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Lol, did not read my post!
/r/askTRP04/10/18 05:38 AM
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Yes and I definitely tell her that I love her but I get stuck at the part where she wants me to say that she's the only one. It's not true so I don't want to say it or give her such an expectation.. I do agree that it's very powerful to say I love you during sex.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 07:19 PM
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I agree with this.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 01:11 PM
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I hear you, but what stops me is the possibility of having to kick her out in a month or whatever our agreement is if she fails to find another place... Ugh, I don't see a whole lot of upside here.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 08:07 AM
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Not at all. She has always been adamant to find her own way without the help of anybody else. Now, however, she is getting desperate.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 06:43 AM
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Dude, thank you for sharing that.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 04:54 AM
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Good share, thanks.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 07:32 PM
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And you judge her because all your instincts tell you that her past proves her to be a dangerous gamble. This really helped alleviate some of the internal conflict I was feeling. You're 100% right, she's a dangerous gamble. I just coulnd't find the words like you have, but instinctively this is exactly what I've known this whole time. Giving it a clear label like this makes it immediately lose a lot of its power. Thank you.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 07:21 PM
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What an incredible reply, thank you man.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 07:44 AM
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Thank you very much, just noticed it on the AskTRP sidebar (not on regular sub's sidebar), definitely going to study it.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 07:42 AM
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Thanks man. And not being exclusive. Ever. I hate this part every time. Don't know if you can relate, but it's the hardest thing to let go of all this Disney bs. It's hard to let go of a dream you had your entire life. Every time I integrate a little more TRP, I catch myself again hoping that I can use TRP to get this dream. It has been written about on here recently as well by other contributors. But this is the only truth - to not commit.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 02:03 PM
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Crucial to realize this and keep it in the back of my mind. I will actually need to handle shit, not just cruise by on the happy honeymoon hormones because those end inevitably. Most importantly for me is to be aware of how I tend to become comfortable and let some things slip which I shouldn't allow to slip. Stay alert, stay in control. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 11:40 AM
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Really appreciate reply dude, thanks, you are spot on, she is more than just a plate by now largely due to my own mismanagement of this relationship... Time to get my shit together.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 01:42 PM
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Fuck. You are the Oracle, you are 100% correct dude. Dammit, I need to fix this ASAP. Thanks.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 01:41 PM
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Thank you, helpful.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 02:54 PM
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Oh my god the feels from this post... great share, thanks bro.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/18 09:42 AM
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Dude this is interesting because at this point you should have done and displayed everything needed for her to be into you or not.. So putting it on her might be a beautiful little power flip..
/r/askTRP30/05/18 12:58 PM
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Thank you, valuable reply.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 11:38 AM
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GOD LEVEL reply. Yes. Perfect abundance mentality in the sense that "if you're gonna lose them, you're gonna lose them". I don't want to work for not losing her. So yeah man, this is freaking it. Thanks! Just reminded myself: ONLY text for logistics.. that one sentence literally solves everything :D
/r/askTRP30/05/18 08:04 AM
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Fact is, I've had 3 girls in the past year that got weird afterwards. You know, the usual thing. Hamstering it somehow into me taking advantage blah blah. None of them reached out before they drove themselves crazy first. Then they either block or ghost. Now that I think about it, guess that clearly means they weren't open to being a plate anyway. I would just hate to lose the possibility of a plate due to simply not doing a minor thing that might have set it up for a lot more sex for me in the …
/r/askTRP30/05/18 07:50 AM
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Hey man. In what way would you say you failed more than succeeded? In other words, failed to keep her as a plate, so just ONS?
/r/askTRP30/05/18 07:45 AM
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Read up on mental point of origin, locus of control, frame, etc, I had to come back now, two days later, to comment on this. In my daily meditations I tried something since you made this comment: actively see where my external locus of control is (it was faaaar, faaaaaar outside myself, aka other people) and I just moved it back in towards my own core. Now I have made the shift to stop and ask myself what I want first before asking somebody else. In most cases I don't even have to ask anybody fo…
/r/askTRP29/05/18 09:12 AM
