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ADVICEdenszil/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 01:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONdenszil/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 03:57 AM
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ADVICEdenszil/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 11:23 PM
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Honestly, just writing it out and asking the questions sometimes help. You make yourself happier. You return to being the soft place to land.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/18 06:11 PM
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Haha okay well, mission accomplished. Some hamsters scurried away. I definitely didn't look at it like that... And it will help me shut up about it. When I did talk to him about not wanting to move in, the reasons I gave were my communication faults and wanting to be closer to marriage. I would happily quit my job and move if we were engaged. But right now it's my grind and a resume/social skills builder. That's just where I'm at right now. My thing with being engaged is not that it erases probl…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 06:55 PM
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Holy wow, I'm not defensive. But... "I wish I could slap you?" Really? I know this sub. I invited the feedback. I wanted to hear where I was wrong, I just couldn't find the point. There was no spike at all here between he and I . There were a few reasons didn't feel ready to do so. It wasn't asked or a discussion really, it was just assumed that we would. When it came time to decide what next when the lease ended, I didn't feel as though I communicated well or freely enough to withstand the adde…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 05:46 PM
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I have battled, but understand this. He has even said before that my opinion and input are just that, but he has to sort his solutions for himself. His last roommate situation wasn't a good one. He said he chose her bacause he knew that she would be clean and reliable, bonus points that she's in good with the landlord which would help maintenance wise. The stars just lined up that way. As someone previously said, he knew I wouldn't be in love with it but hoped I'd be understanding and see the bi…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 04:42 PM
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Whimsical haha, I can see that. But you are right that I have said a variety of things, as I have felt a variety of things! Despite your counsel, I brought him this chaos tonight and he held it very warmly, and we had a conversation that brought me more peace concerning the matter. I do need to sort out the mess of trust, being controlling, and defining my boundaries. It'll just hurt the relationship or me if I leave this undone. Chances are he knows you're not crazy about the idea, but that it'…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 05:44 AM
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That's the bare bones of it. Tonight, I couldn't shake my feels and we just needed to talk about it. He expressed how the arrangement was convenient, but not ideal for him either and was very reassuring. I do trust him and can recognize that we have something really unique. STFU and assessing my attitude is what will have to happen here. And I know it sounds so crazy, but he's worth a mighty effort.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 05:27 AM
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This is fair. However, I declined the invitation. We assumed that when our leases ended that we would go in together, but I didn't feel like we were quite there and he was very understanding when I made that known a few months ago.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/17 05:21 AM
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Hula hoop! I don't know if you've seen any hoop dancing but its a really great hobby (and sometimes workout!). I'm not sure if he lives in a small apartment or a place with a yard, but getting started doesn't take too much space. Youtube tutorials and a hula hoop. Plus its really graceful and can be super sexy. He won't be playing video games for long! I feel like I just tried to sell this to you, but seriously anytime is on the hunt for a hobby, hula hooping is my go to! Its so rewarding.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/16 03:02 AM
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Straight hair is definitely nicer, most guys don't like curly hair Pfffft. My advice is to do what works best for you. What I've found is that its less your hair, more your makeup. Your hair can be wild or in a pretty patterned headscarf but if your makeup is on point and you have a pleasant demeanor, you'll get positive attention.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/16 07:12 AM
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You've gotten great advice, but I'll just add that a little empathy is important as well. She's recently widowed. I don't know if you've lost a person in your life, but I'm sure its a very difficult time for her (and your fiance as well). I'd say recognize that she was once a newlywed feeling the same things you are now for your fiance and is experiencing some loneliness so maybe try not to take small comments so personally. I definitely agree with setting a timeline with your fiance and having …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/16 06:26 PM
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I graduated this past weekend and my SO had the opportunity to meet my family for the first time. My family is intense. Not like bad intense, but just... there's a lot of personality to go around. My sweet man met them and was confident, charming, intelligent, talkative and just... so very himself. He made the best impression! My dad, a very stoic and serious guy said a prayer before they left town and said something along the lines of thanking God for bringing him into our family and me and my …
/r/RedPillWives16/05/16 05:43 PM
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Yeah, I've felt this. Thoughts can be dangerous and stir up a lot of insecurity if you let them run wild, but you have to know how to wield 'em. A mantra I say to myself often is "Be kind and rational." To yourself, as well as him. Just remind yourself of the things you know are true. Men typically tell you how they feel and what their desires are. He's agreed to be exclusive with you. He's shared how invested he is by saying he still wanted you even through hectic schedules. He comforted your c…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/16 04:08 PM
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Sometimes I imagine how ugly our kids would be. I am utterly shocked at how sweet this sentence came off.
