| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 5 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.Seriously! They are WASTED. How is this okay at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 10:55 PM |
| 6 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.I just searched for this post because im sat watching it and screaming. I don't know where to start. Aside from the entire concept, the amount of men that have jumped ship by episode 2 for some other wannabe wife who is sat there literally saying things like 'there is nothing I wouldn't do to sexually please you'. So many women are freaking out and saying they didn't expect their man to just swan off with another woman. They really thought they'd use a TV show to strong arm a man into marriage. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 12:59 PM |
| 20 | I have no words...35 year old man, 28 year old wife. Hired a 23yo nanny to take care of the kid/s. This turned into a 3-way "relationship" where the literal bangmaid moved in with them and became the unpaid nanny/sex slave. Of course the husband went way beyond boundaries and had his own separate affair. Of course he didn't use condoms and she didn't feel comfortable saying no. Now both the wife and bangmaid are pregnant and she's not sure what to do because nObOdy hAs EvEr LoVeD mE lIkE tHeY dO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 07:21 AM |
| 168 | I have no words...I've screenshot about 5 today wanting to share them here but don't want to be too doomy but my god there are some dumpster fires emerging. The couple with the pregnant nanny, the woman who wants advice on how not to be jealous about her husband having sex with another woman... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:42 PM |
| 11 | Recently married. Thanks FDS.I got told I deserved to be raped just for commenting on this sub. Like yes, well done, that has really shown me the error of my ways dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:05 AM |
| 30 | Makeup Give UpI wear makeup like I wear sequins. If I want to be flamboyant and fun. No other reason. 99% of the time I'm jeans and t-shirt with my hair brushed out of my face. I love getting glammed up but no way I have any time or energy to spend on all that every single day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 12:49 AM |
| 2 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩My standards at 31 are so different to what they were at 21. I'm glad more young women are being smart but the truth is plenty of others are more wiling to compromise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 01:41 PM |
| 98 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩She's in education, she works hard, she has her own place AND she St least has some intuition to post in the first place. There's hope, I just hope he doesn't destroy it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 12:50 AM |
| 151 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩I'm seeing an increase in alarming age gaps, and awful advice from those around these young women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:40 PM |
| 22 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?This is my first relationship for 2 years, by choice. I have known this guy for a long time and vetted mercilessly prior to even accepting a date. During that time I've read the handbook multiple times and visited this sub daily. It's just unfortunately all slipped this week and I'm making my getaway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:14 PM |
| 152 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?Correction: seemed like one, until this week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:02 PM |
| 190 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?Yeah this is a major dealbreaker for me. Violent tendencies of any kind are an absolute no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:23 AM |
| 146 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?He works in a bar, and when I asked him about his ambitions he told me he was happy to stay put. I am a university lecturer and this was my first concern that we were incompatible and that he wouldn't be able to keep up with my lifestyle (spoiler: he couldn't). He told me he'd been depressed in the past and had suicidal thoughts after his last break-up. I told him he needed to get therapy (spoiler: he didn't) and deal with his own issues prior to getting into a relationship, and that I would n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:20 AM |
| 151 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?Honestly, I think I'll just quote you directly and go home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:35 AM |
| 109 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?We usually do. I've been told I'm infertile and I'm on the pill. We're both screened recently. On this occasion, I made a mistake and now I'm paying for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:20 AM |
| 12 | So I got left a day before VDay but I am not the sad victim -- thanks to FDS!Me too, and it's my birthday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 09:37 PM |
| 6 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?I'm very early days into dating a guy so won't say yet. What I can say though, is that after being in a string of codependent relationships from 14 to 28, FDS made me up and leave my okay-ish relationship and be single for a couple of years. During that time I focused on my career, bought a house and spent some quality time with females for the first time. It took a lot for me to think about settling down again so we will see how thr vetting goes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 03:43 PM |
| 13 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I'm a 30 year old woman. I'm short, and I dress more alternative so I constantly get told I don't look or act 30. My mum gets the equivalent and she loves it, but I just don't take it as a compliment. When I was 20 I was anxious, insecure, I drank too much, had awful boyfriends and didn't look after myself. Now I'm career driven, I own my own house, I know who I am, I'm more confident and overall a better person to be around. I'm proud of my progress and don't need it to be overlooked because ap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:27 AM |
| 7 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!I wish I was HALF as smart as you at 22. My 20s were ruined by pathetic men. You will go far, never stop! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:54 PM |
| 31 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsYour comment made me ask a guy I'm dating. His response was "it's not empowering, it's all for the male gaze". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:22 AM |
| 22 | Reminder: You have worked too hard to be dragged down by a LVMIve spent the day working on my PhD, practising for my driving test and cleaning my house...then I've gone to bed and curled up in a ball because a beyond-LVM has blocked me and its HIS birthday...and I'm here upset that I can't be spoiling him. Thank you so much for this reality check, it made me cry. Also, any other sisters please feel free to give me an ice bucket ass kicking I deserve and need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:40 AM |
| 460 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?Shortly after my ex left me for another woman (a few months before our wedding), I won a PhD scholarship. All fees paid and a monthly stipend and expenses. The next time I saw him he said "I hear you're doing a certificate, good for you". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:16 AM |
