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I'm all for self improvement. Weight lifting. Taking care of myself. However there seems to be a new plastic fake layer that's been added on top I don't quite understand Get better not bitter. The world is what it is. It caters towards the top 1% of men. Get in that top 1%
/r/seduction08/04/21 04:15 PM
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Continue to message her as though nothing went wrong. Do not draw attention to the fact that she blanked you.
/r/seduction08/04/21 04:14 PM
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Have more options
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:07 PM
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Never call them out. Personally, if a girl left me on read, I would move on. But if you want to continue, send her low investment text messages
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:05 PM
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Sounds positive to me. Ask her out on a date but make it casual of course. e.g. "Hey, we should hang out and get some coffee sometime" or whatever you want to do.
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:04 PM
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You could try, but you were too needy. Solve the root of the problem, not the symptom. Become higher value and enable yourself to have more options.
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:02 PM
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Sounds like you are lacking options. Solve the root of the problem, not the symptoms. Become higher value and enable yourself to have more options. However, If I was in your position right now and she has blanked me. FDB/Move on Fuck that bitch.
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:01 PM
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You are probably acting like too much of a "nice guy". I would guess that you are lacking testostrone. Hit the gym consistently. Eat well. Build up your testostrone.
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:00 PM
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Take responsibility for everything in your life Hit the gym consistently + Good diet
/r/seduction07/04/21 05:58 PM
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Wasn't obvious to me
/r/seduction11/11/19 12:55 AM
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This statement tells me a lot about your game and general mentality (if you weren't joking)
/r/seduction10/11/19 09:15 PM
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Invite me?
/r/seduction20/07/19 10:01 PM
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I believe I have some experience with the question at hand. ​ I was the same. At 19, I sucked with women. I was a virgin, was awkward when talking with them, didn't have the right mindsets, the right beliefs. ​ The only way that you can become more confident is by taking action. Reading every single book under the sun will not grow your confidence. Men become confident through overcoming difficult obstacles. That's all it is. ​ The obstacle I decided to tackle was 'game' of more conventionally k…
/r/seduction30/06/19 07:37 PM
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Thanks for this comment man. Very insightful.
/r/seduction21/04/19 01:04 PM
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Don't expect your first time to be spectacular. For me and many of my friends, it wasn't what we expected. Take the pressure off yourself. You don't need to perform. Talk with your GF and tell her that it's your first time. This will help take the pressure off. It's lower than you think.
/r/seduction21/04/19 12:59 PM
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Just roll with it. She may have been lying or perhaps she's just seeing a guy but she's not super invested. Don't worry about it
/r/seduction20/04/19 03:28 PM
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Never ask. Let her bring it up, if at all.
/r/seduction20/04/19 03:27 PM
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Yeah man same thing happened to me. You will have the ups and downs but they are good because they keep your ego in check. But through those ups and downs, you will be gradually improving. Go get some new leads and best of luck
/r/seduction20/04/19 03:27 PM
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It's normal to lose all plates. It's just the game man. Some days you're the king of the world. Other days you are back to square one. My advice would be to do the things that you did to get the plates again now and find new girls.
/r/seduction20/04/19 03:11 PM
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No worries man. I'm 2nd year uni now, I was exactly in your position last year so I know your position!
/r/seduction20/04/19 03:03 PM
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So if you see them round campus, say hi with a friendly smile. Maybe exchange a bit of small talk. "Hey how are you doing, I recognise you, what was your name again?" No shame in asking for the name again and reintroduce yourself also. As for meeting up with them again. Invite them to a pres or party that you're going to for uni. Good way to meet up with girls again in a non needy way
/r/seduction20/04/19 02:46 PM
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As a Londoner, I would generally agree with this
/r/seduction20/04/19 12:59 AM
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This guy knows what he's talking about.
/r/seduction11/02/19 10:26 PM
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If a girl gives you a stern no and tells you to leave her alone, then you obviously shouldn't persist. But if a girl gives you the look of 'who tf is this creep', it's completely normal and she can warm up to you if you show her your amazing personality. ​ But yeah I agree. If a girl is super bitchy and basically tells you to fuck off, then you should 100% leave it. But it is important to realise that girls also put a shield up.
