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Don’t forget, There’s another bus every 15 minutes. Keep moving forward.
/r/seduction09/03/20 12:40 AM
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Sure. It can be as simple as responding unexpectedly - like with real kindness, in the face of hostility. Acting unexpectedly can often work well for you in general, making you seem to be a more interesting and even attractive person. People crave novelty, it is human nature. I often give the advice, "By default, give others the benefit of the doubt." The reason this works is because when you give someone else the benefit of the doubt, it shows in your behavior -- ideally, your lack of reaction …
/r/seduction07/03/20 07:37 PM
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You're overthinking it. You're also coming across as at least slightly insecure -- like you're wanting extra reassurance from her. This is totally OK, just not ideal for your success. Something to work on. Be aware of it and start trying to create a gap between your feelings and your actions, so you can observe what's coming up and decide If it's real or not. She said it sounds good, but you felt like she was either 'playing it cool' or that she 'really hates mini golf'. There's about a 99.9% ch…
/r/seduction07/03/20 07:17 PM
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Good. Awareness is a first step to growth
/r/seduction07/03/20 07:08 PM
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Definitely don't force yourself to like someone you're not attracted to.
/r/seduction07/03/20 06:29 PM
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What if you consider their lashing out due to insecurity (disguised as hostility) an opportunity? An opportunity for you to practice true self confidence. ***** Simon Sinek said, "Self confidence is the ability to exercise restraint in the face of disrespect, and still show respect in response." ***** Frankly, one of the most fun things to do when another guy tries putting you down is to throw it right back at him, and turn everyone against him. However, this is still an emotional reaction. Even…
/r/seduction07/03/20 06:28 PM
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Once upon a time, I had your problem. I've always enjoyed spending time with women more than men, for various reasons. I've noticed some general commonalities among men who share this trait - we're probably similar in some fundamental ways. With that in mind, from experience: You probably have the wrong guy friends -- I've found that the guys I typically enjoy keeping as friends and spending time with regularly are generally outliers. And yeah, it's naturally more difficult to find 'outlier' fri…
/r/seduction07/03/20 06:19 PM
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Since you feel at a disadvantage being Indian, find a way to turn that around to an advantage. New way of thinking: To white girls, you're exotic. Try it out. How you feel about yourself matters, and it tends to come across to the other person in the interaction. ***** Congrats on getting outside of your comfort zone. Walking up to total strangers Isn't easy for almost anyone, especially if they're women you're attracted to. Consider trying to have a slightly longer and more natural conversation…
/r/seduction07/03/20 05:19 PM
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It sounds like you're having some identity problems. Also, related, I spotted some Imposter Syndrome. "afraid of being exposed" This is totally OK. I mean, you're making big changes in your life, trying to do this stuff. It sounds like what's hardest for you is all these conflicting feelings about others' perceptions of you. The truth is, you probably have some work to do on your identity. You're worried about what others think about you, but how much attention have you paid to how and what you …
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:40 PM
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Yes. But do you want to rely on money only? No. Your goal isn't just to attract women. Ask yourself what you're really looking for, and if you think money will logically satisfy that need. Hint: The answer is almost definitely no.
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:33 PM
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If you're a man reading this who needs to hear it... (you know who you are) Having sex with as many women as possible will not make you happy. In fact, it will probably make you worse. Not a good or fruitful goal. Think about it -- statistically, if you're 'really successful', it will inevitably lead to disease. Be careful. At a bare minimum, Protect your P. And DO WHAT IT TAKES to stay not-a-father until you consciously choose otherwise.
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:29 PM
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Breaking News: 'OP Wins But Doesn't Even Realize' So, you won, man. 1hr 53mins or 1MIN 53secs -- doesn't matter, you did it. You deserve credit for that. You can't control the outcome -- you can only control the action You take. You took a while to take the action, but you did take the action. How soon will you get yourself to do it *next time*? 1hr 52mins? Totally cool. Even if it took you a minute longer, Just do it again. That will be another win, as long as you do it. If you do it again, and…
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:06 PM
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Tinder is more like a single tool in your toolbelt. Don't forget though, If the only tool you have is a hammer, everything starts to look like a nail. There's a sex joke in there somewhere. There's a fun journey that most men are capable of embarking on, going from whatever they think a 'good' profile is to a truly good profile that casts them in a 'top 20%' type light. That said, it can be a pretty serious crutch that's easy to rely on and can be hard to quit. It can be so convenient, it become…
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:44 PM
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What should you do if you like a certain girl? Don't forget, ideally you'll want to attract, not chase. Another important note: Attraction is not a choice. Therefore, you can't really control a woman being attracted to you. You can sure mess up and make mistakes, lowering her attraction for you. But You can't quite create attraction. For the most part, you'll want to focus on first being the best version of you that you can be, and just find out how she feels about you. So, if you like a certain…
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:30 PM
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Your outcomes will depend a lot on what you choose to do in the moment with the feelings that arise naturally. So maybe you don't feel like it sometimes. That's OK. Other times, you do feel like it -- like during those phases. It's like there's an internal struggle between these two 'versions' of you. Clearly sometimes you do want to do it and feel ready, but other times, you're still you, yet you just have way more reasons why not to do it. During these phases you mention, you probably remember…
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:09 PM
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Your 3 Top Sources of Casual Sex (without parties or nightclubs): The Bar / Random Social Enviros (Total Strangers) I know you said not a nightclub, but this could be some normal bar, a concert, some other kind of event, etc. Alcohol being involved will probably increases your chances a lot as you'll likely be less anxious. Typically these hookups tend to be something like one of the following: You chat, have drinks, and get her number, and later via texting she invites you over or asks to come …
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:47 PM
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So you are looking for motivation to get yourself being proactive in approaching women... There's all kinds of things you could try to make you feel differently about this (e.g. more motivated). But... Motivation is nice, and often helpful, yet it's also overrated. Mel Robbins says, "Motivation is garbage... Why? It's never there when you need it!" The truth is, having motivation really just means feeling motivated. If your emotions aren't aligned with the motivation to meet women (and potential…
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:28 PM
