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Like will ferrell’s character from wedding crashers, if I could be friends with that guy I’d 100% love it lmao
/r/seduction19/07/23 06:21 AM
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No No Not true! God none of this is true at all. The problem lies in the fact that the recent dating advice on Instagram, TikTok, etc has become so watered-down and horrible over the years from the original shit, which was SOLID GOLD. The guys giving this "new" dating advice couldn't date their fucking right hands. It boils down to this: Back in the early days, Mystery broke down 5 or so attraction switches that are more like CONCEPTS you can ALWAYS apply to your own life or personality without …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:36 PM
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This is definitely true if you're a woman and want a man to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:23 PM
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Yea so ignore the women saying all that they're just squawking bro. Bkaww bkaww! That's all I hear. Work on yourself, focus on yourself, go for what you want and make the world better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:06 PM
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I didn’t read the whole thing but yeah women always do that, as a man it’s your job to brush it off and just do whatever you were going to do anyway lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 02:14 PM
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Obligatory I’m a man. I own a business that I spend considerable time grinding at, and my social life sometimes suffers, and I can spend all day working for weeks or months at a time. I only burn out when I’m spinning my wheels and working a lot with no reward or nothing to show for it. When I’m working a lot and seeing progress, getting money as a reward, or feeling a sense that I’m building something I’m proud of and making an impact, there is zero burnout. It actually energizes me. I believe …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 02:23 AM
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Rapport + comfort
/r/seduction13/09/22 07:44 PM
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You go up and talk to her. Problem solved.
/r/seduction07/09/22 12:36 AM
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Show up to the beach naked, say you thought it was a nude beach. It will distract them from the height.
/r/seduction05/09/22 04:23 AM
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Best way to know = find out for yourself
/r/seduction29/08/22 06:06 PM
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Considering they all evolved by natural selection from a few tribes of a couple hundred humanoids and share the genes that were most valuable for survival and reproduction in those times … there are actually more similarities than differences. That doesn’t mean the same explicit thing will work for every woman but it does mean that even if two seemingly opposing “things” attract two different women, the reason why each thing works will be the same. This is useful because when you know the evolut…
/r/seduction17/08/22 11:07 PM
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I would say it feels to me exactly like triggering attraction in that when you act in the right way you can see a girls eyes light up and start smiling, she starts giving you iois, etc. And once you’ve done it a lot you know how to trigger this on purpose when you communicate. Obv it doesn’t always trigger attraction but if you’re at an advanced level in the game you can make it happen a significant amount as long as she’s giving you her attention. When you learn how to DHV properly it’s basical…
/r/seduction17/08/22 11:00 PM
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It happens all the time, usually when you’re needy she loses attraction then when you pull away she develops it again.
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:39 PM
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Went on a bumble date with a girl who said she was 25 on the app and ended up being 35 when I met her in person. She showed up to the date drunk off her ass and wearing, I kid you not, a rainbow tutu. Told me she had no money to her name but wasn’t worried about it because she gets money from her family and begs on the street for a living. She was also missing a finger on her left hand which she immediately showed me but wouldn’t say how she lost it. I will add she looked like a normal girl if y…
/r/seduction15/08/22 05:56 PM
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Not necessarily. I text day before or morning of to give her tidbits of my life and to confirm, like: “about to work out so I look super studly for our date. still on for [time]?” Other than that I think it’s generally good to keep in contact every so often so you’re top of mind with how much women can flake these days, some girls that’s needed more than others. But if you do don’t do it in a needy way.
/r/seduction15/08/22 05:44 PM
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It’s not that hard when you realize you can pretty much talk about whatever pops into your head and girls will go with it most of the time. Do more approaches to get more comfortable with it.
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:40 AM
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Well… some sex workers. I’ll give you most even. Just don’t bargain shop for sex workers and you’ll be fine
/r/seduction26/07/22 05:11 AM
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It comes from trying to filter yourself because you’re nervous around her. You don’t drop into asking questions around your best friend or your parents or siblings. Because you don’t care what they think of you. You ideally should act the same way around the girl.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:02 PM
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Yeah man it depends on what kind of small talk. Girls like this like the roller coaster of emotions, it’s why they watch reality shows with a bunch of drama and stuff.
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:10 PM
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https://youtu.be/PIb6AZdTr-A 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction15/07/22 03:46 PM
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Sit somewhere off to the side like the bar so your attention isn’t on the dancers. Don’t watch them on stage. Open the bartenders and waitresses so you’re preoccupied and talk to them. When a stripper approaches you tell her “I don’t wanna waste your time, I’m not going to buy a dance.” If you’ve ever been in sales you know how shitty wasting the time of a salesperson is and strippers when they’re working are basically salespeople. If she’s focused on making money you’re not going to flip her an…
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:40 PM
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Always have a direction you’re taking it in and make your intentions clear.
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:15 PM
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It’s not logical. Learn to engage her emotionally by text. In the nightclub / bar her emotions were highly stimulated, a couple days later you just sent her a text that was logical asking for dinner but she didn’t respond because she didn’t have the chemicals coursing through her veins and the fun that she had in the club. The emotions give her the motivation to hang out with you. To get her to respond I’d tease her a little over text, like “you know what was so funny that I noticed about you th…
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:09 PM
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Depending on your area there are probably certain bars where all the cougars hang out. Lol idk if that’s helpful but there was a bar well-known for cougars when I was like 21 and that’s where I ended up hooking up with one.
/r/seduction14/07/22 10:50 PM
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This guy doesn’t seem like he’s approached very many women at all lol.
/r/seduction14/07/22 10:45 PM
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Lol oh god don’t get me started. I’m assuming you asked because you wanted to see if they’d work. Let me see what I can remember, and I can’t really explain them here without also explaining the principles behind why they work either. Luckily I still find this stuff fun to talk about so gather ‘round children this might be a long comment but idgaf. The old school PUA methods broke up canned lines and routines into different categories depending on which stage of the interaction you’re in and wha…
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:41 PM
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It’s called a fixed vs growth mindset dude. There’s always something under your control that that you can improve about yourself to get you hotter girls. If your teeth are fucked up and you don’t have the money to fix it, at least you can shower and work out and wear nice clothes. If you are short, that shouldn’t stop you from smelling good and developing your social skills and ability to flirt and be charming and attractive. Women don’t experience attraction like men do. It’s more dynamic for t…
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:54 PM
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This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
/r/seduction13/07/22 11:57 PM
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The neg was never meant that way. If you neg a girl properly, she’s laughing at it too. the balance of how “offensive” it is correlates to how much value you have established with her. It requires CALIBRATION.
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:58 PM
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Yes! I’m over 10 years deep too. It’s so worth it.
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:46 PM
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Here here! My feelings exactly.
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:44 PM
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No one’s stopping you from going out and approaching in real life.
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:42 PM
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I maintain that guys who don’t know how to approach IRL are still at a massive massive disadvantage.
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:41 PM
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I’ve always thought people use the canned material wrong. It’s not about the line, but the line is like training wheels and when you gain social experience you learn how to adapt it and improvise and generalize the principles behind the line to different situations. To this extent I believe lines are still useful. Also the lines were a way for younger me to get social experience without pissing myself because I didn’t have anything to say and was scared shitless of talking to attractive girls. B…
/r/seduction13/07/22 10:24 PM
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Yup, after the media scandal they took it down and it never returned
/r/seduction05/07/22 10:13 PM
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What’s wrong with just asking her her age? Why be sneaky?
/r/seduction02/07/22 06:52 AM
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I’ve found you will never regret not taking action. Never once will you approach someone and then think “I shouldn’t have done that.” You’re always glad you did it.
/r/seduction12/06/22 02:07 PM
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My male advice is: yes it will make a huge difference. I have personal anecdotes about this but hesitate to say them here because it’s Reddit so I won’t. Also I know everybody’s got a diet plan they’re pushing and you gotta find what works for you, but gotta give my $0.02: theres a kindle book called the potato hack by Tim Steele and I along with everyone I know who’s tried it have lost fat rapidly. Resistant starch is really the best way I know to shed pounds. Even if you only do it for a coupl…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 08:39 PM
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Conventional wisdom would say if you’re not attracted to someone you are dating you should break up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 10:43 AM
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Damn ditch those friends.
/r/seduction20/05/22 07:09 PM
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Put the pic on photofeeler.com. Test it against others and find the highest rated one. Try to get pics that catch you as you’re genuinely laughing (where your eyes have crows feet or are squinting from the smile) rather than a forced smile that’s meant as a pose.
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:22 PM
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Lol the only australian girl I've ever dated was asian. I'm in the US. But frankly you should be able to talk with them like you would anyone else. Their race does not dictate what you talk about with them. Literally dude just talk about whatever is interesting to you.
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:38 AM
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It's useful until it isn't.
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:34 AM
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It wasn't your looks, it was the vibe you were giving off in the photo. I'm almost completely certain. How was the lighting? How was your smile? Was it genuine or forced? Did your eyes look insecure in the photo? Did you look confident? Did it look like the photo was shot in "mother's basement" or were you in a cool, interesting location? These are all things to consider.
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:25 AM
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You can more than compensate for a lack of good genes with good hygiene, fitness, style, personality, vibe, behavior, social intelligence, and of course, game. When it comes down to it really the biggest advantage the good looks guys have is that girls give them a slightly more opportunities in the beginning to shoot their shot. Like, a good looking guy will maybe get an extra 30 seconds to a minute after he opens a girl so he can afford to screw up more and have sloppy game, misread her signals…
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:13 AM
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Make a joke about it while calling her out. She said she'd text you, then didn't. You don't want to come off as butthurt about it but you also want to let her know the ball was in her court and she dropped it. Alternatively you could tell her, "Hey if you don't want to hang out I'd totally understand, just tell me straight up so there's no confusion. I don't want to push anything if it's not natural." Make sure there is zero neediness or but-hurtedness in your voice as you say this, like you wer…
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:01 AM
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The content of what you say isn't what's interesting in itself, its whether YOU are interested in it and feel passion for it as you say it. People can feel your vibe and thus you become interesting. I can talk about the stupidest shit to girls I just met that on paper sounds super boring but because I'm interested in it and genuinely having fun I come off as a super interesting and fun person. It's about the vibe behind your words, not just the words.
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:51 AM
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The fact that you don't know how to act shows that you still don't know how to think and you're taking it personally on some level. If you offered someone an hors d'oeuvre at a party you were hosting and they were like "Oh no thank you" you wouldn't not know how to act, you'd just be like, "okay," and then you'd carry on. If you got rejected it's the same. And then there's the "I'm not ready YET I just need to be more comfortable around you" kind of rejection, in which case it might be worth it …
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:42 AM
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Attraction building is about displaying qualities of confidence really. Showing you have the ability to be a leader but don't always need to. Being socially calibrated is also an attractive feature. Talking about cool stuff in your life that you like and/or are proud of without bragging, but just showing you love your life and where it's going. Being unashamed of who you are. There's body language and facial expressions and voice tones you can learn that women perceive as attractive too. Among t…
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:02 PM
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Lol you ask them their age.
/r/seduction03/05/22 01:17 AM
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Being "in tune with where they're at" is basically the core skill of calibration. Another way to think of that is not WHAT to do, but WHEN to do it. "When" matters waaaay more than "what." And WHEN you do something depends on the context. I.e., it largely depends on the girl's comfort, attraction, and investment levels with you up to that point. You have to be able to read her more subtle signals and act in a way that is appropriate to them and moves the interaction forward at the same time. Cal…
/r/seduction03/05/22 01:12 AM
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Just getting yourself to approach is step 1. You have accomplished that, congratulations, that’s farther than most guys go. Now you can progress to working on what’s next: Step 2 is calibrating after the approach and working on increasing the number of sets where you are getting to the hook point. 5-6 numbers out of 60 or 70 can be improved a ton. Calibrate calibrate calibrate. That’s what it sounds like you need right now man. You want to be in tune with where they’re at right after you approac…
