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daygamer0911/r/seduction25/10/17 02:52 PM
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No, but I have heard of that word.
/r/seduction15/12/17 05:47 AM
3

Have you ever heard of the phrase "figure of speech"
/r/seduction14/12/17 10:19 PM
1

Everything in moderation bro
/r/seduction13/12/17 05:54 PM
7

Are you asking him out on one?
/r/seduction12/12/17 08:51 PM
1

Sidebar
/r/seduction12/12/17 08:50 PM
1

GFTOW
/r/seduction12/12/17 08:49 PM
1

A good slice of pizza
/r/seduction12/12/17 10:01 AM
1

I used this when I was on tinder lol
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:25 AM
2

Itt OP learns about cognitive bias.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:24 AM
1

Time and repeated action
/r/seduction10/12/17 01:26 AM
4

The only person I wouldn't tell is your mom
/r/seduction08/12/17 09:29 PM
6

Seems like you are inferring things I didn't say.
/r/seduction08/12/17 04:22 PM
0

Would you rather be 5'7" or have a 2" dick? Shut the fuck up, stop bitching about things you can't change and act like a fucking man.
/r/seduction08/12/17 12:49 AM
1

Wait what the fuck is "s*x?"
/r/seduction07/12/17 11:36 PM
1

Sidebar Google
/r/seduction07/12/17 11:36 PM
0

This. I don't use dating apps really but when I did, I generally avoided the ones that listed their insta or snap usernames.
/r/seduction07/12/17 10:52 PM
1

Sidebar You need to learn how to open, attract and seduce women
/r/seduction07/12/17 10:51 PM
4

Use condoms, don't have sex when you have an outbreak. Don't have sex when you feel one might be coming on.
/r/seduction07/12/17 10:21 PM
1

Do you not read the news, motherfucker?
/r/seduction07/12/17 08:14 PM
5

You seek external validation. It won't help.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:15 AM
8

No reply will make you feel better. Go get a life, literally
/r/seduction07/12/17 03:49 AM
7

-100000
/r/seduction07/12/17 03:02 AM
3

I don't have much for you but one thing: Stop settling for just sleeping next to them. If they don't fuck, they go home (or you go home if you're at their place). Start being a cold hearted player with them.
/r/seduction07/12/17 01:13 AM
5

You planning on doing residentials or any personalized coaching? edit- n/m, i see you answered that in another reply!
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:04 PM
1

It was also recorded for Kurupt's album "Tha Streetz Iz A Mutha," which is my preferred version because of the intro: https://musicbrainz.org/recording/9e88b298-8408-4b7a-8d40-ee989bb8fa3e
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:21 PM
1

Wrong. "Housewife" was written by Dr. Dre and performed by him, Kurupt and Hittman: https://musicbrainz.org/recording/dde757a7-38c8-4eea-bfa8-6f3d10837ff0 Snoop didn't have a cameo on the song.
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:18 PM
4

It's only demanding if you do it without calibration, e.g. pushing and insisting. You want to lead. Leading is good.
/r/seduction06/12/17 05:11 PM
16

Probably not you. Many women have been raped or otherwise sexually assaulted. It doesn't make them bad people or poor partners.
/r/seduction06/12/17 04:55 AM
1

ABC
/r/seduction06/12/17 03:44 AM
2

Kiss them
/r/seduction06/12/17 03:10 AM
1

Turning the car on doesn't get you to work unless you actually drive the damn vehicle.
/r/seduction06/12/17 02:53 AM
2

If you aren't closing it doesn't matter if they love you or hate you.
/r/seduction06/12/17 02:52 AM
8

Pobrecito
/r/seduction06/12/17 02:43 AM
2

You know the answer to that.
/r/seduction06/12/17 02:35 AM
1

Meet and date more women
/r/seduction05/12/17 11:55 PM
1

Make lots of friends
/r/seduction05/12/17 11:51 PM
2

Yes
/r/seduction05/12/17 09:14 PM
1

No
/r/seduction05/12/17 04:09 AM
2

Sex
/r/seduction05/12/17 01:53 AM
1

Don't be needy. Don't be reactive.
/r/seduction04/12/17 11:04 PM
2

Fuck or at least kiss them
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:27 PM
2

Can't you get girls elsewhere
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:26 PM
1

I once spent six months of my life homeless, in a similar situation. The good thing is this shit builds character and makes you interesting to others.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:12 PM
1

YES
/r/seduction04/12/17 01:36 AM
2

It's not a lie, it's a story.
/r/seduction04/12/17 01:36 AM
1

Craft some crazy dramatic story about the wedding and make that the reason you "stopped drinking"
/r/seduction04/12/17 01:30 AM
1

If it's formatted like this post I'll wager few will read it. Paragraphs, man. For fuck's sake, use them!
/r/seduction04/12/17 01:26 AM
1

It's all dependent upon context
/r/seduction03/12/17 09:38 PM
2

I'd be honest. If anything it's good practice for when you really need to be.
/r/seduction03/12/17 07:45 AM
1

What's weird is you didn't ask a question. Who gives a fuck about some rando girl
/r/seduction03/12/17 01:56 AM
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Sidebar
/r/seduction02/12/17 05:02 PM
–

Motivation isn't real. You just fucking do it. Maybe you decided to go but you wind up not going. Maybe you go and don't approach. Actions speak to your true self.
/r/seduction02/12/17 05:38 AM
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No one can convince yourself of doing something. You are capable or incapable of taking initiative on your own. That's it. The fact that you're asking others to fix your problems indicates that you aren't ready to handle your shit.
/r/seduction02/12/17 04:40 AM
1

If her reason for ignoring you was personal to her, it was not universal. And thus contradictory with your assertion that it's not appropriate.
/r/seduction02/12/17 01:59 AM
1

Is it free?
/r/seduction01/12/17 08:26 PM
1

Game is just an expression of social communication You were stonewalled bc your approach sucked. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction01/12/17 08:23 PM
1

"check out my upcoming book"
/r/seduction01/12/17 07:43 PM
1

What's a pedastool?
/r/seduction01/12/17 07:41 PM
3

You pre framed it incorrectly. Rule 1 assume rapport. Rule 2 open with something else and reveal the bit about the paper later
/r/seduction01/12/17 07:32 PM
1

When you get back text her a brief story synopsis about something you did/experienced (one sentence, leading her into asking more about it)
/r/seduction30/11/17 01:18 AM
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Lol cheers
/r/seduction30/11/17 01:16 AM
1

S I D E B A R I D E B A R
/r/seduction29/11/17 11:16 PM
1

Why would you delete the post after framing it as wanting to help other guys. Weak
/r/seduction29/11/17 11:14 PM
1

You write too much and you shouldn't shit where you eat
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:49 PM
4

