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But see, there is my issue. If someone asked me something, even if it's something interesting. I give out quick 20-sec info and I'm done. It's like my mind can't form things to say. It's like when someone ask me "why you...." I always say "I don't know"... it's like I can't think. Perfect example: I had two people from a different company come to a medical facility where I work and wanted to make a convo (usually I would see my old director do 30 min to an hour convo), but I lasted not even 3 mi…
/r/seduction17/04/23 02:55 AM
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My issue is that I just can't stir a convo up and hold it. I have people come in my office (doctors, therapist, technicians) you name it and it's them just wanting to chat and normally my go-to is to encourage them to vent about issues or the basics, how was your weekend, lunch. They might talk a bit for a miniute, but then it gets quiet and after just sitting in silence, the person gets up and say "well, guess I'll go back to work" or something along those lines. However, I would have loved to …
/r/seduction16/04/23 02:40 AM
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Didn't work for me. I had all but Touch and Taste down pact. My story, I tell you, that introverted, shy catholic school girl (28) that I had has a heart of gold. We met online and texted for 2 months and talked alot, we both brought up religion, jobs, school, childhood etc... because of covid. Eventually, we met we hugged and smiled and chatted a bit and played darts... I told her she looks pretty and she gave me a smirk smile and compliment the way I was looking. We were just catching up on wh…
/r/seduction01/02/22 01:07 AM
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Well, that's the thing, I didn't flirt at all. Like really, nothing. I didn't treat her like I was interested in her (aka : she didn't feel desired)... Like, I bet she wanted me to say something like, "hey babe, come her, I think you got something in your hair" and as she gets closer, I pull her in and smile next to her and say something cheesy to make her smile... something like that, which I have no clue how to do. I think that's what she wanted, some attention other than "Hey, wow, you almost…
/r/seduction10/01/22 12:48 PM
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Many tell me is because I didn't do anything physical with her or flirt to get her interested, I played too nice of a guy and is why she was bored on the second date. Prior to the second date she said she senses we have a lot more in common (both interested in each other reference) but I didn't show her any signs of me interested in her, didn't even compliment her after she dolled up for me. She gave me another chance and wore the same outfit dolled up and still I didn't compliment her and she n…
/r/seduction10/01/22 09:20 AM
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When our first date ended and she gave me the cheek, I honestly shrug my shoulders and when I left I was like eh, I guess that's that... mentality... but then she texted me wanting to see me that weekend with heart eyes... that's when I was like oh wow. But she said she was tired on the second date. That term means "I'm tired" I'm assuming because she works night shift and we technically went when it's her morning so it's no way she can be tired. So she was trying to hint to me on the second dat…
/r/seduction09/01/22 09:25 AM
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If she brushed me off why in the world would she have gone on the 3rd date with me and talk as if nothing was wrong. It makes me wonder if I didn't say anything about going to her place, there might have been a chance for another date. The look in her eyes when I ask to come over really freaked her out. I think I was being too friendly with her and she was thinking I was just wanting to be friends...
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:03 AM
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Chicken, if you can only read our text prior to our 2nd date. You can see how she was interested in me... it's just that I screwed up with my conversation making her feel like I wasn't finding interest in her. I mean she hates playing shooting games, and she said she'll play with me (interest) so we played in the Jurassic Park arcade seat style... when we finished, I got up first and she was just sitting there for an extra 10-15 sec... as if "I'm surprised he didn't make a move" and when she got…
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:48 AM
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I need to find out before that, before that I texted 8 times until she ended it. I need to understand why she said she was tired on both second and third date along with why she got startled when I asked to come over her place as we were leaving on the third date. Was it because I lack conversation that brought attraction, no physical? I mean, I don't know when should I do such at a kids event of mini golf and arcade.
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:19 AM
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How do I build up romantic and sexual chemistry while playing arcades, bowling, pool and mini golf? Like if you don't mind, give me a couple of examples of each scenario from when you first meet, halfway and near the end. I want to watch videos of pov real dating, but someone you want to take serious with. I mean, why was she tired? What bored her? The lack of convo? If so, why did she sigh when I ask about siblings or gave a "anything" answer to what kind of music she likes? She never asked me …
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:09 AM
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I couldn't do that, I like her a lot. I just dropped it because I felt she didn't want to talk about it while we were playing having supposedly fun. But you do make a point. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you and your status? I find a pattern base on ages. Also, why she got tired on both dates when she works night shift, so it's morning time for her.
