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Thanks, but I'll decline the homework assignment. I can point them out as they come up, but I've not kept a list. Besides, the point here isn't for you and me to argue the definition of moralizing, which I'm sure is the next step in any set of examples I would find. Lots of moralizing about the right or wrong way to handle kids. I recall some guy getting lit up for buying his family McDonalds...."You're killing your kids." Or how frequently dads should be playing with kids, etc. Plenty of athies…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 08:31 PM
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What you don't get to do here is moralize about why it's always and everywhere bad according to your moral code. That's not really true. Lots of moralizing is tolerated here, just not moralizing about infidelity.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 07:43 PM
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I feel like I am lazy because I am not pushing for it. Part of being a congruent man is being able to determine what is optimal and what is overkill. What is lazy and what is walking away from a goal you no longer value. If you're good with the sex you're getting now, be good with it. If that changes in the future, and you're actually not good with it, that's OK too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 05:57 PM
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Nice work on the 1000 club. As you get stronger, 1RMs become more and more taxing. Not to mention as you get older. Go for it as long as it feels good, or motivating or whatever. When it starts to feel shitty or overly taxing, Rep Maxes are just as good for measuring progress and don't smoke your body for weeks/months. If you compete, that's one thing. But if you're just lifting for your own sake, do what works. If you like it, great. But it's not the only way to measure progress. However I am f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 02:42 PM
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100%
/r/askMRP13/10/17 08:28 PM
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I said "don't" ...and I was piling on in agreement.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 06:45 PM
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I don't tend to lie about what was said, unless I'm doing obvious AA, ....this has mega potential to backfire and out you as a fraud. And when it does, to undermine future dread. You're no longer a guy who just gets it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 05:53 PM
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most of the time my wife isn’t around to see the other soccer moms "hitting" on me and melting in my arms while their dad bod beta husbands are finger fucking their I-phones playing fantasy football Melting in your arms? Would love to have you expand on what this entails. Are you....snuggling up to the moms at soccer practice?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 05:17 PM
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I'm always struck by how much effort so many posters put into boxing all of RC's posts into their assumption of what christianity must mean to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 03:09 PM
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Mostly just a commentary on the theme around here lately. But if you've got pointers, proceed....
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:43 PM
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Kind of what I figured. You're majoring in the minors if you're doing lateral raises & flys before you can bench BW. Get into the upper intermediate range on something like this at least....http://www.strengthstandards.co/ before you worry at all about single joint bodybuilder moves. Get more volume out of the big lifts, do one or two multi joint assistance moves with an eye toward strength - heavy DB rows, dips, weighted chin ups, etc. I think guys get to the point where they hit their second o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 01:39 PM
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in February 2017 I added cardio. We all backslide to beta faggotry sometimes.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 08:37 PM
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What you'll find, I think, is that the magic 180 lbs @ 10% bf won't ever happen. At least that's how it had worked for me. The pack on body weight and then chisel off the fat, bulk/cut/bulk/cut process always just seemed to be going in circles. According to everything I've read and studied, I am unaware of any other way to build muscle other than lifting for hypertrophy with sufficient protein at a caloric surplus. What's your method for training for hypertrophy? I think too many guys make the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 08:34 PM
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My wife still has a hard line regarding butt stuff, so it's all fail here.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 06:10 PM
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Focusing pretty heavily on my cut. I am planning on going 6-8 weeks on it. I am worried that too long and I will start going catabolic. I really want to maintain muscle and keep my strength high. Do you know what you're doing here? Does the bulk/cut thing work for you, or are you in new territory? IMO, the bulk/cut cycle is a ticket to spinning your wheels. How strong are you? What's your ideal weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 03:34 PM
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I hope the big, bitchy wolf doesn’t come too soon. The big bitchy wolf only blows your house down if you believe she blew your house down.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 02:42 PM
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It's like one of those magic eye posters from the 90s. You come here, and you stare at it looking for the sailboat (sex)....but you don't ever really see it until you stop focusing on it and look at the whole picture.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 02:02 PM
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Many guys come here desiring improvement for their sex lives . They're starving and desperate for sex, because having a dick and sticking it inside a woman is the only purely masculine thing they do in life. It's the one thing they do that makes them feel almost like a man. So you come here and you learn: She wants to fuck a masculine man. You aren't one. So you need to become one - and on that path, you start to introduce yourself to OTHER things that make you feel like a man. Owning your shit.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 02:01 PM
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Either your woman is a psychopath or you aren't aware of the extent to which you contribute. my wife knows the nastiest things to say to me to just get me engaged in an argument If you can't brush off her words, you care too much. If you can be goaded into an argument, you're too sensitive. No frame, too needy, too much ego. One of those. Before you can hope to correct her behavior, you've got to get a handle on your own emotional reactions.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 05:50 PM
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What do you do late at night like this when you can't simply leave the room? Do I initiate on the morning? Wait for her to initiate? I'm trying to get over my OI issues. Roll over and go to sleep, or read a book, or whatever. Next day, start fresh. Be like one of those guys with short term memory loss in the bad romcom trope. Getting shot down the day before doesn't even stick in your memory. As you force yourself to ditch the baggage from past interactions, you build OI.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:54 PM
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Do we get kicked out of the club here if we don't have a beard?
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:58 AM
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Good to see all those stonepimpletilist nuggets of wisdom organized into actual english rather than bits and pieces of half mis-autocorrected code. The deciphering is always the part that makes me think. Good job. One of those things you feel in your body as you read. LARPING Masculinity. Good line.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 01:04 AM
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Play the long game here, man. Abundance is not getting stressed out about one fuck not going your way.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 01:51 AM
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Any sharing of this with your woman reeks of "Mommy, look what I'm doing." Rational Male says it best - women want a guy who just gets it. Alpha man stands on his own. He does what he's doing because he decided it works for him. Betas show and tell. As an aside, the "don't talk about mrp" is a nice little set of training wheels to introduce you to the concept that you don't need to tell your wife everything you're doing. Don't say "I lost another 2 lbs this week! Can you see my abs yet?" Don't s…
/r/askMRP08/10/17 01:50 AM
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I am still amazed that the ATBM's have so much trouble with the "walk away" advice. Maybe the ATBM's are even more deeply imbedded with a fem-centric view. Fear of disappointing their family, I think, weighs much heavier than some sort of Disney-ified version of love and marriage.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 06:46 PM
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Wrestling is incredibly demanding, and there is a major focus on building your healthy body and learning proper nutritional habits. This isn’t particularly unique to wresting, but it is definitely a benefit. Interesting. Proper nutrition for a young kid wouldn't be something I'd point to as a strength of youth wrestling. Wrestling where I live is big, there's a huge youth program that well over half of the boys get started in. Seems to me that the more competitive a kid is at wrestling, the more…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 06:21 PM
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Part of mrp, for me, was redefining the narrative of my life. Define it for you. Then make it the truth. Tell your story to yourself and believe it. Then tell that version to others when asked. Part of this is about brutal honesty, sure. Part of it is about irrational self confidence, though. Learn to balance the two.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 08:50 PM
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I found it in 2014 maybe. Did it and liked it, so naturally moved on to something else. Found that every time I went away from it, I would get weaker. I spend my summers competing in some sports, so I always tended to back off or do a different program in-season. Last year - 2016 - was the first time I figured out how to stick with it in season and did it year-round. Great results. Wendler's written enough variations of the program that you can always find something that will suit your goal. As …
/r/askMRP04/10/17 04:00 PM
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I had a massive ego, and yet I couldn't accept praise. It was almost like I had to deflect it for fear that someone might see how desperately I wanted the praise and validation. I feel like that and the hipster snark that's been so fashionable over the last several years or so kind of roll into this same vibe. Characteristics that define Vox Day's gamma category.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 03:34 PM
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and when you don't you'll get it. That's been the key for me. Having the confidence to just start, and know I'll figure it out on the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 02:41 PM
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I have come to the conclusion that what I am seeking is neither sex nor validation but a feeling of deep-connectivity on a day to day basis with a woman. I read this yesterday and it's been rattling in my head ever since. This was something I felt myself, but in my rock bottom blue pill days. Got no good insight to share about how to find it, except that I relate. Since coming here, I buried it along with my desire for validation. I've not figured out myself how to separate the connection from s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 02:31 PM
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How long until she lets her guard down and gets on this train? Right around the time pissy wife quits making you sad, it goes away.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 02:12 PM
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Strong first, good body gets easy.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 02:10 PM
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531 And don't just download the app, buy the book and read it! Learn Wendler's principles so you understand what you're doing and why.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 02:08 PM
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Learning how to control your internal "inner tube" pressure is a huge next step in building strength. Lack of it, I think, is where most noobs hit their first big plateau. Your muscles are stronger, but they aren't anchored to a solid base. Learning to control that pressure is what kind of ties your whole body together and locks everything down and keeps all the forces you generate from dissipating. Kind of an esoteric explanation, but you'll feel a big difference when you get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 01:40 PM
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Regarding your deadlift thing....look up Valsalva. Learn how to do it right instead of accidentally. Also, Keep in mind that those dudes you're seeing pass out in your video are probably doing near max attempts. That's not the type of zone you want to be hitting all that often. Guys come here and think "manliness", like they've got to kill themselves in the weight room and push to the edge all the time. My best strength gains come when I'm in a groove of about 70-85% of my max for 15-25 total re…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 07:18 PM
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This is apparently an injury, not simply overtraining. Decent chance it's flexibility related. I had some intense shoulder problems early this year, and was convinced I had some sort of injury/damage. Couldn't do anything but push ups and front squats for about 2 months. Ended up being, basically, muscle spasms and poor flexibility. Once I got the spasms to relax and worked the flexibility a lot, the problems went away. Took a long time, but beats the hell out of surgery. That stuff is super com…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 07:01 PM
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Sports related. Name in the stadium type of deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 04:45 PM
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Owning: A few weeks ago, I was invited back to my alma mater to receive an award. It's something I was really excited about, and proud to be honored with. The reason I post this is because my changes over the past 15 months made that the entire weekend something I was capable of handling as a man rather than a validation seeking beta child. And it made an incredible difference in how it actually went, vs. how I imagine this would have went if it would have happened pre-pill... By beta self would…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 01:03 PM
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Looking forward to your flameout. Don't delete your account so we can all link back to it as a what not to do.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 05:37 PM
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Maybe ChrisBeatCancer is currently a better option for leadership than you.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 05:33 PM
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Childish ways to use this sub: "Here's my plan, what do you think?" "I'm in x situation, what should I do?" Masculine ways to use this sub: "Here's what I have done, here's what has changed for me" "I was in x situation. Here's what I did. Here's what happened. here's what I did well. Here's what I think I didn't do well" See the difference? Men do things and learn from them. Children ask for permission and validation.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 05:28 PM
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Yep. If you see an NFL weight room, It's not a bunch of retards yelling and psyching themselves up. It's grown ups at work, doing their jobs. Just do your program. Fucking simple. Reality isn't an Under Armour commercial or training montage.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 10:09 PM
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If my GF is doing X then I need to 1) lift more, 2) read more, 3) smack her (ass) more often, 4) fuck her more aggressively, 5) be more active in setting boundaries 6) etc". Lift more, sure. The rest YMMV. Being more active in setting boundaries, if you don't have the SMV, is bound to backfire. Not saying you should tolerate bullshit, but going overboard with "My wife doesn't XYZ" too soon is a losing formula. You don't mention the part where you have a life apart from her, and so "her" is only …
/r/askMRP28/09/17 05:50 PM
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Pook
/r/askMRP27/09/17 11:10 PM
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I would say you should read "Sex at Dawn", it has interesting perspective on how sex was done from an evolutionary perspective. Sex at Dawn has been picked apart by a long, long list of scholars. Just because it's in a book doesn't mean it's true. One could imagine dozens of other reasons as to why women might moan during sex.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 02:51 PM
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Not for newbies - could drastically backfire. How so? Seems to me this is the ideal course of action given the circumstance.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 05:29 PM
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http://jackmurphylive.com/be-more-dominant/ The last section, about The King Position. >Spooning
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:28 PM
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Are you so fat you can't do 2 push ups? Or so skinny and weak that you can't do 2 push ups?
/r/askMRP21/09/17 06:10 PM
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This post was a game changer for me: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/ Short version: Set calories, hit macros, weigh yourself, track it all. I used to do all different variations of low carb dieting, and it all led to fast weight loss followed by weight gain. I tried IF and Warrior Diet, but I can binge eat like a MFer. "Eat one meal til I'm full? Challenge Accepted!". Never lost any weight doing that. From probably 2002 until last year, I was on a st…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 05:52 PM
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Part of the reason I switched to an IF style, 2 meal a day diet is so that I can have a couple of big meals where I can get that full feeling. Calories are calories. If the food volume is bothering you, there's always chicken breast. I got tired of spending so much money on chicken and time cooking it, so I went with something a with more fat content. Hell of a lot cheaper & easier to spend 10 minutes cooking a big bowl of hamburger than it was thawing and grilling 5 lbs of chicken a few days a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 05:25 PM
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More specifically, removing time and attention can be a longer process with gradually increasing times. So she turns you down, perhaps you remove time and attention for a day. Next time it is a couple of days etc. I haven't been able to dial this in as a strategy that works more than in very tiny doses. I tend to get into a reinforcing circle where I pull back, wife pulls back more, then 2 weeks later it's Cold War. I might be cutting back affection too much. Makes sense - keep affection high, p…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 03:59 PM
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Thanks for the info. The initial intertia is a thing I'm trying to overcome. Been looking into it, just online, most estimates I see are close to $50/week. Big initial block is just how to find a decent specialist who will help me optimize and not get myself committed to paying hundreds of dollars a month when others are paying <$20.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 03:47 PM
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To be clear, my kid bulking on the ground beef means he eats all the regular shit an 8th grade kid eats - typical cereal at home, school breakfast & lunch, family dinner. And THEN add beef to that. Can't really get him to do a full lb most of the time, but half is good. An adult with a purpose can force down a pound easily. Me leaning out on ground beef means, basically, eating two 1lb chub packs of ground beef a day and that's about it. I maintain at around 3000 calories, I hit to about 2500-27…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 03:39 PM
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My time and attention have gradually been reducing over the past few months, Been here for 9 months, been reducing time & attention for "A few months". So first of all, you went for just 6-7 months before turning to "remove time and attention". Maybe it worked a little bit at first, and then had diminishing returns, so you kept cranking up the removal, and now I bet it's basically the permanent state? Kind of a cold war of logistics only talk, maybe the occasional dominance heavy sexual initiati…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 02:33 PM
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I'm obviously biased by my own experience, which is having a long history with strength training, so my body might respond to weight training differently. But I was able to drop ~30 lbs while getting a LOT stronger. I was fat and kinda strong, went to lean and stronger. 5x5 is a fine starter program, but it has a limited shelf-life, and I think it gets shorter the more athletic or trained you are to start with. It's job is essentially to teach your body to be able to push harder than your body k…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 01:32 PM
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Get strong(er). Get down to 15% bf by cutting calories and most carbs. Focus your diet on adequate protein. It's more than you think. Once there (15%), find what is the most calories you can eat and maintain your current bw for a month. With those two numbers (protein, max maintenance calories), you can go whatever direction you want. Keep getting stronger cardio is far less important than you think. Prioritize as such.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 03:04 AM
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I had to go get the blood work done myself... What's the process to getting to this point? Did you track this all down yourself and find someone who would give you what you wanted, or did you discover low T and then find a specialist? $15/mo....I never imagined the cost was that low.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 09:15 PM
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Oh yeah - my daily meals basically alternate between plain old hamburger and crock pot pork or beef. Crock pot it and then fry it up in a pan, carnitas style. $$$ Budget wise, the hamburger is tough to beat though. And for some reason, I feel like superman after a few straight days of beef only. I never quite get that effect with the pork.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 08:18 PM
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I am beginning to doubt the way some posters characterize the degree of effectiveness, telling extreme stories as if they're a daily occurrence (or should be) when maybe they're really only happening once every month or two, or other forms of exaggeration in the hopes of gaining acceptance by this community. Yes, no doubt this happens. So then, this is where you have to be the man and chart your path. What works for you vs. wondering why your daily life doesn't equal the self-flattering stories …
/r/askMRP20/09/17 08:03 PM
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Applies to everything, not just mrp stuff. The person who believes what I believed yesterday is clearly a fool, because I'm smarter now and don't believe that stuff any more.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 05:59 PM
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I probably could have been more clear to begin with, rather than cranking up the snark to 11. These posts irk me - probably because they remind me so much of myself. I should be more instructive as to why. I moved into wife's house about a month before the wedding, so no real cohabitation. But she was knocked up, which probably sped up the "Oh shit, THIS is marriage" realization.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 05:31 PM
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A god damn doctorate is nothing to minimize. Lots of things fit that criteria.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 05:15 PM
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I play the same game no matter the stakes. Game is still different. In a low stakes game, you're not going to scare off a guy who just wants to see your hand. Young guys in their LTRs don't have a clue that they're not married. I was one of them - I dated my wife for 7 years before getting married. I remember saying to a buddy the month of my wedding "I've been with her for 7 years, how different can this be." Didn't take even 6 months before I realized how wrong I was. This guy, in his head, th…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 05:09 PM
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Stakes fundamentally change the situation. OP is in a penny ante game.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 04:40 PM
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I've been in this LTR for 7 months. ....So I'll ask this forum of 50 year old men how they handle their wives in 20 year marriages, because it's basically the same thing.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 03:41 PM
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I just sat next to her, shielding her with my body and presence, though minding my own. Every now and then she'd turn her head when they raised their voice, and she saw that I was an immovable rock. Some people actually got up from their sit and moved away. I didn't pay them any attention. When it was time for her to get off, I stood up and made way for her to pass. She gave me long look at me with a candid smile, saying "thank you". When I was a pussy, I sat next to hot chicks and didn't talk t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 01:38 PM
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I don't get the love for eggs. The protein content isn't that great. Add a pound of 80/20 hamburger to your regular diet each day. It's 1000+ calories and 75+ grams of protein. Can usually find it for $3.00/lb ish if you buy the big chub packs. Throw some italian beef seasoning or powdered aujus to it and its fucking great. Seems to be a great all-purpose food - I'm leaning out on it and my kid is bulking up on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 08:03 PM
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OP, next you can research wife's career +/- for having kids, and maybe even sex in general. DEER, DEER, DEER.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 05:48 PM
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discuss this with your wife with FACTS Sorry, wrong. Frame > Facts. Arguing with facts is DEERing. You can't logic a woman into changing her name if you don't have frame. Either she comes along to your terms or she doesn't. Unfortunately for OP, he doesn't seem to have it. If it's not something he will walk away from, he has no leverage. If she doesn't care much whether he walks away, he has no leverage.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 05:34 PM
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So she insists on clinging to her father's name, because independent woman. This would be a dealbreaker to me. It signals priorities. Career > family.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 05:25 PM
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While the topic of punishment seems to be the thing going on right now, I mean in general. It seems like there is a pattern to how people miss the mark. I've noticed that posters sometimes experience the same problems in bunches. Probably partly due to mis-application of a recently influential post, or possibly due to applying some wisdom gathered from a post that sounds great when reading but isn't quite hashed out all the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 06:48 PM
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Seen a lot of posts lately where people are getting wrapped up in punishment cycles wondering why things aren't improving. Interesting how certain things like this tend to show up around here in bunches.... Are certain posts causing over-corrections in mrpers? Like, was there a good post on withdrawing attention recently that had a lot of guys think "He's right, I need to do more of this..." And then a group manage to all fuck it up in similar ways, and come back here with the fallout?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 05:18 PM
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I will do this - that book probably didn't get my full attention the first time around. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:41 PM
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Good post. I've been wondering if there better, more covert ways to reinforce? I mean, part of the RP learning curve is "womanese". Is reinforcing with overt compliments the best way to communicate? Your move of putting your hands on the improved parts of a more fit wife seems to be an example of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:02 PM
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Do you give a shit about anything anymore? /u/GargantuaBlarg29 nailed it in his post. Ho-hum. No direction, aside from "whatever you need, honey." You're shortcutting to the self-actualization phase. You think you're zen and above it all now, but really you've just quit. Your whole post reads like the inverse of No More Mr. Nice guy. You are cultivating covert contracts, and proud of yourself for it. You seemed to have convinced yourself that if you put your wife and kids first, you'll be happy.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 01:59 PM
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Sounds like another round of ACME to me. Now you're trying to cough up the pill and live the Blue Pill dream. Well, the last 2 weeks we have had more sex than we have ever had in our 10 year marriage. We had sex 6 times in 5 days. It has been the best sex of our marriage. It was everything we have ever wanted. She initiates nearly every day. We are connecting in every other way, also. -- This was all a month ago. What happens when this lulls? Or ends? Can you handle it, or do you just think this…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 06:22 PM
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I don't know man, I think if you've got to have an overt discussion that this is a boundary, you're in a bad place. Women don't fall into this shit any easier than men do. She knows exactly what she's doing, and that's why she clears it out. Stop making excuses for her. Her clearing her browser history and all conversations is alarming to me, but maybe she's just neurotic and doesn't want you to know she spends her day posting comments on Jezebel. You're doing the right thing in not confronting …
/r/askMRP08/09/17 03:05 AM