Maybe idk consider texting her or something wild
/r/seduction29/11/17 05:00 PM
1

Didn't ask you silly Also post proof
/r/seduction29/11/17 04:35 PM
2

Actually protein powder is better 😋 but yes it depends on diet preference
/r/seduction29/11/17 04:35 PM
0

How much estradiol is normal for a healthy male? Legumes are awful for protein. Have you studied nutrition at all or have you just "seen" recommendations?
/r/seduction29/11/17 09:20 AM
2

Would you stop a girl on the street and show her a meme?
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:56 AM
-2

Yawn
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:55 AM
-4

Cool ad hominem. What's your squat 1rm?
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:17 AM
1

Stop worrying about a single party and go get practical cold approach experience.
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:16 AM
4

There is no actual basis in science for this assertion.
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:14 AM
4

I'm not a fan of cash and forth texting everyday[sic] You don't want to be texting any girl every day. You basically want to re-open her every three or so days (but keep it irregular, maybe even do two days in a row) with a text ping that creates value. It's okay to have a BRIEF conversation.
/r/seduction29/11/17 08:13 AM
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Text less fuck more
/r/seduction29/11/17 12:13 AM
3

It depends and it should vary. No specific cadence. Make her wish you texted more.
/r/seduction29/11/17 12:11 AM
1

Okay but you're not the one posting about his troubles making conversation over text. 😜 Very few things are 100% universally applicable.
/r/seduction27/11/17 06:43 PM
3

You haven't even kissed and you're worried about dudes. Stop putting the cart before the horse
/r/seduction27/11/17 08:46 AM
6

Just save the fucking memes for your buds
/r/seduction27/11/17 08:45 AM
1

Why do you feel the need to tell her you're busy?
/r/seduction27/11/17 04:28 AM
2

The way of the superior man
/r/seduction27/11/17 04:26 AM
2

To assume seduction should not be genuine is a false dichotomy.
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:29 AM
2

Do unto others as they would do unto you. Imagine you just met someone and they texted you a meme. You knew very little about them.
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:27 AM
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Don't send memes. Memes are the texting version of asking a stranger how they are doing today. You're not investing and they won't invest in return.
/r/seduction26/11/17 11:34 PM
3

This. Everyone is needy to some extent. We just have to work to minimize it. My suggestion is to pretend it didn't happen and game accordingly.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:45 PM
1

ded
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:03 AM
2

Yes
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:03 AM
3

What this guy said. Understand that we were all virgins at one point and felt how you feel. Let that knowledge calm you. Acknowledge your feelings and take action.
/r/seduction25/11/17 10:34 PM
1

"Hmmm"
/r/seduction25/11/17 04:04 AM
1

Always turn her to her right
/r/seduction25/11/17 12:26 AM
6

So this is just what's been told to me by women of the age range you desire; it may not be significant. Older women like younger dudes as long as the guy isn't insanely immature. They like the virility and overall sexual energy. But don't act super yoloswag or whatever you kids say now. Confidence is supremely important. Now this isn't to say you should try to act older. Not at all. Just be confident in yourself and your ability to communicate intent.
/r/seduction24/11/17 11:14 PM
4

Whole foods or other high end markets
/r/seduction24/11/17 11:09 PM
18

I'm 40; read the goddamn sidebar.
/r/seduction24/11/17 10:44 PM
1

These are not facts; they are statements.
/r/seduction24/11/17 10:16 PM
1

Through conversation. The point is you don't reveal everything immediately. Too much too soon is bad. Think of it as a slow drip from a faucet.
/r/seduction24/11/17 06:23 PM
1

Consider their feelings and where they may be coming from. Perhaps they take this part of the day seriously. Perhaps it means a lot to them. Perhaps it's a way for them to connect and feel connected with. It's all about empathy.
/r/seduction24/11/17 06:22 PM
2

Don't show off; reveal. What's better: telling a girl you have a huge cock, or her finding out when she takes your pants off?
/r/seduction24/11/17 06:18 PM
1

All I do is make up bullshit about my week "yeah I had to retire from the FBI today but my pension couldn't come in" but everyone thinks I'm a dumbass and I'm not as 'high up' you could say. yeah they think that because your actions communicate that you take neither this process (good/bad/progress) nor--even more importantly--the people involved seriously.
/r/seduction24/11/17 06:16 PM
1

Yes this. The interaction quoted, paraphrased: "I don't like you" "Yeah but you should" "I don't like you"
/r/seduction24/11/17 05:40 PM
1

Wait were you saying men need to provide? I assumed you meant to say women need to receive ☺️ either way yah.
/r/seduction24/11/17 01:24 AM
5

Work on increasing emotional, verbal and physical stimulation without getting sexual. It's also possible that you're being too passionate with it and going too slowly. Too much romantic sex vibe, in other words. You just gotta try shit. It's hard bc no one woman is the same.
/r/seduction24/11/17 12:32 AM
1

I think you meant "women" but yes. It's a balance.
/r/seduction24/11/17 12:30 AM
2

Wait longer, do something else first. Comfort isn't about knowing they will be able to see you again. That's predictable, but not to say you should do anything to make them question it. I'm just saying they can feel enough comfort with someone they know they'll never see again. Also try massage. It's a great LMR buster.
/r/seduction24/11/17 12:30 AM
2

Hard to troubleshoot LMR without being there lol. How many is "all?" If it's under 10 that may not be statistically significant enough to say it's you. But it's likely something you are or are not doing that contribute to it. You may be putting off too much of a provider vibe. Conversely you might not be getting them comfortable enough and they're worried you're going to bail on them after fucking. You might be laying on too thick. Your "proceed to kiss them all over" bit leads me to believe thi…
/r/seduction24/11/17 12:07 AM
10

Expect to be scared and feel adrenaline rushes before talking to people. Acknowledge it, then do it any way. Right now it doesn't matter what you say. Just keep it simple.
/r/seduction23/11/17 10:18 PM
2

British GQ is good for figuring out fashion that's a bit ahead of what we have in the US (assuming you're in the US).
/r/seduction23/11/17 10:12 PM
2

Yeah inevitable but the equilibrium should be easy, chill and positive.
/r/seduction23/11/17 09:55 PM
2

Depends on your personality but I usually go with solids. Sparse patterns that aren't super flashy are fine - small dots, etc. But yeah paisley or anything crazy can work but it has to be part of a whole ensemble IMO.
/r/seduction23/11/17 09:50 PM
4

H&M, maybe Zara but their clothes run pretty slim. Seriously just get a few collared shirts from H&M, the ones that are $15 or so, black white navy or pink. Get some well-fitting denim jeans in black. Slim or skinny. And some nice black leather boots. If you want more help DM me
/r/seduction23/11/17 09:42 PM
1