/r/seduction08/01/22 12:20 PM
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No I only talked about my fam on the date for like 1 min. It was really short because I wanted her to talk. However, when she sigh, I felt it was a bore for her. Sone people say girls get that boring question all the time and by the third date, it's not something to be talking about. The dad thing was way before we date. We did go back and foward on that 50/50 so that was fine. I'm a very good listener, issue was she wasn't doing a lot of talking. Hardly none and if so, short. Very... example fi…
/r/seduction08/01/22 12:09 PM
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I brought up if she had any siblings after I told her my story about my family and she gave off a big sigh like she was bored of that topic... However, when we texted before we dated, she talked about her dad retiring and she went to the movies with him for his birthday etc... I then told her about my dad retiring too and they both had the same military jobs etc... but the whole sibling topic seem like she wasn't to talk about it. It's like, I was expecting her to say "Oh yeah, I have one (older…
/r/seduction08/01/22 11:43 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to read this, I will rebuttal: Mistake number 1: While on the date, I maintained a confident look, didn't come across as needy, but I did seem excited while playing the games with her. I look like kratos, really. Mistake number 2: Complimenting. I actually think I did compliment her outfit, I'm not fully certain, but oh well. Mistake number 3: True, I just thought I'd go for it to see. Mistake number 4: forgot to check... yeah, that's very true. I was telling her I'…
/r/seduction08/01/22 10:06 AM
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Because it's been three months and I want to know what the hell happen. I left out a lot of the texting stuff, prior to the third date, which we texted great together... But the stuff I wrote is the gist of what we talked about... What in the hell happen... I've been so depressed, I couldn't celebrate any of the holidays and it's been 3 months now. I had that feeling of (wow, this is the one, we share just too much things in common and I want her, just play it cool)...
/r/seduction08/01/22 09:35 AM
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I'm 33, I had a few (9) dates in the past with nothing in common and they usually are the ones who get close to me (making it easy) however, I never push for an actual relationship because I wasn't really drawn into them. Only had 3 girlfriends, but again I just wasn't feeling it and mainly focused on school/work. This girl, everything felt like it was clicking, it was eerie, but she never came to me, but she went on 3 dates with me. I just don't understand.
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:10 AM
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Yes, she's been on my mind every day. It just doesn't make sense unless I wasn't being physical with her. Interacting for 4 months and 3 dates should result to complete silence after knowing so much about each other and having so much in common and interest. It just baffles the fuck out of me. If she was startled when I asked to come to her place, it means her interest level had drop or she isn't that type of girl. However, she did tell me she was tired on both dates meaning she was bored. So my…
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:52 AM
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No, we did 3 dates in a matter of 3 weeks, but we texted for 3 months. I just don't understand why on the second date she said she was tired when we were playing games (arcades, grabbed drinks, bowling than Billards) which she said she was tired... I told her the drinks gave me a headache because of my medication for my long covid symptoms, then on our third date we played mini-golf then arcades and she was tired... when we were supposed to grab drinks after. However, as we left I asked if I cou…
/r/seduction26/12/21 05:39 AM
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So why did she give off a big sigh when I asked her if she has any siblings during our third date playing mini golf after I told her a very short 1 min story about my bro n family... I want us to talk about family. When we texted before meeting, she brought up about her father where he wofks etc and we talked about their jobs how similarthey were. So it was a different vibe on the third date. Or when I said "one thing we haven't talked about music, what you're into" and she said "anything" and I…
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:20 PM
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Well what's weird is that on the second date she said she was tired (even though she looked annoyed) when I texted her that night, she responded two days later that she was busy with work, but she had fun and is down for another date. So it confused me thinking she was tired? So when on the third date we had plans to grab drinks after mini golf, she hit me agsin with being tired... so I'm confused. Escalating doesn't necessarily mean to have sex right? She isn't the kind of girl that would sleep…
/r/seduction25/12/21 02:15 PM
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She's in her late 20's and I'm looking long term at 33. She's very sweet, not a college fling.