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Sure - I get this. I get working toward removing the emotional component of your turn being over. I get accepting that there's nothing you can do to prevent that, or to control her behavior. And even having your exit prepared, with an eye toward greener pastures. My hang up is that in order to discover something that someone doesn't want you to find out about, there has to be some amount of 'care' - as in giving a fuck. If they're making an effort to hide, it's going to take effort to uncover.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 02:38 AM
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This, I don't quite understand. I'd love to be enlightened as to frame this in a different manner. Putting myself in Pilkington's shoes, I wonder how I'd handle this. So if there's a better way, I'm interested. I understand the the not caring part - at least not caring in terms of hinging your personal feelings on what she's doing. But I do 'care', as in there are consequences for her actions. I understand not polluting your mind with obsessive thoughts of what she's doing, but not digging where…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 07:27 PM
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It's because it can all work when you have a solid frame. Evade, joke, STFU, brutal honesty. All can work. Try them all out when you're figuring out what your frame looks and feels like. The ones that work are likely the ones that are congruent with your personality. Use and hone what works, discard what doesn't. As those improve, you're more confident with your repertoire. More confidence and congruence = more solid frame = more ability to "handle" these situations.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:48 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6petvw/own_your_shit_weekly_july_25_2017/dkp30l8/ I posted this to /u/GargantuaBlarg29 a while back as starting points. Start with his first stop on the Joe Rogan Experience. The first handful of things he turned into his podcast are good stand-alone lectures. The personality series is excellent. Probably a tough entry point. The bible series is just the most intellectually exhilarating thing I've I've experienced in my adult life.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 04:09 PM
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The stat is that 80% of women reproduced and 20% of men reproduced.....therefore 20% of men reproduced w/ 80% of women. The remainder did not reproduce.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 02:08 PM
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I always found it to be more of a relief than something to be angry about. My life beforehand was always a battle of wills to force myself into doing something I hated because I thought it would get me what I wanted, and then having the payoff never payoff. That right there is a definition of hell. Now, at least you know the arrangement. It's got its own drawbacks - the death of the BP idealization is something I keep running into. But at least now you've got a path where you can work toward wha…
/r/askMRP31/08/17 01:56 PM
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I'm not "defeatist", just been there enough times. You're setting yourself up for failure. The fact that you're relying so heavily on calculators for a diet and using it to project results tells me enough. A calculator is a blunt tool you can use to create a starting point if you're totally clueless about where to start. That's about it. Everyone comes into a diet thinking that since they're super motivated now, they can handle the most difficult road to the goal. You can, for a while. But then …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:33 PM
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1 - wrong sub to ask girlfriend questions. Ain't that the truth. "Been dating my LTR for 8 months now, so we're practically married."
/r/askMRP29/08/17 04:54 PM
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1500 calories for someone your size is starving yourself. You'll fail if you continue to do it. You're already proving me right with you "insomnia+ binge last night". Don't be in a rush to your goal weight. Find a method that offers slow, consistent progress and - most importantly - is achievable. Dieting is hard enough when you set a reasonable goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:41 PM
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At current body comp, losing one pound of fat reduces body fat percentage by -0.21%. Gaining a pound of muscle reduces fat percentage by -0.16%. Recomp of a pound of fat into muscle nets -0.36% but my past experience says this sort of recomp is extremely difficult. Gaining 1lb of muscle a month is the upper end of possible so -0.16%/month during bulk. On the other hand a cut at -3lbs/week would result in -12lbs/month or -2.59% body fat. This whole section: Get it out of your head. Diet is about …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:45 PM
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When I did my big cut last year, I stalled out at about 235. After about a month of being stuck, I cut calories again to like 2200. (most of my weight was lost at about 2500/day.) I felt like shit and didn't lose any additional weight. At that point, I basically decided I was good with being 235 for a while. I was closing in on my bodyweight press goal, so I was OK with not hitting my original weight goal of 230. At this point I decided to find what a maintenance level of calories would be. Over…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 06:42 PM
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So I'll preface all of this by saying I'm not a trainer...so I'm heavily biased toward my body type and what I've trained for. But I know how to get bigger, I know how to get stronger, and I've learned how to eat well for what I want to achieve. I've not been able to take myself down to shredded levels of bodyfat, and if I wanted to go much below say 12% I don't have the knowledge to get there. But even in my fat and beta days, This stuff - lifting programs and strength training was something I …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:37 PM
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If she fucks Dave, he becomes Chad.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 06:51 PM
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Always interesting to see how much of themselves guys reveal in posts like this. So all the "fear of Chad" posts Or "I read a fear of Chad into everyone else's posts." I've got my own sticking points, we all do this to some extent. This is kind of your thing, isn't it. You're the guy always asking about RP guys in fiction, RP celebs, and shit like that, right? Like you need an external target in the distance to aim for. Interesting...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 03:20 AM
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I will work on outlining some stuff. Been wanting to get out of my head and typed up somewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 12:33 AM
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Do you look better when you cut? Better as in good enough that it's worth it? Or are you just a flatter (deflated) version of the bulked you? What do you do for lifting routines on bulk vs cut? I get the impression that you do a cut for a while, and then you decide you're not getting anywhere so you need to bulk...then you feel fat, so you cut...and you're in this circle where you just bounce from one to the other but there's no net gain. One cut looks like the next, etc. Your posts sound awfull…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 08:42 PM
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You know this already, I'm sure....but your diet and lifting has no direction. As long as I've been coming here - since at least last September - you can't decide on bulk/cut or what your goal is. Or I can't deduce it at least. What is it? What's your plan to get there, aside from bulking when you feel shitty from too much cutting until you feel fat and start cutting again?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 05:21 PM
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So we agree then, it seems. If the excursion is something that two male colleagues wouldn't do together, it has become more date than business outing.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 08:45 PM
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If you want to force yourself into missing the point, nothing I can do to prevent it.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 08:04 PM
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The thing that worries me is that what if my wife thinks one of the guys is hot and/or funny. And they'll be drinking. That's why this one question won't help you. There's nothing you can do to prevent that scenario. Either she does or she doesn't. Got nothing to do with you. All you can do is make yourself good enough to be able to replace her if she opts for Kayak Chad. That's not going to happen in the next 3 weeks.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 06:20 PM
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What are the odds two that men get invited on a tandem kayaking excursion by male business associates? I'm not in a kayaking heavy area of the country....but this sounds gay AF to me.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 05:22 PM
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You can, but that's not really the point of mrp/Askmrp. Your problem is akin to this: I have a barbell with 250 lbs on it on my floor. I want to lift it over my head, but right now I can barely move it. How do I get this barbell over my head? Coaches could give you all sorts of pointers about the finer points of weightlifting technique, but if you're untrained, putting a heavy dumbbell over your head ain't going to happen. The actual answer is "get strong enough to lift it over your head." But I…
/r/askMRP22/08/17 04:01 PM
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Those are all valid points for you. I just can't gin up the outrage myself.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 05:36 PM
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I don't quite understand the hard line on hitting that comes up around here. Feels like an MRA tit for tat thing - "If the man had have done that, he'd be in jail". I think context matters a lot. Wife's struck me a few times in anger or frustration. It's never escalated past that over the course of 15 years. I have the thought, on the occasion that it happened, that I have the right to be outraged, but it would be fake. I can't bring myself to care that someone who I outweigh by 100lbs punched m…
/r/askMRP19/08/17 11:21 AM
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Assuming you're here because there's something in your life that you are or have been unhappy about, consider that ideas like .... slow and have too low density of knowledge for me. and Maybe there are more info in them but guides are faster source of information than books. ....might be a reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:04 PM
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If you can't handle it, don't do it. Or, just try it and see how it goes for you. What's gonna happen...worse sex? We talk too much here. Sometimes you just gotta have a case of the fuck-its. Throw a firecracker into your life and see what happens.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:34 AM
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Don't have a heart to heart with your dad. If there's something you need to say, write it out and then throw it away. That's for you. You want to change things with him, start helping him with stuff, doing things together, or talking to him about regular shit. Remember....women talk, men do. Don't talk to your wife about anything either. Sets you solidly in her frame. Get to work turning the ship around.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:26 AM
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Guys gotta confront here that maybe you're the one that's the bad lay. Sometimes they don't give you much to work with. But if you're not fun to fuck, what do you want her to do?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:22 AM
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If you went over to OYS, it can look a lot like choreplay. OYS is where guys go to inventory what parts of their life are being "owned" and what parts aren't. ?Guys here are working on owning it because we set a standard and live to it. Whereas choreplay is doing things to show to your wife, or to give her 'more time', or to show her you love her, or whatever. She's setting the standard and you get to see if you live up to it. This place only works when you are at the point where you're willing …
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:51 PM
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Here's a chapter you would find within the first ~100 pages of the 4th book you were supposed to have read. https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 01:27 PM
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"Yep. You win"
/r/askMRP14/08/17 06:56 PM
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I offered her some of my steak and chips but she wasnt interested. Failed right here. Before she even started.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 02:15 PM
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If your wife was fat or ugly, would it change anything if you didn't say it? Youre mad because she shattered your illusion. Be grateful for the brief moment of honesty.
/r/askMRP12/08/17 12:58 PM
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Totally didn't see that but you're right. I can read those words (about bluepill ends via redpill) and think I understand them, and yet unknowingly live it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/17 12:16 PM
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Maybe using an ironic definition of Rambo in my post title is a bit too nuanced for a mediocre writer to accomplish in a large online forum. I can accept that my peeve is a spergy obsession over definitions. Actual Rambo doesn't help a noob out, agreed. But being afraid to even approach being abrasive out of Rambo paranoia will stunt progress too. Cautioning guys that upping the alpha too much is the cardinal sin leads to guys being afraid to push outside their comfort zone. And their beta comfo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 06:28 PM
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But if you think that by spending time together, talking to her, being loyal, communicating efficiently, and appeasing her feelz, she will be eager to suck your cock…. All you are doing is securing your inevitable future. I know enough to not have been thinking that stuff would help me get laid. But I did kind of think I was at a point where I could have it both ways - ie, flirt on the walk. Do some light asshole game while at the grocery store....stuff like that. I can do all the game & kino at…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 06:13 PM
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I think noobs need go get in there and fuck up a bit to calibrate themselves. If "slow down" is the only advice they get when you get the first wave of push-back that we all got starting out, I think it delays how long it takes to figure out. Guys can't pass shit tests if they're afraid to make their wife say "I don't like the new you"
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 04:47 PM
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Exactly. I agree w/ steeltoe's definition of Rambo. But it seems to be floating toward a different definition, or in the very least an overdiagnosis. What I did here is basic gaming of wife, but if done by a n00b unsuccessfully, he's getting feedback to not do it anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 04:41 PM
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Here's one. (you'll see the seeds of my Rambo diatribe there in the comments) https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/6nu5vq/i_think_this_is_a_comfort_test_but_not_sure_how/ And another. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/6nx38f/the_boat_is_rocking/ In both of these, it's possible that the OPs went a little Rambo, by the traditional definition. However.....the only evidence I see in either is the wife's reaction. Guy isn't really describing Ramboish behavior. Logic seems to be that if Wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 04:32 PM
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Other advanced moves: I wear a watch on my wrist so I can find out what time it is with a brief glance.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 01:33 AM
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When even this guy thinks "Rambo" applies to him, the term has outlived its usefulness.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 10:30 PM
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I have a strong code of honour This is how pushovers rationalize letting people walk all over them.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 10:10 PM
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First.... You're tall and athletic, and you lift a lot, you say. Guess what....if you're a big, jacked pussy, that's actually a more of a negative than if you were 5'8 and skinny fat pussy. It screams incongruence. Everybody notices the tall, athletic guy when you walk into the room. And it sets high expectations - and some level of deference to someone who looks alpha. If you are granted that deference, and then you push it away or you fail, you fucking fail hard. And everybody sees it. How to …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 10:05 PM
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+1. Fuck this guy.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:44 PM
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I would appreciate any advice. Lift
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:01 PM
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I gotta disagree with these "What do you want" posts. You're too new, too fresh and saturated with BP conditioning to know what you actually want vs. what you want because you think you should want it, or wanting something because you like the validation (snuggling is attention from wife). You've got to break old habits and mental cues before you can start to understand what the Red Pill Aware version of you wants. Not everyone's going to agree with me on this, but I think a lot of guys get to a…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 06:21 PM
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Nah. Sounds like a sexy move to me. He wasn't asking, he was telling her what she was going to give him. That's how I read it.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 01:23 AM
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That's up to you. I went through a phase after coming here where I thought I had to be all "You don't speak that way to me". Then I realized things that 'should' bother me didn't have to. Your frame is yours. You make the rules.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 08:18 PM
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Good work. Your back and forth sounds a lot like what I've got going on at my house. I like your banter - seems like a fun place to be. I was tempted to call her back and remind her that she won't talk to me like that, but I decided to open a book and read instead. There gets to be a point where a person can get gratuitous with the 'tone' corrections. This instance seems like one of them. If you decide you're setting a new boundary, expect a little steam to come from the relief valve. I mean, if…
/r/askMRP04/08/17 06:19 PM
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Let her do her job. Sounds like you're putting more effort in than she is. Clingy husband. Ick. You don't want to be that guy.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 09:08 PM
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The point of the ["Fix her Feelz"] (http://archive.is/rZ7DN) post is that there's a lot of fun to be had leading your woman through the emotional roller coaster she craves. Your sit back and be the rock (with a beer, noted), I guess, is a valid way to handle some shit you don't want to deal with. Stoke some indignation, lust, or anger while displaying that your frame isn't brought down by her drama is a level up.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 08:57 PM
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aka bringing you into her frame. :-/ Either there's a massive missing piece to this puzzle or A & B are off the charts diabolical maniacs. Lean toward the former.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 07:13 PM
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Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but your #4 sounds like marriage counselor BS to me. "She needs to feel heard, so listen and reassure". When you do that, you let her stew in her drama. Fix her Feelz is more about having the frame that has a gravitational pull for her. "I exist here, in this awesome place, and you feel good when you're here. Remember? Come join me."
/r/askMRP03/08/17 06:30 PM
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Because you're insecure and can't stand having someone you don't know think you don't have friends? JFC...have you never traveled alone for work?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:13 AM
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Verbal intercourse is optional
/r/askMRP02/08/17 08:07 PM
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Back day & shoulder day would be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 07:24 PM
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I assume it's when they won't allow you to be the bottom anymore.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 07:00 PM
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Do you have an urgent matter to speak about?
/r/askMRP02/08/17 04:48 PM
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Maybe she's just sick. Not everything under the stars is caused by you.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 03:26 PM
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Amazing how many guys here married 9s.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 01:56 PM
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That was me....I did shit like that a lot pre RP. Talk about "us", "I need more from you", "why don't you put as much effort into me as I do you" yadda yadda. Was a needy bitch. It's nauseating to think about now. I completely cut it out of my behavior VERY early on after finding this place. Completely....never said another word about "us". Was one thing I mastered relatively quickly. Sure, my body language may have said something different while I was in the "fake it til you make it" phase, but…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 01:53 PM
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https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/05/19/be-a-skittles-man/
/r/askMRP01/08/17 06:46 PM
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Old episodes of Mike Cernovich podcast are gold. He hasn't put any out in quite some time, but all the old episodes are still out there. I didn't want to like it...not really a Cernovich guy. But you can't deny that his mindset work is something to learn from. Mark Baxter is a good podcast. Mostly Manosphere Twitter guys as guests. Jordan Peterson's podcast isn't mrp/trp, but I think it's foundational stuff for inner game & self improvement. I also put together a few youtube playlists a while ba…
/r/askMRP01/08/17 02:17 PM
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I'm tempted to lift more than 3 times per week, but I'm going to continue to stick to the program for now. Good call. It's crazy how our natural inclination is to think "This program is going so great, I should totally change it and start doing something else!"....more frequency, more intensity, whatever. As long as results continue to ratchet up, stick to what is working. The concept of training optimally rather than training maximally is a game changer.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 01:33 PM
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When you put 2+2 together on your own, it tends to stick a little better than if you're spoonfed the info.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 01:18 PM
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I wouldn't call TRM "advanced". It was the first sidebar book that clicked for me, and I wasn't starting from an advanced point by any stretch. I think maybe some guys need the whats first and the whys next. With myself, I think I needed the whys first. Where NMMNG gave me a "Ok, some if this might apply if I squint." TRM hit me square in the jaw. Rollo uses a few big words & academic style that might scare off some......but it's not like the concepts you learn in NMMNG or MMSLP are prerequisite…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 01:19 PM
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I didn't think the book was that great myself, but I assume that's because it was written more in chick speak. But if you want your wife to read it, your best bet is to tell her to recommend it to her friend. If you frame it as "Your friend should read it" wife's going to hamster about it and start digging into it herself..."Why does he want her to read it and not me?" If you tell your wife to read it, she'll think "What does he stand to gain by me taking the advice in this book"....which leads …
/r/askMRP28/07/17 06:32 PM
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I'm generally a pretty chill guy, but the fall out from the sex schedule would send me into a blind rage once every 60 days or so. Was basically how long it took me to get fed up with wife welching on the schedule and never 'making up' for missed days. You'd think that experiencing that every other month for 4 years would make a person realize maybe it was a flawed arrangement.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 05:30 PM
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Tell your wife "Your friend should read The Surrendered Wife". Either person can make the decision to change the dynamic in their relationship. Put it in her court. Just like with us men, all she can do is decide to help herself.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 04:10 PM
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5x5 is not really enough volume to trigger an overtraining response....although if you've been working at the top end of your strength levles for a long time, it can be overtaxing to your CNS. I wouldn't expect this to be the case in week 7 though. But never be afraid to knock 10-15 lbs off your training weight and work back up. Stress, sleep, and diet are other factors. Regarding your diet, if IF and 'hardly any carbs' is new for you, that might be causing you some problems. I used to be a low …
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:10 PM
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Do you just want something to fuck, or do you want something that wants to fuck you? Scheduled sex = negotiating desire I was in the scheduled sex trap for a long while. There are so many negatives for me that it's hardly worth it. Biggest one was that if there ever was ever a moment of fleeting genuine desire from my wife and it happened to be on a non-schedule day, she'd shut it down. A sure path to bad sex for us. It also kills your game and your need to pick up on the signals your wife is pu…
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:57 AM
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Cut/Bulk are primarily short-hand for diet. Bulk = surplus Cut = deficit
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:36 PM
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If you're Zinc or Mag deficient, it will help. I sleep better when I'm on it. Might be placebo. But positive placebo effects is something I'm willing to pay for. ZMA is pretty cheap. Lotta dudes swear it helps with semen production, too. Bigger loads. Worth a shot just for that, I'd say.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:27 PM
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I'm working on a long form post on a similar topic. Most important thing: what is your starting point? Are you fat? If you're even kinda fat, your #1 priority is making your scale number go down slowly and steadily. Diet is #1. Find "You are what you eat" on the mrp sidebar and start there. Walk and diet, every day. Not starving yourself....slight deficit + intentional macro tracking. Protein at 1g per lb lean bodymass....I tend to favor lowish carb (100g/day)....but this isn't a hard and fast r…
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:21 PM
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Reading it on my kindle now
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 12:17 PM
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So you're not good at planning date nights, fair enough. Meanwhile, your expertise lies in plate spinning?
/r/askMRP26/07/17 09:35 PM
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You're thinking about this like a man. "what would make me (a man) dread". Forgetting that your wife isn't a man. At least I assume so - with her being so Alpha and all, maybe the roles are reversed. Women aren't magical mind readers, but they do pick up on covert communication that most men aren't even aware they are putting off. Why do you think it's such a common thing here for a guy to do a little catch & release over lunch, and then coincidentally have his wife drag him to the bedroom when …
/r/askMRP26/07/17 02:08 PM
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Describe what IDGAF attitude means to you. Lots of guys blow this part. It shouldn't be the outwardly projected tough guy type of "I don't give a fuck", nor the nihilistic "I don't give a fuck about anything." It should be more along the lines of "she no longer elicits an emotional response from me." <- that's what the productive version of not giving a fuck looks like.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 11:55 PM
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The tribe has spoken. <extinguishes /u/allmen 's torch>
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 09:29 PM
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I think she was setting you up... That's a really astute observation. Multiple mild shit tests when OP actually has an audience. Instead of crushing them, he highlights his sensitivity for her the next day, allowing her to re-live the failure. A bigger flub than I initially thought.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 06:05 PM
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Yes. You were butt-hurt. You "Drew a boundary" around your fragile ego? Maybe look into that.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 05:27 PM
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A good entry point for JBP is his first appearance on Joe Rogan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04wyGK6k6HE He got kinda famous for opposing the SJW thing in Canada. But whether or not the whole culture war thing interests you, his real work as a psychology professor is what I found most intriguing. They get into that later on in the interview. The first lecture he put on his podcast is another good starting point. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2c3m0tt5KcE From here, you can chase his stuff w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 02:32 PM
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You need to simultaneously feel good with who and what you've become, but that road leads to complacency. You need to simultaneously feel like you want more, but that road also leads to insatiable desire. A big centerpiece of Jordan Peterson's personality lectures is how our brain's chemical reward system is wired to reward progress, not achievement. I've kind of aligned my hobbies and goals to be oriented in that manner. I work to make my goals be centered around the process....which is this to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:35 PM
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You gotta get strong before any of the other shit you think you want to do in the weight room will be effective.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 03:21 AM
1

