dkismet Archive

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5	Views on RSD? I haven't done it myself but I was a part of the community for years, talked to many who have, I've seen them run the boot camps first hand. Personally I think it's overkill and too costly. The experience can be beneficial in helping you realize what is possible, but after the weekend you are back to making it happen on your own. It's not a quick fix and you still have to go through the drudgery of learning game one step at a time. If your eager to spend money on something I'd take the hotseat. …	/r/seduction	31/08/15 08:38 PM
26	What to do when girls generalise you as a "player" When your confident, girls may wonder why. She is testing that confidence. In my head, players are liars and I don't lie. Therefore I'd have the same response to being accused of a player as I would if she accused me of being a serial killer. "Dang you caught me. Please don't leave me I need a 103rd girlfriend or my life will never be complete" smile and do something to exaggerate the comment like grab her hand, etc. followed up by laughter and a new topic. -edit: woah! thanks for the gold!	/r/seduction	01/09/14 06:23 PM
3	Is this the right approach? I wouldn't get your hopes up or anything as a random Internet encounter is a long shot. But fuck it, what do you got to lose. Just adder her and send her a message "have we met?" And go from there	/r/seduction	02/12/13 04:22 AM
2	Why am i so fun to be with when i'm drunk but completely opposite when i'm sober? How can i fix this? unstifle yourself and get into a mode of expressing yourself freely and not worried about what other people think. here's an example: http://youtu.be/ag0b0-AFQAA?t=8m45s yes, it looks retarded, but it breaks your out of your head, and reassures yourself you can do whatever you want and get away with it	/r/seduction	26/11/13 02:52 AM
1	How do you flirt with a beautiful, hot girl that is obviously getting hit on by many other guys? Be normal by not trying to impress her	/r/seduction	08/11/13 05:56 PM
1	Entitlement and Confidence I'm saying not to do those things in conversation. Essentially accept who you are and where your at and be with the girl in that moment. Trying to impress, be alpha, or funny in an attempt to win the girl is not congruent with your true self and will come off weird. Progress in the day to day should be standard. I'd like to assume that anyone who is here is already taking steps to improve themselves. Recommending someone to accept where they are at in life and never seek improvement is a one way…	/r/seduction	28/10/13 06:24 AM
0	Entitlement and Confidence how so? If anything, it should me more awkward for a woman to approach, as it goes against the essential roles of the feminine and masculine.	/r/seduction	26/10/13 08:48 PM
2	I got rejected so much that I can't approach anymore. What should I do? Have you ever tried to just make friends? Sometimes pickup is so goal oriented that it causes people to take on a persona which come off as needy, weird, creepy, incongruent, or some other undesirable characteristic. If you can just make casual conversation they shouldn't be 'blowing you out'. Make casual conversation with men and women alike. Eventually your confidence will build and you'll be more comfortable. As you become more relaxed your natural humor will flow and girls will be more likel…	/r/seduction	09/10/13 04:53 AM
3	2 years and 276 days of going out and I still have not approached a single girl. Please help. I recommend that you stop reviewing pickup material. After years of reading material, you have a pretty good idea of what a good pickup should look like right? Well, that might actually be much more counter-productive then you think. Imagine the guitar had just been invented. The inventor walks up to you and says "here! take this and play with these strings and let me know what you think of the sounds". You would likely observe this piece of wood and steel and uncertainly pluck/push/pick some of…	/r/seduction	02/10/13 12:43 AM
1	How do you put yourself in the right frame of mine for pick up Everyone is so concerned about how they are supposed to act, or what people will think about them. That's the whole point of the exercise- to stop giving a fuck. If you can joke around and entertain yourself in front of a super hottie, chances are, she's never seen a guy who could do that. Someone who is so at ease in front if a beautiful woman. Think Jack Black or Chris Farley behavior. This isn't a tactic. It's not what your doing that's attractive, it's the mood and energy you generate from t…	/r/seduction	15/09/13 11:18 PM