Hard to tell but your response was subpar. "yeah bc you just made it awkward DORK!!!! 😜" You also could have potentially more easily asked her to get a drink and later brought her back. Imagine it like a staircase. You don't just jump to the top of it. Also why didn't you just host it and she could have stayed after the event?
/r/seduction23/11/17 06:16 AM
-7

Cool. I've had around 150-200 ☺️
/r/seduction23/11/17 06:12 AM
-3

100, more, less?
/r/seduction23/11/17 05:40 AM
-13

E-go
/r/seduction23/11/17 05:40 AM
-14

Only pussy, sorry man.
/r/seduction23/11/17 04:50 AM
-5

Not talking shit but curious: how many dates have you been on in total?
/r/seduction23/11/17 04:50 AM
-4

Anecdotal evidence is anecdotal
/r/seduction23/11/17 03:48 AM
5

Brb making flowchart
/r/seduction23/11/17 03:25 AM
7

It's pretty literal.
/r/seduction23/11/17 03:12 AM
1

Face fucking 69 So many different toys Bondage Shove her panties inside her a bit then make her hold them in her mouth the whole time you fuck (personal fav)
/r/seduction23/11/17 02:58 AM
-22

Depends. I'm sure you can think of numerous things to do that involve closer physical proximity and not stuffing your face.
/r/seduction23/11/17 02:56 AM
1

Does she stay the night?
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:59 AM
47

It's cliche. It's too formal. It's a very considerable time investment for her. What if you wind up being weird or creepy af? Women worry about this shit. If your date has any sort of anxiety she might feel uncomfortable eating food in front of you on a first date. You spend the whole time dealing with the awkwardness of eating and talking simultaneously. You can't touch her. You can't get physically close to each other. Who pays? It's fucking boring.
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:07 AM
37

The date went wrong way before not knowing what to "ask" (why are you interviewing her?) ....it went wrong at the choice of going to a restaurant.
/r/seduction22/11/17 10:37 PM
1

Yeah you didn't fuck her when she wanted you to. Move on.
/r/seduction22/11/17 04:59 PM
1

Text her again or wait and risk for forgetting about me? It's as if you didn't actually read my comment.
/r/seduction22/11/17 08:02 AM
1

And yeah some little nutless e-pua is probably going to come in here and say it's fine to ask her out over text. I didn't say it wasn't. It's just not as effective and not as authentic with both yourself and her.
/r/seduction22/11/17 06:40 AM
2

It was a bit cocky which is good but you still used it as an excuse to ask her rather than having a clear reason. Honestly you should probably ensure intent is clear in person and then preferably ask her out in person as well. Especially given your tying the invitation to an excuse to ask her, doing it over text is just too easy for you. It doesn't convey any sort of tangible confidence. Face to face, Mano e "womano" (lol). It's okay to invite a girl to something over text as long as you first p…
/r/seduction22/11/17 06:39 AM
0

You fail at reading comprehension.
/r/seduction22/11/17 02:51 AM
3

Dude we all do dumb shit. I once did basically this: https://youtu.be/DU3Pk6oDNRU So you'll be fine.
/r/seduction22/11/17 12:59 AM
3

Move then
/r/seduction22/11/17 12:33 AM
1

no, that's too logical
/r/seduction21/11/17 11:51 PM
1

I have very little body hair, save my beard and hair on my head. When they inevitably notice, I tell women I am hairless from the neck to the waist. "It's all on my ass..."
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:30 PM
1

If you can't navigate this shit test I can understand why you're failing them IRL ;)
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:29 PM
1

"yeah I also shave my pubes/back hair/chest hair into a stache"
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:11 PM
1

Questions are fine but yes that is better or at least closer. In this case you are offering value first before asking anything of the woman (personal info and general light emotional investment). You know the Golden rule right? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It's not "expect others to do unto you ..." And for good reason.
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:08 PM
1

Acknowledge and exaggerate
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:06 PM
1

How do you deal with shit tests? Answer that and you've answered your question
/r/seduction21/11/17 10:02 PM
1

I'm guessing you are getting a lot of shit tests about / because of it?
/r/seduction21/11/17 08:03 PM
1

K
/r/seduction21/11/17 06:19 PM
2

I didn't say questions are bad. I said opening with questions is bad. Read my comment here again: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7eimx5/hooking_is_hard_in_england/dq5egwr/
/r/seduction21/11/17 06:10 PM
2

I already answered this. If you need more, look around. It's the Internet - information is readily accessible.
/r/seduction21/11/17 06:06 PM
4

The questions you ask are boring as fuck. You are asking for information about them without first giving them something. Would you go to a store and ask for items without paying for them? Why should a woman stop and answer a strange man's random personal questions?
/r/seduction21/11/17 05:54 PM
2

Yes, basically. But make it fun and playful.
/r/seduction21/11/17 05:52 PM
5

1) You transition into interview mode immediately. Don't ask questions until they do. 2) Look up assumption stacking. 3) Don't fear social tension.
/r/seduction21/11/17 04:40 PM
4

Sounds like the perfect excuse to take her straight to your bedroom.
/r/seduction20/11/17 05:49 AM
2

Do it more.
/r/seduction19/11/17 09:54 AM
2

"Hey what's up"
/r/seduction19/11/17 04:36 AM
1

hey q.t
/r/seduction18/11/17 06:29 PM
-1

Nothing is produced. It's likely psychological but see a doctor
/r/seduction18/11/17 05:39 PM
1

Again that's okay but not the best way to give value
/r/seduction18/11/17 05:15 PM
1

It's fine to offer a drink but it is not a currency by which you obtain the girl's time to talk.
/r/seduction18/11/17 05:05 PM
0

So
/r/seduction18/11/17 05:03 PM
-1

Cialis
/r/seduction18/11/17 04:51 PM
3

Just keep going. Aim for at least one a day right now. Don't make it your sole purpose in life, but don't stop.
/r/seduction18/11/17 01:05 AM
2

Right. Make it as easy as possible. "Hi!"
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:08 PM
3

If you "go for it" and hit it off, you can take her on a date. If you don't hit it off and it becomes awkward, every time you see her you get to make funny faces at her. Win/win!
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:05 PM
2

it's literally the best thing for you to do when it's your first time.
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:02 PM
1

girl: "what are you doing rn?" you: "chatting up some q.t. still not sure about her tho ;)"
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:01 PM
7

good job lil bastard
/r/seduction17/11/17 11:00 PM
1

Say hi to them.
/r/seduction17/11/17 10:41 PM
1

She wanted a MFM threesome and you missed out breh
/r/seduction17/11/17 06:32 PM
1

