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dazedANDconfused2020/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:00 AM
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How many went through couples counseling? A good marriage doesn’t mean a marriage without problems. Adultery and violence are one thing, but depression and anxiety usually cause a lot of the rest of the trouble. Depression and anxiety can also be treated... Just make sure that the reasons for divorce are serious and unfixable. For me, it would take adultery to turn me off of the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/20 03:39 PM
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This guy gets it. Marriage has failed in America because of selfish, warped, perverted, immature, people.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/20 02:24 PM
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It’s actually not fair. Once you marry someone, you give up a part of you. Why? You have asked them to do the same. You don’t get to just choose a different path anymore. Vows are vows. And what divorce is, is betrayal. Marriage is meant to be permanent. A union of two people. Your warped view of love and marriage are why we have a 50% divorce rate in America.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/20 09:48 AM
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Probably a very rare, almost never, scenario. Husband betrayed wife, so yes, should support her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/20 12:12 PM
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For some reason, marriage fucks up relationships. Not sure why. I was with my wife for 12 years before getting married. I would never have dreamed she became the person she is today. There was no way to predict this crap before the wedding. I was also poor as fuck back then too. Now I’m not?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/20 01:32 AM
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Nope. Honestly, the only thing that you can do is get a pre-nup and make sure you don’t hook up with a no career woman that would come after alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 02:14 PM
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Does she drive? If so, call cops on her. Let her get a dui and go to jail. Jail could truly help her. I know it’s tough but I’d try few more drastic moves first.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 01:44 PM
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Why is she drinking? It’s not to piss you off. She’s got an underlying issue. Get to the root of it. Unless she’s also cheating on you or coming after you with weapons, try to hang in there. A lot of men, here, are dealing with adulterous wives or immature girls that never grew up. My wife was an alcoholic until she wound up in jail. Jail fixed her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 02:05 AM
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Wait, so why are you guys separating for? Are you sure divorce is the right path and not counseling?
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 01:23 AM
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And unreasonable. If my wife walks out of me, I’m expected to stay single and celibate. That’s crazy AF. No wonder they have such a problem with sexual immorality.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/20 12:10 AM
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Catholics are only catholic when it’s convenient. I’m Catholic (via conversion) but my wife and her entire family is Catholic for generations. She’s wanting to leave me over complete lies. So much for sacraments. Catholics are the biggest hypocrites. If she goes through with it all, then I say screw their shitty religion. It’s dead anyways. Just fake Christians and liars left.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/20 12:03 AM
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Or just blow your money and then don’t commit suicide. That way you get to see her face when you just shrug when she finds out there’s no money to split.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 09:28 PM
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Is alcoholism the only reason you want to divorce? She’s grandstanding because she’s an addict. She needs help. Why not give your marriage a chance and work on getting her help?
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 09:25 PM
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That sucks. I don’t understand how women just fall out of attraction and decide the marriage has to be over as a result. My best guess is that these women are very very immature at the time of the wedding and had no business getting into a marriage to begin with. Attraction isn’t based solely on physical appearances...They just have no clue as to what love truly is. My other theory is mental illness. Mental illness is a bitch. It seems to run rampant these days. It’s taking down my own marriage …
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 02:44 PM
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Have you suggested marriage counseling? Marriage isn’t just about sex...Marriage and love are a choice that you both made on your wedding day. If she refuses counseling, then there’s nothing that you can do.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 02:01 PM
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I figure that a girl making 6 figures also knows how to handle herself. Few jobs that pay that well put up with immature bs.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 05:45 PM
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I figured them taking her back after all these years, it’s the least I can do :-)
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 05:41 PM
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I’ve tried. She would rather be the victim. She thinks that IM the one with the problem yet can’t give a single example. She’s your typical gaslighter whenever she’s faced with her failures.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 05:31 PM
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I know that I can do better as far as material and physical qualities go, just afraid about the whole soul mate thing. Yup, I’m a bitch like that. I’m trying to get into the mindset that this person isn’t the person that I married and never will be.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 04:39 PM
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She’s agreed to move back in with her parents. I’m going to rent a suv in her name and let her load it up and go. Any potential issues to look out for? How is alimony done if she’s living with her parents?
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 04:36 PM
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Touché. Guess I’m having a hard time getting used to the idea. It’s been 17 years together in total. In the beginning, we were close friends. She was a very different person too. She did a great job hiding the self centered personality and we were very much alike. Any benefit to letting her file for divorce over me just going for it? I think that if we separate, Im going to get antsy about needing closure. Or is this just a hail marry to see if she’ll change?
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 04:16 PM
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Trusting another is a big worry for me too. My wife wasn’t always like this, she was my other half for many many years. I believe that she slowly began to despise my successes while she had multiple failures. That’s what I truly believe is the heart of it. While she gets turned down for an interview, I’m getting multiple offers. I think some mental illness is complicating things by shutting down communication so that I couldn’t see this shit forming. That’s why I’d wind up incredibly picky. A gi…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:54 PM
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She most definitely likes to play the victim. Her own parents even admit this. She’s very self centered... She hasn’t always been like this, so I’m still trying to have the “main event” and come to terms with what her true feelings are and what she is willing to do about them. If she’s willing to actually work on everything, I’ll work on them too. For one, she used to be on a medication that I cannot remember. It was for anxiety and depression. I’m thinking her stopping this was a horrible idea.…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:34 PM
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Well, the reason I control the finances is that she refuses to work and, anytime she’s upset, threatens divorce. How would you feel if your wife threatened divorce whenever she was upset? Made me feel like she would empty the account and hit the road. She’s got my CC and buys whatever she wants. She isn’t interested in therapy. Last time she had one, I showed up, out of nowhere, and the therapist sided with me. That was her last session :-) Narcissistic is pretty harsh. I’d say I’m probably the …
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:46 AM
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Can we get a link to this? I’m looking at my first divorce and anticipate my wife coming after me. 30% of my gross would kill me. 30% of my net, not so much.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:34 AM
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Haha, so I’ll add that she just decided to come tell me that I’ve been horrible to her all these years... For some perspective: The girl drives a GD Porsche and doesn’t work! Fortunately, I’ve kept all assets in my name and all cash in bank accounts that she has zero access to. That’s what getting threatened with divorce by a stay at home wife will do to you...
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:11 AM
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