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:09 PM
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Don’t be fat, have a feminine energy. There are books I can recommend if you need them.
/r/seduction01/05/22 08:36 PM
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Albert Einstein was extremely developmentally delayed and didn't say his first word until he was 6 years old. Just because a kid is behind his peers in one area doesn't mean he's not a genius in another, or won't be one eventually. It's not a race. Plenty of the world's millionaires and billionaires were horrible in school. There's examples all over of kids who were labeled special ed, or any number of things, who really ended up excelling at something. I say do what you can to help your son suc…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 07:41 PM
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Gtfo dude this is incredibly wrong. The difference between arrogance and confidence is that with confidence you’re not afraid to fail. You’re not afraid of being socially rejected. You’re not afraid of not looking cool. Confidence comes from within. It’s not based on anything besides your willingness to step up. Arrogance is about all those things you “have” and the belief that having them makes you better than other people.
/r/seduction28/04/22 11:41 AM
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They’ve kinda always been like that though. Even Strauss wrote about that guy in the game who kept writing field reports about how he was seeing prostitutes lol. Some forums have better contributors than others. I used to be part of a great one with cool dudes but it’s gone now. The rsd nation forums used to be more high quality too.
/r/seduction27/04/22 07:40 PM
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Props. This is how it’s done!
/r/seduction27/04/22 04:11 PM
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Reddit in general is full of such estrogen-fueled whiners who get so bent out of shape about real pickup. I’m done using this site as much of a forum for things like solid field reports or connecting with guys who actually want to improve. Good field report though.
/r/seduction26/04/22 12:14 AM
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Uh yeah that's push/pull
/r/seduction23/04/22 05:00 PM
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Everything really comes from Mystery Method. Different RSD instructors really just teach different "flavors" of Mystery Method, as it applies to different kinds of personalities and preferences. Mystery Method is not outdated by any means but IMO the original method is a little hard for most guys to process because it's very high-level theoretical and lacks some pragmatism. So it takes a while to apply the principles to real life. Plus, Mystery was all about magic when you really don't need to d…
/r/seduction23/04/22 03:21 PM
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Check out The Mystery Method, it goes into hired gun game a bit in that book. It's a complete classic, it basically started the whole seduction community. It is a bit out of date, was written before smartphones etc, but the concepts in that book are completely timeless. They still work, you just have to be able to understand the underlying principles and apply them to modern-day things like texting or dating apps. I'm not even sure if you can get his old DVD programs anywhere anymore, but they'r…
/r/seduction22/04/22 04:31 PM
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I disagree with this comment. Yes she gets hit on by customers constantly but if you are attractive to her then she will be receptive to it. Shoot your shot, worst that can happen is she says no. Also, you can read up on Mystery's hired gun gaming methods. They still work but I wouldn't recommend the canned lines anymore.
/r/seduction22/04/22 12:35 PM
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When you learn game, if you stick with it long enough and put in the work, eventually you’ll be able to game circles around those guys.
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:48 AM
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Jesus I don’t like any of these responses. OP my answer to you is to read The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion. It will tell you everything you need. Preferably, read it to yourself in public around girls, in a coffee shop or something, and really make an effort to FEEL the words he wrote intensely as you’re reading them. Then just watch as girls start eyeing you down. Because it’s a vibe. It’s nothing overt like money, jokes, etc.
/r/seduction20/04/22 04:09 AM
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Depends on what your goals are. To me it sounds a bit like you’re assuming a certain outcome will happen, and you’ve already decided it will happen before you’ve done anything. What if you just go in and meet girls for fun without expecting anything? ONS or LTR are not your only two options, lol. To me it sounds like you’re over-thinking it.
/r/seduction20/04/22 03:00 AM
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Being sexual isn’t your only option for showing interest and not being a “nice guy”. You can start more mild ways of showing interest and work your way up to being sexual. That’s actually what most women would prefer. Look her in the eyes like a half a millisecond longer when you talk to her, that’s a subtle signal you’re into her. Do triangular gazing as you’re talking - left eye, right eye, lips, back up to left eye. Touch her on the shoulder when you talk to see how she responds to it. Should…
/r/seduction19/04/22 10:49 PM
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You probably didn’t show intent when you got the number. If you exchange numbers with a girl the first thing she asks herself is why is this guy exchanging numbers with me. If you don’t make it obvious you’re romantically interested in her from square 1 she’ll think you’re a study buddy.
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:13 PM
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Not having experience isn’t a bad thing or a deal breaker for most girls though having it is definitely an advantage. The best way to get experience is to just get it. I’d say you should make it your goal to get as much experience as you can as early as possible. Why would you date after college? You have so many more girls available to you now. They’re literally all over. when the opportunity will present itself It’s not going to. You have to make it happen.
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:10 PM
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I do both online and cold approach. Nobody can ever replace the personal development and social experience you get from cold approach. But tinder is great for when I’m lazy and don’t want to go out lol. Ofc paying for tinder is nbd to me. But if you’re a broke college kid I get it. Cold approach is fine, everyone should learn it as part of being a man imo
/r/seduction19/04/22 06:39 AM
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Just looked at his post history, right after condemning me for dating younger women he comments this on some 20 year old girl's photo. To answer OP's original question (attention u/Mehrune), this tells you allllllll you need to know about the type of dude who will shame you for dating younger women.
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:38 AM
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Of course! C’mon, getting commitment is the easy part as a guy. I’ve had many opportunities to get married, didn’t take any of them. A legal contract where the woman can take half your assets any time she wants to break it off doesn’t sound like a good deal to me. Especially when that’s exactly what happens in more than 50% of marriages. I’m open and up-front with telling women I’m not marriage material right now, despite the fact that some try to convince me otherwise. 🤷🏻‍♂️ gotta stand my grou…
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:01 PM
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If you really need to know, not that same night. Logistical issues, she was with friends and what not. But I got the digits, took her out on a day 2, banged that night. Whether we had sex or not isn’t really the point though because the shit test I referred to in my comment wasn’t the sole reason for sex. That was early on and just helped generate initial attraction. Lots of conversation/comfort building had to ensue after that.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:17 PM
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From the sound of it, I could teach you a whooooole lot about attracting women.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:11 PM
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if I were to get shit for dating a women who's say 21-24 or so into my 30s how should I respond? Lol I just laugh usually and carry on. That kind of shit/outrage comes from jealousy. Whether it's from men or women. But I think by asking this question there's something deeper you might not understand... And this is a general rule dude: if you're going to date more attractive women, you gotta learn to deal with shit of all kinds from all kinds of people. The ability to deal with/not be affected by…
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:39 PM
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This thread would prove you wrong: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/tdq48d/whats\_your\_body\_count\_truthfully\_im\_a\_f29\_who\_is/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:28 PM
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Firstly, the way you've phrased your words here, it's as if you don't even believe that not being fat is possible for you. You have to believe it's possible for you to lose weight first in order to motivate yourself to do it. Evolutionarily speaking, emotions are there for a reason. They're trying to get you to DO something. But if you don't even believe you can fix the problems your emotions are trying to get you to solve, you'll feel helpless over it. As a result, instead of motivating you, th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 03:22 AM
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I'm 33 and ever since I turned 30, I've been exclusively dating girls under 25. Most of them at least 10 years younger than me. I never tried to "go" for that age demographic. I even dated a 41yo woman when I was 27, and really liked it. It just feels like that's what happened naturally after I turned 30. Also, I live close to a college town so that may play into it. There's no question in my mind that women are more attracted to me now, or I have more "game" you may call it, in my 30s than in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:52 AM
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Nah disagree with this whole premise. Women naturally have more advanced social acuity than men do and often use it to manipulate them without their awareness. That’s how women compensated evolutionarily for men being bigger and stronger. So 9/10 times the more socially pragmatic and more aware/connected person is the woman. There are a %age of sociopathic men but by and large I don’t think men have the social intelligence to carry out such a brainwashing scheme. I don’t know any men who believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:26 AM
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I’m 33 and it’s never been easier for me than it is right now.
/r/seduction09/12/21 06:38 AM
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To begin you can start by studying the body language of some of the guys who simply had mastery over sexual nonverbal communication. A lot of the older movie stars really just “got it”. I started learning by just studying every detail of what they were doing, their whole vibe, and copying their body language. Marlon Brando in Streetcar Named Desire is a really good one. When that movie first came out women fainted and had to be carried out of the movie theater because they didn’t know how to dea…
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:39 AM
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Body language body language body language. Learn it, it will change your life
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:12 AM
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I have no clue what an FDS woman is but from these comments they sound terrible 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:21 PM
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Inner game is important too. Know your value. Self esteem type stuff. Girls can feel that coming off of you, even over text. And also know how to communicate your value and calibrate to where she's at in the interaction. At the end of the day these are all just communication skills.
/r/seduction08/11/21 04:11 PM
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Am I the only one who has heard more women slut shaming women than men? Women can be downright BRUTAL to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:02 PM
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Besides approaching, and getting out there, and talking to women... work to understand the psychology behind female attraction and also how to build comfort. It's attraction + comfort. That's really what you can boil it all down to. Then everything else is logistics really. Also idk if you need to hear this but just in case you do, have good hygiene.
/r/seduction30/10/21 09:17 PM
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I think it's appropriate as long as you have social awareness and pragmatism about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:41 PM
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Set the precedent up front. Some dudes say they just recently got out of something complicated and aren't ready for a super involved thing and need to date casually for a while, but if that's not the truth I prefer not making shit up and being real. You can also just say you don't believe in monogamy. I mean frankly monogamy is kinda whack any way you look at it. Half of all married couples end up divorced. Of the remaining marriages, TONS of them end up having affairs (just ask any psychiatrist…
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:23 PM
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If you want to get girls to approach you, you gotta get really good at your nonverbals, body language and eye contact. But in truth, you should be able to approach a girl if you need/want to. If a girl can tell that you're too scared to approach her, she's NEVER going to approach you herself.
/r/seduction23/10/21 11:56 PM
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So basically if you have a good profile (goes for tinder too) it does 90% of the work for you. The openers I use are amazingly normal and don't seem like much, my goal with the opener is just to just portray to her that I'm well-adjusted socially and normal in a way that no other dudes DMing her are. But what really does the work is the pics on your profile and captions too (saying high-status fun/adventurous life outlook type stuff, no butthurt comments, not seeking attention or anything, showi…
/r/seduction23/10/21 11:43 PM
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I agree you should have a high quality profile but I only have about 300 followers and I’ve slid into girls dms very successfully. I think what’s more important than overt follower count is that you have a proportional amount of people liking/ interacting with your posts as there are following you. Like 10% give or take of your follower count likes/comments on your posts. To show her you’re well integrated into society and not a basement dwelling weirdo. Also make sure your pics are of you doing…
/r/seduction23/10/21 08:15 PM
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That’s why my first suggestion was to get the number and follow up. Butttt if you’d like to know my take (and for any guys reading this thread who want to learn) I have a lot to say about comfort building as a seducer! Essentially as a man the ways to make sure you know safety is being taken care of are as follows: First, yes one of the best ways to build comfort, trust, safety is to spend more time with her. Sometimes you just can’t get around the fact that ensuring she feels safe means time sp…
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:35 AM
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Definitely making sure she feels safe is one of the most important parts. I never said my feedback was exhaustive. In OPs case she felt safe enough with him to make out. But still doesn’t mean she felt safe enough to go home with him you’re right. I’ll make a clarification about the context of my above comment because I was rushing when I wrote it. Based on my personal experiences and a lot of trial and error, plus getting feedback from many girls about this, the number one reason they don’t go …
/r/seduction15/10/21 11:54 PM
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Yes these could be excuses, but that doesn’t help You’re right, these excuses are not helping you at all.
/r/seduction10/10/21 09:18 AM
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When the alternative is death, yeah they align and try to gain trust with the men who can save them. And sex is pretty much the quickest and most effective way to do that. It’s from hunter gatherer times when tribes used to attack each other. Moral of the story: your woman will sell you down the road for your enemy if she thinks the alternative is death.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:42 AM
3