But if you are dead set on it, you don't have enough time to develop rapport so you need to do to as brazenly as possible: Write on a piece of paper "You're cute, I'd like to get to know you. Text me -yourname xxx-xxx-xxxx" Take it inside and ask someone working there, "Hey will you give this to <girl> and point to me telling her it's from me?" When the girl looks back at you, give her a sly grin and wave. Then leave. If she never hits you up, you can never go there again. The purpose of doing i…
/r/seduction17/11/17 06:16 PM
2

Waste of time
/r/seduction17/11/17 06:11 PM
1

I used to read Word Up magazine
/r/seduction17/11/17 04:42 PM
1

You don't have to have only one set of friends
/r/seduction17/11/17 06:11 AM
1

There is so much more to life than fucking girls.
/r/seduction17/11/17 04:44 AM
1

Seems one dimensional.
/r/seduction17/11/17 02:40 AM
2

Here's the deal: If she wants to fuck you, there is no need for being covert with the whole luggage thing. If she doesn't, she'll know what you're doing anyway.
/r/seduction17/11/17 02:38 AM
2

From behind lol? Have you at least made out
/r/seduction17/11/17 02:36 AM
1

Touch her Kiss her Fuck her
/r/seduction17/11/17 01:32 AM
3

Yes, if that is who you are then be it. If it's not, you can't be it.
/r/seduction16/11/17 09:30 PM
1

https://www.famousbirthdays.com/headshots/robert-pattinson-3.jpg http://weknowyourdreams.com/images/channing-tatum/channing-tatum-14.jpg
/r/seduction16/11/17 09:22 PM
1

Yes situational topics are great. Read the sidebar
/r/seduction16/11/17 04:52 PM
1

Most questions are boring, especially as a woman when all you get is dumb questions from guys all the time.
/r/seduction16/11/17 04:27 PM
1

1) who cares why she didn't reply 2) you initiated boring conversation (mostly boring questions) and transitioned to another question that had to relevance to the previous topic. to make matters worse you asked personal info. imagine being a hot girl with dudes hitting her up all day. what kind of shit messages do you think she gets? she likely knew where this was going and it wasn't interesting enough to reply immediately.
/r/seduction16/11/17 04:00 PM
3

Actually now that I think about it, the single most common piece of feedback I've gotten from women I've laid is that I was so comfortable with myself and that enables them to feel comfortable around me.
/r/seduction16/11/17 12:00 AM
1

I wish more people understood this and worked toward making this part of their reality.
/r/seduction15/11/17 11:56 PM
2

You don't you just fucking do it. Motivation is for the weak-minded.
/r/seduction15/11/17 11:26 PM
1

^ agreed. comfort in oneself typically imparts confidence.
/r/seduction15/11/17 10:25 PM
4

sidebar "NEW HERE?"
/r/seduction15/11/17 10:12 PM
1

And you've rationalized to yourself that you are okay with this because the prospect of changing how you feel is extremely daunting.
/r/seduction15/11/17 10:07 PM
0

But it's creeeeepy oooooooooo smh
/r/seduction15/11/17 03:55 PM
1

Make it possible
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:43 AM
2

Okay Edit- actually I didn't ask you a question. I prompted you to ask yourself a question.
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:43 AM
2

I'm happy for you but there's no need for you to qualify yourself.
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:31 AM
1

You didn't attempt to kill yourself.
/r/seduction15/11/17 04:58 AM
2

It's not an attempt if you don't follow through. See a therapist.
/r/seduction15/11/17 03:29 AM
1

No one can help you but yourself.
/r/seduction15/11/17 03:28 AM
14

Stop overthinking life man
/r/seduction15/11/17 01:41 AM
7

One
/r/seduction15/11/17 01:18 AM
12

Yeah stop comparing yourself to others. Just don't do it. Find what makes you happy and pursue those goals.
/r/seduction14/11/17 11:31 PM
4

When you have not offered anything to someone, and you ask for something from them, ask yourself "why should they give me what I want?" I understand that you are trying to ask an interesting question but it's still seeking value rather than giving value.
/r/seduction14/11/17 10:40 PM
1

Stop making decisions for other people. Give her the opportunity to say either yes or no by trying to kiss her.
/r/seduction14/11/17 05:38 PM
3

You can only msg them if they add you. Why do you think they might want you to add them.
/r/seduction14/11/17 08:34 AM
2

Cold approach
/r/seduction14/11/17 08:33 AM
1

You didn't make a move doofus
/r/seduction14/11/17 06:58 AM
2

Cold approach
/r/seduction14/11/17 06:21 AM
1

The same way you get over AA
/r/seduction14/11/17 02:04 AM
8

Yes. The answer is almost always yes.
/r/seduction13/11/17 03:32 AM
4

What is your question
/r/seduction13/11/17 02:57 AM
1

/u/scmcalifornia 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction12/11/17 11:26 PM
1

I'm not disagreeing at all -- it's for sure not binary. Would it be safe to assume you are coming from a perspective of looking for a companion (gf/bf, basically)? Even then, one of the major problems with waiting is that it sets a precedence of passiveness in the man. Again, please understand that most guys wait because they aren't sure how or when to act. So telling men to wait to get physical in order to be mysterious may not be received in the way you intend. It's also not authentic if the g…
/r/seduction12/11/17 08:09 PM
2

What you are asking literally breaks a rule of AA.
/r/seduction12/11/17 06:46 PM
2

Get off the Internet and go talk to people
/r/seduction12/11/17 06:43 PM
1

Yes. A guy who's slept with enough women to assert my experience. I'm not saying it's universal. Your preference is obviously not the same, and I acknowledge that. But your preference is not statistically significant.
/r/seduction12/11/17 06:42 PM
1

I disagree re: timing of physicality but otherwise agree. The problem with telling guys to wait on that is they wait too long and get friendzoned. Most guys that ask questions like OP aren't "aggressive" (in a good way) enough.
/r/seduction12/11/17 03:46 AM
55

"just be yourself" is the dating equivalent of basketball's "just throw the ball into the hoop"
/r/seduction12/11/17 03:45 AM
-1

You should have a rough idea of what you need to work on doing cold approach "as an intermediate" once you start doing it enough. At least in my experience. In other words, it sounds like you haven't started yet so be careful with labelling yourself...
/r/seduction12/11/17 03:43 AM
4

My suggestion is to first stop classifying men as red/blue pill.
/r/seduction11/11/17 10:53 AM
1

This post is so long.
/r/seduction11/11/17 10:52 AM
2

When play video games do you think about what buttons on the controller you press or do you just press them? Stop talking so much and for fuck's sake STOP THINKING just fucking ACT. As long as you aren't an asshole and don't do fucked up shit you'll be fine.
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:41 AM
1

Now stop asking questions on the internet and go talk to some girls
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:25 AM
1