-1	How do you put yourself in the right frame of mine for pick up Focus on having fun / seek entertainment Play childish games, yell, make strange sounds, hip bump randoms, challenge others to a thumb war, jump up n down for no reason etc. Whatever it takes to make you authentically LOL, do it. It's gets you out of your head, breaks self-consciousness, it's shameless, and is a light hearted and enjoyable energy to be around. Get a girl laughing then lead from there	/r/seduction	15/09/13 05:45 PM
0	I'm going to a huge college house party tomorrow. Give me everything you can arm me with, Seddit. 1.Don't be afraid to do anything you want as if you own the place (just don't be destructive). 2.Have fun. 3. Repeat	/r/seduction	05/04/13 04:36 PM
3	How do you set the terms of a relationship once you've gamed them? are there methods of keeping distance and attraction without being heartless? My personal 'system' that has worked flawlessly for me: I like to establish a sexual relationship as soon as possible. Never call face-to-face encounters 'dates' only 'hangouts'. This sets a casual but sexual frame. I keep contact limited. I do not reply to their text messages promptly, and try to keep texting conversations relatively short, or at least spread out. I set the frame that 'I'm a busy person with lots of friends/responsibilities/hobbies/etc, and only have so much free time to share"…	/r/seduction	30/01/13 12:18 AM
1	Is being an emotional guy a good thing these days? bingo	/r/seduction	08/01/13 07:31 PM
5	Is being an emotional guy a good thing these days? I would not say that anxiety and neediness are feminine qualities. I think these things are separate from your feminine (ie: need for expression) Neediness comes from the inability to be happy on your own. In other words you NEED someone to give you love to feel love. I think it's important for everyone, male or female, to develop the skill to be happy without a significant other. We all need friends, but an intimate relationship is not required for happiness. We are able to discover all types p…	/r/seduction	08/01/13 06:28 PM
27	Is being an emotional guy a good thing these days? You sound like me about 4 years ago... There's nothing wrong with being in touch with your emotions. Being an emotional person, however, will likely attract a less emotional type of person. In general, being emotional (ie: not in control of your emotions) is a very typical feature in women. A lot of woman enjoy feeling a range of emotions, and look to their man to be the 'strong one'. The man is there to allow them comfort while they go through the emotional waves. With his certainty that everyt…	/r/seduction	08/01/13 04:54 PM
2	Looking to "pick up" some literature, sell me on your favorite book that deals with self improvement or pickup The way of the superior man by david deida	/r/seduction	06/01/13 05:16 AM
1	Being asian...A disadvantage? Doesn't matter. I have a Chinese friend that's decent with girls, a Bangladesh friend that gets some attention as well. for what it's worth, I'm white, and find asian girls intimidating sometimes. However, intimidation comes from a mindset. On a good night when my head is clear, I've worked groups of 6+ asians (m/f), and rocked it. It's all about belief, confidence and momentum. Get out of your head and into the moment! have FUN	/r/seduction	05/12/12 09:38 PM
1	Question on Plowing Stay relaxed and comfortable. Don't feel a need to talk. Maintaining eye contact will allow you to convey your comfort/confidence. Besides, creativity spawns from a relaxed mindset. Natural conversation will likely follow and a little silence just builds tension. If you don't break it, it could be a powerful experience for her	/r/seduction	04/11/12 03:53 AM
5	Question on Plowing I too had difficulty plowing and couldn't find any in-depth explanations in any Rsd materials. What I've recently come to realize is that 'running out of things to say' happens because your seeking a positive reaction from the girl. If you get no reaction or a negative reaction it discourages you from continuing talking. This is happens because in a slight way you are reacting to how they are reacting to you. Plowing is the idea that you stop looking/noticing their reactions and just talk. You t…	/r/seduction	03/11/12 06:40 PM
3	How do you open and keep conversation going with a girl while still seeming high-value? yeah. just being able to develop the ability to stay focused on your breath despite a barrage of thoughts, will give you the skill of feeling comfort or peace in any given situation.	/r/seduction	30/10/12 04:19 PM
