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Lol cool story, now do one about how an old spinster who self deleted with antidepressants and wine because she ended up alone after taking the advise from FDS lmao!
/r/TheRedPill20/07/21 03:58 PM
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Dude I absolutely detest your writing style and make no mistake, if I'm ever in control of a cruise missile I'm going to drop it right on your fucking head. However, at least most of what you write isn't complete horse shit. It's just a pain in the dick to slog through and read.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/21 03:42 AM
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I could google any 'problem' + 'asktrp' and answers were right there. Yup, Idk how the mods are running the new forums or if they're terrible at SEO but nothing of the new forms shows on google or DDG. They're trying to force people to go to the new forums by going private. They could have locked the questions sub but left it open so things could be easier to find.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 05:16 PM
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Finally some concise real talk with none of the "I don't need women, I'm too good for pussy" posturing people here are obsessed with.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/21 01:11 AM
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I've tried this but then everyone complains I'm an abrasive asshole. Or I come off as a salty and bitter bitch with a chip on my shoulder. I've yet to come to a good balance of asshole so people dont mistake my kindness as weakness.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:37 AM
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Could very well be your family just sucks. And because you were use to that, you made shitty friends too. This could be it. Although I've never been the "cool" one in any situation so It could also be me as well. At this point I guess it's better for me try and learn how to manage shitty people since we cant cut all of them out by choice. There will always be a shitty family member or coworker you cant get rid of.
/r/askTRP03/01/21 10:59 PM
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I love some of my family members, but society tells keeps telling you how important family is. I agree to a certain extent. I know what you mean. My family has taught me a good amount of lessons, especially in having thicker skin since I was a kid. My family has always had what I call the "no holds barred circular firing squad" we'd mercilessly poke fun at each other. The problem is that for a while the the firing squad has stopped being circular and its just been me taking all the punishment. U…
/r/askTRP03/01/21 10:46 PM
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thanks
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:47 PM
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I dont really watch porn or jerk off a lot. 1-2 times a week tops, If I dont I get horrible blue balls and waking up to soaked boxers doesn't really motivate me to do something with my day. Just makes me feel like shit.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:45 PM
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I'll check it out, thanks.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:43 PM
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This was very insightful and useful. Thank you!
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:39 PM
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I am currently having a lot of issues with sleep and sleep quality. I am trying lots of things to get through it but on some days I certainly just feel like going to bed all day or even just watching junk on TV since I dont feel like I have the energy to focus on anything. Same, I feel that I can sleep throughout the entire day but cant get to fucking sleep at night like normal people. I've always been a bit of a night owl but this on a completely new and very detrimental way. When I'm awake dur…
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:38 PM
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Sounds like you need #7 because you’re more interested in avoiding pain than you are in pursuing pleasure. That was actually very revealing.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:35 PM
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Thanks, I'll definitely give those a read.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:34 PM
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That's one of the reasons that I'm here to begin with. Not looking forward to repeating that again.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 05:33 PM
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Will do, after reading a lot of the comments here I'm starting to think that I might be way too hard on my self and my accomplishments. I just find it really hard to be proud of myself when even just the people around me are doing so much better off. I always feel several steps behind and its a pretty craptastic feeling.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:53 PM
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This is something I can definitely feel makes a difference. During the longest, happiest, most confident, and most productive time of my life I was working out like a mad man 6 times a week so I would be cooking for myself and meal prepping basically every day. Maybe the reason I'm in this rut is that I haven't used my stove in months.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:50 PM
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For physique, I always recommend Shaun-T's insanity. It's a tough, well defined hiit program that lasts 2 months, and toughens up your mentality if you've earlier been a lazy ass. All you gotta do is brainlessly keep up with the video (pm me. I'll share download link if you don't find it). This is actually my favorite workout program, yet I've never actually finished it. Answer is simple. The brain is a good servant but a terrible master. You don't have well defined goals to hit in the morning. …
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:44 PM
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EDIT: This sub has a serious issue with constantly telling people to "snap themselves to reality", "there is only 1 life", and "you just gotta do it man". And that shit works for 2 weeks or a month max, and then most people go to their old selves. This is exactly my problem. I get to a point where I start reverting to the version of my self I hate and that I'm desperately trying to kill off but it keeps coming back. I KNOW I have the power to stop my self but I either dont know how or just simpl…
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:38 PM
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Well, given the fact I haven been laid and I'm almost 30 is a thought that plagues my mind daily. Sometimes it takes so much energy just to try and keep those thoughts at bay that I really dont want to do anything else. Zaps me of a lot of mental energy.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:34 PM
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lol this is some real thanksimcured advice but I know you mean well. I actually really enjoy hitt cardio but I'm suck in an apartment rn and my state is being a real bitchlet about lockdown so I got no where to go. The closest thing to intense cardio that I can get is running with a 30lb plate carrier. I've been slowly working my way up to running two miles straight with it.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 06:31 PM
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You're going to get a "vacation" when a mod sees this. If she cheated with you, what makes you thing she wont cheat on you....? My life's a fucking mess and even I can put this shit together.......