Before I start, I want to say that I think that coming up with the Levels of Dread post from scratch was brilliant work by you. That system is the keystone of my mrp experience. I'm incredibly grateful that it exists for me to nit-pick. My hypothesis, basically, is that a plurality of guys are still too butthurt at DL4 to be able to apply it with maturity. Guys at this point are often still too raw to not look at EVERYTHING their wife does as a slight to them. The raw egos don't have the frame, …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 03:43 PM
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I think butt-hurt comes from relying on others as your source of validation and self-esteem. Her accepting your sexual initiation makes you feel like you're 'good enough'....and her rejection makes you feel like you're not. At some point, with your self improvement, you've got to do work on your self worth and figure out that you're enough without her confirming it for you.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 03:10 PM
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The fact that it's ridiculous should make it easier to not take seriously. "Daddy, the other ponies are mad at Starfire." You: "How could you be mad about that! It's not even real!"
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:51 PM
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A&A it....next time you fuck, mutter "Page 46, works every time" when you get up out of the bed.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:13 PM
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Stop taking the content of her complaints seriously. "Were you saying something? I got distracted..... your tits jiggle when you talk all sassy like that."
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:08 PM
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I suspect that putting it where it is in the order is the reason the Rambo thing has become such a common outcome. OTOH, maybe a few weeks of Rambo isn't the worst thing in the world. Trial and error and adjusting course is a key to success.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:58 PM
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Women thrive on drama & intrigue. If you get wifey wondering what the hell's going on, hamster starts working for you. Her boring, schlubby pet beta has suddenly become "mysterious". If you tell her, it ruins all the potential feelz. The changes will cause her stress, and she'll test you to validate whether or not you are who you are pretending to be...and whether the changes are permanent or whether they are temporary, like that time you bought an elliptical for the basement. If you explain to …
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:06 PM
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I'd go as far to move 4 back past 5, 6, & 7. Dress well, learn (or re-learn) game, run it on your wife, and practice it on other women. Those all are pretty simple to implement while in the 'fake it' phase. But, as you explain, conditioning availability takes some maturity and self awareness that the newly unplugged often lack.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 01:58 AM
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Shit testing isn't bad behavior. It's as natural for women to do as it is for you to stare at a set of pokey nipples. Don't take it so personal. Pass them. They're fun.
/r/askMRP20/07/17 06:58 PM
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Was thinking about this the other day when I dropped a link to the Levels of Dread post to someone in askMRP. I'm sure there's a reason why DL4 is where it is in the levels of dread, but if a person is marching through them month by month as is recommended, it makes more sense to me to put 4 after 6 & 7. I think in month 4, most guys are too low value for it to make much difference. And more importantly, socially retarded, frustrated beta male doesn't have the frame to be able to handle such a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 03:22 PM
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WISNIFG, if you had read it, would pound into your head that you're the ultimate judge of you. So go, or don't go. That's your decision. The flip side is that being the ultimate judge of you is a responsibility to be taken seriously. If you are poor judge of yourself, you will be miserable in the long run. You'll find yourself in hell, to borrow from Jordan Peterson. If you take "You are the ultimate judge of you" to mean "Do whatever you can justify to yourself", you're eventually going to find…
/r/askMRP19/07/17 09:30 PM
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Depends on your goal and what your limiting factor is. With regard to the small sets, think of it as practicing a skill. How many total reps do you do in a day when you go to exhaustion? If you do 3 reps by 12-15 sets, you get a ton of practice without it being taxing. What it probably won't do as well is train your grip strength. Also won't give you a bicep pump if that's what you are chasing. Like I said, depends on your goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 05:03 PM
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A little of both probably. Some of the dominance stuff I tried was forced, some less so. I suspect my approach to the forced stuff vs. the genuine stuff (dirty talk, pinning her arms back) differed subtly. Women love to be the thing that gets a guy going, so if your genuine level of enjoyment goes up, I think that reinforces it in their head. I think my ability to handle it like a shit test changed over that time... being laughed at in bed a year ago would have been ego crushing....now, I can ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 03:36 PM
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She doesn't respond much to the slight dominance plays I'm doing, and she's never liked dirty talk (though I enjoy doing it). Either, she's just not into that part of the DEVI spectrum, or our relationship isn't such that she's open to it from me. I'm split on which I think it is. It's too bad, because I like being dominant/objectification (in the bedroom, anyway) - and I'd like to explore that more. She may just not be able to come along for that ride, which would be a shame. We'll see. Keep pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 02:57 PM
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Pullups twice/wk: currently 8 reps chin-over-bar, then a few more to exhaustion Pull ups are a game changer. It's the squat for the upper body. Sprinkle in sets of 3. Like between every set, just do 3. Or if you have a bar or something at home, do 3 every time you walk past it. High rep sets are fine, but its super easy to sneak in a ton of volume without it being all that taxing with the 3 rep sets method. As you get more efficient with the movement, it starts to feel like the whole pull up is …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 02:35 PM
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What brings you here then? Lack of sex? What led you to finding mrp/trp? Rather than reply to you on separate reply threads, I'll just post this all in one: I detest the frequency with which Rambo term is used. I've posted this before, but Rambo has started to mean "Your wife is reacting negatively, therefore you are fucking up". No, no, no. There is an uncomfortable period whenever anything in life changes.. It's like the 'Who moved my cheese' book from the 90s. Things changed.....now she's unc…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 02:20 PM
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I'd agree. There's a missing piece somewhere.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 08:30 PM
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ahem My advice may be absolute dogshit, but the hope is that others here would call me out if that was the case and I'd learn something as a result. I'm not sure how you get to this: She basically thinks you've become an uncaring selfish asshole who expects more sex but does nothing to put her in the mood or any effort to get her excited for it. From his last reply. He says he's not engaging her shit tests, owning more shit around the house, and trying to be more fun. You seem set on assigning w…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 08:04 PM
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Don't be an evangelist for something you haven't mastered. Don't be the guy who tried a new diet and lost 10 lbs and now it's all he can talk about and everyone needs to do it.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 05:12 PM
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Work on your frame simultaneously. You have to be attractive both physically and mentally/emotionally. I'm guessing you're neither yet. 100% This. OP, Two things: if you're already making progress, you are probably more attractive than you've been in a while. That's not nothing. act like you know you look great. Fat guys get laid. Six pack and veiny forearms aren't a pre-requisite.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 05:04 PM
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I suspect that something like [druganswer's comments in this thread could help you] (https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/50515y/anger_is_spiraling_out_of_control/d71jdza/). Providing comfort isn't holding her like she's a 4 year old with a skinned knee. Comfort is just reinforcing the idea that you aren't kicking her to the curb. Be an enjoyable guy to be around who owns his shit. It's more effective to do that with your behavior rather than going the Stoic OYS route that so many guys rever…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 04:51 PM
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More likely you just don't know what they are. Or your oneitis is so strong that you think everything she wants is reasonable. How often do you tell her 'no'? If this is really true, you may have to stir up some drama yourself. No shit tests means you don't get any chances to pass them.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 09:01 AM
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Well first of all, I don't want to shit on your routine without having done it. I read your post as you trying to figure something out and build yourself. The adage about a lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client also applies to coaches (and armchair strength coaches). Your jackman routine might be great, give it a run. One thing I've learned over the years is not to judge a program until you've done it. My obsession for ~10 years was writing my own lifting plans, trying to come up…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 09:46 PM
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I went to a chiro who I knew from college who does all that stuff. ART was great just in terms of getting me to a point where I could do the stretches on my own. It was really really hard work getting that "fixed". Some of those smashwerx stretches are fucking brutal. But they helped me a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 08:17 PM
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I have an idea of what I want to do, but I want to plan it out to make sure I am meeting all of the main points I am looking to focus on. Best thing I ever did was quit trying to write my own lifting programs. Do something that already works for lots of people. You're not a snowflake. It will work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 07:11 PM
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What's up with your shoulder? I had impingement really bad earlier this year. ROM & strength fell off a cliff, ended up having to cut presses and pulls out for almost 2 months while I recovered & stretched the shit out of it 2-3x daily. Does your PT do ART? If not, seek out someone who does. And check out this guy: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4BvkJe2U4CnenW61nm_HOQ/videos Find a few of his shoulder routines. Guy is a total bro, but knows his shit. Videos helped me a ton.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 06:58 PM
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squat clean. You crossfitters always make me laugh with your redundant exercise descriptions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 06:47 PM
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She is in the phase of her cycle where she isn't very interested in me physically. Made comments about don't expect anything today etc. You know your wife better than me, but keep in mind that your wife will respond to different things at different parts of her cycle. Not that you should alter who you are, but different modes of initiating get different responses in different phases. When a wife tells you "don't expect anything today", she's thinking about sex. Treat it like any other shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 06:43 PM
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Think he meant to point at me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 06:31 PM
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very low body fat mass state Don't be scared to try something, right? Add an extra half pound (or more) of 80/20 ground beef per day to your diet and see what it does to your gut. If it makes you fat, which I doubt - provided you lift and move around - then quit doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 05:51 PM
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become more stoic What does this mean to you? It gets mentioned here quite a bit, but the uninitiated tend to confuse it with ignoring people and pretending nothing bothers them, which essentially projects to your wife as pouting.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 02:40 PM
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Do not "Address this behavior". You can not tell her what you want. You need to lead her to what you want. Women are cats. PreRP, wife and I had been in a rut of 2.5x/week starfish for probably 6-10 years. And when I found mrp, improved my physique and quit acting like an additional child, wife's friskiness, orgasms, wetness, et al increased a lot when we did have sex. But despite the obvious changes in her enjoyment of sex, she still carried a mindset that sex was twice a week, always 2 days be…
/r/askMRP12/07/17 08:47 PM
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I habe only run across two women who did not have a personality disorder, and maybe a dozen or so men. As I noted a few other times on this sub, my firm specializes in cases involving psychological issues. The head partner was I the board of psychology and we are required to go through training and continuing education courses on personality disorders... All but two women you've come across have personality disorders, don't they cease to be disorders? Sounds like you drunk the company kool aid a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:59 PM
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I agree 100% here. My experience too. Interesting to consider whether that's a male behavior thing or pre behavioral demale arousal ie pheremonal/the sight of a hard dick that does it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:27 AM
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When i imagine "Too Alpha" guy, it's not a man who drops his boundary about dogs sleeping in the bedroom every other weekend as a treat. To me, it feels like a pure manipulation play. She knows OP's boundaries are weak and that he may fold with a little emotional leverage applied. If she is to be believed, OP applies his boundaries harshly. "If you want to live here..." But also capriciously. His boundaries depend on his mood. This reeks of a guy who lacks frame, who doesn't know what he wants e…
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:07 AM
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Mostly, it's just this shitty feeling I have all the time in the pit of my stomach. Yeah, it happens. For me, I felt that way as I was working through killing the oneitis. I think I listened to Rational Male back to back to back over the course of a week to drill it into my psyche. For me, what eventually worked was to process mentally the idea of a worst case scenario - she cheated on you, you find out that one of your kids isn't yours. Whatever yours is. Step through what you'd do - unwinding …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:11 PM
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Thing is, this only works for guys with enough lifting under their belt that they have a nervous system and muscular control that can flex that hard without a load to work against. Your strongman friend probably trained for a long time before he developed the neuro-muscular control to be able to train effectively like that. Whereas for novices, it's a skill that they have not developed. You can focus really hard, but if you don't have the muscular control - which your strongman competitor friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 01:53 PM
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Agree. Commenters are most guilty of the "Rambo" judgement based on how a guy fucked up a certain situation. There's the micro and the macro context to each of these questions & FRs new guys post. There are ways that he could have done better in the micro - we can think of several different ways to have handled the kitchen situation and left his wife laughing, swooning, crying, or whatever. This is what most guys come here looking for, and the advice that is most offered. Micro. And it's a usefu…
/r/askMRP06/07/17 01:37 PM
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She's in her 40s and NOT faithful. See his other post. 9.5? OP, Do some work on yourself and you'll discover you can do better. Hell...trading down isn't that bad of an option.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:41 AM
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There's a trend here with this Rambo thing. As with most things on the internet, it started off meaning one thing and it has evolved to mean another. It used to mean the guy who bought NMMNG, decided he was too much of a nice guy, and as the title says....we'll be having No More of that. So step 1 was "Look bitch, things are gonna change around here!" Now guys are paranoid that they "Rambo'd" any time your wife notices any changes and doesn't offer her shining approval, you're doing it wrong. No…
/r/askMRP05/07/17 01:44 PM
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Put yourself in their shoes. As a college aged kid, would you read 400 pages of role play exercises between a mechanic and car owner? Only thing that got me to read the book was being at a point of despair with my life and marriage and realizing that I desperately needed to obtain the skills contained in the book. Even as a middle aged adult, my dad or my boss, both of whom I respect immensely, could have put it in my hands at any point and I may have given it an honest attempt at reading. But t…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 02:00 AM
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Sometimes the best thing for kids is to see their old man owning his shit. If that means a lost weekend to paint the trim, so be it.
/r/askMRP02/07/17 12:29 PM
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You don't get to assign homework. If you see something is lacking here, provide it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 08:43 PM
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"Thanks for cooking dinner. Now, if you wouldn't mind, cut it up for me and put it in my mouth. THAT is how I eat." Any other critiques? Formatting OK?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 06:28 PM
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Depends on the celeb. Who is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:16 PM
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Your post history 8 different versions of "URGENT PLEASE HELP". You're in a 5 month relationship. You're not fucking married. Do some work on yourself. Your oneitis is not going to complete you. You should break up with her, because you can't handle an LTR.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 02:30 PM
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To continue the tortured analogy, new guys gotta work hard at dodging the bullets for a while before they realize that it doesn't matter which way they twist, turn, and jump....they only get hurt if they believe they got hit. Keep working on your evasiveness game, if that's what you want to call it, OP. It's a necessary step on the path.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 01:51 PM
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Nope. It's mostly like reading a play about someone returning a pair of shoes.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 06:38 PM
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Good Luck with WISNIFG. I started it 3 times and ended up doing it last because it was such a slog for me.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 06:19 PM
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Read it next instead. It's a more fun read. And it will provide some easy gains for improving your marriage. Most guys come here looking to get laid more and improve their marriage. Judging by your post history, you don't have a cunty wife who hates you. Just one who has lost attraction. MMSL will give you some basics and some easily applied tricks to help yourself along. As you spend time here, you'll figure out that the tricks don't hold up long term and you actually need to become a high(er) …
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:11 PM
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This is explicitly covered by Athol Kay, which should be what....the 2nd book you read?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 03:09 PM
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We were in the middle of an hours long sex session. Taking a break to eat some cheese and strawberries. Costanza?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 09:16 PM
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Wife used to tell me "Just don't go then" when I would bitch about having to do some BS in laws get together. But I was too smart for her....I suspected she was going to hold my absence over my head, so I went anyway. Then I'd be pissed for "not getting any credit" when she wasn't showering me with gratitude that I went. Fuck man, I look at the stuff I used to do and realize that if I squint a little bit, wife was practically holding up a sign telling me how to not be a bitch. I always ran the o…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 09:14 PM
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Is a feminine MAP a FAP? I don't know....I think our points are diverging here. Even the concept of a MAP, I don't think would occur to the vast majority of women. Looking for whys and concrete evidence and psychological studies, around here, I think is flawed. Red Pill, and the EvoPsych "reasons" why this stuff is true....it's closer to mythology than to factual science. It all becomes the story we tell ourselves to make sense out of the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 08:27 PM
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The strongest chicks on the planet are AWALT, too. So are the fastest ones, and the tallest ones. Total non sequitor.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 07:23 PM
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I get the impression that you think women should have the capacity to understand a man's sacrifices? That it's some sort of shortcoming on their part? I think it might just be part of reality. Not good or bad, just a real difference between men and women. Lip service is given to complementarity around here, but the focus seems to mostly be on one half of the equation - the part where we excel at things women are less capable of. And then they're children/pets/zombies for not excelling at being m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:00 PM
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As Rollo says in the Appreciation post, women don't have the capacity to appreciate a man's sacrifices, because they don't have the capacity to even recognize them as a sacrifice. The sacrifice is a given....if something is a given, it's not really a sacrifice. It's just the way the world is. The Red Pill, especially Rollo, does a great job of illuminating how our culture revolves around the Feminine Imperative (which hides itself behind "Patriarchy"), and exposing what is behind the curtain. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 03:33 PM
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Social: This has been the greatest DLV in my life, and the hardest thing for me to address. Over the years, I've become predominantly a homebody whose default response to anything outside my house is "No". Not because I'm socially awkward or unsocial, but because I don't want to upset my comfortable routine. Over the last 11 months, MRP has helped me to create a more valuable routine. Reading/Lifting/Hobbies > Video Games & TV. However, these have all still been primarily solo endeavors....so wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:13 PM
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I knew in my heart that's simply a show of what she thinks of me and what value she's willing to provide, but I still got mad for a few days for it. https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/14/appreciation/ I just read this again the other day and it definitely applies. Don't be needy - consider how important a contrived holiday is in the big picture.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:40 PM
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"Is he going to initiate here? In the kitchen? I don't know if I want that. Oh he pulled away? Huh, maybe I did want that...?" This is important. As a beginner, I confused "always be escalating" with "escalate in an upward sloping linear pattern". Figuring out how to leave her hanging has paid off exponentially for me. WRT your plausible deniability section.... Not only do they care about their social image, they care about their self image. You touch on that when referring to "that little voice…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:16 PM
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Today is the first day I've discovered this sub and its related subs. Your situation doesn't require special instructions. Just get started reading and lifting. Ask fewer questions. Try stuff and report results if you want feedback.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 02:01 PM
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How satisfying could this be for you if you're aware that it's going to be him "acting" a certain way because that's what you want?
/r/askMRP22/06/17 05:04 PM
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I did this, but was only for a couple of weeks. None of what I did would I consider "Red Pill", except in that it was internal game I was working on. It helped me recognize what I actually wanted and cut out the unhelpful patters of neediness. 6-8 weeks seems a little excessive to me, but you're your own boss. Pre MRP, wife and I were on a de facto schedule of 2 or 3 days off, 1 day on. May seem like a lot to some guys coming here from dbs, but it was unsatisfying duty sex. I wanted to break the…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 04:37 PM
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The only thing you control is yourself. Hence the "it's just your turn" axiom that's fairly popular over in the main sub. AF/BB....you can't be 100% both. https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/27/the-perfect-man/
/r/askMRP22/06/17 01:17 AM
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It's a fallacy. No matter how much of a catch you are, there's always someone better. And if not better, newer. Novelty is something you won't have much of as a husband.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:34 PM
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Don't tweak programs that work. If you're generally a n00b to lifting, asking questions like this, maybe don't try and write your own program. If you don't like 5x5, that's fine. There are a litany of programs out there that might better suit you. But keep this in mind: The guy(s) who wrote 5x5 built it the way it is for a reason. It's a simple intro to weightlifting and building strength and establishing technique with the movements that should make up the base of any training program. You do i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 09:56 PM
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Trust, but verify! I've fucked myself a few times by trusting mfp's calories, macros, and serving sizes....with meats especially. I eat the same thing quite a bit, so if I get on the train where I'm ringing in the wrong thing, it compounds over the course of a week or two. General rule for me is if anything ever feels too good to be true, triple check. And always verify cooked vs. raw meat weights & macros.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 09:36 PM
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My experiences with drunk sex aren't quite the same as the other responses here. For me, drunk wife = starfish with the occasional accidental burp in my face. Unsexy. If I'm horny, I might plow on through. If not, I don't owe her the effort just because she's got a willing hole. I have no problem rolling over and going to sleep if I'm not feeling it.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:58 PM
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I feel you. My wife is annoying as shit when she's drunk. Thinks she's being cute, is just clumsy and unsexy. Total turn off.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:45 PM
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Jesus, Dude. Just don't. Hamsters don't operate on direct communication. Subcommunication is the hamster fuel. The only reason you want to do this is to make her aware of what you're changing. You're trying to speed up the process, but it will do the opposite. And it solidifies that you're doing this to impress her rather than because it is who you are (or are trying to become).
/r/askMRP20/06/17 09:18 PM
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Are you boring? You check all the beta provider boxes. No word on if you are a fun guy. Do you have a life, or is it all work/household/kids/lifting?
/r/askMRP17/06/17 12:50 AM
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You're telling her how awesome you are. "Girls check ME out" Seems like there's some degree of frustration that she doesn't notice, so you make a point to tell her. When you tell her, it doesn't inspire dread. It makes you look needy.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 12:42 AM
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Both of your replies are kinda thirsty.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 11:18 PM
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Starving yourself is not usually conducive to brain function.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 05:52 PM
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Funny....I told you in your OYS that you were burning the candle at both ends with regard to your diet and training. Your response was reasons why it's no problem.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 05:22 PM
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You still seem to be interested in her approving of what you are doing. A lot of explaining yourself, or asking her why. In WISNIFG terms, It's like you're going to return the shoes and the clerk pushes back....you aren't folding at his first rebuttal, but you are wasting your time coming up with reasons and explaining yourself. Not everything she says merits a response from you. As long as you aren't being tantrum-y or passive aggressive, just flat out ignoring her or being a dismissive 'yup' o…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 05:03 PM
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Guys end up at extreme ends of the spectrum by infusing morality into their RP awareness. Middle of the road guy sees the world as it is and operates within that framework. Is a woman "bad" for acting out her biological imperitave? Dunno....does it even matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 02:39 PM
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How's your diet/fitness regimen working in your opinion? As an observer, and a former fat guy, you're burning the candle at both ends. You're exhausted all the time. You're just torturing yourself. 1500 calories is not enough. You could probably continue to lose weight at 2500 calories per day. HIIT cardio is needless torture when you're as big as you. I also looked back and saw you're going with 40% carbs/30% fat/30% protein? So you're almost certainly not getting much over 100g protein per day…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 08:55 PM
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It's also the pacing of it all. There's a point at which my wife wants to be "devoured" as RZD says above. But it's not usually right out of the gate, where you bite her neck, grab a tit, and drag her by her ponytail to the bedroom as she's cooking dinner. That does work, but YMMV. After you get past the db/duty sex stage and you get to the point where sex is not only back on the table, but she's even into it most of the time, it's natural to start short-cutting the seduction. You interactions a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 02:36 PM
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I am finally, after all these years, starting to be ok as the biggest fucking guy in the place and just owning it. Being big seems to raise the Alpha expectations for people you interact with. If you're average size, with average confidence, you come across as average. If you're big, with average confidence, you come across as a giant gaping pussy. It's incongruence. You'll notice that people defer to you fairly often, for no reason other than the fact that you're tall. If you balk at the defere…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 06:27 PM
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Deflecting compliments always seemed - for me - to come from a place of bigger ego, not smaller. It was false modesty....It's almost like you're telling the person paying the compliment "Your opinion doesn't matter. So while you might think that is impressive for me to do, I don't think it's impressive because I expect more from me." Almost a type of hipsterism. I've found that being able to accept a compliment without minimizing/deflecting requires some growth and humility. When I started worki…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 05:23 PM
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Interesting that you go from that to 350 lbs in 10-12 years, isn't it? Your body was your vehicle to success and status. The "use" for it ends, and you become morbidly obese? This happens to a lot of football guys. Is it just that your metabolism slows down? Or maybe eating to replace the validation, and sitting around getting fat because you don't get the same reward for working out that you used to? Only you can figure out what the case is for you. Maybe that was never you, and I'm projecting …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:09 PM
