whom you share similar views and you all reinforce those views. It is the same for me as I don’t know anyone who would care about n count. What I’d say though is the people who don’t care are having a much better time getting on with their lives…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:35 AM
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For me the act of asking about n count is indicative of personal values that I don’t align with. I don’t agree that sex is shameful and something to be controlled. I think people who care about n count and use biology to rationalise it forget that it’s mostly cultural and shame about sex is taught not biologically driven. I’m a woman who enjoys sex. I’m in a monogamous relationship but if something happened to him I’m not hiding away forever in shame from dating because I have felt the touch of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:33 AM
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Women tend to seek help for their mental health in a way men don’t. Men are taught they should not have these sort of “weaknesses” and your narrative perpetuates this idea. My view is that a lot of men do want emotional security and most men at least strive to create financial/life security. I agree women are more likely to seek the latter from men though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:58 PM
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I am not really the exception. I think you just need to accept that we have moved into newer times and things are no longer as simple as the generalisations you are making
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:47 PM
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I know men who require more of a sense of safety than I do. It’s all about personality I guess. I think it’s best not to generalise too much when it comes to what men/women do or do not want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:45 PM
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Well you don’t speak for all men and I don’t speak for all women to be fair… but I’d say a lot of this whole topic is based on the idea that all women just want a man to come around and offer them money and safety.. and will exchange their body in sex for that. I’m saying that idea isn’t true. Perhaps it was once and still is for some women. But it’s less and less true these days
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:41 PM
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Why not? What is “security” to you and why do you not need it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:34 PM
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Truth but he’s never asked and I’ve never asked him. I don’t care. Genuinely. If I were single I’d consider someone asking me a red flag and not date them. I’d actively prefer to have a higher n count to ensure it weeds out men who care about such things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:31 PM
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Incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:08 PM
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Calm down bro - you’ve taken a bit of leap there haven’t you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:57 PM
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Of course not but I wouldn’t discount a person for having experienced misfortune and it speaks volumes to me when a person would. Essentially you’re so selfish you can’t handle having to deal with someone having any other focus than you right… So like I said no one deserves you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:43 PM
2

Interesting that you have a higher threshold for men having a high n count… just based on that the fact that the argument on ppd for having this double standard is that women have an easier time accessing sex. So with that logics surely a “high” n count for women would be a higher threshold than a man’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:40 PM
1

Where do you get this idea that women expect men to be perfect? Again it’s observable in the world that this is not true - so many women with obviously flawed men and sticking by them (and the same vice Versa) I just don’t understand what you gain from making this extreme and wildly untrue claims… it’s very odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:56 PM
1

You clearly think you’re right or you wouldn’t have stated your opinion as if it were fact. However, it is not an accurate opinion to say that women are basically like children and never grow past 16. That’s observable in the world where women do incredible, intelligent and mature things every day. The fact you believe things like this about women highlights that you don’t have strong personal relationships with women otherwise you’d know how inaccurate your statement is. There are many opinions…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:27 PM
1

You seemed to have confused the concept of equality with being the same. We can accept that people are different via man means but we should all have equal rights
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:21 AM
1

Someone has 0 significant women in his life 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:07 AM
1

It can and I’m not trading sex for that. We both offer each other security and we both give each other sex we both enjoy. Men want emotional security as much as women you realise? If someone is only providing “security” in expectation of sex then it’s not genuine emotional security is it…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:28 AM
2

Which country? I suspect many reasons - lucky for me none of them any of my problem 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:17 PM
2

I’m in a long term committed relationship but I am entirely self sufficient if I weren’t with my partner and we met when I was already in that position
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:46 PM
19

I don’t want to trade sex for security so you’re wrong about what every woman wants. You need to stop trying to lump all women in together and assign your backwards ideals. Women no longer require men to have their own security
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 06:18 PM
1

Same answer for me! It’s all about this 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:53 PM
5

Ooh a good question! I had to really think and yes, once! We did date again for a while but we just weren’t really compatible in that way and we remain good friends to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:52 PM
2

Ha not with these dudes it wouldn’t 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:27 PM
3

When I was 16, I briefly dated a 24 year old. (No sex). I thought I was so cool and mature. I wasn’t. He was a creep. I ended it when I found him too pushy. Youth is attractive - we know. It’s not an issue. Young men are hotter than old men too. Some older men age wonderfully - some badly Some older women age wonderfully - some badly What a lot of men don’t understand is that the creepiness comes from specifically liking a woman for youth and not for the whole person. Or for taking advantage of …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 01:44 PM
0

My thoughts on this Maybe some women…. But also men tend to think if a woman approaches them there’s something wrong with her - like why do other men not want her? That needs to change and it be more acceptable for women to initiate. (Note I’m Uk based and I know culturally this is very different elsewhere) Not in the UK. My girl friends and I laugh at how often our partners just ask what we’re doing at the weekend and only ever get their planning heads on when it’s a specific event they want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 01:28 PM
1

My dad. Married for over 25 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:27 PM
1

So true actually 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:27 PM
3

Ha I will and I’ll make sure I keep it up my end 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:57 AM
4

Not married but as good as. Yeah I find this strange. I suspect if there are kids involved it’s harder because of childcare load but otherwise I cannot see an issue with either partner having some friends time!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:21 AM
1

I thought it was “not all men” 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:22 AM
4

Your wife isn’t open minded if she had an issue with you hanging with a buddy. Wtf that’s so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:19 AM
2

You’re likely not looking at the average women’s IG profiles. You are looking at a subset of women who use insta in the first place and who have it set to public (or don’t vet who they accept). I know very few women who act the way PPD men describe and i genuinely think it’s because you are looking at these sort of women who are over represented because you dont SEE the women who don’t put themselves out there like that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:04 PM
8

Woah what happened in relation to this sub!?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:09 PM
1

When they’re obsessed with what everyone else is doing and wish to control others behaviour instead of just focussing on themselves. If you don’t want to be gay.. don’t be gay If you don’t want to dress a certain way.. don’t If you won’t want to be promiscuous… don’t But leave everyone else to do as they want. Align with the people who naturally share your values rather than trying to enforce them on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:27 PM
1

Get to know women as people yes Don’t see them as targets - they are actual people IF there is mutual attraction and that builds then sure get into a relationship but don’t expect one or only be in the friendship with the intention of turning it into something sexual, and don’t get angry if it doesn’t turn into something more. How hard is this to understand honestly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:29 PM
1

Well I found a good one but yeah I think online dating is pretty toxic for all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:37 PM
6

No but in the past there wasn’t “dating” - this WAS their form of dating… or getting a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:49 PM
11

Im not talking about slavery… You don’t seem to really be able to defend your case at all. Very lazy CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:11 PM
14

Your responses here are pretty poor and you keep repeating this one. If you’re going to make a claim that “dating” is worse now than through the entirety of history then you need to understand that you won’t be doing a like for like comparison. So yes women were sold off and forced to marry in the past and that was their only form of “dating” then.. So no this is not the worst time in human history for dating…. Not by a long stretch
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:08 PM
-4

Yeah but men are inherently more risky to a woman’s safety is my point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:55 AM
-5

Nah it’s like complaining to a famine victim that you have the choice between rotting meat or rotting salad…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:33 AM
1

Priorities can shift and you spend less time together but if you lose then altogether because they get partnered up - sorry they really weren’t your friend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:56 AM
2

Im so surprised at the responses! It’s happened plenty of times to me but I don’t have a “type” so I can’t explain what it was about them. Sorry I know that’s not that helpful! I definitely thought it happened more to people than the answers on this sub indicate…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:47 AM
1

I watch love island (I know I know) and I always think how awful super attractive people are to each other because they all constantly want something better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:32 PM
3

Yeah fair. I also live in a big city where a lot of people are single and so not lonely. If I lived in my home town and was single I’d struggle. I just think this sub needs some home for the single ones who think that not having a partner means they miss out on absolutely everything
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:36 PM
3

I dunno people tend to come back around. I’m child free and that has caused issues with seeing some of my friends at times esp when they have multiple but we make it work. And after the kids get a bit older it’s fine. I think the trick is to have friends from different aspects of your life - hobbies/school/work etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:25 PM
0

Who says? 😂 I mean that’s not my experience at all… very odd. They weren’t friends in the first place if you can lose them because they got a partner. I’m not ditching my single mates anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:12 PM
5

Who says? 😂 I mean that’s not my experience at all… very odd. They weren’t friends in the first place if you can lose them because they got a partner. I’m not ditching my single mates anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:08 PM
1

Ha sounds like you were well brought up! It’s not for me that’s for sure but power to the people who do it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 04:06 PM
18

Why would single people hang out with married friends and then go home alone? 😂 When I was single I hung out with my single friends as well as partnered ones. I travelled and did hobbies and met people - I still do. I’m actually about to go away on 2 different trips without my partner…. I’d be devastated if we split up but we have our own lives so we would both be happy single once we got over the heart break stage. A lot of my single friends have housemates they are good friends with. They aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:04 PM
2

Do you have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:59 PM
4

My sister is a FT mum to a 1 and a 3 year old and she doesn’t stop all day. But she takes them to all sorts of activities and cooks fresh/keeps house spotless. I do not know how she does it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:52 PM
21

I actually find housework and children more draining than work. I don’t have kids - by choice - but after 2 hours with my niece and nephew I’m exhausted even though I love them. And house work is neverending and can be pretty physical. My career is high pressure and long hours but I’d choose it any day
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:39 PM
4

Would you do it? I wouldn’t. Once kids start school there’s still housework, food shopping/planning and general life admin/planning to do. Plus they are usually sleep deprived. I honestly do not know how stay at home parents do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:37 PM
1

Answering your question even if not specifically directed at me: At work it would be considered unprofessional for me to show up not well groomed and make up for women is sadly part of that. Having said that I do feel like when I put make up on it puts me into a different mode. Like that taking care of yourself motivates you to get up and go. When I go out I don’t wear a lot but I do love a bright lipstick and if I’m going to a festival… glitter face! Haha It’s just fun. Me and my friends do eac…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:34 PM
10

Y’all really want to trap a woman don’t you Why don’t you want someone who wants to be with you? I’d hate to be stuck with someone I knew was only with me because they had to be
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:16 PM
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The thing is the sort of women who would go for a man significantly older than them are the sort of women who are likely to have issues… There’s no hot stable 20 year olds looking for 30+ dudes 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:14 PM
1

I’ve read your comment history… I see what you are. Don’t worry dude, you’ll never see past your own bias about women and i just don’t care enough to help you out 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:11 AM
4

It’s not my issue if you can’t accurately comprehend what I have written
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:58 AM
4

Haha they cannot accept any view that does not reflect their own bias. Well done for trying though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:33 AM
3

Thank you! It’s so frustrating these men who consider women to be childlike and have no idea what they want. No wonder they don’t get women except the type of women they get by playing the weird RP games… and of course when those women turn out to have issues it’s ALL women as opposed to the type that fall for RP drivel. What we women won’t do is help predatory men to trick women into bed by giving them a list of qualities they can pretend to have
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:29 AM
3

This explains pretty much exactly how I see it too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:30 PM
3

But it’s the men who keep bringing it up as a topic for debate - not women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:27 PM
1

When a man “feels” he is rational? His feeling that he is rational does not necessarily mean that he is being rational. Thank you for the oh so wise tip that logic and reasoning is required in a debate 😂 You can’t make this shit up 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:23 PM
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You state a lot of things as facts that are just biased opinions. I’ve never heard of the concept of women being primary casualties in war due to loss of sons and husbands. That’s mental 😂 and women are not sharing men on the regular… that’s something you see in celebrity/influencer type lives and ppd men seem to think it’s real life 😂 Fuck it tho. Who cares. Think like this if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:14 PM
2

That’s fair there are some men who absolutely do I don’t agree with everything you say here. This concept that women have an innate value and men don’t for example is such a strange concept to me But there are also definitely women on here who will take accountability too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:07 PM
0

Right here 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:51 PM
2

What do you mean? Absolutely No one in Canada thinks women are less rational or more suited for nurture than men? No one thinks it’s weak for a man to cry?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:43 PM
1

Mostly agreed. It has improved in the last 100 years so hopefully will continue to do so. I don’t think we’ll ever eliminate it but it’s good that we are less bound by it than we used to be
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:42 PM
2

Equal opportunity is only one factor in whether a patriarchal society exists though And I think it’s hard to truly ever have equal opportunity. Canada for sure is trying to achieve this and I’m not Canadian so I don’t pretend to know how everything works there currently but gender (and other) bias still exists and is hard to completely separate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:40 PM
2

It’s fine think what you want but usually when people make a claim on this sub like that they at least give some rationale as to why they think this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:34 PM
0

“Patriarchy is a system of relationships, beliefs, and values embedded in political, social, and economic systems that structure gender inequality between men and women. Attributes seen as “feminine” or pertaining to women are undervalued, while attributes regarded as “masculine” or pertaining to men are privileged.” Google is free my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:32 PM
-2

Then you don’t understand what patriarchy is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:29 PM
9

This sub isn’t reflective of that at all. Where are men admitting fault? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:28 PM
2

It’s not as simple as that. You just can’t blame all women from the actions of a few where you are the common denominator. The hypocrisy here is wild because you all blame women for choosing bad men but can’t accept it when you choose bad women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:27 PM
1

Well who is the common denominator 🤣 it’s him
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:24 PM
1

Because guess what - women aren’t a monolith. Also likelihood is if you’re meeting women who can’t tell you what they want for dinner then it’s likely you are going for a particular type of woman or you are possibly behaving in a way that makes them act like this. Like I know for example I can struggle to decide what to eat if I’m not super Comfortable with someone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:18 AM
1

Just took a quick look and didn’t find any - I didn’t dig much but surely if its that bad I would find it in the first few pages of posts? I mean I know how quickly I’d find the women hate on this sub and a post about n counts 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:05 AM
5

I’ve rejected a man before for being overweight. I’m not attracted to that. However I have never gone on a rant about how disgusting fat men are and now they should settle for what they can get and not have high standards… I think that’s the difference and that’s what animorph_fan34 is getting at. As a woman I’ve never heard women speak of men the way I’ve heard men speak of women especially the men on this sub. I don’t think women are default better/nicer than men by the way, Just an observatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:17 AM
2

And that’s ok, you don’t have to worry about it unless your partner(s) have an issue. For some of us though we don’t need to have multiple partners to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:57 AM
1

You’re not saying anything really though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:45 AM
0

Username doesn’t track 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:41 AM
0

I doubt any girl will do that to you 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:40 AM
0

Why would you, that would be so weird 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:29 AM
1

The main issue you have is that you have clearly never been in love. It changes everything. Relationships and monogamy don’t really make “sense” when you look at it through pure logic but anyone who has truly been in love will just know what I’m talking about. The way you speak about women is as if they are a resource not a sentient being with their own rich inner life just as valuable as your own. Whilst you see women like that you can’t form the sort of bond im talking about. Your partner shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:29 PM
4

And so many ppd men worry about women’s ability to pair bond 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:23 PM
8

😂 well why would you when you can continue to spout your victim complex biased nonsense hey
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:34 AM
3

Check out the link I posted in my comment. It is well documented that medical science is biased in favour of men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:33 AM
2

https://rdcu.be/c0q01
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:31 AM
2

What makes you think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:29 AM
4

Oh yeah the medical system is designed for women is it? where drugs are not properly tested to account for women because of their cycles making it too challenging, and women’s pain is routinely played down. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:25 AM
1

I agree but almost every time I make any comment here some dude asks me to cite my sources. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:58 PM
1

“It is well known that….” Yeah absolute rubbish already. The classic example of a girlfriend refusing to have sex unless he proposes? Honestly what planet is this guy on 😂 but as a trad catholic surely he shouldn’t be trying this anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:52 AM
1

I always get comments deleted for circle jerking if I agree with another woman 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:46 AM
172

You know what isn’t talked about enough in this sub - height and n counts 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:07 AM
2

A guy who pronounced music like “moosic”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:29 PM
1

Interesting how you’ve been called neurotic and hysterical just because you’re a woman pointing out these things. Elliot Rodgers is most famous but there was one in Plymouth, England not that long ago. A quick Google and you’ll find more. There are no instances you will find of a woman going on a killing spree because she can’t get laid. So clearly men have the hardest time taking rejection but to be fair they also most likely have the most rejection to face. What men on here have to understand …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:10 AM
2

A lot of women I said. I agree most don’t choose it but it’s not really something I’ve ever seen proposed to women as an option. The men I do know who do this sort of work grew up in families who also did this sort of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:30 PM
3

I’m sure that’s true. But you have to consider all the factors that go into it. I never even considered that as a job prospect. I’m sure I’m perfectly capable and I have no aversion to physical activity but when I was making my education and career decisions I was guided by the adults and educators in my life and I honestly never even thought of it as an option. That said, I think it’s partly a class thing as no one I grew up or went to school with ended up in this type of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:28 PM
25

Where’s the female Elliot Rogers equivalent? You’re having a total laugh with this bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:12 PM
5

How was this a circlejerk?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:51 PM
5

I agree on the issue of men in childcare. But yes we women do want to step out of our assigned lane and so we should be able to. As should men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:51 PM
5

And let’s be honest a lot of women aren’t physically strong enough for some jobs and that’s ok because it should be best person for the job. How many men are fighting to do childcare jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:23 PM
6

Stats show only some of the story. Do you know what male dominated industries are like for women? It’s tough to get into and tough to stay. Those jobs have to be done - whoever wants them should be able to do them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:22 PM
3

Most said it depends on time/effort outside of the home. So yeah If you’re working 40 hours a week then you both split chores 50/50 regardless of who earns what.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:53 PM
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Not necessarily. Women want to have the same opportunities as men. Men don’t HAVE to do those jobs and no one is forcing them and no one should force women to either. But there are women who have fought to do manual labour/army type jobs. You just ignore that because it doesn’t fit your narrative. Equal opportunity is what we want. And I personally don’t believe quotas are the solution but I do admit to struggling to find a better solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:52 PM
4

Can we also remember that the fight for equality is not just about within relationships. Also Equality within relationships is not necessarily everyone getting/doing the same. It’s about everyone getting their individual needs met. For some that’s trad life For others it varies Equality is about making sure one person in the relationship isn’t just walking all over the other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:36 PM
17

You ignored the women making more than their partners
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:23 PM
30

You have misrepresented that data
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:09 PM
3

I’m not sure how me repeating back his initial comment to me is less civil than some of the madness on this sub but ok….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:58 AM
2

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:03 PM
2

Ok fair enough I will accept you had no bad intentions. Please just understand us women get a lot of attacks online and so it’s a concern when someone especially on PPD tries to go private.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:44 PM
2

Anything you want to explain you can explain in the public forum we are discussing on surely? Why would you need it to be private?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:41 PM
5

Don’t DM me that’s creepy dude. In answer to your DM’d question. I just gave you back your exact initial response to my first comment. Plus your take of “no” is pretty idiotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:37 PM
1

Such an idiotic take 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:24 PM
9

Of course he’s not going to advertise it. My point is.. 1) You have misogynistic traits. 2) You meet women and do not advertise these traits 3) The women you meet like you initially and then go off you… It is logical to infer that there is a high likelihood they are picking up on your misogynistic vibes and that’s why they are going off you. That’s said it’s not the only possible reason. You might have all sorts of other incompatibilities with each individual woman that are not flaws - just inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:13 PM
4

