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He was 24 when he said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 12:56 PM
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I’ve recently had a breakthrough in therapy that my ex calling me boring was because of his own disregulated nervous system. He had a f*cked up childhood and a stable, healthy relationship made him feel emotionally ‘unsafe’ as messed up as that sounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:41 AM
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Right? He claims he wanted to take her to brewery with good food. If so why did he not say, “I’d love to take you to XYZ brewery for dinner on Saturday” or something? Nope, he hoisted it back on her to make the plan and didn’t like what she picked. And then after talking to Reddit he didn’t even counter with the brewery idea, and just bottomed out and asked for a picnic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:28 PM
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Yeah thinking high school/college. My hs sweetheart told me at 19 something similar. He wanted to be free to date around but “I was the type of girl he wanted to commit to once he was done”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:15 AM
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And this is the type of dude in his late 20s/30s who finally “settles down” with whatever halfway decent girl he’s with at the time since he’s at that point in his life where his commitment bulb goes off. But sits around mooning over the “one that got away”, aka the great girl he threw in the trash in his younger years so he could “experience other people”. There was a whole ask Reddit thread of this same story over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:13 AM
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Saw a TikTok of a guy advocating ditching dating apps in favor of using LinkedIn. LinkedIn for dating 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:21 AM
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I saw a good tiktok that explained it well. Men have a much more of a "plenty of fish in the sea" worldview when it comes to dating/relationships. Which is true, but the reality is, while there are a lot of fish, finding a fish that you are really truly compatible with and have a strong connection with is rare. So men will have a great "fish" that they will let go (cheat on them, dump them, treat them terribly until they get dumped themselves). And years later end up marrying whatever halfway de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:11 PM
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Right?!?! It’s literally not hard. I live in a major US city, there are things going on literally all the time. So many places to go. Yet dudes cannot be more creative than “let’s grab a drink”, and half the time they still want you to figure out the place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:59 PM
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There’s a good bit of truth to it from studies. Essentially men tend to feel “the hit” of the breakup much later. Women tend to grieve immediately- crying, ice cream, talking to her girlfriends about it, processing it, etc. and then start to heal. Whereas men tend to shove down any feelings about it. “Celebrate”, going out partying, hooking up with other girls, not talking about or processing it. And eventually down the line, maybe a few months later it bubbles to the surface and hits them like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:42 PM
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"He works hard". I work 60 hours a week and still make time to clean my place every week. And take care of my physical and mental health. And take care of my pets. And make time for friends and family. And handle all other life maintenance activities. What is with this idea that for men "working" exempts them from any other life responsibility? I saw a tiktok recently from a woman that worked in a school who was calling out all the 'dads' she sees in her job who have no idea their kids full name…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:52 PM
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Yet another grown ass man still obsessed about the girls he didn’t get in high school and college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:29 PM
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There was a thread recently (ask Reddit maybe) about “the one who got away”. There were some women posting but I’d say it was overwhelming men. Usually talking about high school or college girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:23 PM
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And so many men creating fanciful alternate scenarios. It was clear from the beginning what happened. Women being murdered at the hands of their partner/ex partners isn't rare. Yet all these men on reddit being like "well maybe she faked her own death to get famous" "maybe she jumped off a cliff in front of him to frame him". They seriously all watched 'Gone Girl' and thought it was a documentary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:05 PM
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I don’t get the whole “it’s the female red pill” argument. It’s literally the opposite. The red pill/pua/manosphere crap is built on a foundation of emotionally abusing and manipulating women. That’s literally the “skills” they teach. FDS actually helps women recognize these kinds of manipulations and abuse and get away from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:39 AM
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For real. I feel I'm a pretty normal 30 something woman. My week is jammed with work, side hustle, family, friends, pet care, fitness, sleep, hygiene & maintenance, life chores... and that leaves a small window for dating. If I like someone I will certainly make the time for it. But It's wild men think women are out here going out with men just for the "free dinner" in any large numbers. Maybe if they are really scraping the bottom of the barrel in terms of quality of women. But any high value o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:15 PM
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Ding ding ding. Society has been pushing the "TRADES!" mantra ever since the recession. The whole "trades are this perfect world where you need no education and will just make buckets of money and laugh at all the idiots with their degrees and debt" mentality. But lets be real for a minute... who is being pushed towards trades? Its MEN, BOYS. Its not pink collar jobs like nail techs and daycare workers that are making great money. It a select grouping of manual labor type jobs that are heavily m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:24 PM