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I have two points there that I'm getting at....I don't think either necessarily disagree with what you're saying. Obsessing over accurately measuring bodyfat numbers is foolish. This guy's goal should be to reduce bodyfat. Knowing whether it's 17.7 or 18.5? Or knowing when he finally hits 15%? Doesn't matter. From what I understand, bodyfat measurements are too fickle to put any stock into from day to day. All that matters is that it's reducing....and the navy method is more than adequate for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:58 AM
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I strongly disagree. Have you met many DI athletes? Ego in check is not how I'd describe too many of them. Many have stunted personalities and a lingering sense of entitlement. Some find a way to be well adjusted people. Although many of those seemingly well adjusted people are just acting the part, and have that same sense of entitlement buried for the sake of not looking like a douche. A person with a lot of success in sports exists in a bath of external validation from probably age 8 until th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 09:23 PM
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Or maybe it's part humblebrag....I say this because I can relate a bit. Athlete ego dies fucking hard. Guys get good at squeezing every last drop of glory out of their former status....Nobody wants to sound like Al Bundy, so you get good at false modesty and the art of the humblebrag. You can still point everyone to the fact you were D1 AND not seem like you're trying to if you phrase it right. Maybe this isn't the case for /u/XianMRP . Was for me. Not trying to shit on you, OP. Genuinely wonder…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 06:59 PM
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Need to get calipers for an alternate body fat measurement as the Navy method does not seem to do well in the higher percentiles of height and for my body type. It isn't too far off, but based on a quick dive into it, I am probably more in the 18% to 20% range and not 21% to 23%, so I would like an alternate view. Trying not to get caught up in the numbers but still wanting an accurate look at current levels and how they relate to my goal level. Guys here obsessing over BF%s...Don't fucking worr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:17 PM
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Is your room clean? https://imgur.com/gkYy30g
/r/askMRP01/06/17 03:33 PM
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So she's the marketing, you're the DBA? Yeah, she wants a work bitch who she can give to do lists and have them rise up to the top of your priority list. If she's an 8, she's used to having this throughout her entire career. Work wife means you get to be orbiter. As a guy in a similar job, all of these sales/marketing women expect you to do whatever they ask for just a sincere sounding "Thank Yooooooou" and batting their eyelashes. And most DBA types are satisfied with a few morsels of attention…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 01:43 PM
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2 Chainz
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:12 PM
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The "How we argue" section rings a bell to the old me. How to fix it: Stop arguing. You can't say words to her that will convince her to feel differently. You won't ever convince her she's doing it wrong. Bitching to her or at her shows that she controls your state. Even if you are 100% right. Everything she does that bothers you or hurts you, it's all a problem INSIDE YOU. You basically have to swallow it and figure out what it is, and address it yourself....alone. Stop puking it out onto her.
/r/askMRP24/05/17 02:34 AM
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It feels like abdication and defeat clouded with "didn't want X, wanted Y". I will work through it though. The difference between "Didn't want X, wanted Y" and hamstering failure or rationalizing taking the easy path can be a really tough thing to discern.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 02:17 PM
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She was kinda apprehensive, but we went back to Normal a day later. She loves how I fuck her and make her cum every time, maybe this has to do with it? Anyway, we fucked twice on Friday and on Saturday and she cummed thrice and I cummed 4 times. Everyone was wrong about you in your other post. You are clearly a stud. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 02:28 PM
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I'd agree w Scurve. I always throw some pull ups or DB rows into my warm up on bench day for this purpose. On a more long term basis, if you're looking to ratchet up your bench, back strength & mass gives you more of a base to push against. The gaping hole in SL is back training. No beginner does Barbell rows right...95% of guys just do an awkward bent over reverse grip curl. Swap it out for heavyish dumbbell rows, and double the reps.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 03:43 PM
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Calories in < Calories out, then fat reserves are tapped to power the body. LOL. How's your physics diet working for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 02:10 PM
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Interesting observation. Applies to me as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 02:05 PM
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Many guys miss this when they head straight to MAP/Own Your Shit and document the 47 different ways they've become more attractive and then get stuck there. Build a Better Beta. This whole post be sent to every guy after they make their 6th OYS post, with the caption: "You're improving and that's great. But don't forget, only this matters."
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 07:18 PM
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I'm sure you've posted this, but what's your height/weight? You mention weight loss, so I'm assuming you're starting at the overweight end and looking to lean out at a lower weight number than current? So, my understanding was: if my weight is roughly staying the same, but I'm lifting and therefore (theoretically) adding muscle, I must be losing fat....right? Or am I thinking about this in the wrong way? Maybe, maybe not. Maybe your nervous system is just more efficiently doing the movement. I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 05:21 PM
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continue to lose fat and build muscle, over time, in a sustainable way This is not really possible, over the long haul. If you chase them both you'll catch neither. You'll do it for a bit at the beginning - drop fat, lose some carb bloating, and your muscles will wake up and harden up. But over the long haul, you'll eventually have to choose, because losing fat will require caloric deficit. Gaining muscle will require caloric surplus. Paradox.... In my mind, chasing BF% and body part measurement…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 02:50 PM
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Kids are THE litmus test for which parent's frame is dominant in the house. As soon as I had a solid frame, my kids leaped right into it. Almost all in one day They aren't angels, but they aren't disrespectful. I didn't really even have to do anything specific with regard to them. I owned my shit and started handling my wife, and they could sense it. Attitudes turned on a dime.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 04:32 PM
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I used to really struggle with this, until I made a post about my wife owning my ass in a similar fashion and /u/[deleted] nuged me toward a frame that works better for me. Short version is this: My wife's a big somebody in our kids' school district, so any time I'm at a school function with my kids, wife is in that mode. It was beyond me how I could ever be the owner of the frame when so much of our life takes place in and around her "turf". One day I did something petty to try and snatch the f…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 03:09 PM
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I spent less than $25 on this version of that watch and get compliments on it frequently. Olive band/off white face goes with almost anything I wear.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:33 PM
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I get home later that night and the wife is still upset. We chat. And what do you think she is upset about. If you’ve guessed, It’s not that I don’t support her. When she came to bitch about our daughter that morning I did not let her indulge in her FEELZ. I cut her off and proposed a solution - which is NOT what she wanted. She wanted to bathe in her emotions at the time. Not quite. Don't indulge her....she doesn't need you to indulge her feelings. If it's that big of a deal, she can call her f…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:52 AM
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Find someone else. Don't let your wife dress you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 10:56 PM
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The "here, hold my stuff" test is failed by being in the situation where it is asked. If you're tagging along with your wife at the mall, you've fucking failed. If you're shopping for you, don't take her. Mommies dress their kids, not their man. If it's shopping for her, don't go. Or, if you can pull it off, take the lead. Talk to the clerk, pick out clothes for her, send her to the fitting room, etc. If you're standing there watching her shop, you deserve to be holding the purse.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 06:23 PM
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Do all the chores yourself. If you are worth a shit as a man, eventually she will start looking for ways to help you. If she doesnt, next.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 04:14 PM
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Wore actual dress clothes on Easter for one of usually about 3 times per year. Didn't realize how much my shape has changed since I last had them altered. I was wearing a fat guy's clothes...not a good look. Definitely need to fill in holes here. Pants, shirt, & suit all by the end of spring.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 12:11 AM
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Delete Facebook.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 08:39 PM
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It wasn't so much internalizing the behaviors, aside from prioritizing the need to have "A thing", and then being able to set boundaries around whatever thing I decided was going to be my thing. The "Fake It" part for me was just the search for that interest. It ended up being as simple as taking something have already done and didn't like, and rotating it about 2.5 degrees. That small shift clicked and lit the fire, so to speak. The most impactful thing mrp has repeatedly done for me is allow m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 07:12 PM
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Ha. If he wants to collect a few "that's a good boy!" affirmations, who am I to ruin his day?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 04:32 PM
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Lifting & Diet: Been dealing with some nagging pain in my right upper arm which has been really frustrating. Limited mobility overhead....I've been trying to rest and do what I can. Been hitting squats & Kettlebells really hard, also been practicing & sprinting 2-3x per week. Diet is the same, still pretty level in the mid 230s. Shit test: Easter with my side of the family. My parents house has been al-Raqqua for shit tests since probably the birth of my first child. Likely because for the first…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:30 PM
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Nice. Good to hear. I've had but negative experiences with PTs and docs. In my younger days, I had two surgeries for chronic pain that I'm convinced now were completely unnecessary. And for PTs, all I ever saw were schlubby golf shirts who specialized in working grandma's knee ROM. Fuckin late 90s HMO medical plans. Kettlebell press, if you've got access to them, are a nice alternate to bar & db pressing. Different center of mass changes your arm path, might be less uncomfortable.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 07:46 PM
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Obviously, I know little to nothing about your situation here....BUT.... I wouldn't trust a doctor who tells you basic weightlifting movements like Press and Bench are bad for your joints. If the doc is telling you that problems are caused by those movements and not incompetent performance of these movements, your doc is either ignorant or doesn't care. If your PT doesn't look like he can deadlift more than you, I'd be wary. PT is a money pit unless you have someone who is on board with your goa…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 06:11 PM
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I want to be a masculine leader. Who can I follow to get me there?!? Bluepill Professor's book is as close as a step by step guide as you can find. But don't start reading it yet. If you read the sidebar in order, it will be the last book you read in the RP 101 section. Fortuitous, that. The real trick - which is something nobody here can help with - is determining which pieces work for you and which pieces don't. And the really real trick after that is re-assessing the things that didn't apply …
/r/askMRP12/04/17 01:18 PM
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Either way, now that you know you're nothing special, do you feel better? I don't think he took it that way. He posted this as proof - proof to MRP - that he is something special. It's a validation play, directed at the guys on the internet. After all, he's being compared to the country superduperstar. "See guys, I'm doin this right. Wife says I'm a tall, handsome, Blake Shelton. I'm TOO alpha. I'm not the faggot everyone says in my other posts"
/r/askMRP12/04/17 02:52 AM
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chicks ruin everything good that men create or do ....because men allow them to.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 02:49 PM
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not letting it affect me. I think this is where you're failing. If you absolutely need this to be satisfied in your life, read this comment from /u/RPSigmaStigma https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/560c73/wife_doesnt_masturbate_high_water_mark/d8f7vj9/ If any of the steps he outlines seem like a bridge too far, then accept that it's you who is making the choice.
/r/askMRP10/04/17 01:45 PM
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I've tried gently telling her that it should be a give and take. Odd. This usually works.
/r/askMRP10/04/17 01:57 AM
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In the mean time? Own your shit. Stay home parenting with one kid is a fucking cake walk if you don't frame it as the thing that gets in the way of doing your own thing...TV, internet, reading, video games....
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:34 PM
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The walk is enough for most. Too many guys think they need to make themselves puke to lose fat. We don't need to train like Navy Seals to knock the next inch off our pants size. Diet, Lift, Walk, repeat. Pile up consecutive days of compliance.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 01:01 PM
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Regarding Complexes - have you read this one by Dan John? The author references Dan in the article you link. I've been an internet fanboi of his since I was in college. My own experience with complexes is that they make me hungry as fuck....which might be good sometimes and bad other times. I tended to use them more for hypertrophy than for conditioning. Complex A @ 5 x 3 is my go to.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 04:51 PM
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Are you doing anything besides dieting and game? I said this last week and I stand by it - you see yourself as a good looking guy and validate yourself through your looks and the IOIs you get from women. Each time you feel shitty about yourself, you go back to this same well. You are a prime candidate for Monk Mode. All of your posts are this same obsession over what women think of you. You need to find something to do to distract your brain from this constant internal monologue. Do you have any…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 03:50 PM
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I used to get it from pull ups, especially when I first started pushing reps. I could see how that same type of wrist flexion and forearm strain could come from heavy barbell rows when fatigued. Dan John, a coach I've been reading and following since the late 90s, dubbed that elbow pain "Middle Aged Pull Up Syndrome", as it had become such an epidemic among some in the kettlebell/bodyweight crowd. His solution is keep chins to 10 or fewer per session. My solution is just to keep my sets to 3-7 i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 04:49 PM
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I admit growing up and up until recently, I was all kinds of beta and was almost as shy and awkward. It's taken me many, many years to grow out of the awkwardness - this behavior has exponentially been diminished through therapy, sidebar books, big life events and aging.. I'd hate to have my son take decades to "grow out of" or figure out this crap. Kids have their own personalities, they aren't blank slates you can program to act the way you wish you would have behaved. Ultimately your kid is h…
/r/askMRP03/04/17 03:40 PM
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Pikadildo's post on the thread has your simplest strategy here. I've got more opinions for fat guys. I've never been your size, so I won't pretend to know. I'll just say this about the IIFYM TDEE calculator: It's a good starting point for total calories, but it's not the final word. As you do this, if you comply with your #s and pay attention month after month, you'll get to know your body and what works best for you.
/r/askMRP01/04/17 10:35 PM
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Approach depends on if you are over weight and wanting to lose or looking to bulk up.
/r/askMRP01/04/17 05:40 PM
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I don't know where the advice to leave when your wife denies sex originated from.....I first encountered in BPP's book. But I have found that to be a tough needle to thread, especially if you're new. It may work for some, but I find druganswer's comments I link here to be far more productive for the novice. Read the whole response thread. how did you personally master IDGAF and OI? Kill the oneitis. I read Rational Male about 6 times in 2 months. Reading that book, and obsessing over all ego cru…
/r/askMRP30/03/17 06:46 PM
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Thanks - that's what I'd like to believe the correct answer is. I think many guys go through this a they develop true AM and OI. Yep. You knock wife off the pedestal and all of a sudden she's less attractive. Then you take the validation away from sex and it's less urgent. You get to true OI, and it leaves a wide open path toward the lazy version of NGAF if a guy isn't careful.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 01:48 PM
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Nice work. The subtlety of wives initiation is something I forget and stumble back onto over and over again. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 02:37 AM
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Diet: As I've noted in my past several OYSs, my cut stalled out a couple of weeks after Thanksgiving, so I went on to eating for maintenance and ended up cheating quite a bit and generally not hitting macros either. Gained about 6-8 lbs. Over the past couple of weeks, I've stuck to my maintenance calories (3000), kept carbs to 100g or less, and focused on eating 80% of my calories and almost all carbs before 1 PM. Dinner is just meat and a salad, usually. This, combined with a nightly 2 mile wal…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 02:11 AM
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I had problems with something like tendinitis on both the outside and the inside part of my elbow at different times. Probably been 2-3 years since I have had any problems at all. This video from Elliott Hulse was key for me - and even though the emailer he quotes talks about his issue being from the pushing motion, the stretch and the push ups helped me immensely with tennis/golf elbow. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOrvzewbj38 When I had more of the "golf elbow" - pain on the inside elbow/up…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 06:19 PM
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Is your tennis elbow from tennis or from lifting? I used to get horrible elbow pain back when I first got back into shape.....was worst when doing grip intensive work like KB snatch and pull ups. Lemme know if your situation is similar - I can point you to what I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 05:20 PM
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Get your calories figured out. See how much you can eat without gaining first, then and reduce from there. And when you do reduce calories, shoot for no more than 1-2 lbs of weight loss per week. I definitely don't think you are overtraining....but to me, with HIIT - the juice isn't worth the squeeze for a lot of guys. I've tried it a number of times and it always makes me feel beat up and hungry all the time. It's got its place, sure. But probably not until you're lower BF and the "easy" stuff …
/r/askMRP26/03/17 07:21 PM
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You have the symptoms of a guy who reduced calories too severely. Not to say you don't have low T, you probably do. But any 230 lb guy who cuts down to 2000 calories and starts up HIIT is going to feel grumpy, tired, and struggle getting it up.
/r/askMRP26/03/17 12:03 AM
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I don't understand all the hate here - your boundary is not unreasonable. Judging by your replies, you engaged in a lot of caretaking in the past and you're trying to eliminate that. If she knows that all she needs to do is ask, then she just needs to fucking ask. If she doesn't ask, I think it's reasonable to assume she was going to find a way to handle it that doesn't involve you. Maintain the boundary, don't be shitty and condescending about it. Response to her when she brings it back up woul…
/r/askMRP22/03/17 07:55 PM
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I own that I am choosing to date other girls while I try to figure out what my plan is with the wife, and while she continues to ice me out while I work on myself. You don't own. You put it at your wife's feet for icing you out. Stop blaming your wife. After reading most of your posts, I can't help but assume that she resents that she was fooled into marrying such a needy guy. You talk about the work you do on yourself, and how she just doesn't see it. As far as I can tell from your recent posts…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 05:47 PM
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"Can a relationship survive" There's the key. Rollo isn't prioritizing the relationship. The two (OP and Rollo) are pursuing different ends.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 10:22 PM
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Manipulated Man is the worst thing I've read in several years.....I made it about 25% through the book and not a thing I read had any connection to my personal experience whatsoever....so I moved on. Maybe the final 3/4 of the book really packs a punch. That's one of those things I guess I'll never know. All of the other sidebar books rang true to me. Every single one of them gave me multiple "Aha" moments. Nothing in Manipulated Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 01:48 AM
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I'm not saying go be a goofball around your wife from here on out, and not every moment is one where you playfully pick on your wife or goof off in general Seems to me like this is what OP needs. OP, what would your wife do if you were grocery shopping together in a busy store and you just smacked her on the ass as you walked down the cereal aisle? Do it, and then laugh at her reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 08:46 PM
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How long would she have to have waited before you would initiate the divorce? Did you have your own timeline and she just beat you to it, or were you still unsure?
/r/askMRP14/03/17 03:36 PM
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How much time do you spend watching "your shows"? If you're in the "figuring out how to own my shit" phase, and your woman fucks with you during "muh shows", it means you need to find something not worthless to do with your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 05:57 PM
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Agree....the job is as shitty as she makes it. There's plenty of purpose to be found in being stay home parenting if you treat it like something you want to do. It's all in how she looks at it. If you think "I've got 10 hours a day to show my kids amazing things", SAHM is the best thing ever. If your attitude is "I can't wait until these assholes leave me alone so I can finally lay down and see what's new on Pinterest"....well, then your life sucks and you resent your kids.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 08:44 PM
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Is it? Why would you feel shitty about how you were? We were lied to about the rules of the game. I guess one man's gut punch is another man's "AHA!" I read this shit and thought "Oh thank god there's a better way". Took me a while to understand it, but I skipped right on past the anger phase because every other man in my life was just as clueless. They can't teach me shit they don't know themselves.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:17 PM
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APALT
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 12:52 AM
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Wearing nice dress clothes and shoes to work (previously had slacked off to jeans and golf shirts) Keep this up. Nothing says beta dad like golf shirts at the office.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 02:46 PM
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What's the general mood around your house? Are you and your wife always an inch away from killing each other, or is that just the highlights that come here? If you're not constantly at each other's throats, /u/druganswer 's series of comments here about how you should [play the nice card] (https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/50515y/anger_is_spiraling_out_of_control/d71jdza/) will take you a long way. Resist the urge to dress her down every time you're frustrated with her. If she complains t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 04:17 AM
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Good: Lifting: Hit a major goal in the weight room this weekend: Put 250 lbs on the bar, cleaned it to my shoulders, and pressed it overhead. No bullshit extra leg kick or cheating...the bar started at my clavicles and I strict pressed it. I'm not an overly excitable guy, but I let out a scream in my basement for that one....250 was a pie in the sky goal when I started getting back into shape a few years ago. As recently as September of 2016, my best press was a 4 reps @ 205. Frame: I find mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:52 PM
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If he has opened up to you about it, he seems to be open to taking your help. If he's truly looking for help, tell him about MMSLP. It's relatively low risk if the guy turns out to be a committed, self righteous beta. Even if he doesn't go the full MRP, MMSL can do a lot to help his current situation. MMSL will reveal the breadcrumbs that could lead him here. If he ends up not looking for them, he's still got the tools to alleviate his db situation.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 03:04 AM
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Except nobody here claims to be "Going on the biological definitions of alphas and betas". Standard fare in this part of the internet is understanding that Alpha & Beta are terms of art. /u/GargantuaBlarg29 refers to this in another reply - in the "Manosphere" book, Ironwood refers to how Athol Kay, Rollo Tomassi, and Vox Day all use Alpha to mean different things. There is Alpha as a state of mind (Tomassi), Alpha and Beta behavior (Athol), and Alpha as in social status (Day). Any community tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 02:15 PM
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Anti-patriarchy: Keeping the name of your father.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 07:06 PM
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Physical: I've gained about 6 lbs after ending my cut last month. I still track calories, but I'm cheating on my goals. If I were to stick to my maintenance calories for more than 3 days in a row, I'm sure the additional weight would be gone. On the other hand, as I move into practicing my sport harder, I'm less concerned about BF. This is no excuse to cheat, but more physical activity will balance some of this out. Started an in-season type of training - heavy-ish, moderate volume on the weight…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 03:30 PM
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Also, use coconut oil instead of butter if you are into that. Did this exactly ONCE. Stomach didn't handle it well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 09:19 PM
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Negative: I STILL find myself biting my tongue when things bother me (specifically, me doing all the dishes and then coming back to find that my wife has simply put her dishes in the sink, rather than in the dishwasher). I have addressed this in a covert way, and she clearly doesn't care, and why should she? But somehow, whenever I feel pissed off about, I don't say anything! This is actually fine. Good even. You should be STFUing about this now. Don't come at her with all the ways she needs to …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 07:13 PM
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Good, honest stuff - I like your Takeaways section. Just starting out with MRP, I think you've got to cut out shit like flowers for a long while. It's pedestalizing your woman. Some might say "If you want to get your wife flowers, then get her flowers." Maybe, but I think that only applies when you're much farther along. I think many guys are so thorougly conditioned that they don't know what they actually want. You'll convince yourself you want to buy them flowers, or rub their feet, or whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 05:53 PM
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Right - I think it's more intense shit testing, which I'm not passing in a dominant enough manner.... I'm hypothesizing that if I'm naturally a 6/10 on the alpha scale, the 6/10 is good enough the first week out. Closer to ovulation, she desires more alpha, so the shit tests intensify. Only I'm still dealing with them like a 6/10, which isn't enough to pass with flying colors. It's a half cocked theory. It's not like I get rejected during ovulation, but it's not as enthusiastic as the prior week…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 05:02 PM
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A good batter can handle all the pitches all the time, but knowing when the pitcher tends to throw a curve can turn what is normally a foul tip into solid contact.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 04:15 PM
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I like this post so much I bookmarked it. While the RP fundamentalists might object to the idea of tracking, I think it's silly to not take advantage of biology to supplement your momentary sexual strategy. This is the micro, whereas OYS and frame is the macro. Either I misunderstand the Athol Kay & Rational Male breakdowns of the cycle, or they are incomplete. It's been a while since I read MMSL, so I may be forgetting parts.....but what I took away from that was essentially "She's horny days 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 03:58 PM
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I don't think it was a shit test, but by being a bitch about it, you took the verbal resources around you, and crafted a shit test out of them for yourself, and then demonstrated how to fail it utterly and completely while your wife and daughter stood by as a captive audience. You were like the McGuyver of self inflicted shit test failure. STFU prevents you from grabbing a shit test that could easily slide by the wayside unfailed, and instead failing the fuck out of it. Tip: If what was said pis…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:10 AM
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forcing her to either give me a hard “NO” or fuck me by pushing through her half-hearted resistance. I did this in the beginning of my implementation and it led to more frequent really, really terrible starfish sex. It also changed wife's attitude toward flirting. She would shoot down any type of flirty banter with "I AM NOT DOING ANYTHING TONIGHT". I eventually determined that her hard no didn't sound like I expected it to, and I was just steamrolling on past the hard no's too. OP, sounds like …
/r/askMRP16/02/17 08:26 PM
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5 If you were to be single right now, could you get laid in next 24 hours, with a woman of equal or higher SMV than your SO? I see a lot of this around mrp/askmrp - lots of "Walk out the door and I'm swimming in poon". Yet accomplished PUAs consistently say "For every 50 approaches, I might get 10 numbers. Of those 10 numbers, only 1 or 2 turn into dates" And a similar portion of those dates end up in sex." If step 5 on the flow chart is walking out the door and being in some quality strange wit…
/r/askMRP16/02/17 03:37 PM
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Heed /u/BluepillProfessor's advice here. He nails what you need to internalize.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 04:37 AM
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/u/[deleted] had a great line that I've stolen a few times......Tell her "This is your fault, you know. You're the one who chose to be with such an asshole."
/r/askMRP15/02/17 08:52 PM
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My current SMS app allows me to just send a space.....however, this well had run dry by the time I got one that worked. I just put 2+2 together as I wrote that post. Everything I tried to use to replace the text was too overtly sexual.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 02:52 PM
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Holy shit....this just reminded me of something I used to do, pre RP/game awareness....Hadn't thought about it through the RP lens until this post. One time a few years back, I accidentally sent my wife a text that was blank. Just a space [" "] - so it popped up on her screen as the empty iphone bubble. She made fun of me about it, asked what it meant. I told her "It means I'm thinking about fucking you. I didn't think that was appropriate to spell out and send to you at work". Couple of days la…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 07:56 PM