Maybe… but if I met a guy I was attracted to and then I got to know him and he talked about women the way you have in this post or showed signs of that thinking I’d do what these women did to you too. So if it keeps happening to you.. who is the common denominator? And you DO have these views of women… Guess what.. shocker but most women don’t like men who don’t actually respect and like women as individual human beings…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:46 PM
9

Most likely they get to know you and don’t like you because they realise you think like this about women..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:32 PM
0

If you are happily in that role as a woman - great for you. Just please don’t impose that on ALL women. Let us LIVE please! Enjoy your chosen path and let me enjoy mine. I’m not sure why it matters so much to people what other people of their gender do. It’s not your life..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:37 PM
1

I earn significantly more than my partner - more than double. We are childfree which is definitely a factor here. We split chores evenly but pick up the slack for the other when one is super busy. He has more out of hours work than I do and I have longer core hours. We also pay for a cleaner every fortnight which is all we need to keep on top of things. We used to split finances in half but it became ridiculous because he then was left with less fun money than me so sometimes he couldn’t afford …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:34 PM
33

Women do care about mens issues but this group spends a lot of energy blaming women for these issues and trying to bring women down using shaming and dread tactics. I will absolutely accept that I do not know what it’s like to experience loneliness on the level that men here have experienced. Sometimes on here I will speak to a man and we will actually have a useful constructive convo where we both learn something or just both feel “heard” but for the most part it’s all “n counts are too high” “…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:02 AM
6

A new discussion topic! I thought it would never happen 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:45 PM
1

To be fair on you I don’t think what you’re saying in your post is that far off the mark in terms of not seeming too desperate The issue I have is more the wording of the title and this idea you have to play games and manipulate. I don’t know - honestly maybe I’ve just been lucky. My partner and I were so up front so fast and it worked out for us both
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:00 PM
1

This is why y’all single miserable women haters 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:50 PM
1

Haha yea I get that entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:49 PM
5

Constantly! I’m in an LTR and on birth control and I still worry Incase it fails. We do not want kids but I also never want to go through an abortion. If I were single I’d not be risking it on people I was just dating
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:47 PM
2

I’ve never heard more on mens height than I have from PPD men 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:28 PM
3

I fucking love it. Most of the problems we women still complain about existed before but now we can vote, earn our own money and do what we want. What’s not to love?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:41 PM
3

Women and men just all want to be able to do what they want. We are all individual sentient beings with their own rich inner lives. We have our own hopes and dreams and they often do not align with the expectations of our gender. Why is that so hard to comprehend?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:31 PM
2

Haha they don’t understand that most of us women here on PPD are in happy LTRs but want to try and get these men here to understand how to have healthy relationships and views of women rather than be angry victims. I’m not in the dating pool but I have friends who are and I don’t want them suffering the consequences of men thinking like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:00 AM
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No I’m saying leave women alone that you have initially ruled out. I don’t believe in settling. No one wants to be “settled for” - it leads to toxic relationships. I think People are creepy AF dating a decade younger when that decade younger is uni age and I’m allowed that opinion. It’s up to individuals who they want to date
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:56 PM
5

A man who is opting to rule out any women over his age isn’t going to view women over his age kindly so I was saying he should leave them alone where the comment I replied to said he should expand his parameters to include them. I say no, don’t. If you don’t want them fine, don’t date them and then potentially treat them badly. We will all be older one day…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:53 PM
2

I don’t care about height but I’m telling you now very few women want to date a man who cares about the stats/rejection rates of dating to this extent…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:46 PM
8

Nah he should leave them alone. He clearly has some toxic ideas if his age range selection tops out at his own age but goes to below a decade younger than him. I’m confident the women in his actual age range are better off without his interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:06 PM
2

So true. Your last point i feel really strongly about. It’s like the butterfly effect. For example: You meet X, they introduce you to Y, who tells you about something interesting they once did.. you think oh I’ll try that.. and that thing changes your life. So many different versions of that have happened to me. It’s how I ended up travelling to different countries, found the career I wanted to be in.. and even how I met my partner. You just never know the steps you’re taking/choices you’re maki…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:07 PM
1

Haha yeah some people it’s just not worth arguing with
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:55 PM
5

Women who don’t enjoy discussion/debate aren’t going to be hanging about on PPD are they? We can’t admit to what isn’t true 😂 however cynical you want to be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:54 PM
2

I don’t even know how you CAN’T have an interesting and engaging conversation on the topic of self drive vehicles and the ethics behind the programming… I think you’ve had some bad luck there! Having said that your audience here is biased since the fact we are on PPD means we enjoy a discussion/debate and have strong opinions. 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:48 PM
1

And absolutely if that keeps you happy and in your comfortable space then that’s what you should do. Where I disagree with people on PPD is when they declare like it is a face what all people should do or what all people feel - when in reality all people are different. I would say extroverts and introverts for example have more differences than some men and women do. There’s many many ways to categorise people and gender is not the definitive one by which we should make all our decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:43 PM
5

It’s not about should. You don’t HAVE to be friends with anyone. I just don’t see why you’d write off the possibility when friendships can add so much to your life. It’s your life though so as long as you’re happy with it then it’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:33 PM
3

I can understand not wanting to be friends with someone you’re attracted to even though I’ve never had an issue with that myself. What I’m saying though is it’s weird when people discount being friends with anyone of that gender. Like you’re not attracted to ALL women right? You can see some women as being attractive but not to you, and you can see some as not being attractive at all. Why can’t you be friends these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:15 PM
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Do you guys all just forget that gay people exist? I find it so strange that anyone would feel they can’t be friends with someone of the gender they experience romantic attraction to. If you think you can’t have anything in common with the opposite gender except for sex then perhaps that’s why you struggle with getting into relationships - because you’re not seeing all the parts that make up a person and are only viewing the opposite gender through a sexual lens
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 04:10 PM
1

And you’ve just proven the point we were making in our supposed “circle jerk”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:41 PM
1

Look at the hostile tone of your comments… you honestly can’t see you may be part of your own problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:40 PM
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Movies/TV aren’t real life.. do you really not comprehend that? Plus most media is directed/produced by men so it’s their fantasy they are projecting. Regardless, it’s never been the case that good and kind men don’t find love. They do. The key point is that you aren’t “good” or “kind” if you are only acting that way to gain something out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:29 PM
3

Never 😂 they only want to be “nice” or “good” if there is a reward for it. They don’t see these qualities as having intrinsic values or women as people like them. Women are the reward…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:13 PM
3

Imagine them getting that concept 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:10 PM
2

I’m not sharing 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:26 PM
2

Really triggered you there getting called out for rapey behaviour there didn’t it. I mean you told on yourself so I don’t know why you’re getting so upset about it now
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:55 AM
1

The people who say this never seem to recognise that part do they… I’m not saying NO women act like this but it’s far far far more men saying this stuff and saying they wish that had happened to them as a teen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:16 PM
5

This again?! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:06 PM
1

Just fyi You said serial monogamist twice…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:18 PM
10

You said he has no friends 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:17 PM
0

You know you’re wrong you don’t need me to tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:09 PM
0

Which is also concerning
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:58 PM
-1

Well that’s a weird and concerning view
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:28 PM
2

I’m saying don’t do any of these things. No one owes anyone sex
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:57 PM
2

It is as long as they don’t make it someone else’s issue 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:42 PM
3

Sex is required to perpetuate life sure but not having sex will not kill you. Lack of food and water will literally kill you. Lack of sex may make you sad enough to want to die but it won’t kill you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:33 PM
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If something happened to my partner I would not lower my standards so I’d either be single by choice or I’d find someone who met my standards. I wouldn’t just lower my standards and settle for someone because that would be bad for me and for them. I regularly have men shooting their shot with me EVEN guys who know I’m in a relationship but I wouldn’t date any of them even if I were single. That isn’t going to change anytime soon even though I am ageing just as fast as the rest of you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:02 PM
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How many women in real life do you realistically see without make up to know that you find the majority of women unattractive without it ? I’ll bet not many and certainly not enough to make this claim. And as others have pointed out… women don’t do this whole rating/looks match thing PPD seems obsessed with. We are attracted to who we are attracted to and it doesn’t depend on our own attractiveness. At the end of the day however many posts you guys make saying women are ugly, post wall etc etc a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:55 AM
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You won’t die without sex. Shame really - if people died from lack of sex it would resolve a lot of issues 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:37 AM
0

Haha you’ve got a strange idea of equality if it just means blame the woman for everything… And why shouldn’t all humans want and have equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:20 PM
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I’ve already accepted that in my previous answer where I said anyone who just “gives signals” can be accepted as playing games (at least for the sake of this discussion ) But the original discussion was a woman sharing her experience with her husband of a fire pit scenario and that’s the scenario where I asked you to comment on his part in it. But honestly I really can’t be bothered anymore. I don’t care… 😂 so I won’t be responding again
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:18 PM
1

That’s not the question I asked. You keep answering the question you have changed. What about the man in the scenario given.. not the one you flipped
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:03 PM
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I just wanted you to answer my question about why you only blame the woman in the scenario given. There’s no point now - there’s no good faith debate with you it’s just deflection I honestly don’t really care anymore 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:56 PM
1

Pure deflection. Why can’t you just answer a question or follow a thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:47 PM
1

I know you feel the woman played games so ok let’s agree that. Anyone who just “gives signals” But doesn’t actively ask someone out can be considered as playing games. Ok. So - What do you think of the man in this scenario? Is he weak? Lazy? Playing games? A hero? It just seems weird to have more criticism for the person who at least did SOMETHING. I also note you ignored my points about the additional considerations women have by taking the lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:33 PM
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These men… literally asking how to manipulate women into sleeping with them. And there’s still 10 posts a week about how women should have low n counts. You all need to have a word with each other 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:24 PM
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My point is that neither of them at the fire did anything and arguably the woman did more - but you are blaming only the woman. Why? I agree in general society that the onus is more placed on the man and it’s not good. It’s not good for men and it’s also not great for women. As a woman, SOME men will not like it if you are forward or will wonder why you need to be. Like hmm something must be wrong if she needs to ask a man out, why doesn’t she have a line of men asking her out? Or maybe they wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:19 PM
-2

But he liked her so what was he doing about it? Why is the onus all on the woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:11 PM
5

Was he also playing games then in your view?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:30 AM
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Dream isn’t ugly. People on the internet just say all sorts of shit because they think they can. I GUARANTEE most women saying that would have happily dated him if he’d have them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:07 PM
1

So let women suffer all the consequences right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 09:54 PM
3

Having more friends would definitely help you be happier and if it gives you the bonus of being more attractive to women then great! Bettering your own life is ALWAYS a good option
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:52 PM
1

And that last concern you raise is very valid
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:21 PM
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Absolutely. For men who only see women as an accessory/object/servant as opposed to a person this is ideal and protects women from those sort of men too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:45 AM
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We can’t MAKE anyone do anything. You can’t make women want men they don’t want and why would you want to be with a person who doesn’t want you anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:35 AM
1

Nothing justifies forcing women to continue pregnancies they don’t want - but that happens all over the worlds still.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:40 AM
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The thing is as you say it would make a lot of MENS lives better if women settled. It wouldn’t necessarily make life better for these women. People settle when the alternative is worse. If being single is better than the men available then you can’t expect women to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:39 AM
1

Not weird at all in this discussion which isn’t about whether abortion should be allowed but who should have the majority say in the individual decision - the man or woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:37 AM
0

You didn’t answer the question. I offered you 2 options and you went with a 3rd to avoid answering between the two And why is either person engaging in activity that can result in pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:26 PM
1

Indeed but here constantly men come on here and whinge about how oppressed they are by womens reproductive choices but never really consider how it would be if they were women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:13 PM
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No - once they have become pregnant women have all the unpleasant realities of it. Whether they keep it or not. There is no physical aspect for men so they only unpleasant reality men experience is the financial and parental responsibility part. This is what you wish to remove. So you want NO consequences for men once a woman is pregnant. You are not fighting for equality here you are fighting for men to have it better At least admit that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:06 PM
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In this case I think she should have it alone and the guy should be able to sign their rights away An additional issue arises where neither want the child and abortion isn’t allowed or they don’t have access - then I think each have to share responsibility equally We also would need to ensure men can’t change their mind after a woman has got past the point of pregnancy where abortion is no longer allowed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:03 PM
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Women get the choice because at the end of the day the worst consequences of that choice are suffered by them via pregnancy and birth (including risk of death and permanent body changes)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:53 PM
0

My God just accept that people like to have a say over what happens to their own BODIES. It’s not rocket science..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:44 PM
-3

Because it is woman’s bodies bad women’s health that are impacted - that’s why. It’s the only reason why and it makes sense when you think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:43 PM
1

I’d rather be a man because none of the repercussions are as bad for me and I can easily never get into this situation anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:39 PM
1

Your edit proves my point. You want to punish women. I’ve upset you so now you want to punish ALL women with your vote…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:00 PM
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Even though it is their body and their actual lives at risk? So in either option the man has no choice. You’d just rather that women also don’t even though it impacts them physically. You don’t want fair. You want “better for men” Even if that is only “ worse for women”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:57 PM
-1

I didn’t ask what’s wrong with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:52 PM
0

What is misandrist about saying that the men on PPD hate women? Are we not just in a cycle here of calling each other misogynists/misandrists?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:49 PM
1

I’m not but I see you’ve shown your true colours here. As long as womens choice is taken away you’re happy to finance the kids 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:48 PM
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I’m asking if he’d rather be a woman or a man in a case where one wants the child and the other doesn’t. I explained the 2 scenarios on this thread already l.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:40 PM
2

No
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:35 PM
-2

No I’ll just retain my choice over it and men can quit whinging about fiscal responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:34 PM
0

You really won’t answer the question will you? It’s not equally as bad for both is it - in either scenario the physicality of it makes it worse for the woman and you wouldn’t choose to be her in either scenario. So in either scenario the woman is worse off and you just want her to be even worse off so that you don’t have ANY consequences. Once a woman is pregnant there is no good option for them if they don’t want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:24 PM
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I don’t think it’s a reasonable answer at all in a debate about who gets to decide 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:05 PM
0

Again you’re avoiding the question I asked. Of course anyone would want to neither of 2 shit situations…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:53 PM
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I said what do you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:51 PM
-5

It’s the impact on the body that makes this different. No one should be allowed to absolve themselves from financial responsibility of a baby but no one should be FORCED to sacrifice their body in any way for another human being So the imbalance in the impact to women overall is reflected in the imbalance on the impact to men in your scenario. Again I’d rather be the man in any of these situations
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:50 PM
2

It’s not inconvenience... and only someone who has no possibility of this “inconvenience” ever happening to them can describe it as such. At the end of the day - in a binary decision YES/NO to continuation of a pregnancy - it doesn’t matter what the percentage is. 51% 49% It’s still yes/no and you can’t have a 50/50 call on that. So the woman decides because it’s more risk and impact to her body
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:47 PM
3

You are avoiding the question and it’s clear why
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:31 PM
1

So would you rather be a man or a woman in this situation - the way it works now? And the way it works in your idea? I’d rather be the man both times except your option even more so. Think it through as if it was you genuinely having to go through pregnancy and birth.. would you rather be the woman in scenario 1? No
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:27 PM
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It’s not fair. But neither is it “fair” what women have to go through.. again I’d rather be the man in this situation. I’d just be really careful about protection or have a vasectomy unless I wanted kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:24 PM
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Which would you rather be though? The woman or the man in this scenario? And if you were the woman who physically had to go through this, what would you honestly want to be the balance of decision making? Wouldn’t you want ultimate say?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:19 PM
-4

They just hate women - they don’t see us as people
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:02 PM
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You forget the physical aspects of this for a woman… this is a decision that impacts a woman’s body and therefore she must have the final say on what happens to her body. Is it fair? No probably not. Personally I’d rather have sex with the risk of consequences or a child I DIDN’T have to carry or give birth to even if that meant I had less of a say. Wouldn’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:01 PM
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What do you actually want though? Women to settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:27 PM
1

Dates aren’t sex 😂 jeez this is so transparent!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:32 AM
3

Yes! I remember him fondly but have no residual feelings for him. The fact he was my first isn’t really part of that, it’s more that he was my first ever boyfriend and we were together for 4 years so he’s a key part of my history and relationship experience. I truly was in love with him but I sadly lost feelings as our lives went in different directions and my attraction to him dwindled. I don’t believe in pair bonding or “the one” but my love for this man has had no negative impact on my abilit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:28 AM
2

Stop living on social media 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:10 AM
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I know barely any women who don’t work. Even ones with kids have only taken some time off. Stay at home mums obviously raise kids and keep house. In general though women and men are all just people. In a real and good relationship 2 people fall in love so they provide that first for foremost. A friend, a confidant, someone who will tell you the truth when you need to hear it and will have your back. This is the most important aspect of any relationship. The rest - split how you like! I like cook…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:14 PM
-4

Oh hon 😂 look up verbatim in the dictionary and don’t use words you don’t understand in the future 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:20 PM
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If that’s what you took from this I’m surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:20 PM
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It’s the dread promotion They want to control women’s behaviour and threatening them with consequences is the best way to do that in their view. Women n counts, women having too high standards, women ageing etc. It’s all to force us to do as they wish we would do. Which seems to be - be 20 where they are 30+, a virgin but who will do anything with them sexually that THEY desire whenever they want and serve them as a trad wife who never calls them out on shitty behaviour because they are a man an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:28 PM
1

I’ll fight you for them 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:59 AM
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I don’t think it’s an issue to have those preferences. I think people get angry that these preferences are put out on here all the time as a way to criticise women for their choices whilst saying it’s ok or different for men. It’s the promotion of the double standard onto others that people argue about as opposed to someone’s individual preferences. Womens n count is posted about multiple times a week or even day 😂 and why? As an attempt to make women feel bad or to control womens behaviour so i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:35 PM
0

It’s harder I’d say. The world isn’t built to accommodate single fathers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:44 PM
1

Mad? That’s interesting. I would never be mad about someone exercising their right to say no to sex. I could imagine them saying no May make me feel insecure in some way but mad? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:43 AM
5

It’s sad when people haven’t got to experience love. Love isn’t about high value anything - it’s a connection not a checklist of traits in a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 06:22 PM
5

Why do you need to be told how to be? Why can’t we all just be who we want to be without gender specified guidance?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:36 AM
1

Won’t let me put things in his butt 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:49 AM
1

Ha so men should all be out there exercising their options but women I suspect you think should stay waiting to be chosen by old men who’ve had their fun? Eek
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:45 PM
2

Seems sad to me her best option is a 40 year old man who views her, and women, this way. But hey it’s not my life so as long as you and your future partner are happy then it’s all good
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:11 PM
3

Jeez see his latest comment… “the woman is happy when she is chosen”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:14 AM
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“The woman is happy when she is chosen” sounds like something you and her father have decided to state as fact when it’s your opinion. She is apparently hanging out with “bad company” hence you ended things. Sounds like she just wants to live her own life and not be controlled by an old dude who sees women as controllable “options” and her father.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:13 AM
3

Ah yes that’s how I read it too 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:10 AM
4

I don’t know of any dudes in western society who want their 25 year old daughter dating a 40 year old man who has several young women he’s maintaining contact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:58 AM
3

Sounds cultural and biased. Where are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:44 AM
3

That’s good then. But from the way you are commenting you seem to think more negatively of women in the same position as you. Why is that? I could be wrong of course but your comments seem consistent
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:08 AM
4