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Dude, I hear your frustrations but it was all just lifted when I finally understood what TRP is really about. We who just casually browse some top posts really do not get it yet, you have to read the sidebar and especially the book - the book was the thing that made it clicked for me. I went out after that breakup to buy some steaks to balance out my momentarily crushed man-ego and I walked out of there with steak... and a new girl's number. We're going on a date tonight. The power of not giving…
/r/askTRP29/05/18 09:08 AM
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Holy shit yes, complete and utter disregard of her BS
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:23 AM
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I agree with this reply. It's not a comment on us as men, AWALT is to open our eyes to the realities of women's nature.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 06:35 AM
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Red Pill Handbook There you go my friend.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 06:27 AM
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Was presented over 6 weeks. The psychologist who presented it went through things like speaking up for yourself, setting boundaries and so forth. We also had a lot of practice which was probably the most valuable part of the course. Although I think that the book "Not Nice" is by far the best resource for speaking up and being more assertive, the course was still a good experience. I can recommend it.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 06:27 AM
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I do, finally hit 220 squat with 5x5. As mention in another reply, lifting is awesome but doesn't solve all inner issues. It just helps build self-esteem. Any other constructive criticism? Edit: Ah I see your update. Yes, taking care of myself should always be #1 and I let that slip. Valuable lesson to learn and I'll try not to make the same mess of it again, thanks bro. Edit 2: Another thing, I wonder if it isn't exactly because I am in a "victim" mindset that I treat other people the same way.…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 07:06 PM
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Thank you man. I feel alright, gonna make it. Appreciate the support!
/r/askTRP27/05/18 06:44 PM
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Exactly what my best friend said. He just said out of the blue: "she sounds very self-centered". Well, nailed it.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 06:43 PM
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It's all about what you allow into your internal world. Don't forget that you are the gatekeeper to your own happiness. It's all on you. This is such a great share. I read something the other day to the effect of "you would be never just give your body away for other people to harm however they want to, so why do you give away your mind to people to do the same?" Spoiler: not much. People are retarded. Haha! Yeah, guess everybody is as lost or more than I am anyway. Just make sure you pair that …
/r/askTRP27/05/18 03:39 PM
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Yes she definitely did like me a lot. It's clear now how bizarre it works in their heads and how they let go of you before you have the talk. She doesn’t like you now, that’s why she’s leaving. Dammit, this is 100% correct.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 03:36 PM
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Haha dude, thanks for the tough love. Please tell me you're just a beta and not a retard because I can't fix the second one. Mostly beta, despite the token effort as it seems now I have put in so far. It's called state dependent memory. Fascinating. Anyway there's no way a man who squats 225+ ass to grass wrote this. Ha! I had to comment on this one: no jokes, I am squatting 220 now with 5x5. But lifting clearly doesn't just solve everything, it just helps. I'm hitting it again hard tomorrow. An…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 03:34 PM
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This is the core thing. You should be the prize. Women don't like / aren't attracted to what they can have. They want to chase you. That's why you never stop improving your SMV. The second you put her on the pedestal, you get this, and usually it's because of scarcity. This has been the most difficult thing for me so far. That's what I'm faking - being the prize. Gotta work on this self-esteem of mine. I have the entire Red Pill Handbook, so I'll start reading again. Thank you for the feedback m…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 12:24 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story man. Do not cling, that is MAJOR. Because I can feel that sickening clinginess all over at the moment. I hate it. But thank goodness I feel it and backed off. No crazy text spams or whatever sad stuff I can fall into at the moment. This is hard, dammit.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 06:46 PM
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Thank you and thank you. TRP voice was saying this in the back of my head but it's certainly not fully integrated yet. This is the truth. It's very difficult to not treat her special because she is damn well amazing in her commitment to be thus far, so not sure how much I'll succeed with that one right now, but I'll fake it til I make it.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 06:39 PM
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Part of having less friends at the moment is exactly that, I had to cut out MANY people who were just energy-draining, negative leeches. And not once-off, but consistently. Over and over. Tough to find people who aren't "victims of life".
/r/askTRP22/05/18 07:48 AM
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This is awesome, thanks! I just have to keep looking to find people whose entire life hasn't been diverted into white picket fence-ery... I am yet to meet somebody who shares my current views on life etc but I honestly might not have been looking hard enough yet.
/r/askTRP22/05/18 07:47 AM
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Appreciate the real world example, thanks!
/r/askTRP21/05/18 12:55 PM
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Yes, if I think it means I'm a creepy loser it'll be a problem. If I think it's because I'm too awesome, don't have time for oxygen thieves and are too busy to worry about things like a social circle, it equates high value. Thanks for the reply!
/r/askTRP21/05/18 11:45 AM