/r/askTRP24/08/20 11:22 AM
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I realized this a while ago. I was writing down the what I thought were the problems I had meeting women and it just kind of dawned on me that I just didn't know any. I might not even be bad at the whole game and talking to them, I'm just not constantly in places where natural connections might happen. Also being 29 like OP, learning to socialize at this age has been so painful and frustrating. No one gives you a pass for being even remotely awkward. I really hate that I missed my opportunity fo…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:52 PM
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I wouldn't know, I didn't start doing the whole social media thing until afterwards as I learned the importance of social proof. She did have this infuriating and idiotic habit of watching dozens of shows about people finding and falling in love. During and after it always made me feel super shitty and inadequate because I was doing every thing I could to make sure she felt loved and wanted but she would never acknowledge it much less reciprocate. It took a while for me to realize that I was the…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/20 04:23 AM
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You're trying to make it work, she has no interest, time or energy to put in. Everything you do, no matter how great, doesn't fucking matter. That one mistake is the only thing she will acknowledge. Dude where you a fly on the wall of my last "relationship"? ​ Setting up dates was like pulling teeth because "she was too tired" or "she was stressed out." Nothing I ever did was good enough or worthy of anything remotely resembling praise. Random mood swings from affectionate to indifferent and col…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/20 02:26 AM
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There are times to kill and times to fight. While I'm not necessarily disagreeing, is that the only reason? Getting into street fights is a good way to end up with manslaughter charges. I've seen way too many videos of drunk morons fight and one ends up twitching on the ground after being slammed. I don't see the point of fighting drunk morons trying to amog you. Now if someone is trying to mug me or something along those lines, the gun is coming out.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/20 05:35 AM
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Op why do a lot of people recommend learning martial arts? I honestly dont see the point of it when I carry a firearm everywhere I go.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/20 05:06 AM
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Oh yea, if you're the poor prepubescent kid of some woke karen, PUMP'EM FULL OF HORMONES!! some mentally ill woman thinking shes a man.. UMP'EM FULL OF HORMONES!! some woman who hit the wall and has menopause..UMP'EM FULL OF HORMONES!! Men who are actually struggling with low t: ... oh man up its in your head...