Imagine you are eating something really tasty. Do you prefer to inhale it at once or eat it bite by bite? What would happen if you inhaled it? You'd probably choke on something or at minimum get indigestion and burp. Imagine your interactions with women are the food they are ingesting. Feed them accordingly.
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:24 AM
1

The u go Joe
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:19 AM
1

Sure. Play around with different girls. Try being direct, being indirect etc about it. See what works for you.
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:16 AM
1

You can't push her to act how you want. She has to want to do it of her own volition. This means don't verbalize so much eg "I don't like maybe plans" that shit pushes girls away. Be chill and go with the flow. It's good to have boundaries but you can't expect everyone to immediately adhere to them. And unless said boundary is super serious eg hitting you or some shit, you'll probably have a better experience letting her know those boundaries through your actions rather than your words
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:05 AM
1

Have u ever heard the acronym KISS? KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:01 AM
1

Find out by trying kiss her
/r/seduction11/11/17 04:00 AM
1

There is a time-based threshold at which nonphysical sexual communication becomes not enough. You have to get physical.
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:35 PM
2

It's not a shit test. Shit tests are ways for women to see what you are made of. Test your mettle, if you will. This behavior is just low value people trying to bring others down bc they feel threatened. Also yes, dudes. Here's the deal: This is low value behavior. What do you do with things of low value? You ignore them, or at most barely acknowledge them. Imagine you are walking down the street and see a piece of trash on the sidewalk. Do you run after it and pick it up? Probably not unless yo…
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:22 PM
3

You're typing too much which means you're thinking too much.
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:04 PM
2

Flash your dick at them. Who gives a fuck
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:03 PM
1

Just laugh and slightly sarcastically agree and ignore them. Treat it like a shit test. There is no such thing as beta or alpha male tho dumbass
/r/seduction10/11/17 09:03 PM
5

Your casual dinner and coffee were under the terms of being friends. Not once did you make it clear to her that you wanted more. That's your fault. She just wanted to be your friend. There's nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction10/11/17 05:44 PM
2

It's not about pushing or pulling. It's called having empathy and is a basic social skill.
/r/seduction10/11/17 05:01 AM
6

You click the send message button
/r/seduction09/11/17 10:08 PM
0

Read the wiki
/r/seduction09/11/17 07:47 PM
-1

Cold approach
/r/seduction09/11/17 07:20 PM
1

Just do it
/r/seduction09/11/17 08:03 AM
3

Not if you are authentic, no. "Hey! What's up, I'm Heather. What's your name?" Shake hands, start chatting. If he seems weirded out, acknowledge it calmly. Like, "Oh hey you probably aren't used to women approaching you huh haha." Continue light chat, and if he is without or almost done with his drink, invite him to the bar and continue talking. Remember to smile and have good eye contact but neither should be too intense! Pretend you are talking to someone you already know. If you are ever talk…
/r/seduction09/11/17 02:53 AM
1

Offer to buy a guy a drink. If he's a good guy he'll return the favor. BOOM! You just got a free drink!
/r/seduction09/11/17 02:46 AM
1

Stop telling and start doing.
/r/seduction08/11/17 08:36 PM
7

You want us to take you to our leader
/r/seduction08/11/17 07:19 AM
2

Don't worry about having creepy eye contact. Are you actually approaching women?
/r/seduction08/11/17 06:57 AM
2

Who said anything about selfies
/r/seduction08/11/17 06:45 AM
2

Oh okay. Well you should have fucked her already then !
/r/seduction08/11/17 06:03 AM
1

Prioritize proximity until you fuck. Wait you will be seeing her three times within seven consecutive days???!
/r/seduction08/11/17 03:02 AM
2

How frequently are you dating each girl? It shouldn't be more frequent than one week each. Additionally, how the hell is texting taking much energy? It's so passive, you just send one here and there and go about your day.
/r/seduction08/11/17 03:01 AM
1

You don't know any shit until you start approaching
/r/seduction08/11/17 02:52 AM
1

No
/r/seduction07/11/17 11:46 PM
1

Yes it's the reason.
/r/seduction07/11/17 09:51 PM
1

I don't often kiss on 1st date There you go.
/r/seduction07/11/17 09:46 PM
4

If you're walking with her, hold her hand, put your arm over her shoulder, or put your hand on her waist (like literally wrap your hand on her waist on the side opposite to you - your forearm will be touching her lower back then). Use the lower back to lead for instance when guiding her through a door you just opened for her. Don't worry about speed. You're thinking too logically.
/r/seduction07/11/17 06:09 AM
1

That's not a good quantification
/r/seduction07/11/17 05:22 AM
1

Worry about it when it becomes a tangible issue. Hint: It won't.
/r/seduction07/11/17 03:34 AM
1

How big is your city
/r/seduction07/11/17 03:32 AM
1

No prob, Bob.
/r/seduction07/11/17 02:29 AM
3

It's normal. Recognize that first you don't need to be motivation. Feeling motivated is reactionary. Make things happen regardless of how you feel, motivated or unmotivated. You also don't need a wing to help you or push you. Find the strength in yourself to create the experiences you want. Also don't get too mad at yourself. Just brush yourself off and take action. It's like people who diet. No one executes the PERFECT diet. Everyone slips and eats that Big Mac or whatever. What defines you is …
/r/seduction06/11/17 10:21 PM
2

All of the things listed in your second sentence are tools but not solutions. Stop looking externally for solutions to your problems.
/r/seduction05/11/17 10:13 PM
1

Nice toy dolls song.
/r/seduction05/11/17 09:57 PM
1

Yea for sure but that's nearly as overt as the words used. That stuff is "easier" bc it's an obvious mechanism. The subcommunications are less obvious and (I assume) about what were being inquired.
/r/seduction05/11/17 09:25 PM
2

In the eyes and how you talk.
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:38 AM
1

If you think you want to try for a deeper connection with someone, first you should have an idea what kind of tasks are important to you. What should this person be like? How will they treat you? How will they treat themselves? How will they treat others? You don't have to know all of it; you're still young in the game. But once you have a rough idea of some things, you can begin to screen for them. Once you meet people that may be compatible with those traits you desire, slowly start spending m…
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:37 AM
0

He literally said that first sentence in his post.
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:33 AM
2

Talk to a thousand more girls. Literally.
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:27 AM
1

By realizing that it's 99% chance that it's way too late for you to do that and her be into you that way. And then by going and meeting a bunch of other women and keeping this one girl as a good friend.
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:23 AM
1

You don't know until you try
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:02 PM
1

That's not what I said.
/r/seduction04/11/17 07:16 PM
1

Well that's definitely odd and probably really confusing for her. Look man, you have no obligation to move anything forward or even see her. But you have to be aware of your actions and how they make others feel. Don't be a pussy. It confuses girls that like you and isn't cool.
/r/seduction04/11/17 07:13 PM
1