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Really appreciate this reply. Very reassuring. I should just keep on doing me. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP21/05/18 11:35 AM
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Right. It helps me to process this idea by writing it out and engaging like this. I don't want to turn this into an alpha male / beta male thing, but if I think of an alpha male he is truly on his own, with betas there only to support him if he needs something but never as permanent elements he can waste his time with. Perhaps I should rather adopt the idea that nobody has been awesome enough to keep around until now, so I am just blazing my trail ahead regardless of if anybody comes along or no…
/r/askTRP21/05/18 10:13 AM
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Thanks for reading, this thread got big :) You are right in that I have emotionally had to detach myself from this girl a few times already but probably slipped back into oneitis again. It's a sick game your brain plays on you, that's for sure. My advice would be to make a grab for the dominant frame and if it fails let her go After reading all the feedback I have decided that this is what I'm going to do. /u/MattyAnon is likely right in that there's a good chance I'm now only to come off as a B…
/r/askTRP17/05/18 06:03 PM
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Pretty sure I am, it's intuitive by now but will keep it in mind nevertheless, thanks
/r/askTRP17/05/18 04:59 PM
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Yeah, a stoicism exercise I sometimes do is Negative Visualization where I imagine stuff like this and eventually accept it. Will keep this scenario in mind, thanks bro.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 02:47 PM
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She has to be investing, and being taken out on dates and not having sex is not that. Agreed. I read it a while ago on this thread where somebody commented "you went out on 5 dates and still no sex? Do YOU at least FEEL like a cheap slut? Because that's exactly what you are!" That was of course directed at the guy. And that fucking holds true.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 02:42 PM
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This is a great reply thanks man. I have only once ever had a relationship resembling what you describe and even then it was probably less awesome. The worst part? This beta slimy behavior of yours? You are denying who you are in front of her hoping for the big score. It's called a covert contract and it wreaks of beta slimy behavior. This hit hard. I've been aware of this being a thing and have been trying to be more assertive and set boundaries (it's very difficult for me, didn't grow up with …
/r/askTRP17/05/18 02:40 PM
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Amazing reply, thanks. Is she a virgin? No, been with one guy in a 9-year previous relationship. She's trying to control you. No sex, making demands. What are you, married already? That's what I instinctively felt as well, you are correct with this observation. This whole thing is all kinds of wrong. She isn't respecting you, she's enslaving you. This is how they work. Small subtle transgressions... getting you to habitually do things for her, while also telling you to do things for yourself. Wi…
/r/askTRP17/05/18 10:54 AM
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Holy sh!t. You're right :(
/r/askTRP17/05/18 10:20 AM
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I'm telling you man, that's the whole truth. Probably because it feels to me like how long can she possibly still keep up this resistance? Perhaps I'm letting my ego get too involved in the idea that I can break her eventually.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 09:53 AM
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That's exactly how I feel. Time to enforce boundaries and let the chips fall where they may.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 08:59 AM
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To answer your question though, you hold her handbag when she asks respectfully. That's what I would prefer so it's clearly one of my values, so I need to reinforce this. Thanks
/r/askTRP17/05/18 08:55 AM
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If she just hands me a plate and expects it to vanish she can go fuck herself. Hahaha, agree man. Time to enfore some fucking boundaries.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 08:54 AM
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I am considering all my options, thanks man. On the actual topic of my question - any thoughts?
/r/askTRP17/05/18 07:44 AM
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Thanks for the reply. I have 2 other plates with whom I'm having sex with, so I'm not saving myself for this one. Comparing her to all my ex's and current plates it's simply a fact: not all girls put out on the first date, in the first week or in the first month. Trust issues or whatever else it might be - they first screen the hell out of you. Any chance that I might have screwed it up somehow? She was literally quivering underneath me last time and still, despite trying for over an hour, she s…
/r/askTRP17/05/18 07:34 AM
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started not just taking her for food but ACTING LIKE I WAS SUPPOSED TO You've just leveled up, congrats. That is brilliant insight.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 07:24 AM
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all that was useless because I had done all of it to impress her Dude, that literally stings to read because I've been so guilty of this. And every single time that I feel myself slipping now, I have to stop and refocus. I have an incredible deep-seated tendency to "improve to get the girl", which is a horrible approach because you are almost certainly setting yourself up for failure and heartbreak. And also like you said, when you then eventually have to stand your ground, you don't because you…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 07:16 AM
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I knew I should have just gotten up and politely excused myself last night. Fuck. Thanks for the sanity check.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:43 PM
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She's not, this was at her place. Why?
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:35 PM