| 54 | I haven't seen a disgusting serial dater like Pete DavidsonI was going to say, as somebody who struggles with mental health issues, I would give anything for his opportunities with treatments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 08:19 AM |
| 1 | A reminder for you ladies *remove* the pickme’s in your life today including family - A moody synopsis and someone who understands *you* for once.Add to this, when they view you as competition. My ex-BFF suddenly started accusing me of being interested in her various FWBs, despite them all being awful humans, once I moved into her city/our hometown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:19 AM |
| 5 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupTwo guys have let me down in the last month. One didn't show up to meet me (straight up just did not show up and left me stood in the city after knowing the guy for 6 months) and when I put my foot down and told him that was unacceptable, he blocked me on everything. The other spun some absolutely ridiculous line about a girl harassing him, having to file a police restraint against her and now he's just not able to date anyone even though I'm absolutely perfect and everything he's looking for...… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:39 PM |
| 30 | Did your dad/brother/male figures understand when you were being harassed as a teen?"He wouldn't be much of a man if he hadn't have groped you" - my dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:51 PM |
| 163 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?And the fact he liked her because "she didn't talk about herself" when he "gabbed until 3am". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 10:35 AM |
| 140 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.Oh its fine, I immediately applied for another scholarship, got it and I'll be submitting my thesis within the next 6 months 💅 oh and I just started my savings up over again and bought a house 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 289 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.My ex-fiance left me for a woman he just met literally the same day he took his last exam. I had financed him through 4 years of university, and turned down my own PhD scholarship to take care of him 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:49 PM |
| 2 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Absolutely. I think this can be extended to any other "male dominated" subculture/scene/hobby. For me it just gets worse the more I tell them about my involvement in the music scene, bands I've seen, festivals I've attended, my history promoting gigs and booking tours, and their head finally explodes when I mention I've taught and published research with a uni music department. I think it begins as a cool girl fetishism but in my experience dating these men it soon turns to bitterness and rivalr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:36 PM |
| 110 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...I got online dating and put in my profile that I like Black Sabbath. Within 5 days I have 93 unread messages all saying "favourite Sabbath track?". Deleted the app and carried on my merry single way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:10 PM |
| 2 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.This is why i love this sub - healthy, intelligent discussions! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:34 AM |
| 6 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.I've never met the gf and it's a very tricky family situation but my friend is sending her the pics on my behalf so that she can get a bit of a preamble and it will be softer on her to hear it from a friend. She's also more likely to be believed. I also wouldn't know how to contact her apart from getting her number from my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:04 AM |
| 2 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.I definitely will never ever be hanging out with him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:48 PM |
| 4 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.I initially attempted damage limitation because he's a close family friend but he is now blocked and the screenshot sent to a mutual close friend with his gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:47 PM |
| 3 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.Not that it's the point but, just for the record it was a particularly terrible one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:46 PM |
| 3 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.I wasn't feeling nonchalant at all. I was really upset and sent it straight to my best friend who is good friends with his GF. I made a mistake trying to play it cool because he's a good family friend (apparently) and was attempting damage limitation but after the follow ups I just blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)Also BUYING A GUY AN XBOX TO PLAY ON YOUR TV IN YOUR HOUSE WHILE YOU WORK ON YOUR PhD... PICKME ALERT!!!! The Shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 09:41 AM |
| 14 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)That thing was long sold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 09:39 AM |
| 69 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)OMG Deal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:15 PM |
| 237 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)This is almost exactly the same as a voice note that I still have from my ex that said "you're an amazing person, we've had a amazing time together, nothing I ever do or say can change that, its been amazing. Thanks for sending my stuff...did you include the X box?" (That I paid for). It helped so much, we all just spent the night cackling at it. Edit: I just found the recording and I desperately want to share it with you all. We need an FDS WhatsApp or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 03:57 PM |
| 2 | The insults men make about women's bodies - and what THEY look likeDon't even need to post a reaction cos his OWN FACE is doing it for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:33 PM |
| 15 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?My future daughters, neices etc will be getting a very different sexual education than I did. Mine was just both my parents terrifying me about pregnancy and virginity then suddenly being told it was fine and fun to get groped in bars and not be "frigid". I actually have a fantastic relationship with my mum, she was just born in the 60s and didn't have FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 10:56 AM |
| 53 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?Yeah I've definitely never reached over for my dildo just to shove it down my throat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:08 PM |
| 107 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I just really thought about this and so many flashbacks to being a teenager, boiling hot under the duvet with jaw ache just coaching myself in my head like "okay not long to go now, almost there, keep going it's okay". I shouldn't have felt like that ever, especially not so young. It didn't didn't cross my mind that I could say no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:05 PM |
