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Beautifully written and I agree 100%. But I want to add that being happy is not easy. It's hard as fuck. You know what's easy? Sitting alone in your room and brooding on the fact that you're unhappy. Sounds harsh, but the pity that you feel for yourself in those moments is habit forming. You start to like feeling sad, because it's comfortable. I think it's a crime that kids aren't taught being happy is hard. It requires work and effort and sometimes even pain. But it's because you put in that wo…
/r/seduction27/10/13 12:12 AM
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What about Austin, Texas? Only place in Austin worth being IMO
/r/seduction02/06/13 04:42 PM
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Yes! I will be in a co-ed house next year and I am excited for this exact reason. Living with one other guy roommate might as well be living alone.
/r/seduction02/06/13 04:33 PM
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Awesome post, makes me want to get some acid now haha
/r/seduction07/04/13 08:05 PM
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I thought overall this guide was fantastic but this part confused me: Things that you need to look out for are whether a girl is genuinely into you. The way it works from the start, 'she is either into or she isn't'. There is no convincing a girl to like you if she didn't from the beginning. It's pretty cut and dry on how to know this. When you realize she doesn't then you cut her loose and proceed to the next. If you don't then she will just waste your time and at the end of the date you will g…
/r/seduction07/12/12 10:53 PM
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I don't meditate frequently but I read a bit out of "Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle and he has a great exercise for meditation. The trick to meditation is to simply think nothing. Clear your head. This is way harder than it sounds, but what Tolle says is to close your eyes and imagine a tunnel, and from that tunnel are the thoughts that enter your mind. Watch the entrance of the tunnel diligently, observing what thoughts emerge out of the tunnel. If you're doing it right, nothing will come. You'…
/r/seduction02/12/12 01:08 AM
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Thanks for this, I'll be doing things this way from now on.
/r/seduction16/11/12 09:23 PM
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Im the same way, except it happens to me like a week after I meet a girl. I'm guessing it has to do with a deep down psychological longing for a companion that I have, but like you said that's pretty unattractive and I totally understand why.
/r/seduction31/08/12 08:13 PM
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I just moved to Austin too, but I haven't been to 6th street yet and I have no experience soloing. Sorry for not being a better help :/
/r/seduction31/08/12 08:09 PM
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Sure you can use that as an approach, but I said that example line after being in conversation for an hour. I'm just trying to offer some ideas other than questioning, which McDaltons wants to avoid.
/r/seduction30/08/12 04:30 PM
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I got a really nice reaction from the girl. She thanked me twice and I could see the positive emotions on her facial expression. Of course you want to be desirable, and giving a compliment is great for that because that is value-giving behavior. And people who are value givers are the most desirable. Compliments and statements are definitely not unnecessary for escalation, in fact telling someone how good they look or something is great for escalation. You can comment about their appearance or o…
/r/seduction30/08/12 01:45 PM
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Make honest statements about them in addition to physical touching. "You seem like a nice girl..." touch elbow etc
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:03 AM
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Alpha gorilla body language. Take up space, project your voice, dont give a fuck about anyone who gets entertainment from ridiculing others.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:00 AM
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Assume attraction. If she's spending her time with you, she likes you. She likes what you have to say and the value you give her. Don't worry about her not liking you in these cases, she won't reject you for giving her a hug or being physically intimate if it's coming from a place of confidence. In fact the one sure thing that would probably make her like you less is showing a lack of interest. And I assume that's not something you want to convey. In all honesty you could always ask her "what do…
/r/seduction30/08/12 07:24 AM
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The best way to be genuinely funny is to escape from the mindset that you're trying to say something funny in order to entertain someone else. You obviously have your own unique sense of humor, just don't filter yourself. Say what you want because you know that everything you have to say is awesome. Entertaining self + honest expression = attraction. Also, realize that funny doesn't always = jokes. Your mannerisms, quips, body language and tone can all be funny What really works for me is someth…