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This seems to be looming as the inevitable if things don't change soon. I'm going to just completely separate myself from the outcome as I should have done anyway, stop giving her attention regarding this and see what happens. If she doesn't come around, NEXT.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:27 PM
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This rocks because it shows abundance, I keep the frame and I can only hazard a guess here, but odds are that she's going to just chase harder and harder if I withdraw any of this type of attention. Appreciate, thanks man.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:24 PM
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Yes. Amused mastery was the one I was looking for along with just ignoring it, thanks dude.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:23 PM
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Yes and I've been giving waaay too much for this one, the whole thing is out of balance. Great observation, thank you.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:22 PM
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Amused mastery or just not reacting at all seems to be the way to go, thanks man.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:22 PM
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Yeah I definitely can control my urges. Congrats on pulling the plug yourself
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:21 PM
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Yes! Beat me to it... Brad Pitt's body language is incredible if you want to see an example of IDGAF
/r/askTRP29/04/18 02:44 PM
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This is helpful. I fully agree, thanks man.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 09:43 AM
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I was expecting such a reply. I have escalated harder than ever before and she still blocks me, therefore the question.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 09:43 AM
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Hmm I've been wondering about this as well. I like what the other commenter said that if she wants conform, she'll reach out. Just seems like a paradigm I'm not used to based on all my previous LTR's... then again, all my previous LTR's probably wasn't model relationships..
/r/askTRP27/04/18 06:46 AM
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Cool, thanks for the contribution!
/r/askTRP27/04/18 06:25 AM
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If that is the case then... jeez, that's just a sad state of affairs.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 07:48 PM
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It’s all about an abundance mindset! Exactly. Somebody said in on another thread and it rings so true: "100% engaged, 0% dependant." In other words, of course you engage with the girls and have fun with them, but you are completely detached from whether you get laid or not. And this, in turn, leads to wet panties more often than not.
/r/seduction23/04/18 02:31 PM
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Haha! I'm telling you man, I used to have this idea when I just started reading about TRP that some guys get to the point where panties just disappear in a cloud of smoke when they walk by any female creature. But the reality is a bit less magical than that. Women are people with boundaries and experiences and have wants and needs of their own (shocking) and I had to let go of the idea that every single girl I isolate is mere seconds away from fucking me because "I know some Red Pill shit". Exac…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 08:30 AM
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I am kinda pissed with myself now that I didn't just push through last night.. but enough is enough. It's all or nothing next time. This is very encouraging, thank you.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:37 AM
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I appreciate the reply man. You read into all the nuances of the situation correctly. Last thing you need is being accused of rape. For sure. I do not, however, feel like I have to worry about that with this girl, but it is a concern to always keep in mind. I think you're right. For all the attempts I've made so far that has gone nowhere, I guess it's time to give it one more very overt try because it still just feels like she's testing me the whole time... but if my best efforts fail, it's time…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:19 AM
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Fair enough. Thanks for feedback.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 08:55 PM
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Sure takes her off the pedestal real fast.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 02:27 PM
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Ah yeah man the serenity prayer, I know it as well and it's a beautiful summary of how to deal with a lot of this as well. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/askTRP27/03/18 02:26 PM
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I have to agree.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 02:17 PM
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Absolutely man, that's why I mention it in point 1. I do agree it's importance really cannot be understated.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 01:14 PM
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Thanks for the feedback man, I went ahead and crossposted to /r/TheRedPill.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 12:30 PM
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Crossposting here because I am honoured that so many guys over at asktrp found this helpful.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/18 12:29 PM
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I hear you bro. And look, those thoughts won't go away until you successfully do number 3. You can transfer some of that need for attention to a next cool girl, but most importantly you need to become self-reliant for your own acceptance and love. That's the only way to deal with the point you're struggling with. As far as update on that girl: YES! Turns out she drove to the next town to be with her family (showed me photos and videos) and just to go see her dogs that she missed. Then, as soon a…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 11:57 AM
