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What’s the answer really gonna do for you? Just live your life, man…you see a girl you’re interested in, great then go talk to her and see if anything happens..if something comes of it then cool, if not then also cool lol
/r/seduction24/04/26 04:30 AM
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so why did you mention a bf in your post ?
/r/seduction26/03/26 05:05 PM
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are you talking to women who have boyfriends ?
/r/seduction26/03/26 05:03 PM
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Maybe ask yourself why that situation happening so triggering for you, cause it’s not really about the “fumble”, i put it in quotes cause who said you fumbled anything ? …sometimes women will just stop responding , it’s happened to me many times, even in situations identical to yours, what i learned from that is that ITS OKAY, that’s the nature of dating , the nature of life..allow these things to happen and accept it and keep it moving…it’s not automatically something you did wrong .
/r/seduction26/03/26 05:02 PM
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yeah , ghosting happens, for manyyyy reasons so don’t just think it’s about you…that’s the nature of life lol humans are humaning, allow them to, it’s not a big deal unless in your mind you interpret it that way…yes it can suck, i’ve had a similar things happen recently too, but I see my disappointment and all that , part of it came from me having expectations of the situation , like for example “oh we hooked up, so now this means we should see eachother again”, but nope, no guarantees…& that’s …
/r/seduction26/03/26 04:50 PM
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Show with your behaviour that you’re not looking for something serious, if it’s just casual hookups that you want then make sure you’re aligned with that, don’t be wanting to hookup but your whole conversation with her is platonic without any flirting
/r/seduction26/03/26 04:45 PM
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you can very well have dates in the day and still have it lead to sex , you just gotta know how to guide and lead it to that point ..
/r/seduction26/03/26 04:39 PM
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Mmmm…usually you’ll feel it, in the body, it’s like a gut feeling or a spidey sense in a way lol no words will appear in your mind, maybe you shouldn’t take reference from the mind at all…the body is kinda like..the best compass and teacher..listen to it..in my experience there’s been times where my body’s yelling at me to cut it off but my mind was saying otherwise , then it ended up not going anywhere so in a way , tha gut feeling was right …listen to your deep intuition, what’s it saying?
/r/seduction26/03/26 04:34 PM
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and if she goes on 1st dates a lot, is something actually wrong with that? you gotta be careful with this because a girl can be comfortable with you on the first date maybe cause she just likes you and you make her feel comfortable ..but now cause of what you said a guy is gonna believe “oh she’s comfortable ?! gotta look out for that” ..like it’s some kind of red flag, and than put a dent in the natural flow of the date cause now he might be in his head about it .
/r/seduction26/03/26 04:17 PM
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what’s game ?
/r/seduction18/03/26 11:06 PM
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So why can’t you be apart of that 20% ?
/r/seduction05/03/26 09:54 AM
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it’d probably be best for you to stop overthinking everything like this…maybe stop watching content that incudes the words “shit test” too while you’re at it
/r/seduction05/03/26 01:44 AM
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that doesn’t mean youre ugly, it means the way that you’re going about it sucks, dating apps aren’t as bad as people think, just have good pictures and your messages gotta be intentional and not jus fluff, it’s simple …
/r/seduction04/03/26 09:53 PM
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accept what ?
/r/seduction04/03/26 09:26 PM
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that doesn’t mean youre ugly , wtf lmao who told you this ?
/r/seduction04/03/26 08:44 PM
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there’s factors that go into women never approaching you , dating apps not working for you, women never asking you out or complimenting you …starting with the fact that women don’t even approach men often or at all, that’s just how it is, your dating app picture might suck, horrible lighting, bad picture quality, your messages might not be intentional, you might not even be spending enough time on the apps to really see anything ..women don’t really ask out guys like that , and they may never co…
/r/seduction04/03/26 08:43 PM
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and how do you know for a fact that that means you’re ugly ?
/r/seduction04/03/26 08:28 PM
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how do you define “ugly” ?
/r/seduction04/03/26 07:00 PM
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You always could just ask her and be direct about it, what do you mean ? who said this to you? lol Whether it’s the very very first time or the 1000th time, you could and should be direct about what you want , ask her, why would you do otherwise ?
/r/seduction25/02/26 06:23 PM
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honestly try not to fall into that idea of “is this a test?”..like just take what she says and move on, here’s an IMPORTANT LESSON: If she likes you and is interested, truly interested, she will make it easy for you, there will not be any games or ambiguity AS LONG, as you are not bringing any ambiguity , be honest and direct about what you’d like from the woman accept whatever response she gives respectfully . That’s all you gotta know .
/r/seduction25/02/26 02:05 AM
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well there’s some questions to be answered here, were you leading the convo to where you wanted it to go? like how did you two end up talking about another guy to the point where you got upset about it? if she brought it up and you didn’t wanna talk about him that should’ve been nipped in the bud right away…& another question is did you let her know that you didn’t wanna talk about some random dude ? cause if not then ..that’s on you, you gotta be able to guide the convo to where you want it go …
/r/seduction28/01/26 12:38 AM
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You’re right…for you…lol everyone has their preferences…i don’t enjoy nightclubs as much anymore for the purpose of women , i enjoy just talking to some throughout the day in public or wherever the fuck..but if someone likes nightclubs then cool, maybe they like dancing maybe they like the loud music , the environment…hell i’ve had some great experiences in night clubs being drunk and dancing my ass off in the middle of the dance floor with flashing lights shining down on me, almost getting into…
/r/seduction27/12/25 09:02 PM
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Just do what feels natural in the moment lol that’s the process
/r/seduction24/10/25 11:38 PM
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who do you wanna get laid in every 1 to 6 approaches?
/r/seduction24/10/25 11:38 PM
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well the loud “i’m so confident” guy isn’t actually confident lol confidence doesn’t mean loud, and it doesn’t mean quiet or chill…if anything it’s just being comfortable in your own skin, everyone has it, it’s not something you develop, it’s something you uncover and you uncover it by seeing through all the BS you were conditioned to believe …”you have to be like this to get a girl” “she won’t like you if you’re like this” “don’t be a nice guy, be a bad boy”….all these things take you away from…
/r/seduction14/10/25 09:03 PM
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don’t feel anything, i just tell them and either they’re looking for the same thing and we end up meeting up or they’re not and we just don’t meet up
/r/seduction28/09/25 09:34 PM
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be honest about what you want and see how she reacts
/r/seduction07/09/25 05:20 PM
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Do you wanna fuck cause you wanna fuck or do you wanna fuck cause your bro did it and you thought it was cool? lol honestly though…it’s simple…talk to more women, meet women throughout your day ..the moment you step outside your front door, it’s on, wherever you are and you see a woman you find attractive just go up and say hi, tell her you find her attractive and would like to see her again and from THERE…you just let the chips fall where they may, maybe she’ll say yess, maybe she’ll say nah, w…
/r/seduction07/09/25 05:19 PM
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what’s the high risk and the high reward though?? like specifically what am i risking and what’s my reward ?
/r/seduction29/08/25 12:47 AM
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honestly, there’s no specific thing that needs to be done for specific times of day lol the way you talk to someone at night can be the same way you talk to someone during the day
/r/seduction29/08/25 12:44 AM
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Okay …& who does it come across as “weird” to exactly ? & also, why does that matter? what you’re describing is actually more chore-like because you’re saying put on this “friendly and sociable” vibe for some woman so she doesn’t feel weirded out, okay gotcha…& then you want the approach to seem like it happened naturally, idk how you expect to do that, i mean going up to someone and telling them what it is based off of your first instinct in the moment to go and talk to them seems pretty natura…
/r/seduction27/08/25 12:46 AM
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honestly just talk to the person you’re attracted to and be direct about what you want within the conversation ..and accept whatever decision they make
/r/seduction24/08/25 05:52 PM
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What you do is you tell her exactly why you went up to her and what you wanna do & you then see if she reciprocates, that’s how you know if she’s interested in you, & that doesn’t take a level of social mastery to do lol you just say it…what’s the difference between talking to a woman and talking to your friend, or a family member, or a waiter at a restaurant….the labels your mind puts on the situation.
/r/seduction24/08/25 05:50 PM
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why not ?
/r/seduction24/08/25 04:40 PM
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well that’s the thing, you saying how do you PLAY it just sounds like you’re doing something JUST to keep her around, even if you may not really wanna do that specific thing, so why do that? after the first date you literally don’t need to “build on the vibe” , just hit her up to see her again whenever it is that you wanna do that
/r/seduction16/08/25 10:02 PM
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not an experience just a realization i was putting on a mask based on shit that i’ve heard or seen or things people have told me to do or not do, once i saw that all of that wasn’t really ME, wasn’t really authentic i just started to move based on how i truly felt in the moment and when that happens, being a “nice guy” kinda just automatically falls away…it’s not that you’re not nice, you can be nice, but it’s just that you’re not being fake anymore, you’re real with women..
/r/seduction14/08/25 04:12 PM
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what does meaningless sex mean?
/r/seduction02/08/25 02:20 AM
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because either they don’t really wanna have sex with you or you’re putting out some kind of energy that isn’t really authentic …I say that cause you started this off with you saying you’re moving away from being upfront about your intentions..so then what’s the alternative ? why wouldn’t you wanna be honest with your intentions ? that’s literally how you meet the women who DO wanna have sex with you lol
/r/seduction02/08/25 02:19 AM
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I think you should hit on and talk to a lot of girls so you can realize that it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter if she’s down or she’s not down…just say what you feel because you feel it in the moment, not for any other reason …just say it, just do it, and yah some women may feel uncomfortable or just not attracted to you, that’s inevitable..but it has nothing do with you , just make sure you’re being real and respectful and you’re good to go.
/r/seduction14/07/25 01:32 AM
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nah what i’m saying to OP is to see that his interpretation that it’s a diss is coming from his own mind, not reality, you can be called “nice” and all it means that you’re nice and indeed, not an asshole or rude or mean…it doesn’t always mean you need to feel like your masculinity is threatened .
/r/seduction14/07/25 01:29 AM
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idk ask yourself what part of you feels like a creep
/r/seduction14/07/25 12:58 AM
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so in that year you were in a dry spell, how often would you put yourself out there to meet new women ??
/r/seduction14/07/25 12:57 AM
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it doesn’t matter lol what do you wanna do? I’m assuming go on a date ? cool get the number, text her, set it up and that’s it
/r/seduction14/07/25 12:55 AM
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who said that’s a diss ??
/r/seduction14/07/25 12:54 AM
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Mmmm the thing seems to be your unwillingness to just go for it is the reason why you’re probably not getting what you want, the only way you’ll really know if she’s interested in being physical with you is if you make it clear that you’re interested in her either with your words or by whatever …but ask yourself why you’re worried about making her uncomfortable, it might be that you’re just scared of being told no.
/r/seduction11/07/25 11:00 PM
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If a girl tells you “I thought we were going out as friends” that’s saying something about your lack of communication, if you want a romantic intimate vibe with this woman then you gotta make that clear before going out so she doesn’t get the wrong idea
/r/seduction06/07/25 08:55 PM
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it’s not about what to say or do exactly , it’s more about the fact that you’re not present…you freeze cause you’re either in the future or the past, understand and look that being in the present moment is the only place you can really be and from there you’ll do what you need to do and say what you need to say.
/r/seduction04/07/25 07:59 PM
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You don’t think that the simple fact that you even WANT to bypass it means that you have a need for it ? question is, why do you need it
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:53 PM
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why do you feel like you need to make a big impression on women ?
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:51 PM
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are you the one dealing with these women who have “unresolved trauma, broken relationship patterns & low self worth”, if so, then what does that say about you if you’re the one who’s choosing to have sex with these women, cause they’re are women who are very sexually open yet they have high self esteem and are very grounded individuals…so idk this just came to mind so i felt like typing it out…it doesn’t go from “this is fun” to “this is messy” cause i don’t fuck messy, lol even with casual fuck…
/r/seduction30/06/25 04:18 AM
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you don’t, you don’t even need to respond to that lok
/r/seduction30/06/25 04:13 AM
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anywhere outside of your front door.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:59 AM
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she would 100% “reject” you even if you were her type looks wise…You should ask yourself why do you care so much that your her type looks wise, why is that super important to you, what does that do for you?…this looks thing gets a lot of guys fucked up and in their head when in reality it’s not everything, looks will not do shit for you if you’re not at peace with who you are.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:58 AM
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Yeah just ask her whatever you genuinely wanna ask her, & if you wanna see her then tell her you wanna see her and then set it up. Simple as that.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:54 AM
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lol yes, it’s worth it if you believe it is…if you don’t believe it’s worth it then it’s not worth it….so if you wanna do it then just do it….its LITERALLY just simply going up to engage a woman in conversation, simply going up, opening your mouth, expressing why you went over and then letting the chips fall where they may..thats it , the people that tend to overcomplicate are the ones that have never done it, they just watch videos talking about why it’s not worth it, or how it’s desperate….It’…
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:52 AM
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So that’s your answer, do you see it ?
/r/seduction15/06/25 05:44 AM
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lmao aaaand there’s the issue…you’re scared of looking desperate because you believe you’re desperate…
/r/seduction12/06/25 07:52 PM
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what’s a texting phase with online dating ? why are you texting at all on the app? why not just go on a date with them?
/r/seduction12/06/25 07:50 PM
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something that results from a lack of communication
/r/seduction12/06/25 07:47 PM
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how many women do you talk to during a night out ?
/r/seduction24/05/25 11:41 PM
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you don’t need to seduce her AT the fuckin cash register lmao make it a fleeting interaction, seeing that she’s at work …get in there, give her your number and tell her to text you after her shift so you two can set up a date…& then fleet away
/r/seduction04/04/25 06:40 PM
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wait…who said you can’t talk to girls randomly ??
/r/seduction16/03/25 12:37 AM
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Okay and what’s going through your head and what are you feeling before you and approach these women ? screenshots of what?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:56 PM
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Get to know her more for what though? what i’m saying is you should just tell her exactly what it is you want….which is what exactly ? when you see a cute chick, what’s the first instinct, thought that pops into your head & one more question, how many woman have you done this with ? that whole process
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:51 PM
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Do you tell her exactly why you want her number, like for what? do you tell her what’s the plan from there….& is that it ? or do you go on and set up the date ?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:48 PM
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why do you wanna know ?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:46 PM
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what are you saying to these women upon approaching them ? and then from there say you get their number, what do you say over text and what do you do?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:45 PM
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you don’t have to be an asshole, you just have to be real and honest …
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:44 PM
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what’s your evidence that they avoid you? how do you know for a fact that’s what they’re doing ?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:43 PM
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Why do you want a job just to get closer to women? lol you don’t care if you get fired ? If you wanna seduce, why not just seduce chicks outside the workplace ?
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:42 PM
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i’ve met women at malls, on trains, buses, sidewalks, libraries, fucking grocery stores who were dtf, there’s no specific place , it’s just more what kind of energy and intention are YOU coming with?? that’s the question here, do you have the type of honesty to let a woman know exactly what it is you want, and you don’t have to be in a specific place to do that.
/r/seduction08/03/25 03:03 AM
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that’s a you problem though, unless your parents explicitly say you CANT bring women over to fuck, then it’s just you overthinking shit, maybe insecurity, idk
/r/seduction04/03/25 03:43 AM
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what do you consider to be an “L”
/r/seduction25/02/25 11:28 PM
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yeah your mistake was fucking a drunk chick…. lol like this whole thing sounds so sloppy and very much not at all on your terms or anything you really planned out, why were you talking to her for a whole month before making anything happen ?
/r/seduction25/02/25 11:27 PM
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who the fuck said you were expected to do all that??? lmao
/r/seduction25/02/25 11:25 PM
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lol…..why do you want a chick to stay ?? You’re trying to learn how to give good dick to make a girl wanna stay yet you don’t know that you can honestly give average dick to a girl and she’ll stay because of WHO YOU ARE, HOW YOU MOVE, it’s like you inspire and influence something in her to want you but it doesn’t have to do with your dick, or anything outside of you
/r/seduction25/02/25 11:22 PM
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so it’s your idea of what it’ll be like to be with her knowing your friend was with her….what does your friend being with her in the PAST have to do with you & this girl having a good time together NOW? Does that really affect you & her now or is it just your mind creating these fake stories
/r/seduction05/02/25 08:33 PM
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But what exactly bothers you about it ? cause you said it bothers you, which part? what do you NOT want to happen ?
/r/seduction05/02/25 08:20 PM
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why do you care ???
/r/seduction05/02/25 08:13 PM
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Right but if you flirted with her and all that, why not keep it flirty fun and sexual and tell her all the naughty dirty shit you wanna do to her behind closed doors and then invite her over to do that ? lol i’m just curious, it’s like you build it up with the flirting and the drop it back down by saying “let’s watch a movie” it’s like the flow breaks off and you go from being potential fuck buddies to you talking to her like a friend saying you wanna watch a movie …Why not say “hey come over so…
/r/seduction05/02/25 08:12 PM
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If you wanna smash this girl, aren’t you being disingenuous by telling her to come over and watch an movie & mention NOTHING about sex ? Also How do you know that she wants to have sex with you? Cause if all you’re saying is “let’s watch a movie”, & she comes over to do JUST that, then what?
/r/seduction05/02/25 05:20 PM
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you said be open about what he’s after and the right after proceeded to say most girls know what “do you want to come over and watch a movie together” means, lol that’s a fast way to have your time wasted, if he wants to smash or any guy for that matter, it needs to be said to the woman that’s what you’re inviting her over for…why lie and say you’re gonna watch a movie if you know damn well that’s not what you really wanna do
/r/seduction05/02/25 03:35 AM
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Get to the root of where the fear even comes from
/r/seduction19/11/24 04:31 PM
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of course lol why wouldn’t that be a possibility ?
/r/seduction19/11/24 04:30 PM
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Ya just go up and meet people, see if you two are flowing with the convo and then be straight up about what you want, some people will be down, some won’t so just understand that and you’ll be good
/r/seduction07/11/24 07:13 PM
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does it make a difference for what ??
/r/seduction24/10/24 02:53 PM
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well realistically you need to accept that all of those things you mentioned WILL happen lol it’s not a bad thing, it just is what it is, not ALL women are gonna wanna talk to you, get over it and embrace all that happens, that’s really how you work through it , accept it all with love and let go of expectations
/r/seduction24/10/24 06:09 AM
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well why do you assume it’s something about you?? cause honestly it’s inevitable that you’re gonna meet women where it goes nowhere after the first date, everything might seem great on the date and all that but then she goes ghost, that’s supposed to happen, women have lives too so there’s many variables that can contribute to that happening, it is what it is…don’t connect to something you did, I know you may be looking at it from a stance of just trying to improve but it’s not always about you.
/r/seduction24/10/24 06:07 AM
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I don’t mean to shit on your parade (well I kinda do cause you need it) but having sex with girls will NOT boost your confidence, it’s gonna boost a false sense of confidence cause you’re gonna unknowingly start relying on women fucking you to feel confident about yourself and if one day you can’t do it or you go through a dry spell you’re gonna feel like shit. If you look carefully at the rest of your post, you 1) called yourself weird, 2) mentioned your build like it actually matters (it doesn…
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:14 PM
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All I wanna put out there is this simple fact, a woman looking at you DOES NOT automatically mean she’s interested in you, she can look at you and be interesting in USING you for something, lol that’s the thing, you guys think it’s always romantic/sexual interest, nahhhh she might be looking at you cause she likes your jacket, shoes, maybe she’s looking at you cause she wants you to go over cause she wants you to buy her a drink, or maybe she’s looking at you cause she’s spaced out….Theres so ma…
/r/seduction06/10/24 06:44 PM
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how so?
/r/seduction05/10/24 05:28 AM
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What do you think it means about you if you were to just go up to her without any type of signal?
/r/seduction05/10/24 01:20 AM
1

who said there’s something wrong ?
/r/seduction04/10/24 02:27 AM
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lol you CAN approach women in those places, there’s no rule against that
/r/seduction04/10/24 02:27 AM
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& if you don’t, then you just won’t talk to her ?
/r/seduction04/10/24 02:26 AM
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Lol first off i think it’d benefit you to drop all these labels and concepts, “cold approach”, “warm approach”, how about keeping it as SIMPLE as , you see someone you wanna talk to, right, say you’re walking on campus at college and you spot somebody and your mind says “hey let’s go talk to that person”, okay? and then you simply go and talk to them, & you tell them exactly why you went over to talk to them, either it’s to be their friend or to take them on a date..that’s literally ALL you have…
/r/seduction02/10/24 12:52 AM
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Yes, the boundaries men see about where they should approach , where they shouldn’t approach do not exist, they’re not real boundaries, they only exist in the mind of the man who sees that woman…two men can see the same woman you’re talking about, she’s at lunch from her job, one guy is gonna say “nah i can’t do that, she’s having lunch i don’t wanna bother her”, & the other guy is gonna say “man, she’s cute i’m gonna go talk to her, I see she’s eating so i’ll excuse myself first & then say what…
/r/seduction02/10/24 12:45 AM
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lol no that’s not obvious to most mfs,
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:15 PM
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it means that she’s looked at you, that’s really it…and even if she does look at you, you STILL have to approach her and talk to her
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:12 PM
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exactly, stop getting your statistics & data from social media and go out and make your own….Id suggest you stop listening to whoever said that about your height, stop listening to any BS like that actually
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:10 PM
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Exactly…it’s in your head, you’re taking things you heard elsewhere, things about your height being a factor in all this shit even though it’s really not & letting it distort your view on yourself & women…Cause i’m guessing you weren’t born with a height insecurity, you probably heard someone say some shit about women not wanting short men, right ?
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:06 PM
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who said you’re gonna creep them out ??
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:03 PM
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You should approach women, period…it doesn’t matter if they’re making eye contact with you or not, if you see something you like then just go for it. Don’t wait around for a signal cause lemme tell you something , even if she looks at you, stares you down, that is NO guarantee she even wants you..a woman can stare at you for many reasons but guys love to live in this illusion that if a girl stares at you then that automatically means she wants you sexually/romantically lol no..
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:01 PM
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You don’t need to have “text game”, you can literally just jump to setting up the date the very first message…
/r/seduction01/10/24 12:58 PM
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It’s funny cause men fail to realize that a woman looking at you is no guarantee she won’t waste your time or even say yes lol but they sure love to live in illusion .
/r/seduction01/10/24 12:49 PM
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lol why do you wanna know ? why not go over and find out if she’s down to go home with you
/r/seduction01/10/24 01:13 AM
1

what does going all in mean ?
/r/seduction04/09/24 02:43 AM
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why though? do you really care about the small talk?
/r/seduction04/09/24 01:22 AM
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Do you genuinely wanna have conversations over text or would you rather just meet up and talk in person?
/r/seduction04/09/24 12:51 AM
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you don’t have to tell them shit about yourself lol just tell them what you want and if they’re down then give them your number and have them text you…You don’t HAVE to build rapport or any of that, really…just letting that be known so you guys don’t think you NEED to do shit you don’t really wanna do, you can just go up, state why you’re there and what you’d like to do, from there she says yes or no…
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:59 PM
4

it can literally be 30 seconds
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:57 PM
4