Well that can apply to anyone of course but what is the reason for your negativity? Are you married?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:03 AM
8

Well I think a lot of people who are unmarried may still have tried but just not met a person suited to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:18 AM
7

Tried what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:06 AM
10

Personally I know more people who are unhappily married or regret marrying than I do unhappily single/child free people. I know some older women who wish they’d found the right guy and had kids but they don’t have any “ones that got away” - they just didn’t meet the right guy. They aren’t miserable though and certainly don’t hate others who live life differently to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:26 AM
6

That’s just not happening the way you think it is, at least not these days
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:57 AM
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Being with someone you truly love > being alone > being with someone you don’t truly love It’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 07:55 AM
5

You won’t like my answer but the answer is The Patriarchy. Men are supposed to be able to take “banter” and to not need groups or movements for emotional support Women are allowed to show their vulnerability so they feel more comfortable sharing it, and supporting one another. A lot (not all) of mens groups designed to help men are toxic and instead of meeting men where they are, they put more pressure on them to be what “men should be” Gay men support each other better, likely because they don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:38 PM
1

In the sea when I was on holiday and my partner was on the beach 😂 Bus stop Train Coach - dude passed me a note. That was SO weird! On the street when I was walking home Linked in At work Multiple times
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:30 PM
1

I actually want to try and change people’s minds in the way that they think about women but I’ve also learned a few things myself too I’m surprised by how people have been treated that got them thinking this way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:32 AM
1

Who is this picture of? Surely can’t be ok to use that or am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:20 AM
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Exactly. Keep telling women they want kids and to not have financial freedom. Keep them dependent on the “provider” men Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:56 PM
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Oh yes this isn’t what they want to hear at all. I am genuinely of the belief that some men on here do not understand that women are fully fledged humans as opposed to just side characters with whom they wish to interact.. or worse… control
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:23 PM
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Absolutely. Not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:01 AM
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Purely anecdotal but my experience before I met my partner was that the more difficult I was the more men would chase me 😂 I’ve never had a man want “compliance” from me and I’ve never had any issues getting attention from men - wanted or unwanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:18 AM
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What’s sad about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:16 AM
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As many people have said - a lot of women want to remain childfree and have freedom to live out their own dreams even if that means not having a partner. Having your own independent financial freedom gives you so much more than relying on a good man to remain good, especially as we all age. I think that a lot of people, men and women, are sold the idea that you must have kids to be happy. I imagine having your own child can bring you some of the purest joy imaginable But.. For a woman it is hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:15 AM
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Couldn’t deal with that at all
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:49 PM
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The desperation to put women down is overwhelming 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:05 PM
1

Thank you for clarifying 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:34 PM
1

Happy for you to explain my error but I think it was your mistake on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:31 PM
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Well If you think I was a key part of your progress, who am I to argue 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:24 PM
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I added the value I wanted to add. If it was not valuable to you that is of no consequence to me. I am, however, glad to hear you could have dialogue with women without assuming they are being dishonest. Progress was made even if I was no part of it 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:21 PM
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8 now. I don’t feel I wasted my time. I did what I intended to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:17 PM
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I made the point I wanted to. In future posts maybe don’t start off calling half your intended audience liars 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:14 PM
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Ooh a variation on the 80/20 rule what an exciting day this is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:26 PM
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Why would you post on the internet if you aren’t willing to listen to people on the internet? I have made a point. It’s just not an answer to your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:23 AM
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I’m not saying believe me because I am a woman. I am saying why would I debate someone who has already decided women should not be believed?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:00 AM
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And you aren’t interested in recognising that you’re not debating in good faith if you’re starting position is women aren’t honest about this topic. Can you honestly not understand what I am saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:57 AM
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But why would you believe anything I say here? I’m a woman and you’ve already said we are dishonest about this topic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:55 AM
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I can comment on this post all I like I don’t think there is any point me - a woman - addressing the content of a post in which you claim women to be dishonest. Can you tell me how there is a point in having a discussion with someone who believes you are going to lie because you’re a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:47 AM
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The core of most of the problems on PPD is that you all insist women are dishonest and refuse to believe anything that doesn’t fit your preconceived notions. I can’t find it now but earlier on there was a post saying women don’t like sex Honestly can you take a step back and look at yourselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:45 AM
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There’s a lot of people writing about toxic masculinity and not all of it is equal. I’m sure there’s some absolute rubbish examples out there that could apply to anyone but there are some definite issues that are specifically toxic masculinity. For me, a good example is that men are expected to be stoic, not cry and not show emotional vulnerability. This is one key factor in the rate of male suicides. This isn’t about men or masculinity being toxic it’s that the social structures we have in plac…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:03 PM
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These are examples of poor behaviour but they aren’t specifically rooted in femininity so I’m not sure how this can be described as toxic femininity
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:37 PM
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Yeah just completely dismiss that men owned women because their life was hard too…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:06 PM
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Some are more engaging than others
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:49 PM
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Who am I to be of such importance to the cause?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:43 PM
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What and when was the last terrorist attack committed by the suffragettes? Hold men accountable for sexual assault/rape yes. Do you disagree with that? I say hold all people accountable for these sort of things
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:42 PM
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Embarrassing And no I don’t really care if men get laid or not. They need to stop overreacting to it though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:36 PM
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It’s just that I’m bored by the same circular conversations that will go down the exact same route.. “Mens suicide rates are higher.. Yes but women attempt suicide at same rate but use less violent methods so don’t succeed as often. Etc. etc. “ You already will have heard all the responses to what you’re saying I’m sure. Just read them back
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:35 PM
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What a load of biased horse shit 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:17 PM
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Absolutely 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:16 PM
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I certainly hope so 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:12 PM
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That’s a good point
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:07 PM
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Men need to start caring for themselves, seriously. Even if you don’t think feminism is needed now - I think it’s universally acknowledged that life hasn’t been great for women historically - I mean we were literally considered to be property Of men. Yet women weren’t out there committing mass murder and screaming into the void that men wouldn’t fix their problems for them. Aren’t you men just a tiny bit… embarrassed by this “men are in crisis” stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:02 PM
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MGTOW is the best way - go enjoy your life and leave women the fuck alone 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:37 PM
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I’m not saying any different. I just interpreted your use of “association” differently to how you’ve explained you intended it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:22 PM
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You mean we don’t want to have sex with men we are not attracted to? Yes i agree with that but surely that’s obvious and the same for men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:11 PM
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Ha who is gonna tell all my guy friends that I don’t see a benefit from associating with them 😂 Do you live in some sort of segregated society?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:08 PM
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“Women’s dating preferences” written by a man 😂 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:56 PM
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This actually makes a lot of sense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:40 PM
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I think we have to accept that less people want marriage these days. For me, as the higher earner in my relationship, I can identify with those guys on here who worry about the cost of divorce. We don’t want kids so no need for us all to have same name etc. There’s no real upside except the big party 😂 I’d rather have my partner choose to be with me than be with me because he signed a legal document. So yeah no need for it. Plus if something did happen to my partner, I’d have no issue being sing…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:37 PM
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It’s a fair point but we are in a strange time of life where within a couple of generations we have moved quite far away from the sort of collaborative family support systems we once had. At least in the UK we have. These days you have no guarantee that your children or grandchildren will be there to look after you in your old age. It’s definitely not a good reason to have kids on it’s own.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:33 PM
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But your last comment is all about how men aren’t enjoying the current dating market but women are having the same amount of sex…. So you do want to control women and for them to understand the “consequences” Because men aren’t happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:29 PM
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So you want to control women’s sexuality because men are unhappy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:24 PM
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I disagree with what you think but like I said, happy to agree to disagree. I can’t see either of us changing each other’s minds
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:23 PM
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The original question is about excusing a hoe phase… and you literally said your wife was a virgin so you can see where I got that from
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:20 PM
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So you expect women to have a low n count and not have a hoe phase But want to be able to have sex with her after 4/5 dates and/or fuck around whilst she gets comfortable enough to have sex with you. The hypocrisy is wild 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:16 PM
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People learn and grow and change. Let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 08:44 PM
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So why do men like you who are happy in relationship with a low n count woman care what other women do? Why do you want to police women’s behaviour especially when you want to suggest it’s shameful for women to have sex but not for men? I’m in a relationship myself where we’ve never discussed n counts. I debate on here because it concerns me that the views some men on here are rooted in misogyny and will lead men to treat women badly or try to control them. I believe we should allow people to li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 05:30 PM
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Yes I think this sub is biased because the average man with no issues dating isn’t posting on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 05:12 PM
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I disagree that women love promiscuous men or that women can’t still get the men they want having been promiscuous. I don’t think women care as much about n count as men, and I don’t think men care as much about n count as this sub believes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 04:06 PM
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Well I guess we agree to disagree then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:52 PM
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I think it’s a cope. Men saying ahh well I wouldn’t have wanted her anyway when they’re no chance they even could have had her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:17 PM
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So why are men on here whinging about not being able to find such women?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:17 PM
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Maybe so but you have to look at why you want this especially if you don’t hold yourself to the same standard. Is it because you hold intimacy as sacred between 2 people in love, then sure hold yourself to that same standard and have that as a boundary for yourself. Don’t have sex with whoever will have you and look down on the women who sleep with you whilst hunting a virgin when you’re not one. Have sex with people who share the same values as you. You shouldn’t be having sex with people you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:20 PM
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Past matters, value alignment matters. The issue of men and n count here is not so much that they care about a woman’s past, it’s that they are often hypocritical about it or want to have definitive rules with no nuance. A lot of opinions are stated as fact and these views don’t really reflect reality or perhaps do reflect some people’s reality but don’t allow for the wide differences in peoples life experience. When I read the n count posts here about how these men won’t date someone with an n …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 11:37 AM
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I don’t know a single woman obsessed with the idea they have to get fucked with every dick size etc… I know a lot of women who are dating, and yes having sex, and some of those relationships work out and some don’t. Men and women are doing this. You don’t just stay with the first person you date so you don’t accidentally get into “whore” numbers as defined by some random Reddit guy. It’s interesting to me that you’re supposedly happily married with a great sex life but are obsessed with what oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 08:09 AM
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Interesting.. was all ok with him bashing women but not being racist because that impacts you.. i see I see
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 08:00 AM
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A lot about what you don’t want and not really much thought as to what you do want from a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:53 PM
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The amount of circular convos I’ve read or had on here. Some PPD guys have a narrative in their head and refuse to believe anything other than that. I don’t know why these guys are even on a debate sub when all they do is repeat their opinions as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:31 AM
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Who cares what men like you prefer? 😂 Women are people who have interests and ambitions outside of being a wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:08 PM
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I’m not deciding for anyone I’m offering my view point 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:00 PM
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I’m not but I just find this thread interesting shaming Virgins when there’s usually 3 posts a week on women with high n counts 😂 women can do no right hey
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:35 PM
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Yeah but for them they wouldn’t choose you as you’d not be the right person for them if you have those beliefs. It’s a non issue for either party really
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:23 PM
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Who gets to say? I mean it’s their choice and if they haven’t found someone they want then why settle? 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:37 PM
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Interesting take since a lot of people on this sub blame women for choosing the wrong men. What if these women have not yet met a suitable man? They should have chosen and committed to the best of a bad bunch?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:08 PM
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Let the idiots tell on themselves. They aren’t good options for women so let them wave their red flags for all to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:55 PM
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Ha well not sure where you’re from I think we’re all “foreign” here since it’s a global community so not sure what you mean by that part 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:45 PM
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I love how some people on here really need you to feel bad for having sex. Like they really will do their best to project their views onto your partner 😂 My partner and I have never shared our n count and neither of us care. For the people who care let them.. but why do they absolutely NEED you to feel badly about your n count? Because they’re so miserable they need their little revenge fantasy. Women punished for enjoying sex 😂😂😂 whilst they suffer a sexless existence or have mediocre sex becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:42 AM
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What makes you different from the women you are talking about in your post? How old are you? (You don’t have to answer this one of course but I’m interested as to what life experience you have to hold this view)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:26 AM
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Why can’t you answer a question? You’re just repeating your same opinions as if they are fact. Troll? Boring Woman? Then what makes you different from other women, why do your guy friends like you if they only care about sex? Are you sleeping with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:24 AM
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So what are you the? The great “pick Me” exception? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:16 AM
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Why would I accept something so clearly false? 😂do you not have friends of both sexes?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:14 AM
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These men aren’t being forced into anything. If you don’t want to compliment someone you’re attracted enough to have sex with then you probably don’t deserve to have sex with them. Your other comments are concerning. Men are not a monolith and many of them care a great deal about their partners. Also many men on this sub are deeply troubled not just by their inability to get laid but by their invisibility to women. They want the emotional side of a relationship - someone to love and care for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:07 AM
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I’m not your dancing monkey working for your “bonus point” approval 🤣 jeez dude
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:08 AM
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Recent articles published stating a significant rise of lonely men and the existence of all the RP/game content which is hugely popular. The same doesn’t exist in the same levels for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:30 PM
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Well perhaps so but this subreddit doesn’t exactly signal any differently
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:28 PM
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Well as they say many times on this subreddit, our personal experiences are not indicative of the wider experience That said, good for you and your mates but there’s a lot of articles about recently stating that there is a huge rise of lonely men as opposed to women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:20 PM
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I don’t believe it’s an statistical anomaly. Have you seen the stats on men leaving their wives when they have cancer vs other way round? It’s pretty disturbing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:36 PM
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I do believe we have been listening to women’s issues but I don’t think we’ve resolved them sufficiently do you? We shouldn’t stop listening just because we have made progress. My own experience is that men tend to bring up their issues in response to women’s issues which is when it may feel like they are being shut down or that womens issues are being listened to to the exclusion of mens. PPD is actually one of the places that I do see men raising their issues independently but in real life men…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:35 PM
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Well as the rise of lonely men increases perhaps it is more to the benefit of men that we all start listening to each other properly as opposed to re-stating tired old stereotypes as if they are facts - for both sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:12 PM
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Haha fair critique 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:09 PM
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Jeez yeah garbage is out today. Make an actual point rather than meh women mean to us mens 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:52 PM
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Have you met an actual woman or have you just been watching a lot of tv shows created by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:51 PM
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It’s disingenuous to respond without reading past the first line but go off my friend 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:50 PM
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Yeah I can understand the logic but it’s not my experience really. I’m lucky my partner is very equal in most areas (neither of us are perfect that’s for sure!) but I despair at some of my best friends relationships.. thinking about it though the differentiating factor is not that these men are more assertive than my partner.. it’s that the dynamic always seems to shift hugely once kids come along. My partner and I are child free so we haven’t had that. Also I get that we are responsible for our…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:49 PM
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I mean maybe it’s different in different cultures but I’m in UK and it’s not expected for men to do the date planning really and I described more or what I meant in another comment on this thread re mental load. More relevant once IN the relationship as opposed to courting stage I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah I can see valid points there. My main point of disagreement with PPD people on this is the idea that women don’t know what they want or routinely lie about it. I’d say that happens no more in women than men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:00 PM
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What a reach 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:48 PM
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I understand you’re being deliberately obtuse but it’s yourself you’re making look foolish in doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:38 PM
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I can only know what is reported and you have the same access to that as I do. I’m not on the legal team 😂 you’re being ridiculous because you know as well as I do you can look for yourself and quickly determine your view of whether videos being subpoenaed is a rumour or just a statement of fact
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:31 PM
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Well you have access to the same info I do - go have a read of the many articles written on this topic. Videos existed and were subpoenaed - I haven’t seen them to opine on what they showed. However he did make a statement apologising for his behaviour and acknowledging he had done things wrong so he’s not saying he was falsely accused of all accusations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:51 PM
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What are you saying? These one liners aren’t giving us much 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:25 PM
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Yeah I could be. But lying in anonymous discussions on Reddit is a pretty inane use of anyones time 😂 By your logic there’s no point in any discussions here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:17 PM
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“Some” people do all sorts of things
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:08 PM
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I’m not on the prosecution team so I don’t have all the detail on the specifics 😂 Have a read of a range of articles on the topic and make your own judgement about him but I wouldn’t say he’s the poster boy for false accusations even if it’s possible at least one accuser was “jumping on the bandwagon”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:07 PM
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There’s a lot of discussion on this topic and it won’t apply to all but in general there’s an expectation on women to bear more of the mental load when it comes to relationships. Examples being their partner’s main or only source of emotional support. Working outside the home but doing disproportionate amounts of work in the home. Being responsible for remembering appointments, making lists for men on what needs doing rather than men working out what needs to be done themselves etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:37 PM
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😂😂 interesting how you’ve twisted this to portray women so negatively even when doing something positive, or at least with a positive net result for women In response to some things you said for me personally (so anecdotal and not necessarily representative of women). I likely compliment women you would call ugly but I don’t lie. I find the things that are genuinely good about them - there’s always something. I don’t see people as ugly/non ugly. I don’t only hang out with people who are like me,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:22 PM
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Here i would get downvoted for these but not sure about elsewhere 1) Women are not a monolith. Gender is one way of grouping people but there are many other ways including introvert/extrovert and a variety of personality tests. When trying to make generalisations about groups of people I believe gender is the least useful as it has the greatest variance within the group. 2) Women are no more likely than men to overestimate their own ability to determine the reasons they do things or what they re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:55 PM
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Rape is the only crime I can think of where the victim is essentially on trial. Mario Batali was found not guilty due to “credibility issues” with the witness which included her making a joke about the alleged assault to a friend. Some people process trauma with dark humour.. but regardless let’s say this woman did falsely accuse him by jumping on the bandwagon of other accusations for monetary gain. There are still a number of other women who have accused this man, at least 2 with video evidenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:54 PM
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Thanks for responding so properly it’s good to understand the other perspective. We disagree on pretty much everything but it’s good to have a respectful conversation 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:04 AM
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Well that’s the thing for me, I think we should all choose to do what we feel is best for our lives. When a couple have children why does it have to be the woman that stays home? I’m not saying you shouldn’t choose that at all or that anyone should make someone feel bad for making that choice. I’m saying that we should all allow people to make their own choices and not push people into gender roles they don’t want. If you feel that feminine nurture urge as a woman that’s awesome for you and embr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:17 PM
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How do you feel about women who don’t want to do the things considered to be naturally feminine? Like me? I have a successful career and an active lifestyle but I don’t want to be a mother and my partner and I split the chores we don’t outsource. I’m a feminist (I’d say that’s obvious) but I don’t think men and women are the same. I just don’t think we should push people into specific roles just because of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 07:22 PM
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Oh I see now you’re just making baseless opinions and stating them as fact
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:47 PM
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You don’t know anything about how other people feel. You can make educated estimates but you can never know. I suspect in some celebrity relationships people went into them for money and so “got what they wanted” if they got a massive divorce settlement but what about the ones who genuinely got their hearts broken? Even if they did get money in the divorce it’s not “what they wanted” I have guy and girl friends who can get laid all they want but can’t find a girlfriend (the ones they actually wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:44 PM
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I disagree. I’m a woman and my partner and I are child free. We have good careers and a lot of responsibility in our lives but we are also big kids who enjoy our lives and being silly together
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:40 AM
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Why? Genuinely.. why would you need to do that entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:49 AM
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Me too! ADHD ambivert ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:48 AM
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Speak for yourself! I love silly and goofy as long as they are able to be serious when it counts. You need to remember that there are many different types of people who are attracted to different types of people. There is NO point faking a personality and getting in a relationship on that basis… you’ll be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:47 AM
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It’s interesting that some of the responses here still focus on the idea that men can’t find sex but women can’t find someone to have a relationship with… I don’t see that at all. It’s just revenge fantasy. No one - man or woman - should settle for a relationship that isn’t right for them. Relationships are work and require compromise sure but why settle? Being alone is not as bad as being in a bad relationship. As with this work analogy OP provided - you can’t expect people to just lower their …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:18 AM
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Jeez! That’s mad! Well done for getting out of the situations tho
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:40 PM
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Yeah I agree the questions weird. Unless it’s taking away pain from the woman it’s pointless really - why both suffer. Where do you live that you’re getting attacked so frequently?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 03:40 PM
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Not the one I saw when I did a quick search but again attractiveness is relative
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:58 PM
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Sophie Lancaster in the UK died trying to defend her boyfriend from an attack. I understand this concept that men have to defend women from attacks but I’ve literally never known this happen in real life. Attacks tend to happen to people of any gender who are alone. How many women have you genuinely had to defend from an attack? How many women have run away when you have been attacked?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:56 PM
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Haha omg yeah imagine If I was like yeah “I’ll mate with you just not date you” - brilliant! UK and Aussie roots showing there. Yeah I pretty much always use partner. Some guys on here hate that though… I suspect that’s highlighting their issue with a relationship being a partnership though 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:49 AM
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Yeah I agree. I’ve Defs been guilty of not being sufficiently clear in the past when rejecting and now I’m just firm and to the point but polite. Like ripping off a plaster. Like last week someone asked if I wanted to hang out sometime and I said “happy to hang but to be clear it would be a mate thing not a date thing” I actually have a partner but i don’t use that as my reason because I feel like that makes people think ahh if she were single she’d go for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:42 AM
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Even leaving aside the safety part (and remember just because most guys won’t hurt you for rejecting them doesn’t mean we know which ones will / won’t) it’s really horrible and uncomfortable to reject someone who has been brave enough to approach you. I hate it.. I know no one on this sub is going to have sympathy for me for this issue and trust me I don’t expect it at all… but yeah it really is horrible having to say to someone “sorry I just don’t see you like that”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:32 AM
2