/r/askTRP01/05/16 05:22 AM
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BTW chewing up a tsp of fennel seeds with a chaser of water can help with gas. Sincerest thanks from the gassiest girl in the world!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 06:53 PM
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But like, why are you peeing in a cup? Haha aside from that, BeautifulSpaceCadet's relationship is one extreme whereas you and your man are the other! I guess if me and my SO keep dating long enough, we'll figure out where we'll fall on the bathroom spectrum. I really wonder what changed after a year or so from being prudes to "Oh you're in the bathroom? I'll join you!"
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 02:21 PM
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Aww you two sound fun! I love your relationship too and all I know about it is that you two enjoy fart jokes haha
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 02:13 PM
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Blame it on the dogs and inanimate objects! That is great haha. I'll make a point to do that when either of us slip! Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 02:03 PM
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I do like that despite the fact we are not that open about it, it's no source of embarrassment or anything we can't talk about or be comfortable with. No kidding. You two sound pretty modest about it, so its cool that its not an uncomfortable thing. If I choose to take a more mature route to navigate this, your relationship will be my model! Thanks for such a thought out reply!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 01:59 PM
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Poopourri!?? That is AMAZING. Relationship saver. Haha thank you!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 01:45 PM
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Rarely are white men portrayed by the media in a positive manner compared to colored men. This whole sentence, but mostly "colored"? Thank you for trolling haha. But for fun... there are just so many variables and neither race is a monolith. This all depends on where you are and what individuals personal preferences are. Some white women are into black guys. Some black women into white guys. Not necessarily a TRP value. I think its just a thing that happens.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 08:39 PM
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Its posts like this that give me the vibe that TRP and its affiliates are just a whole bunch of white people haha. When you understand the concept of privilege and oppression, white men aren't particularly intimidated by black men's social or political prowess. White men make the rules and in a weird way, are the alphas of society. That's why feminism and SJW take issue with them (as a group, not necessarily as people). Personal preference is a completely different thing though and is completely…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 08:16 PM
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You ladies mostly echoed my thoughts on the article, but can we talk about the shit show that's happening in the comment section? Feminism, man. My favorite comment was This article describes what a loving and selfless woman is like. Only a selfish woman would disagree.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 09:38 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss hugs
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/16 01:43 AM
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In fact, if a woman delays sex to avoid risk to her partner count, because a low count makes her more attractive, just who is this low count making her more attractive to? "I don't want to risk being less sexy, or less commitment-worthy, to the next guy." I found this particular perspective really interesting! Never thought of it like that. But being "all in" without commitment is a surefire way to get, as I've seen on TRP, "pumped and dumped" (I feel dirty saying that). There are certainly some…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 06:33 PM
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Man, I really struggle with this. I know in my previous relationships I had more of a "taker" mentality. And whenever a disagreement would come up about how little I gave back, then I'd take the "Well, we shouldn't be keeping score" perspective. However in my present relationship after finding RPW, I'm significantly more of a giver (maybe overcompensating, but it comes naturally and he doesn't complain) and don't know when or how to be a gracious receiver. Maybe its a fear of being indebted or a…
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 04:03 PM
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I intend on running this sub with a very similar thought process as TRP- MGTOW, Plate spinning, and LTR are all valid goals and strategies, even though they differ. Okay, I missed that post but if that's the transition we're making, cool. I had just never seen a post like this on this sub ever, so I wasn't sure what to make of it. On that note, I have nothing further to contribute. Perhaps some other ladies can be more helpful to you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/16 03:26 AM
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No disrespect, but I don't know if this is the sub for you. According to the sidebar... Our focus is on long-term goals that bring long-term happiness. So asking for advice concerning how to deflect a dude that's over 10 years older than you, you're mostly just going to get feedback similar to what /u/scallopkid has given or worse haha. He's been up front with you about what his desires are. If you're aware that you don't want the same thing, you're wasting this guys time and jerking around his …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/16 02:11 AM
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I know this one is a little old, but I've spent the afternoon reading through all of these sweet comments! Some compliments from my sweetheart that have stuck out to me are... "I really appreciate your sobriety" "You treat me like gold. I am so lucky to have you in my life and to have your love." "You are very self aware" I hear "You are wonderful" at least once a day. and any compliment on my desserts! RPW has taught me how to be much more of a giver and uplifter in my relationship and challeng…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 06:18 PM
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Fair question! Its a fairly diverse group. Because they're from his graduate program, there are males and females, and of varying ages. From an RP point of view, I think they mean friends as .. someone you spend lots of time with and confide in and things of that nature. He doesn't hang out with these girls alone or on a regular basis by any means. Always a group setting. His friends are very much his friends. While I don't think he expects me to become bffs with these people (males and females)…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 05:40 AM
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Ooh thank you, I'll check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 04:20 PM
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I like a good counter-perspective too, these are always my favorite parts of these threads. So thank you for your insight as well. You've brought up great points.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 02:10 PM
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trembling, flush-faced, and hiding in the corner. The corner was looking so appealing too! Unfortunately, this behavior is highly frowned upon at social functions. Rats! But you're right, I should at least tell him of these feelings a little bit. Even if he perceives it as shyness, I think he'd still be willing to be helpful. I have some examples in mind that would be subtle but very relaxing for me. As far as the psychiatrist, I'll keep that in mind. I see a counselor fairly regularly, and that…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 01:44 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply! Practice small talk in other public places My palms are a little sweaty already haha! But you're right, this is certainly a good thing to try and I'm sure it'll help with thinking of good, forward moving questions. It'll take conscious effort and practice, but its a necessary skill to have. I'll keep this in mind. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 01:32 PM
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This man must have known you were fairly introverted when he chose you -- why assume that he wants you to change? I think I needed to hear that. Looking back, it was probably just jitters and not wanting to seem like the boring or awkward girlfriend. He says we complement each other often and thanked me for accompanying him. This one might've just be in me too far in my head.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 01:24 PM
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I think your just making a fuss over nothing After sleeping on it, I think you're absolutely right. I think I just got way in my head and got swept up in "what ifs" and "maybe he thinks I'm..." Anxious nonsense. Your job at these events is to make your SO look good in his social circle I really appreciate this perspective, thank you for your thoughtful reply! Next time, I'll certainly go in with a different attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 12:59 PM
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Completely didn't even think, "Hey maybe he just wants me to be friends with them." so thank you for that perspective! Many are female, so seeing them as possible potential friends as opposed to SO's friends might be much more relaxing. They are certainly very kind to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 02:08 AM
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All of this advice is great! My little fitness trick is to do something fun! Personally, I hula hoop dance. Get a weighted hoop off etsy and learn some fun body tricks and hand tricks and after you learn some of the basics, then you put on some music and dance! I hoop almost everyday (outside or inside) and my abs look great and I've heard of a people losing lots of weight in their legs. It's just a beautiful flow art. Can't encourage it enough! So whether it's hoopin, yoga, or rock climbing, If…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 02:53 PM
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I think I'll get a little more involved and try one of these. I should introduce myself though. I'm 24, senior in college and in a charming, new relationship. The Good-- Recently set a weight goal a few months ago that I found I accomplished yesterday! 140 down to 128! Gotta tone more though, but never accomplished a body goal, so that's pretty exciting. Found some skin tips on this sub that I tried out and work amazingly. Practically glowing. My SO has been sick the past week and I've taken ver…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 11:33 PM
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I'm curious what advice you have to offer on this matter. I've seen you sort of deflect some of the pieces of advice, but not necessarily pose a solution to this scenario. She can let her child know what is and isn't okay to say without mothering her husband as well. Would this not create a more "Do as I say, not as I do" situation if the mother conveys certain actions aren't okay yet the father displays them? men express their emotions differently than women. While this is fine and dandy, surel…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 10:34 PM
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This is fair. And I totally understand that dynamic, which is why I've only felt comfortable saying very little and it has only happened twice. I've heard of other family members addressing him in private about these matters before, but rarely hear anyone call him out in the moment (my sister is the master of stfu) so I'm not sure which is more effective. Either way, not my husband, not my child, not my place and I'll keep that in mind. However, in OP's position, would it still be as inappropria…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 08:13 PM
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This sounds a lot like my sisters husband. He had a rough childhood and he brings some of that tension into his home, along with aggression and disrespect towards his wife and children. He's a great provider and father when he wants to be but sometimes he's just mean for the sake of being mean. I see a lot of really good advice here and I'm no mother (but a great aunt!) but when I'm at their home and I hear him be overtly aggressive towards his 5 year old daughter in a way that hurts MY feelings…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 07:22 PM
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I really appreciate this post because a couple of months ago, I entered my first RP relationship and was experiencing this same anxiety! Its slowly going away but I'm glad to know its normal! My only advice to you is to continue to be kind and rational, to him as well as yourself. Enjoy the butterflies! It seems to only get better!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 04:03 AM
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"I wanna eat his jawline with kisses" haha thats the cutest thing ever.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 12:17 AM
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