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chocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:59 AM
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#JustLVMThingschocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:56 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:25 PM
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NAH, SISchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:28 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:32 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:33 AM
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chocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:49 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:47 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:09 AM
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chocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:53 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:21 AM
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DISCUSSIONchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:29 PM
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NAH, SISchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:38 AM
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REMINDER 👑chocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:32 PM
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#JustLVMThingschocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:32 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:20 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:34 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSchocolatelustpile/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:57 AM
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I'm fond of the term man whore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:29 PM
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I have a flatmate like this so I'll say, "I know that you want to talk, however I'm not in the mood for a chat. I'll talk to you later" and go about whatever I'm doing or walk out of the room. He also doesn't pick up on social queues so I don't feel as bad being blunt about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:47 PM
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Me too! I tried to rewatch it during the first lockdown and couldn't even make it through the second episode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:50 PM
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I noticed how nothing was really mentioned about her body either! Having a baby can never be 50/50 due to the fact that her body will drastically change and never be the same again and his won't. How do you do 50/50 on that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:04 PM
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I lost it picturing Boris fighting in a war. 💀🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:41 PM
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All of this in a two month period too, just as I discovered FDS. He seemed normal and nice when we began dating but as soon as we became exclusive shit got real and all of this came out piece by piece. I put off breaking up with him so I could do it in person but when my family member passed and he told me not to cry and then said the quote line I broke up with him over text, blocked and deleted. Funnily enough he managed to get in touch with me six months later begging me to get back with him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:13 PM
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Male, mid 30s, 5'8 but I say I'm 5'11. I take pride in my muscles so don't hate on me when I wake up to workout in our bedroom at 4am. I expect you to go weak at the knees when I bite my lip and call you a "good girl", have sex whenever I want (jackhammering is my specialty so of course you'll love it), go hungry or eat at home because I'm too cheap and lazy to feed anyone but myself, and be OK with not having real dates. I'm also in this country illegally, paranoid about getting caught and have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:48 PM
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I love it when they say things like, "Wow, I I can't believe that you know how to change a tyre/paint houses/chaulk/tie knots/build a fire/put up a tent/use power tools. That's awesome!" I always want to ask if they're impressed I can do it because they can't... The best was when my flatmate insisted that he should repaint the hallway because he does things like that for work. I had the time and wanted to so I finally talked him into giving me the painting supplies (he kept them in his room beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:18 AM
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I have short hair with an undercut and I absolutely hate it when guys says they like it but I'd look much prettier if I grew it out/didn't have an undercut. My hair is curly and really thick and I love how easily it dries, how quickly I can style it and how light it feels like this. Also, it curls way better with less weight. I'm pretty sure they only say that because they want me to look more traditional (🙄) because "only lesbians shave their hair." Funnily enough the majority of women love my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:07 AM
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We all know that man doesn't actually own a real crown. It's just one of those free cardboard ones you got from Burger King as a kid because he's too broke to afford anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 08:58 PM
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I absolutely hate it when guys say this! I'm not a chore that you begrudge doing, buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:56 PM
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A couple of weeks ago I was getting to know this guy and one day he asked what I was up to. When I replied that I was baking he started saying how he can't wait to try it. He was so confused when I sent him the recipe. Told him he could make it himself because I sure wasn't going to. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:27 AM
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This is not the reaction of an excited boyfriend seeing his girlfriend. At all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:25 AM
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I'm laughing so hard at the "how do you even get wet?" comment that I'm struggling to breathe! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:27 PM
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If I were her I'd be INCREDIBLY embarrassed and would be terrified of people recognising me. He's trying a manipulative last ditch effort at getting her back because he knows he's messed up badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:51 AM