I always wonder this… like who the hell is having sex or going on dates for free food? 😂 that’s more effort than just buying your own food
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:27 AM
3

It’s so funny how you can be on this sub and not acknowledge how emotionally driven men are. This whole sub is men being emotional about dating issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:20 AM
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You’ve completely ignored that there’s also the gender reverse of this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:11 AM
1

What stuff do only guys like as opposed to boys gatekeep though?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:00 PM
1

Exactly this! There are so many aspects of life and yes a partner/love is a key one but it’s not the only one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 10:59 PM
51

Build the life you want regardless of your relationship status. Do the things you want to do and don’t rely on finding a partner to make you happy. Don’t build a social circle with the purpose of meeting a partner - just do it for its own intrinsic value. If that’s so hard for you to do then that’s also why you are not a suitable partner for anyone because you literally don’t have anything going on…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:53 PM
1

Yes, didn’t start as casual was always a relationship from when we started dating but we were also sort of friends first in that we knew each other to talk to socially. It’s the best because we are in a LTR and have got to know what each other like and are comfortable with each other. That said, even our first time was great because there was a big build up and a lot of chemistry. I don’t and have never fantasised about someone else with I’m having sex with someone. I’m not even sure how that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:33 AM
1

It is interesting to me that so many men here assume travelling women are having random sex on their trips… Do those of you who think that way genuinely not have a desire to just see the world and experience other cultures, foods and activities? That’s wild to me. I’ve travelled extensively and it has never been about hookups not least because that would put you at high risk of all sorts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:44 PM
1

Who says she couldn’t? Maybe she just didn’t want to 😉 I know you guys love to think up your revenge fantasies but at some point you’re just going to have to accept that women can and will enjoy sex too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:52 PM
1

Hahaha you’ve asked her to lie about it to the next guy? Ridiculous. Let her find a man who doesn’t have these issues - honesty is the only way to find true compatibility…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:51 PM
1

Exactly. For yourself you should work on this though- you’re headed down a lonely path
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:50 PM
2

Let her go she deserves better and will likely get it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:05 AM
20

Like women are all just in a line waiting for men to come ask them to marry them 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:12 PM
5

A/B - Often in places where it’s common, not so often in places that you’d not expect like in the street/shopping centre/on public transport
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 06:50 PM
2

No people are the same. There’s a multitude of reasons why we are different. Gender, sexuality, culture, age, upbringing, personality type etc. etc. Some women will be more similar to you individually than some men will be… Personally in my relationship we have to empathise with each other. I do see that not everyone is like that but then don’t go for people who don’t empathise with you..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:13 PM
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I think that is true - I think the cause of that lack of empathy is often that they are not truly aware of it. Outside of this subreddit I honestly don’t hear much about such struggles and the men in my life appear to be fine and mostly in healthy relationships where they want to be. I think the same can be said for men - especially on here - who are quick to dismiss the struggles of women and especially their fear of men potentially hurting them which often gets laughed at on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:07 PM
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I disagree with that. I don’t like to gender things as a rule but empathy is a trait for more present in women. Have you seen the stats on men leaving wives who have cancer vs wives leaving men? I was shocked to learn that women are often warned about this when diagnosed and many hospice workers report this experience as a frequent occurrence. Men even dating whilst their wife dies in a hospice.. plus men tend to remarry much faster than women after their spouse dies. Of course there are more fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:47 PM
1

I’ve heard a few accounts of hospice workers saying exactly this - it’s so awful to think of anyone doing this to anyone. In some cases apparently the dude is actively dating whilst the wife is dying in the hospice.. Widowed men are also faster to remarry after the death of their spouse…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:08 AM
5

Nah there are a lot of people who think both concepts are correct.. it’s mad
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:41 AM
1

Prioritise marriage when you meet the right person. You can’t FORCE meeting the right person
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:30 PM
2

People are taught to fear being alone above all else but for a lot of women once they experience it they realise it’s better to be alone than with someone who isn’t right for them so they raise their bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:26 PM
2

So then it doesn’t really matter what we wear because whatever we wear men will be attracted to us. The point around any of this is around control. No one wants to be controlled (in general, I know there are some exceptions) and I don’t think anyone should control what their partner wears irrespective of gender. This idea of you risking your life is ridiculously overplayed and isn’t happening. I bet you’ve never ever been in that position. Women are people - just let us live and stop trying to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:43 AM
2

How do you feel about men being topless out and about? Does the same apply?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:37 AM
0

No one can force anyone else to be attracted to someone. It’s not fair but it’s life and blaming a gender isn’t going to help anyone. Neither men or tend to go for people with social issues whether that be autism or something else. Just like most men and women don’t automatically go for physically disabled people. It’s not a gendered thing you just only care about what impacts you (which is fine just don’t then turn it into a gender issue)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:29 PM
1

So I have never lied but it’s interesting to talk or omission. I mean does anyone want to sit down and discuss every single sexual act they’ve ever performed? Is it omission to not do that? I haven’t ever hidden anything from my partner. He has never asked (nor I him) about n count. The sex with him is the best and most adventurous I’ve ever done so there isn’t anything for him to worry about. I have been open about anything I think he specifically needs to know - for example my ex is in one of …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:34 PM
2

I used to live alone and so yeah I still had to cook, clean and keep house after work 😂 What do you single people do now? My sister has kids. My partner and I don’t want kids. When I spend time with my sisters kids I LOVE it but they are exhausting and make so much mess plus need constant attention! It’s a full time job taking care of kids and honestly harder than my job which is one most people would consider to be very hard work. So no kids - stay at home person can do the household stuff sure…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:28 PM
1

Agreed but life isn’t fair and why add to your weaknesses by adding a shitty personality into the mix? Give yourself the best chance! I’m not saying it’s easy but that’s what successful people do - they don’t let the setbacks hold them back forever
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:43 PM
1

I don’t believe saying just be confident is helpful either. The issue is that if a man has got to the point where he’s bitter about his height and obsesses over it and brings it up at every opportunity then he’s gonna screw his chances with the women that don’t care about height. I’m 5”2 so i don’t care about height but I do care if a man has a negative attitude even if I can understand where it’s come from. It’s not fair but it’s not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:35 PM
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Well I’m sorry to hear that but don’t let their shittyness define you forever. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:57 AM
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Can you not see how off putting it is when someone is so defeatist and blames their height for everything. Literally so many short men get partners. Maybe it’s harder but what’s much harder to overcome is a “woe is me because I’m short” attitude. If that’s become your whole personality then yeah you’re screwed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:52 AM
2

Exactly it’s all down to the individual but sadly medical care too often works on what works for most..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:04 PM
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I think it sounds like more of one than it is (side effects etc can be brutal) but thank goodness we have options now that we didn’t have in days gone past
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:00 PM
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But they aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:43 AM
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Stop misusing the term gaslighting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:42 AM
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Vasectomies are mostly reversible but imagine as a woman not having to be fully responsible for birth control or take hormones. Honestly you have no idea how good a man with a vasectomy is to us
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:48 AM
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Someone really doesn’t understand women or current affairs 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:46 AM
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The attitude is ugly not the height
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:46 AM
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What a first line though jeez
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:44 AM
3

Me too! Ambivert is a term I’ve found fits that 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:42 AM
3

Do you not have friends of both genders? Would be awful!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:38 PM
1

Makes sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:04 PM
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My evidence “trust me” oh ok dude 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:55 AM
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You make a lot of assumptions. I make it clear in my comments as you can see from my history when I’m speaking from anecdotal experience but I would NEVER make a blanket statement about a whole gender based on something I’ve done. I also don’t understand the pride you seem to take in being toxic or why your bf would put up with it. Each to their own of course. I am of the view that people are individuals and shouldn’t be viewed as a monolith. Some men are more jealous than others, some women are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:55 AM
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So because you behaved badly, that translates to women in general? Nah doesn’t work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:31 AM
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Are women more jealous on average than men though? I would disagree with that especially based on the content here where men discuss retrospective jealousy and n counts on a daily basis. I’m just interested as to why you think women are more jealous in general. I wonder if it’s a historical thing based on the fact that in the past where women had less autonomy they did have to share powerful men and were often pitted against each other… but is it still true now?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:07 PM
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Sorry dude your opinion isn’t the same as a fact. It’s not the same thing, no matter how much you want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:28 PM
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Ha fair play I think at least our discussion has been constructive and we have both heard each other 🙂 sleep well
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:19 AM
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It was absolutely sardonic. Like you I don’t have infinite patience and I’ve lost count of the times Ive had the discussion around how to make feminism more palatable to men… I don’t necessarily disagree with a lot of what you’re saying but stick around in PPD and you’ll see no amount of empathy or attempts to understand their side will sway many of these guys from believing that women live life on easy mode etc etc… Some battles can’t be won - it is the war on which I am focussed. I stay here a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:12 AM
1

Just take a step back for a second. You’re throwing a lot at me here when I’ve not really said much to give you any reason to think I disagree with your main points. I understand the frustration with the left allowing the right to make progress whilst we seemingly in fight and disagree over what terminology we should be using rather than tackling the big issues. Right leaning people even where they disagree on personal levels do unite on the big ones and hence seem to make better progress at lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:37 AM
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I’m not sure what you think I’m arguing against here you seem to be mostly having a conversation with yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:17 AM
0

Feminism isn’t about winning or losing…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 07:19 AM
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Haha took you a second to decide feminism is of value only if we make our tone acceptable to you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:41 PM
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You thought she was below your standards… so maybe some part of her picked up on your view of her or your arrogance and that put her off. Also you might be a 10/10 for some people and a 2/10 for others - we are all unique individuals with different likes/dislikes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:39 PM
1

Why would you want to pursue a romantic relationship with someone that you realise you don’t like? Maybe you meet someone and initially you think they’re a good match but then you talk more and you realise they’re not for you. I don’t understand why anyone - man or woman - would not be picky. Better to be on your own and have your freedom than be in a relationship with someone you aren’t suited to..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:20 PM
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Love this analogy!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:15 PM
1

Omg the inhumanity of some of the people in this sub is outrageous 😂 Also stop reading shit and look at the observable world where men and women with chronic health conditions have partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:00 PM
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I understand what you’re trying to say but no one needs anyone else to complete them. We are all complete and having a romantic relationship should just be a great bonus on top of a life you make good for yourself. Also remember not all romantic relationships are between men and women 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:23 AM
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Agreed! And let’s be honest we are talking about outliers here - these are extremely attractive Hollywood stars. Average Joe and Judy are ageing about the same but women have more options to improve how they look
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:49 AM
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Also if you’re ugly in your prime you’re not going to suddenly age into a fine wine comparable older gentleman 😂 But ageing comes for us all - I mean Brad Pitt has aged well sure but he’s still aged and can’t hold a candle to his former self. It’s ridiculous to think that’s the case. Women in general in my experience age better and take care of themselves better - the only issue that impacts women more than men is pregnancy cuz it sucks the life out of people literally 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:44 AM
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It’s true in my experience - a lot of my single female friends are just going out with their friends and doing their own thing. If they meet someone great but it’s not their focus. Dating apps have made people jaded and bored of all the talking stages and wasted time on dates with people they have no chemistry with. The male friends I have that are single are much more actively trying to date in general - going on multiple first dates a week in most cases.. Sounds exhausting! I could never
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:12 AM
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Women are ADULT HUMANS. Nothing about our female parts make us less capable of knowing what we want. How do you not understand that we are just people? Do some women not know what they want? Sure! Same as some men… but it’s not about gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:08 AM
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Hahaha imagine they start setting n count thresholds based on location 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:02 AM
3

I agree with your value assignment so it must be right
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:01 AM
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But he likes food, travel and being happy though! 😂😂😂😂😂 how has he not been snapped up
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:03 AM
2

Jealous plays a huge part in that I feel - knocking other women down to feel better about themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:42 PM
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It’s a tough one for me to answer as I’ve been with my partner for a long time. I definitely intended to hold back longer with him than I actually did (we both intended to and had a conversation about it but In the end it wasn’t really that long and no regrets 😂) The problem we have here is that women are judged for having and enjoying sex. Almost every day there are posts on this sub about women with high n counts and how you can tell by her behaviour. So it makes sense that a woman if she real…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 12:41 PM
2

I agree with you there but when a parent dismisses their own entire gender as being untrustworthy it’s damaging
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:10 AM
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I know and look how badly that’s worked out too. It’s “not all men” but men themselves are teaching their daughters that. It’s not good when either gender does it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:21 AM
2

IM sorry I just wish so much that I had a beard and so it’s a really personal subject for me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:26 PM
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What a reach 😂 whatever helps you sleep at night… Jeez this sub is off the charts madness and I watch love island 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:36 PM
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It’s not ironic. It’s from a woman who “isn’t like other women” 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:21 PM
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How’s that working out for you though as a man on ppd 😂 Your mother is a woman who teaches you not to trust women… 😂😂😂😂 can’t you see how fucked that is? Doomed because you see women as the enemy and that advice comes from the woman you should hope has the best advice for you. Madness 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:20 PM
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I don’t think the sex roughness is the issue - it’s how he talks about and sees women. I mean the man has said things like “if your woman has an only fans you should get a cut because she is yours” - now I am not getting into the OFans discussion because it’s irrelevant really but this shows he sees women as property and not people. Worse about him is that he doesn’t just live his own nasty way he actively encourages people to do the same and it promotes a lot of negativity for ALL not just for …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:18 PM
2

I think both things can be true - that you are happy on your own (and certainly happier than of you’re in a relationship that is wrong for you and you’ve “settled”) but also that it would be wonderful if you met someone that you really loved - “the icing on the cake” If you will. I agree with you about not being able to fix past problems but in some cases you can assist with helping someone through the issues that present now because of those past problems. For example, my brother passed away an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:13 PM
2

I haven’t said anything about who I would date so you’re asking me repeat something I haven’t said. If your personality is genuinely like Tate then you aren’t likely making people feel happy and you’re being used for status/money by people who will allow themselves to be exploited by people who have money and status. Tate has admitted to violence against women and preferring Romania because he can bribe his way out of sexual assault cases. He is not a HVM or a good person. The sort of women who …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 06:32 PM
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Woman has her own opinion “Omg female narcissism” 😂😂😂 Wtf dude. Tate plays a character but no one in their right mind could possibly think he believes all the bs he says. He’s exploiting insecure men and doing a lot of damage to their mental health whilst also managing to perpetuate some seriously misogynistic ideas that he likely doesn’t even believe himself. It makes him money and gives him status and fame so he’s willing to play at being this obnoxious character but sadly he’ll encourage some…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:07 AM
0

Yes! So much - I can walk past a good smelling man and my head naturally turns 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:52 PM
2

You’re 12 aren’t you? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:40 PM
2

Nah you’re just delusional and likely trolling. I have no interest in your musings
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:18 PM
2

Lol we caught a live one 😂 Actually thinks he’s knows better than women about women… you can’t make this shit up you really can’t 😅😅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:16 PM
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What I will say is that often men have to go home lost break up as I’ve rarely seen that the woman leaves the family home especially where kids are involved. But for just never leaving the nest that has only ever been men in my anecdotal life experience
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:08 PM
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This is interesting because I agree with you that men are criticised for staying at home past a certain age but I don’t know ANY women living with their parents past 20 and I’m wondering now why that is and if it’s representative of the wider world or just my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:31 PM
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This assumption that child free women are secretly miserable and anti depressants is so tired and boring. Why does it bother you so much that we can be happy without birthing your spawn? You’re upset that if you do this you’re called a manchild but honestly I see far more people putting down women who are single than men. Men get the whole “batchelor” vibe. Stop worrying what other people who arent and won’t be in your life are doing and you’ll be happier. As they say, comparison is the thief of…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:28 PM
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Explain what you mean by “women act in such a way that they are there to be wooed and conquered” We literally just exist as people doing our own jobs/hobbies/socialising.. your problem with how you view us!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:12 PM
12

Cats conquer you 😅😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:09 PM
1

Yep I know… I just can’t understand how they can feel that way and at the same time, expect empathy from women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:23 AM
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The cake analogy is really too simplistic for the complexities of a rich and fulfilled life although I understand what you’re trying to convey. Me opting not to be under the financial control of another person or to not go through pregnancy, child birth and child rearing is not “whatever I want in the heat of the moment” - its a well considered life choice. I don’t get what I want ever second of the day.. I have to go to work, to do chores and other basic boring life sustaining things. I also do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:17 AM
3

Yes I agree with all that. It just boggles my mind that they can’t understand we aren’t humans. That just want to sit in the box want us to and procreate 😂 and they know they’d never choose that life for themselves so why should we?!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:11 AM
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Living your life the way you want and opting career over kids is not “roleplaying as men” ffs. I don’t know why it’s so hard to comprehend that a woman may enjoy a career, the sense of accomplishment, the financial freedom and options to do things outside of work that having money brings, the social side with colleagues and not having to go through the physicalities of pregnancy/birth and the boredom of staying at home with no adult company for hours on end. Would you want that? Most people don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:53 AM
1

No I think it’s sad for them 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:07 PM
1

Nah i tend to do the majority of it purely because i have more things I come across that I want to do. I tend to see something and say hey “fancy doing this” and if he doesn’t I go with a friend. I like for him to plan the odd surprise for birthdays and anniversaries but overall I am happy that he’s happy to do the things I like to do too 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:04 PM
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Honestly I love this though because it sounds like you’re both happy with the roles you have. Fairness is not necessarily everyone having the same or doing the same - it’s everyone getting what they need to be happy 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:27 PM
3