/r/seduction30/08/12 07:11 AM
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Statements. Questions are for strangers, statements are for friends. And if you have to ask a question ask an open ended question, avoid questions that have "yes/no" answers. One I used recently:"I like the way you have your hair down, it makes you look really attractive"
/r/seduction30/08/12 06:56 AM
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I've been in this situation only once before and I conquered it in epic fashion after watching Jared Psyche Laurence's presentation about Qualification & Interest. In the video he shares an anecdote about how he was sharing the evening with a woman who he was able to learn a lot about. Her childhood, relationship with her parents, education, etc. Then at the end of the night, when they were at their most intimate, the woman gives the exact same LMR: "But, you don't even know me!" At this point J…
/r/seduction26/08/12 03:36 PM
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If the girl smokes too thats like the ultimate isolation activity. 1 on 1 smoke sesh = sex everytime
/r/seduction20/08/12 02:12 AM
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Honestly I think that it makes sense. The majority of social cues and nuance are lost over text, so if your're a chilled out guy sending chilled out texts you probably aren't going to be able to escalate as much as you should. Compensating by using aggressive text game actually seems to me like a good strategy by not letting the girl lose interest if you are naturally chill (nothing wrong with that).
/r/seduction18/08/12 10:45 PM
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I agree. Way to break down the convo piece by piece.
/r/seduction18/08/12 10:43 PM
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I believe whether her perspective is shallow or not, it is still valuable. If her opinion is shallow, it's still an indication that women (or at least one woman) have misconceptions about seduction that should be spoken about, like what's happening now. Being able to change one woman's perspective about seduction makes her effort to reach out to us worth it, don't you think? And don't forget that she did give praise to many of seddits popular ideas: "most of the stuff in here is legit. It seems …
/r/seduction18/08/12 06:07 AM
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I don't agree that texting can't build attraction, but it's definitely true that the vast majority of social cues and nuances are lost through text communication. In my experience I escalated hardcore over text with one girl and it resulted in a day 2 f-close. I played a hunch that I got her really attracted the first time I met her (even though I couldn't tell at the time), and it ended up paying off. I personally think calling to arrange a date is classy and worth doing. You can always set the…
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:32 AM
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It means that shit testing is a product of unconscious behavior developed by evolution. Her analysis was that it most likely arose because it was a way for females to weed out weaker mates (hence, a male's emotional weakness that is exposed by failing a shit test triggers the same ancient screening mechanism). This leads me to my opinion that because shit testing has evolutionary benefits that you can't just dismiss it as women being psycho or immature. You have to be prepared for it, or even be…
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:21 AM
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That's what I mean, I'm putting too much thought into it. My fear is that if I focus on myself and my grades I can be my most honest self, but that could mean introversion and longing. So I've been having this uncertainty about how the balance between my studies and my seduction is going to play out, and I definitely want both. But I'm starting to realize that not giving a fuck could be a better solution.
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:14 AM
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That's fucking dumb
/r/seduction18/08/12 04:55 AM
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I don't think there's any need for alarm. She admitted that it was a cruel thing to do, but she related the story so that others could get a glimpse into the female mind. That's generous, and it's also mature. Like she said, shit testing is crucial, and it most likely has it's roots in evolutionary psychology, which makes it legit.
/r/seduction18/08/12 04:54 AM
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That was a great first post. Love the last line especially. I just have this anxiety that if I get caught up in my own shit like you said I won't approach. That being said I'm positive I'm gonna get caught up with school around the corner. Fuck it, it's going to be awesome.
/r/seduction18/08/12 04:47 AM
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I personally didn't see your post as hateful or degrading. I mean sure, you had a misconception about the use of negging within the seduction community, but everyone here has been politely clearing it up and letting the dust settle in a way that lets everyone learn. I think that regardless of the subject, it is extremely valuable whenever we get a female perspective on seduction and pickup, and everyone should realize that.