/r/seduction11/02/19 10:24 PM
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You are entirely missing the point. People with your mindset are most guys. They give up and assume a rejection instantly. It's only the entitled guys which persevere and show value. Most guys can barely approach yet persevere when girls put their shield up.
/r/seduction11/02/19 07:41 PM
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The reason she has her shield up is because she can't say 'yes' to every guy. She has to have a way of filtering out the chodes.
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:47 PM
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This is perfectly normal. Girls will almost never be open and nice to you on the open. They will have their shields up. It's very important to understand this. Whenever I approach a girl, I don't expect her to respond well at all. I have to persist until she does. Girls put these shields up to filter the cool guys from the losers. Losers will be put into their head by her reaction and give up. Cool guys would laugh around and get her to warm up to them as they assume value.
/r/seduction11/02/19 10:39 AM
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Don't be condescending. Yeah of course. My point is that calling it 'fucked up' is the wrong mindset to have. 'The world is bad, it's against me, social dynamics are fucked up'. 'Women are weird and crazy, theyre fucked up'. It's the wrong mindset to come from. Social dynamics are there because they work.
/r/seduction06/02/19 08:29 PM
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Obviously it's perspective but I don't think human social dynamics are fucked up. They just are. Girls like guys who are around girls as it shows that they must be high value enough to be around girls and talk to them. It saves them the work to figure out if the guy is high value. Nothing fucked up about that. Just accept it
/r/seduction06/02/19 11:26 AM
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Ok then your situation is different to what I though. Yes, sounds like you need more comfort. Make her feel special. Do what you said, tell her that you're not trying to smash n pass as you actually like her because she's (list out qualities of her that you like). Try and make her understand why you like her for reasons other than her looks.
/r/seduction06/02/19 11:23 AM
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No don't tell her that. ​ I just agreed with her over text. She said, 'only as friends', I replied 'sure'. But she knows I don't mean it. ​ Meet with her in person and just pretend as though she never mentioned the friends part. Try and be sexual in the conversation to let her know what you want.
/r/seduction05/02/19 12:07 PM
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Of course you should. I started this journey when I just turned 19.
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:41 AM
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I will help you with some frames that help me whenever I go on dates. I still occasionally get nervous before a date. But these frames help me out a lot. As she's coming out to meet me *alone*, she must really really like me. I don't have to do anything special or make her like me as she already does. I can take the pressure off myself and just enjoy my time with her. I'm going to go and see if this girl is right for me. If I like her personality, I'll see what she's about as I am the buyer, not…
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:40 AM
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Ok, let's say you are dancing with a girl. I like to turn her around and dance face to face when I want to kiss her. Then I move her arms so that they are ontop of my shoulders and my arms are behind her waist. Once you have done this and you can tell that she doesn't feel uncomfortable, you're golden. Slide your hand beside her neck and place it behind her neck and go for the kiss (whilst holding eye contact). Don't blindly go for the kiss either. Once you make the move, see how she reacts. If …
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:33 AM
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I understand where you are coming from. I've had an experience like this too. When you next see the girl, it's important not to act 'weird'. Talk to her as though nothing happened. She hasn't blanked you. You didn't even have a ONS. ​ After talking to her, keep sending her low investment messages (I like to do this from snapchat as they don't know if I only sent it to them or to many other people and it's usually videos of me and my friends fooling about and having a good time). See if she bites…
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:29 AM
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Haha. Look at my history of posts and I was actually in a situation a few months ago where this exact thing happened. ​ I had a one night stand with a girl. We then met up the next day and had sex again. ​ After that, I imagine that she thought that she was giving the sex away 'too easily' and that she didn't want that dynamic between the two of us so when I agreed to meet her she told me, "ok, let's meet up again but be friendly *insert my name*. Just friends". ​ At the time, I was very shocked…
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:25 AM
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Well you have to remember that the most important factors to if a girl will come out with you on a date will be your initial interaction with her. Not your text game, although that is important. If the initial interaction was good and you have already agreed that you would like to hang out with each other another time, then your text game could be awful yet the girl will still come out. ​ However, text game is important (obviously). When texting a girl for the first time, try and use some call b…