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I hate it when you calmly explain how you're feeling and/or why something upset you and they say, "I'm sorry you feel that way." Just another way to put the blame on you when you're the victim and to minimise you're legitimate feelings. Or, God forbid, you show any emotion and they tell you to calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 05:14 PM
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I find myself craving intimacy (casual touches, holding hands, cuddling, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, shared experiences etc) with someone over sex. 99% of the time, sex has been unsatisfying, not worth it and left me with confusing feelings. Even when in long term relationships and when I orgasimed. There's only been one guy where the sex was everything I wanted. It was incredibly passionate, he genuinely put my pleasure above his, got turned on by me orgasming and man, I can't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:31 AM
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The last time I told a guy I was seeing about being raped he asked me if it wasn't just bad sex. Unless men truly experience what women do they'll never understand let alone believe us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:46 PM
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Calling a man a scote is disgusting? Bet he'd love his daughter to know that word over all the words that women are called. Words he probably uses himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 07:29 PM
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He already had a daughter before we met. Living in another country with his parents because (I found out) he was in this country illegally... Yet he refused for her to live with her mother. Needless to say that when the truth came out that it was a shit show I ran away fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:26 PM
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My ex told me that I'd never be as important as his mum, sisters or daughter. At the time I was shocked and dumped his ass. Now I'm with you and say, thank god! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:20 PM
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Oh yeah, an asshole isn't dependent on his dick size at all. Like you I've come across guys like this with varying sizes (thank you, unwanted D pics), I was just making a joke. 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:12 PM
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He's just mad about the size of his 🍤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:16 PM
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I'm literally on my way to a first date while reading this. Thank you for the encouragement! Going in with eyes wide open, that's for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:39 PM
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One of my exes was like this. Despite struggling with dyslexia he'd repetitively write my name out when we first started dating so he knew how to spell it properly because both my first and last names are very unusual. My name is spelt wrong 99.9% even if I spell it out for someone so it meant so much to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:28 AM
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Anyone know if there's something like this in the UK?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:21 AM
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Wow, he should get the dad of the year award for all his hard work and effort!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:20 AM
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One of the best dates I went on was to a Belgian beer restaurant. I had a beer and a burger that I didn't eat all of because it was massive, but we had a hilarious time laughing at how messy it was to eat between talking about other stuff. If you like to eat salads, good on you, but screw shaming a date for actually eating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:35 AM
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New Zealand! We love our weird and wonderful birds down here. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:27 AM
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All I could think while reading this is (especially this part) was, "What an absolute ass hole!" Dude makes three times as much as her yet at the very least can't even cover the cost of one meal a day and three outings. He also knew her salary going into this and that she picked up a second job to go on the vacation yet this wasn't taken into account. This is a prime example of how having money doesn't make you a HVM! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:36 PM
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Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:18 AM
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I fucking hate it when they do that! Especially when it's to something unpleasant or downright painful. You go from about to be having an earth shattering orgasm to wanting to stop having sex in an instant. If a woman says how much she likes what you're doing or that she's about to cum keep doing what you've been doing you idiot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:34 AM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:30 AM
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I dated this guy who around the same mark, if not less, would say, "cum for me baby, cum for me" and keep repeating it. It was like he was ready to explode but those words made me as dry as the sahara. Being told to cum on command like a dog or asked if I have is such a turn off. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:27 AM
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My ex got in touch 6 months after we broke up. When I asked what he wanted, he said he wanted to apologise. I was like, "... Go ahead then..." Nothing. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:18 AM
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I just saw a screenshot of an FDS post on another sub. They were calling us a hate sub and saying that we should be shut down. They're right in a way because we do hate things... We hate low effort, mummy's boys, crusty assholes, foreskin cheese, skid marks, 50/50, coffee and walk dates, not orgasming, jackhammer sex, neck beards, porn, pickmes, disrespect, emotional immaturity etc etc. They only want to ban us because we challenge and stand against what they gain from. Edit: Our mods are amazin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:30 AM
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"We're planting audacity this year" killed me! 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:12 PM