/r/seduction25/12/21 01:45 PM
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She lives closer to where we were at. My honest true heart reason was for us to just be closer and talk. I felt like we really didn't talk at all and I felt that if we were more alone/private we could just act more relaxed with each other, but in hindsight, it probably came across creepy :( When she said she was tired, I thought she was tired and just wanted to go home... I texted her after her not responding in two weeks and a half: "The only thing I can think of is because of my poor choice of…
/r/seduction25/12/21 10:34 AM
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Again, I really wanted a long-term. We met online and texted for like 2 months (I caught covid) and learned soo much about each other, and was shocked how much stuff we shared similar interests... it was freaky. She wrote back in big paragraphs, so I mirrored and we both wrote big nice paragraphs... it was awesome! She grew up in a Catholic school and is sooo sweet and introverted. All three of our dates we were doing activities, we never sat and talk and locked eyes :( Our first date was great …
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:48 AM
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What if I had intentions of long-term, not short term/fling?
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:56 AM
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Na, I'm for real. I don't do lines, I honestly would act and say that to anyone... just give them a smirk face and say ... ok.. what was that lol kind of shot.
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:53 AM
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No, she told me about her being religious growing up in Catholic school like on the first week of texting. Since she wasn't showing any cues of being close to me or flirty behavior, (just smile at me at times) I texted her after the third date that these fun activities are fun, but I want for us to go grab coffee and sit together and talk about the direction we wanted to go and flirt etc... I was being way to direct... idk wtf I was thinking when texting that. I think it's because we honestly ne…
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:51 AM
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But for her to say she was tired when she told me she was off the entire night... is that because I didn't flirt with her or make good conversation? I mean, I feel like I really screwed up... she wrote to me before our date: "I care for you 😚" So for our third date, she was dolled up again (forgot to compliment again idk why) but we hugged and talked about a local event that took place. We went to play mini-golf and I choose the ball of her favorite color from our last date convo which she smile…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:56 AM
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What was wrong about asking to come over her place? I live about 30 min away while her place I think is about 15 min. Can you go more in detail about what I should have done during mini golf? How to escalate? I was acting too friendly, cheerful. I wanted to go to her place to talk more because we barely talked while mini golfing. Also, on the third date, why did she say she was tired after hanging out for almost 3 hours? She seemed frustrated when she said it. Like she was looking at her nails w…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:31 AM
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Please go more in detail. Because I did say "Wow, what was that (with a smile)" when she shot out of bounds and she looked at me with a smile... So what else?
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:05 AM
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Why shouldn't I escalate Comp after she made the sexual innuendo?
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:25 AM
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What I hate is that prior to the 2nd date she told me she is afraid of rides, but willing to go with me, which I found it to be perfect to hold her hand... but the damn place was closing... then for the third we were going to see fireworks so I could hold her and esculate naturally... but the show ended. How do I esculate while golfing or arcades without it seeming pushed... you see what I mean?
/r/seduction05/12/21 12:04 AM
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Her body language was the same. No hair twirling or getting near me. She would smile at me, but that's it. I'll smile back and laugh if we did something silly. Don't know about escalation. But I just don't know with two months of great conversation, she just completely ignores me now as if nothing happened. I mean Idk why she doesn't want to talk about it.
/r/seduction05/12/21 12:00 AM
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I touched her shoulder when she did something good or encouraged her. I did tease her once on the second date by a silly name, which she playfully hit my hat. I even picked her up and sorda spinned her when she made a strike and high five.
/r/seduction04/12/21 11:21 PM
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Can you explain or send link explaining step by step for the 80%.
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:51 PM
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I only said I'm sorry if I hurt you with that reference because maybe her intentions was for me to not push for sex so early, which I wasn't, but it sounded like it. I wasn't thinking straight because I was fatigued and wanted us to sit and chat since we never sat together and talked. On the second date I asked to go in her car which she declined because it was messy inside. So if she was interested to getting closer, after she said the sexual innuendo, she would had accepted it right?