/r/seduction18/08/12 04:31 AM
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I remember last year at university I sat down at a table with two of my good friends and an unfamiliar girl outside of the library. Somehow my friend and I got on the subject of literature, and it turned out that the girl was a big fan of greek mythology and was supportive of my position that literature is very important for developing critical thinking skills (the friend who took the opposite position did not become my friend because we agree on many things haha). Anyway I took notice of this a…
/r/seduction14/08/12 09:04 PM
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I've been in this situation only once before and I conquered it in epic fashion after watching Jared Psyche Laurence's presentation about Qualification & Interest. In the video he shares an anecdote about how he was sharing the evening with a woman who he was able to learn a lot about. Her childhood, relationship with her parents, education, etc. Then at the end of the night, when they were at their most intimate, the woman gives the exact same LMR: "But, you don't even know me!" At this point J…
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:40 AM
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After suffering from over-analyzation for 18 years I was finally able to experience a "part the clouds" as Tyler would put it, and recently started having fun and enjoying life (and women). It took a lot of reading, a lot of introspection, and a struggle, to get there, and even now I feel like I'm descending back into a beta slump. So for my own benefit, as well as everyone else's I'll try to remember some of the things that helped me the most: 1) Your mind is a tool that has a specific purpose.…
/r/seduction12/04/12 04:40 AM
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I agree. The thought that something was hidden from your view probably made you more cautious rather than outgoing. In your next hangout don't be afraid to be in 100% comfort, it will show through.
/r/seduction17/03/12 12:55 AM
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I feel like this story is identical to the two month relationship I had with my first ever girlfriend. Talk about a crash course in dating. I'm glad to see that you are treating your experience with so much understanding. I learned a lot from that first girl as well even though it wasn't anywhere near the duration of yours. Even though I had to get over a depression I'm so much better off now. I'm meeting more women, with more frequency, and having more fun, and I believe you will definitely exp…
/r/seduction17/03/12 12:12 AM
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I have to echo that sentiment completely. I can be only grateful that I discovered this type of information at the time when I did, because I can feel my life becoming more awesome and inclusive with other people every day. My experience so far as a college freshman has already surpassed what I expected in terms of relations with girls, happiness, and individual growth. Seddit is an amazing community.
/r/seduction22/02/12 04:40 AM
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Those are all great points. The thing that sucks is that I feel like I could have accounted for some of those things if I actually had the opportunity to be with her alone. I could have talked about her attitude/situation with guys and dating, and established some attraction that would have made the attempted makeout less jarring. Doing it in front of her friends was something I was really leery about as well, but from my pov it was a now or never situation. Thanks
/r/seduction02/02/12 10:51 PM
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Thanks, seriously. I see this as a invaluable learning experience and I'm convinced that's as far as I need to take it. I haven't talked to her since then so who knows, maybe she will respond differently when I see her again. Regardless, It's great knowing that I have the courage to pull something ballsy when I want to.
/r/seduction02/02/12 10:17 PM
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I'm not sure I understand the hostility towards posts such as these. To post something of this nature is not the same as endorsing "routine stacking" as a superior, or even good strategy compared to simply being yourself. In my opinion many parts of conversations are scripted even though they are comprised of your genuine thoughts. Good conversationalists think ahead of the conversation and give themselves the time they need to break out an anecdote or story that they know is relevant and adds v…
/r/seduction27/01/12 09:50 PM
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I liked this post because it's extremely similar to my situation. Freshman in college, moving on from a bad breakup, putting initiative into strengthening myself and working towards self-actualization. I enjoyed the read and hope you experience more success in the future.
/r/seduction08/12/11 09:41 PM
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I'm actually reading Tolle's "Power Of Now" currently. I really like some parts of it, but other parts are just New Age-y nonsense. His commentary about eliminating the "noise" in your head and not identifying with your egoic mind are spot on, but it's often injected with words like "Being" and "eternal consciousness" and other kinds of shit like that. Basically if you're a rational thinker it's not hard to take the parts of his writing that are useful and discarding all the mumbo-jumbo.