If you want a girlfriend who fucks you when she decides to do it, yes it is.
/r/seduction04/11/17 07:11 PM
4

There is no rule that you must fuck every time you see someone. Early physicality is crucial to preventing her from friendzoning you, by establishing the frame of the relationship. But that's it.
/r/seduction04/11/17 06:39 PM
1

Then you next her.
/r/seduction04/11/17 06:35 PM
3

Approach it as if you were starting from near beginning again. Don't immediately go for scheduling the next date. Also kiss her next time. Part of your problem is you were being too passive and not making things happen. If you want to kiss, just go for it. Don't wait for signs from her. You should at minimum have made out on the first date.
/r/seduction04/11/17 05:31 PM
3

This. It sounds like you assume it should happen in the app. No. Don't do it! Follow the script in the video linked.
/r/seduction04/11/17 04:35 PM
4

Pure KJ material right here. It may "work" but in cold approaching it's way more optimal to offer value right off the bat. This is Sales 101. Display/Statement of empathy, give value, start talking.
/r/seduction04/11/17 12:53 AM
2

See a therapist.
/r/seduction03/11/17 09:19 AM
2

Tickle fight
/r/seduction03/11/17 09:18 AM
1

Two and a half years. Was engaged, broke up with her.
/r/seduction03/11/17 02:14 AM
1

This guy's a troll bro
/r/seduction03/11/17 01:04 AM
4

Text less frequently
/r/seduction02/11/17 11:18 PM
6

The type of person that refers to their balls as: ma nuts
/r/seduction02/11/17 10:39 PM
12

Asking is not inherently submissive.
/r/seduction02/11/17 08:58 PM
1

Don't apologize. It could be a test but it could also be sincere. I wouldn't take her feedback with a grain of salt. Now is a good time to do some self-reflecting. It's possible you did not build a strong enough connection with her. I think Todd had this ratio of value and comfort. You never want either side to get too high. It has to be balanced.
/r/seduction02/11/17 03:11 PM
0

See each person no more frequently than biweekly or so.
/r/seduction02/11/17 03:10 PM
3

Instead of telling her what she is, tell her what you appreciate about her
/r/seduction01/11/17 11:35 PM
2

The good looking loser approach anxiety series is pretty good.
/r/seduction01/11/17 06:28 PM
2

Two weeks tho, you should have fucked by now
/r/seduction01/11/17 06:39 AM
1

Make out with her before he does
/r/seduction01/11/17 06:38 AM
2

Don't ever explicitly state that you're flirting with someone. It ruins the experience
/r/seduction01/11/17 06:37 AM
1

Actually it's not true: I did nothing for years and almost always had a gf.
/r/seduction01/11/17 01:09 AM
1

Keep doing it and start dating girls a bit less attractive
/r/seduction31/10/17 11:06 PM
18

Keep going talk to 10 more
/r/seduction31/10/17 09:48 PM
3

Guilt is a valuable tool.
/r/seduction31/10/17 08:22 PM
97

Good job dude
/r/seduction31/10/17 08:20 PM
2

You use the word "like" too frequently
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:55 PM
2

Don't decipher, decide.
/r/seduction31/10/17 06:30 AM
5

Stop reposting this shit bro
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:49 AM
1

Inject yourself into the conversation
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:40 AM
1

You don't realize but you are making decisions for others and impressing your views on societal norms onto others. Also, today is the day you discovered that you don't always have to play by those norms.
/r/seduction30/10/17 10:52 PM
1

"you owe me one" while probably not your intent is easily interpreted as a tit-for-tat thing. Very rarely do you want a girl to feel like she owes you anything. That's too much pressure. Especially when you haven't even gone out, much less fucked.
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:47 PM
1

I feel like you didn't watch the video.
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:44 PM
2

You very clearly indicated strong interest in using it. Don't.
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:42 PM
1

Easy you have the choice of a socially direct opener "hey I've seen you around but we never met" Or the typical situational opener (talk about something in the local environment)
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:40 PM
-1

Stop trying tactics. This isn't fucking gamefaqs dot com
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:22 PM
4

Always assume women serving you in a professional (they are working) setting are nice to you because it gets them more money. Stop focusing on "this one girl"
/r/seduction30/10/17 04:46 PM
4

Beast mode knows no fear
/r/seduction29/10/17 10:14 PM
8

Delete the app and go cold approaching
/r/seduction29/10/17 09:52 PM
1

I'm having a discussion with you and disagreeing with some specifics. It's not necessary to take it personally bro
/r/seduction28/10/17 09:52 PM
2

You said a number of things that tell me you are struggling with having a true sense of high value and self esteem. High value people don't go through life concerned with being a "dog" and asserting their social status in relationships. They are high value thus they need not assert it. Be it, don't DO it.
/r/seduction28/10/17 09:29 PM
1

If she doesn't wanna see you, who she is seeing if anyone is not your business.
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:47 PM
1

Both are subcommunications
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:46 PM
4

It's not about sexualized conversation. It's body language, tonality and other subcommunications. Read the way of the superior man and for a quicker answer watch some Tony Solo on YouTube
/r/seduction28/10/17 06:38 PM
1

I love dressing in drag for Halloween. It's fucking hilarious. Glad you had fun with it.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:21 PM
2

No, you said a lot more. I totally agree that if she doesn't reply he should stop, but even then there is a lot of missing context.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:20 PM
1

You should have at least made out by now, preferably fucked
/r/seduction28/10/17 04:15 PM
2

Hell, indicate where I said he should chase at all.
/r/seduction28/10/17 04:14 PM
2

Indicate where I said he should always chase.
/r/seduction28/10/17 04:11 PM
2

Your frame of "being a dog" is weak. Power dynamics are fluid and should be balanced. If you're always the one in control, never investing, and she is always the only one to invest she will not stay long. Have fun with that.
/r/seduction28/10/17 04:08 PM
3

What you've described isn't negging, it's being an asshole.
/r/seduction28/10/17 03:56 PM
2

Ugh, ignore this. This is immature manipulative bullshit. You can text her but make it light. Keep the frequency relative to her level of investment, and text less than she does, generally.
/r/seduction28/10/17 03:54 PM
1

In my gym, there is this crew of very serious guys (and a few women). One guy regularly benches 500+, legit. They are always joking around and taking to passers-by, other regulars, etc. If you make it a super low pressure casual thing, people get into it. You can become the cool social guy in the gym that everyone likes. With that said, I totally understand your point of view. Not all gyms are as intimate as mine (and it's neither small nor casual--we have four power racks and Oly platforms, a b…
/r/seduction28/10/17 03:50 PM
1