This idea of masculine and feminine roles is the issue with your whole argument. No one should have to live a particular life with their choices based predominantly on their gender. Once you understand that you’ll get it. Essentially what you’re saying is mo one wants to do the chores I’ve defined as “feminine” but women should do them and stop trying to get out of them and stop trying to engage in the “masculine” things that we men want to do but don’t want to allow women to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:13 PM
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I once heard a woman say I don’t want to be a mother but I wouldn’t mind being a father and it always stuck with me 😂 To be fair a lot of men these days are very active and involved and I’ve seen first hand where men have been a bit pushed out by their partner as if they can’t parent their own kids. The change needs to come from everyone. Lucky for me don’t want kids so with that comes a lot more freedom and very little need to compromise on anything important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:42 PM
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Exactly. Some on this sub are so worried about squeezing every last drop of perceived “fairness” out of their relationship and are constantly on the look out for ensuring their own interests are prioritised over their partner’s. It sounds exhausting. I do have sympathy for it though - it must be awful to feel like you have to be so on your guard even with the person who is supposed to be “your person” but jeez the generalised hatred on here (from both sides) is pretty insane. It makes it clear w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:12 PM
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The comments here are so strange from men acting like women don’t also work or can’t be the high earner in the relationship. Also what do you all do when you don’t live with a partner? Surely you manage 100% of the chores then so when you live with someone if you feel like you’re doing more or less you need to have that discussion. And for those of you who are wealthy enough to be having the convo about earning so much more than your partner - outsource that shit and both be happy. My partner an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:04 PM
2

Most of the Asian women that date western men out of need DESPISE those men… I think better to be single than be despised by the one you want to love you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:12 PM
2

The concept of being/dying alone just isn’t the issue for women it is for men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 02:05 PM
2

Of course but I am genuinely questioning why we have these posts that are the exact same question every day or so
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:13 AM
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Can’t you just look at the answers people have given on the multitude of posts on this sub asking exactly the same question? I don’t have a baseline answer. The reality is it depends on age/LTR relationships over the time period, if it’s made up of casual encounters or relationships that didn’t work out. I honestly don’t know my partners nor he mine - we know our values align because of how we behave and talk through things so we’ve never needed to ask. But this conversation has been had countle…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 06:26 PM
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Do you not get bored of this same question? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 06:19 PM
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Haha we won’t submit to even the Reddit question rules 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 05:30 PM
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100% my ex was like this - like what we can NEVER do it without? Nope cuz even though I’m On the pill I know people who have got pregnant anyway. I understand why he wanted to be able to do it without but it’s my body that would have to go through the repercussions of that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:46 PM
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These days… Women are more comfortable being single than men are so you’re not just competing with other men you’re competing with what her single life looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:59 PM
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Lesbian porn Erotic stories Own fantasies in my imagination… doesn’t need to be a particular person in my mind
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:23 PM
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Yeah baldness works for some guys that’s true. My main point is that I don’t think this idea that women age worse than men is true in real life. I think it’s a myth perpetuated by Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:19 AM
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That’s a great sentiment but in some ways men have less options to control how ageing presents for them. Hair loss being the key one for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 08:28 AM
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It’s such an outdated view.. I think perpetuated by Hollywood continuing to cast older men as leads but not women of the same age. In the real world my experience is that average women age far better than average men especially because of things like baldness and lack of skincare
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:12 PM
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Current partner and I’ve never fantasised about anyone else when I’ve been having sex - I’d find that really off putting!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:39 PM
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Ah fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 07:39 PM
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You’re talking about perception of attractive people being good though.. I’m talking about attractive people having a higher average level of happiness…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 07:34 PM
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Yeah life’s unfair that’s not news 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 07:33 PM
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Something I think that’s kind of awful to admit but is my view - on average attractive people are happier and happier people are not so often looking to take out Shit on people or treat people badly….
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:10 PM
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Haha as I said somewhere else on this thread I’m talking about people on reality shows like the UK one Jeremy Kyle - it’s mad some of the terrible people who used to go on that 😂 In real life though I have a mate whose wife cheated on him and left him for another guy but I could never understand why he was with her in the first place. He was an attractive intelligent man and she was just not at all plus she was not very interesting and a really shitty mean drunk. Never could work it out…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:11 PM
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Honestly no idea but surely you’ve seen examples of this yourself in real life where you Have no idea what someone sees in the person they are dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:55 PM
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Insecure guys are the worst!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:32 PM
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Haha honestly dig out an episode somewhere these people are insanely unattractive and I’m from the UK so if our teeth are known for being bad then my barometer for bad is adjusted for that… so think HOW bad 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:58 PM
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Agreed but I am always surprised by what some absolute trash bags (inside and out) can get away with. Jeremy Kyle was a Uk show that showed that constantly… people with barely any teeth cheating on their partners! Even they had multiple options… wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:52 PM
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This sub is obsessed with the idea that only attractive men behave badly or are accepted by women.. it’s just not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:25 PM
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My view of the “bar is on the floor” for men is that actually that is very much down to women who accept it. If a man is behaving so poorly in your opinion why are you accepting it and then moaning about the bar being low. Who sets the bar? 😂 So yeah one for us women to be better at having higher standards rather than accepting low and moaning about it (To be clear I think same regardless of gender. Don’t settle) 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:19 PM
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Yes - one of my good friends and I couldn’t work out why except for the fact that he works unusual and long hours but then I realised that whenever he goes out he gets really really drunk and doesn’t even realise when a girl is flirting or dancing with him. He wants to meet a girl but in that moment he’s just focussing on his group of mates and having fun and whilst there is nothing wrong with that he’s definitely missing cues… One serial online dates and is quite disrespectful to women he isn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:29 PM
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In our individual lives we are all just trying to live our best and free-est lives I believe - men and women. Personally I want to be free to make my own choices and not have people try and “take me down” because I’ve chose differently than they believe I should. I’ve taken pride in my career and I enjoy the challenges of it and the rewards of it. I like being financially independent so that I again retain the freedom of choice. I personally don’t want children so im enjoying being free to do as…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 05:25 PM
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She’s not nit picking if this post reflects your view of women and you’re this dismissive of her concerns in your relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 07:07 AM
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It’s not for him… the people who liked it already understand everything I just said without my needing to say it 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:31 PM
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Well this man has decided to go his own way and I respect MGTOW fully But then instead of focussing on going his own way he wants to make posts spreading negativity about women as if they are a monolith. Going your own way is surely about leaving that sort of negativity behind? Otherwise you are basically just single but still focussed on the thing you supposedly chose to avoid…. Separate these sort of posts annoy me because you’re all keen to jump on #notallmen but you will say the most ridicul…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:00 PM
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Go your own way then 😂 why you here still worrying about what women are doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:44 PM
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To be fair I’ve been with my partner a long time so I’ve not got a great basis for comparison for intimate hygiene - I was thinking more along the lines of meeting people socially who smell or seem unwashed. My personal experience obviously can’t be extrapolated to the masses but sorry you’ve had to deal with men who can’t wash their own bums!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:29 PM
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And you call ME triggered? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:26 AM
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No not that at all
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:21 AM
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If we had one of those this sub wouldn’t function since it’s Groundhog Day here everyday 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:39 AM
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Oh my issue is that your comment is really creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:32 AM
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Why would conciseness be an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:24 AM
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I said your comment was creepy not that no women have sexualised social media
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:57 AM
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You need to stop stating opinion as fact
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:33 AM
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This is a really creepy comment…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:32 AM
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I’ve barely met ANY men (or women for that matter) with really bad personal hygiene. If I have they have clearly had serious issues. I’ve heard horror stories online but I honestly don’t think I’ve even met anyone who has had this problem with a guy/girl they’ve dated. Hopefully it’s just wildly exaggerated
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:40 PM
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Imagine being this boring and wondering why women aren’t turned on 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:34 AM
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Nah because whilst FDS exists it is very much a minority whereas there are way more men crying over being single and sexless than there are women…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:05 PM
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I just don’t understand the assumption that women don’t make or have their own money.. it’s observably false. If a couple decide to have a stay at home partner/parent that’s a different thing because they are contributing to the household in other ways that ££. Many men on PPD long for those days 😂 but then whinge that women are after your non existent money
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:52 AM
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It’s always the ones with no money who say this Shit 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:46 AM
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Omg a reasonable man on PPD? Is this real life? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:45 PM
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If a fisherman were ABLE to talk to a fish he’d be able to catch more fish for sure 🤣 Also the analogy doesn’t hold up unless you want to catch women to kill them and eat them 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:41 PM
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Nah cuz they wouldn’t want to end up with one of the men on here who actually hate women 😂 Why would you want to date a man who holds such a poor view of you because you’re a woman? Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:09 PM
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Well if that’s all they want from a woman then I have 0 sympathy at their inability to talk to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 07:30 AM
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The men on this thread who don’t see women as people… who think they are passive or uninteresting and can’t understand that women vary just like men so you may get on with some better than others… well why would any woman want to date you? Why should they? If you don’t LIKE women don’t date women. Seriously! This is why I respect MGTOW
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:16 PM
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It’s an interesting point actually. I moved to a big city and I know a lot of people who are high value by the standards discussed on PPD but remain single because they won’t settle and don’t see relationships as the be all and end all goal of their lives. Contrastingly the people in my home town are all coupled up even the unattractive and low income ones - they just all seemed to settle for whoever they could get and they really see being single as a real concern. If I were to separate from my…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:35 AM
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I think I’m pretty much the same but for sure I’m kinder to awkward men I meet in real life that I am on here, and a lot more trusting of people in general
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:40 AM
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Why would someone want to date someone who views them as beneath them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 11:04 PM
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You’re a dude aren’t you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:35 PM
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What were these messages?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:34 PM
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I really couldn’t be with someone who couldn’t satisfy me sexually - it’s too important a part of a relationship. That being said, if something were to happen to my partner like an accident or illness that meant we could no longer have sex I’d not leave him. But If I were single no amount of wealth could make up for poor sexual compatibility. I’m not bothered about a man’s finances though since I have my own career and don’t want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:23 PM
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Absolutely agree. Unfortunately there are many places in which sex education is seriously lacking and access to contraceptives and abortions is becoming increasingly limited
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:50 PM
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Agreed but it really does have to be figured out and then people can make informed choices Better choices about contraception, about who they sleep with and about what they will do if pregnancy happens - rather than just winging it and facing the consequences It’s also worth noting there ARE men out there who will happily baby trap a woman. I once dated a guy who swore he was baby trapped (had a kid with his ex) but then wanted to sleep with me without protection and had no idea if I was on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:45 AM
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Honestly it’s such a tough one Absolutely it has to be a woman’s choice as to whether she goes through pregnancy and birth Also it has to be a woman’s choice as to whether she goes through a horrible procedure of abortion But it CAN’T be right to force a man into parenthood. Even if they didn’t have to pay (which I understand they do) not many people could know they have a child out there and just not engage with that. Plus what if the kid seeks out the father and they have to deal with all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:34 AM
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There are apps that don’t require swiping which seems to be the source of your disconnect here. So she wouldn’t have needed to swipe to see the hot guy has sent a message.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:22 AM
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Glad to have been of service 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:24 PM
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Here I copied and pasted the relevant section for you. If you read this and still don’t think there is an issue then I can’t help you understand. I don’t know why you care so much anyway. You won’t ever need an abortion so let women have their own bodily autonomy and you have yours. Potential moves to stop abortion, even for ectopic pregnancies Additionally, newly proposed laws may be could make care more complicated. Louisiana lawmakers recently revised a bill, changing the legal definition of …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:17 PM
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Did you read the content in the link you posted? 😂 it literally backs up what I’m saying!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:12 PM
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Absolutely unequivocally yes but I do also think that sadly not everyone gets to experience it. When you do it’s not case of believing in it because you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:05 PM
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Citation needed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:01 PM
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Oh no I don’t need to at all because it’s common knowledge and so I’ll just let you look stupid arguing you need citations for something so widely reported
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:57 PM
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You really think you’ve done something 😂 It’s like saying “citation needed” for the very fact roe vs wade is under review 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:49 PM
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Calm down you’re really winding yourself up here when a basic google would fix it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:42 PM
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😂 it’s just such available information I really don’t think it needs a citation
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:40 PM
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Just Google it - ectopic pregnancies have been confirmed as not being an exception. It’s literally a widely known point of contention.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:19 PM
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Not the idiot who goes to jail? Ha you just want to blame women for everything. It’s not the guy who does the bad thing it’s the woman for being foolish enough to fall for a man who could well have lied to her about his criminal activities. So I assume you’re equally responsible if you get a woman pregnant who fucks you over in some way then…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:15 PM
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How are supposed to protest against cancer and suicides? Why are men not organising these protests if they are impacted by these issues? Why does it fall to women to do so? This is all just whataboutism I absolutely care about cancer and suicide and workplace safety but I honestly know very little about the latter and why would I? It’s barely reported on which is certainly an issue but if it’s impacting men and most people aren’t aware of it why aren’t the impacted men getting awareness raised? …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 05:54 PM
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I don’t believe that support for what is right should be a “tit for tat” thing. I believe people should have bodily autonomy - that includes men in terms of things like circumcision. The laws around financing kids you didn’t want seen extreme especially where a woman can rape a minor or where a man can be on the hook for child support even when the kid is not his. The issue with abortion is going to impact everyone negatively I think But it’s particularly scary when you think of the medical risk…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:17 PM
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What sort of law could they make more fair to compensate for taking away womens bodily autonomy? Bear in mind that they are making no exceptions for pregnancies that will result in the death of the mother..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:41 PM
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Well you’re a man right so it’s far down your list. It’s very high on any woman’s list having the right to their own bodily autonomy! Just remember they are not making exceptions for things like ectopic pregnancies so this can be a life or death situation for women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:39 PM
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Excuse me how is him being in jail or possible dead the mothers fault? That’s a reach. Jeez dude 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:38 PM
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Yeah i mean just because something isn’t legal doesn’t mean people won’t do it. Thanks for explaining 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:36 PM
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Well this is going to get so much worse for everyone soon with all the abortion law issues going on now… eek
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:26 PM
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I think the issue is that bodily autonomy and consent are both at play here so you can’t just remove one as not a factor
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:25 PM
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So why are there so many single mothers that don’t get child support in the US? It’s talked about quite frequently as a commonly known occurrence and I’m not from US
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:23 PM
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I think it varies by country but isn’t it possible already to do this? Sign away parental rights?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:20 PM
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If you’re so religious as a man that you would be emotionally distraught if your wife (I assume you’d only be having sex in wedlock if you were religious to this extent) had an abortion then something has gone very wrong with value alignment for a start Also you say yourself that a woman consenting to have sex isn’t consenting to bear that man’s child so why would this ever be applicable? If she DID consent to having a child and then changed her mind that’s a horrible situation and I can’t see m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:45 PM
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If you are a man and you are intoxicated and you have sex with an intoxicated woman and she accuses you of rape… are you then to blame for putting yourself in the situation of being able to be accused of rape? I know it’s easy as a man these days to be fearful of false rape accusations but this idea that women are wildly out there accusing men they regret having sex with of rape is really not the case. I am not saying it NEVER happens to be clear but it doesn’t happen anywhere near often enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:09 PM
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I have always been lucky and been slim but I went up a size last year after lockdown life so have been seeing a personal trainer and am now in the best shape of my life where I’m strong as well as slim. Lifting which is often something (including me historically) are worried about doing incase we somehow magically get super muscles (ha now I realise how hard that would be!) has been a game changer. I also saw a nutritionist to make sure I’m eating the right things. I’ve put in the effort and I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:25 AM
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What are you basing that claim on?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:12 PM
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I asked how, in your opinion, I backed myself into a corner and you deflected that question You have called the women who have responded to this post (including me) shameless “team women” for sharing our experiences/views and then accused me of calling other women “pick mes” You implied that “fair and reasonable” women would be called that - but your definition of “fair and reasonable” seems to be - agrees with you that dirty and dangerous house chores are left to the men. You seem angry because…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:12 PM
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Dude anyone reading this thread is going to come to the same conclusion… you’re wildly off on a tangent here and when I ask you to quantify anything you say you just get angry
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:53 AM
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How I have I backed myself into any corner? Honestly at this point your responses are just daft and not related to any of the initial conversation…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:43 AM
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If they aren’t exploiting the surrogate then I see no issue with it 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:32 AM
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So your definition of “team women” involves women dragging other women? Weird idea of a team but ok. I’ll accept that I didn’t know your definition of that term when you used it so perhaps I shouldn’t have jumped to join that team so easily 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:32 AM
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Such a strange leap he took… right after I said I’m team woman I must shun other women? Riiiiight… makes sense 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:19 AM
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Yeah that was quite the leap. We were discussing task distribution and I said happily I’m “team woman” and now you’re accusing me of shunning women? Very strange. I think you have your own narrative in your head so it doesn’t really matter what I say at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:18 AM
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I think there’s a certain demographic of women on PPD that are more likely to have relationships that play out like this. The women happy with more trad lifestyle are likely not on Reddit let alone PPD But hell yeah I’m on team women 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:47 PM
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I think perhaps there’s some cultural and generational differences at play here because I don’t plenty of women who are very capable at DIY/car stuff etc. but I live in a big city. My mum/grandma would Defs call in men to help with that sort of stuff but these days a lot more women are self sufficient
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:34 PM
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Omg we have 2 cats and one night a random cat came in through cat flap. Heard cat noises but could see both my cats in my room! Went down and the cheeky monster was in the cat food cupboard looking at me like “and what” hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:16 PM
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What do you thing single women do though? Before I was with my partner I lived alone and I managed fine so why would I suddenly lose competence because he is here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:14 PM
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DIY is all my partner because he has excellent carpentry skills but we have done a lot of decorating together and I’ll assist when he needs it but he has the skills I don’t Spiders him - I’m terrified Clean up of things the cats drag in after the kill though is whoever is unlucky enough to find it! Trash - either of us Lawn mowing - him but I pay for a gardener semi regularly to do proper maintenance like hedge trimming etc Household general organising/paying bills - me (but I actually enjoy tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:12 PM
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This doesn’t need to be a gender thing It’s a personal choice between the couple But my view is that if there is significant disparity in earnings it works better for both if bills are split according to earnings so then the lower earning partner can still have sufficient “fun money” and you don’t have to live purely within the means of the lower earning partner. I fucked this up previously and went down the 50/50 route even though I earn significantly more and then was getting frustrated my par…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:34 PM
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I don’t really get the desire people have for a house wife/husband… like why do you want to have to take care of a fully grown adult? Obvs different to being a stay at home parent. But it’s personal choice and if that’s how people want to live with then cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:44 PM
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Haha yeah that did make me laugh… really just sad how much time and effort some of these dudes put into thinking up these weird hypothetical scenarios just so they can justify trying to control women and make them into domestic servants…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:00 PM
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Female is an adjective - you are using that word incorrectly. It’s interesting that you keep using the noun “man” but the adjective “female” in the same sentence 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:32 PM
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Ahh n count again 😂 Most of the dudes on here would crawl naked on broken glass to get a sniff of an attractive woman’s pinky finger they’re so touch starved. The idea they’re rejecting anyone based on any sort of past sexual history is laughable. I get that some men obsess about a woman’s history and they can’t get the mental image of another man being with her out of their head - but that’s a you problem. The reason it gets posted on PPD all the time is a feeble attempt to upset women and make…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:03 AM
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I just think you should want to but I do see why you feel the way you do
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:18 PM
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All of that does make sense in terms of being scared to be taken advantage of or be vulnerable But the premise in your original comment was that someone would inherently want to treat someone badly and only doesn’t to get something. Like you’re only kind to get something and would prefer to not be Is different from being kind puts you at risk of being taken advantage of
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:48 PM
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I think that can be true But It doesn’t really relate to your comment about “treat women how they want and still get it” Why would you WANT to treat a woman badly? If you’re going to get “it” anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:38 PM
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Why wouldn’t you want to be nice? What do you get out of not being nice? What’s the intrinsic issue with being nice? So if being nice (or not) makes no difference to you getting dates etc. then why not be nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:14 PM
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I genuinely don’t understand why anyone even WANTS to treat another person badly…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:01 PM
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Huh? Not all people want to have kids..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:26 PM
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New social hobby - meet people and make friends and then maybe meet someone in that hobby or through the wider social group you made via that hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:19 PM
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My opinion is that everyone should be respected dude regardless of gender… and that we shouldn’t disrespect anyone BECAUSE of their gender But sad that you couldn’t even hold up your own point…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:03 PM
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What have you done specifically to be worthy of respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 02:52 PM
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A lot of men on this sub make repeated posts about dating being so hard for the average man Women used to comment on them (some still do) and empathise, gave advice or tell them what they saw as being the reasons why these men were having issues. The response from those men was almost overwhelmingly “women don’t know what they want”, “women lie” and absurd arguments like “you don’t ask a fish how to catch a fish” So they go off and they watch the PUA bullshit and come back saying dating is hard.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:36 AM
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There’s some creep all over tiktok who is definitely just rage baiting at this point with his ridiculous views but it’s scary how many men are suckered in by what these men say! His latest that I saw was that he would only perform CPR on a hot woman! Not even on his mate because that shits gay 😂😂 I don’t even think they believe what they say but some people eat it up so they make money out if I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:20 AM
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1 don’t look to this sub for dating advice 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:13 AM
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I just don’t expect anyone to have to put in more effort because financially they earn less. Equal effort and then everyone has enough down time to be happy and enjoy our time together 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:12 PM
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So why is insulting and shame required in this instance?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:31 PM
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I think you should be able to spell insults if you’re going to throw them with no rationale behind your thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:17 PM
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Hon you can’t even spell loser 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:13 PM
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I earn significantly more but we do 50/50 of the chores because we both work similar hours and as hard. We do have a cleaner which helps us keep on top of things but daily tasks are split
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:09 PM
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😂😂😂 jeez why you trying to depress these guys further? They can’t achieve the most achievable goal there is in life. ☠️ 😂😂 brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:37 PM
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Well firstly you have to accept that not everyone gets what they want so it may not happen for you.. thats why it’s important to have life goals that don’t depend on anyone else (especially romantically) so that you have other things in your life to focus on IF that doesn’t work out for you. Then… dating honestly isn’t as dire as this sub makes out. Women are not a monolith, we are not the evil deceitful monsters looking to upgrade constantly that we are made out to be here 😂 we fall in love and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:16 PM
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100% not unattractive! 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:44 PM
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Just don’t date Find something else to fulfil your lives
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:50 AM
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He’s called himself a cheeky male alpha 😂😂😂 eugh these men are so cringe why can’t they see it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:51 AM
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If you’ve said you didn’t get married for sex then you didn’t 🙂 but it is a little disingenuous of you to write a whole thing about keeping your body count low by making a man properly wait… until marriage in fact - but leave out the fact you don’t desire sex. I mean come on…. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:37 AM
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Have you not been here long 😂 I don’t believe you’re asking this question in good faith. Plenty of men here admit they hold poor opinions of women so it’s not some wild baseless claim i’m making. Some comment recently referred to women as being men without logic and reasoning abilities. We are called liars or compared to children on this sub. I’ve never said most men (or even most men on this sub) hate women but there are men who do and will happily state so
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:18 PM
7