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That sucks, man... Although, also... Congratulations! Why? Rejection is the mechanism for change and improvement in this game. Rejection is like what your "skill" is measured in -- how many rejections have you ranked up so far? The more the better. The more you get, the more used to it you get, which means you respond to it less emotionally. You develop an immunity. When you respond less emotionally (to rejection), your interactions with women will also become easier, more natural, more care-fre…
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:17 PM
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You can't make a girl attract to you, but you can slowly turn yourself into the most attractive version of You, thereby increasing the overall pool of women who will be attracted to you the general probability that the average women you encounter will be attracted to you Attract, don't chase. As for 'gaming her' -- depending on your actual goals, this will usually lead to failure. If your goal is something real and worthwhile, gaming her will fail. Not some of the time, but 100% of the time. Can…
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:04 PM
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If you have definite plans, just follow through on them and don't worry about her not texting back. Sure, it could be a test. Act like it. What are you supposed to do when you think you're being tested? Prove you're not falling victim to the test, basically. Stand strong, and avoid showing neediness. That said. If/when you find out she's flaking on you... (Ex. no-show, not replying to your call/text at the time-of the plans - whenever the critical point falls where you find out if she's a flake)…
/r/seduction28/02/20 11:28 PM
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Well said, thanks for your feedback. I also think of it this way: Confidence is like a skill. Being highly confident does NOT come naturally to most people. Things that don't come naturally require work - it 'sucks', maybe - but it's life, and it's simple logic. Most people have to learn it, and then work to maintain it - or they'll lose it. Plus, confidence isn't just about feeling confident -- it's about acting confident. You might not feel confident, but can still act like you are. Changing y…
/r/seduction27/02/20 07:02 PM
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Congrats on your results, and thanks for sharing. Everyone learning should try this at least once, even if only to push yourself to do it. Don't forget, It's not so much what you say as how you say it. Your Disproportionate Success Factor = the Confidence you draw on to pull this off well. In other words, the practice in confidence is probably most of why it works in the first place -- In addition to setting a tone and getting the thoughts going, as you mentioned. It's like a subtle / not subtle…
/r/seduction23/02/20 09:05 PM
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Should you ask this girl on a date?? Good question. The only way to know the answer is to know your values. What do you value more -- capitalizing on your potential opportunity, or avoiding rejection? If you value capitalizing on your opportunity more, asking this girl out on a date is the only thing to do if you want to live in accordance with your values. If you value avoiding rejection more, then asking this girl out on a date is the very last thing you should do. The truth is, asking her out…
/r/seduction23/02/20 08:51 PM
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A proper marketing department will get results, right? Sure, a balanced approach to business should include observing and considering what your customers say. Perhaps counterintuitively, prospects don’t tend to have very effective advice on how to “get” them as customers. Similarly, customers don’t even tend to have very accurate ideas of how they were acquired as a customer. Key point — what you do with what your customers say is what will determine your outcome. You have to know what to do wit…
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:44 AM
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Always.
/r/seduction06/02/20 07:42 PM
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No :) Good luck.
/r/seduction06/02/20 07:42 PM
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Knowing women, I’d guess that it is statistically unlikely that it is just your appearance — and I say this as good news. That said, are there are aspects of your appearance that you could still upgrade? Probably. It’s not just looks. As men, we tend to overestimate how much the uncontrollable aspects of our appearance matter. This is because uncontrollable aspects of appearance are weighed much more heavily in our assessments of women’s perceived attractiveness. In english: men generally care a…
/r/seduction06/02/20 04:34 PM
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That’s great, Texxmix. It still hasn’t reached most marketing departments yet — the reality of today’s college education, but there’s a better way than the ways that work pretty well. Observing actual behavior. Watching what people do, not just what they say they do. Words serve mainly to mislead. Actions are definitive.
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:52 PM
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Toxic Femininity Forest — it’s a sight to be seen.
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:51 PM
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You’re pushing your new vocab words a little hard, dear. Not only does your sub regularly give women bad advice — this is where the laughs really come in, by the way — but it is foundationally toxic. Read the rules. You’d better not argue with the core philosophy — not even if you’re a woman? Interesting. The advice must be rock solid if you have to create a mandate that you’ll be booted and blocked if you dare argue. This is a foolish policy. The subreddit clearly has deeper and more toxic agen…
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:49 PM
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If only your assessment of your subreddit were accurate and not biased in your favor. Imagine what that might be like.
/r/seduction06/02/20 03:12 AM
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While there is always some kind of value to be found if you are focusing on the right things, most guys are focusing on the absolute wrong things — and most of what women think adds value tends to be more misleading than helpful, causing more harm than good. They almost always mean well, but their answers should be highlighted with caution tape. Sounds extreme, until you’ve spent hours listening to dozens of individual men who are still caught up on women’s advice and why it didn’t work.
/r/seduction05/02/20 11:00 PM
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Listening to women’s advice on attracting women is kind of like listening to consumer’s advice on selling to consumers. What do you think?
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:56 PM
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Have you had a chance to laugh at the Female Dating Strategy subreddit yet? There’s a chance they’re related.
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:54 PM
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Good, it's sounds like you might be working the balance better than I thought. Repeating and affirming, relating to what she said, making little jokes -- these are all good interim activities to use instead of simply asking the next question. There's nothing wrong with making first contact. It's a great way to practice and gauge your risk-taking. It doesn't necessarily mean anything bad if she doesn't touch you first. That said, as you continue to improve in general, you may notice that it happe…
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:11 PM
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it's great to hear about your ongoing progress. I'd even argue that self improvement should be an ongoing process for everyone. Everything's impermanent, because everything is constantly changing at varying rates. The only way to keep from being left behind, is to keep moving forward. It's awesome that you're already doing that. Best of luck to you with your habits and finding ways around your procrastination, and whatever's next.