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:20 PM
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I had covid. While texting? Just normal conversation sharing things that we were weirded out about how similar we like things. Like honestly, we were back and forward sending paragraphs. When I got sick, she'd always check on me and we'd talk about childhood events etc... first date we slightly brushed upon things we talked about. Second date was about trying to find more matches similar things in common. Third date was nothing.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:07 PM
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See after the second date, she canceled an hour before the date due to work, but she apologizes and ask to reschedule. I said sure that's fine, just let me know what days your off and we'll work something out. She thanked me saying thanks for being so understanding. So after a few days, I requested a location, a day after I told her about something reminded me of her, a few days later I sent a funny pic of her and then wrote I was feeling off that last date from the drinks. She finally responds …
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:02 PM
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I just don't get how she could just scrap it all and not talk back even as a friend when we share so many similarities and interests. The reason she mentioned related is because everyghing synced up with parents life stuff, our same goals, same bank etc... weird stuff. I honestly was drawn into that stuff about her. So when she started going silent, I thought it was because she thought I was after only sex and not long term. I read up long term don't go for sex early... usually by date 5-8+
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:48 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:35 PM
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Yeah, I texted her like 20 times after. She hasn't blocked me. But I'm sure she hidden the notifications. I think she was expecting me to act like the way I was texting prior to covid. While on the date, I was fatigued and worn out. First date wasn't bad. But the other two I was just in the moment. I just don't know what I can say to let her realize this.
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:31 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:26 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:24 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:24 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:24 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:23 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:23 PM
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See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn out. I texted her after she ended things that I was worn out when I was standing. What would you have said to her at this point?
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:22 PM
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First date? There was no teasing or flirting. We talked a bit and played our game and I was joking about how my aim is compared to hers. Then I picked her up like a baby carriage for a photo which she was completely fine for. She asked me no questions, I asked and she responded with how about you? 2nd date she asked, how about you. Weird on the 3rd date she didn't ask how about you for any of my two questions. See the other issue was that I was having long covid issues of fatigued. So I was worn…
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:13 PM
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Hmm, so, for me to say: I truly hope you didn’t take that request on our last date the wrong way. You got to get your head out the gutter lol. I wanted it for us to finally sit, face to face, in private, and talk about topics regarding the direction we're going and boundaries. Then a few days later I wrote trust me my intentions were good and that I truly wanted us to hang, not sexual. If you're saving until marriage it's fine. Did those things turn her off? I didn't want to come across as a fuc…
/r/seduction04/12/21 03:04 PM
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She denied the kiss on the first date, maybe because she is showing she isn't thst kind of girl? She is a sweet catholic school girl.
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:51 PM
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Trust me when I say during the date, I didn't came across needy. I acted exactly how I would with my bros lol. People know me to not to talk a lot, but they like my presents. I've always been told I look like the guy who gets the girl. I got the frame and look, dress well good hygiene etc... any ways, I look like kratos and come across distant, but during the gaming I'll smile and laugh and cheer on. But that's it. When I texted her, I wanted to make sure I wasn't out for sex, I wanted to just b…
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:49 PM
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I needed to hear this, but I just don't understand... her personality is so sweet and upbeat, yet very introverted and doesn't spark conversation. It's like she's waiting for me to say something. I could be just doing physical esculation, without it aiming for sex, or makeout? Just touchy, right? I mean wtf, if someone asked me what kind of music I like, I could go on for at least 5 min... but because I asked that question it's a strike? And especially if it's on the third date? What the hell. W…
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:10 PM
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Well see, I personally would consider doing that if she was very flirtatious, like if she was trying to get right next to me and so on to let me know she wanted to be touched. I just think it would be awkward for me to just get really close and just start hugging for no reason to a girl who isn't showing flirtatious behavior. Ugh, I just don't know these things :(
/r/seduction04/12/21 10:58 AM
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But let me ask you this, how do you get physically escalating while playing mini-golf or at the arcade? I could understand if we were private in the car or something... I did ask to go in her car on the 2nd date 10 min after she mentioned about the sexual innuendo of double-fisting, but she said it was messy. Again, I don't see this girl to be the type that would have sex on the first few dates.
