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Yeah I was glad to see at least the comments weren't a bunch of LVM telling her she's being controlling or some of their typical nonsense. What a collosal asshole her husband is. So much for "in sickness and in health." And he has the audacity to shame her because he didn't want a child anyways. Ugh these men I swear. So infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:55 PM
14

That was a really long winded way of saying "wahhhhh why won't women touch my penis?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:25 PM
14

He's absolutely an LVM. He's been texting you all the things you want to hear because talk is cheap. It takes little effort for him to string you along via text. Actions speak louder than words and he just showed you very clearly where his priorities lie and how he really feels. If he was really excited to see you, he would. If you were really special to him, he wouldn't blow you off like that. Shit, my husband turned out to be a major LVM but even he used to drive 7 hours to see me every other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:21 AM
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I'm so proud of you and happy for you. Leaving is hard to do, especially when for years they have ground down your energy, self esteem, and finances. I'm in the same boat except I haven't told him I want him to leave yet. It's scary to do, especially when you've been with them for many years. I wish you the best of luck, I know that a year from now you'll be kicking ass and living on your own terms without some asshole dragging you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:08 AM
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That's really good to hear. I'm about to be starting over at 38 after an 11 year relationship with a NVM. He literally hasn't worked in years, plus he's messy, verbally abusive and a manipulative liar. I'm so tired of it, I do everything around the house plus I'm the sole earner supporting him and his son who used to be sweet but is growing up to be just like his father. My whole social circle is all through him so I will have to make new friends and everything. I'm terrified of dating again and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:05 AM
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She apparently made like $28k over the course of three months but they make the girls buy their own clothing, makeup, pay rent at that scumbag talent agent's house. Also she said that they were at the club every night getting bottle service, buying tons of weed and coke, and generally just blowing money left and right. There was a scene where one girl talked about how generous one producer was, because he paid for half of her Plan B the day after a scene where the guy came inside her. What a pri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:57 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you but glad that you got away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 04:24 AM
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I wish I could upvote this 9,000 times. There is something deeply wrong with a man who is in his 30's or 40's and wants to date an 18-21 year old woman. I'm in my late 30's and 18 year olds look like children to me. They are literally the age of my son. You see posts all the time on r/relationships with a 40 year old man complaining that his 20 year old girlfriend is immature. Well yeah dude, no shit. She IS immature and you're dating someone who could be your child but expecting them to comport…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:59 PM
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It seems like some white men consider individual black people as some kind of spokesperson for all black people, that can pat him on the head and grant him "woke points." As a Jewish person it makes me think of the book, The Sunflower. It's by Eli Weizel and it tells the story of when he was in Auschwitz and was brought to the bedside of a dying Nazi who wanted Eli to absolve him of his sins against all Jews. The audacity was unbelievable. That's what I imagine it must feel like to constantly ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:45 PM
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Wow, 70 years old, doesn't have a job, and needs a hot young woman to bear children AND financially support him. Just what every young woman wants. Let's not all rush to take this tempting offer at once, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:20 PM
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I found it incredibly sad. It shows the life cycle of the "pro-amateur" porn star from start to finish. Basically most of them are freshly 18 year old girls who think they are going to be the next big thing in porn and make money and have this glamorous lifestyle. They all parrot the typical bullshit about how it's "empowering" and "they're having sex anyways so why not get paid for it." Then you watch over the course of 3 months (the average length of a porn career) as they get hurt, and disill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:09 PM
10

Oh wow, I'm sure he's already got young beautiful women lining up around the block to "bare" his "caucasion" children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:00 PM
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That has to be so exhausting to deal with on top of all the other shit you have to deal with just for being a woman. He reminds me of those people in Get Out, when they just blurt out, apropos of nothing, that they voted for Obama, because they have to signal how woke they are to every black person and can't just treat people normally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:35 AM
42

The Venn diagram of men who can't afford the 2 for $20 special at Applebee's and those who think all women are gold diggers only after their money is a circle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:49 AM
9