You don’t see that you’re making all of that about women though? instead of doing those things just to do it, Confidence..at least true confidence doesn’t come from ANYTHING external, it comes from within yourself…what happens if you injure yourself (knock on wood) and you can’t go to the gym, what happens if a car splashes water on your fitted and stylish outfit, does the confidence and charisma magically disappear ? The mistake a lot of guys don’t or refuse to see is that they do self improvem…
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:54 PM
1

Dude you answered your own question in the post, you said “i didn’t say nothing that meaningful yet”, which implies you’re just talking about a whole bunch of nothing with her so why should she respond with any kind of positive and enthusiastic energy ?? Why are you as a man not making everything you say to a woman meaningful, why all the fluff?
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:49 PM
1

Stop listening to losers on youtube who say that shit…yall love to theorize shit but never wanna go out there and experience it for yourself…Wtf even is a 7/10, ??? One girl will think you’re a 10, one girl will think you’re a 1…that’s the reality.
/r/seduction30/08/24 01:53 AM
0

who are you trying to get the approval of ? lol why do you care if it makes you seem weak or like you can’t stick up for yourself…Walking away IS sticking up for yourself…
/r/seduction26/08/24 03:25 AM
1

Starts with loving yourself, if you loved yourself you wouldn’t spend a second on someone who doesn’t respect you and the MOMENT you detect disrespect, you’re out the door & moving on.
/r/seduction26/08/24 03:24 AM
3

how does this woman know your financial status if you two just met ? lol this is a problem, like guys complain about women using them for their money…MOTHER FUCKER YOU’RE THE ONE LEADING WITH YOUR WALLET, if you don’t wanna get used for your money then stop showcasing it like that’s what makes you who you are.
/r/seduction26/08/24 03:11 AM
1

nah
/r/seduction25/08/24 06:04 PM
1

Yeah ramp that shit up lol you should be doing 12 approaches per day, a good start is just talk to 3 women a day, that’s it and then you can make that number higher and higher…you’re saying it’s ridiculous you haven’t gotten laid in months but yet your level of action is low…if you want more, do more.
/r/seduction18/08/24 09:43 PM
1

Thats how many you message on dating apps/approach in person? only 1-2 ?
/r/seduction18/08/24 09:36 PM
1

How many new woman do you meet in a week ? either online or in person.
/r/seduction18/08/24 09:32 PM
2

come to the understanding you’re not your ego, you’ve come to the belief that what happens externally (like “rejection”) means you’re in some way less, & if you get a number , date, sex, you probably feel good right ? Both are just events, movements, actions, but you’re the one who attaches labels, stories and meanings to it all. You don’t need a woman to say yes to feel like the shit and if a woman says no to you it also doesn’t mean you’re a loser or some dumb shit like that..:
/r/seduction18/08/24 09:31 PM
7

none lol just go out and meet another woman
/r/seduction18/08/24 09:27 PM
7

You don’t need to text her everyday, if you don’t wanna text then don’t text, don’t be fake just to possibly keep some pussy around..just hit her up when you know you two are gonna be available to see eachother, or tell her to msg you when she’s able to see you, then move on, meet another woman
/r/seduction09/08/24 06:29 PM
7

Yes, for example if a woman says she ONLY wants fit dudes, muscular and all that, she can say that but then a skinny simmer dude approaches her and talks that shit to her, next thing you know everything she said about muscular dudes is out the window, why? Because this dating game goes deeper than just the surface, looks are simply that, just looks…a guy can be muscular but if he has no personality, no assertiveness, no leadership, no ability to converse or flirt with a woman, then his looks are…
/r/seduction06/08/24 12:10 AM
6

do yourself a favour and don’t worry about what women say on the internet, a woman can say one thing but when they meet you and they realize they like you, even if you’re not the physical type they said they like they’ll still fuck with you…cause they just like you like that lol
/r/seduction05/08/24 11:55 PM
1

nope, you don’t need to do any of that honestly…you could if you want but you don’t need to, if you GENUINELY wanna talk to her that’s cool, but if you don’t but feel like you NEED to so she can meet up with you then that’s a problem…
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:14 PM
1

Ive texted that exact msg to all the dates ive had and nothing bad came of it so what are you talking about ? which youtube channel did you get that from lol
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:45 AM
1

i’m assuming you wanna see her ? if that’s the case then just set up the logistics, that’s really all, if she’s on a trip then ask when she gets back & then set it up
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:36 AM
1

and you wanna go there? was that what you would’ve originally done or did you wanna go out first ? I say this cause when meeting chicks on dating apps, it’s best to meet them face to face first in a public setting..cause if yall never met in person it’s probably a good idea to do that maybe at a coffee shop or a bar, park, some shit like that….Wait so yall started talking on the app and she just randomly said “hey come over” ???
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:33 AM
2

she might be a bot, or a fake account, i’d be careful if i were you.
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:26 AM
1

Was drinking at her place your idea or hers ?
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:21 AM
1

the real question is why are you still thinking about that?
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:19 AM
1

I’d just leave lol tf i mean it should be a no brainer right ? Why would you wanna entertain the situation when you don’t know the woman (yall just met) & this random dude, i’m leaving and talking to the next woman & if the first woman wants me still then she’ll come find me. Also when you say “competing” that shit sounds very sad, like you’re basically saying you’re in a competition to win this girl which is to say you have her on a pedestal so it’s likeeee…are youuuuu the opportunity or is she…
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:18 AM
7

i’d suggest leaving her alone…I say that cause you’re probably gonna make it weird and not know how to handle the situation cause look at how uncertain, scared & indecisive you are in this post…If you like the girl then you should’ve just made that be known from the very start, first convo, what is this “1 month ago” shit ? lol you’re taking cues from her to see if you should make a move or not and that itself is the problem….The only way you can know is if YOU make the move, let it be known you…
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:13 AM
4

why do you wanna become irreplaceable ?
/r/seduction01/08/24 03:06 PM
2

It’s not their game , sometimes they’re just not interested or some other life event happens lol it’s not that deep
/r/seduction01/08/24 03:04 PM
3

what’s the definition of “cuck” ? lol seems like you’re just throwing random words into a comment to seem insulting ..
/r/seduction31/07/24 07:14 PM
2

….she has someone, why do you care if she’s interested in you? lol are you gonna hook up with her knowing she’s got a man?
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:05 PM
1

well YOU have to make moves on the women you’re interested in and that’s how you’ll see and be able to distinguish between the two…if you’re shy it might be a bit difficult, what are you scared of ?
/r/seduction28/07/24 05:24 PM
2

im curious , what’s your definition of game ?
/r/seduction28/07/24 05:09 PM
2

You simply set up a time and place for you two to meet up, no fluff talk is needed, just be straight up with the h chick about meeting up…
/r/seduction28/07/24 05:08 PM
0

why the fuck did you apologize for being yourself and doing what you wanted to genuinely do in that moment ? lol
/r/seduction27/07/24 01:07 AM
3

You don’t NEED to keep it exciting, if she really wants to fuck you she’ll be cool until Monday or later, all you need to do now is set up the link up for sex, set the logistics, where is it gonna be and what time…that’s all, simple.
/r/seduction27/07/24 01:04 AM
2

yeah they’re still looking for advice….maaaaaybe cause being physically attractive isn’t a magic pill for all your issues in dating lol contrary to popular belief
/r/seduction27/07/24 12:22 AM
1

yes
/r/seduction27/07/24 12:19 AM
0

Why do you care about why it happened ?
/r/seduction25/07/24 02:42 AM
2

Most guys have issues with this because they think the 10/10’s are different from the 8/10’s or the 6/10’s…dudes pedestal beauty way too much and that’s the actual problem..they treat the 6 different than the 10…
/r/seduction25/07/24 02:41 AM
1

lol what do you want out of the situation ? & then there’s your answer
/r/seduction21/07/24 04:45 AM
2

“I know this is what will make me happy” ….well there’s your answer as to why you feel bitter, sir.
/r/seduction21/07/24 04:43 AM
1

how many women have you gotten at in the past week ?
/r/seduction21/07/24 03:59 AM
1

what do you expect to accomplish exactly with that text idea of yours ? Serious question…I’d assume you wanna see her so my question to you also is, why not instruct her on that first text ? Set up that date right away, why pussy foot around when what you really wanna do is see her ?
/r/seduction21/07/24 02:19 AM
3

remember this, just cause a guy is dealing with/fucking chicks does NOT mean he’s not a needy dude, he could have 0 Game and still have chicks…Like Kendrick said in that song meet the grahams, which was some very true shit ..”you could be a bitch even if you got bitches”…
/r/seduction21/07/24 02:17 AM
1

well you already failed because you’re putting a woman on a pedestal based on her looks lol , it all starts in your mind…Look at the words you choose here on this post , “I know it’s not gonna work”, “middle class metalhead artist”, “the girl only has one type so why waste time” ….A chick could be looking for a metalhead artist, that could be her type, you don’t know ! On top of all that, approach 100 women for the PRACTICE & EXPERIENCE, you don’t think after 100 interactions you’re not gonna be…
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:45 AM
0

Those are usually women who like passive men because in some way or another they know they can manipulate that guy lol, that’s why they’re drawn to them
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:40 AM
50

….You weren’t seducing them, they were seducing you, don’t say you can seduce any woman when at the same time you’re afraid to break the touch barrier lol that doesn’t make sense
/r/seduction16/07/24 10:53 PM
1

why are you allowing this woman to lead you ? is the real question here…
/r/seduction16/07/24 12:46 AM
1

lmao you do NOT have to “pay to play” , I’ve taken women to the park on a first date, walked around or sat on a bench for less than an hour and then we went back to my place or hers and fucked eachothers brains out, so where do you get this idea that you HAVE to pay ? you really don’t need to, as a matter of fact, you don’t even need to take a woman on a date in order to fuck….
/r/seduction15/07/24 07:08 PM
2

how would it change your life ?
/r/seduction14/07/24 11:52 PM
6

All i had to read was the first few words lmao…your fucking view of yourself is EVERYTHING…I even took the energy to read the next line and it only confirmed you’re on some bullshit…you’re so attached to what others think, say, or say is acceptable…you’re attached to these imaginary hierarchies instead of being focused on what you want and how you’re gonna get it, that’s why you’re fucking up, you’re too invested in others think about you….and that’s why you FEEL and THINK you’re a loser, you’re…
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:54 PM
2

why wouldn’t you accept one?, that’s the real question here.
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:50 PM
21

You didn’t do anything wrong you just approached a girl who wasn’t feeling you, but here’s the thing, I didn’t even read your post fully cause you said “it was impolite on my part” that right there is everything, you think you’re a burden to these women when you approach them and that’s probably why your energy was all scared and hesitant when talking to them so they were like “uhhh what?” …Change your beliefs and then your energy will change when interacting with people, it’s not impolite, it’s…
/r/seduction13/07/24 05:57 PM
1

The fact that you’re worried about coming off as a creep is what’s gonna make you come off as a creep lol
/r/seduction11/07/24 03:46 AM
1

why do you think so low of yourself if you don’t get physical with a woman on a night out ?
/r/seduction10/07/24 02:39 AM
1

None of that is really relevant, you can be super fit with great style but yet still react like a scared little bitch when a woman turns you down….its your mindset, sir . & based off your post, you need to shift your thinking…understand that you’ll need to speak to way more that 3, next time you go to a concert just tell yourself that you’re gonna get at at least 10, detach yourself from the outcome & just enjoy the process, whether she’s down for you or not. Just get those 10 done cause the mor…
/r/seduction10/07/24 02:31 AM
1

lol you can take them back to your place of residence…are you not allowed to have people over at your place ?
/r/seduction10/07/24 02:26 AM
2

You’re thinking too much about how she feels lol how do YOU feel, what do YOU wanna do??? it seems like you wanna make the “right” moves to make sure she likes you when in reality, if she likes you she likes you, if she doesn’t then she doesn’t…Just do what YOU wanna do WHEN you wanna do it, your fear of “losing” this situation is what’s stopping you…Just hit her up right away, tell her you wanna see her and set up the date. If she’s not interested then all of that just won’t happen, if she’s in…
/r/seduction10/07/24 02:12 AM
2

I don’t think a tip would necessarily help but would recommend is this Dating/life coach https://youtube.com/@mrlocario?si=6bFKUe_XoHms5tIe Plus this book by Anthony DeMello called The Way To Love….youll learn a lot about yourself and the illusions in your mind if you watch the content and read the book but most importantly, LOOK within yourself so you can actually understand shit..
/r/seduction06/07/24 10:42 PM
3

So it sounds like you’re basing how you feel about yourself on what OTHER people think or say about you…so you’re attaching yourself to the opinions of others, specifically women, which is what a lot of guys do, they feel like a “real” man if they got a woman who likes them and they feel like shit if they experience a woman not being interested in them…You gotta become aware of the fact that you are NOT your thoughts, ideas or beliefs about yourself, your mind is telling you stories and you’re t…
/r/seduction06/07/24 10:09 PM
2

Yeah and those mental blackages are good because when you dig deep into WHY you think how you think, you can transcend it…so let’s say you get fully ignored, what’s wrong with that? what do you think that would say about you?
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:58 PM
5

honestly you can literally just jump straight into setting up the logistics for the date and then you don’t have to say anything else besides that…guys think they need to talk to the woman and “build rapport” so they can build interest and keep it, nah you really don’t…if that’s something you authentically wanna do then cool, but it doesn’t need to be like that cause a woman who’s truly interested will be cool with just setting up the date, no fluff talk.
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:50 PM
1

Go outside your front door, talk to a woman you find attractive, set up a date, go on date, flirt and if she’s flirting back then suggest you two go back to your place or hers…don’t over complicate it.
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:48 PM
1

why do you wanna improve your text game ?
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:42 PM
1

I didn’t even read this long ass post about ONE chick …All I saw was the two words in the title that read “i’m worried”…that, just that ALONE, says everything about you, that is the core problem, you are outcome dependant and that’s what needs to be addressed, some dudes love to ask questions about surface level shit instead of tackling the real problem which is that they for some reason give a fuck about the situation to where it’s messing with their mental and emotional state….Look deeper into…
/r/seduction05/07/24 11:05 PM
1

Dude please don’t listen to those saying a high interest woman is normally bossy lmao a high interest woman will follow your lead with no questions asked..a truly high interest woman at least, you’re probably giving these women the idea that you’re someone who’s flexible and can easily be manipulated and influenced.
/r/seduction04/07/24 05:31 PM
1

so just do that cause honestly even THAT you don’t need to say…you can literally cut straight to the chase and set up a date on the first message.
/r/seduction04/07/24 02:46 PM
1

yah but why
/r/seduction02/07/24 12:16 AM
1

lol why did that comment hurt you though..?
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:22 PM
1

Lol she may have noticed you were too timid on the date to lead her in any direction so she lost interest
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:22 PM
2

How do you feel about yourself ??
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:20 PM
1

what are you saying to these women on the apps ?
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:20 PM
1

What were you and her talking about before the first date and on the first date ? what were the topics of conversation
/r/seduction14/06/24 05:26 PM
0

lol what do YOU wanna do?
/r/seduction14/06/24 05:20 PM
1

what’s too early? there’s no need to make a connection beforehand bro just ask the girl out , you’re too invested in this
/r/seduction24/05/24 03:27 AM
1

how many women have you been direct with like that?
/r/seduction24/05/24 03:24 AM
1

yah do it, why not, just open the convo normally how you would in any other place..approach her , tell her what you wanna do, if she’s interested give her you number and if not walk tf away lol simple
/r/seduction24/05/24 03:23 AM
1

So stick to those places then lol the club can still be a place to seduce women but if it’s not your speed then it’s not your speed
/r/seduction24/05/24 03:20 AM
1

How exactly will working on those things unlock prospects for sex and relationships ?
/r/seduction18/05/24 08:59 PM
1

ya first piece of advice is remove all this PUA lingo from your vocabulary, it makes everything seem like such a big deal when in reality it’s not, you go out there in the night, approach a woman you like and you convey what you’re trying to do with her that night, if she’s into you then you’ll know when the interaction is flowing nicely in the direction YOU want it to go, if not you’ll feel some resistance/hesitation..if that’s the case I’d recommend moving onto a next chick.
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:41 AM
1

“hey, what evening this week are you free to meet me for a coffee?” …works quite nicely lol don’t over complicate shit, no need for long ass convos on dating apps just get straight to the point of what you’re trying to do.
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:37 AM
1

If you feel regretful for being bold and courageous then it’s like you were only doing it for a specific outcome and not just because…..
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:36 AM
1

why do you hate yourself ?
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:32 AM
9

Meeting women face to face anywhere out in the world is a perfectly fine use of my time, but it may be because I view it differently than you do..you view it as a means to an end..for years i’ve viewed it openly meaning I see that activity as something that helps me evolve in many ways & not just landing me dates and sex, that’s comes with it but it’s just a love of the game that keeps me out there hollering at these broads…No statistics needed, just do the shit and enjoy the process.
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:30 AM
19

How will the women come from you doing that?
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:27 AM
1

wait , how old are you?
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:16 AM
2

yeah i’d recommend removing all this PUA mindset lingo and be present, say what you want and feel and that’s it. lmao no scripts to follow, nothing. Be authentic and tell these chicks wtf is up and that’s all.
/r/seduction14/05/24 11:15 PM
-1