4	How do you open and keep conversation going with a girl while still seeming high-value? I can't stress enough how much meditation is the perfect answer for this. When you can clear you mind and feel comfortable in an empty room, on a park bench, in your car, etc... it's only a slight shift to take that mindset and apply it to when your walking around the bar, talking to girls, etc. It's about feeling comfortable in your own mind. If your mind becomes a quiet peaceful place, with a little practice, you can hangout there (mentally) in complete comfort between sets or in the middle of…	/r/seduction	30/10/12 02:35 PM
27	How do you open and keep conversation going with a girl while still seeming high-value? I'm just going to throw a few ideas out there... Be the Buyer, not the Seller. Start a conversation because you feel like it. Talk about whatever you want, whatever is funny to YOU. If she isn't a weirdo, maybe ask her questions to see if she is worth any more of your time. If she has good answers, escalate the situation. Lead her elsewhere, etc. It's very possible that this 'giving away your value' concept is completely in your head and a gives you a way to interpret and identify with the inter…	/r/seduction	30/10/12 02:50 AM
7	What ONE change gave you the biggest improvement? quitting alcohol. it took time to adjust, but progress accelerated once I became comfortable with it.	/r/seduction	24/10/12 09:37 PM
3	Approaching large groups of girls I also prefer to open the whole group. Just talk loud enough for them to hear you. Make sure you open with an energy level that is higher than their environment or and higher than the energy within the group or you'll lose their attention. Depending on how interesting and funny you open will determine how many of them will give you their attention. Of the girls that give you their attention you can pick one to isolate Or you can pick on one that isnt. Giving you attention in an attempt to drag h…	/r/seduction	20/10/12 06:04 PM
2	Being the alpha when there is another clearly more alpha male there. body is irrelevant. own what you got. alpha = the person that is focused on having fun and enjoying the moment and the company of others. beta = overly concerned what other people think. Not comfortable sharing their thoughts freely. mild paranoia about his/her status side note: when two 'alphas' are in the same group of people what happens? they are both relaxed, chill, having fun, talking freely, taking turns leading the group depending on who has more experience in the given situation. It's n…	/r/seduction	16/10/12 02:30 PM
3	How should I have acted? Girl getting with other guys. Sounds like your backturn was an emotional response. When a woman can affect you emotionally, attraction goes down. The better you feel about yourself, and the more emotionally independent from the environment you are, the more attractive you are. The more emotionally invested you are (ie: the more you care), the more likely you'll have these spontaneous kind of reactions. No good for game, but with every experience comes a lesson. Besides, sexing your room-mate might not have been in your best …	/r/seduction	10/10/12 06:23 PM
1	Do you think it's a bad idea to tell a girl from the start that you want to be friends and you're not trying to bang them? In that situation, you have nothing to lose by telling her to relax, and you thought she might make a good friends. If she chills out and allows a friendship to develop, for the love of god don't hit on her. as for your second question: having girl friends is fun. you can get good advice, introduce you to their friends, and sometimes it's just nice to be around females for the hell of it. It's a positive experience all in all. I recommend making girl friends, but in no way is it required to get …	/r/seduction	26/09/12 03:21 AM
41	In a relationship-- how to keep the Seddit vibe? I'm feeling like I'm becoming a little beta bitch. I've been in your position. I can say that its a tough one. Any dramatic change in behavior could make her upset, especially if you start drawing boundaries where she had previously been able to act without response on your end. It's like giving a kid a cookie then taking it away vs never giving the kid the cookie. The end result is the same, but the kid will be much more upset if you give it to them first. The best I can say is love yourself, your life, and your time. Do things that make you ha…	/r/seduction	26/09/12 01:07 AM