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:21 AM
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I'll be honest with you. It's not a good sign that she wasn't "Complying" to your suggestions. It is actually a sign that she might not be as interested as you thought (AT THAT MOMENT GIRLS' INTEREST LEVELS CHANGE). ​ A huge IOI is compliance from a girl. e.g. You ask a girl to come grab a drink with you. If she complies, she is 99% very into you. ​ It's also important to balance the measure of *how* into you she actually is with the frame every attractive man should adopt "She's into me already…
/r/seduction02/01/19 12:23 AM
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I just turned 20 and I started this shit at 19. Hitting on older girls is fucking great. A lot of the time, they really dig it. However, it does depend upon the frame which you adopt. You have to frame control and act as though your age difference isn't a big deal at all. If a girl starts to like you, she will test this frame of yours with a shit test. ​ I get these all the time when I tell girls that I'm 20 if they're older than me. A recent test I got was off some Swedish stunner who was 25 wh…
/r/seduction02/01/19 12:19 AM
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It's a shit test. It's a good thing that you're being asked. It shows that the girl sees you as high enough value and a potential sexual partner that she's testing you. ​ The manner in which you respond is far more important than the content of the words (same with any other shit test). Respond in a calm, kind of aloof, non - chalent way not making it seem like a big deal. ​ That having been said, my go to responses are as follows: ​ That's ok, so yeah, last week I..... (continue on from where y…
/r/seduction02/01/19 12:06 AM
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Of course. Most of your success with getting girls out for dates depends upon how solid the initial interaction was. Did you seed the date? Did you get the girl into you? Fuck it, try for an instant date. How long was the interaction? Normally try and text them the same day as they remember you. Use call back humour to bring them back into the emotional state that they were in when they met you.
/r/seduction15/11/18 10:20 PM
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Hell no.
/r/seduction03/11/18 02:12 AM
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I would gauge her reaction on the date. Gauge how into you she is. Remember to screen her too for plans after the date. Ask her something like "Do you have any plans later on?" in a casual way. Find this information out. ​ Seed the pull during the date. Steer the conversation towards your "socially acceptable excuse". Mine is normally my guitar. I would mention that I play guitar and talk about it a bit. Then, after the date I could tell her "Oh yeah, I told you about my guitar, come check it ou…
/r/seduction02/11/18 03:48 PM
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You aren't going to change the way you think by just sitting down and doing nothing. Action is required
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:25 PM
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appreciate this man. Thanks so much
/r/seduction30/10/18 12:26 PM
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I also like this. Does it matter if we study different subjects? I study engineering where there are barely any girls
/r/seduction29/10/18 11:41 AM
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Yes so true. Thanks man
/r/seduction29/10/18 08:08 AM
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Yes I like this idea. How much notice should I give them? A day before? Few hours? (Sorry to be overly analytical, I tend to overthink things)
/r/seduction28/10/18 11:17 PM
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Ok so, as I mentioned above, your pedestal issues probably come from your belief of not feeling good enough (or entitled) for hot girls. We need to change that bro. ​ I changed it by: Hitting the gym and working on my body. Becoming more social and keeping those skills sharp Transforming my appearance. I changed my chodey hairstyle into a trendy one. I grew a beard and maintained it well. I spent some good money on clothes. I look back at pictures of me 8 months ago and now... the difference is …
/r/seduction28/10/18 11:00 PM
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Good work? Hit her up and set a date if you like her enough
/r/seduction28/10/18 10:53 PM
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I would target both of my points above systematically. ​ Why do you think you place girls on pedestals? Is it because you don't believe you are good enough for them (inner game issues). I would say this is most likely the case. I stopped putting hot girls on pedestals when I realised that I was the shit and good enough for them. This is a deep question that will take time for you to figure out. I'll tell you how I figured this shit out if you want. ​ Why are you outcome independent with girls th…
/r/seduction28/10/18 10:50 PM
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This is a very common problem guys have. It's because of a few reasons: ​ You do not place girls that you're not interested in on a pedestal. I would wager that you do this with hotter girls. You are outcome independment with girls you don't care about which coveys that you have options and thus, you are high value.