Everything you said is cool but it’s all the way you look at it, you see it like it’s this BIG HONORABLE mission, while others see it as another day in the office…perhaps you don’t have to suffer through anything, maybe you don’t even have to use the word “rejection” ever again cause really , it doesn’t exist….A different view could change the way you go about this shit, unless you like going about it the way you do, then do you .
/r/seduction14/05/24 11:10 PM
12

NOPE, get to the root of why you’re scared. Alcohol won’t fix anything, tbh it’s some loser shit in my opinion, it’s a loser move.
/r/seduction14/05/24 11:04 PM
0

your first fuck up is even mentioning how you physically look, that says that there’s something within you that thinks “good looks” is a factor in people liking you or wanting to engage in any kind of way with you. People don’t need to make eye contact with you just cause you look at them, they can be in their own world and not even notice you, why don’t you just say hi to them or even start by just saying good morning/afternoon/evening to every person you walk by?? Don’t expect anything though,…
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:07 AM
1

first off you’re wasting your own time, you’re allowing them to waste your time by continuing to engage with her knowing damn well she’s flaky…after the first flake you should move on. lol
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:03 AM
1

what makes her “special”?????
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:01 AM
2

uhh…dude what do you want really? Casual or something serious ?? lol
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:01 AM
2

how many new conversations have you had this week so far ??
/r/seduction21/04/24 02:59 AM
1

what’s your definition of “game” ??
/r/seduction21/04/24 02:50 AM
2

Just be straightforward about what exactly you want with her lmao it’s not complicated and you’re making it super fucking complicated because you’re scared of possibly losing her that’s why you’re worried about making things awkward or overwhelming her…
/r/seduction12/04/24 03:56 PM
25

Leave it alone, if she was really interested in you she would have made it easy & effortless to exchange contact information. Just continue to be friendly with her around the gym if you cross paths but In my opinion don’t pursue her. Find a woman who makes it easy cause that means she’s actually interested in you.
/r/seduction09/04/24 02:44 PM
2

Understand that your way of thinking comes from some kind of conditioning and programming that was instilled in you as you were growing up, either from family, friends, your environment or maybe videos you’ve watched on youtube, once you reflect on the fact that those thoughts aren’t actually YOU then you can start to see past the illusions of your own mind, so start asking yourself deep questions like “why exactly do I think people are staring at me?”, “why do I care if people judge me?” “what …
/r/seduction09/04/24 02:40 PM
1

Question is, how do YOU feel before the date and during the date ?
/r/seduction07/04/24 10:30 PM
0

Yah some will and that’s why you should be yourself when on dates meaning if it’s the first date and you like this girl and wanna kiss her then go for it, cause if you hold yourself back you’re just doing yourself a disservice.
/r/seduction07/04/24 06:59 PM
7

YOU FLIRT WITH ALL OF THEM THE SAME…The fact that you think you have to treat them differently based on how they look is your problem, your words here are exposing your mindset & how you feel about yourself, you need to fix that and then a woman’s looks won’t even be a deciding factor in how you talk to them..You’re putting certain women up on a pedestal & that’s just feeding your low self esteem, you’re putting everyone but yourself on a pedestal.
/r/seduction04/04/24 03:13 AM
2

So don’t see her, if she thinks it’s a bad idea, DO NOT see her, you are wasting your valuable time, it doesn’t matter why she’s saying it, leave it be (even though you won’t) lol and move on bro.,
/r/seduction04/04/24 12:52 AM
1

why you thirsting for pussy that badly that you gotta go for a chick with a boyfriend lol on top of that more importantly , you don’t know this guy…we live in a world full of simps , this guy could find out about this, have an emotional and mental breakdown and do some crazy violent shit..you never know, shit like that happens all the time so i’d say for the safety of you and that chick id say don’t do it. You’re in fucking college , there’s an abundance of women you can meet.
/r/seduction14/02/24 07:08 PM
1

stop putting women on a pedestal, your wording is evident of that..”i lost a super hot girl”, “ i missed my shot” “missed my chance with her forever”…..& I bet you didn’t even talk to another girl after you “lost” her, did you?
/r/seduction14/02/24 07:03 PM
2

Realizing real “game” has NOTHING to do with anything outside of you
/r/seduction31/01/24 12:52 AM
1

How do you sleep with hot women? By removing your current mindset you have. Stop thinking you need money or ridiculously good looks to sleep with hot women lol you don’t..by you saying that you’re actually pedestalizing the fuck out of these women.
/r/seduction15/08/23 03:35 AM
5

lmao just do what you wanna do, why you worried about what other dudes are doing? If you wanna only smash 10’s then do that
/r/seduction13/07/23 11:32 PM
1

Wtf is night game ? lmao …If you wanna spend money on these chicks you go ahead, but if you don’t want to I highly suggest you tell them no & move on, don’t even speak to them further because it’s almost like you’re disrespecting yourself at that point…
/r/seduction11/07/23 09:05 PM
35

what does his height have to do with anything ? lol
/r/seduction09/05/23 01:26 AM
1

how is any of the things you mentioned gonna get her pussy wet though ? Guys seem to think having a good body, nice clothes and have goals is gonna make a woman like them, what does any of that have to do with who you truly are as a man? Those are things you do but it’s not who you are. There’s men who have all of that but still have trouble with women. Yuh Gotta go deeper than that.
/r/seduction02/05/23 04:49 PM
1

how are you gonna say you’re confident when you’re letting your physical attractiveness make you feel down about yourself ? Make it make sense, dude…love yourself more. That’s your problem, maybe your relationships failed not because of your physical looks but because you failed to lead the situation, you failed to be a man in the situation, y’all keep thinking this shit is about looks but it’s so far from that you have no idea…..
/r/seduction01/11/22 07:54 PM
1

yeah…stop listening to bullshit channels on youtube that say you need to be a certain physical type in order to get women lmao
/r/seduction01/11/22 07:52 PM
2

Well the reality is you are gonna get some women like that, it is what it is, it’s rare though assuming that you usually go up respectfully and are not emotional if she turns you down…You had expectations though on how these women will react when you approach and that’s a mistake cause you NEVER know how she’ll react, At the end of the day man you really have to have thick skin for this shit, you shouldn’t give a fuck how she reacts, if it’s a way you don’t like them just walk away lmao but yea …
/r/seduction01/11/22 05:29 PM
1

Depends how you view it, also depends how she responds to the initial “let’s meet up” text, sometimes chicks are just busy and there’s nothing you can do, Cause i’ve had girls tell me they couldn’t meet up and I said Let me know when you’re free and they did & we met up and it was all good, lol no value or power lost. You gotta gauge it though and feel their energy in the moment though when you text her. I’m always holding the power and value cause I never make shit about the woman, I make it ab…
/r/seduction31/10/22 11:11 AM
1

You just exposed yourself , & i’m not trying to take shots at you when I say that…Cause first off who says i’m waiting by the phone for this girl to text me ? lmao i’m out there dealing with others, meeting others & if she happens to text me back, cool, if she doesn’t then cool, & Second, she ain’t giving me a chance with her…i’m giving her a chance with me. Y’all may not see this but the way some of you talk exposes the way you think about dating and all these chicks…homie if you think saying “…
/r/seduction31/10/22 02:09 AM
1

she has no reason to answer that text though, you just tell her to hit you up when she’s ready to meet up
/r/seduction30/10/22 11:23 PM
5

How is that “beta” by you telling her to hit you up when she’s free ? lol a “beta” response would be to keep trying to get at her and continuing to talk to her.
/r/seduction30/10/22 11:23 PM
2

this idea of giving your “power” away is overcomplicating this shit, If you feel like you’re giving your power away then you never really had any in the first place. Just do what it is you wanna do with a woman, if she’s not feeling it then don’t pursue anymore, if you keep pursuing then you’re just doing more than necessary..it’s quite simple, really.
/r/seduction30/10/22 11:21 PM
4

For some women it may be, but at the end of the day you shouldn’t care about those specific women because they’re obviously not compatible with you, your job is to find the women who will be attracted to who for who you are inside and out. This ex you just broke up with, sounds like she never really like you for you & so for the future you have to make sure these women you talk to are really down for you so that means taking your time with them and not jumping into a relationship, it also means …
/r/seduction30/10/22 05:08 PM
2

You can’t bring her back to where you live ?
/r/seduction29/10/22 04:46 PM
8

here’s the thing, you need to be more selective with your wording cause you’re saying that this is the reality for “average guys” whatever that means to you, but no, it’s the reality for you & you just said in this comment that you’ve chickened out more than you’ve approached, so you need to really be out there experiencing women and dating and approaching to really give your pov here..Because you’re spreading misinformation and someone with no experience could see this & lose all hope. My sugge…
/r/seduction25/10/22 08:28 PM
1

you can do whatever you want, sir.
/r/seduction24/10/22 08:41 PM
0

Dude you have to make the rules, are you ok with waiting 3 dates or do you want sex on the first or second date ? If the latter is the case then it does NOT matter if it’s woman’s first time, you just let her know you wanna have sex & if she’s not down then move on…Here’s a thing too you should know, it does NOT matter if it’s a woman’s first time at anything, if she really wants you then there’s no such thing has her waiting, she’ll make it happen the first date if she really wants it from you.…
/r/seduction23/10/22 07:46 PM
2

You’re inevitably gonna get women on dates who don’t feel the spark, that usually just means they weren’t sexually attracted to you, your job is to simply find the women who WILL be sexually attracted to you & how do you do that you may wonder? By going out and talking to a ton of women, using dating apps to talk to a ton of women.
/r/seduction23/10/22 07:30 PM
1

Tell her that you need to have your needs met, & if she doesn’t want to do it, you should cut it off, it’s your choice to do that at the end of the day, but if you don’t then just remember you’re compromising & you’re settling for a situation that doesn’t fully satisfy and benefit you,..& if that’s the case then you lack self love & self respect.
/r/seduction22/10/22 11:26 PM
2

What do you mean by focusing on yourself ? & how would you know that you’re undateable if you’ve never even approached in order to put yourself in position to find out ? lol Sounds like a perspective shift may be in order, but honestly there’s no secret formula, no “cold” or “warm” approach, just an approach, you just gotta simply do it with no expectations attached to it. Go outside your front door today and just say hi to someone, you have to ignore your thinking mind cause it’ll scramble for …
/r/seduction22/10/22 11:22 PM
4

You just move on, if she’s not trying to talk to you, keep it pushing, no need to try and decipher why she’s like this, what does this mean, how should you handle it, there’s literally no point in any of that….literally just move on & forget this woman.
/r/seduction18/10/22 11:58 PM
2

remember, just cause they have those options doesn’t mean they actually want those options, it’s best you not focus on her possible options or other men, focus on yourself only & what you want & what you want from a woman..,.also why do you want a girlfriend ? Cause you just meet these women and you already want to make them your girl? why, what has she done to deserve that position? that may be running these chicks away from you.
/r/seduction18/10/22 09:49 PM
3

…You know women don’t have to talk to you, right ? doesn’t matter if you think you’re average looking, doesn’t matter if you’re just asking about school, not all women are gonna wanna talk to you. Simple, just move on & don’t let it hurt your ego, & no it’s not women being “weird”, it’s just life.
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:28 PM
1

absolutely not mandatory
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:24 PM
3

honestly there’s many different reasons but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what they are, After you get all of the reasons, what changed for you? how did it benefit your life ?? “Cold approach” has been my way of having a dating/sex life since I was 16, I never once gave a fuck about why people don’t like it or why it’s frowned upon, Cause that would mean im putting focus on the external and putting focus outside of me instead of within me and just doing what I want…I suggest you do the…
/r/seduction17/10/22 06:00 PM
7

she may have felt intimidated
/r/seduction17/10/22 01:06 AM
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I don’t text at all after I set the date BUT i do (& this is something you must do) confirm the date either the day of or the day before .
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:06 PM
5

tell your friend to fix the view he has on himself because it sucks….tell him the only thing making it difficult to get what he wants is his own perspective on himself & life.
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:54 AM
1

Do you have the dating/sex life you want ? are you being treated the way you want by women?
/r/seduction15/10/22 11:33 PM
6

lmao you paid 100$ for drinks ? you thought she was really hot right ? You say she got drunk as hell yet you spent a 100$ on drinks, so what did you expect ? you took her to a club and gave her tons of drinks…Dude you created the situation, you’re the reason for that outcome.
/r/seduction14/10/22 09:58 PM
1

doesn’t really matter what they want because you have to worry about what YOU want, you worry about what women want then that’s when you’re making it about them and now what you want, at no point during a hook up situation or even if you’re in a relationship do you have to spend money on a woman.
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:52 PM
1

Doesn’t matter what age you are, whether it’s easy or difficult all depends on YOU, doesn’t matter if you’re 19 or 35.
/r/seduction14/10/22 01:25 AM
4

If you’re generally a confident, assertive person then it should really just show in everything you do, how you talk to her, what you talk about, how you show your boundaries with her, She’ll be able to tell you’re dominant …it’s not really something you can just act like.
/r/seduction14/10/22 01:16 AM
1

what do YOU wanna do? Everyone on here’s gonna have different answers based off of their perspectives and experiences so…if you think she’s attractive, msg back, don’t even chit chat just go STRAIGHT to setting up a date.
/r/seduction12/10/22 10:07 PM
1

well you shouldn’t really be talking to her on the daily, just set up the next meet up , have you done that ?
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:00 PM
1

That’s not facts first of all, statistics can be skewed, & what makes you so “undesired” anyway?
/r/seduction09/10/22 02:33 PM
1

the problem lies in your comment, you believe i’m all these statistics , you lack belief in yourself
/r/seduction09/10/22 12:58 AM
2

Honestly they just want enthusiasm and good energy, not specifics, so it’s not much what you say but how you say it
/r/seduction09/10/22 12:57 AM
0

Yeah I don’t care, I expect it, & if you’re someone who cares thennnn that’s a sign of insecurity & should be addressed, or also it’s a sign you should be talking & flirting with other people. Because seeing someone doesn’t = relationship/committed.
/r/seduction08/10/22 11:21 PM
1

I hope you’re trolling but if not, i’m curious, what makes it horrible ?
/r/seduction06/10/22 01:15 AM
1

lmaoo you know your only REAL problem is your view on yourself right ? Why do you think it’s been so hard to attract women ? cause you believe you’re ugly, you think your height matters and you think your bald head is a disadvantage, all of this shit starts in your mind & you project it out into the world so when you try and interact with a chick to make something happen your insecurities & negative view on yourself come out and so that turns the girl off. It’s not your looks that turn her off, …
/r/seduction05/10/22 07:39 PM
4

Honestly man you have to really simplify it, There’s a girl at the gym you find attractive & im sure you wanna have sex with & that’s completely fine btw, it doesn’t make you a douchebag as some may think. So, you simply approach her & suggest you two do something together (preferably something chill, like coffee or walk in the park, i don’t recommend dinner) & from there she either says yes or no. Guys make scenarios like this a big deal because they put the woman on a pedestal so they hope and…
/r/seduction04/10/22 05:27 PM
1

well ask yourself, do you love & value yourself ? Cause if you truly do, “rejection” shouldn’t even feel like that, it should feel like the woman missed out on an opportunity to be with you. So look within yourself & figure out how you feel about yourself .
/r/seduction04/10/22 05:02 PM
3

you gotta approach lol so next time you see this girl remember this feeling you have now & how much you don’t want it & then go talk to her
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:16 PM
2

the only way you’ll get put in the friendzone is if you’re not honest with your intentions and if you’re not letting your true self show, your true self finds a woman attractive but if you suppress that and just give her friendly energy (no flirting, nothing like that) then you’ll just be a friend. So be honest.
/r/seduction01/10/22 07:54 PM
2

Meet more people consistently and you’ll eventually reach a mindset of abundance where you’ll realize not one person is special and you can always find someone new who’s cool & you’re compatible with.
/r/seduction29/09/22 10:54 PM
5

just suggest that you two go back to her place, depending how the date is going, if y’all are flirting and she’s receptive to that sexual energy then just say “let’s go back to your place” .
/r/seduction27/09/22 08:01 PM
3

Game, & this post shows your lack of it & I say that respectfully, reason being is you’re looking for things outside of yourself in order to get what it is you want, you’re so focused on things outside of you (such as status) instead of looking within yourself for your value, you think it has to come from external things, the true mark of a man is not what he has on the outside but instead on the inside. A guy can have looks, money & status & STILL fail with women because he lacks true confidenc…
/r/seduction26/09/22 06:10 PM
12

Yah if you’re trying to get rid of approach anxiety that’s cool, baby steps, but if you really wanna connect with a girl and make something happen then you can’t just do that what you did. Just ask her a question, for example “how’s your day going?“ & from there it can go in many different directions, you just gotta learn how to think on your feet & flow with the conversation. But in order to be good at that you gotta have interactions with women on the daily, just have a conversation about anyt…
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:24 PM
1

You care toooooo much about what these women think, I mean what’s more important ? Getting what you want or what these women think about you when you make a move ? You’re holding back your true self so that’s why you’re not getting what you want, let go of the outcome and just see what happens, make your move, say what’s on your mind and if she’s with it then cool , if not, then no worries, onto the next, no hate towards her or anything, just move on .
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:07 PM
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if you want to have a conversation, don’t say “I just want you to know you’re beautiful” cause it sounds like that’s all you wanna say, it doesn’t imply you actually wanna have a conversation so after you say that she has no reason to stay in that spot and talk to you more, she’ll just walk away after you say it cause she thinks you JUST wanna compliment her & nothing else.
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:04 PM
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Bro why do you hate yourself ? You’re allowing yourself to get played by this chick, the moment she shows any signs of disinterest you should just move on to another chick and forget her, you don’t need to call her out on anything, why?? It’s waste of time, you just met her so why call her out on anything ? she doesn’t even deserve to be checked like that, just forget it and move on. Simple. Cause realistically if a girl is really interested in you she WILL be extremely cooperative and willing t…
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:00 PM
3

lol that’s your problem, you think “cold approach” means you’re harassing, cmon now. That mindset will fuck you up in the future, and you said you read the books but it didn’t make you witty, you actually have to go out there and have interactions, reading won’t just magically give you the verbal skills
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:26 PM
1

what makes this person “high value” ?
/r/seduction23/09/22 12:43 AM
1

You may look good physically but most importantly how’s your mindset & behaviour ?? Those are crucial parts of sex appeal .
/r/seduction22/09/22 11:25 PM
2

and that’s why they get frustrated in the end when she’s not reciprocating and wanna end up doing dumb shit like killing some mfs out of their frustration smh…
/r/seduction19/09/22 09:42 PM
2

question is, do you find this girl attractive? & if so why are you wasting time asking reddit something about her & not making moves ?
/r/seduction19/09/22 07:48 PM
3

Idk man there’s a shit load of women outside of the church and even just walking around your campus so idk why you’d waste time joining a christian group when you’re not even religious just for the sole purpose of getting p*ssy lol..
/r/seduction18/09/22 10:59 PM
1

no, thats wack af
/r/seduction17/09/22 02:01 PM
1

Everything you mentioned is just a thing, it has no meaning, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a certain thing, it’s like when dudes say “i’m short I can’t get women”…If you make your age, the fact you work a dead end job, the fact you live with your parents, the fact that you think you’re ugly even though someone else might thing you’re attractive, if you make all of that an issue IN YOUR HEAD, then it will project out into the world in the way you carry yourself, interact with others and your dec…
/r/seduction16/09/22 01:56 AM
1

nah
/r/seduction15/09/22 11:36 PM
-1

You can still sit there If you get “rejected” you just simply stop engaging with her or you just get up and move….
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:20 PM
1

why do you care ?
/r/seduction15/09/22 04:59 PM
5

it’s really not
/r/seduction14/09/22 01:39 PM
-1

What do you mean it’s hard to move away?
/r/seduction14/09/22 01:38 PM
1

They matter as far as your appearance & hygiene, but this whole thing about having to be tall and in shape, nah…also looks are subjective so you may think two people have matched looks but the woman in that equation may think the dude is way better looking than her or vice versa…another thing too is that you’re listening to what women say, & that’s not to say they’re bullshitting or they’re not to be listened to with certain things but when it comes to dating they can say they want one thing but…
/r/seduction14/09/22 12:53 AM
1

of course it’s acceptable, if a girl is really feeling you then she’ll come through. If she says she has to get to know you more or something along those lines then chances are she has medium or low interest in you.
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:05 PM
1

why don’t you just set up a date in that same text? There’s not much a woman can say to that text you send.
/r/seduction13/09/22 03:54 PM
5

low interest, also you don’t need to build rapport or comfort lol I know a lot of dudes think that but when you meet a new woman that is not necessary if she actually has high interest in you.
/r/seduction13/09/22 03:53 PM
1