War brides phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:39 AM
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Those examples are irrelevant. Just because a woman got pregnant does not mean she can suddenly dictate how to spend his money with zero input from him. Ideally the man and woman are on the same page with regards to the pregnancy. If not, a pregnancy may take its toll on a woman’s body but it’s not like the man beat her. Ultimately the choice has to be up to her but he’s under no obligation to go along with it financially. If they both want to terminate the pregnancy it would be inconsiderate of…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:55 AM
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I mean ideally the man and woman are on the same page, and she WANTS to hear his input and take it into account, and he WANTS to support her decisions as well. The best result is when both voluntarily want to hear each other out and base their own decisions on what they can expect from the other person. Part of being a mature human means understanding compromise might have to happen if they disagree. That's the healthiest way to go about it. But the law should not force anyone to do anything aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:10 PM
3

But they don’t have sole control over other people’s pocketbooks and bank accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:41 PM
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If you’re going to say that then leave the man OUT of financial responsibility. That’s the whole point, which you did not address. If the man is to be ordered to pay child support or pay for an abortion, then he MUST have a say. One or the other. You can’t have the best of both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:33 AM
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I wouldn't call it reactive, it's just pragmatic. And by reactive I mean reactive emotionally. Yeah, obviously you have to tune your behaviors to your surroundings logically in order to get anything done in the world. But emotionally speaking, you don't have to. And really the crux of it is that being un-reactive emotionally but still calibrated to your situation tells a women you are high status. There are nuances. Even the boss in a workplace has to engage pragmatically with his environment to…
/r/seduction29/09/21 05:17 PM
1