/r/askTRP22/04/20 04:57 PM
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Yup, my ex had a plethora of issues that I was too dumb and not aware enough at the time to recognize. Primarily when it came to intimacy and physical contact. I wasn't smart enough at the time to just cut my losses and run. The more time that went on and the more I was denied physically the more my confidence took a hit. It took me along time to recover and yet to a place where I was just ok and I've get to get that irrational confidence level back. Lesson learned, confident, low self esteem bi…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:30 AM
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Speaking form experience this can happen the other way around as well if your frame isn't strong enough. Insecure bitches will leach your confidence from you like a tick and then dump you thinking they are better than you. Painful lesson to learn but at least I know now.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:56 AM
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In the US there are TRT/Mens health clinics now that actually take men seriously when they talk about this shit. If the doctor deems it "necessary" insurance will cover it. Some injections can be as cheap as $20 a week.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:46 AM
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I've been honestly thinking about doing this. I don't know why its so stigmatized. If given the option why wouldn't I choose to feel awesome and like a man until the day that I kick the bucket. Society isn't going to serve me pussy or drive and success on a plate so if an injection or pellet can get me that then fuck it why the hell not. I'm losing the care if something is natural anymore, nothing is natural anymore.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:42 AM
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Fortunately this is changing albeit slowly in the US. There are now men's health clinics that deal specifically with this and their number is steadily increasing. Basically male doctors who specialize with men's issues like testosterone and the like.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:34 AM
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It's sad that needs to be said but I'd glad you put it out there OP. I have 3 examples to add: From a girl that I ghosted after an awful first date: "hey we haven't talked in a while, sucks that were locked in because I could really use a burger. Maybe we can catch up and get a drink after this is all done." Yea no I'm not buying you food. You dangling the carrot of a potential date down the line was cute but I'm not stupid. Single mom that didn't put out on first date so I ghosted her. At least…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/20 02:45 AM
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From one software engender to another: rm -f her ass from your life. I went through something similar and It will never get better. If a girl has not put out by date 3 she never will. You'll just end up hurt, heartbroken, and broken in more ways than you can count. Leave while you're not a broken and insecure mess and find someone else.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 04:56 PM
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I’m curious as to whether this extends to men with tattoos. oblivious not. cuZ ChADs hAve taTS bReH. For people who talk about the hamster and double standards they do a lot of the same.......
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 04:08 PM
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well I'm glad i found at least one useful comment on this thread.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 04:06 PM
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As someone who's unfortunately almost 30 and still stuck being a virgin during no point of my tormented and lonely existence have I ever thought: "oh you know what will make me feel better, giving my hard earned money to a cam girl or e-thot" I guess I can take solace that at least have a chance of getting laid one day because I've never been that pathetic and beta.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 08:07 PM
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this hits home because this is how I feel trying to learn game and how to flirt but no fucking girl wants to toss me the fucking controller to even try. And of course when I decide to work up the nerve to just brute force my way through and either learn by just throwing my self at the problem or get banned from every bar in town all the fucking bars had to close.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/20 03:44 AM
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Jeez y'all sound worse than the attention starved thots on social media. "Muh body is deflating!! MUH GYM BRO!!" I guess all you "men" aint shit without the external validation of lifting weights. Y'all act like the only way to work out is going to the gym and mindlessly lifting weights like a drone. HIIT cardio, body weight exercises, home workout routines, p90x, the list goes on and on of shit you can do. Learn a new skill, improve your current career skills. There is a difference between a ro…
/r/askTRP01/04/20 08:45 PM
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I really hope this is sarcasm.
/r/askTRP01/04/20 08:40 PM
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Been on the keto diet for a long time. Also being part Italian probably also helps
/r/askTRP20/02/20 04:04 AM
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just add olive oil to everything 1tbsp= 100-120cal
/r/askTRP19/02/20 04:03 AM
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You’re making the women at the bar the goal. I kind of have to but not from a desperation sense. Unfortunately most of this does not come natural to me. There have been plenty of times that I've gone out and didn't make a move because I completely forgot that I was at a bar to try and flirt/ pick someone up. I don't know if I just need more practice or it its my head trying to shield me from embarrassment due to my lack of night/bar game. Its great that I had a good conversation and time with so…
/r/askTRP14/02/20 05:53 AM
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I'm not try to project an aura for girls to like me necessarily. I'm trying to correct shitty coping or lack of social intelligent that unfortunately I didn't learn/taught growing up. I'm been told with abundance from people that have gotten to know me that I seemed super unapproachable or that they were really intimidated by me at first. I can admit that I can be incredibly oblivious when it comes to IOI's and girls social Q's. For example I can go out to a bar and be completely happy whatever …
/r/askTRP14/02/20 05:39 AM
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TLDR; Stop playing it safe and start taking risks/ actually living. I know I've dealt with this bullshit before thanks to my parents always telling me to "play it safe." All that did was make me a fucking late bloomer who cares too much about outcomes and wouldn't take risks; thanks mom for making me a complete risk adverse little bitch and thanks dad for talking to your beer bottles more than your two sons. "What if she doesn't like me or think I'm dumb", "what if I cant do XYZ at this job I wa…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/20 07:32 PM