It’s part of the game man, just keep it moving & don’t try to figure out what happened ..
/r/seduction13/09/22 03:51 PM
12

lmaooo the REAL problem here is that you believe there even is a league…mothaFUCK a league. Stop putting chicks on a pedestal and start treating all girls the same regardless of how attractive you think they are. This is the only advice you need.
/r/seduction13/09/22 01:27 AM
2

why are you even taking this girl out like that ? you just met her, she’s using you cause you’re allowing yourself to get used, you wanna kiss her and she’s not down and you’re STILL seeing her? if she’s not down for what you wanna do stop seeing her, also, stop spending money on chicks you just met bruh…no wonder you’re getting played, shit 4 dates & no kiss yet ? Why are you doing this to yourself lol
/r/seduction12/09/22 12:44 AM
1

what does smv mean ?
/r/seduction11/09/22 05:13 AM
1

Whats a “high smv woman” lol
/r/seduction11/09/22 12:31 AM
1

never ask a woman if you can see her again, that shows you’re needy…
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:24 PM
3

lmao based on your other responses I feel like this isn’t true….& if it is then idk man, maybe use your words and tell em you’re not interested…Idk tho
/r/seduction07/09/22 02:29 AM
5

Well yeah some women are gonna flake, that’s normal, and she may have said that cause she just wasn’t interested in you enough cause trust me, when a girl really likes you she’ll be willing to chill even the same day y’all meet. it is BS 🤷🏼‍♂️ lemme ask you, do YOU wanna text & text these girls to build comfortability before a date or would you rather skip all that and just get to know her in person?
/r/seduction07/09/22 02:19 AM
1

No they don’t, if a women is interested in you then you can literally set the date the very first text you send lol did you hear somewhere that you need to build rapport first or something ?
/r/seduction07/09/22 02:14 AM
1

There’s your answer, how are you frustrated from not being able to attract women when you’re not even talking to women in the first place to even be put in the position to attract them ? lol it doesn’t make sense, you can’t figure out why you’re alone and have no one to talk to but yet you’re not taking the initiative to say hi to the person next to you?? You still gotta change it, man. Having that name isn’t healthy for you, IMO being lonely and alone are two different things, lonely is like yo…
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:45 PM
1

When did you say you met this girl?
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:40 PM
1

That doesn’t answer my question. Are You going outside and meeting women yes or no? & You wanna know how you get rid of that frustration? Start with changing your Reddit name.
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:39 PM
2

What is about this one girl that you like so much ? be honest.
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:36 PM
1

Are you going outside & meeting women ?
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:29 PM
1

It doesn’t really matter though if they are interested cause you’d still be afraid to approach them…Just approach whoever you find attractive whether they’re looking at you or not.
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:16 PM
2

You don’t really “have” a girl until you’re actually having sex with her…meaning yea she messaged him but he had to play the right moves to get him to the point of sex, anywhere along that way he could’ve done something or said something that could’ve turned her off & that would’ve been the end. It’s not in the bag just cause she messaged first, you gotta know that.
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:24 PM
3

how would you know that? That girls don’t send “normal” guys messages like this? whatever normal means to you….
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:22 PM
1

Doesn’t mean they’d be opposed to it, women like sex just as much (if not more) than men
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:18 PM
2

yah for sure get that done, but also make sure you work on your character, many guys make the mistake of thinking building up their value only comes from the external. Just hit on all cylinders and you’ll be good.
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:14 PM
2

Yes & someone of strong character, good leadership, stoic, be a man who can provide value and that doesn’t have to mean money or gifts.
/r/seduction06/09/22 11:14 AM
-1

No, you’d be surprised, a lot of women just wanna have sex but dudes these days don’t know what FWB is cause they tell a chick that’s what they want but then they end up giving her boyfriend energy which in turn may make her want a relationship..Take note, if you’re fwb with a girl, it is ONLY sex, only text to set up meet ups for sex, no seeing eachother to do things besides sex, no spending the night, no cuddling, all that relationship stuff…
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:20 AM
6

it’s really not the truth at alll..
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:18 AM
4

I don’t think going to school increases your value, I think he meant your value as a man..& that comes from the internal not the external
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:17 AM
-8

“because there is none” that’s all you had to say…Lemme leave you with this….If a man..a MAN, feels like he has to get inserts to increase his height just to get affection from a woman because he hates himself and can’t accept himself for who he truly is, that is not a man. Men are supposed to be setting a good example, are supposed to be good leaders so what kind of shit is this when a man hates himself to the point where he has to do this? & Yes, it is a lack of confidence..in himself, lack of…
/r/seduction05/09/22 11:04 AM
-16

You don’t see what’s wrong with a man doing such a thing ?? I’m actually curious, do you not see ? Hey at the end of the day he can do whatever he wants but it’s still bitch-assness..Men and women aren’t the same so i’m not sure why you compare the two.
/r/seduction05/09/22 10:51 AM
-5

lol are you co-signing this behaviour of wearing inserts to increase your height ?
/r/seduction05/09/22 10:45 AM
169

why are you scared of looking clownish ? You’ve already been a clown since the moment you put those inserts in & If you don’t see how, that’s an even bigger problem. Do you know why I say this ?
/r/seduction05/09/22 02:31 AM
1

why though..??
/r/seduction04/09/22 11:01 PM
2

bruh if you’re a real man you won’t give a shit about what people think, especially people close to you, you won’t try to hide the truth of who you are and what you do, if your family or friends don’t like it then ok cool. lol sure most of society is soft and doesn’t know that side of things, but being a man means walking your own path, not letting anybody sway you from who you are & not hiding shit from anybody.
/r/seduction04/09/22 05:45 PM
2

You gotta dig deeper, like where does that anxiety come from? It may come from a feeling that you’re not up to the level of certain women which is crazy, some guys think leagues exist like “oh she’s out of my league” which is nonsense, no such thing exists..how do you fix that? By reflecting and discovering what makes you valuable, because it’s in you already you just have to find it & uncover it. I used to be a little hesitant on making moves with a chick cause I was worried about how she’ll re…
/r/seduction03/09/22 06:56 PM
1

Why do you struggle with it ? what comes to mind when you’re in that small take phase and you wanna escalate to some flirting ?
/r/seduction03/09/22 06:40 PM
1

Ya so then you express that WITHIN conversation, don’t just let that be the first thing you say lol You go up and you just express yourself, let it be known through words and action that you’re interested in her in an intimate way & if she’s down then cool, if she’s not down then you keep it moving.
/r/seduction03/09/22 06:36 PM
1

well what do you want from them ? when you see a girl who catches your eye what do you wanna do with them ?
/r/seduction03/09/22 05:20 PM
11

Well first off you gotta stop putting women on a pedestal, it seems like you sleep with girls you’re not attracted to because they’re the ones who approach you, you’re scared to approach the ones you really want because you’re putting them up on a pedestal..Recognize your worth, man, it’s not about financial status or looks like some goofies are saying out here. It’s about your confidence and love you have for yourself, have some standards & have the balls to go after what you want and not put u…
/r/seduction03/09/22 05:16 PM
1

I sense a lot of femininity in this post. You know a relationship doesn’t automatically mean you’re gonna be valued or cared about. You could get affection from your hookups but chances are either you didn’t give them good dick or something about your behaviour turned them right off. Sex isn’t special and because your view is that it is that’s probably why you feel some kind of way about how these chicks were moving while you were fucking with them. I can tell you got really emotionally invested…
/r/seduction03/09/22 05:07 PM
2

Self love is essential for everything in life. So yeah. Start with this : https://youtu.be/K1wh2Mv4b4s
/r/seduction03/09/22 02:21 PM
29

I hope you don’t put “lmao” in the text, just set up the meeting asap and then go meet her, she may text back, she may not. Either way you don’t wanna waste time talking back & forth or waiting for a perfect time to text her, it’s not that serious.
/r/seduction03/09/22 12:10 AM
1

Just step outside, sir.
/r/seduction01/09/22 11:49 AM
5

the better strategy is self respect & self love..so let it be & keep it pushing , talk to more women too cause the fact you’re asking this shows you’re barely talking to anyone.
/r/seduction31/08/22 06:34 PM
1

Im going off what he said, at this point you’re just making things up & it also seems like you’re not really picking up what i’m laying down, you just seem combative so I’m out, peace.
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:33 PM
1

You sound so passive aggressive lmao I can tell you’re stuck on your views & you may not wanna be open minded to some other views, however I never said no shy person can date, I said in the last comment that the dude can do whatever he wants…but being shy is NOT good, & actually yes some relationships with shy people do lack, it’s nothing on the individual who’s shy but it’s true. But you don’t see the problem with being shy towards people you’re not close to? You end up in a relationship by int…
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:18 PM
1

You don’t even have to tell women you’re a virgin lol..& no, you THINK they’d be turned off but in reality most wouldn’t care as long as you got a strong personality and give off the vibe that you’re proud of who you are & love yourself but from this post, it sounds like that may not be true.
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:09 PM
1

It’s not what he may want but it’s what he needs, now he can do whatever he wants but the reality is, being single and working on what I mentioned is necessary to build up his mental and emotional strength in order to even be in a good relationship. That’s it, You can disagree that’s fine It is what it is . Yuh understand ?
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:07 PM
1

The goal is to actually to get better at your social/conversation skills, build confidence, self esteem, persistence & resilience to “rejection” which will help him in the long run. Either way if he wants a girlfriend it’s STILL gonna be essential that he gets out there & builds his interpersonal skills.
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:01 PM
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ok but that’s not gonna solve your dating problems, you’re still gonna want women that’s just part of your being so I suggest you work on changing your mindset so you don’t view all this has so negative, yes some women are not gonna wanna talk to you, some will ignore you, some will call you cute but still not wanna fuck you, that’s part of life trust me. So don’t give up cause if you do then you’re just running from the issue.
/r/seduction30/08/22 01:58 PM
1

and how exactly do you think better at talking to women ? lol homie said he was shy with women….& if you read my comment carefully I said just focus on just interacting, doesn’t have to be you trying to fuck them .
/r/seduction30/08/22 01:52 PM
1

Yes there’s lots of people who are in relationships in high school and lots who married their “HS sweethearts”…but does that mean that they’re automatically solid relationships?, nope. And i’m not saying he should never be in a relationship, i’m saying right now that shouldn’t be his focus. & Okay lol how is that “fuckboi” advice ?
/r/seduction30/08/22 01:25 PM
1

the first thing you said and the last thing you said are a big contradiction lol We want him to stay away from comfort zones though, that’s how he’s gonna grow and stop being shy. & I dunno if his motive his to pursue a bunch of women but maybe it is, he’s just too shy to do it however even if it’s not his goal, he still has to get out there & interact with women or even just people in general cause that alone is gonna help a lot with his current state.
/r/seduction30/08/22 09:55 AM
1

I didn’t even say to focus on sex lol I said he should focus on getting over his shyness..& hey maybe he does wanna get his dick wet he’s just too shy to put that in the title lol..bottom line is if he’s thinking like you say “why can’t i have one?” then he’s definitely not ready for a relationship, that isn’t something you jump into a week after you meet a girl, plus if he gets in one his shyness and lack of knowledge about women and HIMSELF is gonna make him fumble it, that’s why I said he sho…
/r/seduction30/08/22 09:43 AM
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Don’t get a girlfriend right now, you’re too young for that, just focus your energy on interacting with girls daily in order to improve your conversation/social skills & so you can burn off any shyness you have with the opposite sex, just start by saying hi to at least 3 women a day, just hi, if you end up talking more then great but if not that’s cool too, you just need to get used to talking.
/r/seduction30/08/22 12:17 AM
1

How did you meet all these chicks ?
/r/seduction29/08/22 08:01 PM
1

Do you wanna take things slow though? or are you doing it cause she says she wants to.
/r/seduction29/08/22 07:59 PM
1

So she was leading you pretty much instead of you leading her & the situation…Were you happy with that ?
/r/seduction29/08/22 04:28 PM
1

But how are you gonna enter a relationship before you’ve had sex with the girl ? that’s backwards, no?
/r/seduction29/08/22 02:30 PM
0

What was your goal throughout this whole experience ? did you wanna fuck ?
/r/seduction29/08/22 03:25 AM
20

it’s more like you show interest/initiate to SEE if she’s interested in you. Don’t wait for anything, you just do it.
/r/seduction28/08/22 11:34 PM
2

A success is subjective, what might be a success to me might be total failure to you, just enjoy the process and don’t worry too much about successes. Just get out there and start doing it
/r/seduction27/08/22 02:01 PM
1

Have a plan, man. Don’t just jump into some lovey dovey relationship with her cause first off you work together, second you’re just starting to see her so you gotta take things slow in terms of making her a girlfriend, etc…If you have sexual interest in her then absolutely make that clear to her & if she reciprocates then cool, if not then move on from her and waste no more time on her.
/r/seduction27/08/22 12:23 AM
2

I recommend you don’t listen to ANY kind of pills, listen to yourself and that’s it, Bottom line is it is completely fine to approach women in ANY context, just do it in a respectful calibrated way and you’re good to go. Don’t listen to these weak ass men who are bitter about women.
/r/seduction26/08/22 06:13 PM
3

Just start doing it, you don’t have to look a certain way, just walk up to them and start talking.
/r/seduction24/08/22 12:10 AM
0

This isn’t true actually, someone who constantly gets laid can STILL put women up on a pedestal due to them not having any standards, principles, boundaries, this is why those same dudes end up allowing themselves to be played and get hurt in the end, & on the other hand someone else who doesn’t always lay down with women won’t put it on a pedestal because he actually has a sense of self respect so he sets boundaries, has standards, etc…this is why it all starts from WITHIN you.
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:14 PM
1

Yeah see that’s the problem, you’re the type of dude women are gonna run circles around, as long as you think this way then that’s what’s gonna happen. You think hot women are something special lol women are just women, you make them special when they show you that they’re worth it, you’re the only special one in the equation but you gotta actually believe and feel like that, right now you don’t. Create some standards for yourself & go & have more experiences with women so you can see it’s nothi…
/r/seduction23/08/22 02:02 PM
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Dude it sounds like you have issues with your self worth, self respect and self love, first off you were settling at first with all those other chicks you didn’t find attractive, you just wanted sex though, second you knew this chick had issues and was on drugs but you thought she was hot so you threw all discernment out the window and you probably allowed yourself to be played by this woman during your time knowing her, I saw some other dude saying you won just cause you got sex, you didn’t win…
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:33 AM
1

How long did you wait from when you met her to make her your girlfriend ?
/r/seduction22/08/22 09:49 PM
2

if you have actually have tight game then you should be able to have success dating wherever you are in the world…your game isn’t where it should be.
/r/seduction21/08/22 02:51 PM
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Maybe you’re trying to get with chicks who clearly have no interest in you, go out there and find the chicks who have high interest in you and then there will be no such thing as jumping through hoops.
/r/seduction20/08/22 02:56 AM
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You sound mad that they’re not fucking you
/r/seduction20/08/22 02:55 AM
0

are you out there approaching women though?
/r/seduction17/08/22 01:03 PM
1

love yourself more than the woman, never put a situation above you..stay detached but engaged in the moment and just realize that at any point it could all end .
/r/seduction17/08/22 01:01 PM
1

Learn to talk to women wherever you’re at, don’t listen to those people who travel just for affection of a woman. They think the women are the problem where they live so they go overseas, when really it was never the women who were the problem it was the man who had no game to him, he doesn’t know how to converse with women, he has no belief or confidence in himself and he hates himself. Keep working on your game, if you can’t talk to women where you’re at then it’s not gonna be any different in…
/r/seduction17/08/22 12:59 PM
2

You need to get some therapy it sounds like, you gotta fix your core first & learn to love & respect yourself & with that your dynamics with women will improve, Get some game to you too, look up Mr.Locario on Youtube & study his content. If you approach it with an open mind he should set you straight.
/r/seduction17/08/22 12:55 PM
3

Have a good appearance Have a good mouthpiece Be very honest in your intentions and be authentically yourself, speak your mind & truth
/r/seduction17/08/22 12:04 AM
5

Lol just don’t do it man…we all know you don’t wanna holla at these chicks.
/r/seduction15/08/22 07:02 PM
1

Why do you think that is ? That your experiences showed you that.
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:00 PM
1

the problem is that you think being a man is being cocky and pushy, you’ve probably heard this from other ppl that you have to be an asshole and things like that..not at all, you even said it yourself you have a lack of self confidence & you think it’s ok to stay like that ? You need self confidence in your life & not even for just women, for everything. What’s this default manly way you speak of ?
/r/seduction15/08/22 01:55 PM
4

the problem is you’re listening to this narrative you’ve heard other people talk about instead of listening to your OWN narrative, meaning doing you, doing what you wanna do, on the first date you should be flirting and doing all that & seeing if she reciprocates. She probably liked you but because you decided to be fake and put on an act instead of being your authentic self, that’s what made you miss that window. Stop being fake.
/r/seduction15/08/22 01:52 PM
2

before you established comfort ? You don’t need to establish any comfort, just go in there & do what you gotta do & that’s it, don’t worry about what she’s thinking & if she says she has a boyfriend then just peace out of that interaction.
/r/seduction15/08/22 01:47 PM
1

it’s cause you THINK you’re not attractive to women.
/r/seduction15/08/22 01:45 PM
1

Why don’t you just work on yourself in order to not be a beta male ?
/r/seduction15/08/22 01:44 PM
3

Cause he was never really your friend, he just wanted to f*ck you but was always too scared to show his intentions lol
/r/seduction13/08/22 09:46 PM
1

Dude you’re barely putting in any work, if you’re scared to approach a woman then how do you expect to get sex ? Your actions have to line up with what you want! If you want sex then you better be out there saying hello to women everyday and seeing if you can get them out on a date. But you’re not doing that, you’re worried about the wrong things here, you’re worried about the other guys she has messaging her..you’re worried about other men, who cares about those other men bro just do what YOU g…
/r/seduction12/08/22 01:55 PM
1

That’s the problem, you think of it as a negative thing cause we as men want it right away, you know that women want it right away too right ? women LOVE sex and they’re just as freaky (if not more) than men. If a woman really wants you she’ll have sex with you right away and no that doesn’t make her a ho, a lot of you dudes judge chicks who like to have sex and yet you want sex from these women… Here’s the real question, why are you trying to win her when she should be the one trying to win you…
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:56 PM
1

speak your mind
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:42 PM
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You gotta already have a high opinion of yourself, because you don’t it’s messing with your view of yourself when it has nothing to do with you as to why they said no. Just keep going and don’t worry if a chick says yes or no, just have fun with it and focus on developing yourself internally cause that’s what approaching strangers does. Also, celebrate the small wins, so if you get a pleasant reaction from a girl or you make a girl smile or laugh count that as a win.
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:41 PM
1

“hello, how are you?”
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:37 PM
1

Just a lil correction..you ALLOWED yourself to be used. You’re in control of your life and how people treat you & once you realize this, it should make things easier. Your mindset though needs work, why do you actually care about what a woman said about you?
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:36 PM
1

Does it really matter tho…? Why they ghost..
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:34 PM
1

Lol the way you described being toxic isn’t actually being toxic, bro real toxic would be you abusing and slapping this chick up every night, that kind of shit…You’re just being yourself and doing you and that’s why girls like that because it shows authenticity cause you’re not scared to lose her and show her who you are. When you’re being a nice guy you’re being Fake and women can sense that & they get turned off by it.
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:32 PM
1