/r/seduction09/11/11 11:54 PM
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I had a line that I would say to myself that's pretty similar to that: "There's no point to worry about embarrassment because I'm the only one that really remembers". I kind of like that one better though, you don't have to give yourself the burden of remembering your embarrassing moments.
/r/seduction03/11/11 12:18 AM
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Update: Well I did it guys. I eventually had to man-the-fuck-up and put my face in her face but she was totally receptive of it. It felt right, and because of it she knows that I'm not going to be that guy who let's the attraction dissipate because he's afraid. Thanks to everyone for their advice.
/r/seduction07/09/11 08:09 AM
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I didn't mean subtle as in not-noticeable. I just meant small things I can do, which is far from not doing anything. WolfInTheField's example was something that falls under that. But you're right, I have to just do it.
/r/seduction06/09/11 06:29 PM
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Good advice for me at least. Just met an awesome girl tonight and I'm going to try my best to keep things interesting and not stagnate.
/r/seduction02/09/11 08:11 AM
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Yeah man, that's a great attitude that I need to adopt. I tried smiling to myself in the mirror last night and it was sort of forced. But with time and the help I've received from all the people in here I think that I'll be well on my way soon :)
/r/seduction25/08/11 12:06 AM
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you already are that logical, intelligent person that you want to be. The rest is just wasting energy. I think this thought will go a long way in helping me. I'm starting to think that subconciously, I've conditioned myself to always expand my knowledge base and use it to compensate for my lack of reliance on emotion. But if I can accept that I've successfully become the logical person I've always endeavored to be, then I can move on and try to mature my emotional side. I suspect your desire to …
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:41 PM
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Yeah, the idea of predestination makes me think of religion, but the way you put it makes it much more attractive. It's true that I had no input into where/when I was born and who I am, so maybe I can use that thought to take the edge off like you said. Thanks.
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:30 PM
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Sounds right up my alley, thanks for the recommendation.
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:25 PM
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Perfectionism might be right, I always try to have an answer for problems that haven't even shown themselves. What happens then is when my knowledge bank doesn't help me I feel like it was all a waste of time. I think I'm beginning to understand that I and everyone else lives with imperfect information, and that having the answer going into an experience is less valuable than leaving an experience with the answer.
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:25 PM
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This could end up being beneficial, but I feel like pathways and strings of logic is more of what I already have. I need to be more spontaneous, unreactive, and less formulaic. I feel like that's what will balance my personality.
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:50 AM
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I really appreciate this advice, and I will probably scan over your first paragraph several times in the coming days. Hah, you anticipated me not being into religion, but of course I can be open-minded enough to take the benefits of Taoism without subscribing to it. Thanks for the tip. I really like how you keep your analytical thinking for your hobbies but put them aside for your social sphere. I think that might be the optimal solution for me. Thanks for everything.
/r/seduction24/08/11 05:47 AM
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Thanks for your understanding man, I'm going to try and think of something to engage in when over-analyzation kicks in. Thanks for that tip.
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:32 AM
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I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you highly value intellect. You just don't think emotions are reliable. Yes, and yes. I can tell now that you've experienced this after you just picked my brain. By doing what you're doing, you're only being half the man you could be. You may be right. I've always considered myself an emotionally stable person because I have always managed my own depression through willpower, and have always kept myself in check when I felt unstable. But the problem may…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:30 AM
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Yeah, somehow I just need to tell myself that it's ok to turn my brain off. This idea that I'm not myself if I'm not an analytical machine is affecting my happiness.
/r/seduction24/08/11 01:30 AM
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This is a really concise and provocative view on seduction. Thanks for this.
/r/seduction24/08/11 12:07 AM
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