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Growing as a young girl is more difficult than as a boy. Nope
/r/askMRP09/02/17 09:11 PM
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Watching alot of Rodney Dangerfield Interesting. Never would have thought of him as a guy who I might want to take from. I watch an episode per day of Louis CK's show while I pedal away on my exercise bike. Not sure how much that'll help my game, though. I also remember Roosh suggested watching Seinfeld for good examples of "rambling".
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:40 PM
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Thanks - that's a good point about analyzing immediately after the fact. I need to come up with a better system of mental notations with this type of thing. If I mentally say "Remember this", I end up being able to recall the general feeling, but not enough of the actual interaction to do any sort of productive analysis, and I think this hinders my progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:57 AM
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Little late to the OYS this week, but we'll go with it.... Lifting/Diet/Hobbies. Weight a steady 236-238. Torso looks a little less defined, but arms look great. Set another rep PR in press & DL. Weather is looking up in the near future. Excited to get cracking on my sport. Giving myself permission to prioritize this rather than "Hey, I'm going to go practice if that's OK with everybody." Practice means lifting will scale back a bit, into a strength maintenance mode. Relationship: I fucked this …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 07:58 PM
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This is an interesting post to chew on. True as it may be, I am thankful I found mrp and its levels of dread, anti Rambo methodology, before having read this. I had to travel through the MMSLP sprinkles land first, experience some initial success, and then discover the "bait and switch" here at MRP to be able to handle what Rollo posts here. If I had read this during the "Read the sidebar" phase, I'm almost certain I'd have rejected it or fucked it up going overboard.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 02:22 AM
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IED also effective for birth control.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 02:56 PM
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I note a similar thing - horniness the week before supposed ovulation - in my other comment. My wife has never been on any sort of BC though. Interesting to hear someone else experience this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 12:37 AM
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I do....I notice that it falls off pretty rapidly. Those 1-2 days after ovulation ends, she's drops off quite a bit. After those 2 days, she bounces back and is pretty normal until about 3 days before her period. The thing I'm confounded by right now is that my wife is at her most "frisky" and fun about 3 days after her period finishes up - Like around days 5-10. Days 10-15, when she's ovulating, she's still kind of horny, but she's also a turbo bitch. Greater testing for alpha, I suppose? But d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 05:39 PM
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Still a boring fuck, but working on being less so. Following the lead of /u/weakandsensitive, I have started talking more openly about my hobbies, "owning" them with more passion and enthusiasm to whoever will listen, trying not to care about their reaction or percieved disinterest. This worked out pretty well actually. I can tell my wife could not care less, but she at least humors me when I talk in depth and with passion about things I normally would have kept to myself figuring she didn't rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 03:02 PM
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1) You should totally marry this chick. Sounds like a healthy situation. 2) You're 27. Buy your own fucking birthday presents if you need one.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 01:09 AM
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I'm looking forward to it. Wouldn't have been interested in that debate at all if the original line-up w/ Spencer had panned out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 09:30 PM
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For the past 5 years, I was lifting, but a good deal heavier. High muscle mass, but 20+% BF. Since cutting about 30 lbs, I've found that many things I put in the "This doesn't work" bucket have a much more pronounced effect when I try them again at a much lower body fat level. We'll see if this boring, generic slow cardio is another one of those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 06:49 PM
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Not a lot was owned by me this weekend. Diet was pretty bad. I noted last week, I've stopped my 'cut', and am working on maintaining my weight for the time being. Adjusting to maintenance mode means I have a little more leeway with calories, which mostly means I've got more rope to potentially hang myself with. I've re-discovered that while things like chips/popcorn in moderation can fit just fine with my macros, the aftermath of having eaten them is a fucking bottomless appetite. When the carb …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 04:32 PM
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Why stop at home? I do this when the 19 year old barista won't tell me what time she gets off work.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 03:15 AM
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I enjoy Baxter's podcast. Between this one and the one w/ Jack Murphy, some really enjoyable conversations to listen in on.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 02:42 AM
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Sounds familiar. I definitely see my wife teeter between submitting and "Wait, I can't like that". I can't say I've cracked the code here, but I keep it playful, and removed any expectations of this actually panning out into something. The ambient sexy vibe with stuff like this is great, and it has ratcheted up the bedroom activity a good amount. Your situation may be different, but the boob/pussy groping rarely works for me, unless there's some psychological arousal first. Doing it as a goof ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 07:54 PM
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Either they actually do, or they're lying to get in my pants. Doesn't matter. Yup.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 03:53 PM
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My choice is Clubman. It’s not too strong, absurdly cheap, available at any drugstore, and I (and damn-near every woman who’s smelled me close) think it smells fantastic. Surprising to me. My wife won't come near me for two days if I put on Clubman. "You smell like my HS science teacher" Wasn't a tough sell to get me to quit using it. I tried to like it, but I think it smells like an old person's house.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 02:40 PM
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Not bad. When this happens, my wife doesn't respond to the kid - she looks right at me and says "See how disrespectful you are teaching them to be!" Best I can muster at this point telling the kid that if he's going to say something, it had better at least be funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:09 PM
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That's a good answer. I can also relate to not wanting to be your obese dad. I've gotten to the point many times where I am trying to train everything all at once....be lean and huge and setting weight room PRs and running distance and sprints and lowering my golf handicap. Got to ask "What's the goal" sometimes. A person can't train everything effectively. I through the OYSs and each week you seem frustrated that you aren't gaining weight. I have friends who ran xc/track in college, and then sw…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 01:59 PM
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What is your actual goal with regard to your fitness? What you are doing right now are two diametrically opposed things. Gaining muscle mass and running marathons do not go together. Especially for dudes in their mid 30s. Pick a goal, and focus your efforts on it. Whether that be the running or the muscle gain. Like Miyagi says: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3lQSxNdr3c You want to get bigger, get bigger. You want to run, run. But you're not likely to be able to run AND get bigger at the same …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:08 AM
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Could use some tips on form and/or assistance for OHP, my numbers are v low in comparison to other lifts. Get strong triceps Get strong on the bench. *Do lots of Dips. Be patient. It's a grind adding weight to your press. Consider bumping up your Working Max every second cycle instead of every cycle. If you're doing 5/3/1, you want keep your weight in a range where, on your 5/3/1 day, you can still knock out 5-8 reps on your last set. If you get to the point where you can only do 2-3, deload. Fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 07:41 PM
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Make her tingle and she won't feel unappreciated. This appreciation thing is a rationalization. She says she needs to feel appreciated because she doesn't feel the way she wants to feel. "Appreciation" is easy for her to latch onto, because she thinks that's what she's supposed to want. But she doesn't actually know why she feels the way she does. By giving her the "appreciation" she asks for, she's just going to feel guilty about not valuing your appreciation. You will have given her what she s…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 07:06 PM
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I get home and she says she wants to be friends, I say not til you've apologised. Your goal should be to brush past this shit test, not to "win" it and rub her nose in your victory. Even if you "win", she's observing that you are noticing her shit tests, and therefore are still in her frame. You're trying to win her frame, rather than remaining in your own. A big step for me was realizing I didn't have to settle my wife's hash every time I felt wronged. To make her see it, acknowledge it, and fi…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 06:02 PM
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Diet: Determined that it was time to end my cut. Have been losing weight since August and dropped 30 lbs to around 13% bf. Had hit a plateau at around 235 and been stuck there since the end of November. Have also been having some (minor) issues with compliance. No bad cheat binges or anything....just some popcorn here or there, or a small dinner when I was hungry at night (been cutting off calories by 2PM throughout my cut). I took this as a sign to end my cut for a while and see how well I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 03:50 PM
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What about Gal? Was she French?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 03:02 AM
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Absurdity is the key to A&A
/r/askMRP20/01/17 02:58 PM
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I see...I always assumed weight class was named for the highest weight allowed - ie, 242 class is up to 242.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 02:55 PM
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I'm confused - What does this mean: "With my weight and age I was in the submaster 242lbs weight class at 269lbs." Are you saying you weighed 269, but they slotted you in the 242 class because of your age?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 02:41 PM
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A solid example of fogging, but I think you're taking her too seriously. When she goes here: "See? It's just like I said - you go to the gym and get all tired and can't help around the house." Flirt with her or tease her. A&A. Bite her neck, slap her ass. I would say something like "If I did these dishes now, what would you even have to do tomorrow?" Then grab her by her waistband and pull her over to me and grab a handful of ass. "I'm going to take a shower." Then, get up in the morning and do …
/r/askMRP20/01/17 02:34 PM
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These aholes could at least spell his name right....
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 02:50 AM
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If I put myself in my old Blue Pill brain, I can't imagine getting NMMNG from a friend within a few weeks of finding out my wife was having an affair. It would have been both crushing and infuriating. To me, the Rational Male seems to me like the only book that would make sense in that scenario. it would be a good point of entry for a guy who is really struggling with understanding why he got fucked over. True that there's not much actionable advice, but if there's anything that would help a per…
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:50 PM
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Slow down and own it. Communicate with your eyes & expression while you process. If you just take the three seconds to find what you want to say, you don't appear autistic....you're thoughtful and deliberate. If your internal dialogue is "OH FUCK I'M TAKING TOO LONG WHAT DO I SAY WHAT DO I SAY"....then you look anxious and socially retarded. Not everyone needs to be the quippy gay neighbor in the sitcom. A childhood friend of mine's dad is a quiet, alpha type. Before he'd speak, he would give a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 11:29 AM
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You're assuming these bitches would be happy if they got what they say they want.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 10:21 AM
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I have the urge to go into the spare bedroom closet where we hid all our carbs and grab movie theater popcorn for the movie tonight, but going to stay strong and munch on some pork rinds, nuts, and maybe a cheese stick instead. Snacks, whether keto friendly or not, are not ideal and will hinder your weight loss progress. You've got to learn to be OK with being kind of hungry for hours at a time. You can't 'healthy snack' your way to lean.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 10:07 AM
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Thanks for this - the misuse of "Humblebrag" ranks highly on my long list of pet peeves.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 07:02 PM
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Gap's online store has tall sizes. If i recall, youre pretty tall, too. This was huge for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 02:10 AM
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My wife has brought up some shit about things I did in the past as well. I don't even remember what it was - likely during a "I need more from you" lecture I gave her at one beta low point. Anyway, she had brought something up repeatedly, and after a few rounds of STFUing about it, I just told her "Yes, I did do that. If you want to eternally judge me based on something I did at my worst, that's up to you. I don't think that way anymore...and I think you know that." ....that has been the end of …
/r/askMRP12/01/17 03:44 PM
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Been a while since I've posted one of these.... Lifting has been mostly good. Set some PRs in Deadlift, 5 repping 475 this week. Also set a press 1RM of 240 the week of Christmas, which is the first time in my life I pressed my body weight. Struggling with squat lately - left knee fucking hurts. Few weeks ago I turned 38, and as is a personal tradition since getting back in shape a few years ago, I went down to the school gym to prove that I can still dunk a basketball at my new age. Since that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 06:07 PM
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It was in Gervais Principle. EDIT: Or be slightly evil...read them back to back, kind of blending together.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 01:36 AM
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If i recall, its a relative spectrum. High or Low relative to their partner. One mans LD might be another's HD.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 02:58 AM
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I may have to skim through WISNIFG and come back to it, for some reason I am resisting this book. I was the same way. Reading the two way dialogue is kind of brutal. It came to Audible finally in November, and I had a much easier time with the audiobook.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 03:59 PM
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I always just told my wife i was reading about life insurance.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 01:14 AM
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OP, do exactly this.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 08:21 PM
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Just accept the fact that whatever you do, you'll be +/- 2% or so. I got one of those Skulpt things as a birthday gift this year. It basically confirmed for me that the [navy method] (http://fitness.bizcalcs.com/Calculator.asp?Calc=Body-Fat-Navy) is about right.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 08:17 PM
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This coverage is costing someone a shitload of money. I'd rather take it in wages and pay for my own massage, or keep the money and just have my daughter walk on my back.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:21 PM
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Or is an alpha supposed to not care if his wife's vagina is torn? This might be my favorite thing I've read since finding this place.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 05:50 PM
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Maybe. Go do the dig and link to the best posts you find.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 09:57 PM
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There are thousands of posts on this between askMRP and marriedredpill subs. Go to /r/marriedredpill and click on almost any of the mods' usernames. Scroll all the way back to their first few pages of posts and you're bound to get some good FRs on shit tests. You'll get better reading from that than whatever you get in responses to this post.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 09:13 PM
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"Hey wife, I'm done with the sex schedule. Its not working for me"
/r/askMRP13/12/16 12:10 AM
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Alone. Your wife will test your commitment to diet changes like its her job. Easiest shit test to recognize.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 01:40 PM
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I'm with you here - the "sounds like she's trying to please you" doesn't sit well. Where do we get the hint that she's trying to please him? Only from HER WORDS. How do those compare to her actions? He gets lame sex, starfish, and excuses for not giving bjs. It doesn't sound like she's trying to please him. She wants him to be pleased, sure, as long as he is pleased with her minimal effort. Anyway, I'd agree that this doesn't change much with regard to how OP deals with his situation. Be attract…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 04:04 PM
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It took me about 2 months to draw "Daddy" out of my wife's mouth without a laugh or smirk. OP asks for how to do it with a straight face? You just do - even if you're embarrassed inside for revealing it, you keep the straight face. I have a lot of frame work to do on myself, but here's a small, raw example where I held frame in the bedroom and she has since happily followed.... First time: me: you like that dick? her: I do, I love it me: who gives it to you? her: You. You do. me: What do you cal…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 03:28 PM
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Some version of this question (or the same question about Immersion), almost always follows when anyone reads SGM. The book is treated like the definitive guide to great sex in these forums, yet almost any specific question about how to E or how to I is answered in circular logic. (How do I engage her emotions? By engaging her emotions!) Half of the DEVI formula - E & I - is an enigma. Those parts are almost like timing in a golf swing, or any other technical athletic movement. When you have it,…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:53 PM
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I need to build my frame Have you read these? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/308j0b/how_to_lead_a_wife_that_doesnt_let_you/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/337uvx/the_elements_of_frame_0_introduction/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/33t792/the_elements_of_frame_1_physical_basis/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/35tzkz/the_elements_of_frame_2_intellectual_basis/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/420fuh/the_elements…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 08:29 PM
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Doesn't really address the solipsism. Near every female I've ever worked with is convinced that if they are doing a task, they are the only ones working. This changes at home if I'm not a faggot?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 05:00 PM
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Between pets & kids, nobody warned me how much vomit, shit, and piss I would deal with as an adult. My estimation was off by two orders of magnitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 04:15 PM
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Set a new squat 1RM this morning at 300 lb. Potentially could have gone for more, but I'm playing the long game Always good to see folks training smart rather than according to inspirational t-shirt slogans.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 01:38 PM
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I call it conditioning, because words matter. "Cardio" is for guys who have "arms day", "chest day" and "shoulders day".
/r/askMRP28/11/16 05:09 PM
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Shit tests aren't to be feared or avoided. Welcome them - they are an opportunity.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 12:04 PM
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Perhaps you are right. My test could probably be higher than it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/16 02:09 PM
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Who bitch this is?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/16 02:28 AM
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It was a drive by "Hey, where's the kid" as the exiting mob passed through the hallway. To get Seinfeldian and break down exactly what this was, I'd call it intrusive more than rude. She was by the wall in a conversation as I passed. I wanted some relevant, easy information. Seems to be a big focus here among the other comments that my behavior was way out of line. I give it maybe a 2/10. Anyway, provided my rogue antisocial behavior doesn't get her shitcanned, I'm going to be spending a night o…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 05:11 AM
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I like this - you flipped my perspective here. From "How do I hold frame on her turf" to "That's cute, you run the swingset"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 10:01 PM
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Exactly right on #3. I hamstered long and hard that night and the next morning. Turning this into a FR, and note your question about the AMOG....
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 05:44 PM
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My first mistake was to start StrongLifts the same day as a relatively unsatisfying (ie not punishing enough) leg workout, adding the squats on top of that was probably too much for one day. Are you saying you did a workout, then started SL afterward because it wasn't punishing enough? And then you're worried about overtraining? Pick a popular program (like StrongLifts - good decision). If it's popular and strong guys do it - chances are, it's a worthwhile program. Step 2 is, just fucking do it.…
/r/askMRP23/11/16 04:36 PM
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I think mine was more of a problem with the page on Amazon...or my understanding of it. - I searched for the specific zero carb version, looked at the label on the initial page, then switched flavors. Ended up buying something I'd consider a completely different product. But you're right that the flavors tend to be a little different in terms of calories. Usually I don't think it's worth it to bother if it's just 5 calories or 2-3 g carbs. Obviously, this was quite different, and my fault for no…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:48 AM
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I'm a little over 6'3 myself. If you've got room to deadlift, you should be able to manage a hang clean. Anyway - my observation here is that it's actually when you drop the weight and catch it that hits my traps & upper back the most. The short distance of the pull is better, too (for that purpose). I've had phases where I'd get into full olympic style c&j or power cleans off the floor, the effect isn't the same. And dropping all the way to the floor eliminates the catch. Those lifts have their…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:40 AM
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Boots are just some basic $70 chukkas...Calling them boots to someone who wears boots out of necessity is about like calling a Ford Ranger a truck. Definitely audience appropriate. I'd be a poseur if they were real work boots - they work for my jeans/casual office job. Good idea on the FR - Will work on adding some relevant context and add to the main board.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 05:59 PM
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Last Post I usually steal my OYS template from my last post and as I update, I read what I posted last time. As I got started, my situation seemed relatively stagnant upon first glance. "What am I going to write about? Nothing has really changed....." When comparing to entries from last week, nothing looks different. But I also went back and did some reading of my posts & journal entries from 4-6 weeks ago. The comparison to these shows some consistent evolution. Keep in mind for future journals…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 02:18 PM
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You can't just disappear to the gym and think she's going to magically start going to the gym and lifting herself, she doesn't know shit about Fitness and Nutrition. Right, because all most heavy women actually lack is her husband explaining to her the importance of diet and exercise. If his sex life isn't where he wants it to be, should he sit his wife down and explain the importance of his sexual satisfaction?
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:26 PM
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Tell her... Talk to her about... Let her know.... Let her know... How many guys are here for a lack of attempting to explain themselves to their wives?
/r/askMRP17/11/16 08:33 PM
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Apparently the new hotness is explaining shit to your wife? Why didn't we all think of that?
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:58 PM
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Started listening to this on my way to work today. Good thing Audible's got such a generous return policy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 03:51 PM
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Not really odd, IMO. Every hefty woman in my office spends their entire fucking day talking about their "Healthy snacks". But they don't ever stop eating and gain weight perpetually. Throwing out all the junk food and buying "Healthy" is mostly theater. Only thing that ever really works is the dieter accepting the feeling of being a little bit hungry for extended periods of time. If they can't do that, it could be Almonds or M&Ms, will make little difference. At least with the M&Ms, they know th…
/r/askMRP15/11/16 05:11 PM
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It's a first principle of Wendler's program. Dan John & Pavel Tsatsouline - two very influential strength coaches of the last 20 years wrote a [great book] (https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Strength-Stronger-Competition-Dominate-ebook/dp/B005Q6M79A) about the concept. Now, I'm sure my appeal to authority here can be met with another appeal to authority that contradicts mine. Bigger and stronger guys than us I'm sure succeeded using both methods. If a person wants to do it, knock yourself out, I guess…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 02:35 PM
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I read "first day". Now i get what you mean....
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:40 PM
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Bench press up to 175. First day of 5x5 did not go well. Barely got the weight up, and felt a hell of a long way to a smooth 5x5. If you're struggling like that on your first day of a program, you started too heavy. Weights shouldn't be easy, but they don't need to be hard. Should feel like you could have done one or two more reps at the end of each set. Lotta guys here talk about needing to lift to exhaustion, or to failure. Unnecessary & counter productive.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 08:44 PM
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Is your blog mostly directed at them? Because your posts seem to address a specific type of guy.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 06:35 PM
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What you are describing - fatigue, loss of strength, sounds like wrong diet. Read the post he links. I had been low carb dieting on and off for 5 years, and saw the same phenomenon...id get smaller but never much better body comp. Been in the linked plan for 3 months. Nothing ever got me as lean as i am now, and im still at or near lifetime prs in main lifts at a weight i havent seen since 2002. If you dont try and lose weight too fast, you shouldnt see much loss of strength. If you lose more th…
/r/askMRP10/11/16 04:00 AM
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Great post.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 09:28 PM
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Mostly good, yes. It's better than it's been in our married life. It's close to where it was when we were dating. At her best, I got very enthusiastic but conventional sex. But I'm looking to push past that too - whether that's something she's capable of, we'll see. Also, I don't care as much....Some weeks it is average, some weeks it's great. So I enjoy the great, brush off the average. In the past I would have obsessed over it all.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 09:00 PM
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I wrote it that way to highlight the absurdity, so I know what you're getting at here. But to complete the exercise: Her libido was low (for me) because I wasn't stimulating it. And she can't fix that (for me). I wasn't physically attractive. I was overweight and out of shape. (Lift) I wasn't stimulating. Even after I began to improve myself, we occupied a homebody routine with no friends and few activities. Despite doing nothing, we spent every moment together outside of work. (Book of Pook) I …
/r/askMRP09/11/16 08:20 PM
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Lift. Lifting and looking better does so much to up your self esteem that it's as close to a magic bullet as there is. Journal. Write out your thoughts about your self worth, where it has ever come from, why it is lacking. Look at your sex life, what you want, why you want what you want, etc. Anything that dominates your thoughts - career, family, money - write it out and really delve into it. Get it out of your head and organize it on a page into a coherent narrative about your development as a…
/r/askMRP09/11/16 04:17 PM
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[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5ahz6s/own_your_shit_weekly_november_01_2016/d9iawx0/ ) Lifting: Lifting is OK. Seem to be nearing plateaus in DL and press. Squat continues to improve with the additional practice. Seem to be a consequence of trade offs for my current program. Also need to include some time dedicated to mobility and dynamic movements to keep myself flexible. Cut out chin ups a few weeks ago due to some pain in my right armpit area that only h…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 10:16 PM
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I agree with all of this. And if you tie yourself to your kids success and failure, which you will inevitably do if you consciously make it your "mission", it will interfere with other aspects of a productive parent/child relationship.
/r/askMRP07/11/16 06:34 PM
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I'm almost positive that the answer to this is in the standard reading assignments. It's you. You initiate if you want something. And as deadsandsushi notes in her comment, usually womens' initiating is much more subtle than you'll realize. An extra button open in her shirt, her bending over to expose a little breast, her standing close, etc. This is all in MMSLP But past the answer to the original question, if you're upset that your wife isn't initiating, it probably means one of two things: Yo…
/r/askMRP06/11/16 12:51 PM
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I've got a home gym, and it still works. Once you get the chemical reaction of exercise, it's tough to walk away. And I always get a real sense of accomplishment knowing I just put down a good workout on a day when when I might have skipped.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 12:56 AM
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First, what's the low hanging fruit for you? What's the easiest/most fun/least awful thing to improve? What gives the most results? Do those first. You get momentum from these. If it's lifting, focus on that. If it's your job, focus there. Be successful at something and when that's routine, add the next easiest thing. Second don't depend on "Motivation". It will eventualy wane, no matter how hardcore you start out. Depend on discipline and routine. You have to want this more than you want your v…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:50 PM
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The election's next week - still a chance.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 03:59 PM
1

