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| 1710 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work! | Fundamentals | csawNS | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 02:53 AM |
| 106 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and advice | Comprehensive | csawNS | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 05:28 PM |
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| 2 | How to get over lost time?I agree with this, but I’d maybe add a couple years on both sides. Like 28ish for men and 22ish for women. Definitely depends on the person, though. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceNever anything corny, I tried those a few times and had no luck. I have a rotation of about 3 things I’ll say depending on the girl. Just quick one liners that are easy to respond to. Nothing stupid, complex, or drawn out | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceYeah, I regret not doing it earlier because all I’d read on Reddit is “it’s a waste of time if you’re average” and while I agree it’s still kinda shitty overall, it’s definitely worth giving a shot. You have nothing to lose by trying your best and seeing what happens. I’ve met some cool people along the way through it. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceLatinas | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceI mean it’s def a factor but then again everything is. Nothing you can do about height so just accept it and keep trying 5’9 isn’t even bad anyway you’re taller than most girls. We’re just not towering over a lot of them. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceBasically, but that’s my preference too | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceI go for the shorter girls but I’ve only been asked my height once actually, bc she thought she was tall (at 5’5 lmao). Tallest girl I’ve seen was prob like 5’6. Not listed in tinder bio but bumble I put it. I said this in another comment but I’m in a majority Latino area so a lot of girls aren’t as concerned with height here, or at least it seems that way. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceNot tall 5’8 | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 12:11 AM |
| 6 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceI just paid for it from the start to maximize my chances, but I realized half the battle is getting your profile SEEN by girls swiping. Paying helps boost you in the algo so you have a better chance of even being noticed, and being able to see your likes and stuff is helpful too. Biggest thing might be the unlimited swipes though. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceDM me I gotchu | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 09:38 PM |
| 11 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceI’m saying the rules are different for men and women. As a guy you have to put in more effort to your profile by default. What are you talking about? | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceYes, good point. I have my age range set relatively small and there’s still an endless amount of girls. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceFair enough. I see on your profile you’re 28, so that’s where the thing about age comes into play. It could be location, too. I live in a predominantly Hispanic area with a lot of foreign girls. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Tinder as a first timer - my experience, tips, and adviceI promise you I'm not that good looking. I was rated on r/truerateme as about a 4.5/10 for reference. I'm also 5'8 and not jacked. I think paying for premium is the move as well as swiping selectively. If you want show me your profile and I'll try to give an unbiased opinion. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How do you recover from an embarrassing flirting line?Stop giving a fuck what she thinks of your (presumably) bad joke. Agree and amplify or ignore. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!That’s a really good point. Everybody is different and gauging interest is definitely more than just eye contact. Shyness can be really tough to interpret bc sometimes it does come off as uninterested when it’s really just nerves. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 04:38 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!IMO it’s really just timing and cleverness. Nothing wrong with being funny, but if you’re the “funny guy” people may start taking you less seriously, find it easier to poke fun at you, etc. That’s been my experience. Wit is making well timed jokes and incorporating stuff you may have talked or joked about in the past. That’s my take. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 04:34 AM |
| 3 | Getting Attention Without TryingSeduction shouldn’t even have anything to do with height tbh. This post is actually just bad. “Let the girls come to you” that’s actually not going to happen unless you’re someone of status or in the top percentile of height and good looking like this guy lol. Otherwise, lose weight is good advice (if you’re fat), but everyone knows that already. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:19 AM |
| 2 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I like paying attention to the color of the eyes. Other than that it’s really just a practice thing. I’m still not perfect with it but now I really enjoy that feeling of tension when you are looking in a girls eyes really deeply. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:10 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!You just gotta go for it. If you go in for a kiss she’ll turn away or she won’t, and that should be your way of asking her. Not saying you can’t ask and it still work but I would not recommend that personally. Most girls like a dominant man & asking is submissive behavior. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:07 AM |
| 2 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I hear you there, friend. It really is brutal. You don’t have much room for error if you’re “faking it till you make it” like me. I’ve had 2 instances of sex and 1 make out. Also a couple girls interested in me who I wasn’t attracted to (not hideous just not my type). So, I wouldn’t say a total wasted effort, but I still have a shit ton of work to do of my own. I just got a good flirting game down now because I started talking to nearly every girl that way and started to pick up on what was work… | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 04:01 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I guess I didn’t explicitly mention it there, but any of these can be awkward if you read the situation wrong or try with girls who are clearly uninterested. And if people aren’t hearing you clearly - are you speaking too quiet? Not enunciating your words? Have an accent? I’m not even sure what you mean there. Just repeat yourself if you need to clarify what you said. | /r/seduction | 10/09/21 02:05 AM |