/r/seduction04/12/21 10:39 AM
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So the lack of escalation. Can you tell me an example based on what I wrote of how and when I should do this? Are you referring to physical escalation? Also, so when I asked to go to her place, in her mind she thought I was asking for sex so it went from 0-100 real fast and creeped her out. Then when I texted her after the date about I was being mindful of physical and personal boundaries. I want to know what you're comfortable with in terms of affection both physically and with flirty banter. I…
/r/seduction04/12/21 10:34 AM
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But in what way did I show her the "love"? I treated her more like a coworker/friend. I didn't show her googly eyes or tell her I worship her or anything like that lol. I just acted as if I'd act with anyone. At times, I felt like maybe she didn't think I was interested because I didn't focus much on her. On the second date, I did say I enjoyed spending time with you tonight, it's a shame you're wanting to go and she said "yeah, I'm just tired is all"... so we hugged and she said bye with and wa…
/r/seduction04/12/21 10:28 AM
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I'm not lying, I really wasn't after sex. I was lovestruck with the girl to the point I felt loved, not sexually. That's 100% the truth. However, because I asked a religion group about me asking to come over, they told me she probably thought I was only after sex and is why she is ignoring me... so I freaked out and started to write a lot. I do lift weights, she even said I'm very strong on the first date. When I told a lame joke when we were at the arcades, she did touch my shoulder (after the …
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:49 AM
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So what are some topics you would have brought up on the third date going mini golfing? Someone told me asking stuff like favorite music shouldn't be done. So I'm curious, what do I do so I don't screw up in the future.
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:33 AM
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Sex wasn't on my mind at all, that's what's weird. I was more drawn to who she is based on our conversations from texting. So what questions would be better to ask on the third date, if you don't mind me asking please?
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:25 AM
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I just don't know how to come up with this on the fly... :/ Let me ask you this, what are some of your top questions you'd be asking by the 2nd and 3rd date? Also... maybe it's what I said after the date that ruined things? She tends to take a long time to reply because she works at a mental clinic and is stressed a lot. I texted her I had a good time and looking forward to the next. A week goes by, I texted her about going to a coffee place to focus on us... a few days go by and I said stupid s…
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:15 AM
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But keep in mind, on our date I never acted like I was desperate. I was mainly engaged in gaming activities which was my fault because I didn't know what to say to get her talking.
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:12 AM
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Ok, what about when I asked what kind of music you're into and she said "anything" and I said what kind in particular? and she said "anything I can hum to"... I said ok, you're up next to shot. Should I have kept pushing?
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:06 AM
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You say this, but clearly, she was very interested before and right up when we met on the third date. It wasn't until our first few shots I noticed her energy kinda went down as if she was expecting me to do something.
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:51 AM
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Well, can you please let me know what you would of done so I don't repeat these same things? Keep in mind, this girl is a sweet, introverted, mature lady. Please tell me how I should have been doing by the third date. 1)We hugged and smiled, I opened the door for her and we briefly talked about a local event... 2)We waited in line, and I grabbed her favorite color ball (which she smiled and said yay) and we grabbed our clubs... we walked to the first put. 3)Before we hit the ball, I told her why…
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:49 AM
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Can you explain more in details of what you would of said? And when you said if she wants to leave, leave where? Here is another thing... after she said that and we drove to the place we were heading, we were told we couldn't enter because we had alcoholic drinks... so I told her how about we go in your car and drink these and she said "no, my car is too messy" and I said ah ok, well, want to just throw these away and go in since they're less than full? And she said maybe I'll put mine in my car…
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:44 AM
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Also... maybe it's what I said after the date that ruined things? She tends to take a long time to reply because she works at a mental clinic and is stressed a lot. I texted her I had a good time and looking forward to the next. A week goes by, I texted her about going to a coffee place to focus on us... a few days go by and I said stupid shit you ready? It's embarrassing and I don't know why in the hell I wrote this... So you told me you were raised as a catholic school girl and I've been mindf…
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:21 AM
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Please tell me how I should have been doing by the third date. 1)We hugged and smiled, I opened the door for her and we briefly talked about a local event... 2)We waited in line, and I grabbed her favorite color ball (which she smiled and said yay) and we grabbed our clubs... we walked to the first put. 3)Before we hit the ball, I told her why I choose this course (no mosquitoes compared to the other place filled with water) and she said she was there last year same time with no mosquitoes and I…
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:14 AM
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I do find her attractive and wouldn't mind fucking, but that wasn't my top priority at all... I even texted her after the third date "I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable by wanting to come over to your place, I honestly wanted us to talk more since we didn't talk much. It wasn't sexual, in fact, if you're someone waiting until marriage, it's not a red flag for me because I'm interested to see how this goes. Yes, she does give me family vibes, but I am attracted to that. She has a very mat…
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:12 AM
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She was raised a Catholic school girl, believes god, but isn't all about the rituals... She said she's introverted, but if I trust you I can open up in our early texting days. We have sooo much in common and interest, we were both shocked.. she even said on our second date it's almost like we're related because of all the similarities. (Same fav drinks, food, tv shows, movies, genre, goals, etc...) I was more in love of who she was as a person based off our texting...