Dude this is all on you, she didn’t do anything, she didn’t MAKE you fall in love, your expectations and attachment made you feel the way you felt…the reason she was acting like y’all were in a relationship was because YOU lead with that kind of energy..you move too fast, you gotta slow it way down cause I feel like you met this girl within the last few months…subconsciously they don’t want you to want a relationship more than they want it, let her come to you about the relationship, don’t bring…
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:29 PM
1

do you wanna hook up with these girls right away though? does your inner self want that? cause if you have the option to hook up with her but you choose not to cause of your personal reasons that’s cool, but you said the chick is blueballing you so it’s like you want to fuk but she’s not giving you any …in that case that just sounds weak in my opinion lol were you serious about you liking a chick to blue ball you?
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:25 PM
-1

Ahh so you like being the sub…That’s wassup, go get ‘em cowboy. Lol
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:57 PM
1

The fact that you said she’s out of your league….lol cmon man… That’s the real problem here, maybe that explains why you played it so safe with her & why she may have not wanted to proceed sexually…
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:54 PM
4

So if a woman was sexually attracted to you and wanted to have sex with you the first night, you’d see her as less worth pursuing ?
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:50 PM
1

There’s no prime time to date, that’s all in your head, all of the points you mentioned are all in your head so I suggest getting help to remove that shit from your mental because yeah you can start dating now but you’re still gonna have all of that in the back of your head and it’ll effect whatever dynamic you’re in with a female cause your insecurity about your hair will come up or the fact you think younger girls aren’t into older guys & that’s what’s gonna cause you to act needy or desperate…
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:47 PM
1

first off, STOP watching videos that talk about needing money to attract women, women are not sexually attracted to you for your money, they’ll use you sure (if you lead with your money) but that is not something that will aid you in getting with women, what will help you all comes from within and starts with your mindset, not your career, money, car, status, etc…
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:27 PM
1

how do you know she wants to have sex with you?
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:44 PM
1

your looks have nothing to do with anything , it’s the conversation skills that need work..a commenter said to free associate and that’s a good piece of advice, work on doing that in your everyday life with ANYONE you encounter such as family/friends/store employee/ etc.. listen to what the person you’re talking to is saying & that’s basically you’re ammo, for example they say they’re coming from the gym, you can ask what their fitness goals are/how working out has improved their life…things lik…
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:43 PM
1

At the end of the day, some will notice & judge, some won’t care, this is something waaaay out of your control so you basically gotta love yourself so much to the point that just stop giving a fuck about these people around you.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:37 PM
1

learn to be secure with who you are, know who you are & step up to these women like whether or not they say yes you’ll be just fine. Cause like one of the commenters say, there’s always gonna be some that think you’re creepy, & some that don’t, but yea just as soon as you see them go say what up, don’t be hovering around them like a scared mf. lol
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:34 PM
1

Your overthinking about how to be flirtatious and not creepy is what cause you to not do it in the first place , so i’d say just focus on going up and just saying hello, you don’t always gotta be flirtatious, just go up and start talking about anything…it’s better to just go up and say hi and maybe fumble a little bit than to not do anything at all.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:31 PM
2

yes, the next one is called go outside & apply what you just read lol…reading about it is good but you gotta go out there because that’s really the only way your game will improve, go out there & fall down & get back up..get some real experience.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:28 PM
1

Amnesia
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:26 PM
1

Bro the question is why the hell are you talking to this woman every day? You’re treating this woman like a girlfriend & you’ve only been talking for two weeks ? cmon mane…no wonder you’re asking this question, you‘ve gotten yourself hooked on this woman.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:21 PM
1

Yes, stop trying to build rapport and just do what you gotta do in the moment, while you’re trying to build rapport some other dude who doesn’t give af is striking while the iron’s hot and taking her out, so be that go-getter & don’t worry about her not being into you, if anything it’s better you find that out early so you don’t waste your time.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:18 PM
4

Not even trying to elicit a strong reaction from you, i’m just telling you how it is, man. and see, you think cause you’re taking her to an exclusive event is the reason you’re sick af but that’s not what makes a man sick af, what makes a man really valuable is what he’s got inside, his character, not external things, recognize that value you have inside you, you have it for sure but you may not see it. how can you say you’re sick af when you just said a woman you barely know makes you look cool…
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:08 PM
1

You’re playing games that’s why, stop putting on an act and be yourself & honest with your intentions that’s it, she’s probably getting turned off by the fact that she can tell you’re not really being YOU.
/r/seduction05/08/22 05:02 PM
1

What do you mean spam a lot ?
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:59 PM
1

Wait, where and HOW are you approaching these women? break down the interaction cause yo if you security guards approaching you for talking to chicks you’re doing something wrong
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:59 PM
1

You’re giving girls flowers? on the first date ?
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:57 PM
2

Just talk to the girls you’re attracted to, flirt, if they’re feeling it then proceed, if not then move onto the next one, what do you mean how do you keep going and trying if it doesn’t work out ? You just do.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:53 PM
1

Why do you give a fuck? You’re intimidated by his status and money & it’s showing in your behaviour, seems like you lack confidence & belief in yourself cause if you had that you wouldn’t be trying to compete for some woman, that’s ridiculous. You gotta carry yourself more like someone who commands respect, he may see you as someone he can push around and treat as inferior, look back at your past behaviour with him and see if you can find errors to correct.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:51 PM
3

Yes it’s a turn off when you’re being fake around a female you’re attracted to but you’re not showing her that, women can tell when a guy is beating around the bush. If you find a woman attractive it’s best to be honest with your intentions & that way you can find out right away if she’s interested or not , being indirect and cordial isn’t gonna help in any way if you want sex or something romantic with this woman.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:48 PM
1

Yeah man you may have bored her with the two day conversation you had, you gotta move fast, don’t be scared just tell her you wanna see her & set up the date. If she says yes then cool, if not then that’s also cool.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:45 PM
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you already lost, the title itself shows it, you saying she’s out of your league shows it, the fact that you say you’d be bummed if she flaked shows it, You put this woman on such a high pedestal and you only just met her…What has she done for you to view her so highly ? cause she’s a baddie right ? lol you’re gonna be clingy and weak because look at how you view her & how you’re talking about her, you’re boosting her up while you put yourself down, your language here is exposing your mentality …
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:42 PM
1

why do you care ?
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:37 PM
2

it’s your own inner self, your perspective is fucked, you don’t know yourself because if you did you would KNOW you’re not thirsty for no woman so you’d approach her with nothing on your mind other than “lemme see if I like this broad” …Fix your view on yourself and the act of approaching.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:37 PM
3

The only one to blame here is yourself if you take what they say seriously, women will say lots of shit, they’ll say they want a tall dude who’s jacked and makes a lot of money but when a short dude who’s not really in shape but carries himself well and has a good mouthpiece comes along she’ll quickly forget about all she said before. Some guys listen and they say “oh well it’s your fault cause you said you don’t want guys to approach you” so the dude actually stops like a goofy MF lmao.
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:25 PM
2

I wonder which youtube channel you got that from lol Looks really don’t matter, but you probably can’t be convinced otherwise…change that mindset of yours.
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:21 PM
3

It’s funny cause those guys who are against approaching act like they know for certain how a chick is gonna react if you go up to her, the reality is these guys have little to no experience with women or meeting/interacting with women…they just regurgitate some BS they heard on youtube by some other dude who has little to no experience with women. To boil it down, guys are just too scared to go after what they want so they make up some dumb comments like “a cold approach is met with a cold respo…
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:18 PM
2

I’d start with just saying “hello” to people, get used to starting interactions with people, or ask them how their day’s going, some will respond, some won’t, that’s normal cause not everyone’s gonna wanna talk. This is just to expose yourself to the situation, don’t expect too much just go into it with an open mind and enjoy the process of learning social skills and building up your character through these interactions.
/r/seduction26/07/22 01:55 PM
1

I’m 5’6 & nowhere near jacked and i’ve done fine getting physical with chicks..trust, it’s not as much about looks as you think it is…
/r/seduction25/07/22 02:03 PM
2

Not genetic looks, but your appearance (outfit), hygiene, haircut, yeah that matters…You don’t have to be 6 foot with a chiseled jawline like some weirdos on youtube say…
/r/seduction25/07/22 12:50 PM
10

Start practicing with real people, you can read books all day long but if you’re not actually out there then you’ll never actually develop those skills.
/r/seduction25/07/22 12:46 PM
1

don’t worry about the rules lol approach wherever the fuk you want . This is why you don’t approach anyone, cause you care too much about these rules made by other people who had no success approaching in those places so they impose made up “rules”..
/r/seduction25/07/22 12:45 PM
1

No I understand that seduction isn’t just pick up lines and flirting, however you should change the title of that point because it’s too vague, focusing on your career isn’t gonna magically make you have conversational skills…interacting with more people and getting out of your comfort zone socially is gonna do that.
/r/seduction23/06/22 02:32 AM
1

How will focusing on your career improve your talking and seduction skills ?
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:55 PM
4

Well in this day and age, approaching a woman to meet her in a public setting is rare af lol…
/r/seduction14/06/22 02:09 PM
2

why do you care if she does or doesn’t ?
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:47 PM
1

if she hits you back up tell her you’re interested in more than friends & if she’s cool with that then you two can get together…other than that don’t try to even analyze it, just go meet more girls lol
/r/seduction07/06/22 06:59 PM
1

Approach her by yourself.
/r/seduction17/05/22 10:03 PM
1

You can be Nice but be REAL, meaning show every part of who you are, & realize that not everyone in this life is gonna like you for who you are & that’s OK that’s how it should be..Be yourself to the extreme & don’t apologize to anybody for it (as long as you’re not hurting anyone obviously) and while doing this you’ll filter out the people who aren’t meant for you and get to the ones who love you for who you are…the more you put on this act the more you’re just doing a disservice to yourself, c…
/r/seduction04/05/22 04:03 PM
1

Depends, you gotta try it out, it just might work…only you can determine that, not people here on Reddit….I’d probably just change it to “when are you free this week to get together for our date?” cause at least then you’re actually creating the plan instead of just stating a plan that hasn’t even been planned yet.
/r/seduction04/05/22 03:55 PM
1

“sure bro, sure” lol I’ve done 12 hour shifts and had to commute it home so I know. But all this you speak of about not wanting to approach just sounds like excuses, it’s still a numbers game in the club/bars and all that…what does being good looking have to do with anything though ??
/r/seduction03/05/22 09:25 AM
3

Honestly man this whole comment is the only horse-shit here, how are you gonna say “cold approach” (which I don’t even like to call it that) is a negative thing when people meet like that all the time? that makes no sense…Maybe they haven’t been receptive to YOU in your experience doing it but it doesn’t mean that every other man is gonna encounter those kinds of chicks lol it’s all about how you interact with them, stop spreading misinformation & unfortunately some dudes are gonna believe it & …
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:14 PM
5

That one bit about you having to be Zach Efron tells me you don’t view yourself very highly…you don’t know how these women are thinking, it doesn’t matter if they just finished a 10 hour shift, if you come at them in a positive, respectful & confident manner they’d be more than happy to converse. & this isn’t up for debate it’s just fact lol now there will be some women who don’t wanna talk & that’s normal. But you act like it’s all women like bruh, stop this.
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:11 PM
1

Idk man, the fact that you had to put that she was “hot” in the title tells me that that’s actually a huge deal to you, that her hotness is of big value to you….like yeah my guy she could be hot but is she following you? is she cooperative ? you only mentioned she was hot so that just shows shallow thinking in my opinion.
/r/seduction01/05/22 11:32 PM
2

lol your first problem is you mentioning “Smv” , fuck all of that nonsense mane, dont worry about all that.
/r/seduction01/05/22 11:11 PM
1

Nah man, you gotta be confident in the way you look and like one of the commenters said…you gotta see yourself as a handsome mf regardless of what anyone else might say.
/r/seduction30/04/22 11:03 PM
4

In my experience women like the deep voice, a little bit of bass in your voice can go a long way, accompanied with slow talking too. But don’t try and force anything cause then it’ll just sound weird & she’ll know you’re faking.
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:38 PM
0

where do you even get this idea from ?
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:19 AM
-3

lol no it’s not, women will view an ugly confident guy in a good light..it’s not the same
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:00 AM
3

Lol no, that’s not the kind of thing that’ll make you truly confident & secure about yourself, it’s deeper than that (no pun intended)
/r/seduction28/04/22 07:58 PM
1

Right well make sure not to limit yourself to certain places, Wherever you see them you can talk to them, even on the sidewalk, bus, train, store, wherever dude..it’s all about HOW you interact with them, doesn’t really matter where it is.
/r/seduction27/04/22 02:12 PM
6

I gotta agree with this one, OP just do whatever the hell you wanna do, as long as you’re not harming anyone lol go talk to those girls. you’re overthinking.
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:50 PM
1

Elaborate on that, how does that relate ?
/r/seduction19/04/22 10:29 PM
1

What was your way of meeting these women and making it happen?
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:44 PM
4

High body count doesn’t automatically = STDS
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:44 PM
14

I’ve talked to women at the gym and it went just fine i’ve known people who talked to women at the gym and they made things happen…women don’t wanna talk to men they’re NOT attracted to at the gym, that’s the thing. Cause I notice some people say don’t talk to women in certain places that I myself have talked to them & they were interested in conversing .
/r/seduction19/04/22 08:24 PM
1

https://youtube.com/channel/UCJtO27QCPktDmaPAGhsNNeg all your answers shall be on this channel, this is the channel that helped me grow as an overall man and guided me down the right path in terms of dating & women.
/r/seduction19/04/22 11:47 AM
1

the work is whatever it is you gotta do to get what you want, you wanna go on more dates ? the work is talking to a lot of girls (a lot)..you wanna hook up with more chicks ? well how many girls have you been upfront and honest with about that lately?
/r/seduction18/04/22 11:11 PM
1

how many people have you asked out in the past week?
/r/seduction18/04/22 11:10 PM
2

That’s one girl lol..one girl out of how many in the world ? there’s gonna be all types of women who say shit like that, but does that mean it matters to you? nah, does it make a difference ? only if you let it
/r/seduction18/04/22 10:35 AM
1

It really depends how much work you’re willing to put in
/r/seduction18/04/22 10:33 AM
1

why are you qualifying yourself ? what does your future career have to do with women finding you sexually attractive ? see that statement right there shows that your mindset is not in the right place to be successful with women, develop your internal confidence and start approaching women, that’s it…don’t worry about your race cause that shit really does NOT matter, the only time it matters is if YOU think it matters.
/r/seduction18/04/22 02:48 AM
1

it’s part of the game, you realize this and internalize it & you brush it off and that’s it, don’t overanalyze it and simply get back out there and keep interacting with women you find attractive, that’s how you get over it, you simply…keep going.
/r/seduction18/04/22 01:28 AM
1

that’s really it, keep going & don’t stop, see the beauty in those “rejections”, either way it goes you’re still growing in the process.
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:57 PM
1

Did. you tell them you find them attractive and you wanna go on a date/ hook up with them?
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:06 PM
2

even after hundreds of times you still gotta keep going, you can’t give up, if you do then nothing will even happen. however sometimes you also gotta go back to the drawing board and see if there’s anything about your behaviour you can change, or your appearance (hygiene, clothes, etc..)
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:05 PM
1

right, how often did you express your interest in a woman you found attractive though ?
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:20 PM
2

Cool, What makes you say that ?
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:14 PM
1

Have you actually made moves though? meaning put your balls out there and let a girl know what you want or pull a move on a girl you found attractive
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:22 AM
32

Don’t try to MAKE a girl like you, just start interacting with them more often, meet new ones and you’ll inevitably meet some who like you and you capitalize on those ones (assuming that you’re also interested in them) ..don’t jump into a relationship either just go on and experience different women, have fun.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:43 AM
1

but do you think that’s all that matters ? is looks and height ? cause a lot of women believe it or not are actually turned off by a fuck-wit who has “chad-tier looks”.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:29 AM
1

what kind of attractiveness??
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:18 AM
1

Lmaooo why does any of that matter ??
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:17 AM
1

if she gave you no reply at all, not even a reschedule/cancellation text then that’s an automatic drop, you shouldn’t have even sent that last text, just let it be.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:16 AM
1

Looks don’t matter…a good looking guy could still get rejected a lot if he doesn’t know how to talk to a woman.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:13 AM
1

You should approach girls you find attractive, that’s it, just whoever catches your attention. Some guys like to start out with women who aren’t attractive in their eyes but I find that a bit silly in my opinion, just approach whoever you want..if you only approach women who you don’t find attractive then you’re actually putting the attractive ones on a pedestal which you should never ever do with a woman .
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:12 AM
1

The best advice I can give you is to start saying hi to 3 women a day, just hi, that’s it, don’t worry about what to say cause if someone told you specifics you’d probably forget it, so just focus on getting out there and approaching..nothing else, get comfortable doing that first, best thing is in the moment when you’re feeling nervous and about to do it just put your focus on getting a word out, nothing else.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:10 AM
2

also you’re basing your worth off of external things instead of who you are inside as a man, that’s a losing game.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:07 AM
2

depends on your perspective, one man will allow it to completely destroy him while another man will allow it to empower him and help him in many aspects.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:05 AM
1

why
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:04 AM
2

Talk a little more next time, doesn’t have to be super long, it can really be less than 5 mins but introduce yourself, talk to her about whatever and then if you like her vibe then suggest exchanging numbers with her
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:04 AM
9

I mean….how do you reallyyyy know that tho..?
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:01 AM
1

Look back at what happened in order for you to get so attached, ask yourself some questions…are you talking to other people and meeting other women or is it just this crush you had that you were focused on? do you have other things in your life that occupy your time and mental space? also do you love yourself ? are you in scarcity mentally and physically?
/r/seduction15/04/22 11:53 PM
2

Be proud of the fact that you even had the balls to approach, you’ll always win as long as you approach, even if it doesn’t go the way you want it to, you win…in my experience this helped not care about the outcome.
/r/seduction15/04/22 11:48 PM
1

why don’t you just approach 10’s? meaning why don’t you approach only women you find attractive
/r/seduction15/04/22 11:43 PM
3

So fix that, man..don’t worry about a girl who’s got a man, get out there and get your own situations going .
/r/seduction13/04/22 02:11 AM
1

why you asking about a woman who has a boyfriend ? I feel like the fact that you’re even asking this shows that you’re not talking to other women, I mean correct me if i’m wrong .
/r/seduction13/04/22 02:09 AM
1

it is possible, a lot of that feeling is due to reversing shit, so instead of you trying to impress her, your perspective has to change to she has to impress you in order for you to give her your energy and time, when you make everything about her and put her up on a pedestal like you’re doing then yeah…you’re gonna be nervous & probably fuck things up…also sounds like you’re in scarcity, you should be interacting with lots of women so you don’t trip over one.
/r/seduction12/04/22 12:21 PM
5

You just need good pictures, you don’t have to be good looking in the face and have a chiseled body…..just good pics, good grooming, etc..idk if that’s what you meant by “attractive guy” but lots of dudes seem to think you have to be looking like a greek god to get with women..it’s sad.
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:38 PM
40

Sounds like you watch too much PUA videos, all of that sounds so forced and scripted and that may be why your vibe is coming off as weird, just focus more on having normal conversations, get to know a bit about her and stop focusing so much on PUA shit & specific lines and moments when to touch and “escalate” lol just get comfortable relating and having convos with women first and once you have that down you can start incorporating flirting..convos are very dynamic so after that initial hello it…
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:34 PM
0

Those 3 things you mentioned aren’t as important as most people think lol people always use celebrities as examples which I find odd , how would you know they wouldn’t get turned down as much as the average person who’s not famous
/r/seduction06/04/22 09:49 PM
6

it’s not important, you can have a sweet dating life without having social media, meet people in real life as you go about your day
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:28 PM
0

define toxic masculinity
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:05 AM
1

what exactly is “giga-chad behaviour” ?
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:04 AM
1

why you asking people on reddit what YOU should do? If you wanna do it then go on & do it, if you wanna hook up then do that but if that’s all you want make sure you make that CLEAR to her through actions and words, you don’t want any drama.
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:45 PM
1

Fix your view on yourself cause based on this post it shows that you don’t view yourself highly just cause you don’t have those things…in other words hell ya id approach, I don’t care if I live in a cardboard box on the street and she lives in a mansion, i’d still think i’m doing her a favour by giving her the opportunity to know me.
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:43 PM
1