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:07 PM
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Okay. I'm interested to understand more what you mean by 'interjecting your personal experience' - I'm not saying you're doing something wrong, but I want to know more what you mean. What would you say the balance of spoken word is in the conversation? Ideally, it'll be as extreme as 80/20, in her favor (meaning she does almost all the talking). You may think, "Well, this leaves her knowing nothing about me" - and strangely, this tends to help. It keeps you mysterious, and it helps her feel comf…
/r/seduction05/02/20 05:13 AM
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You've plateaued before, and you'll plateau again, because that is what progress looks like on the graph. Image here: Natural Progress Cycle Graph If you keep moving forward, you will keep making progress. To change, you have to ask questions you've not asked before, and you've done that already to get the progress you've made so far. Next, you have to ask new questions. It's all about questions. Obviously your dates begin with at least a minimum level of attraction for you, because they agreed …
/r/seduction05/02/20 05:04 AM
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Instant gratification is so tempting now, isn't it? In 2020, we can each make ourselves so aware of just how many opportunities are out there - and how many we're "missing" in this moment. It makes it easier to give in to the desire to cut corners and search for the easy button. I think part of the problem is that the becoming does require something like - for lack of better wording, faking, at least for a period of time, until you arrive somewhere new, and can say you have become. Maybe that to…
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:55 AM
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What do you think is going wrong between the 1st and 2nd date? A heck of a lot can come down to how you conduct yourself on the date. What you talk about, how you talk about it, etc. Whatever the problem is, there is a fix out there for you - a way to better outcomes. At what point do you think the attraction starts dropping, typically?
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:37 AM
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I'm happy to have helped you, my friend. Good luck - let me know if you need any more help.
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:33 AM
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What if you knew that anywhere from 1-3 months from now, you'd be getting the opportunity to meet a girl who would make "Rose" seem worthless by comparison? Sorry for your loss, but keep moving forward In the right direction, and I promise you will look back and laugh at how you felt at this moment. Think of it like this - There is a flood of light ahead, and you're just wearing dark glasses right now, which is why you can't quite see it. But trust me. Those feelings will go, and they'll inevita…
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:16 AM
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What does "talking to" mean in your case? Short Answer If you're not exclusive, but are feeling impatient, then generate more opportunities. Long Answer Why do you think she "moves super slow"? Consider that how slow she seems to be moving may even have something to do with you. If you're feeling impatient, it's possible that this has already come across. If you were her, would you want to invest in a guy who's asking this question? Seriously, imagine that you are not you, and that you're her. A…
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:12 AM
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Right — I would probably say “engage” her emotionally, but yes, I believe you understand.
/r/seduction04/02/20 11:17 PM
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Happy to help! My bad on the late reply. How are things going for you now?
/r/seduction04/02/20 11:17 PM
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Choose better friends, simply abandon said current "friends", and learn to laugh at whatever passerby come up with, just in case.
/r/seduction04/02/20 11:11 PM
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Hey Rareage, Congrats on recognizing a potential opportunity. Try not to beat yourself up about not "making a move" this time - the best possible thing you can do at this point is to move forward and learn from any mistakes you may have made. Step 1 -- Stop Caring so much AKA, get more comfortable with the idea of Interacting with girls in general. Step 2 -- Interact with more girls You started out by saying "I don’t normally talk to many girls but" And this right here is part of the problem. I …
/r/seduction04/02/20 11:07 PM
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What do you think she wanted out of the experience? You told us what you want -- from the sound of it, a long term relationship, not to rush things physically, to learn about her, and to have a conversation that you enjoy. Well, what about her? You mentioned that you didn't agree on anything. Well, what did this conversation really look like? Ultimately, you don't sound like you were attracted to each other. Perhaps there was a mismatch issue before even meeting. What made you decide to go out w…
/r/seduction04/02/20 10:37 PM
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Hey Tatin109, Maybe. It depends what you mean - can you help us better understand what you're experiencing? Don't forget, Context can be everything. Short Answer: Seek Balance. As much as we like to rely on rules (particularly as men), pretty much all rules can be broken. You will want to learn how to find the truth. So let's talk about the truth. If a girl "leaves you on read," consider what else might be realistically occurring. Some examples of "left on read" that are just logic Did the conve…
/r/seduction03/02/20 09:04 PM
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Hey, RussianBoa. It definitely sounds like this is a process you're not enjoying as much as you could be. Can you help us understand more of your context? How would you describe one of the "shit tests" -- could you give an example of what you are experiencing?
/r/seduction03/02/20 08:45 PM
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I don’t agree with your advice, though. I think it’s a bad idea for you to be giving advice if this is what you think is good advice, especially because men are more likely to trust you blindly, because you have a vagina. Most of what you’ve said will be misleading. I work with men constantly who have had bad ideas ingrained in their head by women who meant well, and were sure they were helping too.