Hahaha. It doesn't matter what you say just make it light and with very little commitment behind it. Have two or three short interactions over the course of a couple weeks. Gradually make them longer. If she starts asking you questions, you know she is hooked. Ask her out the time you see her after she starts asking more involved questions).
/r/seduction28/10/17 02:58 PM
2

They aren't into talking to random people on the street, either. It's irrelevant. Rule #1 of pickup: don't push your values and expectations onto others. Let them speak for themselves.
/r/seduction28/10/17 09:28 AM
1

I go to the gym 5x a week and talk to people between sets alllll the time. It's only rude if the way you do it lacks empathy
/r/seduction28/10/17 09:16 AM
20

Step 1) stop thinking so much Step 2) "hey, I've seen you around a few times, did you just join the gym?" Introduce yourself and start talking in light statements
/r/seduction28/10/17 08:49 AM
3

Who cares
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:46 AM
0

That's too much pressure. Go easy on the first date. Like a picnic if you can't go to a bar. Or even better invite her to coffee.
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:42 AM
6

Thank you for using paragraphs like a civilized human.
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:40 AM
9

Yes it's abnormal
/r/seduction28/10/17 06:57 AM
4

Dude own your intentions. You don't need to have a plan b to ask a girl out.
/r/seduction28/10/17 04:13 AM
3

Why do you need plausible deniability
/r/seduction28/10/17 03:45 AM
0

No, he markets the website meant to sell you shit.
/r/seduction28/10/17 12:56 AM
3

Yeah don't take it so bad, it's a learning experience. It happens. If you wanna get together then just proceed as you normally would. Don't even acknowledge the awkwardness to her right now.
/r/seduction28/10/17 12:52 AM
3

and then talk to them the whole time. She'll burn up That's manipulative and not at all necessary. Look, if you want to go and be social, do it. But do it from a place of authenticity. Talking to other people for the purpose of making others feel jealous is NOT authentic. And it also comes from a place of expecting a specific outcome. These are neither effective nor constructive approaches to building relationships. Cc /u/mrhomeless97
/r/seduction27/10/17 04:40 PM
4

Or she sincerely doesn't know how to skillfully navigate the situation and just invited you to the first thing that came to mind. You should still be leading her at this point. She can invite you out once you've fucked.
/r/seduction27/10/17 04:39 PM
2

Based on what you've said about yourself here, it's a combination of a low quality opener and your low self esteem
/r/seduction27/10/17 04:25 PM
4

Yeah credibility
/r/seduction27/10/17 07:33 AM
4

"So have I" in a deadpan voice
/r/seduction27/10/17 04:43 AM
3

Use the frustration of not taking action in the past to fuel your taking action NOW.
/r/seduction27/10/17 12:05 AM
2

A but don't text for a few days and when you do, don't even acknowledge the flake. Text like normal until she invests a bit then ask her out again (still don't acknowledge flake)
/r/seduction26/10/17 04:36 PM
0

Two dates and you're still trying to escalate. Not good my friend.
/r/seduction26/10/17 03:00 PM
2

That gets better over time with practice and self awareness, in my experience.
/r/seduction26/10/17 02:48 PM
1

It's both. There are skill aspects that take time to develop. Body language, tone, etc.
/r/seduction26/10/17 02:38 PM
4

He's tryna sell you shit
/r/seduction26/10/17 02:37 PM
7

Move
/r/seduction26/10/17 06:24 AM
29

Keep going. The majority of your approaches will be rejections of some sort. Don't take it personally. Just don't stop.
/r/seduction26/10/17 06:19 AM
4

Own it and do it anyway. Would you rather have clammy hands or a small dick?
/r/seduction25/10/17 07:58 PM
2

At minimum always kiss on first date. Let her tell you what she's comfortable with. It's not for you to decide and is actually really fucked up of you.
/r/seduction25/10/17 02:54 PM
1

Yes. Yes. Definitely 10000% agree. The rule "to receive value you must first give value" most certainly applies during sex!
/r/seduction24/10/17 07:05 PM
1

Also stop trying to do things to "make" them attracted to you. Become someone women can be comfortable with and they will want you.
/r/seduction24/10/17 03:27 AM
1

Try implying in your teases rather than having a direct message. Eg "omg PSL REALLY???" rather than "wow girl u so BASIC PSL LOL"
/r/seduction24/10/17 03:26 AM
1

After you qualify them a bit and determine you'd like to get to know them better.
/r/seduction24/10/17 02:32 AM
2

Word playa.
/r/seduction24/10/17 02:31 AM
2

You need to go for months at a minimum.
/r/seduction24/10/17 02:30 AM
1

Let your mind follow your body. Take physical action and eventually your mind will catch up.
/r/seduction23/10/17 09:57 PM
3

Yesterday I had an instadate and # closed a woman with "your walk looks so relaxed" as we walked next to each other She said thanks, to which I replied "no thank YOU, it's making me relaxed as well" Boom. Start chatting, figure out immediate logistics, invite to coffee.
/r/seduction23/10/17 09:56 PM
1

See a good therapist (srs).
/r/seduction23/10/17 09:52 PM
2

Yes, I agree with your initial assertion. I disagree that practical advice will help his long term goal. I don't know that he is aware of what his long term goal should be. Hint: it shouldn't be "get better with women" He's looking for a solution to the problem in front of his face ("get this girl") rather than the solution to what CAUSED this problem (create abundance & lead a more fulfilling life, both of which will offset the direct and indirect communication of neediness).
/r/seduction23/10/17 05:20 PM
5

I wouldn't even do that. Don't tell her, don't send her pics. That could very easily be interpreted by her as him trying to show her how "cool" he is. If she texts while gone, reply when you get back.
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:31 PM
17

Even if you were successfully able to "shift the chase" you would eventually revert. Your issues run deeper than "text game"
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:28 PM
39

I even showed her a position she would like trying too hard
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:28 PM
1

Yes. Some standards are reasonable; some unreasonable.
/r/seduction23/10/17 04:25 PM
2

Have you had any physical relationship with this person?
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:26 PM
2

Her not replying in one day is not her ghosting
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:21 PM
3

You think that's bad? I once accidentally farted while a girl was going down on me.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:28 AM
1

Weekdays typically 2-5 girls a day weekends more, based on how much time I have.
/r/seduction23/10/17 12:41 AM
3

Don't leave after getting number Make her feel like she got to know you a little and vice versa Don't be needy over text
/r/seduction22/10/17 08:22 PM
1

Give her amazing sex, don't be needy.
/r/seduction22/10/17 07:47 PM
3

Go easy on the clit, ask her for feedback. Don't get obsessed with making her cum, it'll cause her to fake t and lie about it.
/r/seduction22/10/17 07:18 AM
27