Your 30's are only your prime years if you also put in the work. If you don't work on yourself and your life, no girl will want you no matter how old you are. It's totally possible for you to date younger girls if, again, you put the work in. I'm 33 and date girls ages 18-24 all the time. I don't plan on stopping or settling down anytime soon. But I've been in the game over a decade now, it honestly probably took longer to get the hang of for me than it did for most people. But I consider the ef…
/r/seduction29/09/21 04:27 PM
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The REAL reason is this: Women feel attraction differently than men. Female attraction is more based on your behavior and vibe than your overt looks, although looks can help. But a woman's attraction can flip on a dime based on your behavior alone. If she initially thinks you're attractive but then you do something unattractive, for us it would basically be like talking to a hot supermodel one minute, then the next minute she gains 300lbs. Women know this about themselves at least subconsciously…
/r/seduction29/09/21 04:12 PM
1

The difference is that one is reactive to everyone else, one is proactive according to your own internal principles.
/r/seduction29/09/21 01:49 PM
1

The double massage is a good transition after you’ve had a couple glasses of wine
/r/seduction28/09/21 10:24 PM
3

Check this: https://whetyourwoman.com/pickup-women/the-five-attraction-switches/ And actually anything on that whetyourwoman site is worth consuming. That site has been around a while, it’s the old-school scientific pickup shit with real meat. Not the namby pamby little YouTube boys who are just trying to clickbait you and often don’t even have real battle-tested strategies.
/r/seduction28/09/21 08:02 AM
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Learn to calibrate. Unfiltered doesn’t mean uncalibrated to the social situation. It just means comfortable in your skin and acting according to your own social codes/standards rather than trying to “fit” into what you are guessing other people’s social molds or expectations are. You’re acting on your own accord, but your own accord is also well calibrated.
/r/seduction28/09/21 06:42 AM
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I would recommend not shitting where you eat but if you must, calibrate to your workplace. If you work in a laid back restaurant where all the employees are fucking each other that’s different than working at the super rigid accounting firm for Jesus lovers which is different than working at the feminist association of America. It just depends so calibrate. I own a business now and do consulting totally online so haven’t encountered this for a while but I used to practice attraction-building sup…
/r/seduction28/09/21 05:13 AM
1

Humans invented talking a long time ago to avoid situations like this.
/r/seduction28/09/21 01:12 AM
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It's likely that you're boring, and you're filtering yourself too much, and she can tell, and it's unattractive. If you are not willing to take any social risks, most girls don't even want it bro. Talk to her with the level of comfort and free association and lack of a filter with a level of not giving a fuck that you'd talk to your best friend or your bratty little sister.
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:31 AM
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Lol all I can say is when you’re in the game a while matrix shit happens newbie dudes have a hard time believing. I’m going on 12 years. Most guys will never know how powerful this stuff can get.
/r/seduction27/09/21 03:45 AM
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Lol this happened to me once except it was in a strip club (one of the "classier" more expensive ones with uber hot girls btw. And backstory, I'd been doing strip club game a lot and got really good at it following old-school textbook mystery method stuff. So it wasn't a pay-for-play thing, the girl wanted me to fuck her outside of the strip club no money involved). So I denied her request, she was visibly disappointed from it. I could tell she told the other girls in the back of the place after…
/r/seduction26/09/21 07:04 PM
3

Spend at least two weeks away from her, be busy doing other stuff, seeing other girls, then maybe circle back around but she’s using ya for food bruh.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:56 PM
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I don’t think women downplay it as much as are just oblivious to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 08:22 AM
1

They’ve always been doing it imo. This is just a continuation and intellectualization of “cooties” in the second fucking grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 03:42 AM
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Yeah it's a process. I used to have the same feelings but as I got older and got more experience dating more attractive women I saw that some super hot girls are just horrible to date because of their personalities. Date a couple total hotties with really bad personalities and you won't be fazed by looks as much lol. Don't get me wrong I still like hot women, but I've narrowed what I want more to hot women who also have something else to offer. It really is that old thing Mystery used to talk ab…
/r/seduction09/09/21 02:02 PM
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Idk what you meant by “bad boy” but you can still have that “bad boy edge” while being a good guy. What she’s most attracted to is that you’re not a passive sheep and you don’t let anyone push you around. You can have your cake and eat it too, I promise.
/r/seduction03/09/21 11:38 AM
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For the record, I read this study at the beginning of last year and decided to try it. I can attest it DOES work. I noticed the difference, and so did my sexual partners. But I need to give an obligatory warning that if you're going to do this, get your blood tested regularly. The study calls for a shit ton of vitamin D which can be dangerous if you're not monitoring the calcium in your bloodstream. Other than that - here's what I think about that dude: He was the classic case of a guy who thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:38 AM
1