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I went on a couple of walking dates with a guy earlier in the year when everything was still closed. Every so often he was really good at asking if I'd like to grab some food and if I made an offhand comment about drinking a lot he'd start looking for somewhere nice that had a toilet. Things didn't progress for other reasons but I was appreciative of this because most of the time men say that you'll get food later and they "forget" or suggest the supermarket or McDonald's. And don't get me start…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:24 PM
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Classy, hey?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:46 PM
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I completely agree with everything you said! The original meme doesn't just imply that these chores are the woman's responsibility, it straight up says that if he's doing them you're failing as a wife, and by extention a woman. Doing these things are bare minimum as a human, let alone a husband, and are not indicative of a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:45 PM
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For those who have gotten in touch with me concerned, he's already been blocked and deleted! Did so straight after taking the screenshot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:20 AM
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I binge watched SoA because of him! 🤤🤤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:45 AM
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Pepperoni nipples 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:56 AM
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Damn, yes please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:27 AM
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I used to do a fake/polite laugh but now I'm over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:37 AM
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This! I have one male friend in particular who always insists on walking closest to the road and if a group of men are walking towards or behind us he'll position himself between them and me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:18 PM
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I'm helping my out at my parent's cafe and shop for a few months while I'm home. The other day I had a guy who is on the community patrol team with my Dad come in and order for him and his wife. It was a busy day and instead of ordering like a normal person he asks for a coffee with cocaine in it in a flirty manner. When I grey rocked him he laughed and asked for one with weed if we were out. How is flirting with someone who is at least 35 years younger than you acceptable? And how is joking abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:01 PM
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This is the funniest thing I've seen all week!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:32 AM
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Don't you just love it when guys whip their dicks out when you're kissing them?! Kissing does NOT equal consent to have sex, oral or otherwise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:21 PM
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I've been thinking about this but have zero idea where to start!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:29 AM
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I made my first payment towards my debt today so my goal for this month is to pay off a set amount. I'm also going to be taking to a financial advisor about my retirement savings and looking at timelines for investing and saving a 20% deposit for a house. I'm trying to take more control of my life and my future because I'm sick of life just happening to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:27 AM
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Or just don't reply at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:49 AM
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I was 100% thinking of two of my flatmates while reading this. They're both thoroughly NVM who we're trying to kick out. 🤢😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:58 PM
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But... But scrotes are incapable of being lonely because they're so good at keeping women and have an abundant supply... I just can't understand how you'd ever think they'd be lonely! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:43 PM
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The last one I got was just my first name. When I saw it in the morning I laughed at the desperation and blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:41 PM
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"Getting my needs met"... As my mother would say, no one's ever died from lack of sex. Selfish scrote. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:38 PM
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Also don't treat her as a human flesh light for your porno fantasies and for your exclusive satisfaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:54 PM
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These would encourage me to wear heels more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:50 PM
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I struggled to read the whole thing because the sound of a million tiny violins was too much for me. Seriously, every sentence amounted to "woe is me, I've done nothing wrong, I'm the viCTiM."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:15 AM
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Back when I was a social worker I worked with women who had eating disorders and ALL of them said that it was the one thing about themselves that they could truly control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:22 PM
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Number 13 is giving me flashbacks to my first long term boyfriend. He'd either buy me expensive gifts for the salary he was on at the time or weird crap. Either way he always used it to get attention. One year he bought me a small white gold and diamond necklace for Christmas, however for about a month beforehand he told everyone how he'd bought me the perfect gift and taken all this time to decide and save up etc. By the time Christmas came around I was a wreck opening it because I was worried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:18 PM
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I'd add watching shows like Jackass to that list as well...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:09 PM
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Amazing work! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:53 AM