/r/seduction28/10/18 10:41 PM
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Well you made my point. If they placed their hand on my back, it wouldn't be calibrated would it? ​ Also, I would hope that if guys were to approach girls, they should at least tend to their general hygiene. ​ If some homosexual guy approached me well, I would simply tell him that I was straight but I appericated the compliment. ​ A fat chick? I would say "thanks for making my day but I have a girlfriend" (a lie of course but I wouldn't want to be a dick).
/r/seduction28/10/18 10:39 PM
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He must not be calibrated enough. I would always urge guys (espically newer ones) to approach girls with the intent of making their day Better. When I started off, I would tell girls "Hey, I thought you looked super cute, I had to come and say hi". How can someone be weirded out by that? It's a compliment even if it's delivered terribly.
/r/seduction28/10/18 09:37 PM
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You're going to have to find the time man. How badly do you want it? Walking is great but it won't get you big. You want muscles man. Hit the gym, work on your lifts. Keep talking to random strangers.
/r/seduction28/10/18 09:55 AM
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This is a big question man. I was in the same spot a year ago. I'm still not perfect but I've dated a few girls and lost my virginity in the meantime. I'll tell you what I did. Firstly, I sorted out my appearance. I hit the gym and invested in some trendy clothes. I figured out a hairstyle I liked and got that sorted. I get my haircut more than I usually would too (around every 3 weeks). ​ I then begun to socialise more. I joined clubs, made more of an effort in general with people. It's importa…
/r/seduction27/10/18 08:00 PM
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I definitely used to have this problem dude. Recently, I have upped my game. It starts with "pinging" the girl and seeing how into you she is (because we assume, of course, that she is into us). The question is, how much? I normally see this through physicality (if she reciprocates) or though compliance (whether she is willing to follow my lead). Compliance, I would lead the girl away for a drink. I would then normally sit down with the girl and by her body language too, see if she's ready for t…
/r/seduction27/10/18 07:45 PM
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There's never a peak. There are always ways you can improve keep grinding brother
/r/seduction27/10/18 07:38 PM
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I just see it as being your true self and not falling into the girl's frame. Sometimes, I am intentionally polarising when I believe it would benefit me to give a small negative spike. For example, if the girl says "I love the lion king" I would probably reply "Nah fuck the lion king, it's overrated". In a lot of cases, this would get the girl reacting saying things like "What? How can you say that, it's the best film blah blah blah". ​ This also conveys value as I'm assertive and confident in m…
/r/seduction27/10/18 07:37 PM
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So I'm at university and I have had a lot of experience at these kind of parties. ​ First thing I will tell you is not to put too much pressure on yourself. Yes girls are going to be there but you don't have to "perform" for them. Also, understand that nothing will happen with most girls you talk to and that's ok. Don't go into a conversation thinking "I'm trying to fuck this girl". Genuinely get to know her. ​ Secondly, it's not all about the girls. Socialise with everyone. The guys, girls, los…
/r/seduction27/10/18 07:31 PM
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Not when approaching different girls but of course in different situations. If I'm walking down a busy highstreet where anonymity is high, I'm far more likely to approach directly than if I was on my college campus where I'm known where I would approach indirectly.
/r/seduction27/10/18 06:50 PM
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Can't speak for tinder but I can for irl approaches. Whether she replies or not doesn't really depend on the initial text as much. It's mostly about the interaction you had with her. Was it solid? Did she enjoy it and experience positive emotions? Did you seed the date and ask her when she was free? It's all important stuff
/r/seduction17/09/18 12:33 PM
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I would honestly say "Only if I like the person"
/r/seduction17/09/18 12:26 PM
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Pick up artist
/r/seduction17/09/18 12:10 AM
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Eye opening for me. The vast majority of the content was very revealing and eye opening. I would say that while you're reading it, you'll have a lot of "Ah, that explains insert female behaviour". It's really helped me understand female psychology and the sexual dynamics. However, I do remember that there were some passages that I disagreed with. I think it's a good read but I don't think about it too often when I'm gaming. Girls may like me because of their "Hypergamous nature" but that doesn't…
/r/seduction15/09/18 11:05 PM
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This post doesn't belong on this subreddit. It belongs on one that's now been deleted. Accept reality for what it is and shit whining
/r/seduction13/09/18 11:55 PM
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I'm 19 and you have just described a very similar situation that I was in at your age. The only advice that I can really offer is to practice. Because the more you force yourself to venture into the unknown, chaotic territory of interaction with attractive women, the more comfortable you to get with it. You have passed the first step. Acknowledging that you arent amazing with women. It took me a while to realise this myself. You don't have to try and fuck every girl you meet either. Try to be fr…
/r/seduction12/09/18 12:10 AM
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I'm 6'4 so I get this a lot. My response depends on my mood and the way they said it. I normally just treat it as a compliment and say "Well thank you, you're very observant aren't you?" With a big smirk on your face. If I feel like the girl is more of a challenge I will say "Yeah, you're too short for me" or something along those lines, still with a flirty, smirky vibe
/r/seduction11/09/18 07:38 PM
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May as well ask "How to make a lot of money?". I wish there was a simple answer
/r/seduction10/09/18 08:07 PM
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May as well ask "How to make a lot of money?". I wish there was a simple answer
/r/seduction10/09/18 08:07 PM
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I'm 19 and I hit up my big city during the day. I also go to nightclubs
/r/seduction10/09/18 09:49 AM
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The best time to learn is now and you can learn something new from anyone.