Like too many books, I got excited when reading the first half - the "Identifying the problem" phase. Then the resolution is rolling back centuries of scientific progress and standards of living? Yeah...no thanks, Stone Cold. The small picture stuff you can do - male friends, masculine competence, fair enough, I can get with that. Applying across society? That gets to be kind of a stretch.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 03:53 PM
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I left this book unconvinced. Memory is a little foggy, but doesn't he get into, essentially, how more economically productive professions are worse for society than brutal physical labor? A higher standard of living - plentiful food, climate controls, not breaking your body to feed yourself.....longer life expectancy...the horror! These are not bad things. Maybe our brains are lagging in how we psychologically adapt to decreasing scarcity....doesn't mean we should reject it. Also, the realities…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:48 PM
1

You're setting yourself up for massive disappointment. Judging by your replies to the posts, your covert contracts are intensifying. I can't tell if these guys are just fucking with you or what, but this mid 40s midwestern couple...one doesn't know what to wear in vegas, one with a medical issue who balks at lingerie and barely fucks at home....and you're thinking you will be going clubbing and doing shots and fucking against the window? Do you go out clubbing at home? High five if it happens, b…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 02:05 PM
1

Been with my wife since HS, and she never liked oral. Maybe I was not proficient, but she finds the thought repulsive and always has. Not sure if it's related - I think this aversion is mostly mental - but she says her clit is too sensitive anytime I ever touch - even with lube after she's warmed up. She orgasms from PIV whenever she wants to - probably 1/3 of the time. With fingering, that stopped happening after her labor experience with our first kid - had a 'traumatic' exam with some butch n…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 09:20 PM
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I don't think a crying 1 year old is a 2 person problem. Easier for me to say being past this age with my offspring, but don't scrap your workout just so you can share the misery. If a real problem pops up, sure, be flexible. Go at night, switch days, whatever. But just be able to recognize the difference between ACTUAL emergencies and the guilt you're used to feeling for leaving your wife to deal with something she is perfectly capable of handling alone while you're doing something for you. If …
/r/askMRP03/11/16 08:14 PM
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This is great.... TFA: Why do you GAF? OP: I don't. Trying not to anyway, for over a year. TFA: What? Why aren't you leading! You need to GAF! This is your Wife!
/r/askMRP03/11/16 01:28 PM
1