| 2 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!More like women are the last people who will care or relate to avg men’s dating issues and you complaining about it literally makes you less attractive | /r/seduction | 10/09/21 02:00 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Yeah going off what the other guy said - it’s not creepy if she’s also giving you eye contact. “Staring” sounds like you’re eyes are only on her boobs or something. Sharing eye contact shouldn’t be creepy or weird. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 05:06 PM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I get it, man. I’m definitely not the worst off by nature, but I did have a lot of autistic tendencies growing up, and really wanted to direct this post to anyone who doesn’t have social skills come naturally to them. It is scary af just going out and talking to strangers, let alone pretty girls, but start with anyone and it’ll get a lot easier. Or, better yet, get a job working with the public. That’s what did it for me. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Does changing hair color as a man make you more attractive ?I’d say doing something like that as a guy can project confidence, but it’s not really the same as it is for girls I don’t think. Also, if you’re white, dying your hair usually looks weird imo unless you’re bleaching it and you have a beard to contrast maybe. Black/darker skinned men often can pull off colors better if you ask me and I think it often looks pretty cool in that case. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Dirty Pen Pals or Chats to improve gameI found stuff like that to be a decent introduction to dirty talk, which is good if you’re like me and had lacked any exposure to it whatsoever. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 06:20 AM |
| 2 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Great! Hopefully college - absolute goldmine for approachable girls | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:57 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I’ve actually never been formally diagnosed with anything, but I was incredibly afraid to speak to girls/strangers until maybe 17ish. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:51 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I’m getting better. I got the flirting thing down to some level but then got stuck on the sexual escalation part, which I’ve been working on now. I only have 2 lays. Like I said I’m still a rookie tbh. I didn’t lose virginity till last year (20). | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:49 AM |
| 3 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I haven’t been on a hell of a lot of dates tbh, but most of these examples for me personally are just with coworkers, classmates, friends, and mutual friends. So people I’ve met in real life in some way or another. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:47 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Yeah, I mean the other half of it is body language and the way you’re saying something. Boldly making assumptions about everything will make you look like a dick. But if you’re someone who doesn’t do it at all, adding it in to conversation is beneficial imo. That’s really who that’s directed to. And yeah agreed those examples aren’t even that great they were literally the first thing I thought of just spitballing. I haven’t actually said any of that irl. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:46 AM |
| 13 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Look man, I get it’s frustrating af sometimes, but the sooner you ditch these thoughts the better off you’ll be. Fact is nothing in life is fair and nobody’s gonna feel sorry for you, so bitching about it really isn’t doing you any good. And don’t ever be caught saying something like that in front of a woman. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:39 PM |
| 3 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!The problem with so much of this stuff is it depends on the person/situation. Always start with the eye contact though. That’s square one. If she’s not reciprocating it’s already a lost cause pretty much. Everything should snowball though. Like if you’re looking at each other intently, you should naturally get closer, add quick touches, etc. You wouldn’t be able to do all of this with a cold approach, for example, but a party with mutual friends is a lot different. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:36 PM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!That was almost the root of my eye contact issues when I was younger (self conscious about looks) but you gotta try your best to get out of your head in moments like those. Pay attention to what she’s saying, the color of her eyes, her lips, and distract yourself from bad thoughts about your appearance. That’s really something that should go away with practice, though. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:24 PM |
| 5 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I wish it were an even better story, but basically after we ordered my friend thought she was being flirty with me and I agreed; like I’d never placed an order at kissing distance away. Also, as she was walking away, I was looking at her and she just quickly turns around and noticed me checking her out. I also went inside at one point to get her attention about something and used her name, and she immediately turned around and smiled at me which was also a good sign. So, as I paid, I left my num… | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:21 PM |
| 5 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!A ridiculous amount of reading, observing confident men IRL, and trying it myself. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:03 PM |
| 18 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Tbf I’m not very autistic (and I know a lot of guys are a LOT further on the spectrum), but I am the complete opposite of a natural. I feel like I can relate to autistic minds a lot better than most other people and totally understand the struggle. Years of working retail also helped my social skills a ton. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 6 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Yeah for sure, I mean, shit, what do you think the other dudes were opening with that saw her first? They were probably just saying what’s up and introducing themselves. Thankfully at a venue like that where you’re expected to socialize people can’t get mad at you for trying. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:38 AM |
| 12 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Totally agree. I’ve seen a lot of LQ posts coming out of here in general recently. Tbh I just turned 21 so I’m literally just getting into the bar scene particularly (USA). So I don’t have much experience from that particularly, but what I can say from house parties or similar situations is I’d try to make eye contact first or ideally get noticed somehow. Depending on the vibe a simple “hey” “what’s up” “what’s your name” works if everyone’s fucked up. You could also always say “I like your styl… | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 03:56 AM |
| 86 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Thanks, man. My goal in posting this was to maybe help at least one other guy who also isn’t a “natural”, so I’m glad I could do that. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 03:39 AM |
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