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:07 AM
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She tossed me a sexual innuendo on the second date which I just smiled and nodded. We shared an alcoholic drink but we had two different ones... when we walked out she said you were really double fisting back there. When we went to play pool, halfway she got annoyed (looking at her nails) and said she was tired.
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:03 AM
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She never sparked a conversation... she just was in the moment (to cheer) so after it got silent for a few min's I just asked a question. It wasn't until the "what kind of music you're into" and she just gave me a two-word answer I completely stopped asking questions and we went the entire game just cheering each other on, laughing at mistake shots and that's it... nothing else. She even made a hole in one at the end which she wasn't even aware of and when I saw that she did I acted excited for …
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:00 AM
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But the point is, I was very masculine and confident. I have a great posture and figure. She even told me she likes how strong I was on our first date. I didn't act wimpy, but I did acted like a friend/gentlemen (paying, even when she wanted to pay, I tipped, opened the door etc...) but I think she wanted me to be more sexual/flirting which I have no clue on how to do.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:56 AM
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Please help me, I tried and all I can find is stuff while in a relationship, not while dating. Like give me an example of what should I have done... 1)We hugged and smiled, I opened the door for her and we briefly talked about a local event... 2)We waited in line, and I grabbed her favorite color ball (which she smiled and said yay) and we grabbed our clubs... we walked to the first put. 3)Before we hit the ball, I told her why I choose this course (no mosquitoes compared to the other place fill…
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:49 AM
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Please tell me how I should have been doing by the third date. Please help me, I tried and all I can find is stuff while in a relationship, not while dating. Like give me an example of what should I have done... 1)We hugged and smiled, I opened the door for her and we briefly talked about a local event... 2)We waited in line, and I grabbed her favorite color ball (which she smiled and said yay) and we grabbed our clubs... we walked to the first put. 3)Before we hit the ball, I told her why I cho…
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:44 AM
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Because, if she was excited and smiling when she saw me and then it goes south to the point where she cancels her own invitation towards me for drinks.... clearly something went wrong on my end. I feel that I needed to flirt or conversate to get her in the mood, this is what I don't know how to do.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:33 AM
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I asked her let's grab drinks after our mini-golf as we planned, but she said "I think I'm going to go, I'm tired."
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:30 AM
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The second date she said she was tired so I just walked her to her car and hugged and said goodnight because I figure if she was tired I'd just let her go. On the Third date, she said she was tired, but I went and asked what if I can stop by her place and she said "What? noooo" so when we started talking, her tone was more like higher-pitched when we walked to her car she did a quick hug and walked to her car. It's like she didn't have that flirty/smile look to be kissed.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:25 AM
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I need to know why when she was so excited to see me, especially on the third date... it's like I let her down and I felt that when I asked about if she had siblings... it's like she is thinking "why is he asking me questions and not flirting/make move"...
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:22 AM
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What would have caused her to be from texting me being so excited saying she cares for me with a kissy emoji face to end the night saying she was tired on the third date? Is it because I didn't flirt with her (tease/physical) or is it because I didn't make any meaningful conversations with her? When I asked her how many siblings she had, she kind of lightly huffed/groaned and said "a sister"... which I passed that subject up since she didn't seem like she cared about it... when I asked her about…
/r/seduction26/11/21 09:13 AM
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But is it because I didn't flirt with her (tease/physical) or is it because I didn't make any meaningful conversations with her? When I asked her how many siblings she had, she kind of lightly huffed/groaned and said "a sister"... which I passed that subject up since she didn't seem like she cared about it... when I asked her about what kind of music she's into she said "anything" and I said what specific type and she said "anything I can hum to"... so it's like the questions I was asking was bo…
/r/seduction26/11/21 08:58 AM
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Planning isn't the issue for me. The issue is what to do during the date. I took her to play mini golfing, but we didn't really conversate. She was excited to go, sending me kissy emoji faces and that she cares for me. However, when we went there, it was like two people playing. Nothing was happening, towards the end of the game, we were supposed to grab drinks but she wanted to just head out. She was expecting me to flirt with her or what based off the flirty text emojis. She didn't show any si…
/r/seduction19/11/21 01:48 AM
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What you think I should say? Chances are it might go to voice mail.