[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/599yhh/own_your_shit_weekly_october_25_2016/d974z9l/) Lifting: Lifting is fine - set 5 rep PRs on Dead & Squat on Saturday. Continues to be a priority in my life. Staying healthy and progress are the priority here, in that order. Eating: Been on a plateau with regard to weight. Hit 241ish Mid October, been fluctuating between 244 and 239 for the last 3 weeks. I'm not very concerned. Body comp seems good, and while I still have…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 01:31 PM
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What good behavior? The sexy pic the morning before? You can rationalize all kinds of behaviors by framing them as rewards. Glad it works for this guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 09:14 PM
3

So this is interesting....The making breakfast and leaving the note seems to go against MRP advices. Why I find this interesting is because of how this little action - the breakfast and her getting after you that night - reminds me of my own experience: I was a lazy ahole early in my marriage (not saying that's you, just setting context for my story). Anyway, mostly due to my shitty existence, I wasn't getting what I wanted from my wife. I had the "Would you fuck you" talk with myself. On my own…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 07:18 PM
2

Sounds like a necessary read. Thanks for the recommendation.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:04 PM
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Decent list for once you finish the sidebar: https://www.reddit.com/r/redpillbooks/comments/2fae6w/red_pill_books_from_the_professor/
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 01:56 PM
1