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:49 PM
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More To Men - There is not a THE girl. You can be yourself and make stupid mistakes, and you can also be yourself and not make those same stupid mistakes. A lot of succeeding in what you're trying to do, "get" women or however you think of it, is about continually becoming a better version of You. There's a difference between trying to be someone you aren't, and discovering a deeper version of You. I don't think it's good advice to say "youre going to find a girl who makes you feel comfortable a…
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:34 PM
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I can appreciate your jokes and stuff, Mandallyn Mae, but the problem is that it really doesn't matter if "MANY women agree" with you. Who are these women? Why do they agree with you? Why do they feel this way? Why do they respond differently in real life situations? These are all good questions. There is a good reason why I usually tell men not to take advice from women on dating, and it's because you do not have the proper perspective to teach them anything. How many women have you dated? How …
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:28 PM
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Always happy to help you good men grow. What I mean by 'questions about her' is this: Questions she will enjoy answering. If she seems to really like travel (like so many Millennials on these dating apps today, right?), it's a great topic. But Stop - 1. Step down your intensity by like, 2-3 notches. "I love that picture of Arizona" - Why? What makes you love it? What do you love about it? Do you even like it, or are you just saying you love it because you think she'll like hearing that? You migh…
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:24 PM
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Hey DesperateSeaGull, Sounds like you're looking for a Transition Strategy to follow your Opener. Look at her profile, pictures, bio (if applicable) and try to get some actual understanding of how she thinks, what she's like, what might make her different than other girls. Ask her questions about her. In other words, put in some of the right kind of effort. Knowing what all this entails and how to conduct yourself properly will take time and, most importantly practice, but it'll be worth it if y…
/r/seduction07/01/20 05:54 PM
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There's a little more to it than not asking for feet pics XD Most men are failing at these DMs horrendously, please consider that when you give advice like this. :) Thanks for providing your perspective as one woman out there, though. Also, slightly odd advice to end with (don't ask for feet pics) if you're talking to a general population. What percentage of men do you really think have even seriously considered doing that? Lol. Not a lot. Other fetishes exist, maybe try to mention something abo…
/r/seduction07/01/20 05:42 PM
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In other words, don’t be lazy.
/r/seduction02/01/20 08:26 PM
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That sounds great. You don’t literally make your own reality, that’s just a helpful belief to have. If you actually just do whatever you want, you’re probably fucked. This might sound harsh, but regardless, can you see the truth there? Drawing your conclusion just seems like misuse and/or misunderstanding of a belief that can be a powerful tool for you if used properly. Do you understand?
/r/seduction02/01/20 08:25 PM
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Yessss. Share that story, small as it may seem. It’s the little things that matter. The little, relatable things. You started treating yourself like you were more valuable than you had been treating yourself. You might not even have started believing it yet, who knows. Maybe you did, but either way, the thing is, you don’t have to believe something to start acting like you do believe it. What you believe doesn’t even have to be true to affect your performance! And you see that now! That was it. …
/r/seduction29/12/19 01:10 AM
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At this point in your journey, assume you’re not noticing them. However, be aware that these signs will likely increase as you do things that indirectly (“Indirectly” here means basically you won’t be doing things for the purpose of increasing attraction, you’ll be doing things for your personal growth and happiness) increase your attractiveness to the opposite sex. Obviously these things, and specificities, will very from woman to woman, but generally, factors include Perceived baseline confide…
/r/seduction28/12/19 11:31 PM
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Gee, thanks for sharing that, BrexFlexx! Very glad that you’ve found so much value here. Especially because I actually consider this a “rough draft,” So I’m excited to share more with you all and help get some serious growth under way.
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:46 PM
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Always happy to help, brother. To your success
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:21 PM
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I dig this! Good adding value, RobertMonte. Getting Jim Carrey vibes - did you just come up with that right now or did you hear him say it? (“Can you feel the energy coming out of me right now, man?! I AM the Super Bowl, man!!”)
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:20 PM
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There you go, that’s called a mindset shift right there! It gets better — it actually doesn’t even end there. Something intriguing happens as you find your satisfaction through your own action rather than through the (uncontrollable) outcome Your confidence in yourself grows You start liking yourself more You start developing a new internal voice that you can start choosing over the disparaging internal voices. It’s a lot of choices, though — your choice of what to focus on, your choice of what …
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:17 PM
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And please don’t hesitate to let me know how I can help you - answer questions, clear anything up, help you make an action plan, etc.
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:05 PM
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No worries at all, just grow through what go through. You’ve already got what it takes, it’s really just a matter of realizing that for yourself. :)
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:04 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I’m also naturally shy - apparently I hid behind my mom’s legs until I was 8 or something. But it took a lot of “going against the grain” of what felt natural to me in order to get comfortable enough that now people think I’m just this natural-born social maven. It’s actually really really funny to me, because I had to learn absolutely everything I know. But I love sharing this fact, because it helps others realize they are capable of, in many ways, becoming an entirely diffe…
/r/seduction28/12/19 07:21 PM
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How can we help? :)
/r/seduction28/12/19 07:13 PM
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Thanks for your contribution, friend. Let me clarify something - attraction is not something you can choose to make happen if it’s not going to happen. You don’t “make” women attracted to you. You might like to think so, and in a sense you could think of it this way, but I am careful not to put it this way. Why? Well, let’s just say men seem to have the bad habit, and perhaps a biological imperative, to just keep pursuing the same women who aren’t attracted to them to begin with - or sometimes, …
/r/seduction28/12/19 07:12 PM
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Do you really want to be right there with him? You probably don’t want to hear it, but just “deciding” that women aren’t attracted to you sounds like laziness to me. You’re making bad assumptions Just ask even one more question - like why do you think women just aren’t attracted to you? What makes you think that this isn’t just confirming that you’ve been going after precisely the wrong women, every single time? There are women out there complaining about how there aren’t enough quality men, and…
/r/seduction28/12/19 07:03 PM
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While that’s not true, I can definitely see why it’s the easiest conclusion to draw, right? Why do you think women just aren’t attracted to you? What makes you think that this isn’t just confirming that you’ve been going after precisely the wrong women, every single time? Really, have you considered any other questions? It’s still an easy route to decide “women just aren’t attracted to me” Then there’s no real work to be done, no more trying necessary. If only it were that easy.