3	Why I hate RSD. My experience. true, Foundations is social basics. don't over-compliment, don't act needy, don't exchange drinks/food for time, etc. transformations is meant to inspire. you get the background stories of the instructors going from AFC to PUA. with a wide variety of stories it's likely you can relate to one more than others. blueprint is a philosophy. It's designed for people who like to overthink everything, and teach them how to turn there thoughts into actions and eventually combine the two into conscious ac…	/r/seduction	26/09/12 12:48 AM
7	Why I hate RSD. My experience. Everything you will learn from PUA companies are maps. They are paradigms, designed to guide you in your journey. There are a million paradoxes, as there is no one way to pickup chicks, when every chick is different. Hyper-analysis of any method will likely lead to confusion, or to a plateau in skills. You probably don't have the personal references experiences to relate to RSD type of materials. Their material is often philosophical in nature and incredibly paradoxical from instructor to instru…	/r/seduction	26/09/12 12:34 AM
1	I was in bed with a girl, making out, about to have sex for the first time, and I fucking jizzed in my pants. Seddit, please help me. Fuck. (NSFW?) This happened most likely due to the anxiety. When you are anxious, your heart rate increases and your muscles or more likely to tighten up. This is exactly what happens to the body, when it prepares itself for orgasm. In other words, through mental processes, you prepared your body for orgasm without actually having sex. Totally possible, totally common. As a young nofaper (24) I can relate to some degree. Depending on how late in the nofap game you are, if you are less than half-way through th…	/r/seduction	21/08/12 02:57 AM
1	I was in bed with a girl, making out, about to have sex for the first time, and I fucking jizzed in my pants. Seddit, please help me. Fuck. (NSFW?) I can almost guarantee each user that downvoted this has not tried it. which is fine. Not everyone is looking to be a rockstar in bed, nor do people want to believe they can improve their sexual performance more than where it is. Some people just want to last a more standard amount of time (15-30min). In which case, a little relaxation and deep breathing could suffice. However, If this becomes a consistent problem, other's more simple advice isn't working, and you are serious about finding a per…	/r/seduction	21/08/12 01:40 AM
1	What is your greatest fear that is preventing you from becoming who you want to be? Not so much a fear, but the notion that I already have a good idea of who I am. That belief is my one true limitation. Currently saying yes to any opportunity for an experience regardless if it fits 'my personality' or comfort is how I'm still pushing for growth	/r/seduction	17/08/12 09:09 PM
75	I was trying to just mess with people and ended up somehow pulling in an HB7... this had me laughing. thumbs up for self-amusement!	/r/seduction	31/07/12 04:06 PM
1	Bros before hos: Or am I mad for no reason? On one hand, it's lame that he was apprehensive about telling you. On the other hand if he hit it off with the girl then be happy for him. It's really best when both wings understand non-attachment and abundance. Give each other girls! Why? To prove you feel/are truly abundant! That mindset will attract girls like crazy and then it really won't matter. Ive been going out with my same buddy for years. Last night for example, he picked a girl, we were all hanging out, and at some point she decided…	/r/seduction	29/07/12 08:43 PM
7	Questions from a 28yo dude that has never as much as kissed a girl... why do you feel the need to tell her this?	/r/seduction	15/07/12 09:18 PM
2	[FR] Summer 2012 Day Game Approach #3: Shop Rite Shenanigans I like your attitude. What started as 'i'm not attracted to taller women so why approach them' has turned into ignore all women over 5'6". This has been mostly subconscious, but when I'm really having a good time, I talk to everyone regardless. I haven't noticed this bad habit till now. Good mindset you have there. Thanks. Happy gaming.	/r/seduction	11/07/12 04:03 PM
2	[FR] Summer 2012 Day Game Approach #3: Shop Rite Shenanigans Nice man! Out a curiosity, do you approach taller women often, if so how does it go? At 5-6" It's rare I approach women over my height...	/r/seduction	11/07/12 02:32 PM
1	Lots of drunk game, not so much sober First thing that comes to mind is material and research. Sometimes I'll listen to 3 hours of audio, and all I needed to hear was in 1 minute of lecture. It's enough to create awareness into an area of yourself that you want to change. Almost any David Deangelo program, RSD's blueprint, David X's Be relentless programs are all great places to start and can refer you to excellent reading/audio materials.	/r/seduction	11/07/12 04:42 AM