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I'm really glad it helped man. Keep soldiering on!
/r/askTRP27/03/18 07:35 AM
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THIS. Also, what helped me the other day was I eventually just said fuck it and let my thoughts run wild and for the first time just imagined her fucking 10 other guys. And you know what? The pain flooded in... and then subsided... and I was left with this feeling of "alright, you know what, it doesn't really matter". All my suffering came from me resisting those thoughts day after day and it was killing me. The moment I let it go and just accepted the worst possible scenario, the whole situatio…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 06:47 AM
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This question has been bothering me recently as well, because the 2/3 rule seems to be valid only in the right context. From my latest experience, the girl actually has a life, quite busy etc, so therefore she is scarce and therefore the lesson in that for us is to be scarce as well, whether you're busy or not. Chances obviously are good that she's waiting to see if I text first and I do sometimes, but the point is that women fall in love / invest slowly and then the momentum builds up over time…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 06:43 AM
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Like a fucking pussy, yes. You bet dude, she's not getting away again.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 04:16 PM
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Thanks for sharing man. The only person who is going to take care of you, is YOU.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/18 02:03 PM
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UPDATE Seems like she just plays the game like a pro and am seriously still not as attached to me as I wrongly found myself being towards her. I managed to fight through my stupid oneitis BS, didn't contact her all day and then she contacted me and came over last night. Still didn't fuck her but that was me being a pussy and not taking the pussy. Just made out hard, some clothes came off etc. Next time I'm just going to take her, she literally gives me 0% resistance, it's awesome. So lesson here…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 10:23 AM
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This has helped me multiple times as well.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 07:32 PM
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I think a lot of us can relate. I found myself doing stuff like that whenever I am out of abundance mentality. I can feel myself slipping into less-than-optimal mindsets and beliefs again every so often and the results are the same again, time and time again. I truly am jealous of guys who seem to permanently operate in that mode of unattached abundance. For me it seems like, because I've been living with it for so long, I can weaken it a lot but then I have to maintain it with meditation, worki…
/r/askTRP25/03/18 02:39 PM
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Man, I can empathize. Broke up with LTR over December. I agree with the guy who said to ignore the "man up" stupid shit suggestions if somebody makes them. You are in some pain right now, and the only way out is through, so rather embrace it and eventually we talk again. Time is the correct answer, as long as it's mixed with slowly rebuilding your life, as you're doing with lifting and surfing. That's excellent. You are as on the right track as possible. And NC - boss mode. Well done. Ride this …
/r/askTRP25/03/18 02:32 PM
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I'm honestly still struggling most with this part of RP... To not have women be such an ultimate priority in my life.. It's a slow unwind of a lifetime of BP crap and it's difficult. But yeah I know you're right, I need to man up and communicate what I need clearly. All too often I still find myself not speaking up about bad behaviour etc when I really should (especially with my other plates). One day at a time.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 08:26 PM
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Haven't fucked her yet, no, if that's what you meant. I'm thinking tomorrow is going to be the day.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 08:23 PM
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Bro I hear you, one of my plates are exactly like that. Haha, I can't really complain, it seems. Just need to work on some lingering abandonment issues to avoid the oneitis.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 08:22 PM
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Right. I suspect the problem is mainly with me because I kinda want attention from her more than I'm currently getting. But therein lies the danger of oneitis with her as well. Have to be extra vigilant with this one.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 06:52 PM
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I feel like you guys saved my life a little bit. Thanks again. I'll still leave the verdict pending on whether she is truly avoidant or not, but sounds messed up man. Especially that you never really get to the point of certainty about her feelings. Let's see where this goes. Really guys, again thanks.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 06:42 PM
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Guys, thanks so much for sharing your stories. I will check the book out and then maybe add it to my to-read list, thanks for the suggestion! This sounds spot on. Looking forward to having tomorrow's date at my place and then seeing her reaction again afterwards, but we might be able to guess already..
/r/askTRP24/03/18 06:15 PM
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THANK YOU for that quote, I needed to hear it again. It looks like you're on a good way to oneitis I am definitely bordering on oneitis with this girl. And I'm not digging it, so time to go out on a daygame adventure again, methinks.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 04:20 PM
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Dude I was thinking the same thing haha. Playing it like a pro. Oh well, then I guess this is just how this chapter is going to play out. I'm even thinking of doing an experiment and just ghosting on her for a few days after tomorrow, just to see if she ever texts first. All in the name of science!
/r/askTRP24/03/18 04:19 PM
8