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To start off this was not a personal attack at you and I'm not pointing my anger canon at you personally. What I am pointing it at is a flaired user shilling tradcon bullshit fantasies. Look, since you have several kids im going to assume you're at minimum 10 years older than I am, congrats you got to live in the final moments of marriage 2.0. Good for you, you got to live out part of what most men pursue in life, honest to god I'm jealous. Now to address your individual points, NO I was not a "…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/12/19 05:08 AM
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Well it was just a matter of time for this gay ass retarded analogy to make it over to this sub. Anybody actually trying to get laid disregard this entire "story". I've spent over a decade trying to be the "sheepdog", trying to be a "good man" and its brought me nothing but pain, disappointment, loneliness, and sexual frustration. Yea being almost 30 and a virgin is fantastic..... You think the sheep actually thank the sheepdog for keeping them safe? The sheep dog are just supposed to do their j…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/12/19 07:52 AM
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See this is a problem all smart guys have, we're think about communication has an equitable exchanging of common ideas with the goal of making ourselves smarter. I think this is why I struggled with small talk for so long and still do sometimes. Small talk is just verbal slop that comes out of peoples mouth because they cant stand the silence of their empty heads. I think this is why I dont enjoy gaming women yet. Everything is a conscious action. I feel like I have to pinch the hose and just le…
/r/askTRP12/11/19 05:32 AM
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Look man, as someone who was shamed into being the "good older son" and it being "my responsibility" to take care of my worthless parents the only piece of advice I can give you is FUCK'EM. I'm stuck in a shit living situation because I had to move back home. My parents mortgaged the house to keep my equally worthless brother out of jail and Its fucking with my progression in too many ways to count. I'm constantly broke because they cant afford the payments so now I have to pay their loan off so…
/r/askTRP12/11/19 05:12 AM
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Piss on the bf to establish dominance
/r/askTRP11/11/19 03:13 AM
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As much as it pains me to admit this I got strung along for 4 months on some similar bullshit and at that point I was too inexperienced to cut my losses. Let me know if any of these sound familiar: "I don't feel comfortable rn" "I need more time" "I feel like I don't know you, we need to talk more" "I'm not really a physical person" OP if any of those sound even remotely familiar, don't try to calibrate, don't change what you're doing, and DO NOT give in to whatever shes asking for. Just cut you…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 03:18 AM
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I'm going to try to help you out even with your cunt ass attitude because I just started to overcome this and I know how confusing and frustrating it is. You're stuck in limbo, It happens. Atm you're either a beta who wants to act too alpha and haven't earned it or cant pull it off. (Are you in shape? Are you dressing well?) OR A knock off alpha that still gives off too many beta undertones to be taken seriously. Picture it this way: Cold water is refreshing, hot water makes coffee. Right now yo…
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:36 AM
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Sorry to break it to you but that's not monk mode. You developed discipline. When most people talk about monk mode they thing its some zen buda shit where they can become completely antisocial and isolated to"work on them selves." A large majority of problems that people here have need to be addressed outside of your house, i.e. you cant fix social anxiety by reading about it. It sounds like you developed discipline to work on yourself during the majority of your day which is good and what most …
/r/TheRedPill10/09/19 12:58 AM
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he's such an controlling loser too! she obviously should be to cc ride on his dime without consequence !!
/r/askTRP04/09/19 01:34 AM
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you spelt "real world advice" wrong
/r/askTRP04/09/19 01:26 AM
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I completely understand how you feel. I gave my ex everything and asked for little in return. I mentored her, I gave her career advice, I consoled her and reassured her after a death of a family member and her childhood pet in the same week, I didn't use her physical and mental insecurities against her, I helped her with her anxiety and anxiety attacks. I treated her like a human being accepting of her faults because nobody is perfect. I was her rock, I was was the light house guiding her to por…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 05:29 AM
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Mind sharing some of the tells? I had a previous experience with a girl who I thought fit the second criteria but it never panned out. I want to see if I was right and something else happened or if I was being retarded.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 04:04 AM
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Definitely normal I figured as much I just wanted to double check. Tbh knowing that shes "so experienced" took a lot of the pressure away and made actually look forward to having fun and enjoying my self since I know its pretty much a done deal. I know this should be my attitude in general but I'm not quite there yet. I also know it probably wont be along term thing, this girl's ig is nothing but "chad insert here" booty picks and if her little "collection" is anything to go on she most likely h…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 04:22 PM
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Christ.... yea man I think I'm ok letting your family take the psychotic mvp award on that one.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 01:00 AM
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You're not being an asshole at all. I know I have a lot of things to work on. I just started to work on my life in general so I know I'm way behind. The reason I haven't used any dating apps is because the main sub advises against it for the most part. I can see why too, its a validation farm for women. A fairy tale land where even a 2 thinks she deserves a 10 and she wont settle lol. I also lack social skills so I think its better to go out and try to meet people. That way I can knock out two b…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 12:57 AM
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Its not my ego that I'm worried about. My family has a history of substance abuse and I had friends who went down the hooker route and got addicted to them. One lives paycheck to paycheck because he spends every cent he has on hookers. The second caught herpes and the third one is in jail because he got caught in "full service" parlor. I'm working very hard to untangle the mess that is currently my life and I don't see adding more unnecessary risk being productive.