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:46 PM
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Oh my absolutely attend. I would only dream of going on a boot camp with Owen. He's truly one of the best. You'll learn a lot. But for the sake of the exoereicne, be open to learn and be brave in approaching. Don't hold back, give it all you've got. Have a blast, I'm jealous.
/r/seduction06/09/18 10:47 PM
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A fitting response. You understand sir
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 10:31 PM
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I prefer your method. It's worked better for me in the past. It builds up that sexual tension then there is a lul in the conversation and you're both looking at eachother's eyes. Then you release it. Sometime I say before "Don't hate me for this"
/r/seduction05/09/18 11:08 AM
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Very true. It depends on the girl too. Some will test more than others. But as a general rule of thumb, girls will test more at the earlier stages of meeting you than the later stages. It's important to keep that in mind
/r/seduction04/09/18 10:29 AM
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I would also add: Have common courtesy. If your wing approaches a 2 set, let him hook then come in, let him introduce you and let your friend talk with the girl he finds more attractive (as he approached)
/r/seduction04/09/18 10:23 AM
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At my university, best place for a one night stand is to go out to the university night clubs (yes there's such thing in england), cold approach (not too direct as you don't want to make a name for yourself), hook a girl, move her around the venue whilst constantly seeking escalation (*remember to back off if she looks tease or is not responding to your moves*). Escalate, kiss, get intimate in the nightclub but not too much. Just have fun because if you start fingering her in the nightclub and t…
/r/seduction04/09/18 12:42 AM
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It's good for all levels. I would consider myself fairly adept at socialising but I still learnt a lot from the book and it also reinforced some of the behaviours and I already naturally had
/r/seduction03/09/18 02:16 PM
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I've always thought that 90% of game is basic social skills
/r/seduction03/09/18 11:59 AM
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I would say to take any advice with a pinch of salt. It's actually not bad advice for social newbies as it makes them focus on the other person, makes them present in the interaction and they seem interested in the other person but obviously you need to contribute too otherwise it's weird. As a salesman, I usually let the customer do most of the talking. Same on a date actually. I'm there to stear the conversation in the right direction. I'm the captain and the girl is the wind.
/r/seduction03/09/18 11:58 AM
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The most succinct explaination of chasing I have come across. Thanks
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:12 PM
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Ok cool. I was always under the impression that intent should be shown within the first few minutes. I guess it would depend upon the situation you find yourself in. Thanks for clearing that up for me
/r/seduction25/08/18 11:11 PM
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Good shit man. Great infield, I just wanted to ask one thing. Whilst watching, this interaction doesn't even feel like you are trying to pick up the girl, you are literally just being friendly and having a chat. I have heard/seen so much pua stuff about "Show intent/premise" and none was used in this. At some point you would have to right? If so, when would that point be and does the girl (after the interaction) even know if you found her attractive or if you are just looking for friends.