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Good oral hygiene is important for so many reasons and brushing twice a day is just the start. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:11 PM
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Then you need to start. Now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:34 AM
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I absolutely love the podcast and listening to you ladies! You're amazing!!! 💖💖 I did however learn that I can't listen to the podcast while running because I laugh so much I can't breathe. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:34 AM
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Translation: Misso = Mrs Bunnings = Think Home Depot Snag = sausage For context, sausage sizzles, where you buy a cooked beef sausage on a piece of white bread with cooked onions and tomato sauce, are classic at Bunnings in NZ. They are usually fundraisers for community groups and schools, costing NZ$2 (US70c) max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:39 AM
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My Grandad belonged to a very strict Christian denomination where the sabbath was observed and women weren't allowed to cook on Sundays. They prepared everything the day before and had cold cuts etc. Nana raised 5 children, kept house, put up with my Grandad (he was great but had strong views about gender roles) and didn't complain more than to roll her eyes behind his back. She once told me that she loved Sundays because she didn't believe and he didn't force her to go to church with him so she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:24 AM
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They're also ask you to only have sex with them (so, be an exclusive free prostitute) and inform you that if your birth control happens to fail and you get pregnant that they will: Deny it's theirs, even after demanding exclusivity Not contribute in anyway financially if you decide to keep it, go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption or get an abortion End your "arrangement" while telling everyone you're a [insert derogatory term here] who wasn't even that good 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:08 AM
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I firmly believe that every man on the planet thinks that he has a magic dick, even if you need a microscope to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:59 AM
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Number 5, 6 and 7 are so closely linked! Actually all of these remind me of when I had one night stands and makes me shudder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:44 PM
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Yes! I get extremely bad cramps before my period starts which in recent years have got me fainting (doctors can't find anything wrong so far). One of my exes when I asked for a gentle lower back rub tried to seduce me with it, telling me that sex would hell with the cramps. Why the hell would I want to have sex when I had terrible cramps, felt like vomiting and was on the verge of fainting? Also had an old FWB that sex would cure my migraine. Men. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:39 PM
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I'm so going to say this to my male flatmates next time they make fart or boner jokes! I know for a fact any talk about periods (even just mentioning the word cramps) makes them physically sick so hopefully this will push them over the edge and they'll learn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:13 PM
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But we don't hate all men. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:03 PM
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This! When you say that it's a nice photo and ask where it's taken only to get a guilty look and hear them try to play down it was taken at their ex girlfriend's sister's wedding. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:14 PM
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I also do this when travelling with friends! I actually went on a trip a few years ago where they excluded and got nasty with me so much that other people (we went on a bigger group tour) were commenting and asking if I was ok. Thankfully I insisted on getting individual photos taken at different places so my memory of that trip isn't further ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:13 PM
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I've literally had the top left cooked for me on a second date, along with a piece of unseasoned dry as anything piece of steak. He'd warned me that he wasn't a good cook/couldn't cook anything fancy but simple meals can also be tasty. Salt was my best friend that day, though needless to say I didn't finish it all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:06 AM
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I know that you're being sarcastic (and I love it!) but I would genuinely love a cookie each time I folded the washing! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:56 PM
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I smell a rat...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:26 AM
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About four years ago I was casually seeing this guy I met through work. I met him after I'd decided to move to the UK and he knew that I was moving from the beginning. Honestly, I just liked his attention more than anything (we've all been there, right?). About a month before I left he said that I needed to choose between him and moving so without missing a beat I said that I choose to move. He tried, told me how much he loved me and that I was breaking his heart etc. You know what? While I feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:03 PM
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How hard is it to set a calendar reminder on your phone of your wedding anniversary? Surely if it was the most important day of your life like you claim you wouldn't forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:57 PM
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She was such a struggle to work with and I picked it from day one so kept out of her way as much as possible. Unfortunately everyone else put it down to her being young and it took months for everyone else to realise. Thankfully by that stage I was finishing up in preparation for my move. But yeah, pickme central for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:52 PM