/r/seduction28/12/19 06:56 PM
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Props to you, brother! Thanks for sharing your anecdote. I’m really glad you got value in this post. Glad you broke the ice and got her name. The next time you approach someone new, try not sharing your name after asking for hers . It can be interesting to notice when they ask your name, since you didn’t volunteer it after asking theirs - and can often distinguish interest from lack of interest. Also, make sure you make a mode of some kind soon - if you are interested in this girl and want somet…
/r/seduction28/12/19 06:53 PM
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Thank you, I’m glad you got value here! I’d consider it a very rough draft - if you have any tips, questions, requests, feel free to share as it will help me refine it for a future version that I’ll also give away on here. I hear you on your struggle — like you said, you are absolutely capable of all of this, and more. But starting... Starting feels deceptively tough, doesn’t it? You sound like a smart guy - you hit the nail on the head in your last sentence. It’s not easy to change your behavio…
/r/seduction28/12/19 06:08 AM
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Thanks for adding value, girl! I’m sure everyone will appreciate it. While I generally recommend not taking dating advice from women, about women, this is good advice. I’d generally recommend avoiding complimenting purely on looks - or anything else you might guess she gets complimented on all the time. The more objectively attractive a woman is, the more you’re going to want to steer clear of the obvious shit she gets all the time. Beautiful women know they’re beautiful. However, as you said, i…
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:49 AM
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I hope whatever’s wrong right now improves for you - I really do. Also, I hope you have more than $20. If you don’t, PM me As far as posting ads on seduction forums? You know better.
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:28 AM
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Thanks for... this, AligatorTears. Alligator has 2 l’s, by the way. $19.95 can buy you a lot, but only hard work will maximize your dating success. But even you must realize this. If you have any specific questions, or become interested in being productive, let me know.
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:22 AM
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TL;dr — leave JingleberryJohnson’s comment in the garbage where it belongs.
/r/seduction28/12/19 02:23 AM
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Finally, this doesn’t say it’s the only source of dating advice, buddy. This shouldn’t be that tough to understand. A Cold Approach refers to a situation where you notice someone attractive in public in walk up to them, AKA, “approach” them, with the intention of getting a number, asking for a date, etc. Also - A headline has a purpose, and it’s purpose isn’t to be taken literally, now is it? Come on, bud. You can get this. It’s funny how many keyboard dating coaches are in here who only seem to…
/r/seduction28/12/19 02:22 AM
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By the way, your #2 is literally the antithesis of my point in this post. The point is NOT memorizing. This is a great way to come across robotic in an interaction. Read again, try again.
/r/seduction28/12/19 02:18 AM
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I’d argue that thinking in terms of an ‘Approach’ to dating is baby stepping to start with. What you ideally do, is you just learn how to understand women, as well as yourself, and other men. Your clarification comment feels like it needs more clarification than you even gave on the post. You seem to have misunderstood some things I thought were basic, which will help me with the second version of the post. Thank you for your feedback. Cheers
/r/seduction28/12/19 02:17 AM
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Thanks for adding value, friend. What you said reminds me of a statistic I've heard time and time again - I believe most recently I heard that the words being said can be as little as 7% of what is actually being communicated. This means that if you haven't trained yourself, you could be missing up to 93% of what people are "saying" to you. Wild, huh? As you said, it's also important to learn to communicate effectively. Aligning your words, thoughts, and actions sounds like a good general rule t…
/r/seduction27/12/19 10:35 PM
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You can do it. Start small, and try to remember that others are typically as anxious as we are inside our own heads. Think of it like it's your job to make them comfortable.
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:29 PM
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Your description sounds very familiar to me. It's good that you phrased that the way you did -- that you're not very trained in it... Except, tack onto the end, "Yet" Find the utmost confidence in the awareness that you are a Homo Sapien - what luck! No matter how deeply, it's wired into your brain. Think of it this way - all you have to do is uncover it. It's there somewhere, inside of you. If you've ever trained a muscle that you had to form a mind-muscle connection with, think of it kind of l…
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:27 PM
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If a woman does certain masculine things, you'll find people will say it does make her seem masculine. Masculinity tends to be ascribed based on what one does, rather than what one is. It's a rosy idea that there's nothing that can make you more or less of a man, and of course this can always be true for You, inside your mind - but there are absolutely things that society could think make you less of a man. Obviously this isn't a great thing, which is why I think it's important for us to have so…
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:20 PM
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Let's try to focus more on what masculinity IS, and less about what it isn't. As I've pointed out to others, you've started by saying masculinity is hard to define / undefinable, that it's more of an energy, or a "vibe" as you say. But the problem with your own argument is that you then go on to define what "immature" masculinity is, because obviously, that's the much easier task. Strength of character is a good start - but let's make it more clear, because it's ambiguous by itself. What is stre…
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:13 PM
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It's not necessary to read it for you to get better at this, but I strongly recommend The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene. It will help all-around He touches on body language in a unique way, and changed how I thought about it forever - which was significant, as I had already thought I was good at it for a couple years. You'll probably find that developing a greater sense of calm and okay-ness with yourself in interactions is the easiest way to make all of the reading people easier. Someth…
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:41 PM
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Good question - I actually wrote significantly more in the other 5 versions of this. I took most of it out so I could see what specific questions people had first, before I put in a bunch of additional information - you know, learning is different from everyone, and I wanted to see where the commenters "were at," essentially. Don't ask for dating advice from women, ask for dating advice from men who have the dating life you want. Ask for dating advice only from men who can demonstrate to you tha…
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:27 PM
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Thanks for providing a female perspective, Micah. Consider that most men do have various kinds of inaccurate understandings about women — but no, they’re not a different species. They’re literally the other half of our species. And no, not unsolvable. Considering “what does this person want? How would this person feel if I did/said XYZ” is obviously good advice. It’s much less helpful in this context, but generally helpful nonetheless. Like you said, women think, behave, communicate differently.…
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:10 AM
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I don’t think you’re lying because you sound absurd. I think you’re lying because you’re talking about concepts which you do not understand, as if you understand them. I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, it’s just a little frustrating to hear misinformation being shared like it’s knowledge, because I work with men who have been fed a lot of misinformation in this realm, and for no good reason. We’re in the age of information overload. We have no shortage of information, but we sure have a shor…
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:24 AM
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Glad you’re getting value here! Hopefully I’ve not been too harsh - the holidays are an odd time for me, I don’t intend to be so abrasive. Always happy to help - if there’s ever any way I can help you, let me know.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:16 AM
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If you’re making stuff up, you’re just lying. And you are making stuff up. It’s quite clear. So seriously, stop lying. Lying is not very nice at all.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:10 AM
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The narcissism? The narcissism is evident in you literally saying just now that you were providing “objective truth” Why on earth do you think you know objective truth? Seriously, if this is really who you are in real life, probably check on that.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:09 AM
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That’s a pretty narcissistic thing to say, but it’s cool. It’s just that it doesn’t even make sense... It reads like a loose combination of poorly thought out, new agey understandings of the world, based on imaginary energy. And no, of course that isnt a “bad question” - it just reassured me that at least you don’t actually know what you’re talking about, at least you’re just pretending. That, and your related activity on here just shows that there is no way you know what you’re doing. What it l…
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:01 AM
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I just specifically asked you to speak from your own experience. Not to call you out, but I checked out your profile. You have no clue, bro. You’re asking if women care if you have no friends. Stop acting like you know what you’re talking about. It’s nonsense. I asked what masculinity means to you — you commented on mostly everything else, wasting a lot of time and energy in the process. Speak from experience, or don’t speak, but dont spout your absurd theory about what causes masculinity.