Just approach them like you’d approach any other girl you find attractive…what makes them different ?
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:38 PM
1

The fact you mentioned your status and career success & related it to your success with women tells me you somehow rely on it when it comes to dating, instead of your own inner confidence, that’s probably why you’re putting chicks on a pedestal…if you have to try and keep your confidence with a girl who’s a 10 then it means you don’t actually have confidence cause if you did you’d treat ALL women the same and not use this weird 1-10 scale, it’s all in your head, if you find it difficult to get 1…
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:35 PM
1

what comes to mind when you feel that anxiety?
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:28 PM
0

why?
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:27 PM
-1

How many “rejections” have you taken ? cause really it shouldn’t even be exhausting, if it is then you may be taking it too personal and expecting too much, you may have to change the mindset.
/r/seduction28/03/22 04:19 PM
2

I feel like this comes from you not fully knowing yourself, like if you KNOW who you are then you should know you’re not creepy and you’d be fine with going up and saying hello & even if she were to say you’re creepy it wouldn’t even move you.
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:31 AM
2

How exactly did the approach go? what did you say? how and where did you do it ?
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:28 AM
1

I think it would brand you as creepy not if you’re the one who talks to everyone but the one who talks to everyone but doesn’t know HOW to talk, so is creepy in words & behaviour, etc..
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:26 AM
26

I’d stop talking to whoever that is, move on before you get set up or some crazy shit
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:23 AM
6

Why do you care about being seen with her in public ? I think that’s the main issue you gotta address here, the fact that you give a fuck about what people think…
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:21 PM
1

if your intentions are to get physical with her then yes, bad idea.
/r/seduction17/03/22 08:37 PM
3

do it wherever you want, it doesn’t matter..just be courteous, respectful and calibrated about it.
/r/seduction03/03/22 04:47 AM
1

You don’t HAVE to have something to be confident about, for example, I myself gained the confidence I have by just purely pushing myself out of my comfort zone on a consistent basis..It wasn’t because I became competent at something, just exposing myself to the unknown and growing from that.
/r/seduction01/03/22 12:47 AM
2

Don’t waste time lol text should only be used to set up dates, what do you need text game for..
/r/seduction28/02/22 05:51 PM
9

You already invested so much into this girl you just met just cause she’s responding fast, you just met her, chill a bit, don’t expect too much, don’t text her all the time cause that’s why you start to trip out over things like her not texting back..just text her to set up dates & that’s it, nothing extra.
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:19 PM
1

Do you like her ?
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:38 PM
1

why do you care ?
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:35 PM
3

Cinderella by Mac Miller
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:24 PM
1

ahhh, lol i see, that’s wild
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:22 PM
1

how ?
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:13 PM
1

more like the other way around.
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:13 PM
2

I notice dudes who talk like this saying what you’re saying are really just scared to go & talk to a girl..that’s all, they wish the girl would do the approaching cause they’re scared.
/r/seduction24/02/22 04:39 PM
1

what exactly are you doing in your life right now to make that happen ?
/r/seduction23/02/22 03:11 PM
1

what’s your definition of high value ?
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:26 PM
12

lmao what? you turning 30 has nothing to do with a certain age group not being available to you.
/r/seduction20/02/22 09:07 PM
2

Yeah reply when you want to & just set up a date right away, don’t waste time going back & forth over text.
/r/seduction20/02/22 09:05 PM
0

They do need to put in work, they may get a little more attention from women but that doesn’t mean they’re women that HE wants, therefore some work still has to be put in, they still gotta talk to women and flirt & build sexual tension and make things happen, & they also still get “rejected”.
/r/seduction20/02/22 09:04 PM
2

First of all you don’t have to go back & forth with chicks on text, you can just straight away set up a date. Second, if you feel a girl is lying about her reason to not meet up with you then STOP talking to her and move on..bruh don’t waste your time on these girls who aren’t reciprocating the energy, move onto another one and this time stop texting them so much & if after the first time you tell them to meet you & they say they can’t, then tell her to message you when she’s free and that’s it …
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:57 PM
1

it’s the internet though …it’s literally just a word typed out on some random forum lol if he’s gonna use the word “autists” then chances are he doesn’t give a fuk about downvotes which literally don’t do anything so your best bet is to just ignore it & move on..
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:55 AM
2

agreed.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:58 PM
1

Keep approaching but work more on your energy, speech, body language, etc…id say that’s more important than looks..I mean considering you don’t look like a bum & smell like shit..you should be fine.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:55 PM
5

I see you’re getting downvoted by the sensitive souls out there…People don’t realize how some dudes are legitimately impossible to change, they see it one way & that’s it, in other words they’re delusional.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:54 PM
5

Unfortunately this is just gonna fly over so many dudes heads lol but it’s facts, they gotta work on their game, not even social status necessarily, they gotta work on how they feel about themselves internally, their mindset, if they get that on point then oh my fuck they can have the dating/sex life that they want, but it all starts within..work on that and you’ll be invincible.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:52 PM
3

lol they still don’t approach you if you’re like that, some dudes are delusional when it comes to that kind of talk, looks money status and all that
/r/seduction18/02/22 08:04 PM
2

lol stop letting fear hold you back.
/r/seduction18/02/22 08:03 PM
1

In my opinion the thing that really makes a difference between James Bond & the 15 year old is their mindset, if your mindset is in the right place then it doesn’t matter how many messages you heart or how many emojis you use because it’s never gonna come from a needy desperate place, so honestly hearting a message isn’t a big deal if that’s just who you are, if you’re TRYING not to look needy, emotional, too agreeable then that’s when you’re gonna look like that & she’ll be able to tell you’re …
/r/seduction18/02/22 03:47 PM
1

why is that?
/r/seduction18/02/22 03:31 PM
2

you didn’t get 1 W…you actually got 13, dude every time you pull up on a girl, you win…because you went after what you wanted so regardless of the outcome you’re still winning. Keep approaching cause 13 is nothing, ramp the numbers up and you’ll start to get better and get over your anxiety of approaching..watch some material on youtube too.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:08 PM
1

why ?
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:03 PM
1

how ?
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:03 PM
2

OP don’t listen to the ones who are saying you gotta have high status and good lucks, your vibe & energy is everything,,you can approach while wearing a garbage bag but if your mouthpiece is on point and you have a good vibe to you then you can easily score.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:02 PM
2

walk up to her & say hello
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:56 PM
10

Maybe it’s cause you don’t feel like you’re enough already and you need external things to feel good ? idk man you gotta feel good already whether you’re getting sex or not, sex is cool it’s a fun activity but that’s all it is..an activity, it’s not a way to feel fulfilled or something you use to fill a void, people use it for that and then they wonder why they’re still fucked up in the head .
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:54 PM
1

lmao are you trying to have a psycho simp boyfriend out to kill your ass? are you referring to yourself as a “confident alpha” lol, look you’re obviously not talking to any other women cause If you were you wouldn’t be asking about some broad who has a boyfriend and is probably just using you for attention…stay away from chicks with boyfriends, you don’t know the mindset of the bf or what he’s willing to do if he finds out, like I said he might be some simp who finds out you’re texting her & now…
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:51 PM
1

I recommend just start being social, talk to everyone and build up your social skills, this is the foundation you need to be better with girls..so focus on that, just talking and not expecting anything of it.
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:47 PM
6

Well you gotta ask yourself, so what if she rejects you & tells her friends ? what does that mean for you?
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:44 PM
8

You’re overthinking it, just respond or don’t lol it doesn’t matter, you can even heart the message if you have iphone, or just say “you too”.
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:38 PM
1

Right but inevitably there’s gonna be girls who happen to be in crowds of people and if I don’t talk to her just cause of that then that’s just making it worse , but yah I guess people won’t say anything, unless I keep pushing a convo after she shows she ain’t into it
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:23 PM
2

How do you deal with the spotlight effect when wanting to approach a woman? basically not going for it cause there’s tons of people around
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:15 PM
6

move on and talk to other women
/r/seduction15/02/22 10:29 PM
11

OP I disagree with that comment & here’s why, I’ve met women who i’ve made things happen with & i’ve met them in all kinds of places including the ones he said not to talk to them in, you absolutely CAN meet women at work, the bus or the gym but you have to be calibrated & make sure you can read body language & certain cues that may suggest she’s uncomfortable, be aware of where you place your body as well, obviously you don’t wanna corner them so approach them at an angle where they can get up …
/r/seduction15/02/22 10:21 PM
4

Yes but why would you tell anyone who isn’t your girlfriend/wife happy valentine’s day ?
/r/seduction15/02/22 01:05 AM
38

probably flirting but if you don’t like that shit tell her to knock it off & touch you smoothly instead..tell her save the rough play for the bedroom lmao
/r/seduction15/02/22 01:01 AM
3

Let them do their thing & you do you, just go out by yourself, sometimes it’s better going solo anyways.
/r/seduction14/02/22 01:05 PM
1

Ok, It’s a shame you really can’t read between the lines of what I said, all i’ll say it’s more to it than just laziness
/r/seduction14/02/22 12:53 PM
0

Good to know, we’re not friends though so please don’t refer to me as one.
/r/seduction14/02/22 04:39 AM
0

Thank you for explaining that, however you’re so focused on my grammar instead of taking in the message.
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:01 PM
1

Like your username, why don’t you help me out and explain where I didn’t articulate myself well & where I used bad grammar.
/r/seduction13/02/22 10:47 PM
2

My point was made in my comment, if you check it you should be able to see it
/r/seduction13/02/22 10:43 PM
-1

are you putting in the work to get better ?
/r/seduction13/02/22 09:00 PM
0

as soon as you said “but i’m asian” i already knew what it was, man it’s your belief system, your self esteem and your mindset that needs fixing, cause how do you explain the other asian fellas who are out there making things happen? those guys probably don’t give a f that they’re asian and the still go and make moves with females..your race has nothing to do with it, it’s your belief about being asian and how it’ll effect your dating life, that’s what it is.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:57 PM
2

Low self esteem is the only issue here..fix that shit
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:54 PM
2

you’re already losing…with that mindset you’ve already lost.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:54 PM
2

I agree with doing his best no don’t lower standards, he’s gotta fix is mindset which is f’d up
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:53 PM
5

not true.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:53 PM
3

stopppp with this LMS bullshit..it’ll be difficult if you fill your head up with all this nonsense, you’re making it difficult for yourself..why you so worried about the completion, that’s the thing, there shouldn’t be any competition for you, this is a mindset thing you gotta fix.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:52 PM
1

In general it is easy, some people just make it difficult , that’s it.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:50 PM
-4

You actually don’t know who this post actually helped & who it didn’t help, I mean you’re speaking for yourself and the 10 people who upvoted you & that’s it. You sound a bit annoyed by this individuals post..why does it brother you?
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:50 PM
1

well yeah people wear clothes but not everyone chooses to wear clean nice clothes, people have to have furniture but not everyone chooses to have the best, people eat but some eat like shit…people have to socialize but some don’t even say hi to people….it’s about how much value you have within yourself , if you know your worth, that’ll dictate how difficult certain things are for people.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:48 PM
8

I dunno about that specific persons progress who you’re referring to but generally someone can make amazing progress in that span of time..I mean assuming they’re putting in an inspiring amount of work.
/r/seduction13/02/22 08:46 PM
2

first of all stop with the mirror selfies and get some photos taken of you by a photographer or even have a friend take some nice photos of you with you wearing some nice clothes.
/r/seduction13/02/22 07:13 PM
7

In general he still has to just put himself infront of more women cause then he’ll start seeing that there’s tons of women out here & there’s no reason to trip about one..he’s gotta build that mindset..it’s about building the mindset and that’s why you talk to 30,50,100 girls regardless of the outcome.
/r/seduction13/02/22 04:39 PM
33

Cause you’re not talking to more girls so you invest so much into this one
/r/seduction13/02/22 05:14 AM
1

It can be unhealthy but that depends on you..it’s not actually unhealthy, people make it unhealthy.
/r/seduction12/02/22 10:03 PM
2

When I was in High School I did the same but instead of only talking to chicks and flirting with them, I simply talked to everyone, girls, guys, teachers, everybody..and while doing that I inevitably encountered certain females who I ended up having an intimate connection with & I’d just capitalize on that if I felt like it..but talk to everyone, not just girls..trust, it’s the right way to go.
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:46 AM
8

Do it, that’s it, don’t think anymore about it, just start doing it
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:27 PM
1

No one’s mocking you here, I don’t understand how I mocked you, However I find it curious how so many guys obsess over these studies and stats when they can go out and create their own, you create your reality, nothing anyone on the internet says can do that for you, you do that for yourself so that’s why I say what does a study have to do with you? you’re gonna have to speak for yourself on that one because no, not everyone thinks that’s false and disingenuous, the thing is for you yes you thin…
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:10 PM
1

it doesn’t matter what you look like though because there’s always gonna be women who aren’t attracted to you & who are attracted to you..if one doesn’t like solely cause of your height then that’s not the woman you want in the first place & it’s best you move on to one who likes you for other reasons.
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:03 PM
1

The only thing i’m trying to make clear here is that statistics and studies don’t mean anything, because at the end of the day if you think you height makes dating harder then yes, it’ll be harder because that’s what you believe.
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:36 PM
1

whats delusional about not caring about what some random statistics and articles say about height..btw these statistics you speak of, the numbers can be inaccurate, can’t believe everything you see on the internet..like i said what’s it have to do with you?
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:33 PM
1

But if you’re a short guy what do all these studies and statistics about what women prefer have to do with you? basically, why do you care ?..allow me to correct that, these studies don’t make it harder for all short guys in the world, it makes it harder for the short guys who take those studies and let it effect their inner worth which in turn will effect their dating life..so like i said, mental challenge, that’s all it is.
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:29 PM
1

but here’s the thing, what does this article have to do with you? and also why do you care about these statistics and studies
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:28 PM
2

nah just mental lol cause even tall men get turned down by women..a short man can have more success with women than a tall man and it’s all cause the shorter man has a strong belief in himself.
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:16 PM
2

yeah a mental obstacle
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:10 PM
0

lmao ok
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:58 PM
-1

“studies”, man guys seem to be so obsessed with studies and statistics and these articles that talk about these things and then that’s what they start to believe, instead of going out into the world and making their own studies and statistics, cause just cause a study says it doesn’t mean it’s true..the halo effect yes i’ve heard of, right and a woman can feel that galo effect for a man based on his looks and height sure but if that same man can’t impact her emotionally and he’s not sexually app…
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:55 PM
0

It doesn’t mean you’d get more or less success just cause of your height though, just know that, height does not matter at all.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:20 PM
6

That’s the thing though is looks are subjective, Lil Wayne likes plus sized models hence why he’s with them, doesn’t mean he can’t go for a different type but that’s just what he’s into…and actually there’s no way of actually knowing if him being 6’ would even make that big of a difference.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:00 PM
0

lol i love how my comment got downvoted but that’s cause some guys can’t believe that it’s really just your confidence & mindset, cause there’s some tall guys out there, good looking and all that who struggle to get women because they lack confidence..& then there’s short guys killing it out there cause they don’t give a fuck.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:37 PM
-2

what ? did i say that?…
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:33 PM
1

Well you shouldn’t be falling in love at all, we can go way deeper with this but all ill say is work on increasing the love you have for yourself and then after it’s kinda like everything falls into place, you learn to love yourself more than anybody else so these things you mentioned don’t even cross your mind, they don’t worry you..it ALL starts within you, what I learned is all these questions I had in the past or problems I had with women, it all traced back to my mindset and my perspective …
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:29 PM
1

Dude cmon now, that statement alone tells me you gotta work on your mindset a little too, cause we all make mistakes, i’ve made mistakes, messed things up, did A when i should’ve done B, but the only thing is instead of beating myself up over it I took as a lesson and then the next time I dealt with a chick I knew what to do differently, so don’t beat yourself up cause this girl wasn’t everything, you can easily meet another girl in the snap of a finger, so go and do that and keep your head up.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:13 PM
1

Wym just wait to answer the message from 2 days ago? & nah if you see her in person due to mutual friends, then you can just talk to her then & get something going right then & there
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:00 PM
2

DO NOT say number 3 please…lol so unnecessary, if she isn’t reciprocating the energy just move on, but if you’re worried about her response time then that might mean you’re already too invested and if you’re that invested already it could mean you’re not talking to enough women which should be addressed asap
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:54 PM
1

Doesn’t matter what it was, a “date”, “hangout”, whatever..you two were in eachothers presence..you could continue to pursue her but it might just be a waste of time for you, you could be putting that time into a new woman who’s actually gonna reciprocate the energy, like i said just tell this girl you speak of to hit you up when she’s ready to meet, that way you’re not burning the bridge with her.
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:52 PM
1

“maybe another time” sounds like she’s not interested in you, the only thing i’d say to that is “alright well message me when you’re ready to meet up” & then never text her again after that…there’s no use in giving any of your energy to a “maybe” girl.
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:46 PM
2

You’re gonna mess it up because already it seems you’re already putting her on a pedestal, “really hot girl” ? also you’re worried she’s gonna get bored of you ? worried about all these things you shouldn’t be tripping about, run things the way you wanna run them, In my opinion texting should really only be used to set up the meet ups, not texting eachother back and forth all day.
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:44 PM
1

The fact that you said “i’m lonely as fuck” sounds like you may have some underlying issues within yourself you need to work , maybe it’s self esteem, self love, self worth, knowing your value..but dude 4 women is nothing, meet more, ramp up those numbers cause you can easily meet someone you connect with but that chance is higher if you’re putting yourself out there more.
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:41 PM
1

you said you tried to set something up two more times but she said she had things to do, did she at least offer an alternative date to meet up?
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:37 PM
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Short guys only have it hard if they truly believe they have it hard lol it’s all in their heads, cause i’m sure this Jaqcuees mf is putting it down sexually cause he’s got that energy/sex appeal regardless of his height and that alone can really entice a woman..doesn’t matter what you look like.
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:33 PM
1

That’s where it could have gone wrong, you might have played it waaaay too safe on the date, talking about mundane things when you really should have been more bold & flirted with her & made a move, cause that’s what you wanted to do right ? but you said it wasn’t the right moment (there is no right moment, you create the right moment), If there’s something you wanna do, if you have interest in a woman then you have to show her and lay it all out there with no fear, stop playing it so safe cause…
/r/seduction10/02/22 02:29 PM
1

What is it you want out of this situation ?
/r/seduction10/02/22 01:49 PM
1

yourself
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:10 AM
1

telling them you wanna keep it casual VS doing it are two different things, meaning make sure your words line up with your actions, that means nothing else besides giving them D, no texting them everyday, no sleeping at each others places, keep it strictly physical..women catch feelings a lot in these situations because guys say one thing but do the opposite.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:09 AM
1

Wait , what have you been doing with her those 4-5 times you two have hung out ?
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:05 AM
1

Just set up the date right away, see what day you both can meet and then tell her where & what time to meet you.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:04 AM
1

Dude watching videos and reading books is cool and all but that isn’t gonna change your situation, it can guide you down the right path sure but you have to get out there and do what you wanna do which is meet women..take massive action and you’ll see results, but the mindset, the mindset HAS to change.
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:00 AM
8

It’s your mindset.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:59 AM
1

Learn to love yourself and learn that being alone isn’t always a bad thing.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:54 AM
1

first of all i’d start off by changing your username, that alone tells me you don’t see yourself as valuable, work on having self love, self respect, find your value & then all these issues you speak of you simply won’t give a fuck about..are you currently doing anything to improve your mental health ? and your dating life ?
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:53 AM
2

No problem, good luck with your situation, move smart.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:50 AM
1

yeah that’s why you’ve caught feelings heavy, cause of all the stuff y’all been doing..in my opinion those things you mentioned need to be sprinkled in over time & not all at once but like i said, if you like this girl and she’s cooperative with you, respectful and all that then continue to see where it goes, you can still sleep with other women (if you want) while you vet this one woman you’re talking about.
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:38 AM
2

So continue to keep this girl on the team but vet her over the next few months and if she’s up to your standards of what you want in a partner then you can talk to her about taking her to the next level..is she the only girl you’re talking to? also are you only hooking up with her or doing other things with her as well? (cuddling, dates, staying over her place or vice versa, texting everyday, etc…)
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:25 AM
1