I stopped at the part where you're 18 and he's 32. Know why he goes for you? Because (no offense) a woman his own age would have the life experience to know that he isn't living with his ex-girlfriend...he's living with his actual girlfriend. You are his young side piece. It's fucking weird that he's pushing you to have kids and you aren't even living together. So many red flags here it's more like a giant red banner with flashing lights and alarms around it. Block him and never speak to him aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:14 AM
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Are there? I've never heard of any. Not a single one. There's plenty of men who LIE about not watching porn though. Maybe maybe there are guys who only watch porn occasionally. But never? I doubt it. It's too ubiquitous these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:09 AM
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So much this. The bar is so low for men, that finding one who has a steady job, cleans up after himself, and treats you with respect and kindness is like finding a unicorn. We have women thanking guys for things like walking a drunk female friend home and not taking advantage of her. "Thanks for not raping me, you're a great guy!!" The bare minimum is basically just being a functional adult and human being, and they can't even manage that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:06 AM
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It's worse than getting treated like a prostitute. Prostitutes at least get paid. This fucker just wants free sex. He wants a pre-date to see if they'll vibe on a date? Ugh, gotta be the dumbest most transparent attempt at getting free sex ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:40 AM
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Especially since she literally IS contemplating doing it to make him jealous. She's letting him occupy real estate in her mind by fantasizing about how he'll see her pics and be so regretful of what he lost. But he won't, because most men aren't capable of that kind of introspection. He'll either not give a shit, or he'll try to use it later to get an "in" with her down the road. Block and move on, OP, anything else is just giving him power that he shouldn't have anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:33 AM
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Just block him. Think about this: the opposite of love isn't hate, it's apathy. If you're still focused on getting back at him, showing him what he's lost, etc, then you still care way too much. It shouldn't matter whether he regrets it or not. Who gives a fuck. You sure as hell shouldn't. Just move on with your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:29 AM
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The titles alone are such a turnoff. They are either outright fucking disgusting or just creepy and disturbing. What is the deal with the incest porn? I know that the performers aren't really related but it seems like every video is "son destroys slutty mom" or something and it grosses me out so much I can't even think about watching it. I've never been less aroused than when looking at the front page of pornhub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:26 AM
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Aaaannnd this is why we're so adamant that porn isn't "empowering." There's a whole generation of young girls growing up thinking that allowing men to degrade and abuse you is empowerment. It's the fucking opposite. My daughter is 12 and I am making sure that she does not grow up thinking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:22 AM
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No, luckily lol. On Reddit he spent an entire evening following me around and replying to every comment I left everywhere with some sexist contradictory nonsense, getting increasingly pissed off every time I would point out the fallacies and contradictions in his arguments. His fallback every time he got argued into a corner was "whatever, I don't care, I'm mgtow anyways, I'm done with women." So I was like...well fucking go then LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 05:01 AM
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I told that to one of those mgtow guys before. He was following me around commenting a bunch of sexist bullshit about everything I said, because I triggered him. I was like....you sure seem concerned for a guy who is "going their own way." Like if you are then just...go already, and leave me alone. Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:23 AM
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We already know what they'd say- they call this subreddit a "hate sub" just for saying we expect guys to (gasp) do more than the bare minimum in a relationship. They'd be crying and downvoting furiously while talking about how terrible and shallow these feeeemales are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:19 AM
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Anecdotally- I had my first child at 19 and it was full of complications, and I ended up having to get an emergency C-section. Had my next one at 25 and it was a totally normal pregnancy, I did have an elective C-section though. I was told by the doc the first time that age 19 is riskier than being in ones mid-20's. Seems like 25-34 is more like the optimal time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 08:09 AM
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Lol at how he thinks he's so charming and charismatic, then comes out with that awful "cutecumber" line. Meanwhile he's also so oblivious to social cues that he obviously thought his sister in law's uncomfortable, awkward laughter was her being receptive to his juvenile attempts at flirting. What a douche canoe. That explains why he got a wife 15 years his junior- women in their late 30's are long since done with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:31 AM