/r/seduction27/12/19 02:19 AM
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I think I can appreciate what you're trying to do, but you're really just making stuff up, buddy. How do you expect anyone to get past your second sentence when you begin by saying energy is "basically a non-physical force," immediately followed by "sub-atomic level" Do you really think that atoms and their components are not physical? Do you really think, what makes up all matter as far as we know, all PHYSICAL matter, is not physical? My friend, most of the "real world" physical properties of …
/r/seduction27/12/19 02:08 AM
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I appreciate your clarification, thank you for adding to your first comment. I also appreciate where you’re coming from - what I’m trying to do is get some sample data for how men can describe what masculinity IS to them, or essentially, what it MEANS to them. There are men out there who wouldn’t know what you mean by this state of mind. To be clear, this is NOT about “doing things to make yourself more masculine” It’s about asking “What is masculinity to ME? What makes me feel masculine?” Then …
/r/seduction26/12/19 11:16 PM
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Try to pay attention. This is about focusing on yourself. There’s no need to get sensitive and defensive about paying attention to “broad movements” or paying attention to someone besides you. While you’re whining about the word “movement,” you’re using language that is the result of past social movements you clearly know nothing about... Again, “Be yourself. Focus on you.” Just say, “Follow your heart!” You’re saying the same thing. Meanwhile, you feed into this foolishness about “focusing on y…
/r/seduction26/12/19 10:40 PM
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Please, teach us about attracting women, since we’re so off topic. :) You start, I’ll just add onto your founding philosophies. Let’s get focused
/r/seduction26/12/19 10:32 PM
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Focusing on yourself... Huh. Sounds like defining what masculinity means to you, don’t you think? Once again, what does masculinity mean to YOU? You sound like a fool.
/r/seduction26/12/19 10:30 PM
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Humans are social animals. It’s a very nice idea to literally be able to not waste a second on what others think, but this makes no sense in reality.
/r/seduction26/12/19 09:11 PM
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This sounds great on the surface, but first, no one asked you to change. Second, your advice isn’t helpful. Your strategy is “just be you,” but that, to be honest, is stupid advice. It sounds a lot like what millennials were brought up on. “just be yourself” This is, again, Terrible advice. Few people even seem to have a good idea of what being themselves means. You’re going to have to try a little harder than that if you want to help. Especially because social movements are much bigger than you…
/r/seduction26/12/19 09:10 PM
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Also, your last paragraph — you didn’t finish your thoughts here, this is not a coherent statement. “Energy does manifest certain behaviors as well as physics changes and hormones like testosterone to drive those changes.” What are you getting at here? You’re painting masculinity as this vague idea of “an Energy” and saying it manifests things, like physical changes, and hormones like testosterones — which is not exclusive to men. Your way of communicating almost reminds me a lot of how Christia…
/r/seduction26/12/19 08:06 PM
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Ok, great, masculinity is an energy. What’s an energy? What kind of energy is it? What are it’s qualities? You’re not defining the thing itself, but you’re referring to it as if you know what it is. I genuinely hope you do, it’s just really hard to believe when you skip around like this. First, what we value and believe in, we value and believe in based on our life experiences — what we value and believe in is thus not something innate. Define what you value and believe in that you think IS masc…
/r/seduction26/12/19 08:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing! If masculinity belongs to men, why is it that there is the concept of emasculation? Is it that only men can take away your masculinity as a man? If that's so, what about the aspects of masculinity which undeniably exist, but are independent of the man himself? Is a man masculine if he feels masculine? Is he masculine if men think he is? If women think he is? Second & Third paragraphs: It seems like you're making a broad generalization, as well as a very bold claim. Hopefully …
/r/seduction26/12/19 07:40 PM
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Can you be more clear about "is really just"? Interestingly, the way you're communicating right now might actually be considered somewhat feminine. This "Energy" you speak of, this reminds me of women talking about astrological terms, auras, vibes, etc. I noticed you started by indirectly defining "toxic masculinity" as a certain form (immature, as you said) of masculinity. But in #2, you turned around and said you can't really define it, because it's "an Energy." Thank you for your feedback, I …
/r/seduction26/12/19 07:13 PM
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also, something strange, almost a "sad truth," I've found, if you choose to view it that way -- you probably will find you have a much smoother life if you can figure out how to be happy being right, even when she thinks she is right - and without being able to convince her that you're right. This might sometimes include just working with some of the stuff that feels like B.S. (especially if you're tired and not feeling very understanding), and not necessarily pointing it out. There can be a big…
/r/seduction26/12/19 06:04 PM
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I started laughing hysterically halfway through your second sentence, because I hate to say you are so spot on. In fact, I consulted a few guys I've been coaching for a couple years now and 2 of them basically gave this as their #1 Mind Blow since learning how to "get" women -- roughly "That you can trust what they say or that they mean what they say - you basically can't ever trust what they say" Thanks for bringing it up so bluntly, I think we need that kind of candor, especially with what is …
/r/seduction26/12/19 05:58 PM
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It sounds like you have a hard time expressing how you feel to the guys you are Interested In. It also sounds like you have trouble reading whether guys are interested in your or not, and If they are interested purely in sex, or if they are also interested in you as a person. Would you agree? One of the best things you can do is learn how to understand men better, so you can more easily figure out what their intentions are -- friends, sex, or a potential relationship Based on your 3 stories, I'd…
/r/seduction26/12/19 04:45 PM
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Hey Maika, nice to “meet” you. It’s hard to make a specific diagnosis without knowing you yet, but there are probably simple adjustments you can make in your “dating behavior” that would enable you influence who you’re attracting and who you’re repelling. Just from reading what you’ve written so far, You seem to be having a hard time understanding what the problem is, right? If you’ll share a bit more about yourself and how you think of men, other women, yourself, etc., it’ll be easier to give y…
/r/seduction25/12/19 01:56 PM
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First things first, re-read what you wrote. Rewrite that story. All I see is you saying why you have no choice and making excuses. I hear your frustration and difficulty, but you’re focusing on all of the negatives. I didn’t see anything about what you have going for you. If you’re not getting women right now, it’s not that surprising if that’s how you really feel about yourself. That comes across, especially to women. You’re going to have to work on that, your internal voice, the internal narra…
/r/seduction19/10/19 05:24 AM
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Also, I typed this on my phone, I know the formatting is shit. My bad.