From my personal experience feminism has not even had a huge impact on modern dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 12:28 AM
1

Yeah but they just haven’t met a super skilled lesbian yet who whisks them away from straightness. Some lesbians are about a thousand times better than any man at seducing women, and they’ll often flip perfectly straight girls. Gotta give them props too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:50 PM
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From my experience women are way hornier than men are but they are also WAY more in denial of it and way more selective with regards to who they're horny with. But when they're comfortable being horny around a man ie they know you wont judge them or think they're a slut, that's the only time many of them will let that side of themselves out. Also the key to the threesome is to make it about the womens' experience, not yours. It's not like in porn. Get the women turned on by each other first. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:14 PM
1

It is obvious you don't like Islam I never said I didn't like Islam. You just took what I was saying as a personal attack on YOU, when it wasn't anything of the sort. The key word you're not getting here is *fundamentalist***.** Fundamentalists do not care about scholarly interpretations. They do not listen to Muslim scholars. They do not listen to Reuben Levy, whoever that is. They take everything in the book literally, for face value. They interpret it however they want. And they become dogmat…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 06:13 PM
1

I’m 33 and TBH I read a lot of evolutionary psychology books when I was in my early 20s, it gave me the same takeaways as red pill but without the toxic butthurt parts. I think some guys take it to the extremes and can’t stop obsessing about it because it’s more like a cult for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 02:14 PM
1

What are your sources The Quaran is my only source of information. It is obviously misogynistic all by itself, and requires no interpretation to see it. Just like Islamic fundamentalists would read it, take these passages for face value: Sura 2:228 says: "Wives have the same rights as the husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. Of course, men are a degree above them in status." An-Nisa 34 in the Quaran says: "Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 01:32 PM
1

Lol what? I made zero political statements there bud. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 10:29 PM
1

Man, Amy Schumer just exudes unattractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:06 AM
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Yes. Correct. That's the whole point. Minus the shaming. And I hate guys who use the word chad. But women want a high status man, yes. And if a man is shaming a woman for things like hypergamy that are just in her biology, he's probably a butthurt little boy because he has no immediate chance at getting laid. And he was probably raised almost entirely by his mother and didn't have a fatherly influence in his life. As a result, he was conditioned by mommy to complain like a little feminine wuss r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:04 AM
1

Women have to force men to respect us or developed countries will end up like the Afghanistans of the world. I think this is a fallacy and full of black-and-white thinking. You're talking about people in Afghanistan who have been shouting "death to America". They've spent the last 20 years in the boonies loading up on ammo and rocket launchers. Yet you expect them to be reasonable, decent human beings? Let alone, a reflection of human nature in the west? These are Islamic fundamentalists. They t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:13 AM
1

It's not, I mean if the woman isn't fat and keeps herself in shape and doesn't have any kids then she's probably at least in the top 5% of women herself. At least in the US dating marketplace. If she's also not batshit crazy and can restrain herself from showing up drunk to her ex boyfriend's house at 1am to slash his tires while crying, she's in the top 1%. So if she's in the top 1%, and she desires a guy in the top 1%, then she's not delusional. But if she's obese and buying into the body posi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:30 PM
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Yep. Obesity is not just a health epidemic, it's a cultural epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:01 PM
1

I mean there are lots of other factors to take into account rather than just is she promiscuous or not. Like why she has been promiscuous is important. I think even if the data says promiscuous women are more likely to to be unsuccessful in long-term relationships, the truth behind that data is probably more nuanced. I wouldn't write a girl off immediately for an LTR just because she has a promiscuous history. Frankly, most girls have a period where they're promiscuous as all hell in their early…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:20 PM
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Not sure if you can help him, you have the disadvantage of being his son. What’s most common with parents is they often always see their own kids as naive and don’t take anything they say seriously. But, lead by example. Start attracting the ladies, maybe your dad will see it and ask for advice. But maybe not, Idk depends on your dynamic with him. I’m kind of an iconoclast so I usually just say what I believe the truth to be even if people hate it, idgaf. There’s advantages and disadvantages to …
/r/askMRP02/08/21 10:01 PM
1

Make sure you act and convey to her that whatever happens, it’s no big deal.
/r/seduction07/07/21 08:55 PM
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Lol sounds like weird advice. Idk what to tell you, moms aren't always right. My mom sure wasn't right about most things, frankly.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 09:25 PM
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It’s an isolated incident. Look more at how she acts over time. Gather lots of data points and if her attitude over time is that she’s just money hungry next her. Frankly if you responded with the coffee at Starbucks thing and she wasn’t dissuaded from dating you it means she’s not purely in it for money. If she’s hot there are plenty of dudes she can find to buy her shit.
/r/askMRP18/06/21 06:13 PM
1

I want to be chased with no effort on my side so i can focus on me while having a decent supply of poon. Is there any reason for this you guys can think of why this is not happening? Lol what the hell dude. Yes there is a reason I can think of why this is not happening. Your entire SMV is based on things women are attracted to in the first 5 seconds of an interaction, and that’s all. There’s more to attraction than things that get girls interested in the first five seconds. That’s like trying to…
/r/askTRP06/06/21 10:16 AM
1

Dude I’m 32 and that’s not a “28 yo mindset.” That’s a fearful of women mindset. I can approach and make out with the girls I want even if I’m entirely around 22 yos. I mean it’s one thing if he says he wants your help with girls then does nothing. But find someone else who is good with girls or wants to work at it. What do you do with stubborn friends like this? I am gonna cut him off because he turns off every women I’ve been with Do other things that still classify as “friend” but don’t requi…
/r/askTRP06/06/21 09:53 AM
3

I’m looking at second citizenships myself. I’m being taxed so much also in the US and am just looking at all my options to go where I’m treated best rather than where I was born. I have three great grandparents who were born in Italy so I may be able to get Italian citizenship by bloodline. But there are lots of options depending on your situation. Simon Black who created sovereignman. com has some great info on his site about second citizenship options and all kinds of other stuff. Highly recom…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/21 02:04 AM
4

You are too overly fixated on the money. There are plenty of rich guys who are unattractive betas. Learn the difference.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 01:59 AM
3

Block, move on
/r/askTRP03/06/21 06:16 PM
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It’s totally ok to reveal it as long as you: 1. Don’t make it her responsibility 2. Are not acting like it’s something that happened “to” you that makes you a victim as if “there’s nothing you can do about it” 3. Are on the path to handling it from a place of strength and not weakness, even if you’re not doing too well now, she wants to know that you see a way forward, or are working on a way forward. You are the captain of the ship that you are both sailing on through life. And what kind of a c…
/r/askMRP01/06/21 01:06 AM
1

This comment is not going to be understood by everyone. And possibly ridiculed by some. But fuck it. I never "expect" any woman to be any standard of beauty. But I'm most attracted to the hottest ones. That's essentially it. The rest is the natural offshoot of our primate species forming hierarchies like we naturally do. Men exist in a dominance hierarchy for status, money, women, etc. Men are practically always competing with one another in some kind of a dominance hierarchy. Even in sports. Wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:27 AM
3

Holding eye contact shouldn't be the end-all-be-all goal, but it's a major major advantage when you can do that for instant attraction, as long as you do it right. Done wrong, it can creep her out. But done right, it can make a girl instantly sexually attracted. I've done both, and learned over time. I held eye contact once with a girl who was HOLDING HANDS with a guy, and as they passed by on the street she started smiling really big at me and said a flirty "Hey" with a giggle to me as she pass…
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:44 PM
4