That is probably the long and short of it, yeah. Thanks bro
/r/askTRP24/03/18 04:18 PM
1

Just came back from a date with another girl and am now being booty called by a 3rd girl. It seems to have turned out good, you guys helped a lot thanks bro. You are right about the needy thing and that shit is repulsive so I took big action to correct it with the other girls tonight.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 08:18 PM
6

Ex-fuckin-actly
/r/askTRP23/03/18 07:08 PM
12

One of the best tricks I ever learnt was from Matt Artisan. He would even fake cumming, then while putting on a new condom tell the girl "I'm not finished with you yet" and then go again. If it stopped after the first load, of course she'll be disappointed, but if he can go again it's fucking gold. It makes the girl feel like the sexiest woman alive.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 07:07 PM
2

Lol dude, maybe that'll blow her clothes off if I turn the volume up loud enough, but otherwise that might be a bit out of my reach.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:09 PM
18

No! Always no to this question!
/r/askTRP23/03/18 04:14 PM
1

Needed every word of this today, thank you sir!
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 02:06 PM
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It should be crystal clear from the first meet up that you're a sexual being. This is the one thing that damn sure has been established, thankfully. All your other points are totally valid. Dating, plating, not the same thing. I'm afraid I'm leaning towards boyfriend shit again, I always do this. How the f*ck do I stop this shit? Sidebar here I come.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:32 PM
3

Dammit you're right. Until we're fucking I shouldn't even bother with this shit. Back to the sidebar with me. Thanks bro.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:30 PM
5

And as I clicked submit, she replies. "Sounds like so much fun but I'm a bit busy during the day, have to drive to -town name- to have my friend change my car's brakes. You are really welcome to join me for the hike early Sunday morning though" LOL. I'll just leave this here anyway. But there we go, all my stress for nothing, and the first time she really invests this way from her side. Nice. Self-5.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:15 PM
1

Just leaving this here Sexy and I know it
/r/askTRP23/03/18 07:13 AM
1

That's exactly what I'm taking away from this. Still, good shares thanks man, appreciate!
/r/askTRP23/03/18 07:09 AM
2

Dude I just worked it out, for one of my plates that'll be the time when Sexy and I Know It was a hit... aaaahaha hell yeah, gonna translate to acoustic, that's gonna kill. Got that from Alvin and the Chipmunks haha
/r/askTRP23/03/18 07:07 AM
1

That's what I'm getting from this. Showing her something I'm really good at is what seals the deal really. Good shit!
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:58 AM
1

Good stuff thanks bro
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:57 AM
2

God you deserve some sort of medal, this shit is gold. Thanks bro :D
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:53 AM
2

Oh yeah, already on my list as well. I can do this one very well, thanks man
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:50 AM
1

You guys rock, thanks for all the answers, going through all the songs now.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:49 AM
2

Ah hellz yeah, awesome thanks man
/r/askTRP22/03/18 09:20 PM
1

I like how it's still not acting like a clown but rather brief, as well as how I assume you clearly just next a girl if she falls off the map at any point of this interaction, maybe trying two more times max and then moving on. Good stuff, thanks for sharing man. I'm beginning to get this now.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 09:02 PM
1

Noted :D thanks bro
/r/askTRP06/03/18 12:27 PM
1

I was wondering about day game in that sense, yes. I guess the pull rate are statistically much higher for night game, although I'm still not exactly there, being divorced recently and 32 already. All my friends are lame, so I will go out alone when the time comes, but still. Daygame for now.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 12:27 PM
2

Yes, the frame that your an alpha and your intentions should be CLEARLY established before you go for a number. Holy crap, something just clicked. That makes so much sense man. It's almost a guaranteed future flake if I just push hard for the number but with no good reason for her to follow up with me after except being glad that the interaction is over! Some tough love but that's exactly it. I am smiling now just thinking about having a good interaction and even being willing to walk away witho…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 12:26 PM
1