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In New Zealand it's free if you're under 25 but I was 26/27 at the time so had to pay. Thankfully a script for oral contraceptives is like NZ$5 (around US$3) but at the time they tanked my mood and I was already struggling with depression so that was a no go. I'm now living in the UK where most reproductive costs are covered by the NHS and am both in a better headspace and have now found a pill thst works for me but I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I forgot to mention that I had a pickme colleagu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:35 PM
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I had an IUD put in about 4 years ago. I almost passed out when it was being put in but the doctor assured me that the pain would pass and I'd be fine the next day. After taking a couple of days off work due to the worst cramping and heavy bleeding (from someone who regularly faints during her period) I went back to work and thankfully my male boss and supervisor were understanding and left me be because, women's problems. I phoned the doctor and they said that it might take longer for it to set…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:21 PM
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I couldn't agree more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:57 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately I think you're correct when it comes to self awareness. I personally think that if men like this had any self awareness they wouldn't do shit like this because they'd be aware of how it affects the other person. Thst being said, many men who rape and assault are aware and just don't care. Makes my blood boil!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:57 PM
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To be honest I'm not 100 and while it doesn't answer your he said, she said point from what I read it came down to consent. He's being sentenced later this month so hopefully more information will be released. Either way this is rare and a victory for Aoetearoa, especially in the city where it happened where sexual assault has increased 50% over the last 5 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:54 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you and I'm thankful that he's out of your life! Kia kaha (stay strong), Queen! Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:38 PM
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It is sad that this story made the news, however I also see it as a big win for Aoetearoa. Like many other countries rape is far too common and while there is a higher conviction rate than other countries it is still not enough. A) because people (I say people because while it's mainly women and girls there are more are still being raped, there are increasing instances of male rape) are still being raped and B) because the process from start to finish victim blames and adds to the trauma of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:34 PM
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I would certainly hope so, though I'm sure his lawyers will try to say that because the sex was originally consensual it wasn't as bad as "actual" rape. 🙄 If I hear of any updates I'll let you know. Edit: Spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:29 PM
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Long may there more convictions like this! Consent for one thing doesn't mean consent for anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:21 AM
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My Mum always says, stop worrying about yourself because people are too busy worrying about themselves! Gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:07 PM
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Not a quote but I was looking at wall art to possibly give my best friend as part of her birthday present and there are some awesome ones on Etsy (both in kiss ass quotes and designs). You should definitely let us know what you decide to go with! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:29 PM
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I realised that HVM were so incredibly few and far between on OLD that my time was better spent focusing on myself. I realised that I didn't want to waste my time. I realised that I didn't want to be gaslight or expected to have sex with them. I realised that I'd rather risk not having a family (something I've wanted since I was young) than be stuck with a LVM I didn't vet properly. I realised that I could accomplish my goals and dreams without a man if I never met a HVM I wanted to marry. But m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:05 PM
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Thanks girl. It's definitely opened my eyes and changed my thinking and way of doing things a lot. FDS has been incredibly helpful in helping me challenge the voices in my head that were telling me that it was my fault or that I overreacted etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:56 PM
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I'm a 34GG and absolutely love wearing Shock Absorber's N109 sports bra. When I first bought one years ago I was so excited that I made my mum watch me jump up and down. She was like, "What am I looking at? They're not moving." I played a ton of sport over the years and it's the only sports bra I've ever felt comfortable in. That being said head to r/ABraThatFits. They have loads of resources and eceryone there is super friendly and have great tips and information etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:54 PM
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I would have liked to have said something like that but unfortunately he was a lot bigger and stronger than me and proceeded to rape me. I genuinely feared for my safety so went into survival mode and kept my mouth shut so I didn't make him angry. You can bet your ass I got emergency contraceptives the next day though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:11 PM
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I had this happen to me once on a first date back in my Pickmesha days. He responded to my request for a condom by pushing me down and asking me if I was ready to make beautiful cappuccino babies (I'm white, he's black). It was creepy af. Edit: Clarification
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:40 PM
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I completely agree! And I'm sorry to say that this happened to me too a few years ago. There is no way in hell he didn't hear me say so because he used both his dick and his hand to keep me quiet for the time it lasted. The last guy I was seeing when I told him about being raped started to say, "was it just rough sex or actual rape?" and I snapped. I told him that rape is rape whether the sex started off consensual and a no was ignored, or whether it was brutal, violent and unprovoked. He starte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:58 PM
1