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Aside from his thirsty shenanigans, there's more red flags here. He called you bitchy? So he also name calls you. If you were snapping at him for something undeserved, a HVM would say "hey, it upsets me when you snap at me" or something to that effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:02 AM
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I think my vagina just clamped shut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:39 AM
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No, it's called being a normal person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:56 PM
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Depends what you mean by boring. Does he have an uninteresting but stable career and generic interests? It's not glamorous but that might mean he's just a reliable and predictable guy which is honestly comforting and positive for a lot of women (especially when we've been with unstable/unreliable but "exciting" men). If by boring you mean he has no motivation, ambition, doesn't really do much with his life but sit around playing video games and watching football- well, that's bad-boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:50 PM
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Claro que si!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:55 AM
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Nice! I was just talking about my experience in Iraq in another post so it's opportune seeing this. I saw some shit over there with regards to how they treat women and it was very very very bad. They'd sexually harass us while their wives looked on from the back of their truck, literally sitting amongst fucking goats or chickens (no joke) as if they were barely livestock themselves. I'm so happy for them for doing this. Hopefully a lot has changed since the early 2000's when I was there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:36 AM
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I was happy to see all the other comments- many from other men- calling him on his "but mah biology" bullshit. The top commenter said it perfectly. We're humans, and what sets us apart from other animals is the ability to be more than our biology. You don't cheat the same way you don't sit around eating cake all day, bashing someone's head in with a rock when angry, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:17 AM
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Ugh yes that's so rough. And being as he's your ex for a reason I bet he's less than diligent about maintaining the same rules. It is tough. It does get better though and you sound like you're doing the right stuff. When mine was very young and struggling with all his autism tics we had a really hard time of it for awhile. There were weeks that I swear the teachers called me just about every day with some new thing, apart with what I was dealing with at home LOL. But he sounds like a good kid an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:32 AM
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Thanks! When it came to chores, mine struggled at first and of course tried to do the whole "I suck at loading the dishwasher so maybe I should just stop" thing but I wasn't having it. What really helped, and I hear is also helpful for ADD, is having a really structured routine. Every day, right when he walked in the door, it was straight to chores (me literally standing over him while he did them, sometimes) then homework, then do whatever he wants. Day after day until it became a force of habi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:19 AM
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Yeah, the meds are IMO the least important part of it. It's the coping strategies that they need to learn that are really going to help in the long term. My son actually is high-functioning autistic and I could have medicated him but we did 3 years of intensive therapy instead and now you can't really even tell. The schools always always try to push the meds because they don't want to deal with shit. Plus everyone likes to think there's a magic pill. It's really awesome that you resisted them, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:10 AM
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Yeah, ADD is really hard. It's good that apart from the ADD he's a good and empathetic kid. My current (awful) partner has it, diagnosed by several docs, and of course blames all of his foibles on it. His son likely has it too, but he's so resistant to any coping strategies it's impossible to teach him. I unfortunately don't see him turning the corner; if I don't get out of here soon I'll be supporting two manchildren instead of just one. The only way they'll change is when forced to sink or swi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:58 AM
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I have two sons- my own, and a stepson. My partner and I have always sort of parented our own kids and don't overstep the other's wishes. My son, who I primarily raised, was always a sensitive and considerate boy. I always encouraged him to be self sufficient, instead of doing things for him I'd teach him how to do it himself. He was able to clean up his appearance, dress & go to the bus stop by himself, bring his own lunch and do his own homework and chores before going out with friends, since …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:20 AM
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Better that than being asked to pay ALL the bills, while also doing ALL the housework.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:59 AM
12