Agreed, just remember that still doesn't mean you could have or should have played it differently to maybe get her back. Just learn the lesson from your reaction for the next great gal around the corner.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:34 AM
1

Good mindset to have man. See my other main reply. And for a time now, just let yourself feel what you do. PLEASE don't suppress anything. Write it out and tear into her with journalling or letters (of course, don't send it) or do anything else you can to get it out. Helped me a ton. Like you said, you don't want to become bitter. So take it slow, let everything process, get mad, get slightly bitter, get depressed, get a little hopeful, get healed, get out the other side. You got this, man.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:23 AM
1

You will be ready again when you are happy with your own life again. I went through 2 breakups last year, all messed up and seriously left me feeling low as well. And since then, I tried dating but realized I'm only using it to fill a void insight. Don't want to be lonely, want affection, want approval etc. As long as I feel that those feelings are stronger than me being happy and loving myself, I'm not going to date again. Otherwise it's just a Band-Aid over an open wound. Learn about assertive…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:14 AM
1

make spelling errors as if you were typing with one hand while pouring a glass of champagne for a topless blonde while sitting in a hotub. My beard just grew a bit reading that.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 10:46 AM
1

... you are risking to be nothing more than 11th guy that is now trying to ask her about her fucking day over text. Hellz no, I have no interest in being number 11. Great feedback.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 10:44 AM
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Bro, congrats, that is excellent insights to have into your own situation. You're going to be fine.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 10:08 AM
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Sure but doesn't him breaking up just give here even more reason to just go ahead and cheat? Because then she can do it guilt-free?
/r/askTRP06/03/18 09:26 AM
2

Crap. Guess it's true. Then I have to realize that there is a 100 things that can be going on in a woman's life. It's not necessarily just me. The approach might have been great. I might still need to work on it. But she can have a ton of other shit going on in her life so it just doesn't work out. I have probably not approached enough to get a good sample then. Thanks for the feedback bro, nexting all of them who don't put in the effort from their side as well.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 08:37 AM
2

Reading the askTRP FAQ, I see this: Help me analyze my texts. You probably texted too much. Text for logistics only or if they text you first and even then only 2/3 the amount they text you. Don't try to be cute. Never send pictures of yourself. The "don't try to be cute" part is sticking out. Which then just leads me deeper into the question that makes me feel like it's missing something: does that mean that the initial interaction must have been so good that it should be an easy "yes" from her…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 07:50 AM
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WTF is up with these haters. You have a legitimate question, don't let them invalidate your struggle. The way I see it, we're not robots who can just switch off a feeling of betrayal if that's the way you feel. Maybe striving towards becoming less invested in future relationships is wise, but for now it is what it is. Your feelings about this situation are trying to tell you something. Are you feeling a loss of control? - You have issues with controlling people to behave the way you want to. Are…
/r/askTRP21/02/18 07:48 AM
1

Damn, the part about not even thinking about dating... that's even helpful to me as well right now. Thanks for sharing bro.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 07:34 AM
2

That's a great suggestion, got the latest version recently and will have to read it again.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 06:13 PM
5

Agree or not, thanks for taking the time to type this out and share with us (and a bit of shameless self-promotion as well)
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:11 PM
4

Applause for your artwork
/r/askTRP12/02/18 05:07 PM
5

This is a great perspective, thanks for sharing man.
/r/askTRP12/02/18 05:06 PM
2

Dude, you're getting a lot of advice but all I urge you to do is experience where you are now, feel it, sometimes it will hurt and feel like you're dying, but feel it, welcome it and let it pass. PLEASE do NOT let it fester and become a bitter fuck that just takes out your pain on women. That simply leads to more pain down the road. Take it slow. Be where you are now. It's okay. It really is okay to be where you are now. Just let the pain come. Journal to get your thoughts out more. Just write s…
/r/TheRedPill03/02/18 12:17 PM
5

Good stuff, thanks for the motivation man. Fuck you PMO!
/r/askTRP12/01/18 09:16 PM
6

Good shit my brother! I almost considered giving up NoFap today because I'm going through a breakup, divorced a year ago and kinda finding myself.. from your experience, would you say to keep going? I am glad I didn't relapse in the end.
/r/askTRP12/01/18 07:54 PM
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