Username checks out 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:29 PM
7

Sounds like a good plan. If you were literally grossed out by obese women then you can understand how women could be grossed out by your own obesity
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:39 AM
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Women have sex drives Look how successful that trashy shades of grey series was… and how booming the sex toy industry is. A lot of what you’ve said is absolutely reasonable but your conclusion is way off
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:22 PM
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I don’t know why you’re being so quick to get frustrated with me - you say you don’t care for emotion but anger and frustration are also emotions. I never said it was intellectually more challenging did I? I said a myriad of complex reasons. Do you want me to take an extra 10 mins to explain what that means? What interests me is why this upsets you so much? If you don’t want to help them, don’t. My own opinion is that if you took the time to understand in full why STEM careers are harder for wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:01 PM
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What would be interesting is to look at the backgrounds of the people at your work and really question why the women are more behind than the men. STEM can be tough for women for a myriad of reasons that are complex - I’m in STEM myself but anecdotal stories are slammed in this sub so I won’t get into the challenges I have faced. I suspect these women value your help and don’t see it as benevolent sexism so much as someone addressing the pre-existing sexist challenges many of them face. Of cours…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:50 PM
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What sort of work do you do that the women overall struggle more than the men? Is it possible men do not ask as many questions as they are more conscious of saving face, and that you’ve created what women assume is a safe space to ask all the questions anyone would like to if they could do so without repercussions?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:36 PM
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When did I?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:57 PM
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Whatever the reason for WHY they don’t like women is - it makes no logical sense for a woman to date a man who doesn’t like women. It especially doesn’t make sense for women to date men who think they should police how women behave and who hold different values to them. To be fair if you have your stats and your hatred and it keeps you away from us I’m all for it. Just leave us alone and get on with your life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:53 PM
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I think that is what IS good about this debate sub at least - getting a sense of the other side and sometimes some actually decent debates. For me the main thing I’ve learned is that a lot of men are genuinely really lonely and don’t understand why women would rather be alone than “settle” or “be settled for” and I think less single women are keen for that because we have better support networks and also the possible negatives of a bad partner are often (not always) worse for women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:26 PM
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A lot of guys on here have horrible views of women and wonder why they don’t want to date them…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:28 PM
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I don’t live in America but let’s assume I did for the though experiment I don’t and have never wanted kids. I’m in a long term relationship and I take hormonal birth control and am very careful to take it every day same time etc. However it is not 100.% effective (nothing is) so my partner and I use additional contraception. I know of at least 2 friends who have had abortions and they are horrible to go through and I’d never want to have to go through that hence I’m so careful. That being said …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 06:46 AM
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Haha this is a fair enough question but I think a lot of people just jump on and engage when they’re killing time like me now on tube to go see a friend 😂 The way I engage on PPD depends on my mood. Sometimes I really want for people, usually men, to understand the other side of what they experience and how life is for women. Sometimes I’m just in it for the LOLs especially when people are posting ridiculous Shit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:37 PM
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Yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 02:41 PM
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I have men in my life that I am friends with and there is no desire from either of us to be romantic. I have men in my life that have previously expressed romantic interest and I have told them I don’t feel the same way and they have remained my friends. Most it’s worked out fine but some have occasionally persisted and I’ve had to shut it down. I have men who have never said they are interested in me romantically but I have an idea that they are and I try hard to make it clear I have no interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 02:40 PM
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Haha don’t worry about anything these men say - they are sad resentful lonely men who are terrified to be alone and want to deflate women’s confidence sufficiently that they settle for them. PPD is definitely not the place for advice for dating in your 30s though so they’re right on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 03:59 PM
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The issue is that toxic people of both genders are more visible. We have men on social media and especially podcasts spouting awful things about women and how to trick/game them into bed - but they do not represent most men. Just as the women on social media don’t represent most women. Also I think OLD skews things. I’ve seen many examples of men sending disgusting things to women and also of women being dismissive or insulting to men. I don’t think people would behave this way in real life but …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:10 AM
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Yep and their hypocrisy is just wild to me This girl deserves so much better than a man whose mind is twisted like this…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 09:20 AM
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Exactly that and then somehow that becomes those womens fault for allowing them to and not “picking better men”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 08:34 AM
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You want a trad virgin… But you want to push her into going further physically than she’s comfortable And now you’re going to end things because you “want different things” because you want to be sexually active… so you don’t want a virgin? but then you will still be here claiming you want to marry a trad virgin and shaming women who you have slept with… Make it make sense….. Why all the hypocrisy? Why do RP/PPD men continue to chase this idea that a virgin is a magical unicorn they all desire w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:52 AM
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There’s a lot of men out there who hate women. Look at some of the things guys on here say about women. I am so glad I’m not on the dating scene because there’s always the concern that a guy you’re talking to is one of the ones who doesn’t see women as individual people with their own unique personalities and is just waiting to tear you down for your past, the actions of other women or whatever else they can use against you. Honestly if I broke up with my partner I’d rather just live my life sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:18 AM
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3 no question. All other options - never.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 11:21 AM
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Ok there’s a lot going on here and you’re jumping topics. I understand that you are marriage as a contract and that’s a valid point but you can’t just say it’s a contract and that’s that. Sex involves emotion and a very really physicality that you appear to want to ignore entirely. The fact is you are right that if you’re not getting what you want out of your marriage (contract) then you are within your rights to leave it. However you seem to want women to just allow you to have sex with them wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:31 AM
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I don’t believe that personally and I think it’s risky to marry as a virgin incase you are not sexually compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:20 AM
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Numbers and baseline metrics are not relevant when you are talking about using women’s bodies for sexual gratification…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 03:12 PM
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This is so weird dude 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:24 PM
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Unwanted sex for women is not nice and can be painful. Experience that with your partner and it put you off sex with them at all especially if it starts becoming a chore you feel you have to do. Sex is such an amazing experience when you’re turned on and connected to the person you love. I don’t know why you want to use a woman as an object to do the deed to… just use your hand if it’s about pure sexual gratification. But yeah I think a lot of what you’re not understanding is how uncomfortable i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:45 PM
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No idea about annulment periods but that sounds like a country specific issue. It’s pretty common for sexual desire to lessen after a “honeymoon” period and definitely after having kids and all that entails. It’s not some deliberate intended plan by all women to trap men in sexless marriages. Also if those same women then do have more sex post divorce that further supports my point - the “newness” revitalises the sex drive. People get settled into boring child led lives and don’t feel sexy. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:30 PM
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It’s interesting that so many men on here have an issue with women who have shown they like sex (check out all the posts on women with high n counts) but then get really upset when they marry women who then don’t want to have sex with them…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:40 PM
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“Meet through hobbies and crap” doesn’t count yet that is the way most people meet their partner outside of online dating. There isn’t a magic answer that is suddenly going to appear and suit you better. If you’re in a new city - go explore, find things of interest and make friends wherever you can. Then you will meet all sorts of people and may even meet someone through a friend you made that you weren’t trying to date. The issue with a lot of people on Reddit is they want a magic shortcut/algo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:58 AM
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“Some” women being the key point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:15 PM
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In the UK there is something called Clare’s law whereby you can make a request to the police and they will review their record and let you know if there is anything on it that you should know about. You are not allowed to disclose it to anyone else (and can face legal repercussions for doing so) and they will not disclose irrelevant things. I think it’s a great thing to have and it isn’t something just anyone can look up
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:14 PM
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Ha that’s a lot of words for “I can’t make women cum” 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:50 PM
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Not all men but definitely this guy 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:52 PM
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It’s sad that some people see relationships as so transactional and not about love but I guess if you’ve not experienced being in a truly loving romantic relationship then it’s hard to see them as anything but transactional from the outside. The thing about love is that it doesn’t really make sense…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:39 AM
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Absolutely but sadly we are not a monolith and as with many things us individual women have to deal with the repercussions of what other individual women have chosen to do 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 12:14 PM
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Nah fat guys aren’t ok sorry to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:50 AM
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Nope. Never came up. If he knew it wouldn’t upset him anyway. Same other way round
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:45 PM
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I shared my view I am not creating posts trying to convince anyone of my views though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 07:40 PM
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Yeah I agree. I remember it being a thing as a teenager but not past that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:56 PM
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Nooooooooo men already use anything they can as saying apps - even words with friends 😂 If someone is on a dating app they’ve consented to being approached. We don’t want it outside of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:36 PM
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It wasn’t really aimed at him specifically it was more of a throwaway comment about PPD men in general but yes when I elaborated on my point it was more nuanced so it can seem like more of a change than it was. Although initially it’s true that I hadn’t really thought about the women who this is also true for (less of them on ppd but plenty elsewhere) Your English is excellent for someone who isn’t a native speaker by the way. The curse of us English people is we get so lazy with learning other …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:28 PM
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I disagree fundamentally with your perception of how a person like that would value you vs a person she had slept with quickly. That’s the core of this. There are many factors at play and her respect/attraction to you is only some of it. One issue you will find for example is that you place a lot of importance on virginity/purity so if a woman slept with you quickly she may think you’d not see her as girlfriend material so make you wait. Sex is pleasurable and a normal human instinct so if she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:24 PM
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I disagree fundamentally with your perception of how a person like that would value you vs a person she had slept with quickly. That’s the core of this. There are many factors at play and her respect/attraction to you is only some of it. One issue you will find for example is that you place a lot of importance on virginity/purity so if a woman slept with you quickly she may think you’d not see her as girlfriend material so make you wait. Sex is pleasurable and a normal human instinct so if she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:24 PM
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You don’t have to at all I just think it’s a strange thing to concern yourself with if you meet someone you could potentially be in love with and you’d let that get in the way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:48 PM
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Isn’t the point of a debate sub to consider discussions and move your thinking when you agree with aspects of what another person adds to the conversation? Otherwise what’s the point? I think both sides suffer but from what I see (and this is just from my own life experience, PPD and various articles I’ve read - no scientific studies to quote here) the sort of men on PPD seem to suffer most from inability to get relationships and sex. My point has always been (in this and any previous PPD discus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:46 PM
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A partner like what? Someone who has varied the amount of time it’s taken them to sleep with a man based on various factors like life stage and whether they see that man as a fling/just sex or a boyfriend? Sorry to break it to you but there’s plenty of men who have no issue with this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:38 PM
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Women don’t tend to cry about who a man has slept with previously though… and the sort of men they want aren’t not the sort of men who are going to be worried about who waited how long in their past or feel entitled to sex acts they’ve done in the past with others. It’s different issues but sure I accept there are people on both sides unwilling to compromise and upset they can’t find what they want. My view on that is to accept and embrace being single until and unless you find someone that fits…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:08 PM
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That’s what happens though and then loads of men on here cry they can’t get a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:18 PM
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I don’t think all women always do this but I have done it because I’ve not felt safe to be clear that im not interested romantically and/or I have made it clear but they have persisted anyway. It’s hard to explain if you’ve never been in the situation of being approached by someone you’re not interested in but either are wary of or just don’t want to upset
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:57 PM
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I’m not sure about this assertion that “women always pretend to be interested and then pretend to be busy” A lot of reasons could be for this and the first that comes to mind is that they don’t feel comfortable outright rejecting the man at the time so do a soft fade out instead
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:51 PM
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Ok makes sense thank for taking the time to explain 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:38 PM
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Not at all since you’ve exposed nothing, the whole post and way you’re responding is very odd I noticed it was removed for bad faith discussion anyway 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:06 PM
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It’s not an attack. I believe this person is posing as a woman in order to make false claims about women. Is there nothing to be addressed about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:01 PM
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To be fair not all people HAVE anxiety, depression and other mental health issues. A person can be self confident and open about their feelings. My partner is self confident (not arrogant. He just goes about his life not overly concerned about what other people think of him and knows he’s a good/intelligent/healthy person) and has no mental health issues. He is still open about his feelings. His nerves when taking a new job, his upset when his father was sick and his frustrations when I’ve done …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:50 PM
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PPD men don’t want anyone to be promiscuous and are obsessed with n counts because they can’t get any and they don’t want anyone else to either. For all the stats and “science” around pair bonding and the downfall of society they share - it’s all really just about their inability to handle being alone knowing others aren’t. This OP is now saying he means for both men and women but when he wrote this post it was single mothers he was thinking of hence the edit. PPD men feel out of control in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:59 AM
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Do you honestly have nothing better to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:29 AM
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The most emotion shown on this sub is from men interestingly enough… It’s also often asked why men can’t cry in front of women (when we say you can we are called liars and other men insist you can’t). This insistence that men aren’t as emotional as women is damaging - but mostly to men What does tend to happen in my experience is men go from one extreme to another with emotions. Yes they can shut down emotions when they have to but look at all the PTSD in men coming back from war because they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:55 PM
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Men also leave families People don’t leave for no reason either But there is never an excuse to murder
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:49 PM
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It doesn’t matter to us what you think. It only really matters to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:06 PM
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Your mindset is biased and warped. This isn’t happening at all and it’s concerning you truly believe it is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:05 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:04 PM
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Ok dude 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:42 PM
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You said “girls would outwardly call you hot but you got nowhere” You keep changing your story and accusing me of what you yourself are doing… 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:38 PM
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I’m saying that women would say you were cute but they were being “nice” as if they thought so they’d have dated you Being more masculine is not uglier. Healthy (not anorexic) is more attractive… I’m not sure what you’re struggling to grasp here You’ve improved yourself mentally and physically. That’s what’s attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:34 PM
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I’m saying that women would say you were cute but they were being “nice” as if they thought so they’d have dated you Being more masculine is not uglier. Healthy (not anorexic) is more attractive… I’m not sure what you’re struggling to grasp here You’ve improved yourself mentally and physically. That’s what’s attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:34 PM
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Yeah I think men expect women to just outright say they’re unattractive and it’s just not something women are going to do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:19 PM
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So you improved yourself physically (and likely your self confidence). You literally had an illness (anorexia) and you beat it! Well done for that by the way. But you’ve become physically and mentally healthier and are now seeing that people are more attracted to that. How is that contrary to what women told you to do? I mean of course it’s going to be easier to meet people in a bar if you’re more attractive? How is that a revelation? Are you able to maintain successful relationships or just “da…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:56 PM
2