Right? Once a guy I was talking to told me I'd be a perfect 10 if I lost 15 lbs. My reaction was... unfavorable. He completely torpedoed any chance of sleeping with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:11 AM
12

Yeah I struggle with self esteem and LVMs and when I've been negged (not knowing at the time what was happening) I just got pissed off and walked away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:09 AM
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And she actually thinks he's being loyal by jacking off to her pics without committing to her. It's like Olympic levels of pick me-ness. Shit, I'm with an LVM but I've never been under any illusions about it since he showed his true colors, and am strategically planning my exit to provide maximum safety. I guess convincing herself he's worthwhile is some kind of coping mechanism. It's just sad to see someone who got out of an abusive relationship heading down that same path again. I want to grab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:23 AM
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I wanna know what the actual discussion was, because this is just so much WTF. "Hey babe. Sorry, but I've been jacking off to your pics for a year. Could u send some more? This time with more bewbs? I totally like you, but I don't wanna be exclusive tho because I like you so much." Also in what fucking warped universe is using her pics in his spank bank being "sexually loyal" to her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:59 AM
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Thanks :) I hear it a lot that "why did you pick him" and people don't understand that manipulative abusive men can hide it for a long time. You see some red flags but in the beginning they're so few and far between that it seems like a fluke, and most of the time they seem normal. It's not until later when you live together, maybe even have kids, before their true colors come out. Lundy Bancroft talks about that pattern in the book "why does he do that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:19 AM
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"We're gonna need a bigger boat."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:10 PM
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I remember that thread. I was at least glad to see that the vast majority of the comments rightfully eviscerated him for being a complete gaslighting lunatic. Imagine spending weeks pushing for an abortion, including enlisting the help of various relatives to put the pressure on her, then when she (obviously) regrets the abortion that she was forced into, says that "it was her decision." People throw around the term gaslighting a lot on Reddit, but this one is a perfect example of what gaslighti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:55 PM
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Yep. They always circle the wagons and protect shitty men. If they care, they can prove it by standing up to assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:03 PM
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Yep, they always excuse the behavior of their friends while trying to pretend they're any different. "Yeah I know babe, I agree but what can you do? Everyone knows Steve's an asshole, just ignore him." Ok, but if he's such an asshole, why are you friends with him? The company people keep says a lot about them. If he keeps hanging out with Steve the Creep, it means one of two things; (1) He lacks integrity and is too weak to call out Steve's behavior, or (2) He secretly agrees with Steve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:01 PM
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Not to mention, it's not like these dudes are taking women to Michelin restaurants either. These dudes are out here complaining about having to pay for the 2 for $20 deal at Applebee's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:49 PM
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Thanks :) every little bit of support helps, it's been hard for me to admit that I'm being abused, but since it crossed a physical line now it's harder to deny. I just have to tread carefully because it could be dangerous to leave now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:11 PM
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It is. They're really good at pretending, sometimes for years, until they have you locked down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:42 PM
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He doesn't even think there is a problem. There's much more wrong than just the lack of helping around the house. I'm leaving soon, trying to arrange things in such a way that it's safe for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:40 PM
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There have been a number of studies looking at this, and as a group, married women are the least happy demographic while married men were the most happy. It's obvious why- because the man has someone managing his whole life for him, and the wife resents that he never reciprocates or pulls his load of the work. I think I've met maybe one happily married couple. My boss and his wife have been together 20+ years and seem genuinely happy still. He is also one of the few HVM I've met. Nice guy, respe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:37 PM
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Instead of resorting to #notallmen right away, why not reflect on why such large numbers of women have encountered abusive or otherwise terrible partners, not just once but many times. You'd be surprised how many creeps are out there. Maybe, we're not being harsh, and there's actually a pervasive problem in society with how men treat women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:26 PM
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You know, if you'd read the sidebar before commenting you would've realized that a HVM is just someone who treats you with respect and kindness, it has nothing to do with being rich or a "Chad." So what you're basically saying is women don't deserve to be treated with just basic decency and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:19 PM
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It's worse when women criticize it. When I first heard of this sub it was from guys talking about how "toxic" it is, and I guessed that it was probably going to be women who don't take bullshit and empower each other. I was right. But I have also heard a lot of women talk shit about us, one girl the other day said this sub was "literally the worst sub on Reddit." Yeah there's subs about white supremacy, subs dedicated to making fun of fat people or minorities, subs dedicated to faux child porn, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:06 PM
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Yep. My husband, when I met him, seemed really clean and would wow me by cooking amazing meals and talking about how he loves doing stuff like that and cares about keeping his space clean and not being a slob. I'll give you one guess about what happened once we got married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:02 PM
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That's so.. male of you. Do you not get that whenever we try to talk about these things anywhere else, we get downvoted to oblivion and silenced by shitty men? No, we don't need to open up one of the few places we can openly express ourselves and talk about our issues. It isn't lame and it isn't an echo chamber. What's lame is that you're so totally unaware of what we actually go through that you'd criticize us for having ONE space where we can talk freely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:00 PM
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Yep, me too. I was an early bloomer and had B-cups by the 5th grade and that's when it started. Who even knows at this point how many times I've been groped, harassed, followed to work/home, etc. It's a familiar experience that I'm convinced nearly 100% of women have experienced. I told my teen stepson about this once and he was shocked, like "really that happens that often?" And I explained that yes, it happens constantly to most women. It was like he had never even had to consider it before I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:55 PM
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Jesus Christ. That's really fucked, so disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:44 PM
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SO MUCH THIS. Men generally don't give a shit when women talk about the things men do to us. Know who they do listen to? Other men. If the good men would stop being #notallmen every time we bring something up, and would instead shame other guys for shitty behavior, these things would become unacceptable. Men, if you really care, then call out this bullshit when you see it. Tell your buddies they're being violating creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:43 PM