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:35 PM
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Few things - some specific and some general, but All important. Consider being less transparent about how reciprocated her feelings are. Women are typically more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear, as strange as that may sound to a man. Women are much more emotional creatures than us, and they resonate extremely well with the emotional - mystery, romance, anticipation, the unfolding of a story. You’re not looking to be mischievous or misleading, but try to keep in mind how women’s minds…
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:33 PM
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ALL completely fake - is that so?
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:08 PM
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Not to totally ignore your question (I actually don’t know what video that is), however... You should go make the new version of that video, Playa If you live nearby I’ll do it with you.
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:07 PM
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I typed this on my phone and I notice the formatting is f****d. My bad.
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:05 PM
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You’re definitely going to need practice being involved with someone while working with those natural things that are coming up. First thing first, as counterintuitive as it may sound, is acceptance. Feeling negative about this thing you are dealing with is only hurting you, because you can’t change it that way. You will overcome this as soon as you are able to accept the facts, deep down - that, not forever, but for now, you “fall in love, hard, and fast.” and get over your own judgement about …
/r/seduction18/10/19 11:04 PM
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What if you get a really good idea if they're into you without even flirting? Would anyone be interested in that?
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:33 PM
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Always happy to help! Keep Getting Greater, let me know if I can help you.
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:22 PM
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Your strategy made me smile, OP. Nice one! My favorite part is how you said it confidently and as a direct statement, even though that set you up for a potential rejection - strengthening your position as a high-value man in her mind. So happy for you! Congratu-f***ing-lations, by the way on your 2nd girl. I don't know you, but I am so proud. Something else you may or may not have discovered yet is that the first kiss can actually be quite flexible One of the biggest topics I've gotten questions…
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:16 PM
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Always happy to help
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:39 AM
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Haven't googled it yet but as of time of typing I don't know what exactly "Plate" means - hoping it's like thot, which I just recently learned is an ACRONYM, did you know? I'm quite old. Inside. Not outside, actually. Anyway, what can I say? All of this sounds right. Remember: Women are turned on by words.
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:39 AM
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The foundation of PUA Theory is sort of suboptimal/dated at this point. PUA gives these procedures that, broken down, are rather formulaic. Formulas are math, which is black and white, facts and numbers and true and false -- and women are the antithesis of all of that. As an example, 'Negging' is this technical term that PUA came up with which, when applied so that it actually works, leads one or more of the following outcomes: target is unsure about your feelings for her target becomes insecure…
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:32 AM
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You're probably reaching the point of over-communicating before going out on a date. Ask for her number, call her, and ask her out on a date. Find a way to be busier or just somehow spend less time looking to see if she's replied or not. Turn off your instagram notifications so that you won't know when she does reply, until you check. Just check like every few hours if you want, whatever Stop watching her Stories when she's not replying to you, she probably notices and it makes it look like you'…
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:21 AM
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Stop worrying about it, man. My hands are a happy medium, I think. I always have calluses from lifting bars (weights), but it's not necessarily like you'd think out there - at least in my experience. I've had girlfriends dig it, one girlfriend who had deeper calluses than me (sounds funny to say, but true at that time) and joked about it, and a girlfriend who was like "your hands are so roughhh, wahhh" (she whined about it in a playful way, I guess) - and she actually didn't like it. There are a…
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:18 AM
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Pretty good tips. For others reading - wherever you are in your journey of learning all this stuff, you'll want to develop an intuitive sense of what's right for the situation. At the core of getting your dating life the way you want it, is personal growth. For example, just getting really good with women involves developing a whole new set of skills and senses, learning how to use deep empathy, etc. Put simply, the way you can be your best with women is to reach a point where you truly understa…
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:14 AM
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I'm happy to say that amidst the guys I've been noticing scattered throughout this sub who give advice yet obviously don't know what they're talking about -- this one seems to know what he's talking about :) just one thing to add - you should attempt to ask her out on the spot, but if you really can't bring yourself to do that, CALL.