Can you elaborate on what you changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:49 PM
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These men cannot understand this concept at all 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:45 PM
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What “works” may work on a certain type of woman, the ones you find fit into your categories. Yet you come here on this sub and still complain about women so even your “success” with these types of women doesn’t make you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:44 PM
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It’s not saying anything of the sort that’s a massive reach
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:42 PM
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Why is it a good idea to generalise? It seems most men on here who do that are unsuccessful and unhappy…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:30 PM
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All this “women don’t understand” nonsense is so boring now. We are not children. The fact you do not like to listen to us, to understand that we are not a monolith and won’t accept when we say things you don’t like is what is causing such a disconnect for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:10 AM
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My time is worth more than a free meal! I don’t know why anyone would do this…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:42 AM
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A woman was raped on a public transport in view of people who did nothing. Things happen. You’d be surprised sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:41 AM
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It depends what you view as societal decline Personally l prefer what we have now to the choices my grandmother (or even mother) had
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:31 AM
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Honestly don’t let it bother you too much. There are men I know what I suspect harbour these sorts of attitudes but they are in the minority in real life. A lot of men really do understand that all humans are unique and whilst differences exist between men and women, they also exist between other categories like introvert/extrovert - so we should just take people as they are and stop trying to find the ultimate algorithm to predict human behaviour 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:21 AM
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I think most women would love a relationship but not to the detriment of other aspects of their lives. If you read some of the demands the men here have for knowledge over a woman’s past, how much they want to have power over women and make them feel badly about themselves (sexual history, ageing, their perceived value) you can see why women on PPD would opt out of dating such men. It would make you miserable! Far more so than being independent and keeping the company you like (friends, alone ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 07:25 AM
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The idea of rating people IS pointless!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:30 PM
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I think everyone thinks that they’d prefer the other option to what they have
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:29 PM
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Came here to say this 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:37 PM
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That’s actually a really good way to check your own view of yourself and ensure you are acting in a way that aligns with your values. I don’t have kids but I’m an auntie and recently I had a situation where I thought “what would I want for my niece to do in this situation” and it really helped me be clear on what the right thing to do was. I can happily say id love my niece/nephew to date someone like me but I would like for that person to be more self aware earlier on that I was (but isn’t that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:49 AM
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Very strange response…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:47 AM
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I don’t believe any woman can be happy with a red pilled guy regardless of that woman’s past.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:34 AM
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Its a sad day when I have to accept I agree with every point you’ve made here Aldabruzzo 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:20 PM
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So if men could sleep a women who was out of their league but had no standards so was willing to f them - they’d say no? Cuz that’s all that’s happening here really. Women taking their opportunity with a guy they want to have sex with….
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:19 PM
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I don’t understand why women need to be more cautious than men for future uncertainty or reduced attractiveness in age to be honest?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:41 PM
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I was guessing red haired women but the H and W are wrong way round!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 12:16 PM
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Fuck knows - I’ve never had an issue getting interest from men and I’ve been with my partner for 4/5 years. Im slim and a regular gym goer. I have an active social life and make friends easily. I have a good career and I’ve travelled extensively. I’m who I want to be. No kids - 2 cats 🙂 I talk too much and too fast 🤣 Im opinionated. I don’t follow traditional gender roles. For some I’d be an 7/8 but for most on here I’d be a 3/4 mostly because I am unapologetic about being a feminist and I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:07 PM
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Yes yes yes yes yes yes! I’ve been trying to say this in many of my comments on this sub but never articulated it so well! I don’t understand why you’d want to share a home/body with someone you don’t absolutely adore!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:57 PM
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Oh and to very specifically answer your question no I would not like my boyfriend to “knock him on his ass” and potentially endanger us by escalating a situation we can walk away from
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:43 PM
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So you lack basic reading and comprehension skills.. refer to my last sentence. You refer to men as men but infantilise women by calling them girls Your immediate response to conflict is violence Small minded 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:42 PM
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The sort of women who like that sort of thing are yes likely to go for the stronger guy sure Also the sort of women who go for (and are attractive to) famous fighters are going to chase the winners. That makes sense. However, many women are not attracted to men like this. I’ve never found boxing/fighting men attractive and I hate loutish behaviour. I’ve never known a partner of mine be involved in a fight and I’d never want them to put themselves in a situation where they have to be. It’s unnece…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:04 PM
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Not everyone luckily 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:05 AM
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Relationships and money/assets are just inherently different
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:35 PM
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I understand many people view other humans this way but I do not believe capitalism to be a genuine equivalence or that it can be used to say “if this is ok then that is ok” There’s a significant difference between being stuck in poverty in a capitalist society and men trying to control women’s bodily autonomy when it comes to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:13 PM
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Human bodies are not and should not be commodities so this is a false equivalence
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:34 PM
2

Dude I know. I’m a woman. Believe me I know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:19 PM
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Ah yes my phrasing was poor I should have said you’re not entitled to Your logic that if enough people want it means it could be done again could be used for many things such as slavery, and warmongering. So yes it could be done but it’s sad that anyone one want to make the lives of other people worse
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:07 PM
3

Sadly Esp the vibe of a lot of people here It’s like “If I can’t have x no one should have x” how sad The good news is that for the most part they are unable to make any real difference to the lives of the ordinary people they resent so much for being able to have relationships and sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:05 PM
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Very true but it doesn’t make it right People would be happier if they focussed less on what they envy about others and just worked on what they can control about themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:55 PM
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Where did I say it can’t be? I’m saying it shouldn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:54 PM
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You don’t get to restrict anyones sexual behaviour - just live your life. Do your best for yourself sure but no one should be trying to control others. Raise yourself up don’t drag others down
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:48 PM
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Tough luck though right? It’s not like there aren’t a bunch of guys with wives/girlfriends they love who still fancy unattainable insta girls and models is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:11 PM
3

This might honestly be my fave PPD content ever 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:42 AM
6

Haha this exchange is ALL of IT! You get no matches so something is up You ask for help understanding why and then you tell the people you asked they are wrong 🤣🤣 you can’t make this shit up! It’s incredible! Also elsewhere on PPD is someone asking why we don’t honestly reject men and here’s why - look at the rage from this guy who can’t handle being told mirror selfies are shit! And by the way she’s right. Even attractive men lose points for mirror selfies - they do not look good to women. Mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:37 AM
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Do you have a bio? Sometimes lack of bio is an issue or you have a negative vibe in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:19 AM
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Yes! Relationships even the best ones, they take work and compromise and personal sacrifice at times Doing that for someone who is mediocre isn’t worth it when you can just live your life the way you want to single Now I appreciate I’m in a happy relationship so it’s rich for me to say but previously I’ve been in mediocre ones and being single was far better for me (and no I wasn’t hooking up. I was just focussing on me, my friends and my career and hobbies) until I met my person
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:12 PM
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Women don’t need male relationships as much as the men on here wish they did
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:47 PM
0

Women don’t care about anything as much as the PPD men claim they do 🤣 But if you answer questions here as a woman they call you a liar or they insist you don’t know your own mind 🤣🤣😂 It’s a riot Come for the intrigue Stay for the inevitable meltdowns 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:31 PM
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Ooh this is an interesting one for me I had an ex that I got on really well with but whenever we were out socially I couldn’t stand the second hand embarrassment of some of the things he would do/say Honestly though it was a “me” problem. We weren’t right for each other and I never get that with my partner now. I don’t care what others think of him - it doesn’t worry you when you truly love someone - but then also maybe the right person doesn’t do things that embarrass you because you’re more li…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:22 AM
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Have you been on FDS? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:43 PM
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Completely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:45 PM
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I follow FDS out of interest and there’s Defs some extreme and misandrist views on there. Not all are like that but it’s also not a debate sub so you’re not gonna get anything but agreement in there. This idea of treat them mean keep them keen isn’t a gendered thing - it’s a psychological thing that works on some types of people better than others regardless of gender. I personally believe strongly in “attachment theory” and those with anxious attachment types are the likely types of people to r…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:38 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 this sub has really got ridiculous lately I swear this must be a troll 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:06 PM
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Who cares though? I mean this honestly why does it matter working out who gate keeps what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:54 PM
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Yes but I don’t agree with having a draft at all. If there is one is should be equal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:39 PM
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I was more thinking one of those people who absorbed their twin in utero but like half is left sticking out?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:18 AM
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1.5
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:39 PM
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Larping your life away dude 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 10:16 AM
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No this person is a man who pretends to be a woman and says awful things to validate mens opinions of women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:13 AM
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Haha these guys are genuinely serious 🤣 it’s mad the double standards and mental gymnastics they go through to essentially make themselves feel so awful about women that they themselves are actually the ones lonely, single and sexless They don’t see women as people just as things they want to serve their needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:05 PM
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Haha I know loads. Especially older couples where the man just gets super fat. My best mate growing up her dad was almost perfectly round and her mum was super slim..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 11:28 AM
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Are people really that scared of living alone? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:08 AM
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Yep this is why I agree with MGTOW - I think it’s fine to just opt out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 11:42 AM
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OLD sounds awful even though I do know people who have met their wives/husbands that way. I think it’s hard for everyone but certainly hardest for the men on this sub who seem to hate women or see us as a monolith - if you can’t see women as individual people with their own unique thoughts, experiences, interests and desires then how can you expect for a woman to want to date you? I think the main thing that does make dating harder for men than women is that it seems to me that men need sex/rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:47 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:48 PM
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With my whole heart and I’m so grateful for it because I know not everyone is so lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 08:58 PM
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Yes marriage is a legal contract only - I don’t see the need for it really. I’d like a big party though. 🤣 so maybe a wedding!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:57 AM
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Oh that’s embarrassing for you 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:33 AM
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I love that you can’t respond to any of the points I’ve made so you’ve descended into this ridiculous idea that we can only discuss military related things if I’m in the military 🤣 Equality and the relevance of military service is topic that can be discussed by non military personnel. By your logic - as a person who has been in the military you are not able to speak on the topic of choosing not to sign up… Also you best have no opinion on education if not a teacher… medical topics if not a dr et…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:25 PM
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So what you are saying is that you will ONLY talk about being in the military and your own limited experience 🤣 Thank you for your useless input
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:18 PM
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Not all men are in the military dude 🤣 so not all women have to be. No one’s being drafted I’m aware of these days so it doesn’t matter does it? You’re the one who chose to be in the military. If it’s so bad why did you sign up? You equally could just choose not to join the military…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:03 PM
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Literally no other response needed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:46 PM
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If ww3 happened it wouldn’t be fought in battlefields by drafted military 🤣 And no one wants to get pregnant in a world where things are fucked up.. women die in childbirth without proper medical care. This obsession some of you men have with women dodging military is so odd! What evidence is there for it? Men kept women (and gay people) out of armed services. Women get attacked by men on their own Fucking side when they join so that doesn’t help the cause either. What war have you fought in? Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:46 PM
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The first link is about bonding with a child not a sexual partner. Stop conflating these things that’s weird. I don’t need to provide you a scientific link to debunk a theory you have not provide a link to prove 🤣 What’s interesting to me is why this matters you so much that women have this attachment… why you need to cling to this so badly… I don’t need a study to tell me something I have myself experienced as a woman. We can have sex and not get attached. Deal with it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:15 PM
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Yes I would. Especially as you qualified it with “young”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:06 PM
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That’s not a scientific study proving the theory. Scientist opinions vary and contradict each other all the time. Look at climate change theory for example
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:01 PM
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I’m not worried what you’re asking for or your need for evidence from me especially when Business insider isn’t scientific evidence and the first one is a totally different topic. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:56 PM
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I’m not trolling. I’m providing my view Do you have any scientific links to the evidence of what you’re saying before you ask me to go debunking your theory? I mean for me I’m literally a woman who has had sex with people I’ve not got attached to. Also I was clear in my wording. I am saying it is not “necessarily” the case that women will get attached due to sex. I think that men who buy into this do so as a cope bcuz it helps them see women as having less agency and control over themselves. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:46 PM
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Science doesn’t say women can’t have sex without getting attached. Observable evidence also shows it’s possible. I mean this sub is always slating women for high n counts 🤣 Y’all will Literally will contradict yourselves at every turn just as long as it’s a criticism of women, allows you to feel superior in some way or like you can control women/have something over them. Women are honestly just people. Same as men. Men are not all the same as each other. Women are not all the same as each other.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:37 PM
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I didn’t say the article disproved anything I said it was interesting… 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:13 PM
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Agree with all this I do find the biased way in which the OP described these categories of women amusing though. Especially the desperation to perpetuate the myth of women necessarily getting attached to men they sleep with 🤣 Interesting article on this; https://www.bustle.com/articles/119458-5-facts-about-oxytocin-because-its-not-just-for-sexual-bonding
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:27 PM
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Why wouldn’t you be picky? If you’re choosing a partner then you shouldn’t settle for less than the person you truly love and want. It’s no good for anyone to settle or be settled for. But no one needs to be criticising other people unless they’re causing harm. Live and let live. If you’re fat and you call someone else fat expect to be called out right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:13 PM
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Disgusting thing for you to say as Woman wtf is wrong with you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:42 PM
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I’ve never done online dating so I’ll admit that up front before I give my thoughts. What I’m about to say comes from my single girl friends and the convos we have about OLD. Unless it’s on a dating app specifically for women to make the first move you are unlikely to hear from a woman first even if she likes you - maybe even especially. This is because whilst I understand a lot of men on here wish women WOULD do the chasing… a lot of men are actually put off by it. Women don’t usually have to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:05 AM
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You’re worried you’ll be left with an insane and ill tempered chick that no one wants… But you have described yourself as a pathetic shell of a man who is in love with a woman who doesn’t respect him, want sex with him etc. Do you see what I’m getting at? You see women in the same boat as you as damaged goods and unworthy. This is why you worry you won’t be able to meet someone because if they held you to the standards you hold women to then they wouldn’t accept you. My point is that is often ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:00 AM
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Hahaha that’s some crazy entitlement you got there 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:37 PM
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How do you know what he deserves? Putting weight on is not disrespectful to anyone that’s insane 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:20 PM
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And some RP dude: Nah it’s Defs all the fault of those mean awful womens 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:18 PM
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You don’t sound like you like your wife - perhaps that’s where her misandry has stemmed from? Having a husband who doesn’t like her? How did you end up marrying someone you see as so much beneath you? Why do you stay with her? Obligation? I’m not being facetious here it’s hard without tone on messages I’m genuinely intrigued as how you can with someone you say these things about
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:57 PM
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This one time… at band camp 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:16 AM
2

Exactly how I feel 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:06 AM
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You men on here love your stats don’t you. Who cares? The 80% thing is from online dating I think and so it doesn’t account for things like charisma and chemistry. I rarely see a man dating down tbh so no idea where you’re getting the idea men are more willing to. Men on here go on and on about attractiveness levels in a way women just don’t.. its Defs more important to men (at least men here). Oh and you say it’s easy to determine looks ratings But there’s loads of posts on Reddit trying to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:08 PM
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Who determines who is a looksmatch? You? Attractiveness is subjective anyway. Plus - There are very many real world examples of women dating men far less attractive then them but god forbid men do that right 🤣 It doesn’t even really matter about looksmatch either. Women don’t really need to settle especially if their supposed “looksmatch” has an entitled miserable personality like many of the men who spout this crap 🤣 - that’s usually more the issue that men don’t see that they have. So yeah wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:50 PM
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Women don’t lie about these things We honestly say that we don’t care as much about the things men insist we care about like being 6 foot or having a 6 pack. We DO care that we want to be attracted to someone if we are to have a romantic relationship with them. Is this really a source of confusion for you? You don’t understand the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:25 PM
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What are women guilty of here? Not being attracted to someone? How is that something to be guilty of?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:58 AM
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I think men should care about it obsessively. So obsessively that they don’t even believe women when they give their n count… they should get it in their head that she’s been with many other better men and let it ruin their own enjoyment and performance. If all men did this then women couldn’t even have high n counts because who could they be sleeping with! Oh wait… this IS what PPD men do and meanwhile outside in the real world life goes on.. enjoyably for most 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:21 AM
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No one says it is but you want women to feel like they can’t have meaningful platonic friendships with straight men and that’s just not accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:05 PM
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I just think a lot of what you say is the sort of assumptions that have been made for years without any real basis in fact. Even if the generalisations are true they aren’t true for all people and it’s damaging to say that they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:36 PM
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How do you know? Are you ALL single men? People are individuals with different personalities and drives… you want it to be this basic for some reason but it isn’t. It just isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:21 PM
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Yeah you’re assuming attraction though. I can objectively see someone as attractive without being attracted. It depends on my own relationship /headspace/context of the relationship - many things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:00 PM
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That’s just not the case 😂 I’ve had friends with both genders For years with no sex and been to their weddings, friends with their partners etc. you just see things through your lens only because you don’t see value in women beyond sex but that’s a you problem
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 02:02 PM
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But why would you jump into bed with someone just because you have a fight with your partner? That’s ridiculous. Also just because somethings easy doesn’t mean you do it. It’s easy to jump in front of a bus but most people don’t do it because it’s a very bad idea
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:21 PM
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Being platonic friends with someone of the opposite sex is a common thing for women to do. You don’t call making friends with a person of the same sex “friendzoning” do you? It’s the same thing. Im friends with many attractive people and my partner is too. We are monogamous still and I’m bisexual. By your logic I’m friendzoning everyone who is not my partner 🤣 This friendzoning idea needs to be squished. Not everyone’s goal in human interactions are purely or even mostly sexual. If they are then…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:20 PM
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Being with the wrong person is far lonelier and unhappier a place to be than single. If you’re single you don’t have to worry about anyone else so you literally do what you want, when you want. An ex of mine I was so unhappy with even though objectively he was a good guy. We were so busy compromising that neither of us were happy. It makes sense to me that overall single women are happier than not single because I know a lot of people whose main source of sadness or stress is their relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:13 PM
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Why do you care what anyone else does? Just focus on yourself. To be fair that’s the one thing TRP has going for it - it tells you to focus on you. Bitterness about what you perceive other people to get gets you nowhere and for all the simping women with public instagrams etc get they also have to deal with awful trolling but that you ignore because it doesn’t suit your narrative that women have it easier and you need to drag people down to assert your “power” RAISE yourself up don’t drag people…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:49 PM
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I don’t understand this practice at all and it caused a fight between me and a family member who did opt to circumcise her son. Her husband is Jewish (not practicing) and wanted his son to look the same? Stupid reasoning. Really angers me. His body his choice
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:12 PM
1

What an inane thing to say 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:02 PM
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Men on here say this like it’s upsetting. Do a few of my male friends think I’m hot? Sure. If they had an opportunity for a quick bang would they take it? Yeah maybe. But things aren’t black and white so they can be happy with the friendship we have. It’s the same the other way around. I have friends id certainly not have said no to dating if we were both single. Why would this be upsetting or bursting my bubble? I’m not a naive child 😂 I also know a lot about what predominantly male environment…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:01 PM
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Now women are food items? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:18 PM
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I understand that view but as someone who has meaningful supportive friends from many different aspects of my life (school/uni/work/hobbies) that are male/female and all different sexualities my life experience just isn’t at all representative of your belief that all men think and act this way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:15 PM
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I understand the concept of an analogy but surely you can see how offensive it is the constancy with which women are compared to inanimate objects like cars/locks etc. The analogies don’t really work because a human has far much more to offer than this one aspect (sex) and this analogy reduces us to just a sex object essentially. For what it’s worth I agree I wouldn’t want to be in sexless relationship but I just don’t like these analogies personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:42 PM
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Women are not objects
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:28 PM
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I think you should know that you did have an impact We did get a McDonald chicken sandwich tonight 😅 (I allowed it 😛)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:16 PM
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The men on this sub aren’t single because they aren’t playing the game in a specifically perfect way… it’s because they’re all a combo of ugly/women hating/awkward Why do we pretend otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:57 PM
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Why would he need my permission? What’s so upsetting about the word “partner” to you? Very strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:04 PM
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He says that’s 2 you owe him now 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:59 PM
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Yes he has a terrible life. He’s asked if you’d be willing to donate to his gofundme so he can afford to escape me and change his identity 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:54 PM
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Pah ha ha ha ha that’s the first time anyones called me that 🤣🤣😂😂🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 03:25 PM
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If I were single I’d Defs do this. It’s nice to have sex but with someone I’m really into I’d wait so I don’t get hurt. If it’s someone who isnt boyf material then I am not worried about getting hurt so I can do no strings sex happily. Also good to know that a man can respect the no. My partner was happy to wait and in the end we were so well matched that he didn’t have to wait that long at all 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 02:00 PM
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Yeah I guess so but obsessing over that is likely to make you the sort of man that will be second choice not second love…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:17 AM
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Explaining love to someone who hadn’t experienced it is pretty impossible. Like explaining cheese to someone who never tasted it… I fell in love at 16 and with that boyfriend for 4 years. I was head over heels it was fantastic. But my current partner isn’t second to him. Hell no! That young relationship ran its course and I’m glad I had it - that’s the man I lost my virginity to. But we grew and changed and when I met my current partner I fell as hard if not hard for him. If he had this weird wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:06 PM
2