"After you I feel I may go for men"
/r/seduction22/10/17 06:58 AM
1

I would not take what women say about dating at face value. More likely they are saying guys are pushing too hard too fast with no calibration. That means they are not empathetic towards these women. If a woman isn't (mostly) comfortable with the relative escalation she will think it's "too fast." Therein lies your answer. Pay attention to how she feels!!
/r/seduction22/10/17 12:38 AM
3

Right. Your problem is that you believe that her subtly giving you permission to kiss her and your denying her the ability to say no are mutually inclusive.
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:36 PM
1

You are speculating.
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:31 PM
4

There are three ways you can kiss a girl: you go for the kiss you ask her if you can kiss her she goes for the kiss Now what the fuck option do you think is best?
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:31 PM
0

She lets you kiss her and kisses you back. That's how.
/r/seduction21/10/17 07:04 PM
2

Sorry, but there's no rule that all replies must be specifically on the topic of the OP.
/r/seduction21/10/17 04:27 PM
5

To assume that women do not also have casual relationships is very sexist.
/r/seduction20/10/17 11:44 PM
7

Shit test
/r/seduction20/10/17 11:34 PM
20

You don't "have" an opportunity. You make one.
/r/seduction20/10/17 11:34 PM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction20/10/17 01:07 AM
2

She said basically the same thing you said, no? Minus the word "nice" and she didn't acknowledge your joke. Treat it like a shit test. Ignore it, don't react. Reinitiate in a day or two minimum.
/r/seduction19/10/17 11:55 PM
8

The problem with this sub is that the majority of posts are of very low quality.
/r/seduction19/10/17 11:33 PM
1

To whom are you replying.
/r/seduction19/10/17 08:54 PM
1

You admitted that you put more effort into what you say to them over a "6". They can tell.
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:33 AM
1

Other than physical appearance, the main difference between a 6 and a 10 is their ability to smell desperation and investment. You don't lay the latter bc you invest more.
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:10 AM
1

Now you know part of the source of your struggles
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:33 AM
5

When you say you want a girl you can really brag about, do you mean that at all literally? Is that a good/constructive goal? We are all validated on some level by being with attractive people but that should not be a desired achievement, imo. Maybe that is part of your problem
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:21 AM
1

Shit. Coffee then.
/r/seduction18/10/17 11:00 PM
1

Ask her out for happy hour. When you meet up, her she looks amazing/really good, and make the vibe male/female romantic. If she isn't interested she should let you know.
/r/seduction18/10/17 09:54 PM
1

Literally every human is insecure. Not just "narcissists." Also literally ever human lies.
/r/seduction18/10/17 05:22 PM
1

Are we addressing the intent of the neg or the action of negging? To call Mystery a narcissist is a plausible. His intent behind creating / defining "the neg" was possibly based in narcissism. But if you mean the action of negging, I disagree. Communication and psychology are so much more nuanced. Lots of people do stupid shit for lots of reasons. Maybe they're simply desperately confused. Lacking in basic social skills does not a narcissist make.
/r/seduction18/10/17 05:06 PM
1

why would I be mad? do you understand that narcissism is a clinical diagnosis? you can't just throw it around like that; it dilutes your message and kills your credibility from anyone with a moderate level of intelligence.
/r/seduction18/10/17 03:54 PM
1

So men are narcissists, sociopaths and idiots. But women are awesome and sexy. Hmm. I think you may want to visit a therapist.
/r/seduction18/10/17 02:56 PM
1

perhaps. i don't need "optimal" tho
/r/seduction17/10/17 09:25 PM
0

You have no idea how many women I've approached on the street that thanked me for asking right off the bat. Additionally, and this is field tested: <I approach, open> Me: "So, do you have a boyfriend? <smirk>" Her: "No" Me: <looks to the sky, makes some gesture of celebration> "Yess!!!! So there is a chance" Her: "Hahahah umm...yes" This happens almost every time they say they don't have a BF. Also, I didn't say to give up and walk off if they say they do have one.
/r/seduction17/10/17 08:47 PM
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Not salty. But your reply was was rooted in the same limiting belief from which your original question originated: You assume the negative answer rather than the positive. "That won't work" vs "Hmm let me try that and play around with it and see if something sticks."
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:18 PM
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Since you know all the answers why are you asking questions?
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:09 PM
-9

"Do you have a boyfriend?" If no, then: "How's your day going?" You can have a 5 minute long conversation about varying topics just from that one question.
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:05 PM
2

So imagine you come at a girl in this way. How will she receive it? How will it make her feel? Empathy is the ability to understand how someone else feels. How what you do or say causes them to do or think things. Now understand that to get good with women and have the women you truly want you MUST be skillfully empathetic. What is a prerequisite to doing that with hot women? Answer: Being empathetic with EVERYONE. So let's take the post here. You wrote a lot. A lot. I understand why. You have s…
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:38 AM
0

Are you familiar with the term "wall of text?"
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:26 AM
2

Chill out your mind. Observe, feel, empathize. Stop thinking, start feeling. Fear means you're alive. Don't fight it, embrace it.
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:25 AM
2

Stop thinking so much, you're writing volumes for things that require communicating emotions not texts.
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:21 AM
1

"hi I'm stick 2 da plan and I overthink life"
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:14 AM
1

"never again" That you said this is proof enough that it will happen again because if you had enough experience cold approaching you would be aware of the fact that this never changes, it just becomes much less frequent.
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:13 AM
2

Rebounds happen much sooner than a third of a year. Forget the girl, go if you want and just have fun. Lose some weight, make your life better.
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:11 AM
1

Smile with your eyes, even if you aren't with your mouth. In a soft way. Not intensely.
/r/seduction16/10/17 02:53 PM
1

Don't we all 😅
/r/seduction15/10/17 04:55 PM
1

1) use paragraphs 2) be direct
/r/seduction15/10/17 06:55 AM
2

Google it
/r/seduction15/10/17 06:48 AM
1

Stop taking and start giving. When you can offer women your world they will become interested.
/r/seduction15/10/17 06:45 AM
8

Okay first things first: two approaches are not at all statistically significant. Drop the "this might sound random" bc it does not and should not sound random them. Own the invitation. I like to say something like "SO....(pause)... Would you like...to go on a date?" I purposely slow down my speech and smirk very slightly when delivering it. Regarding the bf thing. First I try to make my intentions known ASAP by both subcommunicating (eye contact etc) and directly ("...wow. you look amazing."). …
/r/seduction15/10/17 12:44 AM
3

Be direct but not aggressive. You: "Wanna know a secret?" <he replies> You: "Sometimes I think about when we <time you hooked up>" (don't go into detail, leave it up to his imagination) If he's interested he should ask for more. Otherwise just initiate conversation with him, especially if it's playful.
/r/seduction13/10/17 01:38 AM
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