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clearlyathrowaway323/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 12:24 PM
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I wrote 3 ppl down but am uncertain they are suitable. My therapist(female), people from my men's bible study and a friend of mine. I worry they may agree and/or push the nice guy mentality. Who did you end up going with?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 04:01 PM
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You're so right. I've received the books, have been NMMNG and doing the actions. I will be quiet about TRP and TRPW now and we'll see if she drops it or wants to keep going with it. Either way I'm on board. Thanks for your insightful responses, you've helped a brother out.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 12:08 AM
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There is a real something called a postnuptial (and its not divorce). People choose to sign them because they gain certain advantages and agree about how the future is supposed to operate.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 11:44 PM
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This. Shit men rarely get their licks on here. Whenever I read field reports about a "alpha" spinning a married plate, I usually think "what a weak asshole, this guy can't even get his own girl or doesnt have the self respect to say no to whores"
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 06:17 PM
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Also particularly interested because I'm considering postnuptial for my cheater wife
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 06:14 PM
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And unfortunately also the better SMV your wife is (objectively, not beta oneitis) the more likely she is to cheat
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 06:12 PM
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Yeah thats fair to use the term churchy. Just like many extreme actions are not islamic, many Christians do crazy things too.
/r/askTRP17/01/15 04:41 PM
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I learned to see contextualized alpha/beta in churches. Growing up in the church, I got a front row seat to the show that Christian girls put on. They're super into "waiting", except if its with the " cute" super spiritual youth pastor or guitar/singer in the worship band. They have a different metric than other groups of women, but they still spread for their "alphas"... Also christian girls will often get all wet for a " badboy" and fuck him and bring him to youth group to "save" him. He'll us…
/r/askTRP17/01/15 06:35 AM
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Yup you're bang on. I am waffling hard. Its a decade of my life and I'm not going to throw out the good aspects without consideration. You're right that it needs to be more ME focused. Lots of people are giving me guff over having her read the red pill women materials. I thought that material was good for her? It seems to come across as the ying to RPs yang. Its all about femininity and understanding her longings (and hence why she went out of the marriage), no? I'll admit that I'm nowhere near …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/15 02:18 AM
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From all that I've read online its a temporary thing. Its more about him and the cheating than her being attractive. But I guess why should I find a cheater attractive ever?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 11:50 PM
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Wow. Thanks for so much content. It will take a few reads to absorb this. I have got her to read redpillwomen posts. I know TRP is for men, but there is the counter point where she has been reading RPW posts and saying "this is exactly what my mom does to my dad, I've never been comfortable with it and now I'm her..." And other similar points. You're right though, I do need to get this back to me. I am the inky thing I can control in this situation and I need to get some frame around not minding…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 11:45 PM
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Oh yeah, I've totally seen her do that before. Maybe not with the same intensity, but that pattern... Nice girl until she knows she won't get her way, then she turns vengeful. Like a cat that pisses on your rug when you scold her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 06:04 AM
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If you decide to divorce, watch what happens. Say goodbye to the wife you thought you knew. I dont understand what this means.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 02:23 AM
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I dont need that in my country.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 02:20 AM
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Yes, and I told her that our problems are not a factor for her affairs. There is a sickness inside her that has to be solved. When you're unhappy in a relationship, you say something, you get heard, you find a counsellor or you end it (and then fuck someone else). Doing whilst you have a commitment to someone is always, always wrong, no matter the case.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 02:19 AM
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That's a good point. I called her out on her hampstering thoughts "it was just once".. No, it was several EA with a prolonged mutinous PA, one where she would have made out with him and hours later looked me in the eyes and lied. She seems to be owning this, seems to be disgusted with herself. Unfortunately I do not trust my ability to actually judge that at all. I couldn't tell when she was as guilty as (literal) fuck, what proves or even makes me think she isn't just lying now? Nothing does. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 02:16 AM
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I think there is more to this decision than just me. But you're right, I should be evaluating that aspect, it shouldn't be just about who she becomes, but what's available to me. What is available to a 30s, 190lb 15% BF, low six figure earner? My confidence is fucked though...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 01:59 AM
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I guess I'm waffling on the choice between seeing if she shapes up (she's reading RPW and basically saying "oh my god, yes"), retaining the decade we've spent together, the fact that she gave her virginity to me (cock count 2 is below avg) and the alternative of having to start over, likely with a woman who has rode the cock carousel for a decade, been divorced, potentially has kids. I mean, the youngest I could get away with is 22 (bachelor grad) and even then virginity is pretty much assured t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 01:57 AM
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Would you recommend I fuck her brains out if she presents her self? I am not exactly into it anymore because thoughts of him, not attracted to who she has shown herself to be. Is there grounds to turn down a girl in RP? If I do will I lose my option to take her later?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 01:51 AM
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They cum in your girl and let the neurochemistry do the rest