| 24 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?Im trying to go no contact and get over somebody right now. Its been 6 months of being stood up and ignored with bread crumbs of unbelievable fun in between. I keep hoping it'll set in what he's doing and then every day can be our wild motorcycle trips and in-jokes in the bath tub, but realistically I should've walked a long time ago. I was so strict on my FDS at first too, and was completely in control, but somewhere I lost it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 09:38 AM |
| 95 | Father playing devils advocate when it comes to sexual child abuse, but wife’s not sure what to do?! Raising daughters is terrifying.Did you see the one where the woman recently came into money and her older bf, who has never mentioned marriage before, or even had sex with her in TEN YEARS suddenly wants to get married? I wanted to post but still can't get verified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:37 AM |
| 9 | The OP thought the whole event was "funny." I call it the troubling journey of a Pick Me.6th line and he's blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:43 PM |
| 107 | "I know it's not actually 'cheating' per say" uum excuse me what 😀He's an alcoholic...HE has sex whenever HE wants...HE MADE DEEPFAKE PORN OF HER MUM. Stop the fucking bus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Check-inCongratulations! I bought my own house last year and left a 4 year relationship. He's been umming and ahhing about whether he can be bothered to level up enough to join me since then. This month I told him to forget it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:12 AM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Check-inMy new daily FDS practice is scrolling through THOSE other subs and red flagging all the horrendous relationships people are seriously tolerating. "My bf is offering me money to perform a sex act I was forced to do as a child"..."my husband says he wants other women but I am his favourite"..."my husband pulled my hair when I didn't make his tea right"... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:11 AM |
| 7 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsReminds me of the time I was in some remote village in the Czech Republic and got impetigo on my elbow. Ended up walking to a hospital miles away and the two male docs insisting I needed to be in my underwear to look at it. Also the time my ex fiance and his friend (both nurses) thought it was hilarious that they'd tell "hot female patients" they needed an ECG and that would require full upper nudity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 10:05 AM |
| 23 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksI just read 23. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:57 AM |
| 201 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksI just read a timeline issued this morning in the UK and there's a ton of new information, at least to me. What about the bodies of two other women ( Kylen Schulte and wife Crystal Turner) found at a local campsite the day after the police spoke to the couple? They told friends that they were being harassed at the camp by a "creeper dude". He was also picked up hitch hiking alone a couple of days before he arrived home with the van? I'm trying not to get too emotionally involved here but my rada… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:56 AM |
| 22 | Men Telling on ThemselvesThank you! I pictured a relationship with him in the future and saw only stress and imbalance. Sometimes I'm actually grateful for terrible past relationships that I can now use as a reference point. He's very attractive and we have tons in common but if I can't even dream up a happy future, then I don't see why I would continue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:03 AM |
| 75 | Men Telling on ThemselvesI've been chatting to an old friend recently and things have been getting flirtatious. Today he told me he is stoned 90% of the time and then half an hour later tells me the only thing holding him from coming to visit me is the train ticket (he doesn't drive) because he's "the worst person ever with money lol". Blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:39 PM |
| 37 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimI've just been reading comments on this case on another sub and there's a disturbing amount of victim blaming going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:31 PM |
| 145 | ‘Guy friends’: the real evil men?5 male friends this summer have told me they can't see me anymore because they have feelings for me that are "clearly not reciprocated". I have never done anything to make them think I would see them as anything other than friends. I can't even fathom this happening with my female friends, including the ones that date women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 11:25 AM |
| 8 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceThe comments on the original post about him marrying a crazy bitch were infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:07 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-InMy girls and I have started a chat group where announce the LVM roll call of the week. This week we are 5 days in and 13 LVMs have been nominated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Half of women 'have suffered sexual assault by a partner while asleep'This happened with my ex too. He was a nurse. I never fully believed it until he started putting Xanax in my drinks so he could have an affair with our housemate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:16 PM |
| 1 | How far would your ex have gotten with you if you'd been following FDS principles then?Not sure which ex to pick so I'll go with one NVM I dated for six months. He picked me up in the van that he lived in for a "camping date". Got his dick out and nagged me to "just look at it" until I ended up getting him to fuck me from behind so he couldn't see me laughing at him. Soooo, yeah it would've ended at "van" instead of "dumping me pregnant at Christmas". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 10 | Ladies who have gotten the vaccine: Did it mess with your monthly cycle at all?I had mine in Feb and haven't got my period yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 69 | Reason #6567 why being single is better than settling.My mum got married for the first time at 40 to a HVM and 15 years later they're happier than ever. She always refused to marry my dad because she knew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 08:25 AM |
| 49 | Art imitates lifeOh god I've just realised a LVM is trying to move in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManIt's also important to note that women who are educated on how to spot a HVM are the ones that keep them. Who knows who we mightve passed by before we came here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:06 PM |
| 32 | Avoid: personal trainersI'd like to add tattooists to this list | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:25 PM |
| 1 | This sad. We have a second invisible global pandemic happening and its called male narcissismI just got dumped and the line "I'm sorry if you feel like I cheated on you" when he got a BJ from another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 26 | Is this rape? First hand account from a girl who convinces herself she has been raped"We were all a little relieved when I decided that I'd been raped." What an opener. | /r/MensRights | 03/09/10 02:49 PM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter