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Society actively condemns all sorts of things, that doesn't mean that grown-ass adults can just stop trying, stagnate in their maladaptive patterns, and feel sorry for themselves - we should keep working to improve ourselves. Consistently learning, growing, and changing is a critical part of being a mature, functional person; neglecting your own growth and failing to evolve is pathetic self-sabotage. Also, that's quite an assumption, that I've "never had to" struggle socially - I'm literally aut…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 08:26 PM
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Easier doesn't mean better - fast food isn't better than a home cooked meal, a sedentary lifestyle isn't better than an active one, a paint by number isn't better than an original artwork. Always choosing the easier option, even when it's less fulfilling, is lazy - not pragmatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:35 PM
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I don't really see much of this media bias, though I have happened across it occasionally. But personally, I think both of those explanations/justifications you mentioned for why men vs women have AI "partners" are hugely overcomplicating the issue - the real reason some people of both sexes are turning to AI for romantic fulfillment is because those people have massively underdeveloped social skills and are taking the easy way out: they rely on the sycophantic yes-machine to stroke their ego an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 06:29 PM
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Some posts on this sub really do make me feel like I'm watching some sort of surrealist documentary, with how confidently these guys will assert the most *batshit* topics/claims/arguments ever conceptualized, as though they're indisputable fact. It's fascinating, i need david attenborough narrating the maladaptive/asocial behaviors men model on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:39 AM
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Bro you are fighting issues that don't even exist; there isn't some huge coalition of women insisting that watching lesbian porn is a heterosexual activity, you are making this issue up in your head and getting mad at people you invented. Idk what corner of the internet you stumbled into that made you believe this, but it isn't representative of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:26 AM
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Yeah, women have to consider the possibility of needing an abortion whenever we have sex, so of course abortion rights tie in closely with dating dynamics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:40 PM
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My husband makes 6 figures, is not "unfit" (there's another one of your assumptions!), pays for everything (I'm a SAHW), and STILL somehow manages to make food and crafts for me - because he adores me, and he wants to communicate that to me in every way he can. Maybe you should just lock in so you can do the same for your partner, seems like a skill issue holding you back ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 08:35 PM
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"FYI" lmao tf? Yeah, I thought I was a lesbian as a teenager when I made this acct; shortly thereafter I realized I'm actually bi. Also I don't think I specified "many years" - he and I just passed our first anniversary. You sure do make a lot of assumptions tho, huh? Wild that you went to my profile to try to find a counter argument bc you don't actually have one; kinda pathetic tho, you didn't even bother trying to contradict my point. You just ad-hominem'ed and then blustered through a paragr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:54 PM
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Two of the things I remember most from when my now-husband and I first started dating are 1) he would always bring a loaf of fresh homemade banana bread to my apartment if he was staying the night, and 2) he sewed little frog-shaped hand warmers, stuffed with rice, and he would hide one somewhere in the apt for me to find, each time he left - and they're all various shades of blue (my favorite color). These things stick out in my mind because they reflected his tenderness and thoughtfulness, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:14 PM
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If it works for most guys, why do we have so many men whining about muh loneliness epidemic?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:00 PM
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Are you gonna provide any specifics, or just vague half-responses to everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:50 PM
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I'm married, and my relationship with my husband aligns with what I was saying - we work as a team, and truly value one another to the highest extent. The same goes for my friends in committed relationships (including two married couples); they don't have "imbalanced" relationships, and the idea of rigging a relationship "in your favor" is absolutely demented and disconnected from reality. That isn't a "rose colored view" champ, it's a reality check: healthy relationships do not entail a power i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:43 PM
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"Dream girl" was used as shorthand to describe a woman you experience strong, mutual attraction to/chemistry with, I didn't literally mean your Disney Princess Charming 🙄 nice way to sidestep the point I was making though; care to address what I was saying about different women/relationships having different standards/requirements, or are you gonna pivot again?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:32 PM
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You claim you don't buy into the misogyny and toxicity of the red pill, but you've clearly swallowed it all hook, line, and sinker. Assuming every relationship is inherently a power struggle means you'll always be trying to "win" against your partner, and will always be suspicious of her because you assume she's also trying to "win." This leads to incredibly tumultuous, unstable relationship dynamics. Red pill propaganda has poisoned your mind, whether you're aware of it or not; you've convinced…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:29 PM
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Building a romantic/sexual connection with a partner isn't standardized though - every person and every coupling is different, so what worked for one guy to attract his dream girl will not necessarily work for you to attract your dream girl. There's no single foolproof formula to solve dating woes; if there were, we wouldn't have a ~male loneliness epidemic~
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:07 PM
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"Incels have no data that says they're the ones assaulting, abusing, stalking, etc" <image> Hmmmmm.......
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:42 PM
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Your original post has several examples, all of which include "he'll change for me" - that's not assuming he's perfect. If you're gonna make this argument, you're negating your own original claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:27 PM
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Not "hope" - just eyes and a brain. I have both statistical and anecdotal evidence that the majority of young men (<30) have some amount of dating experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:56 PM
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What if you manage to find a girlfriend you're attracted to and have chemistry (sexual and romantic) with - and you're still depressed? Will you finally reflect and consider that maybe you have bigger issues than loneliness, and you need to work on yourself, or will you keep your blindfold on and insist that allllllll your issues are magically solved by having a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:39 PM
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Most men are lucky if one woman is interested in them "Most"? You sure about that, champ? I think you might just be projecting your own failings
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:36 PM
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Yyyyeah, I'm sure your ~selflessness~ is the true reason you've struck out romantically and sexually lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:06 PM
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See, the thing is, most people actually like their romantic partners, and enjoy having conversations with them, listening to their thoughts, etc - you sound as though youbarely tolerate(d) any and all of your past/present/hypothetical partners. Like, I would literally NEVER describe my husband confiding in me as a "self-pity party;" I actually feel very honored when he vents to me (about anything, big or small), because it's a testament to his trust in me, and I always feel incredibly fulfilled …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:00 PM
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It is common for straight women to [...] find the naked female body more attractive than the male body Uh, no, it absolutely isn't. Heterosexual women are not attracted to other women - did you forget bisexuals exist...?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:16 PM
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You just said yourself that "suffering through life is not something to be desired or an aspirational goal" - that's exactly my point, dude! In your prev comment, you referred to your inability to come to terms with your virginity as a "fail[ure]", and implied that rather than putting in the effort it'd take to actually make peace with loneliness, you'd prefer to "cope" via indulgence in maladaptive revenge fantasies/sexist circlejerks with similarly virginal men. Your word choice in the sentenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:37 AM
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Kinda embarrassing to just resign yourself to failure, no? Sooner or later the pity-party you're throwing for yourself is gonna get boring
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:37 AM
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I am going to die alone 27 years from now. My life now is an attempt to come to terms with that. You aren't attempting to come to terms with it though - you're attempting to get revenge for perceived slights (women not fucking you). You're bitter and vengeful, not making peace with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 05:13 PM
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Autism Alliance!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 12:04 PM
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At least put in an effort if you're gonna troll, bud
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 06:11 PM
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Uhhh, we aren't actually - we're talking about women's liberation from social expectations and how men can achieve the same. I'd say that the process of that liberation, that led to modern women's relative freedom from social expectations, is extremely relevant. I think you need to re-read the post bb, and maybe all the comments again for good measure... you seem lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 06:09 PM
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Do you think early feminist advocates were embraced and supported by men and society? Do you think they faced zero roadblocks?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 05:53 PM
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"Why couldn't something like this happen to men too[?]" Because trailblazing toward social progress and liberation isn't typically something that happens to a demographic, it's something they work and fight for. And you know that, even if subconsciously, because you also wrote this sentence: "Women have liberated themselves[.]" Themselves. Themselves. If men want widespread social change, you can't just whine and wait for women to sweep in and fix it for you. Men have to actually take some initi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 02:57 PM
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This may sound shocking, but I actually leave my home, engage with the opposite sex, and listen to the things thy tell me - soo, this is info I've gathered directly from various guys I've known (friends, my cousin I'm extremely close with, and my husband mostly) relating their experiences firsthand. Take it up with their life experiences I guess - I'm not just spitballing, my comment wasn't vague speculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:23 PM
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From my observations and experiences, single men have just as few friends as men in relationships, so your theory that the big reason men have less friends is because their partners take issue with it seems like a cop-out to sidestep accountability for their own actions that have led to friendlessness/loneliness. I've noticed over the years that a lot of men seem reluctant to put effort into the people in their lives; their friendships tend to be short-lived because they lapse as soon as the fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 06:36 PM
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How long-term can your relationship be if she's only been a legal adult for a year...?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 03:13 PM
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Me: "hey, if you're struggling with women, maybe work on improving yourself and changing your mindset around women, or try to find fulfillment in your life that doesn't rely upon access to pussy" some absolute clown PPD Y-chromosoid, every fucking time for some reason: "ooooor, consider this... we could use our advantages of physical strength to go the route of state-sponsored rape!!! That sounds WAY easier than actually trying to see/treat women as equally viable, fully-fledged fellow human bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:03 PM
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Words matter, especially when discussing an issue like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 07:51 PM
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Basically, if women had the exact same "woke" feminist "you go girl" values while still distributing sex to men just as much as they did in previous generations, no one would complain about feminism or modern women. The wording "distributing sex to men" is quite telling; sex is not a service women provide, it's an activity that two (or more) people collaboratively participate in together. Women shouldn't be expected to dispense reluctant sexual favors as some sort of demented payment we must tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 06:59 PM
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Who gives a fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:04 PM
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Ignoring my point to pontificate about the downfall of modern women isn't exactly preaching reality. Make your own comment if you aren't going to reply to the contents of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:42 AM
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Nonsequitor detected
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:14 AM
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Men who admit to mentally filing away the pre-adulthood age of consent of multiple countries are reaaaaally telling on yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 07:18 AM
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Y-chromies on this subreddit say the most foul, unhinged, asocial bullshit with their entire chests, as casually as discussing the weather, and the absolute worst they might get is the mods simply deleting their comment (sans ban/mute). On the other side of the coin, I myself have a tendency to troll moids on this sub from time to time, when a particularly egregious post passes the bullshit threshold I'm prepared to tolerate that day - and I assure you, the mods most certainly ARE NOT SHY about …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:36 PM
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It would cost you thousands of dollars to..... spend time outside and practice oral hygiene??
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:59 AM
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While scrolling these posts, I frequently send up a little prayer of thanks to the universe for the fact that the men who frequent this sub are NOT, IN ANY WAY, a representative sample of men as a demographic. Like, it's such a relief remembering that the cumbrained, cumstained men - who write delulu novellas on this sub as though they're being paid by the word - are just a tiny, deranged subsection of y-chromie-havers... and, even more fabulous news, I'll likely never have to encounter these cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:27 AM
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He'd whiiiiiine endlessly about being a beta bucks bitch boy, and unfortunately I think he's too dense to see that irony.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:09 AM
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I'm convinced that my grandmama has only been able to function and thrive after the loss of pop (8y ago) because my aunt got her a puppy a few months after - with the firm directive, "you need something to care for."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:46 PM
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I'm a very confident person at this point in my life, but I didn't used to be - and I literally just employed the classic "fake it til you make it" strategy (fully expecting it to not work whatsoever). But it worked a charm, I'm a lil bit delulu but at least I'm free of constantly second guessing myself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:05 PM
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Your pity party in this thread evokes the infamous Ick. "I'm a victim of the universe actually, ultimate victim speaking! I might as well have been hobbled at birth for how disabled I am by my plight!" "Oh shit dude, what's your disability??" "... Ugli 😔"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 01:34 PM
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pursuing networking as a career path Got it, so you're a high schooler with no perspective on the world (or a late/failure to launch NEET) - that makes your comments make a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:17 PM
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I didn't even meet my now-husband til I was 23, and I had already had a couple serious (but unsuccessful) relationships as well as some hookups by that time; does that mean I "settled for" him?? He's 100% my "top choice", legitimately better than any man I could have possibly imagined prior to meeting him - but that's exactly the point, I had no way of knowing he even existed so I couldn't possibly have chosen him any sooner... so should I have remained single and celibate before him, just hopin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 09:22 AM
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Does he have a vagina and uterus? If not, then he is missing a critical part of the female experience. Men's reproductive systems are a lot simpler than women's.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:59 PM
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If their biggest issues were not getting laid, yeah, I'd say the same. But they have real problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:19 PM
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Hey, at least I have balls in spirit!! I'm a tumblr discourse veteran, I'm ironclad against the hate here lmao. Honestly, not a single piece of Reddit hate I've ever received even begins to compete with some of the Tumblr anons I've found in my inbox (usually over fandom or feminist discourse, I've had a lot of blogs over the years). Tumblr anons have dropped some of the most absolutely bananas strings of words I've ever seen. They weave insults like tapestries. Guys here could never (though I e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 02:04 AM
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The thing is, I've experienced that level of horniness during ovulation and menstruation when not on testosterone maaany times, so I know I'm fully capable of goonin' without the 'roids lmao - but I also just have a high libido for a woman so idk, maybe I'm just an odd case. I didn't feel like I was especially attitudinous with anyone who didn't warrant it, but eh, autism, sleep deprived, and just don't give enough of a shit to be Purely Professional on this subreddit. Half the people who post i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:35 AM
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I'm aware it's multi-factorial, but hormones play a very large role - including in the way we think/how our brains are "wired," to borrow your word. My thought patterns and emotional responses were quite different on T vs off. I'm trying to isolate a factor (hormonal profile) as much as possible for the sake of the discussion, because if we try to go into everything that contributes to how men and women differ, the parameters of the discussion will quickly become blurry and unwieldy. Surely you …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:03 AM
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You aren't making any arguments dude!!! You're arguing against claims that I DID NOT MAKE. I can't argue for a position I never even took. Get your shit together
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:38 AM
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I immediately afterward on that same comment thread said that I was being facetious, which was obvious to anyone w half a brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:19 AM
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Uh huh, sure bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:13 AM
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I was a loser before I transitioned too, tbf lmaoo. And I def wasn't trying to pass as a straight man when I was transitioning... most of the time I passed as male to strangers - blessed with broad shoulders, height (5'9"), and decent androgynous bone structure - BUT I passed specifically as a very flamboyant gay man, because my female socialization was super obvious in how I carry myself, the cadence of my speech, everything. I used joke that I looked and sounded like a respectable young man wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:12 AM
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Then claimed it wasn’t a big deal and was easily manageable and tried to give life advice to men about sexuality and etc Ah! Okay, I see the problem here, friendo! I think you're lost, see, this is a DEBATE subreddit, it's not an advice subreddit; easy mistake to make when you have a fourth-grade reading level, I totally get it. I think you want r/askmenadvice if you're looking for the circlejerk of womanhating - but again, not a big deal! Reddit is tough sometimes :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:36 PM
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Engaging in debate in a debate subreddit is... seeking validation? Alright sure, whatever you say, sport.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:23 PM
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Wow bro, you get a half chub writing all that? You rly PWNED the feeeeeemale I'm not in denial about my sex, so if you were hoping to hurt my feelings with this little rant, you missed the mark by a country mile - I know I'm female and I never ceased to be, that isn't some sort of earth-shattering revelation for me... thus the term DEtransitioned. I didn't claim to understand the "male experience" - I said I had a testosterone-dominant system, which plays an extremely key role in how libido and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:19 PM
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What's your question? How does me being lonely and respectfully expressing interest in people during that time imply that I required their assistance or forced my needs upon them? I didn't make it anyone else's problem, when I was rejected I took it and moved on w my life bc I'm not a whiny freak who complains about shit like "friendzoning."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:47 PM
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If that's what you gathered from my post, I weep for your literacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:15 PM
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Never said it turned me into a man, so, cool? Glad you agree w my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:10 PM
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This isn't an advice post, so idk why you expect me to mother you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:02 PM
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Still feels fetish-y. If you insist on continuing this conversation, I'll require $20 USD first. DM for my Venmo details.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:01 PM
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Oh absolutely - the inability to cry was suuuuuper frustrating, like I'd get home after a hard day and just want to have a good, rejuvenating cry about it like I had pre-T, but the tears just wouldn't come. I didn't notice myself getting angry more often, but I definitely noticed that my anger felt more explosive and restless, like I just needed to get it out. I did once impulsively punch a chain link fence in a moment of high emotion, and had cool chain link bruises on my knuckles for a week lm…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:01 PM
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Yeah, that does sound like a you problem, of having no standards or self control. as I said: skill issue!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:56 PM
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It's laughable that you think penises and clitorises are completely separate, unrelated structures. It's laughable that you think your experience of having a wiener is sooooo special and unique that no comparisons can ever be made. It's laughable that you're comparing basic arousal/orgasm to something as complex and multi factorial as menstruation or pregnancy. Your widdle cummies are not that profound broski.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:55 PM
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I was mostly being facetious wrt these specific prescriptions, I don't think anyone should go on these heavy-duty hormonal meds if they aren't seeking all the effects - like, androgen blockers could lead to breast growth, loss of body/facial hair, loss of muscle mass, changes to fat distribution, etc in addition to reduced libido. It's equivalent to chemically castrating oneself, basically (not to mention that a blocker without adding supplementary cross-sex hormones can lead to really major iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:52 PM
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This feels like you're asking fetish questions at this point, and I'm not in the mood to provide free thrills, so I won't be answering that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:45 PM
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1) women can have wet dreams (sex dreams that result in orgasm) 2) women on testosterone absolutely experience clitoral erections that do not go away until orgasm. So, you're still wrong. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:38 PM
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Yes and yes. I also like my deeper voice, my increased body hair, my megaclit - I really liked how I felt on T, but it just isn't safe for every body, and I happened to be unlucky in that respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:35 PM
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I'm glad you came to your senses and decided that being a man is too difficult Lmao, way to assume (based on exactly nothing) that you know my entire detransition history and reasoning. Not that it's your business, but I detransitioned because it was medically required bc I have a genetic disease that places me at risk - if that wasn't the case, I'd still be on T today. Nice try tho, I'd grade your attempt a B- :) Edit - also, the clitoris literally has more nerve endings than the penis - fricti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:31 PM
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Men can go on estrogen and androgen blockers literally whenever they want, that's their window to "switch off the prescription". Highly recommend, if you can't get over yourself and get a grip on your victim complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:27 PM
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Menstruation is a complex internal process that is unique to one sex - arousal/genital sensation is not. Hormonal makeup is the primary factor that determines libido, this is obvious when you look at men with low testosterone who are perfectly happy living sexless lives bc their sex drive vanished with their androgens. Hormonal makeup also determines actual genital presentations of arousal - females on testosterone get larger/harder sustained clitoral erections, while males on estrogen/androgen …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:25 PM
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Quick question bestie, do you think the clitoris doesn't have erectile tissue? Do you think it doesn't follow the same mechanical process as a penis? They're analogous organs, your dick is NOT that special, my friend. Also, female genitals are infinitely more sensitive than the male genitals, as measured by nerve endings - if anything, you don't understand what it's like to experience the intensity of female arousal lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:16 PM
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Most normal men do just deal with it and don't bitch about it and make it everyone else's problem, you're right! However, normal men are not a large percentage of this sub's population - the sub is full of bitter, vitriolic losers who whine constantly about being owed sex, which is why I posted this here. The post is for this specific audience, not the general male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:13 PM
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Let me guess, you're chronically single
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:47 AM
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Nah, you can absolutely be good at relationships, compatibility aside. Even if you're the two most compatible people alive, you need to have sufficient patience, communication skills, resilience, etc to handle the chaos of life together. Otherwise, you end up having petty little arguments, building resentments, and the relationship's foundation (of compatibility and attraction) is damaged. I'm married to the love of my life, who I'm incredibly compatible with, and we both still have to put in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:37 AM
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My husband had only been with two women prior to me - but he immediately told me and didn't try to lie, bc he isn't a giant pussy who's terrified of what everyone thinks of him. Didn't bother me remotely! If he'd lied, our foundational trust level in early dating would've been a lot lower (possibly to the point of causing a breakup, I have major issues w being lied to): bc it would indicate that he can't keep his fuckin answers straight, and say what he means. Integrity is critical in a relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 06:38 PM
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I mean, with that bleak outlook, you're counting yourself out from the starting line and jinxing chances you might have had if you hadn't just automatically assumed, "I won't succeed." Sitting out of the dating game is a form of losing it, it's not like it's a way to beat the system and avoid heartbreak - it's just a much more bitter type of heartbreak, the heartbreak of hopelessness. But hopeless doesn't mean helpless; it's still on YOU to get to know women and present your best self if you wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 09:13 PM
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See, multiple people can say multiple different things - I didn't write the reddit threads claiming "nobody told you being a good person would get you a girlfriend," so me saying something that doesn't align with those threads isn't some "gotcha" where you've caught a moment of "women's hypocrisy" - nah, it's just this cool new thing called different people have different experiences and believe different things. Crazy, I know - and sometimes, two different people with conflicting views will bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:09 AM
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Lmao, you have used "femoid" against women on Reddit (yeah bb I can check comment histories too!) but you're throwin a bitch fit over me calling you moid? Alright, sure, I'll explain: Because you're displaying a lot of negative classically male behaviors, like assuming you must have a more accurate idea of what defines "nerd" based purely on your Y chromosome, and resorting to combing through my profile to try to find shit to use against me - and still getting half of it wrong lmao, nice try tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:45 AM
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Insecure moid gatekeeps women from True Nerdity, insisting they can't possibly understand what nerdiness really is bc he has nothing else to feel superior about - tale as old as time. Also, you misunderstood what I wrote; I was not saying that you thought "6'5 with glasses" is lesser than you, I'm saying your assumption that my/my friends' nerdy lovers must be Henry Cavill-lookalikes is completely incorrect, baseless, and puuuure cope - because you don't want to acknowledge that there are plenty…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 11:57 PM
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Whatever you have to tell yourself to maintain your worldview, bud. I don't blame you for living in denial, it's a massive cope but I guess that's easier than accepting that you're so undateable/unfuckable that even men you deem as lesser (or "low value") are able to get companionship and pussy, while you whine to fellow chronically online fail-males about how unjust the world is for not providing you with the low-maintenance Stacy of your dreams. Sad, but... like I said - understandable that gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:54 PM
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Then you'd better get to them first or be a better candidate than the men around you, idk what to tell you - simple supply and demand, my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:07 PM
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I mean, obviously we were single at some point ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ there are a lot of women in the world, it's not like compatible partners are an endangered species lmao - you just have to put in effort to interact with women (of all sorts) and build connections/chemistry. Bitching online about the lack of suitable women in your life doesn't help to solve your dirth of love interests, ykwim? Maybe the women you're interested in aren't as scarce as they seem in male-dominated echo chambers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 06:31 PM
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I'm not egotistical enough to think I'm that unique from every other woman - plus, from my anecdotal experiences with het female friends, most of them go for quiet nerdy sweethearts (for both casual and serious dynamics).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:30 PM
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I've genuinely only ever had any interest in men who fit the former personality type you described. I've both hooked up with and seriously dated them over the years, and I am now married to a wonderful soft-spoken man whose quiet confidence is waaaay sexier than the overblown performative posturing that ~chads~ do. It's honestly embarrassing when wannabe-ass machitos put on the bravado and "swagger" of false confidence, peak cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 12:43 PM
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I've known more male hobosexual-types than female - doesn't matter who earns "more" in this economy, bc nobody's earning enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:47 PM
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45% of *people. Not just women. Reading is fundamental
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:20 PM
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You really said "k" like you did something here, huh 😭😭 lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:08 PM
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What?! "The Match Artist dot Com" is not a valid scientific reference? What is this world COMING to?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:07 PM
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Because I'm a member of a social species that habitually pair-bonds, and I feel that same instinctive urge to have a partner. I've been married since April :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:43 PM
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But bodily autonomy is - if we can't force mothers to donate even life-saving organs to their living children, why can we obligate them to act as a life support system for something that cannot live independently?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 08:14 PM
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If they're RP talking points, why are there always RP men - without fail - on OP's posts whining about her assessment??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:12 PM
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Is that what quantifies beauty to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:42 PM
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So then you'll become a toxic asshole to try and get pussy....... and still just as undesirable and discarded as you were before. Lol. Lmao even.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:52 PM
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What do you think birth control is?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 05:24 AM
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The reason there are women's only gyms is because women are ogled, harassed, and violated in mixed-sex gyms; there are innumerable cases of women being victimized by men in gyms/other athletics - to avoid these risks, women have established female-only gyms. Why do men need male-only gyms? What threat do men face by attending a mixed-sex gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:53 PM
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Edit: sorry, this was stream of consciousness so it was just a single block of text; ETA paragraphs!! I think it's a testament to the increasing radicalization going on in the manosphere/with the "gender war" - RP dudes a decade ago still had the pro-social instinct to strive for "normalcy" and not align themselves with the outgroup (incels/etc); whereas now a lot of young men are showing concerningly antisocial behavior patterns, including the recent idolization of (and identification with) the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 09:52 AM
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Am I not allowed to have my own opinions/morals that don't align with men's? 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:06 PM
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Yes - I think society sexualizes women, thus I think men are socialized within this system to sexualize women. A lot of men aren't even aware they're doing it - or if they are, they don't realize it's dehumanizing. Sexualizing men by default would make me feel gross because someone's sexual appeal is far from the most interesting thing about them. I know as a woman what it feels like to try and be taken seriously (academically, professionally, or even just socially) by men who are mentally ratin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:33 AM
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Eh. I don't sexualize "men," (the general category) in the way that men sexualize women, because I think reducing the entire opposite sex to their sexual appeal is dehumanizing - it doesn't matter if "men actually WANT to be sexualized," I would feel morally icky to constantly be sexually assessing men, like I would feel like a creep, and I don't want to do that for the sake of my own integrity. However: I sexualize the absolute hell out of my husband. I love making him blush, so I do silly thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:44 AM
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I'm a stay-at-home wife, but I also recognized how privileged my husband and I are to be in this position - I'm physically disabled and can't really work, so we're lucky that his field/position is able to support us both so comfortably. We're actually closing on a house in 6 days, and I'm so profoundly grateful for how dedicated my husband is... but yeah, our setup is not even close to the Norm anymore, especially without any kids. But I do love the SINK lifestyle lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:55 PM
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He can wish in his own pathetic little mind all he wants - but if he crosses the line into actually causing women harm, he has overstepped the definition of "feelings" and tripped into "criminal action." Do you not understand the concept that your emotions do not entitle you to behave like an animal - in theory, you should have a frontal lobe, so use it and muster up some impulse control.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:37 PM
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At fault for what exactly? There's been no crime, no one has been wronged or victimized in the situation where a guy fails romantically, he just hasn't been chosen - and yeah, sucks to suck, I'm sure that's tough; but some men seem to be under the impression that them having big feelings means that the world should bend and form around them and their emotions. Nope, you're an adult, suck it up and cope like one - you don't need two X chromosomes to manage some emotional regulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:35 PM
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I don't give a fuck if he's okay with it, he can be as un-okay with his undesirability as he wants - but his discontent stops being valid when he decides that his feelings entitle him to infringe on others' rights, humanity, and dignity. If he's upset he can cry or journal or cut himself about it like emotionally distraught women do, idgaf, but he has zero justification to mistreat others based on his feelings. Learn some DBT, find coping mechanisms that work, and stop making your insufficiencie…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:32 PM
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Because my desire to not sleep with someone does not impose on anyone else's rights, see how that works? Like how do you not get the difference
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:33 PM
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First rule of misogyny: women are responsible for what men do Fourth rule of misogyny: women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified. Keep going, maybe we'll get all 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:34 AM
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Uhhh, yeah - your feelings do not and SHOULD not take precedence over anyone else's right to bodily autonomy. If the only thing that would fix your feefees is to violate another human being's rights, then yeah, screw your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:32 AM
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I am detransitioned (was on testosterone with levels testing mid-male range, and identifying as trans - I am doing neither anymore), so I can say from experience that my sex drive did go up when my T levels were in the male range (bc yes, ftm patients do actually have T levels in the healthy male range, which is the target range for effective FTM transitional care, so that shows how much you're talking out of your ass). But, the actual difference between my testosterone-influenced libido and my …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:41 PM
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You must have a very poor opinion of yourself if you think this is your innate/immutable "nature". Most humans have the capacity for higher brain function beyond basic reproductive instincts, and typically think/talk about something that isn't sex - at least a few times a day! Sorry if that hasn't been your experience as a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:44 PM
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I am relatively newlywed (married 4/1, we're both 26yo) and the main things I wanted from my pre-married relationship with my now husband were: good conversation, good sex, shared interests/hobbies, common values, and compatible lifestyle (I'm physically disabled, so I can't like, go hiking every weekend or even guarantee I'll be able to leave my bed some days - this understandably poses an issue for most potential partners, but I got lucky enough to find an extraordinarily compassionate and gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:56 PM
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People who actually love their partners, in that situation, would typically encourage their partner to keep practicing/seek resources to improve at whatever it may be, and offer support for/acknowledgement of their partner's successes. They most certainly would NOT implement your "approach" of throwing out some snide, quippy "analogy," to mock and belittle their partner's talent and imply their ability to accurately perceive their own skill (or their reality in general) - because people who actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:45 AM
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Your refusal to disclose what exactly you actually said to her is a pretty clear sign that you are WELL AWARE that what you did is not "the same."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:17 AM
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Maybe your analogies just aren't as brilliant and cerebral as you seem to think, bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:35 AM
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Gotcha, so you haven't unpacked the cognitive dissonance at all, and are just leaning further into it by encouraging generalizations about women and denouncing generalizations about men. Thanks for clearing that up!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:37 PM
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But "AWALT" is supposedly "useful"? "Men are trash" is "useful" in the same way - it's a hyperbolic phrase demonstrating pattern recognition. The word "trash" is just as (non)specific as "like that" (in AWALT), and describes negative and toxic traits that are found commonly in men. So, women acknowledge that men are trash, and that is useful for them in the dating world, because it's a reminder that even if a man hasn't shown his ass YET, he still isn't the Prince Charming women would want him t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:30 PM
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So yes, you do take issue with them. But they can be justified with the same logic you used in your op. How do you mentally justify that cognitive dissonance?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:23 PM
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Do you take issue with phrases like "men are trash"/"I hate men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:59 PM
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I'm married and my husband is neutered 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:15 AM
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Ooh, defensive - don't be so emotional!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:35 AM
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So, out of curiosity, do you ever do any thinking for yourself? Or do you just let glorified predictive text programs act as your surrogate brain, since that's easier than actually trying to get those atrophied neurons of yours firing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:41 PM
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I think people will always be people on a fundamental level: we're an extremely social species - teamwork is how we've historically survived and thrived - so we're equipped with an innate drive to interact with other people, up to and including pair-bonding and reproducing. It's hard-wired into us, reinforced evolutionarily again and again; and beyond just biological reinforcement, there's the strong sociocultural reinforcement of pair-bonding that's been anthropologically established across cul…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 06:05 PM
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The stories y'all will dream up about a random stranger's romantic/sexual life, based on a 1-sentence comment that didn't even mention her dating history, are sincerely wild. You're spoon-fed these narratives about women from MALE internet grifters, feeding you pop-psych, deeply unreliable statistics, and bad-faith anecdotes to support their points, and you allow those viewpoints to retroactively and proactively apply to every woman you have/will ever come into contact with, and thus dictate you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 06:59 AM
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I'm not pro-cop, dude, you've got the wrong one. I just don't want my husband to be at risk on the job. Take this defensive energy elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:35 AM
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Whatever you say, bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:47 PM
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Unfortunately, the risk of getting into a car crash is a near-inevitable consequence of being gainfully employed; the risks of being shot at and having regular contact with criminals, fortunately, are not. Surely you recognize the intellectual dishonesty of saying that "driving to work" is just as dangerous as being in one of the top 25 most dangerous career options? I never said cops have it worse than sanitation workers - all I said is that I wouldn't want to worry my days away while my husban…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:41 PM
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And... I wouldn't want to be with people in other dangerous professions either. This doesn't really refute my point, top 25 is still pretty damn dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:25 PM
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Feels like it too, lately 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:40 PM
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I'll echo what other women have said about abuse/adultery statistics and the inborn power imbalance that automatically exists in relationships between police/civilians. I would also agree with u/ChadChasingBReturns that the occupation's stress/danger level is a big factor in why I wouldn't want to be with a cop - firstly because people who are constantly stressed out are hard to relax with, but mostly because I would be constantly stressed if my partner was regularly at risk of being harmed/kill…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:29 PM
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Even the "good" cops support and cover up for the "bastards", which makes them bastards too - in a massively corrupt system like the US's, cops can (and have) throw their weight around and use their station to bully, intimidate, and suppress the citizens, up to and including murdering civilians in cold blood, and because they're backed by their "brothers in blue", they rarely face adequate (if any) consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:23 PM
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Warn them that if they smile one too many times at you or, god forbid, give you a compliment or two, then you're going to perceive that as "the most blatant signs imaginable" and assume that they, too, want to ride you like a pogo stick. The vast majority of women don't want some random colleague to make a move on them, even if their working relationship is friendly - so I'd be "warning" them that smiling/giving compliments/"staring" (x to doubt that last one lmao) at you could make them a targe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:56 PM
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Why should I lmao you're gonna nitpick whatever I say and you're not interesting enough for me to type more paragraphs for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:04 PM
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Men don't decide the goals of feminism, so two XY's arguing about what they are would be a) a waste of time and b) an exercise in patronizing, masturbatory, egotistical drivel without any actual substance - like most of the male posts on this subreddit. Frankly, I don't count the men here among normal men by default, y'all are some other weird offshoot like Neanderthals but way more sexist. So no, y'all don't get the level of grace and curiosity I show to my male friends if they want to discuss …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:03 PM
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Nice misrepresentation of what I said in my other comment - I said facetiously that two men discussing/deciphering what the goals of feminism are sums up the tone of this sub; I didn't mock the idea of men discussing feminism, I love discussing it w my male friends irl, but two dude circlejerking about what they think feminism is - on THIS SUBREDDIT of all places? Yeah, oddly enough that doesn't feel comparable to productive feminist discussion. A lot of men here seem to think they're experts on…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:58 PM
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we could also argue about the goal of feminism Two men arguing about the goal of feminism really does sum up how absurd this sub is lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:41 AM
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Most male feminists do get laid - the capacity for empathy and critical thought is rly sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:39 AM
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I said this last time I saw a post about AI "girlfriends" - I think they will lead to an increase in the male suicide rate, because a poor facsimile of a relationship with a robot can't compare to real human connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:51 PM
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Nope, apparently you aren't worth remembering
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:04 AM
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You're asking a question, and people are answering it to say, "hey man, the comparison you've used as the basis for your question is not valid, so your post contents is moot - it isn't possible to engage effectively with a fundamentally flawed argument." But when you get that answer, you just put your fingers in your ears and say "NUH UH, the connection can't be deniiiieeeedd!!!!" Maybe workshop your post and come back when you've found a more effective framing for the question, bc this one isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:11 PM
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Wooooow, you really got me, [a woman] on [a podcast] said it? Damn, that totally proves that your entire post is the absolute peak of rhetorical validity, idk what I was THINKING, I didn't realize there was a woman from a podcast involved!!! That changes everything!! No but c'mon dude, be so serious rn, you really think that is going to convince me that you've identified some universal truth? Give me a break lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:54 PM
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the connection can't be denied Ooh, SOUR news for ya pal, unfortunately we are all here denying it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:37 PM
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A woman cannot legally be obligated to donate a kidney to her living child, even if it is the only way to save the child's life, because she has a right to bodily autonomy and to not have her organs cut out and used as life support for another person; but she can be legally obligated to carry a pregnancy, in which her entire body is used as life support for an unborn fetus (and pregnancy can be just as hardcore as donating an organ - e.g., women lose bone density in pregnancy because the fetus d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:27 PM
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This is like if somebody bought you art supplies and then tried to take credit for the paintings you made with them lmao, be so fr, dude. Men's "contribution" to creating a life lasts approximately 15 seconds, is actively pleasurable for them, and does not carry the risk of chronic symptoms once it's done; meanwhile, women's contribution to creating a life lasts 40 weeks and is filled with discomfort (at best), and it concludes in acutely painful labor (it's called that for a reason, it is WORK)…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:56 PM
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Like, I'm married but not to prolong my life (I think marriage actually shortens women's lives, but I can't be bothered to look the numbers up rn - but y'know, for the sake of argument); I'm married because I met a man I fell in love with, and he makes my days feel full and joyful and meaningful. I don't care how it might impact my lifespan based on a scattershot of studies' data, ykwim? I don't base every one of my life decisions on whether they're backed by whatever assortment of statistical f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:33 PM
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Okay, disclaimer, I have a progressive genetic disease that causes daily symptoms, and I've known for about 6 years now that my condition will only decline - I'm likely to die young, and I spend every day dealing with serious pain, pain that I've already watched transform and decline steadily over my 26 years of living. I have no idea at what age I'll be wheelchair bound, or bedbound, but I know it's coming, and I know I have a skewed view of death/old age because of it, so maybe this take will …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:15 PM
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r/purplepillDEBATE - bestie, this subreddit is very much about debate lmao, you lost?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:57 AM
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"Massive red flag" pfffff sure bud. Sorry my stance is so disturbing to you lmao, but I don't need your approval [PPD moid #52728], so I don't particularly care what color my "flags" appear to you! :) I'm already happily married to a wonderful man who does the right thing, even when no one is looking, and avoids even the appearance of wrongdoing. He has built a reputation of kindness, honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect with everyone he knows, personally and professionally; even if he were fals…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:29 AM
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I mean, i'd believe a woman who says she had been sexually assaulted but I'm just wondering if women are just as inclined to believe men You're comparing apples and oranges here: saying that you've been victimized is entirely different from saying you've been accused of victimizing another. If a man told me that he had been sexually assaulted then I would believe him and feel compassion, just as you said you would believe a woman; if he told me he had been accused of sexual assault without prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:56 AM
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Different people use/understand words differently from one another - I would define "friendship" the way you've described "camaraderie" here, and I would use the word "acquaintances" to describe those in the casual social groups that I interact with. I also think most people would separate a subcategory of "close friends" from simply "friends," to describe the people they trust most and share themselves fully with, and that includes shared values/goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:44 PM
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most elite thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:24 AM
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they have no idea what they want and what they want can change at the drop of a hat Two different women posting different opinions is not evidence that women are fickle lmao, it's evidence that we aren't a monolith
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:42 PM
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Dude, I'm a survivor of child abuse and a psychologist, and was speaking from personal experience both as a child and now as a counselor who helps survivors. Abuse victims are not carbon copies of like, a DSM6 entry, we're individual people with our own nuances to how we think, how we feel, what we do and say, etc. So, again, try to have a Little. Bit. Of. Fucking. Empathy. And what I mean by that, since you claimed to be empathic while writing off off the experiences of abuse victims (and yes, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 06:04 PM
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No, it was active, not passive bud, but I'm glad you at least picked up on it to some extent :3
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:01 PM
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A lot of abusers target women who have pre-existing trauma from things like child abuse, so yeah, many of these women don't have perfectly functioning "down-to-earth warning systems" because trauma has changed how they process situations and emotions. And lovebombing to a survivor of child abuse (especially a young survivor, newly 18 and out of their parents' abusive household) can feel like "well, everyone who was supposed to love me and show me tenderness never did, so love and tenderness must…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:00 PM
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Bestie, first of all... just wanna give you a compliment, this is a real nice pity party you're throwing here, I like the balloons and streamers! Truly one of the best I've been to!! Not too garish and dramatic where you might annoy people too much and make them think you're not a supreme martyred victim - but certainly never forgetting to make it all about you and your problems, that's the pity party ESSENTIAL, wouldn't be a pity party if Second of all, damn, that sucks that men are bullied by …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:51 PM
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(3/3) Also I wasn't going to source my claim that manosphere guys think getting hugely buff is the solution for their troubles bc I figured it was pretty self-evident that this is the case just by reading some comments here - but I was scanning a couple studies just now (it's like the three that come up immediately when I googled [do women date more muscular or skinny guys data], lol I wasn't exactly Sherlock Holmesing for the research) and in scrolling on that search, I stumbled over a 3yo post…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:21 PM
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(2/3) <image> The above photo is a side-by-side of Hugh Jackman shirtless, looking very fit and strong and red hot, versus him at the prime of his most extreme Wolverine body conditioning, which is undoubtedly impressive as hell, and it's cool seeing what the human body is capable of when pushed that hard... but it just (excuse my phrasing) really doesn't make my pussy purr like the pic on the left, where he looks more like a human being (and ngl, I fw the body hair a LOT too and think it's way …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:19 PM
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(1/3) - I reached Reddit's character limit for the first time ever lol, I just kept coming back over the past few hours to edit/add to this comment so I didn't realize how long it had gotten!! So yeah, I have to split this one up, my apologies for any format/readability issues that may occur! I'm enjoying a life of marital bliss with my autistic husband, and I am supremely attracted to him, I think he's absolutely dazzling. So I'm not sure where you got your info, but check your sources lol. And…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:13 PM
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I'm American and have definitely fit in when around Latino and Italian groups - to give you a sense of the yappery, I had typed up basically an essay of rambles in response to your first comment and literally had to delete it and remind myself (again), "babes,,,, the comment section of every post on this debate subreddit is not your personal journal to talk about your life story and ponder at length, cool your jets." Seriously gotta remember that, and save my poor mobile-typing thumbs from arthr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 08:47 AM
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I don't think women necessarily ignore signs of abuse once they appear, that's a pretty ungenerous reading of the reluctance abuse victims feel to leave their abusers. These women build relationships with men who are "perfect," so of course they're blindsided and disoriented when the mask drops. Often, a sense of hope (yes, misplaced/misguided) is the reason women don't "give up on" (ie. get away from) their abusers - they desperately want to believe that the men's original kind/caring/charming …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:03 PM
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Yeah it was appalling tbh - and it isn't a unique experience. I think a lot of women have been mistreated and casually sexualized by guys who watch porn, and that's why so many women are wary. Whereas erotica I don't think has caused nearly as many interpersonal/relationship issues like the ones I discussed wrt porn, so to respond directly to your op, I think that's why more women have issues w porn than men have issues w erotica.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:11 AM
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A majority of the men I've been with habitually consumed porn - my current husband and one ex from 5y ago are the only two who aren't compulsive heavy porn viewers, but I didn't even find out that any of the rest were until weeks/months into dating. I'd say that's my first issue with it, is the element of secrecy and deception that's practically built in to porn consumption - it's something taboo and often shameful, so men hide it from their partners who then have to "find out" as opposed to sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:49 AM
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You're wildin' if you think I'm about to spend half an hour of my precious time listening to some snidely pretentious clown pontificate on his subjective opinion as though it's gospel. If you'd like to type a response to me, though, I'd be more than happy to read and engage with that - you can even be just as snide and pretentious if you feel that's a crucial part of the message! But I'm not debating with your ability to paste YouTube links, that's embarrassing my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:52 PM
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Which are overwhelmingly populated by men - the women on OLD aren't representative of every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:30 PM
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Lmao my husband has the same takeaway as you whenever i force him to listen to snippets of the absolute clownery that happens on this webbed site. He was like "damn, didn't realize I'm in this exclusive club of fuckable men" -unfortunately fuckable men are becoming a critically endangered species. And yet my man excels 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:45 AM
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Cool, agree to disagree then, i guess? Clearly our experiences don't align. Real useful comment tho, bud, you rly Got me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:06 AM
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We've been together for two and a half years, married for two weeks, and I feel so truly privileged to have him by my side
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:11 PM
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I'm sure she'd love to hear about how much solidarity you feel with her, because uhhhhhhh checks notes.... ah yes, zero game. She'd be thrilled to have someone to talk to who understands the struggles and has been through parallel horrors ✊🏻😔 pour one out for my boi Crazy_Kray, might as well get the ground wet since poor Kray isn't gettin there anytime soon! Edit: the sheer SPEED with which he downvoted this makes me think our fella Kray here might moonlight as the flash
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:02 PM
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So, I'm disabled and can't work, but my husband's salary is very comfortable for us to have all the necessities and some treats on top (while putting away a ton for savings ofc). He makes close to 6 figures a year, and honestly our life right now is like a yogurt commercial, everything just feels so happy and good!! But I'm not an idiot, I know crime statistics, and I ofc know my own personal experiences with abuse. I've never been able to work a ""real big girl job"", so I didn't have much in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:29 PM
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Calm down drama queen, my god, like c'mon - please tell me you didn't just compare not gettin pussy to being a victim of an absolutely atrocious genocide?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:08 PM
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........... and making a debate post on Reddit lmfao. Being so addicted to social media that you feel the need to post (not comment, but make a whole entire post) so you can get some sweet sweet attention and satiate your need for validation from strangers - which apparently is such a strong need that you can't even just do your job for while you're there. Not exaaaaaactly what I would call stepping away from the brainrot, chief, but.... baby steps I guess? Congrats on having a job? Yippee, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:03 PM
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Yeaaaah, that's why functional adults tend to at least supplement their brainrot by leaving their homes and engaging with other adults. Give it a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:56 PM
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Okay cool, thanks for confirming it's all just algorithm that you swallowed hook-line-and-sinker and then regurgitated to make this post. Appreciate it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:47 PM
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Interesting theory - did you talk about it with even a singular person without a y-chromosome before posting it? Bc you're claiming to see through a supposed fiction to women's "TRUE" feelings - so how did you gather this data? Or did you just......... hang out on reddit and feel bitter and then decide that that somehow gave you the inside scoop on what women are actually thinking? So who's your source(s) on this hypothesis of yours
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:43 PM
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Okay so A) you've just made it so so clear you didn't understand my previous comments, and they really weren't that hard babes, so is it worth the effort of walking you through normal human emotions by the hand? Would a juice box help 🥺🥺🥺 And I couldn't give one teeny stinky lil rat turd whether you or any other dude on this cesspool of a sub want to "UwU SuPpOrT mE UwU" lmao. Also, it's wild how transparent your intent to have implicit financial power/control over herc don't pussy-foot around i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:38 PM
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Dude, I was told by my endometriosis surgeon that I was infertile because my fallopian tubes were so damaged and full of scar that the dye they tried to flush through the tubes to check if they were open wouldn't flow through AT ALL. He's one of the top gynecological surgeons in the country, and he was STUNNED when I told him I had (accidentally) conceived. So yeah, had it on good authority that it wasn't possible, but hey, miracle. So now I'm extra careful. Also idk what you're even trying to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:39 PM
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I don't say a damn thing about me dying, I said it wouldn't be safe/advisable for me to get pregnant and carry it to term. Remember a couple comments ago where I told you to read? Invest in some hooked on phonics, you've got this bud!!! Proud of ya champ!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:13 AM
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Alright, first thing: vaginal birth is one (1) day out of the approx 200 days that make up a pregnancy, and I didn't say my inability to carry to term was because I wouldn't be able to deliver vaginally - that was your own assumption, and you know what they say about those right? Also, don't owe you the details of my medical history because you are not the deciding for anything in my life - whether you believe I'm disabled or not will have exactly zero impact on my day, so feel free to comfort y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:52 AM
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Exactlyyy, the rights our foremothers demanded and claimed decades ago are now being rolled back, and it's hard to even process it sometimes - just,,,, the rapidity with which our society is moonwalking into the dark ages. It's jarring and scary as hell. But oh wait I forgot, western women don't have aaaaany inequalities to worry about, silly me! I live in the Bible Belt and am newly married to a man who has luckily had a vasectomy, but if that somehow fails and I get pregnant, I will need to sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:06 AM
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Porn addict spotted lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:18 PM
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Or she could just have sex with a partner whose body works with her own??? Jfc, having repro issues now means we should just remain celibate? Lmao my husband won't be pleased about the abrupt shift. And No no, please - of course don't bother trying to understand these women's circumstances, to research, to have a sense of empathy or compassion - obviously that would be FAR too much to ask. I hope you end up w sexual dysfunction and maintain your same logic - oops, limp dick? Well, guess you shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:59 PM
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Mm, no, we're talking about women and I brought up a counterpoint, which is that many women experience pelvic pain during intercourse - 10% having endometriosis isn't some lil outlier you can brush off, and that isn't even including all the other conditions that can cause painful sex (cysts/PCOS, uterine fibroids, pelvic floor dysfunction - to name a few). I'll list some studies below on the frequency rates of dyspareunia (pain with sex), there's a lot of different data out there about it (becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:45 PM
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I'm attractive with high self-esteem, and I also have endometriosis that makes sex with dicks >6" uncomfortable AT BEST, and usually very painful - and endometriosis (along with other repro disorders) are NOT UNCOMMON!! 10% of women have endometriosis. My husband is right around avg length (<6, >5) and I'm extremely satisfied with our sex life, he's the best I've ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:11 PM
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A lot of women who've had bad experiences romantically/sexually, who are used to having to beg for any sort of positive interactions w them, are WAY more likely to appreciate and love a good partner who treats them like a person. I know that's the case for me at least - I've gone through a lot of awful things (not just in relationships, my life has just been fucked) and because of those experiences, because I KNOW how horrible it can be, I cherish and treasure my husband truly, madly, deeply. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 12:37 PM
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"Fear mongering" lmao - what exactly do you expect from women? Should we just naively trust every single person with a y-chromosome, no questions asked? Because... having instincts and functional self-preservation skills "isn't faaaaaaaaaair :((((("?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:48 PM
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My point wasn't that it's a massive raw number of women, the point is that these are patterns that are visible in data and just in everyday life, and women are attuned to these patterns in order to protect ourselves. What you're missing is that everyone runs the risk of being "murdered" in the general sense you were saying, but ONLY WOMEN are at an elevated risk of IPV and maternal mortality, and men are the ones who perpetrate this abuse - just because "not all men" participate in it doesn't me…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:37 PM
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You just,, ignored every point I made to restate your elementary premise. If you want to actually engage with what I said, let me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:23 PM
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Firstly, I can guess that you've never been to a real couple's therapy session, am I right? You're basically parroting a dramatized movie script of what therapy is like, and it doesn't reflect the reality. Secondly, you seem to be laboring under the misconception that couple's therapy is only for crisis management. A LOT of people think this, but it's honestly the worst possible approach to couple's therapy. If you're already in relationship crisis mode, it's highly unlikely that a few counselin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:47 PM
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I think it's pretty reductive to minimize women's concerns into "they just watched too much tv." I'll echo what the other women in this comment section have said: my caution/wariness toward men is a direct result of my life experiences and my observations of the world around me (including consumption of academic research on criminality rates, gendered dynamics/socialization, etc). As a woman, once you become disillusioned to the idea of a Disney prince and your third eye opens wrt male violence/…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:12 PM
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??? What an asinine and manufactured distinction lol, any excuse to deny a woman's experiences huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 05:25 PM
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I mean, you said it isn't attractive to "any kind of woman", and I'm just pointing out that that's a complete lie. And Yeah, he's always charming, not just during TT games - he isn't the "life of the party" necessarily, but he's kind and funny and engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:40 PM
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I actually think it's very attractive watching my husband play DnD, he gets super into his character and it's very funny and charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:30 PM
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I am about to marry a guy (tomorrow actually lol, I'm too excited to sleep so I'm fuckin around on Reddit) who I consider very interesting, and I personally would define an "interesting" guy as: someone who can hold a conversation (and actually contribute genuine and authentic input, don't just nod along and 'mhm' your way through - active listening). My fiancé ("Dan") and I met up from tinder for a hookup, and were basically living together within a couple months lol. And the *key reason** our …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:33 AM
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And you think that page is completely algorithm-less? You're fooling yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:44 AM
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There are plenty of extremist influencers on every side of every issue who get lots of attention/engagement for their content, they all suck equally. The answer is delete TikTok
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:25 AM
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Right?? I wanna know when the last time OP chopped wood was, c'mon Paul Bunyan
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:06 AM
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Wow, shocking, I can't imagine why mistrust, anger, and hatred might occur when one group systematically victimizes and oppresses another from the dawn of time - it isn't like the current vitriol between men and women just spontaneously materialized, there's a whooooole lot of water under this bridge. >50% of women have been physically or sexually assaulted by men, often men that they trusted and loved; and even women lucky enough to escape being victimized personally still experience the ripple…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:11 PM
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Not defensive, just pointing out that your reversal of man/bear isn't as hard-hitting as you might have hoped, because women don't feel a desperate cloying need for every random man in existence to like us
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:42 PM
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Is "uwu men would rather talk to a tree than a woman" supposed to be some kind of gotcha? I've seen a couple dudes who took the "man vs bear" thing as a personal affront bring up this weird parallel point in an attempt to insult, but y'all are missing a KEY aspect of gendered differences: a lot of men were extremely hurt, angry, and offended by the man/bear thing because they want women to trust them by default; whereas the vast majority of women would STRONGLY prefer it if men would rant to tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:30 PM
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TLDR: the accusation that I'm lying just bc I disagree w you is very telling. You need a way to keep your fabricated worldview intact, since opposition could cause a wobble on its unstable foundations, built primarily from the words of other internet misogynists and "supported" by flimsy, statistically insignificant, outdated, or methodologically poor studies. I feel sorry for you bc - by shutting yourself off from any nuance - you fail to grasp the full human experience, and instead you waste y…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:38 AM
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Different women have different vaginal depths, and very few women enjoy having their cervix hit during sex. 7" or more hurts quite badly for me; my fiancé is just under 6" and even he has hit my cervix a couple times, esp in certain positions. Women are not just carbon copies of the same individual
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 07:23 AM
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I hate the men on here who act like they're being personally victimized by anyone without a Y chromosome - but there are plenty of men I absolutely adore, like my fiancé and my friends and family, bc they aren't cringefail perpetual victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:05 PM
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I am fr obsessed w u queen, finally another woman on this subreddit that shit talks the men here as much as they shit talk us - I'm tired of watching the women on here mommying redpill losers while they throw mantrums about any and everything women have ever done (or not done, since 90% of the time they're straight-up fabricating and/or grossly misrepresenting). Like no, I wanna see claws come out, I don't wanna see the female population of this sub practically breastfeeding these dudes in a des…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:00 PM
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Ah, another AFBB thread, how fascinating. By all means, please, tell me more about how women are inevitably sluts in their 20s who then strategically mastermind-manipulate some poooooooooor unsuspecting man who just wants wuuvvvvvv - I'm sure it will be completely original and groundbreaking, we TOTALLY don't see this argument on this subreddit three+ times a week, every week, like clockwork!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:35 PM
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Dudes on here want soooooooo badly for women to be the villains; the victim complexes are so overblown that the idea that anyone else might ALSO be a victim makes them feel invawidated uwu
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:13 PM
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I was responding to that specific comment, and I never claimed I've dated women as a man; the commenter simply told me to "try dating women" and I clarified that I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:09 PM
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If your claims are true (I'd need to see some data before accepting that it's 50/50 - especially some stats on your claim that the vast majority of perpetrators are female), then I WOULD agree that men have just as much to fear - if there wasn't a massive gap between women's strength and men's. Most women are not able to overpower most men, and that physical imbalance is why many women are wary of men as a class; men can physically force women through violence to do what they want, while the inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:07 PM
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You're literally arguing my own point for me lmao, how do you not realize it? I said 33% of women have been abused, that's the data I was referencing (I didn't remember in my initial comment about it that it was specifically referring to IPV, not just violence in general, but the point I was making still stands). This stat means, inherently, that the statistic for violence against women by any perpetrator (not just intimate partners) would be even higher than 1/3.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:25 PM
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Just noticed you called the 1/3 statistic bullshit, so here's a source for you: you accuse me of invalidating/dismissing men's anecdotal experiences of hurt feelings, and yet you're dismissing actual hard statistics. I have to laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:52 PM
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I hate men who call themselves "LVM's" and I'm proud of it - it's cringe to label yourself according to some losers' made up scale of human "value," and I hate cringefails.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:05 PM
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I've dated more women in my life than men, but nice try.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:13 PM
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It isn't an "emotional outburst" to express that someone's level of indoctrination is preventing them from reading in good faith, especially considering that he accused me of lying based on........ nothing. Men who oversimplify the world like you and he have done, as though women can only ever represent one (1) specific set of experiences and circumstances (but ofc men are still all varied individuals, unlike feeeeemoids), can't even begin to debate properly because you're arguing from a fantasy…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:13 PM
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No, I myself am autistic, real recognize real - having such trouble grasping a topic that isn't a binary black/white yes/no issue is much harder for autists in general, so I assume the vast majority of hardcore RP dudes who make claims like AWALT must have a touch of the 'tism, since they can't even fathom women being a diverse group of individual human beings rather than an archetype. You're the y-chromie version of "kill all men, all men are evil" radicalized feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:13 AM
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Like I said, you're too indoctrinated to even have a conversation with, bc a nuanced take has too much grey area for your black-and-white autistic ass to cope. Extremism will always leave you missing parts of reality bc they don't mesh with the ideas that you've swallowed hook-line-and-sinker. You've internalized a strawman of women as "real" while refusing to listen to actual living breathing women, bc you're operating under the presupposition that we have nothing of value to offer. Honestly I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:05 AM
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I agree that most men aren't, never denied that - still justifies the cautious/defensive mindset that a lot of women adopt wrt dating. As for "most women"... x to doubt. Even setting aside the egregious difference in harm between assault and emasculating/demeaning, you can't provide any statistics supporting your point bc "emasculate and demean" is not something measurable. Facts (men rape women at an alarmingly high rate) vs feelings (women hurt men's feefees too much)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:50 AM
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About which part, precisely?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:45 AM
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And vice-versa, that's a two-way street. Close to 20% (1/6) of women have been sexually victimized (SOURCE), which means even if a woman hasn't been assaulted herself, she more than likely personally knows multiple survivors; and thats not even mentioning non-sexual violence - I believe that number is closer to 1/3. Like, women have more than enough reasons to have a guard up when it comes to men - so while I get where you're coming from, it isn't in any way unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:43 AM
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Uhh nah, I know you are so deeply stuck in your RP fantasy that you can't fathom the idea that NAWALT, but I'm speaking specifically of women I know personally, with whom I've discussed dating, sex, etc (in detail, I'm an open book and so are my friends). These are mostly women in their early-mid 20s who've had a handful of LTRs and MAYBE a hookup or two (def doesn't apply to all of them, I was probably the most promiscuous of all of us, prior to meeting my now-fiancé), and most of their male pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:37 AM
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A lot of women, at least in my social circles, are doing the same. Most of them have had bad or even traumatizing experiences with men, sexually and/or romantically, that color their perception and leave them wary; however, I also have a couple friends who've stopped dating not because of their own past unluckiness (ie they haven't had their own negative dating experiences, but also haven't found success w a LTR) but because of the hardship and heartache they've watched female friends/family go …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:17 AM
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Men put women in the girlfriend-zone and don't treat them like friends, but instead like prospective lovers - despite a complete lack of reciprocation. It isn't women's fault that men can't accept rejection and act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:12 PM
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Men on here do exactly what you've just described on here 24/7/365 to female users - literally Yesterday I said "women aren't a monolith wrt who we're attracted to," and like half a dozen RP dudes came crawling out of the woodwork like "no, women's attraction is objective, all women are attracted to the same men for the same reasons." I also shared that I have had dating struggles that echo those that RP dudes talk about frequently on here, bc men were claiming that ANY woman can access sexual/r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:39 AM
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Classic y-chromie response. "THAT CHALLENGES MY WORLDVIEW SO YOU MUST BE LYINGGGGGG". Embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 10:01 PM
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And that's a damn good thing for the human race - the mother passes down more genes to offspring than the father, because of mitochondrial DNA and the relative sizes of X and Y chromosomes. A more robust gene pool is less susceptible to mutation and genetic disease, and more mothers enhances that robustness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 10:00 PM
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Bro I know you didn't just compare being an incel to being profoundly disabled omfg. Be fr
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:52 PM
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How do you simultaneously hold those "romantic" beliefs and the belief that women are spoiled/entitled/manipulative/whatever tf else y'all espouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:49 PM
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And, explain to me, how does your comment not also apply to men who are struggling with dating? Lower your standards, opens up a whole world of options
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:47 PM
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Ahhh, "common knowledge" - an old favorite phrase for people who are making shit up lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:30 PM
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Nope, that is not knowledge over women's lives, that's data about human nature (for lack of a better umbrella term) but that research doesn't tell you a damn thing about women's experiences - you have to actually actively listen to women like equal human beings if you want to understand women's perspectives and contexts. Also, acting as though a couple random studies on OLD are "supreme knowledge" betrays how little you understand about data manipulation, study design, and research methods. A st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:29 PM
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Well, you said any woman, but sure I guess you can shift the goalposts to an equally unrealistic fake statistic lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:04 PM
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God, redpillers really cannot resist completely fabricated statistics, can y'all? Guys on here demand that women empathize with their stwuggles, but then the moment a woman is like "oh yeah I have trouble with that too," the hypocrisy jumps out, any mention of empathy is forgotten, and y'all display ZERO compassion for the woman's experiences. The "GRAAA WOMEN HAVE LIFE ON EASY MODE FHDJFJGNGM" rhetoric comes out and y'all pretend to have supreme knowledge over women's lives/circumstances rather…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:03 PM
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You are so out of touch with reality, it's honestly laughable. Tell me you don't have a variety of female friends without telling me. In my late teens/early 20s, before I ugly-ducklinged into a swan, I got no matches on OLD, my irl flirtations fell short, and I had zero romantic success for about 5 years. So, I can say from personal experience that there absolutely are women who struggle with finding romantic and/or sexual partners. You're talking out of your ass by claiming otherwise. Also, for…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:51 PM
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And they're still people, aren't they? People who will not experience relationships - they're just as relevant as abled people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:39 PM
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All of the data Wow!! Sounds like there's a ton of it, should be easy for you to find some relevant sources, then!!! Can you supply even one singular study? Or...... ohhh, are you just talking out of your ass? Gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:37 PM
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And there are fat smelly ugly men who turn their nose up at any woman who can't compete with Margot Robbie. RP'ers on this sub can't go five comments without whining about how repulsive they find overweight women - and I'd be willing to bet that they uphold their ridiculously unrealistic standards and refuse possible connections with women they find less than desirable. You realize all the "arguments" you're making can just be flipped and still be accurate, right? Or are you so myopically male-f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:35 PM
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Exactly - so, if the "fattest smelliest ugliest" women are dating similarly fat smelly ugly men, that implies that, to quote u/Electric_Death_ , "even the fattest smelliest ugliest [men] have options." Just bc those women aren't the options LVM's would prefer, doesn't mean that they don't still have those options.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:31 PM
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Lmao op already agreed with my original comment and that the post should've just said people rather than men, so that doesn't rly support your claim. In fact, there's nothing that supports your claim - unless you can supply some stats, burden of proof lies on you to back up your... opinion... so unless you have anything even remotely approaching evidence of your claim, maybe don't make it so emphatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:27 PM
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According to............ what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:19 PM
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And let me guess, you think that those options are still somehow in the top 20% of men? You think these "fat smelly ugly" women are dating "Chads"? And if that isn't your perspective, how do you explain fat smelly ugly men still having no options? Who are these fat smelly ugly women supposedly partnering with?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:18 PM
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Oh, so every single woman to ever exist ends up partnered? It's just the pooooooor y chromie havers who suffer? Your massive male victim complex is wiiiiild, you won't even acknowledge that there are women who experience the same - even though you COULD find solidarity with them, instead you just project your impotent animosity on every single woman on earth. How's that workin out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:57 PM
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You could switch "man" and "woman" in this post and it would remain equally true. Some people, both male and female, don't have romance in the cards for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:25 PM
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Not what I said - I said they don't appeal to me. I wouldn't be interested in going out w any of those men, but I would readily go out with a more "average" guy if he's my type - hell, I married an "average" guy and find him 10x hotter than the men in that image.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:21 PM
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I am attracted to people who look like people - as a person moves more toward the extremes of appearance (like the extremely angular, extremely muscular, extremely masculine, etc) they look less like a human being and more like an abstract interpretation. ""Perfect"", so called, just isn't it for me; I don't want a Ken doll, I want a fellow flesh-and-blood human being. I don't really have celebrity crushes bc 99% of them look like weird wax sculptures (god I hate plastic surgery); but if I had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:14 PM
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"I find" them average, work on your reading comprehension dude, I specifically was discussing my opinion - I'm saying they are not at all to my specific taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:56 PM
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"It isn't subjective to women at all" my dude you are literally mansplaining how women think to a woman. Like,,, I have female friends who have different taste from mine, who would rate various men differently than I would - is that alone not evidence that it is indeed subjective?? Also, using models as your yardstick for attractiveness is a weird choice - models need to look good in the clothes, and need to be striking/interesting looking - I wouldn't call all or even most models conventionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:11 PM
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7 according to who?? Physical attractiveness is so so SO subjective, I don't get y'all acting like there's a damn rubric. Did you miss me saying that my husband is not some sort of Adonis?? He's a pretty normal looking dude, so a "house among mansions" I guess? To use your weird ass metaphor. You can live your life believing that everyone ranks people 1-10 and makes decisions upon that rating, but that...... is not normal, bestie.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:56 PM
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Read my most recent comment. I'm not into model-type pretty boys or Channing-Tatum-type roid heads, and that's most of what I see in that photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:42 PM
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I'm married to an """average""" guy, who actually shares many of the traits that RP dudes on here cite as the key factors that supposedly limit their dating life (but if that were the case, how are men like my husband happily married?). He isn't muscular and he has a bit of chub, his face isn't ridiculously chiseled and cheekboned to hell like those guys in the pic, he's autistic and softspoken, he makes a good salary but it's under 6 figures, he likes video games and board games and nerdy YouTu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:41 PM
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I find 90+% of those men average at best....... not what I'm into at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:20 PM
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What women find attractive Women aren't a monolith. I and all of my female friends have drastically different tastes in men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:02 PM
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Uh, YEAH, even the hottest most valuable man on earth becomes repulsive to me if I find out he is a blatant and malevolent misogynist. Like.... that's a no brainer for me, chauvinist bullshit makes me dry like the fuckin Sahara, so if a guy is some male-supremacist freak, it really doesn't matter what positive qualities he might have in addition to his prejudice, bc that prejudice disqualifies him from being attractive to me. I've actually had this experience before - I was getting to know a fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:35 AM
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You clearly are not satisfied within yourself if other people's (strangers, no less) opinions matter this much to you. If you're self-assured, you don't need validation from the world - speaking from experience as someone who only became self-assured by working on myself intensively, both in and out of therapy, for multiple years.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 10:49 AM
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It really is so telling that RP'ers equate the possibility of being raped/murdered to the possibility of being romantically rejected. Like.... zero self awareness
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 10:43 AM
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Legalized prostitution RAISES trafficking rates, bc there will never be enough willingly prostituted women to fulfill the demand - so women are sold into the sex trade to satisfy the overwhelming market for paid sex. So no, legal does not equal consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 10:18 AM
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How did the Russo-Ukrainian war begin? What were the events that led up to the conflict? Who were those in authority that made the decisions leading to those events? And, most importantly, did those leaders have y-chromosomes? Answer truthfully, now Men being drafted into a war that men initiated is - and this may come as a shock - not women's fault. Men are experts at making their own problems (starting wars/the draft, committing male-on-male violence, gender ratio imbalances [like in China, vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:22 PM
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Ahh sorry, didn't realize you were one of the REALLY autistic RP'ers, I'll break that comment down for you: I was using a common linguistic device known as hyperbole in order to emphasize my point that men are the catalyst behind the vast, VAST majority of military conflicts, I'm sorry for using the word "literally," I assumed you'd pick up on the point I was communicating but I'll be sure to be entirely clear in the future to avoid more confusion on your part ♥️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:00 PM
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Mkay, come back to present day hon, and let's discuss modern wars - yknow, the ones where the draft is actually relevant, since my above point was specifically in response to your statements regarding the draft. I know RP'ers love moving goalposts, but try to stay on task here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:48 PM
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So men can be "high value" beyond their youth, but women's "value" inevitably degrades with age? Do you believe that women have no value other than sexual/aesthetic?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:57 PM
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You said something happened in high school, "years ago." I'm... able to do basic arithmetic lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:26 AM
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Dude........ act your age lmao this is embarrassing. Grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:23 AM
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Years later Exactly. Years later. She isn't in high school anymore, why are you still stuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:20 AM
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Which sex starts literally 100% of major wars?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:03 AM
1

"Good things for [...] world peace." Ah yes, like absolutely destroying the US's already-abysmal international reputation, and blatantly insulting and demeaning other heads of state. Sooooo good for "world peace."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:44 AM
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Asking you to expand on your argument is ad hominem? Oh buddy, you need to take another rhetoric class if these are your debate chops......
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:30 AM
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It's a major one for sure - the health of a relationship is very often reflected in the health of its sex life. Loss of physical passion and desire is one of the biggest warning signs that a relationship is falling apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:14 PM
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If used correctly. The pill has to be taken on the dot at the same time every single day in order to be effective, and even then it isn't completely watertight.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:04 AM
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The latter point is honestly the more realistic reason to worry - too many women think just bc they have an IUD or are on the pill, they're 100% safe to have raw sex. A barrier form of BC in addition to hormonal BC is so important, whether that barrier is a condom or a diaphragm w spermicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:03 AM
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I'm a woman and have always haaaated condoms (too much friction, I feel like I can never get wet enough which is ahem not a problem for me), but I have never pressured anyone to fuck without one, even though I was also diagnosed infertile at 20yo. I think it's despicable for ANYONE to try and "convince" a partner into any sex act they're not down for, and that of course includes raw sex. I'm engaged now and my fiancé and I stopped using condoms once we were exclusive, but we did end up conceivin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:00 AM
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Ah, and she's of course representative of women in general, bc we're a monolith, w no individual variation and uniqueness whatsoever - sure, makes sense. I can rattle off a million anecdotal stories of men in my life being completely out of pocket in a wide variety of ways, and I still somehow manage to not extrapolate their bullshit to every other man on the planet. Human beings aren't created from a mold as carbon copies w the same thoughts and feelings, we're all insane freaks in our own spec…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:03 AM
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You're the one who responded to my "gossip" - if it's so inane and meaningless, why'd you engage?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:58 PM
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I was also discussing with OP, he just hasn't responded to my latest reply - not sure if you knew, but on this site you can actually have multiple comment threads ongoing at the same time, isn't that crazy? You replied to me, don't act like I'm ridiculous for responding back. Also, OP didn't cite a single statistic, significant or otherwise, it was all anecdotal and opinion-based - so my anecdotal counterpoint is perfectly warranted and appropriate. You have a problem w that? Do only women need …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:46 PM
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Dude, every single one of OP's claims are baseless and unfalsifiable, and you've taken no issue w them - but me saying that I love my life partner is a controversial and bad-faith argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:33 PM
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?? Dude connect with reality for a moment, I am a stranger on the internet, how precisely do you expect me to """prove""" that I "really love" him? Can you "prove" to me that you truly care about the people/things you enjoy? If you have any suggestions for how I can ""prove"" it, I'm all ears
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:19 PM
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?? Okay, gotcha, so no counterarguments are viable in your eyes, and you'll just say "nuh-UHHH!!!" And claim that anyone who disagrees w your insane premise is actually lying/disingenuous/etc. I guess """debate""" is really easy when you just put your fingers in your ears and sing in response to counterarguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:35 AM
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Respond to the beginning of my comment - don't I/women like me disprove your premise that women don't love men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:00 AM
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Gotcha, you don't have one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:40 AM
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Do you have a source for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:48 AM
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His source is: "I've seen a lot of dead bedroom posts here on Reddit dot com and have extrapolated that onto the entire human race!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:37 AM
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The titanic was one shipwreck >100 years ago, and it doesn't even reflect typical shipwreck survival stats - men overwhelmingly survive more than women in shipwrecks. You really must have zero argument if you're bringing up the Titanic as a point lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:22 AM
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You're wrong. Source: I'm a woman and I am head over heels smitten with my fiancé, like fully obsessed with him. Also absolutely insane to act like your """points""" apply to women as a population. Like,, have you actually spoken to real women? Or have you only read redpill fanfiction about what women are like??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:49 PM
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I'm the jobless woman in the scenario (I'm also very seriously physically disabled, for context), and my fiancé is perfectly happy financially supporting me bc he loves me and wants the best for me, and the feeling is mutual. I help however I can at home to take tasks off his plate, and support him entirely in all his endeavors.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:44 AM
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If you're here to debate, why did you delete your last post? I alone had multiple good-faith comments that you didn't reply to, so clearly you weren't THAT invested in debate lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:47 PM
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Aw, was your last anti-feminism post not going well so you decided to delete it and make a brand new equally absurd post?? Poor baby
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:45 PM
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Activism rooted in aesthetic, excellent way to put it. It's a fun new label, an identity, rather than a useful descriptor of how you live your life and what you stand by. I don't claim to be anything that I'm not actually invested in, feminism is very important to me (as u can probably tell from the paragraphs lmao), but yeah in common understanding it basically just means what you said - women who don't hate other women. Which is so dismal to me that that's what feminism has crumbled to, that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:19 PM
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I feel like the liberal "everyone's a feminist!!!!" waters down the movement, and it drives me nuts tbh lmaooo. I think to call yourself a feminist you need to do more than say "my eyeliner is sharp enough to kill the patriarchy!" Side note, LMAO to that rhetoric, most major makeup companies have male CEOs, so they're lining powerful, wealthy men's pockets to.... destroy the patriarchy? Ah, yes, makes sense. Sure. Being a feminist isn't about talking about how valid and special and empowered you…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:30 PM
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"Plenty of Women" - I'm talking about feminists, female does not equal feminist - everyday feminism is about education and advocacy, do these women talk about feminist topics? Do anything remotely feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:20 AM
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Okay I get you, sorry I misunderstood the premise of you not counting potentially dangerous situations. In that case, I agree w you that it's ridiculous to have weird strict social rules around things as petty and abstract/archaic as chivalry. I just don't think people work like that, like for example I'm a masc bi woman who has mostly dated women (now engaged to a man tho), and the idea of chivalry has always felt like,, a playful joke more than anything (or just human kindness/care like holdin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 08:43 PM
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But men NEVER do that, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:33 PM
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Is it really shocking to you that most women aren't interested in hearing from Andrew Tate of all fuckin people?? His entire philosophy revolves around the basic premise that women are inferior and should be considered property, can't imagine why women don't want to hear what he has to say /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:31 PM
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I didn't say a thing about hate or misogyny, try again
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:41 PM
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You're making leaps in logic that do not follow. Women having low satisfaction rates in marriage does not mean women aren't into monogamy. Women live longer when single, and men live longer when married, which indicates that men gain more from marriage than women do. Your conclusion that divorce rates reflect a female distaste for monogamy is drawn from pretty much nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:54 PM
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Lmao "I'm not saying women are bad for these things." Bud, your whole post is a whine about how women are bad for xyz reasons, and how annoyed you are that everyone else doesn't agree with your personal sweeping assessment of women as a population.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:41 PM
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Alright, if your main concern is divorce proceedings, how bout you riddle me this one: Why is it that men are more likely to initiate divorce after their wives become ill/disabled?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:37 PM
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I don't think the majority of men are anywhere near as desperate as you seem to assume
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:59 PM
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So many women have had horrible experiences with male abusers (could be abusers ranging from a rapist who attacked them randomly all the way to a husband who systematically manipulated them for a matter of years or decades), and know from experience that they'd rather be safe than sorry with men who display red flags - so when other women post concerns about men in their lives, the women who've already been through hell at the hands of men are quick to encourage them to escape the situation. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:02 AM
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I've never seen an actual feminist who is pro-circ. One of the core tenets of feminism is bodily autonomy, it's key to many feminist stances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 10:32 AM
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Aw, did that hit a lil too close to home?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:00 PM
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Cry more lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:35 AM
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They lose their bangmaid/mommy/therapist, and are left having to figure out how to be a real grown adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:37 PM
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Dude how common do you think false allegations are?? They're vanishingly rare
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 02:39 AM
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Sorry for not knowing the exact terms for various shoe styles, I figured my point still got across but I guess there's always gotta be some pedantic dude to "erm actually" me. I literally said swap chinos for slacks to dress up the look, so I wasn't saying slacks for casual - work on your reading comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:49 AM
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I can only speak for myself and I'm a bit atypical in relationships (I pursue quite actively and don't wait for people to make the first move), but some signs: Lots of eye contact, active engagement in conversations, if she seeks out convos/time with you (eg texts first), energy matching, casual touches, and how well-dressed/well-groomed she is (is she wearing perfume, is her hair freshly washed/styled, are her clothes tight or at all revealing).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:16 AM
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Something along these lines would be a bad casual option? How so? Chinos are usually twill fabric and fit more like jeans, slacks have a more smooth tailored fit and are made of wool or more finely-milled cotton fabrics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:12 AM
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Aesthetically - Dress nice, even in casual situations - some chinos with a leather belt, a button up (short sleeve or rolled long sleeve), and some leather boots or oxfords can be a fabulous casual look, and can easily be dressed up or down with a jacket/blazer, different shirt, slacks instead of chinos, black boots/belt instead of brown, etc. Get and maintain a haircut that works with your hair type and face shape, get refresh trims every 6-8 weeks, and take good care of your hair - use a nice …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 09:43 PM
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Quit moving the goalposts (that's another fallacy btw!!) - you said "no one says fat women are undateable," and your statement is proven patently false literally two inches up the screen lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:37 PM
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So close!! But that was not the original question actually, feel free to read back if you're still confused!! But sure, we can also discuss this brand new question I guess lmaoo: Same answer, I can't see my level of attraction changing much, if at all - again, I'm at peace w the prospect of he and I growing old together, and yeah that involves becoming less conventionally attractive, that's just life. We're mammals, we age, we change, and I feel like 70% of the people on this sub (lbr, on earth)…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:33 PM
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I mean, I literally said the exact opposite of that, but y'know enjoy your fabrication I suppose!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 12:48 PM
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Dude, literally like 3 comments before yours in this subthread is a man saying that men don't like fat women, as a blanket statement. Here, quoted for your convenience: Men have standards IRL. I’ve never seen an even average guy go for a fat chick, even as a hookup, unless he was super drunk So unfortunately it sounds like you're the one throwing around fallacies bestie; you're using false attribution and begging the question in order to "attack a straw man" that isn't a straw man at all (kinda …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:47 AM
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I'd want him to work on it w me, just as I'm working on my weight rn, for health reasons - but I don't think my level of attraction to him would shift much, if at all. We share a life together and plan to continue doing so for the years to come, and we're both v dedicated and loyal to one another, and treasure each other deeply; so the attraction is a lot deeper than just surface level - of course physical attraction matters, but it's far from the most important thing imo. We're both going to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:31 AM
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I'm a fat woman to put it bluntly - I carry it well so I have a nice shape, but I'm not thin lol - and my (male) fiancé is thin, lean-muscled, and very healthy. And he thinks I'm hot enough (as I am currently) that when I've talked about wanting to lose weight, he'll make puppy dog eyes at me bc he doesn't want to lose the squish lmaoo. I've already dropped ~15% of my body weight from diet/healthy habits, but luckily my overall hourglass-with-a-tummy is intact for him despite the shrink haha. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:29 AM
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Liking big dicks doesn't mean your puss is loose, pls read even a single sex-ed book. It's about the stretch - the vagina is extremely elastic (obviously, or else birth wouldn't work), regardless of its resting size. I have "hypertonic pelvic floor," which means all my pelvic floor muscles are extremely chronically flexed/activated (I jokingly call it "clinically diagnosed gorilla grip) - so I can definitely still feel and enjoy avg/below avg penises bc my vaginal resting size is small; but I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:20 PM
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Midwife.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 12:09 PM
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Source: "I just rly think it's true"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:11 PM
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"Worthy" doesn't mean "wanted," dude. What's entitled/delusional about turning down people you aren't interested in??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:10 PM
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The "better catch" is completely subjective. Clearly you think quite highly of yourself, that doesn't mean you're objectively fabulous. Women are human beings just like you, and have our own preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:09 PM
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If it's because they're "more desperate," why wouldn't they try to "lock a woman down" so to speak, by making the relationship official/committed?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:43 PM
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Men often reap other benefits from a serious relationship besides connection/affection - if a woman is cleaning up after them, cooking for them, comforting them, having sex w them, then of course they'll hesitate to end the relationship. Women on the other hand, if the relationship is bad, the reason almost always includes an imbalance in household responsibilities, where the woman takes on far more "second shift" type tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:42 PM
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Are you somehow deluded enough to think that 90% of red pill dudes aren't doing exactly what you describe in point 2? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:30 PM
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Touch grass lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:13 AM
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It's not as literal as that, I'm not saying it is a conscious categorization/thought process at all
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:14 PM
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It still comes from the same framework: you have to maintain the "madonnas" in your life by not engaging in "improper" acts w them - those acts are reserved for the "whores" aka the disposable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:08 PM
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Look up the Madonna whore dichotomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:59 PM
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Get off the internet and interact with a real human community - Reddit posts aren't even CLOSE to representative of the population, and you just reveal yourself as chronically online if your evidence that something is prevalent is "I've seen it a lot on my 'puter."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 11:43 AM
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I do have very high standards yeah, especially for men (I'm bisexual and prior to meeting my male now-fiancé, I was convinced my life partner would be female). And I'm not ashamed of having high standards for the person I plan to spend my life with - I found a man who meets and exceeds them every day, so clearly the standards aren't impossibly high lol. Most of the friends I'm thinking of are either serial monogamists or have an on-again-off-again dynamic w one/multiple people. I have one friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:03 AM
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A 3yo Reddit post with 14 comments (one of which says "the things I love, I love" and disagrees w the idea of mild passions), irrefutable evidence that it's a thing lol. The wording "mildly passionate" is clear enough that people understood it was about casual interests, and didn't need to take issue w the phrasing bc it was understandable. But imo, casual interests and passions are entirely different categories
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:26 AM
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No, I don't think it's possibly to be mildly passionate. That would be "interest" or "enjoyment" - Not passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:43 AM
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I don't know if I'd agree with that statement, no - I don't think passion is a scalable phenomenon; I would say it's possible for one passionate person to be more actively dedicated to their passion (ie people who get degrees/make careers out of their passions) than another passionate person (a hobbyist, for example). I don't think that makes the former more passionate, just more involved in activities relating to the passion. Mediocre passion is a complete oxymoron in my mind. Passion isn't pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:39 AM
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My best casual experience was with another woman, and what made it so good was how sexually responsive she was and how thoroughly I could please her (I'm a giver in f/f sexual contexts) - it was intense sex but idk if I'd call it passionate necessarily, because I feel like passion (for me at least) requires some level of emotional involvement. She and I were super close friends, but there was no romantic spark. Mediocre casual: we hooked up maybe five times total, with months in between each - t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:28 PM
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Then... that isn't passion. Passion is not mediocre
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:45 PM
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Someone can be a great friend and still not be partner material - I've had (and have) friends who I think are wonderful people, but knew I wouldn't be happy in a relationship with them. I've also had friends who I'm attracted to but enjoyed our friendship too much to complicate/potentially jeopardize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:23 PM
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No way, not a chance. I'd happily be single before being in a passionless relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:19 PM
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I'm engaged to a man who I originally only intended to hook up with - fucked on our first time hanging out, and I liked him too much to stop hanging out w him. I had a lot of attachment issues and wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone at the time, but he and I click so thoroughly that I couldn't let him go, despite how scary intimacy and closeness were to me at the time. We built our relationship together and I couldn't be happier with it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:14 PM
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No one's forcing you to read them, I'll continue to write how I choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:55 AM
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Not even slightly. I barely knew what attraction even felt like before meeting my fiancé.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:38 PM
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So,, by being friends w these people and playing video games and having zero romantic context to our interactions, I'm "encouraging"..... what exactly??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:19 PM
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Wooooow you really got me buddy, idk how I'll ever recover - how did you even come up with that absolute triumph of an insult?? Have a good one lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:18 PM
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Beggars can't be choosers - that's something all you incel/rp types need to get through your heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:10 PM
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I mean, okay I guess? I was just rambling - not angry, but yes verbose lol, sorry. I am getting annoyed now tho, so why not go low-effort since thats all you're bothering with: lucky my fiancé is a looooot more secure in himself than you, bud. He doesn't feel the need to keep me on a fuckin leash in order to know for sure that I am loyal to him, it's such insecure, adolescent behavior to treat your partner like that. I'll just keep living my absolute best life and chillin with my beloved life pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:56 PM
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Read my reply to the other dude, I just spent like half an hour writing it bc.., I do not know how to be succinct. You are waaaay off-base with your interpretation of the situation dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:19 PM
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I did say in my first sentence that I am a chronic yapper, it isn't "mental gymnastics", life is just nuanced and I like thinking through things. You don't get a TLDR, I can't synthesize it down, you're literate and it's only a few paragraphs. Run it through AI if you're desperate for a summary lol. I'm sorry you have so little love and community in your life that you can't even imagine an honest relationship, or the setting of polite but firm boundaries with friends and moving forward, or effec…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:18 PM
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I am this kind of woman, tbqh - I'm super extroverted and a chronic yapper, so I talk/text w lots of people (opposite and same sex). Two of these people are male online friends in a discord server I frequent (which is 90% female) - and I am aware that they both are intrigued/attracted (one told me himself just to clear the air, and we're totally chill now, like he never brought it up again after that bc he knows I'm engaged); the other guy told another server member who then relayed it to me. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:44 PM
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Yep, like sure, you can state a preference - but can you do it without randomly flinging hostility toward any and all who don't align with that preference?? Like is that such a challenging task?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 06:33 PM
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God, I'm in for a roller coaster - I'm 25 and my fiancé already barely keeps up w my ridiculous libido lmaooo, gonna give the poor guy a heart attack
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:11 PM
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"Negging" okay so you have no idea what that word means lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:08 PM
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Some men act almost homoerotic in how motivated by and desperate they are for the approval of their male peers' - they don't peacock for women, they posture for other men to see how Tough and Virile they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:05 PM
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Research has also shown that women hit a spike in libido in 30s-early 40s; not sure why these supposedly desperate guys wouldn't be interested in exploring that - oh wait, I remember, it's bc they've got terminal brainrot and sincerely believe that women who dare to age past 29 are suddenly worthless/"low-value."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:59 PM
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Nah, these dudes are legit too autistic to understand that the world isn't black and white - it isn't "tall=chad, short=incel," but anything more complex/nuanced than that preschool this-or-that perspective, they short-circuit. If their precious "rules" of how the world is "supposed" to work aren't the gospel truth, how are they supposed to function in a society that doesn't operate on strict binaries??? Shock horror!! Grey area has them shakin in their boots fr.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:56 PM
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That's too tall, stringbeancel, you're past sexy-tall and into circus-freak tall. Good luck w that "plan" tho
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:52 PM
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These dudes don't want a real intimate relationship, they want a trophy to use as a status symbol and fleshlight; they don't see women as full human beings with rich inner lives, we're just objects. They see the pursuit of relationships as conquests, and if they manage to ever get a partner, their "success" makes them feel like big bad "alphas" in their little pea brains. They have no power or influence over anything in their lives, so successfully dating/fucking a woman gives them a sense of do…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:51 PM
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Kek
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:42 PM
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It's always fascinating to me that RP dudes can't manage to disguise their sexism for even 6 sentences. Real charming way you talk about women, specifically women who you personally don't find desirable. If you degrade and generalize women that you don't want to fuck as "breadcrumbs" with "lots of old baggage," that shows pretty clearly that you only respect a woman's value and personhood when she provides you with something (sex, attention, a pretty view to look at, whatever). Seems like women …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:06 PM
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Below average in his photos - I think he's the hottest man alive, that doesn't change that the pictures were garbage; that's the point - getting rated below average based on dating app photos doesn't necessarily reflect whether you're actually below average. Work on your reading comprehension, I clearly said in my original comment that I think he's gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:55 PM
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I'm sorry your ego is so sensitive lol, guess my fiancé is just more sure of himself ¯\(ツ)/¯ he's extremely desired for his body - by me, his life partner, which is the only opinion that really matters to him since he isn't trying to sleep with other women, I keep him plenty satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:07 PM
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I have told him this lmaoo I told him his tinder pics were awful and did NOT do him justice. Soo, cool theory, but my fiancé and I actually already communicate in an open and healthy manner - no secrets :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:26 PM
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"My anecdotal experiences are more important than studies and statistics" is also not a great argument lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:22 PM
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I'm literally 25, don't be a clown Edit: also I met my now-fiancé online - that doesn't change the fact that the majority of people are not even on dating apps. You're living in a fantasy world bc it's convenient for your 'poor me' narrative
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:37 AM
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This may be a tough concept for you, but a lot of people actually meet their partner face-to-face rather than on a dating app! So matches don't mean shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:21 AM
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Dating app data is like the least reliable methodology to draw sweeping conclusions like "women find a large majority of men unattractive." Edit: already got a downvote on this one, so let me elaborate - only 37% of people in the US have even used one at ANY point in their life, and ~7% are currently using one. So no, you can't draw conclusions about every woman from less than half of the population - it's not like that assertion came from an irrefutable experimental study with a representative …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:15 AM
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I think he's beyond sexy - but from a societal standpoint he'd prob be considered average or a bit below. I truly stare at him constantly with heart eyes and I spontaneously compliment him probably 50+ times a day bc he does something mundane that strikes me as hot lol. Oh, and for the record wrt dating apps, I would have rated him below-average (if asked) from his photos. Personality really does make a huge difference!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:14 AM
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Agreed. I feel like I'm going insane, watching this dumpster fire burn, and being laughed at or insulted if I dare to suggest calling the fire department. It honestly worries me immensely for the coming decades. If it's this bad after <50y of porn being readily available, how bad will it get in another 50... something's gotta give.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:30 PM
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It's all reactive defensive comments from porn addicts, proving themselves to be the very misogynists they try to claim don't exist ¯\(ツ)/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:13 PM
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Being single and undesirable doesn't make you exempt from the negative effects porn can have on brain activity/connectivity, mental health, and your ability to interact respectfully with the women you encounter in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:12 PM
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Elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:22 PM
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"Quoting a bunch of nonsense" it's a research review - that's what it's for: to quote other sources and synthesize them together. I'm sorry you struggle with that concept
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:22 PM
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Eh, depends on the specific book, and the romance novel industry isn't wrapped up in the horrors of the porn industry - no one is being trafficked or raped to produce erotica.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:20 PM
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You compared porn to other unethically mass-produced products, but what you're missing is that no one needs to watch porn. People do need clothing, furniture, etc in order to live. So yes, I agree with criticizing all these unethical industries - but porn is the easiest by far to dismantled because it isn't an issue of necessity, no one is going to die without access to porn. The same can't be said for other goods
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:19 PM
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Drawn or written erotica is completely different from filmed porn - it can still have the same addictive effects bc you're still pairing media with an orgasm (rush of endorphins) which reinforces viewing that media in the same way that the dopamine rush of cocaine reinforces snorting more snow. However, I don't think erotica has anywhere near the same impacts on the social issues I brought up (specifically the misogyny that porn normalizes and perpetuates, which then gets generalized to all wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:16 PM
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Many porn performers were trafficked into it, and plenty of videos on porn sites are revenge porn, voyeur content (ie hidden cameras), etc. So you don't know know for sure that the women you see have agreed to be seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:58 PM
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If your assertions are true, how do you explain the statistics I've cited? Statistics aren't soft science, so you can't just hand-wave them aside, and I'm sure you saw them since you said you read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:55 PM
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If you didn't read it, you can't agree or disagree lol. Read the post if you want to have a conversation, otherwise your comment is worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:50 PM
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Something is deeply wrong with you if the only thing holding you back from raping someone is porn. Also, if it was too long for you to read, you're welcome to back out and not comment - but the comments here are for real debate from people who actually read the post. Since that was too tall of an ask for you, your commentary is useless - not to mention vile and misogynistic :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:49 PM
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Ah, you've so perfectly encapsulated the problem: you equate masturbation with porn, they are synonymous in your mind. I've got nothing against masturbation, I polish the pearl regularly, but I do so without porn - it's really not that difficult, people have done it for millennia.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:46 PM
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No one is entitled to seeing anyone naked - it isn't "gatekeeping" to refuse demands to see a naked female body, it's an issue of consent and boundaries. So no, it isn't an "obscene level of power" to maintain physical security and privacy despite others' wishing you had no privacy to begin with. The way you're talking about men is really kinda embarrassing, like do you truly see yourself and your fellow men as complete slaves to the desire to see women naked? To the point that you'll enter into…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:43 PM
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Okay? Then why'd you feel the need to comment? It's a debate, not show and tell - provide a counterpoint or hop off my post :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:36 PM
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