/r/seduction24/08/18 10:04 PM
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Cold approach is weird? Where did you hear that
/r/seduction24/08/18 11:27 AM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/seduction24/08/18 10:34 AM
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A man is only courageous when we takes action in spite of being afraid. You do not need any books or information on how to be more courageous. There is no magic pill. Just take action before your brain has a chance to think and over-rationalize the situation. ​ During my first few approaches during the day, I'm always scared shitless but when I do see that girl and want to talk to her I tell myself "fuck it" and act. Don't overthink.
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:43 PM
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Brad Pitt is a poor example as he already has a lot of social status. If someone is a good looking guy, muscular, tall, dresses well but beta, shy and stifled then he would be unattractive. Simple.
/r/seduction23/08/18 12:34 PM
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Why is this case? I have a good long term friend who is about a 4 and I saw her using tinder. She would only swipe right once in every about 25 left swipes. She was rejecting model looking guys. I thought to myself, if a 4/10 girl rejects models, then I have no fucking chance with an actual hot girl on tinder. I asked her why she would reject very good looking guys and she would just say 'he isn't my type'
/r/seduction23/08/18 11:44 AM
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Well done for asking. To me it just seems like she doesn't want to outright reject you so she just hasn't replied. Now you know where the dynamic is between you two so just move on (unless she miraculously replies soon).
/r/seduction23/08/18 11:40 AM
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Thanks so much man! This is great advice
/r/seduction27/04/18 10:12 AM
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Thanks for your response. Great points. I'm currently at university and I'm very frustrated with my sex life (or lack of it). Would you say that cold approaching is the best way for me to improve?
/r/seduction26/04/18 11:51 AM
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Great post. Thank you so much, I have been struggling with approaching around my campus recently. I'm worried about what others may think of me. This has given me motivation to try again
/r/seduction26/04/18 10:42 AM
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I will do.
/r/seduction13/04/18 01:45 PM
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I think this is it.
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:46 PM
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Thanks so much for the reply. It's a lovely trick but it's much easier said than done (although it is correct of course). I can't just change my mindset into not thinking about the outcome.
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:42 PM
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Listen. I'm not going to spoon feed you. There is no set formula. You need to go and research this yourself. Unless you hire a personal mentor, no-one is being to have the answers tailored for you. Good luck
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:14 PM
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Ok in that case, continue being a beta. /s
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:11 PM
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Go to the gym. Invest in your clothes/hairstyle. Approach girls. Gather experience. Refine your seduction skills.
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:08 PM
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This is a very hard question to answer from a single comment. My first thought would be that you don't become a 'fuckboy' overnight. It will take months/years of experience to truly and genuinely be a 'fuckboy'. This isn't to do with the fuckboy's aesthetics. That's probably the easy part. Go to the gym, invest in some stylish clothes and eat better. But having the fuckboy mindset is a whole different ball game. They have experience which fosters belief. They are so self validated that they don'…
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:04 PM
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Man, we're all going to have insecurities. I am 6'4 and I am most definitely a newbie at game. I have been told several times from different people that I'm good looking and I still find it very hard to get girls. Behaviour is far more important than our aesthetics. Play the hand you are dealt.
/r/seduction08/04/18 10:46 PM
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Ok thank you!
/r/seduction27/03/18 09:25 AM
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Ah! Ok thank you.
/r/seduction27/03/18 09:25 AM
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Perfect
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:40 PM
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This is amazing advice. I'm going to remember this. Thank you so much man
/r/seduction15/02/18 05:49 PM
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And you know what, I have completely forgotten about this. Thank you. You're 100% right. Creepiness arises when you want to (or are) sucking value from girls/groups. In retrospect, I saw myself guilty of this yesterday. I think I know some examples of giving value: Radiating positive energy, being curious and being light-hearted but how can I give value if I'm not yet 'in state' and I want to casually approach a girl by her self and start up a conversation? Would my 'reason' for talking and appr…
/r/seduction15/02/18 05:35 PM
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Thank you so much for this. It's comforting to hear that I was doing the right thing yesterday by approaching. It felt so foreign and unnatural. I think it was to do with social conditioning as I used to be a nice guy. A white knight who didn't know game and thought that the way to attract women was to 'lightly tread' around them and be a gentleman. Although, of course, respect is key, confidence and fearlessness are as or more important. I may have gotten some weird looks off people when I appr…
/r/seduction15/02/18 03:55 PM
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yes you are right. Infield footage is very valuable. I'll go check some out
/r/seduction15/02/18 01:23 PM
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Well if I wanted a nice chat with someone I'd go outside and give my grandma a call
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:42 PM
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Don't worry so much about my later replies, think and work on my initial comment. You need to work on your inner self and become confident. This will help you a lot with attracting women
/r/seduction05/02/18 04:36 PM
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If you want to talk to her and she's showing subtle interest then look back smile and approach.
