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| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.To me you are still focusing on what you perceive as unchangeable aspects, when they are changeable. You can be considered not attractive, but with the right swagger/clothing/haircut become attractive enough. Lack of hair? shave it, grow a beard. Facial aspects not symmetric? Usually not a big issue if you do not carry the perception that it's a problem with you (optionally if it really is an issue, you can have plastic surgery, but that's typically only recommended for e.g. burn victims). Not t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/25 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.Before you are two paths: one where you emphasize and dwell on your failures and let that get to you, this can become a negative spiral. The other is to embrace change and try a different approach. If you're not finding success with what you've done in the past, a bigger change is needed; and change doesn't feel comfortable. Change your environment: travel, engage with new activities outside your comfort zone to find new people (something as simple as social meetup events on e.g. meetup.com if t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.I agree it's not enough by itself in isolation, but I do see the advice meant to steer you away from being phony or wishy-washy; i.e. bending your personality to seem more likeable to other person (weak strategy). As you say confidence is not innate to everyone, and you will need more than 'just be yourself'. The old timey advice is meant to be used in combination with other advice, e.g. with suggestions of avenues to grow as a person, to become someone that attracts others (and gain confidence)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.Have you been your best self though? Worked on yourself (gym, basic grooming, clothing), gained confidence, roughed through rejections until they don't bother you? Have you sought books on how to hold conversations? Have you tried rooting your sense of self on inner pillars of core values instead of external validation? It is less about how you look than how you behave and present yourself. Success is learning from mistakes. The learning is the critical component. The you of yesterday isn't the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 08:43 PM |
| 6 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.It's about authenticity (and confidence gained from portraying your true self), but generally I like to re-phrase this one as: 'be your best self' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 08:29 PM |
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