Ya lots of times they don’t have a boyfriend when they say that. Or they have some guy they’re fucking for convenience but are testing to see if you believe you’re more “alpha” than he is. The subtext from a girls POV of saying “I have a boyfriend” is different than “I’m taken” or “I’m not single”. And asking a girl “are you single” is different than asking “do you have a boyfriend”. It just tells her subconsciously what you’re focusing on.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/21 02:41 PM
1

You've got freedom man! Start thinking about what you want to do with it! I've been spinning plates for years so I can't relate to the emotional aftermath right now or give you advice relating to that. But I want to say it's too bad that people take silly ideology so seriously that she thinks your views make you a danger to potential children. If I EVER settle down (huge if) it has to be with a girl who's committed to personal development in such a way that when she encounters something like thi…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:26 PM
1

Do something that gives her a reason to believe you’re choosing her over other girls. This is ACTUALLY where you can follow the conventional advice women give. Because you’re going for long lasting comfort/security instead of value.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 09:00 PM
1

She’s not even subtle about it why are you asking this
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:56 PM
3

K
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:53 PM
3

The only way you’re going to get rid of this is if you double team a girl with a black guy. Jk just trolling I have no idea. If she fucked a black dude, she fucked a black dude. You’re imagining him to have teardrop tats like ripping her open in this primal fashion. But for all you knew she was fucking Carlton Banks. I mean, it’s not unusual... Sorry, can’t stop trolling.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:29 PM
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You have to understand the context behind how she uses the word special. Women were shaped by evolution to fuck alphas and make betas wait. In a nutshell, the betas wait for sex because 1. Generally they’re not as good at sex anyway and women generalize beta behavior to mean possible mediocre expectations in bed so lots of times they’re not in a rush, along with the expectation that you will invest more into her in exchange for sex because sex is scarce to you ... so... 2. The woman has more to …
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:13 PM
1

Answer is simple. You came to that conclusion logically from first principles. She came to her conclusion because her genes compelled her to.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:01 PM
0

You made yourself cringe. That shit was brilliant.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 05:11 PM
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Speak for yourself
/r/askTRP26/05/21 12:50 PM
-3

Oh man I would have a field day with that misinterpreting everything he says. Because I’m probably an asshole, not a friendly guy like you. And misinterpreting those types of dudes as gay blows them out so hard (no homo). “that’s what 21 year old frat boys order, thats what you’re dating? Yep, sorry, I’m taken... and she’s not sharing. But if you’re into frat boys I might recommend (gay bar near you). You might find some of the frat guys you’re looking for there. (Said REALLY loud w huge smile s…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 11:02 AM
3

Passion isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. I wasted a lot of time trying to figure out what my passion was. Right now my passion is watching new money hit my bank account and creating business deals with clients where I make royalties. And then buying gold and silver and crypto. Also my passion is women. And I mean, I like music too. I’m still passionate about that. If you can find a good purpose to get behind then by all means do it. But it doesn’t need to be this huge orgasmic fireworks shooting…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 12:10 AM
1

Maybe just keep her as a plate
/r/askTRP25/05/21 05:20 AM
2

Oh yeah once you get the first approach over with you realize how extremely underwhelming it is. The world doesn’t blow up, the girls usually just like oh hey. And then you say something and then she says something. And it continues. Side note, wait until you feel what it’s like to put your arm around a girl who isn’t a whale. It feels so much better, trust me.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 05:13 AM
2

Yes it’s extremely obvious that you made the right decision. However I can see how since you’ve spent so long investing in her you might feel her absence. Advice? Start learning game! The world is your oyster now...
/r/askTRP25/05/21 05:08 AM
4

I hate the whining expectations guys have that girls will fall on their dicks too. I blame porn for that.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/21 02:57 AM
1

That was my guess too
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:43 AM
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you have trashy bimbos congratulating her on the divorce as if its a game to make men commit then divorce for mon Haha that’s the funniest part. Especially when they’re acting like divorcing a man and taking his money is female empowerment. Like, no. You’re just a leech. Part of the large majority of the population that is leaching off the most productive people.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/21 10:35 AM
10

Hey don’t hate on Brazil till you been there. Florianopolis girls 👌
/r/TheRedPill23/05/21 10:32 AM
3

100% wrong. If you own it and act like it’s the coolest fucking thing in the world, girls don’t care what it is. It’s attractive. Whatever results you’ve gotten that told you that, here’s what was actually happening: Just because you THINK it’s boring and lame, you’re telegraphing to her that YOU think it’s boring and lame. She’s pinging off of the fact that you’re ASHAMED of your own passion. THAT is the part that’s a turn off. NOT the actual thing. It doesn’t matter what it is. I’ve told girls…
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:07 AM
1

The old movies are where it’s at, when men weren’t afraid to be men. Look at Rhett Butler in Gone With The Wind. Granted the line “frankly my dear I don’t give a damn” doesn’t have the same effect now but it was a really racy thing to put in a movie back then. It showed he had balls of steel and said what was on his mind. For body language look at Marlon Brando in a Streetcar Named Desire. Women literally had such sexual reactions to him when that movie came out that they had to be carried out o…
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:36 AM
2

500 days of summer was SO cringe. I couldn’t even finish it.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:24 AM
1

That’s different than oneitis for sure.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:23 AM
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What the fuck are these answers? Passion is the one thing women CRAVE in men. Talk with passion without holding back and they’ll be all over you. Passion is rare, never hide it. From my experience the more over the top you can express your passion the better. Get into it.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:19 AM
0

Idk the context but I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. If she’s jerking you around then next her. OR, respond to her text with something like: “PERFECT, I was just about to ask you the same! I have a friend who wanted to come cook me dinner tomorrow and she’s a chef at a Michelin star restaurant. I’m so psyched for some amazing food.” Lol I’ve used that one before and it works.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:17 AM
1

Imo raised. But you can change it by focusing on alpha goals and mindsets and attitudes. And getting rid of neuroses. So many dudes on this sub are neurotic. Just look at all the posts and the extraneous excuses they come up with for why they can’t succeed. That’s beta af.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:04 AM
3

Dude neither your hair nor your height has anything to do with the “problem” you perceive. Wake up.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 02:00 AM
1

Yes passing a shit test increases their attraction for you.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 01:57 AM
2

It's not the game of who cares less. If you're playing that game, you're doing it wrong, or not seeing the big picture. The goal is to build a life where that happens naturally. A life that's so exciting and important you forget about girls for a while anyway. If you're overly-focused on the girl, you're doing it wrong.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 12:17 PM
3

I know there’s a whole community that’s really serious about polyamorous relationships and open relationships, they have their own terminology and methods for dealing with the emotions involved and making it work and stuff. But yeah outside of that, what you said is spot on. I met a fat chick once who had like five of the most super beta boyfriends I’ve ever seen. I remember thinking from an evolutionary standpoint it’s not a bad mating strategy for a chick who can’t get an alpha male. Maybe 5 b…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 12:46 AM
1

Dude just call her out on it. I’d raise my eyebrows and say, “Wow no really, you didn’t have to dress up so classy for me.” Then laugh to show her I wasn’t butthurt. Then just carry on.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 02:06 AM
5

Trying to make it in the corporate system is a losing game anyway. There are now more opportunities than ever to go on your own. Forge your own path.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:46 PM
9

I didn’t interpret that he was saying it’s only white men. The white men however are getting a lot more of the “sit down and shut up” in our culture right now.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:07 PM
5