/r/seduction17/10/19 10:52 AM
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Hey OP, you're the OG And that's the attitude you should have. It's not a big deal. What you think about, you get more of, or worse - you become what you think about. We're here to help you by correcting the harsh words you apply to yourself - but there's always the risk of finding yourself alone in the arena. You have to be your last and biggest advocate, because there's the chance that sometime, no one else will be. You should consider cultivating a practice of self-compassion. You'll keep sho…
/r/seduction17/10/19 10:47 AM
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Drinking or smoking are personal choices. You do those to your own body. You're referring to manipulating other people's bodies while they are not conscious enough to make a decision about it. I'm interested in why this is such a pain point for you. You seem to have a really basic understanding of women, which probably isn't surprising if you need to hunt drunk women, sober, in order to get laid. I didn't ask if you value others' judgement. In fact, I'm not judging you, I'm simply fascinated. Hu…
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:30 PM
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What I’m saying is that it says something important about you, as a human being. If you’d be willing to sleep with women who have essentially reverted to a childlike state while you remain a conscious adult. Remind you of anything? I’m interested in your brain - get it? I don’t want anything sugarcoated. Please, share as much as you’re willing, this is good info.
/r/seduction16/10/19 12:59 PM
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Some, yes, but not many women will become all that “sexually assertive,” unless you have a strong disinhibitory factor like alcohol at play... Sure, you might like women being more assertive with you, but what do women want? Generally, to be seduced, and for it to be done so well that they give in to temptation. You’re speaking in generalities a bit.
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:18 PM
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I don’t see the need to delay sex - when women want to have sex with you, they want to have sex with you. It’s not just about whether you can resist. Sure, you can build the anticipation more by leaving, but she could totally just hit up her fwb after you leave (and they do, I have a lot of female friends) and have him give it to her instead. You don’t need to go that extreme. To be honest, putting myself in her situation, leaving after the movie (assuming this is at her house?) without the sex …
/r/seduction15/10/19 04:22 AM
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If you’re willing to sleep with drunk girls sober, especially. I’m not sure why you’d be ok with that, though.
/r/seduction15/10/19 04:15 AM
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I wouldn’t do it these days unless I saw a fun opportunity - nothing comes to mind off the top of my head. It can be tempting, but I prefer to indulge in my own laziness. Notice the women in who are probably already attracted to me, and pick from them. Beats tucking and rolling after a pretty girl who could even be taken. But fun, for sure. Once followed a girl out of an Uber pool in Portland. My driver was like “Yo, go get her number dawg” and he actually waited for me. Follow your heart.
/r/seduction15/10/19 03:16 AM
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Good thoughts! And thanks for asking. It’s hard to give definitive advice, but probably the fastest and easiest (and safest) thing is to say loudly and clearly, “Hey, I’m sorry to interrupt, I actually need to end the ride right here! Can you please let me out the first chance you get?” It might be 2 feet or 200 feet, but they should stop the car so you can get out if you’re clear, even if they’re probably confused.
/r/seduction15/10/19 02:14 AM
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Be detached. Your vibe when talking to women should ideally give off: The sense that you're proud of yourself That you have a good sense of humor That you're fun, open to new experiences. Ideally daringly so These are the things that peak a woman's interest. Women are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. Humans, especially women, are captivated by mystery. When you're mysterious, they can't get enough of you. When someone likes another person, they give off signs. Liking someone mak…
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:36 AM
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Yes. I have also been an Uber Driver, and have gotten numbers that way as well. But also, don't do this to your driver unless you're telling him or her that you're ending the ride early at your own expense - your driver doesn't get paid enough to wait on you and your need to chase women :)
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:21 AM
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Let us know how this goes, I'm interested to hear. I agree with kovacic93 that a read-through of the conversation Is less than encouraging, but regardless, there are some valuable lessons to keep in mind for next time. Also, this is all 100% honesty and absolutely no ill intention, and I'm here for any more help if you want it. Next time: At least get the woman's number before you depart. Depending on the situation the ultimate power move is setting a date on the spot. Sure, she could also rejec…
/r/seduction15/10/19 12:59 AM
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Let us know how this goes, I'm interested to hear. I agree with kovacic93 that a read-through of the conversation Is less than encouraging, but regardless, there are some valuable lessons to keep in mind for next time. Also, this is all 100% honesty and absolutely no ill intention, and I'm here for any more help if you want it. Next time: At least get the woman's number before you depart. Depending on the situation the ultimate power move is setting a date on the spot. Sure, she could also rejec…
/r/seduction15/10/19 12:55 AM
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What you need is a Better Problem. IMO, the opposite of this is rather nice - meeting and talking to so many women that you end up forgetting to text girls back for days. This literally results in girls being upset at how you haven't texted them back. Oh, how the tables have turned, right? Right.
/r/seduction15/10/19 12:27 AM
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Yesss. Knowing how to dance is shockingly useful, and I say this as someone who's still pretending to know how what he's doing as he learns how to stop faking it.
/r/seduction14/10/19 10:01 PM
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It's less that it's cheesy and more that you're bringing something into the woman's mind that you most certainly do not want to. Think abundance. I'm not nitpicking you, this is something that will affect your outcomes in a negative way.
/r/seduction10/06/19 08:11 PM
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Oh come on, man... You’re sinking your own ships here. Mentioning your debt is bad also because women don’t fancy thinking about how much debt you may have. You’re the man, you’re supposed to be solid. Or appear that way. Don’t throw around jokes about it, just my suggestion.
/r/seduction09/06/19 01:08 PM
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Why would they stop liking you? How do you know they stopped liking you? Unless they told you or you're adept enough to be able to actually tell, you are probably wrong about them stopping liking you. Next, if you're scared of being judged then it will come across. You need to work to change this belief. For starters, there are literally billions of women out there, and like most men, most of them are boring, average, and not really worthwhile. You can afford to burn a few bridges, stop worrying…
/r/seduction08/06/19 02:01 PM
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"stand on my debt now I'm 6'6" "? Are you making a joke about how indebted you are? I'm in the US so if this is a misunderstanding along cultural lines then please let me know. If not, I'd remove this line Put your height at the last line of your bio - you want to charm them with your wit before they see your height, ideally ***** The picture - Try PhotoFeeler.com - you can have women rate your photos according to attractiveness, which highlights your obvious choices for Tinder. Blew my mind whe…
/r/seduction08/06/19 01:58 PM
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