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People tell women to "talk it out" because there's an expectation that women are supposed to do men's emotional labor for them. Men and women believe this. They act like men have no ability to understand what is/isn't acceptable without a woman spelling it out for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:18 PM
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I think she and a lot of the commenters think “it’s a joke, haha”. I mean he’s coming off jokey but it’s clear the “joke” is coming from how he truly feels. He likes her well enough, but he’s with her because she’s basically “the best he could do at the time”. He didn’t pick her, he just held on to her because he didn’t think he’d be able to land much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:07 PM
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A dude tried to surprise me with bowling on a first date once. I was like umm I’m wearing a dress and strappy heels and there’s no way I’m putting my bare feet in bowling shoes 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:43 PM
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Missed the “but please don’t say anything about the age difference, it has nothing to do with this!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:51 AM
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I always think about this when men complain that women who are super independent/self-reliant are unattractive (aka has a career/home/money in the bank/takes themselves on dates/traveling/whatever). Like what is your solution here guys? Should a woman just sit in her parents house and work a dead end job until one of you decides to be her prince charming and press play on her life? Like I know it strokes your ego to think she couldn't possible function without you but there's no guarantee one of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:02 PM
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I seem to be a magnet for men with daddy issues. They don’t have a good role model to see how a high value husband and father should act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:49 PM
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I always know when my ex is between girlfriends because that’s the only time I hear from him. When I broke up with him a decade ago (after he told me he didn’t see himself marrying me after 6 years of dating) he came crawling back at 6 months post breakup. The usual- I love you, I miss you, it will be different this time, I’m ready to get engaged. Sadly enough I fell for it hook, line, and sinker, (I was 23 and pre FDS 😂) and was preparing myself for a cross country move for him, for the second …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:40 PM
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My favorite whine is when they are told they need better pictures and they whine “I don’t have better pictures!” One dude even was like “women don’t understand, we don’t get our picture taken that often”. Especially when they get called out for using way too old photos. Like tf? You have no one in your life that can take a good pic? Friend, roommate, mom? Selfies aren’t hard. Hell you can even buy those tripods w/ a remote for like 20 on Amazon and get a nice full body pic. No excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:20 PM
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So many of those types seem to think they deserve a parade and medals for working a job. Like not even a super impressive or anything job. Like because they go to an office 40 hours a week and bring home an average paycheck, they absolutely are supposed to be granted a beautiful woman as compensation. They literally feel shorted when it doesn’t work that way because somewhere along the way they internalized that’s how life works or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:14 PM
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He sounds like he’s practicing Red Pill/ pick up artist tactics. Pretending he didn’t understand what she meant by giving him the chair, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:06 PM
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Dudes will spend hours at the gym every week because they are convinced women all are going to swoon and drop panties over their “gainz”. Meanwhile won’t spend a couple minutes each day brushing and flossing their teeth 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:05 PM
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Seriously. Men bitch about catfishes but use pics that are like 8 years old. Dude you are 33, you can’t use pics from college anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:57 PM
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I went out with a “physician”. He was a chiropractor 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:50 PM
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Yup, then the just run right out and look for wife 2.0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:53 PM
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It’s 2021, it’s literally never been easier to remember important dates. You can program them into your phone, watch, tablet, Amazon device whatever. I could literally tell my Alexa to remind me of an important date and then ask it to order a gift off Amazon and I’d have it 2 days later. There are literally no excuses but cheapness and laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:19 AM
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Was with my ex for 6 years. He got a job offer in LA which was his dream city and he asked me to move out there with him. When he got the offer he had no money to his name, basically just enough for the flight out there. So being the loving woman that I was, I ponied up first and last months rent on a place out there so he could start work not homeless. Quit my job and said goodbye to my friends and family and moved 3000 miles away a few weeks later and spent even more money buying furniture and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:55 PM
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“Family men” get advantages in the workplace. Men who are married and even more so when they have kids are more likely to been seen as trustworthy, hard working, worthy of promotions etc. The exact opposite is true of women in the workplace. This dude wanted the social benefits of having a “wife” without actually committing to his gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:57 AM