I agree! I’m 32. Granted, been working on myself for a long time, doing well and own a marketing business and that raises my status. Plus I’ve been in game since my early 20s. Tinder has gotten so easy it feels simply unfair to me at this point. I don’t even want to swipe that much because I just don’t have the time to keep up conversations with all the matches I’ll get. So I only swipe on the top picks. And all ages - 18 and up - are matching with me. Quite enthusiastically I might add. I used …
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:03 PM
3

How has this been able to continue without a severe uptick in violence? Oh, there’s been violence. Remember how there were riots all last year where people tore down businesses for BLM? Remember how people stormed the capitol building? Remember the news stories about how Miami had to close down spring break because it got too out of hand and violent? Truth is, in the US we’ve seen more violence recently than I’ve ever seen in this country in my lifetime. I get the feeling there’s more that isn’t…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 05:43 PM
2

Wow, I have a lot to say about this. Sorry for the novel. TLDR version: Commit to growing into the money you've made long-term and move a portion of your portfolio into safer investments so you're not nervous all the time. Totally understand what you're going through. I like the dude's comment about buddhism. I do yoga Nidra meditation and it has changed my life. I don't know your personal situation and I'm not a financial advisor but I think it's a good idea for you to look into putting a small…
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:57 PM
5

It's a double edged sword. I've never paid for sex personally. And wouldn't recommend it as a regular thing to rely on, especially if you have no other options for getting laid. If you're in a super low place and have very little sexual experience, it can probably help self-esteem wise, if you do it ONCE and then use it as an experience builder instead of keep coming back as a crutch. And I can see it as a time-saving thing too. But again, there's something to be said for gaining the SKILL of be…
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:38 PM
4

Dude, read the book Way Of The Superior Man. It will answer your questions better than anything here.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/21 11:53 AM
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It’s definitely possible. You gotta work at it and make it your #1 thing. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 22. Super awkward. So many missed opportunities. Literally just afraid of women, of life. Depressed all the time. Now I’m 32. Ive dated girls who get paid for their looks. I own a marketing business that I started from scratch, and I can work from wherever. Business and dating are getting better for me every year that passes. More opportunities and hotter girls each year. I just can’t…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:28 AM
1

Bro just take what’s useful discard the rest, and only take advice from people who have done what you want to do. Plenty of assholes will give you advice. Never listen to the people who haven’t actually gotten to the place you want to get to.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 07:22 AM
4

Most people don’t earn six figures because they work jobs/think that college educations are the best way to earn money. They’re not. If you’re willing to take risks and be entrepreneurial and commit to that process, it’s a lot easier to be earning six figures. But it requires you to be constantly working on yourself and you take responsibility for it 100%. And honestly you really don’t have to be smart to earn a lot of money. Sure the higher paying JOBS might require high IQs. But I’ve met sales…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:46 PM
3

You know it’s funny because I’ve been at the game thing about 10 years and thinking back, it took me a bit of time to hit the kind of stride where I was able to get rejected and still think I’m the shit and believe I’m a total 10 self-esteem wise, but at the same time take to heart the feedback I needed to improve and do better next time. It’s a balance that comes from doing it a lot and seeing the patterns to where you realize it’s not about you. And yeah 9s/10s will not be as overt about ioi’s…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 08:55 PM
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Just because she said she wanted something more substantial does not necessarily mean she wanted monogamous commitment from you. Girls in general are not as “tactile” about sex as guys are. I think it’s evolutionary but even if a girl completely intends to have a one night stand with you she wants to feel like you won’t leave her afterward. The reason is because like hundreds of thousands of years ago if a woman got knocked up on the African Savannah and pregnant with a baby, but the dude just a…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:41 PM
5

Dude I love going for the 9s and 10s. I want the highest quality girls I can get. That said, sometimes I go for girls that are easier to hang with. But I love the feeling of breaking through to a new level of hottie I thought was unattainable for me before. Hotter girls will show you blind spots in your game. 7s and 8s will accept beta shit from you that 9s and 10s will simply next you for without a second thought. That’s why I’m always going for the hottest possible ones. I learn so much about …
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:00 PM
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Yeah I hear if you go deep enough you’ll meet a wise old troll who will grant you three wishes. Sorry I’m low on sleep right now.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 05:33 PM
2

Wait how does just a piece of the condom end up there like his dick shattered it into 50 pieces small enough for her not to notice one get stuck. Like latex can rip but from my experience it doesn’t end up in little pieces that get all over the place like styrofoam
/r/askTRP07/05/21 05:30 PM
2

Well, you could alternatively bring up polyamory or an open relationship with her. There are people who really do make that work. Though it’s more emotionally challenging with jealousy and all that. There’s a whole community that has their own jargon and terminology around the ethical practices of polyamory and open relationships. You could also bring up a break. And though even then it’s not always guaranteed you’ll get back together you could say you want to try spending some time apart to see…
/r/RedPillBooks01/05/21 09:57 AM
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Cry me a river. Yeah there are flaky girls but I get at least 1 or 2 in every 10 to meet up. Rule #1: Get her INVESTED in you. That means QUALIFY her. My go-to: “So give me the basics. Tattoos? Music? Ever been to prison?” The ever been to prison works and is funny because girls #1 irrational fear is meeting a guy on a dating app and him turning out to be Ted Bundy. It shows you understand her subjective experience and might even share the same outlook which eases tension of meeting a stranger o…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 07:35 AM
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First off use the anger in the gym and commit to bettering yourself. Second off read the book Levels of Energy by Frederick Dodson. The anger will transform if you channel it to improving yourself now and develop consistency. You won’t lose it. Third off learn how to make monayyyyy I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 22 but I’m 32 now and slaying it. You will be fine. The past is the past. Get on that path and you’ll be killing it in no time.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 04:29 AM
2

Your father sounds like he’s going through a rough patch and feeling a lot of emotions so may not be receptive if you told him about TRM and asked him to read the book immediately, etc. But feel it out, when the time comes suggest it to him. Maybe he’d even be open to it now, Idk you be the judge. But often men find that book when they’re going through a lot of pain, and the pain is what motivates them to accept TRP stuff and become better. Tbh if your dad gets into the game and commits to impro…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 12:27 PM
1

Dude. Cmon. THEY NEVER DO THIS WHEN IT IS OBVIOUS TO THEM THAT THEY ARE NOT YOUR ONLY OPTION FOR PUSSY. End of story. YOU allowed this to happen. You showed up beta/provider. Do better next time.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:07 AM
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I’ve dealt with this tooonnnnnssss! Assuming you’re not inadvertently doing anything to piss them off, yeah it happens all the time. You gotta find better places to meet men with goals who are trying to improve themselves. They’re actually few and far between, which gives you an idea how valuable you are to girls when you’re a guy who’s dedicated to self improvement. Men have an innate understanding that it’s a constant dominance hierarchy for us. Even if they don’t consciously realize it’s ther…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 12:56 AM
1

100%, I’d go so far as to say if you’re a guy who gets married in his 20s or early 30s you’re still too naive to know the difference. It takes a lot of experience with women to be able to notice the nuances in their behavior.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 04:54 PM
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The logic is different because you have total control over your performance in the gym, whether you use it to improve or not. If you marry a woman and you don't know what her intentions are, you have no control over her decisions. She can take your kids and take half your assets and you're SOL. It just means vet properly and invest in the things you have control over. Don't rush into marriage with anyone - especially if you want to keep your freedom - because marriage benefits women way more tha…
/r/askTRP17/04/21 09:45 PM
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This 100%, there's more genetic variation and risk-taking in men across the board. No matter what they say, you can't go against biology. And biologically, women are the selectors because they hold the key to genetic immortality. Men compete for that genetic immortality in a dominance hierarchy. Which is why their bell curve is more spread-out in areas like IQ, income, etc. And women tend to group around the middle. Funny that you hear feminists complaining so much about how all the rich people …
/r/askTRP17/04/21 09:36 PM
1