I'm glad you're with a good guy! Feel free to pass it on to any friends who could make use of this comeback 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:37 AM
104

Can confirm this works! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:15 PM
147

There was this one guy who I was seeing who kept trying to talk me into anal (this way in my early FDS days). We'd fooled around a little and I knew he was massive, like a fucking tree trunk. No matter how much I deflected he kept trying to talk me into it then it hit me, the perfect response: you can have anal with me but only if you buy a dildo the size of you and I use it on you first. He went as white sheet and changed the topic. For two fucking minutes then bought it up again, trying to tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:14 PM
21

This is amazing! You guys are amazing! Words can't describe how excited or how proud I am! 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:14 PM
25

I always find a "you're excused" in a thoroughly I don't give a shit about you voice works wonders in these situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:57 PM
7

I came here to say this! It sounds like getting engaged and has opened her eyes to how incompatible they are and now she's struggling to reconcile what she sees with how she (currently) feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:23 PM
22

Say it louder for the women in the back! 👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:29 PM
33

That's when you reply with, "And my love language is boundaries. Thank you, next."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:18 PM
21

When will guys realise that their penis isn't special or unique? We want gifts that have thought put into them showing that they know what we like, not something you can find literally everywhere and that serves to bring them pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:16 PM
7

Scrotes be mad at someone who is being themself and not putting up with shit 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:35 PM
2

Agreed! I was getting weird vibes from him early on and then when he went on that rant I was like, "ah, there it is!" 🤦🏼‍♀️ Oh yeah, she told him way too many times how attractive he was. I'd forgotten about him leaving after she said that, I was fairly tired and I'm sick at the moment so my memory isn't the best. But yes, I definitely know what you mean! I think it goes to show the importance of becoming comfortable in yourself and what you've learnt when you level up after a breakup. She'd rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:58 AM
6

I got my seasons mixed up and Sarah is season 1, not 2... However, I really enjoyed Heather's episode and had actually forgotten about her when I posted this! She was brilliant, quiet, confident and knew what she wanted. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:17 AM
2

I don't remember a guy who left abruptly with her, you're not thinking about Gurki are you? That guy who said she'd loed to everyone and wasted 8 years off her life by marrying someone she had doubts about and then talked loudly over her as she tried to explain the societal pressure she'd felt? I was literally yelling at my screen that she needed to leave! Or are you meaning the guy Sarah talked to about boundaries (I believe she described it as different tiers)? She may be the typical for what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:14 AM
6

It's actually Season 1, Episode 5 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:57 AM
17

Was the hate mainly for walking out in the middle of that date or for other things as well? She clearly wasn't into the guy and he was making so many sexual innuendos so good on her for not wasting her time sitting there any longer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:56 AM
141

Damn right we are, we hate clowns! 🤡😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:25 PM
217

How long do you think it'll be until a screenshot of this shows up on a cringe worthy subreddit saying how we're all man haters and proving the point of the meme? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:22 PM
11

Yes! My mum taught my siblings and I this lesson when we were in primary school. It's really not hard to empty your pockets before putting your clothes in the laundry hamper! A 3 year old can do it. Edit: spelling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:54 AM
4

This post needs to be pinned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:16 PM
11

Best 7 seconds of my week! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:21 PM
178

As my mother would say, he has more money than sense. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:11 PM
1

Short version: A teenager who viciously beat his girlfriend has been freed from prison in a bid to stop him being recruited by gangs perpetuating New Zealand's strong domestic violence culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:36 AM
21

Especially when they really only mean that your face is cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:25 PM
28

I'm a GG and the amount of times guys ask (without the conversation being remotely sexual beforehand), "would you let me cum on your tits?" And then when I answer no they try to tell me how much I'd enjoy it. Just because I have big breasts doesn't mean I want your miniature firehose squirting sticky nut juice on them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:32 PM
35

I've had this as well, but for having curves. "I don't usually find curvy girls attractive but you're cute." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:28 PM
30

I get this from both males and females but, "Wow, you actually look really good without make up! Most women your age need to wear it but for some reason it works for you not wearing any."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:26 PM
16

Your blinking comment reminded me about all the times I've been told that I look pretty/cute/beautiful despite wearing glasses (which I have to wear becausey eyesight is terrible). Or even better that I look beautiful without them on. The last time I replied with, "so you don't think I'm beautiful with them on?" and enjoyed watching them squirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:24 PM
24

"You're tits are surprisingly perky for how big they are."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:21 PM
41

I've been told, "Wow, I thought only African girls had a booty like yours." I'm white.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:19 PM
30