/r/askTRP18/08/19 08:58 PM
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I've been looking for team sports and thinks like that to naturally expand my social circle. I have hobbies that I really enjoy but they are mostly solitary activities. My family has a history of substance abuse and I see the allure to hookers. Pay, fuck them however you want and that's it. I had old friends who went down the hooker route and they became addicted to hookers. One is in jail because he got caught in "happy ending" parlor sting op. One lives paycheck to paycheck because he spends e…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 08:53 PM
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I've been trying to meet and approach women outside of my social circle but its gotten me nowhere. Its like I give off a vibe or have some sort of subconscious block. I alienated the large majority of my social circle when I took the pill and went rambo for 6ish months. Surprise surprise I guess people dont like hanging out with people who make them feel like they are lacking. I know getting set up with the damaged sluts of my remaining social circle is not ideal but I have to start somewhere. I…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 08:45 PM
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Thanks for your advice. That's on the top of my list of things to get done. I've essentially cut out all my old friends out of my life because they were all shit people with no ambitions besides getting high or drunk every day. My worthless father made some awful financial decisions so i was shamed into moving back home to help him. I realize how much of a mistake this was as I just added more problems to my life. Then I lost my job and got stuck where I am. Lucky I've been nailing interviews la…
/r/askTRP18/08/19 08:34 PM
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You beat me to the punch. I figured if I become a patient and nice man women will eventually be overcome with lust at my niceness and pussy will fall into my lap.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 12:52 AM
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I think I know what you're talking about. I've seen women that cling on to their man like hes the oxygen that they need to live. I used to thing that the dude was really lucky and found "his one." I know what's really going on now and that does seem way better that other couples that I've seen where every thing the woman does for her man is a massive favor and inconvenience. I'm trying to find my confidence again but when I was at the height of my confidence and when I felt that I was at a launc…
/r/askTRP15/05/19 06:12 AM
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Can you elaborate on what you mean by lagging indicators? I did have goals the biggest one was starting a family. Since my mid teens I knew I wanted to be a father I don't know why I just did. Unfortunately that involves marriage and women. If artificial wombs are ever a thing I know 100% women will try to shame and stigmatize men who take that route and leave them in the dumps but I don't care. That and the sexbots might restore the natural order of things again in the future.
/r/askTRP15/05/19 06:02 AM
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Thank you for pointing this out. There is so much stuff in the side bar that sometimes I get lost and didn't even know this was a thing. I was definitely angry before, just looking for someone to give me an excuse to go nuclear. I'm still angry but no where near as before; now its mostly sadness, and what appears to be an endless pit of disappointment and nihilism. Is there anything I can do to expedite this part of the process? I'm doing my best to not let this derail my workouts or reading the…
/r/askTRP15/05/19 05:47 AM
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Would you mind explaining how I'm still in her frame? ​ I know have a bunch of pent up shit that I'm holding in. I've been trying to slowly work through it a chunk at at time by my self. The only person that I ever felt comfortable talking about anything like this is the person that caused all this turmoil. This person was a very close friend before she was anything else and that trust apparently didn't mean anything. Needless to say I don't even trust my own shadow at the moment so I'm not real…
/r/askTRP02/05/19 03:50 AM
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