Thanks 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 12:41 PM
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Yawn 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:22 PM
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Yes! This
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 04:00 PM
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What sort of women are you dating? Perhaps that’s the issue? Defs doesn’t bother me BUT I will caveat that with the fact that I personally don’t have infinite patience with people who whinge about their lives but don’t take steps to change it or who constantly blame others for their issues. Let’s discuss it, have a cry sure and then try and move onwards and upwards. Obviously this doesn’t apply to things like bereavement…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:30 AM
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Get the hell off of this toxic site 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 11:16 PM
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I already do 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 11:16 PM
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Some women will pick a man based on wealth for sure you see that all the time with fat old ugly men having hot ass young wives But typical people just fall in love with who that are attracted to which is about face/body/personality and pheromones
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:52 PM
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I wear tight leggings because nothing worse than them rolling down in the middrift area when you’re working out but I know exactly what you mean about some outfits. I have no idea what their motivation is. I think we assign motivation like “they do it for attention” because we feel jealousy or we want to take people down a peg or 2. The reality is it’s none of our business what anyone else does or why they do it. I get it though - I sometimes resent women who dress that way because we all get ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 11:30 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:11 PM
4

Ha I LOVE the “how would you feel if you were the lady you just honked at”? Good on her (and you for paying attention to her guidance). Sounds like a good match 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 02:31 PM
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THE most important (physical) aspect of a man. (I’m in the UK)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 02:28 PM
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I am SO glad to be in the era we are and the culture I’m in (UK) The freedom of choices I have over my own life and relationships is something I’d not trade for anything. My partner and I choose to be together we don’t have to be. My fate is not reliant on his ability to provide or make good life decisions; we are partners. If my partner and I were not together I do think dating would be hard because people are jaded but my life is rich in so many other ways that I’d just wait and see what came …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:14 AM
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Weird that you assume the next guy will “pump and dump” or that it’s bad luck if they end up in a relationship. You sound like you’re living a revenge fantasy life dude. I feel sorry for you. Hope things get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:10 AM
1

That all sounds very anecdotal to me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:03 AM
1

I suspect because as you all say on here - they have so many options they can afford to have more criteria. The taste of their own medicine doesn’t have the same punch you think it does honestly when they will have another guy telling them they’re a queen in the next swipe. If it helps you feel better ok. But I would say the bitterness you feel is more likely to make you upset than anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:03 AM
1

Do you not think weight is also a turn on/off for women? It seems to me that weight is for both genders and height seems to be mostly a concern of women. So again it’s a false equivalence but go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:01 AM
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Now that you’ve said “weight is to men what height is to women” - that’s part of what you were missing to make the argument logical. It’s not perfect but now it makes sense at least. My view on the whole asking weight thing is that even if you think it’s an equivalent ask.. what’s you’re ultimate goal and will it get you there? If your ultimate goal is the “gotcha” then yeah ask it. If your ultimate goal is to find a relationship then your pride is getting in your way
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:59 AM
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It’s nothing to do with accepting reality or even agreeing or disagreeing on what constitutes acceptable levels of rudeness between genders… it’s just that your argument didn’t follow logically. Premise: “men don’t prefer height when looking for a woman” Conclusion: “asking women about weight is fine” Can you see what I mean? They are 2 unrelated statements the way you have phrased it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:56 AM
1

That isn’t a logical argument. Your conclusion is not supported by your premise - you’ve skipped a few steps 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:40 AM
1

It’s not that he suggested women have it easier than men it’s the way he has written this rant which makes him come across as entitled. “I deserve” type statements Also he met his dream girl and he expected her to go “2 steps down” to be with him… He’s entitled
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:16 AM
3

If they ask height then equivalent question back is height surely? They didn’t ask for your weight… if they did then that would be appropriate to ask back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:25 PM
2

Not at all.. that’s an entirely different discussion I just don’t see why it’s so hard to live and let live, and why so many people on here want to force women into home maker type roles they don’t want. There’s too much on this sub of men telling women what they want or what they should be - and even going to the extent of saying we don’t know what we want or say what we mean. It’s impossible to have a good faith discussion here because of these beliefs (some) ppd men cling to
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:33 PM
10

The way I see it, it’s mostly men peddling this idea. They want things to be this way because they like the role they are given. Some women may want this role you assign here for women but increasingly they don’t. I say stop trying to put people in boxes and let people live the way they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:07 PM
18

You reek of entitlement and judgement No one promised you a relationship and no one owes you one. If you see women as the enemy then it will obviously be harder to find one you don’t resent and one that wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:00 PM
2

It’s just purge week 🤣 I just said things I knew would cause rage and clearly it did 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:01 PM
3

This is great! What did you do to upset this boy so much?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:24 AM
5

Because they kill people
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:26 PM
1

Here he is. Didn’t even have to make the effort to describe him
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:24 PM
1

None of these guys are attractive to me looks wise but Tom Holland seems like an awesome guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 08:07 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:59 PM
1

I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:51 PM
1

No issue with it personally
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:47 PM
4

But the incel doesn’t just say “hi” does he? He spews hate Rest of it seems pretty accurate though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:45 PM
2

It’s mad the extremes we women will go to to get rid of men they don’t like 🤣 Husband gets annoying. Get cancer. That’ll get him to fuck off 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:36 PM
1

I think it’s quite likely that the issue here is that women don’t want to have sex… with you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:31 PM
1

Or Men should just leave
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:29 PM
1

Why would I worry about my face? I’m a woman. I could have my ass where my face should be and you’d all still be orbiting 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:29 PM
2

But back in time for purge week! Let’s go wild! 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:26 PM
1

Also I think I own your house now somehow?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:24 PM
1

Oxygen received thank you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:24 PM
1

Go on then no one’s stopping you 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:22 PM
1

Don’t try to argue with me Discuss Which is it moron? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:18 PM
1

Ahh you’re back with your nonsense 😂 Where’ve you been? Just sitting around depreciating?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:18 PM
1

I think being smug is just more fun It is more fun to do It is also more fun to say
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:11 PM
12

I think it’s time you came out of the closet hon
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:05 PM
5

Hahah 16 you may be but you have got these guys worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:04 PM
1

I fucking love purge week 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:59 PM
3

I’m sure he’s around here with his cross having a cry wank 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:55 PM
0

Yeah but what does that even really help with? Does being related to about being unfuckable help? I don’t think so
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:53 PM
3

But why should they? Why do these nasty ass guys and their nasty ass views deserve the sympathy of women they don’t respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:50 PM
2

The thing is you’re just not attractive so like what can women do about that? Seriously? Honestly what do you want US to do about the fact you are not attractive? It’s not our problem The women who try to listen to you are being nice but they don’t want to sleep with you so you resent even their giving you the time of day. We can’t win really. I mean neither can you but for real unless we lie and say we find you attractive there really isn’t some magic way for us to help you. Really think about …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:48 PM
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If that helps you sleep at night ok but no amount of controlling how you give attention is fixing an ugly face. Sorry but it isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:31 PM
1

As someone not in the dating market it’s a little unfair for me to comment but I have also been single at different times of my life so I’ll give my view.. There are still some women who believe that being in a relationship is the main goal of their life and so who will settle for a man they aren’t that into But A lot more now would rather be single than spend their life with someone they don’t truly want to be with. It doesn’t matter why they don’t want to be with that person (looks/vibe etc et…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:30 PM
1

Unless you are objectively hot.. this is terrible advice for men. Do you honestly think attractive women noticed unattractive men ignoring them? They won’t even notice you exist. You’re like ants - we aren’t paying you individual attention we just know as a group you exist. If an ant ignores you do you notice? Nope Even if you get bitten by an ant you aren’t going out of your way to squish that fucker you just move on and think eugh… ants right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:18 PM
1

Oh hon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:17 PM
2

Women are just so superficial aren’t we hey. It’s not like we are actual humans or anything is it? I feel for you I really do. I can’t imagine what it would be like to experience such a small subsection of life and never truly connect with the world
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:09 PM
1

Hahahhha wtf have you ever even met a woman? 🤣🤣 🤣 yeah we just sit all glassy eyed talking about handbags 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:57 PM
0

But what if.. and hear me out… you’re just a massive bellend who no one really wants to be friends with 🤣 Jog on idiot. Life is so much fuller when you embrace it instead of trying to drag others down into the pit you made for yourself. Ahh happy new year PPD If purge ended I’m sorry I’m late.. I was hanging with my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:53 PM
1

This is definitely true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:24 AM
1

Brilliant 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 11:37 PM
3

The 25k guy here is objectively the better provider but it could depend on what the 60k guys costs are. If his cost of living is 10k over his means every year that’s an issue but less of an issue if he has assets he’s investing into as part of that expenditure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 02:35 PM
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I personally have no interest in the man as the provider role but I was interested in what you said here so assuming I did care about someone being a provider… whilst I agree budgeting is some part of it, I’d not be interested in a man earning 25k with a living cost of only 10k because whilst it does show he can live within his means - it would likely mean not having a decent place to live. Your home is usually the most expensive part of your living costs and If I was reliant on a man I wouldn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 02:30 PM
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How have I been emotional or is that just your general way or shutting down women who disagree with you? None of your links here around women having less pronounced variances then man are relevant to the issue at hand; that it is different women complaining about power Imbalances than wanting men to lead. Do you have anything relevant to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:17 AM
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I look forward to reading through your sources/evidence to prove this theory you have
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:04 AM
2

I also dislike people who don’t say what they mean or expect people to read between the lines. Trust me as a woman it’s fucking frustrating when other women do it as it causes no end of issues for those of us that don’t play silly games but it’s not a gender specific thing. There are many men who also do this - it’s just a shitty people thing in my view. Generally my issue is that behaviours get “gendered” which I don’t believe in. I don’t believe women don’t generally say what they mean. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:03 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 what a ridiculous comment - you probably just don’t interact with women and you only pay attention to things that confirm your bias. Either way I’m not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:55 PM
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There are certainly advantages/disadvantages to each gender and also within that there are different advantages/disadvantages based on skills/intelligence/attractiveness etc I think age gap power imbalances are a different issue though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:32 PM
0

As you ignore yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:26 PM
2

You’re so right
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:26 PM
2

No they mean power imbalances 🤣 You’re biased because you are bitter against women for some reason but that doesn’t mean women don’t mean what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:25 PM
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It’s not the same women complaining about power imbalances that are also wanting a man to lead in the relationship. Women (and men) are not a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:24 PM
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None
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 01:17 PM
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He’s unhinged 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:20 PM
3

Yeah I can respect that view even if it’s not mine. For me as a woman I want to have freedom to live the way I choose. I have a very good career and many hobbies. I’m very social and I love travelling. My partner has a good job but not as good as mine. If I relied on him we wouldn’t be as well off and I would miss out on so many things I like to do (especially the travel side). I could never give that up. I love my partner and there are so many ways he contributes to our lives but we mostly work…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:53 PM
2

Thank you for such an honest response - it’s genuinely interesting 🙂 As long as that role makes you happy in your soul and doesn’t push you into a life you don’t truly want then great and i hope you get what you want! I worry you don’t feel you could confide in your partner or show weakness but I’m aware that’s my projection of what I need/want
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:42 PM
1

Why for you is that important? I’m not challenging your view as it’s your own preference which is fine and I agree with you that I don’t mind what people do as long as they’re happy(and also not hurting anyone). But I’m interested in what people like about “traditional” gender roles and why they’d choose that for themselves. As a follow up question do you think that you’d like the opposite genders traditional gender role? I have a view that perhaps men are keen for trad roles and women these day…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:28 PM
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I think we actually are agreeing in a roundabout way 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:06 PM
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I don’t think you understand that I’m saying I don’t believe in forcing these concepts on anyone. I have no idea what traits you believe a traditional man has but I’d be willing to bet high that it’s not what I’d like 🤣 but that’s ok! I think people with similar views/goals/values finding each other is great but we don’t need to force everyone into that mould. You only need your partner to fit the mould you want right? Why do you need to worry what other people do?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:03 PM
1

Ha I love how this has ended up a gym chat 🤣 this sub is wild. Yep agreed totally. I got a PT and it’s all the exercises you say except I must admit I have no idea about plate loaded hypers etc. I’m a newb so I’m sure I’ll find out as I progress. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:00 PM
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These aren’t necessarily the traits of being feminine. They are traits that (some) men have decided are feminine. Tattoos or piercings for example have no bearing on what it is to be a woman and of course culturally this view of what is feminine would all vary. I am not saying that it’s not ok for you to want to date a woman who fits those qualities but I dislike having a concept of femininity (or masculinity) that all people of that gender are supposed to fit into. There’s also no need for ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:56 PM
1

Ha yeah don’t worry I’m not looking for evidence - you can tell very easily at the gym who lifts and who just does cardio and it’s not because they look like bodybuilders it’s just a more strong and toned look but still slim/slender
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:50 PM
1

I’ve historically been a cardio girl but I’ve recently got into resistance training (past 3 months) and it’s brilliant! Such a positive difference. But I don’t think I ever need to deadlift that much 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 12:22 PM
2

Ahh I initially read it as deadlift 12 TIMES their body weight which was insanely high standards 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 11:49 AM
2

🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:35 PM
4

I’m confident i don’t need additional explanation from you despite your being so eager to give it. I’ll decline on this occasion thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:25 PM
1

I don’t need anything from you 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:22 PM
3

Wtf 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:19 PM
3

“Most men are settling to used up women” Stay sexless. Women don’t want to date men who don’t even like women 🤣🤣 how it that so hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:05 AM
4

👏
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 09:04 PM
14

Why do you want to force people into having children they don’t want?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 04:42 PM
3

Yes we do 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 09:51 AM
3

🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:28 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣 you’ve never got mad on here before? Something tells me you’re the one telling lies here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:18 PM
1

I’m dying 🤣🤣 it’s like Schrödinger's dog 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:16 PM
1

I disagree - I personally believe it would be you shouting backsies, as you put it. I think the issue is you can’t put yourself in the real mindset of what it feels like to be a woman and I can’t do the reverse. The thing is I am not generally spending time and effort trying to play down how men feel about rejection but look at how much you want to minimise women’s issue with SA and concern yourself with how we aren’t protecting ourselves from rapists but have time to make ourselves more attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 08:35 PM
1

I can accept that I can’t know how it is for men and that perhaps I am guilty of downplaying the rejection you face and it’s frequency but can you accept that maybe you have the same issue in understanding the issues women face? I do believe 1 in 5. I think for men it’s 1 in 6. Have you seen that? Sexual assault isn’t just rape but as a woman I can tell you that I and pretty much all of my friends have been sexually assaulted. I’ll give you some examples of mine and you may think they’re not tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 06:13 PM
1

I think your issue is that you don’t understand how common sexual or other types of assault are for women - or likely you’re a denier of those stats. I’d take being rejected a few times over dealing with sexual assault even once
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 02:47 PM
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No because I don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t know for sure they want to be with ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:09 PM
1

Ooh now I’d actually say one is far more of a big deal than the other. I knew this sub was fucked up but it’s genuinely shocking that you consider the hurt of being rejected as worse than the risk of being sexually assaulted, raped or physically assaulted/murdered. What the actual fuck is wrong with you people…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:58 PM
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I think some people do and some people don’t and it’s not a gendered thing… it’s like how some people cheat or have affairs
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:57 PM
5

Fuuuck that’s awful. Ive had it at least 3 times where men married to my Friends have made it clear they’re interested in me (when I was single) and it shocked me! But I’m lucky that also I’ve had male friends I’ve had for years that I know don’t have any such designs on me. We’ve been single at the same times and it’s always stated platonic, actively supportive and fun! I’m bi so not being able to have friends of opposite sex would be ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:52 AM
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HAhaha I think it’s just people on here don’t have normal social interactions or ANY sex so they can’t fathom what it would be like to not constantly see the opposite sex as a target. This “target” warped view then impacts all the socialisation they do have and so they don’t have good interactions with the opposite sex so the issue is compounded and the cycle continues. I’d feel for them if they weren’t mostly so full of hate 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:48 AM
3

Same for me 🙋‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:42 AM
4

So all your male friends were single?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:42 AM
3

Interesting take I’m not disagreeing with you that this is how it is but I find it interesting because there is so much out there currently about men’s mental health being really poor and I would suggest that in some cases it’s down to exactly this sort or normalised behaviour where it is not ok to not want to have you insecurities joked about or you’re a “buzzkill” It’s not JUST that but it’s well documented that women have better support networks and build each other up whereas many men feel l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:40 AM
2

I have heard this but who created these stats and if they’re based on people lying but admitting they’re lying how can we be sure of their accuracy? Genuinely intrigued.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:28 AM
2

Ha “underestimate” - you mean lie. You think all women are liars. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:09 AM
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I enjoyed this far too much 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:01 PM
1

Ha sorry wasn’t really aimed at you just it’s insane how much this topic upsets these guys. They have no idea at all about normal relationships. Porn sick all of them. I’ve been in multiple LTRs and never been asked for anal or any weird shit. My current partner for example has tried it in past and has 0 interest which is great cuz me neither. It doesn’t bother me he did it with anyone else 🤣 why would it. Any of these men who want anal should be willing to take it themselves too 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:40 PM
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Why would we answer you when this is what we are met with. You won’t accept the truth unless it’s the “truth” you already believe or want to hear. So why should we bother and honestly why do YOU bother when you already know you won’t believe what we say? 🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:32 PM
1

Haha are they not bored of this yet? Waaaa waaaa other men got something I didn’t waaaa waaaaa 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:31 PM
4

Hahaha so true!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:03 PM
1

I didn’t say I assume the poster is 100% not to blame but I don’t consider it reasonable to “play devils advocate” and say the exact opposite to be true either. I’m not sitting with anything - I don’t buy into your petty pill bs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:42 AM
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Did the grandmas ruin them by warning them? Or did the grandfathers ruin them for causing the need to warn women against marriage? Interesting you blamed the grandmas
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:04 PM
1

Not at all but you’ve done some serious mental gymnastics to find a way for one mans shitty actions to be her fault not his 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:39 PM
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Ahhh what a biased take 😂😂😂 it’s always the woman’s fault hey.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 09:44 PM
1

Oh no I’m Fucked 😂 Better take a pay cut
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 09:42 PM
1

Yeah but remember just because I don’t find someone attractive doesn’t mean no other girl would so it’s not for me to speak for them and smash a mans ego
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:25 AM
3

The real issue I see being glossed over here is the bullies. Why do we accept bullies as a normal part of life and then cater our life choices to them? Ridiculous. Also I’m not a fan of Onlyfans and I do think it’s damaging to society that this is normalised.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:19 AM
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I don’t think I can realistically give good advice on how to date women to a man I don’t find attractive enough to date.. If I’ve already decided their unattractive to me then nothing they do is likely to change that. So I wouldn’t know what to say… Like yeah mate give up - I see no way of you becoming attractive to women. That would be brutal. I just tend to go with genetic advice that worked for me - for example, do hobbies that are social and you’ll be more likely to meet someone likeminded
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:39 PM
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