2	[FR] #-close/k-close while trying new things! Grats on asking her to teach you to dance. Sounds like this was the biggest step for you. pretty badass.	/r/seduction	11/07/12 04:26 AM
3	[FR] Summer 2012 Day Game Approach #3: Shop Rite Shenanigans Nice. Props on the approach. Extra props if she's taller than you, haha	/r/seduction	11/07/12 04:20 AM
1	Should I lie about being a virgin? If they ask, why not? I tell girls I'm a virgin all the time. I'm not, but it's always a good line when they ask how many girls i've been with. I wouldn't bring it up for no reason tho. Be honest, because you really can say anything. Just frame it as a joke if you're worried it'll kill the mood. If it comes up later, after sex, you can say "see I told you i was a virgin. Thanks for helping me with that..." What you say doesn't matter. Just don't make a big deal about it, or they'll make a big de…	/r/seduction	10/07/12 03:12 AM
1	How I un-friend zoned myself [FR] bizarre. I'm curious as to what exactly changed her mind, I guess some girls just need extra warming up! haha. good job	/r/seduction	20/06/12 07:38 PM
1	How I un-friend zoned myself [FR] With an authentically charming opener like that, I'm surprised you didn't escalate the first date. Sounds like she liked you, but eventually got frustrated because you wouldn't make a move, and made an excuse for all this 'wasted' time you two had been spending together (moving). The title of your relationship was 'friendship', but it sounds pretty clear you never did anything to lose that initial attraction. This is a great story why one should never hesitate to kiss/escalate. Girl's signals ar…	/r/seduction	20/06/12 06:58 PM
2	I just got out of a 6 year relationship... Welcome! May I recommend RSD's blueprint program as a great place to start? there is a lot of gimmicky material floating around in the world of pickup. I can personally vouch for this program. Also look into David DeAngelo's inner game material. Very useful for changing the way you conduct yourself as a man, in a man/woman world. But most importantly, get out there, and talk to women. apply technique or just TALK. Bad/good days come and go. Remember they both contribute to your ultimate long-ter…	/r/seduction	24/04/12 07:21 PM
3	Question: Why is it generally discouraged by Seddit to tell a girl that your into her? I believe woman respond to sexual feelings better than sexual speech. If you feel sexual when you are communicating with her, she will feel what you feel, and you just lead from there. This is the world woman live in. A world of feeling. Men live in a world of space and time, therefor direct, simple communication works for us, and is often preferred. Some woman are okay with sexual direct-communication, but most seem to shy away from it. This is mostly due to the fact that they simply don't want…	/r/seduction	20/03/12 02:20 AM
3	Seddit, my ex wants to see me for coffee tonight... What do? Always good to see a man have respect for himself while facing temptation.	/r/seduction	14/03/12 07:37 PM
1	Material/gurus similar to David Wygant? (Super concrete, not abstract or theory heavy, very practical/motivational) But he's also pretty theory heavy, philosophically. Still, I think he's one of the best	/r/seduction	27/01/12 06:33 PM
1	Material/gurus similar to David Wygant? (Super concrete, not abstract or theory heavy, very practical/motivational) David X... Very simple, straightforward, and it works, almost surprisingly. Masculinity at it's core.	/r/seduction	27/01/12 06:29 PM
22	"You're skinny." Suggestions for getting past this shit test? "isn't it awesome" ... & change subject. maintain eye contact, do not make any sudden body movements, do not allow negative emotions to change your face expression, and respond. They just want to check your integrity by seeing if they can affect you. if only you knew how many chicks i've talked to that prefer skinny guys. its not a bad thing, so OWN IT	/r/seduction	24/01/12 05:00 AM
3	are we slowly coming to the conclusion that "game" doesn't exist? Game = the ability to convey ones personality freely, and to care less what people think about you. With this 'game', you will naturally seem, 'alpha'. Shit tests will have no effect, you will feel liberated (aka feel good), and will naturally be funnier as humor is often a side affect of being in the moment...& many many many more side effects. you feel good = she feel good. everyone loves a genuine person. no you won't get them all, but damn do the hot chicks rarely come across a guy that can …	/r/seduction	03/01/12 04:21 AM