/r/seduction18/11/21 11:30 PM
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Well it's been a month now. Her exact words were she wasn't in the right headspace for a romantic relationship and that I deserve someone better who can communicate daily. After two weeks I started bombarding her like really bad... even apologizing for bombarding saying I dont act like this towards other girls and how special she makes ne feel... yeah. I mean, we texted for 3 months and I used those times to push into our three dates. But I never expressed myseld as needy or anything, I just rem…
/r/seduction18/11/21 11:19 PM
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Well the issue is that her place is like 5 min away, mine is 30 min. Is there any chance I can fix this? I really messed up by bombarding her a week after the date with stuff like: on our next date we should set boundaries (explain a lot of stuff) and the reference I wanted to chill over her place was not sexual , get your head out the gutter smiley face. I then apolized if that made her uncomfortable and told her if she is saving herself it isnt a redflag (shes religious) and that I was nervous…
/r/seduction18/11/21 11:05 PM
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Can you elaborate on taking lead, tell her things? Show her things? We went mini golfing.
/r/seduction18/11/21 10:34 PM
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Oh no, it's over. I asked to go to her place after she said she wanted to go home and it scared her I think. I messaged her I had a good time with her.... no response in one week and I kept writing letti g her know my reference wasn't sexual, I just wanted to hang out (which is the truth) until e eventually she said she wasn't in yhe right headspace for a romantic relationship and I deserve someone better to communicate with. I then kept bombarding her and never heard back.
/r/seduction18/11/21 10:31 PM
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Idk why, she did say over text she's like introverted.
/r/seduction18/11/21 10:15 PM
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I wasn't able to think of anything and the date failed. Example, the things I was saying was pointing out the obvious of what was around us like... it's dark over here, yeah the light must be broke... that's it.. I'm not good at conversating/flirting.
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:45 PM
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She never start talking. Like seriously. I need to know questions that makes her talk.
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:17 PM
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I don't think she's the kind of girl that would come over. At the end of the date I asked if I can come over to her place and she said "what, nooo" I'm assuming because she had already mentioned she was tired. But that was pretty much the cue of being bored when she had expected something more during the date. She isn't a freak, she is a caring type personality vibe. Liberian vibes that doesn't show flirtatious behavior, only with texting.
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:15 PM
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So if the girl is interested, sent kissy emoji via text. She would smile on the dates, but that was it! Never asked me questions or got flirty around me or move in closer. Only time she asked me was at the beginning of the date when I asked her if she went to the event that took place that week and she asked if I went after I asked her. What topics should be used at the start of the date? You see, I already blew it and it's over because she decided to leave an hour later when we had plans to gra…
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:10 PM
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Happen to have a link?
/r/seduction18/11/21 08:40 PM
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We are in our very late 20's. What's ltr?
/r/seduction18/11/21 08:38 PM
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What are some topics? We covered most generic ones already.
/r/seduction18/11/21 06:56 PM
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I like this. Keep it coming lol.
/r/seduction18/11/21 02:23 PM
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Those questions given I see are like top 10 for first dates. I was hoping for meaningfully topics towards the 3rd + so she can talk a bunch.
/r/seduction18/11/21 02:14 PM
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Funny thing is that I've done a few of those on the second date. My issue now is good conversations to make her talk instead of short responses.
/r/seduction18/11/21 02:05 PM
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Thank you! I need to know good questions to ask. Also, how to improve flirting and esculating? I think this is why she left me after the third date. She got bored with me not advancing.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:48 PM
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What you mean? I'm not a grest conversationalist so Idk what to say. Is this the time when physical flirting should be in play? This girl who I was seeing was excited to see me on the third date, but towards the end, she seemed bored because we weren't really talking much because I didn't ask questions.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:38 PM
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This is first date stuff. I'm talking about 3rd+ dates.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:33 PM
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Got a couple of examples to use?
/r/seduction18/11/21 12:33 PM
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Good job solider! What was the convo about that lead up to it?
/r/seduction18/02/20 03:21 AM
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You need to be more assertive my man. Look, here's a tip to help you get what you want. Next time you see her say this "Surrender that ass, or every waking moment for you will become a swirling torrent of pain and misery!" Works every time.
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