/r/seduction04/02/18 10:59 PM
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Be congruent and calibrate. I'm not sure if those two terms mean anything to you
/r/seduction03/02/18 11:11 PM
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Why is anxiety correlated with the attractiveness of a women? - Good question. This is something I've been trying to figure out for myself too. I'll tell you what I understand. When a women is more attractive, you feel like you have more to lose. You see her as the 'manifestation of rejection'. We're afraid of being judged by her and rejected by her because we put attractive girls on a pedestal. Link to interesting video on the topic : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-o2nnDF_So Eye contact - Fr…
/r/seduction03/02/18 10:34 PM
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OP is new to game. Yes he should keep these points in the back of his mind but the most important thing to work on inner game and gain reference experience by taking action.
/r/seduction03/02/18 10:22 PM
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I forgot to mention that I really do applaud you for taking action. Although it's the obvious thing to do, it really does take a lot of will for many of us. Found the vid: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riheA5x9WaE
/r/seduction03/02/18 09:56 PM
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Exactly this. Go in there with no expectations. Get into that mindset. Do this and approach many women and you will become desensitised to the nerves.
/r/seduction03/02/18 09:33 PM
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I'm a 19M at uni and you have literally just described the exact same experiences that I've had in the past. It's awkward isn't it? A cute girl with her back turned 'accidently' bumping' into you. It's happened to me a handful of times and the majority of those times I didn't take action and I felt like a pussy. So more recently, I have been trying to find out the answer to your question for a while to some success. Watch RSD Max's video on club game. It'll take a lot for me to write out everyth…
/r/seduction03/02/18 09:22 PM
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You're stating the obvious. I agree with your points but they're not accessible to OP
/r/seduction03/02/18 09:12 PM
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I don't know why you're getting down voted. I agree with all. Of course inner game is very important but it's no good without taking action.
/r/seduction03/02/18 09:09 PM
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Watch Max's (RSD) guide on night club game. He explains good ways of isolating
/r/seduction03/02/18 08:55 PM
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Thanks for the advice man
/r/seduction03/02/18 08:04 PM
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Seems to me that you may have a form of mild social anxiety as you become anxious when asking strangers normal things. There is a lot you can do you help yourself but realise that this problem isn't going to rectify itself and certainly not overnight. It's a known fact that the more you interact with an activity that makes you anxious, the less anxious you will become after a while. Start small. Baby steps. Ask a stranger for the time. Ask another where the nearest "X" is. Then begin to build fr…
/r/seduction03/02/18 07:59 PM
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Any tips or ideas on how to talk and interact to more girls at university?
/r/seduction03/02/18 07:32 PM
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Work out. Feel good about yourself. I'm definitely not the most experienced guy here but what has helped me a lot recently is trying to have a positive mindset around women. E.g I used to think "if I keep talking with her she'll lose interest". I now try and think " My words have value and the more I talk to her the more I can get to know if she is right for me" Don't underestimate the power of the mind.
/r/seduction03/02/18 07:28 PM
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Thank you so much for your comment. '2' and '3' hit home. I was definitely 'scared' when they came across but I should point out that before they came, I was having a great time with my friends and was really into the music. It's not that I appeared awkward before hand, I was actually filled with energy and exuberance. I felt relaxed being around people I know and that vibe must have come across. But once the girls arrived, I was suddenly over-thinking everything. As you quite rightly said, the …
/r/seduction12/10/17 07:54 PM
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I'm tall (around 194cm) and I was actually having a great time with my friends so that vibe probably came across too.
/r/seduction12/10/17 07:36 PM
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Yes it was on the dance floor. I understand the "taking her hand part". But I'm never sure what to do after that. How can I escalate from there?
/r/seduction12/10/17 02:25 PM
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