He's honestly such a condescending prick and I've never said that about anyone before. He mansplans to death (even if it's something you're well versed in and he knows nothing about), is super messy, likes "exotic women" with big lips (ie. lip fillers) yet doesn't look after himself, eats "healthy" by cooking food in a couple of inches of oil, and wastes money while commenting about needing to watch what he spends. Recently he hasn't been pronouncing my name properly so next time he says my name…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:08 PM
21

Egh, they really can't do the bare minimum can they? One of my flatmates in particular comments about how I'm always complaining about things when in reality I'm just asking for them to clean up the spilt tea, crumbs, food splatters, poo splatters, mud etc etc and actually wash dishes with dishwashing liquid instead of just rinsing them with water. We're all in our 30s, I'm the youngest and I'm sure as hell not their maid or mother. Can you please grow the hell up so it stops feeling like I'm li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:00 PM
23

My ex didn't even reach for "what's your ideal date?" It was, "I don't know what there is to do around here so you plan something." Every time I suggested looking up things on Google (he'd lived there for a year and I'd never been to that area of London before dating him) he'd make lame ass excuses and try to make me plan something because he "didn't want to plan something I didn't like." 🙄 Dude, I'm not shy about my likes and dislikes and am open to trying new things so it's not that hard to pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:52 PM
74

Oh my gosh, I hear you! Acouple of weeks ago I had to ask my 36 year old male flatmate to reclean the toilet (we have a cleaning roster). This is literally pur conversation copied from WhatsApp... Me: Hey, can you please reclean the toilet? The bottom of the toilet bowl hasn't been scrubbed properly and has loads of marks. The top of the toilet bowl (above where the water comes from) also wasn't cleaned properly so will need going over again. Thanks Him: I will however, whilst we are making requ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:40 PM
24

You have got to be kidding me, seriously?! Thank goodness he's an ex! Hope you've been having kick ass birthdays since you dropped his tight ass sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:05 PM
23

Wow, that's worse than not getting anything... 😳😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:53 PM
14

My issue isn't a (well groomed) beard, it's that look. One of my exes who I dated for a few years did it and almost 10 years later it still makes me shudder in disgust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:26 PM
28

At least he's being upfront about being trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:51 PM
9

Beating the hardest level on CandyCrush would still be way easier than trying to give his micro penis a handjob...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:56 AM
28

Don't loose any more IQ points by trying to work it out sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:10 PM
63

Side note, she sounds like a cross between Ariana Grande and Hillary Duff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:04 PM
44

... How did he not know how to cook toast? You literally put a slice in and push the button down. It's easier than boiling an egg! 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:02 PM
64

This is my favourite comment so far. "Pickme mating call"... 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:59 PM
2

Fedoras, the style statement of "nice guys" who haven't updated their wardrobes, play video games in their parents basements and want you to call them daddy. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:04 PM
9

Or a cigarette hanging out of their mouth. People smoke, sure, but personally I think that it's super unattractive in photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:54 PM
3

That is GORGEOUS! Makes me think of Princess Jasmine 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:20 PM
3

This ring is gorgeous! And it looks great on you. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:13 PM
12

Not about a present but if you'd like any tips on travelling around NZ and and awesome less known spots let me know! I'm a Kiwi and love helping people plan trips to my beautiful homeland. So excited for you! 😊 PS. I tried to DM you but couldn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:16 PM
9

My neighbour went on a date with a guy she'd known for a few months and he picked her up in a Ferrari. She didn't know if he'd rented or borrowed it but said it was really weird and put her off because she knew didn't make enough to own one so why try so hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:12 PM
34

Something that's always stuck with me is when I was told that inaction is a form of action because you are choosing not to act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:32 PM
22

My mum absolutely loves buying and giving gifts so Dad gives her money and leaves her to it because that's what she prefers despite him offering multiple times to help. However, he'll get her awesome gifts (no vacuum cleaners or microwaves) that she's truly surprised by and usually things she's admired but decided not to buy because they're expensive or not practical enough to have a reason to buy. He'll also get people random gifts like pliers, jumper leads, containers for geocaching, craft sup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:23 PM
2