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 01:37 AM
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Not really. I'm just saying that if I want a "free pass", I will end it and then take what I want. The woman she is I whole do not want. The question is can/do people change. I learned today that 70% of affairs end in divorce. That makes me much more confident to take that step, I'm not being unreasonably hard if I kill it, I'm being full on normal in fact. But regardless of the stats, I need to introspect and learn me and what I want out of life and watch to see if she is becoming that or if I …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 01:25 AM
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Of course that's tempting. But I don't see the reason for us to both do horrible things. If I want that I'll leave her, I am a man of honor, not a piece of shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/15 06:02 PM
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I appreciate your comments. I'll be demanding no less than a break, a post nup, and some damn good proof that she's become a RPW and a change in myself to affair guard this relationship (me more alpha). I may demand the right to date some, and a period of her own "singleness" ( no dating, and not with me) to push her own growth. You could say I did promise forever with marriage, but yeah, I havent said it in might of these events.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 11:57 PM
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Yeah, most of what you said may be true. I'll probably never know. I'm going to tell her that I love her and we'll get past this etc, but I need to know it all, no trickle truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 04:58 PM
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Naw. Its full blown. Masturbated 2 times a day to porn and wished my wife was those false things in the movies. I know better and have healed lots. I've cut my use down 85% and am on a streak. That part of me is alphatizing (is that a word?)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 04:24 AM
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I did as you said and got a lot of details. I'll add them to the original post.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 02:33 AM
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No kids, thank god.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 02:30 AM
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At first my reasons were just to appease her and keep divorce at bay. Now I'm doing nofap it because it makes me feel like shit when I do. I believe I am a sex addict and want to reset my brain to clear up that status. Later I will begin to have sex again in a healthy way, which will involve loving tender relationship with a single woman. Most of you will scoff, but this is what my sick mind needs to remain healthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 02:28 AM
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I have not. I have ordered NMMNG though. Amazon cannot deliver fast enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 02:24 AM
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Her confession and communication since have said something to the effect of She saw i was getting my shit together, that i was growing and that it slapped her in the face about who she is vs who she wants/ought to be. She claims she did it because she recognized she could not have both a secret and a relationship and she wants the latter. She has not given a vibe of "I can get it elsewhere" or "I can/will do this again" .
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 03:28 PM
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Not sure about the final hit of drama, but your words ring true. It does feel like she waited until the guilt ate her alive and in her last gasp tries for the truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 03:25 PM
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This. Very good point. Imagine I get hospitalized because Im defending her ass at a bar, I dont want to wake up from a coma to her sucking that guys cock. ... Ok that was a bit more aggro than I like, but yes, having my back is as important as her feeling like she had mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 03:10 PM
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You are correct. As married men, we have to nurture from a strong position, as in, beta behavior from an alpha position. In my situation, I failed several comfort tests which led her to seek emotional validation elsewhere. Yes, my omission. As a functional non PIED sex addict, I had lots of sex with her. A big part of the problem (I've been reading RP posts all morning) is that I didnt communicate that I liked being sexual with her and in her mind (and in reality) a lot of the sexuality that was…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 02:53 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I will order and read that book (NMMNG) and have signed up on the forum. I will post there shortly, but am really tired right now (Have been up since 3am, pain is a bitch). You are right about what must be done. I am going to have to do it either way, with or without her. I am going to the gym now :P . I've been writing a response to her and your point of actions vs words is bang on, killer. It actually sticks out very poignantly and informs my future course. Thank you …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 02:50 PM
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I posted here because I do subscribe to redpill mentality, though I am clearly lax in my application. Thanks for the advice. I will begin to action it immediately. I particularly like your perspective of blaming her for my Beta. What would you make of the fact that my wife confessed, claiming it being the only way she saw to save the marriage? Does that sound hampstery or do you think that is genuine? I see that others have commented on this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 02:24 PM
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Not to contradict your point, but I dont understand how I wasnt good enough for her hypergamy? I was always sexual with her. She basically fell for this guy over what I understand to be beta traits, no? She fell for acceptance, comfort, valuation etc. and then responded with sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 01:41 PM
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word. Thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 01:33 PM
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Thanks your POV. I really appreciate the advice of someone who has been married a while. If she cheated on me, I would leave no questions and no remorse. Do you feel there would be room in your heart and a way for her to atone? I generally agree with your sentiments, but am reluctant to discard a salvageable decade of my life. If it is even salvageable that is.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 01:14 PM
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Thanks for replying. Do you believe there is a decent possibility that she is sincere and sincerely could change her ways? Or is it your feeling that its only a show? I'm not trying to be all Beta, but I do not want to undervalue the 10 or so years we've been in eachothers' lives.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 12:45 PM
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