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“My kids come first” (every other Saturday when I take them to a baseball game)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:59 PM
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Pretty sure there was a Reddit post just like this. Dude had a gf that was going to be a forever gf because he “didn’t believe in marriage”. And she accepted it. Until she found out everyone at his work thought she was his wife because that’s what he was telling them she was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:58 PM
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Pretty much every one of her videos has some dude going “and this is why men have trust issues”. Like dude quit embarrassing yourself pretending like you don’t know how makeup works. You know exactly what it does- covers blemishes, highlights features, etc. If you meet a girl with perfect hair and a banging Smokey eye, and think she somehow looks like that all the time, then I’m gonna think you have like zero experience with women dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:04 PM
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They really think the pretty girls in high school not being into them is some kind of legitimate trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:01 AM
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Might be 90% if she’s pregnant? Too lazy to look up the stats but I think that’s correct. If a pregnant woman gets murdered it’s like almost every single time the father of her baby. Ray Carruth, Scott Peterson, Chris Watts, that famous boxer just recently in Puerto Rico.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:29 PM
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The “I married the first guy that was interested in me in my early 20s so I wouldn’t become an ‘old maid’ but now it’s 10 years later, we have kids, literally have nothing in common and basically can’t stand each other most of the time, but there’s no way I’m leaving his man baby ass because I literally am terrified of being single” cope. The old Lololoololol I’ll just joke that all adult men are overgrown babies that can’t listen or pull their weight in the family because the alternative is tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:33 PM
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Pretty sure she just saw what a circus it was. She seems well educated and runs her own company. She probably much prefers her life now where she can dress how she wants, have opinions on what she wants, go where she wants, on her own schedule, etc. she’s the daughter of a rich Zimbabwean farmer, so it’s not like she was hurting for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:30 PM
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His two serious relationships were Chelsy Davy & Cressida Bonas, but I’m not sure if he proposed to them. Chelsy Davy did say attending the Will/Kate wedding as Harry’s date solidified that she wouldn’t marry him bc she didn’t want to become a royal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:59 PM
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He’s weird, he looks very different picture to picture. It was actually something that made him difficult to identify because his looks varied a lot due facial hair/weight at any given time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:55 AM
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Ever spend some time in the relationship subs? Sooooo many women married to men that don’t work (wahhh they can’t find something they are passionate about), blow their wives money on toys for themselves , are home all day but can’t put down the video game controller long enough to cook dinner or clean the house. On and on. It’s not that they are financially disadvantaged, they are just fucking lazy most of them. So you can’t date because you are broke? Work a second job, get a roommate, budget y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:01 AM
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It’s redpill speak. Basically “shit testing” is any thing a woman does that the man thinks is some kind of test to see if he’ll do what she wants. Literally they think anything is “shit testing”. Getting mad he’s late for a date? Shit testing. Not having sex with him? Shit testing. Asking him what he’s looking for in a relationship? Shit testing. They call “holding frame” not giving to shut testing. Aka being obtuse, an asshole, manipulative, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:54 PM
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Same with that girl at Duke who did porn to pay for her tuition. Some male classmate came across her videos and spread it across campus and it became national news. She was bullied and shamed but not the classmate consuming and spreading the porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:40 PM
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This is what makes me the most mad about it. It seems many of the fathers at the school are happy to patronize onlyfans, and the school cared but one iota.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:38 PM
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Men love gatekeeping what counts as a hobby. Makeup, skincare, hair, nails, fashion? Nope that’s not a hobby that’s just “taking care of yourself”. Cooking? Not a hobby, everybody’s got to eat. Decorating/interior design? Women are just naturally good at that stuff. Reading? If you can’t see a product it’s not a hobby. In their mind it seems like “hobbies” only include gaming, sports, building things, cars, etc. aka primarily male dominated hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:30 PM
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Yup I got told in one of those subs that the only reason women get treated poorly in dating is because they only go for the top 10% of men. They literally can’t comprehend that even when we do lower our standards we often still get treated poorly. Sorry dudes it’s not just make models who are entitled, selfish, abusive, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:39 AM
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Imagine bragging about how you are only putting in 20% to your wife’s 80% in your marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:44 AM