I like sex because it’s fun. And the hotter the girl I have it with the more fun it is. And I like to physically connect with women I find attractive. If you’re trying to use it for validation, you could end up in some dark places down the road. It might be something in your childhood. Look into examining the roots of that.
/r/askTRP16/04/21 06:20 PM
15

Whether you have plates or not it shouldn’t matter. Don’t get emotionally invested in anyone you haven’t known that long, you don’t even know them yet. My guess is if you’re getting emotionally invested in someone without knowing them thoroughly it’s probably because you’re idealizing them in some way. And if you’re idealizing them you’re living in an imaginary world that doesn’t exist. Be okay with not knowing how it’s going to turn out. And be talking to LOTS of girls so you’re non needy when …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 07:18 PM
2

You pull them into YOUR world. Right now you’re trying to fit into theirs. Make them want to relate with you. You do that by being an attractive dude. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:17 PM
3

I had a friend who lived in vegas and was a player. He fucked all kinds of women who went there expecting to cheat on their boyfriends and husbands. When he’d ask them about it, they’d just say “my husbands a pussy.” No remorse whatsoever, as if it was his fault they were cheating. I’m never getting married man.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:13 PM
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IMO this is why it’s a good idea to still talk to girls to keep your game up while you’re in an Ltr. Don’t cheat or anything. Just stay socially sharp. I’d strike up a convo with another girl at the gym so you’re not sitting there holding your dick while they’re talking. There’s gotta be some hot chick working behind the counter or something, most gyms have that. And frankly I’d just avoid working out with her altogether.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 04:58 PM
1

Depends on your definition of high quality women, get more specific first and I think youll find the answer
/r/askTRP14/04/21 05:26 PM
2

You can extend it by quite a lot already. Read the book Lifespan by David Sinclair. There’s lots of life extension stuff you can do and more technology coming out every day in that area. As for wealth depending where you’re at with that, if you’re just starting out, I started with the book The Education of Millionaires by Michael Ellsberg and it sent me down a major rabbit hole that led to me starting my business. I love it, it makes me wonder why anyone would ever want to work a job and have so…
/r/askTRP14/04/21 07:03 AM
6

Solution: move in with 6 girls
/r/askTRP14/04/21 06:54 AM
4

Any way you look at it you gotta go outside of your friend circle to solve this.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 06:51 AM
1

Haha yup.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 06:50 AM
1

Haha welcome to post nut syndrome
/r/askTRP14/04/21 06:46 AM
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I was probably more physically attractive in my 20s but I’m not a bad looking dude. I know most of the guys here won’t believe me but girls swipe for vibe/lifestyle waaaaay more than they swipe for looks. That said, test out all your tinder photos on photofeeler.com, you’ll be shocked at which ones win out. I started a marketing business when I was 27 which was part of the whole personal development/working on myself thing. It was something I really wanted for myself and I made a lot of short te…
/r/askTRP14/04/21 03:26 AM
2

I say fuck the h8rs do what you want.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:48 PM
5

You’re thinking too logically. Girls don’t think logically about this stuff. Which is why the age thing doesn’t matter nearly as much as you think.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:15 PM
0

They won’t confess that it’s literally because women in their early twenties are generally a lot more attractive than women beyond them. This. Also I’m 32 and have dated 2 girls this year who were 19. And it’s only April.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:13 PM
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I’m 32 and doing better than I ever have. Oh man it gets so great when you just commit to bettering yourself long term. It’s too bad more guys don’t do it. I was a super hard case in my 20s. I didn’t lose my virginity until 22. I was super awkward, always in my head, and a pushover in life. I started doing the David Deangelo programs around 2009ish and those basically red pilled me. I stuck with it and it was the best choice I ever made. My age settings on Tinder are set to 18-28, and I’m at a p…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:07 PM
1

For context, I’m a 32yo man who worked really hard in my “lower-value” 20s, and I now own a successful business and have lots of freedom, and generally have acquired lots of leadership traits and drive that raised my value in the dating market. As a consequence, past few years I’ve started turning down women that I previously would have killed to get a date with because there’s suddenly way more options. I don’t say this to brag or anything just to give you context of the perspective I’m coming …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 10:15 PM
1

Tomassi DOES say that one of the possible end results of spinning plates is to find and be happy with one “plate”. But there’s no rush to do it, and it’s on his own terms. Men who are not spinning plates will feel more scarcity in their dating lives and consequently be more vulnerable to the manipulation of any woman available to them withholding/promising sex in order to get commitment. And when that happens, subconsciously, the woman doesn’t respect him. The man doesn’t respect himself. And he…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 06:34 AM
1

Like them if you like them. But if you don't like them, don't like them. But honestly don't focus on likes at all. They matter very little in the grand scheme of things.
/r/seduction19/09/19 06:48 PM
1

I think you sound very eager to find out. Lol. I have limited information from what you've described but it sounds like she is attracted. It can happen when you get rejected but then show the girl you don't care about the rejection and just act normal afterward. A lot of guys can't do that. My advice is to keep playing it cool. Watch the movie Dazed and Confused if you don't know how to do that. And watch how the kid who is about your age in the film learns how to "play it cool." But only learn …
/r/seduction19/09/19 06:31 PM
3

As men, the attraction we feel for girls is static. Meaning it pretty much stays the same because it's usually based on looks + other static personality traits. And if it changes, it takes a long time to change. But for women, their attraction for men is dynamic. Meaning for them, it can change on a dime. It's like if you're talking to a hot chick with a great body then all of a sudden she becomes obese out of nowhere. Then she suddenly looses 100lbs. That's how it feels to them. Because girls f…
/r/seduction19/09/19 05:48 PM
1

Set up the date on Tinder before you ask for the number. Then the date becomes the reason you got the number instead of something aimless.
/r/seduction19/09/19 12:22 PM
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No
/r/seduction19/09/19 11:48 AM
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You went into an inhibitory state. Your body went into "fight/fight/freeze". The opposite of this is excitatory state. Where you're at ease and feel in control of everything around you, open to possibilities instead of closed off and unsure. There's neurology research that shows it's a literal "on/off" switch, there's no inbetween. Practice relaxing your shoulders and all your muscles, and taking control of your breath. I swear, just controlling your breath changes the neurology. You probably we…
/r/seduction19/09/19 11:28 AM
2

Fuck the waiting thing, get outta your head man! Be a human first, THEN apply all the little pickup tactics. You must be new at bartending? You don't seem to have realized yet the massive advantage it gives you with women.
/r/seduction19/09/19 11:17 AM
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What if she’s thinking the same exact thing when she sees YOU are not smiling? Since when do they need to smile anyway? This isn’t Sesame Street, man. People don’t walk down the street smiling. Can you conceive of a situation where a girl was attracted to a guy and didn’t smile? I can. In fact more often than not, they don’t smile. Just start a conversation. There’s literally nothing to lose. It’s all in your head.
/r/seduction09/09/19 09:11 PM
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It's evolutionary. A woman you perceive as attractive would have been dangerous to approach in a tribal setting.
/r/seduction08/02/15 08:16 PM
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boondock_saint5, even though I'm a guy, I read this book after meeting the author once to gain a female perspective on seduction and would HIGHLY recommend it if you haven't read it. The author used to date Mystery and has a very unique perspective on this stuff. http://www.amazon.com/The-New-Rules-Attraction-Keep/dp/B008PI9RRG
/r/seduction26/08/14 02:59 AM
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