Does anyone else catch themselves trying to "ace" every interaction? How do you take the pressure off yourself, or be likeable without trying so hard?

norwegiandoggo · 2021-10-25T10:57:05+00:00

Stop trying to make people like you. Just show them who you are. If they like you for being who you are, great. If they don't, so what.

Calamity__Bane · 2021-10-25T11:24:33+00:00

Ask yourself what you actually gain from doing that, 99 times out of 100 I'd bet you either gain nothing at all, or nothing worth the effort.

PastelShampoo · 2021-10-25T12:50:46+00:00

I think it's likely that wanting to ace every interaction is connected with wanting to get something in return (wanting them to be receptive to you, get a number, get a date, etc).

So I think the best thing you can do is just have more small interactions with people that you want nothing from. I'm not saying hit on people you aren't attracted to. Just create a 30 second interaction with that 64 year old woman in the check-out line at the grocery store. And then notice how you act during that interaction.

When you're not looking to get something in return (even if that is just hoping that they are receptive to you!), I'm sure you'll notice less pressure to ace the interaction. So just begin to acquaint yourself with what that feels like and slowly work to bring it into interactions where you are hoping they are receptive to you.

whiplash81 · 2021-10-25T14:11:51+00:00

Focus less on approval seeking and more on just enjoying the beat of your own drum.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-25T11:43:50+00:00

The answer is easy. You don't actually like yourself very much.

dobbs1997 · 2021-10-25T17:49:40+00:00

stop trying to make people like you and just be you, don’t censor yourself & also try to frame it so that you’re trying to see if you like them, instead of hoping they like you

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2021-10-25T23:37:50+00:00

So look, the only reason you’d need to ace an interaction is if you’re trying to pick up someone way out of your “league.” Or maybe your boss or your pissed off S/O. Just be yourself and social interactions are so much better. You can even say weird or cringey stuff and, if you’re cool and confident, most people will not even think twice. Lots of people appreciate genuineness.

MOProG2 · 2021-10-26T11:50:29+00:00

I'm actually working on this. It's not a test and it's okay if you score 10/100. The reason why "naturals" do so well is because they love themselves despite whatever she or anyone else says. Check out a YouTuber named Tykwondoe. He talks about a concept "going brain dead" when approaching.

Let's do a thought experiment: She says no: it could be 1000 reasons that nothing's to do with you. Or it's because y'all ain't compatible and she's saving you some time.

She says yes: I wouldn't even be excited about that either. You don't really know her and really she should be proving to you why you should spend any time with her.

This whole mindset of trying to do well in the interaction is giving her waaaaayyy too much power in the interaction. What makes her better than you? She's as human as you are. And if you have the balls to approach then actually she should be trying to work for your approval because that's rare in 2021. Get to know her before you start worrying if you "impressed" this stranger you don't even know. Slot of these pretty women aren't so hot when they are lounging around at home and esp after you've been with them for a while.

Title	Does anyone else catch themselves trying to "ace" every interaction? How do you take the pressure off yourself, or be likeable without trying so hard?
Author	headcase1111
Upvotes	14
Comments	10
Date	October 25, 2021 10:37 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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