How do you move on?

muzn1 · 2018-03-25T07:44:48+00:00

I moved on from an LTR once and I'm currently doing it again right now. There is no magic pill I can give you that will make you move on overnight but I can tell you this. Your life has changed forever, get fucking excited about that. This is the time you can do anything you want. Picture yourself 12 months into the future and where you want to be. Start taking fitness seriously, save more money, travel the world, expand your social circle, meet new women, get a promotion, study harder, make more friends, go to concerts, change your wardrobe, learn new things, meditate, eat well, improve your mental health .. the list is endless. I had the craziest, toughest and best year of my life after my ex-girlfriend dumped me. Don't let some stupid women bring you down for too long, you have too much potential and you are better than her. Eventually, your ex will be nothing but a distant memory that you will laugh about before you fuck your hotter new girlfriend. You can't see it now but look back on this post in a year and smile.. I told you so.

anusbleach11111 · 2018-03-25T06:14:56+00:00

Time

needz · 2018-03-25T05:05:54+00:00

Do you work out?

Huffnagle · 2018-03-25T14:21:29+00:00

2 weeks is pretty fresh and raw. There may be some who tell you to go act alpha and bang her friend or something, but that’s silly.

You’re obviously not ready to socialize around her, so don’t. It would be awkward at best, and maybe turn into a real shit show. Just say no.

Focus on doing healthy things for you. Gym, hobbies, school, work, etc. The pain fades with time.

cyanidez · 2018-03-25T14:32:06+00:00

Man, I can empathize. Broke up with LTR over December. I agree with the guy who said to ignore the "man up" stupid shit suggestions if somebody makes them. You are in some pain right now, and the only way out is through, so rather embrace it and eventually we talk again.

Time is the correct answer, as long as it's mixed with slowly rebuilding your life, as you're doing with lifting and surfing. That's excellent. You are as on the right track as possible. And NC - boss mode. Well done.

Ride this out, cry if you have to, and then make sure you do something small for yourself every single day. Like a therapist told me once: "I can't say how, I can't say when, but one day you're going to wake up and the world is going to be alright again."

Final note regarding her "moving on so quickly": it's a woman's primary coping mechanism. It means she is in potentially just as much pain. So they cope by getting new clothes, hairstyles, highly increased social life etc, all to cope with the emotions. Fucking unhealthy as a permanent fix if you ask me, because you never actually deal with the emotions, but hey, every single one of my ex's went the same route EVERY SINGLE TIME. So it's nothing to do with you or her being over you that easily at all - it's the simple nature of women to HAVE to move on any way they can. If it bothers you, try your best to not hear anything about her social life etc, take NC super seriously. I had to, otherwise I also felt like dying sometimes.

Good luck bro, you're not alone, you're gonna make it.

Title	How do you move on?
Author	bitterconsultant
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	March 25, 2018 5:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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