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Good for you. Every story I read about this inspires me to fix my LVM situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:21 AM
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They forgot to put how everyone clapped at the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:45 PM
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I count 6 certified panty sniffers who have their own panties in a bunch from reading that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:51 AM
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I feel bad when I read the MGTOW/redpill and incel stuff, but guys talk about them like they're a fringe minority. I doubt it, I think lots more guys think that way than they admit. That said, I feel worse about the views of "normal" guys. Try this experiment- mention that a popular athlete is a rapist. Say that false rape accusations by women are a proven rare phenomenon. Try pointing out that statistically, courts aren't biased in favor of women. Link one of the MANY studies that show men actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:45 AM
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An LVM is a boy in a man's body. He isn't capable of being a functioning adult on his own, so instead of a partner he seeks a maid who will fuck him and clean up his messes, both literally and figuratively. He will do just about anything to avoid hard work and responsibility. Ironically, if he worked half as hard on self-improvement as he did to avoid work, he could go far. He either can't hold down a job, or he has a shitty one because he never bothered to advance his career. He has no ambition…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:42 AM
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It really does. He sounds like the type of guy that says "ciao" when he hangs up the phone. Ciao, babycakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:31 AM
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I would've said "it's looking like you're not even getting coffee."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:03 AM
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This guy: "honesty is the best policy." Also this guy: "Help me cheat on my girlfriend."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:53 AM
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Yep, and cries about how it happened for "no reason" and he "never saw it coming" after she confronted him 100+ times about whatever bullshit he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:39 AM
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I agree, I also see a lot of posts that say things like "I've been on 3 dates with a HVM and now he's pressuring me for sex and also stood me up on a date" or something along those lines. If he did those things...he's not a HVM!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:28 PM
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I 100% think she's not. This is his cover story. More likely that he and the ex are still a thing, and he's been leading the ex on that their relationship is going somewhere. He doesn't want to let that go so he's asking his fiance not to tell so that the ex doesn't dump him/stop fucking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:55 PM
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Thank you for the words of advice. It's helpful hearing from someone who has seen a similar situation go down. At some point he's got to sink or swim on his own, I can't keep lighting myself on fire to warm someone else, especially when that someone can't even treat me with basic kindness and decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:14 PM
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Unfortunately his job is near me, but family lives hours away. The baby's mom is a deadbeat, she hasn't seen her own son or even called him on the phone in around 5 years at this point. I know it's not my problem, but it's hard to shake the feeling that I'd be a complete asshole for doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:34 PM
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Yep. More and more, I find myself gravitating towards women only subs. It's refreshing not to have to deal with constant misogyny, talking about their dicks all the time, etc. Nowhere else on Reddit can we talk about our real experiences with men. Even in "liberal" supposed feminist subs you can even mention something like "false rape accusations are rare" or "a majority of women have been sexually assaulted." Men of all stripes will ALWAYS defend other men no matter what horrors they inflicted …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:55 AM
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Yeah lol as if LVM care about improving themselves. All they want is to find a woman who will put up with their bullshit and for whom they can do the absolute bare minimum possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:50 AM
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I literally found this sub that way. A bunch of men were bitching about FDS and how we're toxic "femcels" so I checked it out to see what was so toxic. I scrolled and scrolled and scrolled, and all I found were posts about empowering women, avoiding men who use/abuse you, inspirational posts about self love, etc. I couldn't find anything remotely toxic. I came to the conclusion that once again, men find women who get together and support and encourage each other to know our worth, as "toxic." It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:49 AM
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That's exactly my situation. Except more money than that, AND he's not nice to me, he's a mean, emotionally abusive sack of shit. It's hard to kick him out because he has a kid and has no money to get himself a place to stay. I've kicked him out twice and he guilt tripped me about staying in his car with his kid and of course it worked because I'm a decent person and care about putting a child through that. It's actually MORE difficult to break up with him; I own my home so I can just leave. I o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:32 AM
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That's what the term HVM has always meant to me. Someone who is kind, respectful, and trustworthy. I don't give a shit about "status" or whatever. I do want him to contribute equally to bills and hold a job, but to me that's the bare minimum of being a functioning adult, and having pride in oneself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:26 AM
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I'm really jealous at this point of lesbians because I would love to be attracted to women and just avoid the whole mess that is men. I really wouldn't mind moving in with a woman my age to be life companions in a non-sexual way. Just so you both get the benefits of having someone to grow old with but get to just not deal with men in the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:19 AM
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Yeah, the audacity of wanting to date people that have their shit together. We have our own shit together, and a relationship is supposed to enhance your life. Remind me again how giving up our time and energy to emotionally (and financially) support some guy who can't take care of himself enhances our lives? Also, if they don't have their shit together because they're facing hard times, then just maybe it's not an ideal time for a new relationship and they should focus on fixing their lives bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:09 AM
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That's because the bar for men is like 100 feet underground at this point. I'm preparing to ditch my LVM. All I want is someone who is nice, faithful, trustworthy, and able to hold down a job and clean up after themselves. Emotional support wouldn't hurt; I'm not a particularly emotional woman so it's not hard. It seems 95% of men can't even manage just the very basics that women do effortlessly, of being a functioning adult and treating their partners with kindness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:04 AM
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"he's a really genuine guy from a rough home situation." 1- No, he isn't a genuine guy. He's an emotionally abusive, cheating liar who has convinced you that he's just a sad guy who really loves you (except he treats you like shit.) 2.-His rough past is no excuse. Lots of people are from rough home situations. I was taken away from a drug addicted parent and put into an abusive home. I emancipated myself as a teenager, joined the military, and spent two years in Iraq. Some people would call that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:55 AM
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In my experience,no. They feel entitled to anything and everything women do for them. Just for existing they think they deserve the best. It's how they're socialized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:16 AM
43