Look take all the advice here with a grain of salt, especially the ones that say “cold approaching” is difficult and bla bla bla, it might be hard for them but doesn’t mean it’s like that for everyone and it doesn’t mean it will be for you, in reality it’s really not a big deal, go about your day to day life & whenever you’re outside in public or wherever the fuck you see women, if you see one that you wanna talk to then you simply go up and introduce yourself, be cordial and keep it short & swe…
/r/seduction09/02/22 05:03 PM
1

Don’t overthink it, just go about your day & if you see someone you wanna talk to then go up and say hi, make it a lifestyle.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:47 PM
2

Talk to a lot of people, it’s like a muscle, use it more & it gets stronger, talk to strangers, clerks at the store, anybody anywhere & everywhere
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:46 PM
2

Well there isn’t supposed to be any other aspect besides the sex when it comes to casual relationships, cause say you tell a woman you only want something casual and she’s cool with it too but then you start talking to her everyday, hanging out with her a lot doing non sexual things, then you’re actions aren’t going along with your words so then it’s gonna get confusing for both of you cause then you start to catch feelings..it’s best to keep it strictly sex at first, see them only once a week, …
/r/seduction27/01/22 10:58 AM
1

Ikr what a goofball that dude is
/r/seduction27/01/22 05:40 AM
211

“if you really wanna find out then bring your fine ass over here & see for yourself”
/r/seduction26/01/22 05:10 PM
2

I mean at the end of the day you still won because you did what you wanted to do, but just realize that getting a number doesn’t mean anything, cause you could have a 15-20in convo with a girl & all seems well but you never hear from her again..OR you could have a 30 second to 2 minute convo and you and the girl end up going out & seeing eachother, so Keep the interactions shorter cause if not, you’re cutting into the time that you could be using to meet another woman..So go in, see if she’s dow…
/r/seduction26/01/22 04:59 PM
2

Not being afraid of “rejection”
/r/seduction25/01/22 02:28 AM
1

Forget that, if it happens then cool but if you’re out and about and you see someone you find attractive who you wanna meet ….boii you better go up and say something to her.
/r/seduction22/01/22 03:21 AM
2

you’re probably struggling cause you’re putting these women on a pedestal before you even open your mouth to talk to them….walk up to them but from a different place, don’t go up trying to impress her or get her to like you, go up with a mindset of “i wanna see if I like HER”..be real with her about why you went up, be cordial and pleasant, make a little small talk, flirt if you know how (if not don’t sweat it) and then tell her to give you her number or you give her yours & tell her to text or …
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:28 PM
1

just whenever i feel like engaging them, obviously don’t take days though.
/r/seduction07/01/22 02:44 AM
1

why do you care ?
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:36 PM
3

oh man lmao don’t over think it . a lot of people are over complicating shit in the comments, saying go indirect, say this instead of that, well for all you know their advice can end up not working so just say how you feel, as long as you’re cordial and respectful and if she’s not down you just wish her a good day and bounce.
/r/seduction28/11/21 09:13 PM
1

i know a lot of people here are saying she’s being paid to be nice to you and bla bla bla but don’t listen to them, if you wanna shoot your shot then you go ahead and do it, fuck it what do you have to lose ? if you have business cards you can give her yours, if not just write your number on a piece of paper and give it to her, chat with her a little, introduce yourself properly and then suggest you two get together for a coffee or whatever you wanna do, then give her your number and tell her to…
/r/seduction12/11/21 05:22 AM
2

it’s possible and effective , the thing is a lot of men don’t have the social intelligence or the confidence to pull it off so they just come off awkward and creepy like they don’t know what they’re doing…but also it’s not exactly a wise idea to get her attention from a place that she can’t see you, it’s better that you be in her line of sight first .
/r/seduction11/11/21 07:49 PM
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sounds like you took too long to escalate things, you made out for hours ? that could’ve been a turn off for her, lack of assertiveness in the situation where you should’ve been leading
/r/seduction09/11/21 02:13 AM
2

you might have burnt yourself out, it seems like you made women and daring take up most of your mental space, this is wrong..you should never put that stuff first, you should actively pursue it of course but never let it affect you, men sometimes make everything about dating and women, they think about it 24/7, they give a fuck about what women do & let it affect them. this is what causes men to give up and burn out.
/r/seduction08/11/21 07:48 PM
2

do you focus a lot on specific lines ?
/r/seduction08/11/21 06:13 PM
0

that is a turn on for women though
/r/seduction07/11/21 03:22 AM
2

don’t let the number make you feel insecure, that was the past & like i said in another comment, as long as she’s a person who brings you value then don’t trip about it…either way you’ll never truly know a woman’s sexual past, some people don’t tell the full truth about it and that’s just what it is, don’t worry..the past is the past, focus on the Now & how she treats you and how you two connect, don’t be one of those dudes who let’s a woman’s sexual past ruin the situation you have with her now…
/r/seduction05/11/21 08:55 PM
5

everybody’s definition of a high body count is different, for some it’s 5, for others it’s over 20, you gotta figure that out for yourself but generally as long as the person you’re dating is treating you right then you shouldn’t worry too much about it.
/r/seduction05/11/21 08:52 PM
0

thanks bro i’m gonna need it lmaoo i have 0 bitches :(
/r/seduction04/11/21 05:35 PM
1

how do you NOT know where you are with this girl?
/r/seduction04/11/21 03:27 PM
0

the fact that you’re still commenting on this post tells me everything i need to know lol
/r/seduction04/11/21 10:15 AM
1

not everyone’s gotta be the same as you
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:31 PM
2

ok
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:09 PM
4

lol good logic, not everyone’s gonna be able to relate to this post, maybe cause they just never lived that kind of dating life, & that’s cool, but it doesn’t mean that OP’s making it up..it’s easy to be skeptic about something you’ve never experienced
/r/seduction03/11/21 02:15 PM
5

how do you know he’s making it up?
/r/seduction03/11/21 12:17 PM
8

maybe it’s not about impressing, he’s just giving out pointers and going through the things he’s learned.
/r/seduction03/11/21 10:02 AM
6

he’s not bragging about it though, he’s explaining what he’s learned by having those experiences with women…also to each their own, not everyone is gonna wanna sleep with a small amount of women, some men wanna experience many women and that’s fine, who are you to say that if a guy is like that then he has some problem? relationship with your mother ? what does that even have to do with anything ?
/r/seduction03/11/21 10:01 AM
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there’s actually a lot of growth that happened to him during those approaches, didn’t you read the part he said his communication skills and self esteem improved? lots of guys fail to realize that approaching isn’t just about women, guys LOVE to make it all about women, why don’t yall see this is also building character, increasing your interpersonal skills like crazy & just making you a more rounded human being. even if you’re getting turned down, you’re still improving and growing.
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:46 PM
3

i think he might have meant he didn’t have sex AGAIN until 17
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:42 PM
2

don’t take a girl saying that as something bad, let that just roll right off of you and just play it off in a fun way, idk say some dumb shit like “yah you can’t have this piece of ass until you prove to me that you’re worthy” as you say it with a little grin on your face lmao something like that, but don’t let it make you feel weird, i’ve been told that before and then later on me and the girl end up having sex, cause i didn’t take her comment seriously & i just continued expressing myself auth…
/r/seduction01/11/21 08:19 PM
2

here i wanna ask you a genuine question, & i’m not trying to get at you or anything i’m actually curious about this….why do you care ? for real, i see a lot of grown ass adults in these comments concerning themselves way too much on another man’s moves when what they’re doing is 1) legal & 2) not harming anyone.
/r/seduction01/11/21 05:14 AM
1

no lol you’re the one who keeps calling me names and cussing up a storm..you sure i’m the one who’s triggered?
/r/seduction01/11/21 04:35 AM
2

lol look at your behaviour though, you’re acting like a child, you don’t see that? insulting people you don’t even know..what kind of emotional shit is that ? look within yourself for a second and fix that.
/r/seduction01/11/21 04:27 AM
1

elaborate..before you possibly mention it, i’m now aware that certain places age of consent is much younger than 18 which in my opinion is not right ,however we’re talking about 18 year olds in this post & that’s what i’m referring to in my last comment.
/r/seduction01/11/21 04:23 AM
2

see the way you speak in these comments shows that you in fact have some maturing to do so i’m no longer gonna discuss this with you, but i will however suggest you go to the kitchen and grab yourself a glass of milk and some cookies cause obviously you seem a little hurt right now and need some comfort , why you letting this affect you emotionally so much?
/r/seduction01/11/21 04:21 AM
0

as long as they’re of legal age you literally have no right to be calling other men nasty for desiring someone of that age..another thing too, why are you so worried about what another man wants ? ok you don’t go for younger girls, ok cool! worry about that then..but concerning yourself this much with another man’s dating preferences is a little weird.
/r/seduction01/11/21 04:11 AM
-6

what’s with the offensive language ?
/r/seduction01/11/21 02:58 AM
-5

how is that gross ?
/r/seduction01/11/21 02:54 AM
1

the fact that you’re overthinking that so much just proves that you really gotta be talking to more women lol
/r/seduction01/11/21 01:29 AM
1

move on..,why do you want to “reattract” her ?
/r/seduction29/10/21 07:05 PM
3

OP they have a point though, read between the lines and see the value in that comment, did you want to have sex with this woman ? cause if so, did you try to escalate it to that point ? also, spending hours together on a first date in my opinion is honestly way too long, man.
/r/seduction29/10/21 02:09 PM
3

yah man this shit is random af sometimes, girls are very fickle with their emotions..it is what it is, most likely wasn’t anything you did, just move on or just tell her to hit you up when she’s ready to make something happen.
/r/seduction27/10/21 02:14 PM
19

you’re doing the right thing to avoid the boyfriend vibes, i think some women are just gonna inevitably catch feelings cause they just love the way you come across and carry yourself, you’re not always sweating them and along with some other characteristics that’s gonna make some girls like you, they don’t always experience guys like that..just let them know straight up that you’re just trying to be casual and you’re not looking for anything serious, but make sure the actions go along with that …
/r/seduction26/10/21 12:34 PM
2

you gotta detach yourself from comments people/women make about you, for example, i’ve been told i have a small dick, i’ve also been told i have a big dick, but the thing is i didn’t give a fuck about either comment, good or bad..i just did my thing regardless cause no ones opinion matters but my own.
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:04 PM
1

either you’re doing a lot of unnecessary work to get laid or you don’t have the right mindset or casual sex just isn’t for you…that kind of life isn’t for everybody, sometimes it’s the mindset you go into it with that makes you feel like it’s empty and pointless, & don’t go implying people are sociopathic if they do this shit long term cause they might just have a different mindset than you..to each their own. cause not everyone who does this is gonna end up in the same boat as you.
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:01 PM
8

did you just decide to finally explain yourself just cause you realized you’re talking to a woman?
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:57 PM
8

to each their own, maybe casual sex with multiple women wasn’t for you, doesn’t mean that the next person won’t enjoy the shit out of it.
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:55 PM
1

if you don’t find her fuckable then don’t do it, nothing wrong with you, don’t feel bad about it..it happens
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:51 PM
1

stop trying to make people like you and just be you, don’t censor yourself & also try to frame it so that you’re trying to see if you like them, instead of hoping they like you
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:49 PM
14

that’s always gonna happen, sometimes you’ll vibe really well and almost be 100% sure you’re gonna see her again but then nothing happens..& sometimes you’ll have a decent convo with a girl, nothing crazy, and then that goes somewhere, it’s kinda random but you just gotta keep going and just have fun with it, it’s easy to get discouraged if you don’t have the right mindset.
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:43 PM
4

make the plans yourself, then tell her what it is you two are gonna do..just google places or go looking around and find a spot you like and take her there, doesn’t gotta be anything crazy..could just be coffee or go to a nice park
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:10 PM
1

Last November i made it a goal/habit to approach at the very least 1 person a day and i’ve been doing it since then, haven’t even missed a day..what i’ll say is at the beginning it’s difficult at times, you’ll have days you don’t wanna do it at all but you just gotta push through..another thing is don’t just focus on bars to approach women, you could simply take a walk in semi busy area and approach the first person you see, then there you go, you got your one approach for the day..good luck wit…
/r/seduction25/10/21 02:27 AM
2

& what if the chicks who approach you are ones you’re not even attracted to? then that “attractive men don’t have to approach” shit goes out the window
/r/seduction24/10/21 12:11 AM
2

what makes you think they don’t have to approach ?you think women just go up and approach first ?
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:25 PM
4

you gotta shift the focus from what the other person feels and wants to what YOU want, you wanna approach that person so go do it, & be unapologetic about it because you’re just going after what you want, don’t make it complicated, you think it, then you do it, don’t think about what to say or if you should do it or not, realize and accept that you’re gonna make mistakes but deal with it as they happen, some people won’t wanna talk, some will, some will think it’s weird, some won’t, but you shou…
/r/seduction21/10/21 05:05 PM
1

HOLY SHIT BRO DONT LET HER BACK IN YOUR HOUSE. lmao 10 times ? if you tried to escalate to sex and she wasn’t into it then you should’ve politely kicked her out…my brain hurts right now 😂 OP learn from this experience and don’t let it happen again
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:36 PM
2

well..what did you message even say? that’s the missing piece of this post
/r/seduction20/10/21 01:09 AM
2

lol just like you would with any other chick , talk to them, tell them what you’re trying to do & then make it happen
/r/seduction20/10/21 12:07 AM
2

👍🏼💯🔥
/r/seduction19/10/21 09:42 PM
2

weak ass text you sent so she treated you accordingly, be firm with what you want, man. As for the text she sent you back, if you have imessage you can react to messages so i’d just put the thumbs up thing or the heart or the haha, or just leave her on Read
/r/seduction19/10/21 09:22 PM
1

your comment says it all, the way you talk about yourself shows that you gotta work on yourself..i mean at the end of the day you don’t have to, but don’t expect different results in life.
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:42 PM
1

but here’s the question, why do you care ? whatever height they’re into has nothing to do with you. you simply focus on the girls who are into you, not the ones who aren’t . Also, money is not essential in order to keep a woman in your life, are you responsible for feeding her and buying her things? bruh she can do that herself. if she values you for your money then somewhere along the line you fucked up by leading with your wallet & that’s why she only values your money. cause you thought you c…
/r/seduction15/10/21 02:34 PM
1

so explain then ..
/r/seduction15/10/21 02:20 PM
8

lmao what data ? who cares, man. these statistics and data is what fucks these guys up when it comes to dating cause they research it and they think that’s the way it is and they think it’s all doomed. to those guys i’d say stop looking up statistics and actually go out there and have experiences with women and create your OWN data.
/r/seduction15/10/21 02:19 PM
0

neither, they value the way you move about life , how you carry yourself, behaviour, how you talk, all the same shit lol
/r/seduction15/10/21 02:17 PM
1

i was gonna say what TheSunshineMan said (which is a good point OP so really take that in) but also, don’t put so much pressure on yourself hoping she likes you, you be yourself and don’t worry about that. make sure that YOU like her, you gotta remember you don’t really know this girl outside of texting so just treat it like you’re seeing if she’s worth your energy, and have a a good time too.
/r/seduction14/10/21 03:44 PM
2

You’re welcome
/r/seduction13/10/21 09:10 AM
1

how many girls do you approach a week?
/r/seduction13/10/21 01:15 AM
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that’s the problem though, you’re already putting her up on a pedestal just cause she’s smart and higher quality (whatever that may mean to you), you gotta see her as equal to those other women, man. until she proves to you that she’s worth your time & that she has value to bring to your life, you gotta view her as anyone else. you putting her higher above you is gonna make you slip up somehow. make sure that YOU like who she is, get to know her and let her know what you’re trying to do. you don…
/r/seduction13/10/21 12:43 AM
1

so why you stressed about this one ?
/r/seduction12/10/21 11:10 PM
2

see you’ve already failed by saying she’s gonna leave you on read for trying to be funny , like how do you even know that ? you gotta be sure of yourself man and just be who you are, if she doesn’t like it then too bad..i can literally feel your anxiety through reading the post, don’t stress so much over it, you don’t even know if you’re gonna really even like this girl, take her out for coffee and call it a day…simple.
/r/seduction12/10/21 07:31 PM
2

yeah i see what you’re saying but do you only rely on waiting for signs of interest before you go and say hello to a woman? because that’s the thing, i find a flaw in that and that flaw is you’re bound to run into a woman you find attractive however she’s distracted somehow so she’s not looking at you, maybe she’s on her phone or reading a book or staring at the ceiling (who knows) so in that situation a lot of guys won’t even approach because she wasn’t looking at them or gave any sign because …
/r/seduction12/10/21 05:53 PM
6

dis is di weh
/r/seduction12/10/21 12:13 PM
1

i see what you’re saying but to each their own, some people just want casual sex and there’s nothing wrong with that, sex is a fun act and it’s fun to experience it with different people, different personalities, different bodies .
/r/seduction12/10/21 12:11 PM
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what if the woman who approaches you is someone you’re not even attracted to ? that’s the thing about waiting on women to approach you, you don’t know who’s going to come up, it might be a woman whose personality you dislike, she might not be attractive in your eyes. whereas actually going up and approaching women you like gives you more options because you’re only approaching women you’re attracted to, it’s not a guessing game where you gotta wonder what kind of girl is gonna approach you.
/r/seduction12/10/21 12:08 PM
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why are you taking all these comments has people being hostile ? bruh people are allowed to disagree with you, it doesn’t mean they’re being hostile, read between the lines and take the value that they’re giving you cause i’m looking through the comments and trust me, there’s a lot of value in them. coming from someone who approaches girls in person, this is an effective way to have experiences with women, however, your mindset seems fucked up and you gotta change that if you wanna go this route…
/r/seduction10/10/21 11:46 PM
1

no im talking about if the approach doesn’t flow naturally, a date is a little different. and haha you’d be surprised how naturally conversations between two strangers can flow, regardless of where it is
/r/seduction10/10/21 07:18 AM
1

you don’t have to tell her “let’s go on a date”, just invite her out for coffee one day or if you’re going to do something you like to do, invite her to come along
/r/seduction10/10/21 04:05 AM
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it’s not that you have to love her madly, you just gotta really put this girl through the ringer and make sure she’s someone you find worthy of being in a commuted relationship with, relationships are serious so therefore you should be waiting a bit before getting into one, know who this girl is internally, find out what makes her tick, make sure she’s down for you in all aspects..but id say invite her out for coffee one day, you don’t ONLY have to see her in swimming classes, but i know this is…
/r/seduction10/10/21 04:04 AM
2

you gotta make approaching a lifestyle, not some event that you do certain times a week….do this shit everyday and try not to focus so much on lays but instead just improving your overall game . the lays will come regardless.
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:22 AM
2

lol be joking, pls
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:21 AM
1

“hi, how are you?”
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:20 AM
1

lmao not gonna lie those are some cringe ass posts…man’s are focusing on the wrong thing.
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:19 AM
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this is my opinion so take with a nice little grain of salt, but you shouldn’t jump into a relationship with her so quick, get to know her, make sure she brings value into your life and is up to your standards & also to make sure she’s actually down for you and will be consistent with you. this is something you learn over a bit of time, not a month and a half. good luck though,
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:15 AM
3

if it’s not flowing naturally you should just leave the interaction and move on to the next one. but during it you should just talk about what you want, flirt a little if you can, make it short and sweet, get her number (if you like her that is) and then set something up to see her again.
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:11 AM
0

wait …when did you meet this girl? recently ?
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:06 AM
2

this …this is it right here.
/r/seduction07/10/21 01:51 PM
2

masks don’t make a difference, ive been approaching the past year with a mask and nothings changed, just that you have a mask on your face lol sometimes you gotta speak a little louder too cause of the mask.
/r/seduction06/10/21 01:30 PM
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yeah man you gotta stop tip toeing around and just go straight for her, no hesitation, just go sit next to her with the energy like you own the place and start talking. simple as that, you trying to find out ways to do it without going out of your way will just prolong this and you might just end up never doing it, so embrace the fear you’ll probably feel cause it’s normal and go talk to her anyway.
/r/seduction06/10/21 01:26 PM
1

what channels do you watch on the internet? to learn game
/r/seduction06/10/21 01:23 PM
2