Not sure where the coffee comment comes from, but...ok!? My rule of thumb is if you're losing more than about 1% of your body weight per week, then you're probably not eating enough. The first month or so you can probably get away with steeper weight loss, but after that you should settle in to something more steady. 50 lbs in 5 months is great progress. I've never done keto, so I don't know it's specifics. I did every other low carb variation under the sun over the past 5 years or so....and whi…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 11:31 AM
2

There are a number of reasons why you could plateau - stress, sleep, diet? All on point? If not, fix that. If so, I'll start with the most important thing here - abundance mentality applies to lifting, too. If you have a shitty day, so what. Sometimes your body responds shittily. Just keep showing up. You need to lift with the long game in mind - how strong you're going to be in 1 year, 2 years, or 5 years if you just show up each day. Not racing to how soon you can bench 250 or whatever your go…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 03:14 AM
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Well, for what it's worth I do realize it's quite important. More important than any redpill truths about feminine imperative or game that I've learned from being here. And while the initial post may be a little unclear, I mean to say that I understand that the validation I had been seeking is fickle and ultimately empty. I get it. But it doesn't change the fact that I had not, to this point, developed the tools know how to seek anything else. I appreciate the response.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 08:15 PM
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Ah shit, checked my post history and it was me. Wrote that not long after i started the book, before it fell apart... Guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 11:02 AM
1

I also tried listening to Iron John on the recommendations of one of you assholes. That book is not a good audiobook. I mentioned it, but don't think I gave it a recommendation. Thought it started out with a really interesting premise and then meandered for a long, long time without any real purpose or conclusion. I did crank the narration speed up to 1.25x, which I think helped the audiobook tremendously. It seems to help for most audiobooks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 04:11 PM
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[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/582pt1/own_your_shit_weekly_october_18_2016/d8x0ihl/) Lifting: Steady progress. Set rep PRs in Press (205x5) Deadlift (445x5) and Squat (385x6) this week. Also set a high rep PR for Squat @ 280 x 22. The full body 3 days a week program has left me feeling 'better' than the movement splits I typically do for 531 (Press, Dead, Squat, Bench once a week). I'm more fresh and excited to lift the 3 day/week schedule. Squatting 3 time…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 03:42 PM
1

Reins
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 07:58 PM
2

So you just chill and offer up snark while she handles what sounds like utter fucking chaos? Being a better man means owning your shit. If she needs to tell you to handle a crying kid instead of you taking the initiative to do it on your own, you aren't doing that.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 02:29 AM
1

Pardon my density, but I'm not sure I follow. What is No True Scotsman applying to here?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 08:30 PM
1

Pareto principle applies. 80% of your results will come from the big principles seem to apply universally....lift, be attractive, be busy, frame, abundance mentality, etc. The more specific shit that comes up in FR posts about what worked for one guy and sound good may or may not work in everyone's situation. The conditioning of availability seems to fit in this bucket. If you try to thread the needle where you can align your behavior with every idea that sounds cool in a post, you're going to e…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 03:31 PM
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What do men get out of the deal? The truth. I'm still in the hard work phase too. And while I'm sure it gets easier, I'm also sure it never becomes as dreamy as the fantasy you outline in the first paragraph. But at least you're pursuing something real, rather than a fictional idea that neither redpill or bluepill will allow you to achieve.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 09:44 PM
1

We did discuss something like this before - but when you put it this way, my approach is obviously wrong. Obviously not putting 2+2 together, I've been trying to basically keep the sex frequency at what I'm accustomed to (2-3x/week) while not escalating every time I get the green light. Mathematically, this would require me to get MORE green lights than I typically am....which would be nice, but certainly can't be counted on in the short term.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 08:27 PM
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I'm not all that concerned about her denying an initiation - this, I can handle. The reason I find it infuriating is that I want a continual flirty interaction as the norm. Something that escalates to sex sometimes, or maybe doesn't....but the 'mood' is always there. This preemptive thing short circuits that before it even gets started. Your comment about how my plans should be unaffected is well taken - this is true. Allowing myself to be short circuited is obvious evidence of a weak frame. Wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:18 PM
1

[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/56x1x4/own_your_shit_weekly_october_11_2016/d8ndfc0) This week was not terribly notable in any aspect - a short update today keeps the string going, but not much to add. Diet: After my trip, I gained about 2 lbs in the first few days back (245). I suspect this was due to me re-upping with the creatine. Was back down to 241 by the weekend. Woke up a couple of lbs heavier today - sticking to this is easy. Lifting: Full body 3x/w…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 10:07 AM
4

Discipline makes a person lift, not motivation.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 12:05 AM
1

Watch this video and practice some [Goat Bag Swings] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tm7RlvlMXD8) If you don't have a KB, you can use a sandbag, a dumbbell or even a plate for the same effect. This is a patterning movement, not a strength building exercise, so no need to try to bust out 3 x 10 Goat Bag Swings with increasing weight. Just do a few when you warm up until the move feels natural. When you lower the Deadlift bar, you just do the goat bag move until the bar clears your knees. Then be…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 07:10 PM
2

[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/55siug/own_your_shit_weekly_october_04_2016/d8f44gm) Diet: Lost another few lbs this week, down to 243. This while I was on vacation and eating hotel breakfast/fast food lunch. Stuck to 8 hour eating window and calorie limits. Tough to hit protein intake without shakes, so I was short of 1g/lb most days. Some weight loss likely due to no creatine. Lifting: I'm on a deload right now, and will be transitioning to a full body/3 d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 02:57 PM
1

Thanks - all good points.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 08:32 PM
1

Sorry, that's usually explicitly stated too - ie, "Don't expect anything tonight, I'm so sick". "We are not doing that tonight- ugh, my neck is so sore." It's literally the first thing out of her mouth any time I go to flirt/kino. Thinking maybe I'm being too obvious with intent, and doing this too soon after first getting home - may need more of a push/pull interaction, whereas I'm probably trying to do more of a pull/push/pull. Some of the questions/FRs over on AskMRP this week have highlighte…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 02:25 PM
3

Is it coincidence that 95% of all transgender children are boys being encouraged and affirmed by their parents and teachers to switch to being girls? Is this true? Because every time I see a feature in my local newspaper about the inspirational trans high school student and their supportive friends and teachers, its a pretty faced girl with a Justin Beiber haircut.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 12:17 AM
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Before his downward spiral, would he have looked at your marriage as something to emulate? you could present all the answers to his problems, but if he thinks you're a chump, he won't be able to separate the ideas from You. Is "why would I want to be like that fucking guy" a likely thought for him? It sounds to me like maybe so....the way you have phrased all of this sounds like you two don't really like or respect each other, and that you only give a shit because you think you know the answer. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 11:30 PM
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From his perspective, are you worth following advice from?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 01:15 PM
1

I think the meaning RPSigmaStigma's post is that she might not have this mode. Cranking it up to 12 and committing hard isn't going to bring it out if it isn't there. So if it's that important to you, then you're most likely going to have to blow up your marriage and/or get it elsewhere. A common Redpill-ism is something along the lines of "Where do you think she learned all that stuff that you like so much in bed". If you got together young and her n count is you +1....well, where/when would sh…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 09:08 PM
1

I'm a Wendler 531 evangelist. Every time i have strayed from the program, i go back after 6 week and feel like I've lost 2 months worth of training. If im ever smart enough to do 531 for a solid full year, look out. But it depends on your goal. Mine is strength, period. Read the book(s) before you go trying to pull a version of it off of t nation or something though. Understand the principles, the deload, etc. and then do the Boring But Big variation for 12 weeks. After that, you should have som…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 06:10 PM
1

I'm in an almost identical situation. Wife likes PIV almost exclusively. Does not like to have her clit touched at all, no oral, fingers, toys. Will orgasm about 25% of the time, but not really a 'goal' for her when we have sex. Frequency is good, but I get almost violent resistance any time I attempt to stray outside the very conservative boundary she's drawn around our bedroom activities. FWIW, she attended all religious schools, but never an actively religious person. Apparently only internal…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:26 PM
1

[Link to prior OYS] (https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/54pmff/own_your_shit_weekly_september_27_2016/d8482is) Diet: Diet going well. Lost another 3 lbs last week, which totals 20 lbs since August 4th. I'm within 10 lbs of my original goal weight, but with this all going so well, I think I may lower another 5 lbs to 230. Assuming I don't lose any LBM, 230 will put me at around 12% BF. A trimming mishap led to me shaving my beard last week, which led to me shaving my torso too just …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:37 PM
1

https://read.amazon.com/
/r/askMRP03/10/16 04:58 PM
2

If she chose the beta, and the guy WAS beta at the time, then she doesn't have any obligation to accept the new alpha RP man. No part of Rollo's writing, or TRP in general, is predicated on expecting a woman to fulfill an obligation.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 08:33 PM
1

Thanks for feedback. The way I see it right now is that I've got two variables - my scarcity, her cycle - that have changed recently and it's likely that one of the two have caused a reaction that I prefer. I don't want to be fooling myself that my scarcity is what did it, when it's just simple biology. In a couple of weeks, if I keep up the scarcity, I should have a better idea which variable was most important. But either way, my being occupied makes it easier to NGAF. If that's also a DHV, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 03:50 PM
3

Link to prior OYS Diet: Diet still progressing. Best weight this week was about 247 on Friday (Seems to be my peak morning each week). Consistency. Grade: Excellent Lifting: Lifting is decent. Still a bit gun shy about the back, but it's just tight now and not paiful. Just more consistency here. Not pushing rep PRs until back is 100% The running continues, but it's a fucking grind. I hate it, am not built for it. I continue to do the work. Putting a hard cap on at 30 min, though. Grade: Meets Ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 03:51 PM
1

Don't worry about muscle loss and nit picky bullshit when you're 32% BF. If you do anything right at 285, you'll lose fat. Been there. When you're struggling to get past 12% BF or to finally see veins across your abs, that is the point where you can be concerned about diet tweaks and how they impact muscle loss. Lift right and eat right consistently. Build good days on top of good days over a long period of time. And don't be in too much of a rush. If you're losing > 3 lbs/week after the first t…
/r/askMRP23/09/16 09:32 PM
1

Not about getting lean? Cardio – if you’re fat, as in you don’t have abs, you have to do cardio. I agree with what you're saying now. That it's a skill set that is important. It's one I'm working on myself for that reason....but it does little to help me lose weight. Big guys trying to lose weight should diet their way to 20%ish before they do anything more intense than walking. And definitely not fucking around with HIIT, unless they are looking to get injured - feet, calves, achilles, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 03:38 PM
1

What program are you doing? If you're plateauing, go back to the weights you were training at 4 weeks ago and work back up. Also, OJ makes me bloated and shit like crazy. In college, when I would get a cold, I'd always try to drink OJ 3x+/day, thinking that would help fight it off. Took a couple of years for me to figure out why I always got horrible diarrhea every time I got a cold. Don't drink juice, dude. It's not doing anything good for you anyway. And if you want to get big, live by this bo…
/r/askMRP23/09/16 03:28 PM
1

Which puts me back at not knowing how to handle this. I'm left trying to read "Hard no or LMR?" into her response? This is my own doing, after probably 7 years in the middle of our marriage bitching about my need for sex, when she was obviously not attracted to me. What I got was years of starfish mercy sex on a regular basis....to the point where she feels the obligation to do it if I press the issue. Obviously, I no longer want that. It's worse than none at all. But I struggle with undoing the…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 02:59 PM
2

I get what you're saying, but I don't think that helps me here. SGM works if she's participating, but not when it's just 'lie back and think of the queen'. You can't play catch with someone who refuses to participate - you're just throwing a ball at them, even if you can hit them in the hands. My problem here is that the conventional advice is "It's just LMR unless she's giving you a hard no"...well, I don't get a hard no. I get soft no, that I can steamroll past pretty easily, followed by mopey…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 05:34 PM
1

An epidemic among we ancient nude Olympic art enthusiasts.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 03:14 PM
1

I found this mrp/AskMRP in June or July. Haven't posted anywhere else, ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:52 PM
1

(Link to prior OYS)[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/52jenj/own_your_shit_weekly_september_13_2016/d7mu5x1] Diet: Diet is going well. Dipped under 250 for the first time in a couple of years. Continue to log calories, 40/40/20 macro split. Doing an IF style eating window - just eat breakfast and lunch each day. Window is from 630 AM to 230 PM. Supplement creatine, fish oil, ZMA. Added Yohimbine HCL this week, not noticing much at all. Grade: Satisfactory Lifting: Lifting is OK. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 09:38 PM
1

Bottom line is, if you want vascularity and less fat covering your muscles, you've got to shed the fat. This is where I'm at myself right now. Keep your diet tight and lift heavy. It's hard to gain muscle and lose fat at the same time....I'd say don't worry so much about muscle size while you're dropping fat. As the fat comes off, you'll look bigger despite being smaller. Keep grinding, provided your current grind is progressing. With regard to programs after you "graduate" from SS, Variations o…
/r/askMRP19/09/16 08:16 PM
1

First OYS post. Married (late 30s) wife same age. 3 kids. This week hasn't been great for me. I can feel myself back sliding. It is also coinciding with Wife's PMS week, so this to me is evidence that I am still very dependent on wife's reflection of progress, and not OI. Diet: Been tracking calories @ 500 cal deficit/day. 40/40/20 p/f/c split. With my current restricted calorie diet, I have stalled on weight loss. Remain at 253. Looking to get down to 235. However I did discover a significant m…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 07:47 PM
1

Which parts were actually important? Basically, none of it until I realized what she's doing doesn't matter. There's also a lesson I can learn for how to handle the initial grilling in a way that would have squashed the whole thing in one move, and preempted the reaction. STFU is the go to for me now, but it feels like prevent defense.
/r/askMRP03/09/16 02:04 PM
1

I think I can go there - I think this FR of fumbling around and finally kind of handling a challenge helps recognize how to more competently handle the next one. I read all this shit, and then think "No, my situation isn't EXACTLY like this, so this might not actually work for me." And then you actually do what you've been reading about, and then the path seems a little more clear.
/r/askMRP03/09/16 01:52 PM
1

Absolutely true on the ego protection. Thanks for the reply
/r/askMRP03/09/16 01:46 PM
1

Thanks for the feedback. I don't think the fitness thing is the root issue at this point - more my generally passive demeanor and weak frame. Definitely been living in her frame for a long time, and my biggest challenge strengthening mine. I see how given my weight numbers, you might think otherwise, but I'm 6'3 and wear size 36 jeans. 17ish% bf and I compete in strength centric sports. Still a 20 lbs heavier than I need to be, but my physique is probably a strength rather than a weakness. I kno…
/r/askMRP02/09/16 03:25 PM
2

The bedroom stuff you describe isn't that uncommon in women who don't have trauma in their pasts. It's basically what drove me to discovering RP, and my wife has had no major trauma in her life. Your wife may need therapy for her mental well-being, but I think you're going to be severely disappointed if you think it's going to end up making her open up in the sack.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 09:08 PM
1

The Fountainhead. Howard Roark is red pill personified. Also Rand's most readable book, IMO.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 12:01 AM
-6

"As an attorney" ....validation seeking?
/r/askMRP26/08/16 01:47 AM
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People using "said" as an adjective is a fucking disease around here. You all sound like law school flunk-outs. Am I the only person who can't stand this?
/r/askMRP26/08/16 01:15 AM
2

How fat are you? Height/weight? Are you a formerly athletic guy who ballooned up, or never trained? Universal advice for any fatty: Start walking. Walk 2 miles every single morning. Walk again in the evening if you can. But do it every single day. Don't dive into jogging, or HIIT or any of that shit. You'll get hurt if you're really heavy. Feet, knees, ankles, back, will get fucked up if you go too hard too soon. Just walk - it will work well for a long time. And don't do shit like exercise biki…
/r/askMRP22/08/16 04:19 PM
1

Obviously, the consequence of discovery is diminishing the weight of any changes that I've made - will seem like I'm following an instruction manual rather than actual internalized changes. Which may even be the case at this point. Working on it. I'm not intending to share any of this with her - again, I'm looking for a way to frame these questions if they come up, not to explain "Here's what I'm doing and why".
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:34 PM
1

This is becoming a semantic argument, at this point, isn't it? What I get out of what you're saying is that a MAP isn't a covert contract because it actually gets you what you want. I want X, I do Y and Z will give X to me. vs. I want X, I will do Y, which means I get X whether Z gives it to me or not. ?
/r/askMRP12/08/16 06:57 PM
2

I haven't used MINT in several years....YNAB is superior IMO. ...just sayin
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 06:21 PM
2

Agree. Be patient, man. Manage your own shit first. Lose your weight, get strong. Nagging her about her diet is the opposite of stoic. The idea is for your SMV increase to inspire her to want to keep up with you. I have no idea if buying the cake she wants is a bad beta move, or what, so I can't speak to the other levels that it's a detriment to you. But just from the pragmatic side of weight loss, you can't convince another person to prioritize losing weight. It has to be their idea, or it won'…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 09:29 PM
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