The comments are just ugh. From the guy that says she should get into BDSM because she obviously wants a "slave" to the guy that encouraged her to use sex as an icebreaker since there's "no point in getting to know someone when you don't know if you're compatible sexually. The more comments I read from men the more I feel that finding a good man is fucking hopeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:13 AM
10

You played it smart and followed your instincts. Good on you for doing that. 2 dates is way too early to put yourself at someone's mercy while injured. The fact that he pressured you for that, then gave you the silent treatment when you refused to capitulate, says everything you need to know. If he were genuinely concerned, as others mentioned, he could come by your place with food or supplies. He wanted you at HIS place only, for some reason. It sounds like a red flag that maybe he wanted to ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:21 PM
7

Same. I think in my life I've known one actual feminist man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:46 AM
3

That's because they barely ever happen, despite the whining of men about them. You're exponentially more likely to be raped than make a false rape report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:11 AM
3

Ok that was awesome lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:50 PM
70

That thread is a fucking trainwreck. Half of the comments blame women for not giving them enough emotional support (LOL). The other half actively blame women. I read there that false rape reports, "unfair" divorces, women not being traditional anymore, and other MRA bullshit are responsible for male suicide. God I can't stand men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:20 AM
9

Right? I wish they would go their own way. Seriously, just go. GO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:07 AM
12

They absolutely do think that. Read the Askreddit threat right now about male suicide. Did you know that women are all surrounded constantly by a network of supportive people and resources? Lol. The reality is they have no desire to work on themselves so they sit around blaming everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:32 AM
10

There's a thread on Askreddit right now about male suicide rates. Half of the posts are blaming women. "Divorces are unfair" or "women get all the help" or "I will never express my feelings because once I was laughed at." And basically saying that all the mean women aren't supportive enough and we also get ALL the help that's available. As if we never get screwed in divorces to LVM, or get shut down when we express our feelings. The other half are decrying that men have no purpose. Well, we wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:28 AM
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