I need more laughter in my life! Yes please 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:10 AM
21

Haha, this reminded me of the time I had sex with someone I'd known years before and had bumped into at a wedding. Since a teenager he'd slept around and had a lot of stories about sleeping with married women etc. Anyway, during sex he said something along the lines of how good it must feel for me and how much I must be enjoying it. I literally said, "Feel what? I can't feel anything." Needless to say that killed the mood (for him, by that stage there was no mood on my end).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:11 PM
1

Congratulations, you're one in a million! I mean, one in 116,681... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:15 PM
5

You're right, this would NEVER be said to a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:34 PM
50

That totally works! I would never have been raped in this situation if only I'd said no. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:27 PM
4

You'd laugh along with me at all of the "it's just a joke," "why would you post this when it's clearly a joke" and "don't you know what a joke is?" comments that are being made but aren't showing up if you could see them (I can see them on notifications from Reddit on my phone but not on here)... Because men would NEVER pray on vulnerable women. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:12 AM
10

I get this too! He literally hung up on me one day when we were having a video call whwn I was crying because I'd gotten some bad news from home because I obviously wasn't in the mood to talk (his words). He then went on to say that that was the only was he could support me when I was upset despite me outlining what I'd find helpful. He responded exactly how your ex did. I don't understand how men who apparently love you refuse to do anything to comfort you when you're upset. Especially when you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:23 PM
30

It's seriously deplorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:32 PM
26

This sums up my boyfriend (soon to be ex, it's just taking me a moment to get used to the idea...). Whenever I raise an issue in our relationship he goes on about how I'm never happy despite him doing everything in his power to make me happy (complete BS). It's like, of course I'm not happy right now because I've clearly told you what upset/hurt me and how you could do small things/make small changes so it doesn't happen again yet you ignored it and played the victim card. Stop making me out to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:24 PM
22

This was only one example of the delightful conversations we had. Prior to this I needed to the toilet because I'd injured my knee and couldn't walk so I pushed the call button. When he arrived I explained that I needed help because I couldn't put any weight on my leg or bend it yet he asked why didn't just walk there myself. I'd literally just explained... THEN when he helped me onto the toilet he said he'd be just outside the door so to call out when I was done. So when I was done I called out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:23 PM
19

Oh no, I totally understand that that happens and agree with what you've said. So many people don't know this and as women it's something that we should be aware of. My comment was just to illustrate one of the many times I wasn't believed when I said that I wasn't currently sexually active. Up until recently becoming sexually active again I found it helpful to give a range as to when I last was and they're more likely to accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:11 PM
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I loved it (/s) when I was going in for minor surgery a few years back and was asked if there was any chance that I could be pregnant... Male nurse: Is there chance you're pregnant? Me: No Male nurse: Are you sure? Me: Yes Male Nurse: How can you be sure? Me: Because I haven't had sex in over 2 years Male nurse: But you could be pregnant Me: As I said, I haven't had sex in over two years and can give you the exact date (it was the night before something major happened and that's why I remembered…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:46 PM
5

Trust me, it's heading that way incredibly quickly. I haven't heard from him at all today and me reflecting on what happened has made me realise how much of an after thought I feel with him. I genuinely feel disrespected by him and I'm over it. We're meant to be having date night on Friday so whether I hear from him or not before then I'll be going round to get the few things I keep there and to end things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:09 PM
27

This! Just tonight my boyfriend got upset that I told him it was shitty of him to hang up on me (video call) when I was crying/upset. Kept on acting indignant but shut the hell up when I asked him if he'd do that to his daughter, sisters or mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:23 PM
19

Agreed! If you want to get something that will actually be appreciated and used find out what they're currently using or want to try. Most females love talking about products so if it's done subtly it's not hard to bring the conversation up. I'd rather get less more high quality items then loads of cheap crappy stuff like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:21 PM
9

One of my old social work professors used to say, "Communicating is like playing catch. Just because you throw the ball doesn't mean that the other person catches it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:48 PM
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