why do you even care ? for real, so many men have these same issues like “why do women not have to do this or do that, they just get to sit and look pretty”, wtf no they don’t. you can put women to work, you can put the women you meet through a screening process to see if YOU, yes YOU like them, it doesn’t always have to be the other way around..you’re making it too much about the woman, just go out there, start interacting with women & enjoy the process and the growth that you’re gonna experien…
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:11 PM
1

then focus on what you want from her and do the things you gotta do to make that happen, make bold moves, go in for the kiss again, sometimes you won’t always get it the first time but you gotta keep trying (gauge the situation of course), but yah man you gotta be a savage with it, don’t worry about making things awkward cause that’s gonna hold you back from making things happen with her. good luck.
/r/seduction04/10/21 05:32 PM
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nice, take steps (big or small) everyday and that’s how you’ll improve over time. good luck.
/r/seduction30/09/21 07:05 PM
1

bro honestly you don’t have to say a single thing, i’ve started dancing with girls in the club and they start grinding on me & then i turn them around and face them toward me & i start making out with them .
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:09 PM
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no don’t stop, keep meeting other girls, situations like this could shift overnight, so it’s important you keep meeting and talking to other women…i’ve done this before where i’d meet a girl i click with and just completely forget about other women and id end up having oneitis
/r/seduction27/09/21 03:04 AM
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reality is that whether it’s during the day or night, on the sidewalk or at a bar/club, you’re gonna get some weird looks from chicks you approach from time to time, it is what it is, you can’t prevent that & it doesn’t mean anything about you or that you’re a creep for just going up to say hi, i mean as long as you didn’t say or do anything creepy..but i’ve gone up to chicks on some casual shit & i’ve still gotten weird looks, all that means is that she’s not into talking with you and you shoul…
/r/seduction26/09/21 12:19 AM
1

wherever you see beautiful women throughout the day….that’s where :)
/r/seduction21/09/21 06:52 PM
3

start doing whatever it is you wanna do with her, not what she wants to do, & if she doesn’t comply with that then excuse yourself from that situation
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:33 PM
3

they don’t use every man like kleenex, they use men who are weak minded or who lead with their wallet or material things. those are the men they use…& i’ve been broke while dealing with women and they still decided to stay in my life, if a girl leaves someone because they were broke then they probably were never attracted to that man in the first place, so that man should probably work on how he attracts women.
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:20 PM
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he barely gave any context in this post besides the fact that he just wants to smash chicks, so how do you know he just wants sex to feel less lonely? that’s the thing, everyone handles things differently, and not everyone wants sex to feel less lonely and sure some people only want sex off of a female and that’s fine & also some females are fine with that..it’s not really the same for everyone
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:17 PM
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how does he sound lonely ? lol the man just wants to have sex…what’s wrong with that?
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:42 AM
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then that would mean the woman’s not really into you but instead just your money …right ?
/r/seduction20/09/21 11:50 PM
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i ask myself this exact question and then i laugh after because realistically, nothing, they’re just words…but yet i still find it difficult to talk to someone when there’s a lot of people around
/r/seduction17/09/21 03:35 PM
0

where do you get those stats ?
/r/seduction16/09/21 06:37 PM
0

also, friendzoning can happen, because not every woman is gonna be attracted to you..that’s just a fact, many factors to it too. it doesn’t mean you’re not good with women.
/r/seduction16/09/21 02:24 PM
0

where do you get this information from ?
/r/seduction16/09/21 10:04 AM
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but how is it simping if you become friends with a girl but you just end up hooking up with her friends ? i don’t think you’re using that word correctly lol & also that’s not always true, it’s arbitrary..if one girl of a group friendzones you there can still be others that still find you attractive. it’s not one way & that’s it .
/r/seduction16/09/21 01:45 AM
2

the spotlight effect, who’s around to watch and hear me approach/ will they judge me/ will someone say something negative to me about approaching a woman..just having eyes on me while doing it
/r/seduction15/09/21 08:22 PM
1

wait but for real though..how is that simp shit ?
/r/seduction15/09/21 01:04 PM
2

yes ….but also, go say hi instead
/r/seduction13/09/21 05:58 PM
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embrace that it’s gonna be awkward sometimes at first, i have moments like that still and i’ve always just laughed it off, but to be honest i think ramping up the numbers of approaches per day helps..focus on one thing at a time, so focus on being able to tolerate your approach anxiety first, just say hello & from there start talking, about anything. get the reps in though, if you really wanna get to the point where you don’t give a f anymore you gotta do this everyday.
/r/seduction13/09/21 04:08 AM
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start by saying hello to 3 women a day, just focus on getting the word “hello” out of your mouth and with time you’ll improve, but get the reps in.
/r/seduction13/09/21 04:02 AM
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she might just be craving some male attention…some girls who have boyfriends will still give you the number but only text you for the attention…or she just didn’t know how to tell you nah so she just gave you the number
/r/seduction13/09/21 03:58 AM
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i think your confidence is definitely the reason why you’re letting this height thing get to you mentally…i’m 5’7 and honestly i’ve never given a fuck about it, i still holler at chicks who are taller than me too, you gotta see yourself as the shit and you gotta believe it. how do you get to that point ? work on yourself, socialize with people, get out of your comfort zone on the daily, approach women, but make it all about you, you’re doing all this to better yourself, don’t do these things you…
/r/seduction13/09/21 03:55 AM
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and i have done approaching and i’ll tell you what…you should be shooting your shot at at least 3 women a day to be honest, it is very viable.
/r/seduction13/09/21 03:49 AM
1

how are you so quick to say something like that is impossible? how do you even know that lol have you tried?
/r/seduction13/09/21 03:46 AM
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text is very different compared to seeing each other face to face, if his energy is positive in person then try not to worry too much about his vague and spread out responses, some people just like to use text to set up dates.
/r/seduction30/08/21 12:23 AM
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how long have you known this girl for ? also have you even met up with her yet? and last question, what has she done for you to deserve this much attention from you? what makes her so great in your eyes
/r/seduction29/08/21 12:55 PM
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the problem starts when guys start to take what women say about them personally, i’ve been told i’m ugly and all that, but the thing is life’s too short to let what people say stop you from trying and living your best life…if you wanna let what some chicks in your past said about you hinder your dating life, ok, but just know the downside of that, all guys even guys successful with women get rejected, it’s normal. but then there’s also that whole “i don’t wanna boost their ego” thing a lot of me…
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:30 PM
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nah, trust me it’s all mindset, even “ugly” or “fat” dudes are still fucking good looking chicks and you know why ? cause they don’t give a fuck, they don’t let how they look stop them, they believe inside that they’re the shit. if you have a bad mindset like thinking you can never hook up with chicks cause of the way you look then you won’t hook up with anyone cause you’re internal beliefs are affecting the way you move with these girls. it all starts internally.
/r/seduction23/08/21 03:42 PM
1

what lol how?
/r/seduction23/08/21 01:19 PM
1

ghost this chick
/r/seduction23/08/21 01:16 PM
1

what’s your definition of game ?
/r/seduction23/08/21 01:11 PM
1

the reality is that if you’re approaching women, someone’s inevitably gonna think you’re creepy…doesn’t mean you are, but it’s probably gonna happen…so you have to accept that, you gotta develop a thick skin.
/r/seduction06/08/21 09:08 PM
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all these what if’s and worrying thoughts, “what if she thinks i’m creepy” “what if she remembers my face after this”, so what…also when it comes to creepiness, if you’re taking this route of approaching women, it’s 100% inevitable that some people are gonna find you to be creepy, you can’t control that, it’s gonna happen and you just have to accept it, it doesn’t mean you’re creepy though.
/r/seduction05/08/21 10:13 PM
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ok and even if they do remember this lad…so the fuck what ? like really ask yourself…so what ?
/r/seduction05/08/21 10:12 PM
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at the end of the day, this “cold approach” stuff is random, you can say yah approach in a better setting like a bookstore but that doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get a better reaction than you would’ve if you approached at a gym while she’s mid-set wearing headphones. that’s why i say things like gym and headphones aren’t dealbreakers, why should they be? maybe she likes listening to music, it doesn’t always mean she’s wearing them to divert people from talking to her. staring at a girls br…
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:49 PM
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for all you guys know, the girl was flattered afterwards…you really don’t know
/r/seduction03/08/21 04:35 PM
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but here’s the thing, what you just mentioned isn’t really constructive criticism, you’re just saying the context was creepy but to be fair, creepiness/awkwardness is subjective, what you find to be creepy & awkward someone else might find to be completely normal. a good amount of ppl here are saying this whole situation was creepy, ppl saying don’t approach in the gym or don’t talk to a girl who’s wearing headphones, one might see that as bad, another might feel neutral about it. in my opinion …
/r/seduction03/08/21 04:34 PM
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how do you know 👀
/r/seduction03/08/21 04:26 PM
0

or she might literally forget about it lmao
/r/seduction03/08/21 03:24 PM
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what’s weird about it ?
/r/seduction03/08/21 03:24 PM
4

it’s better than tapping her on the shoulder when she can’t see you
/r/seduction03/08/21 03:22 PM
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those aren’t the only reasons lol not even close. everybody gets rejected , even the “attractive guys”. doesn’t always mean it’s about the guy. sometimes women just don’t wanna talk or it could be a million reasons why.
/r/seduction24/07/21 02:11 AM
1

what exactly did he miss in that sentence ? an “a” after As ? or what
/r/seduction14/07/21 01:34 PM
1

Yes but from there you gotta branch off into other topics, Don’t make it feel like an interview either .. don’t take yourself too seriously in the interaction, have fun with it.. being funny, sure if that’s who you are, just be you, Don’t try to force anything
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:30 PM
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It’s really good that you’re deciding to cold approach, I think it’s an organic way to meet people and can bring you so much more benefits than having an abundance of women in your life. This will help you build character, your confidence, self esteem, social/communication skills will increase, keeps you ballsy as well..tons of good stuff comes from it. With that being said, that’s a pretty good casual opener you mentioned and it’s good because she really did catch your eye and you wanted to mee…
/r/seduction28/06/21 03:32 PM
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Well hypothetically speaking let’s say you didn’t have a gf and you thought the girl was cute & wanted to talk to her…also you don’t know how old she is before you talk to her, if she’s too young then you obviously move on
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:40 PM
0

How is it cringe ?
/r/seduction16/06/21 05:05 PM
0

Most people, not all people. That’s why you go and find out, if they don’t wanna talk then you simply move on ..it’s not that complicated
/r/seduction16/06/21 05:02 PM
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Alright people it’s really not that deep, yes she was getting into a car when he approached her but who gives a fuck, I’m sure he approached in a calibrated way and didn’t go directly up to her, all he did was exchange a few words with a woman getting in a car, it’s not like he had bad intentions & was gonna rob her or something along those lines…it’s really not a creepy action, it’s only creepy if his actions and words were creepy. None of you know the perspective of this girl he spoke to, for …
/r/seduction16/06/21 05:01 PM
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So you’d just let the opportunity pass you by?
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:56 PM
1

Ok well you’re speaking from your own experiences with this, but not all women are against it. Also it might have been possible that the men who approached you were creepy about it or had no conversational skills so it was just awkward. Also I understand you might have been so hyped to write your comment that you didn’t read mine properly, if you missed it though I said to speak slow and clearly meaning don’t mumble or speak so quiet that the woman can’t hear you, also maintaining good eye conta…
/r/seduction27/05/21 01:06 PM
1

For realllll, that flow state is basically God Mode (shoutout to SimplePickup) miss those dudes. Anyway you just feel unstoppable, keep it up man. Even on those rough days just show up, keep approaching and talking to people. Good luck !
/r/seduction26/05/21 06:54 PM
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Yes you wanna be cautious of chicks who are in relationships (in my opinion I’d say don’t pursue it) BUTT..you went for it and that’s all that matters, take that energy you felt afterwards and use it to approach more women, keep going ! You really do start to feel this flow after you’ve been doing it for a while .
/r/seduction25/05/21 06:30 PM
1

Say something like “I don’t believe we’ve met yet, my name is...” and then carry the conversation, ask questions to know more about her, go off of what she’s saying, if she’s interested then the convo should flow nicely. Don’t send her flowers and a letter, use your words and introduce yourself
/r/seduction24/05/21 03:25 PM
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That’s awesome , You gotta have fun with approaching girls, man! It can’t always be on some strategic shit..there’s nothing like laughing about a funny/crazy/kinda awkward approach you did, at least you had the balls
/r/seduction24/05/21 02:15 AM
1

She sounds like she doesn’t respect your time and you should not deal with people like that, sometimes women will do that and it sucks, you can’t always explain why they do it and sometimes it’s best to not even figure out why, it’s just best to move on and stop pursuing her, if she hits you up first then cool, it’s your choice whether you wanna deal with her or not. But I’m sure she was aware of what she was doing, if y’all somehow talk or run into each other, don’t act hurt about it, just keep…
/r/seduction24/05/21 02:11 AM
2

Mr.Locario, James Tusk, Tay Social, Coach Kyle, These are just a few to mention, there’s many more but start with one of these guys, they’re sharp.
/r/seduction24/05/21 02:05 AM
2

Look up some videos on how to read body language, this will help you and give you some good reference on what to look for, in the end it’s all trial and error, put yourself out there and learn from your interactions, be willing to tweak some things here and there and you’ll be good to go.
/r/seduction24/05/21 02:02 AM
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Id say an arms length away should be okay, just make sure you don’t start off being 2 cm away from her face. & yeah those two are also indicators that she’s interested as well, body language is tricky to catch for sure but the more you practice talking to people in general the more better you’ll become at reading body language. The eyes are a good way to tell what a woman’s thinking/feeling, is she giving you good eye contact or is she looking away pretending you’re not even there while you try …
/r/seduction24/05/21 02:00 AM
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When you approach a woman just make sure to be respectful of her personal space & if she says or shows with her body language that she doesn’t wanna talk then move on, don’t be overly persistent
/r/seduction24/05/21 12:09 AM
1

The moment you leave your house is when you should be in “approaching” mode, if you see a girl you’re attracted to on the public transit then go say hi to her. Don’t wait until you get to your destination to start talking and approaching, start doing it on your way there.
/r/seduction24/05/21 12:05 AM
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Nope
/r/seduction24/05/21 12:00 AM
1

Yes, that is obviously a serious matter but right here right now we’re discussing a man who is going out there and socializing with the world in a friendly and respectful matter based off what he’s saying ...he’s not doing anything harmful, slashing, shootings, random beat downs and rapes are evil acts and are deserving of a harsh punishment but what OP is doing isn’t close to any of that, so I don’t see the comparison here, I don’t see why you brought that up. Of course people wanna feel safe t…
/r/seduction23/05/21 05:53 PM
4

.....something wrong ?
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:57 AM
5

Okay
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:56 AM
5

That’s how you see it though, you’re choosing to see it like it’s “target practice”, how else are you supposed to work on your social skills or confidence if you don’t put yourself out there ? You don’t need to view this in such a negative light, at least he’s being respectful with them and not like some other disgusting men out there who call them names or are overly sexual off the bat...in the end it’s all up to the women HE approaches, you may have a bad outlook on it and think it’s wrong but…
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:21 AM
5

Ok.
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:19 AM
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Ok so now you’re getting emotional here and telling me to “shut the fuck up”, that’s very productive & mature. No one here is saying women are like candy or objectifying them, simply approaching and talking to them doesn’t mean you’re seeing them as any less than human. If you had any sense in your head you would see that. It’s not that it doesn’t work, it does, you can meet people like that, the reality is just that not everyone willl wanna talk and that’s fine.
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:12 AM
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Approaching doesn’t mean you’re going up to them catcalling or some nonsense like that, it’s simply going up and talking , making conversation. That is all. Nothing wrong with working on your dating life and trying to meet people.
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:08 AM
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No , it’s not...look up the definition of stalking and then look at the context in which you’ve been using it. Cause clearly you don’t know how to use that word properly .
/r/seduction23/05/21 01:00 AM
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Lmaooo just cause of a bunch of creepy guys go to malls to hit on girls doesn’t mean OP is one of those dudes..the man’s getting out there and talking to women and working on his skills, you can literally talk to women anywhere, of course not all will be open to conversation but that’s the way it is, what if they are open to his approach? He shouldn’t limit himself to only approaching women in certain environments, if he sees his perfect 10 at a retail store at the mall is he just supposed to st…
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:29 AM
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It’s really not, maybe for you but not every woman is gonna find it as creepy. As long as he does it respectfully then there’s nothing wrong with it. Some people will find it creepy some people won’t, why should he limit himself to meeting people only in those environments you mentioned ?
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:19 AM
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Not necessarily, reality is not everyone is gonna wanna have a conversation and that’s just the way life is, even at bars and clubs/social gatherings there’s still a chance of rejections happening..you’ve never heard stories of couples meeting in stores, malls or anywhere that isn’t a social gathering like a club or bar ? Just cause you don’t agree with this form of meeting people doesn’t mean that it’s overall a bad idea.
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:16 AM
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Do you know the definition of stalking ? What OP was doing isn’t that, he approached the female and talked to her, that is not stalking ....that’s simply talking, and asking if he can tag along with her isn’t stalking either, it’s simply a question. He wasn’t following her after she declined. You don’t need to say “I wonder if there’s legitimately something wrong with you.” Have some understanding here, he’s actually getting out there and doing what he wants to do. How you worded that was quite …
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:13 AM
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Yo I see All these negative comments on this post labeling this as creepy and what not ..but here’s the truth, what you’re doing is completely fine, as a matter of fact it’s what you should be doing, today’s world finds this unusual because it’s not the norm for strangers to talk to each other cause everyone’s so consumed with their phones and the online world ..go on a public train/bus and you’ll see what I mean, shit’s so quiet you can hear a fucking pin drop. Dude, don’t listen to these hater…
/r/seduction23/05/21 12:06 AM
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No’s happen at bars and social events as well...getting a no from someone is inevitable..it’s always gonna happen.
/r/seduction22/05/21 11:57 PM
8

Lmao yeah for sure, don’t speak like a cyborg, but make sure what you say is clear and concise...don’t stare into her soul but let her know you’re not scared to look at her...& definitely no drooling
/r/seduction26/04/21 04:03 PM
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-speak slowly and clearly -maintain good eye contact
/r/seduction26/04/21 03:55 PM
1

Sure the failure rate may be high for beginners but the only way to get better is to do it and do it and do it, Don’t just do it for girls but do it for the confidence it brings...cold approaching is truly a beautiful thing :’)
/r/seduction23/04/21 11:42 PM
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I see what you’re saying. But then again doing cold approach isn’t only good for hooking up, that stuff leaks into other areas of your life, boosts your communication skills, social skills, courage, inner confidence, so with that being said just the act of cold approaching will give you the confidence to even close with a girl in your social circle..people just gotta learn some basics on cold approach & Game which there’s certain YT Channels to help with that and they go out and apply it ..wheth…
/r/seduction23/04/21 11:40 PM
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I disagree, You have to approach in order to even get over approach anxiety ..you gotta get out there and start talking to women and that’s how you’ll learn the most, all men should approach.. just make sure you’re do it respectfully and take a rejection with grace
/r/seduction23/04/21 12:16 PM
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Also you guys gotta have in mind that talking to/approaching people leaks into other areas of your life too, it doesn’t just help you have an abundance of ladies in your life but also helps with your social skills, communication skills, confidence and in general just keeps you ballsy. There’s more it helps with but that’s just a few to mention.
/r/seduction06/03/21 03:38 PM
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Yeah that’s what we’re saying & what I mentioned, you don’t have to wait for a signal, go on & just approach her but if she shows or flat out tells you she’s not feeling it then just leave her alone & move on
/r/seduction02/03/21 11:51 AM
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Basically
/r/seduction02/03/21 01:48 AM
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Solid point, indicators of interest are good & all but I don’t think you need them in order to approach someone you find attractive , I think it’s totally fine to approach them without a signal as long as it’s cordial and respectful. & if they’re not feeling it then you simply keep it moving, If you stay and keep trying to force conversation then that’s a different story, approach anyone you want, Fellas..Don’t let anyone discourage you or make you think it’s weird or creepy just cause you’re ch…
/r/seduction02/03/21 12:45 AM
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Facts, just keep it pushing. 👌🏼
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