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The age difference was so apparent on their reality show. She was young, like 22-23ish? And she had like no life skills and was pretty immature. I’m pretty sure Nick was like her first and only serious relationship. And then Nick was like 30 and clearly had so much more life experience. He had lived on his own before, had other serious relationships. And he walked around rolling his eyes and getting frustrated. Like dude you chose to date and marry a much younger woman. That comes with the terri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 10:17 PM
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And she’s only 24. Like leave sis. You’ve got plenty of time to find a better one. One who doesn’t just want societal benefits you can bring to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:18 PM
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Cherry on top? He was 27 when he started dating her, a 19 year old. Picked himself out an impressionable teenager who wouldn’t question his absurdity. She’s even defending him throughout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:16 PM
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I mean who isn’t having a hard time this year in a global pandemic? I put the brakes on dating when I thought this was going to last a couple months, but we are coming up on a year with no end in sight. I’ll probably not start up again anytime soon. I mean there’s all the normal shit that goes with dating with an added layer of trying to vet whether you can trust a dude enough to breathe the same air as him right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:30 AM
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I get that emotional intelligence is not something everyone possesses and articulating feelings can be tough- but my god just don’t fucking lie. I’m so sick of the straight up lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:21 AM
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I was giving him a fair chance because in my mind he had a lot of good qualities. I was honest from the get that I was going through a tough couple months and was apprehensive about getting into something serious. I tried to be honest about the speed at which I was comfortable moving (slow) and was feeling out the potential for a true match. I knew I had to end it when he seemed to be getting more serious than I knew I wanted with him. Hence me feeling crappy about ending it because based on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:18 AM
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Possible but honestly it did look like a wave of relief wash over his face when I ended it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:59 PM
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And her ex is such a pos. He cheated on her, and then after they broke up he rode on her coattails and tried to become famous off her name. Like dude how LV to not have goals/identity of your own and use your rich/successful ex girlfriend to try and make a name for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:07 PM
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I got annoyed when the last guy I dated would seemingly check in to see if I followed through with a fitness class. Ummm I’m pretty sure I never asked you to be my accountability buddy. If I go I go, if I don’t I don’t. My choice, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:56 PM
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He realllyyy keeps doubling down on the self-own doesn’t he? Well check mate libs, me and my wife don’t care about having a satisfying sex life! Umm so you are a lazy selfish lover, know your wife doesn’t get off, but since she doesn’t hold you accountable you don’t care. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 07:23 PM
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Sounds like the man is jealous over the attention his newborn is getting and is “marking his territory” by manhandling his wife. Good on you, you scrote, you really showed that baby who’s boss and who owns mommy’s body. Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:43 PM
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They don’t want to admit they picked shitty men to marry and have children with. So they complain on BM about their man child partners but don’t want anyone to point out that nothing is going to change their men’s behavior until they actually get some consequences for their shittyness (no sex, no wife mommy taking care of them, actually getting dumped). It’s like in r/relationships posts where ppl come in and list a litany about how terrible their partner is, including straight up abuse but then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:32 PM
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We were having a girls happy hour once and all decided to go grab pizza because we were getting hungry. All the sudden he is texting her that he neeeddddss her to pick up food and come eat dinner with him instead because he missed her so much (they lived together and saw each other all the time). It was just a control tactic, he wanted to ensure she’d put him a over her friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:16 PM
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Men fear their wives single friends as well. I had a former friend who turned total pickmeisha when she met her now husband. I got cut from the wedding guest list because I was single and he thought it was better if only “couple friends” were invited. Aka there was always a veneer of him not totally trusting the single girls in her life. We might corrupt her and convince her to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:47 PM
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I’m 5’3 so not even tall. Don’t even really care that much about height. Matched with this guy online and I think he had on there like 5’7 or something. I showed up to the date and he was honest to god shorter than me. He just tried to play it off like “oh haha I told you I was short”. Um no you fucking lied. And this was in my keep sweet days so I continued the date to be “polite”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:18 PM
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So true! Not being desperate for a baby has helped me not settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:12 AM
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Men can’t even correctly figure out age. I’m in my mid thirties but usually get pinged as early to mid 20s. They just think every hot girl they see is “22” because that fits the fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:50 PM
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But then complain that the only types of women you catch while flashing brand names are gold diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:38 PM
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